Mothers aren't wrong for that though. The problem is there aren't enough fathers to balance it out. My wife surely raises our daughter. But it balances out with me because I know I have a soft spot for my baby girl. Sons don't need their mothers to turn "hard" to deal with them. They need their fathers to be that balance.
It's why MEN raise sons And Protect DAUGHTERS Theres not enough of the other side Now, this is the 2nd generation, and no grandfathers are around neither And kids gave 2 of them
This is being blamed on mothers, but fathers coddle there sins as well. Ex: by regarding certain work/ chores as "women's work" when everyone needs to know how to cook and clean.
My father worked 3 jobs so my mom could stay with us children because she didn’t trust anyone to take care of us. So my dad would go to his first day job at 6 am and go to his night job and come home at 1 am. He’s 100 years old today and I’m so happy he’s still with us. 💕
I have to give my son credit! After watching me being a single mom of three , receiving my RN degree at the same time, my son is working extra hours so his wife can stay home till their daughter goes to school! I’m so proud of him!!! He said he didn’t want his wife to have to miss the early years like I did!!!
@@thecraftyrn Yes, and there are more of us that do this. I believe since boys are gonna grow up to be men anyway, a woman can teach him what kind of man to be. Sometimes better, than a man would do. But it depends on the woman's mindset.
@@ReasonsWhy5 exactly!!! I made sure to teach him how to treat a lady and taught all of my children to respect everyone! I did my best to make sure they would all be self sufficient and no matter what, Family comes first !!! A strong woman can raise a strong man!!!
Everybody always says, “Well, my mama used to do xyz.” But have they asked their mama how she felt about having to do all of that?!! I’m pretty sure she would’ve gladly accepted help from a professional house keeper and chef!😋
My 1st cousin's son fits this exactly. He is 35 y/o, lives with her, doesn't want to pay toward rent and utilities, treats her like shit, and she takes it because she depends on the cupla dollars she can wrestle out of him. He is a total user, disrespectful, has a good-paying job but cannot manage his money. He blames her for all his problems. She is as weak as tap water. The son is her son-husband, but an abusive one. I've told her don't tell me about how he treats her anymore. IT'S HER FAULT.
Bingo! That’s her surrogate husband. The other day, I was out doing some shopping and an elderly lady came up to me. It was a light conversation at first, but I quickly realized that she was looking for someone to dump her 💩on. She started complaining about how her son never treated her well, yet she moved from her country to help him and his sick wife. 😫😩 When she waited for my response, I gave her something different. “If there’s an issue with your child. You need to consult those who raised him to be that way.” I continued with my day. I’m avoiding more and more people because these same women will spoil their surrogate husbands and then get angry at women who don’t engage with them.
Wow @The Godblogger that's wild 2 hear bro, I hope things get better 4 your cousin though & he definitely needs 2 leave the nest or @ least help out around the house when it matters. I feel 4 your cousin 4 real, but it'll get better..like my mom always said a fool @ 40 will be a fool 4ever (food 4 thought)!
Yesssssss! It's prevalent in the black communities. The only ones still at home are my male cousins. My neighbour still has her 52 year old son still living with her. I was out by 17 and had my first house by 27 and my cousin who is now 45 is still at home with my aunt blaming everyone for his lack of opportunities 🤣🤣🤣. I say sorry cuz then go back to my house!
My dad showed me the definition of a man with his actions growing up. I know that a man is the head of the house, takes care of his family and protects them, prays for his family, and doesn’t use the economy to dictate if he can buy food and pay bills. I saw my dad get up every day and provide for his family! My dad spent 30 years in the army and he was a very disciplined hard working man! Daddy didn’t play and he took care of business! I saw my dad plant a garden, buy groceries, cook, clean, work, go hunting, and pay the bills. If a male walked up to me and he didn’t have strong work ethics of manhood, I knew instantly that wasn’t a man! I learned how to be a strong woman watching my dad! My mother was a strong woman as well. Mom took care of business! I was blessed to have seen a true old-school example of a man and a woman! After watching my parents, I determined to be everything good that God created me to be and I made sure that my children grew up to be responsible and productive people in the world! Bring back the old-school teaching that included strong work ethics and quality standards of living for men and for women. Good old-school teaching skipped some generations and a lot of people have their hand out instead of getting up to step into their purpose in life!
This is spot on. One thing I learned about a man that helps around the home and pay bills is if they resent it the whole time you might as well be by yourself. Some men do a lot and then will passive aggressively punish a woman for it because they don't want to do it. Get them a one way ticket back to Singleville on the red eye flight.
Just served mine up his ticket. I'm empty nesting now. He was a good PROVIDER but that's it. Wanted to lay n bed on his days off and dictate how I should do something. Wouldn't maintain the house (lawn, contractors, fixing stuff etc ) but I did my part. He literally trained me how to get along without him! I didn't need his $ so I let him go. My only regret is that it took so damn long! Smh
@@teyianneful Welp my grandmother said a man always finds it's way to an empty nest so be visual that man is not the same man that left. You got this! This is what I mean. He made you feel he wanted you completely independent as if it is meant to be a positive feeling when he knew it would make you feel negative. That will make any man or woman feel they are not wanted by that persons side. It is toxic, intentional, unhealthy, and very passive-aggressive. He "trained" you. That is obedience not love.
Yes. They crazy‼️ You show them real life like u gotta contribute to the household and they go beserko‼️😭 My spoiled x did that, I proved to him I'm not going to support u and a couple days later he battered me&robbed me all cuz I'm not supporting his grown self. Now he's n jail talking all that sweet and I'm going to do right 💩 and very 😠 cuz I won't believe him. But u already showed me bruh. Hopefully u can do rite n prison all of your life🙏
I watched my mom go through this a lot when I was a kid and I decided to be the best man that I could be moving forward. I knew that this wasn't right because I could see her frustration and anguish in her eyes and it didn't sit right with me to this day.
@@brotha-man7 You are absolutely welcome and keep being proud of yourself. If all the things you said are true, you are a very good man & I wish the best for you. And I mean that 💯💯💯
My mom hired landscaping because it was a requirement from the HOA because my brother didn’t do shyt. I was in charge of keeping the house clean, cooking and making snacks for my brother, babysitting my brother, taking my brother to his games and practice cause my mom worked 10-12 hours per day, and I got blamed for everything. Ahhhhh the good life… 🙄
Truth though, real truth. I think they do it bcuz vast majority of the time their sons be the only male figure in the house, but they wind up raising the sorriest men that a bird wouldn't even waste the time to poop on😭 it's been a dirty secret well hidden in the african-american race since the fight for civil rights ended and until this day ppl of African descent r still keeping this destructive secret well hidden &guarded💔😭
I'm so glad I grew up in the 70's and 80's, back then our middle school had "Home Economics" class (not sure schools still have it today) but in the class, I and my younger brother were taught how to cook, basic sewing skills, healthy eating practices, we even had woodshop. We built music boxes. Gah, good memories. ☺️ And the school didn't care if the student was a girl, boy, whatever. If your bottom was in a seat, you were being taught. Period. I'll never forget that. My siblings and I are over 40 now, and we can keep a home and handle our personal affairs. God is good. 🙌🏽
Home Economics still exists. It's called "Family and Consumer Sciences". It's the series of courses that people rarely (even the parents) take seriously in school.
Yes, Yes, my Home Economics teacher in Middle School was Mrs Grantham, one of the few names I remember because I learned life skills in her class. Of course my family taught us life skills too. All of my male cousins and my brother can cook and do laundry and clean a house... Female relatives can make sure the car maintenance is kept up, I was taught how to change the oil on a car but never had to, and change a tire if necessary.. well rounded human beings are an asset. Also my father said he didn't want us to have to depend on other people.
That’s took that out schools a while ago, honestly kids don’t learn a thing at school and it’s crazy, I don’t even think some schools teach cursive anymore
@@Sisss777 many schools don't teach cursive anymore. Sad additional part is that many kids can out read or write cursive. Most don't even know what to call ii🧐
I heard a man at work years ago actually say this to a female coworker when she asked for help to jump her car. He said my mom did everything for herself and declined to help JUMP a car! My mouth hit the floor!
I had to get on my sister,got two sons ages 11 & 14 n here she is bringing all the groceries to the house n taking out garbage!!!! Her daughter is 9 but she can n has to clean the whole house!
My brothers and I had to do our part around the house while growing up. I'm talking sweeping, mopping, cleaning windows, cleaning the bathroom, shucking corn, popping green beans, peeling potatoes, and grocery shopping when we were older. That was in the '50s and '60s. These are different times. 🤔
What they didn’t see or choose to ignore WHY they have to do it themselves. You see your mom alone, but it doesn’t dawn on you that you dad left. You don’t RESPECT her, you EXPECT IT.
Growing up in a household where your mother puts all the responsibility on you, leans on you for everything but spoils your lazy younger brother who never cleaned a dish, washed his own clothes or took out the trash not once in his life is rough and after awhile I became slightly resentful. My brother is also schizophrenic and bipolar and has abusive and erratic tendencies. I’ve been attacked by him on 2 separate occasions that damaged my left ear drum. I used to envy the fact he always got what he wanted, was doted on and catered to and was spoiled rotten but now I just feel sorry for him. It did him no real good. The black community can’t even call itself a community, we’re just here.
That's true and the African-American race don't talk about it cuz we don't want to shame the African-American man and show the world how truly weak the african-american man is 😭 It's one of the dirtiest secrets in the African-American race 😭 And because it's not being talked about, confronted and dealt with sadly it will continue 💔😭 African-American men r determined to live up to an image portrayed on a tv commercial made in the 1980s about being a yuppie playa instead of having the manhood to step into&stay in real manhood, and they do it at all cost, no matter how much it hurts&disgraces the african-american race, instead of them learning&inputting that hey that was just a tv commercial, real life ain't like that and doing what they need to do as real men. At this point I have given up on men entirely bcuz African-American men and all the unnecessary foolishness they come with has given me ptsd. They do right though by everyone except the african-american female&woman though, especially Caucasian females&women.
This is so true. I didn’t appreciate how much my mother did and sacrificed to raise four kids until I was grown and out of the house. I spent my adult years doing whatever she asked me to do until she left this earth. God bless her soul. 🙏🏾😇
Their mom shouldn’t have been doing everything in the first place. We all get old enough still living at home to where we can help around the house/do chores. I’m not male but our parents had me and my sister washing dishes (plastic cups and plates lol) when we were kids. We knew how to do most of the chores, including laundry by the time we were tweens. We even knew how to cook a little bit.
My brother was a momma boy, our father was in the house. Spoiled was not the word. But he knew how to clean that bathroom with Pine sol or Lysol. He knew how to clean and cook . The girls knew how to put on a washer on a leaky faucet, cut the grass, cut the hedges, and cook. Mom said we where not going out there in the world not knowing how to anything.
Even if someone did grow up a certain way, let's say for example, spoiled. They can unlearn that. It's not that hard to unlearn. They just don't want to unlearn it. I was the baby of the family and I was sort of spoiled, but I've outgrown it.🎯
True! My youngest sister was very spoiled and didn't do much until she grew up, got married and started her own family in the military. She operates in beast mode now. I admire her work ethic!
This world is too arrogant to admit that when you don’t do it GOD’S way, expect it to fall apart, expect warped thinking, expect confusion, expect disillusionment. Here we are folks. Time to lay in the bed you made!
True. I grew up watching my Queen Mama do a whole buncha stuff, the everyday and miracles too by herself INCLUDING, instilling in me, whether I wanted it or not, a work ethic, responsibility and CONSEQUENCES so that I would know to do it ALL for my damn self and mine. 💯 Queen Ernestine did NOT play. 💖
"and we know this, man!" You are💯. Too bad some women had no choice but to raise children without men. Most women want a good man in the home. No woman can force a man to stay. So when he go, we mothers are determined to push on, keep going and do the best we can in raising our children. NOT abandoning our children. The situation is sub par.... but necessary.
Glad a man said this because as a woman who says that’s why there’s so many momma’s boys who can’t do anything for themselves or others gets me in trouble all the time. Thank you Shuler!
Schuler, I became a mother at 35 with a son. I knew from jump it would be the 2 of us against the world & being Blk I knew I had to protect his life with mine. But I also knew he needed the basics. I began to teach him the basics of cooking at 9-10. By the time he was in middle school he knew to make his bed when he got out of it. His first job was at 14 in a friend’s cafe. Now at 35 he has what I call a homeownership job at a company in California. I adore you Schuler but please don’t lump ALL single mother’s in the same bucket. Also, the Oakland Black community was the backbone in helping me raise this wonderful man. I just told him yesterday “I worry for you because I’m your Mama, BUT, I’m Not worried About you. “😉💜
Most common fight we get into right now! He saw his momma, grandmom doing all the house work for everyone. Sisters and his woman friends still think the same but I'll be doggone if I'm going to work, come home and clean and cook everything. Do the laundry, clean the bathroom and everything while he work and come home and chill. Heck now, get up and help me do this housework. We still fight to this day.
I found this out about my boyfriend and put the brakes on moving forward. Nope, I will not spend my life asking for help with household chores while you ignore me.
I had a single mom. Me and my brother cooked,wash clothes and anything else that needed to be done. We didn’t like it but we did it with all the calamity that ensued. But now even as a senior citizen only a few men I know can do those things for themselves.
Facts! I did watch my mother literally do everything. That's why I ain't going to! That poor woman is burnt all the way the hell out. And still people expect her to give. HARD PASS!
Thankfully, I had both parents in the household. Even when I was single, my apartments and my homes were always clean and comfortable. Both of my parents were neat and clean and me and my siblings learned how to clean and take care of ourselves.
Valid points! I am very proud of my sons who saw me struggle and work hard to provide for their families. I couldn't teach them how to be a man but I could teach them how to be responsible and take care of things and not solely rely on me to do everything. This is also why so many men have low opinions of women and women believe they don't need a man.
I taught my son to cook, clean and pay bills. I couldn't teach him to be a man but I taught him to be respectful . I tried to make sure he wasn't a menace to society but a law abiding citizen. I taught him how to handle his emotions. Also, work for what you want and not take other people stuff.
When I was in the Army I had one Soldier riding around with expired paper tags on a Mercedes because he didn't know how to put the permanent license plate on. I had another one driving around on a donut because he couldnt afford a new tire and didnt know he could plug the flat tire. Both were in their mid-20s and one was married. 🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️ I don't know what today's young men are learning but its evident a lot aren't learning what they need to.
It's human nature to gravitate and be attracted to what we're familiar with. The type of relationships children have with their parents whether good, bad or toxic sets the tone for them especially when they start dating as teenagers or as adults
Absolutely true! I grew up in an all female household where my mom and grandmom did everything. They had to. When I got married my husband would sit and watch TV while I took care of everything and I got tired of it.
My Mom definitely would tell my oldest sibling, my Brother, the SAME EXACT THING! He learned to cook, clean, change a tire, cut grass, pay bills, etc. and he was sick, but, those who didn't know he was sick wouldn't have believed it! When I tell people, "My Brother is my SUPERMAN 🦸🏾♂️!" I mean it!
@Everything Is EVERYTHING exactly the same thing, I can cook clean, separate clothes for washing ect. But I didn't want to type all that lol but I bet the lady in his life love that or it's hard trying to find a lady because some can't do non of that
There are many men who grow up in that situation and their response is to HELP or take their mother out of that situation. Part of being a man - and an adult in general - is taking responsibility and holding yourself accountable for who you are. The excuses need to stop.
I am blessed to have my parents and they are still married. I watched my father be a man. My mother still worked and progressed in her profession. I watched them have a mutually respectful marriage. He did the man things and she did the woman things around the home. There were times my mother worked late and he made sure to get supper ready , help with my homework etc. That’s the very least that I expect in my marriage.
This sounds exactly like my parents’ dynamic right down to my dad cooking dinner when my mom would work late. It is a blessing to see that growing up and expect nothing less.
My grandmother did everything. My grandfather earned a great living but he didn't do anything else. She really did everything, including having 6 children, a spotless home, and a full-time job. I promised myself I would not do that. My son has been doing his own laundry. Cleaning his own room and bathroom since he was 7. He knows how to cook, but he doesn't. 😂 And he does his own grocery shopping. I don't want my son to "need" to be with anyone just because he can't do things for himself. I've had a lot of guy friends that happened to. 🤦🏾
C’mon now preach Brutha Shuler , you teaching/preaching morals/values 🙌🏾.. I’m so proud of your parents you was taught early in life by loving parents and now you’re passing wisdom to sm1 on here 👏🏾👏🏾…Takes a village frfr keep up the work my Brutha 💫🌹💫🥰
There should be a conversation had at the beginning. What kind of relationship are you looking for? Domestic? or Free Willy? If you are a domestic (like cooking, cleaning, taking care of someone), then that is what you should be telling the person your interested in. If you are Free Willy, then there are plenty of fish jumping in ponds, lakes, rivers, and oceans, ready to swim. I wish people would just be honest from the jump. Maybe the world would be a better place. 🙌🙌💯💯
100% facts! I helped Dad and both Grandpas fix cars, garden, do yard work, go to work, and only cooked if a lady wasn't home (or when 1 Grandma died). Thank GOD for their example for me to follow.
@adog3336 of course everything is the women's fault Every woman is not a single mother and if some that are single actually effectively co-parent. Never any accountability for the men just blame the mom whew smh
So many people don’t realize that your upbringing has everything to do with you becoming the person you are and the person you ultimately be with! Whether it’s good or bad examples you take that into your life with you!
Oh I thank GOD for a firm foundation! Raised a daughter and 3 sons. 3 college graduates. Daughter professional with a master’s. 2 sons completing their master’s. 1 son completing undergrad. GOD was in the details. Placed godly men and women, family in our lives to lead and guide all my children with me. GLORY HALLELUJAH AMEN IT IS WELL!!!
Not my mama and not my daddy!!! Two hardworking individuals who made sure we knew not only how to but did them as well. Sewing, cleaning, cooking, handwashing etc.🙂🙏🏽🙌🏽
I'm a woman that was mostly raised by my grandparents on my dad's side and my younger brothers were raised by mom pretty much excusively (my dad was in our lives but not in the way he should have been). I grew up, went to college, lived on my own, worked outside the country...etc. Two of my younger brothers (28, 34), have never, I mean NEVER lived outside of home. We all live together with my mom right now (splitting bills of course, as grown folks should) and my mom works a full-time job (she's 67), she works about 10 hours daily. My youngest brother had two jobs but couldn't handle it, so he's back to one. One night him and I were in the kitchen and he was talking about coming home to a home cooked meal (my mom ALSO speands most of the weekend cooking for the upcoming week, she calims she wants a good meal when she gets home but I know what it's actually for). I said, "I'm good", and he was like, come on, everybody likes to come home to a home cooked meal, and I said, "I'm a grown-ass woman, if I want a home cooked meal, I can do it myself and not depend on my 67 year-old full-time working mother to do it", he didn't like that answer but he shut-up. He won't do anything around the house and he won't help with my mom's 2 cats, mind you, when HE had a cat, my mom took care of it more than he did. I have to put the blame on BOTH my parents though, she spoiled him and my dad didn't know how to discipline without being abusive and neglectful. Damn shame.
Just uncovered that in Greenville,SC it was ILLEGAL for Black Women to be stay at home Mothers. They were required by LAW to be domestic workers outside of the home. It is 2022 and I just learned this last week. I have ancestry in the region. For Caribbeans, Africans with the lazy ideology, please take note of this. This law is part of the reason for Black Mothers always out of the home. It was ILLEGAL to stay at home with your children in South Carolina.
My 17 yr old son is very aware of what I go thru as a single mum. He does not ask for much he helps around the house and has an understanding of why I have to do what I do. I hope he shows he’s future woman the same respect and understanding he shows me.
Church!..I'm a single mother of 3.im blessed to say they saw my brother take care of his family. I had some uncles and older male cousins that helped me raise them. Two are young men, they cut the grass, they work,they keep the house clean, they are responsible. I heard my son say I don't want to have kids until I get married.
My mother worked 5 jobs and acted like mother and a father. So now i work 12 shifts, and before i broke up with my ex i would go home cook and clean. Because i seen my mom do it. I wasn’t even aware this was odd until recently.
Me,and mybig brother was raised by a strong Beautiful black woman not kept us who taught us how to become independent and strong for ourselves and prepared us for the real world by always telling us the truth about any thing we asked her that was important to us in the world growing up in 89.
My ex was so loving and caring,provided and protected me though out my 20’s. He was raised by his father, Sadly he feel into drugs and went to prison. I didn’t have a father growing up but this person showed me what a real man does and how to treat a woman and I want ever take anything lower.Most good man are not taken there at work All most all the time are just extremely busy working on there crafts/hobby ❤
Shuler, you just made me a fan forever! You are a genius! And you tell it like it is. You tell the truth and the truth shall make us free! Free as a people, free as a community, free and mature as males and females, in our roles as lovers, parents, men, women, who will rise to rule their homes, their communities, their nation , the world! How else shall the prophecy be fulfilled!
I always said that a boy is best raised by a man. I only can love and nurture him and teach him the opposite mirror behavior of women in a males role. But a man can give him the posture.
My parents got divorced when I was young, but my dad was still part of my life and the household. Way too often we got people out here men and women talking about they can do the family thing by themselves not seeing what could happen.
Heard about that brother who shot his pregnant sister 8 times because she was asking him to contribute towards the bills while living under her roof? She survived and says her whole family coddled that man into expecting other people to do everything for him.
My daddy has worked his butt off since coming to America as an 18wheel truck driver (and still does). He would be gone for weeks /months at a time, then he would take care of any chores around the house my mom needed or what was expected of a "man" to do. He spent time with us kids as well. My parents showed me the relationship was a partnership. I was taught a mixture of both" men and women work"and much more!
Thank you for FINALLY telling people what is expected of the "head of the household". It's not about bossing people around and not being accountable. The only thing I disagree with is the gender-role stuff. The role of the "head of the household" is to take care of its occupants, regardless of gender, therefore there are two Heads in ours. I fix stuff around the house. My husband cooks. We teach our daughter that teamwork makes the damn dream work and when she grows up, she should expect no less with her significant other be it male OR female.
That’s right, Shuler💖 My dad worked in his career and at home on the weekends. Plus, had time to attend church and be a deacon. I married a man just like my dad ❤❤ One of our sons met and married a Jamaican girl because of her traditional family background.
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"A woman will raise their daughters, but will keep their sons" OMG so true for many.
I'm glad Shuler put it all in perspective.
Mothers aren't wrong for that though. The problem is there aren't enough fathers to balance it out. My wife surely raises our daughter. But it balances out with me because I know I have a soft spot for my baby girl. Sons don't need their mothers to turn "hard" to deal with them. They need their fathers to be that balance.
It's why MEN raise sons
And Protect DAUGHTERS
Theres not enough of the other side
Now, this is the 2nd generation, and no grandfathers are around neither
And kids gave 2 of them
In a society actively seeking to kill brown skinned men you better keep your son. They want to take us.
So true
This is being blamed on mothers, but fathers coddle there sins as well. Ex: by regarding certain work/ chores as "women's work" when everyone needs to know how to cook and clean.
My father worked 3 jobs so my mom could stay with us children because she didn’t trust anyone to take care of us. So my dad would go to his first day job at 6 am and go to his night job and come home at 1 am. He’s 100 years old today and I’m so happy he’s still with us. 💕
U r truly blessed. PRAISE GOD that u had a honorable father...most don't!🥺😰😮💨😭
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Bless up🙌🏿
That is truly a blessing 🙌🏾 ❤️
Asdrii Foster: Thank you🤗
I have to give my son credit! After watching me being a single mom of three , receiving my RN degree at the same time, my son is working extra hours so his wife can stay home till their daughter goes to school! I’m so proud of him!!! He said he didn’t want his wife to have to miss the early years like I did!!!
OMG that’s beautiful😭😭😭
That's outstanding!!!
@@misn757 thank you. I did the best I could. All Three of my children have gone to college and are on their own. They are amazing people!!!
@@thecraftyrn Yes, and there are more of us that do this. I believe since boys are gonna grow up to be men anyway, a woman can teach him what kind of man to be. Sometimes better, than a man would do. But it depends on the woman's mindset.
@@ReasonsWhy5 exactly!!! I made sure to teach him how to treat a lady and taught all of my children to respect everyone! I did my best to make sure they would all be self sufficient and no matter what, Family comes first !!! A strong woman can raise a strong man!!!
If you grew up with a single mom, and watched her do it all and it didn't bother you as a boy then that shows your character
Wow!
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Yeah 🙏
it was more likely the mothers fault why she doing it by herself anyway
@@Indicablazin145 Sure, sureeeeeee it was
That’s right!
A woman isn’t supposed to love you like your mother,
and a mother isn’t supposed to love you like your woman.
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A mother isn’t supposed to love like your woman for heavens’s sake
@@faithbishop1444 thank you
Amen
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Everybody always says, “Well, my mama used to do xyz.” But have they asked their mama how she felt about having to do all of that?!! I’m pretty sure she would’ve gladly accepted help from a professional house keeper and chef!😋
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I promise you that this ALWAYS my response to that statement! I almost hollered when I read this!
@@ginam2817 Yaaas!!
And I'm quick to say well I ain't your maw!!man!!! Baby gon on.
Lol yes
My 1st cousin's son fits this exactly. He is 35 y/o, lives with her, doesn't want to pay toward rent and utilities, treats her like shit, and she takes it because she depends on the cupla dollars she can wrestle out of him. He is a total user, disrespectful, has a good-paying job but cannot manage his money. He blames her for all his problems. She is as weak as tap water. The son is her son-husband, but an abusive one. I've told her don't tell me about how he treats her anymore. IT'S HER FAULT.
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Bingo! That’s her surrogate husband. The other day, I was out doing some shopping and an elderly lady came up to me. It was a light conversation at first, but I quickly realized that she was looking for someone to dump her 💩on.
She started complaining about how her son never treated her well, yet she moved from her country to help him and his sick wife. 😫😩
When she waited for my response, I gave her something different.
“If there’s an issue with your child. You need to consult those who raised him to be that way.”
I continued with my day. I’m avoiding more and more people because these same women will spoil their surrogate husbands and then get angry at women who don’t engage with them.
It’s the father’s fault too
Wow @The Godblogger that's wild 2 hear bro, I hope things get better 4 your cousin though & he definitely needs 2 leave the nest or @ least help out around the house when it matters. I feel 4 your cousin 4 real, but it'll get better..like my mom always said a fool @ 40 will be a fool 4ever (food 4 thought)!
Yesssssss! It's prevalent in the black communities. The only ones still at home are my male cousins. My neighbour still has her 52 year old son still living with her. I was out by 17 and had my first house by 27 and my cousin who is now 45 is still at home with my aunt blaming everyone for his lack of opportunities 🤣🤣🤣. I say sorry cuz then go back to my house!
My dad showed me the definition of a man with his actions growing up. I know that a man is the head of the house, takes care of his family and protects them, prays for his family, and doesn’t use the economy to dictate if he can buy food and pay bills.
I saw my dad get up every day and provide for his family! My dad spent 30 years in the army and he was a very disciplined hard working man! Daddy didn’t play and he took care of business!
I saw my dad plant a garden, buy groceries, cook, clean, work, go hunting, and pay the bills.
If a male walked up to me and he didn’t have strong work ethics of manhood, I knew instantly that wasn’t a man!
I learned how to be a strong woman watching my dad!
My mother was a strong woman as well. Mom took care of business!
I was blessed to have seen a true old-school example of a man and a woman!
After watching my parents, I determined to be everything good that God created me to be and I made sure that my children grew up to be responsible and productive people in the world!
Bring back the old-school teaching that included strong work ethics and quality standards of living for men and for women.
Good old-school teaching skipped some generations and a lot of people have their hand out instead of getting up to step into their purpose in life!
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It may be harder, since not only these boys font have fathers, but GRSNDFATHERS as well
This isnt 1992, but 2022
I like how you put it so well.
@@kathleenking47 Oh, they have grandfathers, alright! Pop Pop is competing with the younger generation when it comes down to the ladies. 🙄
Parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, great-aunts, and uncles are not what they used to be because mine always taught life lessons when I was a kid.
This is spot on. One thing I learned about a man that helps around the home and pay bills is if they resent it the whole time you might as well be by yourself. Some men do a lot and then will passive aggressively punish a woman for it because they don't want to do it. Get them a one way ticket back to Singleville on the red eye flight.
Agreed.
Yup!
Just served mine up his ticket. I'm empty nesting now. He was a good PROVIDER but that's it. Wanted to lay n bed on his days off and dictate how I should do something. Wouldn't maintain the house (lawn, contractors, fixing stuff etc ) but I did my part. He literally trained me how to get along without him! I didn't need his $ so I let him go. My only regret is that it took so damn long! Smh
@@teyianneful Welp my grandmother said a man always finds it's way to an empty nest so be visual that man is not the same man that left. You got this! This is what I mean. He made you feel he wanted you completely independent as if it is meant to be a positive feeling when he knew it would make you feel negative. That will make any man or woman feel they are not wanted by that persons side. It is toxic, intentional, unhealthy, and very passive-aggressive. He "trained" you. That is obedience not love.
Yes. They crazy‼️ You show them real life like u gotta contribute to the household and they go beserko‼️😭 My spoiled x did that, I proved to him I'm not going to support u and a couple days later he battered me&robbed me all cuz I'm not supporting his grown self. Now he's n jail talking all that sweet and I'm going to do right 💩 and very 😠 cuz I won't believe him. But u already showed me bruh. Hopefully u can do rite n prison all of your life🙏
I watched my mom go through this a lot when I was a kid and I decided to be the best man that I could be moving forward. I knew that this wasn't right because I could see her frustration and anguish in her eyes and it didn't sit right with me to this day.
I know she is VERY PROUD OF YOU!! Thank you for what you do !
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Thank you so much for the flowers !! I wasn't expecting that !!
@@sheilahill3876 Thank you for saying what you said. I really mean it. Thank you.
@@brotha-man7 You are absolutely welcome and keep being proud of yourself. If all the things you said are true, you are a very good man & I wish the best for you. And I mean that 💯💯💯
As mom of a grown man and a soon to be grown girl...I agree with this
Facts 💯💯💯
My mom hired landscaping because it was a requirement from the HOA because my brother didn’t do shyt. I was in charge of keeping the house clean, cooking and making snacks for my brother, babysitting my brother, taking my brother to his games and practice cause my mom worked 10-12 hours per day, and I got blamed for everything. Ahhhhh the good life… 🙄
Agreed 🙄😒
I feel so bad hearing that. How much younger is your brother?
I hated being the oldest 😂 always got blamed always had to be the responsible one cuz “they look up to you” still the same siblings are overrated 😂😩😂
Preaching to the choir!!! I KNOW your pain😔💚🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
So how did your brother turn out? Is he advancing in life?
“Y’all raise your daughters but keep your sons”
Damn👀👏🏾
Truth though, real truth. I think they do it bcuz vast majority of the time their sons be the only male figure in the house, but they wind up raising the sorriest men that a bird wouldn't even waste the time to poop on😭 it's been a dirty secret well hidden in the african-american race since the fight for civil rights ended and until this day ppl of African descent r still keeping this destructive secret well hidden &guarded💔😭
Tell them and make it plain:
Your woman IS NOT your mother.
And you are not her FATHER!
I'm so glad I grew up in the 70's and 80's, back then our middle school had "Home Economics" class (not sure schools still have it today) but in the class, I and my younger brother were taught how to cook, basic sewing skills, healthy eating practices, we even had woodshop. We built music boxes. Gah, good memories. ☺️
And the school didn't care if the student was a girl, boy, whatever. If your bottom was in a seat, you were being taught. Period.
I'll never forget that. My siblings and I are over 40 now, and we can keep a home and handle our personal affairs.
God is good. 🙌🏽
This right here!!!
Home Economics still exists. It's called "Family and Consumer Sciences". It's the series of courses that people rarely (even the parents) take seriously in school.
Yes, Yes, my Home Economics teacher in Middle School was Mrs Grantham, one of the few names I remember because I learned life skills in her class. Of course my family taught us life skills too. All of my male cousins and my brother can cook and do laundry and clean a house... Female relatives can make sure the car maintenance is kept up, I was taught how to change the oil on a car but never had to, and change a tire if necessary.. well rounded human beings are an asset. Also my father said he didn't want us to have to depend on other people.
That’s took that out schools a while ago, honestly kids don’t learn a thing at school and it’s crazy, I don’t even think some schools teach cursive anymore
@@Sisss777 many schools don't teach cursive anymore. Sad additional part is that many kids can out read or write cursive. Most don't even know what to call ii🧐
I heard a man at work years ago actually say this to a female coworker when she asked for help to jump her car. He said my mom did everything for herself and declined to help JUMP a car! My mouth hit the floor!
He’s useless!!
Wowwww. Mine would have too. This explains so much. I think I see this in someone I know.
I had to get on my sister,got two sons ages 11 & 14 n here she is bringing all the groceries to the house n taking out garbage!!!! Her daughter is 9 but she can n has to clean the whole house!
My brothers and I had to do our part around the house while growing up. I'm talking sweeping, mopping, cleaning windows, cleaning the bathroom, shucking corn, popping green beans, peeling potatoes, and grocery shopping when we were older. That was in the '50s and '60s. These are different times. 🤔
You still had a lot of learned helplessness hairline back then
What they didn’t see or choose to ignore WHY they have to do it themselves.
You see your mom alone, but it doesn’t dawn on you that you dad left.
You don’t RESPECT her, you EXPECT IT.
Growing up in a household where your mother puts all the responsibility on you, leans on you for everything but spoils your lazy younger brother who never cleaned a dish, washed his own clothes or took out the trash not once in his life is rough and after awhile I became slightly resentful. My brother is also schizophrenic and bipolar and has abusive and erratic tendencies. I’ve been attacked by him on 2 separate occasions that damaged my left ear drum. I used to envy the fact he always got what he wanted, was doted on and catered to and was spoiled rotten but now I just feel sorry for him. It did him no real good. The black community can’t even call itself a community, we’re just here.
It sounds like she may have been scared of him. Especially if he attacked you too.. I'm sorry that you had to experience any of that. Hugs
"Chosen Ones" Always endure hardship & suffering. I Pray for your strength by GOD'S Spirit to NEVER fail!
That's true and the African-American race don't talk about it cuz we don't want to shame the African-American man and show the world how truly weak the african-american man is 😭 It's one of the dirtiest secrets in the African-American race 😭 And because it's not being talked about, confronted and dealt with sadly it will continue 💔😭 African-American men r determined to live up to an image portrayed on a tv commercial made in the 1980s about being a yuppie playa instead of having the manhood to step into&stay in real manhood, and they do it at all cost, no matter how much it hurts&disgraces the african-american race, instead of them learning&inputting that hey that was just a tv commercial, real life ain't like that and doing what they need to do as real men. At this point I have given up on men entirely bcuz African-American men and all the unnecessary foolishness they come with has given me ptsd. They do right though by everyone except the african-american female&woman though, especially Caucasian females&women.
This is so true. I didn’t appreciate how much my mother did and sacrificed to raise four kids until I was grown and out of the house. I spent my adult years doing whatever she asked me to do until she left this earth. God bless her soul. 🙏🏾😇
This is sooo damn true, and this is part of the reason why so many damn people are lost in this generation.
Their mom shouldn’t have been doing everything in the first place. We all get old enough still living at home to where we can help around the house/do chores. I’m not male but our parents had me and my sister washing dishes (plastic cups and plates lol) when we were kids. We knew how to do most of the chores, including laundry by the time we were tweens. We even knew how to cook a little bit.
My brother was a momma boy, our father was in the house. Spoiled was not the word. But he knew how to clean that bathroom with Pine sol or Lysol. He knew how to clean and cook . The girls knew how to put on a washer on a leaky faucet, cut the grass, cut the hedges, and cook. Mom said we where not going out there in the world not knowing how to anything.
A mouth 👄 full was said. It’s a sad state of affair we live in. God help us all!
Even if someone did grow up a certain way, let's say for example, spoiled. They can unlearn that. It's not that hard to unlearn. They just don't want to unlearn it. I was the baby of the family and I was sort of spoiled, but I've outgrown it.🎯
So true
True! My youngest sister was very spoiled and didn't do much until she grew up, got married and started her own family in the military. She operates in beast mode now. I admire her work ethic!
This world is too arrogant to admit that when you don’t do it GOD’S way, expect it to fall apart, expect warped thinking, expect confusion, expect disillusionment. Here we are folks. Time to lay in the bed you made!
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PRAISE the Almighty Heavenly Father for the speaking (writing) of THE TRUTH! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 U ABSOLUTELY hit the nail on the head & that's point blank period!
Amen and Amen again!
True. I grew up watching my Queen Mama do a whole buncha stuff, the everyday and miracles too by herself INCLUDING, instilling in me, whether I wanted it or not, a work ethic, responsibility and CONSEQUENCES so that I would know to do it ALL for my damn self and mine. 💯 Queen Ernestine did NOT play. 💖
"and we know this, man!" You are💯. Too bad some women had no choice but to raise children without men. Most women want a good man in the home. No woman can force a man to stay. So when he go, we mothers are determined to push on, keep going and do the best we can in raising our children. NOT abandoning our children. The situation is sub par.... but necessary.
EXACTLY!
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I made sure as a single mother my son knew all those basic things before he got married. Rest in peace my son Pop!
Glad a man said this because as a woman who says that’s why there’s so many momma’s boys who can’t do anything for themselves or others gets me in trouble all the time. Thank you Shuler!
Schuler, I became a mother at 35 with a son. I knew from jump it would be the 2 of us against the world & being Blk I knew I had to protect his life with mine.
But I also knew he needed the basics. I began to teach him the basics of cooking at 9-10. By the time he was in middle school he knew to make his bed when he got out of it. His first job was at 14 in a friend’s cafe. Now at 35 he has what I call a homeownership job at a company in California.
I adore you Schuler but please don’t lump ALL single mother’s in the same bucket.
Also, the Oakland Black community was the backbone in helping me raise this wonderful man.
I just told him yesterday “I worry for you because I’m your Mama, BUT, I’m Not worried About you. “😉💜
Most common fight we get into right now! He saw his momma, grandmom doing all the house work for everyone. Sisters and his woman friends still think the same but I'll be doggone if I'm going to work, come home and clean and cook everything. Do the laundry, clean the bathroom and everything while he work and come home and chill. Heck now, get up and help me do this housework. We still fight to this day.
I found this out about my boyfriend and put the brakes on moving forward. Nope, I will not spend my life asking for help with household chores while you ignore me.
I had a single mom. Me and my brother cooked,wash clothes and anything else that needed to be done. We didn’t like it but we did it with all the calamity that ensued. But now even as a senior citizen only a few men I know can do those things for themselves.
Facts! I did watch my mother literally do everything. That's why I ain't going to! That poor woman is burnt all the way the hell out. And still people expect her to give.
HARD PASS!
You better say that Shuler!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Facts only.. get off yo butt and make that damn sandwich Tyrone 😂
Brother's and SISTAS Betta ask for Help.
Cause ain't NOBODY doing it ALL, CAN do it ALL,
nor Good and HELL WELL, SHOULD Do it all!✌🏾
I agree. My son lives with his dad he's 13.
Thankfully, I had both parents in the household.
Even when I was single, my apartments and my homes were always clean and comfortable. Both of my parents were neat and clean and me and my siblings learned how to clean and take care of ourselves.
Valid points! I am very proud of my sons who saw me struggle and work hard to provide for their families. I couldn't teach them how to be a man but I could teach them how to be responsible and take care of things and not solely rely on me to do everything.
This is also why so many men have low opinions of women and women believe they don't need a man.
I taught my son to cook, clean and pay bills. I couldn't teach him to be a man but I taught him to be respectful . I tried to make sure he wasn't a menace to society but a law abiding citizen. I taught him how to handle his emotions. Also, work for what you want and not take other people stuff.
When I was in the Army I had one Soldier riding around with expired paper tags on a Mercedes because he didn't know how to put the permanent license plate on. I had another one driving around on a donut because he couldnt afford a new tire and didnt know he could plug the flat tire. Both were in their mid-20s and one was married. 🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️
I don't know what today's young men are learning but its evident a lot aren't learning what they need to.
It's human nature to gravitate and be attracted to what we're familiar with. The type of relationships children have with their parents whether good, bad or toxic sets the tone for them especially when they start dating as teenagers or as adults
Absolutely true! I grew up in an all female household where my mom and grandmom did everything. They had to. When I got married my husband would sit and watch TV while I took care of everything and I got tired of it.
Providing does mean always mean money ..A man suppose 2 provide knowledge, wisdom, understanding
I was raised by a single mother, but was taught the total opposite. She told me don't depend on a woman for anything
That's what my mom taught my brothers.
@Nya S good woman. 💪🏾
My Mom definitely would tell my oldest sibling, my Brother, the SAME EXACT THING! He learned to cook, clean, change a tire, cut grass, pay bills, etc. and he was sick, but, those who didn't know he was sick wouldn't have believed it! When I tell people, "My Brother is my SUPERMAN 🦸🏾♂️!" I mean it!
@Everything Is EVERYTHING exactly the same thing, I can cook clean, separate clothes for washing ect. But I didn't want to type all that lol but I bet the lady in his life love that or it's hard trying to find a lady because some can't do non of that
There are many men who grow up in that situation and their response is to HELP or take their mother out of that situation. Part of being a man - and an adult in general - is taking responsibility and holding yourself accountable for who you are. The excuses need to stop.
I am blessed to have my parents and they are still married. I watched my father be a man. My mother still worked and progressed in her profession. I watched them have a mutually respectful marriage. He did the man things and she did the woman things around the home. There were times my mother worked late and he made sure to get supper ready , help with my homework etc. That’s the very least that I expect in my marriage.
This sounds exactly like my parents’ dynamic right down to my dad cooking dinner when my mom would work late. It is a blessing to see that growing up and expect nothing less.
My siblings and myself did the same kind of work growing up..our parents didn't discriminate..
My grandmother did everything. My grandfather earned a great living but he didn't do anything else. She really did everything, including having 6 children, a spotless home, and a full-time job.
I promised myself I would not do that. My son has been doing his own laundry. Cleaning his own room and bathroom since he was 7. He knows how to cook, but he doesn't. 😂 And he does his own grocery shopping. I don't want my son to "need" to be with anyone just because he can't do things for himself.
I've had a lot of guy friends that happened to. 🤦🏾
C’mon now preach Brutha Shuler , you teaching/preaching morals/values 🙌🏾.. I’m so proud of your parents you was taught early in life by loving parents and now you’re passing wisdom to sm1 on here 👏🏾👏🏾…Takes a village frfr keep up the work my Brutha 💫🌹💫🥰
There should be a conversation had at the beginning. What kind of relationship are you looking for? Domestic? or Free Willy? If you are a domestic (like cooking, cleaning, taking care of someone), then that is what you should be telling the person your interested in. If you are Free Willy, then there are plenty of fish jumping in ponds, lakes, rivers, and oceans, ready to swim. I wish people would just be honest from the jump. Maybe the world would be a better place. 🙌🙌💯💯
Well I was raised diffrent my mom did alot but I was raised by my mom to be the provided and protector! Take care of my family!
FACTS!! THESE DAYS HAS MESSED UP OUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS!!
You hit the nail on the head! 🎯
100% facts! I helped Dad and both Grandpas fix cars, garden, do yard work, go to work, and only cooked if a lady wasn't home (or when 1 Grandma died). Thank GOD for their example for me to follow.
I just find it so interesting how everything, comes back to being the woman's fault. Amazing.
A woman can't raise a man to be a man but we can show them how to treat a woman ❤️
@adog3336 well if they are trash they will get complaints
Do you really believe that second part of that lie?
@adog3336 of course everything is the women's fault Every woman is not a single mother and if some that are single actually effectively co-parent. Never any accountability for the men just blame the mom whew smh
@adog3336 been married 11 years your judging and speaking on what you Obviously don't know about it.
@@cornwall5334 I think he's one of the men that judge All ladies off his past
So many people don’t realize that your upbringing has everything to do with you becoming the person you are and the person you ultimately be with! Whether it’s good or bad examples you take that into your life with you!
Oh I thank GOD for a firm foundation! Raised a daughter and 3 sons. 3 college graduates. Daughter professional with a master’s. 2 sons completing their master’s. 1 son completing undergrad. GOD was in the details. Placed godly men and women, family in our lives to lead and guide all my children with me. GLORY HALLELUJAH AMEN IT IS WELL!!!
Praying for my ghetto world-wide family. Hoping we all get to see happiness as a whole, someday soon. 🙏🏾💯🌎
FACTS‼️
I love ❤️ my mother but she fits this bill, properly smh 🤦🏾♀️
Not my mama and not my daddy!!! Two hardworking individuals who made sure we knew not only how to but did them as well. Sewing, cleaning, cooking, handwashing etc.🙂🙏🏽🙌🏽
I'm a woman that was mostly raised by my grandparents on my dad's side and my younger brothers were raised by mom pretty much excusively (my dad was in our lives but not in the way he should have been). I grew up, went to college, lived on my own, worked outside the country...etc. Two of my younger brothers (28, 34), have never, I mean NEVER lived outside of home. We all live together with my mom right now (splitting bills of course, as grown folks should) and my mom works a full-time job (she's 67), she works about 10 hours daily. My youngest brother had two jobs but couldn't handle it, so he's back to one. One night him and I were in the kitchen and he was talking about coming home to a home cooked meal (my mom ALSO speands most of the weekend cooking for the upcoming week, she calims she wants a good meal when she gets home but I know what it's actually for). I said, "I'm good", and he was like, come on, everybody likes to come home to a home cooked meal, and I said, "I'm a grown-ass woman, if I want a home cooked meal, I can do it myself and not depend on my 67 year-old full-time working mother to do it", he didn't like that answer but he shut-up. He won't do anything around the house and he won't help with my mom's 2 cats, mind you, when HE had a cat, my mom took care of it more than he did. I have to put the blame on BOTH my parents though, she spoiled him and my dad didn't know how to discipline without being abusive and neglectful. Damn shame.
I absolutely see no lies detected!
Just uncovered that in Greenville,SC it was ILLEGAL for Black Women to be stay at home Mothers. They were required by LAW to be domestic workers outside of the home. It is 2022 and I just learned this last week. I have ancestry in the region. For Caribbeans, Africans with the lazy ideology, please take note of this.
This law is part of the reason for Black Mothers always out of the home. It was ILLEGAL to stay at home with your children in South Carolina.
Truth be told! My mom raised me to be responsible and i never looked back! If me and a women live together we gon help each other.its a two way street
Between the three of us (my sisters) our mom wants for NOTHING!!!
You preaching today!!!
“Raise your daughter but just keep your son” THAT THERE WORD 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
If you can't say 'Amen' say 'Ouch'.
My 17 yr old son is very aware of what I go thru as a single mum. He does not ask for much he helps around the house and has an understanding of why I have to do what I do. I hope he shows he’s future woman the same respect and understanding he shows me.
MESSAGE!!!
That lawn maintenance analogy and housekeeping analogy shouts absolute FACTS!!
Praise to my father and uncles 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 after granddaddy passed they definitely stepped up for the whole family
Church!..I'm a single mother of 3.im blessed to say they saw my brother take care of his family. I had some uncles and older male cousins that helped me raise them. Two are young men, they cut the grass, they work,they keep the house clean, they are responsible. I heard my son say I don't want to have kids until I get married.
Going through this as we speak...
Absolutely. Speak the TRUTH Mr. Schuler.
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My mother worked 5 jobs and acted like mother and a father. So now i work 12 shifts, and before i broke up with my ex i would go home cook and clean. Because i seen my mom do it.
I wasn’t even aware this was odd until recently.
Take your life back and find a work/life balance..
I did and dumped my ex and found a woman that appreciates my hard work. She actually cooks and cleans before i get home for me. 😉
Danggghhhh Shuler! You do NOT cut corners!! Saying the exact 1000% truth!
Me,and mybig brother was raised by a strong Beautiful black woman not kept us who taught us how to become independent and strong for ourselves and prepared us for the real world by always telling us the truth about any thing we asked her that was important to us in the world growing up in 89.
My ex was so loving and caring,provided and protected me though out my 20’s. He was raised by his father, Sadly he feel into drugs and went to prison. I didn’t have a father growing up but this person showed me what a real man does and how to treat a woman and I want ever take anything lower.Most good man are not taken there at work All most all the time are just extremely busy working on there crafts/hobby ❤
This is truth.
Shuler, you just made me a fan forever! You are a genius! And you tell it like it is. You tell the truth and the truth shall make us free! Free as a people, free as a community, free and mature as males and females, in our roles as lovers, parents, men, women, who will rise to rule their homes, their communities, their nation , the world! How else shall the prophecy be fulfilled!
I always said that a boy is best raised by a man. I only can love and nurture him and teach him the opposite mirror behavior of women in a males role. But a man can give him the posture.
Shuler you just spoke so much truth! facts all the way to the bank! You just ruffled the entire hen house, not just some feathers 🤣🤣🤣
So thankful I was raised by a man so I know a real one when I see one. My momma is a real one too.
Ooh ooh yeah congratulations SHULER you telling the truth
Amen...... Preach Shuler!!!!
Amen, you are so right!!!
My parents got divorced when I was young, but my dad was still part of my life and the household. Way too often we got people out here men and women talking about they can do the family thing by themselves not seeing what could happen.
I'm a man, and I live alone, and my place is SPOTLESS!!!!! Absolutely SPOTLESS! And I learned it from my Fantastic Father!!!!
Heard about that brother who shot his pregnant sister 8 times because she was asking him to contribute towards the bills while living under her roof? She survived and says her whole family coddled that man into expecting other people to do everything for him.
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My daddy has worked his butt off since coming to America as an 18wheel truck driver (and still does). He would be gone for weeks /months at a time, then he would take care of any chores around the house my mom needed or what was expected of a "man" to do. He spent time with us kids as well. My parents showed me the relationship was a partnership. I was taught a mixture of both" men and women work"and much more!
ABSOLUTELY INDEED TRUE. AMEN .
I agree 💯
I talk to both my kids about everything
But I show my daughter different things and my husband shows our son different things
Thank you for FINALLY telling people what is expected of the "head of the household". It's not about bossing people around and not being accountable. The only thing I disagree with is the gender-role stuff. The role of the "head of the household" is to take care of its occupants, regardless of gender, therefore there are two Heads in ours. I fix stuff around the house. My husband cooks. We teach our daughter that teamwork makes the damn dream work and when she grows up, she should expect no less with her significant other be it male OR female.
That’s right, Shuler💖 My dad worked in his career and at home on the weekends. Plus, had time to attend church and be a deacon. I married a man just like my dad ❤❤ One of our sons met and married a Jamaican girl because of her traditional family background.
Damn this hit on all cylinders
My g-mom was a prime example with her boys but her daughters had to figure shit out 🤦🏾♀️