Whilst you’ve got a pulse and a drive or desire, then that’s all you need. I think being told or shown it’s okay to fail is powerful. I never comprehended the bounce back up mentality. I was given stark choices, and I could imagine those in my mind. I’d illustrate the whole lifestyle of my choices and its consequences. So my choices given to me were: study and succeed or don’t study and become a dustbin man. That was the ultimatum that made me study very hard for my GCSEs and not go out for a few months. It worked. The ‘measure of success by others’ was achieved. To ignore the academic route and jump into the real world, I had no idea that you could go out there and fail yet bounce back. I think the only narrative around that I’d heard was one where to drift between jobs, factories etc. whilst living in a council flat. So think it’s also important to be given a much bigger menu, wider choice of what’s really out there and achievable. I’m very split in my feeling between : not wanting to fail & unable to see how the worse things will outcome, versus ‘but why can’t I give it a go and even if I fail I’ll work around it until I’ve exhausted all avenues’. I think the latter mindset was there at time in areas I was curious or enthused. But when you speak like that, you very quickly get told no. And whilst mischievous outside playing as a kid, there was no room for that at home so no means no. Another thing… I’d have ideas. And on the rare occasions I’d share them at home I’d get the common answer from my dad of : no, because that’s been done and that thing is saturated, anybody can do it. I now get the side tip of: differentiate yourself. But he never said that. And beyond a lack of nurturing and the total lack of: but you could instead try this and alter it there… I think he was never on board because he has never shown creativity in the more artistic fields. Nor those conversations. Nor hearing people. However, ironically, I’d say he was creative in fixing some things - ok new building techniques he’d always study a book on best practice but - when it came to his bikes or workbench or something that involved woodwork or metal work, he seemed in his element of : bodge and add these belts & braces. ….. I think there’s creativity in there. Unless it’s just practical engineering. Whereas I think he admired crafted welders and machinists, and I think he had to look at them afar because again I don’t think his mindset was in tune with ‘creating’ that beauty. Ultimately the creativity allows ideas to flourish. To laterally tackle problems. And give yourself a range of solutions. Coupled with a mind that can problem solve and imagine a successful outcome, is a powerful pair of skills.
My experience in school is why I decided to homeschool my children. Yes, that was a financial sacrifice because I did very well in the corporate world, but homeschooling was a success for our family. My kids say they never want to send their kids to public school. My oldest has dyslexia, learning how to teach him is a highlight of my life. Now, I help others homeschool.
Barbara is incredibly smart, well spoken, extremely successful, and so personable. The teachers didn’t recognize her special talents, and they failed her and everyone else who is dyslexic or has difficulty in school. Failure at work is also considered a ‘bad’ thing, but you learn a lot from failure. Loved this interview. This would be great for children and teachers in school to see.
Thank you for this interview. In this world people with learning differences struggle tremendously. I am dyslexic, SCT ADHD. Not a good combination. School was hell on earth for me. If that was only experience it would have been relatively easier to understand why the systems didn't work for me when I was in school. A bigger issue overall what was your family structure childhood outside of school like. If you have a high-level of family dysfunction. Generations of hand-me-downs that need to be brought into focus and understood. Today these issues are more understood, especially in the last 10 to 15 years. The whole psychiatric mental health field has changed. How I survived at an early age, my mind ability to evolve in a hostile environment a survival style I just mirrored people read room that's who I was. Doesn't do a lot for self autonomy. Just because that part really never was allowed to develop because of the constant negative input that you're not good enough, hearing that enough times you become automated self-doubt constantly criticizing yourself pure poison. I didn't realize how self automated I had become unconsciously I would say to myself horrible things. A self-fulfilling prophecy if heard from the outside you would be thrown in jail for abuse. Audiobooks saved my life. One of the first books that I purchased through audiobooks.com was The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz. About the parasite that lives in all humanity. I thought he was following me around. He described exactly the parasite that was living in me that critical voice your no good and never will be like a broken record playing over and over for the first time in my life. I think Eckart Tolle explains it as the pain body a powerful negative entity that affects people's thinking, causing rage, and other negative issues. Being in the present moment allows a person to see this entity that robs us of our joy of just being. Showing up on time to work every day with an attitude whatever was given to me I would finish for over 50 years was easy for me. It's life I struggled with to this very day. I love my solitude and my projects around my home and the constant dreams that more likely I will never finish in my lifetime.
I disagree; my anxiety, fear, hopeless, test anxiety, fear of discovery all ended after one year of being out of the school or taking classes. All of my depression was literally from being in school!
One of the best takes on Dyslexia I’ve seen. Should have way more views
Whilst you’ve got a pulse and a drive or desire, then that’s all you need.
I think being told or shown it’s okay to fail is powerful.
I never comprehended the bounce back up mentality. I was given stark choices, and I could imagine those in my mind. I’d illustrate the whole lifestyle of my choices and its consequences. So my choices given to me were: study and succeed or don’t study and become a dustbin man.
That was the ultimatum that made me study very hard for my GCSEs and not go out for a few months. It worked. The ‘measure of success by others’ was achieved.
To ignore the academic route and jump into the real world, I had no idea that you could go out there and fail yet bounce back. I think the only narrative around that I’d heard was one where to drift between jobs, factories etc. whilst living in a council flat.
So think it’s also important to be given a much bigger menu, wider choice of what’s really out there and achievable.
I’m very split in my feeling between : not wanting to fail & unable to see how the worse things will outcome, versus ‘but why can’t I give it a go and even if I fail I’ll work around it until I’ve exhausted all avenues’.
I think the latter mindset was there at time in areas I was curious or enthused. But when you speak like that, you very quickly get told no. And whilst mischievous outside playing as a kid, there was no room for that at home so no means no.
Another thing…
I’d have ideas. And on the rare occasions I’d share them at home I’d get the common answer from my dad of : no, because that’s been done and that thing is saturated, anybody can do it.
I now get the side tip of: differentiate yourself. But he never said that.
And beyond a lack of nurturing and the total lack of: but you could instead try this and alter it there… I think he was never on board because he has never shown creativity in the more artistic fields. Nor those conversations. Nor hearing people. However, ironically, I’d say he was creative in fixing some things - ok new building techniques he’d always study a book on best practice but - when it came to his bikes or workbench or something that involved woodwork or metal work, he seemed in his element of : bodge and add these belts & braces. ….. I think there’s creativity in there. Unless it’s just practical engineering. Whereas I think he admired crafted welders and machinists, and I think he had to look at them afar because again I don’t think his mindset was in tune with ‘creating’ that beauty.
Ultimately the creativity allows ideas to flourish. To laterally tackle problems. And give yourself a range of solutions. Coupled with a mind that can problem solve and imagine a successful outcome, is a powerful pair of skills.
My experience in school is why I decided to homeschool my children. Yes, that was a financial sacrifice because I did very well in the corporate world, but homeschooling was a success for our family. My kids say they never want to send their kids to public school. My oldest has dyslexia, learning how to teach him is a highlight of my life. Now, I help others homeschool.
Barbara is incredibly smart, well spoken, extremely successful, and so personable. The teachers didn’t recognize her special talents, and they failed her and everyone else who is dyslexic or has difficulty in school. Failure at work is also considered a ‘bad’ thing, but you learn a lot from failure. Loved this interview. This would be great for children and teachers in school to see.
I am at the age 25 I am seeing my gifts and talents of having dyslexia it is wounderfull blessed and flearished ❤
Thank you for this interview.
In this world people with learning differences struggle tremendously. I am dyslexic, SCT ADHD. Not a good combination. School was hell on earth for me. If that was only experience it would have been relatively easier to understand why the systems didn't work for me when I was in school. A bigger issue overall what was your family structure childhood outside of school like. If you have a high-level of family dysfunction. Generations of hand-me-downs that need to be brought into focus and understood. Today these issues are more understood, especially in the last 10 to 15 years. The whole psychiatric mental health field has changed. How I survived at an early age, my mind ability to evolve in a hostile environment a survival style I just mirrored people read room that's who I was. Doesn't do a lot for self autonomy. Just because that part really never was allowed to develop because of the constant negative input that you're not good enough, hearing that enough times you become automated self-doubt constantly criticizing yourself pure poison. I didn't realize how self automated I had become unconsciously I would say to myself horrible things. A self-fulfilling prophecy if heard from the outside you would be thrown in jail for abuse. Audiobooks saved my life. One of the first books that I purchased through audiobooks.com was The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz. About the parasite that lives in all humanity. I thought he was following me around. He described exactly the parasite that was living in me that critical voice your no good and never will be like a broken record playing over and over for the first time in my life. I think Eckart Tolle explains it as the pain body a powerful negative entity that affects people's thinking, causing rage, and other negative issues. Being in the present moment allows a person to see this entity that robs us of our joy of just being. Showing up on time to work every day with an attitude whatever was given to me I would finish for over 50 years was easy for me. It's life I struggled with to this very day. I love my solitude and my projects around my home and the constant dreams that more likely I will never finish in my lifetime.
Love every word. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this interview, it was a insightful and positive watch.
I love this conversation, so inspiring for all dyslexics.
All this ❤
Such a great interview and so relatable!
Fantastic… thank you for sharing this!
I like her! ❤
This was amazing
❤❤❤
I disagree; my anxiety, fear, hopeless, test anxiety, fear of discovery all ended after one year of being out of the school or taking classes. All of my depression was literally from being in school!
Could (and should): she help more: women And/or;
Dyslexics, to: make/create/set -up; their _own: business-es'??
-M.K.S.