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  • Опубликовано: 26 июн 2024
  • How i allowed him to mess up my daughter’s mental health
    Married to a narcissist
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Комментарии • 205

  • @ayandamthabela9989
    @ayandamthabela9989 Месяц назад +23

    Matshediso you are a great mother, am sure your daughter will never trade you for anything!!!

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much ❤️❤️

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      🙌

  • @nompendulomthembu2328
    @nompendulomthembu2328 Месяц назад +6

    You didn’t mess up with your daughter’s mental health, you were giving her the chance to see his father for who he is

  • @mpumimg6000
    @mpumimg6000 Месяц назад +5

    What we shouldn't do is shame the parent who stayed and did their best. We all make mistakes, but the best parent is the one who is there for their kids daily. Mama, you are the best to your baby. Let no one shame you, we all make mistakes.

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      You’re right

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much Mpumi. I appreciate your kind words ❤️❤️

  • @MissCombs1511
    @MissCombs1511 Месяц назад +19

    The fact that you are asking yourself if it's you, means you suffered narcissistic abuse. I'm sorry my dear.. just be there for her and expose her to the men who can love her... both of you 🫂

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you 😍

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      🙌

    • @dineolukuugi9662
      @dineolukuugi9662 Месяц назад +2

      Aaawww and that Narcissistic abuse is horrendous. It thrives on leaving the other parent with a lot of questions such as what you are asking Matshediso. I totally get your point when you say wena you just didn’t want to give him a reason to alienate you and make you look like the bad guy to your baby. Narcissists are master manipulators. Wishing you the best of luck with your recovery Matshediso-SURVIVOR!!! Trust your process, Twinkles(hahaha!!!-I have a twin sister and that’s what we call each other). I am new here and I am loving every moment. Thanks 2wins!!!

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      @@dineolukuugi9662 well said ❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      @@dineolukuugi9662 Hi Twinkle.,,,thank you ❤️❤️❤️ Welcome to your new home. Hope you and your twinkle 🤩 are good. You are 💯 correct, we are survivors, all is gonna be good for my daughter ❤️❤️.

  • @kyln9136
    @kyln9136 Месяц назад +12

    As a mother, you love your child, and would put your child's happiness above your own comfort, therefore it would be difficult to deny the child's desire to try to have a relationship with their father. You don't want the child tomorrow to think that the relationship failed because as their mother you stood in their way.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much, you explain it better 😍😍

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Well said

  • @leefortunate5764
    @leefortunate5764 Месяц назад +2

    Who ever made that comment is not a parent, you did everything you could to make things work mama your daughter will thank you one day

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      @@leefortunate5764 Thank you so much 😍😍

  • @mmaphakamanamela5942
    @mmaphakamanamela5942 Месяц назад +2

    Yes, Matshidiso. It is not you who is messing up with Aza's mental health. It is her father. You are doing your best as a mother❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @tatendasnowden6487
    @tatendasnowden6487 Месяц назад +9

    Don’t blame yourself, you did nothing wrong you’re both victims of him , I know exactly how you feel , I have been through the situation but I only gave him one chance to be in his child’s life and he messed up and I was never again

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      😍😍

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад +1

      They always mess up. You guys have good hearts 🫂

  • @lindatafeni9402
    @lindatafeni9402 Месяц назад +4

    You did your best for your daughter to see for herself what kind of a dad she has, so she doesn’t blame you in future. Don’t mind the judges here 😊
    Some people who are judging you are going to comment because they projecting..

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much 😍😍

  • @DumieLeshaba
    @DumieLeshaba Месяц назад +3

    This pains me, the easiest thing was to shut the guy out completely. But doing so would have come at the cost of your child believing that you never allowed her the opportunity to have a relationship with her dad. I think it’s important for the child to decide for herself at the right age if she wants nothing to do with the father, you should not be the one to decide this as painful as it is

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you for your understanding. It’s really painful for my daughter. It’s painful to watch. Currently she looks like she is giving up. At the right age she will decide

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Well put

  • @cindyradebe4997
    @cindyradebe4997 Месяц назад +4

    I've been following this storytime from episode 1. It's really not fair that someone said you messed up your daughters mental health! Maybe it's 1 abuti Gucci Maguccana fan!!! I'm sooo sorry for what you went through... I know that you did everything in your ultimate best 2 support, protect, provide everything for your daughter. I pray that you get complete healing and I pray that God will always protect you and continue 2 bless u in Jesus Mighty Name Name Amen ❤

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      🙌❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      🤣🤣🤣🤣 Maybe she got blinded by Abuti Gucci Maguccana’s long manipulative posts 😂😂. Thanks for the love ❤️, I appreciate your kindness

  • @tmogane7289
    @tmogane7289 Месяц назад +5

    May this channel grow in Jesus Name...may things be well with you guys and the child...we are learning indeed

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Amen 🙏🏾.
      Thank you so much 😍😍

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      🙏

  • @MsThandi1
    @MsThandi1 Месяц назад +6

    Maiso you are still hurting but you are healing at the same time. You did a great job with Aza by raising her well and putting her first. You are a phenomenal ❤️

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +2

      My hurt is Azania’s hurt believe me. If I didn’t have the child who is still holding on to a relationship with this guy, he wouldn’t even cross my mind. Honesty I was NEVER hurt by him, he just shocked me.

  • @mantoatshabalala4159
    @mantoatshabalala4159 Месяц назад +2

    Sorry, ausi hle. Seeing you cry hurt me too. You are a mommy who wants the best for her child. There’s nothing wrong with you or your parenting style.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you ❤️❤️

  • @esethumbulawa3723
    @esethumbulawa3723 Месяц назад +3

    I’m glad she’s seeing it herself now, though it’s painful.

  • @jasentamakena
    @jasentamakena 27 дней назад +1

    I understand where Matshidiso is coming from, she is doing everything for her daughter. You have done everything to give the guy an opportunity to have a relationship with his kid and she will be greatful for all your efforts 🎉🎉🎉

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  27 дней назад

      Thank you so much, that’s exactly what I was doing. I appreciate your kind words ❤️❤️

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba 27 дней назад

      🙏😊

  • @mpumimg6000
    @mpumimg6000 Месяц назад +1

    This is what I have figured out about life, the hardest thing to do is to admit to yourself that you were wrong about what you held as truth, what you perceived was real, what you admired and so forth. This is why, as humans, we go on with things that are not good for us because having to sit with yourself down and own up to the fact that you were wrong is hard. Note, I'm saying admitting to yourself, not others. This goes beyond love, its politics, its work, its friendship kuningi. This is why I also believe you kept giving this guy so many chances. Although I'm sure in your core you knew he wasn't good for you or your baby.

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      💯

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Believe me for me I knew from the beginning that he was Very bad, I mean terrible for me, I wouldn’t even have wanted to see him ever again if it wasn’t of my daughters demands. I kept hoping he will be a good father to her and have independent relationship with her, it turned out I was wrong.

  • @thapelolengana
    @thapelolengana Месяц назад +3

    I agree with you, I would have given documents too. Eitherway, by law a biological father is entitled to get documents that are reasonable for him to do certain things for the child. If he chooses to do something it really out of your pocket

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Ho thaata ho ba motswadi

    • @thapelolengana
      @thapelolengana Месяц назад

      @@MRSMumba Ho thata nnete, more so, when you parent while separated.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      That’s really difficult, Kemo file hee ditla sallana le ena Nnake

  • @thabelambongendlu
    @thabelambongendlu Месяц назад +2

    I feel your pain sis, mna I would like to agree with your sis on this one , keep your child away until she is matured enough to understand what is going on otherwise while she is young he will continue messing up with her mind, and when our children mess or are messed up because of these deadbeats then fingers will always point back to the single mother and how incompetent she is. I respect how you do things but I agree with your sis. ❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much 😍😍

  • @matekedigojane571
    @matekedigojane571 Месяц назад +3

    Everything about a narcissist is all about themselves hle. They are always victims 😭😭😭

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Absolutely. And there’s nothing anyone can do . They never ever change

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      They are not even willing to change

  • @katlego5077
    @katlego5077 Месяц назад

    One of the hardest things to navigate is having a good father and then have a child with a man who can’t be a good dad to your own daughter . It’s a mindfuck, trust me! You’re always going to hope that the father of your child will change because that’s what you wish for your daughter , that’s what was modelled for you! You DID NOT mess your child’s mental health . Just remember that YOU ARE DOING YOUR BEST AS A MOM!

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      @@katlego5077 thank you so much Katlego for breaking it down, and your kind words. I appreciate you ❤️❤️

  • @tshadimlangeni5388
    @tshadimlangeni5388 Месяц назад +3

    Maiso as a single parent i understand that you did everything to ensure that the dad wont use any inconveniences as an excuse and leverage against you. I also sent my sons documents last year my sister😂😂 worse part without even asking what they were needed for when this guy did absolutely nothing for his child since 2017. I only realized later that i shouldn't have done that because my sons birth certificate shows my details as well and this guy is so corrupt 😂😂 he might create me as a ghost worker somewhere and earn money that he wont even send to his child. But in as much as i wish I didnt do that, im glad i did because he won't ever use that against me when my child is old and decides to look for him. Honestly my first thought was maybe he wants to put him in some policies but no that guy is way to useless to do such. Anyways... its life sis and we move on.❤❤❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +3

      My God. We are in exact the same situation. Thank you so much darling. May the Lord give you strength. We shall overcome this ❤️❤️

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Yhoooo guys. Men are problems

  • @LeRichlongwaneHlongwane
    @LeRichlongwaneHlongwane Месяц назад

    You are the best Sis. Some of us know the guy and we truly know that you are not the one who messed up your baby's mental health.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      @@LeRichlongwaneHlongwane Thank you so much ❤️

  • @connieskosana6515
    @connieskosana6515 Месяц назад +1

    So sorry Maiso for all the hurt. This mad person is not right for Aza either. Imagine having someone like this for life. He causes harm in just one sitting at Tashas. Doesn't acknowledge the child's good performance. He is creating a damaged child who will always be seeking validation from others.
    Please leave it for later when she can handle the disappointments.

  • @nthabisengnkabinde2518
    @nthabisengnkabinde2518 Месяц назад +1

    Don't blame yourself dear, even people blaming you they don't understand. Children want their fathers no matter what until they saw themselves. Dear the father is blames doesn't understand what is going on until she mention it by her mouth. Please dear they are not supposed to include your child and his mad father.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much 🥰🥰

  • @MsThandi1
    @MsThandi1 Месяц назад +1

    And remember on previous episodes, Maiso mentioned that the advice she got from advocate/lawyer was even if she's not in relationship with him, he must support his child

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Very true. That was the advice and shame boy doesn’t care at all

  • @lindiwemtshali1643
    @lindiwemtshali1643 Месяц назад +1

    Ahh Matshediso. ❤️
    I could feel the pain through the screen. I am really sorry. I understand your decision making. And I think you did great for Aza. You are a great mom and it can’t be your fault that this man chose not to be in Aza’s life. That’s on him! Like Tshediso, nna I hit below belt shem. And I wouldn’t give him the documents 😅😅

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      She’s a better person than us 😅

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you Lindiwe ❤️❤️ Eush for the sake of ngwana hlee but ke I’ve learned.

  • @quinteederma9552
    @quinteederma9552 Месяц назад +2

    Nna kea u utloisisa kannete Maiso. Now you can boldly stand blameless before your daughter and say you're not the cause of the strained relationship between eena le ntate oa hae.
    In the long run, your actions that currently seem stupid to us will protect your relationship with your daughter, which is of the outmost importance to you. You're being proactive. You're very wise.
    Ha u batle hore one day ngoana a re you stood as a stumbling block between her and her father. Bana ha ba imoeloa ke bophelo it's very easy and convenient to blame their parents.
    Thato.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +2

      Thank you so much Thato darling for your understanding ❤️❤️ Kannete I wanted to satisfy my daughter of which many will never understand. Believe if she comes and says Mommy I wanna try it again il still allow her and give all the support , until she is fed up and decides she is done. ❤️❤️

    • @quinteederma9552
      @quinteederma9552 Месяц назад +1

      @@the2winsGreat! Stand your ground. Never ever allow us to play Aza's "extended mothers" from a distance. Sharing your story with us was not in any way, shape or form, an invitation for us to take over your parening decisions. U sk'a ba re lumella hore re u tloaele hampe just because u re qoqetse litaba tsa hau.
      Parenting Aza is your sole responsibility. You understand your child's emotional needs and we don't. How she turns out tomorrow will be entirely on you.....re tla be re le siko, or better still, ke rona hape who will be criticizing you further if she's negatively affected.
      What s evident is that not only do you love Aza, but you also respect her. Batsoali ba bangata don't understand how important it is to respect their children.
      All the best mommy!

  • @kea_Nkwana
    @kea_Nkwana Месяц назад +1

    I wish i could hug you right now😢...nna i trully understand you Maiso,but again i agree with Tshediso when saying she would've not given him the documents...mara akere we not the same your reason is so valid you dont want one day to be waking up to the child who has been brain washed by the father saying these bad things about you...and he will defenetly do that...mara ke tshwana le Tshediso ke kgopo too much o tla emela ngwana abe le kelello then the child will decide if she want him or not...mara as long as my child is stil young as she is aka se mmone laele hannyane

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you

  • @judyphala5235
    @judyphala5235 Месяц назад +1

    I think you did well by allowing him have contact with the child so that she could see for herself. The document part was a no No.Atleast if he tried to prove himself for 3 consecutive years.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you for your understanding. When it comes to the documents part, I agree I became too soft and we got Scammed Shem 🙆🏽‍♂️ one of his many scams

  • @DM-rm5ec
    @DM-rm5ec Месяц назад

    Its always easier for us to blame the parent who stayed. The kids also take out their hurt and frustration on the parent who stayed, understandably so, they do not know any better. Mommy, you did the best you could. Where you erred was simply because you are human. Be kind to yourself and daughter ❤❤❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      @@DM-rm5ec Thank you so much, You are right, we have seek kids taking out their frustrations on the parents who stayed. It’s a journey❤️❤️❤️

  • @esethumbulawa3723
    @esethumbulawa3723 Месяц назад +1

    Nna I understand you very well Maiso, you did this for your daughter. You didn’t mess her mental health at all

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you ❤️

  • @MissCombs1511
    @MissCombs1511 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you for speaking one at a time my sisters! 🙏🏾 I know twins sometimes finish each others' sentence, but between that and the pure Sotho it was a challenge..

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Talk about twins finishing each others sentences ❤️❤️🙈 we do it now & then but not extra like other twins. I know 😂😂😂😂

  • @WisdomAde18
    @WisdomAde18 Месяц назад

    I just wanna say, your a great mom and your daughter is blessed to have you. It pains me seeing you in that state. May God continue to strengthen you.
    Love you twins and we really learning a lot from this podcast. The support you’re giving one another is out of this world.
    Stay strong ❤️❤️❤️💯🥰🫶🫶

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much! ❤️❤️

  • @ZamokuhleMkwanazi
    @ZamokuhleMkwanazi Месяц назад

    Maiso I respect how you tried to facilitate a relationship between your daughter and this guy. Your actions were not reckless. You are the best mom. You handled this situation with such grace. Thank you for sharing your experience it really healed some of us who have had to deal with narcissist fathers. I am really sorry for the nasty comment. You shared your life with us just sad that this series is making you cry.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you so much Zamo. I really appreciate your kind words ❤️❤️❤️

  • @katlegorapule9421
    @katlegorapule9421 Месяц назад +2

    You're in denial that this man doesn't care for your daughter, like you said you don't want to believe your daughter isn't loved and thats okay, its your coping mechanism. But this man will never change

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Agreed

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      I gave him a benefit of a doubt regarding the child. Couldn’t believe someone would be so cruel to their own blood in order to be spiteful to me. Sad

    • @katlegorapule9421
      @katlegorapule9421 Месяц назад

      @@the2wins askies mama😭 you're a phenomenal mom, your efforts won't go invain and with time you'll see that. 💕

  • @zuzilezungu5899
    @zuzilezungu5899 29 дней назад

    We're all winging out this parenting thing 😊

  • @victorioussisters3307
    @victorioussisters3307 Месяц назад +3

    @Matshidiso in my view you did nothing wrong, you tried all you can as a very sound mum for this son of a gun to have a relationship with his daughter and also for your daughter. My dear you did right so both sides can’t put the blame on you. I would have done the same for all my 3 daughters as a woman in a cross cultural marriage. I would have wanted my daughters to see and learn for themselves if their dad was a son of a gun!!!!

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you so much for understanding. I appreciate your love ❤️

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @mapeupapo9488
    @mapeupapo9488 Месяц назад +1

    Maiso, you did your best with what you could. Please invest in Therapy, especially for your daughter. Don’t wait until she is older, the sooner the better. And if you can, book a session for yourself as well.

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      I agree

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much. I’m working on it ❤️❤️

  • @TheStoryBehindUk49s
    @TheStoryBehindUk49s Месяц назад +1

    I sometimes share tears when listening to your story, and I see and feel how hurting your love story is to your sister 💔 love n light sisters stay strong❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much. Trully appreciate ♥️

  • @thandokay6603
    @thandokay6603 Месяц назад +1

    Maiso you are an amazing mom don't ever doubt yourself. I would have done the same for my child. Raising kids don't come with a manual if needs be please take Aza for therapy. Your child is smart enough to see all your efforts. 🎉❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you so much Thando. Yes il take her to therapy, both of us need it. I appreciate your support ❤️❤️

  • @matekedigojane571
    @matekedigojane571 Месяц назад +1

    Those who don't't know how to live or to have a relationship with a narcissist will simply say so. Me was married to the kind for 20 yrs

  • @Lorena711
    @Lorena711 Месяц назад

    I’m so sorry Maiso. Your situation ka sepedi re re ke “kgomo ya mošate” wa e gapa o molato wa e tlogela still o sa le molato. Continue doing what you think is best for your child. For us who are not directly involved in a situation like yours it will always be easier to throw judgment never mind us and keep your head up.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much, thanks for your kind words ❤️

  • @ThandiweBolsiek-ug1og
    @ThandiweBolsiek-ug1og Месяц назад

    Coparenting with a narcissist is quite hard. Matshediso I can empathize with you. I love the part where you say you child will see for herself. Wena you doing everything not to paint the father in a bad way, that's just not who you are. In any case you won't gain anything. I think you are dealing with your ex in a mature way. Hape we don't have a manual on how to coparent with these people who can't move past pettiness and just do what is best for the child.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      @@ThandiweBolsiek-ug1og Thank you Thandiwe, it’s really difficult. We keep doing what’s best for our kids ❤️

  • @marshimello2940
    @marshimello2940 Месяц назад

    Maiso being a parent doesn’t come with a manual. You are and have done what you think is best for your daughter.
    I have a similar story to your daughter but my mother never facilitated a relationship between me and my father. He has passed on now and I wish my mother had introduced me to him. Moral is that you are damnded if you do and you are damned if you don’t

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Exactly. It’s really tough. Thank you 😍

  • @MontshengManko-cn3ek
    @MontshengManko-cn3ek Месяц назад +1

    I personally don't judge you babes, banna bare etsa mahlanya hle

  • @nthabelengranchobe2849
    @nthabelengranchobe2849 Месяц назад +1

    I love you so much TTwins ❤️❤️, Matshediso you are such a good person and a good mother I totally understand you *hugs & love* 🥰. Tshediso I love how you love your sister and being there even dishing hard truth thats love. ❤️

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      @@nthabelengranchobe2849 Thank you so much Nthabeleng. We love you too ❤️❤️ .

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Thank you so much Nthabi. ❤❤❤❤

  • @mbongesmith904
    @mbongesmith904 Месяц назад

    Someone who has never been through something in life they will never understand.. Strongs sisi i feel your pain ❤❤❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you ❤️❤️

  • @TsotetsiNtsebane-kh4du
    @TsotetsiNtsebane-kh4du Месяц назад

    I am still young and I don't even have a child but I have to say I would do the same thing Maiso did. I would let my child experience the guy herself. So don't feel bad mama you not alone

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you ❤️

  • @mukololo_Lorna
    @mukololo_Lorna Месяц назад +1

    Im new here, saw ur channel by mistake last week, so I've been following the series... And episode 8 really broke me, i even cried on behalf of Aza coz wawu poor child 😭 😭 😭

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️ this is home

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Welcome Lorna. Aza doesn’t deserve this

    • @mukololo_Lorna
      @mukololo_Lorna Месяц назад

      🤣 🤣 🤣 I was watching with my mom amd the way she was angry.. And jus like Tshidiso uri why didn't she leave from de beginning, how can she allow Dat 😅😅 eyyyy nne i do understand shem, I once dated a bipolar person and another 1 was a narcissistic kimda man but i think dat 1 was a lite version but i really thank God uri he handled everything smoothing on my half.. So other people who have not gone thru dis will never gerrrrrrr it

  • @gaonemoloise495
    @gaonemoloise495 Месяц назад

    Sorry my sister,its sad to see you crying. Love you Maiso🫂💕

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kaylenenaidoo6421
    @kaylenenaidoo6421 Месяц назад

    I'm so sorry Matshediso my heart goes out to you coz it's heart breaking to us mothers seeing what our kids have to go through but i got to a point where I said I will never allow his father to hurt him nor disappoint him time n time again hence I made the decision on my childz behalf to cut ties so he can be a child n live a happy life....when the time comes question will be ask n I will sure answer....but for now i choose to protect my child❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      I’m sorry that your kids are going through the same. Strength to them ❤️ Thank you so much for your kind words

  • @happinessmabuza2639
    @happinessmabuza2639 Месяц назад

    You are indeed a very strong phenomenal woman..love u both n your child too

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much, we love you too ❤️

  • @connieskosana6515
    @connieskosana6515 Месяц назад

    The Single Mom's Club exerpt is probably God revealing to you the purpose of this Podcast and how you can help other single moms.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      I actually believe that. 😍😍

  • @mmonith
    @mmonith Месяц назад

    I would have done the same..... You did a splendid job raising her. Don't blame yourself for his behaviour

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you 😍

  • @Sibongile-maseko
    @Sibongile-maseko Месяц назад +2

    I'm sorry Matseliso hle nna I understand you fully. Personally, I grew up without the father, I'll do anything to make sure that my kids have a relationship with their father even if he is useless. These is personal for me . I don't want my children to go through what i went through. This one hits home, mommy don't feel bad at all🫂.u na le pelo entle nnana, and that's who you are.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much ❤️❤️ And I’m sorry you went through such🫂🤗

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      ❤❤❤❤

  • @davinzomotaung388
    @davinzomotaung388 Месяц назад

    Hai ladies, i came across your channel today and watched all the episodes about Matshidiso's marriage story. I relate alot to it as a man oa mosotho, i fail to understand why would one think she missed up her daughter's health when all she hoped for was her child to have a relationship with her daddy. If the man is a jeck and failed to be there for his child when she needed him to then how is it Matshidiso's fault?
    I have a 17 year daughter turning 18 years this year she has never met her biological mother whom she last saw when was only 3 months young and to this day it still hunt me looking to her every day. No parent wants to see their child grow old without knowing or having a relationship with the other parent.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      I’m so sorry, to your daughter. Imagine not meeting your biological mother at all. It must be painful. Again of the parent is toxic like my daughter’s father it’s better the child doesn’t know where she/he is. Being a parent isn’t easy at all. But things will be okay for your daughter as well❤️❤️

  • @mmamajorophalatsi-shiluban4531
    @mmamajorophalatsi-shiluban4531 Месяц назад

    Nna I understand you dear. You are a great mother and did your best under the circumstances. Ha o na madi matsohong.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Kea leboha hlee ❤️❤️

  • @mphomotaung9095
    @mphomotaung9095 Месяц назад

    Love and hugs to Maiso, nna I hear you, I completely understand. ❤. You are doing and giving your best for your beautiful daughter.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much! ❤️

  • @Dorcas-le2vf
    @Dorcas-le2vf Месяц назад

    You are both right,but i still understand what Maiso wanted to do,le teng e nele kotsi coz that guy was dangerous 😢.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      True he is dangerous, I still wanted to support my daughter through the journey of having a real with the father

  • @Dorcas-le2vf
    @Dorcas-le2vf Месяц назад +1

    Im soo sorry Maiso,dnt allow comments break you,you know the truth,but it hurts.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you ❤️❤️

  • @siphephelosibisi8888
    @siphephelosibisi8888 Месяц назад

    I love how you think Matshediso, I would have done the same thing and still do it over and over

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much ❤️

  • @connieskosana6515
    @connieskosana6515 Месяц назад

    His lack of credibility and reliability are already discrediting him to his own daughter.
    With the child carrying your surname, you dodged the bullet there sis. Just quit exposing your child to this toxicity. It's causing more damage to her.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      There I dodged the bullet. He even told Azania that he is going to Fake his name in her documents.

  • @SilentDiva001
    @SilentDiva001 Месяц назад

    I think I have a bit of both of you in me. I think lenna ke kgopo but at the same time I think I would allow my child to see the dad so that they can see for themselves so that they don't blame me in future for not having a relationship with the father. So Matshediso don't ever feel like what you did is wrong in every chance you gave I understand where it comes from

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much for your support and understanding ❤️

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      I get itn😊

  • @user-qi7mh2tt8v
    @user-qi7mh2tt8v Месяц назад

    Aslong you know that you tried by all means to keep your child in warm hands dont stress what others said about you cc

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      🙌

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much 🙏🥰

  • @zelokuhlegina5886
    @zelokuhlegina5886 Месяц назад

    Matshediso, I get you, and I understand your point .I have been through the same .

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you ❤️❤️

  • @spiceseptember3160
    @spiceseptember3160 Месяц назад +1

    If I was in your shoes and everything was the same I would have done the same. It's easier to say something else if one is not in the situation.

    • @spiceseptember3160
      @spiceseptember3160 Месяц назад

      ubaby daddy wami even told me when I broke up with him that he cannot be in my child's life if we arent together because we are a package imagine how cruel and mean is that. So, that would have meant me being emotionally and financially abused by him just so that he is in my child's life. Sometimes the some men punish women through the child, it hurts deeply when a child is being neglected on purpose. I know this is mean but mina sometimes I wish I can get a call ethi ufile and when I hear of people abashonile I always feel bad ukuthi why kungafi lo baby daddy owami.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you for your understanding 😍

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Me & you same WhatsApp group. They can be so cruel. You know how I was so affected by AKA’s death, simply because he was a great father to Kairo. All I was thinking was why is God taking great fathers and leave the useless ones, like the father of my child. Believe me, I feel you!

    • @spiceseptember3160
      @spiceseptember3160 Месяц назад

      @@the2wins yoooh thank goodness I am not the only one who feels this way🙈. I totally felt the same and was emotional too about AKA. Funny thing to see that uBaba wengane yami is cruel he is a good father to his other kids. When he referred to mine he used to say “the baby” and not call the name. Whenever I get a call from his siblings whom I’m close to I always think they will say akasekho 🙈😃. How I got out of this caught between what I need to do so that my child will later see that I did my best is by showing my child the messages I sent to him and his responses. After my child saw that and suggested that I let go and not try again. The door was closed manje I’m waiting for that “call” 😉🙈🤣

  • @rudzanikharivhe6294
    @rudzanikharivhe6294 10 дней назад +1

    Lol i have watched the movie, he killed me by taking the son's money

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba 6 дней назад

      😂😂😂😂😂

  • @connieskosana6515
    @connieskosana6515 Месяц назад

    Nna kannete ha ke batle ngoanaka a utloe bohloko bono.
    Please note that my BD is exactly the same as this one. Ekare le buoa ka motho a le mong.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Joweee🙆🏽‍♂️🙆🏽‍♂️🙆🏽‍♂️

  • @dollydolls408
    @dollydolls408 Месяц назад +1

    I love it here ❤❤❤

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      ❤❤❤❤

  • @user-cg7ic7ml4d
    @user-cg7ic7ml4d 20 дней назад +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @sengakenthabane8697
    @sengakenthabane8697 Месяц назад

    Nna Maiso kea utloisisa, ke kene eteng tsa hau.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much ❤️❤️

  • @esethumbulawa3723
    @esethumbulawa3723 Месяц назад

    It wouldn’t be nice for your daughter to see her cousins with their dads and kamona you denying her to have a relationship with her dad

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      It’s a tough one

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Exactly. I did what I thought it was right

  • @matekedigojane571
    @matekedigojane571 Месяц назад

    Every time he wants to see his sons... I'll be the one buying petrol and give them a car. He left us in 2022 till now he didn't give them a cent😂😂😂

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      I feel you, this is so crazy, but you still need to support your sons even though you already know they are gonna be hurt/ disappointed. That’s how it is 😂😂

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад

      Oh my goodness 😂

  • @mukololo_Lorna
    @mukololo_Lorna Месяц назад +1

    But wena Maeoso i i think i do understand wer you are coming from and wat yiu wer doing, coz at the end it was going to look as if wena you don't want the baby to have a relationship with the father, you know mos about the baby mama bitterness coz it was gona be like you are using the child to fight ur battles, as there's those people who can be bad partners and the best father (so many ladies does that) and in ur case the kid didn't know the issue is dis deep. But you wer trying as a mother, trying to justify his behavior to make ur daughter happy 😢😢...coz it cud backfire 2mr and you become the devil and ur kid can resent you 2mr coz of that. So you did wat you had to do
    But now the kid is completely crushed mentally snd emotionally bcoz of dis sperm donor, sorry i will never address him as a father nne coz he is not.. But the damage is already done, what you can do now is to get her the help she needs

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you for your understanding. You are correct, he is far from being a father and he doesn’t deserve to be called that. Just a sperm donor

  • @matsepomotsoeli5799
    @matsepomotsoeli5799 Месяц назад +1

    You are a great mum to your daughter Maiso. A lot of us are going through the same shit. I understand you fully. Seeing you cry breaks my heart. 🫂 🫂

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much Mokgotsi. We are doing it for our kids, they will grow up and all will be good ❤️❤️

  • @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369
    @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 Месяц назад

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤Maiso

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @sulezinyembezigqeba
    @sulezinyembezigqeba Месяц назад +1

    🥺🤍

  • @Mpasy
    @Mpasy Месяц назад

    you were not giving him chances but you were in denial. You always had an excuse to allow him back into your life. Both of you used a child as an excuse in your toxic relationship

    • @MRSMumba
      @MRSMumba Месяц назад +3

      She never wanted this guy anywhere near her, her daughter wanted to have a relationship with her father. Her mistake was giving this guy a benefit of a doubt. I think you’re being too harsh by saying she used a child as an excuse in their toxic relationship. What relationship? There was no relationship Mpasy. Listen attentively to understand

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Mpasy, I suggest you watch all the episodes. I Never ever wanted this person anywhere near me. The first time I left him, he started threatening that he can’t be in the child’s life, I was okay with that until the child demanded relationship with the father. You need to understand, I’m disappointed because wena u Mosotho and you don’t miss out on any information here because of language barrier like others. What relationship are you referring to exactly? I did explain to you that several times when he came back he abused the child because everytime I tried showing him that he can’t be in my life he neglected the child. Please don’t be ignorant, this is clear!!!

  • @pinkymokgoasane1497
    @pinkymokgoasane1497 Месяц назад +1

    Did you have a disagreement before shooting? Today’s episode was too tense …You were not your bubbly self’s 😩
    Love and light to you mommy ❤.You are doing a great job raising your daughter 👏🏾

    • @TiisetsoAll-in-One
      @TiisetsoAll-in-One Месяц назад +2

      Eya hleng😩

    • @FezekaRayi
      @FezekaRayi Месяц назад +1

      I don't think they had a disagreement, it's just that the blaming part is emotional and draining to both of them. Furthermore, they have a different approach to the matter. Unfortunately, with matters of heart we are spectators as a family, there is not much that we can do for our loved ones, we need to respect and support their decisions even if we don't agree.

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад

      @@FezekaRayi you are 💯 correct . Thank you for understanding

    • @the2wins
      @the2wins  Месяц назад +1

      Today it’s very emotional, it involves the blaming, more like being portrayed as a bad mother for allowing this guy to be in and out of the child’s life. My sister didn’t understand how that affects me, hence you don’t see the fun side of us. 😍😍

    • @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369
      @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 Месяц назад +1

      Imagine being expected to be bubbly even when life is 'lifing'
      Grow up pinky!!!!!! Read the room.