the godly woman against women
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- the transformed wife has a lot of misogyny to spew.
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The Transformed Wife is the way she is because her husband cheated on her a long time ago. She was convinced she was the reason so she turned into this. Now her entire life is surrounded around being what she thinks is the perfect wife to keep her awful husband from cheating on her again. I wish someone would do a deep dive into her lore because its something else. Ive went back and looked at alot of it just from what i can find online. She isnt happy. She is in constant fear that shes probably still being cheated on, and she probably is. Her husband now knows that no matter what he does, she'll just do whatever he wants because its her fault, not his. Its disturbing
That's incredibly sad.
She made so many posts about Ken cheating a few years ago, and if you ask her about it now she denies that he ever did anything. But all of the very clear cheating posts are still available for viewing. She's managed to basically brainwash herself at this point
@@kitkat66766 you can tell just from the way she speaks in her videos that she's not fully there (if it wasn't apparent enough in the tweets)
seriously though, if you thought the tweets were unhinged, watch her videos lmao
It’s honestly sad, if you look at her TikToks you can tell she’s just regurgitating things she’s heard and she’s definitely not happy. She’s miserable and I wish she could see how brainwashed she’s become
@@ferninthehouse Doesn't she also have a brain tumour?
I had a mother who regretted having me, I was a tie to my father keeping her from leaving and he was useless in caring for me, making me just another chore to take care of. Some people just don't want kids, and pressuring them into having one hurts everyone
I’m sorry that you were treated like that. You don’t deserve it
Three Trumpster fires tried to crash my city's Pride event today, utterly failed to get a reaction. They did see me filming them though.
trumpster fire 😂 saving that one for later
my parents spanked me when I was a kid, and I've talked to my dad about his reasoning for doing that. he said it's because he doesn't believe that kids under ten or so are capable of having conversations about why they broke a rule/why they shouldn't break it in the future- he is not an abusive person, he only spanked because it was the parenting he grew up with, and even he thinks about kids in a way that's so uncharitable. I don't want to know what people like her think of children like, if she's so vocal to hit them.
@birch2377
He is an abuser though, his (stupid) reasoning doesn't make his spanking not abuse. People need to realize that many abusers have different 'reasons' for the abuse that isn't just 'I like to hurt you haha' and that is still abuse.
@@kellycowley3535 I think OP is saying that *he* is claiming to not be abusive.
if they’re too young to be spoken to about what they did wrong then they’re too young to understand why they’re being hit girl what
@@kellycowley3535 I don't and won't ever agree with his past choices or reasoning for it- you're right, it's a stupid reason. I don't care if other people feel their spanking was abuse, I don't feel that way about my childhood. it was probably not the most helpful thing in the world to say in my comment, though. I know stuff like that can be damaging to people who really do feel like they were abused. sorry about that
CRYING over the ad placement here of just
"Hey, women- Are you struggling in calculus?" I sure am RUclips, I sure am....
I'm so thankful to live in a country, where hitting your kids is illegal. That gives me grounds for not letting abusive people be around my hypothetical future kids.
My late stepmother was like this woman. She abused me through her "parenting." I'm now disabled with PTSD and a heart condition because of it, and I'm pansexual.
(This was commenting on how that parenting style doesn't work in case I wasn't clear with my wording ❤❤)
Logically, I understand that you being pan was going to be a thing regardless of the abuse. However, my brain jumped to you being pan BECAUSE of the abuse. Just “You weren’t capable of love so I’m going to love EVERYONE”
@thatonearoace Lmao I love that logic
@Those_Mal_Working_Dogs me 2, as a fellow abused pan lol. But it is y I'm infuriated wen ppl say Dat gay/trans is a choice
My abusive foster adoptive mom tried 2 beat both outa me. So if it was a choice obviously I woulda choose no beatins
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Hugs! 🤗
She gives "god didn't want you to have children but he still loves you" vibes
Context: when I was 14 I almost died because I had appendicitis and my ovaries were wrapped around my tubes and stopped the blood flow so they had to remove an ovary, my tubes and my appendix so I can't get pregnant. Anyways last month on Mother's Day of all days my Christian grandmother said that it happened because god didn't want me to have children but he still loves me regardless if I can have children or not.. I almost died and had one of the worst things happen to me and I'm supposed to believe that god did that because of his plans but also still loves me? What a weird way to show his love..
She also believes adoption and surrogacy are kidnapping so there's that too 🤷🏻♀️
I just feel like this woman would say that exact same thing to me..
When I was 5 my grandma from my dads side adopted me (oh no!)
And i know that between her and both my aunts they'd be ready to beat this bish 😅 between my Christian grandma (she's my moms mom btw) and this lady on Twitter they're lucky they can hide behind a screen because they'd really need god after my grandma and aunts seen them face to face 😈
Was that a threat? No hun I'm just trying to warn you because I'm a nice person
So if the bio parents died, would adoption still be kidnapping? Like, would the GHOSTS get mad or something?? 😭😭
@@alienenby I guess the ghosts of the parents would just want their children in the foster care system until they're 18 maybe even have the children living on the streets because wouldn't them being in foster care or with a relative also be "kidnapping" ? Like oop your parents passed away so i guess you're gonna be on the streets because if you live with anyone you're just being kidnapped
Wow. I thought she'd at least be like 'God wants you to adopt and save unwanted babies' (still a bad take to tell someone who suffered a tragedy so young) but no... apparently that'd be kidnapping. Awful take in every direction!
@@prettyevil6662000 right? Well based by her logic babies and children should be on the streets because wouldn't foster care be considered "kidnapping" ? Like it's all terrible but what's the difference you know? Like in foster care it's people getting paid for taking care of children who don't have their bio parents for whatever reason so wouldn't that be kidnapping? Like what's the difference between a child being in foster care or me adopting them and giving them a loving home? My grandma from my dads side adopted me because my parents lost custody when I was 3 and I was in foster care until i was 5 when my grandma adopted me so by her logic my grandma from my dads side kidnapped me.. I don't understand why it's ok that my grandma from my dads side adopted me when I was 5 but if I were to do it it's wrong.. or she thinks me being adopted is wrong too but she just won't say it knowing that the grandma that adopted me wouldn't take that crap.
Calling it kidnapping is wild, but I'm not a fan of surrogacy either tbh. Babies form a bond with the person carrying them (you can recognize your mum by her scent) and I feel conflicted about starting a pregnancy _knowing_ the baby will not have the instinctual feeling of security and safety they'd have with their biological parent
Oh I almost completely forgot about this woman, she’s the woman who was advocating for literal child abuse as a form of discipline.
3:00 Anyone gonna tell Lori about those nanny positions that ask for a degree in early childcare or similar areas of study?
Ppl with sugar cravings are not attacking ppl eating cakes. If they do they are put into a jail.
I went to church youth group a few times, the time that made me quit was when a girl (teen) was telling me that her brother’s disability was just a test from the devil for her to see how much faith she had in Jesus. She justified her own brother’s suffering with piety, because it made HER relationship with God stronger 🙄
I was entrenched in the trad cath world for a long time (transformed wife isnt catholic but the circles overlap a lot). I used to cry thinking about getting married and living my entire life as a domestic servant, and was so scared to never be able to say no to my future husband. So much so i was pretty seriously becoming a nun and almost entered a convent.
I haven’t been to mass in over a month, going to pride this year, came out to my close friends as pansexual, and am so so happy now. :) i truly hope all women in fundy circles of all types find freedom someday
I also was a Christian fundamentalist and cried multiple times because when I was a kid I knew I absolutely didn't want to fulfill the "right gender role" for me and I knew I wanted to get a job and I didn't want kids, but whenever I told adults I didn't want to get married I would always get laughed at and get told "oh you'll change your mind one day". Turns out I'm not trans or ace, I just knew I didn't fit that version of being a woman. When I found out I could get a job and have a partner that also didn't want kids, my life instantly became better. There is hope and it's better to be yourself than try to fit someone else's idea of what you should be/"actually want" to be.
the rant at around 24:00 just reminded me of a quote I heard once: “To those with privilege, equality feels like oppression.” or something along those lines. Don’t remember who said it but it’s stuck with me
Does Lori support Ron Desantis/Abigail Shrier? 🤢 Misery loves company... 🤮 So much misogyny...
*sees lori’s name* Ah shit, here we go again
The Bible didn't tell us to go to the moon and , yet, we did. Everything isn't about what the Bible commands..
people like her need to read their bible. verses are telling them NOT to judge and love others. doesn't seem like she is following her own bible.
To be fair it's still highly stigmatized to be open about regretting kids, but you can find a lot of online spaces for those people and some of the stories are simply heartbreaking.
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Yeah that’s it lol. Some colors are inaccurate or missing but that’s because I don’t have them on iPhone.
Happy Pride 🖤🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Man I wish gay ppl were real....
ppl default into conservative - it IS easier - you hold the line - you just hold the status quo
Oh mein Gott this comment section is sludge before the video gets popular 😭
I love listening to you, but those tweets made me feel like I was actively loosing braincells
I’m not submit to a man
Funny story, one time one of my friends who is trans woman wanted to use the bathrooms in a public place, she went to men bathrooms and a guy stopped her saying "women bathrooms are this way"
Oh god, you’re finally covering *her*. I’m so sorry you were exposed to her awful content
Kiwi has made a video or two about her before
Oh wow. "People claim having boundaries for children will cause them to rebel. Wrong! ... God sure has a lot of boundaries for us..."
God: "Adam, Eve, this is important. Do not eat the fruit."
Adam and Eve: "So God, you know that fruit we weren't supposed to eat? We just want to say, it was the snake's fault!"
Like you can sum up most of the old testament as God says don't do the thing, then the people do the thing. If someone wants to argue boundaries will not lead to rebellion, the bible is like the single worst place to find support for it.
My mother regretted having us and told us that she hated kids nearly every day... We moved out of the house pretty much as soon as we turned 18. Now its all "I miss you 😢 waaaah" now that she's alone with the consequences of her actions. I don't care anymore. All she's ever done with her life is hurt people.
2:27-5:25 - It's also incredibly classist to suggest that women need to be out of the workforce when they've always been there, because the only people who could and can afford to be out of the workforce are people who either come from money/marry into money/come into money. What time period is she trying to reference? Even in the Bible, women with little to no means had jobs beyond getting a husband and taking care of the home/children.
2:52 The best way for women to make money is to become a pool shark and hustle at billards.
It’s so funny when conservatives talk about boundaries with children when they are the first ones to break those boundaries with their children, example touching and hugging their relatives, “give grandma kiss or hug “ or they take their door away for x,y,z reasons. I am very strict but I do gentle parenting. I explain very clearly why they can’t example run with sharp objects or shout loudly when their sibling is sleeping or when it’s the “quiet time “ in our apartment building ( 22-7 or 10pm to 7am ) or why they have to clean their toys etc I am strict but not abusive there’s the difference, I expect them to do things but I explain why and how.
I was spanked as a kid & vowed to never do it to my kids if I have any as it left me with PTSD that I'm still working coping with to this day & I never want any child I have to feel like they have to be scared of me or that they can't tell me anything for fear I might hurt them in any way. My rule of thumb is if they're not old enough to know they did something wrong & you know you can't explain to them in a way they will understand what they did was wrong then they're too young to be spanked & if you can sit down with them & have a conversation with them about their actions then they are too old to be spanked. To me someone's first instinct to their child doing something wrong is to hit them they either don't know there are better parenting styles or they don't see anything wrong with causing their child physically & emontional trauma because they think the lesson will only be learned through being spanked instead of taught though talking with their child. The role of the parent is to provide, protect, & teach your child so that when they get old they will be ready to go out into the world on their own while also know that they have a home to come back too if it gets to be too much
My mom (who is a children’s book author) sadly has the same name as this lady so she gets her hate by mistake
Isn't hate ungodly or something? xD
Hey, Jessica here! (Patron of the day)
Thanks for the shout out! Just wanted to say I don't comment on your videos often but I do watch every single one of them and greatly enjoy them! You're one of my favorite people on RUclips
I can be a doctor because doctors take care of children!!
18:45 I wonder what she'd think of the couple's opinions were reversed from this. If the man wanted gentle parenting and the mom was like "NOOOO I WANT CORPORAL PUNISHMENT!!"
because we know the Transformed Wife loves corporal punishment as much as she loves submissive women. So.... Should the woman still spank her kids because that's right (in the TW's eyes)? Or obey her husband's wishes for gentle parenting, because obedience to your husband is right?
I’m diabetic and I struggle with eating sweets a LOT to the point where it causes depressive spirals. I don’t usually get THIS worked up when watching your videos but hearing her compare MY struggles to that of men committing SEXUAL ASSAULT - I’m furious. I’m fuming. I’m so glad I didn’t see this tweet because it would’ve triggered me so badly
Her argument on women being in power has one major flaw; she uses the U.S as an example. Historically the _least_ inhabited continent (besides Antarctica) was America, and America was only founded just short of 250 years ago. Maybe point to ALL conflict, not just an incredibly new country...
i see a whole lot of “no contact” in her future 🔮
I would like to say something about the argument you made for the tweet at 5:28. When it comes to men lusting after random women on the street, I wholeheartedly agree with absolutely everything you said. However, in Christianity, it is a sin to even think about someone in that way which would make it a big problem even if they didn’t act on it. The argument about not acting on desire doesn’t work against Christians because even thinking about it is a sin. The last part of you argument about how men should start viewing women as human instead of objects would work though since the crux of her argument is that women should be blamed for their desire. Should a person without diabetes be blamed for eating sweets in front of a person with diabetes? No. If having lust is a sin, put the blame on the sinner, not the women he is objectifying.
Are men actually getting more conservative overall?
I don’t understand how that happens 😅
22:10 He’s there to beat up trans people. That’s the subtext of Lori’s call.
Tw: Rant and life problems, nothing explicit but I get into deep stuff.)
Honestly, the part about "gentle parenting" is always twisted in some cases. My mom wasn't always nice growing up, immigrant and someone who had a terrible life, especially coming to the States. My mom in a sense does "gentle parenting" never hits me but did that woman have everything against me especially since I became depresssed and addicted to my phone since I wanted to escape my life 24/7, I couldn't do anything. I hated being clean or tidy, I hated getting into the shower or doing chores even if I actually wanted to try. I visibally remember this time, me and my mom were in her country for a little vacation but we fought A LOT. I told my mom I wasn't comfortable with being hugged or even touched by her family (Rightfully so, I never met them in real life. Only seeing them in video calls and what not), she forced me to throw this boundary away because she didn't want her family to be upset. I was mad and distant to EVERYONE, staying in the guest bedroom and not eating (Because I was depresssed, I wasn't listened to and I wasn't used to the food)... But this one night, me and my mom had a fight like usual. Just the usual back and forth until she asked, "What is the problem". I couldn't keep it in anymore, I started bawling out crying. I didn't have a all that nice childhood, I went through similar stuff my mom went through not as bad as hers but still bad. She only knows half of my trauma, I don't trust to tell her anytime soon. I just told her I was tired and I was still hurt and scared of the trauma, she comforted me. Actually being gentle until... Not TWO DAYS later, we fought again and talked down about that night. She did a 180. My mom was never one to actually care about my mental health but acts like she's a "gentle parent" since she doesn't hit me "Like an animal", she told me from when I was a teen. "I should take you back to your dad so you know real struggle". I was a f**king teen, what do you expect from a child who was scared and tired of life. This mindset is so backwards, like either or. What I've always said from my teens, "There's always good and bad" no matter if something is seen as good. Parents can twist "gentle parenting" and use it to mentally and emotionally @buse their child but if I had a child, I'd rather gentle parent than hit my child. Hitting children is the problem, you may or may not hit your child but don't tire them mentally or emotionally either. You're sick if you do either. :/
I want my kids to live in a world sans Christianity so they could express themselves in an open, vulnerable and healthy manner if they are boys and to be the most feral little monsters if they are girls.
2:09 NOT THAT I AGREE but on the men vs women working, it is usually pulled back to the repercussions of original sin,, Adam was to labor in the fields, and eve was to labor in the birthing bed.
It's where a lot of the "women should be in the home" stuff traces back to 🤷♀️🤦♀️
Theres suffering in the world because we have free will. If nothing bad ever happens, your choices are meaningless. Also god cant just intervene and make your life amazing because it undermines your choices.
My personal philosophy is that God is your concience.
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Not saying that this means anything super relevant, but plants *CAN* feel pain and even "scream"
That’s interesting
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13:39 because there is evil in the world and he believes in free will and such
As a woman u have a better chance of keeping ur child from a man spanking ur kids by getting a divorce n not letting him c dem. But if ur a man n ur wife is da 1 tryna 2 spank da kids, da court will still probably push 4 givin da mother custody. If I find myself in dat situation, I'm a trans man who knows how da courts would c me but irrelevant cause my partner wouldn't, but if I were, sure I'd do everything in my power 2 legally protect my kids. But, as a child abuse survivor, if my spouse layd a hand on my kids n da courts failed me; I'm killin my spouse n dey won't find a body or evidence.
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Withholding s*x CAN be a form of ab*se, but it's less talked about because there's a lot of nuance to be had there. If you're weaponizing your affection and attention inside & outside of the bedroom, that's not okay. It's not the same thing as just not wanting to be intimate with a person, which is okay
we do gentle parenting, i have great relationships with my kids. some of my kids are adults, one is LGBTQ, and we have a wonderful friendship. i really don't understand how Lori gets the idea that gentle parenting makes parents "regret" having kids. she's nuts.
She’s talking about the “gentle parenting” (not real gentle parenting but when people do it wrong) where they don’t say no to their child and end up with complete brats
@@Cal-fb7we that's "permissive parenting" not gentle parenting.
@MakeupBySonya444 what I was trying to say is that people like her call that gentle parenting when it isn’t and they think that’s what gentle parenting is. I know that’s not what it is
it’s amazing how simply treating your children with respect and compassion leads to a good relationship 🤯 it’s wild how this concept is so lost on so many people
@@coolchameleon21 for sure! A lot of people will ask me and my kids how we have a good relationship and when I tell them that I never hit them and I respected them as human beings people get angry at me and tell me I "should have spanked them" which is wild to me. My adult kids have good jobs, are hard workers, two of them are headed into the army (I have 11 kids, 10 bio kids and 1 adopted she was my niece by birth) people come up to me often to tell me how respectful and kind my kids are and then end up angry at me when I tell them my "secret" to parenting is gentle parenting. 🤷🏻♀️
These chuckleheads need to get over two ideas about divorce. First, just because women are the ones more likely to file the legal paperwork doesn't mean they're the ones who ended the relationships, and second, that divorce is automatically a bad thing. Two happy divorced people are better than two miserable married people, even if they have children.
Actual fun fact
Divorce rates by generation are RISING for older people and FALLING for younger people.
The reasoning is likely because older women are realizing they don't actually need a man anymore (my grandma couldn't make a bank account when she got married for example). Women can live alone now and older people realize this.
Younger people are more likely as well to find real love instead of someone to marry in order to actually live.
You wouldnt believe the number of people who only feel you should be ALLOWED to divorce only in instances of abuse and assault. Even if the parents despise each other so many people believe you should just "work it out" and the new gen is lazy because people are more likely to leave than stay in a toxic marriage. Its just gross.
There's also a huge myth that women get everything in the divorce and men are left with crumbs. It's actually statistically proven that woman are poorer after divorce and men are richer. Also the myth the women are always giving majority custody of children and dad is left without access. In the vast majority of divorce cases men don't actively seek out custody, and when they do they win over 70 percent of the time. All of these myths are just blatantly made up in order to demonize women who seek a divorce.
True especially for the kids. If they actually care about children, they should realise how uncomfortable and isolating that child will be in living in a home with 2 people who clearly shouldn't be together
14:14 If Lori knew any abused husbands, you just KNOW she’d humiliate them, blaming them for “not taking charge” or whatever.
Dealing with children is a bit like dealing with drunk friends in that you mostly let them make decisions and you step in when they're about to harm themselves or others
And try not to giggle too much about the really dumb decisions when they're sober (older).
i already know this is going to take years out of my life span
With that language about "training" your children, I bet you anything she's a fan of the Pearls' teachings.
I think the account is run by a man.
She is. She has praised her son for starving his one year old daughter as punishment.
The transformed wife sounds like one of those people who would say "if it doesn't leave a mark, then it's not abuse."
She seems like one of those people because she is one lol she literally wrote a book about how you should be using corporal punishment on your children as young as infancy
What the actual f/ck is wrong with people!? Plz tell me you've never heard someone say that 😗🤨
She's more of the "it SHOULD leave a mark so they don't forget" kind of nonsense. 😤
Meanwhile their children has mental scars that will never heal and they'll go in to abuse others in the same ways.
@@dragongamerboi13 Hi, while childhood abuse can be a risk factor for future abusive parenting, most abused children do not become abusers. Unfortunately, people who experience childhood abuse are more likely to continue to experience abuse in their adulthood. This is a common misunderstanding people have, but the research bears out that abused people are much more likely to experience domestic partner violence than to be the violent one. It makes sense because this is a pattern of treatment that they are acclimated to accept from childhood. I think it is harmful to perpetuate the false claim that abused people grow up to abuse others, but I don't think you mean to cause harm. Luckily the data show that being abused does not make a person become an abuser. This is a well researched question, so no one needs to take my word on it. Check out the US Department of Justice for more info on abuse survivors in the US. Thank you for your understanding.
The first quote is a lie. In the OT there is praise for a woman who makes quilts and takes them to the marketplace to sell. In Acts of the Apostles, St Paul praises Lydia, who was a businesswoman and the treasurer of her Christian community.
They were also applauded as realtors in the bible I think. Idk a misogynist told me that, but he also believed that when the ancients expelled women into the wilderness during their periods because they were "dirty" it was a wonderful vacation, so...
This lady's use of Bible verses is a great example of using the Bible to fit your pre-existing narrative. To be fair, the Bible is exceedingly contradictive, but she's avoiding the verses that disagree with her ideas.
When you find out that Lori(thetransformedwife) went to college, had nannies to care for her own kids, had maids, and her husband *allegedly* had an affair….it makes everything she says that much more manic and insanely tone deaf.
The boundaries one really has my blood boiling. I know for a fact that she isn't referring to any form of healthy boundaries, she's actually referring to the belief that a woman should put her husband before everyone else including the children. The man is the head of the house and everything is to be done according to his rules and will. The children in the family are merely extensions of the marriage and are NEVER given priority. I know that for a solid fact because that was a theme in my own childhood. The most screwed up part is that these horrible women are not putting their husbands before the children, they are putting themselves before the children. Pure narcissistic gratification.
6:48 All the recovered sober alcoholics who go to clubs with friends while their friends drink aren’t going to blame anyone else if they relapse. At least not people who had a drink around them.
She compared….sexual violence and a lack of respect….to having diabetes? Um….hun.
Love your take on this.
I’m a kleptomaniac, I don’t steal anything anymore but there was a time where I couldn’t go into stores to keep myself from stealing. Now I go out everyday and the urge isn’t gone but I haven’t stolen anything in like three years, how can I not steal from corporations even though I want to but people can’t apply this same logic to SA. If I gave in and stole… almost nobody would BLAME THE STORE for having the products “on display” and knowing thief’s go in there 🙄
great way to put it
Women having body automony is worse than all the wars in the US probably the most cringest comment 😬
So my husband and I gentle parented our kids when they were little. They are 13 and 11 now, and they are such amazing little people (granted the 13 year old is as tall as me now, so not so little). Gentle parenting is a net positive, and thinking about going through all the work and sacrifice it takes to have and raise children just to turn around and hit them when they displease me? Absolutely not. Discipline doesn't have to mean being a giant asshole to my kids, it just means enforcing natural consequences and communicating expectations and boundaries in a way that they understand so they can do their best to meet those expectations. I see my kids as people, not extensions of myself. I almost feel bad for parents like her, and I definitely feel bad for their children. I wouldn't change my relationship with my kids for the world.
thank you so much for this. i’m so glad some kids have parents like you, even if i never did. i hope (someday in the far far FAR future) i can be a good parent and raise good people like you
@@captainshiloh831 I'm sure that if you're ever in the position to be a parent, you're going to do great. You're already thinking about the ways you're going to do things differently, and that's a huge first step.
There's something interesting with the "women regretting having kids" part. We keep telling women that they'll regret not having children, to the point where there's no room for conversation about regretting having them, actually. I think it's an unspoken problem cuz there's so much pressure on women to be good mothers that they can't possibly admit it without looking like a monster in everyone's eyes. I remember reading that from a French author (if I recall correctly, it's Mona Chollet's Sorcières). But there's an author who wrote a book about it ! I don't remember her name tho.
Oh and regretting having them doesn't mean that it's okay to abuse them ofc. The women who speak about it say that they still love and care for their kid, but that they would do differently if they could do it again. It's more of a "I was so focused on thoughts of regret about not having a child, that I forgot to think about the fact that I might regret having them"
5:50 oh my god, Lori out here doing that, "everybody's gotta eat quinoa because I'M on a diet" shtick☠️
My guess on the job thing is her concession to unmarried women who need to make money. She’s saying, “well if you aren’t married yet, you’re allowed to do work that prepares you for marriage.” It’s kind of like when people used to think women went to college to get an “MRS degree.” It’s ridiculous, but it gives her an out for addressing women who have to work.
24:58 Plenty of people regret having children. Facebook is full of them.
16:34 when i first heard this i almost agreed, but then i realized she wasnt talking about "knock the door before coming in" and more "dont wear fishnets or anklets because it makes you a whore" and "remove those accessories because I personally dont like them"
Also im a bit disappointed that kiwi didnt mention that those last things aren't boundaries!! Boundaries are like "hey, don't do those things to me" not "no, you cant exist this way" yk?
“People can feel tempted by something and not act on it”. Exactly. People who are victimized, especially by s3xual assault, are not to blame for their attacker’s savagery. If I and countless others can see scantily dressed women around us and not even entertain the thought of doing something horrible to them, then clearly it’s not the victims fault that some savage decided to hurt them.
diabetes isn’t even about sugar it’s about carbs which is in so so so many things dude
Yep, I did keto for 2 years.
I know that was a choice and not a debilitating disease, but I didn't expect others to not eat carbs and sugar snacks just because I was on a diet.
And I absolutely can confirm - it's in everything! The lengths I had to go to in order to keep my blood sugar in check was astronomical. There's carbs in yhe BACON at dunkin donuts. I cannot imagine having to check literally everything I ate forever.
So yeah... people with diabetes are in fact walking around being tempted by literally all the carbs everywhere and the TW is a massive dummy for tweeting this (and most everything else.) 😂
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When anyone ever uses the words train and child/children in the same sentence it always makes me conserned for the well-being of said child or children because it usually means they're being taught to think, act, speak, dress, etc a very specific way that is approved entirely by their parent/parents or guardian/guardians who want to make them blindingly obey instead of being able to be themselves & being taught how to do various things that will help them become independent adults
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18:35 Better yet, discuss your views and philosophies on parenting before having children, and don't have children together if they're not compatible.
18:37 And if it were the wife who wanted corporal punishment while the husband was against it, I’m sure Lori would respect the man’s decision. /s
The thing is these people just want us all to shut up and do what they want....Stop making sense okay?
These people think gentle parenting is just lettint kids do whatever they want. Thats not gentle parenting, its negligence.
I have two amazing little kids who are compassionate and considerate with great emotional intelligence, which ive achieved by modeling those behaviors, apologizing when i get it wrong, and explaining why they are important.
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Cool, maybe I can write a book where 2000 years from now ding-a-lings can follow its rules for a society that is completely different than the one they actually live in.
i hate using terms like this on serious problems but.... this womans entire twitter page is just honestly yapfest.
I agree, your friend's response was terrible. As a Christian, I believe that God doesn't serve suffering, rather, the world is a place in which we suffer, and even in that suffering God is a place in which we can find peace / comfort, as well as hope for a better world.
Yeah he created a world without suffering for us and we’re the ones who screwed it up
But, I mean, if God is omniscient and omnipotent, then literally nothing can happen that's not according to his plan. He would have known from before Adam and Eve were even made exactly what they would go on to do, due to his omniscience, and he would have exactly the ability to change to suit what he wants due to his omnipotence.
Honestly "God" is a horribly narcissistic and selfish being, who demonstrably cares nought for those who claim to love him.
so if this lady is soooooo godly why is she trying to teach people things ... her own holy comicbook tells her (and other women) to be quiet...
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It gave me the option to translate this and it was turned into "spirit spirit" 😭 that puts a whole new interesting spin on how Scooby Doo speaks lol.
She actually disproved her point with her analogy. Her point would then be we should not eat sweets in front of anyone who might be diabetic. Totally destroying her ‘point’.
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The I'd like to introduce you to the subreddit r/regretfulparents 😭 It's actually so sad
There definitely are regretful parents and they have their own communities. However, oftentimes they regret it because they either do not get enough support or caved to social expectations and had kids they never wanted. This is why childfree people deserve to be heard and uplifted so that people on the fence see that it is fine to live life without kids. I personally would rather french kiss a chainsaw than have kids.
I hate how she equates "gentle parenting" to not beating up your children if they disobey. There's so much more to the concept and parents aren't automatically engaging in it just for refraining from physical abuse.
I had an ex-bf who was raised in a bretheren church (super fundies, women can only open their mouths in church to sing sort of thing). We were long distance, and he visited one time (him staying with a male friend) and wanted to come over before I went to work so he could join me on my walk to work. This was incredibly inconvenient, as I had to wait for him to arrive, then change my walking pace to slow down for him, and when I went to cross the road, he got all in a huff, because I "was making decisions, and not following him".
As a Christian... that must be one of the worst answers to the problem of suffering ever.
Ah, yes, that well-known part of the bible: "Men; Thou shalt go forth to toil and worketh many an hour, for that is what good men of capitalism doest."
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easy, flour, sugar, eggs, salt butter is not a cake, you don't point at these ingredients and say pass me that cake, you will look crazy, potential of life is not a person.
Similarly an egg and sperm separately aren't a baby.
If you combined all the ingredients for that cake and it's been in the oven for ten minutes, it's harder to say that's not a cake at that point. The cake's not done, but it's also not merely ingredients anymore.
A, say, eight week old fetus isn't done growing but that's also not just a few random cells anymore. Like the cake, if you just do nothing and wait you'll have the finished object.
10:45 It's weird to see other religious take different lessons from readings. For me, I always thought it was important to be aware of what bad is going on. Not cause at least it's not happening to me(as Kiwi's classmate said) but because it is a space in which help can be provided and work can be done. We are all on this world together and sometimes the only way God can act is when someone steps up