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  • @TheNewFeminine
    @TheNewFeminine  4 месяца назад +9

    Hypogamy: When Marrying a Broke Brad Goes Wrong. Join The New Feminine School.💄
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  • @Hephzibah_n_beulah
    @Hephzibah_n_beulah 4 месяца назад +1192

    I simply do not understand why folks refuse to accept the fact that dust exists all throughout the manosphere. There’s no age, race, class or tax bracket limit

    • @tarao4382
      @tarao4382 4 месяца назад +9

      💯💯💯💯

    • @madelineasmr926
      @madelineasmr926 3 месяца назад +14

      Yep. When I was younger, I had sugar daddies, wealthy (I mean, legitimately wealthy) boyfriends and established men taking me out. And so many of them, regardless of how wealthy they were (even one billionaire I dated), a lot of them are SO DUSTY. That’s probably why they have to pay so much for a woman’s time.

    • @MsLadyOrchid
      @MsLadyOrchid 3 месяца назад

      Folks refuse to accept it because there haven’t been enough public examples. Unfortunately, black folks are the most likely to air our disfunction for the whole world to see. Others tend to keep their chaos under wraps within their communities.

    • @Blackguard-w9b
      @Blackguard-w9b 3 месяца назад +3

      ​@@madelineasmr926do dusty females exist?

    • @lauriannajones
      @lauriannajones 3 месяца назад

      ​@@madelineasmr926when you mean dusty..do you mean boring?

  • @sweetpeaj1952
    @sweetpeaj1952 4 месяца назад +757

    💯💯 A guy who adores you won't want you to work more than him. Very true.

  • @LisaS483
    @LisaS483 4 месяца назад +511

    My husband may not have a six pack, but he’s tall, dark, handsome, well paid and a provider!

    • @TheNewFeminine
      @TheNewFeminine  4 месяца назад +108

      💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽

    • @CutiePatutieSF-se5gt
      @CutiePatutieSF-se5gt 4 месяца назад

      @@malikawilson7071 PERIODT!!!

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад

      Yea cuz tall dark and handsome is what brainwashed Rachel to marry a brokie. So what’s your point 😂

    • @sandraatkins2539
      @sandraatkins2539 3 месяца назад +6

      Good for you. God bless you and your marriage.

  • @chombachipalo4448
    @chombachipalo4448 4 месяца назад +375

    Once went on a date with a white man. We were out for roughly 3 hours and he complained bitterly for about an hour about how as a white man he is expected to pay more and provide more because he’s white. Especially from women in my country (I come from an African country where majority of women are taught to be hypergamous). He went on to complain how in his previous relationships and romantic interests he would get “turned off” because women (black women!) expected more from him financially because he is white (social currency and all). Safe to say I ghosted him right after that date. I was raised by a very hypergamous mother who was heavily provided for by my father. I definitely wasn’t going to settle for some dusty white man. 💀 They really do come in all races.

    • @user-yp9od3lx6l
      @user-yp9od3lx6l 4 месяца назад +88

      He was telling u that he is broke...😅

    • @chombachipalo4448
      @chombachipalo4448 4 месяца назад

      @@user-yp9od3lx6l and I got the message loud and clear!🤣

    • @Nethanda
      @Nethanda 4 месяца назад

      Such miserable souls can be found in Africa. Complaining about having to pay for dates and what not. And expecting to get their leg over, too.
      Mind you they get paid handsomely due to their jobs with corporations exploiting and devastating communities.
      I was dumbfounded to read about such tightfistedness and stinginess. But then again having learnt about European culture it's no surprise.

    • @chombachipalo4448
      @chombachipalo4448 4 месяца назад

      @@wellthatgotweird exactly!! And to make it worse he would veer the conversation to sexual topics implying he’d like to sleep with women. As the women in my country say, “you want to sleep with me for free???”

    • @abdulhamidmohammed6738
      @abdulhamidmohammed6738 4 месяца назад

      Most African WOMEN are provided for by their African husbands ofcourse there are some bad African men. But the bitter truth is most African WOMEN will choose a white man over a black man Just because he`s white.

  • @Marvelous_M
    @Marvelous_M 4 месяца назад +359

    You cannot turn an attractive male into husband material. I 100% agree 😂 When I used to date based on looks I got treated like I was an option, the handsome men argue more, love to not provide anything, and will use you for your femininity, resources, and access to knowledge. They always think “better” is out there. Handsome men come in every shape, size, and they mostly rely on their face and “charm” to get to women. But they’re always nonchalant and want women to chase them. Now I only date men that are attracted to me, and can provide something but hopes, dreams, and aspirations 😂 remember ladies you’re the prize always. Never marry or date someone based on how “cute” they are.

    • @Marvelous_M
      @Marvelous_M 4 месяца назад +5

      @@Lisette121 exactly hobosexuals*** do it the most 😂

    • @Marvelous_M
      @Marvelous_M 4 месяца назад

      @@cosmicbeauty5682 all for survival and to fuel their ego!

    • @sandraatkins2539
      @sandraatkins2539 4 месяца назад +11

      Why the handsome-shaming? There are some attractive people who have bad personalities and some who do not. We might say the same thing for those who are not so attractive. Somehow he convinced us that she married him on the rebound after Peter, whom she loved, refused to propose to her. All indicators were that he was in love with Rachel. Given that, his monetary demands seem unreasonable. Rachel is intelligent, classy, and comes from a good family. Still, the notion that a handsome man can't be turned into a husband is ludicrous.

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад +3

      You just described a female tho. Where someone would use you for your resources and move on cuz they think there is someone better. Definition of hypergamy 😂

    • @DragonFellowship
      @DragonFellowship 3 месяца назад

      Are you attracted to those men back?

  • @Peacepeacelovelove
    @Peacepeacelovelove 4 месяца назад +374

    Never marry for looks🙏🏾

    • @JoannaCubana
      @JoannaCubana 4 месяца назад

      ​@@beeznhoney4323💯💯💯💯💯

    • @coppersulphate002
      @coppersulphate002 4 месяца назад

      exactly! She married him because he was white

  • @Yulondia5225
    @Yulondia5225 4 месяца назад +360

    "A woman never supposedly go looking for a husband." I stand by this w/you Chloe. 🔥🔥🔥

  • @NtombiDweba-ez8ex
    @NtombiDweba-ez8ex 4 месяца назад +238

    Rachel's always been so beautiful, I wish she had gone for a provider man instead of being the provider

  • @r_elyaqub8214
    @r_elyaqub8214 4 месяца назад +141

    Pre-nup is not a romantic subject to bring up when you're discussing marriage and happily ever after. But it is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. Love each other but protect yourself FIRST.

  • @obSYDIann_
    @obSYDIann_ 4 месяца назад +393

    “From a bevy of eligible actors.. I mean suitors” 😂😂😂 Chloe may tell a joke but she never lies

    • @sweetpeaj1952
      @sweetpeaj1952 4 месяца назад +13

      👀‼️

    • @IntegrityMeansAll
      @IntegrityMeansAll 4 месяца назад +23

      It’s true. The fact that she would even go on a reality show as a lawyer is crazy

    • @IntegrityMeansAll
      @IntegrityMeansAll 4 месяца назад +22

      He just wanted to be famous and get a check

    • @IntegrityMeansAll
      @IntegrityMeansAll 4 месяца назад

      @@user-yp9od3lx6l ‼️‼️I don’t watch the show but that’s exactly what narcissists and sociop.do in the hoovering phase! Then later on when they locked in they show their true self….

    • @madelineasmr926
      @madelineasmr926 3 месяца назад +2

      She’s a savage

  • @Aries16603
    @Aries16603 4 месяца назад +197

    The older I get my views on relationships constantly change. It’s a bad idea to marry based on love. It’s so simple but people keep falling for the ookie-dok (mostly women).

    • @Marvelous_M
      @Marvelous_M 4 месяца назад +50

      Same! My desire to be a wife has changed so much. I don’t think a relationship should be based on Love only. Women also have so much to lose. Our bodies, our self esteem, our looks, so whoever we marry is very important. I’ve learned single women are very valued, but once we get married the men’s stocks go up. Idk why..

    • @Aries16603
      @Aries16603 4 месяца назад

      @@bintaisiaka5563 so because her career was a priority for her that mean she isn’t feminine? You’re either a SJW or a dustie.

    • @Aries16603
      @Aries16603 4 месяца назад +8

      @@Marvelous_M I hear you.

    • @ohcamnam9383
      @ohcamnam9383 4 месяца назад

      ​@@Marvelous_MSingle women are not valued. Single women are a red flag 🚩 Especially after 25 30 years old

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад

      @@Marvelous_Mwomen never had married solely on love. They marry mainly on resources. Most women can’t marry the successful men cuz their rare and and most women can’t compete with other women so they marry the best man that THEY can get based on their league.

  • @allartismental9319
    @allartismental9319 4 месяца назад +201

    Her dad is a judge & warned her! Sheesh!!

    • @likemycommentifyouwantareply
      @likemycommentifyouwantareply 4 месяца назад +33

      I bet he’s a good judge of character too, being a judge and all. If it were me I’d take his word as Bible! Heck my father wasn’t nowhere near being a judge and I still listened to him when it came to men. I figured he would know more about men than I would since he was, you know, a man.

    • @lpgilber
      @lpgilber 4 месяца назад +28

      The red flags were there when he didn't want them to get a prenuptial agreement.

    • @shan_7714
      @shan_7714 4 месяца назад +8

      damn! and she didn't listen

    • @allartismental9319
      @allartismental9319 4 месяца назад +7

      @@shan_7714 exactly! She is crazy for that! Omg!🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @tonychesssnutsss1404
      @tonychesssnutsss1404 4 месяца назад

      She’s a lawyer and got no prenup because he was a white man

  • @mpatl1DI
    @mpatl1DI 4 месяца назад +73

    “Just ‘cause you married don’t mean you have a husband”…👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
    Yeah, a prison🗣️🗣️🗣️

    • @Ianisatool
      @Ianisatool 4 месяца назад

      You forgot the rest because being married is exactly what that means. If you're legally married you have a husband or wife.

  • @LadyCharity
    @LadyCharity 4 месяца назад +227

    I was dating a doctor who earned 10x more than me. He presented as a generous guy (always paid for dates, gave me gifts, chivalrous, etc) but he actually was a passive 50/50 guy for equality. I want an equitable relationship where I can be provided for. 👑

    • @ochacal7794
      @ochacal7794 4 месяца назад +6

      😂😂😂

    • @ohcamnam9383
      @ohcamnam9383 4 месяца назад +2

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @coppersulphate002
      @coppersulphate002 4 месяца назад

      well you women always ask for being independent and equality and that is what he give but you aint happy? If he was to ask you to stay home and take care of the kids and he goes to work, would you be happy? I highly doubt it! You feminists are perpetually unhappy and men gave up!

    • @EM-hn1db
      @EM-hn1db 4 месяца назад

      Please shut up.

    • @MaryJaneJones.
      @MaryJaneJones. 4 месяца назад +2

      So traditional roles?

  • @thejustjanae
    @thejustjanae 4 месяца назад +592

    Marrying a vanilla man with no money is really crazy.

    • @kennedy2674
      @kennedy2674 4 месяца назад +1

      So is marrying a black man with no money, lbs

    • @vicforia350
      @vicforia350 4 месяца назад +10

      Even marrying a chocolate man, at this times, lol

    • @ComedianNemaKatt
      @ComedianNemaKatt 3 месяца назад +5

      BIZARRE! 😂

    • @Rod-w1g
      @Rod-w1g 3 месяца назад +9

      ​@@vicforia350Triggered 🛏️🔧

    • @bellbell872
      @bellbell872 3 месяца назад +7

      very very crazy. plus most of them are gold diggers when it comes to a woman with money.

  • @seraiahdaniella3755
    @seraiahdaniella3755 4 месяца назад +323

    It's 2024, and feminine lessons are widely available and being shared worldwide. If a woman chooses to marry for love over being provided for, she is literally choosing to be miserable.

    • @calliem2024
      @calliem2024 4 месяца назад +34

      She has yet to awaken from her fairytale mindset.

    • @calliem2024
      @calliem2024 4 месяца назад

      @@VBoo459 other than my amazing surgeons, the chiropractor has helped me more than any other doctor ever could! I don’t have chronic pain the way I used! Some chiropractors do give them a bad name though.

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад

      Disney brainwashed women to think tall dark handsome is the standard when it should be males provide and females nurture and stay fit

    • @Blackguard-w9b
      @Blackguard-w9b 3 месяца назад +1

      So you are scamming to is that it?

  • @cosmicbeauty5682
    @cosmicbeauty5682 4 месяца назад +213

    To be honest with you I never understood what she saw in him. I think he was the one who gave me "mama's boy" vibes. If this was him, it seemed as though his mother had great influence over him and appeared to be his mouthpiece. Either way, they didn't seem like a match. He gives "you should be honored I even married you" energy. Yeah no thank you

    • @user-yp9od3lx6l
      @user-yp9od3lx6l 4 месяца назад +11

      He saw an opportunity and took it. She should have never done the show.

    • @karibu1361
      @karibu1361 4 месяца назад +4

      He's not as he seems...He dated a woman his mother liked, but broke up with her after 4 years. (He left Rach after 4 yrs...Then he dated another woman before Rach; she left him because his family constantly caused problems during the relationship.

    • @robertiwhite
      @robertiwhite 4 месяца назад

      She wanted a whiteboy she got one case closed

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад +1

      Well cuz women are mesmerized by tall dark handsome and they ignore the red flags

    • @Maketheworldabetterplace-fp7jl
      @Maketheworldabetterplace-fp7jl 3 месяца назад +2

      I thought as much, there were better men she should have chosen from. She should have listened to her family when they warned her about him.

  • @taybee4653
    @taybee4653 4 месяца назад +58

    You are spot on when you say going on a reality TV show to find a husband is never a good idea. If you look at Bachelorette show track record a lot of the marriages don’t last from that show.

  • @tamaramcrae4037
    @tamaramcrae4037 4 месяца назад +162

    Her kitty cat wasn’t dry every time she had to pay all them bills? Watch, the next women he’s with she will be spoiled with this womens money

    • @beeznhoney4323
      @beeznhoney4323 4 месяца назад +12

      Respectfully come in peace🌻
      •wOman = just one lady👸🏽
      •WomEn = Apply the plural. More than TWO ladies or referencing a group👸🏽👸🏽👸🏽👸🏽

    • @Nethanda
      @Nethanda 4 месяца назад

      Nah. She better not let the leach get one red cent. Do you know how humiliating it is as a black woman to have to give a non-black dude cash? Hell no!

    • @MaryJaneJones.
      @MaryJaneJones. 4 месяца назад

      ​@@beeznhoney4323You're obviously not a Black American. 🤐

    • @joypressley4821
      @joypressley4821 4 месяца назад +2

      So true !

    • @VBoo459
      @VBoo459 4 месяца назад +12

      Yep! And we KNOW what that woman would look like.

  • @sherrita8582
    @sherrita8582 4 месяца назад +161

    "Eligible actor"😂Dust comes in all colors..he was sitting back pocket watching 🤦🏾

    • @thinkinginn7443
      @thinkinginn7443 4 месяца назад +9

      That’s one of my gripes about the Bachelor/Bachelorette.
      For the bachelorette, I’m always afraid that many of the men are just gaming the show and the unsuspecting woman. I feel like very few men would be ok in their spirit to publicly compete over a woman on national TV and risk losing. While men IRL do date women and on some level are courting her to showcase how good of a partner they can be, the ‘compared to other men’ part is a silent acceptance.
      And on the Bachelor flip side, I’m sus of the men that end up being The Bachelor™️. They usually get a ‘great catch’ guy that’s wealthy, attractive and seems to have a good personality so my question is….why does he resort to reality TV to find love?
      There are matchmaking services and his social networks where he can find women to date. If he has to go under contract and in front of 1000s of cameras to highlight that he ‘just hasn’t found the one’, I’m suspicious that there’s a bigger, darker reason why he’s single.

    • @Nethanda
      @Nethanda 4 месяца назад

      Which is why divestors are a danger to naive young black women. Because they believe the grass is greener elsewhere. As if it isn't the men they praise endlessly who have ceaselessly encouraged cruelty to black women from all quarters.

  • @Chevonne8
    @Chevonne8 4 месяца назад +103

    It's crazy the lessons that Chloe is teaching us now. My aunt had mentioned to my grandmother, through conversation years ago (well over 7+) that other races of women don't marry for love but marry to be provided for. And man, she was not wrong. That definitely stuck with me. It is definitely important to vet a man before marrying him but he will show small signs in the beginning.

    • @prayerpower1585
      @prayerpower1585 3 месяца назад

      You can love anybody, but you can't marry just anybody

  • @ClaireHaire
    @ClaireHaire 4 месяца назад +97

    *Clarification needs to be upheld on marriage. It has to be a calling to be a husband, something you need to do, to satiate your purpose. It's why a lot of married women, end up single before the papers are signed, these men do not want to be a husband, they just want to be married.Great video Chloe!*

    • @VerleanHurd
      @VerleanHurd 4 месяца назад +22

      There are a lot of married men and women. Unfortunately, they aren't husbands or wives.

    • @ClaireHaire
      @ClaireHaire 4 месяца назад +8

      @@VerleanHurd preach!

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 4 месяца назад +7

      People wanting the Titles and not the Responsibilities!

    • @VerleanHurd
      @VerleanHurd 4 месяца назад +2

      @@onevenus6040 Exactly.

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад +3

      It goes both ways. A lot of women want to be married cuz they want the big wedding. But when that day ends, they don’t want to be traditional wives

  • @13ikea
    @13ikea 4 месяца назад +225

    Chiropractor making 16k??? Was he a stay at home husband? What the hell. Date up ladies!!!

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 4 месяца назад +13

      I don't think that they make much money at all!

    • @user-yp9od3lx6l
      @user-yp9od3lx6l 4 месяца назад +27

      THAT is why he went on the show...🎉🎉Surprise!

    • @hopedesire5936
      @hopedesire5936 4 месяца назад

      @@user-yp9od3lx6l I said the same thing

    • @Doc64
      @Doc64 4 месяца назад

      @@onevenus6040I’ve worked with several chiropractors who made 6 or 7 figures depending on how hard they were willing to work. I guess that was the problem

    • @christy3d
      @christy3d 4 месяца назад

      Confused fem man…. Nope. Give me masculine provider❤

  • @Joyful_Smiles
    @Joyful_Smiles 4 месяца назад +134

    If he was only making $16k a year then that's the lifestyle he's used to and doesn't need to ask her for anything.

    • @user-yp9od3lx6l
      @user-yp9od3lx6l 4 месяца назад

      ​​Women from the start of the world have been looked after by men. All over the world. Bryan needs to put on his bra and panty and go get a career. Stop leeching off Rachel.

    • @denniE3588
      @denniE3588 4 месяца назад

      @@user-yp9od3lx6l i wish i was the last man on earth with the last woman on earth by my side she would die of hunger for real i,m not lying yall want everthing handed to yalll it,s discusting.

    • @Maketheworldabetterplace-fp7jl
      @Maketheworldabetterplace-fp7jl 3 месяца назад

      Exactly my point. He just lived with her for 4 years and should be able to easily go back to living on $16K a year.

    • @SlugSage
      @SlugSage 3 месяца назад +2

      Y’all never have the logic when the genders are swapped

    • @ms.sophisticated1679
      @ms.sophisticated1679 3 месяца назад +4

      16k a year, what is he? A teenager!😭

  • @Lisette121
    @Lisette121 4 месяца назад +58

    Loved the ending. We want the title more than the spirit. So true. And that's where many of us mess up.

  • @AlyssaHarrisMusic
    @AlyssaHarrisMusic 4 месяца назад +64

    Chloe this is GOLD! Thanks for always giving us the game. I love how you said it’s a woman’s responsibility to prepare to be a wife, also the part about how many women want to be married but don’t practically have time to be a wife! I needed to hear this because my provider man and I are talking about marriage and kids and I need to get in my right mindset 🙌

  • @blackmantravel6954
    @blackmantravel6954 4 месяца назад +76

    She was never his type; her choice was based on attraction alone.

  • @YouTubeUzername
    @YouTubeUzername 4 месяца назад +61

    How does he earn 16K a year??? Ignore the fact that he is a chiropractor, how is that even possible for ANYONE to make that little. I can’t believe they had no prenup.

  • @BayouBarbie504
    @BayouBarbie504 4 месяца назад +64

    Ladies and lurkers will forever be hilarious to me!😂😂😂❤

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 4 месяца назад +11

      Don't forget about the Ear Hustlers! 😂

  • @VerleanHurd
    @VerleanHurd 4 месяца назад +357

    Am I the only one who think his looks went from a 10 to a 2, because hes not a provider man?

    • @VBoo459
      @VBoo459 4 месяца назад

      Big time. A feminine man is not attractive at all.

    • @jessicahitchens6926
      @jessicahitchens6926 4 месяца назад

      -5... Pretty boys are scumbags. Imagine competing with that every day. He would be preening in front of the mirror half the day.

    • @Ianisatool
      @Ianisatool 4 месяца назад +1

      Yes you're. He's still a 10 to me.

    • @elizabethpieters7798
      @elizabethpieters7798 3 месяца назад +2

      Exactly.

  • @jenbunny1984
    @jenbunny1984 4 месяца назад +93

    She should’ve just dated him and when it didn’t work out anymore, move on.

  • @danielle2331
    @danielle2331 Месяц назад +2

    You are the funniest person on the internet without even trying. I love you. You completely changed my whole bad week around.

  • @jumpscare1530
    @jumpscare1530 4 месяца назад +44

    I agree, the Bachelor works but the Bachelorette doesn't. She chose him but she has no idea if he would have ever chosen her. "He who finds a wife." I could never feel secure in any relationship where I as the woman essentially "pursued" him

    • @lisadelpeche3371
      @lisadelpeche3371 4 месяца назад +2

      There has been a bachelorette success story the very first one Trisha has been married to her 1st pick for 20 years.

    • @misssterling3094
      @misssterling3094 4 месяца назад +2

      @@lisadelpeche3371 It's Trista & Ryan.

    • @lisadelpeche3371
      @lisadelpeche3371 4 месяца назад +1

      @@misssterling3094 thanks for the correction

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 4 месяца назад

      ​@@lisadelpeche3371is that the only one? I don't follow this show

    • @user-yp9od3lx6l
      @user-yp9od3lx6l 4 месяца назад

      ​@@lisadelpeche3371She was lucky!!!🎉🎉🎉

  • @KDAx05
    @KDAx05 4 месяца назад +52

    They met on reality TV…which is literally known for attracting clout chasers and scammers. Rachel should’ve had an ironclad prenup especially considering The Bachelorette lowkey set her up with multiple men who were jobless or on the verge of being homeless. It’s sad to say, but Peter was the better option. He isn’t a clout chaser, stays private, and seems to be business minded.

  • @AyaEgbuho
    @AyaEgbuho 4 месяца назад +30

    Chloe! You always calling me out! I definitely live under a rock! I have never even seen these people's faces before! 😂😂😂😂 Great video as always. Many tears and heart ache can be avoided if you pay attention to polarity dynamics.

  • @angelabrunson8573
    @angelabrunson8573 4 месяца назад +79

    I think he saw her as a money 💵 mark . He an actor

    • @denniE3588
      @denniE3588 4 месяца назад

      @@user-yp9od3lx6l no my son should not be a provider a relationship should be 50/50 not 100/0 being a provider is a scam can,t you see it by now why do you think most women want to be stay at home bum,s because it,s easy cooking and cleaning are basic adult skills providing is not men and women are supposed to contribute financially+ house duties. What is the god ordained dignity for women ??????? Oh i know. Leeching of a man,s money, gold digging?????

    • @denniE3588
      @denniE3588 4 месяца назад

      @@aluochirene yess why not??? She would do the same to him if it was the other way around matter affect thats what most women do to men🤷‍♂️

  • @stephr126
    @stephr126 4 месяца назад +64

    I can't feel sorry for Rachel because she is a lawyer. Why would she not protect herself? In law school, contracts is a big part of the curriculum. Marriage is a business partnership. I get that she's not a family lawyer, but she could've talked to a family lawyer before she got married. Ladies protect yourself. Look pass the white dress and wedding day and get a prenup and no, it's not just for rich people.

    • @denniE3588
      @denniE3588 4 месяца назад +4

      I hope you have this same energy for men who want a prenup. Women who have nothing to offer but🐱 get mad all the time when you aske them about a prenup

    • @MentalFacility-u7o
      @MentalFacility-u7o 4 месяца назад

      She did say recently that Bryan wasn't rocking with that pre nup idea.

    • @ChaoticBluez
      @ChaoticBluez 4 месяца назад

      So true, I don’t understand Rachel at all not getting a pre nup. She did say when they got married she wasn’t making the kind of money she is now but she knew she was ambitious and the kind of money she could make.

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад +2

      @@denniE3588so true. They don’t want to acknowledge that women are hypocritical and hate when men bring up prenups when they have more to lose

  • @aundreanaphiffer3572
    @aundreanaphiffer3572 4 месяца назад +117

    Wasn’t he the same guy telling her everything she wanted to her in order to win the competition smh

    • @poppy-bc4vf
      @poppy-bc4vf 4 месяца назад +49

      That’s how they do

    • @Thankgot
      @Thankgot 4 месяца назад +14

      But that is the gist of the show

    • @ochacal7794
      @ochacal7794 4 месяца назад +3

      😂😂😂 he should tell her what she not wanted to hear ?

    • @karibu1361
      @karibu1361 4 месяца назад +15

      Yes, he was a fraud. Rach got a bad deal with her selection of men...He had a bad medical track record prior to the show...The bach franchise should have vetted him; or did they but didn't care & kept quiet?

    • @MsLuvmusic81
      @MsLuvmusic81 4 месяца назад +3

      yes I thought he was fake from the start was truly shocked she picked him - I liked Peter

  • @Ferrist1
    @Ferrist1 4 месяца назад +35

    Gorgeous was a very strong word to use on that man. If thats a gorgeous man we should be worried. He's good looking with a nice body at best. We gas these basics up waaay too much. Lol.

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад +2

      What are you talking about? 😂 yea tall dark handsome is basic? He’s out of your league honey.

    • @madelineasmr926
      @madelineasmr926 3 месяца назад

      Maybe physically but looks are honestly not as important for men as women… give me a cute guy with a dad bod any day who leads, protects, and provides. Okurr 💅🏻

    • @nedumnwanze4120
      @nedumnwanze4120 2 месяца назад

      ​@@madelineasmr926liar

  • @Ferrist1
    @Ferrist1 4 месяца назад +15

    She participated in the original 20v1, balloon poppin prototype. I'm not surprised she may be struggling with relationships. People think because it's yt it's better. She was on the "classed" up version of Flavor of Love.

  • @LadyCharity
    @LadyCharity 4 месяца назад +45

    They were a beautiful couple but the writing was on the wall being that they had a long distance bicostal marriage. They rarely stayed in the same place. He was a whole chiropractor only getting $16k. He was hypergamous lol. Poor Rach. 👑

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад

      You make it seem that hypergamy is bad. Why is that sad?

  • @NtombiDweba-ez8ex
    @NtombiDweba-ez8ex 4 месяца назад +206

    I was so obsessed with their season of the Bachelorette, I can't believe this is how their story ended💔😭
    Ncoooh Chloe pinned my comment!❤️🙏🏽

  • @Primegems1
    @Primegems1 4 месяца назад +53

    Co-signing this as a feminine LGBT 🏳️‍🌈 male!!! The masculine/feminine power dynamic exists in ALL relationships! So true. Thank you for your inspiring content. Believe it or not it’s relevant to feminine-looking males who date masculine men too!! ❤

  • @CYLVISCLEANING
    @CYLVISCLEANING 4 месяца назад +13

    I thank God that I submitted to his will and I’m celibate. I recently found a home church, signed up for therapy & the gym. Lastly, I think most women forget about doing this. But, I’m evolving my femininity. Even though God hasn’t called me to court yet. I periodically educate my self on red flags from men and strengthen my femininity by watching Chole/ other femininity channels. I know God gives us grace and I hope she recovers and learns from this. Lord knows I’m not perfect and he restored my waisted years and definitely taught me a lot.

    • @Blackguard-w9b
      @Blackguard-w9b 3 месяца назад

      Yeah born again virgins arent a scam is it?

  • @bzetu101
    @bzetu101 4 месяца назад +19

    After Rachel came in 3rd on the Bachelor(Season 21), she went into her Premiere Bachelorette Season with a chip on her shoulder: Rejection. Her contestant pool was diverse but she settled for looks to stroke her ego.The cheap thrill from Miami played her like a fiddle; he was the first contestant to kiss her and telling her everything she wanted to hear to one-up his competition(Peter Kraus 'The Businessman' from Wisconsin). She rejected the idea of a prenup to prove she was marrying for love: Remember, she is a lawyer and Daddy is a Judge! She has nobody else to blame : she played herself.😏

  • @dahliaherrod4301
    @dahliaherrod4301 4 месяца назад +39

    Unfortunately this divorce is not a surprise to me. They were never in the same place at the same time. Rachel wanted to switch careers and then moved twice across country to be in the media. Not many couples can survive those kinds of changes, especially when the marriage is new. Brian is being very petty in the divorce proceedings, probably just to hurt Rachel (not cute), but Rachel wasn't very consistent with her desires within the marriage. I just never got the impression she was valuing the marriage as much if not more than her career.

    • @user-yp9od3lx6l
      @user-yp9od3lx6l 4 месяца назад

      ​@@dahliaherrod4301He went on the show to increase his status and earning opportunities. U are conned by him as well. This was not his 1st reality show.

    • @Nethanda
      @Nethanda 4 месяца назад

      @@dahliaherrod4301 It does. I mean look at the gold digger. Imagine a white man trying to get your money shamelessly. Black people will never learn.

  • @TheRachelrenee1
    @TheRachelrenee1 4 месяца назад +8

    Not the cracked screen on the phone 😂😂😂😂😂😂… your reads are epic !

  • @Willa4420
    @Willa4420 4 месяца назад +34

    Sixteen thousand a year is just above poverty line. She shouldn't have married a DUSTY. 😢 He never loved or adored her. He only saw her as a come up.

    • @cpthetrucker9067
      @cpthetrucker9067 4 месяца назад

      And a sperm donor for her Bi-racial kids.

  • @elizaedwards7556
    @elizaedwards7556 4 месяца назад +5

    He is playing the "Long Game" quite well and I hate this life lesson for Rachel. I do love how you gave a great lesson. Note taken ✏

  • @Thankgot
    @Thankgot 4 месяца назад +83

    This is a serious L. Men must be vetted irrespective of their race. She fell for the surface level money bag.
    Strength to her in her ongoing fight with her dusty.

  • @donnajustbeingreal6607
    @donnajustbeingreal6607 4 месяца назад +23

    What happened she got caught up on his looks.
    He knew it from the beginning.
    He used it to get what he wanted from her.
    I hope she won't be stuck paying him Alimony.
    Us black ladies have to be careful. Men like him. Think we will worship the ground they walk. We should be honored that he would want to date us.
    Smh
    So sad. It happens so often.
    Prayers to her
    🙏🏻

    • @user-yp9od3lx6l
      @user-yp9od3lx6l 4 месяца назад +4

      She wanted Peter also. Peter did not want her. He was only being polite and not saying what he truly thought. I would have chosen a black guy. Rather the black guy pretend than fraud Bryan.

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад +1

      Yea Bryan was her second choice . Peter clearly wasn’t into black women. At least he was honest

  • @likhonancate3366
    @likhonancate3366 4 месяца назад +14

    You're always on time darling!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @SaraNeuss
    @SaraNeuss 4 месяца назад +23

    he was never into her

  • @sandylove7713
    @sandylove7713 4 месяца назад +15

    What is it with some chiropractors. Similar thing is going on with Nigerian dancer, Korra Obidi, the white man she married is a chiropractor and she has been going through hell…

  • @SidraAdele
    @SidraAdele 4 месяца назад +8

    Whoo that segment at the end! 👏 👏 👏

    • @AyaEgbuho
      @AyaEgbuho 4 месяца назад +2

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @ttmoore8750
    @ttmoore8750 4 месяца назад +4

    Thank You, Chloe, for all of the lessons you've taught me over the years! I owe you so much because family and friends want me and others to fail! I'm not desperate to get married or have a man who is looking to build himself up off of me!

  • @Geneicee8697
    @Geneicee8697 4 месяца назад +10

    Poor Rachel, he was a feminine opportunist. I’m sure he’s already in a new relationship. Also, availability is so important and did not realize that until after discovering you especially after I read your blog on “feminine careers.” I’ve always had a very good schedule but I was putting everything over femininity. Once I tapped in the dates and the pursuits came in. Now I feel fab saying bye to all dust! 😅

  • @CPTSDRecoveryChatASMR
    @CPTSDRecoveryChatASMR 4 месяца назад +12

    Never trusted him and felt like he was not good enough for her but she choose with her 👀 instead of her 🧠

  • @Pretzelgal
    @Pretzelgal 4 месяца назад +30

    Maybe it's just me, but I can't seem to understand why people keep signing up for these "reality dating shows." The shows are for entertainment purposes only. How can ruining your life be entertaining?

    • @VelvetPanther
      @VelvetPanther 3 месяца назад

      They do it for love and fame. Drugs.

  • @nkolemwaba2526
    @nkolemwaba2526 4 месяца назад +10

    Whether you are a working or stay at home wife. 1 thing I know for sure men feel shy to take money from the woman they actually love and adore. Do with that what you will.

  • @yourentrepreneurjourney
    @yourentrepreneurjourney 4 месяца назад +8

    You did that Chloe! Brava 🎉...yes ma'am 👏🏽 ♥️

  • @jessicaalexandria9061
    @jessicaalexandria9061 4 месяца назад +11

    Good Morning Chloe and everyone

  • @europeanguy8773
    @europeanguy8773 4 месяца назад +6

    I mean if we judge purely on looks, the dude is way way outside of her league. That alone should have been a red flag for her. Men like that are usually nearly every woman's type, got the looks, dresses nicely, whilst she isn't necessarily every man's cup of tea.

  • @marymalloy2848
    @marymalloy2848 4 месяца назад +22

    She married a gold digger.

  • @chantel-tbr
    @chantel-tbr Месяц назад

    I can’t wait for the second book!!!!

  • @supwhatsupdudes
    @supwhatsupdudes 4 месяца назад +5

    The biggest hint was this wasn't even the first reality show he's been on, pretty sure.

  • @lighteyes214
    @lighteyes214 4 месяца назад +19

    He's not a scammer. Rachel admitted that she changed. She wanted to do different things and hang around with different people. People in the entertainment industry. She started making a lot more money and enjoying the fast life. Bryan is more reserved and probably wanted a quieter life. Rachel said they were talking about starting a family. Maybe he wanted to have babies and Rachel decided her career was more important? Reading the court documents, it feels like Bryan was the safe choice. She thought he was more stable than Peter, or at least his earning potential was better. She admitted that she had sex with two men in the Bachelorette fantasy suites. Presumably, it was with Peter. How devoted to Bryan was she if that was the case? You're so in love that you want to marry this man, but you're sleeping with another guy? Make it make sense. I think Bryan was led to believe one thing, and Rachel flipped the script. There seems to be some bitterness there on his side. I think there's more to the story than we know, and Rachel probably isn't so innocent in this as she's trying to portray in court. Bryan asking for spousal support is what people do in California. It's a community property state. If he were the breadwinner, he'd be paying her because of the laws, so he's within his rights. Rachel knew that when she chose to move there. She also knew it when the decision was made to forgo the prenuptial agreement.

    • @sharleenmagetto5051
      @sharleenmagetto5051 4 месяца назад +2

      Thank you for this. I always said this

    • @balancedlibra1792
      @balancedlibra1792 3 месяца назад +2

      He is definitely a scammer and was sued in Florida for malpractice. He owes a lot of money and was an opportunist from the beginning. That's why he went on the show. He also said that his dream was to move to California. This was all planned by him!!

  • @hotdyme86
    @hotdyme86 4 месяца назад +3

    I need a compilation of all your : " then you can argue with your...." 😂😂😂😂

    • @AyaEgbuho
      @AyaEgbuho 4 месяца назад +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤

  • @jadewalker1355
    @jadewalker1355 4 месяца назад +5

    Yikes! I’ve never heard about this, but what an absolute nightmare for Rachel Lindsey. 😮

  • @exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198
    @exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198 4 месяца назад

    Chloe you hit the nail on the head...... The more i listen to this, is the more i deeply appreciate my amazing dad and mom.... Beautiful balance ....love you daddy.....

  • @itsmsbryan2u766
    @itsmsbryan2u766 4 месяца назад +19

    Hi everyone

  • @tanyabillings6312
    @tanyabillings6312 4 месяца назад +16

    I wonder why she didn’t ask for a prenup. Especially since he was dust when she met him

  • @yolandamarka1719
    @yolandamarka1719 4 месяца назад +27

    Go Argue with the Crack Screen of your Phone

  • @malikawilson7071
    @malikawilson7071 4 месяца назад +23

    He absolutely saw her as a cash cow! I would rather marry a masculine provider man than a Tyson Beckford feminine man. I want to be able to respect my husband and have him value me. Black women who are going to date out need to VET. Many men see them as masculine and someone that will take care of them

    • @Kuroyasha2099
      @Kuroyasha2099 4 месяца назад +1

      Black women need to vet period. That's y'all number 1 problem. Y'all are always trying to change handsome/tall man boys into men. You need to prioritize compatibility first.

    • @Nethanda
      @Nethanda 4 месяца назад

      They don't see them as masculine. They see them as less than and believe they are doing them a favor. Even dusties have that mindset. Those who are hideous believe we see them as prince charming and images of Sade Robinson and other women with hideous older nonblack men only reinforce that.
      BW have to really educate the younger generation.

    • @StillWatersRD2
      @StillWatersRD2 4 месяца назад +2

      Preach! 👊

  • @latularu
    @latularu 4 месяца назад +8

    16k a year?! bruh there are high schoolers who make more than that a year, working LESS than part-time

  • @Shevan08
    @Shevan08 4 месяца назад +9

    The pick me mentality does not discriminate. It gets doctors, lawyers, surgeons, CEOs, COOs, etc, hook line and sinker.

  • @carrie_heart
    @carrie_heart 4 месяца назад +2

    I remember watching the season and we all talked about how his behavior and attitude was off, fans of his called us jealous, well here we are. She even said everything about him was too perfect, (that's intuition honey, you should have listened to it) her gut told her and she didn't listen. I do wish the best for her in this difficult time.

  • @IndigoWisdom1
    @IndigoWisdom1 3 месяца назад +4

    How can you marry from a reality show, be a lawyer and Not have a pre-nup?!! 😣

  • @Rachel-ze8ne
    @Rachel-ze8ne 4 месяца назад +1

    This video was 🔥🔥🔥 There are so many jewels dropped within these lessons.

  • @annadenise8902
    @annadenise8902 4 месяца назад +8

    Ole boy came, saw, and about to go with a money bag 💰

  • @latularu
    @latularu 4 месяца назад +4

    Breakup via text is crazy; divorce via text is wildddd

  • @jo.onthego
    @jo.onthego 4 месяца назад +3

    I always thought she would choose Peter! I hope she spins the block

  • @loversdecent
    @loversdecent 4 месяца назад +3

    Just now tuning in.

  • @JF-vw9lv
    @JF-vw9lv 4 месяца назад

    Good job Rob....get that bag !!!

  • @yolandamarka1719
    @yolandamarka1719 4 месяца назад +3

    Great Commentary as always Chole_. ❤

  • @jussjess2829
    @jussjess2829 4 месяца назад +1

    number 10 is the one that sticks with me the most. searching for a husband on tv is like searching for a man online: it screams unserious.! Amen Chloe

  • @beeznhoney4323
    @beeznhoney4323 4 месяца назад +10

    $16k a year is so far below the poverty level. HOW did the show vet this "eligible" bachelor? Clearly, they didn't do a good job AND people can and do lie to look good🤥

    • @joybrooks564
      @joybrooks564 4 месяца назад +7

      A lot of the people on the bachelor/bachelorette shows are unemployed. Their employers aren’t going to let them have 2 months off

  • @21urbana
    @21urbana 4 месяца назад +1

    Chloe I love the way you speak. Both serious and funny! Your are a Queen 💖👑

  • @nkolemwaba2526
    @nkolemwaba2526 4 месяца назад +6

    This is why I don't trust "nice guys"

  • @vickyndong8608
    @vickyndong8608 4 месяца назад +13

    I live in France it's the same thing the majority of my females co-workers are 50-50 mood it's just the norm feminism has taken over in the majority of industrialized countries and is spreading almost everywhere Arab countries where men still play this traditional role, the majority of women have few rights and must be virgins before marriage.
    I knew a girl here (arab family) her fiancé rejected her because she was no longer a virgin.
    Sad World

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад +1

      Well blame the liberal ideology mindset of this. That’s why I’m a conservative. I believe in traditional gender roles where men provide snd women are pure and loyal

  • @jadeade8657
    @jadeade8657 4 месяца назад +9

    Ugh. I hate this for her!

  • @kellykell8439
    @kellykell8439 3 месяца назад +5

    What's so weird is that I've seen black women boldy tell black men that they won't settle for a black man who makes 100k a year and then turn around and get a nonblack man who makes considerably less. A lot of women actually supported her marrying him even though he made less than 20k a year.

    • @Nay60th
      @Nay60th 2 месяца назад

      ​@@LifeIsNotoriousa lot of blacc ppl nothing, it's bw who lower their standards for non bm, when it comes to men the man is looked at as the provider so Idk how what you said even makes sense.

  • @ComedianNemaKatt
    @ComedianNemaKatt 3 месяца назад +2

    He definitely plotted on her. Poor Rachel!

  • @saw533
    @saw533 4 месяца назад +2

    I guess this explains why Rachel was in LA and he was in South Florida. I never understood the dynamics of their relationship. They never was together!! But wish them well!!

  • @ghutchin33
    @ghutchin33 4 месяца назад +2

    When I tell you so many women came for me under a Tik Tok when I said a man who asks you to pay the Tip or Half on a first date is a Red Flag to me. It means he doesn’t see you as his dream girl and feels he has nothing to lose by doing this. I said … Trust me … he is NOT asking every woman to pay half and/or tip. Your contribution will go towards the entire meal of a woman he feel like he can adore and wants to impress.

    • @sergiomacias5145
      @sergiomacias5145 3 месяца назад

      You’re right 😂. If I don’t like a girl, I make her pay her share. And I wouldn’t care if she loses interest cuz I already made up my mind I’m done. But if I like a girl, I pay for everything lol cuz i want to leave a good impression

  • @lblack1961
    @lblack1961 4 месяца назад +4

    "Position yourself to be a prize" I like that. It brings personal responsibility to the saying, "Don't throw your pearls to swine". To be a "pearl" you have to become a pearl and then value yourself enough (something you gain in the "positioning") to not give yourself away or over to any ol' slug.

  • @PureJoyJoyPure
    @PureJoyJoyPure 4 месяца назад +5

    It's giving: 'this black woman should be so grateful that I am/was with her'. Hell will freeze over before THIS BLACK woman pays a man's (spouse's) way through life! Ugh!

  • @Azizajewelry
    @Azizajewelry 4 месяца назад +5

    I feel like he expected marrying her to bring him more opportunities to be seen in the spotlight and when they didn’t happen he decided the next best plan was go for her bag. Also I feel like he was always a fake opportunist from the jump

  • @jetradaniels9528
    @jetradaniels9528 4 месяца назад +13

    How calculated and gross.