Everything is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution | Diane Hamilton | Talks at Google
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- Опубликовано: 12 июн 2014
- Learn how to deal with conflicts more skillfully from state supreme court mediator and Zen master Diane Hamilton. Ignoring conflicts usually won't make them go away, but if you approach them consciously, you can navigate conflicts in ways that not only honors everyone involved but also makes them a source of deep insight as well. Diane will show you how to engage conflict with wisdom and compassion by:
- Cultivating the mirror-like quality of attention as your base
- Identifying three personal conflict styles and determine which ones you fall into
- Recognizing the three fundamental perspectives in any conflict situation
- Turning conflicts in families, at work, and in every kind of interpersonal situation into win-win situations
Reduce stress in your life by learning these techniques and transform the way you handle conflicts in your life. 
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Very interesting, complex and beautiful ways to assess the world around us! Thanks so much for posting this, my world view has been greatly altered for the better.
The best part is the "cosmic centric" discussion.
She is great!
She is the best!
Great final question. Brilliant answer and ending.
Diane Musho Hamilton quote highlights from this video: “‘Meditate’ and ‘mediate’ both literally mean ‘to bring two into one.’ With meditation, when you sit down on the cushion, you're bringing your body, speech, and mind into one moment and creating coherence with your life. So, you could say meditation is a way of becoming one with your life. Whereas mediation is about bringing two differing points of view, or two different sets of interests or a conflict in which there are many parties, into one solution.”
“Conflict is, by its nature, threatening to the status quo.”
“Commit to experiencing the sensation. Stop the thoughts. Experience the sensation. Literally receive them. Get to know them.”
“Meditation is one of the great ways that we have of navigating our interior and heightening the discipline, if you will, of how we perceive.”
“We all know that there are certain developmental tasks that get accomplished at certain ages (in children). But, the same is true of adults. We also can expand and grow our perspectives.”
“I started to see that there were limits to capacity. And the capacity that I started to notice was the capacity to take perspectives … What I was seeing was just a whole range of people who had different capacity to take different points of view.”
“If you have two coexisting truths in your head at any one time, you literally have to deal with the disruption in your body.”
“There was a much smaller group of people who not only could they hold one, two, perhaps three, they could hold four, five, six perspectives at once. They could take a perspective on the process. They could think about how the process had evolved from the past and where it might go in the future. They could think about what the impact of the facilitator was on the process.”
“This perspective taking, and the capacity to take perspectives, changes the heart of negotiation at such a fundamental level.”
“I don't just assume that everybody's capacity is the same. I assume that there are differences in capacity and that I have to take that into account.”
“In order to maintain an identity, there are things that I have to keep out of it. Jung referred to the shadow as anything that I cannot bring into my identity as me.”
“When human beings go to war with each other, one of the first things we do is dehumanize the enemy. Because the enemy has to become ‘not me’. If it's not me, then I can abuse you, I can kill you, I can destroy you. But, as soon as you're like me, I no longer can do that.”
Egocentric self: “The ego is not bad, the ego is limited. The ego is oriented toward self-sustaining. But, there is such a thing as a healthy ego. There's a healthy ecosystem of self which is permeable and which can take inputs and give out inputs. And, then the perspective can shift to include more. An ego becomes bad when an ego is exclusive. A healthy ego is one that has permeability and is able to drop its reference points and expand awareness … Wherever there's an egocentric self, there's a sense of the other, so there's self and other … One of the conditions that we want to pay attention to whenever we're identifying as the ego is that there's a sense of separation-and because there's a sense of separation, there's stress.”
Ethnocentric self: “We're going to grow our perspectives from the self to the group … The ethnocentric self feels safe in my group, but your group can sometimes feel threatening to me … The values were the ones of the people, my tribe, the people I belonged with … At the egocentric level, there's self and other; at the ethnocentric level, there’s us and them … The boundary around what's ‘me’ and what's ‘not me’ at ethnocentric is strong.”
World-centric self: “If you can cross the barrier of ‘us and them’, you're already established at what we would call a world-centric level of development … In the same way the ego is too small, then all of a sudden, so is my ethnocentric identity … At ethnocentric, difference is threatening. At world-centric, difference is embraced … My capacity to identify with all of humanity and to really enjoy and appreciate the differences is fully online.”
Cosmic-centric self: “Cosmic-centric transcends and includes world-centric, healthy ethnocentrism, and healthy egocentric … Where is that boundary of identity? You're limitless … I can't quite identify the boundaries of space or time … Identity itself has dissolved, and when identity itself dissolves, I'm completely open. And, I'm relaxed in a way that's really fundamental. I feel really at home … I'm completely in the here and now, my awareness is wide open, there's no sense of limit … There's nothing that is beyond what I am, so I'm simply embedded in the breadth of all things.”
Diane Hamilton, "Everything is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution"
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Very interesting... I think I might check out the book!
I think I saw James Damore in the crowd.
Simple and clever
This sounds like Robert Kegan theory of adult development