Quan is that straightforward teacher,and rissa spice it up with self explanatory knowledge ❤️...... I'm definitely influenced by your relationship,it is definitely a good one i can look up to❤️❤️❤️
I'm 37 and I honesty don't subscribe alot of younger RUclipsrs but since day one I adored you guys seeing your journey has been so motivational your positivity and luv is admirable and that is something that is missing in todays time so I'm a supporter for life keep pushing king n queen ❤❤❤
My exact sentiments. The irony is they kept popping up on my facebook page. Of course, I was like " a grown woman like me" So I caught covid and was in isolation. From here I got hooked and have watched several of their videos. I just want them to be real and authentic. Just who they are. Routing for them till death do them part.
Just ended a 5yr relationship and I'm not ok. I'm so hurt and I blame myself for seeing all these red flags and still stayed this long. I hate myself for that..😑
Don’t be so hard on yourself, it’s life things happen. My best advice would be to journal, meditate, and do activities that include healing. Learn a new skills, it’s okay to grief the breakup. There are different stages of grief, but I am telling you and promising you that you will get through. You are a strong and resilient person. You got this sis.
Quan eyes light up when Rissa speaks on how special their relationship and about being soulmates. He too needs reassurance 🥺 I think that’s what most relationships need to feed each other positive words of love and encouragement ❤ as if it were their last day of life. Daily routine and worries can certainly stump the growth of marriages if they don’t take the time to stop and intentionally work on always keeping a strong bond. You two are wise beyond your years and have something very rare. I pray your relationship perseveres and overcomes always 🙏🏻 😍
"If a man cheats on you he was never that into you,he doesn't respect you and that's what he always wanted to do". Yall so real and candid and that's something i'll never stop appreciating bout you guys.👏
Love this video. A lot of people think marriage is just a piece of paper. So is money but we work hard for it. People need to work just as hard for their marriage and value it much much more. I’ve been married coming up on 15 years and is work and requires both to put in 120%.
I love y’all’s perspective on things. And how you stay respectful with your opinions and still recognize each others opinions and your supporters. Definitely the most versatile channel and that’s why I love y’all so much and will continue to watch. ❤️
For some reason, I believe that if you are in a relationship and you know you aren’t cheating or anything and you don’t want to be posting all details of your relationship online, it’s okay. Because social media tend to ruin alot of things and people’s comments and opinions get too much. So if you want that private, I don’t see why that’s a bad thing. Posting your outfit online is way different. Cuz who cares if someone doesn’t like your shirt or something. Love you guys!! 🤍
Love this video Soo much ❤ Marriage is something that people violate and is highly taken advantage of instead of it having a sacred meaning as it should people use it more to prove they are committed to prove a point than its sacred meaning.. ❤
Exactly. People don’t take the institution of marriage seriously and its sacredness of importance since they act and live like they are married when they are not.
People just really need to use their heads and realize everything happens for a reason and if someone is proving who they are with their actions don't believe everything they say. It just takes a little bit of common sense.
I love this video. Quan your correct because this generation is sick for real. The way how the guys talk about girl is a true fact on a day to day basis. And I glad you can talk and uplift the young boys of today. Love you guys ❤
When it comes down to your relationship…do what works for you guys! So many people will project a narrative on your relationship based on their personal experiences and that’s not cool. Everyone and every relationship is different. To each it’s own.
I think in the real world most women are simpler but social media and these high profile relationships makes it seem like vacation time and date nights is the wave (which i definitely won't mind). But when life is lifing ppl really have to monitor how they spend, what they spend. Ijs
In my opinion: 1) We build men more, because we "carry" more of the responsibilities in life(housework, children, bills etc). When men see women(in the relationship) all put together and responsible, that "hopefully" will have them follow suit, and get THEIR life together as well. 2) Women's "minds" mature faster and wiser(not to say men's do not). 3) But I also agree with you Quan. Every relationship dynamic is different. This question is for Quan(a follow-up question) from the second question: WHY, do you THINK women need more "love" and "affection" (hint: its somewhere in my comment Or you can just stick with your answer)? P.S. Great question's everyone, and I love how you(Riss and Quan) answered them☺☺
These were some very well explained answers! Y’all are so wise and I love how you guys compliment each other! Keep going y’all are destined for greatness!!!❤❤❤❤
9:36 I absolutely agree that couples don’t have to post each other on social media, whether they’re on it or not. I have a cousin in a happy 20 yr marriage and they don’t post their spouse. The spouse isn’t on social media anyway, but if they were, we all have a right to choose what to share and not to share. If your partner doesn’t care if u post them or not, that’s fine. Some people r just private that way.
I am a young lady and I am learning a lot from you so you guys are really motivating us a lot as a youth showing us what is true love. Thank you very much Rissa and Quan ❤️
I love this sit down so much! Thanks for being so open and honest! 💕 Marriage is one the most important decisions in your life you’d make! Not just a piece of paper. If you are already committed to a person, what’s really stopping you from marrying them?! Show your love by making that commitment! Marriage is a beautiful thing! Going on 5 years of marriage. Being scared is ok, but you’d be so much happier doing the right thing!! I love you guys, Riss & Quan!!
Your comment is for that want to be married. Every word has a meaning. But make sure marriage is something u want. People get married for the wrong reasons sometimes.
This was good! It helps people to see that you don't HAVE to agree on everything with your partner and also that everyone's dynamic of a real and marriage is different...Relationships now are definitely built different because people get in them for the wrong reasons...Once a cheater is not always a cheater because people do grow up but I probably will still leave them lol...people do have more than one soulmate because soulmates can be friends etc however we only have ONE tru love/twin flame...Searching phones isn't crazy because it helps reassure the partner.....I pray everyone experiences HEALTHY LOVE at least once in their lifetime ❤
EVERYTHING yall said was spot on. Thank you for actually standing up for Biblical principles and being a voice in this fallen world. The world needs more of you.
Thank you guys You just opened my eyes ❤❤ I have condoned cheating so many times and I always thought it was just men's thing But after what Quan explained I know better now and I will fix my life 👏👏💙
A house hold to me, don’t need a man and woman. I’m a single mom to a 2 year old, my baby father left me when I was 6 months pregnant and never made contact with us again. I have my house, I pay my bills, I work and take care of my son all on my own. Like Quan said a lot of women nowadays have bossed up.
I've definitely learned a lot from the beginning watching you guys!! U are definitely a strong, loving power black couple. I always respect your honesty on everything u do together as a couple ❤😊 always so real n raw with your answers. Relationships these days can really be a challenge, but it's always good to have a positive outlook on everything. I love Q n A it's always good to hear #Riss Quan options which is always good . Love you guys. ❤❤❤😊😊😊
Quan u said something that opened my eyes the men that cheat are just not into their woman. I never thought about that before, that makes so much sense.
I’ve been a single mother since the time my kids were born and although I have struggles, I always make it work. I’m proud of my boys and the men they have become.
I feel in a relationship if u feel the need to cheat. Then u shouldn’t be together. Now ppl do change but me personally it will be some trust issues. For me so I’m definitely moving on with my life. Its just no cutting corners around it. Definitely know your worth. Y’all always keep it real. Loved how y’all answered the questions.❤️
The piece of paper is not the marriage certificate is for the legality. The marriage is the commitment. between the two people involved in the relationship. Your marriage is what works for you as a couple because in your home you know what works best. For instance, if the wife is better at managing the finances then that is who she should do so because this is what works best for your household. I feel that outsiders should have a limited amount of in road into a couple's it cuts down on confusion and disruption. Marriage and living together are two different things and because you love each other anymore or less but sometimes see living together as an opportunity to jump in and out of a relationship at will, I have seen this happen. What I like about you guys is your love and commitment to each other and your children. I hope you all set your wedding date soon. I am a product of 2 parent home where my parents were not married my entire life, and I was mistakenly given my mother's last name and not my dad. I remember having friends where everyone in the house had the same last name but I felt uncomfortable at times but my dad never made any difference with me and my sisters. I just say do not wait to long because you have very smart little boy who will begin to ask questions once he starts going to school around other children. However, I think you guys are terrific with your beautiful babies of yours and really enjoy watching all of you on youtube.
I love how yall addressed the "every man cheats" question!!! the only reason people believe that is because it is so normalized in today's society that it is used as a manipulation tactic and 9 times outta 10 thrown back on the other person for what they weren't doing in the relationship. at the end of the day.. IT ISNT HARD TO NOT CHEAT!! and it goes both ways for men and women. if you love someone you wouldn't even think to cheat on them, even at your lowest point. its definitely a societal issue the way the media portrays that sneaky cheating lifestyle but seriously if you have thoughts of being unfaithful to your partner just don't be with them or communicate your relationship issues with them. relationships aren't easy. they require a lot of love, loyalty, forgiveness, patience, and growth as an individual and a couple but once you find that right person its sooo worth it!
You guy's did awesome with answering the Relationship questions! And being honest and real about your own relationship. Y'all are rocking out already for 2024.❤❤❤❤
25:34 Marriage is more than "just" a piece of paper. Even if you just consider the legal part of it, when you marry, your spouse has sooooo many legal rights that your girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't, which could be good or bad, depending on your situation.
Rissa & Quan you guys are totally 💯% correct with your answers people do not value relationships or marriages like they did years ago. I would have been going on 34th yrs this June but unfortunately I lost my husband on year 27th. If you guys stay with that mindset, keep God first in all you do, you will definitely have a healthy and stable marriage. My favorite you tuber. 🙏🏾🥰
23:09 it's sad to see like, I'm a young adult and I'd say I'm learning things but I've noticed that my thinking is not the same as most of this generation's thinking. Like I used to say to most of my friends is that I would've loved being around the 80s or 90s because that's where everything was genuine whether it be friends, partners or anything and right now my mindset believes in that you know but this generation has shifted that to the point that for me I believe there is no hope for True Love because of how this generation acts and also how people are being treated whether it be the women or men. So you could say I'm from this generation but my mindset is of someone from the generation before this one. And also watching you guys has made me better as a person, now I know how to treat my significant other(if I'll have one) and Y'alls maturity has made me more mature. You're a really good example to anyone for real.
I love when yall do these little discussion videos and when yall do them in this room it reminds me of the old apartment guest room lol. But I definitely agree with alot of the things yall were saying relationships are literally crap these days because ppl think it’s supposed to be what they see on social media no body cares about putting in the work. So please stay together forever because the dating pool has pee in it 😂🤣 you will not love here
FIRST QUESTION: you have to give that to Rissa! Men need the uplifting and motivation of their women in every aspect. No relationship can survive without it! Men require a reason, a desire, consistently there and in some cases, grow, for their attention to be with her and stay with her! But it must be together. It can't be one sided. #TeamRissa
I agreed with most of these points i was with my kids father since we were in highschool almost 12 years now and let’s just say i could write a book its true what they say sometimes love is truly blind i learned and lived and got past it now i can expect better for myself and my children. Sometimes true heartbreak will get you to a better point of life to know you deserve nothing but the best ❤
I’m so glad I heard the comment every man cheats because in reality not every man cheats. If he was really into you he would remain faithful and keep the spark alive. But I agree with this statement wholeheartedly. I don’t accept cheating in a relationship
Love your maturity, growth and love you guys have accomplished. I've been following you for awhile and I feel so proud to know that there is still some God fearing and good young people still!!! Our future everything... Love you and may God's continuous blessings flow on y'all and your family 🥰
Respectfully, I think you need to revisit the bible on what God fearing means. Living outside Gods will for us aka having children before marriage and living as if you’re someone’s spouse when you’re not is sin.
If the partner doesn't want to be posted, the other partner should not post them. Some partners have high profile jobs that do not allow or condone posting on social media. It's not always about not wanting to claim the other.
0:38 - a woman builds a man in a relationship more than he builds her 2:37 - relationships only work if the man is more into the woman 4:30 - relationships hinder you from growing 6:00 - every man cheats 8:02 - woman can’t be the head of household and carry the financial weight 9:35 - couples don’t need to post with each other on social media 11:03 - gifts are returnable after the breakup 11:55 - you can have more than one soulmate 12:53 - it’s not crazy to go through your partner’s phone 15:24 - if he cheats he’ll do it again 17:55 - most people aren’t in love , they just don’t want to be alone 19:00 - your spouse comes before everyone else 21:01 - relationships are based on what’s seen on social media 24:21 - finding other people attractive while in a relationship is completely normal 25:09 - marriage is just a piece of paper
Marriage is a commitment, depending on how u want to get Married tho, u can't go for ur marriage to be blessed in church or by God n just can't say it's a piece of paper. To each their own tho🙌🏾
One of the realest and down to earth couples, have followed you way back before even shine was here, can't believe my son and Savior were supposed to share the same birthday but he decided to come on the first, love you guys, it's been such a long lovely journey ❤
I love how rissa and quan always give us that round table talk and always make us have an opinion.. at one point I did believe in keep your relationship’s private growing up I see ppl relationship get destroyed cause they post to much of it .. meaning like a person know that’s your partner and try to get with them just to jeopardize what y’all have going on ,or ppl see the bad in the relationship and be in your ears to leave the person..etc I remember a friend of mine he post he’s girl on WhatsApp but it was only her that could she that post ..it’s funny and sad at the sometime..
I would agree with Quan. My man has built me up way more than I’ve built him. I mean, in many ways - I did built him up and help him grow, as well. But, I think he was way more mature and grounded than me. And, he brought me back to God - which changed my life completely for the better.
What a great video! I agreed and disagreed with some of these. I like that y’all are doing these types of videos because in answering the questions y’all are also learning about one another. ❤❤❤
The both of you left no crumbs in this video!!!! I 100% agree with the majority of your answers. Quan's explanation regarding the "Every man cheats" statement was so spot on and actually gave me a new perspective: If a man can be loyal to his boys, he can be loyal to you the same way if he WANTS to. Heavy on the want!! I agree with Rissa that if a guy cheats and he is still accepted for it, he will only continue to do so. When a guy faces little to no consequences for his actions, it doesn't prompt them to change. Now they just know what they can get away with. So LADIES, love yourselves first. I didn't want to believe it when I was younger, but the saying is true, if he really does love you, he would not cheat. No if, ands, or buts about it. Rissa and Quan, you dropped gems all throughout this video. Such wise, well-spoken, open minded answers. You are both completely different from what is normally promoted on social media. We get to see the luxuries of hard work and success, but also the realness and genuine love. We often are not accustomed to both online. Thank you both for setting an example and being an inspiration.
You have to work on stop being so 1 sided because guys are not always in the wrong. Ladies need to hold other ladies accountable also. You can't just blame men 24/7. Accountabilty goes both ways. Weren't you taught that?
@@mrbrave29 Man you do not even know me. Who are you to tell me to stop being so one sided? You took time out of your day to read my WHOLE positive comment, just to nitpick what I said and place false judgement? That tells me that YOU need to work on minding your own business and practice more positivity. Or just go get a life. No one is trying to villainize men. Nor did I ever say women don’t cheat. Statistically, men cheat more. So, don’t place words in my mouth. Don’t place characteristics on me that do not suit me based of your own perception of my comment, and lastly, save your think piece for someone else.
@alexisdawn124 I think both genders cheat equally, but men get caught more. Women are much smarter at cheating than men. The media tries to paint it 1 way.
Quan I have to agree with you about people being in a relationship just to be in one. I know someone who cannot be alone and when they end a relationship, they right away get into another one, just so they won’t be alone.
Rissa I agree with you that you only have one soul mate. I haven’t found mine yet, but I am so happy that you found yours. The love you have for one another is so special and one many wish they had.
I gotta agree w Quan on the first question. These days women aren’t looking to build up or even build with a man. They looking for a trick that’ll pay all the bills and let them do whatever etc.
The meaning of marriage is the commitment and vow people make to each other and the ceremony celebrating that not what the state of New York or California considers a legitimate marriage on a piece of paper
Bein in a toxic relationship is draining and you can lose focus it has happened to me i was in a toxic relationship with my ex for a year and a half and it was really bad . i lost myself, let alone lost focus on what was important and i noticed it for a long time and decided to break things off with him . i felt like it was just better that way cause i felt like i was tearing myself down cause i felt stuck half of time of the time it was not easy cause he was always coming and try to get me back . now that i am single i got my focus back and i felt relieved bc i didn’t feel stuck in a dark place anymore maybe we just wasn’t meant to be . but watching you guys , you guys always just put positivity out there and that’s good cause this generation it’s unhealthy
I like how even though u guys are in a healthy relationship, u guys look at the questions openly instead as from a place of defense and like "well this doesn't happen in our relationship." It feels like we're getting good advice from yall
Love the spouse over everyone question. I am struggling with that right now, having 2 young girls. Once the children are grown and starting their adult lives and families. It all comes back full circle to you and your spouse. I need to preach this to myself more. It is so hard not to focus all your energy on your children. ❤ It will go back to just the spouses together when the kids move out. It's so crazy to think about. ❤ Love you both and your adorable boys.
Your Q&As are always very informative, giving honest 'real life' answers instead of glossing over detailed responses. It's so refreshing listening to your responses amd your understanding of life's responsibilities; you're both mature beyond your ages and good examples to ALL age groups, myself included. Thank you. ❤❤
Cheating goes both ways. Most of those comnents from those girls were based on their personal experiences. Many men have also been cheated on. Difference is men do go online as much to talk about their experiences.
I loved this video! This was very insightful. Rissa and Quan I definitely appreciate you both and all the knowledge and wisdom you both have. Definitely learned a lot from the video. Love y’all!💜
Marriage is honored by God. Living together outside of married, even if you are fully committed, isn't honored by God. I agree marriage is work and both people have to work on yourselves individually and collectively and stay in there no matter what. Rissa and Quan, I love how you explained your answers. I do believe that a person could cheat, realize that they were wrong, and not do it again. It could have been a oops moment. I feel like women love harder than men and for men, that woman that he chooses has qualities that he can't live without. Finally, women can run and are running a household without men and have done it for hundreds of years. I have done it, with God’s help and my mother's help. It is supposed to be and is very helpful to have a 2-parent household, but it's not always the case. So, I disagree that women can't hold down a household without a man. It's a struggle but it can happen.
That “men always cheat” statement stay pissin me off cause every man isn’t a cheater yea a lot of men do but not every man on the planet does that’s impossible..and to the gift thing it is wrong to ask for it back but if the person that received it wants to give it back for that extra closure then that’s different..and word to the searching the significant others phone if you sense something wrong is I absolutely agree with it has gotten me out of my marriage after 4 years cause I finally grew a pair and searched her phone smh..much love guys love these videos
If Rissa & Quan or Juju and Des ever broke up. The world would be ending. Their love for each other are goals and if they don't even make it through their marriage then IDK who can anymore. Protect this couple at all cost! ❤
Loved this video! You both are so wise beyond your years. I’m glad that you both share your opinions without judgement of others. Great video Rissa and Quan! Low yall❤ #teamrissandquanforever🥰❤️
Definitely your spouse before your kids, but it does not mean you love them any less. Only reason I feel like that is because you as a couple lead by example for your kids. To me it actually means that you love your kids enough to make sure the heads of the household are always solid & building a foundation that they can truly rely on. If you & your spouse aren’t right, that’s how families become broken, or separated. As you grow as ONE together, then it’ll leave you in a space to love on your kids much more, and everyone else as well.
Spouse comes before kids because in the future kids will be grown and on there own. They have to see 2 parents loving each other putting each other first in order to know & see a healthy relationship. God, spouse, kids & then your parents!
I love y'all relationship Rissa and Quan. I've been watching you guys for a long time and I learned a lot from you. I'm a lot older than you but Quan be on point about how to treat your woman. I love y'all family shine and savior is the cutest baby boys. I love your content I really enjoy it. Whenever that time comes I can't wait until Rissa have a baby girl. I just can't wait for everything comes together for the wedding and all other things. Keep up the good work can't wait until the next video love you guys 😊❤
I have to agree with Rissa on this one. Majority of the time, when women cheat it’s more often because she is not happy in the relationship, the guy is not tending to her needs or whatever have it be and it’s more based off of her emotions so, you are more likely to see men cheat more often and repeat it because there is no emotional connection to his cheating.
24:48 someone can look attractive to you but its a difference between looking attractive to you and you having a attraction to them...its a huge difference
Quan is that straightforward teacher,and rissa spice it up with self explanatory knowledge ❤️...... I'm definitely influenced by your relationship,it is definitely a good one i can look up to❤️❤️❤️
More like talk to much. She listens to respond..
@@lakeeshag1889You're entitled to your opinion.
I'm 37 and I honesty don't subscribe alot of younger RUclipsrs but since day one I adored you guys seeing your journey has been so motivational your positivity and luv is admirable and that is something that is missing in todays time so I'm a supporter for life keep pushing king n queen ❤❤❤
Honestly these are my sentiments exactly and Ì could be their mom I am 50 years old ❤❤
My exact sentiments. The irony is they kept popping up on my facebook page. Of course, I was like " a grown woman like me" So I caught covid and was in isolation. From here I got hooked and have watched several of their videos. I just want them to be real and authentic. Just who they are. Routing for them till death do them part.
Just ended a 5yr relationship and I'm not ok. I'm so hurt and I blame myself for seeing all these red flags and still stayed this long. I hate myself for that..😑
You and me both sis
Don’t hate yourself, if you seen “red flags” & still stayed that means you loved that person. Forgive yourself & move forward.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, it’s life things happen. My best advice would be to journal, meditate, and do activities that include healing. Learn a new skills, it’s okay to grief the breakup. There are different stages of grief, but I am telling you and promising you that you will get through. You are a strong and resilient person. You got this sis.
@@flojay4385we'll get through this love❤
@@aleesharenea1334have you recovered?
Aw the way they looked at each other when talking about soulmates!! Why am I tearing up rn 🥺🥰❤️ #teamrissandquan
Quan eyes light up when Rissa speaks on how special their relationship and about being soulmates. He too needs reassurance 🥺
I think that’s what most relationships need to feed each other positive words of love and encouragement ❤ as if it were their last day of life.
Daily routine and worries can certainly stump the growth of marriages if they don’t take the time to stop and intentionally work on always keeping a strong bond. You two are wise beyond your years and have something very rare. I pray your relationship perseveres and overcomes always 🙏🏻 😍
"If a man cheats on you he was never that into you,he doesn't respect you and that's what he always wanted to do". Yall so real and candid and that's something i'll never stop appreciating bout you guys.👏
That goes vice versa as well.
@@mrbrave29obviously lmao
Love this video. A lot of people think marriage is just a piece of paper. So is money but we work hard for it. People need to work just as hard for their marriage and value it much much more. I’ve been married coming up on 15 years and is work and requires both to put in 120%.
I have been married for 15 years and 24 years together with my husband
Great point!
YES MA'AM
When Quan said Men just don’t love women anymore !! So true
I feel like pettiness and greed is what cause cheating both for man and woman
I love y’all’s perspective on things. And how you stay respectful with your opinions and still recognize each others opinions and your supporters.
Definitely the most versatile channel and that’s why I love y’all so much and will continue to watch. ❤️
For some reason, I believe that if you are in a relationship and you know you aren’t cheating or anything and you don’t want to be posting all details of your relationship online, it’s okay. Because social media tend to ruin alot of things and people’s comments and opinions get too much. So if you want that private, I don’t see why that’s a bad thing.
Posting your outfit online is way different. Cuz who cares if someone doesn’t like your shirt or something.
Love you guys!! 🤍
You guys are a consistent Unstoppable and Unbreakable family 🙋🏻♂️❤
Love this video Soo much ❤ Marriage is something that people violate and is highly taken advantage of instead of it having a sacred meaning as it should people use it more to prove they are committed to prove a point than its sacred meaning.. ❤
Exactly. People don’t take the institution of marriage seriously and its sacredness of importance since they act and live like they are married when they are not.
People just really need to use their heads and realize everything happens for a reason and if someone is proving who they are with their actions don't believe everything they say. It just takes a little bit of common sense.
I love this video. Quan your correct because this generation is sick for real. The way how the guys talk about girl is a true fact on a day to day basis. And I glad you can talk and uplift the young boys of today. Love you guys ❤
Quan is really spontaneous and also selfless he always make sure his family is well taken care of.
When it comes down to your relationship…do what works for you guys! So many people will project a narrative on your relationship based on their personal experiences and that’s not cool. Everyone and every relationship is different. To each it’s own.
Riss and Quan you made some very excellent points. There has to be Love, mutual respect and compromise for a relationship to work.
I totally Agree! It's the Respect you have for yourself and your partner!
Quan is always realistic when answering questions ❤
I think in the real world most women are simpler but social media and these high profile relationships makes it seem like vacation time and date nights is the wave (which i definitely won't mind). But when life is lifing ppl really have to monitor how they spend, what they spend. Ijs
Video was definitely one of the most authentic I’ve seen in a long time for any couple, and quan keep preaching to the men out here 🙏🏾
Yesss!! So many people need to hear this video!!! Normalizing cheating is happening way too much!
N it really disgusts me tbh😒 you'll hear a very beautiful girl settling for "all men cheat" like common sis you're better n deserve more than that
Y'all really have a healthy and strong relationship. The way that Quan treats Rissa is exactly how I would like my future husband to treat me.
In my opinion:
1) We build men more, because we "carry" more of the responsibilities in life(housework, children, bills etc). When men see women(in the relationship) all put together and responsible, that "hopefully" will have them follow suit, and get THEIR life together as well.
2) Women's "minds" mature faster and wiser(not to say men's do not).
3) But I also agree with you Quan. Every relationship dynamic is different.
This question is for Quan(a follow-up question) from the second question: WHY, do you THINK women need more "love" and "affection" (hint: its somewhere in my comment Or you can just stick with your answer)?
P.S. Great question's everyone, and I love how you(Riss and Quan) answered them☺☺
These were some very well explained answers! Y’all are so wise and I love how you guys compliment each other! Keep going y’all are destined for greatness!!!❤❤❤❤
9:36 I absolutely agree that couples don’t have to post each other on social media, whether they’re on it or not. I have a cousin in a happy 20 yr marriage and they don’t post their spouse. The spouse isn’t on social media anyway, but if they were, we all have a right to choose what to share and not to share. If your partner doesn’t care if u post them or not, that’s fine. Some people r just private that way.
I am a young lady and I am learning a lot from you so you guys are really motivating us a lot as a youth showing us what is true love. Thank you very much Rissa and Quan ❤️
They are not anyone to look up too. They are living in sin and have children out of wedlock just like a majority of people.
Same here I learn a lot from the both of them
I have Never regretted I subscribe to you guys channel years ago 😊❤
I love this sit down so much! Thanks for being so open and honest! 💕 Marriage is one the most important decisions in your life you’d make! Not just a piece of paper. If you are already committed to a person, what’s really stopping you from marrying them?! Show your love by making that commitment! Marriage is a beautiful thing! Going on 5 years of marriage. Being scared is ok, but you’d be so much happier doing the right thing!! I love you guys, Riss & Quan!!
Your comment is for that want to be married. Every word has a meaning. But make sure marriage is something u want. People get married for the wrong reasons sometimes.
This was good! It helps people to see that you don't HAVE to agree on everything with your partner and also that everyone's dynamic of a real and marriage is different...Relationships now are definitely built different because people get in them for the wrong reasons...Once a cheater is not always a cheater because people do grow up but I probably will still leave them lol...people do have more than one soulmate because soulmates can be friends etc however we only have ONE tru love/twin flame...Searching phones isn't crazy because it helps reassure the partner.....I pray everyone experiences HEALTHY LOVE at least once in their lifetime ❤
EVERYTHING yall said was spot on. Thank you for actually standing up for Biblical principles and being a voice in this fallen world. The world needs more of you.
Thank you guys
You just opened my eyes ❤❤
I have condoned cheating so many times and I always thought it was just men's thing
But after what Quan explained
I know better now and I will fix my life 👏👏💙
It was nice to hear from a man and womans perspective ❤
A house hold to me, don’t need a man and woman. I’m a single mom to a 2 year old, my baby father left me when I was 6 months pregnant and never made contact with us again. I have my house, I pay my bills, I work and take care of my son all on my own. Like Quan said a lot of women nowadays have bossed up.
YESS!!
I've definitely learned a lot from the beginning watching you guys!! U are definitely a strong, loving power black couple. I always respect your honesty on everything u do together as a couple ❤😊 always so real n raw with your answers. Relationships these days can really be a challenge, but it's always good to have a positive outlook on everything. I love Q n A it's always good to hear #Riss Quan options which is always good . Love you guys. ❤❤❤😊😊😊
Quan u said something that opened my eyes the men that cheat are just not into their woman. I never thought about that before, that makes so much sense.
Watching Rissa and Quan’s Q&A is always like a lesson.
Love Quan’s reasoning ability for a man💪🏽
Straight facts spoken 💯
I’ve been a single mother since the time my kids were born and although I have struggles, I always make it work. I’m proud of my boys and the men they have become.
I agree with putting your spouse before everyone but your children.
Me too 💯
I'm Glad We Got To Hear These Opinions. These Are Very Valid Points. Relationships Are A Lot Of Work.
This set up brought me back to y’all being back in the apt in the spare room and all those sit down videos done in that room !!! 💚💚
You guy's are very wise for your age I am very proud of you,you are good examples for both young and older couples, great job❤❤
I feel in a relationship if u feel the need to cheat. Then u shouldn’t be together. Now ppl do change but me personally it will be some trust issues. For me so I’m definitely moving on with my life. Its just no cutting corners around it. Definitely know your worth. Y’all always keep it real. Loved how y’all answered the questions.❤️
The piece of paper is not the marriage certificate is for the legality. The marriage is the commitment. between the two people involved in the relationship. Your marriage is what works for you as a couple because in your home you know what works best. For instance, if the wife is better at managing the finances then that is who she should do so because this is what works best for your household. I feel that outsiders should have a limited amount of in road into a couple's it cuts down on confusion and disruption. Marriage and living together are two different things and because you love each other anymore or less but sometimes see living together as an opportunity to jump in and out of a relationship at will, I have seen this happen. What I like about you guys is your love and commitment to each other and your children. I hope you all set your wedding date soon. I am a product of 2 parent home where my parents were not married my entire life, and I was mistakenly given my mother's last name and not my dad. I remember having friends where everyone in the house had the same last name but I felt uncomfortable at times but my dad never made any difference with me and my sisters. I just say do not wait to long because you have very smart little boy who will begin to ask questions once he starts going to school around other children. However, I think you guys are terrific with your beautiful babies of yours and really enjoy watching all of you on youtube.
I love how yall addressed the "every man cheats" question!!! the only reason people believe that is because it is so normalized in today's society that it is used as a manipulation tactic and 9 times outta 10 thrown back on the other person for what they weren't doing in the relationship. at the end of the day.. IT ISNT HARD TO NOT CHEAT!! and it goes both ways for men and women. if you love someone you wouldn't even think to cheat on them, even at your lowest point. its definitely a societal issue the way the media portrays that sneaky cheating lifestyle but seriously if you have thoughts of being unfaithful to your partner just don't be with them or communicate your relationship issues with them. relationships aren't easy. they require a lot of love, loyalty, forgiveness, patience, and growth as an individual and a couple but once you find that right person its sooo worth it!
You guy's did awesome with answering the Relationship questions! And being honest and real about your own relationship. Y'all are rocking out already for 2024.❤❤❤❤
a man that cheats don’t have respect for himself. It starts with the individual ❤
25:34 Marriage is more than "just" a piece of paper. Even if you just consider the legal part of it, when you marry, your spouse has sooooo many legal rights that your girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't, which could be good or bad, depending on your situation.
I love this kind of video when rissa and Quan answer questions about relationships
Rissa & Quan you guys are totally 💯% correct with your answers people do not value relationships or marriages like they did years ago. I would have been going on 34th yrs this June but unfortunately I lost my husband on year 27th. If you guys stay with that mindset, keep God first in all you do, you will definitely have a healthy and stable marriage. My favorite you tuber. 🙏🏾🥰
I think the engagement ring should be returned, if you don’t get married. Every thing else that was given is ok to keep.
Marriage is a commitment of unconditional support with love and respect, definitely not a piece a paper. Go Riss and Quan!!!!!! Y'all got this!!
23:09 it's sad to see like, I'm a young adult and I'd say I'm learning things but I've noticed that my thinking is not the same as most of this generation's thinking. Like I used to say to most of my friends is that I would've loved being around the 80s or 90s because that's where everything was genuine whether it be friends, partners or anything and right now my mindset believes in that you know but this generation has shifted that to the point that for me I believe there is no hope for True Love because of how this generation acts and also how people are being treated whether it be the women or men. So you could say I'm from this generation but my mindset is of someone from the generation before this one. And also watching you guys has made me better as a person, now I know how to treat my significant other(if I'll have one) and Y'alls maturity has made me more mature. You're a really good example to anyone for real.
These sit down videos get more educational every time. Good job ❤
I love when yall do these little discussion videos and when yall do them in this room it reminds me of the old apartment guest room lol. But I definitely agree with alot of the things yall were saying relationships are literally crap these days because ppl think it’s supposed to be what they see on social media no body cares about putting in the work. So please stay together forever because the dating pool has pee in it 😂🤣 you will not love here
FIRST QUESTION: you have to give that to Rissa! Men need the uplifting and motivation of their women in every aspect. No relationship can survive without it! Men require a reason, a desire, consistently there and in some cases, grow, for their attention to be with her and stay with her! But it must be together. It can't be one sided. #TeamRissa
the grey outfits be on point...straight fire,bruh!🔥
I agreed with most of these points i was with my kids father since we were in highschool almost 12 years now and let’s just say i could write a book its true what they say sometimes love is truly blind i learned and lived and got past it now i can expect better for myself and my children. Sometimes true heartbreak will get you to a better point of life to know you deserve nothing but the best ❤
I’m so glad I heard the comment every man cheats because in reality not every man cheats. If he was really into you he would remain faithful and keep the spark alive. But I agree with this statement wholeheartedly. I don’t accept cheating in a relationship
Love your maturity, growth and love you guys have accomplished. I've been following you for awhile and I feel so proud to know that there is still some God fearing and good young people still!!! Our future everything... Love you and may God's continuous blessings flow on y'all and your family 🥰
Respectfully, I think you need to revisit the bible on what God fearing means. Living outside Gods will for us aka having children before marriage and living as if you’re someone’s spouse when you’re not is sin.
If the partner doesn't want to be posted, the other partner should not post them. Some partners have high profile jobs that do not allow or condone posting on social media. It's not always about not wanting to claim the other.
Quan and Rissa's maturity level amazes me love watching their channel ❤❤
0:38 - a woman builds a man in a relationship more than he builds her
2:37 - relationships only work if the man is more into the woman
4:30 - relationships hinder you from growing
6:00 - every man cheats
8:02 - woman can’t be the head of household and carry the financial weight
9:35 - couples don’t need to post with each other on social media
11:03 - gifts are returnable after the breakup
11:55 - you can have more than one soulmate
12:53 - it’s not crazy to go through your partner’s phone
15:24 - if he cheats he’ll do it again
17:55 - most people aren’t in love , they just don’t want to be alone
19:00 - your spouse comes before everyone else
21:01 - relationships are based on what’s seen on social media
24:21 - finding other people attractive while in a relationship is completely normal
25:09 - marriage is just a piece of paper
i was looking for thissss😂
Marriage is a commitment, depending on how u want to get Married tho, u can't go for ur marriage to be blessed in church or by God n just can't say it's a piece of paper. To each their own tho🙌🏾
Clearly many of those girls had their heart broken by men. Demonizing all guys is what they do online all day.
One of the realest and down to earth couples, have followed you way back before even shine was here, can't believe my son and Savior were supposed to share the same birthday but he decided to come on the first, love you guys, it's been such a long lovely journey ❤
I love how rissa and quan always give us that round table talk and always make us have an opinion.. at one point I did believe in keep your relationship’s private growing up I see ppl relationship get destroyed cause they post to much of it .. meaning like a person know that’s your partner and try to get with them just to jeopardize what y’all have going on ,or ppl see the bad in the relationship and be in your ears to leave the person..etc I remember a friend of mine he post he’s girl on WhatsApp but it was only her that could she that post ..it’s funny and sad at the sometime..
I would agree with Quan. My man has built me up way more than I’ve built him. I mean, in many ways - I did built him up and help him grow, as well. But, I think he was way more mature and grounded than me. And, he brought me back to God - which changed my life completely for the better.
What a great video! I agreed and disagreed with some of these. I like that y’all are doing these types of videos because in answering the questions y’all are also learning about one another. ❤❤❤
Seeing my opinion that I have sent in the vid❤its the best feeling, and the fact that Atleast Rissa agrees with my thoughts 😉❤️!
I love love love this video Rissa and Quan dropping straight knowledge
The both of you left no crumbs in this video!!!! I 100% agree with the majority of your answers. Quan's explanation regarding the "Every man cheats" statement was so spot on and actually gave me a new perspective: If a man can be loyal to his boys, he can be loyal to you the same way if he WANTS to. Heavy on the want!! I agree with Rissa that if a guy cheats and he is still accepted for it, he will only continue to do so. When a guy faces little to no consequences for his actions, it doesn't prompt them to change. Now they just know what they can get away with. So LADIES, love yourselves first. I didn't want to believe it when I was younger, but the saying is true, if he really does love you, he would not cheat. No if, ands, or buts about it. Rissa and Quan, you dropped gems all throughout this video. Such wise, well-spoken, open minded answers. You are both completely different from what is normally promoted on social media. We get to see the luxuries of hard work and success, but also the realness and genuine love. We often are not accustomed to both online. Thank you both for setting an example and being an inspiration.
Cheating goes both ways. Men always get painted as the villian by default. Neither gender are saints and can cheat.
You have to work on stop being so 1 sided because guys are not always in the wrong. Ladies need to hold other ladies accountable also. You can't just blame men 24/7. Accountabilty goes both ways. Weren't you taught that?
@@mrbrave29 Man you do not even know me. Who are you to tell me to stop being so one sided? You took time out of your day to read my WHOLE positive comment, just to nitpick what I said and place false judgement? That tells me that YOU need to work on minding your own business and practice more positivity. Or just go get a life. No one is trying to villainize men. Nor did I ever say women don’t cheat. Statistically, men cheat more. So, don’t place words in my mouth. Don’t place characteristics on me that do not suit me based of your own perception of my comment, and lastly, save your think piece for someone else.
@alexisdawn124 I think both genders cheat equally, but men get caught more. Women are much smarter at cheating than men. The media tries to paint it 1 way.
Quan I have to agree with you about people being in a relationship just to be in one. I know someone who cannot be alone and when they end a relationship, they right away get into another one, just so they won’t be alone.
Rissa I agree with you that you only have one soul mate. I haven’t found mine yet, but I am so happy that you found yours. The love you have for one another is so special and one many wish they had.
I gotta agree w Quan on the first question. These days women aren’t looking to build up or even build with a man. They looking for a trick that’ll pay all the bills and let them do whatever etc.
The meaning of marriage is the commitment and vow people make to each other and the ceremony celebrating that not what the state of New York or California considers a legitimate marriage on a piece of paper
Love how Quan admit that men go through phones, just as well as women do.😅❤
Bein in a toxic relationship is draining and you can lose focus it has happened to me i was in a toxic relationship with my ex for a year and a half and it was really bad . i lost myself, let alone lost focus on what was important and i noticed it for a long time and decided to break things off with him . i felt like it was just better that way cause i felt like i was tearing myself down cause i felt stuck half of time of the time it was not easy cause he was always coming and try to get me back . now that i am single i got my focus back and i felt relieved bc i didn’t feel stuck in a dark place anymore maybe we just wasn’t meant to be . but watching you guys , you guys always just put positivity out there and that’s good cause this generation it’s unhealthy
I like how even though u guys are in a healthy relationship, u guys look at the questions openly instead as from a place of defense and like "well this doesn't happen in our relationship." It feels like we're getting good advice from yall
It's a GOOD day when riss & quan post❤
Love the spouse over everyone question. I am struggling with that right now, having 2 young girls. Once the children are grown and starting their adult lives and families. It all comes back full circle to you and your spouse. I need to preach this to myself more. It is so hard not to focus all your energy on your children. ❤ It will go back to just the spouses together when the kids move out. It's so crazy to think about. ❤ Love you both and your adorable boys.
Your Q&As are always very informative, giving honest 'real life' answers instead of glossing over detailed responses. It's so refreshing listening to your responses amd your understanding of life's responsibilities; you're both mature beyond your ages and good examples to ALL age groups, myself included. Thank you. ❤❤
They are not good examples for people. They are living in sin and have children out of wedlock like the majority of people.
Cheating goes both ways. Most of those comnents from those girls were based on their personal experiences. Many men have also been cheated on. Difference is men do go online as much to talk about their experiences.
Single women does that, take care of her home in every way ❤
Very true once someone cheats they will always cheat and 100% the person doesn't love the other to do that 😊
I loved this video! This was very insightful. Rissa and Quan I definitely appreciate you both and all the knowledge and wisdom you both have. Definitely learned a lot from the video. Love y’all!💜
Marriage is honored by God. Living together outside of married, even if you are fully committed, isn't honored by God. I agree marriage is work and both people have to work on yourselves individually and collectively and stay in there no matter what. Rissa and Quan, I love how you explained your answers. I do believe that a person could cheat, realize that they were wrong, and not do it again. It could have been a oops moment. I feel like women love harder than men and for men, that woman that he chooses has qualities that he can't live without. Finally, women can run and are running a household without men and have done it for hundreds of years. I have done it, with God’s help and my mother's help. It is supposed to be and is very helpful to have a 2-parent household, but it's not always the case. So, I disagree that women can't hold down a household without a man. It's a struggle but it can happen.
That “men always cheat” statement stay pissin me off cause every man isn’t a cheater yea a lot of men do but not every man on the planet does that’s impossible..and to the gift thing it is wrong to ask for it back but if the person that received it wants to give it back for that extra closure then that’s different..and word to the searching the significant others phone if you sense something wrong is I absolutely agree with it has gotten me out of my marriage after 4 years cause I finally grew a pair and searched her phone smh..much love guys love these videos
Y’all are younger than me but I love y’all relationship advice. I love y’all videos ❤️
I love the knowledge Quan is kicking
Queen in this day and time I know women that are out there tougher than men.
If Rissa & Quan or Juju and Des ever broke up. The world would be ending. Their love for each other are goals and if they don't even make it through their marriage then IDK who can anymore.
Protect this couple at all cost! ❤
Loved this video! You both are so wise beyond your years. I’m glad that you both share your opinions without judgement of others. Great video Rissa and Quan! Low yall❤ #teamrissandquanforever🥰❤️
Definitely your spouse before your kids, but it does not mean you love them any less. Only reason I feel like that is because you as a couple lead by example for your kids. To me it actually means that you love your kids enough to make sure the heads of the household are always solid & building a foundation that they can truly rely on. If you & your spouse aren’t right, that’s how families become broken, or separated. As you grow as ONE together, then it’ll leave you in a space to love on your kids much more, and everyone else as well.
Spouse comes before kids because in the future kids will be grown and on there own. They have to see 2 parents loving each other putting each other first in order to know & see a healthy relationship. God, spouse, kids & then your parents!
Rissa you rocking that new outfit you got at Zara 😍
I love y'all relationship Rissa and Quan. I've been watching you guys for a long time and I learned a lot from you. I'm a lot older than you but Quan be on point about how to treat your woman. I love y'all family shine and savior is the cutest baby boys. I love your content I really enjoy it. Whenever that time comes I can't wait until Rissa have a baby girl. I just can't wait for everything comes together for the wedding and all other things. Keep up the good work can't wait until the next video love you guys 😊❤
I have to agree with Rissa on this one. Majority of the time, when women cheat it’s more often because she is not happy in the relationship, the guy is not tending to her needs or whatever have it be and it’s more based off of her emotions so, you are more likely to see men cheat more often and repeat it because there is no emotional connection to his cheating.
24:48 someone can look attractive to you but its a difference between looking attractive to you and you having a attraction to them...its a huge difference
26:39 right PLEASEEE don’t overthink it 😂
Yeah I know people who are miserable but stay so they won’t be alone
These 2 are old souls and I love them dearly ❤❤
May God continue to preserve your home and perfect all that concerns you