I know you’ve read this 100 times but THANK YOU for your authenticity and honesty about postpartum. I never knew 90% of the things you mentioned. This will for sure help me in the future when I start a family ❤️
I VIVIDLY remember crying uncontrollably on my couch the night we brought my first daughter home because I thought my dog was mad at me. You aren’t alone. Hormones are wild and having a baby is such a huge life transition!
Clancy- just wanted to tell you that you’re not alone in this journey. I believe the waking up in the middle of the night thinking the baby is in bed with you is a very common thing. It happened to me for several weeks even though my baby was safely in her bassinet. No idea why this happens to us postpartum..hormones are wild!
If youre dealing with major anxiety- it could be due to breastfeeding. I have always been an anxious person to some extent, but the immense crippling anxiety i experienced after having my daughter in may 2023 was like nothing I have ever experienced in my life. I couldnt leave my house, i was in a constant state of stress and worry. I was experiencing several panic attacks a week, they were so bad my chest would ache and I would feel like i couldnt breath. It would happen every time my baby cried. I had no help from her father, no support system, no family of my own to console me. Even his family was extremely rude and not understanding at all. They would say things like "I never went through this and i had 3 kids" or "my ex wife never went through this" or would just get mad at me in general any time i was experiencing an anxiety or panic attack. It was horrible. It didnt get better until I stopped breastfeeding when she was 7 months. My supply dried up and her teeth started coming in which hurt like hell lol I actually didnt put two and two together until very recently. All of a sudden one day out of nowhere it dawned on me that my anxiety could have seriously been due to the high levels of horomones from breastfeeding. That and also being your childs main source of food and nutrients. It puts a lot of stress and pressure on you as a mother.
When my son was a newborn, I called my gynecologist office and tried to make an appointment for my newborn. The receptionist informed me that I called the wrong office. She knew that I was sleep deprived, and we had a good laugh about it. I agree that mom brain is real! 😂
I remember when nursing I would have the most painful contractions. Then I got an infection that traveled up my neck. I would have to take medicine for pain just to nurse my baby. Horrible. Plus the tear and the cut they gave me and my other kids running around. Clancy, you're not crazy, everything you've talked about is normal. We women have been going through all of this and more, believe it or not. For hundreds of years. My OCD thoughts kicked in on top of post P. depression. You are not crazy just a Mom. Welcome to the club. 🍼
I’ve only had 2 babies and I know people have had tons more but the biggest takeaway for me hearing all your nervousness and anxiety was this……by the time baby number 2 comes, you kind of feel like a pro and none of the same fears ever happened to me with my second as my first. I remember holding a mirror in my daughters nose to make sure she was breathing 🤦🏼♀️ My second? Not so much! You really feel like a pro after you’ve done it even just once!
I just want to say thank you so much for this video. I had my daughter 4 years ago but everything you felt was the same thing I was feeling. I just didn't know how to put it into words and no one around me seemed to go through the anxiety that I felt. I had anxiety throughout my pregnancy and I thought once my baby was out that my fears would go away. Nope, it was a whole different level of anxiety because of how much you love your little one. Thank you Clancy!
Thinking you’re squishing your baby or that the baby is lost in the bed definitely happened to me so many times. I remember being half asleep, checking the whole bed, having a panic attack and then realizing she was in her crib. Scariest moments ever 😅
Clancy❤ This is going to help so many people for years! So wonderful. I remember your sleep walking years ago. It’s you, it’s who you are. You are maybe more anxious than others but you know and realize how it’s affecting you. Your reporter days made the such a great talk. I was so choked up listening. Great mom!!!🎉
I'm not planning to ever be pregnant but I want to thank you for always sharing your honest and authentic experiences not just with pregnancy/parenthood. I am usually not interested in pregnancy/parenting vlogs from the creators I follow but I am really liking hearing about your experiences, especially as a healthcare worker and a person who wants to learn about other people's lives!
Clancy, I just want you to know these feelings are all normal and you are not alone. I struggled with the same thing with all 3 of my babies! As you now know, it eventually gets better. It also helps having your support system!
I literally talk to my mom friends about how unhealthy it feels to love our kids lol in a good healthy way tho. Oh and Clancy it gets sooo much bigger once they show their personalities and quirks and giggles. My oldest reading was such a beautiful moment that everytime she reads I’m like “omg! You are reading!” Being a mother is truely the best thing I have ever chosen to do.
I get postpartum euphoria, what my dr calls it. After birth, I don't get the blues. I get tins of energy and am in the best mood of my life. Then after 10 weeks after birth, I crash from exhaustion. With my 5th birth, which was twins, I crashed from exhaustion earlier and far harder. Twins were so rough the first 6 months then life became normal. With nursing, I've always gotten a great latch from right after birth, but yes it does hurt bad normally until the nipples tough up, usually with blood involved. Once nipples toughen up, all pain goes away.
Lactation consultants are THE BEST. Idk how but the 1 thing my brain remembered after giving birth was to ask for a Lactation consultant in the hospital. Best thing I ever did. I got to see one before my baby was 24 hours old and then they offered a nurse/Lactation consultant home visit at 6 days old and I said absolutely. Don't get me wrong, it has still been a journey and we had a couple weight issues the first week or 2 but I swear, having a LC right away really helped me be set up for success with BF. I would 1000% recommend a LC for anyone wanting to BF. And I never took a class or read any books specific to breast feeding either! I'm very go with the flow and we will learn along the way 😅 but everyone is different!
Take a safe sleep course and also learn about baby milestones 🥰 it helps to know what you can do to keep him safe when sleeping and know when and what milestones will most likely happen.(although each baby is different and unique) nanny here and 10 years worth of childcare experience and many continuing ed courses on all things child care 🩵
The Smile On My Face When I See That Clancy Posted A New Vlog💗💗🥹 and I really really impressed with your vlogs so so much you are the Sweetest Cutest youtuber ever in the world May God Bless You Always Always
glad you went to a lactation consultant. they really are helpful. although when you say he was feeding for an hour and you mentioned the bad latch, he probably wasn't actually feeding for a majority of the hour. breastfeeding is hard! good luck with your journey
I teared up at him losing weight. O had trouble too from the getgo and my baby was not happy. She cried a lot and breastfed a lot. It was so hard. And a nurse came up to me and said, “You know what I see? A hungry baby.” and then left the room. I burst into tears and cried and cried as quietly as I could while my husband slept. It was so awful. I was a zombie the first week. I don’t know why she said it to me like that and didn’t offer formula. I think my hospital has some kind of policy against offering pain meds and formula, that I was completely unaware of. I thought I was being a baby about my pain as well because I told them and it was in my birth plan that I wanted “all the pain meds” lol
I am shocked that they didn't book you in with a lactation consultant after the first weigh in😢 I had my kids here in Europe and they have the lactation consultant come in before you go home from the hospital.
We actually had one in the hospital but I don’t think I absorbed a lot of the info bc I was so out of it still haha but I definitely wish my pediatrician brought it up too!
I wish I had something like this to watch when my son was born (22yrs ago). I remember the pediatrician, who we LOVED, telling me to stop going on WebMD/looking things up. I was convinced he had some rare genetic disorder because he didn’t cry when getting shots. That was just one of the crazy things I was overly concerned about. It’s funny to look back now but in those moments the fear was very real. You’re doing great Clancy! I love hearing about your journey. ♥️💙🩵🩵
Omg Clancy I relate to so much of what you said! I remember feeling so overwhelmed with how much I loved my baby, the first week I was crying multiple times a day. I started sobbing when I saw this Instagram reel that was talking about how one day your baby boy will be an old man like nopeee I cannot handle this 😂 This is a very random question but where did you get your lamp??
I slowly weaned my daughter by 18 months, and I experienced pretty crazy pp depression. I was mentally in a great place up until that point. It’s been 6 months and I’m starting to feel better, but that was a crazy time for sure
We had our baby on October 4th, and have struggled a lot with breastfeeding, jaundice and anxiety. I was so excited when our diaper count began to increase. My baby is still not a fan of his bassinet. I just now started being able to sleep again. 😂
Clancy it's like we had the same experience. I still don't sleep lol and I go check on him to make sure he is breathing 😅 he is about to be 6!! Thank you for sharing. You are doing a great job!
Babies normally lose weight a few days after birth. Also, all scales are different so I don't think he actually went down to 7.14 when your lactation consultant weighed him.
These are totally normal things to go through that not many people talk about. My two things were being scared I was going to accidentally put my baby in the oven so I stopped cooking and I was also scared of tripping and throwing him over the stair case. 😅
The trick every parent does is lick your finger and stick it under a sleeping baby's nose to feel their breath to check them. Embarrassingly I have been known to still do that with sleeping TEENAGERS when they are sick. 😳😳
I ended up being induced a few days early and he was born on September 26! (I posted a birth story a few weeks ago that you can check out for the full story!)
I know you’ve read this 100 times but THANK YOU for your authenticity and honesty about postpartum. I never knew 90% of the things you mentioned. This will for sure help me in the future when I start a family ❤️
Your going to be just great
I VIVIDLY remember crying uncontrollably on my couch the night we brought my first daughter home because I thought my dog was mad at me. You aren’t alone. Hormones are wild and having a baby is such a huge life transition!
Clancy- just wanted to tell you that you’re not alone in this journey. I believe the waking up in the middle of the night thinking the baby is in bed with you is a very common thing. It happened to me for several weeks even though my baby was safely in her bassinet. No idea why this happens to us postpartum..hormones are wild!
Thank you❤️ hormones seriously are crazy - if only men could experience it too 😂
If youre dealing with major anxiety- it could be due to breastfeeding.
I have always been an anxious person to some extent, but the immense crippling anxiety i experienced after having my daughter in may 2023 was like nothing I have ever experienced in my life.
I couldnt leave my house, i was in a constant state of stress and worry. I was experiencing several panic attacks a week, they were so bad my chest would ache and I would feel like i couldnt breath. It would happen every time my baby cried.
I had no help from her father, no support system, no family of my own to console me. Even his family was extremely rude and not understanding at all. They would say things like "I never went through this and i had 3 kids" or "my ex wife never went through this" or would just get mad at me in general any time i was experiencing an anxiety or panic attack. It was horrible.
It didnt get better until I stopped breastfeeding when she was 7 months. My supply dried up and her teeth started coming in which hurt like hell lol
I actually didnt put two and two together until very recently. All of a sudden one day out of nowhere it dawned on me that my anxiety could have seriously been due to the high levels of horomones from breastfeeding. That and also being your childs main source of food and nutrients. It puts a lot of stress and pressure on you as a mother.
When my son was a newborn, I called my gynecologist office and tried to make an appointment for my newborn. The receptionist informed me that I called the wrong office. She knew that I was sleep deprived, and we had a good laugh about it. I agree that mom brain is real! 😂
I remember when nursing I would have the most painful contractions. Then I got an infection that traveled up my neck. I would have to take medicine for pain just to nurse my baby. Horrible. Plus the tear and the cut they gave me and my other kids running around.
Clancy, you're not crazy, everything you've talked about is normal. We women have been going through all of this and more, believe it or not. For hundreds of years. My OCD thoughts kicked in on top of post P. depression. You are not crazy just a Mom. Welcome to the club.
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I’ve only had 2 babies and I know people have had tons more but the biggest takeaway for me hearing all your nervousness and anxiety was this……by the time baby number 2 comes, you kind of feel like a pro and none of the same fears ever happened to me with my second as my first.
I remember holding a mirror in my daughters nose to make sure she was breathing 🤦🏼♀️
My second? Not so much!
You really feel like a pro after you’ve done it even just once!
I just want to say thank you so much for this video. I had my daughter 4 years ago but everything you felt was the same thing I was feeling. I just didn't know how to put it into words and no one around me seemed to go through the anxiety that I felt. I had anxiety throughout my pregnancy and I thought once my baby was out that my fears would go away. Nope, it was a whole different level of anxiety because of how much you love your little one. Thank you Clancy!
Thinking you’re squishing your baby or that the baby is lost in the bed definitely happened to me so many times. I remember being half asleep, checking the whole bed, having a panic attack and then realizing she was in her crib. Scariest moments ever 😅
Clancy❤ This is going to help so many people for years! So wonderful. I remember your sleep walking years ago. It’s you, it’s who you are. You are maybe more anxious than others but you know and realize how it’s affecting you. Your reporter days made the such a great talk. I was so choked up listening. Great mom!!!🎉
I'm not planning to ever be pregnant but I want to thank you for always sharing your honest and authentic experiences not just with pregnancy/parenthood. I am usually not interested in pregnancy/parenting vlogs from the creators I follow but I am really liking hearing about your experiences, especially as a healthcare worker and a person who wants to learn about other people's lives!
Clancy, I just want you to know these feelings are all normal and you are not alone. I struggled with the same thing with all 3 of my babies! As you now know, it eventually gets better. It also helps having your support system!
I had assumed everyone met with a lactation consultant at the hospital after birth! Im so glad you were able to find the help you needed!
I literally talk to my mom friends about how unhealthy it feels to love our kids lol in a good healthy way tho. Oh and Clancy it gets sooo much bigger once they show their personalities and quirks and giggles. My oldest reading was such a beautiful moment that everytime she reads I’m like “omg! You are reading!” Being a mother is truely the best thing I have ever chosen to do.
Love your videos ❤ Your continued effort to make them with such quality is inspiring. Wishing you the best with your family!
Thank you!!❤️
Sending smiles and joy to the whole family ❤
I get postpartum euphoria, what my dr calls it. After birth, I don't get the blues. I get tins of energy and am in the best mood of my life. Then after 10 weeks after birth, I crash from exhaustion. With my 5th birth, which was twins, I crashed from exhaustion earlier and far harder. Twins were so rough the first 6 months then life became normal. With nursing, I've always gotten a great latch from right after birth, but yes it does hurt bad normally until the nipples tough up, usually with blood involved. Once nipples toughen up, all pain goes away.
Happy for my Clancy 🎉
Lactation consultants are THE BEST. Idk how but the 1 thing my brain remembered after giving birth was to ask for a Lactation consultant in the hospital. Best thing I ever did. I got to see one before my baby was 24 hours old and then they offered a nurse/Lactation consultant home visit at 6 days old and I said absolutely. Don't get me wrong, it has still been a journey and we had a couple weight issues the first week or 2 but I swear, having a LC right away really helped me be set up for success with BF. I would 1000% recommend a LC for anyone wanting to BF. And I never took a class or read any books specific to breast feeding either! I'm very go with the flow and we will learn along the way 😅 but everyone is different!
clancy ily!!!!
Sending you so much love! 💙💙
Thank you! 🩷
100% relate to this. The postpartum anxiety for me was on another level.
Take a safe sleep course and also learn about baby milestones 🥰 it helps to know what you can do to keep him safe when sleeping and know when and what milestones will most likely happen.(although each baby is different and unique) nanny here and 10 years worth of childcare experience and many continuing ed courses on all things child care 🩵
You are awesome, hang in there.
That is why when breast feeding pump and give bottle to so you can see how much baby is drinking. Every other feeding.
The Smile On My Face When I See That Clancy Posted A New Vlog💗💗🥹 and I really really impressed with your vlogs so so much you are the Sweetest Cutest youtuber ever in the world May God Bless You Always Always
Thank you for sharing your journey! I love seeing when you upload a new video!! My baby will be born in July and these are so helpful!!
glad you went to a lactation consultant. they really are helpful. although when you say he was feeding for an hour and you mentioned the bad latch, he probably wasn't actually feeding for a majority of the hour. breastfeeding is hard! good luck with your journey
I teared up at him losing weight. O had trouble too from the getgo and my baby was not happy. She cried a lot and breastfed a lot. It was so hard. And a nurse came up to me and said, “You know what I see? A hungry baby.” and then left the room. I burst into tears and cried and cried as quietly as I could while my husband slept. It was so awful. I was a zombie the first week. I don’t know why she said it to me like that and didn’t offer formula. I think my hospital has some kind of policy against offering pain meds and formula, that I was completely unaware of. I thought I was being a baby about my pain as well because I told them and it was in my birth plan that I wanted “all the pain meds” lol
I am shocked that they didn't book you in with a lactation consultant after the first weigh in😢 I had my kids here in Europe and they have the lactation consultant come in before you go home from the hospital.
We actually had one in the hospital but I don’t think I absorbed a lot of the info bc I was so out of it still haha but I definitely wish my pediatrician brought it up too!
I wish I had something like this to watch when my son was born (22yrs ago). I remember the pediatrician, who we LOVED, telling me to stop going on WebMD/looking things up. I was convinced he had some rare genetic disorder because he didn’t cry when getting shots. That was just one of the crazy things I was overly concerned about. It’s funny to look back now but in those moments the fear was very real.
You’re doing great Clancy! I love hearing about your journey. ♥️💙🩵🩵
Omg Clancy I relate to so much of what you said! I remember feeling so overwhelmed with how much I loved my baby, the first week I was crying multiple times a day. I started sobbing when I saw this Instagram reel that was talking about how one day your baby boy will be an old man like nopeee I cannot handle this 😂
This is a very random question but where did you get your lamp??
I slowly weaned my daughter by 18 months, and I experienced pretty crazy pp depression. I was mentally in a great place up until that point. It’s been 6 months and I’m starting to feel better, but that was a crazy time for sure
We had our baby on October 4th, and have struggled a lot with breastfeeding, jaundice and anxiety. I was so excited when our diaper count began to increase. My baby is still not a fan of his bassinet. I just now started being able to sleep again. 😂
Good morning Clancy, Happy Saturday ❤ to you and your family.......
My siblings and ILs both called their first babies my daughter's name multiple times (she's the oldest grandkid on both sides). It happens!
Amazing video, and my sons are 28 & 30.
Clancy it's like we had the same experience. I still don't sleep lol and I go check on him to make sure he is breathing 😅 he is about to be 6!! Thank you for sharing. You are doing a great job!
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I didn’t sleep for the first 3 months with my son…I had to watch him.
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I used my MILs hemorrhoid cushion to sit immediately postpartum lol 😆
Whatever works 😂😂😂
Maybe I missed it on Instagram, but did you tell us Decker's middle name?
Omg sounds extremely stressful 😮
Babies normally lose weight a few days after birth. Also, all scales are different so I don't think he actually went down to 7.14 when your lactation consultant weighed him.
I thought my daughter looked like me when she was a newborn and I kept accidentally calling her MY OWN NAME. Postpartum is wild yall.
These are totally normal things to go through that not many people talk about. My two things were being scared I was going to accidentally put my baby in the oven so I stopped cooking and I was also scared of tripping and throwing him over the stair case. 😅
Good morning
The trick every parent does is lick your finger and stick it under a sleeping baby's nose to feel their breath to check them. Embarrassingly I have been known to still do that with sleeping TEENAGERS when they are sick. 😳😳
When was he actually born? Did you make it to your due date?
I ended up being induced a few days early and he was born on September 26! (I posted a birth story a few weeks ago that you can check out for the full story!)
@ thanks! I watched it but somehow missed that!