Setting of boundaries is a good start just as you said, late night conversations should reduce. It might not totally stop following the words of Ayomide "he's just your bf not husband." Then we should always remember that besties are besties because they've been there for eachother through thick and thin, so i don't expect them to just put a stop to it just like that.
Hmmmm! Your second paragraph got me sighing deep. That's actually true. They've been there the whole while. It would all make sense if there's a balance to it. But telling your bf that he's just a bf and not your husband though?! 😭😭😭 The boy fit craze o! 😂
My two cents is that the bestie sef should already be in the know from the talking stage (for an existing bestie). So you don’t start feeling “betrayed”
Firstly, seeing you guys makes me reaffirm the fact that descent is beautiful. Secondly, there's no male bestie that doesn't want to chop you. whatever that means.. Finally, your video is really nice.
First of all, i feel you can create a mutual connection between them (your partner and bestie). Make your bestie your partner's friend. Might be hard though but you can still try and not make it seems like a secret relationship with your bestie. The probability of it working is slim also.
Yessss!!! True! Even right from the talking stage. But you know in this bestie-ship thing, one person(at least) dey always catch feelings😭. This thing hard.
If you have best friend of a opposite sex before you get committed, you and your best friend should give yourself brain and know that there is now someone else in the picture so of course you start to set boundaries immediately. No more unnecessary attachment, but of course you can still remain friends but your partner has to be comfortable with whatever friendship you are now in so he/she doesn't feel like they have to compete
Having best friend of the opposite gender outside of a relationship, where there's underlying feeling for them, or them for you is detrimental to the health of the ongoing relationship. If you don't want to respond to the feelings of the best friend because you in love with your current relationship, then make them know, and set the obstacle, gbam.
Marry your bestie, simple, to avoid drama. Ofcourse there are some situations that with strict adherence to boundary rules and sincerity, they are good to go, but not everyone can do it, if he can do it, can his bestie do it..if not say bye bye to each other and focus on your woman, this goes for both sex btw
Simple but not simple too o😭😂. There's an issue of what if the relationship doesn't work out, we may not be able to go back to being friends as we've "crossed the line", do you get? So, some actually prefer to retain the friendship so as not to lose on both ends if the relationship doesn't work out.
@@oluwaseyivictoryagbato then one of the partners or both are not ready for a committed relationship, lol. Like i said to avoid stress, that bestie that you adore so much, marry am and save people's son and daughters from unnecessary wahala.
"Bestieship" should exist within your gender. Setting boundaries for your bestie? Ko le work😅. Besties are very anyhow people (in a good and annoying way 😂😂😂😂) Friendship ti wa ok for the opposite gender.
Setting of boundaries is a good start just as you said, late night conversations should reduce. It might not totally stop following the words of Ayomide "he's just your bf not husband."
Then we should always remember that besties are besties because they've been there for eachother through thick and thin, so i don't expect them to just put a stop to it just like that.
Hmmmm! Your second paragraph got me sighing deep. That's actually true. They've been there the whole while. It would all make sense if there's a balance to it.
But telling your bf that he's just a bf and not your husband though?! 😭😭😭
The boy fit craze o!
😂
My two cents is that the bestie sef should already be in the know from the talking stage (for an existing bestie). So you don’t start feeling “betrayed”
Oro!!! But plot twist, what if the bestie's bestie goan shenk him(most definitely 😂) and the bestie didn't know until wedding proposal nko?
Firstly, seeing you guys makes me reaffirm the fact that descent is beautiful.
Secondly, there's no male bestie that doesn't want to chop you. whatever that means..
Finally, your video is really nice.
Thank you for your kind words!
😀😀association of besties too should take caution. Very good topic and explanation from the ladies. Your submissions are awesome and true
Yes ooo, caution 😂😂😂!
Thank you very much sir!
Understanding is a Necessity by each partner. Setting priorities matters too.
It was an interesting and fun conversation, i enjoyed it Mama!💜
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you my love!
First of all, i feel you can create a mutual connection between them (your partner and bestie). Make your bestie your partner's friend. Might be hard though but you can still try and not make it seems like a secret relationship with your bestie. The probability of it working is slim also.
Yessss!!!
True!
Even right from the talking stage.
But you know in this bestie-ship thing, one person(at least) dey always catch feelings😭.
This thing hard.
Setting boundaries is definitely important 💯.
Absolutely!!
Thank you my love.
If you have best friend of a opposite sex before you get committed, you and your best friend should give yourself brain and know that there is now someone else in the picture so of course you start to set boundaries immediately. No more unnecessary attachment, but of course you can still remain friends but your partner has to be comfortable with whatever friendship you are now in so he/she doesn't feel like they have to compete
Valid!!! Thank you mama!
Having best friend of the opposite gender outside of a relationship, where there's underlying feeling for them, or them for you is detrimental to the health of the ongoing relationship. If you don't want to respond to the feelings of the best friend because you in love with your current relationship, then make them know, and set the obstacle, gbam.
exactly! gbam indeed! lol.
Thank you, ma.
Finally, SAVA joins this conversation... ❤❤
😂😂😂
Finally o.
Thank you sir.
Hmm, this conversation sha. Dont do what you cannot take.
True!
This is actually basic.
Thank you, Egbon Bee❤️.
Well for me, so far your bestie has found me, your relationship yaff finish o, aunty come and be going o😅
he's my bestie. leee to the ma oooo😂
But is he not??!!
😭😂
Abi you want her to lie?
love the comboooo
Thank you sir 😂.
We love it too!
Hmmm
Nice.
Thank you🥰❤️
Marry your bestie, simple, to avoid drama. Ofcourse there are some situations that with strict adherence to boundary rules and sincerity, they are good to go, but not everyone can do it, if he can do it, can his bestie do it..if not say bye bye to each other and focus on your woman, this goes for both sex btw
Simple but not simple too o😭😂.
There's an issue of what if the relationship doesn't work out, we may not be able to go back to being friends as we've "crossed the line", do you get?
So, some actually prefer to retain the friendship so as not to lose on both ends if the relationship doesn't work out.
@@oluwaseyivictoryagbato then one of the partners or both are not ready for a committed relationship, lol. Like i said to avoid stress, that bestie that you adore so much, marry am and save people's son and daughters from unnecessary wahala.
I stan a man wey sabi wetin hin want! lol! staying with your school of thought still. I can't agree less, actually.
I support Sisi Tobi. You can’t comman take me away from my friends because we want to do love love
Lewkatew☻️😂!
Your bestie should respect himself/herself from the moment he/she figures out that you are in love with another.
Exactly!
Thank you sir!
"Bestieship" should exist within your gender. Setting boundaries for your bestie? Ko le work😅. Besties are very anyhow people (in a good and annoying way 😂😂😂😂)
Friendship ti wa ok for the opposite gender.
It's the besties are anyhow people for me actually!
🤣
Thank you mama.
Interesting
Thank you sweets❤️.
Ahh Emmanuel 😢.
That's the only thing Dotun got out of an entire 13 minutes video!!! I'm officially tired of you😭😂.
@@oluwaseyivictoryagbato 😂 I got other things too. Buh Emmanuel I stand with you
You people had to bring Emma into this. Justice for Emmanuel please🌚
Justice for Emmanuel ✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
you wee stand na! shebi iss you!!!
Don't have bestie. Simple as ABC.
This woman don vesss😭😂😭😂😭😂.
@@oluwaseyivictoryagbato 😂😂😂
At this point, I choose the Lord.😔
😂😂😂
Don't give up, my brother!
Bestiee? Because of why ah ah
You're officially banned, Dotun!
😭😂
@@oluwaseyivictoryagbato 😂ahh
Why is the lady in the middle looking or smiling like she is forced to be on the show. 😂
😂
😂😂😂
She is just a blessed somebody actually.
Wait o So people Don't date there besties 😮😮😮😮
I thought your partner is meant to be your bestfriend
E no dey happen like that sometimes noni😭🤣
How can I contact you
Well for me, so far your bestie has found me, your relationship yaff finish o, aunty come and be going o😅
I love this woman!!! LOL! No time at all. But easy easy mama.