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- Published on Apr 18, 2026
- La La Land - This is Not Your Dream: Seb (Ryan Gosling) and Mia (Emma Stone) realize that their decisions are taking them down seperate paths.
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Sebastian (Ryan Gosling) and Mia (Emma Stone) are drawn together by their common desire to do what they love. But as success mounts they are faced with decisions that begin to fray the fragile fabric of their love affair, and the dreams they worked so hard to maintain in each other threaten to rip them apart.
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Cast: Emma Stone, Ryan Gosling
Director: Damien Chazelle
Screewriter: Damien Chazelle
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I love the subtlety of him not being able to make eye contact with her while he's lying about it being his dream and what he wanted.
I thought he was blind lmao
He wasn't lying. SHE was his dream. The band, the club, whatever, that all came second. She listened but she didn't hear what he was saying. He did it all for her because "this" (her) was his dream. Life and love are about compromise and sacrifice; you can't have it all (at once). We choose our priorities. He chose her. He didn't sacrifice his dream of owning a jazz club because he was settling, he sacrificed it because he decided she, what they had, what he had with her, was more important.
He prioritized the relationship, she didn't: "Of course I wanted you to have a steady job so you could take care of YOURself in YOUR life..." (no "we"/"our").
She could have stayed; they could have talked it out. He obviously wanted to FIGHT for her. But she left without even saying goodbye, so think about how he must have felt. He gave up A dream for her because he decided she/they mattered more, and instead of them celebrating or being happy about that choice, she scolded him, they fought, he gets up for a second and comes back and she's just gone. He must have felt like such an idiot.
@lifesunviktoriusson-kidukn6913 THANK YOU
he was passing gas. did you see how big a piece of chicken he was eating? "chicken fumes" was his alternative club name
@lifesunviktoriusson-kidukn6913but he didn’t communicate that to her at all. All she saw was that he was rejecting his lifelong dream. And the fact that his dream was something very unconventional added to her worry; she thought he’d given in to either peer pressure or simple despair that nobody would appreciate his efforts to revive jazz. She always admired that he went for what he really wanted and loved rather than try to conform; that’s how they first met, when he rejected conventional Christmas tunes to play a tune that he wanted, the very tune that drew her to him. And now especially when he says “to have a steady job,” she’s afraid he’s essentially betraying himself by conforming to this band for the sake of finances, when he already has enough paychecks to start the club like he always wanted. This is a very legitimate fear on her part. It’s out of love for him that she expresses her concern; she doesn’t want him to change himself to be practical. He always encouraged her to just follow her heart and now she’s encouraging him to do the same. And she’s proven right in the end; ultimately he does reject the band and follow and achieve his jazz dream, which he may not have done if she hadn’t steered him back in the right direction.
The way he's constantly looking down and couldn't make sincere eye contact made it seem like he's talking more to himself than Mia, convincing himself 'this is my dream now' and that nuance on his part whenever he tries to counter Mia's argument gave us viewers a glimpse about his internal conflict.
@Panxoge i mean, the director must've made it that way for a reason. sebastian couldn't maintain an eye contact because he's not being honest, the opposite of mia in this scene.
and then he can make an eye contact when he finally say what he feels that he thinks she likes when he's on the bottom because it makes her feel better about herself. that's the only time he's being honest and he can make eye contact.
@FcoGabler Yeah and what's your interpretation, Skipper?
he needs money to start the club, the band and touring gets him the club. not to mention exposure which can help him later to draw in crowds to his club. mia has no concept of money apparently. when things get tough , she bails back to a comfortable suburban life in Nevada. she has a safety net, he doesn't.
Mia comes off as naive. Seb seems to have some grounding in reality.
Feels like self sabotage also, he knows what he’s saying is wrong within himself but still keeps going
This is the most real and most honest part of their entire relationship, and I think the best part of the movie. It exposes the male and female ego in a relationship so succinctly.
very interesting
Its true, some adults have a hard time experiencing "love at first sight". Especially for teenagers too, however, don't exactly know how to handle a REAL situation during a REAL relationship.
They don't know what they both desire; which makes a complex relationship an even harder decision to leave and move on.
I'm not saying there's plenty of fish in the sea, or never let him or her go. All I'm saying is this: its not the end of the world.
When a person loves you as a person or sees what makes them fascinate about YOU, you'll get an opportunity to find what real true love is.
I'm curious what you define as the male and female egos. Not that I want to call you out or something. I am genuinely curious.
Never heard the word "succinctly" before. LOL! Learned it now though.
@awsone100 you still never got ur definition damn bro
I love her acting in this scene. So real
I like this scene as well
@YIIJUChung v.d
Me too....the only one I like more is her audition early on with all the interruptions. She kills in that one
When she says “I do like the music you’re playing.” The sincerity behind that in her eyes.
Most of us had it. Being unemployed for a long time and finally getting a job really makes you feel the world is pressing on you, including your loved ones, eventhough all they want is just you being happy in whatever you do. Damn this movie is as real as reality can be
Does everyone get to find their job that makes them happy though? At the end of the day you have to be able to support yourself. Dreams are great, but it seems statistically unlikely that everyone finds their calling. Or even has one to begin with
@VideoGuy232 have to work harder. vast majority of people dont do anything after 5pm.
@VideoGuy232 your dream doesn't have to be a job, but no one wants to be in a job that they hate
2:46 I know actors are supposed to know how to cry or whatever, but to MAKE IT genuinely look like you've got tears begging to fall from your eyes, but managing to hold it in??
Emma Stone👏🏼
its all about "in the moment" acting. to truly have that affect you have to convince yourself you are that character in that situation. some people mistake it as trying to force tears out but no one sane ever forces their tears out, they just come out and u try to stop them from doing so. by convincing yourself you are that emotional, it creates that natural affect of trying to hold in your tears and not being able to do so.
She's a great actress. Not very pretty though.
Actors need to reach to a place that makes them cry. Sometimes they need to prepare. Watch 'Shopgirl' with Claire Danes. Cast and crew were concerned about her in the crying scene, she seemed very very troubled. But a great crying scene. Great film, actually.
Guys, GUYS, the director was under the table, twisting her big toe, till SHE CRYS, it's an old trick.
@SuperChuckRaney Silly. I've worked with a lot of actors. It's very possible.
I love Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone. But together, they have great chemistry.
They are both fab actors but I detected zero chemistry.
Well their both Scorpios.
I wonder who’s gonna win for Emma stone
Andrew Garfield or Ryan gosling
She's got beautiful eyes
she is like gollum from LotR.
@billpaloukas shut up
Big and beautiful eyes ñ.ñ
HowToChallenjour she does have them Gollum eyes tho
True. Big beautiful eyes! ❤️
2:23 *jazz music stops*
Her ‘ are you kidding’ always kills me
Especially since earlier in the movie he says it to Keith and it’s like she picked it up from him like his mannerisms and she’s learned it from being with him and she just says it like uggghhh
i think he nailed it , and she was caught off guard
It's tough
I really like how Sebastian has now put the jazz in the background, the same thing he complained abt earlier in The film, showing how he’s changed from the beginning
And that’s exactly what Mia’s pointing out. I don’t get why people seem to be against her in this scene. She doesn’t want him to betray his own values for the sake of practicality; she’s holding onto idealism and expressing her faith in him that he can achieve his dream. And ultimately she’s proven right when he realizes he is indeed unhappy with the band, quits, and opens his dream club.
2:40 wow. Intense mic drop. Everytime he says this line, someone in the audience says, “oooooooooo”
yeah see is kind of a selfish jerk
that person was me loll
@agenttheater5 .. nah
I just made the connection between Gosling's "it's conflict and it's compromise and it's very very exciting" speech about jazz to their actual relationship. Interesting that the jazz music ends right as the exciting "conflict and compromise of the scene does. Between that, the long stretches of silence, and the slower editing, the moment suddenly feels so fragile and painful. And then the beeping comes in and we switch from a stable camera to handheld. God, this is such a well-crafted scene.
The acting is beyond amazing in this scene - almost makes you feel uncomfortable. Emma Stone’s facial expressions are so real
They both did an amazing job in this scene. Made me VERY uncomfortable (of course that's what they were going for).
i like the detail of him saying its "the dream" to be in his position but not his dream
“ and people love what other people are passionate about”
This is an action of torturing myself because it's so painful to watch it
2:23 - 2:27 good expressions that earned her the Oscars
Fareed Firthouse i think it wasn’t this scene that made her earned the Oscars
@indrawibhi6218 then what was it
@danielwatson743 the part where seb visited her home in front of the library, not sure tho
The scene that won her the Oscar was her audition
“I do like jazz now because of you” 💔
Still say the problem with their relationship was that she always expected too much from other people, and that he always had a tendency to take his personal problems out on everyone around him.
Are her eyes about 50% larger than most people's? She is so lovely in this movie it is almost like she is from another planet.
"Lovely" A word that you do not often hear. Maybe that is why it sounds perfect here.
I think so. I see some people with eyes this big. They're quite blessed 😊
She's an astonishing actress
Beautiful movie. Made me reconsider my life.
I'd love to know how's your life going now, hope it's great ❤ I want to be hopeful
@priscilapenzo2434 hey! I think I'm doing good. Made the decision to start a Master on political science and now i'm writing My thesis. It was my dream then but now I have other dreams. So maybe my perspective on the film changed quite a bit. There are more important things than individual dreams which can be quite fleeting. The here and now of the people that surround You.
I guess it hits us differently according to the stage of life we are navigating. Thanks for sharing ✨
@priscilapenzo2434 i think you're a really nice person for checking on him like this. It's heartwarming to see comments like these :))
God I love this scene way too much, it's so real
When the smoke alarm was set off I thought it was the alarm in my apartment and I started panicking ohmygod
this scene is so similar to that one scene from 'blue valentine' which also stars ryan gosling - the couple having a conversation about dreams and purpose in life during dinner and in both scenes ryan's character says the line 'this is the dream'; i've always loved that little parallel in the gosling cinematic universe
Blue Valentine was wonderful. Thank you for reminding me of that beautiful film.
@John-dw6ruhella depressing tho
@mast3rchief536 Yes.
2:20 the instant silence hit hard.
No matter how many times I watch this clip, every time the smoke alarm goes off I think my alarm is going off.
Ha ha! Same!😂
The things we say to hurt each other when we are hurt.
2:40 There are 9999 things you could have said in this situation and I don’t think this is it chief
Haha so true. I think every guy at some point has said the absolute worst possible thing to a girl at the worst possible time and not apologized and ended up completely regretting it
bro there probably is even much more things to say than that which is even sadder
And he was right 100%
@wiseauserious8750been there, it’s self sabotaging. Something intoxicating about letting yourself down, like you ain’t in control of much but you can control how it ends. You don’t have a reason but you can give her a reason. Then you regret it later.
The way she says: so change the name
Such a great actress!
She sounds emotional
2:40 guilty of saying this. Damn! this is so real.
What did he say, I couldn't get it?
@Riuytfhjklf4634 me neither
@Riuytfhjklf4634 he thought that she only liked him when he was poor because it made her feel good about herself, which is a hurtful thing to say when she was obviously only trying to help him achieve his dream by reminding him of it
The most guilty thing I ever said to a woman was, "You have to make a choice. It is going to be me. Or it is going to be him". I have learned the hard way, as a man, to not ever give a woman, an ultimatum. Since she knew the other man a lot longer then I did, she choose him. I have to deal with that emotional consequence, the rest of my life.
@two-handpianist4517 it hurts too because she also admires him for pursuing his dream and encouraging her to do the same. She could try herself because she felt his support and helped her so much and wanted to do the same for him and remind him of what's important. It was ao sad when he said that, but I guess sometimes whe say things like that.
2:25 that moment when...
Masterpiece in every regard
Woah, I seriously thought my smoke alarm was going off.
This is my life...and it constantly repeats like a circle...I am just happy for Emma in real life she made it
Did you made it?nevertheless you tried
@2:42 the line just speaks more truth which mia never accepted but was experiencing
La La Land is my most favourite n beautiful movie.
This scene
Me : Imma pass out
2:41 The Bomb Dropped:
Smoke alarms too real. I looked around, thinking what the heck no one’s even cooking!
Ah, damn. Looks like the relationship is burnt.
“Do you like the music you’re playing?” She really shows how much she loves him here. She can’t bear the thought that he’s running away from what he’s passionate about and resigning himself to a lifetime of doing something he doesn’t truly enjoy. It’s because she points this out that he realizes he’s on the verge of essentially betraying himself and thus he quits the band and pursues his true desires. And later, he does the same thing for her when he talks her into attending the audition that begins her career. They only want the best for each other. ❤
I LOVE EMMA STONE SOO MUCH LOVE❤️
ryan gosling the best
I'll never get enough of this movie
The thing burning on the end...it's their relationship
All of this could've been avoided if Mia had her phone call in another room 😪
I was 12 when this film came out.... Now I get it.
@madidasmr
Edi wow Ikaw na, bilat ☺️
Unfortunately, I don't play videogames 😔
Bruh me too, i thought it was a dumb romance movie, i like it now
I WAS CRYING SO HARD I CANT
I mean, y can’t he work in this band for a couple years then start the club lol
Dream can be fulfilled in the future if you have enough money, but without money dream will be dream! She should have stayed with him and support him instead of fighting.
You at least have a steady job boy, I have been unemployed for more than 6 months now
Ya like jazz
Lesson: You never make the correct decisions while arguing, so make sure to step back because most of the times the other person isn't wrong, they just have their perspective that you can't see right then.😢
My precious!
at 2:21 the music stops when seb yells at Mia but at 3:06 it's shown that the music is still playing, i find the detail absolutely incredible
no it reached the end of the disk so it’s not playing.
@WooYuu okaaay thanks
@marinaoikawa I mean it still proves your point! It was incredible detail. If you think about it, it also means that their relationship comes to an end when he yelled at her.
@WooYuu exactly !
I thought this was fully musical, and I'm glad I know its not
Didn't even have to be a musical at all to be honest.
0:35 I like that Mia likes the music but that it doesn't matter because what is only important to Mia is that Seb pursue his dream, whatever that music is and with whoever bandmate Seb wants to pursue it with, whether Mia likes the music itself or not.
Agreed. “I do; I just didn’t think that you did.” His preference matters more than hers, because it’s his future they’re talking about. That’s a great sign that she truly loves him.
2:21 that silence after this💔
this scene will always haunt me
1:20
Sadly this scene was exactly what me and my ex went through but unfortunately he’s more happy now and I’m miserable not because we’re not together but because he left for himself
I love the camera work here, how it goes from being steady to being a bit unstable and shaky. It really reflects their relationship
I am feeling daffodils
The interesting thing, Ryan had almost the same conversation in Blue valentine but there the issue was he had no ambition but talent. Now he is on a way definitely but girlfriend thinks he does not follow his dreams.
I don't know these conversations about the careers are so hard to touch, especially in a relationship.
Watched that movie a few weeks ago it was hard to see him like that
Maybe one day...
come on our shirt costs f
So money do works. Relationship struggle with money will never work out
i want to fight now
I love you baby love your acting 😍😍♥️♥️
Well look down if you don't look up to her
2:02 2:02
2:02 2:02
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This is so influenced by Blue Valentine
I said we will boh work
This movie is so underrated. I know there was the whole thing of moonlight not getting an oscar due to racism but La La Land definitely deserved one too.
THG _ la la land got one. For Emma’s work
THG _ also for director, music, production design, and cinematography
Was definitely a victim of woke Hollywood. This movie is a masterpiece.
yeah yeah this is 3 years later but how is la la land "underated"
@chaupham7954 I think it's underrated. If you can make a film and get a bunch of people who thought they didn't like musicals to not only enjoy a musical but also list it as one of their favorite films, its definitely underrated. Its hard to make a film that IMDB rates 8.0 or higher, and this one sits right at an 8.0 which I still think is lower than it should be as again there wasn't a huge demand for live action musicals back in 2016 as coincidently kind of like the movie says about jazz, it had its time but its over now. Picking an unpopular genre and making a historical cinematic masterpiece is no easy feat.
2:05 2:05
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😢
I still cant tell whos in the wrong in this scene.
The conflict portrayed in this movie scene is what some couples go through oftentimes.
My own family have gone through these conflicts. Me, I am just struggling bro. I have a girlfriend that wants me to be successful. Hake, I have had a few girlfriends to where "it has been should have, could have, would have."
Sometimes, the relationship just does not work out, and it is just to where "we could have tried more." It depends on the two bro. This movie scene reminds me of "should have, could have, would have."
I think he ment to say and wanted to say I'm doing this for us cause you make me happy
See, here's the thing. My dad is a lifelong jazz enthusiast, and he told me the story about Charlie Parker and the 'yardbird' long before this movie was even released so I got the reference but he and I both got what was wrong about calling a jazz-club 'Chicken on a Stick' (not so much that not that many people may get the reference to Charlie Parker, but that it sounds stupid and not even faintly jazz-like, he's making it sound like liking chicken is what's most memorable about Parker, and verges on building on the stereotype that all African-Americans ie the people who created all true forms of jazz, blues, and soul like chicken). He and I both love learning and then teaching other people about jazz but when someone says 'I don't like jazz' to us we'd rather ask 'Well what do you mean by jazz, there's lots of different forms of it?' rather than force them to go to a club. My dad is a music snob - the whole family are music snobs - but he can appreciate other good music styles and knows that there's other good music in the world, and despite his faults (which he has just like everyone else), he doesn't act like music is the only decent job in the world, doesn't take his problems out on everyone else, and is no-where near as much of an arrogant jerk as Seb is.
I don't like jazz either.
@scottslotterbeck3796 and that's your right - don't worry I won't force you to listen to any :)
I don’t think Sebastian’s a jerk, he just said the wrong thing
2:20 did anyone else feel that
Never knew about this movie until today, and I never knew how much I needed it until now.
I really love how wistful and light the songs are, too. Yeah, I love full-throated, all-out, energetic Broadway tunes, but these soft songs grab me in a different way.
And now I know that Ryan Gosling’s singing ins so much more than just Barbie.
He is totally in the wrong in this scene. Just an absolute jerk 😭
Agreed. I think it’s because he knows she’s right and he’s angry at himself for not following his dream anymore. He projects that anger onto her, which is never a good thing to do.
This scene was done in Friends tv series between Ross and Rachel just before their break up.
That’s not the impression I got
Can someone tell me what tf is Sebastian saying in the beginning?Please?
Just stuttering
Quoikoubakakakakakakakaka
Her eyes tho 🙄
❤
what does that line mean??? you're an actress what are you talking about??? why did that make Emma stop saying what she was trying to say??? what happened
It was a dejection of her character. He was saying she never understood him from the beginning because he is the contrarian and she’s just pretending to be like him. Because she’s an actress she inherently needs the approval of other people. That was the insult. That she’s not above demeaning herself for acceptance, and she has no right to point it out in his character
you shouldnt have done that
💯😎
This movie is so American. People elsewhere simply don't gaf about dreams.
Everyone has dreams
Sorry to spoil it people, but it's pretty obvious that's the truth... 2:40
This is a great scene. I hate it… 😔
Young people are so shortsighted. The obvious solution is to stay in the band for a few years and build brand name recognition and credibility, and use that to raise money to open your club. People may not come to see some random guy's club , but they'll go if you're a well known musician 😔
He was probably feeling too discouraged to think about all that
This is such a dumb argument. He needs to tour with the band for a couple years, build money to safely open his club without going bankrupt and having to live gig to gig. Such an easy decision honestly. Ride it out a few years then open your club. He’d be happier long term.
Yeah, he could have explained that or she could have understood that without him explaining it. It seemed like a fight about the time of commitment it was going to be.
To be real, most arguments are dumb. It's the moment's heat and madness.
That's why I don't want to like this movie but I do. It's too real. I know 90% of the arguments I've experienced in a relationship are like this. To an outsider totally stupid.
Indeed.
While this may be how we think about it, he wasn't thinking about it like that which is why he couldn't even articulate such reasoning.
This was definitely the "Best Picture." They had it right when they had it wrong. And got it wrong when they got it right. Quick: What was the name of the other movie? I rest my case.
You .ade this G and g club iam so mad with you