This will be a unpopular opinion but here goes . Once you figure out you have chosen an abuser for God's sake do not have children with them . Kids will not save you. They will make it more difficult to get out . Never tell the abuser that you are leaving. You have the highest chance of being killed when the abuser realizes you are leaving Just disappear. Run for your life . This goes for men too.
When you leave him, leave a note, sayiing, I'll be late. Dinner is in the oven. When he looks in the all he sees is frozen hamburger, and all the engredients for meatloaf, and a note, saying, make your own supper, loser.
My grandma on my mother side once said, if a man hit you, it will happen again...ive proven it to be true...so when a man hit you, leave at once and never look back again..
Can I ask a question I been my my daughter daddy since I was 17 and he always put his hands on me but I always when back because he said he wouldn’t do it again and I tried to blame it on the pills he was taking and it stopped then this year he tried to shoot me putting the gun to my head and he say tried to scare me but I really could lost my life that night but I slept with him or nothing like that and idk what to do 😕 I have been back talking to him but that’s it and idk how to think I’m 24 he is 33/finna be 34 he’s ten years older than me and the only person I been with for 6/7 years do I leave him alone for good or do I give him a chance try to move forward
@@zariareasby2791 No way, he will change, I have experienced it, two times in different relationship I had, they do not changed, you are putting yourself and your child in danger, these are demonic people...unless they realized it, they wont change and I tell you, they will get worse .run from him, your still young, you have a life without him, run now
It is true. Unfortunately, I fall for the crying, I can't live without you, I'll never do it again routine and went back. Not once but twice. I wanted to believe him and the crazy thing was I felt sorry for him!! 3rd time I left for good. By then I had nearly been killed, lived in a safe house for 3 months and have PTSD. There is always a "honeymoon" period after you take them back. They treat you like they did when you fell in love with their "good side". But, each time the honeymoon period is over the abuse is worse even deadlier. As with many abusers mine stalked me, violated restraining orders repeatedly, bonded out only to stalk me again. I am lucky to be alive. My story is too common. Frightening.
@@zariareasby2791Honey, he will only get worse and more dangerous. You are kind hearted and you don't think like an abusive person. So, don't blame yourself. Get away. Get somewhere safe, get counseling, cut ties, do not talk to him. He knows how to pull at your heart strings. Don't give him the chance. You can love someone that is not good for you but you don't have to stay with them. You can pray for him if you feel sorry for him. But, pray for you and get away. I promise after a year of no contact you will be able to look back and you will see things in a different way. I am praying for you
Honestly lifetime needs to go back to these directors. It’s sad that this is a true story but seeing stories like this allows people to finally get out their situation.
I remember seeing this when it 1st came out. A good story. I have had the best husband, no violence at all, he has always loved & treated me w/respect. I've been married 50 yrs. and not one day have I regretted it. I have never been hit in my life even by my parents or husband. My mom told me if a guy does it once, he will do it again. No woman should put up w/that abuse. It would be a good idea to not go to bars.
Estelle, the even sadder part nowadays compared to when we were dating and married, women were married to the abuser. It was far more complicated then to get away. Now, too many women sell themselves cheaply to a man they barely know and begin living with him. To put up with that and not even be married ? Crazy.
@Estelle, thanks for the testimony, it's good for people to know that there are good people out there looking to love& be loved& make each other happy... It's not all disaster
@@MTknitter22 I insisted on a alcohol free house, we never were in the bar crowd and attended church, that is lacking now. This movie shows substance abuse., that's bad.
I was with one of these 'charmers'. Weird the same time this was happening it was happening to me. In the fall of 1986 after my son was born I left for good. It was the great escape running through an ally in the rain carrying my newborn trying to get to my dads car waiting for me before 'HE' knew I was gone. I learned if a guy as much shoves you, they will continue. It doesn't end. A shove becomes a push, a slap because a punch, a punch becomes several punches. The threats, the fear and emotional wreckage you endure is terrible.
I was 18 and got pregnant, I had known him for 4 months and we married. I was 7 months pregnant and didn't want to be intimate. That was the first time the verbal abuse came. The rest followed, a long road. I wish I could talk to my 18 year old self and tell her what to do. But I found the Lord, He saved me. I am in my late fifties now and look back. I am so glad I escaped.
It’s not just rich ones that act like this, I’ve known plenty of them that are middle class men and not all of them are good looking. You can have a man that is average looking, treat you like crap, it about the personality.
To all the women who have commented on their abuse: Thank you. Sharing our testimonies is one of the strongest things as humans can do to connect and reach one another. I know sorries can be hard to hear over and over by people but i am, im sorry you had to endure what you did, and some of you what your children endure. God truly shows his favor upon us and we typically dont see it as that until everything is all said and done, so i hope you all are at a point to be thankful for God's grace. I hope you all are at a better place now and my prayers are with all of those whom who had to go through something like this movie.
You aren’t alone. I just realized that of my marriage that ended in 2003 with continued attempts at reconciliation until the lat unsuccessful one 7 years ago. Learned what a narcissist was in 2020 and realized the destruction of my psyche it caused. Now, I BUY MYSELF FLOWERS!!!!
1st of any age confirming this is a blessing although Im younger than 60... Took me til I was 39 to make the decision to leave I'm 41 now & just filing divorce we were married at 34 my age he was 38. Please don't call yourself stupid at any age you guys are ❤ courageous. This movie 🎥 never gets old 🗝️. 😢 Also these days info is much more accessible than prior. By the way this isn't the 1st Narc I dated so I can call myself dumb for seeing this person before in a prior relationship. That's our son's pic as my RUclips me & his dad are physically separated
I was in a violent relationship with my second husband the first time he hit me was in the first week of our marriage , before that in the 2 years we were courting he was the perfect gentleman ,then when wed the violence started the first week he broke my nose I had black eyes bruises all the time ,i put in for a divorce almost straight away but it took me 5 long years to get rid of him living with him was frightening , great movie thanks for sharing .
Same here, I went through 3 abusive relationships, they were all horrific, the first was the worst, I came close to being killed n should've been admitted to the hospital a number of times
@Kathleen, So sorry, sounds as though he was putting on a mask. Unbelievable how he managed to hide his violent streak for so long by being a gentleman to keep you focused on the good
Many warning signs from the beginning: The inflated opinion of himself... Over-the-top jealousy, controlling, and disrespectful behaviour towards his workers... Love bombing with expensive gifts... Moving in on her quickly, and getting married so fast...
First red flag was when he said "What's a pretty girl like you ...". That's when you politely finish the conversation, turn around and walk away. And keep away.
You can’t always predict the red flags as many change after marriage. Bottom line pay attention to the red flags and god forbid you find yourself in this situation get out.
@@tiffinyanderson4403 Yes, though not always, mostly the abusive changes come after marriage; some immediate - others gradually - over time... Cannot speak for everyone, but those of us who were ignorant, naive and idealistic when we were young - unaware of what red flags to look out for - only recognized them decades later for what they were. Many reasons why opting out of a marriage is easier said than done; with the abused party most in danger when trying to leave.
This was a good movie to watch. The state troopers, FBI and that sheriff all did a great job. I’m glad he was captured and put away. I hope she’s living a really good life now, she deserves happiness.
This is sooo sad 😭😭😭 Paul was just sick with obsession. Thanks to officers who worked around the clock ensuring that he was caught again, I salute you !!!!
Thank you Thersa for sharing your story. It is so tragic that there are people that think they own you when if they just loved you and treated you with respect they would still be marriede. So glad he was caught.Stay safe
Yes she was! Can you imagine that situation today and all that’s between you and some crazy guy with a gun is a snowflake sign saying weapon free zone!??
Wow! Well acted, well scripted and filmed! Much better than I expected to be! Definitely 2 thumbs up! The more people are aware of the jackals the more they will see the red flags!! I ama survivor of mental & physical abuse. I am no longer a victim!!
As a man,it truly breaks my heart that men can abuse and harm women. The mother of their kids Their wife Someone elses child and daughter Stop the abuse Guys!!! Love and Cherish your women at all times
I know what it's like. I was married to one who abused me and my baby son. Thank God I was able to escape from him and get a divorce shortly after which he was killed in a road accident. I eventually married a man who is everything that my former husband wasn't and we're still happily married. Only prayer helped me go through what I went through. God came through for ma and my son.
Amen 🙏 I've lived it...To any woman experiencing it, please take my advice....LEAVE NOW while you can. Don't listen to their pleading, don't listen when they say they won't do it again, just leave. Please, do it now. My ex said he would never do it again, well again came while I was holding my 3-month old daughter. Praise GOD we both got out alive and I never looked back. Leave now, and never look back. 😮
So true. I was brought up in a violent family so I see the red flags before anyone else. The problem is that I also have never been able to trust people so I ended up remaining single my entire life.
I grew up with a dad who did mental and physical abuse towards my mother for years!! I swore no one would ever abuse me either way ever!! And it’s never happened and I’m 64!
Im 65 and my Dad did what you mentioned. Mum died at 56 and I still suffer from his abuse, I cant wait to die and be with Mum again. God is good, Lord let me come home.
Excellent movie! That was a true malignant narcissist! I know, I had a stalker like that and like her I sure know what love is not also! Thanks for the upload! God bless!
This is a beautiful tragic story and I pray anyone suffering this will get away safe, please do exactly like the law officers ask of you otherwise they can’t catch the offender.
The offender is the drug seller. We cannot stop all murder, yet we don't legalize murder - PLZ, BAN NARCOTIC DRUGS,Marijuana etc.Drugs uined the life of the wife of a hard working thief .Glad the thief didn't hurt his kid or abort her....
Old school is still the best.. courtship... visit the girl to her house... meet the parents.. getting to know each other first before anything else...yeah..old school...
Wrong her daughters dead. Read the real story. This is nothing some fictionalized and true. This story was in unsolved mysteries Also reading the real story from teresa stamper herself is completly diffrent to what is depicted in the film she also didnt have a caring mother which was also fictioned in to water it down for lifetime tv.
When someone I knew was going through divorce, she told me that as she walked up the courthouse steps and stepped inside, there was a poster right as you walked in. It read something that she says she will never forget: "A spouse in an abusive relationship will return, on AVERAGE, 22 times."
It should have also said how many women are killed in domestic violence. On top of that the most deadly time is when they realize you are going to leave or have left. Restraining orders are pieces of paper. They help legally but they do not protect you physically. To all women wanting to leave: forget about material things, take you and your children, get somewhere safe, get legal representation. Call a domestic abuse hotline. There's help out their. Cut contact. Get legal help for the sake of your babies. They will use anything, including your children to control you. My ex took my 3 year old out of state. Too me 7 years to get him back. He has suffered such severe PTSD it breaks my heart. Please, abusive men are dangerous. Get help.
Also leaving is the most dangerous move to make, as we see in this case. Thank goodness this had a good ending. I experienced domestic violence at age 15. It was my first boyfriend, he was 19. The violence lasted two years. I decided that if a guy ever hit me, that I would never marry him. Also, that if a guy hit me, that I would have to report it on record and have the police give the guy a warning the first time. This has helped me in terms of violent relationships. Although it didn’t spare me from falling prey to narcissistic and psychopathic individuals. Hardest lessons in life.
This is such a well made movie based on a true life experience. Sure hope that Teresa, Katie, and Wanda were able to live life to its fullest at the end of the day. ♥ Thanks to FilmRise, for bringing us this excellent movie!!
It's not exactly a happily ever after. Teresa turned to drugs to cope with the psychological aftermath of her experience and she became homeless, living in an encampment in the woods. Eventually, she got clean after the death of one of her daughters in a carjacking incident. Her son helped her get into a treatment centre, and a charity has helped her find an apartment where she feels safe.
I have read my whole life and have heard many, many stories of this kind of violence, I think "escape" is the right title here. Compared to others, this woman achieved to get away unharmed.
@@CollateralDamage1571You mention at least two more children. As far as the movie shows, she had a good life. Maybe her mother's death or her second husband's death, or problems with her teenage children?!
@@shellywilliams8553 Oh okay pretty, I'm glad to know that you are doing great, well in my own case, I'm always busy with work, most times am really stress out, where are you from, Are you married with kids?
Sasha should be so proud of how brave he was to speak up then, and to continue to speak out now. To make it easier for children to speak up is vital, and I thank you for sharing your story and fighting to help future generations of kids. Yes a closed door with an uncle is a red flag now, but it wasn't always that way...we once trusted our family members implicitly, as we should really...but the world isn't as kind or as safe as we'd hope it to be. Much love to Sasha, Bekah, Henry and Jacqui...you've all went through hell and come through the other side ❤
@carol-anneobrien1511 I have no clue with regards to those names mentioned in your comment. Were you even watching the same movie? The Teresa Stamper story about her violent and abusive husband Paul?
@@RebekkaRN1962 I get that. we can only do what we can. Have you asked yourself;...what would make you feel safe? is it possible anymore to feel safe where you are? Realistically safety is a quest for some of us.
@@marthamack1544 I also had to cut ties with family bc the lies and shame they try to lay on me. Some ppl can never face their own shit so they spread it. I do not waste my time fighting a lost cause so I left, no contact. Felt lighter, abler to breathe again.
This movie brings back so much of the pain and abuse I was subjected to at the hands of my exwife. Though I was twice her size, her mental illness pushed her to be very violent with me. I was physically attacked and subjected to violent attacks. There were hundreds and hundreds of incidences. Through the grace of God I was able to get out. But not without severe cptsd and other emotional trauma.
My brother is being abuse by his wife. His wife bad mouth in her work place n ill talk to her children about husband n his family. My brother cant even talk to opposite sex cos she suspects him ... He is a prisoner in a toxic marriage
Glad you escaped. I’m an “escapee” as well. I have a beautiful dog who has helped me through a lot, at night I listen to healing music to help me sleep. I spend a lot of time walking on trails in the forest with him ( at random times for safety still) … nature and music and animals in themselves are healing; just saying. I don’t usually share very much but here it is… just know you aren’t alone, and thanks for sharing what you did. We all wish you continued healing. God bless.
That takes strength to escape. It also takes courage to admit it. You are strong in more ways than one and I implore you to get therapy with someone who specializes in cptsd. Dont let it take any more of your life than it already has. I wish you healing, sir.
I left my husband 7 different times. Each time I left and came back, the abuse got worse and worse! The LAST time I left my husband, he had broken my back so bad that 10 years later, I STILL have back problems! I NEVER went back to him after the 7th time! I moved away and filed for divorce! I have had a really rough 10 years of my life! But I am very thankful to God that I am STILL alive today! Today, I have FREEDOM from my abuser! He can NEVER abuse me EVER again in this life!! To ALL the victims of domestic violence, take my advice and leave NOW while you still can!!! Move as far away as you can! And NEVER look back!!
Sad story. People say why did you not leave when he first started being abusive. They promise to change. On average it takes about 37 times. Quite often women have nowhere to go because the abusive male has isolated her from friends and family.
It's hard to get away from your abuser ,because they isolate you from ALL family and friends . . . I knew I had to do something to protect my Littles and myself; I lived in " survival mode always on "high alert " stashing small boxes with my Littles necessities , including medicine, formula, food and cash . I was scared out of my mind !!! I was allowed one friend and she was a warrior !!! She would take the boxes and keep them at her house for me . When the time came to GTHO she came picked up my Littles and took them to her house , she called 911 from a pay phone( no cell phones then ) the Sheriffs came and stood guard while I gathered my personal belongings ,I loaded up my truck and NEVER looked back . Ladies, you've got to make a plan to get out alive ,especially when you have children. God bless and protect all those who are struggling with DOMISTIC VIOLENCE, in Jesus name we pray.
@@katrinapurser2021We should be teaching highschool kids about things like this: a mandatory psychology class so girls are taught how to spot the signs that a man is a narcissist and know how to resist that trauma bonding in the first place.
@@vaska1999 oh absolutely. Even better, a mandatory workshop in schools to promote self love and self worth. That way narcissistic people would have no way of luring them in in the first place.
I was in an abusive relationship in high school and I finally had enough and broke up with him a year after graduating and he stalked me for fifteen years after. It finally took moving four hours away to get him to lose interest.
AWESOME AWESOME MOVIE !! It just TRULY breaks my heart that there r SOOO many women out in the world that believes that is Love when truly it's NOT!! I was one of those women
"In April 1992, Paul pleaded guilty to kidnapping, attempted murder, and prison escape. He was sentenced to thirty years in prison. In January 2002, he was released on parole after serving ten years." What a joke.
Sad how people go through this!!! I've lost many friends 😔 like this & helped a few... Thank God that few didn't have these problems!!! & thank God I got out of one!!!
I never let him know I was leaving, I just left...Took everything and disappeared. Not seen him for 7 years, found out he was married and has since divorced, married again with a child but going through another divorce. Big insecure bully....I think I was one of the lucky ones.
A couple years ago I went thru a life changing medical issue,causing me to loose above the knee amputation. I'm 75, no not diabetes. I flat lined twice, 8 surgeries in less than 6 weeks. Anyway, in and out of hospitals and shortly after I came home I discovered my husband of 25 yrs and blown over $20,000, online scams. I have no $$ yet to get out. I'm still learning to walk. I'm in therapy guess doctors felt dealing with 2 life changing events, limb loss, broke, husband who is mostly embarrassed to be seen in public with me. Oh he has or did have many people believing I was crazy, had to take everything away from me. He threw something at me recently, I quietly told him he even threatens me verbally, 911 will be called and I will press charges. Watching this story,this lady was so brave, I have no family only a couple lifelong friends. I say keep strong, keep quiet and when possible disappear. 😊
She is young. What girl isn't gonna fall in love with everything he's sayin & doing. He leaves a brand new car in her yard with a dozen roses on top & an engagement ring inside. Everything he's doing for her. Treating her like a princess he keeps calling her, she's not seeing the "real man" he is yet & she's already in love, married. It's definitely toxic but not always easy to leave. He didn't hit her until after they were married. I'm assuming she eventually leaves him, tho.
@@amandalidey329 This is known as the "love bombing," stage. It's a huge red flag. & in regards to your other comment about the reason why he acted the way he did, drugs only exacerbates the situation, it's not the root cause.
My first boyfriend when I was 18 beat me up and emotionally tortured me. It went on for 3 years until he finally moved to Florida with his parents. He would tear my clothes off, bust my lip, put bruises on my arms, flick cigarettes on me, spit on me…20 years later and I still have PTSD from it all.
The second red flag was he asked her to marry him way too soon. By the looks of it they were married after only 5 months of dating. The first red flag was he got mad when his male employees looked at her and even fired one of them because of it. Teresa should have invested in a pair of Nikes and ran.
I think of the Tracy Thurman Story when I’m watching this. I went from rape, to a stalker to an abusive relationship. I’m so glad my husband I’ve been with for almost 20 years doesn’t harm me at all. He’s not like that.
The Tracy Thurman movie, wasn't that with Nancy Keagen? Incredibly difficult movie to watch. Tracy lived through hell on earth from that sick man. This movie was written, acted and directed really well. It is disheartening that these are true stories.
@@rachelreneer56 Yes, with Nancy McKeon. It is definitely difficult to watch. I agree with you. Unfortunately there are one too many out there like that. If I remember right, I read somewhere that her ex husband was now remarried. Also, that her son had a difficult life turning to drugs. Now whether that is true or not about her son, I don’t know. I am hoping Tracy and her son are living better lives now. In her case, the police just standing there as her then husband is trying to off her, is disgusting. They are supposed to protect, but they didn’t protect her.
It was very hard to watch this.. even after 30 yrs ago of getting away from my abusive husband.. I still get scared. It brings knots to my stomach to watch a movie like this.
I gotta watch this. They are not even together yet & he's already getting extremely jealous. Aweee. She's so excited too. This man is sick. Edit; He is nuts
I loved the way on the bus after he kidnapped her when the cops when on the bus walked past that little girl sat next to him moved her then grabbed him . Well played . Bet he though he got away with it for a split second 😂
Thanks for this upload, I was hesitant at first when I realised from the comments that it was about DV, since I'm a survivor myself. I recognised the patterns and kept pre-empting his next move. Worst thing is his name was Paul, just like an ex from 30 yrs ago who kidnapped me and tried to throw me from a cliff and repeatedly SA'd me while I suffered from 2nd degree burns... anything that reminds me of him is a PTSD trigger, he even had those beautiful blue eyes. This was therapeutic to observe objectively. Sadly, early childhood DV led me into a cycle of boyfriends that I now know as Narcissistic types, just like my mother. So, we learn, hopefully from these generational patterns, that we are worth more than that and even if that means living alone, with good guard dogs💞😁🐶🐶🐶
Omg I am so sorry. Intergenerational trauma is very real and so hard to undo. Your brain gets set to the behaviors. Luckily it can be stopped and changed with A LOT of work. ☮️
Yeah but you really can't say all of that until or if you go thru it,it's just like telling someone that you know what there going thru if you haven't went thru the same thing,so I really would say all of that noise. I know we're in a different time but you never know until it happens!!
I had a fiancee who acted just like this man. Only worse, took me years to get away from him. Never married again and now have PTSD for the rest of my life.
I'm so sorry. I wish you peace, hope and renewed faith in love. I know it isn't easy. It's like they steal your innocence with their huge and ugly betrayal , betraying to love and protect you from harm. Turns out, they are the harm. Incredible betrayal there.
My first partner, the father of my first two kids used to beat the crap out of me when there was nobody around. Thankfully we lived on a farm out of town & his druggo buddies were usually hanging around. I left him after he broke my tailbone, strangled me until he thought I was dead & then he broke my ribs kicking me cos he thought he'd killed me. (I had to have my tailbone surgically removed cos of him) I bought acreage with my last abusive partner & he used to say how cool it was that he could murder me out there & no-one would find my body. He saw a venomous Red Bellied Black Snake & he pushed me over onto the snake trying to get me bitten. He actually went to prison for aggravated violence in the end. . That was 14 years ago & I suffer from PTSD. I have never had another partner since because I have really poor judgement when it comes to men & I am so broken the only people I have anything to do with are my kids. I am very content living by myself with my 2 cats.
Went on the run for two years after leaving my abuser. I promised myself that I would dance on his grave when he died. Years later when I heard about his death, my anger just washed away. God released me from the anger and revenge.
I was beat up six weeks after I married my second husband. Bad guy. Alcoholic and mental issues. The court system has a rap sheet 12 pages long. He has spent his life in and out of prison. Still there. It's been 34 yrs. I raised my son myself w no child support. I have never remarried and not dated anyone in 34 yrs. My precious son has never met him and doesn't want to.
I read about a couple of situations where people who were in the witness protection program broke protocol and ended up murked. Strictly due to recklessness. Crazy.
One can never say it's over because you don't know when he will break out, released or hire someone else to do the job! She was lucky he didn't want to kill her. Now who leaves the keys in the car when you're life is under threat!!!
It's what abusers do, they are charming, often popular and well-liked. Sometimes there will be a little red flag, maybe more, but you ignore it and carry on until you're in their trap.
@@jddr555 not as easy as you say ,back 40 years ago no help for violence towards woman ,you had no where to go,so you stayed ,because they told you you were worthless they would kill you if you left ,and they just beat you down.But once you get out of that abuse ,you try to rebuild your trust ,but it makes you stronger
Its because of guys like this when i get upset about being single, i count my blessings of how ive never had to resort to an abused womens shelter, pleading with the police for help when most dont care, going into hiding, etc. The chances of finding an abusive, rotton guy is so much higher than finding a great, faithful non abusive one. Its terribly sad, but its also a fact of life. 💔💔
Ultimately we all make choices and when we’re young we’re not gonna make all the best ones. The important reality is male or female you got into it, you can get out of it. If you can’t do it for yourself do it for your kids. Kids don’t need to grow up in a war zone.
Even better, women must learn to use discernment when meeting men, especially nowadays. It's very different now and too many people are more vile, more evil and hide who they are. Being alone is so good, no drama and no man even thinking of giving me trouble.
@@coastdaze748 no worries at all. No cries..peaceful nights. After you've been emotionally and physically abused he'll demand sex. How do you enjoy sex after your broken scared body and tears on your chicks
In most cases fighting back leads to an even more brutal beating, but when i started to fight back and matched his anger... he backed off, I truly hated being angry.
Some people are so twisted they're incapable of loving another human being. And it's not necessarily because they had not been loved themselves. That myth needs to die.
If a man hits a woman once he will do it again. Don't give him a second chance to hurt you. Most know what love is, but all of us should know what love isn't. Be kind and respectful to each other, but don't allow others to mistreat, demean, embarrass, control or physically hurt you. Life is too short to be unhappy.
I don't know what it's like to be in a domestic violence relationship but I do know what it's like to be hit by a man while in a relationship. See theirs a difference I shut that shit down off first try and the two men who did try me best believe they definitely regreted it. Men know not to hit me cause I'll do something crazy. I also don't believe in hitting a man but I would in self defense.
My friend lost her beautiful sister with her baby and their father to someone like that in Australia. He was an Accountant, had a restraining order against him but still had visitation rights to the baby. The police had an order to protect her within a few minutes if she ever called but they had closed down the local police station so they couldn’t fulfill that order. She recorded all the calls he made but he came over to collect the baby and shot 3 people. The tape was missing when my friend got home, Unbelievably sad.
My ex husband hit me so hard in the chest the Dr told me it was like having a heart attack. I couldn't even climb one flight of stairs for years, I'd get so out of breath halfway I'd have to stop and gasp for air with sweat popped out all over my body. If my daughter hadn't been there he'd have killed me. He never got another chance to hit me
Omg this movie hit home to the point I cried. It reminded me so much of my situation with my kids father, I went through something so similar to that. He would tell me he love me after all the hell he was putting me & my family through. I hate that it Took me a while to notice I was dealing with a manipulative narcissist abuser 😢
In the history of women getting slapped around, it has absolutely never been a situation where a man hits you just once unless you do something to stop him! If you're waiting on his better nature to kick in, trust me, he doesn't have one! If he did he never would have laid hands on you in the first place! (The same thing is true if a woman is abusive.)
I love when she was in the restaurant and she was calling the police and she warned nearby people to duck because he had a gun and the woman pulled out a rifle 😂❤🎉
I am so proud of my daughter. She finally left her abusive partner of over 10 years earlier this year. They had two children together but lost them years ago to CPS. I never thought I would live to see the day but there is always hope!
@@angiemorsby8429 And they appear to have no capacity for empathy so they side with the criminal who has victim mentality rather than siding with the genuine victim when they are being paid to represent the genuine victim or at least stay neutral.
I am so thankful I'm not in the physically abusive relationship I was a battered woman and I suffered a lot I had to plan escape and go into a shelter and then move and start my life over again I'm just thankful that I was able to get out of something like this and watching this reminds me kind of like what I've been through
@@jamesjerry910 Well I'm doing a lot better I'll tell you that it's not like the same before I think it's a wonderful thing to be free from this and life is better and you still have recovery and things to work on but it gets better as time goes by so I'm doing pretty well
@@kasspriscilla9350 Oh okay pretty, I'm glad to know that you are doing great, well in my own case, I'm always busy with work, most times am really stress out, where are you from, Are you married with kids?
@@jamesjerry910 no I am not married right now but I am educated on domestic violence talking about it at the ywca letting other women know about it mind control they do to us and the narcissist abuse different types of narcissist if I new than what I know now for me it wouldn't of never continue as long as it did plus that love bomb at the beginning stage
In April 1992, Paul pleaded guilty to kidnapping, attempted murder, and prison escape. He was sentenced to thirty years in prison. In January 2002, he was released on parole after serving ten years.
This will be a unpopular opinion but here goes . Once you figure out you have chosen an abuser for God's sake do not have children with them . Kids will not save you. They will make it more difficult to get out . Never tell the abuser that you are leaving. You have the highest chance of being killed when the abuser realizes you are leaving Just disappear. Run for your life . This goes for men too.
Facts
HG Tudor gives good advice on how to deal with these type narcissists
Great advice
This is a realistic position you have put forward. Great thinking 👍
Absolutely agree with you 💯
A word of advice to abused victims especially women: Never let a abuser know you are leaving them , just leave….
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Best thing I ever did after five years of broken bones ❤
When you leave him, leave a note, sayiing, I'll be late. Dinner is in the oven. When he looks in the all he sees is frozen hamburger, and all the engredients for meatloaf, and a note, saying, make your own supper, loser.
@@eaglemaccallister7543 😂hilarious but good advice 👍🏻👍🏻
@@dawnhilton8685 Five years?
My grandma on my mother side once said, if a man hit you, it will happen again...ive proven it to be true...so when a man hit you, leave at once and never look back again..
Rosalie Baker _ so true n I've been single since than n am keeping bz with my 2 sons n 2 grandchildren since 1999_2023 ...❤
Can I ask a question I been my my daughter daddy since I was 17 and he always put his hands on me but I always when back because he said he wouldn’t do it again and I tried to blame it on the pills he was taking and it stopped then this year he tried to shoot me putting the gun to my head and he say tried to scare me but I really could lost my life that night but I slept with him or nothing like that and idk what to do 😕 I have been back talking to him but that’s it and idk how to think I’m 24 he is 33/finna be 34 he’s ten years older than me and the only person I been with for 6/7 years do I leave him alone for good or do I give him a chance try to move forward
@@zariareasby2791 No way, he will change, I have experienced it, two times in different relationship I had, they do not changed, you are putting yourself and your child in danger, these are demonic people...unless they realized it, they wont change and I tell you, they will get worse .run from him, your still young, you have a life without him, run now
It is true. Unfortunately, I fall for the crying, I can't live without you, I'll never do it again routine and went back. Not once but twice. I wanted to believe him and the crazy thing was I felt sorry for him!! 3rd time I left for good. By then I had nearly been killed, lived in a safe house for 3 months and have PTSD. There is always a "honeymoon" period after you take them back. They treat you like they did when you fell in love with their "good side". But, each time the honeymoon period is over the abuse is worse even deadlier. As with many abusers mine stalked me, violated restraining orders repeatedly, bonded out only to stalk me again. I am lucky to be alive. My story is too common. Frightening.
@@zariareasby2791Honey, he will only get worse and more dangerous. You are kind hearted and you don't think like an abusive person. So, don't blame yourself. Get away. Get somewhere safe, get counseling, cut ties, do not talk to him. He knows how to pull at your heart strings. Don't give him the chance. You can love someone that is not good for you but you don't have to stay with them. You can pray for him if you feel sorry for him. But, pray for you and get away. I promise after a year of no contact you will be able to look back and you will see things in a different way. I am praying for you
The morale of this story is that don't judge a person by his appearance,wealth, status or personality.
Agree
Wat styiped thing to say
Yep
True. Unfortunately, most people do.
Agree 100%
Films like this perform a valuable public service in raising awareness about domestic violence.
Honestly lifetime needs to go back to these directors. It’s sad that this is a true story but seeing stories like this allows people to finally get out their situation.
Yes, it educates people about these types of problems.
Yes. Very realistic. Very well made
Yes I agree lifetime doesn’t feel as original anymore.
So true! I can’t watch the new lifetime movies anymore. The 80s and 90s were so much better, and realistic!
Not a Lifetime movie 8:31
I remember seeing this when it 1st came out. A good story. I have had the best husband, no violence at all, he has always loved & treated me w/respect. I've been married 50 yrs. and not one day have I regretted it. I have never been hit in my life even by my parents or husband. My mom told me if a guy does it once, he will do it again. No woman should put up w/that abuse. It would be a good idea to not go to bars.
exactly, stay away from bars , people who hang in bars have major issues, you dont want a man like that
Estelle, the even sadder part nowadays compared to when we were dating and married, women were married to the abuser. It was far more complicated then to get away. Now, too many women sell themselves cheaply to a man they barely know and begin living with him. To put up with that and not even be married ? Crazy.
@@kay8698 true, true and the good men aren’t looking for a good woman in a bar either
@Estelle, thanks for the testimony, it's good for people to know that there are good people out there looking to love& be loved& make each other happy... It's not all disaster
@@MTknitter22 I insisted on a alcohol free house, we never were in the bar crowd and attended church, that is lacking now. This movie shows substance abuse., that's bad.
I was with one of these 'charmers'. Weird the same time this was happening it was happening to me. In the fall of 1986 after my son was born I left for good. It was the great escape running through an ally in the rain carrying my newborn trying to get to my dads car waiting for me before 'HE' knew I was gone. I learned if a guy as much shoves you, they will continue. It doesn't end. A shove becomes a push, a slap because a punch, a punch becomes several punches. The threats, the fear and emotional wreckage you endure is terrible.
Damn well told! GET OUT! They never change!
I went through a relationship filled with abuse for 20+years! Get out save yourself...
Thank God you escaped safely
Thank god that you escaped safely
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Lifetime movies back then were SOOOO good!! Great movie!
I know I miss the old Lifetime growing up
I was 18 and got pregnant, I had known him for 4 months and we married. I was 7 months pregnant and didn't want to be intimate. That was the first time the verbal abuse came. The rest followed, a long road. I wish I could talk to my 18 year old self and tell her what to do. But I found the Lord, He saved me. I am in my late fifties now and look back. I am so glad I escaped.
Hello pretty, nice movie, how are you doing today and how is life treating you...?
I to am thankful you made it out of that relationship alive. Thank you for sharing.❤❤❤
Give yourself credit you got out
18-year olds are not supposed to be left unadvised. It is the parents' responsibility. They failed you.
@@Anti-Fake-ul9oe how is that helpfull? Gfy
Great movie and acting, but it brought back some bad memories for me in my youth. Prayers for anyone in an abusive relationship.
Yes, Had me in tears remembering my horrible experience also. These creeps change us for life.
Me too, it never leaves you.
Portughls
Thank you very much. I'm so sorry you had to deal with it as well ((((hugs)))))
But you can always leave him. 😊
I don't care how rich or good looking they are, a dude like this isn't worth it! I'd rather stay single.
If being rich meant I had to put up with that I would rather be single & poor
AMEN to that !
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It’s not just rich ones that act like this, I’ve known plenty of them that are middle class men and not all of them are good looking. You can have a man that is average looking, treat you like crap, it about the personality.
Amen
That cop was good . He really cared and went the extra mile to help her more than most cops I've come across.
Thats Brad Dourif, Chucky
Was the actor playing the cop ever in a Star Trek Voyager episode?
Cops who are abusers also, never make any arrests or follow-up and follow through. Your file disappear at the end of the day
Yep, he was Lon Suder, the psychopath betazoid.
We nd cops like him.
Excellent movie with a realistic portrayal of what a stalker is and the possessive hate that fuels them.
To all the women who have commented on their abuse: Thank you. Sharing our testimonies is one of the strongest things as humans can do to connect and reach one another. I know sorries can be hard to hear over and over by people but i am, im sorry you had to endure what you did, and some of you what your children endure. God truly shows his favor upon us and we typically dont see it as that until everything is all said and done, so i hope you all are at a point to be thankful for God's grace. I hope you all are at a better place now and my prayers are with all of those whom who had to go through something like this movie.
Thank you. God loves you. God bless you.
Yes Gods grace, His love and His protection too :)
Its true telling is important not to glorify the ennemy but to advice others and let go
It took me until age 62 to recognize narcissistic behavior in a man. Better late than never. ♥️🙏
(( hug ))
(same age)
(different situation but similar state of mind)
You aren’t alone. I just realized that of my marriage that ended in 2003 with continued attempts at reconciliation until the lat unsuccessful one 7 years ago. Learned what a narcissist was in 2020 and realized the destruction of my psyche it caused. Now, I BUY MYSELF FLOWERS!!!!
@@gaylelavoie6114 AMEN AND GOD BLESS YOU!!!
Same here I was so stupid I'm just finding out at 60 ,
1st of any age confirming this is a blessing although Im younger than 60... Took me til I was 39 to make the decision to leave I'm 41 now & just filing divorce we were married at 34 my age he was 38. Please don't call yourself stupid at any age you guys are ❤ courageous. This movie 🎥 never gets old 🗝️. 😢 Also these days info is much more accessible than prior. By the way this isn't the 1st Narc I dated so I can call myself dumb for seeing this person before in a prior relationship. That's our son's pic as my RUclips me & his dad are physically separated
I was in a violent relationship with my second husband the first time he hit me was in the first week of our marriage , before that in the 2 years we were courting he was the perfect gentleman ,then when wed the violence started the first week he broke my nose I had black eyes bruises all the time ,i put in for a divorce almost straight away but it took me 5 long years to get rid of him living with him was frightening , great movie thanks for sharing .
He felt he owned you once yall married unfortunately.
Same here, I went through 3 abusive relationships, they were all horrific, the first was the worst, I came close to being killed n should've been admitted to the hospital a number of times
God be with you, honey🙏🤍
some abusive men, think once they hav you, once they hav "conquered" the goal, they can do what they want, because you belong to Them now..
@Kathleen, So sorry, sounds as though he was putting on a mask. Unbelievable how he managed to hide his violent streak for so long by being a gentleman to keep you focused on the good
Many warning signs from the beginning: The inflated opinion of himself... Over-the-top jealousy, controlling, and disrespectful behaviour towards his workers... Love bombing with expensive gifts... Moving in on her quickly, and getting married so fast...
First red flag was when he said "What's a pretty girl like you ...". That's when you politely finish the conversation, turn around and walk away. And keep away.
You can’t always predict the red flags as many change after marriage. Bottom line pay attention to the red flags and god forbid you find yourself in this situation get out.
@@tiffinyanderson4403
Yes, though not always, mostly the abusive changes come after marriage; some immediate - others gradually - over time... Cannot speak for everyone, but those of us who were ignorant, naive and idealistic when we were young - unaware of what red flags to look out for - only recognized them decades later for what they were. Many reasons why opting out of a marriage is easier said than done; with the abused party most in danger when trying to leave.
@@maricamaas2326 that's me but Thank the Divine Spirit we didn't married
@@SamStone1964 Coming from a man that is really saying something.
This was a good movie to watch. The state troopers, FBI and that sheriff all did a great job. I’m glad he was captured and put away. I hope she’s living a really good life now, she deserves happiness.
Also, very nice country music to highlight love. 🎷🎼
This is sooo sad 😭😭😭 Paul was just sick with obsession. Thanks to officers who worked around the clock ensuring that he was caught again, I salute you !!!!
Thank you Thersa for sharing your story. It is so tragic that there are people that think they own you when if they just loved you and treated you with respect they would still be marriede. So glad he was caught.Stay safe
Hello pretty, nice movie, how are you doing today and how is life treating you...?
That woman in the restaurant with the shotgun was badass.
Yes she was! Can you imagine that situation today and all that’s between you and some crazy guy with a gun is a snowflake sign saying weapon free zone!??
😂😂, she definitely was, she 🔊 was badass
Double barrel, no less! 😂
😂🎉
Ikr lol
Wow! Well acted, well scripted and filmed! Much better than I expected to be! Definitely 2 thumbs up! The more people are aware of the jackals the more they will see the red flags!! I ama survivor of mental & physical abuse. I am no longer a victim!!
Hello pretty, nice movie, how are you doing today and how is life treating you.??
You were never a victim. You made poor choices and paid for them.
Congratulations, on your misery, dysfunction, flashbacks and failure.🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎆🎇🎇🎇✨✨🎑
@@Emerson-jq8ejYou really are a victim blaming ignorant tool!
As a man,it truly breaks my heart that men can abuse and harm women.
The mother of their kids
Their wife
Someone elses child and daughter
Stop the abuse Guys!!!
Love and Cherish your women at all times
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💜❤️💜❤️
Thank you for these words
All men need to be like you so thank you🙏🏽
@@Nuhr-z6c your words are truly beautiful
I know what it's like. I was married to one who abused me and my baby son. Thank God I was able to escape from him and get a divorce shortly after which he was killed in a road accident. I eventually married a man who is everything that my former husband wasn't and we're still happily married. Only prayer helped me go through what I went through. God came through for ma and my son.
Men that hit women are coward..I have a perfect husband that loves me unconditionally
God made a way of escape for you. You got that right.
@@queenbee6084 yea they think it's macho. My husband who I married later, loves me unconditionally. It's God's way of telling me I'm lovable :)
@@rozchristopherson648 yea right. I couldn't have gone through this without God. He completely eliminated my terror.
Only God can do that
Once a man hits you,he will hit you again.
Sad, but true… He does not change, no matter what he says.
Amen 🙏 I've lived it...To any woman experiencing it, please take my advice....LEAVE NOW while you can. Don't listen to their pleading, don't listen when they say they won't do it again, just leave. Please, do it now. My ex said he would never do it again, well again came while I was holding my 3-month old daughter. Praise GOD we both got out alive and I never looked back. Leave now, and never look back. 😮
Yes so true…
Yes,,she should of left him forever after the first slap,,wow,,red flags big time,,he is a pos
Ain't say it quicker enough
This has been one of my favorite movies for over a decade! Thank you so much for uploading filmrise!
If you are innocent you tend to ignore all those red flags...great movie 👍
Yep!
So true. I was brought up in a violent family so I see the red flags before anyone else. The problem is that I also have never been able to trust people so I ended up remaining single my entire life.
@Yeh Men The one man I trusted became extremely controlling and abusive....now I have trust issues aside from having mixed up feelings big time 😕
Hello pretty, nice movie, how are you doing today and how is life treating you...?
She's not innocent. She chose that man.😊
Her Momma had the most sense from day one.
Right
I grew up with a dad who did mental and physical abuse towards my mother for years!!
I swore no one would ever abuse me either way ever!! And it’s never happened and I’m 64!
Sorry about your age.😊
@@Emerson-jq8ej why are you sorry about my age? I’m proud of my age and the way I look today! With no work ever!!
Im 65 and my Dad did what you mentioned. Mum died at 56 and I still suffer from his abuse, I cant wait to die and be with Mum again. God is good, Lord let me come home.
@@coryd2668 let's hope Emerson reaches that age
@@loreagooden2113 I hope you don't.😂🤣😅😆😅🤣😂😂😂😂🤣
Excellent movie! That was a true malignant narcissist! I know, I had a stalker like that and like her I sure know what love is not also! Thanks for the upload! God bless!
This is a beautiful tragic story and I pray anyone suffering this will get away safe, please do exactly like the law officers ask of you otherwise they can’t catch the offender.
The offender is the drug seller. We cannot stop all murder, yet we don't legalize murder - PLZ, BAN NARCOTIC DRUGS,Marijuana etc.Drugs uined the life of the wife of a hard working thief .Glad the thief didn't hurt his kid or abort her....
@@hannahnpmungamuri8516the abusers are the vile criminals. We legalized weed and coke to stop the dealers.
Hello pretty, nice movie, how are you doing today and how is life treating you.??
It's just females being females.
@@daniellewatson8352 The female chose that. Congrats to their misery.😊
Old school is still the best.. courtship... visit the girl to her house... meet the parents.. getting to know each other first before anything else...yeah..old school...
People don't get married anymore. Even being attached as boyfriend/ girlfriend is almost unheard of and too big of a commitment.
People don’t take marriage serious anymore. They jump in and out of them , treating it like a joke. It’s sad.
Is the part where he beat her up old school? 😡
@@elonawilliams4809 it’s so stupid the way people think that old school was so much better. It wasn’t!!! So many women suffered in silence.
@@ellymay1455 Yeah, now they are just 304s through their 20s, and alone crying on TikTok in their 30s 40s and 50s. 😂
An amazing true story. Teresa was so brave. Paul desperately needed help. Thank God Teresa n her daughter remained alive.🙏❤
Hello pretty, nice movie, how are you doing today and how is life treating you...?
@@jamesjerry910 Hi, doing well thanks. Nice movie it was.
😂😂
Wrong her daughters dead. Read the real story. This is nothing some fictionalized and true. This story was in unsolved mysteries Also reading the real story from teresa stamper herself is completly diffrent to what is depicted in the film she also didnt have a caring mother which was also fictioned in to water it down for lifetime tv.
I've seen this movie before and would watch it 100 more times,great movie from the beginning to the very end.
Watch , No One Would Tell
When someone I knew was going through divorce, she told me that as she walked up the courthouse steps and stepped inside, there was a poster right as you walked in. It read something that she says she will never forget:
"A spouse in an abusive relationship will return, on AVERAGE, 22 times."
Yep, it’s called trauma bonding. A cycles that is incredibly hard to break.
Terrifying
It should have also said how many women are killed in domestic violence. On top of that the most deadly time is when they realize you are going to leave or have left. Restraining orders are pieces of paper. They help legally but they do not protect you physically. To all women wanting to leave: forget about material things, take you and your children, get somewhere safe, get legal representation. Call a domestic abuse hotline. There's help out their. Cut contact. Get legal help for the sake of your babies. They will use anything, including your children to control you. My ex took my 3 year old out of state. Too me 7 years to get him back. He has suffered such severe PTSD it breaks my heart. Please, abusive men are dangerous. Get help.
Also leaving is the most dangerous move to make, as we see in this case. Thank goodness this had a good ending. I experienced domestic violence at age 15. It was my first boyfriend, he was 19. The violence lasted two years. I decided that if a guy ever hit me, that I would never marry him. Also, that if a guy hit me, that I would have to report it on record and have the police give the guy a warning the first time. This has helped me in terms of violent relationships. Although it didn’t spare me from falling prey to narcissistic and psychopathic individuals. Hardest lessons in life.
I returned 29 times!!
This is such a well made movie based on a true life experience. Sure hope that Teresa, Katie, and Wanda were able to live life to its fullest at the end of the day. ♥
Thanks to FilmRise, for bringing us this excellent movie!!
Well, I don't know. Stamper was paroled in 2002!
@@adrienneromelle2816 no way? Really? Couldn't find any information online.
It's not exactly a happily ever after. Teresa turned to drugs to cope with the psychological aftermath of her experience and she became homeless, living in an encampment in the woods. Eventually, she got clean after the death of one of her daughters in a carjacking incident. Her son helped her get into a treatment centre, and a charity has helped her find an apartment where she feels safe.
I have read my whole life and have heard many, many stories of this kind of violence, I think "escape" is the right title here. Compared to others, this woman achieved to get away unharmed.
@@CollateralDamage1571You mention at least two more children. As far as the movie shows, she had a good life. Maybe her mother's death or her second husband's death, or problems with her teenage children?!
This was a good movie and my heart goes out to any woman who had to live that way.And no man should ever abuse a woman. 😥🙏
Hello pretty, nice movie, how are you doing today and how is life treating you...?
@@jamesjerry910 Just fine.🥰
@@shellywilliams8553 Oh okay pretty, I'm glad to know that you are doing great, well in my own case, I'm always busy with work, most times am really stress out, where are you from, Are you married with kids?
@@jamesjerry910 Indiana, married 30 some years,one son. Also 63 years old so not as pretty anymore. How about you?
@@shellywilliams8553 Oh okaypretty very good to know, am a single father with a son too, do you have other means of communication aside RUclips?
Sasha should be so proud of how brave he was to speak up then, and to continue to speak out now. To make it easier for children to speak up is vital, and I thank you for sharing your story and fighting to help future generations of kids.
Yes a closed door with an uncle is a red flag now, but it wasn't always that way...we once trusted our family members implicitly, as we should really...but the world isn't as kind or as safe as we'd hope it to be.
Much love to Sasha, Bekah, Henry and Jacqui...you've all went through hell and come through the other side ❤
Hello pretty, nice movie, how are you doing today and how is life treating you...?
@carol-anneobrien1511
I have no clue with regards to those names mentioned in your comment. Were you even watching the same movie? The Teresa Stamper story about her violent and abusive husband Paul?
She had a very warm mother I enjoyed the tenderness of her character and the support she gave.
I escaped from a relationship like this, took me a long time to feel safe again.
I moved to `The Netherlands before I felt safe. we survive we live
I still don't feel safe and am always looking over my shoulder for that shadow I often see behind me.
@@RebekkaRN1962 I get that. we can only do what we can. Have you asked yourself;...what would make you feel safe? is it possible anymore to feel safe where you are? Realistically safety is a quest for some of us.
@@tlee4218
I'm trying. I'm in counseling now.
@@marthamack1544 I also had to cut ties with family bc the lies and shame they try to lay on me. Some ppl can never face their own shit so they spread it. I do not waste my time fighting a lost cause so I left, no contact. Felt lighter, abler to breathe again.
Ladies that's how it starts with a slap🤬🤬🤬
Been there way too many times. Sadly
Exactly! that is when you DON"T go back!
Exactly. As soon as you forgive him that first time, he knows he is in complete control.
That was not a slap, that was a closed fist.
This kind of behavior is so shocking.
Before the slap is verbal abuse
This movie brings back so much of the pain and abuse I was subjected to at the hands of my exwife. Though I was twice her size, her mental illness pushed her to be very violent with me. I was physically attacked and subjected to violent attacks. There were hundreds and hundreds of incidences. Through the grace of God I was able to get out. But not without severe cptsd and other emotional trauma.
That’s horrible. I’m glad you commented and made it aware that men also are abused in relationships. Bless you. 🦋
My brother is being abuse by his wife. His wife bad mouth in her work place n ill talk to her children about husband n his family. My brother cant even talk to opposite sex cos she suspects him ... He is a prisoner in a toxic marriage
Glad you escaped. I’m an “escapee” as well. I have a beautiful dog who has helped me through a lot, at night I listen to healing music to help me sleep. I spend a lot of time walking on trails in the forest with him ( at random times for safety still) … nature and music and animals in themselves are healing; just saying.
I don’t usually share very much but here it is… just know you aren’t alone, and thanks for sharing what you did. We all wish you continued healing. God bless.
That takes strength to escape. It also takes courage to admit it. You are strong in more ways than one and I implore you to get therapy with someone who specializes in cptsd. Dont let it take any more of your life than it already has. I wish you healing, sir.
But she has a mental illness, this gay did not and most abusers are not mentally ill.
What an incredible story of courage. Never stay with your abuser. xx
I left my husband 7 different times. Each time I left and came back, the abuse got worse and worse! The LAST time I left my husband, he had broken my back so bad that 10 years later, I STILL have back problems! I NEVER went back to him after the 7th time! I moved away and filed for divorce! I have had a really rough 10 years of my life! But I am very thankful to God that I am STILL alive today! Today, I have FREEDOM from my abuser! He can NEVER abuse me EVER again in this life!! To ALL the victims of domestic violence, take my advice and leave NOW while you still can!!! Move as far away as you can! And NEVER look back!!
Sad story. People say why did you not leave when he first started being abusive. They promise to change. On average it takes about 37 times. Quite often women have nowhere to go because the abusive male has isolated her from friends and family.
Trauma bonding
It's hard to get away from your abuser ,because they isolate you from ALL family and friends . . . I knew I had to do something to protect my Littles and myself; I lived in " survival mode always on "high alert " stashing small boxes with my Littles necessities , including medicine, formula, food and cash . I was scared out of my mind !!! I was allowed one friend and she was a warrior !!!
She would take the boxes and keep them at her house for me .
When the time came to GTHO she came picked up my Littles and took them to her house , she called 911 from a pay phone( no cell phones then ) the Sheriffs came and stood guard while I gathered my personal belongings ,I loaded up my truck and NEVER looked back .
Ladies, you've got to make a plan to get out alive ,especially when you have children.
God bless and protect all those who are struggling with DOMISTIC VIOLENCE, in Jesus name we pray.
@@katrinapurser2021We should be teaching highschool kids about things like this: a mandatory psychology class so girls are taught how to spot the signs that a man is a narcissist and know how to resist that trauma bonding in the first place.
@@vaska1999 oh absolutely. Even better, a mandatory workshop in schools to promote self love and self worth. That way narcissistic people would have no way of luring them in in the first place.
True
I was in an abusive relationship in high school and I finally had enough and broke up with him a year after graduating and he stalked me for fifteen years after. It finally took moving four hours away to get him to lose interest.
AWESOME AWESOME MOVIE !! It just TRULY breaks my heart that there r SOOO many women out in the world that believes that is Love when truly it's NOT!! I was one of those women
"In April 1992, Paul pleaded guilty to kidnapping, attempted murder, and prison escape. He was sentenced to thirty years in prison. In January 2002, he was released on parole after serving ten years." What a joke.
Sham 🤨 he may scrow another woman's life
Oh wow! 😮
That’s disgusting
Oh my,, my heart sank when she opened the squeaky porch door to that monster……
Excellent performance from the actors! A very good story to learn from. Thanks for making this film.
That the lady took out the shotgun is the coolest thing in this entire movie. It's just been so Texas.
Sad how people go through this!!! I've lost many friends 😔 like this & helped a few... Thank God that few didn't have these problems!!! & thank God I got out of one!!!
I never let him know I was leaving, I just left...Took everything and disappeared. Not seen him for 7 years, found out he was married and has since divorced, married again with a child but going through another divorce. Big insecure bully....I think I was one of the lucky ones.
At least you had common sense.
A couple years ago I went thru a life changing medical issue,causing me to loose above the knee amputation. I'm 75, no not diabetes. I flat lined twice, 8 surgeries in less than 6 weeks. Anyway, in and out of hospitals and shortly after I came home I discovered my husband of 25 yrs and blown over $20,000, online scams. I have no $$ yet to get out. I'm still learning to walk. I'm in therapy guess doctors felt dealing with 2 life changing events, limb loss, broke, husband who is mostly embarrassed to be seen in public with me. Oh he has or did have many people believing I was crazy, had to take everything away from me. He threw something at me recently, I quietly told him he even threatens me verbally, 911 will be called and I will press charges. Watching this story,this lady was so brave, I have no family only a couple lifelong friends. I say keep strong, keep quiet and when possible disappear. 😊
Do not tolerate a controlling and violent husband!
Or wife. Controlling spouses can come in both genders.
Except when the controller is a dyke
She is young. What girl isn't gonna fall in love with everything he's sayin & doing. He leaves a brand new car in her yard with a dozen roses on top & an engagement ring inside. Everything he's doing for her. Treating her like a princess he keeps calling her, she's not seeing the "real man" he is yet & she's already in love, married. It's definitely toxic but not always easy to leave. He didn't hit her until after they were married. I'm assuming she eventually leaves him, tho.
So this guy has a secret drug problem. I didn't know that until just now. I'm not EXCUSING it, but it makes sense now why he's doing it.
@@amandalidey329
This is known as the "love bombing," stage. It's a huge red flag. & in regards to your other comment about the reason why he acted the way he did, drugs only exacerbates the situation, it's not the root cause.
Excellent movie
I was in a 2 year marriage from Hell
But I got my. Son who is Awesome
God always has the final say
Yes I know he protected me ❤
He only served ten years of thirty. That is not justice.
At least he served time. Most stalkers don't.
@@tommie827 He wasent just a stalker,he was a wife beater, And attempted killer!!
How did you find out? Why can't I find him when I do a search now? This gets to me! 😡
@@tommie827 That's not good enough.
That makes me sick.
My first boyfriend when I was 18 beat me up and emotionally tortured me. It went on for 3 years until he finally moved to Florida with his parents. He would tear my clothes off, bust my lip, put bruises on my arms, flick cigarettes on me, spit on me…20 years later and I still have PTSD from it all.
The second red flag was he asked her to marry him way too soon. By the looks of it they were married after only 5 months of dating. The first red flag was he got mad when his male employees looked at her and even fired one of them because of it. Teresa should have invested in a pair of Nikes and ran.
With your Last words you Made my day
I think of the Tracy Thurman Story when I’m watching this. I went from rape, to a stalker to an abusive relationship. I’m so glad my husband I’ve been with for almost 20 years doesn’t harm me at all. He’s not like that.
The Tracy Thurman movie, wasn't that with Nancy Keagen? Incredibly difficult movie to watch. Tracy lived through hell on earth from that sick man.
This movie was written, acted and directed really well. It is disheartening that these are true stories.
@@rachelreneer56 Yes, with Nancy McKeon. It is definitely difficult to watch. I agree with you. Unfortunately there are one too many out there like that. If I remember right, I read somewhere that her ex husband was now remarried. Also, that her son had a difficult life turning to drugs. Now whether that is true or not about her son, I don’t know. I am hoping Tracy and her son are living better lives now. In her case, the police just standing there as her then husband is trying to off her, is disgusting. They are supposed to protect, but they didn’t protect her.
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Thats your fault.😊
@@rachelreneer56 Females are stupid, thats her fault.
It was very hard to watch this.. even after 30 yrs ago of getting away from my abusive husband.. I still get scared. It brings knots to my stomach to watch a movie like this.
Then why watch such a movie?! 😮
I gotta watch this. They are not even together yet & he's already getting extremely jealous. Aweee. She's so excited too. This man is sick. Edit; He is nuts
So is the woman for loving and reproducing with him.😊😊😂😅
I loved the way on the bus after he kidnapped her when the cops when on the bus walked past that little girl sat next to him moved her then grabbed him . Well played . Bet he though he got away with it for a split second 😂
Thanks for this upload, I was hesitant at first when I realised from the comments that it was about DV, since I'm a survivor myself. I recognised the patterns and kept pre-empting his next move. Worst thing is his name was Paul, just like an ex from 30 yrs ago who kidnapped me and tried to throw me from a cliff and repeatedly SA'd me while I suffered from 2nd degree burns... anything that reminds me of him is a PTSD trigger, he even had those beautiful blue eyes. This was therapeutic to observe objectively.
Sadly, early childhood DV led me into a cycle of boyfriends that I now know as Narcissistic types, just like my mother. So, we learn, hopefully from these generational patterns, that we are worth more than that and even if that means living alone, with good guard dogs💞😁🐶🐶🐶
Omg I am so sorry. Intergenerational trauma is very real and so hard to undo. Your brain gets set to the behaviors. Luckily it can be stopped and changed with A LOT of work. ☮️
What a horrific experience, I'm glad you got away.
If a man try to abuse me like this movie, may God help him.
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Yeah but you really can't say all of that until or if you go thru it,it's just like telling someone that you know what there going thru if you haven't went thru the same thing,so I really would say all of that noise. I know we're in a different time but you never know until it happens!!
I've told a few men to try Jesus, but don't try me....
You talk like you're such a badass but you never know until it happens to you!
@@JamesJohnson-ip2by 👎
Very well done. Great acting all around. Keeps up the suspense, too.
Nice movie not a boreing one
I had a fiancee who acted just like this man. Only worse, took me years to get away from him. Never married again and now have PTSD for the rest of my life.
I’m sorry, Jersey.
I'm so sorry 😢❤
Please pray to Jesus He can take away all the pain and trauma, He did for me
I'm so sorry. I wish you peace, hope and renewed faith in love. I know it isn't easy. It's like they steal your innocence with their huge and ugly betrayal , betraying to love and protect you from harm. Turns out, they are the harm. Incredible betrayal there.
My first partner, the father of my first two kids used to beat the crap out of me when there was nobody around. Thankfully we lived on a farm out of town & his druggo buddies were usually hanging around. I left him after he broke my tailbone, strangled me until he thought I was dead & then he broke my ribs kicking me cos he thought he'd killed me. (I had to have my tailbone surgically removed cos of him)
I bought acreage with my last abusive partner & he used to say how cool it was that he could murder me out there & no-one would find my body. He saw a venomous Red Bellied Black Snake & he pushed me over onto the snake trying to get me bitten. He actually went to prison for aggravated violence in the end. .
That was 14 years ago & I suffer from PTSD. I have never had another partner since because I have really poor judgement when it comes to men & I am so broken the only people I have anything to do with are my kids.
I am very content living by myself with my 2 cats.
Yes..movies like this gives people the courage to escape..I sure did and I never looked back
Went on the run for two years after leaving my abuser. I promised myself that I would dance on his grave when he died. Years later when I heard about his death, my anger just washed away. God released me from the anger and revenge.
I was beat up six weeks after I married my second husband. Bad guy. Alcoholic and mental issues. The court system has a rap sheet 12 pages long. He has spent his life in and out of prison. Still there. It's been 34 yrs. I raised my son myself w no child support.
I have never remarried and not dated anyone in 34 yrs. My precious son has never met him and doesn't want to.
Get out there Pam.Times a wastin. Just take it s l o wwww.
I feel for you! A lot!
Might be too much pressure on a only child to fill those shoes as it were.
Healthier to date and lead a normal life .
@Nashae 100% In fact those that can't be content single are the ones who end up like this.
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I'm amazed at how careless they were. The new boyfriend drove to the hideout in broad daylight. The mother put her keys under the dashboard...
They should have kept to themselves until he'd been arrested and temporarily cut ties with people they know
@@daisymiano925 ekks
I agree they were quite careless.
I read about a couple of situations where people who were in the witness protection program broke protocol and ended up murked. Strictly due to recklessness. Crazy.
That’s what I thought! Leaving the keys on the car? Put them in your purse! And she parks away from the store. 🤦🏻♀️
One can never say it's over because you don't know when he will break out, released or hire someone else to do the job! She was lucky he didn't want to kill her.
Now who leaves the keys in the car when you're life is under threat!!!
Regardless of whether my life was in danger of not, I would never leave my keys in my car.
Enough with dumb excuses.
My mum said that when she got married she told dad if he ever hit her it would be the last time. He never did. I told my husband the same thing.
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Love all the old movies man ❤ I just subscribed swear the 70s to the 90s era was amazing I tell my mom all the time I was born in the wrong era
Great movie. Congratulations to all who made this movie, you really did a great execution of this kind of film. Bravo ! Mabuhay !
It's what abusers do, they are charming, often popular and well-liked. Sometimes there will be a little red flag, maybe more, but you ignore it and carry on until you're in their trap.
No, you learn ALL the red flags, starting with the 1st one, and then you don't ever repeat it
@@jddr555 not as easy as you say ,back 40 years ago no help for violence towards woman ,you had no where to go,so you stayed ,because they told you you were worthless they would kill you if you left ,and they just beat you down.But once you get out of that abuse ,you try to rebuild your trust ,but it makes you stronger
Loose cannons. Those with little self control are often admired for spontaneity n charm.
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The way the cop scoped him out on the 🚌 tho!!!...👏 ... he played that so cool and no one was hurt..
In reality also like that. They act like they ignored him.. Then they coming from his back
He was sentenced for 35 but was released on parole after 10 yrs, in 2002..Ridiculous
Its because of guys like this when i get upset about being single, i count my blessings of how ive never had to resort to an abused womens shelter, pleading with the police for help when most dont care, going into hiding, etc. The chances of finding an abusive, rotton guy is so much higher than finding a great, faithful non abusive one. Its terribly sad, but its also a fact of life. 💔💔
very true, the number of psychos is so high it sometimes seems they're the majority. and the person who is most likely to hurt a woman is her partner!
Ultimately we all make choices and when we’re young we’re not gonna make all the best ones. The important reality is male or female you got into it, you can get out of it. If you can’t do it for yourself do it for your kids. Kids don’t need to grow up in a war zone.
So true
A lesson to ladies out there. Women must learn to fight back when beaten by abusive men
learn martial art :D
Even better, women must learn to use discernment when meeting men, especially nowadays. It's very different now and too many people are more vile, more evil and hide who they are. Being alone is so good, no drama and no man even thinking of giving me trouble.
@@coastdaze748 no worries at all. No cries..peaceful nights. After you've been emotionally and physically abused he'll demand sex. How do you enjoy sex after your broken scared body and tears on your chicks
@@coastdaze748 100% agree
In most cases fighting back leads to an even more brutal beating, but when i started to fight back and matched his anger... he backed off, I truly hated being angry.
PAUL never knew what LOVE was...But I guess I didn't KNOW either back then...But I do KNOW one thing for SURE...I know what LOVE isn't!!! 💔
Some people are so twisted they're incapable of loving another human being. And it's not necessarily because they had not been loved themselves. That myth needs to die.
@@vaska1999 I think such people do suffer from NARCISSISM...
Thank you for the great movie.
Good cast.
❤
Brad Dourif is always an absolute delight in any film and any role, big or small, dramatic or funny.
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Paul in this movie is so cute too bad he was mean ass!
My older sister went through something like this for 14 year's. Thank god she left him and survied his abuse mentally AND physically.
I hope She doing well❤
If a man hits a woman once he will do it again. Don't give him a second chance to hurt you. Most know what love is, but all of us should know what love isn't. Be kind and respectful to each other, but don't allow others to mistreat, demean, embarrass, control or physically hurt you. Life is too short to be unhappy.
I don't know what it's like to be in a domestic violence relationship but I do know what it's like to be hit by a man while in a relationship. See theirs a difference I shut that shit down off first try and the two men who did try me best believe they definitely regreted it. Men know not to hit me cause I'll do something crazy. I also don't believe in hitting a man but I would in self defense.
Terez... l'm with you sweetheart....
Especially if l didn't hurt the person or even had intentions to hurt them:
I would go for him, fists and all.
You were in a domestic violent relationship if he hit you & you are a survivor ....I am a survivor too
Beating her guess that means the honeymoon is definitely over 🤣
She is a slow learner
You hit a man; he is in all probability going to kill you
So glad they caught him!! This girl was so brave! My god
My friend lost her beautiful sister with her baby and their father to someone like that in Australia. He was an Accountant, had a restraining order against him but still had visitation rights to the baby. The police had an order to protect her within a few minutes if she ever called but they had closed down the local police station so they couldn’t fulfill that order. She recorded all the calls he made but he came over to collect the baby and shot 3 people. The tape was missing when my friend got home, Unbelievably sad.
I am so sorry for your loss.
@@sherylcoetzer1 I'm sorry about you're friend!
My ex husband hit me so hard in the chest the Dr told me it was like having a heart attack. I couldn't even climb one flight of stairs for years, I'd get so out of breath halfway I'd have to stop and gasp for air with sweat popped out all over my body. If my daughter hadn't been there he'd have killed me. He never got another chance to hit me
Omg this movie hit home to the point I cried. It reminded me so much of my situation with my kids father, I went through something so similar to that. He would tell me he love me after all the hell he was putting me & my family through. I hate that it Took me a while to notice I was dealing with a manipulative narcissist abuser 😢
In the history of women getting slapped around, it has absolutely never been a situation where a man hits you just once unless you do something to stop him! If you're waiting on his better nature to kick in, trust me, he doesn't have one! If he did he never would have laid hands on you in the first place!
(The same thing is true if a woman is abusive.)
sometimes when we a.re in love we become blind of all the danger signs of the real character of the person. LOVE IS BLIND.
I love when she was in the restaurant and she was calling the police and she warned nearby people to duck because he had a gun and the woman pulled out a rifle 😂❤🎉
I am so proud of my daughter. She finally left her abusive partner of over 10 years earlier this year. They had two children together but lost them years ago to CPS. I never thought I would live to see the day but there is always hope!
Theresa doesn't realize how much the cops were on her side. They never gave me a second nodd when I needed their help.
And legal people will often side with sociopath.
@@SamStone1964 you got it..
@@SamStone1964 Many are sociopaths themselves
@@angiemorsby8429 And they appear to have no capacity for empathy so they side with the criminal who has victim mentality rather than siding with the genuine victim when they are being paid to represent the genuine victim or at least stay neutral.
@@angiemorsby8429 as they are starting to find out now. Have you heard about the cop rapist. They gave him alot of prison time and rightfully so...
Her new boyfriend did the RIGHT thing by Getting away from her after being shot !!!! God be with this poor family !!!!
But not very smart to visit them at the safe house.
Indeed.
I am so thankful I'm not in the physically abusive relationship I was a battered woman and I suffered a lot I had to plan escape and go into a shelter and then move and start my life over again I'm just thankful that I was able to get out of something like this and watching this reminds me kind of like what I've been through
Really....same story like me.
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@@jamesjerry910 Well I'm doing a lot better I'll tell you that it's not like the same before I think it's a wonderful thing to be free from this and life is better and you still have recovery and things to work on but it gets better as time goes by so I'm doing pretty well
@@kasspriscilla9350 Oh okay pretty, I'm glad to know that you are doing great, well in my own case, I'm always busy with work, most times am really stress out, where are you from, Are you married with kids?
@@jamesjerry910 no I am not married right now but I am educated on domestic violence talking about it at the ywca letting other women know about it mind control they do to us and the narcissist abuse different types of narcissist if I new than what I know now for me it wouldn't of never continue as long as it did plus that love bomb at the beginning stage
In April 1992, Paul pleaded guilty to kidnapping, attempted murder, and prison escape. He was sentenced to thirty years in prison. In January 2002, he was released on parole after serving ten years.
Smh but they'd throw the book at her if she would have killed him in self-defense. No justice at all
WOW that's crazy!!!!!
9:12 "A lot of these guys are drifters, you know? Their minds drift, their eyes drift. Get my drift?"😂😂🤣🤣