My friends and I were driving from Michigan to Disney World and we stopped for the night somewhere in Tennessee. I parked and got out of the car to check in and I held the door open for a young black man. When I got inside the receptionist at the desk, in a very heavy southern accent, was just like yelling at this poor man saying “Did you let that girl hold the door for you?! What is wrong with you?” I was honestly shocked because living in Michigan my whole life I have never experienced that. I’ve always held the door open for any and everyone because it’s the nice thing to do. I looked between the man and the receptionist and flat out told the woman “I don’t play those games. I am more than capable of holding a door open. I’m not fragile.” She looked at me in silence as I apologized to the man for her behavior. I understand that that type of thing is “the southern way” but I felt awful for the man and it honestly felt insulting to me. Yeah. I don’t like that whole southern gentleman bullshit. I can hold my own door and pay for my own meal. And that doesn’t make the man I’m with less of a man 🤷🏼♀️
I live in the south and people are so sexist almost everyday in school I would not get to play certain “boy games” also when it was raining and we can’t go outside for recess the girls have to be knitting and the boys get to play with hot wheels. I was so used to hearing “girls can’t play soccer” “girls can’t play basketball” that when I went to California and I went to a playground I was so surprised that I could play with the boys. Also girls are taught that they should be nurses or teachers and where dresses and skirts. My dad always said that he was afraid for me to be a teenager and always be on social media. Honestly I am so lucky my dad doesn’t have a son cause if he did he wouldn’t let me do certain “boy things” like wearing jeans or riding a motorcycle. I plan to move from the south as soon as I turn graduate school next year. I also hold the door sometimes and every time I try to some guy comes and holds it because Oh mY gOSh HoLDInG A dOOR iS sO hArD. I was being sarcastic but like they think I can’t do the simplest things. I’m glad you don’t have to live in the south.
I’m sorry that happened- for both you and the man. Personally, I’ve lived in the south - not the deep south though, thank fuck - for all my life (21 years, so not that long) and have never run into such a problem as this. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a southern gentleman. The only thing that’s wrong is getting angry and berating someone for _not_ being one. Nobody is obligated to pull out your chair for you, but it’s totally fine if you want someone to and if someone _wants_ to, you know? At least, in my opinion.
@@thisisme4074 Absolutely, there's nothing wrong with being a southern gentleman, as long as the man doesn't expect the woman to become meek or subservient or owe him in any way. Like, I can accept the chair you pulled out for me, without owing you another date or a conversation or sex. Being a "southern gentleman" is just a gender-specific form of kindness, and kindness isn't a favor you get to cash in.
My opinion for the "who should pay" question is: For the first time it should be whoever asked the other out on that date. After that, it should be a 50/50 or a "hey I'll get this one and you get next" type of idea. (Also, I LOVE your guys content!)
For me it is whoever chose the restaurant. But other than that if that doesn't seem feasible then 50/50 or the actual items ordered. I always go to a date anticipating paying for my meal, or if I chose the place, I go with the amount of money to cover both people.
I just think it should be discussed beforehand, and not based on gender. Like maybe you asked somebody out cos you really like them, but are broke. Or if the other person offers to pay.
I think it’s who either asked for the date or chose the place, but how I’ve always done it and what works best for me, is you pay for what you ordered. It’s why I’m not really for 50/50, since it may feel like if they get steak or a burger and you got soup, a salad or pasta, you’re paying more than what you ate is worth 😅
At my middle school for puberty, they separated us but taught everyone the "same" topics (though they went more in depth on almost everything with the girls). Doing the same topics somehow made it worse, because they still were very serious with the girls, and for the boys, it was just "yea so girls get periods once a month, basically they bleed and get crabby so steer clear of them" so all the boys decided they knew everything about periods, etc and it was very NOT good... Edit: As a teenager, I'm very glad to have you guys as role models and thank you so much for talking about this!!
i just wanna say thank you to Sam for being so open and honest during these videos. this topic can get very emotional and be hard to talk about. i’m so proud of and thankful for her discussing these issues.
at my school we were also separated by gender. the girls got to learn all about periods and they even gave us period kits, while the boys were just chilling in another classroom doing nothing. i even remember how embarrassed i felt when we got back into the same classroom as the boys holding our period kits.
Yeah I can remember being really ashamed and all the girls just dashing to their bags. The boys were all very confused and they had not been taught about periods at all. This was in year 6.
I live in Utah where they have laws placed that we are an “abstinence only” state and laws are placed for our lessons. I didn’t learn a single thing in my health class. We didn’t learn about birth control, condoms, etc. We were taught to not have sex and that’s it. Since the LDS church makes up most of the population in our state you also can’t ask your parents. Your peers can’t really help you either since everyone is in the same boat. So most kids are left on their own and let’s just say I know many people who have had an STD or an unplanned pregnancy due to lack of knowledge. Hopefully young people can see this video and become more curious to educate themselves. Especially if they live in a state like Utah!
If you have any nonbinary or trans friends who would be comfortable doing this, you should totally do a Zoom version of this with them so we can get that other perspective!
I love Ryan’s response to the last question. I am a 16 year old girl who has grown up in a Christian household and am Christian but I am a product of premarital sex. I remember getting brutally bullied about it after their split when I was 4 and looking at myself as a ball of sin and shame. I absolutely love how you guys did this and I love this channel ❤️
I love that you guys have fun but also aren't afraid to be brutally honest because so many youtubers don't use their platform to talk about real shit. Hitting the subscribe button and so excited for more! :)
For our health class week, we were separated for three days then had a full class discussion on the fourth day. The boys would always come back laughing while the girls would be scared for all of these things that they suddenly learned they would have to deal with in the future. And then some of the more idiotic boys made fun of the girls for being scared (if that makes sense.) but the boys didn't understand how harsh our teacher had been when teaching these subjects. Like dudes, the girls just learned something that is honestly kinda scary (if that makes sense.) in a scary way. We were told to sit on the carpet and pay attention, and I'm not lying when I say our teacher threatened to send me to the principals office for hiding in my sweatshirt when I got uncomfortable.
I remember in ELEMENTARY school we learned about puberty and they separated the girls and the boys. We girls (IDK about the guys) had packets we had to fill out along with the video and we couldn't show the boys at the packet at all and we would get in trouble if we did. The next day they separated the girls and guys again but the girls watched to guy video and the guys watched the girl video. Also, I was out sick the day we had to watch the guy video.
I came to this channel for Ryan because I’m a huge Broadway Stan but Sam is just so amazing and I’m so glad that discovered her. Keep doing what y’all are doing ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for explaining what sex education was like growing up religious. I had a really messed up relationship with a Catholic, and you just made a lot of stuff make sense.
excellent series - thanks to especially Sam for sharing her experiences. my only complaint is that you both should absolutely stop discounting the male experience just because us ladies have more to fear. Hasn't Ryan spoken about being stalked and abused? honestly a guy should have fear walking home at night he could get mugged!, over here its not illegal for a woman to commit rape and a jail sentence for a woman abusing a man was only given THREE YEARS AGO. it's awful. saying I don't get it I am a man or you don't get it you're a woman is expanding both problems. thanks to you both for this video. [anyone else had to deal with sexual comments from reaching puberty in places you are supposed to be exempt from it like school? or even worse where they did nothing? yes I'm still bitter about them doing nothing about the boy who sat behind me in history talking about what he'd do to me in my bed] very nice couple.
Wait so the guys puberty video was like upbeat and exciting video? Dude our video started with a girl freaking out seeing blood when she goes to the bathroom and tries to hide it and later her friends find her. It was like a super scary video. This was elementary school but I was taught everything from my mom since I started my period very early in elementary. Just crazy to hear the difference for guys.
I always operate under the assumption that I’m paying for my meal and if he offers to pay, great. If I can afford to pay and he lets me, great. If we split it, great. -Brittany D
Great stuff guys 👌🏻 Genuinely never considered that maybe having health classes split up helps add to the stigma around women’s bodies, but now that you mention it, it feels so obvious
Sam being so open and honest about her experience as a woman is just amazing, as a 17 year old, to hear from another woman about stuff that happens with me and all of my friends coming from a youtuber. Sam, you are a role model. It was also really cool to hear a man's perspective on these questions, and Ryan is so eloquent. I just love this video
I would LOVE to see an intelligent drinking game about religion. Its so interesting to hear Ryan talking about his Catholic background. Id also love to hear about Sam's "christian southern" upbringing as well.
These are conversations that need to be had, and since you are brave enough to actually discuss it shows that you don't care about the views, and just about getting the information out, so kudos to you
Don’t apologize for this being heavy!!!! These are important conversations and I personally loved these two videos. Definitely in my top ten RUclips videos of all time. Not only interesting but also extremely important. I want to send this to everyone I know. This is something I’m really passionate about and I love the way your formatted this. I hope to one day be able to have similar conversations like this online to spread awareness.
I just had a flashback to 9th grade health class. One of the boys in my class got challenged by the teacher to go up to the front of the class and show to to put on a pad. Most hilarious 10 minutes of class ever.
New fan/subscriber here 👋 I love these two vids in particular and they just make me wanna be best friends with u guys so we can drink wine together and talk about important shit like this and go see broadway shows 😭😭😭 basically u guys are living the life I wish to live so I shall live vicariously through you 😂 these two vids should be shown in schools 🙌
Sam is wise behind her years! As someone who is older then she is by a few years I look up to her and her openness! This was a great two part video and hit on so many feels from me growing up in the Catholic church to being a sexual assault survivor! Thanks for such openness!
50/50 on paying on a date unless the guy or girl is taking you out for food but if you are hanging out and get hungry and you say let's go get food pay from your own food tell you get married.
Amazing video, I really did love it, and you can't believe how big I'm smiling right now for watching this video. Yes, some the things in this video were sad but so true, and I am really happy you guys talked about the struggles that many people have in the world. I think this is the best VS video you guys have ever done. Have a great day!! 😁🙏
i think another interesting thing is when a girl accidentally gets pregnant, she’s shamed for it and is told that she should be ashamed. but the guy that got her pregnant, at least publicly, doesn’t have to take responsibility for it. he isn’t shamed at school like the girl is.
i live you both so much!! you are my favorite people on the internet and i live these conversations you have! props to sam for being able to talk about this so honestly and openly and sharing her experiences! i live you guys!!!
i very much appreciated you guys sharing your conversation about this, because it really really really needs to be talked about more. You guys really said everything perfectly and I just hope other people also got a lot of out this!!
My health class during my last year of high school did not separate the genders, bit we learned about both reproductive systems, date rape, teen pregnancy, and the ultimate birth control, watching a women give birth. My god, we literally saw everything. It was horrifying, bit no one really talks about abstinence. I relied on my mom advising me about sex and everything that revolves around puberty. Also, an American Girl puberty book taught me some stuff too. Books save lives.
Bro my health class literally just taught us about the dangers of smoking and doing drugs. And diseases/sicknesses. We never learned about periods, puberty, sex, birth control, STD’s, or anything that actually matters.
Hi I just want to say how much I admire both of you and how amazing I think you guys are for educating people and exposing them to all different opinions. Thank you guys so much💕 love you both💕
We had sex Ed/puberty taught to us in 5th grade. We were split into guys and girls. We were taught about tampons and pads and stuff. We were taught about guys but not much and not well. I legitimately was under the impression for years that girls got periods every month but that guys could get erections at any time as if those were the guy/girl equivalent of each other. We were taught about stds and birth control but not that side effects are things and stuff. I had a doctor miss an important diagnosis and throw me on birth control to “help” and so I was unnecessarily on birth control for a straight seven years and didn’t realize how awful you feel on it until I stopped taking it. -Brittany D
When I learnt about periods in primary school I remember the teachers made all the girls in the grade stay in for 10 minutes at lunch time (the boys got literally no sex education or education whatsoever) and just said that some girls are getting periods now, if we ever catch you telling a boy about this or even saying the word you will get an immediate detention. They didn't define periods or what to expect. I went to a private Anglican school.
A bunch of students a year to 2 years older than me gave “the talk” to me as a freshman in high school. Was definitely more informative than what I learned in middle school that’s for sure. 😂😂😂😂😂. The best thing I learned was only have s*x when you’re ready not when you’re peer pressured into it.
Day 8 of me commenting on every Sam and Ryan video Random word of the day: Late I know I’m like 2 weeks back on videos and I will be catching up. But this "vs" was very educational. People should really be open for these conversations. Thank you guys for doing this
honestly i find this more inspiring and even entertaining in a way than some “lighter” videos or topics because it’s so refreshing to hear such a healthy couple talk about these things and break down barriers, i spent most of the video saying “PERIODDD” at my phone and also wishing i could make my teachers show this at school. so thank you 🤍
13:00 “it’s not like I was 12, I was 17”. Flash forward to a couple of years ago when I was 12 and people in my grade were having seggs and you were a prude if you weren’t. *Sigh.*
off topic but in the beginning i love the way you guys were both wearing black because it looked like just floating heads and arms with the background lols
I loved this video! I am a woman and I loved the things that were talked about. The only thing is that I feel like both men and women have it hard when it comes to societal expectations. Yes, in a lot of situations women are taught to be the “responsible” ones, and simultaneously we are taught that men take priority. But on the other hand, imagine being the man who has been taught to be a “manly man” his whole life and has been brainwashed in to thinking so many unhealthy things. It would be really difficult for a man like that to find who he really is in a society like ours. Not to mention breaking past all the barriers of not showing emotion unless it’s anger and not dressing to “girly”. And for a man who never finds his way out of the sexist things he has been taught, he is going to live a life without true connection to anyone. So yes, I believe a lot of our problems in society involving gender have to do with believing women are less than and “boys will be boys” for generations. But I don’t think that necessarily makes it a whole lot easier for one gender over the other, besides at face value.
i love this channel, too bad i didn´t find it sooner it would have realy helped my quarentine and i've been watching totaly trendy a lot too. and i have a few video suggestions ° do a versus video about veganism vs carnism, °a intelligent drinking game about religion ( i'm curious), ° for samantha a makeup tutorial maybe at her own yt channel ° a boyfriend do my makeup love you guys bye daddies!
My school doesn't actually have the health teacher tach sex ed, they bring in people from an outside organization. And frankly I'm glad because the health teachers would just make it awkward because they go from talking about fruits and vegetables with middle schoolers one period to sex ed with the high schools the next day 🤦🏾♀️ with that being said the way they talk about sex is refreshing because they make us write down the pros and cons of sex, why people have sex, and we learn about certain, common STDS, but they NEVER tell us to NOT have sex. They want you to make sure you're ready, consider the outcome, and to just be safe when you do it.
Oh god can you please do a videos talking deeper about sex ed. Because in my country it's such a taboo thing to talk about and it just hit me how true it is when ryan said that some people learn about sex from porn and that makes me really sad
Learning abt periods and stuff in school was just so awkard already i cant imagine the boys in the room too. also i just love this topic and i love you two. i couldn’t wait to watch so i’m watching it on my school bus lol also ryan how do you feel on “slime tutorials” especially since there are heathers and frozen ones with you on yt (probably wicked too)
see I went to an all girls catholic school so basically sex class was abstinence class. I did not really learn anything about my actual body and the precautions I needed to take to have a healthy, hygienic period. It was mostly like SEX IS BAD/YOU HAVE SEX DAMNATION TO YOU blah blah blah. Thank-you so much for posting this video, this is the content we need then some other content that is being post on youtube!!
Why aren't men/boys taught about periods and feminine hygiene products in the US? In Aus, everyone learns the biology and how to handle it. The boys all learned about tampons and pads and how to use them, and we all learned the different changes that occur in ourselves and each other in puberty. Knowing about menstruation as a cishet man, i could imagine, would be useful.
I'm in Australia too. My primary school sex ed class separated us by gender and taught the girls about menstruation, but not the boys. In high school we weren't separated, but they just made us sit in a big circle and put condoms on fake bananas, then test each other with ''Guess the STD' flashcards. So boys missed the period party.
It's funny how I am from Italy and here nobody ever taught me anything about periods and puberty, neither in school. When I had mine for the first time I didn't even know what it was.
Whats really funny is this. I once saw a man, sho was laden down with books, struggling to open a door that I was about to walk through. Knowing basic manners, I opened the door and held it open for him. He stood there, waited for me to walk through, told me to shut it and walk away, then struggled wuth the door for a solid 5 min before getting it open. Keep in mind, I am a women, and was 13 at the time.
Also we didn't get separated by boys and girls in the sex Ed class day. We were all in the room and looked at std pictures, and what conctreceptions worked best and what worked with what.
for me health class there was a video for the girls and a video for the boys for puberty but then there was a video for both that we all watched together, and i remember that we were all taught together about checking for breast and testicular cancer and how to check which i think is important for both sides to know. Now paying for dinner or whatever, I don't think i was taught one way or another but i personaly feel, if i ask if someone wants to go out to eat or whatever male or female that i should pay, but if someone asks me if i want to go out to eat i atleast feel like i should pay for my half. How i was taught about sex i honestly don't remember, no one really sat me down and told me, I got little things from my parents and things from health class, and i don't really remember being taught about pleasure of sex, it was kinda taught as that's how you make babies and sometimes for fun but mostly for babies, oh and in health class it was taught that it was for married couples but i didn't care about that lol. We were taught also about pretty much every birthcontrol available at that time which i knew about the pill and condoms but i had no idea there was a female condom and other stuff. I have so much more i could talk about but it would go on forever lol. I love these videos do more.
If you don't like any of these ideas, no worries, it could just be what I like so I COMPLETELY understand. Maybe something VS ideas like: Supernatural Fan v Someone Who Has Never/Barely Watched (or any show/series/movie/etc), Driving Expectations or Education, Starbucks v Dunkin(or Coffee Bean or any other main chains like that), CA v NY, religious upbringings or expectations and how you see/think about them today, Traveling differences between men and women or maybe between singles and groups. These were just some ideas I had, if you use them YAY, if not I know I'll still love what you guys come up with!
Each of these questions probably deserves it's own 5-part-mini series because it's so important to talk about them openly and end the stigmas around them. Or a podcast. Seriously. A podcast! I remember we learned in primary school how babies develop and grow, but I don't remember every properly learning about sex in school at all. Apart from the "oh so puberty is this, and girls, use protection or you will get pregnant, and boys, just try and hold it together" 1 day talk basically, and a sex ed week where we were also separated. Us girls were taught about birth controls, and different types of birth control, and I remember us all sitting in a circle with the task to put on a condom on a banana, because "it was our responsibility to make sure we don't get pregnant so we had to know how to do it". It was basically a week long lesson on "how to not get pregnant" and making sure no one ever thinks that sex could be ... dare I say it... fun. Also this whole "the man has to pay" thing...No. Simply just no. For the first date, and maybe the one after that, I feel like the person asking out should at least offer to pay. But even then: if I didn't think the date went well or I know I don't really want to go on another one, I'll happily pay for myself and leave the space with a "clean slate". 😅 Thanks for being so honest about these topics. It's so important to have this kind of content out there and available for everyone. Keep it up!
“Hey daddy” “I love us” I love you guys ❤️ you guys are the best!! This was a very good versus like this type of discussion should be cover in school but you know society is not there yet sadly. Love you guys (again I know) ❤️ Ryan is so cute when he talked about Sam we love you Sam ❤️❤️ You guys were great 😊 hi from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷
So we all agree, Sam is who we wanna be when we grow up.
Nope. Ryan
@@MinecraftGod22 now I can’t decide
I’m older than Sam and she is who I want to be when I grow up. Haha
@@roarroar4345 literally same
agreed
A moment of silence for those people who haven't discovered their channel yet. I can't imagine missing out to youtube's most quality content.
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OMG YES
My friends and I were driving from Michigan to Disney World and we stopped for the night somewhere in Tennessee. I parked and got out of the car to check in and I held the door open for a young black man. When I got inside the receptionist at the desk, in a very heavy southern accent, was just like yelling at this poor man saying “Did you let that girl hold the door for you?! What is wrong with you?” I was honestly shocked because living in Michigan my whole life I have never experienced that. I’ve always held the door open for any and everyone because it’s the nice thing to do. I looked between the man and the receptionist and flat out told the woman “I don’t play those games. I am more than capable of holding a door open. I’m not fragile.” She looked at me in silence as I apologized to the man for her behavior. I understand that that type of thing is “the southern way” but I felt awful for the man and it honestly felt insulting to me. Yeah. I don’t like that whole southern gentleman bullshit. I can hold my own door and pay for my own meal. And that doesn’t make the man I’m with less of a man 🤷🏼♀️
I live in the south and people are so sexist almost everyday in school I would not get to play certain “boy games” also when it was raining and we can’t go outside for recess the girls have to be knitting and the boys get to play with hot wheels. I was so used to hearing “girls can’t play soccer” “girls can’t play basketball” that when I went to California and I went to a playground I was so surprised that I could play with the boys. Also girls are taught that they should be nurses or teachers and where dresses and skirts. My dad always said that he was afraid for me to be a teenager and always be on social media. Honestly I am so lucky my dad doesn’t have a son cause if he did he wouldn’t let me do certain “boy things” like wearing jeans or riding a motorcycle. I plan to move from the south as soon as I turn graduate school next year. I also hold the door sometimes and every time I try to some guy comes and holds it because Oh mY gOSh HoLDInG A dOOR iS sO hArD. I was being sarcastic but like they think I can’t do the simplest things. I’m glad you don’t have to live in the south.
I’m sorry that happened- for both you and the man. Personally, I’ve lived in the south - not the deep south though, thank fuck - for all my life (21 years, so not that long) and have never run into such a problem as this. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a southern gentleman. The only thing that’s wrong is getting angry and berating someone for _not_ being one. Nobody is obligated to pull out your chair for you, but it’s totally fine if you want someone to and if someone _wants_ to, you know? At least, in my opinion.
@@thisisme4074 Absolutely, there's nothing wrong with being a southern gentleman, as long as the man doesn't expect the woman to become meek or subservient or owe him in any way. Like, I can accept the chair you pulled out for me, without owing you another date or a conversation or sex. Being a "southern gentleman" is just a gender-specific form of kindness, and kindness isn't a favor you get to cash in.
So when’s the podcast coming? 😅. Literally I can listen to y’all for *hours*
My opinion for the "who should pay" question is: For the first time it should be whoever asked the other out on that date. After that, it should be a 50/50 or a "hey I'll get this one and you get next" type of idea. (Also, I LOVE your guys content!)
That's actually a good idea.
For me it is whoever chose the restaurant. But other than that if that doesn't seem feasible then 50/50 or the actual items ordered. I always go to a date anticipating paying for my meal, or if I chose the place, I go with the amount of money to cover both people.
I just think it should be discussed beforehand, and not based on gender. Like maybe you asked somebody out cos you really like them, but are broke. Or if the other person offers to pay.
I think it’s who either asked for the date or chose the place, but how I’ve always done it and what works best for me, is you pay for what you ordered. It’s why I’m not really for 50/50, since it may feel like if they get steak or a burger and you got soup, a salad or pasta, you’re paying more than what you ate is worth 😅
At my middle school for puberty, they separated us but taught everyone the "same" topics (though they went more in depth on almost everything with the girls). Doing the same topics somehow made it worse, because they still were very serious with the girls, and for the boys, it was just "yea so girls get periods once a month, basically they bleed and get crabby so steer clear of them" so all the boys decided they knew everything about periods, etc and it was very NOT good...
Edit: As a teenager, I'm very glad to have you guys as role models and thank you so much for talking about this!!
i just wanna say thank you to Sam for being so open and honest during these videos. this topic can get very emotional and be hard to talk about. i’m so proud of and thankful for her discussing these issues.
More young girls need to hear what Sam has to say. She was dead on about literally EVERYTHING.
I hate the idea that men should pay for everything. It makes me feel like I can be bought, and I'm NOT for sale.
I mean for me, when women say ‘men must pay on the first date’ that’s them essentially saying ‘you have to pay for my time’
at my school we were also separated by gender. the girls got to learn all about periods and they even gave us period kits, while the boys were just chilling in another classroom doing nothing. i even remember how embarrassed i felt when we got back into the same classroom as the boys holding our period kits.
Yeah I can remember being really ashamed and all the girls just dashing to their bags. The boys were all very confused and they had not been taught about periods at all. This was in year 6.
The “period kits” for us was you get a phamplet a pad and some people got a little stick of deodorant
I live in Utah where they have laws placed that we are an “abstinence only” state and laws are placed for our lessons. I didn’t learn a single thing in my health class. We didn’t learn about birth control, condoms, etc. We were taught to not have sex and that’s it. Since the LDS church makes up most of the population in our state you also can’t ask your parents. Your peers can’t really help you either since everyone is in the same boat. So most kids are left on their own and let’s just say I know many people who have had an STD or an unplanned pregnancy due to lack of knowledge. Hopefully young people can see this video and become more curious to educate themselves. Especially if they live in a state like Utah!
yay part two i’m so glad they are open to talking about important topics
If you have any nonbinary or trans friends who would be comfortable doing this, you should totally do a Zoom version of this with them so we can get that other perspective!
as a nonbinary person, yes please!
@@eringage1511 same id love to see that
I love Ryan’s response to the last question. I am a 16 year old girl who has grown up in a Christian household and am Christian but I am a product of premarital sex. I remember getting brutally bullied about it after their split when I was 4 and looking at myself as a ball of sin and shame. I absolutely love how you guys did this and I love this channel ❤️
I love that you guys have fun but also aren't afraid to be brutally honest because so many youtubers don't use their platform to talk about real shit. Hitting the subscribe button and so excited for more! :)
For our health class week, we were separated for three days then had a full class discussion on the fourth day. The boys would always come back laughing while the girls would be scared for all of these things that they suddenly learned they would have to deal with in the future. And then some of the more idiotic boys made fun of the girls for being scared (if that makes sense.) but the boys didn't understand how harsh our teacher had been when teaching these subjects. Like dudes, the girls just learned something that is honestly kinda scary (if that makes sense.) in a scary way. We were told to sit on the carpet and pay attention, and I'm not lying when I say our teacher threatened to send me to the principals office for hiding in my sweatshirt when I got uncomfortable.
I feel like another thing about paying is that, if the man pays, a woman is supposed to "owe" him whatever physical pleasure he is looking for.
love that this topic is being continued!! these are great issues to be talked about with your platform! love you both :)
I remember in ELEMENTARY school we learned about puberty and they separated the girls and the boys. We girls (IDK about the guys) had packets we had to fill out along with the video and we couldn't show the boys at the packet at all and we would get in trouble if we did. The next day they separated the girls and guys again but the girls watched to guy video and the guys watched the girl video. Also, I was out sick the day we had to watch the guy video.
ELEMENTARY???
@@rainybopz probably grade 4-6
We're about to get real deep and serious again! Love how the channel is growing :)
This series is deep, but I like that we get to hear your opinions and your point of views. Keep Going ❤❤❤
Everyone deserves a Ryan 😘 he just so understanding and smart. Also handsome.
I came to this channel for Ryan because I’m a huge Broadway Stan but Sam is just so amazing and I’m so glad that discovered her. Keep doing what y’all are doing ❤️❤️❤️
sam really is honestly truly who i wanna be when i grow up. i look up to her so much
Thank you for explaining what sex education was like growing up religious. I had a really messed up relationship with a Catholic, and you just made a lot of stuff make sense.
excellent series - thanks to especially Sam for sharing her experiences. my only complaint is that you both should absolutely stop discounting the male experience just because us ladies have more to fear. Hasn't Ryan spoken about being stalked and abused? honestly a guy should have fear walking home at night he could get mugged!, over here its not illegal for a woman to commit rape and a jail sentence for a woman abusing a man was only given THREE YEARS AGO. it's awful. saying I don't get it I am a man or you don't get it you're a woman is expanding both problems. thanks to you both for this video.
[anyone else had to deal with sexual comments from reaching puberty in places you are supposed to be exempt from it like school? or even worse where they did nothing? yes I'm still bitter about them doing nothing about the boy who sat behind me in history talking about what he'd do to me in my bed]
very nice couple.
I hope I can find a woke guy like Ryan some day lmao
you guys should make this in a podcast format with more and longer discussions on the topics
yessss I’m so excited after watching the first one I’ve been waiting for this 😌
Wait so the guys puberty video was like upbeat and exciting video? Dude our video started with a girl freaking out seeing blood when she goes to the bathroom and tries to hide it and later her friends find her. It was like a super scary video. This was elementary school but I was taught everything from my mom since I started my period very early in elementary. Just crazy to hear the difference for guys.
the way Ryan admires Sam so much. iM just so speechless ❤️
I always operate under the assumption that I’m paying for my meal and if he offers to pay, great. If I can afford to pay and he lets me, great. If we split it, great.
-Brittany D
Great stuff guys 👌🏻
Genuinely never considered that maybe having health classes split up helps add to the stigma around women’s bodies, but now that you mention it, it feels so obvious
Ball change.... kick splits.... padabure. omg I’m dying 😂 I love them so much
I could be wrong, but I think it's pas de bourree.
Thanks! I wasn’t quite sure how it was spelled lol
Sam and Ryan. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for having these conversations!!
Thank you for keeping it real it is so refreshing to listen to people talk about real things and give me a sense of productivity after watching!
Sam being so open and honest about her experience as a woman is just amazing, as a 17 year old, to hear from another woman about stuff that happens with me and all of my friends coming from a youtuber. Sam, you are a role model.
It was also really cool to hear a man's perspective on these questions, and Ryan is so eloquent. I just love this video
I would LOVE to see an intelligent drinking game about religion. Its so interesting to hear Ryan talking about his Catholic background. Id also love to hear about Sam's "christian southern" upbringing as well.
Ok Y'all need to start a Podcast, You guys would be perfect!
in the beginning he really said “ooo-0000-oooo0-000000”
into the unknown🥰
These are conversations that need to be had, and since you are brave enough to actually discuss it shows that you don't care about the views, and just about getting the information out, so kudos to you
Don’t apologize for this being heavy!!!! These are important conversations and I personally loved these two videos. Definitely in my top ten RUclips videos of all time. Not only interesting but also extremely important. I want to send this to everyone I know. This is something I’m really passionate about and I love the way your formatted this. I hope to one day be able to have similar conversations like this online to spread awareness.
Yess y'all on that RUclips RUclips grind
I just had a flashback to 9th grade health class. One of the boys in my class got challenged by the teacher to go up to the front of the class and show to to put on a pad. Most hilarious 10 minutes of class ever.
New fan/subscriber here 👋 I love these two vids in particular and they just make me wanna be best friends with u guys so we can drink wine together and talk about important shit like this and go see broadway shows 😭😭😭 basically u guys are living the life I wish to live so I shall live vicariously through you 😂 these two vids should be shown in schools 🙌
God bless y'all for this 2 part series
Love how open you guys are with your experiences. These type of videos could help a lot of people! Also, I like Ryan's nail color 😊
As a man, I can't thank you both but more to Sam for having such an open conversation, here on RUclips ... SO necessary !!! ...
this conversation is so important, thank you both
I’m in six grade middle school her and they taught me with girls in my class and boys
my standards are so high, thank you Sam & Ryan. But also, they’re not high, because high standards and good communication should be normalized😌😁
I’m so glad a video like this exists these are topics and discussions we need to have and I’m glad you both brought it forward
Sam is wise behind her years! As someone who is older then she is by a few years I look up to her and her openness! This was a great two part video and hit on so many feels from me growing up in the Catholic church to being a sexual assault survivor! Thanks for such openness!
50/50 on paying on a date unless the guy or girl is taking you out for food but if you are hanging out and get hungry and you say let's go get food pay from your own food tell you get married.
Amazing video, I really did love it, and you can't believe how big I'm smiling right now for watching this video. Yes, some the things in this video were sad but so true, and I am really happy you guys talked about the struggles that many people have in the world. I think this is the best VS video you guys have ever done. Have a great day!! 😁🙏
i think another interesting thing is when a girl accidentally gets pregnant, she’s shamed for it and is told that she should be ashamed. but the guy that got her pregnant, at least publicly, doesn’t have to take responsibility for it. he isn’t shamed at school like the girl is.
I really like this, these type of stuff doesn't get talked about enough. I love y'all ❤
i live you both so much!! you are my favorite people on the internet and i live these conversations you have! props to sam for being able to talk about this so honestly and openly and sharing her experiences! i live you guys!!!
New to this channel and I gotta say what a precious couple
i very much appreciated you guys sharing your conversation about this, because it really really really needs to be talked about more. You guys really said everything perfectly and I just hope other people also got a lot of out this!!
My health class during my last year of high school did not separate the genders, bit we learned about both reproductive systems, date rape, teen pregnancy, and the ultimate birth control, watching a women give birth. My god, we literally saw everything. It was horrifying, bit no one really talks about abstinence.
I relied on my mom advising me about sex and everything that revolves around puberty. Also, an American Girl puberty book taught me some stuff too. Books save lives.
sam is who i aspire to be
We need to normalize destroying gender stereotypes and normalize effective communication
Bro my health class literally just taught us about the dangers of smoking and doing drugs. And diseases/sicknesses. We never learned about periods, puberty, sex, birth control, STD’s, or anything that actually matters.
This video was hard to watch because it's true.
Hi I just want to say how much I admire both of you and how amazing I think you guys are for educating people and exposing them to all different opinions. Thank you guys so much💕 love you both💕
We had sex Ed/puberty taught to us in 5th grade. We were split into guys and girls. We were taught about tampons and pads and stuff. We were taught about guys but not much and not well. I legitimately was under the impression for years that girls got periods every month but that guys could get erections at any time as if those were the guy/girl equivalent of each other. We were taught about stds and birth control but not that side effects are things and stuff. I had a doctor miss an important diagnosis and throw me on birth control to “help” and so I was unnecessarily on birth control for a straight seven years and didn’t realize how awful you feel on it until I stopped taking it.
-Brittany D
When I learnt about periods in primary school I remember the teachers made all the girls in the grade stay in for 10 minutes at lunch time (the boys got literally no sex education or education whatsoever) and just said that some girls are getting periods now, if we ever catch you telling a boy about this or even saying the word you will get an immediate detention. They didn't define periods or what to expect. I went to a private Anglican school.
I love these! Thanks for the videos!
A bunch of students a year to 2 years older than me gave “the talk” to me as a freshman in high school. Was definitely more informative than what I learned in middle school that’s for sure. 😂😂😂😂😂. The best thing I learned was only have s*x when you’re ready not when you’re peer pressured into it.
i’ve been waiting for this part! it was so worth it, another amazing episode.
Day 8 of me commenting on every Sam and Ryan video
Random word of the day: Late
I know I’m like 2 weeks back on videos and I will be catching up. But this "vs" was very educational. People should really be open for these conversations. Thank you guys for doing this
Also a fun video could be you guys reacting to middle ground on jubilee I’d love to see your views
I would love to see you guys talk more about dating and social norms
WE LOVE YOU SAM AND RYAN! Great content as always
honestly i find this more inspiring and even entertaining in a way than some “lighter” videos or topics because it’s so refreshing to hear such a healthy couple talk about these things and break down barriers, i spent most of the video saying “PERIODDD” at my phone and also wishing i could make my teachers show this at school. so thank you 🤍
Aw hell yea I’ve been waiting since part 1 for this!
13:00 “it’s not like I was 12, I was 17”. Flash forward to a couple of years ago when I was 12 and people in my grade were having seggs and you were a prude if you weren’t. *Sigh.*
off topic but in the beginning i love the way you guys were both wearing black because it looked like just floating heads and arms with the background lols
I loved this video! I am a woman and I loved the things that were talked about. The only thing is that I feel like both men and women have it hard when it comes to societal expectations. Yes, in a lot of situations women are taught to be the “responsible” ones, and simultaneously we are taught that men take priority. But on the other hand, imagine being the man who has been taught to be a “manly man” his whole life and has been brainwashed in to thinking so many unhealthy things. It would be really difficult for a man like that to find who he really is in a society like ours. Not to mention breaking past all the barriers of not showing emotion unless it’s anger and not dressing to “girly”. And for a man who never finds his way out of the sexist things he has been taught, he is going to live a life without true connection to anyone. So yes, I believe a lot of our problems in society involving gender have to do with believing women are less than and “boys will be boys” for generations. But I don’t think that necessarily makes it a whole lot easier for one gender over the other, besides at face value.
i love this channel, too bad i didn´t find it sooner it would have realy helped my quarentine and i've been watching totaly trendy a lot too.
and i have a few video suggestions
° do a versus video about veganism vs carnism,
°a intelligent drinking game about religion ( i'm curious),
° for samantha a makeup tutorial maybe at her own yt channel
° a boyfriend do my makeup
love you guys
bye daddies!
i love listening to the seriousness of this because its so true
My school doesn't actually have the health teacher tach sex ed, they bring in people from an outside organization. And frankly I'm glad because the health teachers would just make it awkward because they go from talking about fruits and vegetables with middle schoolers one period to sex ed with the high schools the next day 🤦🏾♀️ with that being said the way they talk about sex is refreshing because they make us write down the pros and cons of sex, why people have sex, and we learn about certain, common STDS, but they NEVER tell us to NOT have sex. They want you to make sure you're ready, consider the outcome, and to just be safe when you do it.
Off topic, Sam I love ur earrings ❤️
do you think i cant tell your in either red or orange base but i do love the content
Oh god can you please do a videos talking deeper about sex ed. Because in my country it's such a taboo thing to talk about and it just hit me how true it is when ryan said that some people learn about sex from porn and that makes me really sad
Learning abt periods and stuff in school was just so awkard already i cant imagine the boys in the room too.
also i just love this topic and i love you two.
i couldn’t wait to watch so i’m watching it on my school bus lol
also ryan how do you feel on “slime tutorials” especially since there are heathers and frozen ones with you on yt (probably wicked too)
too*
How do I always see this at the perfect timing
see I went to an all girls catholic school so basically sex class was abstinence class. I did not really learn anything about my actual body and the precautions I needed to take to have a healthy, hygienic period. It was mostly like SEX IS BAD/YOU HAVE SEX DAMNATION TO YOU blah blah blah. Thank-you so much for posting this video, this is the content we need then some other content that is being post on youtube!!
Why aren't men/boys taught about periods and feminine hygiene products in the US? In Aus, everyone learns the biology and how to handle it. The boys all learned about tampons and pads and how to use them, and we all learned the different changes that occur in ourselves and each other in puberty. Knowing about menstruation as a cishet man, i could imagine, would be useful.
I'm in Australia too. My primary school sex ed class separated us by gender and taught the girls about menstruation, but not the boys. In high school we weren't separated, but they just made us sit in a big circle and put condoms on fake bananas, then test each other with ''Guess the STD' flashcards. So boys missed the period party.
It's funny how I am from Italy and here nobody ever taught me anything about periods and puberty, neither in school. When I had mine for the first time I didn't even know what it was.
Ryan is why my expectations are so high 😐
Whats really funny is this. I once saw a man, sho was laden down with books, struggling to open a door that I was about to walk through. Knowing basic manners, I opened the door and held it open for him. He stood there, waited for me to walk through, told me to shut it and walk away, then struggled wuth the door for a solid 5 min before getting it open. Keep in mind, I am a women, and was 13 at the time.
Also we didn't get separated by boys and girls in the sex Ed class day. We were all in the room and looked at std pictures, and what conctreceptions worked best and what worked with what.
for me health class there was a video for the girls and a video for the boys for puberty but then there was a video for both that we all watched together, and i remember that we were all taught together about checking for breast and testicular cancer and how to check which i think is important for both sides to know. Now paying for dinner or whatever, I don't think i was taught one way or another but i personaly feel, if i ask if someone wants to go out to eat or whatever male or female that i should pay, but if someone asks me if i want to go out to eat i atleast feel like i should pay for my half. How i was taught about sex i honestly don't remember, no one really sat me down and told me, I got little things from my parents and things from health class, and i don't really remember being taught about pleasure of sex, it was kinda taught as that's how you make babies and sometimes for fun but mostly for babies, oh and in health class it was taught that it was for married couples but i didn't care about that lol. We were taught also about pretty much every birthcontrol available at that time which i knew about the pill and condoms but i had no idea there was a female condom and other stuff. I have so much more i could talk about but it would go on forever lol. I love these videos do more.
You guys are the new Cut and Jubilee!
If you don't like any of these ideas, no worries, it could just be what I like so I COMPLETELY understand. Maybe something VS ideas like: Supernatural Fan v Someone Who Has Never/Barely Watched (or any show/series/movie/etc), Driving Expectations or Education, Starbucks v Dunkin(or Coffee Bean or any other main chains like that), CA v NY, religious upbringings or expectations and how you see/think about them today, Traveling differences between men and women or maybe between singles and groups. These were just some ideas I had, if you use them YAY, if not I know I'll still love what you guys come up with!
Each of these questions probably deserves it's own 5-part-mini series because it's so important to talk about them openly and end the stigmas around them. Or a podcast. Seriously. A podcast!
I remember we learned in primary school how babies develop and grow, but I don't remember every properly learning about sex in school at all. Apart from the "oh so puberty is this, and girls, use protection or you will get pregnant, and boys, just try and hold it together" 1 day talk basically, and a sex ed week where we were also separated. Us girls were taught about birth controls, and different types of birth control, and I remember us all sitting in a circle with the task to put on a condom on a banana, because "it was our responsibility to make sure we don't get pregnant so we had to know how to do it". It was basically a week long lesson on "how to not get pregnant" and making sure no one ever thinks that sex could be ... dare I say it... fun.
Also this whole "the man has to pay" thing...No. Simply just no. For the first date, and maybe the one after that, I feel like the person asking out should at least offer to pay. But even then: if I didn't think the date went well or I know I don't really want to go on another one, I'll happily pay for myself and leave the space with a "clean slate". 😅
Thanks for being so honest about these topics. It's so important to have this kind of content out there and available for everyone. Keep it up!
“Hey daddy” “I love us” I love you guys ❤️ you guys are the best!! This was a very good versus like this type of discussion should be cover in school but you know society is not there yet sadly. Love you guys (again I know) ❤️ Ryan is so cute when he talked about Sam we love you Sam ❤️❤️ You guys were great 😊 hi from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷
In my school we didn’t split the genders when discussing puberty so it might have changed recently (I got the talk 4 years ago)
Me too
Gotta love the purple nails😂😂❤