This was needed. The tone of my voice isn't very feminine. Plus I was very tomboy-ish growing up and transitioned into an absolute plain Jane. I just turned 25 and decided to go on an "Esther" season (biblical) to reform myself and reveal a new feminine side of me. Thanks for the video.
@Pretty Natural it’s like the gold plated rotten banana post! Glitty on the outside but hood rich in the inside! 🤦🏽♀️😩🤣 Entire IG especially the thousand likes women LOL Super pretty mouth needs soap and bleach 🤷🏾♀️😞🙏🏿
I naturally have a “baby voice” & have always hated it. But since starting my feminine journey I’ve used it as a tool & realized it’s very useful because of the allure. Men love it. Thank you for this. 😉💖
@@jillianpacker2819 The way you carry your voice can give you feminine aura, if that's what you're aiming for. You don't have too want a feminine essence though. Its all up too you darling.❤️
Thank you and be yourself!!! Having a uterus/or just identifying as a women should be enough to be considered feminine. A woman as the right to shout and have a deep voice, a woman as the right to do whatever the hell she wants
Deez Nuts exactly and i dont have to “dress” a certain way either. I understand some of the things these channels say but others i dont and never had an issue attracting men.
CJSpeaks well this video isn’t for you this video is for women seeking to be Feminine just a basic outline of course you can do whatever you want and dress how ever you want
Women can do for what ever they want. Based on your opinions. This channel is for women who believe that there are feminine traits that align better with women.
@C M I'd like to mention shouting isn't gendered. Its just something you can do. And there are plenty of women with deep voices who's voice is also feminine.
Since I was a teenager, people always told me "I talk white/ I act white." I was always insecure about it because as a African American young lady, I thought I had to be more loud, sound more rough, use a lower grade vocabulary, and use profanity. JUST to be what I thought I should be to fit in. As woman now, I'm so glad I never gave in and succumbed to what people expected me to be because I'm proud to say the way I present myself is not associated with my race. It is associated with my divine femininity. I have never been turned down from a job and I do not find myself in conflicting situations with people.
Summary (Voice & Speech): - You have control over your voice. If you begin to pay attention, people's voices change depending on who they speak with (i.e. baby, customer service, etc.). You can train your voice to sound a certain way. If you want something, you can change your tone. Practice speaking in a tone that's easy for you. - Feminine voices are soft and light (common for feminine voices). The tone of voice that you use is important! - When you are out in public, there is no need to raise your voice. Oftentimes, it attracts negative attention. - How you speak puts you in certain categories in life, it signifies which class you belong into. - Be mindful about what you say out loud. - Speak up so people can hear you, not because you're raising your voice. - The rate at which you speak is also important! People have a problem with those who speak really fast vs. someone who speak slowly. Speak at medium pace (ideal) - The way that they speak, feminine women are expressive. They are engaging when they speak (i.e. use your eyes, body, and smile! to draw people in) - Goal: have a voice that is soothing, calm, and paced - Behaviours within speech: Talking too much, it is really stressful when you're speaking to someone who speaks too much. Don't keep people captive in your conversations especially when they are on their way somewhere. Everyone doesn't need to know everything about you - do no overshare! - Do more listening than talking. Have a little bit of mystery to you - by mindful about how much you talk and who you are talking to - Ensure that when you are talking to someone that you are making eye contact (depending on the culture) - Do not interrupt while people are talking - Give people you're undivided attention, do not be on the phone/internet while they are speaking to you - Profanity: Delete from your vocabulary. Use adjectives and refrain from sounding aggressive. If you disagree with someone, still do not resort to profanity - Surround yourself with people that are like you! do not try to fit in by resorting to profanity. - Have standards for yourself. If you are well dressed and takes care of yourself, others will adapt their tone to you. - Build up your vocabulary by reading books
My masculine energy stems from my childhood, my voice was originally soft and I almost couldn’t speak up so people often spoke over me. So I became really stern. Also, I started working at 13 so I had to protect myself so I learned aggression. I learned that feminine behavior is too submissive. I read!!!!!
It is wonderful that you have come to awareness of this issue and you want to make a change. That is all that matters now and you can work towards a healthy balance. It is actually not submissive if you learn how to use your power. My goal is to teach you to do that. Much love to you
Me too...I started acting masculine because of being in "survival mode", but I always felt wrong, as if I was playing a role. Now my life is more stable and I feel the urge to go back to my feminine self. It's a journey of practice, but I'll be worth. I truly want to be the self I always wanted to be.
This is soo me.. I grew up in an environment where you have to struggle for everything,,and a soft voice is seen as not smart., And you get overriden. I really want to be better. I'm 24 now and I'm having issues with my partner., Bcos they feel bad everytime I raise my voice much too often and I can barely talk calmly. I hope this channel help me get better..
Girl! Reading is so IMPORTANT. A lot of women (and men) don’t have vocabulary to express their thoughts thoroughly. That can have a huge impact on ability to communicate effectively and then impact who you have access to.
I recommend the books “The Art of Small talk” and “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” Then practice practice practice. I practiced how to confidently walk in a room and smile, how to greet people, and introduce myself. Now it comes easily and effortlessly. Best!
@@llanneg.v.c545 I read the summaries for each, pretty insightful read! Any advice for improving my social skills when I can't go out to socialise? I was thinking of using Discord to practice
I just recently turned 16. I can honestly say my Mom never taught me the value of women or to be feminine . Thank you so much for these videos, they have and are helping me a lot. I love your channel and I love you.❤️
sometimes we focus so much on what we have to say that we end up trying to remember that instead of actually listening. I say politely butt in...but also try to pay attention more :)
@Kemi Kunle I use to be like that too because my mother does it horribly! She is a born again Christian as well as me and unfortunately we think our opinions are facts! It took me 2 years being INTENTIONAL to get delivered from that flaw! Now I listen with a smile #Growth bless you on your journey to being a better listener it’s so important to sharing people you care and value their conversations Bless you 🙏🏿❤️
My husband told me from the beginning of our relationship that my voice was one of the first things that attracted him to me. He says he loved it because its sweet and sexy and that he still finds it very arousing. Just found your channel,love the content and couldn't agree with you more. You're beautiful btw! 💕
Michelle❤. I am loving these feminine video series. You're like the big sister I've never had who teaches me these valuable things almost no one talks about (at least not to me). I feel like I'm getting richer with the knowlegde you choose to share with us. I get excited when a new video pops up. Keep them coming, my dear wonderful sis👏👐. Greetings from Holland.
No one taught me these things. I intend to teach my daughter, bonus daughter and nieces. Thank you Dr. Michelle. We can be Beauties and Bosses and this is how.
I totally agree with you on the cursing part and have often thought about it. Cussing really doesn’t lack of argumentation skills. Also I’d like to see a video on keeping your home clean and organized as a woman.
Very informative video sis. I always been told how proper I talk and growing up it made me feel insecure but over time I learned to embrace it! I had that "oh you talk white" "oreo" "why you talk so proper" conversations..smh.. In the work world or just with my personality in general, I was able to get good jobs and people always came to me for advice because they trust me and I carry myself in a good way. I just need to work on getting that feminine touch back now loll.
Thank you honey!! When I was very young I had similar experiences but I love that things have turned around so much that now they are asking you! By the end of this series I have faith that you will have the touch! Much love to you!
I experienced the same thing . I even started to think that me being "proper" ( articulate ) was a bad thing and it eventually resulted in me trying to fit in with other kids . Now as a young adult I still find myself blurting out profanity and behaving insecure but I am working on it . That's why I clicked on this video 💅🏾😊
I’ve always thought my voice was deep however men have told me it’s real sexy & it isn’t deep! I guess things I was told by people in my younger years are still in my head. You’re gorgeous love!🖤
, ive been practicing being more feminine in my speech, so this video is greatly appreciated. also been working towards eliminating curse words, it really is low class and unattractive
I needed this video. I’ve been dealing with social anxiety and I no longer want it to control my life. I’ve been on my feminine journey for 2 months now and I’ve been able to notice lately that when I speak fast my breathing gets out of control and I feel the anxiety creeping in. Thank you for this video. I’ve always had a sweet soft spoken voice but because of these ratchet trends I thought I needed to be loud. I’m just trying to step back into me. Thank you for this video. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I’m working on my reading also 😊
I love it! I used to work in catering and we were taught how important it was to smile and watch our posture. Now that I work in customer service, I've really learned to master my way of speaking. About 55% of communication is non-verbal, which gets lost in my job because I'm on the phone and people can't see me. They train us to ask the right question, listen carefully and watch our language. I've noticed that people react very differently when I bring them bad news. They tend to be more understanding of the situation and it saved me when a customer filed a complaint against me, because I didn't allow my emotions to come through. This has helped me so much in my personal life as well.
Thank you soooo much about the "too much talking" thing. I have literally "talked too much" for my entire life. I totally think about the lunchroom at work especially. I have one co-worker who used to listen to all my stories, but now whenever I sit down at the lunch table, he disappears. I was wondering ... Anyway, lesson learned. :-)
Love this, Yes I hate being interrupted it happens to me quite a lot I think because I come across as sweet people just seem to do it to me often, I know people just want to talk but listening is so important. Oh and I am so guilty of using words that make no sense when I get nervous lol
I cannot tell you how much this video and your podcast has helped me become more feminine. Many family members and my boyfriend have noticed and have enjoyed it much more than how I use to be.
Your voice is beautifully modulated. This is very good advice. I enjoyed the entire video and especially appreciated the part when you encouraged women to improve their vocabulary. This is excellent advice. We are judged by the words we use. A beautiful, pleasant voice that is backed up with a refined mind is a powerful combination. You are lovely, my dear. Thank you.
"You can mimic people you see on RUclips".....and here I was already mimicking you before you even mentioned, from binge watching all your videos because I absolutely love your videos, how you speak and general aura.
Sharing just the right amount of private things! This is something I need to work on more! I'm careful on sharing my personal goals/private matters, but I tend to overshare when I am nervous.
It's good that you know where you need to begin. That is what's important. Now when you are nervous you know to stay as silent as possible so you don't slip
Just learning the importance of using your feminine voice... Your voice is so relaxing.. I feel so relaxed whenever I watch your videos... Am learning to use my feminine voice Coz I can be so loud 😢and honestly it's so unnecessary
Awww thank you so much. Yes love. I'm happy you are learning and walking down this path. Look forward and continue to make the changes. Much love to you!
I grew up in a very country household, so in my middle school years, I actively made sure I spoke proper English. Also, I was a very loud person till I realized when you are more soft-spoken people tend to respond to you better. I know for me, listening to your videos I do a lot of what you are teaching! There is so much truth in these. Love it! 🧡
Some great helpful tips! Would love to see a video of you talking about femininity with your beautiful natural hair. Black women are beautiful and do not need to look more European in order to be more feminine.
Kerry Thompson I agree. I like the information she is putting out for women who need it, however a lot of the times weave wearing is encouraged, whether one does or doesn’t there needs to be more options.
Guys tell me I have a “sexy/ relaxing” voice. When employers would call me they would ask I had just woke up😂 so now I have to purposely raise my tone and try to sound higher pitch
Golden tips from our sister in femminity...i lost huge part of my femminity due to studying engineering then working with sometimes only men... I saw your first video time ago and since then I am recalling my feminine side to comeback... It went very successful so far.. I gained more respect and appreciation. Men listen to and appreciate the féminine girl waaaaaay more than the masculine one, this is the reality....
I grew up without a mother and living with a father who does a lot of these points you mentioned to avoid, I feel very seperated from my femininity and need to get back into it. Thank you. 💚
Thank you, dear Michelle! I am absolutely enjoying your videos. I have been working for some time on being more feminine and practising my speaking voice. It is so hard sometimes trying to practice and then put it into practice at work, especially when there is so much noise in the background and you are trying to speak in a medium, med-register and being mindful that there are people working there and just a few steps away are the customers. Oh my! At some point when I began working there one of my colleagues started cursing and she expected me to say something back. I did not know what to say since I felt all eyes on me. I stayed neutral and later told the manager what happened. Thankfully he corrected her. It's important to know when to hold back and when to speak up. Never over chat or over-share personal stuff with colleagues or people you barely know. The rest of your advice I will keep in mind next time I go out.
This video is absolutely amazing! I have an awfully bad habit of talking too much, too fast and oversharing 🙄 I am well spoken as a result of reading, but I really need to unlearn my bad habits inorder to really maximize my femininity. I love how pleasant and soothing Kim Kardashians voice is 😍 I need to allocate time to listen to a few of her interviews in an attempt to emulate her way of speaking.
I definitely agree that it’s important to surround yourself with like minded people. I’ve not had any success locating such people. I think that’s why so many of us classic feminine, traditional housewife types who are constantly attempting to improve their elegance and class are often talking about feeling like they don’t fit into society.
I'm so glad I stumbled across this video. I found this because I have quite a strong authoritative voice but sometimes it's taken the wrong way. I remember once being told that my voice doesn't match my face! I definitely agree with what you said about profanity in conversation and I have noticed that curse words are becoming common place in professional settings - which has always made me uncomfortable! The part about oversharing is also true, as not everyone has our best interests at heart. 💓
I am so glad that God brought you to this video. It can be a tough balance between soft and strong and sometimes it's unconscious. It's great to know that you are mindful. Much love to you and thank you for watching
@@HarpistJoanna Growing and improving yourself means to embraced your authentic self. You don't need to watch a video to tell you how to talk or how to act. All you have to do is go within. Also realize that we all have masculine and feminine energy and that are energy doesn't always match our gender and that is okay.. Alot of times we are trying to be someone we are not just because someone put that expectation on us. I know from experience. I used to try so hard to be someone I wasn't or someone the world expected me to be. And I ended up suffering in the end. Connect with yourself. Mediate, spend some time alone, and fill yourself up with self love 💘. And you will find that you don't have to try so hard, you can just be. And when you live from authenticity, you will find love, freedom, peace, and joy.
I just started watching your videos not too long ago and I am so happy that I found your channel. What I love most is you ALWAYS deliver more info than I expect to receive, I can't wait to suggest this channel to someone looking for guidance.
This is amazing advice for anyone who wants to become more feminine. You are like the big sister I never had. So kind and beautiful! Thank you so much for the tips
I work in a male dominated industry and have done so for the past 20 years. This video hopefully should help me become more feminine in voice! Thanks for the video.👏🏽
I really truly appreciate your videos. Please keep on making them. Living in a house with all males I struggle with my feminine side🤦🏽♀️. I try and try but somehow resort to being too aggressive. I prayed and God sent you, to learn and to “mimic”. Thank you so much!
It’s a process, practice practice practice... I’m happy I didn’t give up because Im being transformed for the better and a lot of great opportunities have been opening up and in the process I have also been helping/ encouraging other
Dr. Michelle you are a blessing in my life. This year, as messy as it is, I decided to change completely my lifestyle. Become who I want to be is a big part of my plan but also starting my dream business. I can already tell, when I make a mistake in the way I act or speak thanks to you. Thank you so much, I look forward to see your new videos❤️
This was such a great topic. I tend to speak too loud and to interrupt which I will promptly begin working on. I also appreciated the tip you gave about reading to improve your vocabulary. As an educator, I think reading also helps young people develop a sense of sentence structure. Poor grammar is another way that we signal we were raised without certain exposure. Appreciate your content so much!
I had an ominous feeling just now when you spoke on sharing information with people. I did quite a big, "NO!" At my current workplace disclosing information to a front desk girl what I went through at my old workplace. Unfortunate but what's done IS done. A mistake on my part that I hope does not take a nosedive for me. ☹😣
Hello lovely people! I just wanted to remind the audience that speaking in a feminine way is not about having a high-pitched voice. If that's what you want, go for it! But just having a high voice does not make it feminine. Lean into your natural register and focus on fine-tuning the highlights of your voice. Soften your speech and truly think about what you are saying. Speak from your heart (or perhaps other places in your body if you're in that kind of situation). Candice Oneida has a good video about feminine speech as well if anyone wants more reference on getting in touch with your feminine energy.
I worked in customer service and I used a soft sensual voice. I had customers of all races trying to get with me. They would call back and ask for me. One man wanted to fly me to Florida. LOL. I thought it was so funny because they didn't even know how I looked. I had to change my facebook name because they were searching for my name.
I needed this! I’m from New Orleans and I have a thick accent and a deep voice. I tend to be loud, especially when I’m passionate and I have a potty mouth... I actually have an extensive vocabulary but always spent my life trying to be “down”. all things I’m changing in 2020😊 this video is a good starting point.
As a transgirl, it is weirdly so comforting that cisgender women think about this too! I struggle with not feeling feminine enough all the time & my voice is a big part of that. I know this video wasn't made for me, but it still helped a lot♡ Much Love
I can't hear out of my left ear so I'm naturally louder than I'd like to be. I honestly can't stand it so I really have to really concentrate on speaking softer.
I totally agree with everything that was said. So, I subscribed 😊. I have always been more feminine and when I was growing up many people criticized me. It is nice to see other women who look like me embracing their true feminine nature.
Please keep those kind of videos coming. I wish I would have grown up with a role model like you. Unfortunately my mother was/is nothing like that and actually engages in the opposite in a lot of things you speak about (she is rude, she yells a lot). It takes time to shake those passive consumed impressions off. So again, thank you for each reminder.
I've always thought my voice was waaaaay too deep, so I really hope this helps me get the feminine voice that I've secretly (although I guess it's not a secret anymore.😂) always wanted. Thx SO much babe 🌈🌈❤❤ Kisses 💋💋
I'm such a chatter box and talk super fast haha. I blame my adhd but this video really helped me understand how to slow down and be mindful of having a more relaxing and welcoming aura.
Can anyone recommend any app or voice training course I can take I speak quite well and I’ve stop cursing 🤬 I’m trying to slow down but I think it should be slower I want to feel confident in taking my time not feeling I won’t get my point across Learning not to interrupt I’ve change my tone with the baby and friends but I catch myself a lot thinking I hate my tone
Thank you for showing your true self& helping us older ladies too!!! Because I’m meeting men online who want my money only - now ! But I see threw the bull-s
How to be an Elegant Woman on a Budget:
ruclips.net/video/z-mNjud3KIM/видео.html
This was needed. The tone of my voice isn't very feminine. Plus I was very tomboy-ish growing up and transitioned into an absolute plain Jane. I just turned 25 and decided to go on an "Esther" season (biblical) to reform myself and reveal a new feminine side of me. Thanks for the video.
That's wonderful that you decided to do that sis! I hope these videos continue to be helpful.
God bless you on your new journey
Sis I would love to hear more about this Esther season and the other things you're doing on your journey ❤ I'd appreciate the help.
Wishing you all the best
Omg same! I am turning 26 in July. I am having the exact same "resurrection." I love it sis! congrats!
"Everyone does not need to know everything that's going on with you" soooooo true
Speech is important. My mom used to say I saw a lot of beautiful women but when they open that mouth hood rich
😂😂😂😂 Mama knows better..🤣
Hooooh!! i dont know if all the men i have dated commented anything about my speech!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Pretty Natural it’s like the gold plated rotten banana post! Glitty on the outside but hood rich in the inside! 🤦🏽♀️😩🤣 Entire IG especially the thousand likes women LOL Super pretty mouth needs soap and bleach 🤷🏾♀️😞🙏🏿
🤣🤣🤣💀💀
I naturally have a “baby voice” & have always hated it. But since starting my feminine journey I’ve used it as a tool & realized it’s very useful because of the allure. Men love it. Thank you for this. 😉💖
Yes sis, that's great that you've realized that. No better gift than God's gift :)
Same here. I’m working
On lowering the tone a bit to give my speech more authority
I do too. 😩
me too. i have a baby voice.
same! haha
Your top is pretty too
Thank you sweetheart!
@@drmichelledaf I know I'm a month late, but I just came across your channel today and I LOVE it! Would you mind telling me where you got your top?
@@drmichelledaf where did you get the top from x.
Jhadae Check the description box
Makeda Findlay check the description box
I love this post. Finally a woman who wants to be a woman and not an imitation of a man.
Thank you, I hope more women will take from it as well.
Sajdah Sabree I wanna be a black woman I don’t care what people think about my voice are shape of body
Sonia Brown
How black women differ from any other races of women?
Sanaa i think because some people often say that black women have man features/look manly?
Me speaking in my natural voice is not an imitation of a man?? What?
I am 22 year old woman
Feminine women:
-don't curse
-don't talk fast
-don't talk loud
-don't have a rough tone
Nichelle Anderson but thats how i am naturally. I am feminine and these are the qualities of that.
Lmaooo I curse, talk fast and loud rip
Nichelle Anderson fax
I don’t get this why does my voice and way I talk change how feminine I am
@@jillianpacker2819 The way you carry your voice can give you feminine aura, if that's what you're aiming for. You don't have too want a feminine essence though. Its all up too you darling.❤️
The best way to be feminine is to be confident and secure with in yourself.
Thank you and be yourself!!! Having a uterus/or just identifying as a women should be enough to be considered feminine. A woman as the right to shout and have a deep voice, a woman as the right to do whatever the hell she wants
Deez Nuts exactly and i dont have to “dress” a certain way either. I understand some of the things these channels say but others i dont and never had an issue attracting men.
CJSpeaks well this video isn’t for you this video is for women seeking to be Feminine just a basic outline of course you can do whatever you want and dress how ever you want
Women can do for what ever they want. Based on your opinions. This channel is for women who believe that there are feminine traits that align better with women.
@C M I'd like to mention shouting isn't gendered. Its just something you can do. And there are plenty of women with deep voices who's voice is also feminine.
Since I was a teenager, people always told me "I talk white/ I act white."
I was always insecure about it because as a African American young lady, I thought I had to be more loud, sound more rough, use a lower grade vocabulary, and use profanity. JUST to be what I thought I should be to fit in.
As woman now, I'm so glad I never gave in and succumbed to what people expected me to be because I'm proud to say the way I present myself is not associated with my race. It is associated with my divine femininity.
I have never been turned down from a job and I do not find myself in conflicting situations with people.
That is beautiful. I can relate. Thank you for sharing love 🤍
Summary (Voice & Speech):
- You have control over your voice. If you begin to pay attention, people's voices change depending on who they speak with (i.e. baby, customer service, etc.). You can train your voice to sound a certain way. If you want something, you can change your tone. Practice speaking in a tone that's easy for you.
- Feminine voices are soft and light (common for feminine voices). The tone of voice that you use is important!
- When you are out in public, there is no need to raise your voice. Oftentimes, it attracts negative attention.
- How you speak puts you in certain categories in life, it signifies which class you belong into.
- Be mindful about what you say out loud.
- Speak up so people can hear you, not because you're raising your voice.
- The rate at which you speak is also important! People have a problem with those who speak really fast vs. someone who speak slowly. Speak at medium pace (ideal)
- The way that they speak, feminine women are expressive. They are engaging when they speak (i.e. use your eyes, body, and smile! to draw people in)
- Goal: have a voice that is soothing, calm, and paced
- Behaviours within speech: Talking too much, it is really stressful when you're speaking to someone who speaks too much. Don't keep people captive in your conversations especially when they are on their way somewhere. Everyone doesn't need to know everything about you - do no overshare!
- Do more listening than talking. Have a little bit of mystery to you - by mindful about how much you talk and who you are talking to
- Ensure that when you are talking to someone that you are making eye contact (depending on the culture)
- Do not interrupt while people are talking
- Give people you're undivided attention, do not be on the phone/internet while they are speaking to you
- Profanity: Delete from your vocabulary. Use adjectives and refrain from sounding aggressive. If you disagree with someone, still do not resort to profanity
- Surround yourself with people that are like you! do not try to fit in by resorting to profanity.
- Have standards for yourself. If you are well dressed and takes care of yourself, others will adapt their tone to you.
- Build up your vocabulary by reading books
My voice goes soft with my man lol 🤣
Thank you 😊
My masculine energy stems from my childhood, my voice was originally soft and I almost couldn’t speak up so people often spoke over me. So I became really stern. Also, I started working at 13 so I had to protect myself so I learned aggression. I learned that feminine behavior is too submissive.
I read!!!!!
It is wonderful that you have come to awareness of this issue and you want to make a change. That is all that matters now and you can work towards a healthy balance. It is actually not submissive if you learn how to use your power. My goal is to teach you to do that. Much love to you
Me too...I started acting masculine because of being in "survival mode", but I always felt wrong, as if I was playing a role. Now my life is more stable and I feel the urge to go back to my feminine self. It's a journey of practice, but I'll be worth. I truly want to be the self I always wanted to be.
Sameee omg this is literally me
This is soo me.. I grew up in an environment where you have to struggle for everything,,and a soft voice is seen as not smart., And you get overriden. I really want to be better. I'm 24 now and I'm having issues with my partner., Bcos they feel bad everytime I raise my voice much too often and I can barely talk calmly. I hope this channel help me get better..
I can relate. I'm try to be intentional about softening my tone especially when I'm angry or frustrated.
Girl! Reading is so IMPORTANT. A lot of women (and men) don’t have vocabulary to express their thoughts thoroughly. That can have a huge impact on ability to communicate effectively and then impact who you have access to.
Can you do a video on how to carry on a conversation with new people/ friends ? I have a hard time conversing. I’m always quiet.
Yes, I can incorporate it into the video.
That's my issue. I'm mortified by the dead silence as a result of not knowing how to converse effectively.
I recommend the books “The Art of Small talk” and “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” Then practice practice practice. I practiced how to confidently walk in a room and smile, how to greet people, and introduce myself. Now it comes easily and effortlessly. Best!
@@llanneg.v.c545 I read the summaries for each, pretty insightful read! Any advice for improving my social skills when I can't go out to socialise? I was thinking of using Discord to practice
@@llanneg.v.c545 Thank you so much for those book recommendations!
I just recently turned 16. I can honestly say my Mom never taught me the value of women or to be feminine . Thank you so much for these videos, they have and are helping me a lot. I love your channel and I love you.❤️
Aww well I love you too and I am happy you are here. I hope you take all that you can from my content.
I interrupt people so terribly smh, trying to work on it for years
sometimes we focus so much on what we have to say that we end up trying to remember that instead of actually listening. I say politely butt in...but also try to pay attention more :)
@Kemi Kunle I use to be like that too because my mother does it horribly! She is a born again Christian as well as me and unfortunately we think our opinions are facts! It took me 2 years being INTENTIONAL to get delivered from that flaw! Now I listen with a smile #Growth bless you on your journey to being a better listener it’s so important to sharing people you care and value their conversations Bless you 🙏🏿❤️
Same but its because I have anxiety and adhd
Relatable 😔😥 but actively working on it 🙂.
It's a terrible habit but it's fixable. Do some research on effective and active listening they are really helpful
Who else here from 2020 trying to change themselves to be more feminine cuz ur a tomboy
Thank you for being here babe
I'm not a tomboy, I'm actually very girly, I just wanna sound more mature 😔
Miss Doe exactly I live with too much guys and I use too many slang words
I'm using this too get better at voice acting ☺️
Watching this video made me so sad because literally everything she talked about I do wrong. I am happy that now I can begin to work on myself
My husband told me from the beginning of our relationship that my voice was one of the first things that attracted him to me. He says he loved it because its sweet and sexy and that he still finds it very arousing. Just found your channel,love the content and couldn't agree with you more. You're beautiful btw! 💕
Michelle❤. I am loving these feminine video series. You're like the big sister I've never had who teaches me these valuable things almost no one talks about (at least not to me). I feel like I'm getting richer with the knowlegde you choose to share with us. I get excited when a new video pops up. Keep them coming, my dear wonderful sis👏👐. Greetings from Holland.
Aww sis, that's so touching thank you. I'm so happy that you are excited and can benefit from these videos. So much more on the way. Much love to you!
How to creat a sweet voice as a girl
God bless
No one taught me these things. I intend to teach my daughter, bonus daughter and nieces. Thank you Dr. Michelle. We can be Beauties and Bosses and this is how.
Same
“They may think you’re on some type of substance” 😂 💯
lol!
Or think they went LOW thats why you go HIGH lol
I laughed as well when that statement was made😀
😂😂😂
😂
Your voice sounds amazing. Very pleasant. My voice sounds stress and frustrated.
Thank you love! Well you can certainly choose to alter your voice if you please.
@@drmichelledaf Can you provide information on voice training? I am told that I have a baby voice and I'd like to have a more mature sounding voice.
I totally agree with you on the cursing part and have often thought about it. Cussing really doesn’t lack of argumentation skills.
Also I’d like to see a video on keeping your home clean and organized as a woman.
Will do sis! Thanks for watching love
This is so on time. I'm really embracing my divine feminine energy ✨✨Thank you fellow Virgo
Yess sis!! That's great sweetie, Godspeed!
Us Virgos are the best
Very informative video sis. I always been told how proper I talk and growing up it made me feel insecure but over time I learned to embrace it! I had that "oh you talk white" "oreo" "why you talk so proper" conversations..smh.. In the work world or just with my personality in general, I was able to get good jobs and people always came to me for advice because they trust me and I carry myself in a good way. I just need to work on getting that feminine touch back now loll.
Thank you honey!! When I was very young I had similar experiences but I love that things have turned around so much that now they are asking you! By the end of this series I have faith that you will have the touch! Much love to you!
@@drmichelledaf You're welcome!❤❤
I experienced the same thing . I even started to think that me being "proper" ( articulate ) was a bad thing and it eventually resulted in me trying to fit in with other kids . Now as a young adult I still find myself blurting out profanity and behaving insecure but I am working on it . That's why I clicked on this video 💅🏾😊
@@tayloralliease7603 It's a process but you will be able to do it!! 😊
@@TBella1226 Thank you love 💓
I’ve always thought my voice was deep however men have told me it’s real sexy & it isn’t deep! I guess things I was told by people in my younger years are still in my head. You’re gorgeous love!🖤
Girl....me too. I hated my voice growing up, but men absolutely love it.
Same! Men find it sultry!
My voice is kinda deep to
Same!
I thought I kinda had a deep voice myself, but people have told me that I have a girly voice.
, ive been practicing being more feminine in my speech, so this video is greatly appreciated. also been working towards eliminating curse words, it really is low class and unattractive
Beautiful profile Sis! Classy and Feminine.
I needed this video. I’ve been dealing with social anxiety and I no longer want it to control my life. I’ve been on my feminine journey for 2 months now and I’ve been able to notice lately that when I speak fast my breathing gets out of control and I feel the anxiety creeping in. Thank you for this video. I’ve always had a sweet soft spoken voice but because of these ratchet trends I thought I needed to be loud. I’m just trying to step back into me. Thank you for this video. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m working on my reading also 😊
I love it! I used to work in catering and we were taught how important it was to smile and watch our posture. Now that I work in customer service, I've really learned to master my way of speaking. About 55% of communication is non-verbal, which gets lost in my job because I'm on the phone and people can't see me. They train us to ask the right question, listen carefully and watch our language. I've noticed that people react very differently when I bring them bad news. They tend to be more understanding of the situation and it saved me when a customer filed a complaint against me, because I didn't allow my emotions to come through.
This has helped me so much in my personal life as well.
Thank you soooo much about the "too much talking" thing. I have literally "talked too much" for my entire life. I totally think about the lunchroom at work especially. I have one co-worker who used to listen to all my stories, but now whenever I sit down at the lunch table, he disappears. I was wondering ... Anyway, lesson learned. :-)
I work at a hospital as an operator and you’re so right, ive been told many times how “sexy” my customer service voice is.
I needed this! I tend to raise my voice a lot, especially when I'm upset. Thanks Love 😊
Happy to help babe. Thanks for watching!
Love this, Yes I hate being interrupted it happens to me quite a lot I think because I come across as sweet people just seem to do it to me often, I know people just want to talk but listening is so important. Oh and I am so guilty of using words that make no sense when I get nervous lol
Thank you love, yes it's a terrible feeling and I'm sorry it happens to you.
@Luna Pink yes! If I get interrupted I keep speaking. Lately though with those who interrupt me I don't speak unless spoken to.
I cannot tell you how much this video and your podcast has helped me become more feminine. Many family members and my boyfriend have noticed and have enjoyed it much more than how I use to be.
Your voice is beautifully modulated. This is very good advice. I enjoyed the entire video and especially appreciated the part when you encouraged women to improve their vocabulary. This is excellent advice. We are judged by the words we use. A beautiful, pleasant voice that is backed up with a refined mind is a powerful combination. You are lovely, my dear. Thank you.
Hardest lesson as an adult - not everyone needs to know everything because not everyone has your best interest at heart…
Thank you for the reminder ♥️
It is hard! It shouldn't have to be that way. You are welcome love
"You can mimic people you see on RUclips".....and here I was already mimicking you before you even mentioned, from binge watching all your videos because I absolutely love your videos, how you speak and general aura.
Sharing just the right amount of private things! This is something I need to work on more! I'm careful on sharing my personal goals/private matters, but I tend to overshare when I am nervous.
It's good that you know where you need to begin. That is what's important. Now when you are nervous you know to stay as silent as possible so you don't slip
Just learning the importance of using your feminine voice... Your voice is so relaxing.. I feel so relaxed whenever I watch your videos... Am learning to use my feminine voice Coz I can be so loud 😢and honestly it's so unnecessary
Awww thank you so much. Yes love. I'm happy you are learning and walking down this path. Look forward and continue to make the changes. Much love to you!
I’ve fallen in love with you myself as a straight woman lol 😆 your femininity is definitely top tier
Aww thank you, it's a spiritual connection. I love you too
I grew up in a very country household, so in my middle school years, I actively made sure I spoke proper English.
Also, I was a very loud person till I realized when you are more soft-spoken people tend to respond to you better.
I know for me, listening to your videos I do a lot of what you are teaching!
There is so much truth in these.
Love it! 🧡
I am so happy to hear that. Yes, small tweaks here and there make a big difference. Much love to you!
i realized my nervousness made my tone defensive and demeaning as well as masculine. it makes it difficult to communicate how i feel
Some great helpful tips! Would love to see a video of you talking about femininity with your beautiful natural hair. Black women are beautiful and do not need to look more European in order to be more feminine.
Kerry Thompson I agree. I like the information she is putting out for women who need it, however a lot of the times weave wearing is encouraged, whether one does or doesn’t there needs to be more options.
So true i am a 4c woman and I would love to see natural 4c like me teaching my femininity, frizz and all.
Guys tell me I have a “sexy/ relaxing” voice. When employers would call me they would ask I had just woke up😂 so now I have to purposely raise my tone and try to sound higher pitch
U look GORGeous girl
Love your top
Thank you so much beautiful!!
You’re such a helping hand to many girls who haven’t had feminine role models in their life. Glad at 16 I found your channel
This should be mandatory for every woman to watch, heck, men could use this.
Very true!
Golden tips from our sister in femminity...i lost huge part of my femminity due to studying engineering then working with sometimes only men... I saw your first video time ago and since then I am recalling my feminine side to comeback... It went very successful so far.. I gained more respect and appreciation. Men listen to and appreciate the féminine girl waaaaaay more than the masculine one, this is the reality....
I grew up without a mother and living with a father who does a lot of these points you mentioned to avoid, I feel very seperated from my femininity and need to get back into it.
Thank you. 💚
Thank you, dear Michelle! I am absolutely enjoying your videos. I have been working for some time on being more feminine and practising my speaking voice. It is so hard sometimes trying to practice and then put it into practice at work, especially when there is so much noise in the background and you are trying to speak in a medium, med-register and being mindful that there are people working there and just a few steps away are the customers. Oh my! At some point when I began working there one of my colleagues started cursing and she expected me to say something back. I did not know what to say since I felt all eyes on me. I stayed neutral and later told the manager what happened. Thankfully he corrected her. It's important to know when to hold back and when to speak up. Never over chat or over-share personal stuff with colleagues or people you barely know. The rest of your advice I will keep in mind next time I go out.
You are most welcome. I am happy to know you're implementing it in your life and it is paying off.
Thank You Michelle for being bold enough to address this top!!
You are so welcome sis. Thanks for watching!!
I really need to keep my own business to myself, I share too much and it always backfires on me.
Start now by making a decision to stop sharing babe.
Dr. Michelle I will for sure! Thank you
Heba, I also share too much, I have too few contacts, that's when it happens, I will share less.
I am obsessed with this series. Thank you!
Thanks so much for watching love!
This video is absolutely amazing! I have an awfully bad habit of talking too much, too fast and oversharing 🙄 I am well spoken as a result of reading, but I really need to unlearn my bad habits inorder to really maximize my femininity. I love how pleasant and soothing Kim Kardashians voice is 😍 I need to allocate time to listen to a few of her interviews in an attempt to emulate her way of speaking.
I definitely agree that it’s important to surround yourself with like minded people. I’ve not had any success locating such people. I think that’s why so many of us classic feminine, traditional housewife types who are constantly attempting to improve their elegance and class are often talking about feeling like they don’t fit into society.
Ahh yes, this is so true my love! It's not easy to find but when you do it's so much fun!
I'm so glad I stumbled across this video. I found this because I have quite a strong authoritative voice but sometimes it's taken the wrong way. I remember once being told that my voice doesn't match my face! I definitely agree with what you said about profanity in conversation and I have noticed that curse words are becoming common place in professional settings - which has always made me uncomfortable! The part about oversharing is also true, as not everyone has our best interests at heart. 💓
I am so glad that God brought you to this video. It can be a tough balance between soft and strong and sometimes it's unconscious. It's great to know that you are mindful. Much love to you and thank you for watching
Your videos are absolutely incredible and you give amazing advice
Thank you so much honey. I appreciate your kind words and for watching!
This is not good advice. People should just be free to just be who they are naturally.
@@shaylayara yes people are free to be who they are, but some of us want to grow and improve ourselves. We are free to do that, too.
@@HarpistJoanna Growing and improving yourself means to embraced your authentic self. You don't need to watch a video to tell you how to talk or how to act. All you have to do is go within. Also realize that we all have masculine and feminine energy and that are energy doesn't always match our gender and that is okay.. Alot of times we are trying to be someone we are not just because someone put that expectation on us. I know from experience. I used to try so hard to be someone I wasn't or someone the world expected me to be. And I ended up suffering in the end. Connect with yourself. Mediate, spend some time alone, and fill yourself up with self love 💘. And you will find that you don't have to try so hard, you can just be. And when you live from authenticity, you will find love, freedom, peace, and joy.
@@shaylayara beautifully written
I love Jill Scotts voice and how she carries herself. Very feminine and gorgeous.
I just started watching your videos not too long ago and I am so happy that I found your channel. What I love most is you ALWAYS deliver more info than I expect to receive, I can't wait to suggest this channel to someone looking for guidance.
Thank you so much!! That was so touching, I am glad that you enjoy my videos and get more from it than you expect. So much love to you!
This is amazing advice for anyone who wants to become more feminine. You are like the big sister I never had. So kind and beautiful! Thank you so much for the tips
Awww thank you so much my love!
I needed this because I a lot of people say I sound like a 13 year old boy when I’m 16 and I always wished I had that 16 year old mature voice 🧍🏻♀️
sameee... im turning 17 and its just embarassing
I've been working on my voice I was raised in the hood mostly so I sound streetish. But I'm working on my accent to sound less that way 🙏
I work in a male dominated industry and have done so for the past 20 years. This video hopefully should help me become more feminine in voice! Thanks for the video.👏🏽
This is an EXCELLENT video! Loved the tip about tone of voice and watching what you share ... Hopefully a lot of us can put thin in to practice.
Thank you so much love! Yes, I hope so!
Michelle, your channel is putting my whole entire life together! I absolutely feel blessed to have come across your channel‼️
Aww that warms my heart so much! I'm so happy to hear that. Thank you for sharing that. Godspeed on your journey!
I’m dead ass watching videos on RUclips about femininity and this ad comes out of nowhere talking about some “stop chasing men” 💀
You’ve helped me heal and put away so many of my masculine energies I didn’t even know I had I am so grateful for you❤️
I really truly appreciate your videos. Please keep on making them. Living in a house with all males I struggle with my feminine side🤦🏽♀️. I try and try but somehow resort to being too aggressive. I prayed and God sent you, to learn and to “mimic”. Thank you so much!
I really need to fix my speech and work on my anger 😪
You can do it girl!
Khalia Graham same
It’s a process, practice practice practice... I’m happy I didn’t give up because Im being transformed for the better and a lot of great opportunities have been opening up and in the process I have also been helping/ encouraging other
@Liz Yessenia,, what approachbhelped you get better please?
Dr. Michelle you are a blessing in my life. This year, as messy as it is, I decided to change completely my lifestyle. Become who I want to be is a big part of my plan but also starting my dream business. I can already tell, when I make a mistake in the way I act or speak thanks to you. Thank you so much, I look forward to see your new videos❤️
This was such a great topic. I tend to speak too loud and to interrupt which I will promptly begin working on. I also appreciated the tip you gave about reading to improve your vocabulary. As an educator, I think reading also helps young people develop a sense of sentence structure. Poor grammar is another way that we signal we were raised without certain exposure. Appreciate your content so much!
I study you Dr. Michelle! You're my favorite feminine teacher on RUclips. My trouble is consistency. I love you! Big kisses😘😘😉
I had an ominous feeling just now when you spoke on sharing information with people. I did quite a big, "NO!" At my current workplace disclosing information to a front desk girl what I went through at my old workplace. Unfortunate but what's done IS done. A mistake on my part that I hope does not take a nosedive for me. ☹😣
Hello lovely people! I just wanted to remind the audience that speaking in a feminine way is not about having a high-pitched voice. If that's what you want, go for it! But just having a high voice does not make it feminine. Lean into your natural register and focus on fine-tuning the highlights of your voice. Soften your speech and truly think about what you are saying. Speak from your heart (or perhaps other places in your body if you're in that kind of situation). Candice Oneida has a good video about feminine speech as well if anyone wants more reference on getting in touch with your feminine energy.
I worked in customer service and I used a soft sensual voice. I had customers of all races trying to get with me. They would call back and ask for me. One man wanted to fly me to Florida. LOL. I thought it was so funny because they didn't even know how I looked. I had to change my facebook name because they were searching for my name.
Oh my! Can you give me some tips? Like how do you do that?
👀👀👀
I'm so glad I discovered you. I'm on the journey of becoming more feminine and sexy more graceful
I am glad too love. You will get there. Blessings!
I am a psychologist and my femenine voice helps a lot when I have to do an intervention with a patient
I needed this! I’m from New Orleans and I have a thick accent and a deep voice. I tend to be loud, especially when I’m passionate and I have a potty mouth... I actually have an extensive vocabulary but always spent my life trying to be “down”. all things I’m changing in 2020😊 this video is a good starting point.
Hey I'm from and live in Nola now I'm 28 and just starting my FEMININE journey hopefully we can meet after quarantine (kimdarensbourg@gmail.com)
Thank you! You are Heaven sent to us Tomboys and girls raised around mostly males! I appreciate you so much! 💛💛💛
Love your tips, your look and energy and positivity.
Aww thank you babe!!!
As a transgirl, it is weirdly so comforting that cisgender women think about this too! I struggle with not feeling feminine enough all the time & my voice is a big part of that. I know this video wasn't made for me, but it still helped a lot♡ Much Love
You’re the older sister I never had!✨❤️ tysm luv
Just started my femininity journey. I love your page ❤️
That's wonderful love! I'm happy to hear that. Thank you for your support!
I can't hear out of my left ear so I'm naturally louder than I'd like to be. I honestly can't stand it so I really have to really concentrate on speaking softer.
I’m so obsessed with this series. So useful and inspirational!
Aww thank you so much sweetheart, I'm really happy that you find it to be useful! Much love to you!!
I totally agree with everything that was said. So, I subscribed 😊. I have always been more feminine and when I was growing up many people criticized me. It is nice to see other women who look like me embracing their true feminine nature.
Omgggg your look in this video is EVERYTHING ! the colors tones your lip mesh pearls hair everything love it all. Gorgeous (:
I started reading! It's apart of my self care now
That is so wonderful. What book are you reading?
@@drmichelledaf right now I am reading ancient secrets of the goddess by velva dawn silver hughes and six steps to six figures by sibha vorajee.
I needed this,my family always make fun of me for my rough voice,new subscriber too 💕💕
Your top is so pretty!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Aww thank you babe!!
Please keep those kind of videos coming. I wish I would have grown up with a role model like you. Unfortunately my mother was/is nothing like that and actually engages in the opposite in a lot of things you speak about (she is rude, she yells a lot). It takes time to shake those passive consumed impressions off. So again, thank you for each reminder.
I've always thought my voice was waaaaay too deep, so I really hope this helps me get the feminine voice that I've secretly (although I guess it's not a secret anymore.😂) always wanted.
Thx SO much babe 🌈🌈❤❤
Kisses 💋💋
I'm such a chatter box and talk super fast haha. I blame my adhd but this video really helped me understand how to slow down and be mindful of having a more relaxing and welcoming aura.
I want my daughter to watch your videos when she turns 11 12 young girls need to learn early thank you
As the daughter of a speech pathologist I 💯 cosign with this video. Growing up ENUNCIATION was CRUCIAL.
Your eye makeup looks great, hun! Hope you'll be doing vlogmas this year.
Thank you sweetie, I can't promise but I'll be sure to pop in on that channel.
I am speaking much softer since watching your channel 🙃 it’s amazing how both men and women respond and are helpful and kind
Can anyone recommend any app or voice training course I can take I speak quite well and I’ve stop cursing 🤬 I’m trying to slow down but I think it should be slower I want to feel confident in taking my time not feeling I won’t get my point across
Learning not to interrupt
I’ve change my tone with the baby and friends but I catch myself a lot thinking I hate my tone
Look at The Great Courses website; I think they might have a course that would work for you.
I found a app that I do every morning and evening
It’s really good
www.wordupapp.co/
And I’m looking into course
So I’ll check it out
Same for me
Thank you for showing your true self& helping us older ladies too!!! Because I’m meeting men online who want my money only - now ! But I see threw the bull-s
I’m so lucky that I found your channel 💖 Thank you very much
Aww you are most welcome love. I am happy you found it too!
I've always yearned for the civil Art of Conversation and glad I am able to find it in/through you.
That's great honey!