You need not worry. At 55 and 60s, we'll have more marriage unions than for the 20s and 30s. People at that time will just be seeking company but living separate lives together in the same house. But true, it's easier to marry when you are young and stupid than when you are older
@@hamida2187 Don't desire to spend the rest of your life alone,there lots of good people in the world,if you can't find love where you're,travel and meet as many people as you can and develope good friendships ,am sure you'll find love in those friendships
I trusted someone for 5years waiting for him but in return..he married another..now am heading 28 so hard probably to get someone though God knows more
@@hamida2187 that must have been painful indeed,you ain't too old to find love,it probably happend bcoz he wasn't the right person,don't let that make you throw in the towel,you cauld be very close to finding the right person
We are living in a very sensitive and critical era. To be honest majority of people out here (especially with deep patriarchal culture mentalities) have such a huge problem when a woman confidently says, "I have refused to settle." They will turn around and shame that woman saying she'll grow old alone or won't have someone to take care of her or that she had too much fun in her younger days and now has wasted herself. People seem to think a woman should keep herself pure for marriage/a man but over the years I've learned that it is good to keep oneself pure for God and God alone. Don't practice abstinence or virginity for marriage, do it for God, whether or not you find a partner. What I know for sure is that different women go through different seasons in life and I can advise all women to have a deep spiritual connection with their creator and he will order their steps.
@Mary Joseph hi! It's such an honor to be in the presence of such a raw and truly God fearing woman. You are one of the few remnants that our everlasting king has set aside for himself. Many are called, but you are among the chosen few. I can imagine you go through so many trials, it can't be easy because relatives and some close friends can really piece with their sharp words and unsolicited advice. It gets tougher when you see even younger siblings and cousins etc getting married and or having children. But keep that strong relationship with God so that when it's time to move to your next assignment, you will know. That's what am working on. Keep serving Mary Joseph 😍 For me my story is different. I grew up in pure rebellion against the will of God. However recently I came to the realization that I cannot continue to walk in sexual sin and after many disappointments, something moved me to walking a new path of abstinence. I've vied for MCA twice and lost both times. Funny enough the campaign trail is very hostile to single women because many people say that a woman without a child is still a child 😂😏🙄 on a few occasions someone would tell me that even some friends say I should get married first before running for office. I think people out here are very empty and may think marriage is a way to fill that gap. But many don't know that only God's one and only son can fill that void and give a new identity.
It's not shaming women in as much as it may seem so....reality is inescapable void that no one can avoid. Actually marriage is a phenomenon borne by the woman's need to feel secure. For men it's easier to be single because we are not plagued by biological factors or that need to have security. All in all, everyone has a right to choose the life they want to lead just don't blame anyone for the consequences of that decision.
Even your creator told you to get married in his story book, stop making this into a gender war. If you don't want a man it's cool live single and be happy fu¢k it if you want a woman you can have her and be happy... Just be happy but stop blaming men and non existent patriarchy for you not wanting to settle down... Hakuna mwanaume yoyote hapa anajali ama anafikiria juu yako hivyo please you're not that important madam😂
@@ulrich2819 well unless you are also 18 that's fine. Am almost sure that 18 year old is the the one who won't question bad behavior and is not yet equipped to identify narcissistic tendencies. She mistakes love bombing for love, and confuses love for lust, and then before she knows it you have already moved on to the next..
@@rachaelmwangi1010 There is a major difference between friendship and couples. A quick google search will show u that couples do better financially, emotionally, are happier etc.
@@rachaelmwangi1010 Humans are almost always alone , there are studies being done on this, bacoz it's seems friendships are not enough. Blood is thicker than water, when you get older and there's no husband no grandkids the loneliness is much realer than it is when your 30 and have the strength to go out with your friends. Your partner is the one who will be by your deathbed, your kids and their kids will be your caregivers.
Very true.. It's selfishness, entitlement, self importance, lack of family values, and illusions of independence (career first, everything else follows) and poor social skills that leads to people saying 'single by choice and happy' Its very bogus but very few will admit it coz of pride and ego
@@hellespont1 if a person is all that you have described then they should be single . Do you want to be with someone who is selfish, entitled self-centered, lack's family values etc etc 🤔🙄
90% of men are invisible to 90% of women..so in university women want money of which boy wa uni bado hana..so by the time boy wa uni anaanza ku get doh poa is in their 30s..huyo dem wa uni probably has been rammed through by everyone then says she wants to settle akishaa zeeka..men value less body counts in women so kaa dame haezi pata boy mapema na a behave feminine then this is what happens
I think things started going haywire with the introduction to the new social constructive ideologies such as "feminism" and "toxic masculinity" and the polarization that came along with that among other factors including high cost of living There was a huge shift in terms of perception and the way people behave in relationships, It is the sensitivity that killed interest.
Single by choice? No. But should we settle for mediocrity? No. In the end, there is no manual for how we should all live our lifes. We all can't all be married, single, etc. To each their own.
Better to hold on to the hope of true love than to settle for nonsense. Alot of people make that mistake and end up becoming a statistic, which we end up viewing as painful stories on Tuko.
its just simple, When Women aquire Affluence they tend not to want a family they say "I'm independent" but When Men Aquire Affluence they tend to start a family/families
There's this lot that have been moving countries making it harder to be in a relationship. Time's have changed and the pressure is too much. Once you hit 30 and still single just take it easy on yourself because this is when desperation kicks in societal pressure kicks in peer pressure kicks in. Protect your peace and try to figure it out ,at your own pace. This is the same advice I give to myself every single day.
I am just turning 23 years, I have never imagined myself in a long-term relationship with a woman, whenever I get in a relationship I just want to get out. Some of us relationships were not meant to be a goal.
Uko 23 bro hakuna kitu unajua bado. By the time you turn 25 utakuwa umechange and by the time utakuwa 30 utakuwa umechange. Make your money now, perfect a skill and learn more skills, build your value... Right now at 23 you have no business being in a relationship especially in this era
Am just imagining how people stay single yet you can get one and start a family. Wacha ifike 50 years then you will know the importance of having a Family
It all begins in the spiritual realm: Marriage is a gift from God..honour God...do not defile yourself before marriage... or else God will deny you that blessing!
Oh dear! I hope this is not how you view the single people in your church as if they did something wrong to be denied marriage. Marriage is not a right because you lived in purity. This thinking has led people to leave the faith when they live pure lives and God does not ''repay' them, for instance, with a good spouse, yet that is not promised to all. Marriage is a gift, and singleness is also a gift. Whether married or single, honour God and live in purity. Do not honour God for the 'blessings' you expect to get from Him, honour and obey Him because of who He is and what He has already done to achieve salvation for us all, whether on not you will ever get what you think are the 'blessings' from Him.
@@ginnymugure9215 definitely not a gift and no disrespect but be realistic I'm not trying to sh*t on your religious beliefs but they make you sound very delusional
The dudes are tired of the current material woman who only wants to use and exploit a hard working guy who’s trying to establish a comfortable future for himself.
You don't want kids why? 🥰 i'm single too but if i find a partner i must have kids lol that's the most important thing about Marriage otherwise no need to Marry😄
There is nothing like true love,you are in 10 relationship and you are talking about real love. It comes only once, once you lose it just marry a compatible partner.
As someone who's single, i can say that maybe part of reason, for me, the nice guys i meet are un-ambitious asf... and then the ambitious ones hawataki kutoka sherehe, ama just too many kids, and a bunch of baby mummies
@@iamsyourdadi just like being hardworking and having goals in life. Esp financial goals to make sure your future self and generations are not living hand to mouth
"90% single by choice", a myth madam. They could be indicating that its by choice but deep down they have internal issues. Majority are single by circumstances (no matching partner out there-married material); by circumstances (personal values, age, past experience, career), ; False self-confidence( by stereotypes that I am single but happy while in private when will I ever get a child of my own, how can I get a man/woman for companionship etc); Lifestyle (social media space has over-exposed the part of the body formally limited to bedroom only); Profession (some are in back-door office that limits their free socialization); Telenovelas imagery(Looking for that partner portrayed on acted love scenes on screen in vain); The generational divide( hard to balance partners from two generations) and lastly, By choice(Not everyone was meant to marry and have babies like Catholic sisters, first experiences, born-differently (by hormones), given up in life and cheating scenes out there, maybe self-esteem issues like caused by looks that society uses to judge, childhood trauma/molestation and contentment) One, on several factors as enumerated above could be causing singlehood. There is no symptoms without a cause. In sociology we call it "cause-effect" relationship.
Very well said.. All societies have to go through this phase of selfishness and feigned happiness. In alot of western world people are walking around like robots and chugging anti - depressants because of lonliness but will never tell you the truth (they will say they are happily single yet its a lie) When this phase comes to an end in some far future, society will reset itself back to family Oriented social units and marriage will be back to business. As of now I'll take that advise to start investing (maybe with some partners) into old age homes in Kenya in some scenic, well climated location 😉
Have you guys considered to check on personality traits? We may say that 'soko' is a contributor and however small or big percentage it contributes to people choosing or preferring to stay single, people need to inwardly evaluate themselves more. One might have all the green checks on paper but you can't kindle anything special with them because their personality has no aroma, no flavor and just garbage waiting to be thrown in the bin.
majority are busy setting standards at the age of settling down until its that time they realize all the people they are capable settling with are gone and taken. Now they have to act single and happy but deep inside things are different.
(1 corin 7) Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.BUT you can't marry just ANYONE too People get married for different motives , but if you can't love your partner as the bible dictates what's the point? Some people are married but can't stand the spouse,some cheat,some checked out etc If you are single maintain purity as you should when married too.
very true.....and the unmarried have a great chance to constantly seek the Lord and grow spiritually for they are not commited to any partner. Romans 12:1.. Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship. Maintaining purity/ celibacy is a great form of worship to the Almighty.
You will need to listen to Dr. Jordan Peterson on the subject of relationships and career and how one wakes up at 45 and above only to realize the pursuit of a career what not the most important thing in life. However, societal influence has made the current generation to think that only career and money matters. Time has a way to bless or punish...i will leave it at that.
I don't care what no one says, being single is not healthy. Period. I am in my early 60s, been living in a country that most Kenyans would sacrifice anything to move to, I am financially stable in Kenya and the US but am single. I know some people reading this will right away judge me say there is something wrong with me. If you have never left Kenya and established yourself outside, I don't expect you to understand. You get romance scammed by shrewd and trifling Kenya women na wakileta their whole family here including their grandparents, madharau yanaanza.
Haha watu wa diaspora thats normally the story.Especially juh uku kila mtu is making their money.Ukileta kamrembo kanageuka kakigika US.I understand.True
Society and social media. There are women and men that want it, most of us are looking at what is happening and make that premature decision of not even trying. I know people have changed, lakini I believe people can have a happy home.
When a woman has good money she doesn't need a man.raising a family becomes cumbersome. When a man has money he adds another wife and another. Men care
my two cents i think we might be facing a situation kevin samuels always spoke about where a large percentage of average women are looking for an above average man and in that over looking their fellow average man thus they compete for the few above average men who have resources and the above average man having resourcs have alot of options and can handle mutliple women hence some of the side chick and other situations another reason is not many men are ready to raise other men kids so alot of good single mothers get overlooked add feminism go getter things future anty wa harrier and also baby gal behaviours where women have unreasonable expectations
The men who want you, you don't want them and the men you want don't want you for marriage. So review and change your parameters to be very realistic before you hit the wall
but why is marriage such an important achievement in your eyes? if you want to get married, get married. if you don't, live your life. watu washughulikie maisha yao bana.
Marriage is important. Arguably the most important natural social institution in the world because from it family is derived.. If this young generation avoids it..trust me the world would Crumble in many aspects, ..it's evident in the west with all the bs going on there.. I can give an whole 6 hour lecture on the importance of marriage and it's linkage to human flourishment but I'll stop it at there 😅
@@bonifacekioko6320 and i can give a 12 hour lecture on the non-importance of marriage. kama unataka kuoa fine. but let others live their lives. huwezi tu dictate maisha.
"Am happy" in most cases is a defense mechanism decoy, to wish away inhibited temperaments and emotional conflicts...and Spiritually is called The LAODICEANS age catastrophe...."rich and have need of nothing".....but
@@terryjames6861 no our definitions are the same and I'm telling you and others who will read this comment stop making boogymen to stop you from getting a good man to love you and marry you
A 21 year old chick I conversed with said she never wants kids and never wants to be in a relationship. But in Kenya relationships are commercial no love no commitment
Good question! Why don't you ask hypergamy? 0:55 I noticed you said with PRIDE that, of course, you are taken, 1:08, but the tone changed to sarcastic whilst referencing your single friends.
@@Napolean45 relationships?🤣🤣mi si kadinya bro nilitoka soko 20 years ago. Ndio nakusho jipee time bado haujapata mse wa maana, usikufe peke yako in old age bro... I've seen that sh*t first hand and ni sad as fu¢k manze🙆🏾♂️. All the best bro🍻💯
Lack of mystery. Everything has been demystified ( A.K.A. , pornography). Women date up the leader and the competition for the top high class men is very high .Top men go for submissive women which is rare in the more accomplished women .
Perpetually single people are realists, but they believe that there is someone out there who’s specially made just for them.....They believe that there is someone who’s different from the others and that’s why they are called the one......Perpetually single people never lose hope when it comes to true love...
This is going to be a big issue in the future for anyone who will get to 50 without being married or having any form of cohabitation. you will be lonely as fuck , your so called friends ,some of them will be dead, and the market will be closed.
@@SkengMannmode please achana na mimi. Nani amekuambia am not working on myself. Mimi ni point nilikuwa natoa depending on my experience so ujinga yako ujiweke. Shame on you for being judgmental on people and you don't know them.😤
@@SkengMannmode That's what am doing day by day but ufai kukuja apa kwa comments kuniattack nikama tunajuana. And anyways that was just a point that I was just adding as to why some people are not in a relationship of which watu wengi wako hurt sana na wazazi. So if you are mentally okay be grateful na wacha watu wenye wanatry kuheal wa heal.
Men and Women are not single, they're not having goals to get hooked because if their next birthday. They know MARRIAGE isn't the ONLY GOAL to achieve in life.
I had decided to stay single at 31 until I met a man last year and fell in love. He treats me right and for the first time I have desired marriage with him. He's not Kenyan. Maybe Kenyan men need help, just maybe 🤔
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Fact: Promiscuity, Disloyalty and Selfishness is at an all time high ....It's a me world nowadays
100% correct
Nailed!!!!!!!!!!!!🙏
You need not worry. At 55 and 60s, we'll have more marriage unions than for the 20s and 30s. People at that time will just be seeking company but living separate lives together in the same house. But true, it's easier to marry when you are young and stupid than when you are older
Young and stupid is the kettle word.
Hook up culture, princess syndrome in women, feminism...
Trauma , cheating
Interesting. I see your point. I believe both genders have their issues and what matters in choosing a mate has become skewed.
It's so hard to find true love nowadays and everyone has unrealistic expectations
Very true..I won't regret being single
@@hamida2187 Don't desire to spend the rest of your life alone,there lots of good people in the world,if you can't find love where you're,travel and meet as many people as you can and develope good friendships ,am sure you'll find love in those friendships
Okay. Thanks for your information be blessed
I trusted someone for 5years waiting for him but in return..he married another..now am heading 28 so hard probably to get someone though God knows more
@@hamida2187 that must have been painful indeed,you ain't too old to find love,it probably happend bcoz he wasn't the right person,don't let that make you throw in the towel,you cauld be very close to finding the right person
We are living in a very sensitive and critical era. To be honest majority of people out here (especially with deep patriarchal culture mentalities) have such a huge problem when a woman confidently says, "I have refused to settle."
They will turn around and shame that woman saying she'll grow old alone or won't have someone to take care of her or that she had too much fun in her younger days and now has wasted herself. People seem to think a woman should keep herself pure for marriage/a man but over the years I've learned that it is good to keep oneself pure for God and God alone. Don't practice abstinence or virginity for marriage, do it for God, whether or not you find a partner.
What I know for sure is that different women go through different seasons in life and I can advise all women to have a deep spiritual connection with their creator and he will order their steps.
@Mary Joseph hi! It's such an honor to be in the presence of such a raw and truly God fearing woman. You are one of the few remnants that our everlasting king has set aside for himself. Many are called, but you are among the chosen few. I can imagine you go through so many trials, it can't be easy because relatives and some close friends can really piece with their sharp words and unsolicited advice. It gets tougher when you see even younger siblings and cousins etc getting married and or having children. But keep that strong relationship with God so that when it's time to move to your next assignment, you will know. That's what am working on. Keep serving Mary Joseph 😍
For me my story is different. I grew up in pure rebellion against the will of God. However recently I came to the realization that I cannot continue to walk in sexual sin and after many disappointments, something moved me to walking a new path of abstinence.
I've vied for MCA twice and lost both times. Funny enough the campaign trail is very hostile to single women because many people say that a woman without a child is still a child 😂😏🙄 on a few occasions someone would tell me that even some friends say I should get married first before running for office. I think people out here are very empty and may think marriage is a way to fill that gap. But many don't know that only God's one and only son can fill that void and give a new identity.
It's not shaming women in as much as it may seem so....reality is inescapable void that no one can avoid. Actually marriage is a phenomenon borne by the woman's need to feel secure. For men it's easier to be single because we are not plagued by biological factors or that need to have security. All in all, everyone has a right to choose the life they want to lead just don't blame anyone for the consequences of that decision.
@Mary Joseph Everything is but a choice. Even waking up is a choice
This is the most delusional woman I have ever heard talking
Even your creator told you to get married in his story book, stop making this into a gender war. If you don't want a man it's cool live single and be happy fu¢k it if you want a woman you can have her and be happy... Just be happy but stop blaming men and non existent patriarchy for you not wanting to settle down... Hakuna mwanaume yoyote hapa anajali ama anafikiria juu yako hivyo please you're not that important madam😂
Above 30s women have hit the wall no matter what they say!
I am 30 plus, I totally agree, go find a 20 year old😂.
@@vivianaganyo9851 VIVI🙌 hey😂
@@vivianaganyo9851 you’re right but there’s a girl turning 18 every single day, that’s what I’ll go for.
@@ulrich2819 well unless you are also 18 that's fine. Am almost sure that 18 year old is the the one who won't question bad behavior and is not yet equipped to identify narcissistic tendencies. She mistakes love bombing for love, and confuses love for lust, and then before she knows it you have already moved on to the next..
@@vivianaganyo9851 you don't have to lift a finger. We are no longer engaging with boys who think they are men.
Human beings are not meant to be alone regardless of how we dress up..be it careers, education, social status etc.
Money,career has made women to believe they are complete without marriage
What do u mean alone? Humans are never alone if one has friends that is not alone. Must u be married for u not to be alone? U can be married and alone
@@rachaelmwangi1010 There is a major difference between friendship and couples. A quick google search will show u that couples do better financially, emotionally, are happier etc.
There is a difference of being alone and lonely
@@rachaelmwangi1010 Humans are almost always alone , there are studies being done on this, bacoz it's seems friendships are not enough. Blood is thicker than water, when you get older and there's no husband no grandkids the loneliness is much realer than it is when your 30 and have the strength to go out with your friends. Your partner is the one who will be by your deathbed, your kids and their kids will be your caregivers.
Nothing like single by choice... People overestimate their value
Not really
Very true.. It's selfishness, entitlement, self importance, lack of family values, and illusions of independence (career first, everything else follows) and poor social skills that leads to people saying 'single by choice and happy'
Its very bogus but very few will admit it coz of pride and ego
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@@hellespont1 let them be selfish with their lives. To each his own
@@hellespont1 if a person is all that you have described then they should be single . Do you want to be with someone who is selfish, entitled self-centered, lack's family values etc etc 🤔🙄
90% of men are invisible to 90% of women..so in university women want money of which boy wa uni bado hana..so by the time boy wa uni anaanza ku get doh poa is in their 30s..huyo dem wa uni probably has been rammed through by everyone then says she wants to settle akishaa zeeka..men value less body counts in women so kaa dame haezi pata boy mapema na a behave feminine then this is what happens
I think things started going haywire with the introduction to the new social constructive ideologies such as "feminism" and "toxic masculinity" and the polarization that came along with that among other factors including high cost of living
There was a huge shift in terms of perception and the way people behave in relationships, It is the sensitivity that killed interest.
Feminism,toxic masculinity, poverty,high cost of living and LGBTQ are tools used by the west to reduce the world population.Thank you.
True Yolanda. Those people who are 40-50 years now, will be living in old people's home when the get 70 and 80. It is what is comming.
Single by choice? No. But should we settle for mediocrity? No. In the end, there is no manual for how we should all live our lifes. We all can't all be married, single, etc. To each their own.
Better to hold on to the hope of true love than to settle for nonsense. Alot of people make that mistake and end up becoming a statistic, which we end up viewing as painful stories on Tuko.
Rose i tend to differ. This days most chiles have unrealistic expectations and fantasies. When a man notices that he'll just shelve himself
For sure ... to each his/her own.
To each their own. haha. The second time in life am meeting this idiom or what are these phrases called??!!!
Remember, the 🧱 is unforgiving 😂😂😂
I love my Peace, Quiet and Freedom.. Never giving that up...
Sawa bro, utakuwa hivyo in your 80s?
its just simple, When Women aquire Affluence they tend not to want a family they say "I'm independent" but When Men Aquire Affluence they tend to start a family/families
Women don't want to share what they have whereas men are made to share what they have kidogo ama nyingi
Alignment of values and other important aspects is a major challenge.
I just wish Kibe would listen to this…whips!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Atumiwe link haraka upesi😂
There's this lot that have been moving countries making it harder to be in a relationship. Time's have changed and the pressure is too much. Once you hit 30 and still single just take it easy on yourself because this is when desperation kicks in societal pressure kicks in peer pressure kicks in. Protect your peace and try to figure it out ,at your own pace. This is the same advice I give to myself every single day.
How can one person make so much sense? Sailing on same boat.
I am just turning 23 years, I have never imagined myself in a long-term relationship with a woman, whenever I get in a relationship I just want to get out. Some of us relationships were not meant to be a goal.
Uko 23 bro hakuna kitu unajua bado. By the time you turn 25 utakuwa umechange and by the time utakuwa 30 utakuwa umechange. Make your money now, perfect a skill and learn more skills, build your value... Right now at 23 you have no business being in a relationship especially in this era
At 23, you know nothing
Unrealistic expectations garnished with really high body count
Am gonna spit it 😂🤣💀
Am just imagining how people stay single yet you can get one and start a family. Wacha ifike 50 years then you will know the importance of having a Family
My greatest longing in life is to have a solid friendship.However in life ,nothing is permanent .God is your only permanent non-changing friend.
...also factor in the current reality of most women valuing motherhood over being a wife.
Nothing like love for men , we are meant to take care of what is royal to us.
It all begins in the spiritual realm: Marriage is a gift from God..honour God...do not defile yourself before marriage... or else God will deny you that blessing!
Oh dear! I hope this is not how you view the single people in your church as if they did something wrong to be denied marriage. Marriage is not a right because you lived in purity. This thinking has led people to leave the faith when they live pure lives and God does not ''repay' them, for instance, with a good spouse, yet that is not promised to all. Marriage is a gift, and singleness is also a gift. Whether married or single, honour God and live in purity. Do not honour God for the 'blessings' you expect to get from Him, honour and obey Him because of who He is and what He has already done to achieve salvation for us all, whether on not you will ever get what you think are the 'blessings' from Him.
There are people who have been pure and are not married yet.
No
@@ginnymugure9215 definitely not a gift and no disrespect but be realistic I'm not trying to sh*t on your religious beliefs but they make you sound very delusional
The dudes are tired of the current material woman who only wants to use and exploit a hard working guy who’s trying to establish a comfortable future for himself.
I'm single not really by choice it's just that i don't want kids and to find a man who also doesn't want has been hard to find 😊😊
You don't want kids why? 🥰 i'm single too but if i find a partner i must have kids lol that's the most important thing about Marriage otherwise no need to Marry😄
Are you past the age of 45?
Personality and focus in life trying to ape the west.
There is nothing like I am single and happy ask them when they are in that room alone.
Hohoho. They should’ve invited Just Pearly Things to the show to break the table finally
There is nothing like true love,you are in 10 relationship and you are talking about real love.
It comes only once, once you lose it just marry a compatible partner.
Review this so called happiness after 25 years!! Trust you me...
As someone who's single, i can say that maybe part of reason, for me, the nice guys i meet are un-ambitious asf... and then the ambitious ones hawataki kutoka sherehe, ama just too many kids, and a bunch of baby mummies
Now we are talking..truth
This is a good start to a conversation. What do you mean by 'ambitious'?
@@iamsyourdadi just like being hardworking and having goals in life. Esp financial goals to make sure your future self and generations are not living hand to mouth
@@lauranawire5079 Unemployment rate is 70% wake up .
So true
Well said
It’s about time people started putting up old people’s homes
So many future candidates loading.
😂 I never thought this would happen in Africa.
It will become big business in 20-30 years.
@@regista_8 ni sababu ya feminism na Disney bro😂
We have been given the go ahead to market ourselves here. Moses here, single 28YO Software Engineer looking for a long-term partner.
Go ahead bro 😂🍻💯
"90% single by choice", a myth madam. They could be indicating that its by choice but deep down they have internal issues. Majority are single by circumstances (no matching partner out there-married material); by circumstances (personal values, age, past experience, career), ; False self-confidence( by stereotypes that I am single but happy while in private when will I ever get a child of my own, how can I get a man/woman for companionship etc); Lifestyle (social media space has over-exposed the part of the body formally limited to bedroom only); Profession (some are in back-door office that limits their free socialization); Telenovelas imagery(Looking for that partner portrayed on acted love scenes on screen in vain); The generational divide( hard to balance partners from two generations) and lastly, By choice(Not everyone was meant to marry and have babies like Catholic sisters, first experiences, born-differently (by hormones), given up in life and cheating scenes out there, maybe self-esteem issues like caused by looks that society uses to judge, childhood trauma/molestation and contentment)
One, on several factors as enumerated above could be causing singlehood. There is no symptoms without a cause. In sociology we call it "cause-effect" relationship.
Well said
Very well said.. All societies have to go through this phase of selfishness and feigned happiness. In alot of western world people are walking around like robots and chugging anti - depressants because of lonliness but will never tell you the truth (they will say they are happily single yet its a lie)
When this phase comes to an end in some far future, society will reset itself back to family Oriented social units and marriage will be back to business.
As of now I'll take that advise to start investing (maybe with some partners) into old age homes in Kenya in some scenic, well climated location 😉
Well articulated
Madam here is married😂 remember
That was a balanced view ..do the same on the state of our country
A man at 38 and a woman at 38 are not the same.
Have you guys considered to check on personality traits? We may say that 'soko' is a contributor and however small or big percentage it contributes to people choosing or preferring to stay single, people need to inwardly evaluate themselves more. One might have all the green checks on paper but you can't kindle anything special with them because their personality has no aroma, no flavor and just garbage waiting to be thrown in the bin.
If you are single, sit yourself down and look for someone.
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majority are busy setting standards at the age of settling down until its that time they realize all the people they are capable settling with are gone and taken. Now they have to act single and happy but deep inside things are different.
(1 corin 7) Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.BUT you can't marry just ANYONE too
People get married for different motives , but if you can't love your partner as the bible dictates what's the point? Some people are married but can't stand the spouse,some cheat,some checked out etc
If you are single maintain purity as you should when married too.
very true.....and the unmarried have a great chance to constantly seek the Lord and grow spiritually for they are not commited to any partner. Romans 12:1.. Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship.
Maintaining purity/ celibacy is a great form of worship to the Almighty.
Very well said.
That's a problem right there. Speak to a 60 year old. This knows it all generation is lost. They all need to listen.
You will need to listen to Dr. Jordan Peterson on the subject of relationships and career and how one wakes up at 45 and above only to realize the pursuit of a career what not the most important thing in life. However, societal influence has made the current generation to think that only career and money matters. Time has a way to bless or punish...i will leave it at that.
I don't care what no one says, being single is not healthy. Period. I am in my early 60s, been living in a country that most Kenyans would sacrifice anything to move to, I am financially stable in Kenya and the US but am single. I know some people reading this will right away judge me say there is something wrong with me. If you have never left Kenya and established yourself outside, I don't expect you to understand. You get romance scammed by shrewd and trifling Kenya women na wakileta their whole family here including their grandparents, madharau yanaanza.
Haha watu wa diaspora thats normally the story.Especially juh uku kila mtu is making their money.Ukileta kamrembo kanageuka kakigika US.I understand.True
Have you tried seeking a local partner whilst you are there given Kenyan are no go zone?
@@abdikidman330 yes, I have mixed race children but I would be happier with my own kind.
Ati wanaleta even their grandparents!
@@rispahoduwo5644 yes, hata sisters na brothers za grandparents. Mwingine alijaribu kuleta hata kuku ya cousin yake. That's why we are single.
Society and social media. There are women and men that want it, most of us are looking at what is happening and make that premature decision of not even trying. I know people have changed, lakini I believe people can have a happy home.
I have lady friends whom have turned 31, kila saa nawaona wakiwa depressed and lonely... jidanganyeni kabisa hadi uzee uanze kucheck in😁😁😁😁😁
When a woman has good money she doesn't need a man.raising a family becomes cumbersome. When a man has money he adds another wife and another. Men care
my two cents i think we might be facing a situation kevin samuels always spoke about where a large percentage of average women are looking for an above average man and in that over looking their fellow average man thus they compete for the few above average men who have resources and the above average man having resourcs have alot of options and can handle mutliple women hence some of the side chick and other situations another reason is not many men are ready to raise other men kids so alot of good single mothers get overlooked add feminism go getter things future anty wa harrier and also baby gal behaviours where women have unreasonable expectations
The moment we " empowered" women, kaput, marriage works well when the lady is lesser in all dimensions
By choice😂😅
Do these people even listen to themselves? Wanaanza: by choice and they not angry... lakini as convo proceeds, they talk of reality.
this is why , italy people kufaad by pandemic like shiet , hakuna mtu wa kuwatengezea concotion
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🤣🤣🤣that's funny though
ati concotion 🤣🤣🤣🤣 what do you mean?
@@jessyjess4566 mix of lemon,ginger,garlic and crocodile tears 😭 😭
In my case, im not single by choice..The people that want me I see no compatibility..If I get someone compatible I would not even waste a second...
Let's hook up
@@kevinochieng6458😂
What's Ur definition of compatibility
@@pupdates2008 Let's give it a try and see if we are compatible
The men who want you, you don't want them and the men you want don't want you for marriage. So review and change your parameters to be very realistic before you hit the wall
but why is marriage such an important achievement in your eyes? if you want to get married, get married. if you don't, live your life. watu washughulikie maisha yao bana.
Marriage is important.
Arguably the most important natural social institution in the world because from it family is derived..
If this young generation avoids it..trust me the world would Crumble in many aspects, ..it's evident in the west with all the bs going on there..
I can give an whole 6 hour lecture on the importance of marriage and it's linkage to human flourishment but I'll stop it at there 😅
@@bonifacekioko6320 and i can give a 12 hour lecture on the non-importance of marriage. kama unataka kuoa fine. but let others live their lives. huwezi tu dictate maisha.
How old are you?
@@mourice1669 how old are you?
@@bernicefenton 33 and i can tell you i am already feeling bad that i haven't found a partner
For women to be single in their 30s it means they've hit the wall.
Eternal Bachelors is the sitrep with men!
A woman in a serious relationship/married who hangs out with single people is a serious red flag for me.
Exactly serious red flag
Another joke
This happens mostly if the relationship /marriage becomes boring..hangin with single friends is usually a 'what if'
Y O L O
(Marriage is a mindset Problem influenced by a community who like judging don’t get consumed by it)
Stay safely Single & Enjoy life. Prd.
"Am happy" in most cases is a defense mechanism decoy, to wish away inhibited temperaments and emotional conflicts...and Spiritually is called The LAODICEANS age catastrophe...."rich and have need of nothing".....but
I like how Yolanda builts a tent on the '37' age.May the Lord gives me courage to talk about my age openly
She’s married that’s why.
If she was single, she would not have blasted it like that
Everybody gets old.
@@1anre spot on!
@@bkr528 37 isnt old.
@@stealthygaming.1945 definitely not old
Where did you get your data from? How did you arrive at 90%?
Sisterhood of the traveling pants
So many weird things happening in the'marriage's and they even scare away the singles to join the institution. But I still believe in marriage
There's nothing weird going on, stop making boogymen tafuta bwana na uolewe kama hautaki pia ni sawa😂
@@SkengMannmode I think my definition of the word weird is not same as yours,the statement I still believe in the same institution says all
@@terryjames6861 no our definitions are the same and I'm telling you and others who will read this comment stop making boogymen to stop you from getting a good man to love you and marry you
@@SkengMannmode noted
Kaa single home for the elderly inakungoja, fika 50.
Education increases chances of divorce by 90%. Ukiongeza promiscuity inakuwa 100%. Now you get divorce before marriage 🤣.
watu sai are informed
😂😂😂 kweli kabisa
SWOT Analysis like Lack of Capital and Poor Infrastructure 😂😂.
This talk should only mlika women cz men don't have a shelf date .. Sisi tuko Sawa😂.
Andrew Kibe ako wapi when u need him
They are straight men with gay souls, period!
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😂😂😂you found out your man is a woman🤣🤣
ALL WOMEN ARE STRONG AND INDEPENDENT...THEY'RE LYING THAT THEY AARE HAPPY AND SINGLE
A 21 year old chick I conversed with said she never wants kids and never wants to be in a relationship. But in Kenya relationships are commercial no love no commitment
Mtu Ako 21 hajui any bado
Single by choice at 30
Nani wewe? Kama ushapata pesa tafuta bibi na uanzishe family bro. Usikufe peke yako kwa mansion yako ama old folks home
Sisi kama gen z tunakubaliana💯 na Yolanda hakuna kitu permanent bana. Wacha tutafute pesa
The feminist agenda that purports strong independent women is also one of the issues too
Great conversation
Some people are heartless I someone wouldn't give 2000 ,5000 to help but will buy flowers of 3000 for a funeral.
When your good people will be bad.
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Good question! Why don't you ask hypergamy? 0:55 I noticed you said with PRIDE that, of course, you are taken, 1:08, but the tone changed to sarcastic whilst referencing your single friends.
We are good alone. It sucks to be in relationships
No it doesn't ni wewe ndio haujapata mtu wa maana
@@SkengMannmode all the best in your relationships but no thanks with me.
@@Napolean45 relationships?🤣🤣mi si kadinya bro nilitoka soko 20 years ago. Ndio nakusho jipee time bado haujapata mse wa maana, usikufe peke yako in old age bro... I've seen that sh*t first hand and ni sad as fu¢k manze🙆🏾♂️. All the best bro🍻💯
@@SkengMannmode speak on English I don't understand Swahili. Are you happily married,m
@@Napolean45 oh sorry I thought you were Kenyan. Yes I'm happily married for 20 years now.
Im a proud bachelor without limits period so help me God in Jesus Christ name Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 by Steve Irungu Jermaine
Are you a 30s woman.... we don't care that you are single understand the context. That's why you still isingle in God.
Have you ever seen an old man slowly dying with no loved ones by his side... Bro it's a very lonely and very painful death.
Give this case study another 15 years
We are single by choice because women are toooo stressful and unqualified asf
Preach sister 👏👏👏👏
Indeed there will come a time where the loneliness will kick in, lakini as said love is expensive s*x is free.....
one word "kaswende"
Lack of mystery. Everything has been demystified ( A.K.A. , pornography). Women date up the leader and the competition for the top high class men is very high .Top men go for submissive women which is rare in the more accomplished women .
Sense.
@Decomez Decomez Hapo kwa submissive wacha tu, people misuse it alot
Points in zile zile too. Lack of capital, Poor infrastructure etc
Perpetually single people are realists, but they believe that there is someone out there who’s specially made just for them.....They believe that there is someone who’s different from the others and that’s why they are called the one......Perpetually single people never lose hope when it comes to true love...
How these will help at the end of a woman is past 30s be sensible a bit😂
Banking is not a carrier my friend.
We have that problem in Zimbabwe too. i wouldnt mind getting a Kenyan lady, So Kenyan ladies hit me up
Do you have 💰 ?
Coz they are going to need it😂
@@lifewithveronicah yes the tchelete is there
Coz we all belong to the streets🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is going to be a big issue in the future for anyone who will get to 50 without being married or having any form of cohabitation. you will be lonely as fuck , your so called friends ,some of them will be dead, and the market will be closed.
The answer is simple. Sisi hatupangwingwi. LOL
They are single but smashing multiple partners
U got it.
Am yet to meet a happily married man or woman so why should you hurry. The goal is to get kids & you coparent, you spoil the kid
Women should just marry younger men that will work and that's where we are heading to
Hypergamy my foot...weak af
90% ARE NOT SINGLE BY CHOICE
ni tabia za madem wa kenya wamekua mapoko
Soko ni mbaya...independent woman is scam. You will feel lonely one day.
Also the marriage of your parents can make you to hate relationship 💔
I've been married longer than my parents, wacha excuses. If ukona trauma work on it and get peace ndio usisumbue mwanaume
@@SkengMannmode please achana na mimi. Nani amekuambia am not working on myself. Mimi ni point nilikuwa natoa depending on my experience so ujinga yako ujiweke.
Shame on you for being judgmental on people and you don't know them.😤
@@SkengMannmode Na tena who told you it easy to get rid of a trauma.
@@elizawangui2970 whatever just work on yourself ndio usispread trauma yako... Hurt people hurt people. All the best
@@SkengMannmode That's what am doing day by day but ufai kukuja apa kwa comments kuniattack nikama tunajuana.
And anyways that was just a point that I was just adding as to why some people are not in a relationship of which watu wengi wako hurt sana na wazazi.
So if you are mentally okay be grateful na wacha watu wenye wanatry kuheal wa heal.
andrew tate would smoke this topic
They know the real answers but beat about the bush on the topic
I tell you😁
"The lord is my husband" i don't care😂
A man shall leave his father and mother....the word is shall not may....marriage is inevitable and any attempts to by pass or avoid it is detrimental.
38 and single ladies kibe alishatushow vako zao..
Men and Women are not single, they're not having goals to get hooked because if their next birthday. They know MARRIAGE isn't the ONLY GOAL to achieve in life.
Nobody is saying it's the ONLY goal but it's ONE of the goals
I had decided to stay single at 31 until I met a man last year and fell in love. He treats me right and for the first time I have desired marriage with him. He's not Kenyan. Maybe Kenyan men need help, just maybe 🤔
Hahah does he have a brother?? Turning 30 this year, and I agree Kenyan men are not really my type
@Chantal Mwiza why so?
Don't blame this on Kenyan men there's plenty of us with kenyan women and we had them before we turned 31. Maybe its just you
@@ChantalMwiza maybe you're not the type for Kenyan men, stop shi++ing on us because you can't get a man. Labda ni wewe bana
@@SkengMannmode 🤣🤣🤣🤣 take your arguments to your Kenyan wife
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