You're TOO HARD On Yourself: How To Own Your Confidence!!!

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  • Опубликовано: 14 дек 2024

Комментарии • 3 тыс.

  • @jackieaina
    @jackieaina  4 года назад +4887

    I feel like I have to put a disclaimer on every single video these days but..... this video was filmed WEEKS before Shallon started getting dragged as of recently and I just WANT TO REITERATE FOR THE HALF-LISTENERS - I DO NOT AGREE WITH MOST OF THE STUFF THAT LADY BE YAPPING ABOUT. I am not a stan of hers, and I really haven't watched that many of her videos to consider myself a supporter. She has made a few decent points here and there (even a broken clock can be right twice a day 💀) and I thought that one point was fitting at the time I filmed this. PLEASE FOR ONCE get off my back I beg, thank you 😭

    • @Happiheaded
      @Happiheaded 4 года назад +180

      Jackie Aina pin this comment girl lmao 😂 that same video you talking about was in my recommended too. Lmao i understand.

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  4 года назад +408

      Self-taught goddess - theres a reason why I didn’t verbatim encourage people to subscribe to her 😩 usually when I shout someone out I encourage people to check out their content

    • @ecransom
      @ecransom 4 года назад +108

      Shame on y'all for her even having to comment that. Ugh so sorry for what you go through Jackie. I know myself and many others love, support, and understand where you come from!!!💙

    • @MsLaLa-nq6mi
      @MsLaLa-nq6mi 4 года назад +59

      I just knew people wouldn't use common sense or listen. They jumped to conclusions real quick😂

    • @akosuacook9827
      @akosuacook9827 4 года назад +27

      This is one of the best videos you’ve ever put out! I fully endorse this message. I spent my twenties trying to fit into someone else’s mold, I was in my thirties as well when I really began to love and accept myself and I wouldn’t turn back the clock for anything.

  • @laurenstafford3393
    @laurenstafford3393 4 года назад +6539

    "Confidence is not "they will like me", confidence is "I'll be fine if they don't." "

  • @gabrielrios5243
    @gabrielrios5243 4 года назад +3298

    When she said “You think I’m ugly, okay someone think you ugly too” I felt that on a whole ass level 👏🏽

  • @auraaven
    @auraaven 4 года назад +2163

    Therapy : EXPENSIVE
    Auntie Jackie : FREE 😣😣

    • @mercedesxog
      @mercedesxog 2 года назад +3

      Yesss

    • @bubeudeh
      @bubeudeh 2 года назад +1

      YES

    • @April-fb2uy
      @April-fb2uy 2 года назад

      She definitely thinks she has everything figured out. Talk about word vomit unsolicited advice. Aunt Jackie!🤣

    • @ModeFin
      @ModeFin 2 года назад

      😂

    • @joniescott8
      @joniescott8 2 года назад

      Well said🙏🏾

  • @anitavanessasun4171
    @anitavanessasun4171 4 года назад +2212

    think about it: you're gonna be stuck with yourself for your whole life, so it's a good idea to have a good relationship with yourself.

  • @MissRantasaurus
    @MissRantasaurus 4 года назад +1487

    I always stand by something my mama told me that was "If they can't fix it in 30 seconds do not say it." So yeah she smudged her eyeliner, lipstick on her teeth, booger? Yeah let her know in private easy! Her face shape, her skin colour, her weight? KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!

    • @MiMi-dc9qs
      @MiMi-dc9qs 4 года назад +62

      I like this. Thank you for sharing. I'm going to bare this in mind :)))

    • @EatwithSahSami
      @EatwithSahSami 4 года назад +21

      Thank you!! I love this!

    • @softdroid1655
      @softdroid1655 4 года назад +9

      Well said!!

    • @monya9174
      @monya9174 4 года назад +5

      i like this :)

    • @Mighty.Matcha.
      @Mighty.Matcha. 4 года назад +22

      You may not like smth about someone but it doesn’t mean you can say it out loud

  • @unwitched
    @unwitched 4 года назад +1245

    i love how she’s wearing yellow, which is symbolic of the solar plexus chakra, the energy center for confidence, individuality, & vitality. love the energy girl!!

    • @khaiahmann9192
      @khaiahmann9192 4 года назад +7

      Yesss

    • @marias7008
      @marias7008 4 года назад +9

      I love your hairstyle in your profile!!! I want bangs so bad😳😍

    • @unwitched
      @unwitched 4 года назад +1

      @@marias7008 omg i just saw this! thank you :* DO IT!!!!

    • @yanatheartist7783
      @yanatheartist7783 2 года назад +2

      Same it immediately caught my eye

    • @April-fb2uy
      @April-fb2uy 2 года назад +1

      That yellow is the best yellow- vibrant, true to color, pigmented, doesn't brush away when applying or fade. Pretty damn impressive. Not many can pull off yellow either and she made it look elegant to top it off!

  • @ryleefortier-turner531
    @ryleefortier-turner531 4 года назад +2376

    **jackie aina curing my depression for 31 minutes straight

  • @imjustpeachy1882
    @imjustpeachy1882 4 года назад +356

    My mom always tells me "if people don't like the way you look, they can look the other damn direction."

  • @lydiap9542
    @lydiap9542 4 года назад +842

    As a bartender , i feel my income has always been related to my looks.
    I dated guys who did not care about my intelligence , my studies , my personality .. they dated me for how i looked.
    Without realizing it, a big part of my self-esteem has been related to my looks, which made me lowkey insecure.
    I need to stop seeking validation for my appearance and stop hanging out with people who solely value me for that.
    I deserve better 😌

    • @ericanorris4093
      @ericanorris4093 4 года назад +28

      Amen

    • @pris1145
      @pris1145 4 года назад +25

      Yes you do!💗

    • @enadine6405
      @enadine6405 4 года назад +20

      GIRL I CAN SO RELATE TO THIS! YES YOU ARE CUTE! BUT BE WITH PPL THAT VALUE YOU FOR YOUUUUUU! I HAD THE SAME THING HAPPEN TO ME, AND I REALIZED YO, I AM SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT. AND SO ARE YOU BABY GIRL!

    • @melaninqueenfit
      @melaninqueenfit 4 года назад +9

      Come through with that growth hunny!!

    • @Diamondaily
      @Diamondaily 4 года назад +3

      Amen.

  • @EstherEromosele
    @EstherEromosele 4 года назад +1188

    “You think I’m ugly, okay you ugly to somebody too” 😂😂😂. Loved this video so much

  • @sogiftedcandice
    @sogiftedcandice 4 года назад +2665

    “Confidence is NOT arrogance” -Jackie Aina
    P.S My 7 year old daughter said, “Mommy she copied my ponytail” 🤣

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  4 года назад +381

      lmaoooooo

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  4 года назад +587

      tell her yea I did, my bad

    • @sogiftedcandice
      @sogiftedcandice 4 года назад +48

      Jackie Aina 😂 💕

    • @sogiftedcandice
      @sogiftedcandice 4 года назад +21

      Tiffany Pollard This is true. 💕

    • @Neenerella333
      @Neenerella333 4 года назад +17

      Have you seen Cree Summer's girl kids? I saw their faces when Jackie said, "Well some people are born confident..."

  • @almetas_grandbaby
    @almetas_grandbaby 4 года назад +608

    Confidence doesn’t point to someone else. Confidence points to self and says “I love me.”
    Confidence doesn’t compare itself to others.
    Confidence says “Imma do what’s best for me” regardless of what’s popular
    Confidence asks: have I lived up to my OWN values?” Vs “have I lived up to others opinion of me?”
    Confidence says: I don’t have to be perfect but I do have to do the best I can with what I’ve been given and have energy for.
    Confidence says: Yes, I believe in myself. Yes, I also believe in others AND BOTH CAN EXIST AT THE SAME TIME!
    Confidence says: I can be given constructive criticism and it doesn’t mean I’m a bad person, worthless, or someone inherently less valuable.
    Confidence is something you learn over time. It’s something you work on. It’s something you CULTIVATE by getting clear on who you are. Your goals, and being aligned.

    • @kimieshadyer6006
      @kimieshadyer6006 4 года назад +2

      🙌

    • @ploodohplanit8259
      @ploodohplanit8259 4 года назад +2

      Too much wisdom in this 🙌

    • @samiaosman6323
      @samiaosman6323 4 года назад +1

      Cris Harris thank you 🙇

    • @ruthc7034
      @ruthc7034 2 года назад +1

      This is beautiful thank you for this...

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 2 года назад +2

      facts and confidence doesn't point out flaws in others to self validate. confidence doesn't claim to be confident while begging people for compliments and doing things for attention.

  • @AJ-vn7tr
    @AJ-vn7tr 4 года назад +1327

    Jackie: “You inspire people who pretend to not even see you”
    Me: start that shit over (replays it 5x)🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @monikanereamouanza4992
    @monikanereamouanza4992 4 года назад +555

    " I didn't know how, but I knew I was going to be successful", this hit me hard. When you know deep down, that something greater is waiting for you it helps you to keep your eyes on the prize, whatever happened with the kids at school, what your ex boyfriend said about you, or your grades are falling; your guts tells you you'll be alright. I think it's a grace, when God lets you know that. It's always been the case for me and it helped me to move on from a lot of toxicity and negativity. Thank you for reminding us of that

    • @jennifermiranda8969
      @jennifermiranda8969 4 года назад +4

      Monika Néréa Mouanza 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️

    • @TheKairifan14
      @TheKairifan14 4 года назад +8

      Straight up, i have been at rock bottom and it always felt like god was telling me that one day i’ll overcome this and be successful, i think its really inspiring to have that even you feel like theres nothing left

    • @monikanereamouanza4992
      @monikanereamouanza4992 4 года назад +1

      @@TheKairifan14 Amen🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @kaonawyatt8562
    @kaonawyatt8562 4 года назад +342

    “You don’t have to compliment me to make me feel good about myself “‼️

    • @calvinriver9834
      @calvinriver9834 4 года назад +10

      P.S Love Kaona Definitely agree.
      Alot of times I see how some people wanna holdback on compliments or give backhanded compliments. As if they believe u need it to breathe.
      Like Please. Without compliments I still feel confident in myself.
      In my authentic bare self.

  • @butterpecan777
    @butterpecan777 4 года назад +860

    “No ones technically ugly in the eyes of the LOOOOOOORRRDD” 😂

    • @s.crockett5457
      @s.crockett5457 4 года назад +15

      THIS IS TRUE!✔✔💛☮🙏🏽🌟

    • @leah8470
      @leah8470 4 года назад +8

      Amen

    • @nanayaa-ansah
      @nanayaa-ansah 4 года назад

      Lmbooo

    • @anjsen8542
      @anjsen8542 4 года назад +4

      God is love. He is the only source of peace. Amen

    • @leah8470
      @leah8470 4 года назад

      @@anjsen8542 sooooo true

  • @SumayasWorld
    @SumayasWorld 4 года назад +856

    No one can go to a therapist cause of quarantine 😭 and Auntie Jackie comes with a 30 min video saving our lives. Love to see it 💗

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  4 года назад +115

      I have heard of some therapists doing remote sessions!

    • @haileydecastro1389
      @haileydecastro1389 4 года назад +22

      I actually had a remote therapy session a few weeks back! My therapist was able to find a website that worked with HIPPO guidelines

    • @rubielopez952
      @rubielopez952 4 года назад +16

      Hailey DeCastro HIPAA?

    • @haileydecastro1389
      @haileydecastro1389 4 года назад +40

      Rubie Lopez Oops autocorrect did me dirty lmao

    • @rubielopez952
      @rubielopez952 4 года назад +14

      Hailey DeCastro That took me out!

  • @ColdDiva
    @ColdDiva 4 года назад +465

    I did get an A on my exam yesterday...I’m a lil low key geeked😆

    • @lifewithklc
      @lifewithklc 4 года назад +33

      ColdDiva CONGRATULATIONS!!! 🎉🎊

    • @Martina_E
      @Martina_E 4 года назад +24

      You go girl! Congrats 🎊

    • @ColdDiva
      @ColdDiva 4 года назад +3

      CocktailsMakeupandLife Thank you!😁🥳

    • @ColdDiva
      @ColdDiva 4 года назад +4

      Natmari Thank you lady☺️

    • @dereksamivandusen4997
      @dereksamivandusen4997 4 года назад +2

      Congratulations 🥂🍾🥳

  • @jazzie_wolf
    @jazzie_wolf 4 года назад +394

    “Your opinion of me is none of my business” words that I live by

  • @ohaiitsarielle
    @ohaiitsarielle 4 года назад +287

    Career-wise: I definitely had to build confidence in myself and what I’m capable of to work as a nurse in the operating room. It’s a completely different world from the floor. I was told by my mom, who is also an OR nurse, that if you don’t build up that thick skin, they will eat you alive. I’m amongst the younger end of nurses being 28, and when I’m surrounded by almost all male surgeons sometimes, I have to assert myself to make my presence known. It can be exhausting, but when the attendings are pleased to see me when they walk in the door, I KNOW I’m doing something right.

    • @griceldabustillos7969
      @griceldabustillos7969 4 года назад +17

      ohaiitsarielle I was a unit secretary and I had to learn this , those nurses and doctors ate me alive 🥴 , one of the toughest lessons I’ve learned .

    • @vivianpeters8103
      @vivianpeters8103 4 года назад +11

      Wow! Thank you for this.

  • @Itzkeisha
    @Itzkeisha 4 года назад +205

    I’m only 19 and I am still shy and unconfident in certain areas . I find my real self shine through when I am filming videos or making music . THANK YOU for telling me confidence comes with age because I truly never knew that ❤️

    • @saetae9208
      @saetae9208 4 года назад +9

      You may want to write down negative things you think and say to yourself and then combat them with positive statements

    • @DaGoodVybe
      @DaGoodVybe 4 года назад +3

      ItzKeisha KEISHAAAA

    • @KayGee_yt
      @KayGee_yt 4 года назад +4

      Hey Keisha. You give me very confident energy actually. An articulate queen who knows shes that bitch

    • @naomiqueen637
      @naomiqueen637 4 года назад +1

      Yes queen 👸🏾

  • @TravelCrissy
    @TravelCrissy 4 года назад +719

    “You’re not everybody’s cup of tea and that’s ok”. Literally told a guy that today and got deleted 😂

    • @nataliahalasciuc923
      @nataliahalasciuc923 4 года назад +15

      Crystal Crawford gurl, the audacity on some ppl😂💀

    • @asibelle422
      @asibelle422 4 года назад +16

      I'm dead!! I'm using that for now on lmaooo 😭😂

    • @darrianford2892
      @darrianford2892 4 года назад +2

      im weak 😭😭

    • @jadalong9587
      @jadalong9587 4 года назад +1

      LMFAOOOOO 💀💀💀

    • @TravelCrissy
      @TravelCrissy 4 года назад +21

      Gotta give these niggas they own medicine. P.s they can’t handle it

  • @laurnaeculmer980
    @laurnaeculmer980 4 года назад +1579

    This generation is definitely skipping the ugly awkward stage 😩!

    • @TayBleezy
      @TayBleezy 4 года назад +106

      Girl it’s not fair wtf 😩😩😩😩

    • @pris1145
      @pris1145 4 года назад +20

      Honestly though!!

    • @boobies8658
      @boobies8658 4 года назад +83

      Not me lmao

    • @ifrahjama2215
      @ifrahjama2215 4 года назад +2

      Ikrrr

    • @katm2538
      @katm2538 4 года назад +76

      You haven’t met me!😂
      But for real though, all these kids in my class literally look so amazing and then there’s me in my ugly awkward stage (i.e. my whole life)😭😭

  • @amandad8762
    @amandad8762 4 года назад +183

    No one in my family ever called me beautiful growing up and I always got made fun of but I kept to myself. I’m just now really getting comfortable with myself at 22 and it’s hard but worth it

    • @topbossinx45
      @topbossinx45 4 года назад +7

      Amanda Dudley heyyy lmaoo same last name 👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼 hey beautifull

    • @jennifermiranda8969
      @jennifermiranda8969 4 года назад +6

      Me too but I know I am so beautiful and you are too ❤️❤️❤️

    • @davidnourice597
      @davidnourice597 4 года назад +3

      I can relate 👌👌

    • @Nessav_
      @Nessav_ 4 года назад +1

      Same sis

    • @monetenglish68
      @monetenglish68 4 года назад +7

      It's ok sis I'm 46 and I'm just realizing that I'm beautiful. Keep your head up ❤❤ you are beautiful

  • @harmony8195
    @harmony8195 4 года назад +226

    I had a “best friend” in high school who, for some reason, expected me to not to like the skin I’m in. She use to constantly say how she was going to use skin bleaching creams to get a lighter skin tone and tried to convince me that I should too. I had to separate myself from her because the things she said and did started to take a toll on me. I start off my day by telling myself that I am beautiful and ambitious all the time and it has been helping me so far.

    • @hanyhamarneh351
      @hanyhamarneh351 4 года назад +5

      that's incredibly messed up, as someone who unfortunately fell for the skin lightening regime. I applaud you for separating yourself from someone toxic like that. Thankfully, my skin tone has not taken a toll because of my mother and her advice that she gave me and it's the same saying I'm gifting to you. You are a tree, your roots run deep and you stand proudly in the sky, never take notice to those who throw stones at you for all they wish to seek is your ripened fruit.
      Anyone who has a problem with you has an even bigger problem with themselves. You're gorgeous, stay true to yourself!

    • @harmony8195
      @harmony8195 4 года назад +4

      Hany Hamarneh thank you and you are beautiful in your skin too.💖

    • @islandghoul417
      @islandghoul417 4 года назад +2

      My best friend mentioned a few times throughout high school that if I was a few shades darker the guy I liked wouldn't have liked me back .
      She meant well, I think, but I understand your need to separate yourself.
      I hope you find better friends

  • @michellinembuyi11998
    @michellinembuyi11998 4 года назад +58

    when I tell you I needed this??? im only 21 but I am so hard on myself it's draining. starting my own business, trying to lose weight, getting good grades at school, going to work. It's so much, but I'm doing the damn thing! I need to give myself credit!

  • @SydneeLoveee
    @SydneeLoveee 4 года назад +218

    In the words of Megan thee Stallion " How you wake up mad at me before you brush yo teeth?" People who hate need a real mental evaluation😂😂

  • @dinad.1612
    @dinad.1612 4 года назад +481

    I dont know if anyone understands me but Jackie feels to me like a bigger sister, like the woman I aspire to be. This may be 'just' RUclips but I am thankful for her being here, open and honest, always trying to better herself and fighting for whats important to her. I literally never met a woman being that confident and humble at the same time. Also Jackie made me realize that I am okay not being bffs with everyone and knowing I am still a good person and have good people in my life and speaking my truth is important. Love her & appreciate her so much.

  • @lalena.3l
    @lalena.3l 4 года назад +161

    i went to my bathroom to take my makeup off and i asked myself who am i with the makeup i thought i was ugly before but when i took it off i saw myself in such a beautiful way and felt good about myself and smiled in the mirror and felt so happy ur advice helped 😁

  • @EmmSee16
    @EmmSee16 4 года назад +108

    “You inspire people who pretend to not even see you” -Jackie Aina 👑
    Spoken like a true queen

  • @mercedeschapman8236
    @mercedeschapman8236 4 года назад +70

    I literally down myself because of what I think I overheard someone say about me & that's why I'm building my confidence. I need to validate me & let that be enough.

  • @emdilem5
    @emdilem5 4 года назад +63

    "I don't ask to be complemented either" i LOVE this way of thinking

  • @keeshajohns9495
    @keeshajohns9495 4 года назад +58

    I have not been attractive until I got to 32 years old, my daughter taught me how to do my make up and my hair grew after I went natural, stopped perming my hair and now I am almost 50 years old and I look awesome..

    • @keeshajohns9495
      @keeshajohns9495 4 года назад +4

      You give me life, this is how it was in a predominant white school, I was not it! My daughter has been taught she is gorgeous

  • @tauhidislam9268
    @tauhidislam9268 4 года назад +84

    ugh it’s crazy how ur channel is my happy place. literally you’ve saved me from my homophobic household during quarantine and thats on period. love ya!

  • @fatimalattrag5666
    @fatimalattrag5666 4 года назад +272

    "No one is technically ugly in the the of lord" amen

    • @planet.barbie
      @planet.barbie 4 года назад +6

      fatemah lattrag Amen! God created us all beautifully, wonderfully, and perfectly. He is perfect, and makes no mistakes. Thank You Lord! 🙏🏽❤️💞🙌🏽

  • @AbaitheyBeauty
    @AbaitheyBeauty 4 года назад +78

    I stopped following girls and comparing myself to them based on their outfits, lifestyles etc... it’s so toxic and makes you try to portray an image of you that’s not accurate. Now I wear what feels good to me and everything else like I’m literally in my bubble.

  • @jociekatbeyoueffthem5599
    @jociekatbeyoueffthem5599 4 года назад +65

    Girl I just turned 30.. and I feel more confident than EVER!!! This video touched me girl! Love ya

  • @ajakcsy3265
    @ajakcsy3265 4 года назад +126

    I love how unapologetic Jackie is about making positive and encouraging content. This is the type of content that I love her for and that should be spread

  • @SamiraBelle
    @SamiraBelle 4 года назад +194

    The QUEEN of confidence has spoken ✨

  • @danig9703
    @danig9703 4 года назад +69

    I’m struggling with depression right now And this helped me more than you can ever know. Thank you Jackie 😭💜

  • @dr.makeupjunkie7608
    @dr.makeupjunkie7608 4 года назад +360

    The motivation I need to feel better about my PhD application! Hello Dr. Melanie. Thanks Jackie!

  • @Emmss_
    @Emmss_ 4 года назад +203

    "Learn how to not take unsolicited opinions personal."
    "You inspire people who pretend to not even see you."
    - Jackie Aina 2020
    Lovin' the natural hair and popping makeup look! 🔥

  • @reneeramoleta6262
    @reneeramoleta6262 4 года назад +44

    “Being you is your power” ❤️.

  • @EssenceEtienne
    @EssenceEtienne 4 года назад +215

    For me growing up I wasn’t confident because EVERYONE in my family was light skin. I’m a really dark and I got it from my dad. All my features are from my father whom was never around me. I felt so ugly. As I got older I realized that I’m actually really pretty. Like exceptionally so. It took me a long time to understand that.

    • @ayaelaraj
      @ayaelaraj 4 года назад +3

      essence arielle 😘

    • @edvidenceofthings
      @edvidenceofthings 4 года назад +20

      I like the part when you realized that you are actually pretty. Exceptionally too girl get it!

    • @vayoha02
      @vayoha02 4 года назад +10

      Girl, God said he was going to set you apart. Go on Esther!!

    • @brittanyazcurlygirl6230
      @brittanyazcurlygirl6230 4 года назад +3

      essence arielle go head sis 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @SimoneOwens77
      @SimoneOwens77 4 года назад +6

      Yasss! Beauty is not defined by complexion.

  • @domomichele4564
    @domomichele4564 4 года назад +305

    I love Jackie, she’s just a whole mood!! 😌💕

  • @astoldbynickgerr
    @astoldbynickgerr 4 года назад +224

    I just realized in my 18 years of being alive, I’ve never been confident.

    • @mom2suns857
      @mom2suns857 4 года назад +19

      You literally have the world at your fingertips

    • @melaninqueenfit
      @melaninqueenfit 4 года назад +28

      It’s a myth that confidence is an automatic quality. The great thing is there are tools and resources to help build you your confidence. Remember confident people aren’t born that way. You got this!

    • @ninascorner11
      @ninascorner11 4 года назад +11

      You have so much time to work on that and build yourself up ♥️ You are no where near too late. I have a long journey ahead of me, but I feel waaay more confident now (as a 23 year old) then I ever have. The journey upward is hard and takes a lot of reprogramming, but it's possible even if it seems like it's not. Never give up because you deserve the best just like everyone on this planet. ♥️

    • @avocado8137
      @avocado8137 4 года назад

      Same but 8

    • @sadkalde
      @sadkalde 4 года назад +6

      Its a journey, its a process, its something that takes work especially when you start off as insecure or lacking any confidence at all. For me the 'fake it til you make it' thing really worked. I'm still not confident compared to the average person but I'm ten times more confident than I was at 18 (I am 24). Honestly, give yourself time and practice self-love and you'll slowly start to feel the change.

  • @Kamulah
    @Kamulah 4 года назад +109

    I had to learn this. Especially when I had a stroke and it changed how I looked. And then I had 2 amputations. My confidence was shot. I really had to work on building it back

    • @15wendyxo
      @15wendyxo 4 года назад +18

      Kamulah hi, I just wanna to say that I really admire you. That you are in my prayers. That I hope that you find happiness. You are so brave and amazing. Beautiful physically and soulfully (idk if that’s a word). I just saw your story and even though don’t know you personally, know I am rooting for you. I am praying and hoping for great things to happen to you. My grandmother died without being to use her legs, and I thought about her when I saw your video. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • @Kamulah
      @Kamulah 4 года назад +9

      @@15wendyxo omg. thank you so much. That reply just made my entire day! Thank you for all your prayers and good wishes. And my condolences about your grandma. Much love!

    • @Kamulah
      @Kamulah 4 года назад +3

      @Tracy G thank you Tracy. I appreciate it!

    • @gazbarton6323
      @gazbarton6323 4 года назад

      Kamulah ! 👌🏻✨💕💕💕💕

    • @Kamulah
      @Kamulah 4 года назад

      @@gazbarton6323 thanks so much!

  • @NeneJ
    @NeneJ 4 года назад +175

    Jackie, you have no idea how much I needed this video. I’ve been going through so much, and my emotions are so hay wire, and I’m feeling depressed and you’re right. I need to be more confident in myself, in what I say, etc. it’s funny cause I literally JUST prayed to God, to remove this negative spirit off of me and you posted this. I have no idea how to thank you because your words, are literally helping the masses in ways you don’t even know. So seriously, thank you 🥺

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  4 года назад +60

      give yourself some credit though; to be fair a lot of people are genuinely going through it at the moment. it's okay to not be okay sometimes. it's okay to hurt. just don't sulk in it, remind yourself of why you're that chick and keep it moving! surround yourself with people you know that will build you up and encourage you if you can

    • @NeneJ
      @NeneJ 4 года назад +6

      Jackie Aina amen amen! You’re so right 🥺❤️ and that’s what I’m doing now !

  • @henryamalin8068
    @henryamalin8068 4 года назад +70

    05:26 - you look really good with just foundation on. I actually really like the natural darkness around your eyes - it like an eyeshadow on its own and its beautiful

    • @daddypotterreviews2899
      @daddypotterreviews2899 4 года назад +6

      YES! I’ve worked hard to forget about my dark circles (sometimes I look like an actual raccoon) but now I just think of it as “free” Smokey eyes! Also raccoons are cute

  • @g_curly5453
    @g_curly5453 4 года назад +186

    There are so many people out there who say confident is arrogance, SET THEM APART THATS NOT THE SAME 🚨🚨🚨

    • @loyalty.2481
      @loyalty.2481 4 года назад +2

      Yeap. They truly confuse arrogance, rudeness, and nastiness with confidence!! smh

    • @g_curly5453
      @g_curly5453 4 года назад

      Loyalty.2 💯💯💯💯

  • @lizzypelosof9689
    @lizzypelosof9689 4 года назад +83

    I was so self conscious when I was a teen and could never do anything without thinking about what other people thought of me, and feeling like everybody was judging me. And people were judging, they still are all the time. But I realised whatever I do, people are gonna judge me. You have to find the people who make you feel confident, but also accept that your self love is the only love that can make you feel the best

    • @camryncheatwood6537
      @camryncheatwood6537 4 года назад +5

      i feel the same way. i'm a sophomore and while i understand this whole thing it's hard to actually go through with it

  • @LifeWithTeriYae
    @LifeWithTeriYae 4 года назад +61

    Jackie is the big sister that I’ve always wanted 😩 I’m blessed to have a younger brother that tells me all the time that my confidence should not rise and fall with whoever I’m around or whatever is going on. Be confident in your rights and your wrongs! Thank you Jackieeee I needed this reenforcement today!

  • @windeld7028
    @windeld7028 4 года назад +93

    I literally had a break down yesterday and here comes Jackie to give me this supportive pep talk.

  • @jadalong9587
    @jadalong9587 4 года назад +593

    “I knew I was ugly. I knew my lane.”
    Me: Jackie, give me photo evidence, thank you. I don’t believe you lmfao 😂

  • @sofiacalero7100
    @sofiacalero7100 Год назад +3

    This video is 2 years old and I always come back to it when I’m not feeling so good. Can’t thank you enough Jackie ❤

  • @blackdiamond6293
    @blackdiamond6293 4 года назад +408

    No one:
    me : "jackie jackie jackie jackie ....
    my 2 brain cells all day long : "jackie jackie jackie jackie jackie jackie jackie jackie "

    • @minebymarisha
      @minebymarisha 4 года назад +12

      I randomly do the same dang thing. Logging in for work this morning Jackie, Jackie, Jackie Jackie

    • @Finaphinees
      @Finaphinees 4 года назад +1

      Same!

  • @bluescorpion7
    @bluescorpion7 4 года назад +31

    I really needed this. I’m struggling to regain my confidence after having my baby. I lean on my boyfriend for reassurance & feel really bad when he doesn’t give it. So I’m on a journey to be confident and uplift myself.

  • @professional_tool_user
    @professional_tool_user 4 года назад +42

    You uploaded this video just in time when my coworker went on a long rant "roasting" me for my dark skin. I gotta say it's the hard stuff that makes us grow

    • @lifewithklc
      @lifewithklc 4 года назад +29

      Annie WTF?! Take that to Human Resources, no deserves that kind of emotional harassment. It’s illegal.

    • @melluvsu2
      @melluvsu2 4 года назад +5

      You Better roast them back !

  • @solskelton8071
    @solskelton8071 4 года назад +120

    As a high school junior who’s been binging “my Harvard acceptance stats!” vids, I needed this.. big time. Love ya Jackie

    • @_k_n_
      @_k_n_ 4 года назад +5

      You're going to do amazing

    • @janiecewilliams1971
      @janiecewilliams1971 4 года назад +5

      pearl do you mean you’re accepted or you’re applying? Good luck or congratulations!!!! Best wishes xx

    • @janiecewilliams1971
      @janiecewilliams1971 4 года назад +4

      Just kidding I can’t read I guess 😭😂 good luck!!

    • @quamasiaoneal6956
      @quamasiaoneal6956 4 года назад +5

      Have faith in yourself, I got accepted into places and was like what?! No one around me was surprised. You got this!🥳

    • @jackieaina
      @jackieaina  4 года назад +23

      wishing you all the absolute best!!!

  • @sophiaharper723
    @sophiaharper723 4 года назад +337

    “The difference between opinions & pizza, is that I asked for pizza” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @oxch0ngxo
      @oxch0ngxo 4 года назад +4

      Sophia Harper SOMEONE MAKE A SHIRT PLEASR

    • @sophiaharper723
      @sophiaharper723 4 года назад +1

      oxch0ngxo id totally buy it!

    • @danielleclark4756
      @danielleclark4756 4 года назад +13

      I read that as onions and was really confuse

    • @sophiaharper723
      @sophiaharper723 4 года назад +2

      CEOofquantomPhysics haha! I could see that as well!

  • @Seirienify
    @Seirienify 4 года назад +119

    I honestly see these kind of vids all the time, but seeing a black woman, someone who looks like me (!!!!), hits different and I'm def feeling a lot better. Thank you for this video!!

  • @nungakinuthia7445
    @nungakinuthia7445 4 года назад +77

    Sis really be having the prettiest eyes on yt

  • @victoria-tk5jf
    @victoria-tk5jf 4 года назад +34

    I watched this video in my bathroom. Every time she said something inspirational, I tried to think of something pretty/I like about my face or about my personality. Nothing negative, only positive things that make me beautiful, not just on the outside. I walked out of the bathroom 10x more confident. Just a tip :)

  • @elizabethingram9784
    @elizabethingram9784 4 года назад +9

    Thank you. Never tell people your plans. So true. And, negative self talk is so toxic. Words have power.

  • @anitadebro9099
    @anitadebro9099 4 года назад +96

    Also Jackie also let me embrace that. I am the only black girl in my grade and I used to hate that I was different. I always wanted to have long hair but now I embrace that now that I watch Jackie. She helped me realize that I'm beautiful and that I don't need to be like everyone else. Thank you so much Jackie. Actual Goals

  • @gabriellmagpatoc1143
    @gabriellmagpatoc1143 4 года назад +57

    "sometimes its best to not even tell anyone" yesssssss sissss i felt that

  • @KayGee_yt
    @KayGee_yt 4 года назад +160

    "no one can take away from you what you have to yourself"
    that is on PERIOD. I too was the disliked dark skinned girl growing up and it took a lot of work in my teen years to get out of it. I struggle with my confidence in a different way now, but can't nobody EVER tell me my black is not beautiful. Waste of your breath sweetheart 😘✌️

  • @mommitarpeh3471
    @mommitarpeh3471 4 года назад +32

    “Confidence comes with age...” Say it againNnnn Miss Jackie!!! Now in my 30’s,I truly wish I could speak to my younger self and help guide her,yes impossible,but I’m a strong believer that things happen for a reason. Without my past,I wouldn’t be who I am today, continuously growing and learning errday 😊❤️🙏🏽

    • @Lordpraisethe
      @Lordpraisethe 4 года назад

      I'm 25 and I'm still stressing 😞

    • @mommitarpeh3471
      @mommitarpeh3471 4 года назад

      Lordpraisethe I stress occasionally,especially on what’s most important in my life and I also know that stressing period,isn’t the best for our health in its entirety(physically,mentally,spiritually). “Not Stressing” is something that needs to be tended to,on the daily. I truly hope your stress eases with time 😊

  • @emilyphillips3462
    @emilyphillips3462 4 года назад +60

    “I’m just confidently highlighting my cheek bones cause I deserve it” that’s a VIBE

  • @MeaghanLindsey
    @MeaghanLindsey 4 года назад +16

    I totally agree .. confidence comes with age! I’m 35 and I’m just like their opinions don’t pay my bills. 😍😍😍 I just love how you keep it real!!!!

  • @keialove4225
    @keialove4225 4 года назад +74

    I love this video cause I was feeling down because I’m a senior in high school and I really had to find myself within those 4 years in high and just to find my self just to lose myself again close to the end of my senior year. I got very depressed and took it out on myself because of not knowing if I’m graduating or not feeling like all the work I did haven’t paid off because covid-19 not going to school and not being able to walk across the stage something I dreamed about doing my whole whole life and that was one of my biggest dreams I was working toward and couldn’t achieve because of something I couldn’t control and it kills me every day and this video ion know how this relates but it did and now imma just go with the flow and wat ever it takes I’m walking a stage to graduate so college I’m coming for you ❤️💯😩🥰

    • @justfaizy1576
      @justfaizy1576 4 года назад

      Hi,not related but u look soooooo good

  • @jjames905jj
    @jjames905jj 4 года назад +91

    The title alone tells me this video is about to bless me😂🙏🏾🙌🏾

  • @MaryamMaquillage
    @MaryamMaquillage 4 года назад +69

    NEEDED THIS!!! Love you ❤️

  • @g_curly5453
    @g_curly5453 4 года назад +49

    Rihanna is such a vibe, she is so chill and ughhhh I just love the effortless vibe 😩❤️🙏🏽

    • @gracegrace5641
      @gracegrace5641 4 года назад +7

      Rihanna is in a class of her own my darling. A class of her own. She is just effortless and confident. Just a beautiful soul that one.

    • @kl12rw
      @kl12rw 4 года назад +5

      even rihanna wasn't always like this

    • @KaysSecret77
      @KaysSecret77 4 года назад +7

      And I’m sure Rihanna had to grow into her current self confidence

  • @morountodunokedara
    @morountodunokedara 4 года назад +74

    " We each are our own worst critic" - Ellen Hendriksen. Not even half way through the video but agreeing with everything in it. Thank you for using your platform for good❤️

  • @hv3079
    @hv3079 4 года назад +25

    I can't believe the way people bully others for their loos, he devil is real, darkness is real and it messes you up I promise. Spread light and watch the light come back to you, with everyone and anyone but most importantly start with YOURSELF.yesssss, I said what I said!!

  • @YESIMFUNNYAND
    @YESIMFUNNYAND 4 года назад +41

    You know it's a deep conversation when Jackie's natural hair comes to play

  • @tiffytiffamanda1217
    @tiffytiffamanda1217 4 года назад +29

    At 28, your comment on "If i had just been myself earlier, I would have been further along" took me out. That, I felt. Thank you Auntie Jackie. That was something I needed, especially today.

  • @nisab5932
    @nisab5932 4 года назад +24

    I’ve been bingeing your content for the last 3 days, and it’s helped me so much. It makes me feel how I felt pre pandemic. I’m prone to depression and anxiety, but you are such a ray of sunshine and positive; I can’t help but smile at all your antics. Love you auntie Jackie 💙

  • @EstherEromosele
    @EstherEromosele 4 года назад +13

    It’s so true that when you build your confidence by yourself without depending on anyone, now one can ever take it away from you. Thank you Jackie.

  • @shuharaahmed728
    @shuharaahmed728 4 года назад +69

    I've had acne since I was 10 and something that helped with my self esteem is being lazy! I can't be bothered to put makeup on everyday, throughout school etc so this is my face and people will have to deal with that, it's their problem if it's an issue

    • @amy3971
      @amy3971 4 года назад +10

      Shuhara Ahmed “what you think of me is none of my business”

  • @fayolapurcell8223
    @fayolapurcell8223 4 года назад +7

    I'm so glad she mentioned her past in accounting for her confidence. I can really see the contrast between her past and mine, and really understand what I need to own my inner confidence.

  • @ctfes606
    @ctfes606 4 года назад +228

    Jackie: Hi guys
    Me: putting her shirt in my shopping cart immediately.

  • @h1774
    @h1774 4 года назад +17

    I’m a 16 year old middle eastern girl 🇰🇼 , I feel like I still have a long way to go to be more confident in myself but being surrounded by mean and toxic girls in school makes it ten times more difficult to be confident , thank you so much for doing this video it’s really helpful especially for us young girls out there ❤️❤️

    • @essie5628
      @essie5628 4 года назад +2

      Same, like I put to much pressure on myself but I have to remind myself, that I’m so young and I’m not even fully grown into my look😌

  • @mommolette3607
    @mommolette3607 4 года назад +66

    "You think I'm ugly, okay, you ugly to somebody too!"😂😂😂😂 But seriously, I love your message of positivity.

  • @nc3919
    @nc3919 4 года назад +17

    Jackie I’m claiming that a TV network is gonna pick you up for a show. Love you girl!!!

  • @natashagray1608
    @natashagray1608 4 года назад +18

    I’m getting teared up and a knot in my throat just at the title! Looking at you with the hair that grows from your scalp and no makeup just does something to me 🤦🏾‍♀️😢💜💜 thank you for your bravery to pursue your dreams and share yourself

  • @moniquejohson8436
    @moniquejohson8436 4 года назад +162

    Jackie:Gen Z skipped the awkward phase
    Me: Don't worry, the phase ran a train on my ass 🤣🤣🤣

  • @NymaTang
    @NymaTang 4 года назад +18

    This eye look Jackie!! 🔥

  • @EstherEromosele
    @EstherEromosele 4 года назад +114

    “What we both gonna do ugly”😂😂😂😅

  • @sumayzebecreating
    @sumayzebecreating 4 года назад +20

    this is one of my favorite looks... makes your brown eyes pop.
    all so thank you so much for this video. I'm 26 and have been going through a sellf discovery period and I finally feel like I'm gaining more self confidence at this point.

  • @xosharonnoelle7
    @xosharonnoelle7 4 года назад +23

    "Confidence means everything I get is from within" 👏

  • @lisagermany7004
    @lisagermany7004 4 года назад +34

    Jackie’s confidence is GOALS 😩😍😍

  • @FoodieFran
    @FoodieFran 4 года назад +25

    I wish I had this when I was younger. I was bullied constantly and felt so insecure. This video is going into a playlist for when I need a reminder.

  • @DelhiaMarie
    @DelhiaMarie 4 года назад +31

    I was just praying and asking GOD to send me a word about this! And here you go..... it’s still hard to listen too because I’m empty inside. Thank you for the guidance.🙂

    • @patriciambock4502
      @patriciambock4502 4 года назад +8

      May the Lord fill that void and enable you to see yourself the way He does. A chosen generation and a special person

    • @shalom4441-o6i
      @shalom4441-o6i 4 года назад

      @@patriciambock4502 amen

  • @ashleysalahub5057
    @ashleysalahub5057 4 года назад +19

    I absolutely adore Jackie. This lady is honestly so authentically herself and it's so refreshing. I am so pumped after watching this video.

  • @Lexi72500
    @Lexi72500 4 года назад +15

    Coming upon my 23rd birthday in a couple of days. This year I've been through a ton of changes that really shook my character. Recently I've started to doubt myself and my decisions. This video came right on time and was very much needed! Thank you Auntie Jackie!!!!

  • @yahnahsmith4350
    @yahnahsmith4350 4 года назад +41

    Yesss i liveee ! Honestly people just stopped questioning me when I start running around the house screaming Jackie Jackie Jackie Jackie!They no what time it is.

    • @TamaraCW
      @TamaraCW 4 года назад +1

      I love this.

  • @jordansweatt4033
    @jordansweatt4033 4 года назад +230

    Absolutely love this Jackie! I’m 25 and JUST starting to walk in my confidence fully. It takes time but the journey is worth it! 🙌🏽 P.S. this look is BOMB! 😍

    • @ivonnemartinez2898
      @ivonnemartinez2898 4 года назад +9

      Same here girl! For some reason I thought confidence came naturally with age but I'm starting to realize you have to actually put in the work and love yourself

    • @LuciasJourney
      @LuciasJourney 4 года назад +2

      Ivy Mata couldn’t agree more