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  • Опубликовано: 28 июн 2024
  • It’s already been 3 months since I gave birth to Ocean! The postpartum journey for me has definitely had its ups and downs, so I wanted to talk about some of my experiences and the essentials that helped me heal, and feel like myself again. Thanks to Frida Mom for sponsoring this video.
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  • @daxxark1165
    @daxxark1165 3 года назад +2677

    Me, 23, single and not pregnant: wow I kinda want everything

  • @chxrrio
    @chxrrio 3 года назад +1263

    I love how I don’t even have a boyfriend but here I am, learning what I need post pregnancy 😂

    • @Taylorlevine0920
      @Taylorlevine0920 3 года назад +15

      Girl same. No plans to have babies for years but here i am 😂

    • @Berkaniaa89
      @Berkaniaa89 3 года назад +1

      Same😅

    • @xSoReckles93
      @xSoReckles93 3 года назад +3

      Same😂 I love watching baby and pregnancy video’s but no baby’s for me right now

    • @NasiaGeorgakopoulou
      @NasiaGeorgakopoulou 3 года назад +1

      Sameee

    • @Smt_.x
      @Smt_.x 3 года назад +6

      Same. But I think most of us haven’t been taught about any of this. And I personally need to know what I’m signing up for before I even consider having kids 😭

  • @melindahernandez5629
    @melindahernandez5629 3 года назад +772

    I actually don’t care if this whole channel doesn’t even mention makeup anymore. I love watching you and Steven and baby O❤️ And of course the doggies. I love the stories the story times and all of that. Don’t rush back into makeup girl don’t even worry about it. How about a story of all of this from Steven’s point of view? How is Steven doing?

    • @servinnancy7
      @servinnancy7 3 года назад +5

      Yesss very well said and yes that would love to see that a guys perspective on how they feel going through or seeing their significant other in pain or what goes through their would love stevens side story

    • @samantha8031
      @samantha8031 3 года назад +4

      AGREEEED! please bring steven into a video like this or ask him to upload to his channel :) i think a guys prespective should be heard

    • @almasandoval670
      @almasandoval670 3 года назад

      Then unfollowed. You are in the wrong channel. Where are you going that you have to do your makeup anyway.

    • @samantha8031
      @samantha8031 3 года назад +4

      @@almasandoval670 why comment? are you looking for someone to beg you to stay? off you go!! theres plenty of make up channels for you to get lost in. drama!

    • @melindahernandez5629
      @melindahernandez5629 3 года назад +4

      @@almasandoval670 alma baby i think you read my comment wrong hunny! but go awf

  • @dianaortiz8522
    @dianaortiz8522 3 года назад +501

    I’m so glad that Steven advocated for you. I’m also a nurse, and I’m very familiar with nurse Ratchet’s like that. Not only do they make their patient’s life difficult, they also make their coworkers lives difficult. Any whooo... I’m super happy for you guys. ♥️

    • @melissanewman1247
      @melissanewman1247 3 года назад +7

      Ugh my experience.🙄 I had my husband ask for a different nurse. She really made me feel horrible maybe it was because I just had a baby idk but I cried.

    • @BeautybyLianixX
      @BeautybyLianixX 3 года назад +2

      Wow thank u for sharing this ! My son is now 8 and I had a bad experience with nurses too. I thought it was just me.. I’m 4 months pregnant and scared because I don’t want to switch doctors but she’s affiliated with the same hospital where I had my bad experience. This time around I will speak up if I’m feeling mistreated!

  • @janinebean4276
    @janinebean4276 3 года назад +384

    That’s so rude that the nurse rolled her eyes at you and said “it’s normal” when you were SHAKING like that and so scared, like it might be obvious to HER, cause she sees it all the time, but obviously YOU don’t see that all the time, it’s your first time giving birth or seeing someone give birth!

    • @almasandoval670
      @almasandoval670 3 года назад +2

      I opted for no epidural. The nurse for my First born was a champ. The nurse for my second in a private hospital told me if you don’t want the pain that is why there is epidural. My mother in law said is it sometimes some repercussions after that. She rolled her eyes and said people all over the world came to us do you think we can tell you to do something if you have repercussions after that.

  • @SaharaColeman
    @SaharaColeman 3 года назад +541

    Just to hear Desi talking about Postpartum after being pregnant, she’s come such a long way and I’m so happy to see a little mini Perkins 😇

  • @SusieColmenero
    @SusieColmenero 3 года назад +293

    Society is so pressed on women “snatching back” post partum. Not all of us have that bounce back ability. We have to as a society accept women where they are and not pressure us to becoming that perfect magazine mom everyone is so obsessed with.
    Own your transition and let women ride the waves of coming into motherhood! No postpartum experience is linear.

    • @katrinamartinez1144
      @katrinamartinez1144 3 года назад +5

      Couldn't agree more, thank you for saying this.

    • @tailorandmakeup2212
      @tailorandmakeup2212 3 года назад +6

      Ride the waves of coming into motherhood. That’s is the best description I’ve ever heard about it. 🙌🙌

    • @linneawesterdahl2375
      @linneawesterdahl2375 3 года назад +2

      I’m pregnant for the first time and since I’m so young everyone tell me you won’t even be able to tell I’ve been pregnant after birth. That freaks me out. I don’t want aaaany expectations on me and my body. It is what it is and it will be what it will be. :/

    • @MichelleOrtiz3417
      @MichelleOrtiz3417 2 года назад +1

      It's like people we carried and grew our baby for 9/10 months it doesn't take a week to bounce back everyone's body is different. At about 6 months postpartum I started feeling like myself again it was a roller coaster no doubt

  • @PharaohJay417
    @PharaohJay417 3 года назад +221

    As an expecting father, this was super helpful. It has provided me with some different things to look out for with my fiancee. In addition, it gave me a bunch of helpful items to add to the baby registry for her. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

    • @giovannaelyssaacuna348
      @giovannaelyssaacuna348 3 года назад +23

      sir, you dropped this 👑

    • @PharaohJay417
      @PharaohJay417 3 года назад +5

      @@giovannaelyssaacuna348 this made me literally LOL at work, so thank you. Hope you have a great day.

    • @giovannaelyssaacuna348
      @giovannaelyssaacuna348 3 года назад +1

      @@PharaohJay417 lol I love to see it! Same to you! 😊

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    • @Sona77.
      @Sona77. 2 года назад +3

      You’re such a good husband!

  • @simonedasilva751
    @simonedasilva751 3 года назад +276

    IM 23 AND DONT HAVE KIDS BUT IM HERE FOR THIS

    • @juliasophie7897
      @juliasophie7897 3 года назад +2

      Me too 1997 Team 😍

    • @simonedasilva751
      @simonedasilva751 3 года назад +1

      @@juliasophie7897 I’m not ready to be 24 ugh

    • @Jclyyn
      @Jclyyn 3 года назад +1

      @@simonedasilva751 I’m 22 and not ready to be 23 🥲

    • @areebaaziz6389
      @areebaaziz6389 3 года назад

      Sameeee

  • @kyliedelgado3146
    @kyliedelgado3146 3 года назад +471

    Please do baby must haves 🙏🏼 and what you bought and didn’t use/didn’t need 🙏🏼❤️🦋

  • @kelseyd8661
    @kelseyd8661 3 года назад +131

    You can tell Desi is a true gardener because she pronounced it “perennial” instead of “perineal” 😂

  • @XforeverXyoungXbabeX
    @XforeverXyoungXbabeX 3 года назад +82

    Would Steven ever film a video of his side of the postpartum experience? I know you touched on somethings that he does to support you. My partner and I have been watching your parental journey and he often wonders about dad tips. Love you guys and congratulations again!!

  • @geobruin
    @geobruin 3 года назад +208

    I’m always amazed at how much hate there is for mothers. Breastfeeding? Great. Formula? Great! C-section? Awesome. Vaginal birth? Cool! Women are already subjected to so much hate and negativity, if you do your best every day for your kids, that’s what matters. Happy for you and your growing family! ♥️ thanks for sharing your story.

    • @ErinKathleen
      @ErinKathleen 3 года назад +1

      Seriously! ❤️❤️❤️

    • @_zina9054
      @_zina9054 3 года назад +1

      For real everyone is different idk why we are always competing with each other 😔

    • @shulamitkalish3060
      @shulamitkalish3060 3 года назад +5

      👏 🙏 👏 🙏. People need to hear this. The mommy shaming, the woman to woman shaming just needs to stop. We woman are amazing, what we’re capable of us amazing. Ok that’s all.

    • @Sara-vj3md
      @Sara-vj3md 3 года назад +2

      Yes!! “Breast is best”... please, “feed your baby and mind your damn business” should be the phrase!!

  • @shellseabruffett3055
    @shellseabruffett3055 3 года назад +301

    Take all of the “free” things the hospital provides for you. Once its been taken out of its original shipping packaging and placed in your room its deemed a biohazard. They just throw it all away opened or unopened.

    • @honaishlove
      @honaishlove 3 года назад +30

      Postpartum nurse: I second this. I literally make all my patients take it home even if they don’t “need it”.

    • @dnrainwater
      @dnrainwater 3 года назад +17

      Yep. This! They also factor it in to the cost of your hospital bill. TAKE IT!

  • @celinachavez5757
    @celinachavez5757 3 года назад +98

    I actually never wanted to leave a comment because I figured “they aren’t going to read it or care” but I had my twins on the same day you had Ocean so we were pregnant at the same time. I also had a hard time breastfeeding and my babies also lost weight. It was such a break down for me, but knowing that you went through the same thing makes me feel a lot better. This is also my first pregnancy so we are in this together. Your videos have definitely helped me as I am a first time mom as well. I remember on your fertility journey the IVF DR asking you how many eggs you wanted to be implanted and you said having two the first time around is going to be hard....well let me tell you it was a good choice. Having twins is soooooooo hard. So glad you have all the help you need. Stay strong mommy.

    • @juleswick
      @juleswick 2 года назад +2

      Hi! I just read your comment and I’m not a mama BUT I was 6lbs 5oz when I was born; my mom had the same experience with me when I was a baby. She thought that I was latching on and getting enough milk etc. I was her second baby so she thought things were fine and had no idea that in fact I wasn’t feeding correctly and had lost weight. I dropped down to 5lbs or something. Her doc told her to switch to formula (which TBH she was totally ok with!) so she did and it was smooth sailing. I turned out great LOL 😂 and my mama is AMAZING and strong & the BEST MAMA, just like YOU!! 💖

  • @annie22901
    @annie22901 3 года назад +171

    I am literally so happy that someone is talking about everything! Because a lot of women make giving birth like the most amazing glorious thing in the world, and let me tell you it is not! There is a lot that goes on and a lot to learn and know that no one talks about! I am so happy you are explaining everything to the tea!

    • @fernandagonzalez7270
      @fernandagonzalez7270 3 года назад +3

      For real! Like the Women That get special pretty gowns to give birth. I’m like.... girlllll you are NOT ready for the body fluids about to exit you. Lmao 😂

    • @annie22901
      @annie22901 3 года назад +2

      @@fernandagonzalez7270 Hahahah exactly!
      when I had my first baby, after my baby came out, the doctor told me to push again! I thought I was having another baby (twins), but it’s was for the placenta, I had no idea hahahahaha so embarrassing

  • @amberj3941
    @amberj3941 3 года назад +570

    Girl this was the most REAL postpartum video I’ve ever seen, I mean that in the best way. So many moms will need this, you’re being that person who is breaking the barrier and letting women know what they need postpartum but also letting them know so so many moms go through hardships right after a baby comes. It’s the most amazing time but at the same time a mix of emotions with ups and downs. I’ve been super honest with friends and give them lists on what to get etc. Anyway I just want to say we love you desi! Big hugs! You and Steven are doing amazing!

    • @nagyluca5917
      @nagyluca5917 3 года назад +2

      Agreed! Love her honesty and talk about everything! ❤️

    • @Jolenuzza
      @Jolenuzza 3 года назад +1

      Agree! Such a great video!!!

    • @TheSharandJoeShow
      @TheSharandJoeShow 3 года назад +2

      Agreed, my mom stayed with me for a few weeks after birth and when she left I bawled my eyes out...and the thing is I am not an emotional person..

  • @ashleyswierpel6608
    @ashleyswierpel6608 3 года назад +285

    I had horrific postpartum to the point I almost committed suicide. Thank God I have the best husband. No one tells you how hard your first child is to adjust to. I always tell people how wonderful it is to be a mom, but it is also the hardest thing.

    • @mariewhoo7616
      @mariewhoo7616 3 года назад +24

      I am so glad you’re here 💜

    • @ashleyswierpel6608
      @ashleyswierpel6608 3 года назад +9

      @@mariewhoo7616 ❤️❤️❤️ thank you! me too! It’s amazing what a support to can be to mothers when you have a story like mine❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @DesiPerkins
      @DesiPerkins  3 года назад +124

      I’m so sorry! It is so hard to go through such a huge shift. I don’t think anyone can prepare someone until they have their own baby. I’m glad you had such a great support system

    • @ashleyswierpel6608
      @ashleyswierpel6608 3 года назад +16

      @@DesiPerkins it is. I had babies 17m apart so it was a journey! We ended up stopping after two, because of how hard it was on me. But then we fostered babies for 3 years in flint and that was a blessing!!!!

    • @marylu2216
      @marylu2216 3 года назад +4

      🤗 BIG HUG!! Its so incredibly HARD to be a mom!! You are VERY lucky you had a supportive husband. We were on the same boat.... I have postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD. My husband thought/thinks I made it all up and was and still is horrible with me. He absolutely does not understand anything nor can I make him understand. I can't even talk about it because it enrages him. My "best friend" just disappeared so I felt abandoned, lost, and lonely. My only support system was my mom but unfortunately she passed away the day after Christmas. You can imagine how I felt and still feel. I push through for my kids but that first year was HELL to say the least.

  • @madutz00
    @madutz00 3 года назад +58

    As a FTM, this hit hard for me. The story about the nurse, the breastfeeding struggle and just mourning the life pre-baby was all relatable. Now at almost 5 months post partum, I feel much better about myself.. And now I cant even picture life without my baby.

  • @unerevuese
    @unerevuese Год назад +3

    I can't stress enough how important it is to have a labor nurse who you vibe with honestly. My labor nurses were incredible.

  • @kaileeslife
    @kaileeslife 3 года назад +246

    I’m not pregnant, haven’t had a baby, don’t plan on having a baby any time soon but I’m sure gone watch this whole video

  • @taraanthony6326
    @taraanthony6326 3 года назад +46

    The best advice I can give to new mothers is, don’t be so hard on yourself. Perfection is an unattainable goal and you will question every decision trying to achieve it.

  • @dnrainwater
    @dnrainwater 3 года назад +14

    Also, to any new moms watching, FED IS BEST. Period. If anyone tells you different, they’re wrong. I promise you when they go to college, they don’t ask your kids if they were breastfed or formula fed. Motherhood is hard enough, make it easier for yourself where you can ❤️

  • @talisiasandoval1597
    @talisiasandoval1597 3 года назад +34

    me watching this at 18, with no kids and not planning on having any for a long time: “wow. this is good to know” hahaha you’re a warrior desi, all moms are

  • @mirnyagabrielli
    @mirnyagabrielli 3 года назад +61

    I’m not planning on having kids anytime soon but that doesn’t mean I didn’t watch this ENTIRE video minute for minute lol. This was so interesting!!!

  • @itsJudysLife
    @itsJudysLife 3 года назад +1831

    YES YES AND YES! Our poor coochies

  • @p0keDAmo0seyXD
    @p0keDAmo0seyXD 3 года назад +21

    It’s insane to me how mommas have done this on their own for centuries...so much info and support out there nowadays! You are a warrior, and I learned so many new things in this vid that people haven’t shared. Thank you!!

  • @samanthaclaire6449
    @samanthaclaire6449 3 года назад +5

    i’m 22. two cats, one dog. and i’m SCARRED.
    all the mommas out there are true super heroes. congrats desi🥺

  • @hidyy
    @hidyy 3 года назад +107

    The nurse you get really makes a difference. So sad you had a bad experience with that nurse!

    • @MM-gz7oe
      @MM-gz7oe 3 года назад +6

      It totally does but we have to remember that some people respond better to a more direct approach. She didn’t and so she got another nurse and that’s okay.

  • @capab4633
    @capab4633 3 года назад +18

    Girl, I can't imagine how tough all these things have been, but you are BURSTING with confidence talking about them now, you sound like you've given birth 20 times already. Your kid is lucky to have you as a mom!

  • @adrianashallys
    @adrianashallys 3 года назад +24

    I recently found out that I am pregnant, I am just about six to seven weeks, and it’s been a very tough and stressful week. You sharing your story has helped me put things in perspective and provided me with hope that even through difficult times we can and will come out of it strong and empowered. Blessings to you and your family, and I pray you continue to feel better each and every day and get through those tough days❤️❤️❤️

  • @savannahnisble4505
    @savannahnisble4505 3 года назад +7

    I’m not pregnant, nor will I be in the next 5 years but I just loved watching your whole journey from the beginning to now motherhood!! So proud.

  • @nicolepaciello9466
    @nicolepaciello9466 3 года назад +83

    Your hair!!! Obsessed with the 90s Mariah Carey curls 😍

  • @masonsadventures1692
    @masonsadventures1692 3 года назад +184

    Breast feeding was the thing that messed me up!!! I felt sooo bad that I failed my kid that I gave in and gave him formula! I was in so much pain and literally sat there crying feeling like the worst mom for giving him formula! But my son is fine he’s healthy and people need to stop making moms feel bad for not breastfeeding!

    • @marials9245
      @marials9245 3 года назад +9

      Dixie Garza same here! My delibery and post partum went perfect, but breatfeeding was a nightmare and I gave up. With my second child I did not even try breastfeeding. There is a lot of stigma arround women who dont breastfeed.....

    • @sjn141
      @sjn141 3 года назад +3

      Dixie Garza I definitely agree with you. My little one is 2 weeks & 6 days old and he can’t latch on correctly. Every time I had to breastfeed I would go in so confident after watching videos and what not and told myself this is it we are going to latch correctly but @ the end of it I would just end up in tears. I thought it was my fault he couldn’t latch on correctly and that I was letting him down. I wasn’t opposed to formula but it felt like I had failed my son. It took my mother in law like Desi said to say it’s okay if you can’t breastfeed or baby can’t latch. It’s okay to give him formula, he is still going to grow up healthy and strong. At the moment all my mommy guilt went away and I felt relieved to hear someone say it’s okay if you can’t breastfeed. I read so many articles how it’s best to breastfeed to be completely honest those article and support groups only made me feel worst. So it’s refreshing hear someone say hey everything is going to be okay ☺️☺️

    • @sandrasolano8189
      @sandrasolano8189 3 года назад +2

      I FEEL YOU THANK YOU FOR SAYING IT OUT LOUD😍🙏🏻❤️ you are not alone Desi

    • @victoriam2267
      @victoriam2267 3 года назад +1

      Same

    • @masonsadventures1692
      @masonsadventures1692 3 года назад

      @@sjn141 yess trust me it will be okay!!!! I sat there a mess for a couple days after making my decision but he is okay!! He’s is 1year old now and the same size and weight as my friends son (same age) who was breastfed. My son couldn’t latch either and I was bleeding and clogged ducts! It was a mess! There’s just too much pressure from everyone and other moms shaming others like “oh wow you don’t breastfeed?” But you got this mom!!! 👍🏽

  • @laBuffiesuzanne
    @laBuffiesuzanne 3 года назад +3

    Desi this is beautiful! I’m 67, mother and grandmother. My advice is: cherish every single moment, because one day you will turn around and be me. Time goes by so fast, enjoy the journey!!! Blessings to you!🙏❤️🙏❤️

  • @petrarosenqvist1394
    @petrarosenqvist1394 3 года назад +31

    Hi ☺️ I am a mother of 5 children, of which the oldest is 23 and the youngest is 9. This must be the best childbirth, post-childbirth and breast-feeding etc. video I've ever seen! You tell all the less comfortable and painful things that come with having a baby! You are an absolutely inspiring woman! This video should be shown to all the first-time mothers!!! Congratulations to the whole family on the newborn boy 💙! Greetings from Finland 🇫🇮, which is located near the North Pole ❄️⛄️(where Santa lives 🎅🏻)...

  • @callmeclaireee
    @callmeclaireee 3 года назад +69

    Am I ready for a baby? No. Am I taking notes? Absolutely.
    And I’m so happy that your friend was able to make you feel ok about having to formula feed. Formula feeding is still feeding and that’s all that matters. Moms shouldn’t feel ashamed for having to supplement. All that matters is that your baby eats. 🖤

  • @beebri14
    @beebri14 3 года назад +80

    The whole time I was pregnant, I told myself I wouldn’t put pressure on myself to breast feed or feel guilty if breast feeding didn’t work out for me, and then my baby was born and I did exactly that. I felt like such a failure but the fact is that he’s healthy and happy and that’s all that matters. Our mental health is so important as moms and although I am still ‘mourning’ over not being able to breast feed, I know I’m still doing my best for my baby. And you are too!! We have to support and uplift each other!

  • @kylieikerd1
    @kylieikerd1 3 года назад +23

    We love a transparent queen ❤️ as a mom of two I can’t stress enough how important this is for first time mothers to see. Normalize all the beautiful and not so beautiful parts of having a baby. You are the best, Desi.

    • @jennypasajaja
      @jennypasajaja 3 года назад

      yes it is! I am so thankful for this!

  • @Aaliyah-dn7jq
    @Aaliyah-dn7jq 3 года назад +40

    I’m 8 weeks pregnant and the people in my family haven’t even been this real with their births! Thank you for being so honest through your motherhood journey 💕😭

    • @vongaimaphoo
      @vongaimaphoo 3 года назад +2

      I’m almost clocking on my 1st trimester and it’s so true this journey can be lonely because nobody is as real to sort of prepare you for the journey 😢😢. These have probably been the loneliest 3 months of my life .

    • @juanrebram
      @juanrebram 3 года назад +4

      @sheikarose not everyone goes through this. This is dramatic. It IS painful (I didnt get and epidural with any of my kids, THATS painful.. but when you're numbed with an epidural, its so not).
      The afted care is definitely not a that and going to the bathroom does not hurt.. only with a c section as I did with my last. Your vagina does not hurt afterwards either. Stitches, if you have them feel uncomfortable but is definitely not painful as she describes. You've got to remember some people define discomfort as dramatic pain. It really is NOT all that she is sharing. Do not get scared or anxious about childbirth. Its the most beautiful experience ever and everyone I mean EVERY ONE is different and has a different experience. In my opinion, she is being way to dramatic. Or perhaps maybe she is not, she just may be one that is hugh maintenance and does not do well with discomfort.

  • @jezellopez
    @jezellopez 3 года назад +59

    I didn’t even realize you could get hemorrhoids from pushing, new fear unlocked 👁👄👁

    • @danielanereu3799
      @danielanereu3799 3 года назад +5

      Oh yes and sometimes for life:) New friends:)

    • @samanthadominguez3447
      @samanthadominguez3447 3 года назад

      My midwife told me they’re gifts our babies give to us lol like thanks.. 😂

    • @shelby3669
      @shelby3669 3 года назад +4

      I had two C sections.. never had to push and still have them. Most women get them during pregnancy from the pressure of the baby. And most women have them for life.

  • @AlianaR
    @AlianaR 3 года назад +91

    I’m so happy to see you back on RUclips! Ocean is such an absolute cutie, you and Steven are amazing parents 💙

  • @rosieperaza1728
    @rosieperaza1728 3 года назад +19

    I had my baby 4 months ago and one thing that was a GODSEND after pushing and tearing was a numbing spray. I highly recommend using one especially to help with the sting of the stitches!

  • @janessakramos
    @janessakramos 3 года назад +4

    The realest and so relatable💕 I’m so happy for you, motherhood is such a blessing!

  • @daisyavila9653
    @daisyavila9653 3 года назад +62

    I’ve never cried so much, I felt this so much. The tears hit hard about breastfeeding for me and having to supplement with formula but I tell myself everyday that she’s eating good and happy. Being a first time mom isn’t easy but like you said so rewarding!

  • @hkhgkrb
    @hkhgkrb 3 года назад +27

    I’m due in 3 weeks and I’ve been waiting for this video since ocean was born 🥺

  • @odalisviveros5832
    @odalisviveros5832 3 года назад

    Love how transparent you’ve been with EVERYTHING!!! You do not sugar coat anything I felt the same way when I had my baby. Every time I see your ig stories I’m like “Yes girl”!!! Your doing great mama ❤️

  • @nickybenher595
    @nickybenher595 3 года назад +2

    Women that haven't had a baby yet! KEEP THIS VIDEO FOR REFERENCE! Ya'll are SO LUCKY. RUclips wasn't a thing back when I had my first baby and the feeling of having no idea what I was doing consumed me. Thanks Desi for posting this! I am so happy for you 💜

  • @amishakumar5714
    @amishakumar5714 3 года назад +7

    DESIIIII!! Your subscriber count is 333 right now which is an angel number. It literally means ''Take this as a sign you’re on the right path, your prayers have been heard, and you’re heading in the right direction''. WHICH IS CRAZY because Ocean is a little miracle baby we all know you waited forever for 🥺🥺🥺❤️

  • @nailsbysenia_
    @nailsbysenia_ 3 года назад +86

    That’s crazy, I didn’t know the trembling was a thing. I had an induced labor on October 24th but I wasn’t planning to take the epidural till my whole lower body was in shakes that I was in more pain from that than the actual contractions. That was the worst feeling but got through it. We women are amazing!

    • @jenniferaragon9
      @jenniferaragon9 3 года назад +2

      Labor hormones along with side effects from the medicine in the epidural can lead to shivers/shakes. Uncomfortable but normal. There’s medicine that can help counteract the shakes a bit if they get too intense.

    • @nailsbysenia_
      @nailsbysenia_ 3 года назад

      @@jenniferaragon9 My legs were trembling before the epidural or anything was given to me, when they put the balloon catheter in me and right after they had taken the balloon out of me. The shakes I got from the epidural were completely different. I think it was just my body’s reaction to preparing for the baby.

  • @sabaviles
    @sabaviles 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for this, Desi. This video should be seen by every mother-to-be for its honesty!

  • @Reenigrl22
    @Reenigrl22 3 года назад +11

    I’m going to be a first time mom and it’s so wonderful to hear you and everyone in the comments sharing their experiences and advice. Definitely makes me feel less lonely! Also would love a baby must haves!!

  • @jordenwadley7438
    @jordenwadley7438 3 года назад +586

    Omg why are nurses either absolutely god sent or the devil themselves 😩 no in between

    • @mariepier9016
      @mariepier9016 3 года назад +58

      I’m a nurse and 100% second this unfortunatly.

    • @bRE3zYx3
      @bRE3zYx3 3 года назад +72

      half of them are the people who were bullies in high school

    • @jordenwadley7438
      @jordenwadley7438 3 года назад +3

      @@bRE3zYx3 LITERALLY

    • @amberj3941
      @amberj3941 3 года назад +7

      I had the same experience as Desi only I had 2 nurses during the 7am-7pm shift. Marie and Wendy. Marie was the nicest person ever, and 2 years later I will never forget f’ing Wendy. I wish we would have thought about sending her away she was HORRIBLE, even my sister who was in the room said anytime Wendy walked back in you could feel the whole mood shift. My husband just stayed quite and didn’t really notice much. Wendy’s comments were rude, short, and she was just straight up mean. Cant even tell you how much pain I was in but Wendy was the worst of it. However thank GOD for Marie and she was there when my baby was born, he came in with good vibes and happiness, also Wendy was gone for the last few hours I was there yay!

    • @Silvee0713
      @Silvee0713 3 года назад +15

      Half do it for the money and job security and half do it because they have the heart to help people.

  • @Maya-rp9im
    @Maya-rp9im 3 года назад +5

    This makes me appreciate my mom even more if that’s even possible 🥺❤️

  • @Hershies5
    @Hershies5 3 года назад +1

    This is so raw and I love it. Thank you for representing mamas and saying so many real things that nobody talks about! You’re an amazing mama it’s so cool to watch💛

  • @kaylacoliny2342
    @kaylacoliny2342 3 года назад +1

    This melts my heart, I can seriously see the mommy glow within you♥️
    Ocean is beautiful & so happy for you & Steven♥️🙏🏼

  • @mkievit325
    @mkievit325 3 года назад +15

    This is sooo helpful Desi! Please please do a video on what you are using vs. what you're not! Ocean is lucky to have you as his mommy

    • @DesiPerkins
      @DesiPerkins  3 года назад +4

      This I have to do because I feel like I got so much that I never used!

  • @amandathechaos2022
    @amandathechaos2022 3 года назад +32

    Congratulations on baby Ocean, he’s so adorable and your rockin the mom life 🥰

  • @emilythomas9434
    @emilythomas9434 3 года назад

    Thank you for sharing this! It makes me feel so good to hear this from someone else. I hope people can start caring about moms postpartum because it is hard and very emotional. Love you ❤️

  • @sandraleitelt2223
    @sandraleitelt2223 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing. I’m 2 weeks postpartum with my second and literally every emotion you described about breastfeeding, body image, and hormonal shifts I’m feeling. You put into words what I’m having trouble verbalizing. You have no idea how much I appreciate not feeling alone.

  • @jennaameedi
    @jennaameedi 3 года назад +7

    I'm so genuinely happy for you desi your pregnancy has been the happiness and light of my 2020 year 🥺

  • @geojames1861
    @geojames1861 3 года назад +1

    25 weeks pregnant and so grateful for the real talk here! So happy for you Desi :)

  • @biankiz86
    @biankiz86 3 года назад +3

    38 weeks here and I already don’t recognize myself at times when I look at myself some days. I can’t wait to meet my baby girl! Pregnancy is hard and I could just imagine how postpartum/breastfeeding is going to be like. Sending all the beautiful mamas a big hug! We got this! 😘

  • @c_starzaragoza7482
    @c_starzaragoza7482 3 года назад +18

    This video helped me so much, motherhood is so hard mentally and physically but so rewarding. Feels nice that I’m not alone. Thanks for sharing your story , Ocean is so blessed ❤️

  • @xoAlanaa
    @xoAlanaa 3 года назад +36

    Pleeease do a baby must haves! I really appreciated this video- I'm pregnant and due April 1st. Trying to mentally prepare myself but also freaking out. Thank you!

    • @Ash2121Mass
      @Ash2121Mass 3 года назад +2

      Best wishes to you especially for a safe delivery! God speed.

    • @sarahcolonia8906
      @sarahcolonia8906 3 года назад

      You can do this, Mama! You are literally MADE for it ❤️ Trust your Body and your Baby ✨
      (My son was born April 1st! But 11 years ago already 🙂)

  • @josievargas5187
    @josievargas5187 3 года назад +2

    Love you !! Such a great video. “He smiles, and he makes my whole life” love it!

  • @morganmerriman2454
    @morganmerriman2454 3 года назад +1

    Desi this is SO relatable, and my journey was similar post-partum. Thank you for helping to normalize the pain, fear, depression, that comes alongside the bliss.

  • @laurengrimaldi2422
    @laurengrimaldi2422 3 года назад +14

    Congratulations on baby Ocean and for your new journey of motherhood! Your happiness and warmth is contagious 💙

  • @sofia12tarin
    @sofia12tarin 3 года назад +3

    It’s like I’m listening to a friend and I can relate so much to everything. Thank you for this video!

  • @Aprilsworld25
    @Aprilsworld25 3 года назад +2

    Yes, exactly how I feel about sleep. Pays off when my babies smile at me. Mommy of 2 under 2. Motherhood is precious!

  • @ultamateary
    @ultamateary 3 года назад

    Desi, I love how informative and helpful this is; you always give such good, honest feedback! So happy Ocean is here safe, happy, and healthy!💓

  • @mariewhoo7616
    @mariewhoo7616 3 года назад +26

    I have been waiting for this!! I LOVE watching Ocean grow. His smile, his deep dimples, proud tia over here!

  • @mairav1
    @mairav1 3 года назад +6

    The breastfeeding topic really hit me as it was so difficult for me. I was judged by family and I felt like an even worse mother. Now pregnant with my second and I really pray that someday people will stop looking down upon moms that can’t breastfeed. Much love to you as you are doing an amazing job with ocean ❤️

  • @ainommariap6928
    @ainommariap6928 3 года назад +4

    this is amazing that you’re talking about all of these things so so honestly xx

  • @marilynlobo8192
    @marilynlobo8192 3 года назад +5

    This is so accurate, that lazst push when you feel like you're about to give up they come out!!

  • @jackyvillanueva9966
    @jackyvillanueva9966 3 года назад +13

    I literally just broke down when you spoke about breastfeeding. I had a similar experience as yours and I can totally relate it was one of the hardest things ever. Girl I love how transparent you are💖

  • @joeyshyarchuleta1020
    @joeyshyarchuleta1020 3 года назад +9

    I just had my baby girl in October and to know that you are experiencing the same thing makes me feel so better

  • @JHo615
    @JHo615 3 года назад

    I’m in my first trimester (FTM) and have watched a handful of these videos. Yours is BY FAR the most helpful, informative, honest & kind. Thank you so much! 💗

  • @kiranguyen4898
    @kiranguyen4898 3 года назад

    I love your real ness and openness. I am in the midst of family planning and have been watching videos nonstop. I’ve been watching you for years and feel like you are my older sister! I’m the oldest in my family and no one really talks about these things so I’m very grateful for you. I love you Desi! 💕

  • @melfemat
    @melfemat 3 года назад +4

    Desi!!! You were literally my inspiration to get pregnant. You made me realize how beautiful it would be to be a mom.. and now, i am 23 weeks pregnant, expecting a baby boy 🥰
    Thank you!

  • @HolaPriscilla
    @HolaPriscilla 3 года назад +9

    Such a beautiful soul you are. Thank you truly for sharing your whole journey from beginning until now with us. You are truly a beauty to watch.

  • @martynakonecka1421
    @martynakonecka1421 3 года назад

    Wow, I love how honest this video is, I've seen few similar videos on RUclips and a lot of stuff you talked about were never mentioned, it's amazing how honest and transparent you are! Thanks so much for that :)

  • @michellealvarado4890
    @michellealvarado4890 3 года назад

    I am so so so grateful that you shared all of this! This is going to be so helpful for when I’m at that point in my life. I feel like no one prepares you for birth or what comes after and I feel like we need more people speaking up! So thank you for sharing. Loved this.❤️

  • @SarahCSeptember
    @SarahCSeptember 3 года назад +4

    This is how it is - thank you 🙏🏼 14 minutes in and i can relate to every single thing ☺️

  • @katiebrown259
    @katiebrown259 3 года назад +6

    I’m 19...single and pregnant and it’s been sooo hard but these videos make me feel like things will be okay❤️ thank you I hope you continue to do good :)

  • @lexxaalynn14
    @lexxaalynn14 3 года назад

    I just had my baby this month and this video really helped me feel like I’m not alone in this. Bless your heart Desi, you are so awesome. ❤️🙏🏼😭

  • @crystalvargas6774
    @crystalvargas6774 2 года назад +2

    I’m so glad this popped up on my page again. I’m a new mom and I’ve been struggling a little bit. My hormones are all over the place and I’ve been a crying reck 😅 it’s been rough but I’m so so happy to have my baby girl 💗 thank you for being so open. I don’t feel so alone. You’re amazing Desi 💗

  • @ariannag2402
    @ariannag2402 3 года назад +6

    I’m a ftm & gave birth in October. The labor & delivery nurses are angels. I know it’s their job to help every step of the way but it felt extra comforting to have them since my mom couldn’t be there (only one support person which was my bf) When they showed me how to use the bathroom/all the ins & outs, I legit felt that motherly energy I needed. The best ppl!

    • @DesiPerkins
      @DesiPerkins  3 года назад +3

      Yes! I ended up with such an amazing nurse in the end and she felt like a mom. It was so nice.

  • @JuneStay
    @JuneStay 3 года назад +5

    I love how natural and beautiful your hair looks! 🌊😍✨ so glad to hear you’re doing well! 🙏🏽🙋🏽💖

  • @thrillaa27
    @thrillaa27 3 года назад

    This was so real and raw and everything I didn't know I needed to hear! Thank you for sharing your "must haves" and opening up about the challenges of being a new mom!

  • @celesteflores831
    @celesteflores831 3 года назад

    You’re so genuine! I love your vibes! You are a great mother! Can’t wait to join the mom gang, thank you for being so open with us! ❤️ love you!!!

  • @jackieb1495
    @jackieb1495 3 года назад +8

    I gave birth at 22 to my beautiful son; my parents were both there I wasn’t even embarrassed giving birth I embraced it!! I embraced how powerful and gifted women are , we literally give birth to new generations. I felt so powerful and amazed of what my body can do! So congratulations to you Desi✨🦋 welcome to motherhood 💗💗💗

    • @almasandoval670
      @almasandoval670 3 года назад +1

      I gave birth to my son at 21 and my mother in law was there for him and my daughter 4 years later

  • @valerieaguirre1843
    @valerieaguirre1843 3 года назад +13

    You’ve been GLOWING, Mama! ✨🐓✨

  • @triciasedicol9848
    @triciasedicol9848 3 года назад

    From a soon to be mumma, thank you for being so open and honest in this video!

  • @AmyCatalano
    @AmyCatalano 3 года назад +1

    Every expectant Mumma should watch this, beautiful explanation on the realities of motherhood in those early months 💖💖

  • @christiniajennison9751
    @christiniajennison9751 3 года назад +39

    Talking about the milk supply and finding out you weren’t producing enough that hit home. Same thing was happening to me 😔🥺. Thanks for making us feel not alone!

    • @MariamNouser
      @MariamNouser 3 года назад

      Same here!

    • @sandrasolano8189
      @sandrasolano8189 3 года назад

      Same here🥺

    • @sm8315
      @sm8315 3 года назад

      Fenugreek seeds really help in milk production. In India we have a whole diet for post parfum milk production

  • @Undercoverneird
    @Undercoverneird 3 года назад +38

    I got ripped off, for our first child, our son, I had to have an emergency Csection, then with our second our daughter I also had to have a emergency Csection 2 wks before her due date. So both my pregnancies I had Csections. I really wanted to push! Lol I used to practice when I was going to the bathroom🤣🤣🤣 while I was pregnant with our son, I seriously would pretend when I was alone in the bathroom using the potty that I was pushing the baby out. I really wanted to experience the whole birthing process. It’s great hearing you and the baby are adjusting well and motherhood has come naturally to you. 💙💙💙💙

    • @SixFortySeven
      @SixFortySeven 3 года назад +12

      I couldn't push, and had to have a c section because of medical reasons. Not pushing does not make us lesser.

    • @MeredithHammett
      @MeredithHammett 3 года назад +6

      You are still wonder woman in my eyes.

    • @Embraceyourcurls24
      @Embraceyourcurls24 3 года назад

      Yeah two c sections as well. Emergency c section with the first and then medical reasons for the second.

  • @aylindelgado125
    @aylindelgado125 3 года назад +2

    Tengo tiempo sabiendo que no quiero ser mamá, pero ver este video me hace asegurarlo más
    How strong you are Desi, full respect for you and all the mamas out there

  • @jessiikerz
    @jessiikerz 3 года назад +25

    Listening to your breastfeeding journey was like reliving my experience I feel like a lot of women go through the same thing but no one talks about it, thank you for this

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    Yess!! We need a baby must haves 😍 37 weeks pregnant and I’m over here like 📝