It was the “I treat myself so well, so why you think you could treat me any type of way.” 😭👏🏽 Thank you for your vulnerability sis. You needed to release after that experience and it speaks volumes that you felt comfortable to do that with us, your GWORLS. Once us women know our worth and treat ourselves like it, everything changes. You deserve everything and I love how you handled this situation so maturely with style and grace!
I’m so happy you shared this vulnerable moment , men that give women the bare minimum are trash. I’m happy you spoke up for yourself and you value yourself enough to recognize that he can’t meet your expectations
Na after he went to sleep on me first night I woulda been out- like bump waking up with me you don’t get that privilege sorry! Also benefit of the doubt is different than choosing to let bad behavior slide… and also if a person shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM… if you’ve had many encounters with this person and they’ve behaved this way he was right you did have unrealistic expectations…and also why have expectations for someone other than what they’ve shown they’re willing to give…we gotta stop thinking we can tell a man how we want to be treated and he’s just gonna do it- like you said he’s not your man and it didn’t sound like he was tryna court you…we gotta stop putting the wrong ppl in these positions they’re not qualified for …you’re right you deserve better🎉
Girl on behalf of everyone here I just want to say we love you. You weren’t asking for too much. You deserve so much more than the crumbs that loser was offering. God has someone who will match your energy. You deserve the best. Can’t wait to hear your testimony when Mister Right comes out of nowhere and sweeps you off your feet. Xo
Respectfully, as women, we should not be flown out. The man needs to put in all of the effort to fly himself out, go through packing, go through the airline crap to get to us. 💙💙💙 let's normalize not being flown out. I'm so happy for you Kirah! Your growth is amazing.
I think when you fly out the person you’re flying to is in charge of the plans. Like imagine a guy flying to you to your city… i feel like I’d want to show him around and all that… now what i can get with is, you should only be flown out by your man, not someone new or someone you’re not sure of.
@@womenstriving8960 If he flies out to see you; he should do enough research to show you a good time. We never have to accommodate a man when he is "courting" us. If he respects and values you, he will go the extra mile. Otherwise, you are playing yourself.
KIRRRRAAAAHHHHHHH! I’m so glad you didnt edit out the tears because the girlies needed to hear the message. I’m in the same space of dating with intention so when people try to approach with BS it’s frustrating and sometimes I cry too. Our person is on the way. We are just in preparation mode 🫡
The thing is bare minimum men will always say your expectations are too high because they don’t want to do more to keep you. Honey he wasn’t worth your time, tears or to be in the same space as you. You know your worth your gut instinct was correct and I’m so inspired by you. Keep growing and glowing sis!
Kirah, I'm so glad you know your worth. A lot of us are learning this and not putting up with minimal effort. We all deserve the best. But it truly starts from within. Ladies, take notes don't ever settle when someone says is too much someone else will gladly do it without you asking them to.
shoutout to you for sharing your experience with the terrible date. I’m so sorry it happened 🥺 but in the same breath i’m so prada you for setting a boundary and standing firm on it, you did well by leaving.. don’t be mad at yourself, you handled it so well 🤍
Omg. Literally crying !!! You are totally right for walking away from the situation. He was treating you like a burden FOH. So proud of you for not letting that ruin your experience in Miami and continuing to step out of your comfort zone and open up to new people. I have the same struggle with knowing my worth and setting boundaries. You're amazing. I know that was hard but thanks for sharing. It really helped me. Xoxo
Thanks for sharing your story with us and I know it helped many. Sometimes these guys think especially when they have money and you are beautiful they think they could treat you any type away. That’s why it’s so good to have your own and know your worth and you are worthy of better. Don’t settle, knowing your worth is the first step to success for your life.
Seeing Kirah cry almost made me cry because all of the stuff you was explaining brought me back to my past relationship. All of us women should feel wanted, valued especially you Kirah and I'm glad you removed yourself out of this situation, there's so much coming your way and all of u have to do is pray and wait girly!
I cried with you omg. These men nowadays .. I can't. My last experience was enough for me. Just gonna focus on me and being okay with me alone! Thanks so much for being vulnerable with us Kirah🤍
I don’t usually comment but thank you for being transparent and just vulnerable with us Kirah. I know we’ve all had that “wait how did I even get here” moment where we put ourselves in predicaments of low value and weren’t treating ourselves the best. So happy for you and keep up the great work. You’ve came a long way from when I first started watching you ❤️
I most definitely agree!! I appreciate her transparency, we have all been there, undervalued by a low energy man. I just encourage every woman to remember their value, you are the PRIZE!
I’m almost 40 years old and I WISH I realized my self worth at the age you are It would’ve saved me from so many heartbreaks… I’m so freaking proud of…when the right one come around you will recognize it. You’re a beautiful young lady inside and out and NO do not settle for anything less than. And you know what there will be a women who is okay with accepting the bare minimum and live in misery BUT NOT OUR BOO KIRAH and yes I was crying with you not sad tears but happy tears seeing your growth and excited to see what the future holds for you❤
I’m 40 now and I’m glad she posted this to help the girlies because sometimes it hits different from someone around their age.. Too pretty! Too independent!! Yes! Know your worth mamas!! We are daughters of Abraham & Sarah.. Lineage of Royalty. God’s chosen daughters.
you being this transparent with us, gives you so many points ! a lot of women don’t talk about their stories, and we need more of this. You are amazing Kirah ❤️🔥
When you had your “rant” it was sooooo relatable I’m currently in that same phase of my life. Girl i was literally tearing up with you bc nobody gets it… then i remembered you are a Pisces like me and that’s why i can relate so much.
One day, we’re going to look back at this vlog and be like wowwww look how far she came, now she has this wonderful man who treats her like the queen she is. You’re beautiful inside and out, and I know God will bless you with the right one at the right time. Thank you for sharing this very real and vulnerable experience with us, we love you👸🏾💕
She’s human, it’s okay for her to cry. I know you probably don’t have bad intentions with this comment but let Black women cry & express our emotions. We’re not robots 🤍
No script, no closure conversation. I too am in a season of setting boundaries even if it is hard and even if it makes the other person feel uncomfortable. As a fellow Pisces we excuse A LOT of things and move forward. I’m giving myself that grace now. Kirah babes, this person blatantly showed you who they are and the lack of care they have for you. Notate that and move accordingly babes. Proud of you 🤍
Long time subscriber and the only influencer I follow; I’ve never seen you cry on camera, so to see the transparency was healing and refreshing. Thank you for that. We’ve all been there 🩵
Aww kirah😢 seeing you break down like that, almost made me cry. I’m so sorry that happened to you and as a woman in that same era (not allowing people that don’t value me to be in my space) I really understand where you were coming from. I’m so glad tho that you know you deserve more and better and believe me better will come. ❤ sending you love and peace rn
Man I felt you so much about no accepting that type of treatment frfr like it doesn’t feel good at all and when you accept it they think that’s how they can treat you we are worth so much more and I love that you know your worth ❤
You have value, you know exactly what you want in a relationship. This is a perfect example of what so many of us gorgeous gorgeous girls have to deal with. I’m so proud of you for walking away! Your expectations are NOT TOO HIGH! Don’t let that man gaslight you. Stay strong ❤
I had to pause the video and come make a comment. Thank you so being so vulnerable and sharing your experience. I am 42 and I tell my girlfriends all the time that I LOVE the girls in their 20's because they are living their lives without any fear, taking risk, and holding the men in their lives accountable. So many woman make excuses or continue to have conversations over and over with men when these men know better and want women to lower their expectations to be a clown in their circus. So cheers to you for setting boundaries and removing yourself from a situation that was no longer serving you. You are absolutely beautiful, you are doing amazing things in your life and I KNOW there is a man that will give you everything you REQUIRE. Thank you for sharing this and encouraging woman to know they are worthy of better and to never accept foolishness. Ok let me get back to this vlog because this OOTD you are rocking is cute and I need to hear where its from. Would love to meet you when you come to Houston again!!!!!!
It takes a lot to be publicly vulnerable and for that I have SO much respect and love for you Kirah. Thank you for giving us a message because it's needed. We love you girl and thank you for sharing your life with us ❤
HUGE HUG to you Kirah! You’re absolutely right. Do not settle for any mediocre man. You’re beat, smart with a huge heart. The best is yet to come. Wait on God for the best! ❤️🤗
Omg. I started crying as if we were on ft. Literally talking to my phone like “girl don’t cry”. I love that you were able to share this moment so many females needed to hear this. Continue giving yourself grace 🫶🏾 never settle nor fall for anything.
We missed you Kirah! And please don’t cry! You are worthy and your feelings are valid! He knows he was wrong for that! But don’t blame yourself, at least you recognized it and kept it moving! You will find the right people for you ♥️
😭 I cried with you Kirah!! I felt you whole heartedly because that’s exactly how I am right now but you put it into words for me. WE ARE NO LONGER DOOR STEPS FOR OTHER PEOPLES HAPPINESS. It’s time to be SELFISH and put our own happiness and future first! ❤
Girl I’m so glad you shared that story. I’ve been feeling the same way. Apologizing to your self is so important. I think what I have to work on is loving myself and treating myself the way I need to.
Kirah thank you for being a beautiful example and reminder of sticking to your standards. That man put in zero effort and was taking your time for granted. He had you all the way fucked up. Good for you saying “nah I’m a grown woman this ain’t it”. Lol I was low key getting emotional with you bc how far God has brought me from putting up with nonsense from people. You go girl!
I feel you boo. I find myself crying often nowadays because the bar in dating is so low in 2023. It’s hard when you respect and value yourself to where you constantly have to walk away from low vibration men. Thanks for being transparent here ❤
I'm sorry to say this but it doesn't get any better! y'all are half my age and it's literally the same thing! Don't compromise your boundaries and always remember your worth
Iktr… I have encountered the same situation Kirah encountered with a guy except I was not flown out anywhere… He was someone I have known for years; and when I had decided to reconnect back with him, it was a whole totally different ball game… He was involved in a hit and run accident to the point it messed up his mobility… He wanted me to come and see him more, and spend time with him… I made myself clear, I said the only time I will be able to come spend time with you is on my days off… He agreed than all of sudden we were talking and he just flipped the script asking me what the f*ck was I there for? He made it seem like I invited myself into his space when he literally stated he wanted me to spend time with him… After he said that, I said you know what you are right, I got up got dressed and pulled tight! I said you are not about to make me a target I am not the one who hit you and sped off… I deleted his number and everything, I also cried as well because he made it seem like it was my fault.
Trying to understand why someone would invite you to their home and literally not host you.. that’s insane. Anyway love you Kirah, thank you for sharing that vulnerable moment with us. We’re here to support you ❤
This happened to me recently and I cut her off so fast because I could of stayed home it was 80 degrees on a Saturday and I went 40 mins out for nothing
Girl let those tears out! When we learn who we are and truly value ourselves stand 10 toes down about you because what you desire is out there when we settle we pay and I’m sure we all have stories to tell .. he tried to manipulate you and talk about the expectations of the trip nah he wasn’t for you so bow out gracefully 😊 loved the vlog
You said if you feel uncomfortable, unvalued, unworthy remove yourself and I felt that to the core. I was meant to hear that message today. Thank you for being vulnerable with us Kirah and keeping it real. We know things like this is not easy to do. I'm happy you were able to find the humor in it and flip the script because you have such a genuine spirit, and you deserve happiness. We love youuuuuu gworlll
Don’t cry Kirah , it was so amazing that you stood on your boundaries and did not fold on them. You are beautiful , and you deserve all good things. 💝✨
You know your worth and happiness so as soon as they show you any less please let them exit !! They don’t deserve your beautiful soul!!! YOU’RE THAT GIRL ! PERIOD
Girl you are beautiful inside and out! You dodged a bullet! I’m so happy you removed yourself from that situation. Don’t ever lower your standards. Don’t look back. Sending hugs ❤
Kirah, you are such a beautiful soul. Your worth is precious....always remember that. Never allow a MAN, BOY or any other HUMAN BEING tell you that your expectations are too high. Set them standards and keep them there. Set those boundaries and keep them there. God is molding the ONE for you. The ONE that will never allow you to lose sight of your self worth. The ONE that will never make you feel like your standards are not attainable. You are loved and so worthy! Keep loving on Kirah, 24/7
You are absolutely correct. He tried it don’t be mad at yourself, just lower the expectation of men. Always put you first we will never dogg you for that. ❤you
I’m SO proud of you. That experience with that man was actually a test and you passed it with flying colors. Meaning you have reached the next level of true self-love, so your spirit rejected his mistreatment. He’s definitely NOT the one for you. Your real match is your one dark skin guy friend you were going to church with. It might not be the right season for you & him right now - but don’t count him out. 🙏🏽✨
Your vulnerable moment really took me back to being a younger woman and the dating struggle. Been there so many times. What I really loved was that you showed it and told your audience about the disappointment. Social media and internet makes life seem like there are no disappointments but indeed there are. I commend you for leaving, giving yourself a moment to reset in your own space, and moving forward with your trip. That’s big girl vibes and I love that. You’re not only talking to the talk with valuing yourself but you’re putting action behind it and I respect that so much. Keep doing your thing Kirah. You inspire woman young and older like me. Love this!
Kirah, when I first came across you, I was convinced that I didn't need any more lit girl channels to be subscribed to. I was fine. But then I clicked on one video and that was it. This was a couple of years ago and I still ride hard with you. I admired the openness, relatability and vulnerability you show to us. It takes a lot of courage to do that. Some people are hiding under this 'perfectionism' persona and robbing themselves of true connections. Your videos are not overly filtered and in this day and age, this is exactly what we need. Ever asked yourself why you are growing so fast? It's because we love everything you bring to the table. We are watching you grow. People are tired of the curated perfection. Thank you for being you. We are going to be here through the good and the bad. We are going to be cheering you on. We got you sis. And God's got you. And best believe that God has the best in store for you. You have a good heart Kirah. Continue with your inner work and never settle. Remember that things are happening FOR you and not TO you 🌹
The transparency is real. You know your worth and that is beautiful. As long as you keep standing firm on your boundaries and cutting off who isn’t for you the one who is for you will come ❤
We love you Kirah! Thank you for your vulnerability. I’m glad you removed yourself from that situation. You deserve more, and you will receive more. Period! ❤
omg the date part 🥺 GIRL I’m literally going through the exact same thing rn with men not treating me the way I deserve & it’s so frustrating. Thank you for being so relatable sis this why I love you
I’m so sorry about your experience, you had me crying too girl. We’ve all been there but the fact that you’ve grown to the point to notice the red flags and check it immediately and dead that behavior is so boss! Keep up the good work baby girl, you are valuable and worthy of respect and real love ❤ God sees you and your future is bright, trust the process.
I'm really enjoying that, seeing woman evaluate their past choices and making better decisions. Setting boundaries and expectations for how they want others to treat them. It feels like everyone is healing, for the most part.
I'm so proud of you Kirah. I think you handled the situation extremely well and enough said. A guy like that hates himself - bottom line. As your mom would say " Love you Poo" 💗💗💗
I hated seeing you cry these eff boys be trying they hardest to take good women down but don’t beat yourself up because he’s not worthy & you dropped the gems we all needed! I’m married & that message hit so just always keep the faith & know that God has greatness in store! You said it yourself that you in your preparation season & your King is coming. Keep smiling & glowing beautiful! 🤗
🥺🥺😢 Hugs …..you literally have me in tears. You are correct you deserve so much more. I’m glad you realize that. It’s so many women who don’t and I pray this video reaches them.
You had so much peace ,kindness & patience in that situation and you did exactly as you should everyone should know their worth and if someone doesn’t deliver you move on.Periodt
I love how you see your worth Kirah!!! You deserve everything good and your emotions are real, you’ve worked so hard to be where you are, WE STAN YOU KIRAH 🫶🏿
I thought I was the only one going through the same thing. I have had this same problem and have shed the same tears every night and I always wonder why am I allowing myself to go through this. How can someone treat you so badly as if you’re supposed to act like the behavior is normal…I feel so stupid…however you are a beautiful person and the man God has for you will never make you feel like you aren’t valued because you are wonderfully made in God’s eyes ❤
You are a young and beautiful keep your head up and continue to do the right thing I've been watching your channel for a while now and I am 58 years old you are doing such a wonderful job I feel the same way you feel don't let no one come into your life and treat you bad❤❤
Kirah I’m literally in tears. You are such a beautiful light and soul! You deserve EVERYTHING that your heart desires and most importantly you’re WORTHY of all the good things in this world. Thank you for forgiving yourself and remembering that’s it’s always you first, and thank you for sharing that moment with us.❤️
Knowing your worth and having to stand on that is so hard. Especially when you really like the guy but you know he’s doing the bare minimum and you deserve more. Keep going on dates, meeting new people, vibing out. Love you gworl💕
Kirah! You are valued and APPRECIATED! Trust me, your standards SPEAK VOLUMES! Remember that! No one can tell you your standards aren’t worth anything! I appreciate your vulnerability and am so happy that you took a stand. If he cannot treat you like the Queen that you are, then he can fall back.
Kirah girl I appreciate you being vulnerable with us because I FELT every word you were saying with your experience. I went through the same thing and didn’t say anything until the last day. Cried the way back home and then told myself STAND UP! Neva again!!!! Dust yourself off and try again! ✌🏾
I love that you were so vulnerable in this, we’ve all been there. Im glad you left and upheld your boundaries. You’re completely right, theres no reason for you to allow someone to treat you any less than you treat yourself. The good thing about getting rid of a guy is that you’re one step closer to the guy you’re supposed to be with 💅🏾 you handled that perfectly sis
The part where you cried made me so sad but I feel what you are saying 100% you were right to remove yourself from that. Great things will continue to come for you 🙏🏾💕
Kirah you got me tearing up in the gym ! You did the right thing. Boundaries are important and ppl get made when you don’t let them treat you outside of them. He officially reached his expiration date in your life and the one for you will hear you and comprehend what it is your saying. He will move accordingly.
You telling me that story....I can understand your tears. I honestly can't believe you let it go on for so long. But I love you for the fact that you can see it. You are 10000% worthy of greatness!! I love you
It’s so many women that accept behaviors like this that leads them to thinking all of us are okay with this. SET YOUR BAR AND IF THEY CAN’T reach it …. CUT ❤❤❤
Girl I feel that! My previous guy I was dealing with didn’t meet my higher self expectations, had to say bye and God brought my now bf in my life. GOD SENT ME A MAN who adores me and puts me first . I love it here ❤❤❤ shout out to you to finding yourself and realizing that you deserve more ! ❤
Kirah, we are in the same season rn. Just living it up and loving ourselves. I knew immediately that those tears were not for that man, they were for you basically mourning your old self. Kudos to you for knowing your worth and getting that hotel babes. Keep doing what you are doing and you will naturally attract the people who will treat you how you deserve to be treated
Sis, thank you for always keeping it 100 with us. Your emotions and the fact that you are so strong to share it with us is appreciated. I stand with you sis. No one should treat a Queen with disrespect. God has our backs sis and when he is ready, your King will enter your fabulous world!!!!
You are worthy and growing up. Each year we learn to get better and better at loving ourselves. I'm 51 and learning to not settle because I know I don't have to take BS or let some man use me or take advantage of my kindness.
Thanks Kirah for sharing your vulnerability. You are loved and deserve what you put out not selfish at all just respectful and mindful. God will send you exactly what you need at the right time.
Hallelujah you posted and never, ever do you disappoint. I hope you feel how missed you were to us. You’re the sweetest woman too bc you always celebrate people in your life and make them feel special on their bornday. So happy to see you and that you’re ok. So much love for you Queen K🥰❤
You sharing your story and letting yourself be vulnerable is so appreciated. I can definitely say that I’m trying to know my worth and not accept any low vibrations in my life so thank you for being a big sister on here and reminding us ❤ Especially because we see how much work you’ve put into yourself and how well you treat yourself AND how your male friends treat you as well with respect and the highest form of love so we wouldn’t want to see you getting anything less. Love you gworl
I totally understand the whole energy with the man and you being in the room and his demeanor as well as how you value your self and what it means. I totally am where you are with that. 💪🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Oh my goodness you had me crying ugly tears! The fact that you set boundaries on what type of energy you allow in your space is awesome! Sending a virtual hug 🤗
Thank you so much for sharing the tears & the tea on this date. I think we all been there & it’s an eye opener. He was trying to groom & humble you. Now you see how he really feels about you so MOVE AROUND NIECE! You deserve the world🏆🥰 I think it happened cuz God knew you were going to post this & show the gurls how to move accordingly❤️
Baby girl… You are so worthy and you deserved all the greatness this life has to offer you. Continue to be beautiful outside and out…Stand in your faith, remain faithful, maintain those boundaries and what god has for you will be. ❤
Kirah girllllllll, the emotional vent about the f boy had me tearing up! When you’re on your healing journey and so in tune with your worth and what God has for you, you really get upset with yourself for giving people the benefit of the doubt. Being able to even acknowledge that about yourself shows growth and it’s beautiful. Loved this blog per the usual. 💕
Kirah I’m so proud of you! You know your worth and you’re sticking to it. Don’t be too hard on yourself - be proud that you took this experience and learned from it! You’re so so special and you are deeply loved! ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience with us. And thank you for showing lots of women out here the importance of self value. I love how you said you treat yourself so good👏🏾. You’ve set a standard for yourself. Don’t ever let someone else bring you down.
Listening to your story breaks my heart. You are such a high value woman and he couldn’t measure up. If you’re too much, he can go find less. You deserve to have someone who kisses the ground you walk on and puts effort into courting you. I’m sorry you had to experience this. Thank you for being vulnerable. Please remember that you are a wonderful human with a great heart. You gave him many chances and he screwed up. That’s on him. You’re doing a great job valuing yourself and keeping only good vibrations 💖
THANK YOU for being real with us. I'm crying along with you online. The attainment of self-awareness is a major turning point in a person's growth. I hope more women achieve that milestone of knowing who they are and what they deserve in this life.
Your transparency and vulnerability is why we Love You Kirah! ❤ You keep your head up & keep protecting your peace & valuing your worth! Girl I’m all the way there w/you going through it in the dating world!!! (It’s ghetto😒) & a rollercoaster for sure🥱… keep the positive energy & good vibes & you know the good Lord Gotchu ❤️
This video definitely made me want to start valuing myself more when it comes to what i decide to put up with and how i allow others to treat me! Kirah i appreciate you for being so vulnerable and showing us another side of you ❤ God's Timing is everything
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It was the “I treat myself so well, so why you think you could treat me any type of way.” 😭👏🏽 Thank you for your vulnerability sis. You needed to release after that experience and it speaks volumes that you felt comfortable to do that with us, your GWORLS. Once us women know our worth and treat ourselves like it, everything changes. You deserve everything and I love how you handled this situation so maturely with style and grace!
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. We've all been there.
You took the words right out of my mouth!
I'm so glad you know your worth Kirah! Never settle for worthlessness!
FOR REAL AGREED!!!
True
Yes.
Definitely been there
I’m so happy you shared this vulnerable moment , men that give women the bare minimum are trash. I’m happy you spoke up for yourself and you value yourself enough to recognize that he can’t meet your expectations
Exactly
Yes! We are sick of the bare min. Ew!
Na after he went to sleep on me first night I woulda been out- like bump waking up with me you don’t get that privilege sorry! Also benefit of the doubt is different than choosing to let bad behavior slide… and also if a person shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM… if you’ve had many encounters with this person and they’ve behaved this way he was right you did have unrealistic expectations…and also why have expectations for someone other than what they’ve shown they’re willing to give…we gotta stop thinking we can tell a man how we want to be treated and he’s just gonna do it- like you said he’s not your man and it didn’t sound like he was tryna court you…we gotta stop putting the wrong ppl in these positions they’re not qualified for …you’re right you deserve better🎉
Trash!!
I agree and the same goes for trash women who won't even do the bare minimum for a good man who deserves it.
Girl on behalf of everyone here I just want to say we love you. You weren’t asking for too much. You deserve so much more than the crumbs that loser was offering. God has someone who will match your energy. You deserve the best. Can’t wait to hear your testimony when Mister Right comes out of nowhere and sweeps you off your feet. Xo
Respectfully, as women, we should not be flown out. The man needs to put in all of the effort to fly himself out, go through packing, go through the airline crap to get to us. 💙💙💙 let's normalize not being flown out. I'm so happy for you Kirah! Your growth is amazing.
I think when you fly out the person you’re flying to is in charge of the plans. Like imagine a guy flying to you to your city… i feel like I’d want to show him around and all that… now what i can get with is, you should only be flown out by your man, not someone new or someone you’re not sure of.
@@womenstriving8960 100% agree
@@womenstriving8960 If he flies out to see you; he should do enough research to show you a good time. We never have to accommodate a man when he is "courting" us. If he respects and values you, he will go the extra mile. Otherwise, you are playing yourself.
Women can. This was not her first interaction with this man. Things happens and we move on.
i agree ❤
HELL NO!! NO RESPECT TOWARDS YOU! KIRAH, PLEASE DON'T TALK TO HIM! BABY, YOU DESERVE BETTER! DON'T LET ANYONE TREAT YOU THAT WAY, QUEEN!
You are worth more than this, respect is #1..
He’s a narc- the way he invalidated her feelings let her know all she needed to know. She didn’t deserve that.
KIRRRRAAAAHHHHHHH! I’m so glad you didnt edit out the tears because the girlies needed to hear the message. I’m in the same space of dating with intention so when people try to approach with BS it’s frustrating and sometimes I cry too. Our person is on the way. We are just in preparation mode 🫡
The thing is bare minimum men will always say your expectations are too high because they don’t want to do more to keep you. Honey he wasn’t worth your time, tears or to be in the same space as you. You know your worth your gut instinct was correct and I’m so inspired by you. Keep growing and glowing sis!
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wow so true 😢❤
LIKE FOR REAL. HE WAS NOT EVEN WORTH BEING IN THE SAME SPACE AS HER! PERIOD!!!! ❤
Kirah, I'm so glad you know your worth. A lot of us are learning this and not putting up with minimal effort. We all deserve the best. But it truly starts from within. Ladies, take notes don't ever settle when someone says is too much someone else will gladly do it without you asking them to.
shoutout to you for sharing your experience with the terrible date. I’m so sorry it happened 🥺 but in the same breath i’m so prada you for setting a boundary and standing firm on it, you did well by leaving.. don’t be mad at yourself, you handled it so well 🤍
I love you ❤️
Omg. Literally crying !!! You are totally right for walking away from the situation. He was treating you like a burden FOH. So proud of you for not letting that ruin your experience in Miami and continuing to step out of your comfort zone and open up to new people. I have the same struggle with knowing my worth and setting boundaries. You're amazing. I know that was hard but thanks for sharing. It really helped me. Xoxo
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Thanks for sharing your story with us and I know it helped many. Sometimes these guys think especially when they have money and you are beautiful they think they could treat you any type away. That’s why it’s so good to have your own and know your worth and you are worthy of better. Don’t settle, knowing your worth is the first step to success for your life.
So true!
@@kirahominique Something is in himself that needs to heal that he feels good treating women like that.
You being vulnerable at the end has probably inspired a few girls to leave situations that aren’t serving them. We appreciate you .
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Exactly!
It definitely made me more secure in my decision to leave this man alone fr, the vulnerability was very appreciated!
Seeing Kirah cry almost made me cry because all of the stuff you was explaining brought me back to my past relationship. All of us women should feel wanted, valued especially you Kirah and I'm glad you removed yourself out of this situation, there's so much coming your way and all of u have to do is pray and wait girly!
I cried with you omg. These men nowadays .. I can't. My last experience was enough for me. Just gonna focus on me and being okay with me alone! Thanks so much for being vulnerable with us Kirah🤍
I don’t usually comment but thank you for being transparent and just vulnerable with us Kirah. I know we’ve all had that “wait how did I even get here” moment where we put ourselves in predicaments of low value and weren’t treating ourselves the best. So happy for you and keep up the great work. You’ve came a long way from when I first started watching you ❤️
I most definitely agree!! I appreciate her transparency, we have all been there, undervalued by a low energy man. I just encourage every woman to remember their value, you are the PRIZE!
Well said, I totally agree ❤
I’m almost 40 years old and I WISH I realized my self worth at the age you are It would’ve saved me from so many heartbreaks… I’m so freaking proud of…when the right one come around you will recognize it. You’re a beautiful young lady inside and out and NO do not settle for anything less than. And you know what there will be a women who is okay with accepting the bare minimum and live in misery BUT NOT OUR BOO KIRAH and yes I was crying with you not sad tears but happy tears seeing your growth and excited to see what the future holds for you❤
I agree.
I’m 40 now and I’m glad she posted this to help the girlies because sometimes it hits different from someone around their age.. Too pretty! Too independent!! Yes! Know your worth mamas!! We are daughters of Abraham & Sarah.. Lineage of Royalty. God’s chosen daughters.
Yes I feel the same…I’m 40 as well
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you being this transparent with us, gives you so many points ! a lot of women don’t talk about their stories, and we need more of this. You are amazing Kirah ❤️🔥
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When you had your “rant” it was sooooo relatable I’m currently in that same phase of my life. Girl i was literally tearing up with you bc nobody gets it… then i remembered you are a Pisces like me and that’s why i can relate so much.
One day, we’re going to look back at this vlog and be like wowwww look how far she came, now she has this wonderful man who treats her like the queen she is. You’re beautiful inside and out, and I know God will bless you with the right one at the right time. Thank you for sharing this very real and vulnerable experience with us, we love you👸🏾💕
Love to see Kirah vulnerable and being real about real situations with men. Don’t accept anything less than your worth!
Don’t cry Kirah! It’s absolutely beautiful that you know your worth so don’t ever accept less! I’m praying for you 💜
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She’s human, it’s okay for her to cry. I know you probably don’t have bad intentions with this comment but let Black women cry & express our emotions. We’re not robots 🤍
No script, no closure conversation. I too am in a season of setting boundaries even if it is hard and even if it makes the other person feel uncomfortable. As a fellow Pisces we excuse A LOT of things and move forward. I’m giving myself that grace now. Kirah babes, this person blatantly showed you who they are and the lack of care they have for you. Notate that and move accordingly babes. Proud of you 🤍
Long time subscriber and the only influencer I follow; I’ve never seen you cry on camera, so to see the transparency was healing and refreshing. Thank you for that. We’ve all been there 🩵
Aww kirah😢 seeing you break down like that, almost made me cry. I’m so sorry that happened to you and as a woman in that same era (not allowing people that don’t value me to be in my space) I really understand where you were coming from. I’m so glad tho that you know you deserve more and better and believe me better will come. ❤ sending you love and peace rn
When she started crying my heart sank 😢we love you Kirah I love you ! Don’t let that dummy ruin your day ❤
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Girllllllllll. I was sniffling
Man I felt you so much about no accepting that type of treatment frfr like it doesn’t feel good at all and when you accept it they think that’s how they can treat you we are worth so much more and I love that you know your worth ❤
You have value, you know exactly what you want in a relationship. This is a perfect example of what so many of us gorgeous gorgeous girls have to deal with. I’m so proud of you for walking away! Your expectations are NOT TOO HIGH! Don’t let that man gaslight you. Stay strong ❤
I had to pause the video and come make a comment. Thank you so being so vulnerable and sharing your experience. I am 42 and I tell my girlfriends all the time that I LOVE the girls in their 20's because they are living their lives without any fear, taking risk, and holding the men in their lives accountable. So many woman make excuses or continue to have conversations over and over with men when these men know better and want women to lower their expectations to be a clown in their circus. So cheers to you for setting boundaries and removing yourself from a situation that was no longer serving you. You are absolutely beautiful, you are doing amazing things in your life and I KNOW there is a man that will give you everything you REQUIRE. Thank you for sharing this and encouraging woman to know they are worthy of better and to never accept foolishness. Ok let me get back to this vlog because this OOTD you are rocking is cute and I need to hear where its from. Would love to meet you when you come to Houston again!!!!!!
It takes a lot to be publicly vulnerable and for that I have SO much respect and love for you Kirah. Thank you for giving us a message because it's needed. We love you girl and thank you for sharing your life with us ❤
HUGE HUG to you Kirah! You’re absolutely right. Do not settle for any mediocre man. You’re beat, smart with a huge heart. The best is yet to come. Wait on God for the best! ❤️🤗
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Omg. I started crying as if we were on ft. Literally talking to my phone like “girl don’t cry”. I love that you were able to share this moment so many females needed to hear this. Continue giving yourself grace 🫶🏾 never settle nor fall for anything.
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Girl me too!!! I felt all of that, been through it before.
We missed you Kirah! And please don’t cry! You are worthy and your feelings are valid! He knows he was wrong for that! But don’t blame yourself, at least you recognized it and kept it moving! You will find the right people for you ♥️
😭 I cried with you Kirah!! I felt you whole heartedly because that’s exactly how I am right now but you put it into words for me. WE ARE NO LONGER DOOR STEPS FOR OTHER PEOPLES HAPPINESS. It’s time to be SELFISH and put our own happiness and future first! ❤
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Girl I’m so glad you shared that story. I’ve been feeling the same way. Apologizing to your self is so important. I think what I have to work on is loving myself and treating myself the way I need to.
Kirah thank you for being a beautiful example and reminder of sticking to your standards. That man put in zero effort and was taking your time for granted. He had you all the way fucked up. Good for you saying “nah I’m a grown woman this ain’t it”. Lol I was low key getting emotional with you bc how far God has brought me from putting up with nonsense from people. You go girl!
I feel you boo. I find myself crying often nowadays because the bar in dating is so low in 2023. It’s hard when you respect and value yourself to where you constantly have to walk away from low vibration men. Thanks for being transparent here ❤
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I'm sorry to say this but it doesn't get any better! y'all are half my age and it's literally the same thing! Don't compromise your boundaries and always remember your worth
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Iktr… I have encountered the same situation Kirah encountered with a guy except I was not flown out anywhere… He was someone I have known for years; and when I had decided to reconnect back with him, it was a whole totally different ball game… He was involved in a hit and run accident to the point it messed up his mobility… He wanted me to come and see him more, and spend time with him… I made myself clear, I said the only time I will be able to come spend time with you is on my days off… He agreed than all of sudden we were talking and he just flipped the script asking me what the f*ck was I there for? He made it seem like I invited myself into his space when he literally stated he wanted me to spend time with him… After he said that, I said you know what you are right, I got up got dressed and pulled tight! I said you are not about to make me a target I am not the one who hit you and sped off… I deleted his number and everything, I also cried as well because he made it seem like it was my fault.
Trying to understand why someone would invite you to their home and literally not host you.. that’s insane. Anyway love you Kirah, thank you for sharing that vulnerable moment with us. We’re here to support you ❤
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It went too show he has no class be glad that his mask that he was wearing fell off
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This happened to me recently and I cut her off so fast because I could of stayed home it was 80 degrees on a Saturday and I went 40 mins out for nothing
It was a power play, text book narcissistic move. He wanted to knock her off the pedestal.
You just saved your time, and dodged a load of heartache self esteem issues. 👏🏾 well done❤
You phrased it so well. When you treat yourself so well, why would you allow someone to treat you any less than? 💯
Girl let those tears out! When we learn who we are and truly value ourselves stand 10 toes down about you because what you desire is out there when we settle we pay and I’m sure we all have stories to tell .. he tried to manipulate you and talk about the expectations of the trip nah he wasn’t for you so bow out gracefully 😊 loved the vlog
You said if you feel uncomfortable, unvalued, unworthy remove yourself and I felt that to the core. I was meant to hear that message today. Thank you for being vulnerable with us Kirah and keeping it real. We know things like this is not easy to do. I'm happy you were able to find the humor in it and flip the script because you have such a genuine spirit, and you deserve happiness. We love youuuuuu gworlll
Don’t cry Kirah , it was so amazing that you stood on your boundaries and did not fold on them. You are beautiful , and you deserve all good things. 💝✨
I don’t like seeing my girl crying!!!!! Ugh !!!! You’re not wrong and never allow anyone or thing disturb your beautiful energy and happiness!
You know your worth and happiness so as soon as they show you any less please let them exit !! They don’t deserve your beautiful soul!!! YOU’RE THAT GIRL ! PERIOD
Girl you are beautiful inside and out! You dodged a bullet! I’m so happy you removed yourself from that situation. Don’t ever lower your standards. Don’t look back. Sending hugs ❤
My baby finally got that number-one spot in Cyclebar!!! A goal for my boo for a long time coming!! YAAAAY!! Congrats!!🥰
Right! She's been pedaling for her life these past few months.
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I’m so proud of you for setting and respecting your boundaries❤You’re worthy and deserving of the best
Kirah, you are such a beautiful soul. Your worth is precious....always remember that. Never allow a MAN, BOY or any other HUMAN BEING tell you that your expectations are too high. Set them standards and keep them there. Set those boundaries and keep them there. God is molding the ONE for you. The ONE that will never allow you to lose sight of your self worth. The ONE that will never make you feel like your standards are not attainable. You are loved and so worthy! Keep loving on Kirah, 24/7
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You are absolutely correct. He tried it don’t be mad at yourself, just lower the expectation of men. Always put you first we will never dogg you for that. ❤you
I’m SO proud of you. That experience with that man was actually a test and you passed it with flying colors. Meaning you have reached the next level of true self-love, so your spirit rejected his mistreatment. He’s definitely NOT the one for you. Your real match is your one dark skin guy friend you were going to church with. It might not be the right season for you & him right now - but don’t count him out. 🙏🏽✨
Your vulnerable moment really took me back to being a younger woman and the dating struggle. Been there so many times. What I really loved was that you showed it and told your audience about the disappointment. Social media and internet makes life seem like there are no disappointments but indeed there are. I commend you for leaving, giving yourself a moment to reset in your own space, and moving forward with your trip. That’s big girl vibes and I love that. You’re not only talking to the talk with valuing yourself but you’re putting action behind it and I respect that so much. Keep doing your thing Kirah. You inspire woman young and older like me. Love this!
Kirah, when I first came across you, I was convinced that I didn't need any more lit girl channels to be subscribed to. I was fine.
But then I clicked on one video and that was it.
This was a couple of years ago and I still ride hard with you.
I admired the openness, relatability and vulnerability you show to us. It takes a lot of courage to do that. Some people are hiding under this 'perfectionism' persona and robbing themselves of true connections.
Your videos are not overly filtered and in this day and age, this is exactly what we need.
Ever asked yourself why you are growing so fast? It's because we love everything you bring to the table. We are watching you grow. People are tired of the curated perfection.
Thank you for being you. We are going to be here through the good and the bad.
We are going to be cheering you on.
We got you sis. And God's got you.
And best believe that God has the best in store for you.
You have a good heart Kirah.
Continue with your inner work and never settle.
Remember that things are happening FOR you and not TO you 🌹
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The transparency is real. You know your worth and that is beautiful. As long as you keep standing firm on your boundaries and cutting off who isn’t for you the one who is for you will come ❤
We love you Kirah! Thank you for your vulnerability. I’m glad you removed yourself from that situation. You deserve more, and you will receive more. Period! ❤
omg the date part 🥺 GIRL I’m literally going through the exact same thing rn with men not treating me the way I deserve & it’s so frustrating. Thank you for being so relatable sis this why I love you
I’m so sorry about your experience, you had me crying too girl. We’ve all been there but the fact that you’ve grown to the point to notice the red flags and check it immediately and dead that behavior is so boss! Keep up the good work baby girl, you are valuable and worthy of respect and real love ❤ God sees you and your future is bright, trust the process.
I'm really enjoying that, seeing woman evaluate their past choices and making better decisions. Setting boundaries and expectations for how they want others to treat them. It feels like everyone is healing, for the most part.
I'm so proud of you Kirah. I think you handled the situation extremely well and enough said. A guy like that hates himself - bottom line. As your mom would say " Love you Poo" 💗💗💗
I hated seeing you cry these eff boys be trying they hardest to take good women down but don’t beat yourself up because he’s not worthy & you dropped the gems we all needed! I’m married & that message hit so just always keep the faith & know that God has greatness in store! You said it yourself that you in your preparation season & your King is coming. Keep smiling & glowing beautiful! 🤗
🥺🥺😢 Hugs …..you literally have me in tears. You are correct you deserve so much more. I’m glad you realize that. It’s so many women who don’t and I pray this video reaches them.
You had so much peace ,kindness & patience in that situation and you did exactly as you should everyone should know their worth and if someone doesn’t deliver you move on.Periodt
I love how you see your worth Kirah!!! You deserve everything good and your emotions are real, you’ve worked so hard to be where you are, WE STAN YOU KIRAH 🫶🏿
I thought I was the only one going through the same thing. I have had this same problem and have shed the same tears every night and I always wonder why am I allowing myself to go through this. How can someone treat you so badly as if you’re supposed to act like the behavior is normal…I feel so stupid…however you are a beautiful person and the man God has for you will never make you feel like you aren’t valued because you are wonderfully made in God’s eyes ❤
You are a young and beautiful keep your head up and continue to do the right thing I've been watching your channel for a while now and I am 58 years old you are doing such a wonderful job I feel the same way you feel don't let no one come into your life and treat you bad❤❤
Kirah I’m literally in tears. You are such a beautiful light and soul! You deserve EVERYTHING that your heart desires and most importantly you’re WORTHY of all the good things in this world. Thank you for forgiving yourself and remembering that’s it’s always you first, and thank you for sharing that moment with us.❤️
Knowing your worth and having to stand on that is so hard. Especially when you really like the guy but you know he’s doing the bare minimum and you deserve more. Keep going on dates, meeting new people, vibing out. Love you gworl💕
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This has to be one of my favorite vlogs you’ve done!! Thank you for being so transparent with us 🫶🏾
Kirah! You are valued and APPRECIATED! Trust me, your standards SPEAK VOLUMES! Remember that! No one can tell you your standards aren’t worth anything! I appreciate your vulnerability and am so happy that you took a stand. If he cannot treat you like the Queen that you are, then he can fall back.
Kirah girl I appreciate you being vulnerable with us because I FELT every word you were saying with your experience. I went through the same thing and didn’t say anything until the last day. Cried the way back home and then told myself STAND UP! Neva again!!!! Dust yourself off and try again! ✌🏾
I love that you were so vulnerable in this, we’ve all been there. Im glad you left and upheld your boundaries. You’re completely right, theres no reason for you to allow someone to treat you any less than you treat yourself. The good thing about getting rid of a guy is that you’re one step closer to the guy you’re supposed to be with 💅🏾 you handled that perfectly sis
The part where you cried made me so sad but I feel what you are saying 100% you were right to remove yourself from that. Great things will continue to come for you 🙏🏾💕
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Whew, we all been there Kirah. I’m glad you know that you deserve better and are making sure to give that to yourself. ❤
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Kirah you got me tearing up in the gym ! You did the right thing. Boundaries are important and ppl get made when you don’t let them treat you outside of them. He officially reached his expiration date in your life and the one for you will hear you and comprehend what it is your saying. He will move accordingly.
That “you already ate earlier” comment would’ve sent me over the edge !!! Shoutout to you for standing up for yourself. Better men ahead !
You telling me that story....I can understand your tears. I honestly can't believe you let it go on for so long. But I love you for the fact that you can see it. You are 10000% worthy of greatness!! I love you
It’s so many women that accept behaviors like this that leads them to thinking all of us are okay with this. SET YOUR BAR AND IF THEY CAN’T reach it …. CUT ❤❤❤
To the preparation thing my mom always told me, “properly planning prevents poor performance” and I live by that!!
Girl I feel that! My previous guy I was dealing with didn’t meet my higher self expectations, had to say bye and God brought my now bf in my life. GOD SENT ME A MAN who adores me and puts me first . I love it here ❤❤❤ shout out to you to finding yourself and realizing that you deserve more ! ❤
Kirah, we are in the same season rn. Just living it up and loving ourselves. I knew immediately that those tears were not for that man, they were for you basically mourning your old self. Kudos to you for knowing your worth and getting that hotel babes. Keep doing what you are doing and you will naturally attract the people who will treat you how you deserve to be treated
Sis, thank you for always keeping it 100 with us. Your emotions and the fact that you are so strong to share it with us is appreciated. I stand with you sis. No one should treat a Queen with disrespect. God has our backs sis and when he is ready, your King will enter your fabulous world!!!!
Sometimes we gotta cry & then we laugh.. I love that you have boundaries for yourself. ❤ leave him in the dust where he belongs.
You are worthy and growing up. Each year we learn to get better and better at loving ourselves. I'm 51 and learning to not settle because I know I don't have to take BS or let some man use me or take advantage of my kindness.
Thanks Kirah for sharing your vulnerability. You are loved and deserve what you put out not selfish at all just respectful and mindful. God will send you exactly what you need at the right time.
Hallelujah you posted and never, ever do you disappoint. I hope you feel how missed you were to us. You’re the sweetest woman too bc you always celebrate people in your life and make them feel special on their bornday. So happy to see you and that you’re ok. So much love for you Queen K🥰❤
Everything that you’ve been praying for will come to you Kirah in tenfold, God is hearing your prayers ❤❤❤
You sharing your story and letting yourself be vulnerable is so appreciated. I can definitely say that I’m trying to know my worth and not accept any low vibrations in my life so thank you for being a big sister on here and reminding us ❤ Especially because we see how much work you’ve put into yourself and how well you treat yourself AND how your male friends treat you as well with respect and the highest form of love so we wouldn’t want to see you getting anything less. Love you gworl
Thank you for opening up!! If not all, it’s a high percentage of us ladies that can relate❤
I totally understand the whole energy with the man and you being in the room and his demeanor as well as how you value your self and what it means. I totally am where you are with that. 💪🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Kirah don't be hard on yourself! Delete and block that guy on everything and move forward with your life! You deserve so much better ❤
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Oh my goodness you had me crying ugly tears! The fact that you set boundaries on what type of energy you allow in your space is awesome! Sending a virtual hug 🤗
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Thank you so much for sharing the tears & the tea on this date. I think we all been there & it’s an eye opener. He was trying to groom & humble you. Now you see how he really feels about you so MOVE AROUND NIECE! You deserve the world🏆🥰 I think it happened cuz God knew you were going to post this & show the gurls how to move accordingly❤️
Baby girl… You are so worthy and you deserved all the greatness this life has to offer you. Continue to be beautiful outside and out…Stand in your faith, remain faithful, maintain those boundaries and what god has for you will be. ❤
Kirah girllllllll, the emotional vent about the f boy had me tearing up! When you’re on your healing journey and so in tune with your worth and what God has for you, you really get upset with yourself for giving people the benefit of the doubt. Being able to even acknowledge that about yourself shows growth and it’s beautiful. Loved this blog per the usual. 💕
Kirah I’m so proud of you! You know your worth and you’re sticking to it. Don’t be too hard on yourself - be proud that you took this experience and learned from it! You’re so so special and you are deeply loved! ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience with us. And thank you for showing lots of women out here the importance of self value. I love how you said you treat yourself so good👏🏾. You’ve set a standard for yourself. Don’t ever let someone else bring you down.
Love the vulnerability and openness around knowing your worth. RESPECT!
Listening to your story breaks my heart. You are such a high value woman and he couldn’t measure up. If you’re too much, he can go find less. You deserve to have someone who kisses the ground you walk on and puts effort into courting you. I’m sorry you had to experience this. Thank you for being vulnerable. Please remember that you are a wonderful human with a great heart. You gave him many chances and he screwed up. That’s on him. You’re doing a great job valuing yourself and keeping only good vibrations 💖
❤❤❤❤ these situations are just tests from the universe to make sure your ready for the next level. Don’t be mad at yourself xx
THANK YOU for being real with us. I'm crying along with you online. The attainment of self-awareness is a major turning point in a person's growth. I hope more women achieve that milestone of knowing who they are and what they deserve in this life.
Your transparency and vulnerability is why we Love You Kirah! ❤ You keep your head up & keep protecting your peace & valuing your worth! Girl I’m all the way there w/you going through it in the dating world!!! (It’s ghetto😒) & a rollercoaster for sure🥱… keep the positive energy & good vibes & you know the good Lord Gotchu ❤️
This video definitely made me want to start valuing myself more when it comes to what i decide to put up with and how i allow others to treat me! Kirah i appreciate you for being so vulnerable and showing us another side of you ❤ God's Timing is everything
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