How to Deal With Anger - Sadhguru
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- Опубликовано: 18 окт 2018
- During a Youth and Truth event at JJ School of Arts, Mumbai, Sadhguru answers a student’s question on how to deal with anger.
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"Anger doesn't happen to you, you GET angry." Is so powerful to me. I love it.
Very very truthful too. Deciding how to fix yourself is understanding, empathizing, soul charging, energizing, and self realizing that you are ALWAYS connected to the Universe and that is a partner with you. You aren’t just a BOT. Sadghuru is a beautiful man of incredible worth and value.
Getting angry,, it is the punishment given to ourselves...
It is not punishment rather it is a chance given by universe so that you can become conscious and grow 💕
WELL MAYBE IF THIS GUY WHO MY MOM DATES WOULD LET ME TALK TO MY MOM MAYBE I WOULDNT BE ANGRY
Nope I felt very bad that I had never get anger
And some fools even take pride in it😁😁😄
We don't choose to get these feelings. But we do choose what to do with them. And most people Continue with getting angry
"How do I not get angry" -"Just dont"... wow :D
He said, "if you had the power to choose, would you choose anger or joy?" Clearly implying he knows most people cant choose as it is, the overarching implication being that, with yoga, you can. Duh.
"How to ignore our own inability to understand something?" - "Just roast the person who is helping us." :D
He’s trying to sell his program. So he doesn’t fully answer questions so you buy his program to find out.
@@zacharyconfer1828 then he should explain further.
this answer is too easy. weak.
@@sharadrkushwah he is not helping. that's the problem.
vague like always.
he is so wise,lovely and funny.
i love listen to him🙏❤🙏
with love&respect❣
those who really listen, can learn so much from him.
What did he even say?
And is it practiced or is it just an entertaining armchair philosophy?
sometimes when I'm so angry I use to hurt my self and my anger turns to tears
Welcome to the club bro
hey i do hope your doing better but don't do that it never worth it trust me it's not the path you don't want to travel
Anger causes irreparable damage. Spread the wisdom of Sadhguru.
When you let it get to you. Lol sometimes is a decision that you have to make to let it go or other wise you could do something crazy
He basically said that it's always our decision but we don't usually notice because we don't pay attention to our inner processes. So we should focus in our inner processes to understand why we accept to get angry.
Once you do is easy to stop it if you really want to, but you have to catch your reasons to in the first place and do some kind of "negotiation" with the "ego" part of yourself.
good words from your side thanks ! :)
This is the absolute beauty of life. Not technology. Life was beyond technology ALWAYS. The reason? The soul. I’m sure of it. Plus to those out there this isn’t a matter of an argument no. Life is a creative process of inner development. Your soul enhances this process. Much love EVERYONE!
Nice explanation Thank you ❤
i feel i am indebted to this lady for asking such a question, i have this problem of anger
Anirudha Oke so do I.
Me too sir 🙏
Do you feel like u got the answer?
@@shyamsundharmuruganantham8870 no
'Question of self-control'
Anger is natural just don't let it control you.
I am surprised to see such an undogmatic comment here. I think what you said is succint, simple, and brilliant.
Anger is not natural, it's learned.
Show me one new born baby that is angry in the first six months. Exactly.
@@donsicariofxshow me one newborn baby that can hold a conversation in the first six months. Talking is natural. Jumping and walking are also natural… you get it.
You are always in control even if it doesn't seem like it but what happens within you is your own doing, you just need to learn how to tap into it!
Inner Engineering
Nqoba Zibuko Wise words brother
How to tap into it?
@@janewoodwards1114 know yourself and that whatever happens outside you is not your fault, don't let it mess with the person you are or becoming!
so he should explain how to tap into it.
saying don't allow it is too easy.
bad answer.
He is actually meaning : don't let Ur surrounding control u it's that simple
Master, very wise words. If we do not allow others to take control of our inner world, we can't get angry!
yes we all understand that.
but it's not that easy if you have real anger.
I love listening to him
Seeing Sadhguru laugh is such a treat 😊
He's speaking english
It makes me more confuse 😏
he is enlightened with knowledge
All i have to say to Sadhguru is that i love you 😍 ❤ you are the life saver and true guide for the life - may you live forever - Thank you 😊 🙏 ❤
Om namha Shiva
Love you Sadhguru
Great perspective!
This has to be my favourite Sadhguru video.
Namaskaram Sadhguru 🙏 🙏🙏 🙏🙏 🙏
So brilliant. So brilliant
Sadguru so nice
His thesis is so simple. Anger poisons your body and mind. So do not poison your body and mind by resorting to hatred. You should not let anger reside in your heart and mind, through self and mind control (calm and peaceful disposition).
While i do believe that the stress that comes with anger is unhealthy, it can be a great motivator to improve ... sometimes people just don't change unless they are forced to feel these emotions, anger although negative is an emotion we are designed to feel and i do believe it has its place and can be used to foster a resolve ... if everything bad that happened in our life was met with total discontent some people would never know when they are needing to change something ... these are ques in life that tell us that maybe the people are surrounded by aren't healthy for us or the actions you're taking aren't going to produce fruitful results unless we do something about it.
Great words!
Thank u so much Sadhguru. Now I found where is the problem exactly so I can control my anger I hope 🙏
Jai Gurudev..❤❤❤🌸🌸🌸🙏
Thanks Sadguru
Anger is the inability to see things the way they truly are.
Nah... The inability to see things clearly is CAUSED BY anger. Anger is just a basic response to perceived threat.
Knowledge game fire. And he got on some swag today
Nhan Ly lol right
Well said Sadhguru, Shambho
Namaskaaram sadhguru🙏
Thank you sir 🙏🙏❤❤
THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU CHANGED MY LIFE
Namaskaram sadhguru
All he is saying to understand nature and follow nature compassionately.
Ty❤ for your wise teachings SIR🙏🏾🔥🙏🏾
Thank you, Sadhguru..🙏
Please make a video on...." How to do drishti rituals"
True to the core Guruji👌🏼👏🥰😇
I dnt knw sir i ill get angry too much n make me cry alot
I love you Sadhguru❤️
Nobody wants to choose anger it’s uncontrollable sometimes and can be combined with another emotions like fear or sadness.. this means that there’s a deep Childhood traumas and to be explored and healed so it can’t affect you anymore.
Great
I with my deepest feeling , if I can touch in myself with..I want to express that , sadhguru is the precious gift of my life ...and his auspicious presence I am in fortune to witness in the similar lifetime , me and him have got....I was not born before him , or after him when he would not have been along.
I bow down to the Lord with tears and reverence with poise.
That through him, I will be able to abide by the reality to touch my life with divine, to enhance the true path to my parents.., to celebrate real empathy with my countrymen and world men.
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So that I will be able to recognise the pain and joy of every being with utmost simple ness.
And I will be able to deliver what is needed, where ever it is needed, beside me.
And that is all my life , by now I can just see to have.
But may be there is more.
May be more magnificent..
More additional meaning full.
More with a heart.
Just curious, how has your spiritual journey gone so far, now that 3 years have passed?
Thank you for this! Once I had a stapler that didn't work. I tried everything. Finally, I got angry and threw it down. Then it started working. I was glad about the stapler, but worried about what I had taught myself with it...
It's all about self control, we are in total control of Self. Don't allow others to control how we feel.
highest state of confusion 😨😨
Come to Assam...Sadhguruji
Finally he came, in kaziranga.
Thank you very much.
I send it to my husband!
I don’t choose to have joy. I get joy when I something really good happens
love peace and live :)
You are your own creator. 🙏
I thought it was my mom. or God.
Imagine your enemy, they stand before you, they are vulnerable. now give them a hug, and tell them to start over
Choose not to get angry. Wow
First let us identify what anger is
Is it an act of thoughts unto self
Is it an act of words said out loud
Is it an act of action be performed
Anger first tell me what you see it as
And i will tell you if anger is justified
Not let us assume control of inside us
Now lets assume control of our voices
Now let us assume control of all actions
Riddle me this where does anger reside
If i understand what evils are on to me
Tell me what limiters should be [[[set]]]
To tell another what lines not to cross
The lord is slow to anger?
It doesn't say never angry
Godbless
So you are saying it's okay to be angry?
There are articles and books about how surpressing "negative" emotions can make you physically sick in long term even getting yourself an heartattack. I am kinda disappointed in his imprecise answer.
Also psychologically those in society "negative" seen emotions like anger, aggression or sadness do got their reasons to be there or to help you!
Imagine in a dangerous situation where you ignore the adrenalin rush and try to talk yourself out of this angry state instead of defending yourself?
Of course one should seperate necessary anger with unnecessary like in the example with traffic, but I think it's pretty obvious he talked about it in unnecessary situations and by that ignored to answer the question about justified anger.
Sometimes anger is justified but you can't defend yourself or leave the situation and do have to cope with your anger.
Beacause all of that I am really confused why so many comments here act like this toxic positivity fortune cookie answer which told you to ~get to know yourself by surpressing natural biochemical reactions in your body~ would be a wise answer...
Of course you should get to know yourself so that you know what irritated you and where your boundaries are but sometimes when you're too emotional, you first gotta get those stresshormones out to be able to think clearly.
Soooo I know I probably already wrote too much for some people and if I got the ultimate answer I wouldn't have clicked on the video, but to share something helpful, when I am angry it helps me to:
-scream into a pillow
-Run! Or some other form of sports
-let it out on a punching bag or again pillow if there is no punching bag access
-cry and cuddle up under a blanket
-vent to someone you trust
-escape into a video game
Didn't want to hate on the video, just explain my disappointment and if someone feels the same, feel free to add your anger coping mechanisms to the list :)
It's not about suppressing emotions...!! It's about not generating them at all. If you don't generate...you won't feel the need to vent it out. This is the KEY.
I have been practicing it for a long time now... Anger is such a low level energy...I don't even feel like going down there... Now it's not even a part of my natural being.
Feels really great.
@@prachi_olivegenes well but like I said earlier surpressing them could turn out dangerous in some situations because sometimes these emotions can be necessary to survive. How would you react if someone tried to harass you on your way home or other situations where you have to defend yourself?
I do believe unnecessary anger is a selfmade(or selfmaintained) problem, but I don't see justified anger as "low energy". I also had a hippiephase in which I was in a bubble and believed you can always choose what to feel, how to react and "everything is good, it just depends on your view" but looking back I was also in a kinda privileged/safe situation at that time and there did came situations where I couldn't be all love&light and had to defend myself and give up this (not to insult you, that's my view on my past) ignorant view.
Because I don't think everything is as black and white and we are not robots who can decide which subconcious process to run and which not.
Well said! Anger is needed sometimes so your body can let know it’s boundaries. Of course we can learn to deal with it beter, but not letting it happen at all seems extremely unhealthy indeed!
@@Erik_Kartman_ I understand what you are saying because I was also told by a life coach that anger is an emotion like any other and that we should not supress it, however I think that @prachi may be correct in saying that its not supression it is simply not allowing our selves to create the anger. In the case of being attacked in the street, I dont feel that anger does help, logic helps? I am thinking, for example, if a martial artist was attacked in the street, they are perfectly able (hopefully) to defend their selves without anger? They would use skill? So maybe the anger is redundant in that situation also. I am learning, like we all are and I dont mean to judge or make comments about your personal experiences, I am just trying to think whether anger is needed or not. I love Sadhguru and find his video definitely have great benefit to my life, I would love more advice on how we manage these feelings when they arise, I would love the priviledge to speak with Sadhguru, I have so many questions :).
I wish I could ju sadah guru 😂it’s crazy how truely bright he is and some can’t see it witch why I wanna hug the brother so bad
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Ye manual kab dege yarr bhout need hyee ab tuoo
Okay so he defined it well and its good, but how do we deal with anger then? Question not answered. He did say about learning how to use "This" and pointed towards his body and I assume that is it but he did not show us How To Deal With Anger. I assume he would have said to my doubt. "Just don't GET angry period" but I would like to have that one manual of his.
It's not easy and will take a long time to see a difference. I haven't come across any proven methods but here's a suggestion. When a situation arises which may cause you to become angry, try to force your mind to think of 3 positive effects of the situation. Hopefully the reactive waves of anger would reduce over time
I think that Sadguru had answered the question, He said : it is your choice to be angry or joyful.
You can start some kind of practice which relieves your identification from your body and mind,because all the emotions whether good or bad attaches to these two only,start doing yoga (inner engineering )offered by Sadhguru it will work.millions got help.
Basically his point is keep your mental state such a way that no one can make you angry. In fact you can learn from him. If you would have watched his other videos or conversation sometimes people try to provoke him with personal questions about his yoga center and in a controversial manner. But he maintains the cool. As a follower of his teachings I have started doing this now a days. Whenever I get this feeling of anger frustration or stress I start taking deep breaths with eyes closed. I can see a great change
I completely agree. I've been watching many of his videos, and not once have I heard him reply to any of the questions. He either speaks of the right way of being or dismisses the question with a rhetoric or an analogy but NEVER explains the HOWS (how to do it). I'm starting to give up on him.
Supposed someone finds him/herself in heavy traffic and usually there are ppl who are sitting in and using a machine in a situation with which they are completely over challenged as well as overwhelmed, take this further to one's life... and you get the point made! That why it is of utmost importantace to read the "users manual" of this body!
WHERES THIS MYSTICAL MANUAL?
@@GETD0EPRODUCTIONS You are it!
I choose joy
Thanks this hasn’t helped but I respect the advice 👍
try innerengineering, sadhana
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I'm still searching for a womens perspective of irritation and anger control... since we have very different chemical imbalances that cause emotional disfunction. Soooo hard to find!! And recomendations out there?
Let it go
The thing is I'm angry all the time and I like it. It gives me power. To much power
That's true that's how I am but I want to control it
Wow he literally just changed my perspective and is witty my gosh he’s funny. Thank you for this talk much appreciated !!
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I LOVE YOU SWAMIJI
We gotta stop beating ourselves up thinking that’s gonna get us out of a bad place. I’m just tryna find where to start.
Namaste
Below are few things I have personally tried with good results for Anger Management
1. AnapanaSati - Observing the breath as it flows without judgement or labelling. Thoughts come and go , we merely bring our focus back to breath. It helps us detach from the active mind , first only during the practice and as we advance during real life situations as well.
This helps deepen our observation of what is happening in our mind with the ability to let go.
2. Vipassana - This is an advanced form of Meditation where focus is brought sequentially to the body points to observe what the emotion is actually causing within the body. Buddha says that emotions create sensations within our body but as we do not observe deeply we miss those
SN Goenka's lectures can be referred to
3. Mantra : Choosing any one mantra ,same is chanted 108 times daily. It removes the negativity from the aura. For instance if the chosen deity is Shiva , Om Namaha Shivaya can be chanted and so forth
4. Addressing the deity who governs the life area : For some external relief , we have to identify the devata connected to the area of life from the individuals horoscope and then daily chant a mantra of that deity 108 times
to invoke the grace. This needs horoscopic knowledge
Wow ok, i wonder what the "Keyboard" is
This was genuinely helpful.
so how tf do we find and use the keyboard?
So now I know that I don't want to be angry
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wow! So entertaining as well as enlightening.
Find calm and be assertive if you or a helpless being is being accosted . But not in anger, you lose
Help sadhguru... 🙏
Anger... Change of tone of voice... Sometimes needed for better output. But don't carry it.. Leave it there itself. Delete n go
What if someone triggers u in the middle of the argument how to remain calm at that moment
Where's the solution? We are aware of not to cultivate anger and yet we continue to grow anger or any other emotions but when the emotion is at its highest peak saying that what must happen within you is your choice does not help. Should we suppress it? Should we not? Should we react or respond? What is the technique? Philosophical answers never help there must be a technique to deal with it which isn't mentioned in any of the videos
That why inner engineering lol
Plz Sadguru...next destination...Pune
Choosing joy means you set yourself up for disappointment. When you are angry, you can’t go lower and be disappointed. Not good answer but it’s true. Whenever I start to feel hopeful Something happens that robs that hope. After 10 surgeries, I’m no better. I’m angry,
Angry is an Expression which comes from Mind....It's ur Reflection of Mind on other Behaviour......u can't Hide.....
It's hard to deal with anger when your partner is yelling at you and calling you out your name
Then maybe it’s time for a different partner 🤔
apperently this person is also having difficulties dealing with anger, it can help to ask the anger what it is protecting, usually anger comes out of fear or boundaries beeing trespassed
leave the partner. simple.
@Gary thomas hi gary, even i am going through a similar situation right now.
Just saying leave your partner is not a feasible solution like several have answered to your question.
I do not have a solution, this is why I am here too... my question is: what do i do with the hurt caused by the other party which Caused me to get angry in the first place?
Im generally a really kind person. My only rule in life is don't hurt anyone else.
But when others hurt u carelessly just because they need to reach their goals/complete a task, regardless of weather they received permission to do things to me and my belongings (I'm sorry for being vague about what happened), I can't stand it. I became so angry this morning and it is afternoon and I am still not able to focus on my work.
I can choose not to be angry like sadhguru says, but what about the anger already inside me because that person did not receive any consequences for their actions and I am hurting because something I treasure got damaged and they still dont care cuz their task is done regardless. I'm not able to be around that person. How am i to continue my day now? I want to break my phone cuz i cannot attack that person.
I will find a way today. But any thoughts on this i look forward to reading. Thank you.
@@johnybrokeit hello, I also commented on this video because I think that there is justified and unjustified(unnecessary/selfmade) anger and felt like in this video he just talked about unnecessary anger which also didn't help me. I do understand that this situation made you angry because it seems like your boundaries have been crossed which should be talked about with the person so it doesn't happen again in the future. If the other person doesn't care there must be found ways to secure the boundaries nonetheless, if there can't be found a way/compromise than it has to be secured independently/without expecting from the other person.
As to getting your anger out, you surely already have found a way since the comment isn't that new and since I clicked on the video I also don't got -the- solution but what helps me is: running, punching(on a punching bag or pillow) or other forms of sports, screaming into a pillow, sometimes just crying it out, talking to someone you trust, escape into a video game or if I need a bit of clearence writing out my emotions and thoughts for myself and sometimes it does help me understand which boundary has been crossed, why it bothers me and ways I could try to prevent it/handle it in the future.
You are not alone, hope you have a nice day!
Try to be conscious when you get angry. When you do, just ask yourself; "Is this what I want? Why must I be angry, and not pleasant?"
Thank you Sadhguru🙏
What is the process of not getting angry?
I haven’t watched the full video but I’m just desperate for emotional support cuz I had an unreasonable amount of useless homework and it makes me wanna rip the book half.
hello?
Today i anger with my mother and in angry state i don't know what i said to her and i really feel very shamed writing this comment here coz i really feel guilty