*If you’re always available, it can send the message that you don’t value your own time or priorities. Striking a balance between showing interest and living your own life is key; it keeps the dynamic fresh and shows that you’re someone worth pursuing!*
Number four is 100% correct. I do that all the time when I first start dating someone. Send a text, then put the phone down and do some dishes, fix the bed, go for a walk, etc. Or, if you can’t put your phone down, at least don’t immediately respond.
Seems odd to me to text a question to someone and not be available for the answer. (Not that we always need to be near our phones, but the person who initiates a text should be available to read a responsive reply.)
@@northernlight4614correct and they do smell that kind of shit, if she send something first though, then you can take some time to reply, not text her first and when she responds relatively quickly to put her on pause, it’s so stupid
Number two can happen if, let’s say, you’re on a date, and you see something fun, like a poster, or a restaurant, or a place that looks interesting, and you can say, maybe we can check that out sometime in the future? You don’t have to nail down a time and date. But you can definitely say you’re interested.
Jim u are my top three coaches, you are really spot on. These are not pick up artistry games.. This is just good relationship skills. It even works in business too!! Don’t be a needy •••k! Make them show interest 1st. Then let her come validate herself. Don’t kiss anyone’s ••s… Thanks Jim I really really appreciate you!! Thanks again Jim!! -Coach rOwDy 😊
Encourage positive behavior, discourage negative behavior. But yes whenever I have in the past show interest and too much, it might get a positive result for a few days but eventually they get bored. So if she’s really submissive and in her feminine and cheesy, sure give her some, but don’t do it if she’s cold or if she’s just giving you bare minimum, just will push the cat further away
Sorry, not Sorry! I think some of these points are BS… For me, I appreciate help and quick answers from a man. Further, I feel this is like playing games. Honesty, Loyalty and helpfullnes is very important!
Really? Well as a man in my 40s I don't feel like playing games. If I want to help I'll help. I recently helped though and she was playing games with me. So we do have to be careful about this.
Yes some of them I feel like they are playing games and I'm not trying to play I know these are secular videos I'm a Christian so I just get the good in the bad some of the stuff he was talking about was true but I'm not trying to go after the women that are playing games I want to be friends with the woman first and then see where it goes but I'm not going to play games!
Why Being TOO AVAILABLE Kills Female Interest (and what to do about it)... 1. It affects your value and standing in her mind (in other words the way she perceives your value as a potential mate) 2. Puts relationship PRESSURE into your connection 3. YOUR interest in a woman doesn't raise HER interest 4. SHE tends to fall in love SLOWER 5. Healthy relationships have boundaries 6. Asks HER to make your life good vs. YOU sharing your AWESOME life with her 7. If a woman has zero romantic interest in you, it doesn't matter if you're available or not If you're too available, it puts her interest at risk. If she's not interested, it doesn't matter if you're available or not. If you're too available in the early stages of dating, you ALWAYS LOSE. You're you're NOT too available, you always win, because if she's interested, you're not putting that at risk and allowing her interest to grow. And if she isn't interested, then it doesn't matter anyway. How not to be too available: 1. Don't ask her out again if she declines without making a counter-offer (another day if she can't on the day you propose). Play it cool, then wait for her to reach out, or wait 4 - 8 days and try asking her out once more time. If she declines again without a counter-offer, move on. 2. If you're on a date, DO NOT ask her for another date while you're still on that date. Disappear for a bit, let her wonder, let her call you. Her interest grows in the fertile ground between dates when you're not contacting her. 3. Don't stare at your phone waiting for her text/call. Live your life, ask her out when you're ready. You're an awesome guy - act like it. 4. Reply to her text, then go do something else for a while. Do not be predictable - sometimes you can respond right away, other times respond later (30 mins to 3 hours later). Don't text back and forth too much/all day long. 5. Don't always reply to her immediately. Call her back in a few hours, or the next day. Be busy. If you're always available, it lowers your standing, your value, and lowers her interest. Don't ALWAYS the same amount of time to reply, be unpredictable. 6. Don't ask to hang out on a weekend or a holiday until she brings it up. Weekends are for your established friends and hobbies, holidays are for family and are heavy days. Let her ask about weekends, then propose a date. 7. If she asks you to hang out today, make a counter-offer instead of accepting (tomorrow instead?). You're an awesome guy - she can wait until tomorrow.
If there's an equal interest then don't play games. Conversation is conversation whether it's by phone or by text and if you're having one don't disappear or purposely ignore and wait a certain amount of time to respond. Just be real and if she's not interested she would let you know if she is mature enough and if she isn't then your intuition will tell you and you should always listen. I don't understand these rules or what seem like games to attract get back or lure in interest from someone. Energies should match and if they don't then that should be enough to know weather to move forward or move on. Seems that most of the advice on this topic whether it be two men or two women includes the reality and aspects of human nature but advises ways to manipulate the situation according to what's known about the opposite sex is nature which in turn is calculated and and doesn't seem authentic or even to work the way one might expect. Please just be yourself and show up authentically. Anything less is disrespect for her and yourself.
Dont think u guys understand some dynamics going on today. For instance, im here because my situation is that a girl and I were showing reciprocal interest for awhile, texting, talking, smiling/looks at each other etc. yet the more we texted I noticed she would go at most days without responding while I continued to respond at a decent time. The dynamic is off, she gets the impression my availability is weakness while it is just kindness, you lose your value in the persons eyes and you must remind them your availability is not neediness but genuine interest in relationship. It is not a “game” to remind your girl in this unspoken form that they dont have you on a leash, that you are not some dog waiting to receive their bone whenever they see fit. Its not a game to position yourself in a place to receive your dignity/self-respect and send a message to your partner that you will accept nothing less or call it quits. Its placing boundaries & standards
After stumbling across this video I realize it’s always been me that was the issue. Every single relationship that ended was my fault. Just too available and lost of interest and eventually just being cheated on. All this has led me to develop unhealthy expectations and habits in a relationship. As someone who’s currently pursuing and realizing I’ve been making the same mistakes. Should I just disappear for a while or just be honest that I need some things to work on before losing them completely by my unhealthy behavior? Any advice is appreciated
Feel the same as you, has anything worked for you the past year? Currently in a relationship, shes a good girl and understands i struggle with stuff but i dont wanna abuse that
My issue is my friends are sooo boring and they never want to do anything. So I’m just always stuck not having anything to do. Then it makes me too available
Agree with everything here besides the not asking her out on the weekend part. I’ve dated woman who work in the medical field and going to school during the week where literally the only time they have available was the weekend. I would say this rule would work best for women with a bit more of a fluid schedule. Just saying
Yes being available is good I don't want to be with the woman that plays games available shows them that you are interested don't be needy but let him know that you like them and if they don't like you then move on
Man I feel like waiting 4 days after a first date before contacting her is a lot of time. Can you guys reassure me it’s ok? What if you see her on Saturday and then contact her again on Monday evening to check how things are going?
We're not asking her to make our life together, in a way we are because our life is great and amazing and married to the woman of your dreams in the woman who want to marry is going to make your life way better ask yourself this question are you in a relationship are you better with her or not the woman is going to make you better and you're going to make her better
What if you're not available to her and she just moved on to another guy and then you messed it up because she wanted you to be available how do you know I don't want to play games!
Bro that's when you go out on dates as soon as Friday Saturday everybody's busy in the weekdays bar to have one or two jobs and you can't date in the weekdays that's a stupid question plane games
Well who's to available did you speak to them and they confirmed it I heard they like a guy will be there anytime to help pleasing or givein her money or maybe she just wants to talk
You're freaking playing games some of the stuff you're talking about is dry but you're talkin about women that are playing games and I am attracted to women that play games!
Does anyone see the irony of all this? By BUYING INTO this "Kabuki Dance" style of relationships, you destine yourself to failure the first time life's REAL circumstances require your attention and you forget if you were supposed to hop or curtsy? Truly stoopid shit.. I'm not surprised there's a market for it..
This channel strikes me as a bit predatory and mercenary. Its like you men want to hook a woman and get her to love you, without discussing the fact that YOU need to have feelings for her too. Why would you want a woman to fall in love with you if you don’t love her, unless you want to use and manipulate her. And a lot of what this dude is saying is cookie cutter and wrong, and women don’t all operate the same way. Trying to ALWAYS kiss a woman on the second date can get you slapped, laid, or whatever. Some women move faster than others. Why do you alway want women to “fall in love” with you, when a lot of you can’t commit? The whole objective is wrong. Also, there is no “being too available”. If a woman wants to see you, she wants to see you. If you are playing games and jerking her around vwith your availability, she will go and find a more mature man that doesnt play games like this (at least the mature woman will not deal in games. Only young girls deal with this). Again, I love how some young dude thinks he knows any thing about a mature adult independent woman. You know what women like? Being up front and honest, while being consistent in your actions, not these games.
*If you’re always available, it can send the message that you don’t value your own time or priorities. Striking a balance between showing interest and living your own life is key; it keeps the dynamic fresh and shows that you’re someone worth pursuing!*
Number four is 100% correct. I do that all the time when I first start dating someone. Send a text, then put the phone down and do some dishes, fix the bed, go for a walk, etc. Or, if you can’t put your phone down, at least don’t immediately respond.
Seems odd to me to text a question to someone and not be available for the answer.
(Not that we always need to be near our phones, but the person who initiates a text should be available to read a responsive reply.)
@@northernlight4614correct and they do smell that kind of shit, if she send something first though, then you can take some time to reply, not text her first and when she responds relatively quickly to put her on pause, it’s so stupid
@@nykterion7
Exactly. You don't need to be by your phone 24/7. On the other hand, you don't want to appear evasive.
It's not about playing games, it's about playing the game the right way
True that
There should be 0 games.
How about not playing s gsme period. It never was a game in past generations
I don't play games. I don't have the time nor the desire to be evasive.
A game is a game. Things can go smooth and natural. Until one starts it.
This is the only person on the whole internet who gets it spot on
No, he’s not the only one, he’s good though
@@nykterion7got some other content you recommend of the same quality?
@@markettrader6548 check out Coach Corey Wayne
Number two can happen if, let’s say, you’re on a date, and you see something fun, like a poster, or a restaurant, or a place that looks interesting, and you can say, maybe we can check that out sometime in the future? You don’t have to nail down a time and date. But you can definitely say you’re interested.
Thanks for being honest and giving real value. Most videos only want quick fixes but yours are genuine.
Haven't watched the entire video but you uploaded this at the perfect time!
Super 👌!!! Confidence and high self esteem does it all.....Thanks for sharing this gems 💎
Jim u are my top three coaches, you are really spot on. These are not pick up artistry games..
This is just good relationship skills. It even works in business too!!
Don’t be a needy •••k!
Make them show interest 1st.
Then let her come validate herself.
Don’t kiss anyone’s ••s…
Thanks Jim I really really appreciate you!!
Thanks again Jim!!
-Coach rOwDy 😊
thank you , great video
I love this video, you make me more high value, keep dem coming ⭐⭐🔥🔥
Is there really any point in letting a woman know you’re interested in her if it’s only just going to kill her attraction for you?
You let her know you’re interested enough, just not too interested. Be appropriate with how much you show your interested in her.
Encourage positive behavior, discourage negative behavior. But yes whenever I have in the past show interest and too much, it might get a positive result for a few days but eventually they get bored. So if she’s really submissive and in her feminine and cheesy, sure give her some, but don’t do it if she’s cold or if she’s just giving you bare minimum, just will push the cat further away
None whatsoever. Lol
Thanks so much, your every video helps us a lot.
Sorry, not Sorry! I think some of these points are BS… For me, I appreciate help and quick answers from a man.
Further, I feel this is like playing games.
Honesty, Loyalty and helpfullnes is very important!
Really? Well as a man in my 40s I don't feel like playing games. If I want to help I'll help. I recently helped though and she was playing games with me. So we do have to be careful about this.
@@mig7290 I am sorry to hear that! I feel the point is that you should know your own worth and thereby be the best version of yourself 😌
Your comment is exactly the reason why a man must never get advice from women, when it cones to women. That will only lead you stray.
Yes some of them I feel like they are playing games and I'm not trying to play I know these are secular videos I'm a Christian so I just get the good in the bad some of the stuff he was talking about was true but I'm not trying to go after the women that are playing games I want to be friends with the woman first and then see where it goes but I'm not going to play games!
You are very good mahn. May the Lord bless you! You're a life saver for some of us!
Why Being TOO AVAILABLE Kills Female Interest (and what to do about it)...
1. It affects your value and standing in her mind (in other words the way she perceives your value as a potential mate)
2. Puts relationship PRESSURE into your connection
3. YOUR interest in a woman doesn't raise HER interest
4. SHE tends to fall in love SLOWER
5. Healthy relationships have boundaries
6. Asks HER to make your life good vs. YOU sharing your AWESOME life with her
7. If a woman has zero romantic interest in you, it doesn't matter if you're available or not
If you're too available, it puts her interest at risk. If she's not interested, it doesn't matter if you're available or not. If you're too available in the early stages of dating, you ALWAYS LOSE.
You're you're NOT too available, you always win, because if she's interested, you're not putting that at risk and allowing her interest to grow. And if she isn't interested, then it doesn't matter anyway.
How not to be too available:
1. Don't ask her out again if she declines without making a counter-offer (another day if she can't on the day you propose). Play it cool, then wait for her to reach out, or wait 4 - 8 days and try asking her out once more time. If she declines again without a counter-offer, move on.
2. If you're on a date, DO NOT ask her for another date while you're still on that date. Disappear for a bit, let her wonder, let her call you. Her interest grows in the fertile ground between dates when you're not contacting her.
3. Don't stare at your phone waiting for her text/call. Live your life, ask her out when you're ready. You're an awesome guy - act like it.
4. Reply to her text, then go do something else for a while. Do not be predictable - sometimes you can respond right away, other times respond later (30 mins to 3 hours later). Don't text back and forth too much/all day long.
5. Don't always reply to her immediately. Call her back in a few hours, or the next day. Be busy. If you're always available, it lowers your standing, your value, and lowers her interest. Don't ALWAYS the same amount of time to reply, be unpredictable.
6. Don't ask to hang out on a weekend or a holiday until she brings it up. Weekends are for your established friends and hobbies, holidays are for family and are heavy days. Let her ask about weekends, then propose a date.
7. If she asks you to hang out today, make a counter-offer instead of accepting (tomorrow instead?). You're an awesome guy - she can wait until tomorrow.
Solid vid. I’ve experienced everything in here before
Your videos are always amazing and on point. Where is the one about how to have conversations with women? I could not find it no where?
Number seven is is true so it doesn't matter if she's not interested in you move on it's her loss
If there's an equal interest then don't play games. Conversation is conversation whether it's by phone or by text and if you're having one don't disappear or purposely ignore and wait a certain amount of time to respond. Just be real and if she's not interested she would let you know if she is mature enough and if she isn't then your intuition will tell you and you should always listen. I don't understand these rules or what seem like games to attract get back or lure in interest from someone. Energies should match and if they don't then that should be enough to know weather to move forward or move on. Seems that most of the advice on this topic whether it be two men or two women includes the reality and aspects of human nature but advises ways to manipulate the situation according to what's known about the opposite sex is nature which in turn is calculated and and doesn't seem authentic or even to work the way one might expect. Please just be yourself and show up authentically. Anything less is disrespect for her and yourself.
100% agree. These advices are for immature people who want to play games.
Dont think u guys understand some dynamics going on today. For instance, im here because my situation is that a girl and I were showing reciprocal interest for awhile, texting, talking, smiling/looks at each other etc. yet the more we texted I noticed she would go at most days without responding while I continued to respond at a decent time. The dynamic is off, she gets the impression my availability is weakness while it is just kindness, you lose your value in the persons eyes and you must remind them your availability is not neediness but genuine interest in relationship. It is not a “game” to remind your girl in this unspoken form that they dont have you on a leash, that you are not some dog waiting to receive their bone whenever they see fit. Its not a game to position yourself in a place to receive your dignity/self-respect and send a message to your partner that you will accept nothing less or call it quits. Its placing boundaries & standards
@@ricoparadiso why didn't you make a move?
I’m guilty of all these things and now I’m suffering like a donkey.
You are not alone
After stumbling across this video I realize it’s always been me that was the issue. Every single relationship that ended was my fault. Just too available and lost of interest and eventually just being cheated on. All this has led me to develop unhealthy expectations and habits in a relationship. As someone who’s currently pursuing and realizing I’ve been making the same mistakes. Should I just disappear for a while or just be honest that I need some things to work on before losing them completely by my unhealthy behavior? Any advice is appreciated
Feel the same as you, has anything worked for you the past year? Currently in a relationship, shes a good girl and understands i struggle with stuff but i dont wanna abuse that
If she's going out with her friends on that week and she doesn't want to be in she wants to play
My issue is my friends are sooo boring and they never want to do anything. So I’m just always stuck not having anything to do. Then it makes me too available
You better start acting as if you are busy doing things. C’mon dude, no man of high status is 24/7 available
Agree with everything here besides the not asking her out on the weekend part. I’ve dated woman who work in the medical field and going to school during the week where literally the only time they have available was the weekend. I would say this rule would work best for women with a bit more of a fluid schedule. Just saying
That's so untrue - being available is a good thing, it actually is what makes interested. Don't play games, guys.
Yes being available is good I don't want to be with the woman that plays games available shows them that you are interested don't be needy but let him know that you like them and if they don't like you then move on
I try to do the not be top available thing. But what if she wants you to spend more time with her
Man I feel like waiting 4 days after a first date before contacting her is a lot of time. Can you guys reassure me it’s ok?
What if you see her on Saturday and then contact her again on Monday evening to check how things are going?
We're not asking her to make our life together, in a way we are because our life is great and amazing and married to the woman of your dreams in the woman who want to marry is going to make your life way better ask yourself this question are you in a relationship are you better with her or not the woman is going to make you better and you're going to make her better
A lot of Corey Wayne’s stuff in here.
Except this guy doesnt recommend you read his book a million times!
In one sentence; don’t behave needy 😅
What if you're not available to her and she just moved on to another guy and then you messed it up because she wanted you to be available how do you know I don't want to play games!
Who the heck is being nice you must be confused with stealing🤭when someone is complaining plus I'm not nice until they give it up
True
Bro that's when you go out on dates as soon as Friday Saturday everybody's busy in the weekdays bar to have one or two jobs and you can't date in the weekdays that's a stupid question plane games
Meanwhile, women are told not to be too available too soon. So, both just avoid each other.
Well who's to available did you speak to them and they confirmed it I heard they like a guy will be there anytime to help pleasing or givein her money or maybe she just wants to talk
You're freaking playing games some of the stuff you're talking about is dry but you're talkin about women that are playing games and I am attracted to women that play games!
Does anyone see the irony of all this? By BUYING INTO this "Kabuki Dance" style of relationships, you destine yourself to failure the first time life's REAL circumstances require your attention and you forget if you were supposed to hop or curtsy? Truly stoopid shit.. I'm not surprised there's a market for it..
*U go slow. Let her go fast* ‼️
This channel strikes me as a bit predatory and mercenary. Its like you men want to hook a woman and get her to love you, without discussing the fact that YOU need to have feelings for her too. Why would you want a woman to fall in love with you if you don’t love her, unless you want to use and manipulate her.
And a lot of what this dude is saying is cookie cutter and wrong, and women don’t all operate the same way. Trying to ALWAYS kiss a woman on the second date can get you slapped, laid, or whatever. Some women move faster than others.
Why do you alway want women to “fall in love” with you, when a lot of you can’t commit? The whole objective is wrong.
Also, there is no “being too available”. If a woman wants to see you, she wants to see you. If you are playing games and jerking her around vwith your availability, she will go and find a more mature man that doesnt play games like this (at least the mature woman will not deal in games. Only young girls deal with this).
Again, I love how some young dude thinks he knows any thing about a mature adult independent woman.
You know what women like? Being up front and honest, while being consistent in your actions, not these games.
If shes attracted to you, this won't matter.
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