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  • Опубликовано: 22 дек 2024

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  • @HardOnGearChannel
    @HardOnGearChannel 3 года назад +1

    Great content! As you have experience dealing with INTJ’s, I’d love some more ideas around managing one’s ego/the weaknesses of the INTJ.
    As for your first question of the video: INTJ here (obvious enough due to the unnecessary length of this response). Not that they’re all positive in all situations... but I don’t tend to hide/withhold many INTJ traits if I’m talking to someone about human nature, MBTI, or whatever. I’m relatively proud of how I’ve been able to improve and develop my strengths AND weaknesses.
    However, in order to avoid sounding more egotistical than INTJs already can sometimes: I don’t tell many people about my intrinsic believe that life will work out for me no matter what, because I’m confident that no matter how bad I mess something up, I always manage to mentally reframe it and find the lesson in the struggle. Saying “I don’t get stressed out about normal life stuff because ‘I know’ that I can persevere and learn from the situation” tends to make others uncomfortable and has them questioning my sanity, so I find it’s best to keep that thought to myself.
    Any other INTJs out there with the same thought? Or should I be booking an appointment to see a clinical psychologist?

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад

      Oh that sounds like intense focus. “Keeping your eye on the prize” and whatnot. Lol to be real, I envy this SO much. It’s healthy to question one’s self, and I think this sounds a lot like the famous(/infamous) INTJ focus. You may enjoy Azdaja’s comments on this topic! 😉 also, you’d like some more vids exploring how to work with (INTJ) weaknesses? What else? Any specifics? I’m totally open to exploring this topic.

    • @HardOnGearChannel
      @HardOnGearChannel 3 года назад

      @@sneakyhermit8774 Do I have any specifics? Somebody knows how to instigate an INTJ ramble session 😏
      The intense focus is something I would never want to give up. It can feel like a bit of a superpower once the wheels are in motion-but it certainly comes with some drawbacks-mostly for others, unfortunately. The patience of family, friends, and partners definitely gets pushed to the limit far more often than intended.
      BUT... since an INTJ label is not a license to be a self-centred a-hole, I’d be happy to hear some more perspectives on:
      -INTJ relationships (both plutonic and intimate) because well... talk about INTJ weaknesses 😂
      -INTJ self-awareness “red flags”-obvious flaws in our logic that only become obvious once they’re pointed out to us. I hate/love those epiphanies.
      -The healthy and not-so-healthy ways to use MBTI in everyday life; I don’t think it’s uncommon for many of us to go overboard analyzing/typing people once we’ve begun... especially (I’m assuming) for INTJ’s, other NT types, or types with high Ni & Te. Understanding people through the sensory doesn’t come easy-having a system for tracking patterns like this can feel powerful and addicting, which normally isn’t a good sign lol.
      Thanks for reading this short story of a reply, and thanks for all of the great INTJ content-your deep dive series was as, if not more accurate (from my perspective) than most INTJ content from actual INTJs! Also, you are crushing this RUclips thing right off the hop-looking forward to watching the growth 👊

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад +1

      Oh I love it. Thank you! This is full of fantastic suggestions and I already have some ideas going now. Stay tuned 😁

    • @HardOnGearChannel
      @HardOnGearChannel 3 года назад

      @@sneakyhermit8774 I greatly appreciate it, and am looking forward to it all!

  • @joshuaoziegbe2227
    @joshuaoziegbe2227 3 года назад

    Back at it again with the cool pillow voice 😋 awesome video. I was recently typed as kind of a "Ti heavy" INFJ by Eric from twfp so I'm just looking around for Ni related content trying to see if I relate to anything. I'm still not fully convinced of my type so I've pretty much given up trying to find it and I think I'll just let it find me instead if that makes sense 😅

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад +1

      Haha oh yes. That is very relatable. It can become really confusing. Have you tried some cognitive functions tests?

    • @joshuaoziegbe2227
      @joshuaoziegbe2227 3 года назад

      @@sneakyhermit8774 I've done pretty much all of them and I almost always come out as INTP so I guess maybe it's that or INFJ. Tbh I've considered INTP, INFJ, INTJ, INFP, ISFP, ISFJ, ISTP, ISTJ. I just don't have a good enough grasp of what's going on in my brain 😅 I recently bought a few books on MBTI so they might possibly give further insight 🤔

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад +2

      Oh good for you! MBTI is a self-reported test. You can only self-report on what you know of yourself. It makes it tricky when you need to do some further reflecting & investigating. You know what may be really useful no matter what your type? Action. Start something new & pay attention to how you engage with it. Clarity comes through action.
      Someone gave me that advice once & it ended up changing my life. I hope this helps. 😊
      In the meantime, feel free to engage with all the info & enjoy the ride.

    • @Snipes643
      @Snipes643 3 года назад +1

      In regards to your type, for 7 months I thought I was a ti heavy INFJ too, but it turned out I was an INTP. What confused me was the position of Fe in the stack, plus the difference between Ni and Ne. Just thought I’d share my thoughts in case this helps in any way

  • @cameronvalentine6207
    @cameronvalentine6207 3 года назад

    I couldn't help but laugh at this video thinking about my INTJ experiences with my ESTJ dad (no hate of course)🤣 Two stories came to mind when watching this. The first is when I asked my dad "what happens when an unstoppable force meets an immovable object?" I believe I'd heard the question in a clip from one of the Batman movies and I had a fun time playing with the idea. My dad, seeing this question as pointless responds with "the force goes around" which I thought was hilarious💀 I responded with "but if the force is unstoppable it shouldn't have to go around, so what happens if it chooses not to?" His reply was "if it had enough sense, it would go around", I can't think of any better way to illustrate the message in your video lol.
    The second situation was more recent and has less to do with causing trouble so much as it has to do with the difference between Ni and Si. On my way to take my AP US History Exam (a class I struggled with all year at home), my father asked me how I thought I'd score. I told him that if I barely passed that'd be more than enough for me. And he hit me with a line that really threw me off: "What do you mean, it's just facts?" He wasn't wrong😂 I could've went into depth about how much I prefer learning how to do something and being able to apply the concept to different situations (the usual Ni stuff lol), but I chose not to expend the energy💀
    As for your question at the beginning of the video, if I had to brag about anything I'd say I'd like to brag about my intense vision paired with Te effectiveness to make it happen. In a lot of ways I already have security because no matter what happens I'm prepared to shift gears and make whatever situation work. I'm not someone who needs a lot to be satisfied so I genuinely believe that if worst comes to worst I'll always have a way to move out of check (oh goodness, I'm starting to realize how much I like chess analogies😂)

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад

      Hahaha Cameron! Those examples are spot on, especially the first one! I giggled thinking about it.

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад

      Also, thank you for sharing the fantastic brag.

  • @Azdaja13
    @Azdaja13 3 года назад +1

    If I told you what I was privately really proud of in regards to my type, it wouldn't remain very private now, would it? 😛

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад +2

      😆 I thought you might have something sassy to say about that! What about something not necessarily private, but more awkward if you actually did brag about it?

    • @Azdaja13
      @Azdaja13 3 года назад +1

      @@sneakyhermit8774 You're learning me quickly. 😁
      So you know how INTJs are infamous for zeroing in on things to the point of just total tunnel vision? Well, I thought of a couple of instances of that. So one day, sixteen-year-old me was about to head off back to school for a rehearsal for a play I had a small role in (it was an adaption of Homer's Odyssey, I played one of the suitors after Odysseus's wife, a rich slave trader. Was kinda a fun role. Oh and I helped write bits, though only bits). I was quite used to my timings so I knew when to leave to arrive there in time - however - my mother had other ideas. Literally right as I was getting my shoes on to leave, she gives me some letter or a birthday card or something like that and she tells me to go all the way to the post office to post this thing. Naturally, I hadn't factored this into my timekeeping so I legged it, going out of my way to get to the post office but also trying to get to school in time. I became so fixated on this goal and not arriving late that I took a shortcut through a car park. For your benefit, this car park has entrances/exits at the top (where I entered) and off to the side. Instead of deviating from my straight-line path however to go through the side exit (there may also have been cars blocking my way) I decided to run straight at the wall at the bottom and vault over it to save time. This very clever move resulted in my foot clipping the wall and me tumbling down, which the ground on the other side of the wall was lower (there's a downhill bay there for delivery trucks I think) and I landed on my left leg, just below the knee. I was on the ground for a few seconds, in pain, but then I remembered my end goal (I also saw some people from the other secondary school coming my way, so that INTJ dislike of people seeing me in a vulnerable state kicked in), rolled over and ran like nothing had happened. Got to the post office, posted the envelope and then immediately ran down to school. When I got there, I found the door to the drama rooms locked so I was stuck outside, banging on the door (idiot kids used to bang on the semi-opaque windows so people learned not to respond to bangs on windows and there was a corridor between the outside door and the drama room so no-one heard me). It was then that I noticed a burning pain in my left leg. At first I tried ignoring it, but I was a bit startled by how severe this pain was. So I look down and find a gigantic hole in my trousers. When I touched this hole, my hand was covered in blood. So I lift my trouser leg and I notice there's a massive, deep cut on my leg which I'd somehow been almost completely oblivious to this whole time (I managed to run with this...). Eventually someone found me bleeding outside and the nurses were somewhat startled by the fact that I'd managed to run from the top of town to the middle with this cut on my leg. I actually had to do exams with it and I actually had to perform the play with it. In fact, during one of the performances, when getting down on one knee to propose to Odysseus's wife, I went a bit quickly, skidded across the floor and ripped the scab clean off, which I then had to not react to. Was difficult but I managed it. I actually have a little scar on my leg from it.
      There was another, more extreme case of this earlier that academic year but I don't want to go into that one much because that one is private. All I'll say is I broke my right arm and played it down for two and a half hours (told teachers I was fine, nothing wrong with me, don't worry about it) because of... goal fixation. The thing I'd say I'm proud of though, even though it's kinda awkward, is my ability to endure quite massive amounts of physical pain or general stress and still succeed, more or less. xD

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад +2

      This was both- excruciating to read and also somehow hilarious. Thinking about that moment when you’ve fallen and you hear people approaching so you get up and “act okay” really fast- so relatable. This is definitely an awkward brag. Thank you for sharing!

    • @Azdaja13
      @Azdaja13 3 года назад +1

      @@sneakyhermit8774 I guess another awkward brag is when a friend of mine was giving me and a few others swordfighting lessons at uni so pretty much everyone involved went and bought polypropylene swords. I decided to buy three so I could test different ones to figure out which I'd be most proficient in (one was a kukri, another was a dao and another was a bastard sword). Everyone else basically just bought dao which are lightweight one-handed swords designed to be used in conjunction with shields, which weren't allowed, and I found I was more proficient with my bastard sword. What happened was everyone underestimated me and I wound up having superior reach to them, as well as a heftier weapon which could block more easily (both due to its weight and its crossguard), resulting in me basically being virtually unmovable when defending (it was effortless) and when attacking, my opponents were terrified of me because my attacks had a lot of weight and power behind them (I even had to hold back...) which they struggled to counter with their paltry one-handed weapons and so a lot of the time they would just flinch back constantly. Also people really didn't like fighting me because I'd intermittently use feints to trick them into opening weak spots in their defence (I'd usually try to lure them into a pattern of attacks, then break the pattern with a feint) to punish them and I'd usually be thinking two or three steps ahead of them to get them to back themselves against trees or into wet, boggy ground they could get stuck or slip over in. Oh and there were injuries, I think I accidentally hit a guy on the nose (my sword slid up his while we were in the bind, he told me at the Summer Ball that year that his nose had never felt the same again) and I think I accidentally hit another guy in the face when he ducked for some daft reason (he literally ducked into my strike, the numpty...) but he got me back when he hit me in the mouth. I think I may be the reason polypropylene weapons were banned at that society... oops. 😅

    • @HardOnGearChannel
      @HardOnGearChannel 3 года назад +1

      @@Azdaja13 Oh so relatable... I go through one of these incidents almost every year lol... funny enough, they sometimes also involve polypropylene or wooden swords and/or sticks 🤷🏻‍♂️
      If I didn’t brake things/hurt myself on a regular basis, I don’t know how I’d learn...

  • @demogorgon4244
    @demogorgon4244 3 года назад +1

    i think you are an xsfj. your fe is way too good and always up and doesn't feel like third slot at all. it feels pro. you keep smiling, you wear earthy colors, your earrings are very classical, you have a moon necklace which is usually associated with emotions and i always see somebody saying something about your voice tone and how soft and likeable it is and on top of all that your nickname / channel name is very sfj too. think about it. not even a plain hermit a sneaky hermit. no matter how you look at it that's a double introverted thing. so yeah, i think you are an isfj.
    when you say "pleaaaaase" (let me know in the comment section)... did you do that naturally or did you "think" like oh yeah i better elongate that please so i will sound more genuine? the latter would be tert fe.
    yeah, you sound and look like a kindergarten teacher. isfj = caregiver.
    that's my first impression of you after 3 videos. and i thought about the actual question you asked but as an obnoxious entp i can't imagine wishing to boast about something because i will boast about anything no problem. this question even, shows how much you value fe.

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад

      Haha I have a hunch you’re going to love this video...
      ruclips.net/video/C9TWAONYAF0/видео.html

    • @demogorgon4244
      @demogorgon4244 3 года назад

      @@sneakyhermit8774 you can't really tell somebody is petite on yt while all you see is the chest and up. and remember, i didn't only talk about the vocal register but also intonation and juicing up the words like "pleaaaaase". btw, you didn't answer the question. did that pleaaaase came totally naturally or it was a consciously ti formulated fe simulation?
      also, you wear a v neck gray sweater in the first part of that video too. oh and then you switch to what? really earthy saffron or whatever they call that color.
      eric thor can't even type himself. he is clearly an infp :p

    • @sneakyhermit8774
      @sneakyhermit8774  3 года назад

      😂 okay, you’ve completely missed the point of that video. Maybe I should clarify, the point I was trying to make is that physical traits & characteristics can change how people perceive you & your actions, but that is separate from personality type (especially MBTI) & how your brain works.

    • @demogorgon4244
      @demogorgon4244 3 года назад +1

      @@sneakyhermit8774 1. everything is connected. 2. you are STILL insisting not to answer the question i asked the second time. 3. saying "pleaaaaase" has nothing to do with physical characteristics. 4. color and accessory choices has nothing to do with physical traits. 5. vocal register has nothing to do with the tone, with the sharpness and with the softness. 6. your nickname has nothing to do with any of that. 7. i haven't said anything about your eye movements.
      but if you told me to watch that video just as a random thing then maybe you have a point. that video counters none of the things i argued about you.
      people do not born with a gene or something so they keep smiling involuntarily either.
      even when you call your watchers "you sneaky hermits" you are like a kindergarten teacher addressing the kids or something.
      but again, this is just my first impression so i might change my mind.