Lex's communication skills are next level. Like how carefully he uses each and every word is really impressive. It simply shows that a person is kind and smart at the same time.
He jumped down Yes throat every time he pointed out someone is Jewish, but is happy to categorize evil white men- in a way that indicates being white is powerful and that they are evil.
@@lukeburas4271 every time Kanye brings up a point he wants lex to address or even wants lex to understand why he would feel the way he does, lex brings up the h o l o c o s t to guilt him out of pursuing any further
Summary: 1-listen deeply and make the other person feel heard 2-use a calm, slow voice 3-criticise specific behaviour 4-when you agree in something,tell them 5-express empathy 6-be vulnerable when you feel a negative emotion 7-accept playful breaks 8-give them a reputation they like and want to live up to
Don’t forget the constant referencing to the holocaust in order to shut down the conversation. Past tragedies can’t be used to restrict a discussion now. Especially those that are questionable in their finer details.
Lex has repeatedly surprised and impressed me in a lot of his podcasts. I don't think his guests, especially the more volatile ones are used to such a calm, thoughtful interviewer who doesn't play with egos. He asks, he makes dry jokes but never mocks the one he is talking to. He finds things he agrees with and tells them and points out what he doesn't in a way that isn't seen as an attack. He is really impressive.
It depends on what you want from the conversation. If you want to "win" and have the other person look bad and you look good, Piers' way might be better. If you want to "win" and come away from the conversation with a mutual understanding and a positive relationship, Lex's way is probably better.
@@WanderTheNomad but few people actually want to live like that, making people look bad, and generally they don't actually like it, coming from someone who has done that. that being said, i often do think it's a false dichotomy, to believe that it's either possible to foster positive relationship's, or to be correct. you can be both or neither at the same time, you can be correct and respectful, or correct and disrespectful, and generally i do believe that more people will examine their belief's when they don't feel disrespected. that being said, i do believe some people are too far gone, and even with being logical and respectful, there are some people you just won't reach. but if you have a decent mix of both, you will be far more effective than if you are just logical, or just loving.
@@ethanstump Yea I'm talking specifically when you have a conversation with someone while you have an audience. It would make little to no sense to talk like Piers Morgans does if you have no one else watching.
@@WanderTheNomad but even with an audience, i do think even Lex's method is superior, maybe in not in term's of reaching the widest audience, but convincing the widest amount of people. but then, a lot of the TV personalities don't actually care about being convincing, as long as the paycheck is bigger than the other guys.
My best technique is the Socratic method aka just asking questions and letting them explore their own ideas. You can pick holes in their argument if you want by asking leading questions, but don't do this too much or they'll feel cornered, you need to make it clear that you're genuinely trying to learn their perspective.
I agree with you. Although I have never needed to pick any holes , I ask 1 maybe 2 questions and people either retreat or use a common argument fallacy. So what you mean is be more careful with my questions ? That seems like work , and tbh I’d rather admit I’m wrong and they are right so I don’t have to waste any more time or energy
@@noompsieOG man, these are terrible responses. Are we just incapable of having dialogue? Why do you feel the need to “agree but actually disagree and walk away”?
This is a bit too close to machiavellianism. You shouldn't lead who you are talking to into traps. Are you talking to someone to "dismantle" their views or are you talking to someone to learn?
I had a massive argument with a friend today. Or rather, we had an argument last week but we met to talk it over today. When preparing what to say I thought of this video after watching it ages ago (probably when it first came out), and looked it up again to rewatch it. I genuinely think I used every single technique highlighted (not really through trying, but the right situations just kept coming up), and it fully turned the conversation from something that could have been pretty ugly into an amicable exchange. No advice was ever going to stop me and this person disagreeing with each other on some things, but I can say for sure that I feel like I came away having conducted myself with respect and integrity, while being able to listen and own up to the things I was guilty of. Thank you Charisma on Command. I know you're not making videos anymore but this one was a significant help to me regardless, and I'm very thankful.
When I'm feeling angry and hateful, I hate everyone and everyone hates me. But when I smile, even if I don't feel like it, and acknowledge people they smile back and are kind, and then I like them back. So simple, and I feel so much better, and so do they.
That's wholesome and all and it genuinely works at times depending of the gravity of our mental well being at the moment. But to do that as a kind of motto is a direct path to superficiality, shallowness and toxic positivity.
Criticising specific behaviours and not the person as a whole is really good advice. Lex seems to always see the good in people and shine a light on that in conversation, that really helps with people being more receptive to criticism and less defensive.
our enemy is not the person who we are arguing against, but our own ego lol shit's just so hard to put down and actually listen to the other person but its so important to push through and maintain that state of calm... lex is fantastic at that💯
Ego is code for deep internal Fe-ar and insecurity. What is called the ego is the response to thr deep Fe-ar and insecurity. Metallic iron filings rust out the nervous system, uoregulate the sympathetic nervous system, which then drains blood from the prefrontal cortex. And here we are. Put down the toxic metallic iron infused into the processed foold supply based on lies. Let me know if you more details...
@@wellnesspathforme6236 for now, but I am open to considerations, but I think that we do need a small amount of ego to achieve true confidence. In my opinion, one cannot exist without the other
@@RussellClausse You bring up a great point. There is probably a fair bit of nuance in this complex system. I have more ruminating to do. :-) BTW, your point is 100% true. Nothing I said was intended to undermine it. We often are our own worst enemy because of "ego" and all its dimensions.
@@wellnesspathforme6236 haha yes of course! Such a complex system that will take us many years to get a grasp of, maybe never in our lifetimes! Someone recommended i read the book the power of now to change my viewpoint on ego, i had already purchased it and im gonna give it a read sometime 🙏
@@RussellClausse It is an excellent book and worth the read. Tolle's appearance is over-the-top "fufu" to me, but the data in the book is good. There is a metabolic component, IMHO. Iron overload and hyperacidosis produce bad outcomes, but that's not to say the absence of those provides good outcomes. The Money Power Famikies are alkaline bloodline narcissists out to genocide all other bloodlines, so there is that. lol I recommend the following four books to prime your metabolism for a "high energy/vibration level." Literally, active and efficient mitochondrial energy production. 1. Cure Your Fatigue 2. The pH Miracle (revised and updated) 3. The Soy Zone (Zone Diet, soy is relatively higher in copper and it is alkaline) 4. Irritable Brain Syndrome (and how to go after acid producing and tissue damaging candida). ... The soy boy narrative is mostly nonsense. First, in general they don't eat soy. But they do eat metallic iron filings like they are a year end sale. The first book is by the creator of The Root Cause Protocol. He explains the iron overload stuck in the tissues where not measured dynamic. He probably has almost 200 interviews on RUclips. Biology of Belief is another good book that Kit Campbell covers in Irritable Brain Syndrome and in interviews. Also, toxic seed oil should be avoided. Udo's Oil and similar high quality oils are about the only option, but don't heat them. I vacuum seal them with wine vacuum seal systems.
Lex Friedman is probably one of the most impressive men I've seen in a while. I've been listening to him on his podcast for a while now and I am absolutely in love with his thought process and the way he handles himself and his guests. The Ye interview just took all of that to a whole new level.
lex is a very weird guy, i feel like he cons people with his calm way of speaking but there is something going on with him. i dont trust him at all he seems fake
@@chiccavaquita the music and film industry is primarily run by Jewish people. That's provable fact. Kanye is in the music business and is an artist, his art is owned by people who aren't creative. Creative people tend to suffer more from mental illness because they question things and want to see things from a different angle and unless you're either highly connected and willing to do what you're told or highly creative you cant make a living in the arts. Book smart, rich kids fit into society very well because they're accepting and will get the well paying jobs, lay on top of their wives, have kids, make money, believe the news, vote and go on nice vacations. Lex, and the like would never question why wtc7 randomly collapsed, why a group of Israeli art students were having an 'art' project on the 91st floor of the wtc or why we went to Vietnam after jfk was murdered. Those people are good at managing life, accepting it for what it is and for the most part being at minimum, content
This interview was THE FIRST time I heard of Lex. I was IMPRESSED and found the whole interview great to watch and see how both handled it. Lex has incredible control and can easily steer the convo in the ways he wants. He gained a sub that day, and really helped me see that I needed to calm down while dealing with people I disagree with, and really HEAR them more than I already am. Thanks for not painting Ye in such a bad light either, He's not crazy, just not taught well in how to speak or react like Lex or one of your subscribers. Love the video gang, thanks for informing others!
If you want to listen more of his more 'human' conversations, I would highly recommend the following episodes. 317 , 312, 311, 310, 301 ( highly recommended) , 288, 278 , 276, 272 ,255 , 228, 196 , 169 , 140 Not to say the others aren't great, but they tend to be a bit more technical.
Lex a respected computer scientist, artificial intelligence researcher and a professor at M.I.T. As well as a BJJ black belt who competed against BJJ legends like Gary Tonon, musician and a successful Podcaster at 39 years old He also has an IQ of 180(Einstein had an IQ of 200) . lex is a beast and super chill guy all once.
I loved this video, thank you for it. I loved how at the end Ye and Lex were closer and more open about their desire to spread love than ever before. And Ye apologized to him, not that that matters in itself, but it just shows he wanted to express to Lex that he cared about him and wouldn't want to hurt him. That's powerful.
Lex seemed angry and his tolerance seemed forced throughout the entire interview. At the end he said something along the lines of "nothing is promised but death" which seemed like a thinly veiled threat or prophecy.
@@silvermoneydude2044 Where did Lex talk down to people? That is true for some podcast hosts on some topics. But of all the interviews I've heard of him, he's actually always been very humble and never tried to push his opinions.
Thank you for this vid. I just experienced a break up w/ a woman who I thought was going to be my wife, over the most trivial argument, that has still left me dumbfounded. I tried very hard to keep my cool over the course of what was like 2 hrs of nonsense drama, but I eventually wore out and folded. I will practice what was demonstrated in this video and never let anyone get my goat again.
I don't want to say anything negative about your gf, of course I don't know her. But I think a long term commitment , like a marriage, takes BOTH people working hard to communicate and respect one another. I don't know you, but chin up - we all learn and grow, bit it takes two. Took me a long time to understand that communicating about how we comminicate, as silly as that sounds, is vital.
One thing to keep in mind is that hate isn’t a lack of love. It’s not like a void of it, that’s what apathy is. He might be lashing out hatefully, but it’s coming from a point of passion. Even if his hate is fixated on the wrong things. You cannot truly win an argument against a person you don’t understand. Having the capacity to empathize where your opponent is coming from is one of the strongest tools you can have in a debate. Your goal in an argument isn’t to crush your opponent but to lift them to your understanding, because you can’t win someone over by alienating them.
no. lex friedman said black people can be a group, whites, hispanics and so on can be a group. but as soon as you call out the J team they arent a group and youre a nazi...
@@scottwillie6389 Are you sure? Did you research his background? Lex Fridman Russian-American computer scientist Lex Fridman is a Russian-American computer scientist, artificial intelligence researcher, and podcaster. He is known for hosting a podcast and RUclips series, the Lex Fridman Podcast in which he interviews a wide variety of guests.
Yeah, I like him, and agree with your general praise, but come on... "human history"? That part does the opposite of what you intend to do - it is so ridiculous over the top, that people will try to find flaws in his way of interviewing just to prove your point wrong. So what are you gaining by so bluntly overselling him? I really do not get it.
Wow!! It was difficult to watch, as I had preconceived notions, but made it to the end and was absolutely stunned by the result. Definitely made me consider the way I will interact. I want to be as good as Lex and bring out the best in myself and others.
@@MisterWealth Lex disagreed with a few things Ye said and how they were framed, and there were a few times he made that clear, but I don't think he ever "lost his cool". He expressed his dissent in a very respectful, calm manner, and I think the evidence for his great handling of the interview is evidenced in the outcome. But it's been a while since I've watched it; I'd love to know which parts you found to show Lex losing his cool. I'm admittedly biased towards Lex and might have overlooked it 😅
@@dismalthoughts , You didn't over look anything. Some people seem to think it has to mean there's an argument if everyone isn't in agreement or they aren't all saying the exact same thing. I married into a family like that and it's tortuous.. never an exchange of ideas, perspectives, or opinions. Everybody just endlessly parrots what somebody else (usually my MIL) already said.
Lex is a legend. Sometimes, in normal conversations, his way of talking seems a bit slow or uninterested (also he sounds like he took sedatives right before the interviews, lol). But it's in situations like this that you see his calm and collected style really pays off. Kanye is one of the oddest people out there, but as the saying goes, "those hardest to love are the ones who need it the most". I feel like Lex could pierce through his shell and plant a little seed there.
Lex is such a gem, he goes into the fire of tough conversations here and there and it's so funny cuz he's such a pure hearted guy tackling topics, ideas, realities that are so sinister, vile, dark and twisted sometimes.
Lex is a different breed. He has incredible insight for a kid. When I was his age I was just starting to make some good life choices and he is out there exemplifying how to interact under intense circumstances.
This video is one of your best so far! been following your work since 2019. Learned a lot so far. This type od de-escalation and finding mutual agreement, common ground is probably what we are needing the most the contemporary landscape of discussions. Thanks for the content
This was such an inspiring video, I've watched a lot of debates and interviews in this day age and they usually amount to nothing more than idealogical shouting matches. This was the only time where I felt both sides listened to and understood each other, and one side even walked away with a complete change of heart. We definitely need more of this today's polarized environment.
I watched Lex's full podcast and I gotta say Kanye's joke about why people can't stay mad at him caught me off guard and had me in stitches🤣 Being able to temporarily ease tension by bringing levity to a conversation despite your disagreement is a strength💪🏼
Tbh I've never knew anything about this Lex guy, never even watched any of his videos. But just as soon as I finished watching this, I subscribed to the man. He deserves my highest respect.
Lex became a champion/hero in my book. How can you casually and calmly talk to a person filled with so much pain and hatred without losing it at them, especially when they start taking jabs at you and your ancestry... While showing so much empathy towards him.... I don't think I'd be able to do the same
3:45 Lex was amazing here. We're used to the message of using fire to protect our ego and doesn't look like a loser but in an argument it will look ridiculous to a 3rd person. Those emotions lose power after the event.
Lex is perhaps the best interviewer on RUclips. Lex has awesome skills at connecting with his guest, being kind, listening to understand, allowing the guest to talk and be heard, caring about his guests and puting them at ease, not insinuating or using verbal manipulation, asking insightful relevant questions, letting guests know his thoughts and opinions without being rude/unkind and more. Lex. 👍 👍 👍
I’m very conservative with my likes. This may be one of the most useful videos you guys have produced and I’ve personally benefitted from several already. I’ll be revisiting this👍
Congratulations on making such a great video on such an amazing conversation. It's a quick guide on getting better in conversations which will make you a better human. This video should be considered before every interview.
9:17 This is Beautiful.. Thank you Lex and Ye for teaching and illustrating to me that this can be done! It's a Good Thing. And Thank you Charisma On Command for highlighting this excerpt of their conversation. If mainstream content predominantly carried this tone and sentiment, it would have a very positive influence.
honestly I've never aspired to be like web personalities because you can't really know how they are in everyday life but what I can say is that I aspire to be as good in conversations as Lex is, every interview he does is great and gives so much insight in both his guests and himself.
The way Lex handles this is a truly skillful thing. Being able to articulate his thoughts above the emotions he is feeling. Being able to articulate his emotions so clearly. All with no resentment. Kayne couldn't help but apologies to him in the midst of something so authentic. Lex shows us how to be noble men once again.
I’m two videos into your channel. Already, as an “introverted person”, I’m looking forward to watching/listening to the rest of your videos and the videos to come.
I didn’t have the stomach to listen to the whole conversation between Lex and Kanye, but this video made me want to go back to it to learn something from Lex’s way of empathizing
Great breakdown of the 2 situations. Question: what happens a few days after? Does Ye change his behaviour towards all? Or does he reflect? Or is it just going to be one individual at a time?
That's what I'm thinking. There are people are just beyond any reasoning. They have dug their feet in at their stance and won't budge no matter how you approach them.
I noticed in Ye's Insta posts shortly after the interview he stopped saying "Jewish media" and said something like red media.. can't remember the term exactly and he deletes his posts but that struck me as development.
Lex is one of my favourite podcasters, this Video really boils down the essence of why he is such an engaging interviewer to listen to no matter who he is interviewing.
this is so valuable. i try to ease the arguments in corporate workplace setting by these ways too. I fail often (as by nature im a rather selfish, opinionated person), but i am somewhat less horrible person to be around (according to how the feedbacks have been developing).
The movie scenes and interview scenes going on in the background are perfect, and extremely relevant to what the narrator is saying. If you’ve seen the movies, it’s just perfect.
Very important topic. I wish I could find the right words without losing my calm like Lex. How do you handle someone who is prone to long monologues and literally doesn't listen to what you're saying? (talking about my father who only looks up from his lecture when you start screaming...) That's been bugging me for a lifetime - I really would like to have a real discussion with him sometimes instead of a one sided speech and just don't know how to do that.
That must be incredibly frustating, just imagining it in my head makes me upset :/. I hope you find some things that work for your specific situation within the variety of amazing videos and resources on the internet. Good luck!
I have "personally" been through a lot compared to most. I accepted that most people are shallow, superficial and ignorant. Its lonely at times but peaceful most of the time.
Damn it... you're 9 hours too late... 😆 I just had an argument with a neighbour who was being the worst person to talk to. Seemed like a robot. I didn't lose my composure, but I sure as hell could have made a better impression... Please keep posting these videos. You guys are awesome.
I enjoy this channel, and appreciate the effort in collecting the actual examples. I understand that your goal is to improve communications when the other side is not listening, changing the subject, committing logical fallacies or otherwise not playing fair. Nonetheless, I wish you would come up with videos with the same examples but for the purpose of alerting people that they may be employing such unhelpful tactics without realizing it. There is a need for referees.
Great job explaining and pinpointing what is so great about Lex's conversational approach. That interview was fascinating to watch and tough to listen to. I felt Lex's pain when Ye said he didn't trust Lex, and I admired how he responded when he was able to collect his emotions with a heartfelt response. 😊
Key Moments Notes = big moments from the video. Square brackets are my own thoughts. 1:20 Its tough, man. Its tough. I hear you. I hear you. 2:26 Use a calm voice to explain yourself. Lex says 'With all due respect' then ends with 'I have to push back' [This is such a professional way to handle this argument. ] 3:40 Lex got so angry when he said JM. Wow. 4:07 [I wonder if Lex has said the following phrase before to disarm a situation: 'It is funny how this world works.' I wonder if this phrase is pre-planned for difficult conversations just as a way to take a step back. ] Fascinating phrase. 4:33 Mr Bean: do not negatively label the whole person 4:55 well put, I agree, I agree. Give out positive feedback to build rapport Do not keep positive thoughts to self, and negative thoughts out loud 5:53 You are under a lot of attack. A lot of attack. [Nice to repeat a phrase back to a person to ensure they are being heard] You have a vision [ This is such a positive thing to say. It forces Kanye to like Lex] 6:05 It is a wonderful life though. [Does Kanye mean this? It did not sound real] 6:24 Be vulnerable when you feel a negative emotion 'This is silly coz u don't know me. But it hurt when you said you don't trust me. You lost me.' [This was such an interesting moment in this video. Even I felt hurt when this happened. Maybe because this comment is attacking Lex's overall identity. Maybe Lex sees himself as a trusting person] 7:10 Nice moment: Or I could be opening up conversations with new friends I may trust some day. 9:18 A great man still through the pain does the right thing [ Hey, that rhymes!] These are my top moments from this video. How about you? What were your top moments?
I can’t understate Lex’s conversational prowess. He responds with such empathy and precision. I’m taken aback every time I watch his conversation with Kanye.
Lex's communication skills are next level.
Like how carefully he uses each and every word is really impressive.
It simply shows that a person is kind and smart at the same time.
Nah... he may have seemed calm but he was very manipulative
He jumped down Yes throat every time he pointed out someone is Jewish, but is happy to categorize evil white men- in a way that indicates being white is powerful and that they are evil.
@@CoolPapaJMagik in what ways? I have not watched it
Agreed. It's hard talking to an adult with the mental faculties of a 6 year old
@@lukeburas4271 every time Kanye brings up a point he wants lex to address or even wants lex to understand why he would feel the way he does, lex brings up the h o l o c o s t to guilt him out of pursuing any further
Summary:
1-listen deeply and make the other person feel heard
2-use a calm, slow voice
3-criticise specific behaviour
4-when you agree in something,tell them
5-express empathy
6-be vulnerable when you feel a negative emotion
7-accept playful breaks
8-give them a reputation they like and want to live up to
Unless they're jewish. Then you can only praise them.
This is super helpful thank you for taking the time to make this list
Don’t forget the constant referencing to the holocaust in order to shut down the conversation. Past tragedies can’t be used to restrict a discussion now. Especially those that are questionable in their finer details.
Lex has repeatedly surprised and impressed me in a lot of his podcasts. I don't think his guests, especially the more volatile ones are used to such a calm, thoughtful interviewer who doesn't play with egos. He asks, he makes dry jokes but never mocks the one he is talking to. He finds things he agrees with and tells them and points out what he doesn't in a way that isn't seen as an attack. He is really impressive.
but why he mad at JM tho its fucken true
@@alypha737 🤦♂
Yeah it feels like he had training with Chris Voss 😂
Meh
Ye broke him though. Totally caused Lex to lose his cool and throw off his mask.
Man, Piers has become the gold standard on what NOT to do in a conversation lol. The man attempts "gotcha" moments in every single sentence.
It depends on what you want from the conversation. If you want to "win" and have the other person look bad and you look good, Piers' way might be better. If you want to "win" and come away from the conversation with a mutual understanding and a positive relationship, Lex's way is probably better.
@@WanderTheNomad but few people actually want to live like that, making people look bad, and generally they don't actually like it, coming from someone who has done that. that being said, i often do think it's a false dichotomy, to believe that it's either possible to foster positive relationship's, or to be correct. you can be both or neither at the same time, you can be correct and respectful, or correct and disrespectful, and generally i do believe that more people will examine their belief's when they don't feel disrespected. that being said, i do believe some people are too far gone, and even with being logical and respectful, there are some people you just won't reach. but if you have a decent mix of both, you will be far more effective than if you are just logical, or just loving.
@@ethanstump Yea I'm talking specifically when you have a conversation with someone while you have an audience. It would make little to no sense to talk like Piers Morgans does if you have no one else watching.
@@WanderTheNomad but even with an audience, i do think even Lex's method is superior, maybe in not in term's of reaching the widest audience, but convincing the widest amount of people. but then, a lot of the TV personalities don't actually care about being convincing, as long as the paycheck is bigger than the other guys.
In his talk with Jordan Peterson he proudly announce himself as a clinical psychopath.
My best technique is the Socratic method aka just asking questions and letting them explore their own ideas. You can pick holes in their argument if you want by asking leading questions, but don't do this too much or they'll feel cornered, you need to make it clear that you're genuinely trying to learn their perspective.
This can be condescending if you’re the one who needs to reflect your thinking too
I agree with you. Although I have never needed to pick any holes , I ask 1 maybe 2 questions and people either retreat or use a common argument fallacy. So what you mean is be more careful with my questions ? That seems like work , and tbh I’d rather admit I’m wrong and they are right so I don’t have to waste any more time or energy
@@noompsieOG man, these are terrible responses. Are we just incapable of having dialogue? Why do you feel the need to “agree but actually disagree and walk away”?
@@vermiliongourd4619 easier 🤷♂️ I’m just lazy
This is a bit too close to machiavellianism. You shouldn't lead who you are talking to into traps. Are you talking to someone to "dismantle" their views or are you talking to someone to learn?
I had a massive argument with a friend today. Or rather, we had an argument last week but we met to talk it over today. When preparing what to say I thought of this video after watching it ages ago (probably when it first came out), and looked it up again to rewatch it.
I genuinely think I used every single technique highlighted (not really through trying, but the right situations just kept coming up), and it fully turned the conversation from something that could have been pretty ugly into an amicable exchange. No advice was ever going to stop me and this person disagreeing with each other on some things, but I can say for sure that I feel like I came away having conducted myself with respect and integrity, while being able to listen and own up to the things I was guilty of.
Thank you Charisma on Command. I know you're not making videos anymore but this one was a significant help to me regardless, and I'm very thankful.
As a person from Ethiopia, since you gave a colossal charity, I would love to say thank you for your generosity
When I'm feeling angry and hateful, I hate everyone and everyone hates me. But when I smile, even if I don't feel like it, and acknowledge people they smile back and are kind, and then I like them back. So simple, and I feel so much better, and so do they.
That might be the most valuable thing I have seen written in an online comment, anywhere, ever.
That's wholesome and all and it genuinely works at times depending of the gravity of our mental well being at the moment. But to do that as a kind of motto is a direct path to superficiality, shallowness and toxic positivity.
Thanks Judy I'm going to try this
Criticising specific behaviours and not the person as a whole is really good advice. Lex seems to always see the good in people and shine a light on that in conversation, that really helps with people being more receptive to criticism and less defensive.
Have you watched it? Have Fr watched it? He was trynna hoe
This guy proves that it takes love to overcome hate
I prefer deception
He loves money and fame
Love is powerful.
@@MattMussett bravery, fear , hate is more powerful.
If people will allow it, love will overcome hate every time. But people need to ALLOW this.
our enemy is not the person who we are arguing against, but our own ego lol
shit's just so hard to put down and actually listen to the other person but its so important to push through and maintain that state of calm... lex is fantastic at that💯
Ego is code for deep internal Fe-ar and insecurity. What is called the ego is the response to thr deep Fe-ar and insecurity.
Metallic iron filings rust out the nervous system, uoregulate the sympathetic nervous system, which then drains blood from the prefrontal cortex.
And here we are.
Put down the toxic metallic iron infused into the processed foold supply based on lies.
Let me know if you more details...
@@wellnesspathforme6236 for now, but I am open to considerations, but I think that we do need a small amount of ego to achieve true confidence. In my opinion, one cannot exist without the other
@@RussellClausse You bring up a great point. There is probably a fair bit of nuance in this complex system. I have more ruminating to do. :-)
BTW, your point is 100% true. Nothing I said was intended to undermine it. We often are our own worst enemy because of "ego" and all its dimensions.
@@wellnesspathforme6236 haha yes of course! Such a complex system that will take us many years to get a grasp of, maybe never in our lifetimes!
Someone recommended i read the book the power of now to change my viewpoint on ego, i had already purchased it and im gonna give it a read sometime 🙏
@@RussellClausse It is an excellent book and worth the read. Tolle's appearance is over-the-top "fufu" to me, but the data in the book is good.
There is a metabolic component, IMHO.
Iron overload and hyperacidosis produce bad outcomes, but that's not to say the absence of those provides good outcomes. The Money Power Famikies are alkaline bloodline narcissists out to genocide all other bloodlines, so there is that. lol
I recommend the following four books to prime your metabolism for a "high energy/vibration level." Literally, active and efficient mitochondrial energy production.
1. Cure Your Fatigue
2. The pH Miracle (revised and updated)
3. The Soy Zone (Zone Diet, soy is relatively higher in copper and it is alkaline)
4. Irritable Brain Syndrome (and how to go after acid producing and tissue damaging candida).
...
The soy boy narrative is mostly nonsense. First, in general they don't eat soy. But they do eat metallic iron filings like they are a year end sale. The first book is by the creator of The Root Cause Protocol. He explains the iron overload stuck in the tissues where not measured dynamic. He probably has almost 200 interviews on RUclips.
Biology of Belief is another good book that Kit Campbell covers in Irritable Brain Syndrome and in interviews.
Also, toxic seed oil should be avoided.
Udo's Oil and similar high quality oils are about the only option, but don't heat them. I vacuum seal them with wine vacuum seal systems.
Lex Friedman is probably one of the most impressive men I've seen in a while. I've been listening to him on his podcast for a while now and I am absolutely in love with his thought process and the way he handles himself and his guests. The Ye interview just took all of that to a whole new level.
@Black Lesbian Poet And you just like the security of an echo chamber
lex is a very weird guy, i feel like he cons people with his calm way of speaking but there is something going on with him. i dont trust him at all he seems fake
The devil is known for smooth words. Lex is gaslighting tf outa Ye
@@chiccavaquita the music and film industry is primarily run by Jewish people. That's provable fact. Kanye is in the music business and is an artist, his art is owned by people who aren't creative. Creative people tend to suffer more from mental illness because they question things and want to see things from a different angle and unless you're either highly connected and willing to do what you're told or highly creative you cant make a living in the arts. Book smart, rich kids fit into society very well because they're accepting and will get the well paying jobs, lay on top of their wives, have kids, make money, believe the news, vote and go on nice vacations. Lex, and the like would never question why wtc7 randomly collapsed, why a group of Israeli art students were having an 'art' project on the 91st floor of the wtc or why we went to Vietnam after jfk was murdered. Those people are good at managing life, accepting it for what it is and for the most part being at minimum, content
No he is not.... lex didn't give af what ye was saying... he just cared about the Jewish BS
This might be one of the most important videos I've ever seen regarding my own life and how to deal with conflict.
This interview was THE FIRST time I heard of Lex. I was IMPRESSED and found the whole interview great to watch and see how both handled it. Lex has incredible control and can easily steer the convo in the ways he wants. He gained a sub that day, and really helped me see that I needed to calm down while dealing with people I disagree with, and really HEAR them more than I already am. Thanks for not painting Ye in such a bad light either, He's not crazy, just not taught well in how to speak or react like Lex or one of your subscribers. Love the video gang, thanks for informing others!
If you want to listen more of his more 'human' conversations, I would highly recommend the following episodes.
317 , 312, 311, 310, 301 ( highly recommended) , 288, 278 , 276, 272 ,255 , 228, 196 , 169 , 140
Not to say the others aren't great, but they tend to be a bit more technical.
This point is Lex level and articulated my exact experience as well. Especially the point about calming down when dealing with people I disagree with.
Lex a respected computer scientist, artificial intelligence researcher and a professor at M.I.T. As well as a BJJ black belt who competed against BJJ legends like Gary Tonon, musician and a successful Podcaster at 39 years old
He also has an IQ of 180(Einstein had an IQ of 200) . lex is a beast and super chill guy all once.
Lex has really built a next level podcast and next level interviewing skills
I loved this video, thank you for it. I loved how at the end Ye and Lex were closer and more open about their desire to spread love than ever before. And Ye apologized to him, not that that matters in itself, but it just shows he wanted to express to Lex that he cared about him and wouldn't want to hurt him. That's powerful.
Lex seemed angry and his tolerance seemed forced throughout the entire interview. At the end he said something along the lines of "nothing is promised but death" which seemed like a thinly veiled threat or prophecy.
@@RodrigoOswego 😂😂😂 comedy gold
@@RodrigoOswego "nothing is promised but death", it just means you do not know what the future holds, we only know that our lives end in death.
Notice Lex’s slow low sounding demeanor? It’s brilliant tactic
Lowkey sounds like me when i pulled an all nighter, its better for me to think so slow
It’s called weed speed
Lex is a champion. A true role model. His varied guests and exceptionally long form podcast are a great way to get into a subject.
He's definitely good at playing the victim and talking down to people.
@@silvermoneydude2044 Where did Lex talk down to people?
That is true for some podcast hosts on some topics.
But of all the interviews I've heard of him, he's actually always been very humble and never tried to push his opinions.
@@silvermoneydude2044 I don't watch much of him but I'd like to see some examples.
@@silvermoneydude2044 "boohoo boohoo babababab" - you
@@silvermoneydude2044 example?
Well done on this video. Haven’t seen a breakdown as nuanced as this one on this whole mess of a topic.
Thank you for this vid. I just experienced a break up w/ a woman who I thought was going to be my wife, over the most trivial argument, that has still left me dumbfounded. I tried very hard to keep my cool over the course of what was like 2 hrs of nonsense drama, but I eventually wore out and folded. I will practice what was demonstrated in this video and never let anyone get my goat again.
I don't want to say anything negative about your gf, of course I don't know her. But I think a long term commitment , like a marriage, takes BOTH people working hard to communicate and respect one another. I don't know you, but chin up - we all learn and grow, bit it takes two. Took me a long time to understand that communicating about how we comminicate, as silly as that sounds, is vital.
@@stacys8729 Thank you for the kind words. ❤️
One thing to keep in mind is that hate isn’t a lack of love. It’s not like a void of it, that’s what apathy is. He might be lashing out hatefully, but it’s coming from a point of passion. Even if his hate is fixated on the wrong things.
You cannot truly win an argument against a person you don’t understand. Having the capacity to empathize where your opponent is coming from is one of the strongest tools you can have in a debate. Your goal in an argument isn’t to crush your opponent but to lift them to your understanding, because you can’t win someone over by alienating them.
Very well said. Love it.
Yep; The opposite of love is indifference…..lack of understanding/care/concern of the other persons stance
Lex is an emotional genius. He seems slow sometimes but he's really just taking his time to think it through. I would love to give that guy a hug.
Lex looks 25, has intellectual level of 55 while having patience and stoicity of a 75 year old.
He's Russian. Stoicism is in his DNA
Stoicism*
no. lex friedman said black people can be a group, whites, hispanics and so on can be a group. but as soon as you call out the J team they arent a group and youre a nazi...
@@tigre9271 He is most certainly not Russian.
@@scottwillie6389 Are you sure? Did you research his background?
Lex Fridman
Russian-American computer scientist
Lex Fridman is a Russian-American computer scientist, artificial intelligence researcher, and podcaster. He is known for hosting a podcast and RUclips series, the Lex Fridman Podcast in which he interviews a wide variety of guests.
Lex is the most underrated host and interviewer probably in human history... There's very few people who are on this gentleman's level.
Yeah, I like him, and agree with your general praise, but come on... "human history"? That part does the opposite of what you intend to do - it is so ridiculous over the top, that people will try to find flaws in his way of interviewing just to prove your point wrong. So what are you gaining by so bluntly overselling him? I really do not get it.
Wow!! It was difficult to watch, as I had preconceived notions, but made it to the end and was absolutely stunned by the result. Definitely made me consider the way I will interact. I want to be as good as Lex and bring out the best in myself and others.
Lex was far from stoic in this, he was mad that Ye pointed out all the people suppressing him in his life are J's. Lex lost his cool more than Ye did.
@@MisterWealth Ye yelled a few times while Lex never raised his voice. I don't see your point
@@MisterWealth Lex disagreed with a few things Ye said and how they were framed, and there were a few times he made that clear, but I don't think he ever "lost his cool". He expressed his dissent in a very respectful, calm manner, and I think the evidence for his great handling of the interview is evidenced in the outcome. But it's been a while since I've watched it; I'd love to know which parts you found to show Lex losing his cool. I'm admittedly biased towards Lex and might have overlooked it 😅
@@dismalthoughts , You didn't over look anything. Some people seem to think it has to mean there's an argument if everyone isn't in agreement or they aren't all saying the exact same thing. I married into a family like that and it's tortuous.. never an exchange of ideas, perspectives, or opinions. Everybody just endlessly parrots what somebody else (usually my MIL) already said.
@@Smenchevieve to be fair, you do not have to raise a voice to show your anger. You can calmly hurt other people with just words.
Lexs martial arts training comes through, his is the path of humility and infinite patience.
Great video. Lex is the Man. Love him. Thanks.
He's so calm and it's so rare these days.
I also appreciate how you better people's behavior with video like these thanks.
This is one of the greatest RUclips videos I’ve ever seen. Thank you for producing engaging content that will hopefully make us better people.
Lex is a legend. Sometimes, in normal conversations, his way of talking seems a bit slow or uninterested (also he sounds like he took sedatives right before the interviews, lol). But it's in situations like this that you see his calm and collected style really pays off. Kanye is one of the oddest people out there, but as the saying goes, "those hardest to love are the ones who need it the most". I feel like Lex could pierce through his shell and plant a little seed there.
Man his interview with Jordan was painfully slow
😂 maybe he did take sedatives. Dealing with Ye, whom I totally like and appreciate, you need to.
Weed speed
Lex is such a gem, he goes into the fire of tough conversations here and there and it's so funny cuz he's such a pure hearted guy tackling topics, ideas, realities that are so sinister, vile, dark and twisted sometimes.
Lex is a different breed. He has incredible insight for a kid. When I was his age I was just starting to make some good life choices and he is out there exemplifying how to interact under intense circumstances.
This video is one of your best so far! been following your work since 2019. Learned a lot so far.
This type od de-escalation and finding mutual agreement, common ground is probably what we are needing the most the contemporary landscape of discussions. Thanks for the content
This was such an inspiring video, I've watched a lot of debates and interviews in this day age and they usually amount to nothing more than idealogical shouting matches. This was the only time where I felt both sides listened to and understood each other, and one side even walked away with a complete change of heart. We definitely need more of this today's polarized environment.
thank you for breaking down his interviews because they certainly had me perplexed, and thank you for donating to charity!
I watched Lex's full podcast and I gotta say Kanye's joke about why people can't stay mad at him caught me off guard and had me in stitches🤣
Being able to temporarily ease tension by bringing levity to a conversation despite your disagreement is a strength💪🏼
I completely agree😂
And the way Lex responded was the perfect maneuver. The tension just drained from the conversation.
Tbh I've never knew anything about this Lex guy, never even watched any of his videos. But just as soon as I finished watching this, I subscribed to the man. He deserves my highest respect.
Thanks for this video...Language and demeanor are powerful when it comes to how people receive and understand eachother.
Lex became a champion/hero in my book. How can you casually and calmly talk to a person filled with so much pain and hatred without losing it at them, especially when they start taking jabs at you and your ancestry... While showing so much empathy towards him.... I don't think I'd be able to do the same
This is why conversation is an Art.
Not many know how it works.
This has helped many.
Thank you..🇬🇧
Phenomenal. My mind is more open now after watching this. Thanks for this
3:45 Lex was amazing here. We're used to the message of using fire to protect our ego and doesn't look like a loser but in an argument it will look ridiculous to a 3rd person. Those emotions lose power after the event.
This was the most beautiful video you've ever made. That was emotionally moving
Lex is perhaps the best interviewer on RUclips.
Lex has awesome skills at connecting with his guest, being kind, listening to understand, allowing the guest to talk and be heard, caring about his guests and puting them at ease, not insinuating or using verbal manipulation, asking insightful relevant questions, letting guests know his thoughts and opinions without being rude/unkind and more.
Lex. 👍 👍 👍
WOW! This video was insanely well put together and will help me so much in the future, thank you for this ❤️
Let is very, very professional and a high status man. Rare. Bravo Lex.
Thank you for this video and for this insight
wow the way Lex handled that interview is a different skillset in itself
"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." ~ Marcus Aurelius 🙏😊
Wow! Lex that was amazing and I have taken notes!
I’m very conservative with my likes. This may be one of the most useful videos you guys have produced and I’ve personally benefitted from several already. I’ll be revisiting this👍
LOVE! It’s hard sometimes when things seem to be so dark and full of chaos. LOVE
Lev is next Lexel. It's unreal how skilled he is at steering a conversation.
I recently discovered your channel for myself, and am glad this kind of content is available RUclips. Thank you for the free education.
Congratulations on making such a great video on such an amazing conversation. It's a quick guide on getting better in conversations which will make you a better human. This video should be considered before every interview.
Just when I think I can't love this channel any more, they prove actions by donating again to charity water. Good gracious. I love you guys!!
This is awesome!
Can you please do more breakdowns with Lex Fridman? 😮
I'm so glad you're soing a bit with Lex, he's great, honestly I strive to be so firm but calm
9:17 This is Beautiful.. Thank you Lex and Ye for teaching and illustrating to me that this can be done! It's a Good Thing.
And Thank you Charisma On Command for highlighting this excerpt of their conversation. If mainstream content predominantly carried this tone and sentiment, it would have a very positive influence.
honestly I've never aspired to be like web personalities because you can't really know how they are in everyday life but what I can say is that I aspire to be as good in conversations as Lex is, every interview he does is great and gives so much insight in both his guests and himself.
Thank you CoC for picking such a great charity to give to.
Coc stands for clash of clans 😭😭
A great man even through pain does the right thing- that was very well said.
The way Lex handles this is a truly skillful thing. Being able to articulate his thoughts above the emotions he is feeling. Being able to articulate his emotions so clearly. All with no resentment. Kayne couldn't help but apologies to him in the midst of something so authentic. Lex shows us how to be noble men once again.
These principles have been taken from "How to win friends and influence people." They are valid. One of the few books I read more than once.
Wow Lex is incredible. I've never heard of him before.
I love his interviews. My favorite thing to fall asleep, too because I'm falling asleep pondering something worthwhile
Lex is the best thing to happen to the RUclips podcast space in years. If you don't follow him, I suggest you do.
Whys that ?
What's different between him and Joe Rogan?
@@TheChosenOne2023 Intelligence, openness/courage and self discipline as an interviewer. Lex>Rogan in all three.
@@Chazzmatazz cope
Where does one find him & his podcasts, please?
I’m two videos into your channel. Already, as an “introverted person”, I’m looking forward to watching/listening to the rest of your videos and the videos to come.
Lex is a pretty strong interviewer, definitely one of the best.
Great breakdown
I didn’t have the stomach to listen to the whole conversation between Lex and Kanye, but this video made me want to go back to it to learn something from Lex’s way of empathizing
Great breakdown of the 2 situations. Question: what happens a few days after? Does Ye change his behaviour towards all? Or does he reflect? Or is it just going to be one individual at a time?
That's what I'm thinking. There are people are just beyond any reasoning. They have dug their feet in at their stance and won't budge no matter how you approach them.
I noticed in Ye's Insta posts shortly after the interview he stopped saying "Jewish media" and said something like red media.. can't remember the term exactly and he deletes his posts but that struck me as development.
I feel sleepy every time I listen to Lex. His pace is melodic.
What about a video on how to remain stoic when being abused/incessantly harassed verbally?
Lex is one of my favourite podcasters, this Video really boils down the essence of why he is such an engaging interviewer to listen to no matter who he is interviewing.
Must say, this was a great vid 👏 thank you 🇬🇧
this is so valuable. i try to ease the arguments in corporate workplace setting by these ways too. I fail often (as by nature im a rather selfish, opinionated person), but i am somewhat less horrible person to be around (according to how the feedbacks have been developing).
I get (and even share) the point Kanye is trying to make, but I agree with Lex on how to articulate the communication of that point.
I'm not clear on what Kanye's point was. Could you clarify that for me?
The movie scenes and interview scenes going on in the background are perfect, and extremely relevant to what the narrator is saying. If you’ve seen the movies, it’s just perfect.
Very important topic. I wish I could find the right words without losing my calm like Lex.
How do you handle someone who is prone to long monologues and literally doesn't listen to what you're saying? (talking about my father who only looks up from his lecture when you start screaming...) That's been bugging me for a lifetime - I really would like to have a real discussion with him sometimes instead of a one sided speech and just don't know how to do that.
That must be incredibly frustating, just imagining it in my head makes me upset :/. I hope you find some things that work for your specific situation within the variety of amazing videos and resources on the internet. Good luck!
One of my favorite channels talking on one of my favorite channels! Thanks for highlighting the genius of Lex in this interview!
Lex is too humble for how skilled he is, but that's what I love about him
Thanks for Juxtaposing the 2 interviews ... Very insightful what it takes to go into an interview to argue versus going in to listen and understand...
You should also do the Ronaldo and Pierce interview and how to better yourself with it, or something like that.
Great video! Man, this would have changed my life 20 years ago -- I young people take heed.
Lex is the GOAT.
BIG PROPS on the charity water donation ❤❤
Where’s the podcast 😢
I have "personally" been through a lot compared to most. I accepted that most people are shallow, superficial and ignorant. Its lonely at times but peaceful most of the time.
Damn it... you're 9 hours too late... 😆
I just had an argument with a neighbour who was being the worst person to talk to. Seemed like a robot.
I didn't lose my composure, but I sure as hell could have made a better impression...
Please keep posting these videos. You guys are awesome.
Good for not losing your composure. Practice makes perfect.
I love this thank you, I strive to communicate like that
I enjoy this channel, and appreciate the effort in collecting the actual examples. I understand that your goal is to improve communications when the other side is not listening, changing the subject, committing logical fallacies or otherwise not playing fair. Nonetheless, I wish you would come up with videos with the same examples but for the purpose of alerting people that they may be employing such unhelpful tactics without realizing it. There is a need for referees.
Great job explaining and pinpointing what is so great about Lex's conversational approach. That interview was fascinating to watch and tough to listen to. I felt Lex's pain when Ye said he didn't trust Lex, and I admired how he responded when he was able to collect his emotions with a heartfelt response. 😊
Key Moments
Notes = big moments from the video. Square brackets are my own thoughts.
1:20 Its tough, man. Its tough. I hear you. I hear you.
2:26 Use a calm voice to explain yourself. Lex says 'With all due respect' then ends with 'I have to push back'
[This is such a professional way to handle this argument. ]
3:40 Lex got so angry when he said JM. Wow.
4:07 [I wonder if Lex has said the following phrase before to disarm a situation: 'It is funny how this world works.'
I wonder if this phrase is pre-planned for difficult conversations just as a way to take a step back. ]
Fascinating phrase.
4:33 Mr Bean: do not negatively label the whole person
4:55 well put, I agree, I agree. Give out positive feedback to build rapport
Do not keep positive thoughts to self, and negative thoughts out loud
5:53 You are under a lot of attack. A lot of attack. [Nice to repeat a phrase back to a person to ensure they are being heard]
You have a vision [ This is such a positive thing to say. It forces Kanye to like Lex]
6:05 It is a wonderful life though. [Does Kanye mean this? It did not sound real]
6:24 Be vulnerable when you feel a negative emotion
'This is silly coz u don't know me. But it hurt when you said you don't trust me. You lost me.'
[This was such an interesting moment in this video.
Even I felt hurt when this happened.
Maybe because this comment is attacking Lex's overall identity.
Maybe Lex sees himself as a trusting person]
7:10 Nice moment: Or I could be opening up conversations with new friends I may trust some day.
9:18 A great man still through the pain does the right thing [ Hey, that rhymes!]
These are my top moments from this video.
How about you? What were your top moments?
This is just great, I don't know what to say else but respect to Charisma on Command team
I hope more people discover, Lex after this. He’s a sincere lover of life and a friend to all people.
Being correct does not mean being persuasive. That is some stone cold truth right there. Great vid!
Wow. Lex is strong!
I can’t understate Lex’s conversational prowess.
He responds with such empathy and precision.
I’m taken aback every time I watch his conversation with Kanye.