Why Does He Keep Coming Back| But WON'T COMMIT!

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  • Have you been wondering, “Why does he keep coming back if he does not want a relationship?” Do you want to know what it means and what to do?
    This man has been 100% clear with you about not wanting a relationship, but he doesn’t seem to let you go either.
    Humans can be funny sometimes, and we don't know how to react when someone is not doing what we would do. So it can be really hard to understand this guy’s behavior right now.
    One of the professors and authors I love, Robert Cialdini says that we have a fear of losing something that belongs to us. So this man thinks that he owns you, even if it's on a subconscious level, and because he feels like he owns you he doesn't want another man to come and take his place. He wants to make sure that you'll be around if he ever feels like being with you. He has all the power in this situation, and that is why he's acting like this. He wants to keep you close.
    He might be a great guy, but it’s simple human nature to never let go of something that we own. He knows about your feelings for him, so the best thing you can do is leave. Make sure you aren't putting him on a pedestal. If not, he will keep coming back and making sure you still have feelings for him, only to leave again.
    You have the power to change the situation if you change your actions. If you can change your approach and you take him off the pedestal, he will start to view you as an attractive challenge that he wants to pursue!
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Комментарии • 602

  • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
    @FrenchRelationshipExpert  5 лет назад +89

    Are you going through this now? Tell me about your story below...

    • @hafsakhan8533
      @hafsakhan8533 5 лет назад +6

      I love him so much there's a long distance relationship wo knows each other since 3 year he always used to say i am only one that he loved but there's a third party he's has a relationship with her he cheated on me i love him so much but he doesn't block me last night he called me and wanted to talk me we didn't talk each other 1 and half month i need your help🙏

    • @mdreels8151
      @mdreels8151 5 лет назад +2

      Yes I m right now suffering from a guy called Laxman solanki , his doing same the way u said and he wants to take control over me

    • @louisedinocorino6893
      @louisedinocorino6893 5 лет назад +1

      I am going through it , need help on what to do .

    • @mizqtie1895
      @mizqtie1895 5 лет назад +4

      my babies father did this we dated as soon as i fell pregnant he left me, i was emotionally drained it was a tough time so for 18 months it was back and fourth, him always wanting to know if i was still single all the time so he would still lead me on and despite me deep down knowing what he was doing i allowed it because i knew he had a new gf and i at first was carrying his baby and then had a daughter to him, he did say to me i "own" you and i replied no you dont nobody owns me but me, so once i got strong enough i walked away i told him i don't want to be his friend and i never wanted to hear from him again unless he apologized for his actions and communicated with me, well isn't it funny it's been over 6 months since i said that and since i heard from him,, he also refused to sign the birth certificate so i also dragged him through court for child support.

    • @aranacha27rose98
      @aranacha27rose98 5 лет назад +6

      Been there he's chasing me 12 years still 😁👍😂👌😊🕯️🎉🎈🎊🎊🎊

  • @breeramsey899
    @breeramsey899 5 лет назад +402

    Sometimes the person you want most is the person your best without.
    Thanks Alex

  • @carolloraine223
    @carolloraine223 5 лет назад +170

    Control.
    They get bored and check in to see if they can get away with their power trip.
    Lose a Loser and move on!!
    Thank you....you're right on!!

  • @TarannumKhatriCA
    @TarannumKhatriCA 4 года назад +73

    I finally left him. Coming back again and again and so manipulation. It was hard. But today i am happy without him. Ladies dont waste time on jerks. This type of guys never commit.

    • @TarannumKhatriCA
      @TarannumKhatriCA 4 года назад +11

      Update: He texted me yesterday but I did not reply. I did not want him back nor wanted to be kept by somebody as option. Thanks to this wonderful video

    • @socol76
      @socol76 Год назад

      @@TarannumKhatriCA are you fully free of him now

  • @nicolebrowne3632
    @nicolebrowne3632 4 года назад +61

    Yes , I learned my lesson with my ex, after 3 years , he came back and after two months spending time together he tells me he doesn’t want a relationship with nobody right now . Why come into someone’s life to mess it up again ? Men are so full of bs , and I’m going to start being my old self play the same game

  • @sanandasen1011
    @sanandasen1011 4 года назад +41

    Yes I am going through a similar situation. He doesn't want a relationship but when I want to end this he doesn't want to leave

    • @el-hp1lj
      @el-hp1lj 2 года назад +2

      same only opposite. She is in a relationship with another guy after she chose him over me, but comes to me every few months with long texts how she misses me. Im so sick of it and it always knocks me back when im moving forward. Hardest thing to do was block someone who meant the world to me

    • @I.Z.Official
      @I.Z.Official 5 месяцев назад

      He was interested then suddenly did a 180 and said he just needs a friend right now. But he kept calling even though I decided to walk away. What good is it just be a phone friend?

  • @MG-bq1uk
    @MG-bq1uk 4 года назад +68

    Thank you! Now I finally know why! It all makes sense now. He's feeding his ego. Life is too short and I'm not a revolving door nor a door mat! He came back but this time I told him: " I'm not your backup plan, side dish nor friends with benefits! Keep your bread crumbs! This time you are not going to string me along nor waste my time! I deserve better! Bye!"

  • @thaiscorby
    @thaiscorby 5 лет назад +157

    In my case, I know exactly why he keeps coming back. It’s for the same reason I keep taking him back: amazing sex, amazing chemistry. Hard to let go.

    • @classykisses9654
      @classykisses9654 4 года назад +8

      U nailed it!!!!!

    • @phetsilemdluli8918
      @phetsilemdluli8918 4 года назад +5

      Same here 🤞

    • @Queen_EL11
      @Queen_EL11 3 года назад +3

      Whew! How are you now? Did you finally let go?

    • @societiesscapegoat8715
      @societiesscapegoat8715 3 года назад +25

      Unfortunately sex alone doesn’t quench the thirst for real and deeper intimacy. These dudes wanna dip in the lady pond and enjoy the benefits of having access, without the responsibility of catering to your ♥️and emotional needs. Ladies, keep ya legs closed to these energy vampires, even when the kitty cats purring lol.

    • @florencengaruiya8724
      @florencengaruiya8724 3 года назад +1

      Same here

  • @ericad8412
    @ericad8412 4 года назад +25

    This guy literally seemed to be my dream made reality. A handsome professional and he said he wanted to date casually. I told him I would not sleep with someone until I knew they wanted a relationship and I walked away.
    I'd rather be by myself than wait for anyone to see my value.

  • @anaghaghadge9722
    @anaghaghadge9722 5 лет назад +36

    Exactly as u said, he was very much into the relationship, trying to chase me, adore me, the moment I started loving him back,put him on pedestal... He took me for granted... Looking out for other girls simultaneously... Meanwhile not leaving me and constantly coming back... 🙄🙄

  • @simi6152
    @simi6152 4 года назад +35

    I believe it's because you look lonely and he thinks that you are desperate for him. You are more important than him! Be confident and have the right guy pursue you and not be a 2nd choice.

    • @skyfall1481
      @skyfall1481 2 года назад

      Don’t discount his feelings. He is bored and lonely. He doesn’t want you to forget about him, he doesn’t want one less option. Anxiety kicks in and they shoot off a message!

  • @linhtrinh5730
    @linhtrinh5730 5 лет назад +75

    I’m so done with him. I’ve already found ‘my man and my soulmate’ now... thanks JT. You’re the one for me 😍🤗

  • @sydneystewart6494
    @sydneystewart6494 4 года назад +21

    We broke up, he said he’s accepted that I’ll move on, however he continues to live with me. He basically wants the benefits of a relationship without working for it.

  • @linhtrinh5730
    @linhtrinh5730 5 лет назад +48

    I totally understand why KTLy does that cuz he wants ‘total control’ of me and he thinks he ‘owns’ me. He’s very manipulative and thinks I will bow to him and always listen to him... he’s so wrong!!!

  • @tkoborny
    @tkoborny 4 года назад +37

    I think we just don't want to let go of the hope that he will suddenly decide we are worth a commitment. I't won't ever happen.

    • @dickbanger8924
      @dickbanger8924 4 года назад +4

      At last one who is waking up. Well you have 2 choices enjoy the fun. Or go through it all again with someone else. Commitment is dead.

    • @annc7739
      @annc7739 3 года назад +1

      Yeah, that’s what I did. Learned the hard way though.

    • @Donique_23
      @Donique_23 3 года назад

      Yup thats it

    • @zizi9028
      @zizi9028 3 года назад

      This is so true..

  • @zeldadavids6074
    @zeldadavids6074 5 лет назад +22

    Thank you for this insight. I have a man like that and I'm not putting up with it anymore. He wanna see me when it suits him every other week. Decided to ignore him. I'm valuable so why can't he treat me accordingly. He's been doing the contact now wanting to see me.

  • @DC-se3vr
    @DC-se3vr 5 лет назад +35

    Ah you know I never realized I acted this way because we were not equals. But now that we are I feel my situation may change. Because I’m different. I know that I am a catch. I hold my head high. And live my life.

  • @shathaatiya7884
    @shathaatiya7884 5 лет назад +3

    You are so right. This is exactly what is happening in my relationship for past 4 yrs! He says hello or how are you in text and disappear! I’m So happy to hear from him that I answer and offer so much love and miss him messages which he won’t comment on!!!

    • @vickywells6386
      @vickywells6386 5 лет назад +2

      I so understand. This is happening to me. It's such a hurtful thing to do to someone .. when you are being so genuine and true to them .. and have special feelings for them. It's been 2 weeks for me too. I can't understand these games being played. Good luck

  • @nickifar
    @nickifar 4 года назад +10

    Yeah Alex . I loved a guy and he was trying for having me at first and then when he realized i fell for him he stopped trying and started sending mixed signals . I wasn’t that strong 8 months ago and i really tried to have him back even though i knew inside that he is playing with me . I couldn’t stop my self . It was an obsession and I could not get him out of my head . But after that i started working on myself more and try to focus on my life . After about 5 months i finally could get him out of my mind and out of a sudden he reappeared two days ago at my door step trying to see if he has the power over me yet . And watching him like that wasn’t nice . I felt petty for him and i think guys who are doing this stuff have lack of confidence. It is not just the feel of power and owning someone .

  • @sara10702
    @sara10702 2 года назад +2

    I feel that we waste too much of our time with people who don't even have a few seconds to text you back. Sometimes the best thing to do is the hardest. Let go. Stopped being used. He or she is a narc. They are not worth it. Period.

  • @tawnimarie1402
    @tawnimarie1402 3 года назад +2

    Going through now and just let a guy go yesterday that was low effort and didn't want a relationship. He wanted to keep me around for an ego boost and I cut those ties. Feeling great. It'll be a while before I pursue another relationship, because I love the freedom that I'm in

  • @stellas.8106
    @stellas.8106 5 лет назад +4

    Thank you for being so honest.. It's a very important thing you're talking about and very helpful. Hope lot of you gorgeous ladies outside there are watching this... 💋💋💋💋💕💕💕

  • @tugzsurf
    @tugzsurf 4 года назад +3

    I told him it’s to confusing so I left. I told him you want to be alone that’s ok. Go do you but I don’t want this the way it is. So multiple times I told him I don’t want to do this this way. We finally said take care. I felt like I was on sideline. I feel they are selfish and only want you when they want you. I want something real not fake. To me when someone really cares about you they won’t treat you this way.

    • @dickbanger8924
      @dickbanger8924 4 года назад

      No man will ever commit in this day and age divorce is not worth the risk no matter how much of a heaven sent angel you are. And just look at how unhappy you are now because things are not going your way do you think commitment and marriage is going to be all your way? I highly doubt it, you a sure case for a divorce in my opinion its wise if he bolts.

  • @kathleenwharton2139
    @kathleenwharton2139 5 лет назад +5

    People Need Love! But they also Need Safety and Freedom. Too many relationships..turn into power struggles..as each tries to maintain a heathly state of being for themselves. If someone in the relationship needs to be controlled..or one of them gets controlling..it is Not going to work. People Do Not Committ because they fear that their safety or freedom will be jeopardized.

  • @LeahJustyceArtGallery
    @LeahJustyceArtGallery 5 лет назад +2

    Indeed. Ownership. No thanks.

  • @samrudhipawar4601
    @samrudhipawar4601 3 года назад +1

    We broke up, he said he’s accepted that I’ll move on, however he continues to live with me. He basically wants the benefits of a relationship without working for it... and it's LDR

  • @donkelly3114
    @donkelly3114 5 лет назад +12

    This message is not for only ladies same thing happened to me as a man my ex girlfriend left me to another man posting their photo on social media for me to see i just pretended I see nothing i stop calling her after about one month of no communication she want to come back to me i ignore her calls and message for 3 days she was wondering what is going on the 4th day I respond to her now she back with me she started hurting me again by flirting with diferent guys this is the time to cut her ass off finally I hate nonsense

  • @rimamore1926
    @rimamore1926 2 года назад

    Going through the same the guy keeps coming back and shows interest but runs away from commitment .. leaving for good this time

  • @user-pn6qh7nk5q
    @user-pn6qh7nk5q 3 года назад

    We women deserve better! Ladies.. the guy that wants a relationship and is trying really hard... we ignore.... lets rather give these guys a chance.

  • @lenlar6
    @lenlar6 Год назад

    Thank You! You confirmed what I already know. You don’t want to waste Your time. ❤

  • @silvialopes2623
    @silvialopes2623 5 лет назад +8

    It explains, but not justifies. He is simply a narcissist, selfish person, who pretends to be a Nice guy. He doesnt know anything about love. Put him in a pedestal is his way of viewing things and deceive me. Loving him, despite his flaws is not an Illusion. In fact, He knows He is not worthy of this love, knows He is unable to reciprocate, than He sabbotages himself. Usually, Go to an inferior woman, where He can do It ALL over again. But now, He Will pretend better for not loose again. Immature Men ! Plain and simple.

  • @lenolayimchungeryimchunger2152
    @lenolayimchungeryimchunger2152 5 лет назад +2

    I was always happy ..n always there to say yes ..n very open n showed how much I love him when he don't 😭.. thank you sir for your video

  • @newbeginnings1543
    @newbeginnings1543 5 лет назад +5

    Thank you Alex I did not know about the possession thing. Now that I know that I understand.

  • @ladyo7635
    @ladyo7635 3 года назад +2

    I've had the "talk" too many times. We have been off and on for years! I finally got serious and started healing myself. I wanted more so I left. He came back offered me bare minimum and I rejected his offer but we remained friends without benefits and eventually I got the courage to cut him off completely. I know I deseve more and I'm going to get just that. I'm I sad yes, do I miss him yes but I don't miss the confusion or lack of effort. I'd rather take my chances with someone else then to continue being disappointmented. If he can show and prove to me he's willing to make an effort I'll try it out. But it would have to be clear communication. I'm a high value woman and I'm getting all I want.

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  3 года назад +1

      Thank you for this comment. Continue to stay strong and focused.

    • @ladyo7635
      @ladyo7635 3 года назад

      @@FrenchRelationshipExpert And thank you for your videos. They are helping me through this journey and healing process.

    • @purplesoul9927
      @purplesoul9927 3 года назад

      Congratulations you're worth it🥳😊

  • @MissRandom077
    @MissRandom077 4 года назад

    I'm glad I found this. I'm going through this now, he thinks he can buy my time, so stupid, he wants to purchase me a home, he paid my car note and pays my bills. I know he does this because of guilt. I have to be honest and say being a kept girl by him allows me to save my money, however, I'm over the back and forth I deserve a man who is available emotionally. I thought about the no contact but I will rather be done with him altogether. My feelings towards him are now turning into dislike and I'm avoiding his phone calls, it's challenging but I'm staying strong.

  • @anaghaghadge9722
    @anaghaghadge9722 5 лет назад +4

    U r really amazing 🤗🤗ND thank u sooo much for giving our power back to us! 😘

  • @jennisemohd5788
    @jennisemohd5788 4 года назад +1

    He asked me if I love him n there he gone again i told him there is nun left for me to fight for.

  • @ansley.randall
    @ansley.randall 8 месяцев назад

    Since may this guy keeps coming back. And he went away for 3 months and came back to apologize, but mentioned wanting to date again. I asked what he means. It’s the same thing. He is too busy with work and I need to get settle in my business. So ignored him. I am so tired of not feeling like I am enough…and being so available

  • @daniabame8720
    @daniabame8720 5 лет назад +14

    When he came back this time, I sense change. He is more open to hear my decisions & actually wants to be a part of my life as much as he can, without stating his points, he is calm & peaceful this time . As the first time, we broke up it was because I wanted more and he was satisfied with level 1. But, now I feel he is ready to go to step 2. So, I think i’ll stay patient & take baby steps as he might be waiting for certain things in his life to settle down before involving someone else. So, Alex, if you can suggest things to do during this time to keep him hooked, besides supporting him. I would appreciate that. Thanks.

    • @Beauzesta
      @Beauzesta 3 года назад +1

      Did you stay together? X

  • @karenw5044
    @karenw5044 4 года назад +1

    Wow! Alex this is so correct but confusing! This man tells me he loves me, I am his soulmate and he doesn't want me to shut the door on us etc. He has even mentioned marriage many times but he doesn't want a relationship because of financial issues. This leaves him free to do what he wants. This makes no sense to me. Now I have recently blocked him everywhere and am moving on. I know I have done the right thing but it is difficult to accept I will not have him in my life anymore.

  • @maerose5053
    @maerose5053 5 лет назад +1

    I like your positive advice and your interaction with your watchers.

  • @nuwar3564
    @nuwar3564 5 лет назад +3

    Oh Alex you are so right, yet it’s so hard!! I need help!!!!

  • @Cararara1987
    @Cararara1987 5 лет назад +4

    I love this your amazing Haha Ive been seeing a guy for 18 months he doesn't want a relationship but wont let me go.. checks my phone.. etc etc he knows I love him too. I'm stuck 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  5 лет назад +1

      You're NOT stuck... You can change your mind and your vision of love. Please download this free ebook: www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/free-ebook/

  • @anuradhasarkar7280
    @anuradhasarkar7280 4 года назад

    This is sad, but so true..

  • @dianepopnick5850
    @dianepopnick5850 3 года назад

    I told him I didn't want anything to do with him. I never spoke to him again because nobody uses me as a pawn to manipulate.

    • @purplesoul9927
      @purplesoul9927 3 года назад

      Congratulations and good for you🥳😊

  • @dannij7081
    @dannij7081 2 года назад

    I really don’t care anymore. But one thing’s for sure, “PLEASE DO NOT COME BACK!” “I’m GOOD and at PEACE!”

  • @anup6985
    @anup6985 Год назад

    In a similar situation but just able to give up and get out as I am in love with the guy.

  • @haniyahpalala8672
    @haniyahpalala8672 5 лет назад +5

    I just love all ur advise sir .

  • @jdee9844
    @jdee9844 5 лет назад +2

    Alex, I love your videos and your approach. My ex told me to find someone who can devote more time (dated for a year, dumped by text!) I immediately went NC. He’s very friendly and flirts when he sees me out socialising and said we should catch up. We exchanged a few texts, some months ago. He said he’d call - but never did. He got very jealous when he saw me with another guy more recently and tried to get my attention in a very obvious way. I gave him a quick hello, but was too focused on the guy I was with and only had eyes for him. He was different towards me. Didn’t flirt, but kept staring. I’m busy, getting on with my life, working on myself and dating other guys. I still feel a bit hurt, but doing pretty good. I’ve also been confident and classy as ever when I've seen him.
    Why does he flirt, or act jealous? If he wanted to rekindle he would contact me (not that I could ever trust him again and I’m not prepared to be an ‘option’)
    I would love to understand Alex and hear your perspective!

    • @embody_love_and_light5236
      @embody_love_and_light5236 5 лет назад

      He's jealous of you and your happiness. Cut that cancer out of your life.

    • @jdee9844
      @jdee9844 5 лет назад

      He is out of my life. I don’t understand why it would bother him to see me happy. He had his chance!

    • @mizzcrazygal
      @mizzcrazygal 2 года назад

      omg my ex told me the same thing lmfao he said pls meet someone else then i went NC after he left me then a month later he text me and i told him i met someone else and he cried so much. well this is third time he dumped me and he told me to meet someone else again lol men r sooooooo weird

  • @ella...
    @ella... 5 лет назад +3

    I really need this video. Thanks for this Alex.

  • @jenyce
    @jenyce 5 лет назад

    It’s so clear. I am learning more and more, only wish I learned this about men along time ago.

  • @merselinoliguori1930
    @merselinoliguori1930 5 лет назад +4

    I really had to laugh because this is what is happening with me

  • @Dskyx
    @Dskyx 4 года назад

    I am exactly at the situation you mentioned in this video and has been going for more than 4-5 years that I don't really see it as healthy anymore. Thanks for the answer and the downloaded free e-book, it makes me aware or else I would be "love blind" all the times.

  • @Mixedbeauty11
    @Mixedbeauty11 3 года назад

    I’m glad you made this Viedo, I’m actually going through this right now. Long story short, I known this guy since High School. He had a huge crush on me but never asked me out. He would pop in out of my life now stop the past few years up untill now. Fast forward we’re friends on Facebook. Last year, he lied and told me he had an girlfriend after he told me we could hangout. He begin messaging me on Instagram, I confronted him I said why did you lie to me saying you had a gf. Didn’t get an response, his Instagram was deleted. He message me yesterday saying come over and watch a movie with me. You’re so cute. I told him maybe another time. I been very busy, I’m like what does he want!. When he never asked me to be his gf

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  3 года назад

      Stay strong you deserve to be in a happy relationship! It sounds like he is not ready to provide you what you want.

  • @josephinevaldez1720
    @josephinevaldez1720 5 лет назад

    Yes ....leave is the solution without his knowing

  • @camillacooper-smith8184
    @camillacooper-smith8184 5 лет назад +6

    Hi..I hav seen this guy for 12mths and every time I try to leave cos he says he cant do a relationship..he crawls back..this time Im over it..I still love him but what u say sounds right..thank you

  • @esmeeruis4871
    @esmeeruis4871 5 лет назад

    I cut it quits with him... told him that I no longer want to see him or talk to him... he did not understand... but he accepted it. I erased his number and unfollowed him... he still follows me... and I feel terrible. I don’t know if he thinks of me or will fight for me.... it’s so hard every day to let him go

  • @princessyasmin830
    @princessyasmin830 5 лет назад +4

    Hi dea... i went through all ur video's... it helped me a lot. And u almost answered all my questions . Tons of thanks .. Tq so so so much... 💛

  • @lenolayimchungeryimchunger2152
    @lenolayimchungeryimchunger2152 5 лет назад +2

    Omg.... I was questioning to myself 😭😭 this

  • @katchamediaentertainment359
    @katchamediaentertainment359 3 года назад

    I left him and we both agreed to work things out. He just doesn't want to commit. I'm confused!

  • @simonesequeira2459
    @simonesequeira2459 4 года назад

    My guy of 6years has left me for the 2nd or 3rd time he ends up coming back..... i dont want to give in this time if he comes........ but will giving time of about a year work things out between us .... i love him..

  • @bertagco9154
    @bertagco9154 5 лет назад +52

    cute,
    but he doesn't want a relationship.. byeeee..
    Plenty humans on the planet .

  • @lyubomirafashion
    @lyubomirafashion 4 года назад

    THANK YOU again Alex 🧚‍♀️ You always give to the women power to be smart her than the man 🧚‍♀️

  • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
    @AmaLoveGoddessTV 5 лет назад +10

    Ego boost. That is all!

  • @CrystalDatingCoach
    @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад

    Because you ALLOW him to come back and USE you.

  • @eaglelikeindependent1596
    @eaglelikeindependent1596 5 лет назад +4

    I had been with a guy who love me and never want to see me with other guy, always wanting to meet me despite of having his own girlfriend...still get jealous of me

  • @ninaahsan8543
    @ninaahsan8543 5 лет назад +3

    Exactly this is my situation. He was so close in beginning. Then cold. And said he cant give love. Stay friends forever. I accepted as i didnt want to loose him. But it hurts me. But he is hot and cold. Sometimes suddenly he srnds me kisses. And sometime reads and no response. I dont know what to do. I stay silent for three days but then i get afraid that maybe i will loose him.

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  5 лет назад +2

      If he is meant for you, you will not lose him.

    • @tubisa0234
      @tubisa0234 4 года назад

      It's excatly excatly as mine how is it now are you together?

  • @leonardascorpius5304
    @leonardascorpius5304 5 лет назад +1

    Biggest irony of all!! So many men on dating app profiles demand that women "have NO drama", yet who is the one creating the confusion and playing mind games that are the root of most (not all) breakups, headaches, and for many, highly heated arguments?!! MEN: There are so many other ways to create passion and reinvigorate your relationships!! If you're so smart, use that brain of yours!! Women are not that difficult to figure out!! If you have doubts, ask the females around you!! Read up on stuff written by women about women's needs. Bottom line: Use humor, love notes, send meaningful texts out of the blue that are very intimate, dress and smell nice, travel near and far with her, get a couples' massage...she will be game for ANYTHING if she is still attractive to you, no matter how tough she comes across. JUST DO IT!!

    • @classykisses9654
      @classykisses9654 4 года назад

      Leonarda Scorpius Exactly! Wonderful advice ❤️

  • @rebeccajones8628
    @rebeccajones8628 3 года назад

    My question exactly....

  • @biancaaranguren1139
    @biancaaranguren1139 5 лет назад +1

    Makes so much sense

  • @HiKasandra
    @HiKasandra 5 лет назад +1

    I definitely have seen this behaviour previously with men with a gf.

  • @kellyspicer1307
    @kellyspicer1307 4 года назад +1

    Its been one big circle after another. I finally blocked him today. No more of this crap.

  • @daydreamer6348
    @daydreamer6348 4 года назад

    Im just having nightmares and excruciating pain is just unbearable..
    we met 3 months ago we felt the chemistry and strong connection. made love. Then he got scared ran away for a month and came back telling he wants to stay friend yet he was back and forth and sometimes wanted sexuality. Last time he said you’re like my sister we’re over those topics if you can’t handle we don’t have to keep talking. I said im not your sidechick sad that you showed my worth in your eyes” he said “ you are good person” and we didn’t speak again for days now.. im just shattered to pieces..

  • @jennierokoro2574
    @jennierokoro2574 4 года назад +1

    He always come back and apologise but once I forgive him ,he make me feel like am the one the next thing I wount see him again after some months he still come back again and I just find out that there is another woman in his life it's so heart breaking

  • @air2141
    @air2141 5 лет назад

    Before he just takes me for granted,but then I change and told him I dont really know my feelings for him and eventually I broke up with him,and he cries in front of me don't want to let go

  • @RupyAvaani
    @RupyAvaani 5 лет назад

    This is great you ask all the right questions!

  • @nourake341
    @nourake341 4 года назад

    your words are so shokingly trueeeeee I found your channel too late :( I wasted 8 years with that guy

  • @aliyarahman85
    @aliyarahman85 5 лет назад +1

    Thanks Alex, for letting me realise that I have been an emotional slave

  • @Miriam-ul4ke
    @Miriam-ul4ke 4 года назад

    This does not work with dismissive avoidants, they don't chase. X

  • @shalenys8420
    @shalenys8420 5 лет назад +2

    Lol, its soo funny ure exact video title pops up with my atm feelings..😂

  • @MonicaGarcia-uv3yg
    @MonicaGarcia-uv3yg 5 лет назад

    He gave me mixed signals, didn’t show up to our 3rd date, ignored me for a week, said he wasn’t interested in me anymore and then left me dry. He basically led me on. I tried my best to move on, now it’s 5 months later and he added me back on social media and messaged me. I haven’t opened up the message and idk what to do...

  • @komalgupta895
    @komalgupta895 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you coach this vudeo is very helpful and I found my answer what to do in this situation

  • @payalpatel3163
    @payalpatel3163 4 года назад +1

    It’s because he doesn’t want a relationship with you but wants to access the fringe benefits such as sex, ego boost, validation

    • @dickbanger8924
      @dickbanger8924 4 года назад

      Just sex we dont care about the other crap

  • @mifasola1
    @mifasola1 5 лет назад +4

    I am a widow and been involved for the past 8 months with a married man. He ghosts me for 2 or 3 weeks at a time. He knows I feel strongly for him but lately in between our friends with benefits relationship I'm beginning to distance myself emotionally from him. I'm realizing that it is not in my best interest. Eventually I think this is going to fade away and i won't make myself available to him for much longer. It's getting old...so am I.

  • @cyndykenzy643
    @cyndykenzy643 4 года назад +2

    He left me for another woman and still don't want to let me go...whenever I ask him if he is still with that woman he says yes but he is not ready to leave me..he keeps saying that he will come back to me...what do I do I'v tried to forget about him but its hard for me

    • @afsanashaikh7678
      @afsanashaikh7678 4 года назад +3

      You are actually hurting ur self . Block him from everywhere . Trust me . Think why don't you want him . About the pains he gave you . Let ur mind accept it completely and then move onn . He is just a player . Playing with ur emotions .
      Take ur self away asap

    • @afsanashaikh7678
      @afsanashaikh7678 4 года назад +2

      Simple if he wants you or if he loved you he wouldn't hv cheated you at allll.

  • @richagupta834
    @richagupta834 4 года назад

    Alex this was ur best video .. it really tells the truth

  • @naziaali4814
    @naziaali4814 5 лет назад +2

    Ohhh I love with a French man since two years , we love each other too much , but I don't know why he is silent I suffering same situation when he want he is comeback for me n when he want he is disappear without sharing me this is a very painful situation for me when he come back manifesting love emotions I don't understand what can I do for this because I really love for him very difficult for me I leave this person he broke my heart he shattered my trust I don't know why he is not saying goodbye I have unfinished business with him💔💔💔💔😢😢😢😢

  • @mjsia8873
    @mjsia8873 4 года назад

    true their is always a mystery about the guy... he said start to find soneone else n yet he ask me to come with him into his vacation to my country.. tgen when i talk to someone joking around and he said dont joke around.. he wanted me to watch out he maybe take advantage of me... i don't understand why his so concern n yet he wanted me to find new love... n he keep on giving me concern. men crazy

  • @minakshishahare2941
    @minakshishahare2941 2 года назад

    this happned with me from past 10yrs! i ruined my 10yrs of my life m 27 now

  • @sgtinachannel
    @sgtinachannel 4 года назад

    Thank you so much Alex, Now I understood my situation about him. 💪🙏❤

  • @riiyapras1672
    @riiyapras1672 5 лет назад +3

    Alex i m in relation with a guy for 9 yrs its a distance relation somexthird party has entered his life but when i want to leave him he keeps chasing me n attract me with his sweet talks wat shall i do please help me i m so depressed i want to go back but feel so insecure with this man now hes not the same anymore he avoids me ignores me n makes excuses that hes busy with his work but i knw where hes spending his time but still hes after me wat does he want ?? PLS HELP

  • @Rj_0430
    @Rj_0430 5 лет назад

    I can relate this advise of you Alex., this what happening to me., the guy I really like doesn’t like commitment but then he’s always coming back.☹️

  • @I.Z.Official
    @I.Z.Official 5 месяцев назад

    He was acting interested, then did a 180 and says he not ready for a relationship but keeps calling me. What is going on , French relationship expert?

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  5 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much for reaching out to us about this! I know Coach Alex would love to help you with this but he would need to know a little more about what you're going through in order to help you through this.
      I would highly recommend you book a coaching session with him using this link:
      www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
      -FRE Team

  • @RupyAvaani
    @RupyAvaani 5 лет назад

    This is what is happening here the power has switched since having my second child with him

  • @anuradhafernando6431
    @anuradhafernando6431 4 года назад

    Thank you alex for your words...its true..now i am know my situation...i am always keeping him on pedestal 😁 it is the reason

  • @Leoradumezweni
    @Leoradumezweni 2 года назад +1

    We broke up months ago and he decided to come back again saying that he wants to be in a relationship with me again also making the means to take me out in order for him to ask for love backs and after 3days of us dating yet again he tells me he cheated and doesn't think he's ready to commit even though he was the one who insisted on us getting back together

  • @lenolayimchungeryimchunger2152
    @lenolayimchungeryimchunger2152 5 лет назад +1

    Thank you ..this video is really helpful for me ..

  • @annc7739
    @annc7739 3 года назад

    I don’t think he (my crush) will ever come back to me again after his ex blocked me from replying to him on Messenger which then made me block him back and unfriended him for good this time without giving him any explanation because what other choice did I have? His actions told me that he never liked me enough to commit. He only liked the attention, comfort, and validation I was giving him. Some “friend” he was....made me realize he never wanted to build a genuine relationship with me, he was only a user who pretended to be a “good friend”. At the same time, I wish I could’ve let him see that I was worthy. His loss though.

  • @millymilly8097
    @millymilly8097 5 лет назад +5

    Omg, I just here Pepe le Pew, I can not concentrate on anything he is saying!! 😂😂❤️🦡

  • @saniayousaf6858
    @saniayousaf6858 5 лет назад

    Soo true. He got married n after 5 month he came back n texting n calling me I was much stupid at that period Alex really u opened my eyes thnx I weap a lot for his cheap behavior. Thnx Alex.