I'm Christian (and my name is Jasmine). I love this channel..💕 Idk why but I gravitate more towards Muslim couples 💕 I align with their values more than other couples/channels. Like in the West no one takes marriage seriously, and hookup culture has ruined things even in the Christian church.
🔴Mohammed died fat and wealthy from what was taken from others in war or demanded from others in tribute 🟢Jesus demanded nothing for himself and dies without possessions
@@supercritics12345 the story your talking is either taken out of context or not even true, I've literally spent the last half an hour looking for it, and the only close thing I could find is when Muhammad (s.a.w) ordered the execution of a blind man who had killed his Jewish wife/concubine, he didnt end up being killed tho... P.s. 🔴"O daughter Babylon, you devastator! Happy shall they be who pay you back what you have done to us! Happy shall they be who take your little ones and dash them against the rock!" (Psalm 137:8-9 NRSV) 🟢“You may also fight them to eliminate oppression, and to worship GOD freely. If they refrain, you shall not aggress; aggression is permitted only against the aggressors.” (Quran 2:193)
I am Christian. Honestly, I believe that God has a plan for each and everyone of us and His timing is the best. Sometimes we may think that we are ready for something big, like marriage, but it may not be the right time for whatever reason. We may find out a year later or decades later and that's ok. I think also knowing yourself and understanding yourself is important too, what are your goals and where you see yourself. It could be that being with someone, you may find out about yourself, and your priorities may change, and that is ok. For me, I believe that God will guide me.
I came down to the comments to say something along this vein. So instead of writing my own comment, I will add to this one as a reply. We plan, but Allah plans. Even the "disaster" marriages were destined to be. Allah uses them as a mechanism to get us to closer to him. Marriage is a means to an end, not the end. Allah is the end and this is what we should have in sight before we get married. It will frame the situation correctly and allow us to pursue the person that will get us closer to Allah.
How lust/desires destroy a person/Muslim ummah and when you follow desires/lust Allah doesn't help or support you!. Astaghfiullah Chapter (4) sūrat l-nisāa (The Women) Allah wants to accept your repentance, but those who follow [their] passions want you to digress [into] a great deviation. Pickthall: And Allah would turn to you in mercy; but those who follow vain desires would have you go tremendously astray. Yusuf Ali: Allah doth wish to Turn to you, but the wish of those who follow their lusts is that ye should turn away (from Him),- far, far away. Shakir: And Allah desires that He should turn to you (mercifully), and those who follow (their) lusts desire that you should deviate (with) a great deviation. Muhammad Sarwar: God wants to be merciful to you but those who follow their evil desires seek to lead you astray. Mohsin Khan: Allah wishes to accept your repentance, but those who follow their lusts, wish that you (believers) should deviate tremendously away from the Right Path. Arberry: and God desires to turn towards you, but those who follow their lusts desire you to swerve away mightily. And who is more astray than him who follows his desires without any guidance from Allah (Sūratِ al-Qasas No.28, Āyat 50) In this verse following certain personal desires and whims is directly linked to being astray. In fact, it is the reason behind being astray. Desires can be a thick curtain over the eyes of the intelligence, refusing to let the light of wisdom in. It is interesting that this verse condemns those desires which are not in line with any guidance from Allah ‘azza wa-jall. This shows that there are some desires which incline towards good and virtue, that which Allah subhānahu wa-ta‘ālā has commanded. They lead a person towards truth and perfection. But it is the whims that are not based on any solid guidance which cause the downfall of the human being. Desires have been placed inside human beings so they may continue life on earth. Desires and emotions such as anger, love, attachment to the self, family, wealth, etc. all have a place and purpose in life. But sometimes these becomes excessive and transgress natural bounds. They take control of the mind and makes it submit. Men then loses the choice to act appropriately in line with his status as the khalīfa of Allah (swt). It is like the flood of desires, unstopped by any dam of guidance, sweeps him away. In another verse of the Quran, Almighty Allah talks about such people: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q25:43). Desire, for these people, is worshiped, obeyed at all costs. Logic and reasoning have no effect on such people. It is not that there is something wrong in the logic presented to them. Rather it is because of the veils of personal desires which are a barrier. Certain desires can make a person so attached to something that he loses the ability to discern. He becomes subjective and is blind to the truth. That is because a clear perception of the truth cannot be derived when there are emotional attachments to wrong. Such a disease is a huge affliction to the soul. It is becoming common today in a world which glorifies and indulges in desires. Imam Ja‘far al-Sādiq ‘alayhis salām taught this Du‘ā to the believers for clarity of thought and to stay away from following desires: اللَّهُمَّ أَرِنِي الْحَق حَقًّا فَاَتِّبَعَهُ، وَأَرِنِي الْبَاطِلَ بَاطِلًا وفَاَجْتَنِبَهُ، وَلَا تَجْعَلْهُ عَلَيَّ مَتَشَابِهًا فَأَتَّبِعَ هَوَايَ بِغَيْرِ هُدىً مِنْكَ Allāhummā arinil-haqqa haqqan fa-attibi‘ahu, wa-arinil-bātila bātilan fa-ajtanibahu, walā taj‘alhu ‘alayya mutashābihan fa-attibi‘a hawāya bighayri hudan mink. O God! Show me the truth as the truth so I follow it, and falsehood as falsehood do I stay away from it; and let them not seem similar to me, for if this happens then I will follow my own desires without guidance from You. (Bihar al-Anwār, v.86, p.120).
in addition to what they said, boundaries are extremely important, i think its important to know what you're okay with and not okay with because having that in mind helps you make a decision and helps you avoid conflict in the future.
@@user-bc2ik for example the husband may want to control the wife in the future in terms of if she can work or not, whilst the wife wants to and feels like he has no right to decide that for her
Some people are lucky and get blessed by growing with a partner and finding themselves whilst in the marriage and some people have to grow alone and figure everything out by themselves before they get married. Everybody has different fates. We all just pray to find our person when we are truly ready and it is the right time.
Or perhaps, those who have grown 'alone' are also lucky and blessed because it's a time to settle yourself and be with God. As a therapist, I cannot tell you how many ppl who are happily married talk about the blessings of being single and having more time to focus on ibadah which isn't necessarily the case for some married ppl. I always refer to the story of Maryam who completely indulged herself in her relationship with Allah, but she attained the akhirah which some can't whilst being married. Allah knows what he is doing and he chooses who gets married early and those who marry later when they're more established.
When I was 12 years old I was guided to Islam and now I’m 15 and my mindset is ready , I’m always working hard and pleasing Allah, in terms of Marriage I want to do it to complete half my deen it was never on my mind at all then I realized It’s something in my deen and inshallah I’ll be ready great video as well
Not worries mate, I think they meant we are never gonna be ready. So, when you're ready and made the decision, you're ready and God will help you inshaallah. He is the only planner.
@@cavall2000 omg😭😭 I’m literally crying for both of you, May your marriage be full of love and understanding, May Allah bless your marriages Ameen🌸 I’m crying literally😭😭😭 Wishing the best for you sis So here’s a bouquet for you from my side as a gift 👉🏼💐😅🙈🙈 Take care sis💞 I’m sorry this is getting so weird,I’m gonna go now😬
@@supercritics12345 the story your talking is either taken out of context or not even true, I've literally spent the last half an hour looking for it, and the only close thing I could find is when Muhammad (s.a.w) ordered the execution of a blind man who had killed his Jewish wife/concubine, he didnt end up being killed tho... P.s. 🔴"O daughter Babylon, you devastator! Happy shall they be who pay you back what you have done to us! Happy shall they be who take your little ones and dash them against the rock!" (Psalm 137:8-9 NRSV) 🟢“You may also fight them to eliminate oppression, and to worship GOD freely. If they refrain, you shall not aggress; aggression is permitted only against the aggressors.” (Quran 2:193)
The only thing I would like to say is that education and career are not supposed to be against marriage. You can do both parallel. It doesn’t have to be marriage or career, marriage or goals, marriage or education. Replace the or with an and. And to be honest, it’s much better because you go through the struggles and growth of life together and that really really makes your connection so much stronger. I think that people should atleast get their nikah done if not like moving in together immediately/having children immediately. Just so that you grow up together and you are there in each other’s sort of “low” periods and you watch them become someone and reach their goals and all of that. And even islamically, the mahr should be LOW, financial “security” is not a criteria Bc like security is a myth first of all Bc what if you get married and lose everything two days later when you’re 27? THATS when you need someone who can be there to support you. Growth is about personality and about knowing their identity not about finance or other material things. Allah even says in the Quran that poor people who get married will be blessed by Allah with money. It’s also statistically accurate that most married people earn more and work harder than unmarried people. Allah knows best.
Absolutely agree with you. I feel like this video has not considered poor people at all. But we need to consider poor muslim people because it is a reality. Maybe not in the western world but sure is in the east. And Islamic Laws. are for all, poor and rich alike. Islam does not discriminate.
I totally agree with you. Its sad to see that young muslims are falling for false ideologies. Please go through Quran and Sunnah and you will realise that many things that this couple are saying are are PURE CAPITALISTIC ideology. Islam is not like that. It promotes marriages early and having children. You know why? Because marriage and children make you mature and the your spouse and your child bring with them their Naseeb and Rizq. So Jasmine and Dawood, we respect you but please polish your islamic concepts by referring to any scholar or aalim. Im saying this with confidence because of real life examples in front of me.
I agree 100%. If you get married with a person for the right intentions and he’s not ready financially, God will bless your marriage. Trying to be “prepared” is a sign of lack of faith.
It’s so true, timing is everything. I think it’s so important for people to think clearly and have things “together” before getting married. Being sure in yourself and being stable!
Jasmine is way beyond her years, her points are always spot on, and I feel that Dawoud learns a lot from her. He has a lot of thoughts and idea, but she aligns his thoughts and makes sense of them, beautiful couple
Just to add to jasmines point about being ready, another thing which I find important as well is while you get to know yourself, it’s important to know what you’re looking for in a partner. What are the qualities that work for you? Some women are already financially set and so maybe “a house” or “money” isn’t the trait they’re looking for and perhaps they want someone more nurturing or kind (not that you can’t be both) but yea just to point that out! Loved this video so much, bless you both💗💗💗
I got married when I was 18 and I am currently 21 right now in the process of getting divorce I thought it was the right thing to do being a Christian and you’re supposed to get married and have a baby and live happily ever after but in reality I realize I was way to young and I wasn’t ready for marriage I didn’t have my own identity and I was lost, but little by little I’m finding who I am
You guys are great inspirations & role models for Muslim men & women!!! Y’all are young and mature and speak with perfect detail that’s really informative yet entertaining🤍
Im 15 and im so thankful for your channel. The topics and advice you give to us young Muslims are often seen as Taboo to discuss between me and my parents, and I really appreciate how straight forward and upfront. your advice is. Thank you
Wow how much I needed this video right now. Im a 20 year old muslim girl and have had contact with a guy before when I had just turned 20. I thought i had it all; a guy who likes me while I didn’t even know myself at that point. I just thought “this must be a sign that I should be with him” And i let all my happiness depend on that one person. I didn’t know what I wanted in life because i was (still am) so YOUNG and NOT ready. I ignored all the red flags and just thought he would change because you know i had that “this must be it, this is a sign that we should be together” mindset (as if there is no other guy in the world for me). Finally realizing that this is not what I want. What i really want is finding myself. Finding happiness within myself and not in another person who didn’t even deserve me. I stepped out (which was so hard but the best decision ive made so far for myself). Im working on self love and self growth now, focusing on my goals and letting things flow and letting my faith in Allahs hands. My advice for young girls ; Don’t rush love or whatever you think “love” is at that age. You wont have your young years back so ENJOY it. You will find someone one day and everything will be amazing inshAllah for us all. ❤️
Soo true that there are no right and wrong answers. I met my husband to be when he was 29 and I was 33, things were not fully ‘settled’ for us but we got married and started figuring it all out together, career, our business etc. Alhamdulillah for everything. Gut feeling plays a big role! I had had several proposals before but the gut feeling wasn’t there so I waited it out until by chance, met the one, Alhamdulillah.
Allowing yourself to grow first is very important before you take a new step in your life, whether it's moving out, marriage or having kids. Loved this video 😍
“ it’s different for each and every person” This is so true 👍 Thank you guys for making this video it would have helped so many people who are struggling to find their head space of marriage Love from Australia 😘🥰
Whenever I hear them mention milk, I think about the time when Jasmine said a milk joke to Dawoud when they first started talking and in a video there was a question about how Dawoud knew Jasmine was the one and he mentioned that that time and she was like, "you knew I was the one off of a milk joke". Idk why I find that so funny.
@@supercritics12345 According to the bible Mary the mother of Jesus (pbuh) married Joseph (pbuh) when she was 12 and he was 90 years old.... Yikes bro 😬😬😬
I also feel like marriage in this day and age is thrown about very easily, trying to find serious people is difficult. Which is why I think another point should be that you’re ready for that type of commitment, it’s all about your mindset and how you perceive it to be. You have to know the difference between someone who is serious about you or wasting your time you know? That can be dangerous in terms of wanting to get married
I actually think divorce is thrown around easily these days. The number of people getting divorced after one or two months after marriage... it's scary.
targaryenblood I agree too, but if the marriage process was done thoroughly and carefully, wouldn’t those divorces not happen? Marriage comes before divorce.
Would it be too much if I asked for you to make and present a list of important inquiries and situations we should question when getting into marriage? JazakALLAH for all your efforts!
adding on - its called mahr (ik dowry is probably an easier word for ppl to understand but then some ppl end u thinking the family is "selling" the daughter lmao) mahr is a gift to the wife and the wife decides what she wants as her gift
A women’s Dowries are forever Every anniversary, every birthday, every valentines, every Seasonal holiday lol it’s never ending The mans gift in return is sex and we don’t mind at all! Lol
I wish literally making dua today for a good spouse 🙈 May Allah bless us all with a happy and fufilling marriage filled with love, respect and understanding. AMEEN
I personally think also healing your wounds/traumas (especially if you didn’t have the best up bringing) before you’re fully ready for marriage or even picking a secure healthy partner. It’s true what they say - hurt people hurt people, so if you’re hurt and want to avoid toxic patterns you need to do the work to heal, so you’re capable of not only finding a healthy partner, but also being a healthy partner.
I guess it all depends on the individual. My mum was 22 when she met my dad and 24 when she got married. My dad was 25 when they met and 29 when he got married. I am 16 and think that looking at myself, I don't think I will be ready for marriage at 24. I want to so medicine and will probably finish med school at 24. So I guess it depends on the individual. My sister is also 21 and I don't see her getting married anytime soon.
I’m 23 and I met my fiancé at 20 he was in med school at the time and is now a resident. I’ve helped him a lot through the long hours by taking care of him and our home . Now I am preparing for the MCAT and will hopefully will be in med school by next year he has helped me so much with my guiding me and tutoring me for my classes. We remind each other everyday we couldn’t do it without one another. Keep your mind open anything is possible.
I usually never write comments about the beauty of someone but when you Jasmine looked up & listened to your husband like... You looked so beautiful♡ Masallah
Thank you so much it was really helpful. I appreciate you guy's honesty. Please do more videos getting deeper into how can we be prepared mentally and spiritually to get married plus helping us with how can we build an identity of our own. Love you guys 💕❤️
in our culture the nikkah is the wedding like we move in after nikkah, nikkah is never called engagment in our culture, great vid tho helps me a lot while im trying to get an identity for myself before i get someone, im 18 btw
Nikkah to us is marriage but in our culture (Lebanese and Palestinians in the city that I'm in) we don't move in together until after the wedding.ig the couple isn't having a wedding party then they move in together after nikah.
This was a really good conversation and very helpful. Love your videos, you both make such a great couple and that just makes your videos even better! Lots of love from 🇿🇦
Hi i had a question: let's say you've got this gut feeling about someone, and you feel like they're the right one, but then you consider possible other options and get stuck in the "pleasing your family/criteria" feeling: what should you do?
I definitely agree with growing and being ready for marriage but how do we know we have grown well enough to be absolutely ready for marriage? All of us will grow individually whether we are married or not. You won't be the same person you were when you were 20 now that you are 25. Growing never stops at all. Problems, issues and experiences never stop. And it's different for everyone. Which is why I agree with jasmine. There isnt a specific age for everyone. Somebody's journey might start Earlier or later than others.
People I've met who married young...got married in like the 1950s ha! Times/circumstances are different. Also, love her advise on being able to stand on your own before you get married . She is so smart, yasss girl!
If your not mentally ready for marriage, meaning you can not put someone else before your self should it ever happen Then your not ready for marriage. Brothers were in a relationship for years living in cloud nine, infatuation stage. It was all dress nice, smell and look good, vacations, please and thank you to their partners who still lives in separate houses The moment they lived under one roof constant arguing fighting. They finally realised what relationships was messy ugly having to share, and mostly communicate. Let’s say relationship is not going well! Raised like children even though they are grown middle age adults their immaturity levels are like teenagers self absorbed
I agree completely with everything and in my opinion I think identity is very important cause in a relationship, there are obviously two people coming together and if you don’t have your own identity, you might start to adopt the other person’s goal and in the real sense you’re different from that person. Identity ✅. Thanks Jasmine and Dawoud, I enjoy your videos everytime.
Thank you for filming this Beautiful and informative video 📹❤ I wonder how on earth your personality and your thoughts, the way you understand things is the same as mine whereas I live in another far country ❤but I'm Muslim and you really helped me find my way out. ❤ and at the moment I need this video to watch! Seriously speaking, you guys are really a good one to be psychologist and help the youth to find their way!
I am really enjoying your videos, especially these discussions. I imagine that I would love it very much if you were on the radio or have a podcast. Wish you all the best🌟.
Bruh the title of this video scares me lmao I spent so many years just avoiding the subject and now that I'm getting more okay with it you guys do this to me 😭 I actually think I'm ready ☺️
I just made this super strict timetable for study and stuff and decided to keep off RUclips for a while, but guess what J&D just made another video. My brain immediately " Make exception in your timetable for J&D videos, pronto" And as usual jam packed with really good info. Well done again J&D.
A relationship is built on what you and your parter want in life, you learn to compromise, find a balance, so you can both grow and be happy. This can't be possible if you, as an individual, don't know want you want in life to start with. So there will be decisions that you will not be part of as you don't have an opinion to be able to share it, and you can't blame your parter. This is how important it is to know what you want in life before thinking about mariage !! Feel free to disagree :)
Thank you so much for the Video really appreciate it that you take your time and give people advise about these important topics and it is so necessary to know yourself before making a commitment to another person it is such a blessing to get married. Inshallah we all find our soulmates🌹
Hello all, you guys made a lot of good points- but it does seem on the perspective of only western society mindset tho. I do sincerely believe that a marriage is more that. Marriage is about,... knowing what each spouse wants in married life, it’s having a clear vision-board, is it okay w/ the husband if the wife shall want to work in their married life whilst contributing her matrimonial? How will we educate our children/ to which schooling, if you’re Muslim “specially Islamic knowledge”? In Islam, yes we do honor marriage, [but what if someone can’t be just, can’t keep the commitment, and/or can’t honor the agreement? And of course, people with different backgrounds n traditions will have different perspectives in terms of how they deal with in marriages issues.] This is why I do think 🤔, having a mature discussions of marriage life with clear vision- with your potential spouse in advance is SO IMPORTANT. However, in line w/ my “what if” line If someone can’t honor the commitment, it doesn’t really matter if they have all the money in the world, I really don’t see any reason marriage is best for them. And Respectfully that’s My opinion
Dawoud is the species of man that i haven't met yet. Too much trashbags all around me. I'm suffocating. Jasmeen dear, you are blessed. May you both love until Jannah.
👏🏽👏🏽 To be HONEST 2 types of guys I know in my life. Strict guys like the back home culture who depend on their wife and ones who are reckless. Your just stuck... and sometimes the idea of marriage has left your head
I can so relate literally everyone is getting married and I actaully don't know if it is becuase of covid or is actaully people ready for it. Personally I think we should leave it to allah also, it is about who we get married to not about when we are going to get married.
@zahra saani plus I don’t need a man and I don’t want kids I may adopt but I think I’m better with no one but myself I wanna live with my cousin in a house not with a MAN or KIDS
I'm 20 years old and I really don't know what to think about marriage. I've never really had contact with a boy because it's a sin. I think this move to get married is really awful. Everyone gets it and talks about it. What I still find very strange is that when you want to get to know each other Islamically you ask the other questions about the past present and future. I find it incredibly personal to discuss these things with a stranger. It's things that even my parents don't know and then a stranger boy should know? That's a very scary thought. After all, you don't know if you're getting married to him. What do you think?
My brother is 35 and he's been saying he's ready for marriage for a few years now. He's been "looking for a wife", but like you said it just doesn't happen that way, so he's had no luck so far. These things are really difficult to find.
Thank you guys for this kind of video with really good points and advices. 👏🏾 I'm totally agree on time will come but sometimes parents put pressure on. And also I'm curious to have you pov on marriage for someone who never dating and dealing with fear? And Jasmine, before Dawoud did you talk to guys respectfully? Love from Paris ❤🇫🇷
I'm not a muslim, but tbh muslim couples often seem so happy and content with life. This video is really beautiful and very wise words ❤ I'm 21 and thinking about marriage, but I also had a classmate who got married at 18, had ger first kid at 19 and now is pregant again (if i remember correctly). She also seems really happy. So as you said, its different for everyone ❤
loved this video! i would love to know more about how to get around letting your parents know that you want marriage and that you want to get to know a certain individual on a more personal level because they are a potential.
"The guy shouldn't rely on the wife to survive and eat and do laundry because let's say the wife isn't there. You are just going to watch the laundry fold itself." I laughed so hard. This was such an amazing video, thanks sooo much
But i also thinking theres a big difference between being lost and not being stable. Because when someone is lost, they are still in the searching phase of what they want to do in this world; whereas someone who is not stable may know exactly what he wants to do such as a business or some type of venture and he is pursing that what he wants and because of that, he has a lot going on for himself where isnt stable. so my issue becomes when women want a man who already "made: where as women should be looking for someone who wants to be a "made man" so they can go through the process together! other than that, mashaAllah incredible video as always!! jazakaAllah
Marriage is made by God to facilitate humans’ growth. People grow and change IN marriage. Not outside of it. It’s meant for humans to let go of their selfishness and become patient. And many more things. Marriage is a school of life that offers so much self growth that nothing else in life can offer. There’s so much friction in personalities and mentality that you can’t help but change. You know when you’re ready to be married? When you meet the right person. Who’s the right person? The one you feel yourself with. God bless you
I'm Christian (and my name is Jasmine). I love this channel..💕 Idk why but I gravitate more towards Muslim couples 💕 I align with their values more than other couples/channels. Like in the West no one takes marriage seriously, and hookup culture has ruined things even in the Christian church.
Thank you for watching! You’re amazing ❤️❤️
Become Muslim its a beautiful lifestyle
@@bossyman123boss5 yessir
@@bossyman123boss5 Absolutely walahi Islam is the way of life 😊💕☝️
ruclips.net/p/PLELnxupXgVCJGRaNnvoQsZ8fJdwzlP6Fr .
Dawoud looking at her when she talks is so cute 🥰 🥰🥰
Where else is he gonna look? it’s pretty normal to look at the person talking
@@arabianprinceflyeaglesfly1700 lmaooo
🔴Mohammed died fat and wealthy from what was taken from others in war or demanded from others in tribute
🟢Jesus demanded nothing for himself and dies without possessions
@@supercritics12345 who asked
@@supercritics12345 the story your talking is either taken out of context or not even true, I've literally spent the last half an hour looking for it, and the only close thing I could find is when Muhammad (s.a.w) ordered the execution of a blind man who had killed his Jewish wife/concubine, he didnt end up being killed tho...
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🔴"O daughter Babylon, you devastator! Happy shall they be who pay you back what you have done to us! Happy shall they be who take your little ones and dash them against the rock!" (Psalm 137:8-9 NRSV)
🟢“You may also fight them to eliminate oppression, and to worship GOD freely. If they refrain, you shall not aggress; aggression is permitted only against the aggressors.” (Quran 2:193)
I am Christian. Honestly, I believe that God has a plan for each and everyone of us and His timing is the best. Sometimes we may think that we are ready for something big, like marriage, but it may not be the right time for whatever reason. We may find out a year later or decades later and that's ok. I think also knowing yourself and understanding yourself is important too, what are your goals and where you see yourself. It could be that being with someone, you may find out about yourself, and your priorities may change, and that is ok. For me, I believe that God will guide me.
I'm Christian too :) I love their channel
Amen
I came down to the comments to say something along this vein. So instead of writing my own comment, I will add to this one as a reply. We plan, but Allah plans. Even the "disaster" marriages were destined to be. Allah uses them as a mechanism to get us to closer to him. Marriage is a means to an end, not the end. Allah is the end and this is what we should have in sight before we get married. It will frame the situation correctly and allow us to pursue the person that will get us closer to Allah.
How lust/desires destroy a person/Muslim ummah and when you follow desires/lust Allah doesn't help or support you!. Astaghfiullah Chapter (4) sūrat l-nisāa (The Women)
Allah wants to accept your repentance, but those who follow [their] passions want you to digress [into] a great deviation.
Pickthall: And Allah would turn to you in mercy; but those who follow vain desires would have you go tremendously astray.
Yusuf Ali: Allah doth wish to Turn to you, but the wish of those who follow their lusts is that ye should turn away (from Him),- far, far away.
Shakir: And Allah desires that He should turn to you (mercifully), and those who follow (their) lusts desire that you should deviate (with) a great deviation.
Muhammad Sarwar: God wants to be merciful to you but those who follow their evil desires seek to lead you astray.
Mohsin Khan: Allah wishes to accept your repentance, but those who follow their lusts, wish that you (believers) should deviate tremendously away from the Right Path.
Arberry: and God desires to turn towards you, but those who follow their lusts desire you to swerve away mightily.
And who is more astray than him who follows his desires without any guidance from Allah
(Sūratِ al-Qasas No.28, Āyat 50)
In this verse following certain personal desires and whims is directly linked to being astray. In fact, it is the reason behind being astray. Desires can be a thick curtain over the eyes of the intelligence, refusing to let the light of wisdom in. It is interesting that this verse condemns those desires which are not in line with any guidance from Allah ‘azza wa-jall. This shows that there are some desires which incline towards good and virtue, that which Allah subhānahu wa-ta‘ālā has commanded. They lead a person towards truth and perfection. But it is the whims that are not based on any solid guidance which cause the downfall of the human being.
Desires have been placed inside human beings so they may continue life on earth. Desires and emotions such as anger, love, attachment to the self, family, wealth, etc. all have a place and purpose in life. But sometimes these becomes excessive and transgress natural bounds. They take control of the mind and makes it submit. Men then loses the choice to act appropriately in line with his status as the khalīfa of Allah (swt). It is like the flood of desires, unstopped by any dam of guidance, sweeps him away.
In another verse of the Quran, Almighty Allah talks about such people: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q25:43). Desire, for these people, is worshiped, obeyed at all costs. Logic and reasoning have no effect on such people. It is not that there is something wrong in the logic presented to them. Rather it is because of the veils of personal desires which are a barrier.
Certain desires can make a person so attached to something that he loses the ability to discern. He becomes subjective and is blind to the truth. That is because a clear perception of the truth cannot be derived when there are emotional attachments to wrong. Such a disease is a huge affliction to the soul. It is becoming common today in a world which glorifies and indulges in desires. Imam Ja‘far al-Sādiq ‘alayhis salām taught this Du‘ā to the believers for clarity of thought and to stay away from following desires:
اللَّهُمَّ أَرِنِي الْحَق حَقًّا فَاَتِّبَعَهُ، وَأَرِنِي الْبَاطِلَ بَاطِلًا وفَاَجْتَنِبَهُ، وَلَا تَجْعَلْهُ عَلَيَّ مَتَشَابِهًا فَأَتَّبِعَ هَوَايَ بِغَيْرِ هُدىً مِنْكَ
Allāhummā arinil-haqqa haqqan fa-attibi‘ahu, wa-arinil-bātila bātilan fa-ajtanibahu, walā taj‘alhu ‘alayya mutashābihan fa-attibi‘a hawāya bighayri hudan mink.
O God! Show me the truth as the truth so I follow it, and falsehood as falsehood do I stay away from it; and let them not seem similar to me, for if this happens then I will follow my own desires without guidance from You.
(Bihar al-Anwār, v.86, p.120).
in addition to what they said, boundaries are extremely important, i think its important to know what you're okay with and not okay with because having that in mind helps you make a decision and helps you avoid conflict in the future.
Yes very good point!
Yep
can you give an example?
What do you mean by boundaries? Could you list some examples?
@@user-bc2ik for example the husband may want to control the wife in the future in terms of if she can work or not, whilst the wife wants to and feels like he has no right to decide that for her
Some people are lucky and get blessed by growing with a partner and finding themselves whilst in the marriage and some people have to grow alone and figure everything out by themselves before they get married.
Everybody has different fates. We all just pray to find our person when we are truly ready and it is the right time.
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Or perhaps, those who have grown 'alone' are also lucky and blessed because it's a time to settle yourself and be with God. As a therapist, I cannot tell you how many ppl who are happily married talk about the blessings of being single and having more time to focus on ibadah which isn't necessarily the case for some married ppl. I always refer to the story of Maryam who completely indulged herself in her relationship with Allah, but she attained the akhirah which some can't whilst being married. Allah knows what he is doing and he chooses who gets married early and those who marry later when they're more established.
When I was 12 years old I was guided to Islam and now I’m 15 and my mindset is ready , I’m always working hard and pleasing Allah, in terms of Marriage I want to do it to complete half my deen it was never on my mind at all then I realized It’s something in my deen and inshallah I’ll be ready great video as well
So ironic that I'm going through this current dilemma at 22 years old and I come across your video. This has been so eye-opening. Thank you ❤
*my Engagement in 7 days*
Jasmine and Dawood: "..Are you ready for marriage?"
Me: *evaluates all my life decisions*
God helps u mate ♥️
Not worries mate, I think they meant we are never gonna be ready. So, when you're ready and made the decision, you're ready and God will help you inshaallah. He is the only planner.
Grl my wedding is in 7 days! And here I am watching this
@@cavall2000 omg😭😭 I’m literally crying for both of you, May your marriage be full of love and understanding,
May Allah bless your marriages Ameen🌸
I’m crying literally😭😭😭
Wishing the best for you sis
So here’s a bouquet for you from my side as a gift 👉🏼💐😅🙈🙈
Take care sis💞
I’m sorry this is getting so weird,I’m gonna go now😬
@@cavall2000 girl ur wedding is tomorrow??????
R we gonna talk about how ✨ADORABLE ✨Jasmine looks with that beanie
She looks like a QUEEN
🔴Mohammed allowed the murder of a half blind man (al-tabari 1440)
🟢Jesus healed a blind man (mark 8:28)
@@supercritics12345 so ... and jesus is a prophet . Prophet isa is his name . And the prophet saw was a great example for all of his ummah
@@supercritics12345 the story your talking is either taken out of context or not even true, I've literally spent the last half an hour looking for it, and the only close thing I could find is when Muhammad (s.a.w) ordered the execution of a blind man who had killed his Jewish wife/concubine, he didnt end up being killed tho...
P.s.
🔴"O daughter Babylon, you devastator! Happy shall they be who pay you back what you have done to us! Happy shall they be who take your little ones and dash them against the rock!" (Psalm 137:8-9 NRSV)
🟢“You may also fight them to eliminate oppression, and to worship GOD freely. If they refrain, you shall not aggress; aggression is permitted only against the aggressors.” (Quran 2:193)
She is beautiful in anything, I need some tips 😭
The only thing I would like to say is that education and career are not supposed to be against marriage. You can do both parallel. It doesn’t have to be marriage or career, marriage or goals, marriage or education. Replace the or with an and. And to be honest, it’s much better because you go through the struggles and growth of life together and that really really makes your connection so much stronger. I think that people should atleast get their nikah done if not like moving in together immediately/having children immediately. Just so that you grow up together and you are there in each other’s sort of “low” periods and you watch them become someone and reach their goals and all of that. And even islamically, the mahr should be LOW, financial “security” is not a criteria Bc like security is a myth first of all Bc what if you get married and lose everything two days later when you’re 27? THATS when you need someone who can be there to support you.
Growth is about personality and about knowing their identity not about finance or other material things. Allah even says in the Quran that poor people who get married will be blessed by Allah with money. It’s also statistically accurate that most married people earn more and work harder than unmarried people.
Allah knows best.
Absolutely agree with you. I feel like this video has not considered poor people at all. But we need to consider poor muslim people because it is a reality. Maybe not in the western world but sure is in the east. And Islamic Laws. are for all, poor and rich alike. Islam does not discriminate.
27 is still young lol
@@MorenitaBonita19 and it’s unfortunate that people in our society actually think that.
I totally agree with you.
Its sad to see that young muslims are falling for false ideologies. Please go through Quran and Sunnah and you will realise that many things that this couple are saying are are PURE CAPITALISTIC ideology.
Islam is not like that. It promotes marriages early and having children. You know why? Because marriage and children make you mature and the your spouse and your child bring with them their Naseeb and Rizq.
So Jasmine and Dawood, we respect you but please polish your islamic concepts by referring to any scholar or aalim.
Im saying this with confidence because of real life examples in front of me.
I agree 100%. If you get married with a person for the right intentions and he’s not ready financially, God will bless your marriage. Trying to be “prepared” is a sign of lack of faith.
It’s so true, timing is everything. I think it’s so important for people to think clearly and have things “together” before getting married. Being sure in yourself and being stable!
Jasmine is way beyond her years, her points are always spot on, and I feel that Dawoud learns a lot from her. He has a lot of thoughts and idea, but she aligns his thoughts and makes sense of them, beautiful couple
nobody:
absolutely nobody:
not even the comment section:
dawoud: MaTiNg
It’s awkward and he knows theirs a lot of under 18 viewers
UNCOMFY lol
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me: *has no plans to marry*
also me: *watches anyway and takes note of everything*
Just to add to jasmines point about being ready, another thing which I find important as well is while you get to know yourself, it’s important to know what you’re looking for in a partner. What are the qualities that work for you? Some women are already financially set and so maybe “a house” or “money” isn’t the trait they’re looking for and perhaps they want someone more nurturing or kind (not that you can’t be both) but yea just to point that out! Loved this video so much, bless you both💗💗💗
I got married when I was 18 and I am currently 21 right now in the process of getting divorce I thought it was the right thing to do being a Christian and you’re supposed to get married and have a baby and live happily ever after but in reality I realize I was way to young and I wasn’t ready for marriage I didn’t have my own identity and I was lost, but little by little I’m finding who I am
That's so brave of you 😊❤️
I wish you all the best brother
For this reason you are getting divorce , you are ruining your life
You guys are great inspirations & role models for Muslim men & women!!! Y’all are young and mature and speak with perfect detail that’s really informative yet entertaining🤍
How old are they? The guy looks kind of old
@@arabianprinceflyeaglesfly1700 😒
@@arabianprinceflyeaglesfly1700 i think they’re in their mid 20s
@Iman Sammy NA15A Hermods Gymnasium STHL Thanks I though the guy was like 30 something
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Jasmine is literally amazingggg w her words and her advice and everything wow mashallah
They both are 👌🏽
I always appreciate Jasmines perspective, and can see growth in her post marriage! 💕
Im 15 and im so thankful for your channel. The topics and advice you give to us young Muslims are often seen as Taboo to discuss between me and my parents, and I really appreciate how straight forward and upfront. your advice is. Thank you
Wow how much I needed this video right now. Im a 20 year old muslim girl and have had contact with a guy before when I had just turned 20. I thought i had it all; a guy who likes me while I didn’t even know myself at that point. I just thought “this must be a sign that I should be with him” And i let all my happiness depend on that one person. I didn’t know what I wanted in life because i was (still am) so YOUNG and NOT ready. I ignored all the red flags and just thought he would change because you know i had that “this must be it, this is a sign that we should be together” mindset (as if there is no other guy in the world for me). Finally realizing that this is not what I want. What i really want is finding myself. Finding happiness within myself and not in another person who didn’t even deserve me. I stepped out (which was so hard but the best decision ive made so far for myself). Im working on self love and self growth now, focusing on my goals and letting things flow and letting my faith in Allahs hands. My advice for young girls ; Don’t rush love or whatever you think “love” is at that age. You wont have your young years back so ENJOY it. You will find someone one day and everything will be amazing inshAllah for us all. ❤️
Soo true that there are no right and wrong answers. I met my husband to be when he was 29 and I was 33, things were not fully ‘settled’ for us but we got married and started figuring it all out together, career, our business etc.
Alhamdulillah for everything. Gut feeling plays a big role! I had had several proposals before but the gut feeling wasn’t there so I waited it out until by chance, met the one, Alhamdulillah.
Allowing yourself to grow first is very important before you take a new step in your life, whether it's moving out, marriage or having kids. Loved this video 😍
“ it’s different for each and every person”
This is so true 👍
Thank you guys for making this video it would have helped so many people who are struggling to find their head space of marriage
Love from Australia 😘🥰
Go into it with the right mindset. Keep in mind all the responsibilities that comes with it. And most importantly have faith in Allah.
Well said, mashaAllah
Whenever I hear them mention milk, I think about the time when Jasmine said a milk joke to Dawoud when they first started talking and in a video there was a question about how Dawoud knew Jasmine was the one and he mentioned that that time and she was like, "you knew I was the one off of a milk joke". Idk why I find that so funny.
It really is the consistency for me like YASSS
@@supercritics12345 According to the bible Mary the mother of Jesus (pbuh) married Joseph (pbuh) when she was 12 and he was 90 years old.... Yikes bro 😬😬😬
I also feel like marriage in this day and age is thrown about very easily, trying to find serious people is difficult. Which is why I think another point should be that you’re ready for that type of commitment, it’s all about your mindset and how you perceive it to be. You have to know the difference between someone who is serious about you or wasting your time you know? That can be dangerous in terms of wanting to get married
I actually think divorce is thrown around easily these days. The number of people getting divorced after one or two months after marriage... it's scary.
targaryenblood I agree too, but if the marriage process was done thoroughly and carefully, wouldn’t those divorces not happen? Marriage comes before divorce.
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i’m 16 and have my life planned out hamdillah, working and saving money. inshallah ik what i want in my life
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Whoa that's great, what are you doing btw even I wanna do something like that
Would it be too much if I asked for you to make and present a list of important inquiries and situations we should question when getting into marriage? JazakALLAH for all your efforts!
A few questions:
1. How to resolve conflicts when misunderstandings occur.
2. What to do once the "honeymoon" phase is over.
just to clarify- in islam the dowry is given to the wife NOT her family and can be any suitable amount
adding on - its called mahr (ik dowry is probably an easier word for ppl to understand but then some ppl end u thinking the family is "selling" the daughter lmao) mahr is a gift to the wife and the wife decides what she wants as her gift
A women’s Dowries are forever
Every anniversary, every birthday, every valentines, every Seasonal holiday lol it’s never ending
The mans gift in return is sex and we don’t mind at all! Lol
@@piqueny8872 women r not sex machines.
@@sassyqueen9739 a mans weakness is sex he will give anything just to get some
And yes I agree with you .
yet women give sex men receive it
@@piqueny8872 no
I wish literally making dua today for a good spouse 🙈 May Allah bless us all with a happy and fufilling marriage filled with love, respect and understanding. AMEEN
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Ameen
Ameen
Man can I just say, I LOVE your videos and you both remind me so much of me and my partner. Ma Shaa Allah, May God bless you 🤲🏽
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I personally think also healing your wounds/traumas (especially if you didn’t have the best up bringing) before you’re fully ready for marriage or even picking a secure healthy partner. It’s true what they say - hurt people hurt people, so if you’re hurt and want to avoid toxic patterns you need to do the work to heal, so you’re capable of not only finding a healthy partner, but also being a healthy partner.
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We NEED more marriage advice videos PLEASEEEEEEE !!!!!!
Pre marriage / Post marriage JUST ANYTHING 🤗
You guys videos are the ones that is keeping me sane during the new pandemic quarantine 🙂❤️
My favs are back AGAIN ?!? Coming through with the Quarantine Content ❤️
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I guess it all depends on the individual. My mum was 22 when she met my dad and 24 when she got married. My dad was 25 when they met and 29 when he got married. I am 16 and think that looking at myself, I don't think I will be ready for marriage at 24. I want to so medicine and will probably finish med school at 24. So I guess it depends on the individual. My sister is also 21 and I don't see her getting married anytime soon.
Huh? Your mama married your dad after 2 years but your dad married your mum after 4 years?
I’m 23 and I met my fiancé at 20 he was in med school at the time and is now a resident. I’ve helped him a lot through the long hours by taking care of him and our home . Now I am preparing for the MCAT and will hopefully will be in med school by next year he has helped me so much with my guiding me and tutoring me for my classes. We remind each other everyday we couldn’t do it without one another. Keep your mind open anything is possible.
I usually never write comments about the beauty of someone but when you Jasmine looked up & listened to your husband like... You looked so beautiful♡ Masallah
Thank you so much it was really helpful. I appreciate you guy's honesty. Please do more videos getting deeper into how can we be prepared mentally and spiritually to get married plus helping us with how can we build an identity of our own. Love you guys 💕❤️
The first to comment 😍😍i love you guys soooo muchhhhh......love all the way from KENYAAA🇰🇪
in our culture the nikkah is the wedding like we move in after nikkah, nikkah is never called engagment in our culture, great vid tho helps me a lot while im trying to get an identity for myself before i get someone, im 18 btw
Nikkah to us is marriage but in our culture (Lebanese and Palestinians in the city that I'm in) we don't move in together until after the wedding.ig the couple isn't having a wedding party then they move in together after nikah.
I am living for the consistent uploadsssssss ❤️
This was a really good conversation and very helpful. Love your videos, you both make such a great couple and that just makes your videos even better! Lots of love from 🇿🇦
Hi i had a question: let's say you've got this gut feeling about someone, and you feel like they're the right one, but then you consider possible other options and get stuck in the "pleasing your family/criteria" feeling: what should you do?
I definitely agree with growing and being ready for marriage but how do we know we have grown well enough to be absolutely ready for marriage? All of us will grow individually whether we are married or not. You won't be the same person you were when you were 20 now that you are 25. Growing never stops at all. Problems, issues and experiences never stop. And it's different for everyone. Which is why I agree with jasmine. There isnt a specific age for everyone. Somebody's journey might start Earlier or later than others.
I love how Jasmine spoke on this! Super intellectual and openminded 👌🏻
11:10 Man, he's appreciating Jasmine beauty soo much lmaoo, soo cute
Me: sees title
Me:16
Me: nope
Same
Same my future goal is to have a luxury apartment by MYSELF and work in my dream jobs that’s it no for marriage no for kids
Isa Mash HAHAHAH love it
People I've met who married young...got married in like the 1950s ha! Times/circumstances are different.
Also, love her advise on being able to stand on your own before you get married . She is so smart, yasss girl!
Love you guys , originally from Egypt , Eritrea and Greece ❤
Jasmine looks amazing with the black hat (كبوس)
Your topics on ur channel really helpful and worth the time am happy to find you guys❤️❤️❤️🇸🇱🇸🇱🇸🇱
This edition of video is super duper perfect!!! Yoh both JASMINE AND DAWOOD thank youuuuuuuuuu!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
If your not mentally ready for marriage, meaning you can not put someone else before your self should it ever happen
Then your not ready for marriage.
Brothers were in a relationship for years living in cloud nine, infatuation stage.
It was all dress nice, smell and look good, vacations, please and thank you to their partners who still lives in separate houses
The moment they lived under one roof constant arguing fighting.
They finally realised what relationships was messy ugly having to share, and mostly communicate.
Let’s say relationship is not going well!
Raised like children even though they are grown middle age adults their immaturity levels are like teenagers self absorbed
I mean to don’t know if I’m ready to get married or not.
I agree completely with everything and in my opinion I think identity is very important cause in a relationship, there are obviously two people coming together and if you don’t have your own identity, you might start to adopt the other person’s goal and in the real sense you’re different from that person. Identity ✅. Thanks Jasmine and Dawoud, I enjoy your videos everytime.
I think im too young but im bored so im gonna continue watching this.🥰love yall lmao
+1 😂👏🏻
Girl same, but I don’t like to miss any of their vids so that’s my que 😌😅
@@sofiya8837 Righhttt!!😂❤️
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The way he looks at her & she's talking wisely.. damnn... mashallah so cute u both🥰
I am looking for a non-Arab girl for marriage, stability, tenderness and love. I am an Arab young man, I am 30 years old
Thank you for filming this Beautiful and informative video 📹❤ I wonder how on earth your personality and your thoughts, the way you understand things is the same as mine whereas I live in another far country ❤but I'm Muslim and you really helped me find my way out. ❤
and at the moment I need this video to watch! Seriously speaking, you guys are really a good one to be psychologist and help the youth to find their way!
Am no where near ready for marriage but here I am one of the first viewers 😂😂
same😂
@@zaynab.a 😂😂
😂
Am single as of now. Nowadays it is not easy to get married in Lebanon.
Daniel Khoury why it isnt easy in Lebanon ?
I am really enjoying your videos, especially these discussions. I imagine that I would love it very much if you were on the radio or have a podcast. Wish you all the best🌟.
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Bruh the title of this video scares me lmao I spent so many years just avoiding the subject and now that I'm getting more okay with it you guys do this to me 😭
I actually think I'm ready ☺️
I just made this super strict timetable for study and stuff and decided to keep off RUclips for a while, but guess what J&D just made another video. My brain immediately " Make exception in your timetable for J&D videos, pronto" And as usual jam packed with really good info. Well done again J&D.
You’re awesome, thank you!!
1.identity 2.finances 3.mentally
Jasmine is a beautiful focus human being and Dawoud is just a prince charming Masha'Allah
A relationship is built on what you and your parter want in life, you learn to compromise, find a balance, so you can both grow and be happy. This can't be possible if you, as an individual, don't know want you want in life to start with. So there will be decisions that you will not be part of as you don't have an opinion to be able to share it, and you can't blame your parter. This is how important it is to know what you want in life before thinking about mariage !! Feel free to disagree :)
Thank you so much for the Video really appreciate it that you take your time and give people advise about these important topics and it is so necessary to know yourself before making a commitment to another person it is such a blessing to get married. Inshallah we all find our soulmates🌹
Can’t wait to watch the video 🥰I love your sit down talking videos
Me too they really make my day haha🥰
Every time u post a video I get all giddy and excited
Yes yes I've been looking for these types of videos for so long! Thanks!
Hello all, you guys made a lot of good points- but it does seem on the perspective of only western society mindset tho. I do sincerely believe that a marriage is more that. Marriage is about,... knowing what each spouse wants in married life, it’s having a clear vision-board, is it okay w/ the husband if the wife shall want to work in their married life whilst contributing her matrimonial? How will we educate our children/ to which schooling, if you’re Muslim “specially Islamic knowledge”? In Islam, yes we do honor marriage, [but what if someone can’t be just, can’t keep the commitment, and/or can’t honor the agreement? And of course, people with different backgrounds n traditions will have different perspectives in terms of how they deal with in marriages issues.] This is why I do think 🤔, having a mature discussions of marriage life with clear vision- with your potential spouse in advance is SO IMPORTANT. However, in line w/ my “what if” line
If someone can’t honor the commitment, it doesn’t really matter if they have all the money in the world, I really don’t see any reason marriage is best for them. And Respectfully that’s My opinion
I’m 22 and about to graduate in the spring and everyone’s in my business about getting married
It’ll come when the right time comes. Dont feel pressured.
Dawoud is the species of man that i haven't met yet. Too much trashbags all around me. I'm suffocating.
Jasmeen dear, you are blessed. May you both love until Jannah.
👏🏽👏🏽 To be HONEST
2 types of guys I know in my life.
Strict guys like the back home culture who depend on their wife and ones who are reckless.
Your just stuck... and sometimes the idea of marriage has left your head
Everyone around me is getting married and I would like to get married but if Allah has not written I ain't going to object !
I can so relate literally everyone is getting married and I actaully don't know if it is becuase of covid or is actaully people ready for it.
Personally I think we should leave it to allah also, it is about who we get married to not about when we are going to get married.
The thing is that I don’t even wanna get married
@zahra saani plus I don’t need a man and I don’t want kids I may adopt but I think I’m better with no one but myself I wanna live with my cousin in a house not with a MAN or KIDS
I'm 20 years old and I really don't know what to think about marriage. I've never really had contact with a boy because it's a sin. I think this move to get married is really awful. Everyone gets it and talks about it. What I still find very strange is that when you want to get to know each other Islamically you ask the other questions about the past present and future. I find it incredibly personal to discuss these things with a stranger. It's things that even my parents don't know and then a stranger boy should know? That's a very scary thought. After all, you don't know if you're getting married to him. What do you think?
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I love how lately they have been posting more and more❤❤❤
My brother is 35 and he's been saying he's ready for marriage for a few years now. He's been "looking for a wife", but like you said it just doesn't happen that way, so he's had no luck so far. These things are really difficult to find.
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Mating 🤣🤣 didn't think this was the Discovery channel 🤣🤣🤣
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Thank you guys for this kind of video with really good points and advices. 👏🏾 I'm totally agree on time will come but sometimes parents put pressure on. And also I'm curious to have you pov on marriage for someone who never dating and dealing with fear? And Jasmine, before Dawoud did you talk to guys respectfully?
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Appreciate your honesty and choice of topics as many of these issues are not discussed in the Muslim community👌🏼
I just realised both of your eye colours. It's really pretty Ma Shaa Allah 😁
I'm not a muslim, but tbh muslim couples often seem so happy and content with life. This video is really beautiful and very wise words ❤ I'm 21 and thinking about marriage, but I also had a classmate who got married at 18, had ger first kid at 19 and now is pregant again (if i remember correctly). She also seems really happy. So as you said, its different for everyone ❤
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Imagine being friend with jasmine in real life 🥰love you gurl and your advice videos.
Wishing both happy long marriage ❤️
Honestly, this is brilliantly said. Big love ❤️
I love all these videos coming out !! Xx 🥳💕💕💕💕💕💕
JazakaALLAH Qayran to both of you for the honest advice. I really needed this.
omg i literally want to be Jasmine’s bestfriend❤️ love you guys !
loved this video! i would love to know more about how to get around letting your parents know that you want marriage and that you want to get to know a certain individual on a more personal level because they are a potential.
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Follow The Sunnah of The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ
ruclips.net/channel/UCvBmEy8FCNtVwLm2RgbCBuw .
Love you bothh !!! Always waiting for your videos !!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
"The guy shouldn't rely on the wife to survive and eat and do laundry because let's say the wife isn't there. You are just going to watch the laundry fold itself." I laughed so hard. This was such an amazing video, thanks sooo much
Marriage isn't about the right age but the right person.
Bro they sound like 90 years old grandpa and grandma giving an advice to humanity Lol😂
But i also thinking theres a big difference between being lost and not being stable. Because when someone is lost, they are still in the searching phase of what they want to do in this world; whereas someone who is not stable may know exactly what he wants to do such as a business or some type of venture and he is pursing that what he wants and because of that, he has a lot going on for himself where isnt stable.
so my issue becomes when women want a man who already "made: where as women should be looking for someone who wants to be a "made man" so they can go through the process together!
other than that, mashaAllah incredible video as always!! jazakaAllah
It wasn't my time, got in early expecting for her to wait. As we were young and so many goals to reach. Didn't work. Big mistake in my life.
Why didn’t it work? She didn’t want to wait?
Insha'allah you'll find the one that's meant for you!
Marriage is made by God to facilitate humans’ growth. People grow and change IN marriage. Not outside of it. It’s meant for humans to let go of their selfishness and become patient. And many more things. Marriage is a school of life that offers so much self growth that nothing else in life can offer. There’s so much friction in personalities and mentality that you can’t help but change. You know when you’re ready to be married? When you meet the right person. Who’s the right person? The one you feel yourself with. God bless you
That was a very supporting video to watch. ❤💕❤