OUR TRAUMATIC BIRTH STORY...
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Hi Blanca and Jonathan!!! Nurse here 🙋🏻♀️ and I encourage you both to please contact compliance office at hospital and submit a grievance, you will make a difference for others to come! Providers and HC workers are responsible for their role in their job & must be provided dignity respect compassion! Please please do it!!!!
Thank you for providing the correct terminology and process for all of us that don't know we have the right to do this.
She only apologized because she got scared yall would report her. REPORT her, what she did is not ok!
This I feel like she does this to everyone
I was thinking the same thing or I wonder if she realized they are influencers and have a platform
Blanca. Please contact your hospitals Patient Relations department and tell them about this. You most likely are not the only one to feel this way. And hopefully you can stop someone else from having to go through this as well.
Yes! 100% agree!
All medical providers need to lead with patience, empathy, and cultural humility.
Especially an OBGYN provider!! Shame on her. She should have explained what she was doing.. don’t be afraid to speak up and advocate for yourself. You’re the patient. It doesn’t matter if they are the “doctor.” You are human and everything you feel/ experience is valid. Shoutout to the nurses for advocating and protecting you from experiencing more trauma/harm.
Please report her. If she wasn’t in the right headspace, she shouldn’t have delivered your baby. She should have leaned on another doctor on the team to step in.
@jocelynmartinez692 I agree with you because I had something happened to me like that and I didn't end up saying anything but my sister did and on my survey of the hospital and I did definitely told them what happened
Mine situation was probably not the same (still watching the video) but I had a nurse who was so so rude, she made me cry bc I was already in a bad headspace and birthing alone) which she knew. I always regret it not reporting her :(
Girlllll as a nurse hearing your experience with that doctor literally infuriates me. Specially when she said to bring in the Fentanyl. Jonathan is 100% right, if you plan on being in the healthcare field, you can’t just do it for the money. You have to genuinely care for your patients.
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I agree!!!
10000% agree as a health care worker myself I see a lot of people joining the field for the money which is so sad. If you lack compassion, empathy and patience the medical field is NOT for you!
Yes omg that’s crazy she should’ve asked you first they asked me first and I guess I couldn’t get epidural until I was 6cm it was a bit crazy too but omg Blanca hope you can get pass this
I was given 3 doses of fentyal while in labor😢
As a nurse at a hospital, we tend to ask All patients about there experience. But especially if we noticed some kind of mistreatment against the patient because I can speak for myself I love what I do. And if someone is only there for a paycheck and isn’t treating you with respect we want them gone or at least spoken too. As a nurse our goal is to make you feel safe and respected the whole time there.
As a Mexican woman I was not taught to advocate for myself. No molestes a la gente they always say. We need to overcome that
“Calladita te ves más bonita” always heard that too. Very true
Please open an IR report (incident report) with the hospital. I also had a really really bad labor and delivery experience and almost lost not only my daughter life but mine as well. Although, we are blessed and okay it could have been preventable. I agree with Jonathan sometimes they do need a slap on the wrist so that they don’t rob another mom of her experience in the future.
I’m glad you have a very very supportive family & friend surrounding you Blanca. 🤍 congratulations mama!
Yes!! Bc what if she’s been doing it to others too! Especially POC! Plz report her that’s not ok. Ik you wouldn’t want this to happen to another new mom!
I totally agree blanca needs to open a report and not just let this go.
Working in the medical field for many years this doctor had horrible bedside manners and needs to be reported. Blanca and Jonathan you guys need to file a complaint against her, it’s not fair the way she treated you and who knows if she was being racist or discriminative against you guys. Whatever it was she needs to be reported so that she’s held accountable for her actions. I’ve worked with many doctors and you see so many things. Some doctors can be the best and others make you question why they’re in the medical field if they act a certain way. Even if she did apologize to you guys she does need to be reported and have a complaint filed against her. Trust me, this will let her know that she can’t be acting this way. I really hope you guys do. If you need assistance with filing a complaint I can help you guys too. It seems that even the nurses and other medical staff noticed this about her too. Please file a complaint, it will help many women in the future so that they don’t go through a similar experience or even worse. Doctors are people just like you and I and as that there’s going to be good and bad ones but as a doctor they need to have a good reputation. They should never make you feel bad and should never make you feel like they’re better than you or anyone.
I’m sorry you had to deal with a doctor like this but Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl Belen 🩷 she is perfect and so adorable! Dios los bendiga a todos siempre 🙏🏽🫶🏽
Bed side manners are sooo important from doctors and ESPECIALLY for labor and delivery. It’s already so vulnerable and painful.
Also, please don’t let the comments of “just get the epidural, we’re in the 21st century” get to you. I’ve had both and my natural delivery was so much more intuitive and the healing was 100% better.
I highly encourage you to voice your experience to the hospital. There is research that shows provider racial bias in pain assessment and treatment recommendations. In other words, research shows that providers assume women of color have a “higher pain tolerance” and typically get bare minimum treatment. So sorry you experienced this.
I got an epidural with all my 4 kids and recovery was EASY and I haven’t had zero pains. I feel people take alot of pride having a natural birth and don’t get me wrong respect to you but I for sure ain’t going through that awful pain! No wayyyy
I agree! In a medical setting it’s okay to take fentanyl and have an epidural. People get epidurals for neck pain best believe I’m gonna get one while giving birth. I had a 36 hour traumatic labor and I wish they would have given me drugs sooner!
Right this is the 21st century lol that’s why they have these options. But if they wanna suffer then you go girl lol. Not me 😅 tho. Birth is already uncomfortable , why not make it a bit easier . Just my 2 cents
I had a super fast labor I went in at 7cm and in an hour gave birth. I couldn’t get the epidural and girl I don’t know how other women do it it was sooooo painful! I couldn’t help but scream my lungs out! My ob was not happy lol
Same, I went in there saying if I need to get an epidural I'm going to get an epidural. And I'm glad I did because I was induced and 3hrs in they had to pause the medication because baby's heartbeat was low and they didn't start me on it until 4hrs later so all those hours I would've been suffering while making literally no progress 😩
I lasted 30 plus hour and this baby wouldn’t come out. My body was shutting down and I couldn’t stay awake yet I was 9cm I ask for that damn epidural after they broke my water bc there was no way I was able to handle the pain plus I was throwing up, what a mess. Delivery went well afterwards.
A Karen is someone who complains over ridiculous things! You are not being a Karen for sticking up for yourself for, like you said, your birth experience! You can’t have a bad day when you are a doctor and peoples lives are on the line! Stick up for yourselves so nobody else goes through this.
PS. Congratulations on baby Belen, she’s beautiful and reminds me so much of my baby.
But they didn't say anything wish they would had spoken up
Blanca, I appreciate you for sharing the good and the bad especially for those who haven’t had kids yet. You did amazing girl! Belen is BEAUTIFUL
Omg Blanca, you really need to report that doctor. Most likely she does it all the time, and the nurses know but cannot say anything because of work etiquette. I know cause I'm a nurse. We know good and bad doctors and wish I could tell my patients about the bad ones. Here in TX they send a survey after hospital stay, idk if it's like that in all states, but definitely say it in the survey if you get one. But I am happy for you guys. Congratulations on the new edition to the family. Report her!
She only apologized cause she was scared of you guys reporting her and you guys should most definitely report it because nobody else deserves to experience the same situation 💔
The way Blanca just makes motherhood and influencing look so graceful 🥹😭💖
You guys have to put a complaint on that Dr. Save future mommy's from going under her care! She only apologized to keep you from speaking up!
As a labor and delivery nurse I’m so sorry this happened to you 🥲
Wishing a speedy recovery ❤️🩹
I was just going to comment this. L&D nurse here and it sounds like the doctor might have already had a reputation and the nurses tried their best to advocate for her. She should report her experience with that doctor to the department manager.
I’m so sorry you went through this, thats literally a person who hates her job. I’m glad you are doing so much better ❤️
It’s not about being a “Karen” it’s about standing up for yourself. This is your health care, it’s super important! And not only standing up for yourself but other that can be prevented from having this exact experience. There is a time and a place for everything, this is the time to BE A KAREN!
that’s crazy! my husband & I watched your labor video & we even thought the vibe was off & something wasn’t sitting right we just sensed it so hearing this I can’t even imagine how you felt in that room! thank god you’re okay and baby is too! 🤍🫶
Some people do not deserve to be doctors at all being smart isn’t enough
I so admire you guys. Jonathan you knew not to start a confrontation in middle of labor because your wife did not need an extra burden & Blanca you are truly a fighter and have such a good heart.
But please, if you can, file a report. Nobody deserves to go through a similar scenario.
I couldn’t help but cry hearing your experience, especially knowing the facts Jonathan shared about labor mortality.
Belen may be catfishing you lol my second boy was so calm as a baby always smiling so chill in general pero ahora he’s a tornado! But he brings so much joy to our family we always joke how boring our lives would be without him!
100000% agree jajaja my second WAS perfectly calm Now he Is perfectly tremendo. 🤦🏽♀️ But well said, the joy obthe family but our hands aré full with him he Is WILD
Mine is the same!!! 😂😂 he hit me like a damn brick! He was a perfect baby I had no complaints! When he turned 1 years old he went buck wild!!!! 😝
OH MEEE WITH MY SECOND BABY LMFAO chill baby she was so independent but now that she is about to be two BRO she is my little wild child, tremenda affff, loud, silly
Yes! the pain puts you in a negative mindset! No one knows how to describe them unless they go through unmediated births ! Love you 🤍✨
As a Hispanic working in the medical field this was NOTHING shocking to me sadly😢 I’m so sorry that Dr took your spark away during your most vulnerable time! WHEN YOU KNOW YOU KNOW that the vibes are off, never be scared to ask for what is right! (Of course it was hard durning that time) but for future reference 😊🫶🏼💕💕
Even with the epidural I had the worse contractions.. also FYI Jonathon, no woman during birth is worried about anyone judging them 😂 we don’t care about anything but the pain and the baby during that time.
Yes strongly agree on this! U just want that baby out!
My delivery doctor was so gentle. When she first came in the room to introduce herself she kneeled down to be at my eye level 😭 so thankful for her and all the very sweet nurses that were there that day 🫶
Okay ? …No need to rub it in
You did amazing Blanca !!! Proud of you!! Praying for a smooth recovery and for your beautiful family 🩷🥰
Blanca I’m so sorry you went through that! Please be the voice for other mothers. Especially the ones that are afraid to speak please open a report. Que diosito te bendiga siempre 🙏🏼❤️
I truly believe babies can sense everything when their in the womb. If the mom is relaxed,happy, and loved, the baby will be calm. Belén is precious and the way you two look at her is so cute 🥰 she definitely will have Jonathan wrapped around her little finger. I have had 2 un medicated births and it’s no joke. I also went full exorcist mode but I could care less what people thought. The entire l&d department could hear my screams 😅I feel like doctors are used to most moms getting epidurals that they forget to be gentle when you don’t and that’s why she was so rough
I think all of us who have had unmedicated births can completely understand your pain. I’ve had 2 unmediated births and they were HARD those contractions are no joke 😢 and when you were explaining how you kept moving your head from side to side I was laughing but I felt your pain!! You weren’t being dramatic or “doing too much”. You’re literally giving birth it’s a pain like no other. Im so sorry your doctor was awful and insensitive but gracias a Dios que Belen nació bien and she’s so beautiful!!! Congratulations!! ❤
Yes girl I did it 3 times and the pain is no joke you literally bear that pain head on it’s excruciating yes but worth it bc it doesn’t last forever but still each birth & woman is different but kuddos to both of yall 2 for being so so strong ❤️
I watch you guys all the time and never comment, but I want to say that please advocate for us. You both have the platforms to get these issues known and for other parents to know it's okay to speak up.❤
I’m so sorry for your experience Blanca. Thank you for sharing! I would 100% encourage you to file a grievance. The reality is that things won’t change until there’s a record of this doctors mistreatment to patients. I don’t want to imagine any new moms having to experience exactly what you did. Sending you and your newborn a big hug ❤
Felt this 10000% once you tell yourself “ I can’t do this anymore” it’s over ! Your mind/brain is SO POWERFUL. So actually I told myself myself those words the last 2/3 hours of my labor & delivery and I’ve never felt so negative & tired in my life !!
AND having a bad team/staff around makes It worst
💯 accurate I felt the same way💪
Omg Blanca girl! I am sorry that you went thru that, but someone beautiful and precious came out from all that experience, you are truly a strong one, I look up to you 🫶🏼💛
God bless your beautiful family
Currently on almost two months with a 1 and half month old and a 2 year old
With no village 💔 just my partner who works 3am -2pm
Feels so lonely but thinking positive and cherishing all this moment with my babies👦🏽👦🏽
Mom guilt is real never knew what it would be like until the moment I came home
First month was rough but getting back into routine helps a lot
I admire you guys so much ❤️❤️
Wishing you guys a healthy postpartum 🫶🏼
You guys are amazing for posting this early!! 😭😭♥️
Thank you for sharing. Belen is so beautiful. She is literally Franco’s twin. Franco is the best big brother 🥹🤍
All your feelings are completely valid I sometimes feel like doctors can try to degrade you just because you’re in their eyes considered a “young mom”. Similar situation happened with me and I felt because I was young the doctor thought she could do what she wanted with me but once you start advocating for yourself then it shocks them! I would definitely voice the experience this could potentially help future mommas.
Congratulations to you both she’s beautiful 💕💕
Girl I felt every single emotion while watching your birth video, I was crying in the streets of Atlanta, You are an amazing and inspiring woman!
girl I am so sorry this happened to you, I experienced the same thing with my first born my doctor broke my water without even telling me he just came in and went in there and popped it didn’t guide me through it or nothing, my nurse was so nice that she told him that I did not want him close to me other than when he’s going to deliver my baby I feel you 100% ❤️ you’re so strong! Till this day I am so thankful for my nurse that was with me through everything!
So sorry you went through that. This was literally one of my biggest fears with going unmedicated. But I never hear anyone talk about the aftermath of stitching after birth.
That sounds very traumatizing, I would have been reporting her before even leaving the hospital and i hope you do so. I would not want another expecting momma to go through that or possibly even worse, Please think about other women that will have her as a DR for their labor. I encourage you to report it.
Thanks for sharing! wishing you a fast recovery
I’m very blessed that both of my medicated births were so smooth and no complications afterwards my recovery was smooth and easy it really all depends on our body’s not all of us are built the same. Don’t be discouraged about getting epidurals.
The situation you talked about is what I live, im by myself with my 2 under 2 and my husband always at work . I appreciate his help so much when he’s home but it’s so hard I wish I had a village I only have one friend 😕 you guys are so blessed 🫶🏽
Congratulations to you all!! Belen is so blessed to have amazing parents. Blessings to her and the fam.
Franco is so sweet. He is a great big brother. 🩵🩷
I had a doctor check my cervix so rough, I cried! And she snatched her gloves all aggressively, and was like “I’m not doing this!” And walked out. And it did not hurt as much when someone else checked! I don’t understand when they come in with bad energy
I’ve always heard male OBGYN doctors treat you more gently than female doctors. They are more empathetic with the pain and discomfort you’re experiencing.
I am so sorry you guys went through that. I am currently in medical school to become a doctor and my biggest motivation was to serve the Latino community. My mother, being from Ecuador was always treated less than during her medical visits. Just know there is a generation of Latino/a doctors wanting to make a change
It was so soothing and precious to see baby girl on the podcast 🫶 thank you for sharing her with us 💕
I’m sorry you went through this trauma Blanca!!! You are a very strong woman ❤ enjoy your princess 🎀 and being a mother of two ❤
Stay strong girl. You're an amazing woman who's had two natural births, and you're an amazing mom! We're cheering for you & i hope God blessed your family every day & watches over you guys. Congratulations on your beautiful family❤ we love you!
I’m sorry you guys had to go through this! This makes anyone feel more discouraged to go through pregnancy because you’re stuck thinking what if we get stuck with a bad doctor 💔 Baby Belen is so adorable 🥹🥹🥹 I love you guys always
Ive never heard anyone say they had a rough recovery after getting the epidural i dont think its the epidural but who knows i had my daughter without it and my 2 sons with the epidural and recovery was the same with the epidural i actually got to enjoy seeing my sons being born without having to worry about the pain
Recovery after having 2 epidurals from my experience wasn’t hard or bad. The first the epidural did take a bit to wear off and I tore inside and out second degree tears but that had nothing to do with the epidural. The second I was up and recovered so quick and meeting all the requirements early and I didn’t tear so ig it depends on if you tear or not honestly. But epidural had no impact on my recovery really
I’ve never had kids but I cry when I get horrible cramps. Everyone’s experience is different every delivery is different. You only know your pain tolerance and how you deal with it. Don’t be embarrassed of how you handled your pain girl. You did the damm thing. Congratulations on your new blessings 🤍
It’s crazy you go treated like that. I heard a myth that men doctors are better than woman doctors when in come to deliveries. I had a guy doctor for my second delivery vbac and he did amazing! Talk thru pushing and even gave me props for my delivery since it was my first vaginal. So sorry! Congratulations to your little family for the new baby! ❤
Congratulations! She is beautiful. Thank you very much for showing your baby to us. Bendiciones para su hermosa familia🙏🏻
the nurses probably knew how this doctor/provider is & wanted to follow up & make sure your experience was great.
"This is not necessary. Let's get back to work. " hahaha ahh I'm dead 💀
Made me laugh so hard 😂😂
Thank you for sharing this!! I have 3 girls and i can say my second daughter was the easiest to take care of. She was so calm hardly cried, and 12 years later continues to be chill. Good luck and God Bless! Also you co sleep! Most of the world, mother cosleep. The USA is the greatest promoter of babies sleeping on their own and yet have the hightest mortality infant deaths compared to co sleeping countries!
This is why it’s so important to advocate for yourself !!
Good morning!! ☀️😃 can’t wait to listen to this on my walk! But congratulations to the both of yall! Blanca you are soo brave and such a wonderful mother and Jonathan you are such a great father! Keep up the good work may God bless yall🙏🏻❤️
Girl!!! I find it so different how they let you get up and be active in your labor even though your water broke 😅 My water broke and they told me to not even sit up because I was prone to infection since my water broke.
My husband actually delivered three of my kids, my doctors have always been so lovely and caring they always allow my husband to pull the baby out. It’s an amazing experience.💗
Please do something about this I was at that same hospital and my experience was not it I honestly regret not doing anything about it now that I hear you experience. Specially when they come and apologize like if thats going to erase what happened or what you already went through like you will remember that forever 💔
Hi guys Congratulations on your baby girl 💕 I heard your podcast yesterday on an app loved to hear you guys such a good vibe blessings to your family ❤
Blanca, I am so sorry for your experience. This is why it is so important for us to encourage and support our raza in getting their education so we can make a difference in the medical field & provide services to our gente. WE have to break barriers and be in these spaces to provide a better experience to our community. 👊🏽
What? Lol, I don't see how racism played a role in this delivery. Seems like the doctor was just overall shitty. She was not just rude to them, but the entire staff time as well.
@@allielopez567 listen to the stats that Jonathan shared.
@@allielopez567 listen to the stats Jonathan shared.
listen to the stats Jonathan shares or google maternal disparities specifically for colored women
Literally baby slept the whole podcast !! 😭💗 im sorry for your trauma blanca😭❤ i hope ur recovering well !
Belen is so beautiful 💕
Thank you for sharing your experience.
I hope you put in a complaint so no one else has to go thru this with that Dr. what a horrible Dr. ! Sorry you had to go thru that 😢🤬
Blanca, you are truly an inspiration 🩷💞
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story with us.
Loved this podcast. ❤
I have two babies now, they’re 14 months apart my second was calm y the contractions are for real and I was the same shaking my head, apachurrando el control❤❤❤ I’m so glad that both of you are doing better.
Labor and delivery is not all butterflies and rainbows how influencers always make it seem. Glad you spoke about your experience 🩷 but at the end thank God you and baby Belen are good and healthy ❤️
She’s perfect 🥹💖
Listened to your podcast on Apple podcasts & my blood boiled when Blanca told her experience. I wish you nothing but a great recovery ♥️
Blanca, you’re a bad ass for giving birth unmedicated! I’ve had 2 epidurals and both of my recoveries have been smooth. I don’t have any back pain and my kids are 4 and 14 months now. I honestly think we have genetics to thank for our experiences with birth and different medications. Every body is different, literally.
Thank you for sharing your story girl 🫶🏽 this is super powerful, and eye opening. I am not a mother yet, but I can relate with how you felt especially with the poor treatment you received from the doctor. As Jonathan mentioned, it is important to keep doctors and anyone in power accountable for their mistakes, and for any negligence they perpetuate against others. I do think we need to bring more awareness of this issue because historically women of Color are the ones being affected the most by negligent and racist doctors. I love y’all, and thank you once again for sharing your story. ✨💕
The Dr knew she fucked up!
sure did & Blanca can’t have a re-do.
Girl i’ve had my 2 babys at university hospital and thank god i didn’t have to experience that with that doctor but thankfully you and baby are doing well🥺
Im so sorry you went thru that.. I had a similar experience… for my birth I only had one nurse and she was so rude, and the doctor did not come in and check on me at all, she wasn’t even at the hospital.. so the nurse was the only one checking me and was so rude about it like your experience & I didn’t have supportive people with me that it led me to just giving up because of my negative mindset and having a c-section. To this day I regret it so much because I know I could’ve went natural but the nurse was putting me in such a bad headspace that I gave up… we deserve better experiences because this is the most important/vulnerable times of our life’s.. I’m glad you are healing very good and that baby girl is here and healthy! Congratulations to you and Jonathon! 🥺🥰 Franco is such an amazing big brother already! Love you guys🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
Jonathan biting his lips, asking to himself ," do I go get the doctor or the priest, is this labor or exorcist.. yeah now it's funny but at the moment pain are really something.. congrats for babygirl and muchos muchos blessing. Never had an epi and yes I think is better recovery, mom is right .👍🙏🥰💐
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So sorry that you had to experience with this doctor. I've always said that women doctors have less compassion than men doctors. Men doctors don't know the extent of pain and discomfort women go through, that just makes them so compassionate. On another note, i applaud your strength Blanca for going through natural birth. Protecting your body and baby from all medications.
Tienes una niña tan hermosa 💕
Listened to the podcast yesterday at work but here to see baby Belen! She’s so precious 🥹💕
I’m sorry you had to go through this Blanca , I went through something similar with one of the nurses I had during labor
happy friday guys hope you guys have a blessed weekend 🩷
I understand not wanting to be a Karen but coming from a mom who lost her baby I did not sleep until I sent a letter to the head quarters of the hospital. Some nurses/doctors have no consideration. My baby was sick but I feel like she caused her death sooner. The last day she was her charge nurse and she did not let me touch her get near her do nothing with my baby she was doing all her cares for her. My baby passed on her care. I came home with memory box rather than my child she still tried hugging me and I pushed her away and told her you didn’t even let me spend time with her I dreamt of it everyday until I sent out a letter about my traumatic experience it didn’t bring my daughter back but I was able to speak for her speak about having more compassion for mothers who want nothing but to be near their child knowing they might loose them.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine the pain you were in and that never really goes away. I pray God continues to give you strength and healing. Hopefully with the letter you sent, they made a change because this should be such an enjoyable moment and many doctors/nurses rob that from mothers. May God continue to heal you, bless you, love you where you can feel his presence, rest and peace that surpasses all understanding. 🤍
@@mariaygonzalez83 thank you so much for your message ❤️ I hope my letter made her change, hopefully gives other NICU moms a better experience than mine. January hit 1 year it still feels as if it was yesterday but thank you for your message I really appreciate it.
One thing my professor taught me when i was doing medical assisting is when doctor's dont allow filming its because they dont want to be caught being liable if something goes wrong. And she said the pattern she saw the most is doctor's who dont allow it were ones who either had issues in the past like they way the handle the medical part for a patient or they have shitty attitudes with their patients and staff.
I had an epidural... Best decison ever for during labor and postartum recovery was great.
But i will not lie! I 100% have back pain.. has some during pregnancy since i am super tiny but damn. These back pains now will shoot randomly thru my back and leg and they definitely have made me cry.
Will i gwt another epidural if i EVER have another baby. Yes yes i definitely will lol
Blanca!!🥺 The same happened to me! It is very traumatizing! Your doctor apologized but my doctor didn’t🥺 These were her words because I was crying when she was sowing up my 3rd degree tear… “This is why you get the epidural, to not feel pain after birth”😭 My heart literally shattered to hear that🥺
What an awful thing to say! Ugh I’m so sorry. It was your decision and it was not your job to make theirs easier!
No ma’am my labor and delivery nurses were so nice and helpful. She always made sure to reassure me when it came to the epidural they let me know if I needed it to get it I didn’t have to. I think there’s doctors that take advantage of their title and are just mean and want to make you feel bad. Epidural has side effects to it you’re not obligated to get it!
Omg I LOVE YOU GUYS!!! ❤ CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🍾 🎀
I can relate so much to this!!! My second L&D was a lot like yours, except mine was medicated lol. But I remember how rough the dr was! How she didn’t take into consideration what I was feeling. God bless you for making it through this traumatic experience, and congratulations on baby girl 🥹🩷🩷🩷
i had an epidural for both my pregnancies & i didn’t feel when they put in the epidural & my recovery was so smooth i was walking after an 1hr when the numbing went down, & i didn’t experience no pain after whatsoever! 😊
At the airport listening! 🫶🏻
You are right how many women pass away giving birth because of negligence. Please speak out report this Doctor !!
Blanca you where not over reacting 🙏 glad you’re doing better and healing fast congrats love 💕
Thank you for sharing your birth story i am on my third child & I am due in 4 days🤰🏻 but they can give you epidural at 8cm cause that’s what I got it with my second child, but also idk if your clinic did this but you can request any dr you see in the clinic or any dr you know those are just the call on drs that are there at the hospital I am sorry you had you to go through this sending you a hug & love❤️
I can't get over how adorable she is 🥹
I’m sorry you went through all of that 😢 labor is painful and to top it off tearing is too. And with a bad doctor I couldn’t imagine how you were feeling. I hope you reach out to the hospital and let them know. That way other women have good labors with that doctor. 💕 ps baby Belen is gorgeous, she is Franco’s twin.
You should take legal action love… this is so saddening to hear and unfortunately this is way too common, especially because folks think they don’t have options/go in uninformed about their birthing rights. I am a traditional birth keeper and student home birth midwife and this is literally why… the system is so fucked and to know that this was your experience truly saddens me. I wish you deep and your family deep healing and know that in the future you have the right to request another doctor AND listen to your body 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 much much love to you.
💯!!!! These drs need to be held accountable. I had a bad experience at a smaller ER in December of 2022 and I definitely looked into legal action because I have long term side effects.