WHY NIGERIAN WOMEN WILL DO ANYTHING FOR MARRIAGE || GISTMAS DAY 4
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There’s patriarchy, there’s Nigerian patriarchy and YORUBA patriarchy. I’m Yoruba and I know our women simp for men. Thank God for how I was raised. I’ve legit seen girls giving their school fees to their boyfriends in the hope that he sees them as wife material. Money that the guys don’t return most times. I’ve seen lots of ladies do ordinary relationships like marriage;they all ended up with breakfast 😒😒😒
Yoruba demons 😂😂😂
@@elizaleke8373 It’s not just an expression for laughs. The Yoruba demon phenomenon is a real thing. Our men are very tactful when it comes to women matters. You’ll see a young guy with no job, he’s not schooling, no money or doing anything serious with his life with five girlfriends. The girls will be bringing consumables and money to him all the while, each of them would think they’re the only love of his life. His stupid ambitionless life😡.
@@elizaleke8373 Can we stop using that barbaric word to describe Yoruba people!!
@@ajokeemmanuel4649 I am sorry you feel that way but I have to agree with Eliza on this one. I am Yoruba. And every aspect of the wicked culture has affected me negatively and I am working on my healing. If I had not come to this part of the world, I would not have known that the culture is very wicked especially to women and children. A Perfect Example is Yoruba tribal marks, they are the worst! Tell me if that is not Barbaric?!
@@gracenmercy1085 I hope you find your healing,but you very wrong by calling your own culture barbaric .......the western culture are more barbaric than yoruba culture, yoruba culture is the way of life and it exists for the European culture that you think it only.
I am a Nigeria man when I am broke. I humbly humble myself. No woman, just work and hussle
I am a Nigerian woman and I don't tolerate any form of disrespect from any man. I would have preferred that she says "Some Nigerian women"
Same here. Some Nigerian women have learnt the hard way as such we don’t give room for nonsense & BS from any so called man. Thanks 😊
Thank you. Why talk for everyone. Talk for yourself friends and family.
Exactly! I will clearly point out where my man has gone wrong.
She is referring to the majority. The women like you are few and far between. What she has said is true and a very good analysis.
I get you but honestly, I'm not mad at her either. It's an observable enough phenomenon for people to be able to point out Nigerian women. Just like when there's discourse on 'Yoruba demons' or 'men' in general. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that we are not talking about all Yoruba men or men. Same thing applies here.
God bless you for your beautiful attitude towards women.
This is a classic video. I must save this and show my daughters.
Lesson learnt " there's a patriarchy and there is Nigerian 🇳🇬 patriarchy." Thanks for keeping it REAL 💯 %
Things are changing though in Nigeria! The young shall grow and learn and do better. Amen.🤣💯🧠🧠🧠🧠
True talk! Aunt B. When l decided to divorce my ex-husband eight years ago. He was crying, begging me. He called everybody he knew. Even up the now. But my mind was mind up. Because l have multiple business. And my ex-husband knew he could not live without me. So ladies, get your bank account pregnant multiple times.
Excellent description of most Nigerian men and most Nigerian women.
You nailed it my sister! I wish my fellow women will focus on investng in themselves. Men respect women who are financially okay.
There is no lie In her words she's right. Thanks for sharing
That green looks so gorgeous on you
One day in Dallas, TX, I witnessed two Iranian men having a heated argument. One of them kept telling the other he did not even want to argue with him because he didn’t have a wife.
The audio you played, the woman is so RIGHT. She has all the right words to describe everything about how some of these Nigerian women carry marriage put for head.
Anyways, in my little understanding, we just need to know ourselves first. We need to learn how to define our own marriage. What is marriage for us? How is marriage important to us. How do we feel when things go soar in marriage and how to handle them? How matured are we, emotionally, spiritually, financially before going into marriage? After being able to answer these questions and more other ones diligently, then, I believe we can go against any negative things in marriage and as well, we can also walk out of the marriage when we've been able to try our best in the marriage without seeing any positive results.
Though, in everything, we need God to lead us.....
Finally someone saying it as it is....too much toxicity in marriages in Nigeria, many women are suffering and miserable in their marital homes, but bcos of what society, family or church_mosque will say, they rather die in silence. This attitude must change..
We are in 21st century not 1800
I dated a Nigerian man for 3 years and she is accurate. He kept talking of I will loose out for him not marrying me. He wanted me to be reduced to a cook and me to stop thinking for myself and stop being so ambitious. And he said I am proud. And he would use money as a justification like he is giving me money why i cant humble myself that is agree to be reduced to a cook and tolerate his abuse
I couldn't understand because where I come from you only get married if it feels right.
Marriage does not define you, neither does being divorced. Nigerian women can carry marriage like Okpa and Gala.
Nigerian women put up with so much to remain married. I have friend whose husband left for Nigeria 23 years ago, only visits once in 3 years however, when he visits, the wife will not even talk on the phone with anyone as she is not allowed she says she has to give her man full attention. This lady pays for everything and even built a house for this man which he occupies with his side chick
That is very low self esteem
Hmmmmm, very sad.
@@user2024-o4z it is very sad. And the man is very rude and disrespect her. When I decided not to go and greet him during his rare visits, she accused me of hating her husband. I told her I am her friend, I have a choice whether to be close to the man or not. It hurts me to see women who are so intelligent, beautiful and hard working being treated as 2nd class citizen. Nigerian women are very beautiful
Good fool ☺️ god bless her
Sad 😞
Aunty B, thank you for talking about this kind of topics. We really need to have this discussions. Why do our men disrespect you so badly but respect other women. I have thinking about it for a while. God will give us Obodoyibo TV family wisdom to get to the root cause.
She is absolutely right! I tried dating a Nigerian guy, the money thing is true ooo. The guy said he picks money over everything.
Those abroad especially Igbo men will be looking how to get money from women. I am yet to see some of these Nigerian men respecting women and an Igbo man that provides in diaspora!
I love your hairdo. It's beautiful 😍😍😍
Thanks auntie B, your narrative was on point 👍🏽
I love you and your show a million times. Assertive women!!!!
It depends how one carries themselves. Self esteem for a lot o people is non-existence. A lot of people are stuck in bad/abusive marriages because because of lack of finance especially back home in Nigeria. Also until the obsession with marriage and pressure stop there will continue to be casualties of people stuck in bad marriages. Marriage should not be all your life and purpose.
Aunty B, this is premium advice from you to those who have ears that hear. She who has ears listen to this wholesome premium free counsel. I rest my case😀😀😀
Good advice every woman should follow. Thank you.
She said the obvious truth, which some of us are familiar with.
Aunty B!! You are looking stunning today.😊
I would never live my life for my husband, he has his friends I have mine...Kenya no one cares ..you aren't treated better or worse because you r single or married ...Kenya humans are respected for themselves ....We have single mothers selected in politics even ..
I noticed this in Uganda. Aunties will pressure you to get married at a certain age. If not married by that age, they will pressure you for a baby!!
That is why all the Kenyans woman likes old white men.
@@truthmatterbyoladada1462 that's not your problem if there are happy? Who is you to judge others for their happiness ....we don't care as long as we are happy...we Kenyans have understand the true meaning of life isn't the society but our happiness ...anything else?
@@a.muchemi4360 you are not happy with your zaddy........go and mind your own business zaddy lovers.
@@truthmatterbyoladada1462 You are already showing symptoms of unhappiness with your unsensible comments.Goan make yourself happy first cos the people that you are insulting,are very happy by living and making good careers out of themselves.B'se you be man,you think say na man dey bring happiness to Kenyan Women🤣🤣?Kenyan women don't and can never carry Marriage or any Man on top of their heads like Pure Water😊
Happy Sunday Bree. Yesterday was lovely!
Happy Sunday, gorgeous! Love your message.
SisB mi looking fab. 💯❤️
Women go dey okay as time goes on. Issa WAR out here! 🤣⚡️
Chai! It is well for those who are hawking OR intend to flaunt their Mrs!🙄🔥
I'm a white man who fell in love with an Igbo woman half my age. I spent two months in Nigeria with her and we plan to marry before the end of the year. There is absolutely nothing I wouldný do for her, which includes relocating to Nigeria. She has my total attention and respect at all times, but is concerned about my safety being white.
Be careful with Nigerian women.
Don’t get pregnant….let your bank account get pregnant!!!! Thank you,Aunty B for this gem of wisdom!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You know right! That is my new mantra!!! 😆
Some women take getting pregnant for a useless man as a trophy.
@@reitaebohon7853 Yes oh!!!! You can’t go wrong with a pregnant bank account!!!!
I like that statement from sister B. “Let your bank account get pregnant”
Australian churches are the same towards unmarried women (with children).
Happy Sunday sister B👋🏾👋🏾
The reason why Nigerian women stay is really because of the belief that the next man they meet (and that is even if they do meet any after a divorce/separation) would have had the same orientation as their ex. So the question they will ask themselves is " what will be different? let me stay with the devil I know and the father to my children.
Like you say... our men will not try it with other races so why us alone? We need to change that narrative and start holding the accountable. Let them know that the consequences of bad behaviour could mean a broken home. Also the way men will loose all their resources and hard earned.....in other divorce proceedings does not always happen in Nigeria. So a man can walk away with everything and leave his wife and kids stranded.
Some Men really avoid marriage outside of Nigeria because they know what the consequences will be if they stray....
Nigerian women have it bad on both ends of the stick but like you say....it is changing and with our children's generation, especially as they were bred in the West, these charges will definitely filter through. Most Nigerian men will just treat women badly because it is generally acceptable and there are no dias consequences.
Please ooooo there are naija men that honor and respect their women and wife's. Let's us not put all naija men in that basket of deplorable. Everything is not about money 💰. ✋ abeg oooo
@Living Inside Cold like really now... You wan quote bible 4 here 👉📔
Auntie B, I agree 1000 percent. Even the advices the mothers gives you, it's wrong. Encouraging abuse in the name of "It is Well.. I can't stand that phrase any more. The saddest part Is these mem will treat women like this, when they get sick, you're expected to care for him despite how they've treated you.
That word is Dalemosu when you go back to live in your parents house after your marriage did not work.
Big sis I learn everyday from ur talk i am newly married and seriousely going through alot it's not abusive but I need to DM u privately ma I need some seriouse advise 4 these marriage crash thanks and God bless u ma ur a blessing to our world
Big mistake woman.. don't take advice from unmarried women..look for older married women for advice.. Believe me! From Nigeria 👍🏿
The girl is right, let's not deceive ourselves. Our hypocrisy is too much in our society and it's affecting every area of our lives.
I think the lady in the video is not accurate ! I am from East African and dating a Ghanian here in US but he is stingy and trying to control me and raised his voice couple times and it is a read flag! I am planning my exit now.
I think both sides we need to be compatible, have and have empathy towards one another and love will flourish.
Thanks a lot Auntie for everything🥰
Don't mind her nigerian and ghanian women are the same, i find ghanian women to be worse when it comes to carrying marriage on their heads and doing anything and tolerating rubbish to stay married. Im with a ghanian man and he is not stingy at all. My friend who is married to a nigerian guy hmmm she is being shown shege, from the little she says about her man he is pretty stingy.
My point ..you can't generalize...it's her opinion and besides I know i hear Ghanaian men only offers sex and nothing more...but not in all cases cis i have friends that their Ghanaianhusbands arenit all about sex but also give money..So these idea of generalizing everyone in a particular way is wrong...
@@queenofsheba3978 Many times Nigerian men spend the money to attract the woman. Once they are married, the "shege showing" begins...But there are many stingy men generally especially among Yoruba men because the women overly value marriage, so the men can get away with any and everything....
@@queenofsheba3978 Do you listen to comprehend or respond, IN COMPARISON to Nigerian men, Ghanaian men are stingy. Period
I really liked the idea of getting your bank account pregnant 🤪
Love Your wig Aunty B 😍
No lie oo😂
Very on point 😢
Even those who are married and have children, don’t want to interact with those married but don’t have children.
Hmm...terrible. This goes to show that there is a whole lot of discrimination going on out there. Person dey single finish come marry no get pikin, na another new level of unjust treatment im go face. O dikwa egwu😔
Aunty B,e ti gbon ju. You are a first class brain.Confirmed!!!
Happy Sunday all obodo family
Mothers are the pillars of uber patriarchy.
Yes dear ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I totally agree with you
Where is the lie in what she said? It's the lack of self identity that will allow a woman to be in a marriage of endurance all in the name of "respect " that's a form of discrimination.
I didn’t want to respond before but when you say ‘not all women, men can leave’ that make more sense. If you command respect in your household, all these disrespect some men bring your way will never come to past. I rest my case!!!
do you have to pay bride price if you want to marry a nigerian woman 🇳🇬 ??
This is the truth!
I love this wig on you, it's so beautiful and chic, pls may I have the handle of the seller pls, thank you!!!
One name-May Edochie! That is how you treat a cheating husband-Say very little, don’t bash him but Become successful! Don’t get pregnant.
Sounds like that is a relationship one should leave. Why stay just to torture each other when there is so much more living to do?
💯 my sister. It is a big problem.
I live in the US and have met a woman who live Lagos Nigeria. We plan to marry when I am able to go to Nigeria, then go back to the US together to raise a family and live our lives. I hope all works out!
I plan to do the same. Please keep us updated. I'm curious to know how it works out for you and hear more about it.
@@seldomsceen Hey, here's an update. It didn't work out with the woman from Lagos. So, I've made a couple friends, one from Ghana and one from Kenya. I've decided to just build these friendships up until I go to visit them. If things become romantic then it's on and popping. If not, I will still have a friend who could introduce me to people while I set my life up in my new home!
@@Raasio6 cool. African women are so sweet. I'm planning to visit Nigeria next year. Crossing my fingers that it works out
If the women there would start rejecting money, gifts and trips from these guys and encourage them to come up with more creative ways of trying to impress you or make you smile/happy, then things would begin to change on a major scale.
It would ALSO help if the people of Niger and Nigeria knew your TRUE identity/history. Knowing that might ALSO play a major role in how we begin to bridge the gap between and amongst ourselves.
There have been people - along with God's help, who've spent hundreds and possibly even THOUSANDS of years breaking us up and creating a division among us (i.e. The Transatlantic Slave Trade), it's going to take some time for us to understand who we are, where we went wrong and what's expected of us.
How can a criminal Nigeria man who's spending his ill-gotten wealth have good character. A generous criminal... na so our politicians and yahoo boys generous to foreign women.
What’s the chances of an African American Man Marrying a Nigerian Woman???
Bro big chance..As a black person you are very good especially if you know or have a Nigerian friend over there.. some really sweet and educated sistas here
They're so concerned about what people think that they can't have a true relationship 🤷🏿♂️
Aunty B you are looking so pretty
Thank you
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I am not sure which Nigerian women she is talking about. Has she met all Nigerian women?
I am a man. But I LOVE the bank account advice.
So right aunty's B Ghana men are like that
Ile moshu. Meaning a married woman who returns back to her father’s house. It’s kind of unwritten stigma in Yoruba culture.
Why?
The answer is tbis:- what you allos continues.
Made me laugh!
THEIR MARRIAGE ARENT BIBLICAL ~THATS THE PROBLEM THEIR LANGUAGE SHOULD BE JESUS NOT MONEY
una wan day start waything una nor go finish
The men controls who their wife should be friends with sometimes by their utterances an some of the women are so judgmental of women without a man.
This is not a problem. Trust me you don't want the opposite. In the US everybody thinks you should play around until your 30 to 40 and then start trying to find someone in the last ditch effort. At that age you are probably bitter from previous relationships, have illegitimate children, And you probably don't even know how to be in a healthy relationship. In fact it's so bad that our birth rates,are so low it's becoming a crisis.. families build communities and communities build Nations. Family First. Keep your standards high.
It does not matter. A lady can marry a married man if she wants to.
As long as the wife agrees
@@sd7752 my dear if she does not agree he will do it secretly and that is where the pain sets in for life. Some men dont care dear. We women should empower and ignore men, I KNOW of a man who has a secret child who is about 35 years he died almost 12 years now. The wife in the house legal wife did not know or smell it coming am 55 am talking from experience.
If a man marry a next woman behind your back that's very disrespect....there no decency in doing that. Bushman from Jamaica 🇯🇲
What do you call respect in western world ma?
There is no lie.
Hi obodoyinbo. It's been long I watched your posts. But you look all trimmed. . what happened....??? But it's cute
MONEY THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL
Those women hasbeen there dats was why naomi said won a ma po si
You are wrong..Nigerian men love and respect their wives ..
What is stingy ?
Someone who spends little amount of money mostly.
Dalemosu
Hell0 everyone.
Why is the need to control another human being even a need ??? I thought slavery was over???
Nigerian men the most generous men in Africa ♥️🙏 men with big heart , best fathers too. The only problem is they want more than one woman. Nigerian women wise and cultured and dedicated to their families 🙏♥️
This sounds materialistic to me
SICK THINKING
In the US the Nigerian presence doesn't have the same effect. Black Americans doesn't notice Nigerians anymore than anybody else. So that is a total false.
That doesn’t make it ‘totally false’. It only means what you have stated is the exception.
@@Dee___.. Actually it makes it totally true. Because to black Americans, African are Africans, period. The same applies for white people. It doesn't matter what country in Europe they are from. To us, they are white...period.....Jewish people included
False!!! Even Caucasians know Nigerians
Sister B, it’s good to make friends with everybody, but don’t let them take “Daddy wa” from you oooooooo😂😂😂😂😂
You make it sound like Nigerian men are very wealthy dominantly but is not the Nigerian country of poor. I hear most don't even have electricity so I'm confused that you would say they act as if they're men is wealthy and Rich and like to spoil. I am very confused of the view of my Nigerian people
You don't understand why people tend to cut off their unmarried friends. there are so many reasons. some are even for the benefit of the unmarried. they might not comprehend all one has to take in in the marriage if they they re not married and might get scared of wanting to marry. Also cos they don't understand the issues in marriage, their opinion on some matters might be counter- productive and hence they might be in turn seen as bad influence.
🙄🙄🙄
Wow! Wahala for who never marry 🤔 I should just stay on my own as a single woman then. All the best to my married friends.
🤣😂 let me take this an attempt at a ‘joke’. It was a bad one however.
You are obviously an oppressive man.
It's true because women who are not married becomes jealous and toxic when giving advice to a married friend even sisters sometimes..a wise man should not allow her wife to mingle amongst single women FACT