I think you are so uniquely different! Not just from therapists but also different from most people! You express some very controversial even unheard opoinions without caring at all what people will think. And you do so in a world sunk in ideologies and fixed ways of looking at things. You inspire my recovery, but also my life! Thnak you so much!
i am in recovery, and have read your books. you are a huge inspiration tabitha! how do i know when you go live? i would love to participate in your next live stream?
Hi Tabitha, Im wondering about how to accept advice from ED professionals or influencers who say to eat until mental and physical hungers desire when they themselves are in thin bodies. It makes me not want to believe their advice or that it is easier for them to say these things because they are thin bodies. I feel like I cant trust that advice. Any suggestions?
TW MENTION OF CALORIES// Hey so I’ve got some questions to ask, so I thought I’d ask them in a big message. The first thing is that I really struggle with not feeling ill enough because I’ve spent most of my time with an ed (just over 2 years) with my mum forcing me to eat. She forces me to eat 2000-2100 calories a day but I’m still very disordered and do lots of behaviours on the side whenever I can get away with them; which usually isn’t often. I feel like most people who are deep into their anorexia don’t spend most time being force fed. Another question I have, is that you preach a very no-diet HAES approach. If someone is 600lbs and is going to DIE in a matter of months if they don’t go on a crash diet, don’t you support that? If someone’s been eating ‘intuitively’ and it’s caused them to become so obese they’re about to die, don’t you think they should diet if their weight has reduced them to being bed-bound? The third thing is that I don’t think about food all the time; instead I’m constantly thinking about burning calories. I used to think about food all the time, but now I don’t. The forth thing is that as someone with multiple mental illnesses that VERY much collide, my therapy team have said that if I decide to recover it will have to be extremely slowly and carefully managed because I’ve tried to recover many times before (not even going all-in) and it lead me to being suicidal. Having multiple mental illnesses makes going ‘all in’ impossible, and don’t say it’s not because every therapist I’ve ever met said that would be an awful and very detrimental thing for me to do that would likely result in me taking my own life. (I am a trans man and pre-transition with severe BDD, meaning if I were to gain weight quickly both dysphoria and dysmorphia would be exceptionally bad because I would look a lot more feminine. They’ve just banned hormone blockers in the UK and I can’t get testosterone for another two years.) I am very desperate, my life is miserable. My mum has said if I stop eating again she will let our cat kill my hamster and two mice; who are my entire life and have massively aided my mental health. Honestly, I’ve been feeling so shit I’m considering letting them die. I know my ed will never let me feel ‘ill enough’ but at my LW I actually felt like I was kinda bad and started recovery for a couple months before a major relapse. Thank you for reading :) Oh and P.S, we have cameras in our house to make sure I don’t do behaviours, and my parents have recently put one just outside my room. I usually exercise in my room and it’s a distraction from the mental torment I’m constantly in, but now I don’t know what to do because I just feel awful all the time.
How do I deal with not being cold all the time and being too hot sometimes. My ed was fuelled by being freezing. Whenever I get warm it triggers me to restrict like crazy.
I can relate x I find it very triggering to get too hot. Ironically, being too cold also results in an anxiety response for me because my muscles tense up which causes an anxiety response in my body. It feels like I can't win haha x Recovery has helped my body to deal better with temperature change in either direction though, so I don't feel temperature extremes as badly now that I'm a little further into my recovery
What if you have to be weighed for medical reasons? One of my medications is dependent on my weight. Should I know what it is? When I've accidentally found out in the past after not knowing the number for a while, I got upset. Is it better to know what it is to desensitize, as that person mentioned, since I have to be routinely weighed once a month anyways? Also, what about exercise for bone health? Do you have experience with that? I found out I have osteoporosis and the doctor wants me to do weight bearing exercise, even though I'm not weight restored yet, because they think being sedentary is making it worse.
Hi just speculating, but if this person has mobility problems this could be a very real concern, or what if they are a person in a larger body and worry about falling down and not being able to get back up
I think you are so uniquely different! Not just from therapists but also different from most people! You express some very controversial even unheard opoinions without caring at all what people will think. And you do so in a world sunk in ideologies and fixed ways of looking at things. You inspire my recovery, but also my life! Thnak you so much!
Well said
you can get stolen 😂 I love that
i love your JUST EAT response lmfao. beatiful
This was one of your more comedic videos! I love your logic and practical advice. Thank you.
im sat here in real tears of laughter, at the "you can't be stolen" comment ahaha
Oh flip,I'm only one minute in and I am laughing so much, I really needed this😀
This is the funniest video of yours! I have shared it with everyone who i know!! I cant be lifted up🤪 I might be STOLEN!!!!’
i am in recovery, and have read your books. you are a huge inspiration tabitha! how do i know when you go live? i would love to participate in your next live stream?
Thanks for the laughs. You’re such a character!
Oh my god you are hilarious you should do stand up comedy 😂🤣😅
omg so funny. i laughed so hard at - why the hell would u want anyone to pick you up?!
You made me laugh out loud with that video! Thanks so much! 😀
Oh my tummy hurts from the belly laugh...
Maybe the first person is a dancer /gymnast? (hence needing to be lifted up)?
Hi Tabitha, Im wondering about how to accept advice from ED professionals or influencers who say to eat until mental and physical hungers desire when they themselves are in thin bodies. It makes me not want to believe their advice or that it is easier for them to say these things because they are thin bodies. I feel like I cant trust that advice. Any suggestions?
TW MENTION OF CALORIES//
Hey so I’ve got some questions to ask, so I thought I’d ask them in a big message. The first thing is that I really struggle with not feeling ill enough because I’ve spent most of my time with an ed (just over 2 years) with my mum forcing me to eat. She forces me to eat 2000-2100 calories a day but I’m still very disordered and do lots of behaviours on the side whenever I can get away with them; which usually isn’t often. I feel like most people who are deep into their anorexia don’t spend most time being force fed. Another question I have, is that you preach a very no-diet HAES approach. If someone is 600lbs and is going to DIE in a matter of months if they don’t go on a crash diet, don’t you support that? If someone’s been eating ‘intuitively’ and it’s caused them to become so obese they’re about to die, don’t you think they should diet if their weight has reduced them to being bed-bound? The third thing is that I don’t think about food all the time; instead I’m constantly thinking about burning calories. I used to think about food all the time, but now I don’t. The forth thing is that as someone with multiple mental illnesses that VERY much collide, my therapy team have said that if I decide to recover it will have to be extremely slowly and carefully managed because I’ve tried to recover many times before (not even going all-in) and it lead me to being suicidal. Having multiple mental illnesses makes going ‘all in’ impossible, and don’t say it’s not because every therapist I’ve ever met said that would be an awful and very detrimental thing for me to do that would likely result in me taking my own life. (I am a trans man and pre-transition with severe BDD, meaning if I were to gain weight quickly both dysphoria and dysmorphia would be exceptionally bad because I would look a lot more feminine. They’ve just banned hormone blockers in the UK and I can’t get testosterone for another two years.) I am very desperate, my life is miserable. My mum has said if I stop eating again she will let our cat kill my hamster and two mice; who are my entire life and have massively aided my mental health. Honestly, I’ve been feeling so shit I’m considering letting them die. I know my ed will never let me feel ‘ill enough’ but at my LW I actually felt like I was kinda bad and started recovery for a couple months before a major relapse. Thank you for reading :)
Oh and P.S, we have cameras in our house to make sure I don’t do behaviours, and my parents have recently put one just outside my room. I usually exercise in my room and it’s a distraction from the mental torment I’m constantly in, but now I don’t know what to do because I just feel awful all the time.
You can't get stolen! Lol!
Another great video ❤️
I am very attached to weight lifting, scared to death of only gaining fat.
How do I deal with not being cold all the time and being too hot sometimes. My ed was fuelled by being freezing. Whenever I get warm it triggers me to restrict like crazy.
I can relate x I find it very triggering to get too hot. Ironically, being too cold also results in an anxiety response for me because my muscles tense up which causes an anxiety response in my body. It feels like I can't win haha x Recovery has helped my body to deal better with temperature change in either direction though, so I don't feel temperature extremes as badly now that I'm a little further into my recovery
SIgh - I always get notifications too late. Ah well.
Is it possible to recover from anorexia and excessive exercise when still playing sports?
no obviously not
What if you have to be weighed for medical reasons? One of my medications is dependent on my weight. Should I know what it is? When I've accidentally found out in the past after not knowing the number for a while, I got upset. Is it better to know what it is to desensitize, as that person mentioned, since I have to be routinely weighed once a month anyways?
Also, what about exercise for bone health? Do you have experience with that? I found out I have osteoporosis and the doctor wants me to do weight bearing exercise, even though I'm not weight restored yet, because they think being sedentary is making it worse.
Hi just speculating, but if this person has mobility problems this could be a very real concern, or what if they are a person in a larger body and worry about falling down and not being able to get back up