Biggest Mistakes We Made Moving Abroad | What We Would Do Differently | Black Expats

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  • Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2024

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  • @tampapropertygirl3422
    @tampapropertygirl3422 Год назад +13

    Elderly Parents - My mother is still independent and financially stable. However, she is slowing down and has certain medical issues. So, she understands that her position will eventually change. I told my mother that I am leaving the USA by the end of this year and never coming back. She can either come with me, or rely on my sister. Since that warning, my mother has committed to living 6 months abroad and 6 months in USA. So, its a start. My belief is that by the second year, after she has met friends abroad, and once her long standing friends begin visiting her abroad, she will make a permanent move. Caring for her abroad will be much easier and less expensive than USA. I put my aunt in a home when she developed parkinson's. it costs about $8K per month and we still had to purchase many supplies. Abroad, it costs about $2K. Better yet, if my mother just needs non-medical (when her time comes), I could hire a couple of nurses to come to the house for less than $2k. Bottom line, my mother is warming up to the idea. Either way, I'm out of here!! I moved to Mexico once but returned after 3 years. I have regretted that decision and 11 years later I am making up for that bad decision. Good Luck to everyone trying to move abroad. Go Where You Are Treated Best!!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      You are so fortunate that your mom is brave enough to go on this journey with you. I wish my mother were more brave. 😢. Those facilities are ridiculously expensive especially for those that don't necessarily need daily medical care.

    • @irenenubern8266
      @irenenubern8266 Год назад

      😊

    • @laurier9242
      @laurier9242 Год назад +1

      Where did you move to?

  • @iamkerenlouise
    @iamkerenlouise Год назад +11

    Caught this on the replay, Halisi and Ric--- the best takeaway messages are a) tax considerations, b) healthcare considerations, c) unrealistic expectations, and d) the small things that can mess a person up (i.e., ATM withdrawal in Portuguese language only). People have to remember ...wherever you go, there you are.
    Thanks for always keeping the information for those who want to escape the US one day, ...REALLY transparent!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      You are so welcome 🥰. We're all on this journey together. 🤗

    • @cherizeaustin0816
      @cherizeaustin0816 Год назад

      When is the summit? Today is 8/30/23 here in florida

    • @serongray7765
      @serongray7765 10 месяцев назад

      @@OurBlackUtopia I am retired Army and want to move to portugal. I am starting my process but need some serious help.

  • @joanb7180
    @joanb7180 Год назад +2

    This conversation has been so realistic and enlightening. As a retired military retiree. I realize how important it is to travel with less. Thanks for sharing about unrealistic expectations in other countries even the “homeland”. You’re actually helping me to downsize my own home!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      YAH! thank you Joan for watching and for the encouragement. 🥰. Are you considering a move abroad?

  • @saveourboysNow
    @saveourboysNow 10 месяцев назад +1

    New subscriber here! I have been binge watching since I found your channel on 1/18/2024. You guys are bringing so much value and it is greatly appreciated!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  10 месяцев назад

      🥰 Thank you so much for watching, SaveOurBoys, and for the sub,🥳 WELCOME to the OBU family! We are truly humbled 🤗
      Let us know how else we can help your journey. In the meantime, here are some resources that might help: bit.ly/OBUresources. You might also be interested in our private Facebook group - FIRE over 50, you don’t have to be over 50 but definitely from the diaspora: bit.ly/FIREover50

  • @tampapropertygirl3422
    @tampapropertygirl3422 Год назад +4

    Unless you do a lot of printing, purchase a portable, wireless, printer/scanner while in the USA for about $160. They are small enough to fit into your luggage.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      They're about the same price in Portugal; but the one that I got a Costco was on sale for about $89 and it's full color laser multi-function. 🤤 But we don't do a lot of printing. Maybe a couple of pages per week. We got a color ink jet for about €79 - which was about all I was willing to pay. 🤣

  • @tampapropertygirl3422
    @tampapropertygirl3422 Год назад +4

    If someone dies in a foreign country: I actually had this situation with a friend's husband who died while we were in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. She decided to cremate him and bring him home in an urn. However, the mortuary would have prepared the body and shipped it to Canada for her. There was a huge cost, but it could have been done. I have already told my family that #1 - do not cremate me. #2- where ever I die in the world, dig a hole and put me in it. So like she said, prepare in advance.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      The key is to understand the pricing and put money aside accordingly. Good to know TampaProperty - thanks for watching. 💕

  • @PeaceforLisa
    @PeaceforLisa Год назад +3

    Halisi & Ric you two have the best sense of humor. 😂 You make learning about moving abroad less intimidating. I also love how you both don’t sugarcoat the American experience. I admire you two so much. ❤

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Thank you so much! 😊

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Thank you, Lisa, we really appreciate it! Please let us know how else we can help your journey!

  • @nutritionfordiabeticssenio8901
    @nutritionfordiabeticssenio8901 Год назад +2

    Dealing with seniors or older adults is the most stressful since they are going down the slippery slope of aging. Everyone deals with elder stress.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      OMG is it stressful - because they still think they've got it together 🤦🏾‍♀️.

  • @cherizeaustin0816
    @cherizeaustin0816 Год назад +1

    You two have one another that’s good I’m looking at finding retired inclusive solo humans to make connections with while preparing to come to live there
    Love you both thanks for the info

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Cherize - we gotchu - a good number of our friends move here as single folks. Not everyone is traditionally retired, but definitely inclusive and just plain 'ole cool peeps. 😉. Our 🇵🇹 Move to Portugal Virtual Summit: move-to-portugal-summit.heysummit.com is in November and our next 'formal' meetup is the week of Juneteenth. Hope to see you there.

  • @MyStethoscopeTravels
    @MyStethoscopeTravels Год назад +2

    Caught the replay. If it’s not illegal to film, an instructional video on how to take money out of the ATM would be a helpful video :)

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +2

      Great idea 🤣 we can at least take a screenshot and explain each action...

  • @Peacefuljourney-g7s
    @Peacefuljourney-g7s Год назад +1

    Thank you everyone Halisi and Ric this was excellent as usual can’t wait to scout!!!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Yah! You are so welcome - please let us know how else we can help your journey! 🥰

    • @DianaVaughanJones
      @DianaVaughanJones Год назад

      Thank you for this video and all your others. My hubby and I are coming to Lisbon in April and May. We are both recently retired and looking forward to our scout trip of two months. We are close to your ages and hope we get lucky to meet you and Ric. Meanwhile we’ve joined the expat groups on FB to lean more. I’m putting together a nice notebook with everything I’m learning about moving there. So, I hope all will go smoothly. Thanks again you dynamic duo! 😁

  • @cassandrakinchen9754
    @cassandrakinchen9754 Год назад

    Scouting Spring 2024!!!

  • @ishaonpurpose
    @ishaonpurpose Год назад

    Community was the best part of my scouting trip!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Right?!?! We have a great immigrant community here...working on getting a broader local set of friends too.

  • @MadonnaBold
    @MadonnaBold Год назад

    Thank you Halisi and Ric! You’re providing outstanding content and I always love how open and honest and loving both of you are!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Awww, thank you, Martha 🥰 and thank you so much for watching and for your encouragement. Let us know how we can help your journey. 🙏🏾

  • @tonyetheselfcaremaven
    @tonyetheselfcaremaven Год назад

    Hi y’all! Thank you both for the in-depth information and sharing the “real” stuff. I’m tuning into the replay and the more I tune in to your channel, the more I’m leaning towards Portugal over MX. I’m headed to Mexico for some downtime but my goal is to get both Portuguese and Mexican residency, ASAP!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Awesome! Yaaaassss - choices are wonderful. Spend some time in Mexico without comparing it to what you've heard about Portugal. There are some definite pros in the Mexico column. Before you go, make sure your list of wants and needs is written so that you can be a bit objective and the only subjectivity will be the vibe.
      Both are wonderful countries with wonderful people - the question is which one makes the most sense right now in your life with what you want your daily life to look like - you got this! 👊🏾
      Thank you so much for watching and for your support!

  • @phyllisa2932
    @phyllisa2932 Год назад

    #Replay-I needed this information! I have your Scouting Trip Checklist, which is great! 🙌🏾
    But I'm creating an attachment to include some of these recommendations with your checklist! Thanks bunches! 🤗❣️

  • @Ali4Beginners
    @Ali4Beginners Год назад +1

    Thank you both for sharing your knowledge ❤❤

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Our pleasure! Alie and thank you for watching. Let us know how else we can help your journey. In the meantime, here are some resources that might help: bit.ly/OBUresources

  • @ishaonpurpose
    @ishaonpurpose Год назад +1

    Being nimble in case you need to move! 👏🏾

  • @tungaufasaha5403
    @tungaufasaha5403 7 месяцев назад

    Hi, my name is Tunga. Thank you for the information. I am also researching possible locations. Again, thank you.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  6 месяцев назад

      Hey Tunga, Thank you for watching and please forgive the delay in responding. Our Side Hustle Challenge has thrown our schedule off. 😳
      Let us know how else we can help your journey. In the meantime, here are some resources that might help: bit.ly/OBUresources. You might also be interested in our private Facebook group - FIRE over 50, you don’t have to be over 50 but definitely from the diaspora: bit.ly/FIREover50 🙄

  • @vanessaruiztravelartistryb1347

    Watching the replay!! 😊

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Yes, Vanessa, we missed you on Sunday! 🥰

  • @gabrielledennis4103
    @gabrielledennis4103 Год назад

    Thanks for this and your other videos.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Hey there Gabrielle, thank you so much for watching. 💕 Are you considering a move abroad? If so, here are some resources that might help: bit.ly/OBUresources

  • @nutritionfordiabeticssenio8901

    Halisu give Ric more responsibility .

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Absolutely! - we're going to talk about that this Sunday. 🥹😆

  • @BlackArtAppraiserAdvisor
    @BlackArtAppraiserAdvisor Год назад

    Always an informative, humbling discussion with OBU. Thank you! Local art framers and art handlers can give advice on preparing artwork for shipment, or carrying on the plane. The Registrar in your local art museum would have a list of art handlers, or can point to in-house staff for guidance. Please do insure your artwork for shipping/travel.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Hey Black Art Appraiser 😆Thank you so much for watching and for adding to the conversation. We will definitely consult the experts - I don't want to ruin anything. It's not like we have VanGogh, but we have some hand signed numbered glycee's

  • @athomas9661
    @athomas9661 Год назад

    Another excellent video loaded with gems. Thanks again.
    ❤❤

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Awww, thank you 🥰 and you are so welcome!

  • @nutritionfordiabeticssenio8901

    This info is invaluable! Thank you.❤

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for watching and for adding to the conversation. 🥰

  • @debragillispie6689
    @debragillispie6689 Год назад +1

    My husband & I r watchin

  • @ishaonpurpose
    @ishaonpurpose Год назад

    I looked at Cacilhas because of you two. Ric, you know I was asking you all kinds of questions about it on the boat.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Cachilhas has a vibe - there investing a lot of money in infrastructure over there. 😉

  • @ishaonpurpose
    @ishaonpurpose Год назад

    Oooohhh…thanks for the heads up on the proof of health coverage!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Right?!?! no one told us, thank God we were good to go.

  • @shenpenlhamo22
    @shenpenlhamo22 Год назад +2

    surprised to hear that the immigration consultants you were working with did not advise you about the lease requirements (re owner has to be registered with the tax office). how's that? glad you worked it out.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Hey there, thanks for watching! Our immigration person did tell us the requirements which we passed along. I just didn’t know that we would need to prove it in the process. 😳

    • @shenpenlhamo22
      @shenpenlhamo22 Год назад +1

      @@OurBlackUtopia it’s a grand juggling act isn’t it? But you guys are doing a great service to many people and that’s so wonderful! 🙏🏼

  • @mwhitlow57
    @mwhitlow57 Год назад

    Thank you both for sharing so much great information. FYI, Basil is a mosquito repellent.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Hey MWhitlow, Thank you so much for watching and for adding to the conversation. That's good to know about the basil - I had no idea. I'll buy some for our balcony and window ledges.

    • @mwhitlow57
      @mwhitlow57 Год назад +1

      If you crush about 3 to 4 leaves, it will improve the aroma.

  • @MsArtelia
    @MsArtelia 10 месяцев назад

    Hi guys from San Diego California

  • @ishaonpurpose
    @ishaonpurpose Год назад

    We went back to LaFugitiva!

  • @brendamalik6961
    @brendamalik6961 Год назад

    This so much fun!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      🤣 😆 - When we're trying to do too much at once and we realize things could've been a lot easier if we just asked for help - all you can do is laugh...and learn.

  • @lourdestorres9837
    @lourdestorres9837 11 месяцев назад

    Can you explain how to research expected US taxes and the taxes for the country you decide to live abroad in?

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  11 месяцев назад

      Olá Lourdes (fr?) - we suggest you speak with your home-country tax accountant. If they are not familiar with dealing with folks who have lived outside of the country as for a referral. We found our current account by asking a friend that had a small business.
      Then make sure you are in the Facebook groups for that country/city - do a search on tax accountants. If no one has asked the question before than you should ask. The folks living in the country should have a referral.

  • @ishaonpurpose
    @ishaonpurpose Год назад

    I love Geri ❤❤❤

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Isn't she a jewel? For those who haven't seen our first interview with them...ruclips.net/user/liverIU243YbbNs

  • @ivaldry
    @ivaldry Год назад

    @transitiontotech Can you list the HUD funded property lists in and around leimert Park? I have an elderly parent that this may assist

  • @2tnamre
    @2tnamre Год назад

    Q - Amazon doesn't have a presence in Portugal or Mexico?

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Hey there, yes and no. 😜. There is Amazon Spain and Germany - each deliver to Portugal. We've heard rumor that they're building a distribution center on the border of Portugal and Spain which could speed up delivery, but the idea of same day or overnight is not a thing here. There are other services that you can get same day.

  • @ishaonpurpose
    @ishaonpurpose Год назад

    Just got home from
    Portugal after a month. Not looking forward to the sticker shock of these US prices!

  • @MochaManSpirit
    @MochaManSpirit Год назад

    #replay @OurBlackUtopia Do you still have Sonja Diaz’s contact information?

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  11 месяцев назад

      Hey MochaMan 😆, for some reason YT held your comment for review. 🤷🏽‍♀️. Sonia's info: soniadiazmexico.com/
      Good luck - MX is always a good choice.

  • @malikahm4053
    @malikahm4053 Год назад

    we left everything but our clothes WE unbought brand new.After n40 yrs we decided that 2.5 million was going to be ours..We both speak Portuguese. My husband was born in Cape Verde

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Okay, very cool - so you two are here, which city?

  • @Ingrid_EverydayFilmmaker
    @Ingrid_EverydayFilmmaker Год назад +1

    Re:Shipping your stuff. What if one of the person's in the marriage is an EU resident and coming home to their home country- will it matter if they don't have some kind of customs document except from the one provided by the shipping company? I wonder if they will be charged for shipping their own (and spouse's things) back home? That's our situation. We are going to try and claim it as the EU citizen's things... 😬

    • @YogaBlissDance
      @YogaBlissDance Год назад

      That's so specific you probably need to reach out to someone in the country that would know the rules...

    • @Ingrid_EverydayFilmmaker
      @Ingrid_EverydayFilmmaker Год назад +1

      @@YogaBlissDance I did, they don't know. 😭

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +2

      Hey 24DorseyStreet, thank you for watching and for the question. I would not depend on heresay when it comes to whether or not you might have to cough up big bucks.
      We hired an immigration person who would've known the answer had this been our question and if he/she did not know the answer I would've asked them to find out or I would hire someone else...seriously. 🥰

  • @athomas9661
    @athomas9661 Год назад

    Did you leave hard copies of momentos e.g. photos with family?

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Yes we still have the hard copies, I'm in scanning hell right now.

  • @cassandrakinchen9754
    @cassandrakinchen9754 Год назад

    Q: Is it cheaper to fly from Lisbon to Barcelona than for you to fly directly from Cali to Barcelona?

    • @cassandrakinchen9754
      @cassandrakinchen9754 Год назад

      It’s the Cali to Lisbon to Barcelona more time consuming than a direct flight from Cali to Barcelona?

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      no comparison - if booked early enough we could fly RT to Barcelona for under €80 per person

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Are you trying to visit all cities? I would price out Cali to Barcelona and Barcelona to Lisbon then Lisbon to Cali. But today it might be cheaper to come to Lisbon first.

  • @malikahm4053
    @malikahm4053 Год назад

    I am not surprised esp with you Halisi. Listening to you over the months tells me that you made a lot more than you care b to admit. DO you not know that [parents are more important ppl?

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Live and learn and share so others can avoid the same mistakes, right? 🥰

  • @cassandrakinchen9754
    @cassandrakinchen9754 Год назад

    Did you stay that you stayed in Cascais?

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      No we stayed in Cacilhas on the other side of the river.

  • @tampapropertygirl3422
    @tampapropertygirl3422 Год назад

    Hit the LIKE BUTTON!!!

  • @sylviadiana
    @sylviadiana 6 месяцев назад

    Q what about Costa Rica for retirement

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  6 месяцев назад

      Hey Sylvia, a lot of folks choose CR. We encourage folks to have a list of needs and wants, do an extensive scouting trip (live there for a month or longer), and make their decisions based on their experiences: scouting trip checklist can be found here: bit.ly/OBUresources . Have you been there on an extended trip yet?

    • @sylviadiana
      @sylviadiana 6 месяцев назад

      @@OurBlackUtopia No, have never traveled out of the country yet. Keep hearing people talk about Belize and Costa Rica. I will be retiring in the next 3 years and have been considering moving out of the United States.

  • @malikahm4053
    @malikahm4053 Год назад

    my husband built closets

  • @MrsKarhenry
    @MrsKarhenry Год назад

    Hi Kirsten, very impressive video, one of the best. Is their a way to reach out to you via email? Ty for keeping it real.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Hello Mrs. Karhenry, please forgive the delay in our response, our Move 2 Portugal Summit wore us out. Here's our link: calendly.com/halisi
      Most folks on RUclips have their email under about and/or in the video's description. 😉

  • @anthonywilliams7895
    @anthonywilliams7895 8 месяцев назад +1

    I like ya'll

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  8 месяцев назад

      Awww, thank you, Anthony 🥰 and thank you so much for watching and for your encouragement.

  • @malikahm4053
    @malikahm4053 Год назад +1

    Spanish is not an acceptable ;language in Portugal. Its also about respect please!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад +1

      Hah, it's all in the attitude. I NEVER get bad looks because I apologize and make a joke of it and telling that I'm taking classes and dedicated to learning the language. If you're arrogant with it - yep you will get a set down. 😆

  • @nutritionfordiabeticssenio8901
    @nutritionfordiabeticssenio8901 Год назад +1

    Black woman stop being so controlling and wearing the Superwoman Cloak! With love.

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  Год назад

      Honey preach! I took off my cape over a year ago which is why we live in Lisbon and I'm not physically taking care of either of my parents. I don't have to do the work just make sure that it gets done. 😉

  • @DawnSmith-x9f
    @DawnSmith-x9f 10 месяцев назад

    Anothervthing.. you will be treated differently as a Single blavk woman then a COUPLE! That is worldwide! As a woman you get a lotcmore respect when you are with a man! In restaurants,.. hotels,, nightxlubs eyc. You need to takj j about tgT,,.. esoecially when you are over 50!!!!

    • @OurBlackUtopia
      @OurBlackUtopia  10 месяцев назад

      I don't know if that is necessarily true everywhere. I navigate throughout Lisbon by myself regularly. I don't wear a wedding ring and I cannot say that I feel a difference in how I'm treated when alone as opposed to when I'm with Ric. 🤷🏽‍♀️
      💕If you are seriously considering a move abroad, here are some resources that might help which includes a Scouting Trip Checklist and our Ready to Retire and Move Abroad Toolkits that have links to the databases that we use to check cost of living information and human rights for cities around the world: bit.ly/OBUresources