Honestly I totally relate with not loving what you’re doing anymore. I felt that way with OF for a while but decided to start doing more professional photo shoots and videos and that has helped me to get excited again. I think just switching things up and trying new platforms without burning yourself out can help too cause it’s new. Hopefully things get better for you soon! Sending positive vibes ❤️❤️
@@lydialovexo honestly I’ve been getting into findom and I love it so much more than my regular stuff. But my whole branding is completely different which kinda makes it more complicated. But I resonate more with being dominant lately. Maybe I’m just fed up with bullshit 😂
I relate to this 100% I was on / off in the sw industry since I was 18 and finally when I turned 25 I left for good. it was a huge transition for me and I miss the lifestyle & money constantly, but my self esteem felt damaged and it didn't make me feel good anymore. I was comparing myself to other girls with loads of plastic surgery and felt like I couldn't compete. I hope you ride this rough wave out and stick with it and do whatever makes you happy 💜💜💜 I think it's important to remember to have fun with it and don't take yourself too seriously
I've been following you since your sugar baby video and definitely seen the evolution from wide-eyed starlet to industry veteran, and it's been incredible to watch. I think you've come a long way and enjoyed sucess, with very little guidance, and overcame some fucked up scenarios to get where you're at now. And because of that seem absolutely exhausted. I'm not in the industry, but I try to follow and understand it, and the constant barrage of bullshit you all get hit with on various fronts is fucken draining to me, I can't imagine what it is to you all. Not to sound too didactic but the constant thing about getting older is we're able to more clearly see inefficiencies in how we've done or do things. It's not uncommon to take stock in what worked and how much effort it took (or will take) in a changing landscape. Add to that the feeling of being stuck or typecast in your current situation in order to maintain a lifestyle, and that shit starts to wear on a person. The thing I see with sex workers that have been at it for a while is the conflict between having successfully established themselves as a boss bitch yet still having to succumb to demands of paying customers. This is similar to retail workers hating the very customers that pay their salaries, but it seems there's a particular soul-draining aspect to it for sex workers. It's not a secret that swers favorite customers are the ones that quietly tip and mostly leave them alone. I think it's easier to compartmentalize when you're younger and hungry for exposure that it's just a service, when you're all about "getting this bread". It seems as swers get older, they start feel like "I shouldn't have to do this shit anymore". All this said, this is just my observation - what do I know, admittedly, I'm just a blowhole on the internet. What I do know is that you'll be successful in whatever endeavor you choose, be it sex work or sex work adjacent, or outside the industry. You have that mainstream appeal and seem to have the brains and work ethic to get there, so there's really no stopping you. Get through this lull and enjoy the ride to bigger, brighter things. Good luck to you.
It’s like the creative process in general. Giving a piece of yourself comes with a cost. Hopefully you gain those pieces back through time &/or other pursuits.
SWER here: I'm still in the beginning of the video where you talk about not having your heart in the job rn & feeling burnt out and I totally relate as I constantly have to deal with ways of overcoming or avoiding it. Also as someone with ADHD I feel we get bored way more easily, something that has helped me avoid burnout is looking for inspiration. One source of inspiration can only do so much for our drive so Im constantly looking for it in different SW's, different aesthetics, etc. I can't keep the same shtick for long, maybe that makes it hard to create a long-lasting fan base but it's the only way I've found to keep things interesting: I've been the 19 y-o next door girl, the femme Fatale, the submissive brat, and now I feel more inclined to do more Domme content. Don't know if you've tried this but search for inspiration, an aesthetic to do next, maybe that will make you get in the groove again n you'll be excited to do your job again! Much love ❤️
There's so much pressure to fit into 1 category only and we can do so much more than that! From my experience the people that follow you for YOU will follow along the ride, whether you're the submissive girl today or the ruthless dominatrix tomorrow. Plus you can tend to a much broader variety of clients!
i really needed this. i’ve only been camming for 2 years and i feel like i lost passion for it like it had when i started. it’s also my only source of income now and i have bills so i almost feel like i lost purpose. it’s so nice to know other girls experience burn out and i’m hoping it gets better!
I love following your journey. And it's true that the actual passage of time, no shortcuts, leads to so much growth that can't be learned, only experienced.
I love your sit down videos. I get the social media thing. I feel like its been consuming me lately and ill be on it for hours thinking I wish I could take pics like that, or come up with captions like that. Very helpful! I am also going to school for psychology and trying to balance plan posts on OF and Reddit.
I can't remember how long I've followed you for (or even how I found you lol) but it definitely have to have been a good year or 2. A break from burn out is always a good change of pace to figure out how to go about it and what you want to do. You got this Lydia and whatever you pursue we'll be here for you in every possible way!! (OH and gas station order is either doritos or reece's and a bottle of whatever soda lol)
Watched it all. Glad you’re doing ok. Maybe more little vacations will help you stay fresh. Good luck w your goals, very admirable. Oh, and you’re right, you’re looking your best. 😉👍
I couldn’t have said this feeling I have+ as perfectly as you have in this video!! I’m going to be sharing it with people in my life as well as my following/fans…It’s so spot on as to how I am feeling-ever since the exact same time frame too, during winter things got-strange? i kept up my OF and would upload the rare new video or do a custom or two but I barely could get myself the profit from the work nor a larger audience to motivate me to keep making content…) by march it got especially bad and I went radio silent and it’s been taking me excruciatingly large amounts of willpower to make just one silly tweet about something I had thought of that day...my confidence has been tripped up too and I seriously do not know as to why. Perhaps recent personal events are really bringing down my vibe and I too have trouble being bubbly without champagne and a reason to drink it…I much prefer to keep it real and have people see that fantasy and humanity are intertwined and not black and white like the shadow and the self. I am happy that you made this video-I wanted to make one of my own to explain a little and chat about where I’ve been and what’s been on my mind since my last stream or post to socials…I’m having trouble with that too. Hopefully clarity will come soon for us both and no matter the direction you end up doing what you want the very most, most of the time. Thanks again, so very much for posting this. I really need to know I’m not alone right now!❤️🩹✨🦋
This was a good vid. Everyone has those times where they don't like what they're doing and deciding what they wanna do. I love that you were very honest in this. I do find taking breaks from social media is definitely a good idea. And honestly if I make a gas station run it's usually soda and maybe a candy bar.
Thankyou so much for talking about this. I’ve been a cam girl for 2 years now but the last 3 months or so my mental health has got increasingly worse. I feel so anxious about logging on to work and when I am online I feel tense and like I have lost my mojo. The stress of this being my only income is eating away at me. I feel so stuck 😞 but again thanks so much for making this video as it’s not spoken about enough online x
This was the video I needed to watch. I, too, spend way too much time on social media. I feel drain and alone. But I need more ME time for ME. I work too much as well, and for what? I'm not happy. I want to travel again and go out for adventures, I want to spend more time with my close friends and family.
Please make the content that makes **YOU** happy! Your followers will watch you no matter what. Also, you’re so entertaining you could read the dictionary and it would be entertaining. It’s normal for the shift. There’s a HUGE change from 17/18-21 and then again from 21-34/25 and it’ll shift again around 28/29-30. Just roll with you. It’s also normal to hate your job sometimes. We all go thru seasons of life and sometimes we get in ruts. Hang in there. This is about a month old, so I really hope you’re feeling a bit better or less, “confused”, but if not... hang in there and live in the moment. If you don’t want to be a performer at some point, there is SOOO much you can still do to support the community. Especially advocacy stuff.
Also, your honesty will help soooo many people. You’re not alone in your feelings for sure. Confusion is so damn normal. Hang in there! That career choice is freaking PERFECT! The best therapists are the ones who have lived it. When it comes to niche things like addiction & the sex work industry having someone like you would be so helpful. Especially if you did a lot of virtual things to reach your targeted clientele. I support that 100000% I really think that would be so amazing for yourself and your community.
Gas station order: Mine is / fountain Diet Coke (onlyyyy thing I drink thats diet lol) && Baked Lays (love the baked bc they’re not all greasy not for the fat content, not that I mind lol) && then for the sweet shizzzz... Gummy bears or the bag of gushers that 7-11 has, and then regular Hershey’s chocolate bar 🍫 .
Seriously though, I think these shifts are normal and common. Nobody knows what they're doing, we're all changing all the time. From another future therapist: I think that leap between 18 and 25 is just MASSIVE change all the time. It slows down a little after that, I feel. Things will settle and you'll find your place too - and if you don't like that place, you change it. Considering how much you have going on and how many projects you've started, cutting away those that aren't necessary is a good idea. Sometimes we have some great ideas (or at least I do, usually when I'm hypomanic), and then we can't deal with the amount of time and work they actually take because we already have shit going on. There's no shame in going "Welp, that wasn't for me, not right now" and going back to doing only what you have to in order to make a living so you can focus on private life shit like school, friends and relationships.
Hello lydia love and have you heard of trippie redd and kanye west and drake and little simz and nas / lil tecca / and baby keem / lil nas x and meek mill and lil wayne & rich the kid / g eazy and don toliver and young thug and cold play and lorde and billie eilish and halsey / maroon 5 and kacey musgraves / imagine dragons and ed sheeran / taylor swift and summer walker /silk sonic and adele / little mix and nardo wick / polo g and juice wrld and rick ross / wale and french montana and gunna and the weeknd / earl sweatshirt and roddy richh and cordee / fka twigs and lil pump and nle choppa new album
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Honestly I totally relate with not loving what you’re doing anymore. I felt that way with OF for a while but decided to start doing more professional photo shoots and videos and that has helped me to get excited again. I think just switching things up and trying new platforms without burning yourself out can help too cause it’s new. Hopefully things get better for you soon! Sending positive vibes ❤️❤️
Yess, when I experience burn out I always switch it up. I'm thinking about doing some more domme stuff again it was so fun.
@@lydialovexo honestly I’ve been getting into findom and I love it so much more than my regular stuff. But my whole branding is completely different which kinda makes it more complicated. But I resonate more with being dominant lately. Maybe I’m just fed up with bullshit 😂
I relate to this 100% I was on / off in the sw industry since I was 18 and finally when I turned 25 I left for good. it was a huge transition for me and I miss the lifestyle & money constantly, but my self esteem felt damaged and it didn't make me feel good anymore. I was comparing myself to other girls with loads of plastic surgery and felt like I couldn't compete. I hope you ride this rough wave out and stick with it and do whatever makes you happy 💜💜💜 I think it's important to remember to have fun with it and don't take yourself too seriously
You deserve a break! Thank you for sharing. You look amazing btw 💕
thank you!
I've been following you since your sugar baby video and definitely seen the evolution from wide-eyed starlet to industry veteran, and it's been incredible to watch. I think you've come a long way and enjoyed sucess, with very little guidance, and overcame some fucked up scenarios to get where you're at now. And because of that seem absolutely exhausted. I'm not in the industry, but I try to follow and understand it, and the constant barrage of bullshit you all get hit with on various fronts is fucken draining to me, I can't imagine what it is to you all. Not to sound too didactic but the constant thing about getting older is we're able to more clearly see inefficiencies in how we've done or do things. It's not uncommon to take stock in what worked and how much effort it took (or will take) in a changing landscape. Add to that the feeling of being stuck or typecast in your current situation in order to maintain a lifestyle, and that shit starts to wear on a person.
The thing I see with sex workers that have been at it for a while is the conflict between having successfully established themselves as a boss bitch yet still having to succumb to demands of paying customers. This is similar to retail workers hating the very customers that pay their salaries, but it seems there's a particular soul-draining aspect to it for sex workers. It's not a secret that swers favorite customers are the ones that quietly tip and mostly leave them alone. I think it's easier to compartmentalize when you're younger and hungry for exposure that it's just a service, when you're all about "getting this bread". It seems as swers get older, they start feel like "I shouldn't have to do this shit anymore".
All this said, this is just my observation - what do I know, admittedly, I'm just a blowhole on the internet. What I do know is that you'll be successful in whatever endeavor you choose, be it sex work or sex work adjacent, or outside the industry. You have that mainstream appeal and seem to have the brains and work ethic to get there, so there's really no stopping you. Get through this lull and enjoy the ride to bigger, brighter things. Good luck to you.
this is such a kind and insightful comment thank you so much Cory :)
It’s like the creative process in general. Giving a piece of yourself comes with a cost. Hopefully you gain those pieces back through time &/or other pursuits.
SWER here: I'm still in the beginning of the video where you talk about not having your heart in the job rn & feeling burnt out and I totally relate as I constantly have to deal with ways of overcoming or avoiding it. Also as someone with ADHD I feel we get bored way more easily, something that has helped me avoid burnout is looking for inspiration. One source of inspiration can only do so much for our drive so Im constantly looking for it in different SW's, different aesthetics, etc. I can't keep the same shtick for long, maybe that makes it hard to create a long-lasting fan base but it's the only way I've found to keep things interesting: I've been the 19 y-o next door girl, the femme Fatale, the submissive brat, and now I feel more inclined to do more Domme content. Don't know if you've tried this but search for inspiration, an aesthetic to do next, maybe that will make you get in the groove again n you'll be excited to do your job again! Much love ❤️
There's so much pressure to fit into 1 category only and we can do so much more than that! From my experience the people that follow you for YOU will follow along the ride, whether you're the submissive girl today or the ruthless dominatrix tomorrow. Plus you can tend to a much broader variety of clients!
I love this advice so much thank you and I really relate to you!
i really needed this. i’ve only been camming for 2 years and i feel like i lost passion for it like it had when i started. it’s also my only source of income now and i have bills so i almost feel like i lost purpose. it’s so nice to know other girls experience burn out and i’m hoping it gets better!
I love following your journey. And it's true that the actual passage of time, no shortcuts, leads to so much growth that can't be learned, only experienced.
I love your sit down videos. I get the social media thing. I feel like its been consuming me lately and ill be on it for hours thinking I wish I could take pics like that, or come up with captions like that. Very helpful! I am also going to school for psychology and trying to balance plan posts on OF and Reddit.
that's awesome!! do you have an idea of what career you want to go into?
I can't remember how long I've followed you for (or even how I found you lol) but it definitely have to have been a good year or 2. A break from burn out is always a good change of pace to figure out how to go about it and what you want to do.
You got this Lydia and whatever you pursue we'll be here for you in every possible way!!
(OH and gas station order is either doritos or reece's and a bottle of whatever soda lol)
Watched it all. Glad you’re doing ok. Maybe more little vacations will help you stay fresh. Good luck w your goals, very admirable. Oh, and you’re right, you’re looking your best. 😉👍
Enjoy Vegas!! I love it there. ❤️
thank you!
@@lydialovexo Yvw 😉😉
I couldn’t have said this feeling I have+ as perfectly as you have in this video!!
I’m going to be sharing it with people in my life as well as my following/fans…It’s so spot on as to how I am feeling-ever since the exact same time frame too, during winter things got-strange? i kept up my OF and would upload the rare new video or do a custom or two but I barely could get myself the profit from the work nor a larger audience to motivate me to keep making content…) by march it got especially bad and I went radio silent and it’s been taking me excruciatingly large amounts of willpower to make just one silly tweet about something I had thought of that day...my confidence has been tripped up too and I seriously do not know as to why. Perhaps recent personal events are really bringing down my vibe and I too have trouble being bubbly without champagne and a reason to drink it…I much prefer to keep it real and have people see that fantasy and humanity are intertwined and not black and white like the shadow and the self.
I am happy that you made this video-I wanted to make one of my own to explain a little and chat about where I’ve been and what’s been on my mind since my last stream or post to socials…I’m having trouble with that too. Hopefully clarity will come soon for us both and no matter the direction you end up doing what you want the very most, most of the time. Thanks again, so very much for posting this. I really need to know I’m not alone right now!❤️🩹✨🦋
Good Vid, Glad I discovered your RUclips Channel, Earlier..!!! 💯📽
thanks for watching!!!
I love how you are so honest you are legit my fav and your videos here are so amazing! Sprite and hot cheetos too!
This was a good vid. Everyone has those times where they don't like what they're doing and deciding what they wanna do. I love that you were very honest in this. I do find taking breaks from social media is definitely a good idea. And honestly if I make a gas station run it's usually soda and maybe a candy bar.
Thankyou so much for talking about this. I’ve been a cam girl for 2 years now but the last 3 months or so my mental health has got increasingly worse. I feel so anxious about logging on to work and when I am online I feel tense and like I have lost my mojo. The stress of this being my only income is eating away at me. I feel so stuck 😞 but again thanks so much for making this video as it’s not spoken about enough online x
I watched the whole thing and please keep making content!
This was the video I needed to watch. I, too, spend way too much time on social media. I feel drain and alone. But I need more ME time for ME. I work too much as well, and for what? I'm not happy. I want to travel again and go out for adventures, I want to spend more time with my close friends and family.
Watched the whole thing! ❤️ about to go watch another video too lol.
who has their post notifications on?
Me (:
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Please make the content that makes **YOU** happy! Your followers will watch you no matter what. Also, you’re so entertaining you could read the dictionary and it would be entertaining.
It’s normal for the shift. There’s a HUGE change from 17/18-21 and then again from 21-34/25 and it’ll shift again around 28/29-30. Just roll with you. It’s also normal to hate your job sometimes. We all go thru seasons of life and sometimes we get in ruts. Hang in there. This is about a month old, so I really hope you’re feeling a bit better or less, “confused”, but if not... hang in there and live in the moment.
If you don’t want to be a performer at some point, there is SOOO much you can still do to support the community. Especially advocacy stuff.
Also, your honesty will help soooo many people. You’re not alone in your feelings for sure. Confusion is so damn normal. Hang in there!
That career choice is freaking PERFECT! The best therapists are the ones who have lived it. When it comes to niche things like addiction & the sex work industry having someone like you would be so helpful. Especially if you did a lot of virtual things to reach your targeted clientele. I support that 100000% I really think that would be so amazing for yourself and your community.
Gas station order:
Mine is / fountain Diet Coke (onlyyyy thing I drink thats diet lol) && Baked Lays (love the baked bc they’re not all greasy not for the fat content, not that I mind lol) && then for the sweet shizzzz... Gummy bears or the bag of gushers that 7-11 has, and then regular Hershey’s chocolate bar 🍫 .
You will change every year :p
Cucumber lime water and voodoo chips
nothing last forever you can’t be on cam forever if you don’t feel connected to that anymore you can move on with other stuff
Dude the money has been different I feel like. Even more up and down.
actually I do agree with this!
😂Hot dog, because I never eat them otherwise
Seriously though, I think these shifts are normal and common. Nobody knows what they're doing, we're all changing all the time. From another future therapist: I think that leap between 18 and 25 is just MASSIVE change all the time. It slows down a little after that, I feel. Things will settle and you'll find your place too - and if you don't like that place, you change it. Considering how much you have going on and how many projects you've started, cutting away those that aren't necessary is a good idea. Sometimes we have some great ideas (or at least I do, usually when I'm hypomanic), and then we can't deal with the amount of time and work they actually take because we already have shit going on. There's no shame in going "Welp, that wasn't for me, not right now" and going back to doing only what you have to in order to make a living so you can focus on private life shit like school, friends and relationships.
omg hahaha hotdog! thank you for your kind comment too
Hello lydia love and have you heard of trippie redd and kanye west and drake and little simz and nas / lil tecca / and baby keem / lil nas x and meek mill and lil wayne & rich the kid / g eazy and don toliver and young thug and cold play and lorde and billie eilish and halsey / maroon 5 and kacey musgraves / imagine dragons and ed sheeran / taylor swift and summer walker /silk sonic and adele / little mix and nardo wick / polo g and juice wrld and rick ross / wale and french montana and gunna and the weeknd / earl sweatshirt and roddy richh and cordee / fka twigs and lil pump and nle choppa new album
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