You are exactly right!! A secret supply is fun & a game....until they are locked down. And when the new supply is finally exposed......THANK THEM....you just won the lottery!!! RUN....with that freedom prize!!!
I hope my ex narc and his new supply/wife don't make it. She was a willing side piece while he was divorcing his first wife. I never knew about her and his situation while he was stalking me. I just thought he was a nice guy who was in love with me for two years. Low and behold, I discover that he was just using me and even her. I hope my ex narc gets what he deserves.
Hayley Crawford KARMA’S a bitch. She doesn’t forget a name, nor address, they can move a million times and she’ll catch up! Keep living your best life!
I have no desire to meet or see their new victim. Better them than me, let her have him and good luck to them. I got my own life and it no longer includes him.
The only reason I can understand why a narc would want to expose the new supply to the old (or still current) one is to happily turn the malicious knife deeper and further into the older supply's back with that devilish grin! Why would the former supply feel bad or jealous, should be glad the new supply is taking that crap off their shoulders they no longer have to deal with.
I’m the old supply and oh my... it was painful when my narcissist ex was trying tu rub his new supply on my face after I refused to be friend with him! 😿
My ex husband left me pregnant and married another girl and didn't tell her about me!. In the end I had to leave him because he didn't love, care, help me or my child. Then he put her on government welfare, so he don't have to provide for us and children and then looking for a 3 wife to put on government welfare money. My ex husband doesn't even care about hes son. All happen under 12 years of being together bit I found out very late that he was a covert narcissist, watching porn, drink alcohol, cheating, lying, gaslighting and Manipulating me and her. As I was leaving him, he moved her like outside of London near her family, so she don't find out about me and I wont leave him. He didn't change and never will, so I left him. Narcissist never change they get better at hiding things from you!.
For an entire year he's been hiding the new supply & telling me that im conjuring up stuff in my head & that there is no one but i know better. I've been no contact from this evil monster for 22 days now. Never going back.
You wrote this 6months ago. How are you holding up? I hope u are doing well, keeping it real, and feeling the love, and most of all, enjoyment of a free soul. Hugs
@@SpliffyMeister Hi, I'm doing well. I'm doing alot of self care , healing & enjoying my own company. I still think about him & I've had days when i thought i was going to slip & contact him but i didn't. I'm staying strong. Just happy that i can laugh again . Thank you for asking. Hope you're well . 🙂
Very true, I literally watched my ex transformed in front of my eyes. I thought to myself wth did I just witness. I made the mistake of confronting him about it, biggest mistake!
Awaken Butterfly or call them out on it. One time we were on a cruise and he told a whole group of new people that we met that he was a medic!!! It was a total lie and I called him out in front of them. Boy did I hear about that later!
When I went no contact on him, he texted me from another female’s phone and told me to delete all of his family members as well because they are going to ride with him no matter what!!! I was happy to oblige!!!
Ha, ha, ha, ha ,ha, ha, ha!!!!....ha, ha, ha, ha, ha!!!!!....i can't stop laughing......Yolanda, you've made my day....got rid, in one fell swoop. I'd say that it counts as a cull....or a familial ENEMA....a MASSIVE CLEAR-OUT OF SH*T-STIRRING FAMILY MEMBERS. You LUCKY, LUCKY, LUCKY person....i know we don't know each other but i am so happy for you. ....for the record, one i went NO CONTACT with a month ago left a message on my phone two days ago after SWAMPING me with his bull-crap, but that one message(i'd ignored the rest) was a whiny, whingeing seven year old MAN doing a REALLY BAD job of trying to convince me to ring him.....i actually burst out laughing. DELETE. I'm still laughing with you at somebody actually ringing you like that, like a bully from a playground shouting "THEY'RE ALL MY FRIENDS...not yours!!!".....................ha, ha, ha, ha, ha!!!...what a result. "Karma- clear-out".
Mines too. I discarded his ass 2 days before he discarded me🙄. I ignored his ass, he started leaving these crazy messages everyday like a 7 year old and he's 42...smdh. I had to change my number and call his sister to tell him that I will pursue legal action on his ass if he contact me ever again! I haven't heard or seen his ass in over a month(thank you Jesus).
That's because he wants to destroy your world....keep a core of trusted friends....and build on them. ...and watch out for the MALIGNANTS....dangerous people to even be connected to, by a friend The ganging up of narcissists should be made illegal...period..
Ride with him no matter what. And *he* knew what he was stating to be a fact. The family members and the *flying monkeys* will ride with the *NARC* , even though they know the narc has wronged *you* ....
The narc would never go public with the new supply. He would hide the relationships from me every time so that he could come back. When i found out every time we broke up he was love bombing other women I was so hurt. They never want you to have closure or will be honest with you because it helps keep the door open for them. He would come back like he was just missing me so much and tell me how empty he felt without me lol he was a mess.
Thank you for clarifying that the bullying the nex was presenting was a front & it explains that the narc ex was intimidated by my inner strength & my resilience...I own my home, work, I'm intelligent, pay my bills, always have kept a car & handle my business! You never seem to amaze me how you're always able to help me connect the dots & make sense of nonsense! Even tho I'm mostly healed I continue to subscribe & watch your videos because each time I tune in I continuously have aha moments & learn something! Thank You
Somatic narcissist.... insane. Ever since getting out of a 20 year relationship with a covert narcissist I’ve been studying this…, I’ve been trying to ascertain whether this person I’ve known for three years is a narcissist or if I’m just damaged.. but I never heard the term somatic narcissist.. you just opened every up. This is exactly what I needed to see. Substituted : you’re incredible. This resonates HEAVY
I really needed to hear this. I struggled with being discarded and then hiding the new supply. I did run into them a year of no contact but they looked uncomfortable and tried to act like they weren’t together. I minded my business but they never came back to that venue again. After that I blocked their social media and changed my number and don’t speak to anyone they talk to. It’s been over two years no contact. I assume they still with the new/old supply at this point but idk, I’ve never been hovered. Everyone seemed to take that person side after the smear campaign online and they have a lot of associates because they always have to be around big crowds. I felt they gossip behind everyone back and they must not know. This insight lets me know that the rejection was gods protection
The bigger question is Why would you want to meet the new VICTIMS? I'm too busy thanking GOD I walked away and am healing and basking in Peace and Light.
Federal facts! Thank you for this high-quality video! After experiencing 2 years of pure hell with a malignant covert narcissist I had a conversation with the new supply. The narc told us so many lies about each other it's sick. When the narc found out that we spoke he threatened the new supply and told her never to talk to me again and she never did. I'm thankful though because what was revealed about the narcissist helped me to escape and be narc free! Be safe everyone. 🙏
Greetings Dr. Carmen thanks. I needed this information today, I've decided to not waste the space in my mind to even wonder about the new supply. Im grateful to be free of it & plan to keep it that way! You are a Godsend. Keep em coming to set the captives free.
Yes. They play roles depending on where they are. I was his side chick. His main supply had been with him for 10 years as I found out. He never wanted me to meet her.
The Nothing Narc stayed on his phone so I was aware that there were others. Yet, when I asked him to go be with them he would lie and tell me I'm crazy. After the escape he texted he's in a relationship 😂 and via phone she said she's his fiance. Better her than Me! Thanks for your knowledge. 🦋
My ex thought i didnt know what was going on. I never fealt we had anything going on i was bless too know god was with me all the time i toss oil on him watiting on him to burn he was a big lieier an i caught him with his side piece. I didnt care no contact going on two year's. Loving me
🙌👏👏👏 . They are actors and far as I'm concerned. They do have splits .I've watched my soon to be ex Narc put on mask after mask after mask .With different people it's wild . I mean full on voice changes, mannerisms , the way he starts to act it's not norm. I used to think that was him trying to fit in and be liked . But naw he does this period. With people he know to not just people he dosen't know.
Wow. When my ex-narc and I first made our relationship official he called girls from past relationships and put them on speaker while he told them that he had a new girlfriend. Some of the girls were laughing, the others couldn't have cared less. I didn't know what the hell we was doing. But the second-hand shame was so real, I had to leave the patio and go in the house. I'll be finalizing my divorce with him soon, so I guess I should expect one of those phone calls 😂🤣🤣
Your point about watching them like there are so many false selves. The bear guide, the director, the perfect handyman... it’s so strange when you witness this especially once you are out of the relationship. Thank you so much I love your videos. Straight forward and factual. 🙏❤️
Dr you got it 100%, my husband of 35 years played narc on me that long. He keep recording in my car and home. I knew back then something was wrong with him and his actions showed it. He is a sick individual. This man had plenty women. That is just whT happen when I divorced him. He convinced the judge and the attorney, he played the victim and even cried in court.
The Ex Narc tried so very hard to triangulate! Once I called to check on my daughter asking him why is she being left home alone he would made excuses then send pics of him out on a date. Boy bye! It was so sad to see this pitiful person go through such great lengths to went to such extent to hurt someone! I was done ✔ had left the Narc over a yr and he still tried to hurt me. Needless to say he succeeded when he discarded our daughter for the new supply!
Thank you so much for this video! I did see her once,he actually brought her to my sons party where he had no business being. Later I found out that she was angry because he was staring at me all night. I did some research and found out who she was( highschool gf). Confronted him and he denied,denied and denied. But after going absolute no contact,he went into hiding. No trace of them at all. But I seriously think he’s afraid of me. He’s intimidated by me. I win💪🏼🥰
So flippin true. My soon to be ex husband is such a chameleon. I never knew which one was coming home from work. He discarded me for the secretary at his work. Good luck buddy. I should have NEVER been just an option. Although I'm grieving, this is his loss. Big Time
While you were explaining the different games the narcissist play, I got exhausted just thinking how I would keep up with all the different roles they play. It must be a very exhausting way to live trying to be different people. It explains a lot for me. Mine once told my kids to tell the new supply’s family and friends that if they were asked about our relationship to tell them that our “breakup” (we’re still legally married) was mutual and not to talk to her mother because she’s nosy. The truth is that it was not mutual, one day he just left. No explanation, no warning just gone. These people are very devious and manipulative and can’t be trusted and they lie pretty much about everything. Thank you Dr. Bryant for this video and others. It’s been very helpful towards my healing process.
They try to keep you apart so that you cannot compare notes. It played one of his supply like a fiddle. He had her thinking she was competing with me and I had gotten rid of his @$$ years ago. He would park his vehicle on my street, he would call my house and she would go behind him and redial and get my voicemail. I tried to tell her what was going on but she wouldn’t talk to me. I’m sure he had turned her against me with lies.
Maybe yoh were a downgrade compared to his previous supply. The way you refer to the clueless victim as a "downgrade" is very narcissistic. Narcs have their standards, might not match your standards, but he's obtaining supply from the new source that he's no longer getting from you.
@@Sarablueunicorn Well, how do you call a woman who messing around who is married and messing around with a married man for a year and a half? Then she decided to divorce her husband, looses her only son to suicide to gunshot wound. I’ll tell you how this woman is called. According to Scriptures she is called adulteress. And that is why she had to loose a child. That is a curse of the sin of adultery. David lost his son because of his sin of adultery that he committed with Bartsheba. And the most painful part of it, the narcissist possesses the knowledge of Truth, claiming to be a man of God, yet drags his new supply to the pits of hades along with his own soul.
@@Sarablueunicorn I’m not bitter about the new supply. I pity her. She lost her only son to the wickedness, she chose to engage herself in aka adultery. And as long as her ex husband is living she will be called adulteress for the rest of her life. He stuck with her and allegedly married “before God” whatever that even means because she inherited an estate from her recently deceased mother. And she is compliant servant to him, who wouldn’t talk back. He doesn’t tolerate talking back women at all. She lusted after a younger man and did everything in her power to get him, stepping over the grave of her son.
I would sure mess it up. He tried to triangulate and I told him no. That I don't want to meet anyone and he disregard me. Hmmm. I went in on him. He knows I'm not a person he can control at ALL. I don't play
You described my ex narc(covert) , he played all these roles and games. I found out later on he kept me a secret. I am glad I left him 3 years ago! Thank you, Dr. Carmen you are pretty, educated and you connect to everyone on your platform.
My seperated wife has a new live in she met 1 month before he moved in.She continues to deny,I even ran into them in public and she denied.Is she crazy?
You are a beautiful person! I appreciate your sharing your knowledge on narsasistic abuse. You are very clear and to the point on explaining! Thankyou!💗🌺🌸
You have given me life with this video, this was exactly my ex. I turned into a whole different person dealing with this man for 10 years. Thank you for this I really felt it was me.
When I parted with my ex narc girl I saw the mask slip and I saw the spirit of jezabel the hate the thing had for me was wicked evil. After nearly7years with her I didn’t no she was a narc but split and got back together 3 times. I was suicidal. The Holy Spirit spoke to me. You must fight this spirit or it will kill you. Meaning jezabel the Holy Spirit then said. What does darkness and lite have in common and I’ve set you free from the snare of the fowler. Mick
Mick Taylor in essence I would say YES, I didn’t see it literally, but one day after 3 months of being together, I looked at him one day and I heard myself say....in a calm voice.......YOU ARE EVIL....my experience started there, it is long and drawn out and still going he’s come back for money...the miracles just kept coming, if not for the Holy Spirit, ide been in a mental mess
deb taylor yes the experience left me feeling like I was in the twilite zone. Take care deb wish you well for the future let’s hope that never happens to us again mick
Hah. Among the last observations which finally sank in and locked my conclusions were The Clothes. In the first year, we were always shopping. He claimed he needed new clothes. And, I helped choose the color combinations, fabric, style......by the second year, shouldn't I have noticed that he almost never wore what he'd bought?......around ME. Even when I asked him to wear a specific outfit, it was never detectable -- in the laundry? (But - he'd not worn it, yet...!?) So, your explanation makes total sense. He wore the outfits -- when he wasn't with me.
I love your posts! Everything you share about narc's completely resonates with me as my ex is a text book narc. I learnt all of the narc lessons the hard way. Then one day he lied to someone about me at some random social event who he didnt realise knew me very well. That friend came to me and told me what the narc had said and I was absolutely gutted. So I confronted him and thats when the games really began! Anyway I love your vids Dr! Thank you for sharing your wisdom :-)
Yes Dr. Bryant those games. The New supply wanted to meet me not to mention had two babies with my then husband while he was still married to me. He hid her while pregnant with the first i didn't feed into the bull good luck to them both.
These Narcs are SICK! And I was sick accepting all of his BS! Mine told me once that he didn't think he was what I wanted, that he has no problem not being physical with other females but likes talking to other females. I should have listened to him, but I found myself actually trying to accept the B.S. circumstances
My ex narc went to my high school. I didn’t know him but we had mutual friends. After I discarded him, I received a few phone calls telling me how they thought he was a total a** and couldn’t figure out what I saw in him. It was validating. They said they didn’t interfere because people change - they didn’t know if he changed or not. Lol 😂 most don’t understand narcissism.
I'm to smart to even believe that he has changed from what I knew and lived with him. So I just do know that there is no way anyone is going to tolerate him long and if they do they are so blinded like I was it will take them a while to let him go like I did.
Exactly my thoughts on my ex... What an exhausting life it must be to have to remember your lies to so many you have played off.. I dont know how they do it. No wonder she could sleep for England
Hello Dr. Bryant, I am so happy to discover your videos. I am recovering from a 27 years of narssistic relationship and abuse. It has been 11 years since my separation and later divorce. My question is, when my good friend new that my ex is cheating on me with someone who worked with her husband, was it unethical of my good friend not telling me about it?
Doctor B., Thank you for this info. I have a question.Why does the N cut out seeing his grown kids? He spends more time helping his new supply kids. He rarely contacts his kids. It hurts them. It makes me mad and sad.
I love your videos you just said everything I went through 4years he saved me from the street stayed there and fell in love I am still sick over him I left he was cheating for 1yrs behind my back.
I love your videos, thank you. I’ve been no contact since beating , restraining orders, divorce, continuing even though he’s stalking and harassing me, I’m not filing another restraining order yet, have security and cameras. Hoping he’ll leave me alone I can sue and get orders however, he just wants to see me I any forum, no contact. Police gave him gun back 11 months before last incident stay away from Utah it’s a religious patriarchal horrid state, bad enough going through this shit, let alone in that state, yes I moved to Nevada he’s still stalking definitely picked out his other female victim from my new state and town. Trust me these are predators, they may have similar things that are broken in some of us but some people choose the right. My goodness stay safe ,love yourselves, work on blessings everyday, keep journaling. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
The Narcissist hides their new supply (for now) because I left in the Devaluing stage. (They were also cheating) & They ran around playing victim, stating they don't know what happen, I just up and left, if they show up with the new supply right away, it will blow their cover. I don't care who they are with. I left them & went full throttle no contact 16 months & counting, (Blocked & No Contact). I expect their new supply will eventually show up. 😊
The narc picked out specific people he knew would come back and tell me about him getting married. He first told the one person who knows his patterns that he was not seeing anyone when they recognized what he was doing. The same folks at church that he lied to about leaving a job were the same ones he came back to just a few months later and told he was married. He then brings new wife to a wake exposing her to church friends who looked at him side eyed when he introduced her. He knew it would get back to me...she was a panic decision. I'm almost certain he was seeing her while seeing me. He also told others he retired but I feel that was a lie as well. I'm sure he's future faked her too.
Yea I thought they like to throw the new supply in your face. I know he’s talking to her why is he hiding it? He even met with her before I broke up with him...
My wife is furious because she knows I caught on to her lololol 😝. I currently live with this demon and let me tell you this is someone I actually grew up with. We have known eachother from the womb because our parents is friends. I never knew she was this type of person. Honestly I have never experienced anyone as demonic and toxic as her. I still live with her and as much as it hurts to let go I can't wait. She is draining me and physically killing me.
9 years ago I escaped from a narcissistic female l mistakenly married so l know all this….Convinced her new supply exists and wish both of them the best of luck…. As long she leaves me alone l’m all good. Ironically they’re losers!!!
Im really trying to understand what i have been dealing with and gone through. All of the videos point to it. But my situation seemed to start a little different. I need help
You are exactly right!! A secret supply is fun & a game....until they are locked down. And when the new supply is finally exposed......THANK THEM....you just won the lottery!!! RUN....with that freedom prize!!!
😂😂😂
I hope my ex narc and his new supply/wife don't make it. She was a willing side piece while he was divorcing his first wife. I never knew about her and his situation while he was stalking me. I just thought he was a nice guy who was in love with me for two years. Low and behold, I discover that he was just using me and even her.
I hope my ex narc gets what he deserves.
Hayley Crawford
KARMA’S a bitch. She doesn’t forget a name, nor address, they can move a million times and she’ll catch up! Keep living your best life!
RUN as fast as you can and as far as you can!
@@hyg44gu54 and there is no restraining order that can hold karma back.
Being 'discarded' is a great way to cut down on your cost of living...and very energising too!
Sometimes they hide cause the knew supply is a panic pick😁
This I do believe.
Karma never misses the address , even for narcissist ! So live life happily ! 😇
True. A narc I know father died of the coronavirus last night. Karma.
I have no desire to meet or see their new victim. Better them than me, let her have him and good luck to them.
I got my own life and it no longer includes him.
I 100% agree whoever they are with is going to get the same treatment I just hope they are strong enough to get out
The only reason I can understand why a narc would want to expose the new supply to the old (or still current) one is to happily turn the malicious knife deeper and further into the older supply's back with that devilish grin!
Why would the former supply feel bad or jealous, should be glad the new supply is taking that crap off their shoulders they no longer have to deal with.
Soo true mam
@LaToyia Mackey
That's what a narc love to do, play games and overall they ARE broken people who try to make sense of their brokenness.
Yes!! He’s her problem now!
I’m the old supply and oh my... it was painful when my narcissist ex was trying tu rub his new supply on my face after I refused to be friend with him! 😿
My ex husband left me pregnant and married another girl and didn't tell her about me!. In the end I had to leave him because he didn't love, care, help me or my child. Then he put her on government welfare, so he don't have to provide for us and children and then looking for a 3 wife to put on government welfare money. My ex husband doesn't even care about hes son. All happen under 12 years of being together bit I found out very late that he was a covert narcissist, watching porn, drink alcohol, cheating, lying, gaslighting and Manipulating me and her. As I was leaving him, he moved her like outside of London near her family, so she don't find out about me and I wont leave him. He didn't change and never will, so I left him. Narcissist never change they get better at hiding things from you!.
For an entire year he's been hiding the new supply & telling me that im conjuring up stuff in my head & that there is no one but i know better. I've been no contact from this evil monster for 22 days now. Never going back.
Yesss!!!! Same here!! He’s so pathetic!! 9 months good riddance!!
You wrote this 6months ago. How are you holding up? I hope u are doing well, keeping it real, and feeling the love, and most of all, enjoyment of a free soul. Hugs
@@SpliffyMeister Hi, I'm doing well. I'm doing alot of self care , healing & enjoying my own company. I still think about him & I've had days when i thought i was going to slip & contact him but i didn't. I'm staying strong. Just happy that i can laugh again . Thank you for asking. Hope you're well . 🙂
@@audreys719how are you doing nowadays?
We deserve to be someone’s ONLY one , not just someone’s “number one”! Great video, dr c you never disappoint
Yes! We should never be someone's option. There should never ever be any competition.
Exactly, why would you want to be someone's number 2, 3, 4 or 5 & 6 when you can be someone's one and only??
Completely crazy! Close the door and keep it locked!!
Very true, I literally watched my ex transformed in front of my eyes. I thought to myself wth did I just witness. I made the mistake of confronting him about it, biggest mistake!
Awaken butterfly I saw the mask slip on my narc girlfriend I then saw the very evil spirit of jezabel wicked. The hate this thing had for me mick
Awaken Butterfly or call them out on it. One time we were on a cruise and he told a whole group of new people that we met that he was a medic!!! It was a total lie and I called him out in front of them. Boy did I hear about that later!
When I went no contact on him, he texted me from another female’s phone and told me to delete all of his family members as well because they are going to ride with him no matter what!!! I was happy to oblige!!!
Ha, ha, ha, ha ,ha, ha, ha!!!!....ha, ha, ha, ha, ha!!!!!....i can't stop laughing......Yolanda, you've made my day....got rid, in one fell swoop.
I'd say that it counts as a cull....or a familial ENEMA....a MASSIVE CLEAR-OUT OF SH*T-STIRRING FAMILY MEMBERS.
You LUCKY, LUCKY, LUCKY person....i know we don't know each other but i am so happy for you.
....for the record, one i went NO CONTACT with a month ago left a message on my phone two days ago after SWAMPING me with his bull-crap, but that one message(i'd ignored the rest) was a whiny, whingeing seven year old MAN doing a REALLY BAD job of trying to convince me to ring him.....i actually burst out laughing.
DELETE.
I'm still laughing with you at somebody actually ringing you like that, like a bully from a playground shouting "THEY'RE ALL MY FRIENDS...not yours!!!".....................ha, ha, ha, ha, ha!!!...what a result. "Karma- clear-out".
Yolanda Brady my ex also told me to delete his family members and all of “his friends”.
Mines too. I discarded his ass 2 days before he discarded me🙄. I ignored his ass, he started leaving these crazy messages everyday like a 7 year old and he's 42...smdh. I had to change my number and call his sister to tell him that I will pursue legal action on his ass if he contact me ever again! I haven't heard or seen his ass in over a month(thank you Jesus).
That's because he wants to destroy your world....keep a core of trusted friends....and build on them.
...and watch out for the MALIGNANTS....dangerous people to even be connected to, by a friend
The ganging up of narcissists should be made illegal...period..
Ride with him no matter what. And *he* knew what he was stating to be a fact. The family members and the *flying monkeys* will ride with the *NARC* , even though they know the narc has wronged *you* ....
The narc would never go public with the new supply. He would hide the relationships from me every time so that he could come back. When i found out every time we broke up he was love bombing other women I was so hurt. They never want you to have closure or will be honest with you because it helps keep the door open for them. He would come back like he was just missing me so much and tell me how empty he felt without me lol he was a mess.
This sounds exactly like. Omg.
Same here.
Players get played. Dr. Carmen you are telling that Dern Truth!!
Because the shock affect of them having someone else hurts us more!
They do Anything to make the pain as horrible as it can get.
I believe that, mines purposely told me to hurt me, but I changed that number and kept moving forward
OMG! 😨 SOOOO TRUE!!! I NEVER KNEW ABOUT A NARC, BUT WAS 3 YEARS WITH ONE. I WISH I KNEW THIS EARLIER. IT IS DEFENTLY the life he live.
I told him, just because you tell me something doesn't mean I believe it! 1 and done.
Sometimes I wish I was just a cow and chew grass...then be a human and deal with all this satanic stuff...😥😫😫😫
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Then you might be up the for slaughter 😐😐😐
@@MaesRemedy Or be living on a hill or mountain top....Let's be postive with the alternative...Thank You....😂
Thank you for clarifying that the bullying the nex was presenting was a front & it explains that the
narc ex was intimidated by my inner strength & my resilience...I own my home, work, I'm intelligent, pay my bills, always have kept a car & handle my business! You never seem to amaze me how you're always able to help me connect the dots & make sense of nonsense! Even tho I'm mostly healed I continue to subscribe & watch your videos because each time I tune in I continuously have aha moments & learn something! Thank You
Somatic narcissist.... insane. Ever since getting out of a 20 year relationship with a covert narcissist I’ve been studying this…, I’ve been trying to ascertain whether this person I’ve known for three years is a narcissist or if I’m just damaged.. but I never heard the term somatic narcissist.. you just opened every up. This is exactly what I needed to see. Substituted : you’re incredible. This resonates HEAVY
I really needed to hear this. I struggled with being discarded and then hiding the new supply. I did run into them a year of no contact but they looked uncomfortable and tried to act like they weren’t together. I minded my business but they never came back to that venue again. After that I blocked their social media and changed my number and don’t speak to anyone they talk to. It’s been over two years no contact. I assume they still with the new/old supply at this point but idk, I’ve never been hovered. Everyone seemed to take that person side after the smear campaign online and they have a lot of associates because they always have to be around big crowds. I felt they gossip behind everyone back and they must not know. This insight lets me know that the rejection was gods protection
The bigger question is Why would you want to meet the new VICTIMS? I'm too busy thanking GOD I walked away and am healing and basking in Peace and Light.
Come on now
Federal facts! Thank you for this high-quality video! After experiencing 2 years of pure hell with a malignant covert narcissist I had a conversation with the new supply. The narc told us so many lies about each other it's sick. When the narc found out that we spoke he threatened the new supply and told her never to talk to me again and she never did. I'm thankful though because what was revealed about the narcissist helped me to escape and be narc free! Be safe everyone. 🙏
Greetings Dr. Carmen thanks. I needed this information today, I've decided to not waste the space in my mind to even wonder about the new supply. Im grateful to be free of it & plan to keep it that way! You are a Godsend. Keep em coming to set the captives free.
Yes. They play roles depending on where they are. I was his side chick. His main supply had been with him for 10 years as I found out. He never wanted me to meet her.
Why would you want to meet her if you’re playing the role of a side chick
We're you the one my narc was with? The timings are right. Lol and the years we had together. Hmmmm at the time of you posting ur comment.
@@RAHEEMMILLNER34 I did not know I was till the end of our relationship and then I ended it.
@@RAHEEMMILLNER34they don’t know that for a while
The Nothing Narc stayed on his phone so I was aware that there were others. Yet, when I asked him to go be with them he would lie and tell me I'm crazy. After the escape he texted he's in a relationship 😂 and via phone she said she's his fiance. Better her than Me! Thanks for your knowledge. 🦋
My ex thought i didnt know what was going on. I never fealt we had anything going on i was bless too know god was with me all the time i toss oil on him watiting on him to burn he was a big lieier an i caught him with his side piece. I didnt care no contact going on two year's. Loving me
Oh my God they seem like actors and actresses. It's very very hard to believe all these there like multiple personalities
🙌👏👏👏 . They are actors and far as I'm concerned. They do have splits .I've watched my soon to be ex Narc put on mask after mask after mask .With different people it's wild . I mean full on voice changes, mannerisms , the way he starts to act it's not norm. I used to think that was him trying to fit in and be liked . But naw he does this period. With people he know to not just people he dosen't know.
Agree..Oscar winning performance 🎭
Wow. When my ex-narc and I first made our relationship official he called girls from past relationships and put them on speaker while he told them that he had a new girlfriend. Some of the girls were laughing, the others couldn't have cared less. I didn't know what the hell we was doing. But the second-hand shame was so real, I had to leave the patio and go in the house. I'll be finalizing my divorce with him soon, so I guess I should expect one of those phone calls 😂🤣🤣
Hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
Funny 😁
Your point about watching them like there are so many false selves. The bear guide, the director, the perfect handyman... it’s so strange when you witness this especially once you are out of the relationship. Thank you so much I love your videos. Straight forward and factual. 🙏❤️
When she said the exhausting part about narcissism that was a good vantage point!! straight up☝
Dr you got it 100%, my husband of 35 years played narc on me that long. He keep recording in my car and home. I knew back then something was wrong with him and his actions showed it. He is a sick individual. This man had plenty women. That is just whT happen when I divorced him. He convinced the judge and the attorney, he played the victim and even cried in court.
😪 One day the thruth will come out 🙏
The Ex Narc tried so very hard to triangulate! Once I called to check on my daughter asking him why is she being left home alone he would made excuses then send pics of him out on a date. Boy bye!
It was so sad to see this pitiful person go through such great lengths to went to such extent to hurt someone! I was done ✔ had left the Narc over a yr and he still tried to hurt me. Needless to say he succeeded when he discarded our daughter for the new supply!
You Are So On Point!!
Thank you so much for this video! I did see her once,he actually brought her to my sons party where he had no business being. Later I found out that she was angry because he was staring at me all night. I did some research and found out who she was( highschool gf). Confronted him and he denied,denied and denied. But after going absolute no contact,he went into hiding. No trace of them at all. But I seriously think he’s afraid of me. He’s intimidated by me. I win💪🏼🥰
So flippin true. My soon to be ex husband is such a chameleon. I never knew which one was coming home from work. He discarded me for the secretary at his work. Good luck buddy.
I should have NEVER been just an option. Although I'm grieving, this is his loss. Big Time
Amazing person you know exactly what people are going through you have helped me understand what I have been going through four years.
While you were explaining the different games the narcissist play, I got exhausted just thinking how I would keep up with all the different roles they play. It must be a very exhausting way to live trying to be different people. It explains a lot for me. Mine once told my kids to tell the new supply’s family and friends that if they were asked about our relationship to tell them that our “breakup” (we’re still legally married) was mutual and not to talk to her mother because she’s nosy. The truth is that it was not mutual, one day he just left. No explanation, no warning just gone. These people are very devious and manipulative and can’t be trusted and they lie pretty much about everything. Thank you Dr. Bryant for this video and others. It’s been very helpful towards my healing process.
Your my favorite yet..I appreciate you sharing,your honest and upfront..So Thank you,You help❤️
They try to keep you apart so that you cannot compare notes. It played one of his supply like a fiddle. He had her thinking she was competing with me and I had gotten rid of his @$$ years ago. He would park his vehicle on my street, he would call my house and she would go behind him and redial and get my voicemail. I tried to tell her what was going on but she wouldn’t talk to me. I’m sure he had turned her against me with lies.
They will also hide new supply if they have downgraded and if they are more older .. ..
Bingo! Mine definitely downgraded. The new supply is desperate, overweight, broken and 7 years older than he is.
Maybe yoh were a downgrade compared to his previous supply.
The way you refer to the clueless victim as a "downgrade" is very narcissistic. Narcs have their standards, might not match your standards, but he's obtaining supply from the new source that he's no longer getting from you.
@@iraidushka Still, you are bitter about his new victim.
Some insight would be nice.
@@Sarablueunicorn Well, how do you call a woman who messing around who is married and messing around with a married man for a year and a half? Then she decided to divorce her husband, looses her only son to suicide to gunshot wound. I’ll tell you how this woman is called. According to Scriptures she is called adulteress. And that is why she had to loose a child. That is a curse of the sin of adultery. David lost his son because of his sin of adultery that he committed with Bartsheba. And the most painful part of it, the narcissist possesses the knowledge of Truth, claiming to be a man of God, yet drags his new supply to the pits of hades along with his own soul.
@@Sarablueunicorn I’m not bitter about the new supply. I pity her. She lost her only son to the wickedness, she chose to engage herself in aka adultery. And as long as her ex husband is living she will be called adulteress for the rest of her life. He stuck with her and allegedly married “before God” whatever that even means because she inherited an estate from her recently deceased mother. And she is compliant servant to him, who wouldn’t talk back. He doesn’t tolerate talking back women at all. She lusted after a younger man and did everything in her power to get him, stepping over the grave of her son.
I would sure mess it up. He tried to triangulate and I told him no. That I don't want to meet anyone and he disregard me. Hmmm. I went in on him. He knows I'm not a person he can control at ALL. I don't play
You described my ex narc(covert) , he played all these roles and games. I found out later on he kept me a secret. I am glad I left him 3 years ago! Thank you, Dr. Carmen you are pretty, educated and you connect to everyone on your platform.
Girl you good! You on point!
Hoot, hoot sister... Your words are powerful, chica...
Thanks for educating us about the game! The gaslighting is real!
My seperated wife has a new live in she met 1 month before he moved in.She continues to deny,I even ran into them in public and she denied.Is she crazy?
You are a beautiful person! I appreciate your sharing your knowledge on narsasistic abuse. You are very clear and to the point on explaining! Thankyou!💗🌺🌸
You have given me life with this video, this was exactly my ex. I turned into a whole different person dealing with this man for 10 years. Thank you for this I really felt it was me.
Wow!!!! Amazing ty! The Lord has helped me heal so much!
When I parted with my ex narc girl I saw the mask slip and I saw the spirit of jezabel the hate the thing had for me was wicked evil. After nearly7years with her I didn’t no she was a narc but split and got back together 3 times. I was suicidal. The Holy Spirit spoke to me. You must fight this spirit or it will kill you. Meaning jezabel the Holy Spirit then said. What does darkness and lite have in common and I’ve set you free from the snare of the fowler. Mick
Mick Taylor that’s what happened to me amen
Simple Guy what happenened to you did you see the demon behind the mask mick
deb taylor what happened to you did you see the demon behind the mask mick
Mick Taylor in essence I would say YES, I didn’t see it literally, but one day after 3 months of being together, I looked at him one day and I heard myself say....in a calm voice.......YOU ARE EVIL....my experience started there, it is long and drawn out and still going he’s come back for money...the miracles just kept coming, if not for the Holy Spirit, ide been in a mental mess
deb taylor yes the experience left me feeling like I was in the twilite zone. Take care deb wish you well for the future let’s hope that never happens to us again mick
Hah. Among the last observations which finally sank in and locked my conclusions were The Clothes. In the first year, we were always shopping. He claimed he needed new clothes. And, I helped choose the color combinations, fabric, style......by the second year, shouldn't I have noticed that he almost never wore what he'd bought?......around ME. Even when I asked him to wear a specific outfit, it was never detectable -- in the laundry? (But - he'd not worn it, yet...!?) So, your explanation makes total sense. He wore the outfits -- when he wasn't with me.
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this.
Keep posting Dr! Learning so much from you, and love the nails
11:52 I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT!!!!!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😩😩😩😩♥️♥️♥️♥️
I called his ass out on social media and her too..he blocked me so she wouldn't figure me out.
Thank God my intuition is Spot on 100%
I love your posts! Everything you share about narc's completely resonates with me as my ex is a text book narc. I learnt all of the narc lessons the hard way. Then one day he lied to someone about me at some random social event who he didnt realise knew me very well. That friend came to me and told me what the narc had said and I was absolutely gutted. So I confronted him and thats when the games really began!
Anyway I love your vids Dr! Thank you for sharing your wisdom :-)
Whoa! 🤯
I think it's someone I know. That's why he hides them
You always look soooo beautiful ❤️ Thank you for this great vid - exactly what I needed to hear 🌼 Stay safe pretty lady 💗
Yes Dr. Bryant those games. The New supply wanted to meet me not to mention had two babies with my then husband while he was still married to me. He hid her while pregnant with the first i didn't feed into the bull good luck to them both.
She will turn on him one day.
These Narcs are SICK! And I was sick accepting all of his BS! Mine told me once that he didn't think he was what I wanted, that he has no problem not being physical with other females but likes talking to other females. I should have listened to him, but I found myself actually trying to accept the B.S. circumstances
My ex narc went to my high school. I didn’t know him but we had mutual friends. After I discarded him, I received a few phone calls telling me how they thought he was a total a** and couldn’t figure out what I saw in him. It was validating. They said they didn’t interfere because people change - they didn’t know if he changed or not. Lol 😂 most don’t understand narcissism.
They must be embarrassed with them. She told everyone we were an item.
Dayuuum gina.... Looking good. My favorite look on you. Beautiful!!!
Dr.C you are just STUNNING!!!😁😁🤗
I love all of your videos but this one is my favorite so far- thank you so much!
I'm to smart to even believe that he has changed from what I knew and lived with him. So I just do know that there is no way anyone is going to tolerate him long and if they do they are so blinded like I was it will take them a while to let him go like I did.
Exactly my thoughts on my ex... What an exhausting life it must be to have to remember your lies to so many you have played off.. I dont know how they do it. No wonder she could sleep for England
He lives close to me. I think he had been watching me years to be after me...
Thank you Dr. Carmen 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
WOW...HARD TRUTH
If they tell you you will leave them and they would feel.shame etc and loss of power and control..thry always get caught they get cocky and arrogant.
Hello Dr. Bryant, I am so happy to discover your videos. I am recovering from a 27 years of narssistic relationship and abuse. It has been 11 years since my separation and later divorce. My question is, when my good friend new that my ex is cheating on me with someone who worked with her husband, was it unethical of my good friend not telling me about it?
Yes, off course. May God give you the right friends for you 🙏
Doctor B., Thank you for this info. I have a question.Why does the N cut out seeing his grown kids? He spends more time helping his new supply kids. He rarely contacts his kids. It hurts them. It makes me mad and sad.
Its hidden so they can hoover back saying they have not been doing anyhting ,so you can take them back.
calling on TRUE FAMILY
Thank you carmon ❤
I love your videos you just said everything I went through 4years he saved me from the street stayed there and fell in love I am still sick over him I left he was cheating for 1yrs behind my back.
I love your videos, thank you. I’ve been no contact since beating , restraining orders, divorce, continuing even though he’s stalking and harassing me, I’m not filing another restraining order yet, have security and cameras. Hoping he’ll leave me alone I can sue and get orders however, he just wants to see me I any forum, no contact. Police gave him gun back 11 months before last incident stay away from Utah it’s a religious patriarchal horrid state, bad enough going through this shit, let alone in that state, yes I moved to Nevada he’s still stalking definitely picked out his other female victim from my new state and town. Trust me these are predators, they may have similar things that are broken in some of us but some people choose the right. My goodness stay safe ,love yourselves, work on blessings everyday, keep journaling. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My Ex Narc doesnt want his new supply and to meet and he even said that she doesn't wanna meet me and she has been around our child.
Your awesome Dr. 💐
Okay somatic mainly but also very cerebral too.
Thank you
The Narcissist hides their new supply (for now) because I left in the Devaluing stage. (They were also cheating) & They ran around playing victim, stating they don't know what happen, I just up and left, if they show up with the new supply right away, it will blow their cover. I don't care who they are with. I left them & went full throttle no contact 16 months & counting, (Blocked & No Contact). I expect their new supply will eventually show up. 😊
Another roll too is his family.. 💜🦋
Thank you for this video..
They must groom new supply - cant go a day without it-
Mine was a closet gay hence why his supplies were hidden
The narc picked out specific people he knew would come back and tell me about him getting married. He first told the one person who knows his patterns that he was not seeing anyone when they recognized what he was doing. The same folks at church that he lied to about leaving a job were the same ones he came back to just a few months later and told he was married. He then brings new wife to a wake exposing her to church friends who looked at him side eyed when he introduced her. He knew it would get back to me...she was a panic decision. I'm almost certain he was seeing her while seeing me. He also told others he retired but I feel that was a lie as well. I'm sure he's future faked her too.
You are right on point
I'm in Washington and really need your help
Its like this video was based on my life. Crazy.
Woooow, exactly. He is a pastor. Pray for me 🙏
Yea I thought they like to throw the new supply in your face. I know he’s talking to her why is he hiding it? He even met with her before I broke up with him...
Why do they hide their new supply
Preach girl. 🙌
Real talk 💯
My wife is furious because she knows I caught on to her lololol 😝. I currently live with this demon and let me tell you this is someone I actually grew up with. We have known eachother from the womb because our parents is friends. I never knew she was this type of person. Honestly I have never experienced anyone as demonic and toxic as her. I still live with her and as much as it hurts to let go I can't wait. She is draining me and physically killing me.
Run 🏃♂️ when you get a chance bro
Thank you!!!
Am watching 😍 It's helpfull you Shine that light on all of us . 😍
Wow! You are so right.
9 years ago I escaped from a narcissistic female l mistakenly married so l know all this….Convinced her new supply exists and wish both of them the best of luck…. As long she leaves me alone l’m all good. Ironically they’re losers!!!
Thank u so much Carmen. Much love to you. U have been so helpful to me. G.Bs🙏 u. 👍💖💡
Im really trying to understand what i have been dealing with and gone through. All of the videos point to it. But my situation seemed to start a little different. I need help