4 Signs You're NOT "Messy", It's Your Trauma
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Have you been called a messy person? Perhaps by your parents? Did you know that being messy could also be linked to signs of depression or even past traumatic experiences? In this video, we explore the psychology behind trauma and messiness.
Writer: Morgan Swift
Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera @amandasilvera
Animator: Sarimopi (IG@sarimopi) )
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Hi! Thank u for the video you help a lot of ppl
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I got a question can trauma turn into you forgetting things because your brain got rid of memories?
Remember, it’s never your fault, it’s someone else’s.
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✨Timestamps and Major Points✨
1. 0:31 Protective Barrier
2. 1:00 A needed Distraction
3. 1:35 Your Brain
4. 2:13 Losing Control
5. 2:48 Not alone
Apparently it was 5 signs not 4.
Thank you for taking the time to write and revise the time stamps :)
Thank youu for the timestamps! 💗
Not Alone is not a sign.
The last one isn't a sign. Don't know how you could possibly mess that up seeing as it's the outro that they use pretty much every time
As a person with C Ptsd, I really relate to this video. I live alone, so my apartment is extremely messy, cluttered.
I really want it to be uncluttered, but I find comfort in the look. I feel that it reflects my mind frame.
As I heal, and I deal with my memories and feelings, I find it easier to clean, and reclaim my living space!
Thank you for this video!
Stay safe, stay sane, stay strong!
I also have cptsd and that's soo relatable
My cat is being very cute right now. I love my cat.
Why does this say this comment was 12 days ago-
12 DAYS AGO ??
thank you for this information. please keep sharing more about your cat
GASP, REAL DEFINITION OF EARLY
12 DAYS AGO??
As a person with ADHD, plus trauma issues. Object permanence is a thing with ADHD, I need to see everything to know that they exist, which then creates clutter.
@ber495 This isn't my real name, I'm a Gen Xer, so this name is from an old show called " Punky Brewster." It's also funny because I actually work in an adult store and talk about the amazing benefits of masturbation all the time. 🤦♀️😅.
I go to therapy, and I'm learning new skills on how to help my coping mechanisms and be able to organize things without getting overwhelmed.
Same here!
@@ddwfwI love the minimalist approach! I'm much less stressed when I have less to worry about 😂
I watched The Home Edit on Netflix, and their methods really resonate with me. In particular, the use of clear containers on shelves. It's categorised, stored, and I can still see exactly what's in each container.
@@jenniferbates2811thank you for sharing and explaining 🤗💚
Oh yea that's me 100% And then on top of that. I am Austistic as well. If I didn't put it in spot.. I can't find it again.. if I clean.. I've moved the thing and now I can't find the thing.
"Sometimes clutter can feel like a protective barrier"
Ma'am. I assure you. My clutter IS a protective barrier. In the event of zombies, I'm safer than most, cause most people wouldn't be able to get to me. Drop their intelligence to zombie levels, and they have no chance.
A lot of our feelings, emotions, actions and behaviours are in response and to our trauma. Until we finally take the time to heal and then we can respond to our true selves and develop our own separate identity.
Most definitely. I believe that is why a lot of conflict occurs is because of so many unhealed wounds we have (at least in a figurative sense). But personally for me, I can't stand it when someone wants to use trauma as an excuse for feeling the need to be angry or hostile whenever it suits their impulse or convince. I couldn't even begin to describe how I've heard stories where people 'feel like they can't do anything because they've experienced so much trauma.' I get it - but we as individuals are also responsible for our own words, actions, and sentimentality. Thinking this way has probably cost me some friendships, but tbh...it's brought me a world of peace; being able to develop integrity and self respect for myself. And unfortunately some people can't handle rejection, which is like trauma, but to a lesser extent depending on how one might choose to view it - and besides which, life will not ever be fair for any single person on this planet, but based on my experiences, you're the only one that can be your 'best friend' when push comes to shove - considering we as human beings are naturally selfish and autonomous creatures anyway. And the current trends have made it thus easier for anyone to want to be more alone. Thus, friendships and traditional families aren't what they used to be anymore either.
Special thanks for this one; I'm not necessarily a hoarder but I am hyper-sensitive and find it hard to let go of things that link me to the past. Nostalgia for happier times when I wasn't so alone.
I feel the exact same way too, and I often have difficulty letting go with a lot of things. However it isn't always the past itself that troubles me so much as whenever I feel jealous of someone (even though deep down I know I shouldn't). I also can't stand arrogance either, but I believe we all can feel that way sometimes if we're insecure about ourselves or dealing with any sort of conflict. Coping mechanisms can vary from person to person. None of us are alone.
Messes in your mind translate to your surroundings.
I’m going so much depression right now and these videos always make me feel better.
Lol...same here ^_^
Thank you so much for this information. I started seeing the clutter pile up, but I didn’t know why. I thought that I was just lazy, but I just couldn’t get it together. Now, I know why. Also, I recently learned that I have autism. I am definitely processing a whole lot right now in addition to the severe childhood trauma and CPTSD.
Can someone explain this to all offices of Section 8 inspectors around the country? People who act like if there's any sign that a person lives in your home when they come that you're a "hoarder" or a "slob"? Or act like cardboard boxes used for storage pose a danger of spontaneous combustion?
Every year it's the same crap.
These videos really help me understand myself and others, thank you for creating these videos and explaining it in a simple and easy to understand way!♡
We're so glad that our videos help you understand yourself better! What did you think of today's topic on trauma and messiness?
@Psych2go I've got a a few friends who struggle with depression that was caused by traumatic events, and this helped me understand why they have a messy room more often than a clean room. Your content helps me understand my friend and other people a lot more. I think very differently to a lot of people due to autism and your content helps me learn about psychology easier! Thank you!
The mess, in my case, is also a consequence of cleaning-related trauma. Coming home from school to a "tidy" bedroom meant things of mine were thrown out or given away without my consent, and I didn't feel safe in my room if it was tidy.
Two guesses if that gets in the way of "being organized" and the first one doesn't count.
You brought up something that made me realize this might also go for me, I used to have a lot of stuffed animals and I remember one day my mom just ordered my sis and my cousin to throw them out without asking me which ones I wanted to keep etc. it really hurt me back then and I attacked my cousin screaming and pleading for them not to take them away (childhood me also thought they had feelings and would be hurt by doing so)
Same here. My Mom still threatens to come in my house when I'm gone and throw away everything (she says it's all garbage, which means I'm garbage). I'm in my 40s and still being treated like this. She threatened me with it just a few weeks ago. I don't even want her to set foot in my house anymore, but I have no choice as boundaries aren't a thing. The only time I start feeling like I could maybe do some cleaning, is when I haven't seen/heard anything from my parents for a month or more, which is rare because that's only when they go on vacation. But it takes that full month before I start feeling like I could clean, and then they're back and on my case and it all resets.
…oh.
@@PrettyGirlRock1115 thats's horrible :(
@@notthetrueNic you’re cute, I don’t know I can laugh about it now because I know how silly it was but yeah back then it was for sure. I thank you for your empathy though and I hope you’re doing better for yourself and can or was able to heal from your own trauma❤️
No wonder things that are around me are a bit messy, this video perfectly summed up what I'm currently experiencing. I got teary eyed as I watched the video because idk what went wrong with me suddenly as I'm feeling everything all at once. I feel like my friends are going their ways, I get sad by the slightest circumstance, I want to be with my girlfriend always, I feel like everyone dislikes me for no reason... and yeah, idk why I got suddenly like this. I was okay the last month and things took a 180 degree turn.
Feels like I have nobody, I want to do things alone like go out and eat, but at the same time it feels like it emphasizes my loneliness more... damn, life is hard. All of a sudden I am in solitude and now I get frustrated over the smallest things.
Yep, I know how that feels - because I feel like a lot of my friends (from high-school) are choosing to lead superficial lives (which I have no idea why). And I'm not trying to cherry pick or feel left out (which honestly I don't). But this is where I think populism and influence culture has done more to misinform rather than be beneficial. I'm probably not being completely accurate if I'm just assuming that... but how will there be any genuine effort or value left if people just do what's popular rather that what is truly right for them. I mean at some point we all have to put on a 'face' just to get somewhere with ourselves, but if it's going to take joy away, then what is really the point of existing.
But whatever it is you're struggling with or going through; realize that you're not alone and I'm sure eventually you'll make new friends. I'm not saying it will be easy, but I would hope that you have any 'belief' that there will always be someone out there who is willing to help or befriend you. Whatever you choose to do, I wish you all the best with attempting to discover your spirit and what it is you truly want from yourself; and not just others. Peace 🙏
I understand you.. You're not alone in this, but I think you should talk it out with someone and get some comfort. Sometimes being heard is more than enough. Bad times are temporary, so it's going to be okay sooner or later. Until then, try to enjoy some little moments of happiness you might find
gosh i teared up too :( i just realized things that i had shoved to the back of my head lately after watching this video and realizing why i've been so unorganized lately
The past few months I have noticed that I am not myself anymore. One of the things that I noticed is that I no longer clean the house, tidy up the kitchen, and when I do so it takes a lot of courage to even put away a single dish. I’m not fond of cleaning but seeing a clean house makes me feel motivated, however nowadays I can’t even stand to see a clean spot. The good news is I know what’s causing my mental health to spiral downwards and I even know how to fix it, bad news is I also can’t bring myself to do so. It is my final obstacle from leading a happy life but it’s also the hardest and most painful one yet and it hurts so much.
These videos are so helpful without being excessively long or overwhelming! Plus I love, love, love Amanda's voice. Thank you! ❤
Her voice is peaceful.
@@redfox12g75 very! 💕
Having a super judgmental family doesn't make you feel any better, either
Ha Ha...how true...😂
Watching your videos somehow makes me feel so much better and positive. Thanks for your lovely videos 🥰
Our pleasure 😊
@@Psych2go Thanks for your videos:
I wish this was a Psychosis but it is very real as are my injuries:
I have been overwhelmed dealing with injuries from a few assaults as the Portland Police consider it to be "constitutionally protected free speech" for a disturbing man to tell people that I am "David Lamar Hollingshead" a convicted sexual predator of children. This disturbing man is doing this as revenge for me sending Oregon DEQ photos that ended an ongoing environmental crime a block uphill of the hospital that I live near for medical treatment. As he knows that there are angry white men that are just looking for an excuse to harm a Halfbreed like me...
The first assault was being kicked in the face when I was tying my boot costing me teeth. The worst was an alcoholic bipolar neighbor who knew that a drunk driver broke my back added two herniated disks which can't be fixed by surgery due to the a drunk driver breaking L1, L3, L4 & L5 when I was young. There have been two assaults since then though the worst one left me picking bits of enamel out of my hand so before it would heal so I have to look out for him seeking revenge for breaking his teeth...
I have never been charged with a crime. As an adult I have never started a fight. But since Donald Trump actively emboldened white nationalists I have had trouble. As some racists view me as an "Abomination" & "Contamination of the Great White Race" as it's very clear that I am a mixture of First Nations, Native American & European and white nationalists don't really like that. The first time I heard "The only good Indian is a dead Indian" was from a pair of MAGA Hatters who were trying to run my car off the road with their pickup...
So yes I really do live with trauma and stress without a way of resolving it...
And your videos do help. Thank you...
I always thought I was the only one feeling this way, then get more depressed because my husband calls me lazy 😢 … thank you for sharing this video with us, I’m going to start looking for help for mental issues ( I am Bipolar)
i really like your videos. its so accurate and so relates to most people experience.❤❤
Glad you think so! Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment :)
@@Psych2go welcome . i love ur videos😊
watching these animations plus the comforting words in this video has made me tear up a little,, it's around the 2 year mark of a traumatic event for me and for months now i haven't been able to even throw away the overflow of trash in my mini garbage bin. this video made me feel seen and oddly comforted me in the way that i need at this moment. thank you for the kind words
There is something deeper in it. I've noticed that lately i have no motivation to clean everything in my environment so often like I use to.
❤Thank y'all so much for this! This is definitely my "sign"! 🙏 👍 WE CAN DO THIS!!!!🎉❤❤❤❤❤ I needed this so much and now I know I'm not alone!!!
You're definitely not alone ❤🙏
Oh my gosh thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ this really helps :) thanks for helping everyone with these videos
Thanks for watching! Did you enjoy today's topic?
@@Psych2go Yes I always learn something new about me in these videos! I’m glad I found this channel
Timestamps
1). Protective barrier 0:31
2). A needed distraction 1:00
3). Your brain 1:35
4). Losing control 2:13
5). Not alone 2:48
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
thank you :) love people for doing this
@@sViviftie thanks for the compliment 💙💙💙💙💙💙
To be honest, as a messy person, I never thought for what I had is trauma
The real problem for me is whenever I’m aware that I need to clean the room, I tried to explain my mother the reason why it’s a mess, she doesn’t seem to care to understand and it’s not because I’m lazy (not sure if it’s trauma but I don’t believe I’m in term lazy)
I'm curious about the other side of this; ever since I was young my father grilled into me that cleanliness was everything, not to the point I'm ocd but certainly to the degree of me not liking anything to be a mess but as clean/tidy as can be, I feel this too is a trauma response but just diverted in a different direction.
As a person that has been through a near death experience I never considered myself to have any sort of trauma because I don’t want to put myself before others, but watching this and looking at my own room and seeing how my own condition (epilepsy) contributed to the trauma I now realize that there’s more to what other people say than me being “lazy.” I’m just glad there’s more people who can relate to this.
It doesn't help me personally when cleaning is RELATED to my trauma. My ex used my executive dysfunction around cleaning to not only humiliate me but to control me. It was my always fault if anything wasn't clean and she was the hero descending on high to rescue me. She taught me to think of myself as a horrible dirty person that kept her from living the life she wanted and to constantly try harder to make her life easier. At the time I thought this was normal couple stuff, where I just wasn't pulling my share of the weight in the relationship. Now I see it for what it was: a cycle of debasement, apology, and reward that kept me working my hardest to put her wants over my needs.
Thank you for this! I struggle so much with being messy. I also place alot of value in objects and have a hard time letting things go, making me have hoarding tendencies (apparently). I find it hard to organize and clean. I suffered a bad depression in college and can say I had no energy to do anything and the few times I tried to clean, I got too overwhelmed. I tried to ask my ex for help a few times because he was always nagging me about my apartment being messy but he wasn't very...ugh can't think of the words right now... um he wasn't very nice emotionally I guess? Like he didn't try to understand my way of thinking or just sit back and support my feelings and stuff even though he thought I was being ridiculous. Don't worry, we broke up and even though it was painful (10 years together) my therapist has made me realize I deserved someone better. Seeing this video just makes me feel a little better about my myriad of problems and reminds me that some of my issues aren't just because I'm a terrible person but because of the various mental and emotional traumas I have faced in my life.
amanda, you have an amazing and very soothing voice. Always relaxing and a joy to listen to.
man I havent watched this channel in quite a while and honestly this channel is a safe place❤
Tbh I'm actually pretty messy. I just need discipline but you can't stop me.
i looked at what i do everyday and i noticed how messy i do things i am currently pretty sick so i guess of dirty my things are really helped with getting me sick. I’m going to take a bath now to have some time to think about this more and to hopefully fix this mental issue I’m in.
Great vid! I heard somewhere that messiness (or even just leaving a soda can in the sink instead of putting it into the recycling) could be a subconscious feeling that you lack the agency to take care of it in the moment, something like that
Just know that you got this! It's not gonna last forever. Start small, take maybe 5 mins and clean as much as you can. Take your time and don't push or beat yourself up.
Healing isn't a straight road. Sometimes there are difficult curves, traffic or even roadworks or things on the road that force you to stop. And that's okay, you heal but please take your time and take a break (not necessarily just because you need gas). Take a break, get out of your car and enjoy the present moment.
I believe in you! ❤
i’m not even sure what traumatised me but i do have a lot of fears that i’m 100% sure that these have something to do with the past , my memory can’t recall but you videos still help me a lot thanks
Thanks for this video. I never saw it like that. I have PTSD and anxiety, and been having trouble feeling motivated to clean the house. Makes a lot of sense.
…I-…I’ve nothing to say…
Thankyou 😢😭. Yesterday my family had a big fight with me over this. I couldnt explain why, kept crying whole night. Today ur video popped up in my youtube feed. It gave me hope🥲 that i'm not alone.
Omgoodness.....I am going through this right now...😮😮
I've had 5 yrs with back to back surgeries or health issues. My home has gotten out of control. I'm too embarrassed to ask for help. I'm too exhausted to get anything done. Then a few months ago, I had a Dr.s appt. I was talking to my Wonderful PC; she had said I could possibly be ADD/ADHD?!?! I had no idea what to think.
After much research and talking with a therapist.... so much more understanding about ADD/ADHD.
I used to be able to keep my home clean and some what organized. However, I am not able to finish what I started. Either due to pain or getting distracted.
Thank you for this video. You have answered many questions for me. Blessings to you💜💜💜
Tbh.. The person that said that they'll always be with me always complains about me being messy and lazy or just stupid when i can't even control that. Im having a tough time and they're just complaining..
I've found it helpful to give myself only one simple task each day, something directly beneficial to me and my well-being. It might be folding and putting away a load of laundry, or sweeping my bedroom floor and taking the trash out, something easy that doesn't require a lot of time to complete. If I'm able to get that done, I'll randomly attempt to get another thing done that day if I feel up to it and motivated. But I don't ever try to get anything more done than just the one initial task, though. That way, if I finish it, I feel good about it, and like I've achieved something in completing my goal for that day. And, if I'm just not up to doing anything else that day, having just one thing I've set my mind to accomplish and no more prevents me from feeling like I failed or that I didn't get done what I wanted. It sounds kinda elementary, maybe, but there are days when that's honestly all I can do, and I can feel good about getting that one done, at least. ❤
I have autism, general anxiety disorder (which includes PTSD) and depression. This video made sense to me in a way I never thought of. I never thought it could have been something else way out of my control. I just hope I can eventually heal and be able to properly clean some day.
Its hard to clean your space when you don't even like yourself.
The barriers too, can't abuse me if you won’t come in my room because it is gross.
i feel like my disorganised room is just a reflection of my mind...
I think the harder thing is handling judgment and others who think they know better. From a certain perspective I'm messy things clutter my space and some things aren't accessible. From my perspective i have my own way of organizing things and know where things are. How you think things should be set up is harmful to me because even though my perspectives not wrong and I'm glad to help you clean things up to meet your needs i know how things should work in my space better than you do. I'm adaptable but not enough to neglect a sense of who i am.
Thank you for this. I’ve had so many mean people in my life criticize me for having a bit of a mess in my house this isn’t even dishes or dirt related I love vacuuming and cleaning but it’s clutter related. This makes sense now.
Honestly, I've always been so confused when it comes to this. I have OCD, and it constantly makes me want to have a clean and orderly environment, but doing so just feels like such a burden and impossible task even if I really really want to, it just feels like I cant start because it's too much.
This video made me réalise some of my action when I was younger (12, 13)... I used to in the hit of a meltdown throw all my stuff on the ground and quit hide myself into them, I felt comfortable in it, protected... then I felt miserable having to clean it because it looked bad. But I can tell you if you are messy because of trauma that life can change. I have my own apartment now and started working seriously on my healing since I was 18 (I am 21), my house is really clean now and quit organise. I feel so much better mentally even if I had terrible down (suicidal trough and try). I still got down but they are not as deep. I really started to live and I am a 100% sure that you can too.
Thank you for making this video. I really needed to hear this
Thank you so much! Was today's video helpful for you?
I got very mad when I was young, (I had major anger issues because of my autism when I was younger but I cope with my anger issues better now), I got extremely mad that my dad locked himself in the bathroom or in his room. He'd by chilling on his phone and I'd be banging on the door begging for him to come out, while crying. When he opened it he said "are you ready to come out now," I said yes, ran in there, and felt a burst of rage. He put me out the door again. The second occurrence that happened more was when my mom and dad were home. I was really mad again and they'd lock me outside in the backyard. so once again I'd be banging on the door begging too be let in. They would open it and say "are you ready to come inside," but then I would feel a burst of anger, so right when they saw it pulsing through my face they'd lock it and close the door again. They put me out there for a very long time though spanning around 30 minutes-3 hours.
Dude 😢 today's my birthday and no on really cares not even my family man that's alot to take in hope it gets better soon
Thank you ! I recognize this trait/symptom in some family members!
alright, time to search up how to know if you had trauma
yes.
Look up 'code of silence' by billy joel.
I have adhd and autism which is not the best two mental illnesses to be together and, school is making me more stressed. My dad indeed yells at me when I don’t do as I’m told because I’m ‘glued’ to my iPad. Anxiety doesn’t help either
Thank you for this video, Psych2Go! You verbalized some things that I had been thinking. ❤
Once my ex boyfriend moved out, i simply can't clean. I really enjoyed having clean and organized space earlier, now i just seem overwhelmed to even think about taking care of this space... i don't really know what to do and how to even start 😢
Thank you for the depth and care that is used in creating these videos. ❤
I suffer from recurrent severe depression and whenever it occurs I can't do anything. Don't read mail or anything else.
When I make a mess in a shared space or space that's not my own, I will go well out of my way to clean up after myself. Not just taking the responsibility to leave it how I found it, but the initiative to leave it better. As far as my own space though, I have my room and my car, both are quite a mess. I feel these are spaces where I don't have to feel like a burden, where I can exist unapologetically and just relax for a change. The mess is mostly just papers, dust and bags, I don't leave food scraps and garbage laying around, I have standards at least. I feel like when people like my mother for example enter and clean up without consulting me, its an invasion and a disrespect of my boundaries.
Regardless of all of this, I would like to have both spaces clean, I just can't find it in me to get around to it.
This is so true...I hate to see messy environment, i always want to keep things in place! Because i have been fighting PTSD
quick reminder: this doesn't MEAN you have trauma, its just pointing out that it may have a correlation with some people. this video isnt meant for you to blame something because of your messiness.
This channel helped me learn about myself a lot and im really enjoying listening to the videos too and I love the characters design
Man I dunno, I remember being 3-4 years old and making a mess in my room to deal with my overwhelming rage over ???. I was just sitting in my office the other night, which is literally storage right now, so I'm just surrounded by piles and boxes- And I was thinking "This would bother most people but I feel comfortable in here." My desk at work is perpetually a disaster area. It almost feels like I'm... "nesting"? But yeah my room was often a mess when I was a kid, I don't think it's trauma. I mean it could be, I definitely had trauma in early childhood, but all I remember about that event was being angry. It's possible clutter helps me process anger better. I'm gonna say it's a CONTROL thing, I have massive PDA. If someone messes with my trash it pisses me off.
Just dont use it as an excuse. We aren't worthless, we're sick. We need to get better. Use this vid as emotional validation, NOT as an excuse to relieve yourself of responsibility.
It's also a rebellion. The more my abusive parents get on my case about cleaning my house, the more I don't want to. Now, that fall under the protective wall too, but I see it partially as rebellion in the only way I can rebel. I've been that way for as long as I can remember with only one time ever cleaning when I had to (when we were selling the house, because stranger were going to be seeing everything too). It really doesn't help, either, when your possessions are all you have (no friends, no non-abusive family, significant other, no kids, no pets, etc.), and the abusers in your life tell you that all your stuff is garbage. This makes me feel like I'm garbage as well, because what you own is also a reflection of you and your personality. Added to that, I was raised in the 80s when "he with the most toys wins." I would love my house to be neater (not necessarily sterile because that's not homey, comfortable or anything (my parent's house is like that and I'm not at all comfortable there, and don't feel like I can touch anything or do anything, and I don't want that for my own home). When you aren't allowed to have what you want/need for cleaning/organizing, and are limited to an empty room with boxes that don't have lids for your organization of all household stuff.....cleaning is impossible and undesirable. Also, I'm one of those people that, if I can't see it, I don't have it, therefore I need to be able to see my stuff and want it out where I can see and enjoy it, otherwise what's the point of having it if it's put away where you can't see it? According to my abusive parents, I shouldn't own anything but a bed, tv, computer, kitchen/dining table, one chair, dishes for one person for one meal, one pan, one pot, a few utensils, and only enough clothes for one outfit per day for one week. That's it. No pictures, no decorations, no nothing. To me...THAT's the pure way to severe depression and not feeling at home anywhere. That means no hobbies, no interests, nothing.
𖢻1. 0:31 protective barrier𖢻
𖢻2 1:00 A needed distraction𖢻
𖢻3. 1:35 your brain𖢻
𖢻4. 2:13 Losing control... 𖢻
𖢻5 2:48 not alone😨𖢻
I'm late but someone could use these if they're in a hurry
Love this content! You have such a calming voice!
This was very helpful to me, I have been down a while, i thought that my messy room was my flaw but I have grown to like this messy environment as a safe place for me and my thoughts. I don't want to clean my room, even if I tried, is it procrastination? I still don't know the definitive answer, but I can say that it makes me feel comfortable and I don't want to get rid of this environment even if it looks awful...
HEYYYYYYYYY PSYCH2GO,
You are a good soul..your videos save so many lives..you give the right content about mental behaviour...it helps people to recognise more about themselves and I've also learnt about so many things thanks ..
🎯 that explains alot in my life, currently & in the past. Not that its an excuse but an understanding.
Yeah right
When my room is messy, it's only because I think that if I can walk, it's in order. But thanks ❤
I definitely use clutter as a barrier. Cleaning it all just seemed overwhelming. Then a thought hit me: I am transgender and my transition seemed overwhelming until with a therapist we broke it down into a series of small steps. This summer I approached cleaning in the same way, 2 hrs on Saturday morning. Now I am almost done!
Boy can I relate to this especially my mother bothers me about my messy home she always complains and then when she comes to help me finally she gets controlling and strictly organized because of her ocd as well I feel trapped and regretful for even asking for help I wanted to decorate using my plushies and dolls and leave my other things where they were I know I had an inspection where I’m from and I had to do it this time any other day it’s always about cleaning with my mother and family they’re toxic
I relate BIG time. I just got tramatized the past week.
These vids just calm me down make me realize things and i love them thank you for making these!
Im 15 years old, and my room is super messy. I always feel that it is impossible to do, impossible to even lay in my bed, so i sleep on the couch. I just feel too overwhelmed when im in my room, and thats supposed to be my safe spot from everywhere else. Everytime my mom yells at me to clean my room, the only thing ill clean is my clothes off my bed and then id stop doing everything because im so tired and sick of doing it. Id sometimes stop halfway through, as well. Laundry day comes again, and just want to sleep and not do it all over again. Im not sure whether I have depression issues currently as i am depressed, or trauma from something that happened to me socially. Either way, kind of scared how deep my trauma is now.
Is it just me...? Or does anyone else finaly get to cleaning...does it all day, like over the top...and then in 2 days....its messy and dirty again? ....i wonder if my psyche actually feels comfort when its messy? Cuz i dont know how not to make that mess...i watched lot of yt videos about how to keep the house tidy....but i just always end up with things in weird places.....i grew up in a messy home, with lots of people and lot of hurt...
Thank you so much… glad I found your channel again. Love all the knowledge and the cute format. ❤️🙏🕊🌎✨
It's beyond mess. It's a nightmare, just like my trauma.
I don’t know but to me it feels like some people that are actually lazy just gonna take this to say hey psych proves it I am not lazy 🤦🏻 instead of just cleaning
Amanda's voice is 🔥
So that’s why *every room in the house* feels so daunting to declutter. Could also be because every one that lives here is a bit of a hoarder
I had never thought about it being linked to control, I fully expected to come.out of.this video solely blaming my laziness, and I still think thats theajprity reason, but I'll have to think more on the link to control, its a big part of my life, not something Id write off so quickly when i do tend to end up with an especially messy bedroom every so often.
This explains a lot of the behaviours on the A&E show Hoarders
Seriously is this channel reading my mind or is it coincidence?!
I wish you could do a video on death anxiety. I am absolutely terrified of it even though I know it is inevitable
Yup, we are only living to die (vice versa) and when it comes to death all we can hope for is a quick and painless one, and i thought if i committed a suicide that would acomplish every single goals in my life. But since i had goals to become a successful person, but didn't know what to do to reach that goal so i literally thought and decided that if i can't find a job or whatsover to do with my life or if i go blind i will do a suicide.
To conclude, Same here I feel bad dying without acomplishing anything too.
Wow i almost wrote a fycking essay😂
Read the title and immediately thought
"That's right, I'm not Messi"
Personally I relate to a lot of these, but I don't know what trauma could've caused it, because I would said that my life is relatively not traumatizing.
Thanks, I needed that.
This is my stepson to a T. Thank you for this video.
Thanks for this video! It helped a lot!
I don’t think it’s my trauma I think it’s my social anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts and lots more
As a person without any disorders and stuff, i just wanted to make an excuse for myself since i am soo fycking clumsy and messy
This hit harder than it should have
I needed that
I have PTSD anxiety stress and the fear of being yelled at