I am 41, single and childless, and I have chosen to be this way largely because of my unhappy childhood and toxic family. I was terrified by the burdens of parenthood. I am also reluctant to inflict life on someone.
Thnx...I couldn't describe it better...on my 41th birthday we had that 9/11 PHENOMENON!!! And wanted to celebrate that day there... But gut stuck in Minor Asia... I had to explore Turkey... What I didn't want, happened...I married with someone what I never had: I had married "both my parents", Sigmund Freund...(3kids)...18 horrible marriage years... ...what is good what is bad today I am 60 alone...still healing
The resolution of all traumas is a wonderful byproduct of enlightenment, but it is not enlightenment itself. Enlightenment is seeing through the illusion of a separate self and a disidentification with the self-concept because you realize that what you think you are is only a label put over an infinitely complex and mysterious experience. Once you let go of the illusion that you are this individual person that you think you are, you can be ripe for the breakthrough of enlightenment where you can experience yourself as you truly are before all illusion and beliefs are stacked on top of it. So, enlightenment is waking up to what is and realizing that what you really are can sustain no harm because you aren't a small person walking around in an infinite universe that's separate from you, but you are the entire thing. You are everything in your field of perception. When you disidentify with your mind and body, realizing that this identification with the small self was illusory, trauma naturally resolves itself because there is no self to experience trauma. But the thing with trauma is that (if a person hasn't reached enlightenment) it happens every day in large and small degrees. So, if you had somehow managed to work out all trauma that you've ever experienced, there would be more accumulated there the very next day. It is the nature of living the illusion that there is a separate self... it will always gather more trauma until the illusion is seen through.
Diamond Net, I think this is a very good definition. I especially liked the part at the end where you said if you hadn’t gotten to this place, even if you had released all of your trauma, you would start accumulating more the very next day. So very true. On the other hand though, I’ve seen people who supposedly had the experience that you described. They were considered enlightened, and yet they were manipulating their disciples, being sexually abusive, being narcissistic, and in general acting out their unresolved trauma. So I have come to believe that a person can have this experience you’re speaking of, and have it ongoingly, and yet, they can have unresolved trauma. This has led me to believe that experiences you are describing may involve a certain part of the brain or certain brain states, don’t know exactly. But in someway it can happen without the person being fully integrated. It’s sort of like a compartment of them is enlightened but then there are these other compartments which have not been affected. I’ve seen many people who are considered enlightened whom I do not consider to have resolved their childhood trauma. I do not believe that trauma resolves by itself for everyone when they get enlightened. I look at some of these people, and they don’t even understand what childhood trauma really is. I think few people, and I include so-called enlightened people, have actually resolved all their trauma. The reason I say this is because I believe that it involves re-experiencing enough actual childhood experience by going back into the state you were in when you were a child. You have to reexperince the brain state you were in during the time when traumatic events happened, and in that deep feeling altered state, your brain can restructure. I think changing hardwiring is a nearly impossible task.
The mind always trying to complicate.. if something seems too simplistic it can't be enlightenment because _enlightenment_ has to be something *huge* a place to arrive with trumpets and all =)
Well, what you appear to have done there is disagree with the meaning of the term. I don't think Daniel was talking about eastern spirituality. I think you missed the point.
Wow, so brave you are, the fact that you could actually formulate all this so clearly says a lot about yourself Daniel. Thank you for sharing so openly and courageously. I like what you say about enlightenment and resolving childhood trauma. For me, being self aware is already a very helpful in healing wounds.
I also think that in order to understand what it means to be a healthy person we should look for healthy people in the world and I think you'd find many of them had gone though trauma in life. There's this underlying assumption in our (the traumatised) way of thinking that if only our parents were different and things we'd gone through were different then we'd be emotionally healthy. But that's only a hypothesis. I don't even think it's true. It's a bit like a dancer saying if the floor wasn't crooked or if the music wasn't so loud they would dance better. The people who are truly healthy aren't necessarily the ones that were not exposed to trauma. I think it's something else, maybe their internal strength and abilities which just are. They were not created or nurtured from the outside but from the inside. I don't know, that's just a hypothesis. To dig deeper I would look for people who are healthy and not suffering trauma and find out what their past was like and research that. Look for correlation or lack thereof.
I think Daniel that although you have been through trauma and are a complex person with complex nuanced thoughts and emotions (as am I), enlightenment is not about resolving childhood trauma. If you listen to Buddhist monks they are not focused on themselves and on their deep wounds but rather on losing the boundary between me and them in a healthy way, in a loving way. I feel that resolving childhood trauma can seem a gratifying lifelong process and I have a deep desire to fulfill that for myself but it's like an ant inching its way on a flat 2D plane. So in the end the ant will be further off than it was years ago. But enlightenment is about metaphorically being a butterfly and leaving that 2D plane and flying about, no longer being that hurt traumatised person, not through incremental steps but in a fundamentally different sphere. I think and I could be wrong obviously in anything I say but I think you give yourself a lot of credit for being self critical and you are to a degree but I feel that you are not as self critical or open to finding flaws in your beliefs as you believe. By self critical I don't mean that you should be putting yourself down, but rather asking "is my way of thinking like a train on tracks running in a circle and going nowhere and just reinforcing itself, being stagnant and 1 dimensional?" and I feel that you have a strong set of beliefs that are quite clear from watching your videos and I'm not sure you truly are actively challenging those beliefs and looking for a higher plane, an alternative view. I think you are capable of doing that and open to it, but it seems to me you spend more time engraining those beliefs and justifying them and making them more factual rather than exploring new ways to see things. It is interesting for me because much of that is a reflection on myself. I'm a much less safe person than you are. So often I'm spending my energy just getting to a basic level of not feeling crushed. But although I have strong beliefs and dogmas about the world and people and my past, I dont think growth is possible without being very extremely open to shedding those beliefs and seeing things from radically different points of view, in a way that makes you leave the narrative you've been reliving your whole life. I think that's very hard to do and I dont think I spend a lot of time doing that just because I'm mostly in survival mode dealing with much smaller challenges but if I did get there I think that would be worthwhile.
Can you point to your true self? Can you describe it? Does these unresolved issues influence your true self? Are they a part of it? What will you be like when all your issues are resolved? What will be left? What will you be?
Yes, for me its like, in the past, I was, mostly walking around the world like I was like a way overly processed bag of junk food versus now more and more I feel alive inside like I am walking around feeling like I am a healthy growing plant. It mostly comes with connecting with me thats why I love my time with me-- to continue to feel this emerge beyond the wounded parts of me.
I believe that we all get there eventually. Keep going and become your true self. As one ancient days writer put it, "...then you'll be astonished." It is a whole lot easier than people realize. I won't say more because I'm not fully my true self yet and it is a wholly personal experience.
Full enlightenment is a Narcissisticly designed concept I would wager. Action is vital to recovery. I am beginning to see myself re-victimizing myself by not taking enough action forward. That is not to undermine the important task of validating the wrongs done, to grieve and work through them. And yes sometimes that is work enough to be dealing with. But I've a concern it can become too all consuming over time. Important also to embolden a self-championing ability. Through physical training maybe.. Or some such like.. Christ this has been fucking tough
Just saw this video and it was as if I was looking at myself and hearing myself talk. Word for word everything you just said is exactly me. Don't feel so alone anymore :)
Very encouriging, I can see myself in you, like I have the same quest to unravel my childhood trauma as much as possible to achieve intimacy with my true self, happy I'm not alone in that journey. Sadly it seems like a lifelong battle, but once your on that ship there are many benefits that seem to be worth it, even though it can be a very lonely emotionally painful road, hence eventually becoming enlightened.
Thank you for sharing these thoughts on your personal journey. You're a one of a kind wise and brave soul. My wish for you is continued striving towards intimacy with yourself, and also with others who are safe for you to be authentic with.
Hi Daniel. Tanks for the movie. I wish you would do more of them, I do enjoy listen to you. Movies that you did 5 years ago really helped me. I'm 36 and I still don't know how to deal with my dissociation and collapsing moments. When I'm in a group of people from 'normal' families I don't feel comfortable, I feel that I don't fit in. And especially when they mention about great parents or childhood that killing me. How do you guys deal with something like that.
Daniel. Thank you for your beautiful reflections and sharing conscious truths, on many levels and dimensions. However, just an idea to perhaps explore...maybe enlightenment is not about full resolution of childhood traumas. Of course, resolving a great deal of childhood trauma is essential for accessing the inner spirit/truth/etc. Yet, maybe at the depth of awakening where you are - that limiting enlightenment to that where all traumas are resolved may be what is blocking you from full enlightenment. I suspect that your final comment on this video, "I Don't Know." is closer to enlightenment. Perhaps, enlightenment is what isn't NOT what is, and that complete abandonment of judgement, hence, judging what enlightenment is or is not, is the next thing to let go of. - Peace.
I've read a lot about psychedelic medicine in treating childhood trauma. There are people who say that they could re-live some traumatic parts of their childhood during the influence of those drugs. That way they could release their emotions for the first time. Some say they never had depression and anxiety again. I'm very interested on your thoughts on that.
shapaco89 probably some truth in it, but i don't have personal experience. also, i think they're probably dissociating a lot afterward too, because traumas don't just come as a one-time thing, the deeper ones. they're usually part of a whole background of screwed-up things that happened, and thus can't just be relived on one drug trip. i think the real healing ultimately has to happen off the drugs. and there's a value in that too, because you know you did it yourself, without a drug......and you also learn how to do it yourself......
I like to think that indigenous people lived in some kind of equilibrium with nature. A lot of tribes had/have "purge" rituals while taking pschoactive plants. Maybe I'll tell you about my experience in the future.
***** i still think to really integrate a greater totality of one's life experience of childhood trauma, you have to do it without drugs. some drugs might be useful for part of it-and i don't doubt some of what you're saying, Katelyn-but for deeper integration it's a solo process that takes a lot of time and a clean mind. and like i said above, there's a value in doing it drug-free, because then a person learns that they don't need a drug to heal.
Daniel, I love your vision and most of your videos, but with all due respect, I think you might be outside your sphere of expertise here, especially since you said you've never tried psychedelics. Please do some more research. This is a good place to start: reset.me/personal-story/psilocybin-mushrooms-healing-from-childhood-trauma-and-my-spiritual-rebirth/
I wonder if enlightenment isn't just the same idea as perfectionisim in this culture. .. some never achievable ideal ??? But I believe intimacy with an other is such a wonderful opportunity to clear those last trauma responses because intimate relationships are really where those wounds will be triggered. So a committed relationship where 2 damaged people commit in Love (the greater kind of love) to being both the trigger and the repairer or the restorer of the original spirit for each other I see as being the only possibility for true enlightenment of the soul you were born to be. Not a perfect person without emotional reactions but a vulnerable person who allows someone in close and in doing so runs this risk of feeling hurt and frightened that you will lose them. And you will - they are the truth of death and differences between human beings, which expand us - make us glorious as more than just an isolated individual. We are designed to be vulnerable and strong together, in community, in relationship but for people who have been so badly hurt in childhood and abandoned, we fear that we can;t do it, that we are too messed up, that we will be hurt or left and we will fall to pieces. And so we stay single and uncommitted. But the enlightened truth is everyone underneath the surface feels like that - everyone has scars and broken bits and messy ugly parts from surviving whatever hellhole they have weathered, that is the one thing you can be certain of with every single human being. The difference being with childhood trauma survivors we have had to lose our naivety earlier than most and that makes it easier to recognise others who have the capacity to accompany you intimately. After understanding your history as self love expands you stop choosing unavailable or emotionally dishonest people and you head for those like you Daniel who are so authentically who they are - whatever the hell you call that enlightenment shit.
Enlightenment sent me way too deep into the tunnel, I almost got to the end. I've been working on getting out ever since, but once you get to a certain point in the tunnel even if you leave the tunnel the tunnel then follows you to see how deep you go. I know I'll always be tied to it, truths cannot be unlearned. I suggest others know where their tunnel lays but walk away and instead follow the sunset. Don't follow me we're already there.
Try Tapping (EFT) to resolve your past and current traumas. (Gets you into the present moment so you are not living in the past (depression) or in the future (anxiety)). If you let all that pain, etc., go and surrender to the present moment, then you will be enlightened. Eckcart Tolle
Everything you listen to talks about being enlightened. Maybe the veil being lifted is enlightened. That doesn't actually feel good when you look around the world or in your own backyard to see the truth (enlightened) but seeing the truth and not living in an illusion means knowing is half the battle. Be true to yourself. The Truth is within you. Truth is light. Just start by looking for the truth. Allow feelings and honesty to show you the way. Strength to help when help is needed, love and allow to be loved which is hard at times. No regrets and take each time and experience in your life to help you see that you're not alone.
Its difficult to to know how to grow , as an older Man, I go to therapy , kind of told that I need to learn to be helpful to others instead of angry at them, I wonder ,yes I can change my approach to people and be kinder and more patient, But still I am left with me in the end, Its like a game to me, I use skills and do get better outcomes more often but still I am still that broken person, It is very interesting but at the same time such emptiness, I was watching a series on History channel, Found it amazing how the characters didn't need to do this ( have emptiness) they whorshiped their Gods and lived a life based on this system that was to them absolute and true. I find our minds are a dangerous place and reality not really able to be realized on our level. I guess I have the question is it worth doing what your doing, or what I am doing spending my life trying to fix me to be something that is not tangable.
That's just it though u don't know how because no one does , just happens and doesn't stop , if u accept your self and all your flaws you can feel true enlightenment and Peace within
Hey David, there´s a question which is bothering me for a while now. When I think back to my childhood, it didn´t seem bad, rather my teen years have been traumatizing. I don´t now if that´s just because attitudes towards you change when you get in your teens or if that´s just your perception. I could rationally maaaaybe explain traumatizing stuff from my childhood, but I don´t FEEL it, no matter how much I try.
Enlightenment is a dissolving of the ego. It happens after you reach a healthy ego and then realize there is entirely different plain of existence available to you when you let go of patterns, rules and traumas of the past. It’s the recognition that all thought is arbitrary. Even healthy ego thoughts are arbitrary and unnecessary and then life around you will bloom and feel so incredibly beautiful. This is a feeling level not an intellectual one. This is why psychology and religion are dead ends…. Because they are constructs of the mind rather then being which is purely emotional.
Daniel, I feel I've gained some benefit from watching your videos, so I want to say that upfront before I proceed with a challenge. Why do you take it for granted that an actualised, fully grown person would be self-sufficient and not require love & validation from the 'external' world in any way? Would you expect this of a healthy chimpanzee, dog or ant? I think that the religious 'enlightenment' you dismiss as 'woo-woo' might be exactly the right medicine to dissolve the implied notion of oneself as an 'individual' projecting onto and clinging to a separate 'external world'. This is a Cartesian metaphor taken literally. A self-sufficient 'personality', if even theoretically possible, would be the most barren and isolated consciousness imaginable. 'One' is continuous with 'the world', and the divisions are appearances in consciousness only. Big discussion for RUclips comments, and I could go on and on, but I'll leave it here and see whether you bite. :-)
enlightenment is a process? self actualization a process? self realization a process? Connected? ... No difference between you and me..? Acceptance 🕉🦋💕🕉🦋💞🕉🦋💞🕉💕🕉💖🕉
As long as you're 75% of the way there I'd say enlightened. Especially if you're working towards self actualization and asking if you are enlightened all along the way.
Ah, at last you explain what you mean by enlightenment - the full resolution of truama. Here is a poem for you: THE COMPENSATIONS OF PHILOSOPHY There is nothing in the world that is perfect There is nothing in the world that is There is nothing in the world that There is nothing in the world There is nothing in the There is nothing in There is nothing There is There There there There there there There there there little child There there There There there There there there There there there little child What do you want for your tea?
Johnny Ecoman interesting poem. as for the word enlightenment, yes, i hate the conventional definition, which is probably why i so rarely use the word at all -- and pretty much have purged it from my vocabulary. even when i define the word my own way people often still mistake what i'm talking about..... greetings from new york! daniel
I think of enlightenment as moments. In a moment, one can be enlightened, but as soon as one reaches for words to describe it, the moment is gone. It is a place beyond words, beyond traumas, beyond personality, a place of oneness and awe which is Beyond, The Heart Sutra: gate, gate, para gate, para sum gate: bodhi svaha. Gone, gone gone Beyond, gone Way Beyond, into Enlightenment. The heart is the clearest opening, but like with any opening, nothing stays open forever, everything must flow and ebb. Therefore, enlightenment is a moment. A Master can string many moments together, like pearls on a necklace, but even the master's enlightenment will wax and wane with personality. The more pearls, the less necklace, the more enlightened. But I agree with you - I don't think anyone is totally enlightened. Except perhaps in mythology. The whole key to enlightenment has nothing to do with "I, me, mine," but is transcendent of the personality, and is beyond even self-actualisation.
Bbbbbroh, this RUclips channel inst just a journal, Dan Mack. If you can make people listen to your lithspy problems, then this has to interactive, because you can quit couch therapy, but the need for other active minds never goes away in anyone with a sole.
I am 41, single and childless, and I have chosen to be this way largely because of my unhappy childhood and toxic family. I was terrified by the burdens of parenthood. I am also reluctant to inflict life on someone.
Thnx...I couldn't describe it better...on my 41th birthday we had that 9/11 PHENOMENON!!!
And wanted to celebrate that day there...
But gut stuck in Minor Asia...
I had to explore Turkey...
What I didn't want, happened...I married with someone what I never had: I had married "both my parents", Sigmund Freund...(3kids)...18 horrible marriage years...
...what is good what is bad
today I am 60 alone...still healing
''Replications of what was done to me'' Beautifully said....
The resolution of all traumas is a wonderful byproduct of enlightenment, but it is not enlightenment itself. Enlightenment is seeing through the illusion of a separate self and a disidentification with the self-concept because you realize that what you think you are is only a label put over an infinitely complex and mysterious experience. Once you let go of the illusion that you are this individual person that you think you are, you can be ripe for the breakthrough of enlightenment where you can experience yourself as you truly are before all illusion and beliefs are stacked on top of it.
So, enlightenment is waking up to what is and realizing that what you really are can sustain no harm because you aren't a small person walking around in an infinite universe that's separate from you, but you are the entire thing. You are everything in your field of perception. When you disidentify with your mind and body, realizing that this identification with the small self was illusory, trauma naturally resolves itself because there is no self to experience trauma.
But the thing with trauma is that (if a person hasn't reached enlightenment) it happens every day in large and small degrees. So, if you had somehow managed to work out all trauma that you've ever experienced, there would be more accumulated there the very next day. It is the nature of living the illusion that there is a separate self... it will always gather more trauma until the illusion is seen through.
The Diamond Net I agree. Well put.
true---life is "trauma"---in that growth is traumatic---you know what I mean?
Diamond Net, I think this is a very good definition. I especially liked the part at the end where you said if you hadn’t gotten to this place, even if you had released all of your trauma, you would start accumulating more the very next day. So very true. On the other hand though, I’ve seen people who supposedly had the experience that you described. They were considered enlightened, and yet they were manipulating their disciples, being sexually abusive, being narcissistic, and in general acting out their unresolved trauma. So I have come to believe that a person can have this experience you’re speaking of, and have it ongoingly, and yet, they can have unresolved trauma. This has led me to believe that experiences you are describing may involve a certain part of the brain or certain brain states, don’t know exactly. But in someway it can happen without the person being fully integrated. It’s sort of like a compartment of them is enlightened but then there are these other compartments which have not been affected. I’ve seen many people who are considered enlightened whom I do not consider to have resolved their childhood trauma. I do not believe that trauma resolves by itself for everyone when they get enlightened. I look at some of these people, and they don’t even understand what childhood trauma really is. I think few people, and I include so-called enlightened people, have actually resolved all their trauma. The reason I say this is because I believe that it involves re-experiencing enough actual childhood experience by going back into the state you were in when you were a child. You have to reexperince the brain state you were in during the time when traumatic events happened, and in that deep feeling altered state, your brain can restructure. I think changing hardwiring is a nearly impossible task.
The mind always trying to complicate.. if something seems too simplistic it can't be enlightenment because _enlightenment_ has to be something *huge* a place to arrive with trumpets and all =)
Well, what you appear to have done there is disagree with the meaning of the term. I don't think Daniel was talking about eastern spirituality.
I think you missed the point.
You have a beautiful soul, Daniel. It's nice to see it bloom.
IThinkWithMy Dick We don't all have one. I'm probably still growing mine.
Wow, so brave you are, the fact that you could actually formulate all this so clearly says a lot about yourself Daniel. Thank you for sharing so openly and courageously. I like what you say about enlightenment and resolving childhood trauma. For me, being self aware is already a very helpful in healing wounds.
I also think that in order to understand what it means to be a healthy person we should look for healthy people in the world and I think you'd find many of them had gone though trauma in life. There's this underlying assumption in our (the traumatised) way of thinking that if only our parents were different and things we'd gone through were different then we'd be emotionally healthy. But that's only a hypothesis. I don't even think it's true. It's a bit like a dancer saying if the floor wasn't crooked or if the music wasn't so loud they would dance better. The people who are truly healthy aren't necessarily the ones that were not exposed to trauma. I think it's something else, maybe their internal strength and abilities which just are. They were not created or nurtured from the outside but from the inside. I don't know, that's just a hypothesis. To dig deeper I would look for people who are healthy and not suffering trauma and find out what their past was like and research that. Look for correlation or lack thereof.
I think Daniel that although you have been through trauma and are a complex person with complex nuanced thoughts and emotions (as am I), enlightenment is not about resolving childhood trauma. If you listen to Buddhist monks they are not focused on themselves and on their deep wounds but rather on losing the boundary between me and them in a healthy way, in a loving way. I feel that resolving childhood trauma can seem a gratifying lifelong process and I have a deep desire to fulfill that for myself but it's like an ant inching its way on a flat 2D plane. So in the end the ant will be further off than it was years ago. But enlightenment is about metaphorically being a butterfly and leaving that 2D plane and flying about, no longer being that hurt traumatised person, not through incremental steps but in a fundamentally different sphere. I think and I could be wrong obviously in anything I say but I think you give yourself a lot of credit for being self critical and you are to a degree but I feel that you are not as self critical or open to finding flaws in your beliefs as you believe. By self critical I don't mean that you should be putting yourself down, but rather asking "is my way of thinking like a train on tracks running in a circle and going nowhere and just reinforcing itself, being stagnant and 1 dimensional?" and I feel that you have a strong set of beliefs that are quite clear from watching your videos and I'm not sure you truly are actively challenging those beliefs and looking for a higher plane, an alternative view. I think you are capable of doing that and open to it, but it seems to me you spend more time engraining those beliefs and justifying them and making them more factual rather than exploring new ways to see things. It is interesting for me because much of that is a reflection on myself. I'm a much less safe person than you are. So often I'm spending my energy just getting to a basic level of not feeling crushed. But although I have strong beliefs and dogmas about the world and people and my past, I dont think growth is possible without being very extremely open to shedding those beliefs and seeing things from radically different points of view, in a way that makes you leave the narrative you've been reliving your whole life. I think that's very hard to do and I dont think I spend a lot of time doing that just because I'm mostly in survival mode dealing with much smaller challenges but if I did get there I think that would be worthwhile.
Can you point to your true self? Can you describe it? Does these unresolved issues influence your true self? Are they a part of it? What will you be like when all your issues are resolved? What will be left? What will you be?
Yes, for me its like, in the past, I was, mostly walking around the world like I was like a way overly processed bag of junk food versus now more and more I feel alive inside like I am walking around feeling like I am a healthy growing plant. It mostly comes with connecting with me thats why I love my time with me-- to continue to feel this emerge beyond the wounded parts of me.
I believe that we all get there eventually. Keep going and become your true self. As one ancient days writer put it, "...then you'll be astonished." It is a whole lot easier than people realize. I won't say more because I'm not fully my true self yet and it is a wholly personal experience.
Full enlightenment is a Narcissisticly designed concept I would wager. Action is vital to recovery. I am beginning to see myself re-victimizing myself by not taking enough action forward. That is not to undermine the important task of validating the wrongs done, to grieve and work through them. And yes sometimes that is work enough to be dealing with. But I've a concern it can become too all consuming over time. Important also to embolden a self-championing ability. Through physical training maybe.. Or some such like.. Christ this has been fucking tough
Just saw this video and it was as if I was looking at myself and hearing myself talk. Word for word everything you just said is exactly me. Don't feel so alone anymore :)
In some environments, it doesnt matter what you are. It matters what they want to believe you are.
Enlightenment actually has no end. It basically is turning flashlight to the dark. It's never ending.
Spot on !
beautiful
Tell that to Buddha
Very encouriging, I can see myself in you, like I have the same quest to unravel my childhood trauma as much as possible to achieve intimacy with my true self, happy I'm not alone in that journey. Sadly it seems like a lifelong battle, but once your on that ship there are many benefits that seem to be worth it, even though it can be a very lonely emotionally painful road, hence eventually becoming enlightened.
Thank you for sharing these thoughts on your personal journey. You're a one of a kind wise and brave soul.
My wish for you is continued striving towards intimacy with yourself, and also with others who are safe for you to be authentic with.
***** thanks tanya :)
Hi Daniel. Tanks for the movie. I wish you would do more of them, I do enjoy listen to you. Movies that you did 5 years ago really helped me.
I'm 36 and I still don't know how to deal with my dissociation and collapsing moments. When I'm in a group of people from 'normal' families I don't feel comfortable, I feel that I don't fit in. And especially when they mention about great parents or childhood that killing me. How do you guys deal with something like that.
Excellent honesty.
Great timing, I'm already addicted to the these videos. Talk about unhealthy masturbation or lack there of and the on and off pattern.
Hi, I enjoy our videos immensely, thank you. Could raising a child in a fundamental or fanatical religion also be considered child abuse?
Daniel. Thank you for your beautiful reflections and sharing conscious truths, on many levels and dimensions. However, just an idea to perhaps explore...maybe enlightenment is not about full resolution of childhood traumas. Of course, resolving a great deal of childhood trauma is essential for accessing the inner spirit/truth/etc. Yet, maybe at the depth of awakening where you are - that limiting enlightenment to that where all traumas are resolved may be what is blocking you from full enlightenment. I suspect that your final comment on this video, "I Don't Know." is closer to enlightenment. Perhaps, enlightenment is what isn't NOT what is, and that complete abandonment of judgement, hence, judging what enlightenment is or is not, is the next thing to let go of. - Peace.
Is there already a more recent follow-up video on this one on this channel? :)
I've read a lot about psychedelic medicine in treating childhood trauma. There are people who say that they could re-live some traumatic parts of their childhood during the influence of those drugs. That way they could release their emotions for the first time. Some say they never had depression and anxiety again. I'm very interested on your thoughts on that.
shapaco89 probably some truth in it, but i don't have personal experience. also, i think they're probably dissociating a lot afterward too, because traumas don't just come as a one-time thing, the deeper ones. they're usually part of a whole background of screwed-up things that happened, and thus can't just be relived on one drug trip. i think the real healing ultimately has to happen off the drugs. and there's a value in that too, because you know you did it yourself, without a drug......and you also learn how to do it yourself......
I like to think that indigenous people lived in some kind of equilibrium with nature. A lot of tribes had/have "purge" rituals while taking pschoactive plants. Maybe I'll tell you about my experience in the future.
shapaco89 cool. and i don't mean to sound like i'm not interested in psychedelic drugs, because i do find them interesting.
***** i still think to really integrate a greater totality of one's life experience of childhood trauma, you have to do it without drugs. some drugs might be useful for part of it-and i don't doubt some of what you're saying, Katelyn-but for deeper integration it's a solo process that takes a lot of time and a clean mind. and like i said above, there's a value in doing it drug-free, because then a person learns that they don't need a drug to heal.
Daniel, I love your vision and most of your videos, but with all due respect, I think you might be outside your sphere of expertise here, especially since you said you've never tried psychedelics. Please do some more research. This is a good place to start: reset.me/personal-story/psilocybin-mushrooms-healing-from-childhood-trauma-and-my-spiritual-rebirth/
I wonder what ole Danny boy is up to now? Bless wherever you are and thanks for your guidance 💝✌
I wonder if enlightenment isn't just the same idea as perfectionisim in this culture. .. some never achievable ideal ???
But I believe intimacy with an other is such a wonderful opportunity to clear those last trauma responses because intimate relationships are really where those wounds will be triggered. So a committed relationship where 2 damaged people commit in Love (the greater kind of love) to being both the trigger and the repairer or the restorer of the original spirit for each other I see as being the only possibility for true enlightenment of the soul you were born to be. Not a perfect person without emotional reactions but a vulnerable person who allows someone in close and in doing so runs this risk of feeling hurt and frightened that you will lose them.
And you will - they are the truth of death and differences between human beings, which expand us - make us glorious as more than just an isolated individual. We are designed to be vulnerable and strong together, in community, in relationship but for people who have been so badly hurt in childhood and abandoned, we fear that we can;t do it, that we are too messed up, that we will be hurt or left and we will fall to pieces. And so we stay single and uncommitted. But the enlightened truth is everyone underneath the surface feels like that - everyone has scars and broken bits and messy ugly parts from surviving whatever hellhole they have weathered, that is the one thing you can be certain of with every single human being. The difference being with childhood trauma survivors we have had to lose our naivety earlier than most and that makes it easier to recognise others who have the capacity to accompany you intimately. After understanding your history as self love expands you stop choosing unavailable or emotionally dishonest people and you head for those like you Daniel who are so authentically who they are - whatever the hell you call that enlightenment shit.
Enlightenment sent me way too deep into the tunnel, I almost got to the end. I've been working on getting out ever since, but once you get to a certain point in the tunnel even if you leave the tunnel the tunnel then follows you to see how deep you go. I know I'll always be tied to it, truths cannot be unlearned. I suggest others know where their tunnel lays but walk away and instead follow the sunset. Don't follow me we're already there.
Try Tapping (EFT) to resolve your past and current traumas. (Gets you into the present moment so you are not living in the past (depression) or in the future (anxiety)).
If you let all that pain, etc., go and surrender to the present moment, then you will be enlightened. Eckcart Tolle
Everything you listen to talks about being enlightened. Maybe the veil being lifted is enlightened. That doesn't actually feel good when you look around the world or in your own backyard to see the truth (enlightened) but seeing the truth and not living in an illusion means knowing is half the battle. Be true to yourself. The Truth is within you. Truth is light. Just start by looking for the truth. Allow feelings and honesty to show you the way. Strength to help when help is needed, love and allow to be loved which is hard at times. No regrets and take each time and experience in your life to help you see that you're not alone.
It's really great to see you putting up more videos.
hi , thx för ur videos, do you have any video wer you define what true self/what you mean with true self?
Its difficult to to know how to grow , as an older Man, I go to therapy , kind of told that I need to learn to be helpful to others instead of angry at them, I wonder ,yes I can change my approach to people and be kinder and more patient, But still I am left with me in the end, Its like a game to me, I use skills and do get better outcomes more often but still I am still that broken person, It is very interesting but at the same time such emptiness, I was watching a series on History channel, Found it amazing how the characters didn't need to do this ( have emptiness) they whorshiped their Gods and lived a life based on this system that was to them absolute and true. I find our minds are a dangerous place and reality not really able to be realized on our level. I guess I have the question is it worth doing what your doing, or what I am doing spending my life trying to fix me to be something that is not tangable.
That's just it though u don't know how because no one does , just happens and doesn't stop , if u accept your self and all your flaws you can feel true enlightenment and Peace within
if someone is depressed, does that mean they aren't enlightened?
I thought your enlightened.. today you confirmed !! I love your content 😊
Hey David, there´s a question which is bothering me for a while now.
When I think back to my childhood, it didn´t seem bad, rather my teen years have been traumatizing.
I don´t now if that´s just because attitudes towards you change when you get in your teens or if that´s just your perception.
I could rationally maaaaybe explain traumatizing stuff from my childhood, but I don´t FEEL it, no matter how much I try.
Thanks I can associate very much with your explanation...
what have you done to get in tube with your childhood? i can't remember it. how do i remember it?
Totally relate to your story!
Why more emotional distance from your family of origin? How does this relate to enlightenment?
Enlightenment is a dissolving of the ego. It happens after you reach a healthy ego and then realize there is entirely different plain of existence available to you when you let go of patterns, rules and traumas of the past. It’s the recognition that all thought is arbitrary. Even healthy ego thoughts are arbitrary and unnecessary and then life around you will bloom and feel so incredibly beautiful. This is a feeling level not an intellectual one. This is why psychology and religion are dead ends…. Because they are constructs of the mind rather then being which is purely emotional.
Daniel, I feel I've gained some benefit from watching your videos, so I want to say that upfront before I proceed with a challenge.
Why do you take it for granted that an actualised, fully grown person would be self-sufficient and not require love & validation from the 'external' world in any way? Would you expect this of a healthy chimpanzee, dog or ant?
I think that the religious 'enlightenment' you dismiss as 'woo-woo' might be exactly the right medicine to dissolve the implied notion of oneself as an 'individual' projecting onto and clinging to a separate 'external world'. This is a Cartesian metaphor taken literally. A self-sufficient 'personality', if even theoretically possible, would be the most barren and isolated consciousness imaginable. 'One' is continuous with 'the world', and the divisions are appearances in consciousness only.
Big discussion for RUclips comments, and I could go on and on, but I'll leave it here and see whether you bite. :-)
enlightenment is a process?
self actualization a process?
self realization a process?
Connected?
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No difference between you and me..?
Acceptance
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As long as you're 75% of the way there I'd say enlightened. Especially if you're working towards self actualization and asking if you are enlightened all along the way.
much love to you
Thank you Daniel!
Dear Daniel, have you considered Jesus as the external answer to your/my need for Love?
Ah, at last you explain what you mean by enlightenment - the full resolution of truama. Here is a poem for you:
THE COMPENSATIONS OF PHILOSOPHY
There is nothing in the world that is perfect
There is nothing in the world that is
There is nothing in the world that
There is nothing in the world
There is nothing in the
There is nothing in
There is nothing
There is
There
There there
There there there
There there there little child
There there
There
There there
There there there
There there there little child
What do you want for your tea?
Johnny Ecoman interesting poem. as for the word enlightenment, yes, i hate the conventional definition, which is probably why i so rarely use the word at all -- and pretty much have purged it from my vocabulary. even when i define the word my own way people often still mistake what i'm talking about..... greetings from new york! daniel
I think of enlightenment as moments. In a moment, one can be enlightened, but as soon as one reaches for words to describe it, the moment is gone. It is a place beyond words, beyond traumas, beyond personality, a place of oneness and awe which is Beyond, The Heart Sutra: gate, gate, para gate, para sum gate: bodhi svaha. Gone, gone gone Beyond, gone Way Beyond, into Enlightenment. The heart is the clearest opening, but like with any opening, nothing stays open forever, everything must flow and ebb. Therefore, enlightenment is a moment. A Master can string many moments together, like pearls on a necklace, but even the master's enlightenment will wax and wane with personality. The more pearls, the less necklace, the more enlightened. But I agree with you - I don't think anyone is totally enlightened. Except perhaps in mythology.
The whole key to enlightenment has nothing to do with "I, me, mine," but is transcendent of the personality, and is beyond even self-actualisation.
who you talking to?
Sopra Tutti i was alone in the room when i filmed it, but in my mind i was talking to an open-minded audience.
Enlightenment is when you need no longer ask the question.
"True knowledge is knowing how ignorant you are", so maybe it is best to forget your days of diaper changes and let the juices flow.
Haha u are so funny people talking about something as if you know something about it even giving advice :)=
INFP
Bbbbbroh, this RUclips channel inst just a journal, Dan Mack. If you can make people listen to your lithspy problems, then this has to interactive, because you can quit couch therapy, but the need for other active minds never goes away in anyone with a sole.
I envy you. I'm a mess.