As an INTP I think giving (inferior Fe) is a stronger force in bed than receiving (child Si). We want to make the partner feel good, so we will use whatever Se we have.
This really is the crux of it. While an INTP enjoys receiving, they can very much want to satisfy their Fe by giving and can make the entire experience more fulfilling for everyone involved. Foreplay and afterplay are perhaps the most important skills for an INTP to practice in bed. The pitfall will always be Se trickster and care must be taken not to overdo things and annoy your partner. Communication will always be paramount.
This video is really just making me wonder just how good ENTPs must be, because my wife has zero complaints... and I've checked lol [INTP 5w6, in case it's relevant]
@@env0x This is unrelated, I'm an INTP A with a strong FE, even the moment someone doesn't enjoy it 100% I go bad immediately, but I'm an INTP A 5w4, so maybe it's the artist in me to please people?
INTP : I don’t know. Is being a rope bunny looked upon as being vanilla? ( I mean, seriously, being unable to move is a great excuse for just lying there :) )
My first sexual experience with an INFP was amazing and we both really enjoyed ourselves. I'm an INTP. Comfort is important for me. I was not the one who was on bottom. As long as the sex is comfortable and playful. INXPs are bound to have a great time.
Autism is a poor diagnosis hastily thrown together by "experts" to explain a reason why their child is "defective". Reasoning is that no effort is being made to help these people after childhood no research is conducted outside of their personal interests. I think autism is just simply a narrowing of the mind laid over your personality. Whether that makes you extremely stupid or defective, I've found has more to do with co morbid conditions and/or too much sheltering. I'd love to dismantle DSM V, but I need allies which are hard to find with everyone seeking their own interests. Money and resources don't particularly matter as if you have a group of 3 or more, wealth is multiplied.
Makes sense, INxPs will take time to develop their sexual appetite, they don't get attracted to things as easily as for example, a Se hero would. And if others aren't developing skills with INxPs, then they aren't fulfiling Si child's comfort needs.
As an Intj I have amazing sex with my husband who is an Intp. I love seeing the look on his face and his reactions. We are so comfortable with each other that we can both take turns giving the sensations. Comfort level is a major factor.
one problem with INTPs is they are hard to find, im looking for an INTP female partner but so far all i find are those damaged ESFPs or shallow ESTPs, im really not interested in meaningless sexual acts anymore, WHERE ARE YOU INTP WOMEN ?!! I WANT ME SOME SMART/LOYAL/COOL partner ..... get the fuck out of the house so i can hunt you... you guys really are valuable to me and i do mean it, one of my friends is an INTP and i really connect with the guy, i told him if only you were a women i would have grabbed your hands and put a ring on it, but im not gay so...... even his response was epic and funny, he said "that's rape", i love INTPs so much.
Because instinctively its about controlling people and their reaction. Letting things pass is not a behavior i have because i am scared of the person in question, but of the social repercussions arround it if there are witnesses, or the prospect of having to deal with an argument that i cant waste my time on. But you are right, on the long run its rarely worth it to allow it. Fighting back and not letting someone walk all over you is the way to go. Regardless of the other consequences.
Because it takes years of experience and practice to even begin to recognize that we're being disrespected, and to recognize it quick enough that we can actually respond to it. Usually it's not realized until far after the fact.
ENTP's are better at conveying that they have better skills while INTP's actually have mad skills that they either perform or want to see performed by their partner. Our SI child actually knows how to find new ways of excitement.
ENTP’s are only better at bragging. They are crooks like ESTP’s. Fe child is delusional, auto persuade themselves theyre skilled. Truth is women leave them one by one because of their blindspots and they will never face reality because e g o t r i p
Ne finds new ways of excitement while Si looks for comfort in familiar experiences. Si is used to catalog ways that worked and differentiate them from ways that didn't work in the past. Ne is explorative and as a higher function takes precedence over Si for seeking out new experiences.
@@raydaveed i know that Se dominant types are better than Ne for being "in the moment" and typically more spontaneous. This also leads to exploration and seeking new experiences, but just in a different way than Ne (which is more an "out of the box" way of thinking, coming up with new ideas based on things we learned in the past)
A word of advice, don't sneak up an INTJ while they are doing something if you don't want a reflex elbow to your head xD That's just a bad idea, but, words of affirmation are always good though :D
1st time I'm gonna have to disagree. Every INTP I've encountered has been very well read & knew exactly what do do. If they're laying there, it's probably because they're experiencing sensory overload & trying to process it LOL.
...or because they're bored to tears. Most people are way too vanilla. Other INTPs I've spoken to described the same phenomenon of being experienced in their mind long before they ever lost their virginity, and that really helps.
I'm sorry but nerds make great lovers usually. My husband is an INTP and we've never had problems there. Not sure why other people do. Granted, we're old now and he's also disabled so it's been less fireworks for the past year or two but when we were younger hoo boy.
This one is completely hilarious and true at the same time. As an Intp, I have been with ENTJ. And there was no problem at all instead both of us had our best relationship ever. It’s been five years and both of us are probably not over each other. Can’t match the golden pair compatibility. And the break up really hurts. Fi-Fe inferior functions don’t really work in long term. Can’t get over Si-Se child compatibility though.
You're so right about compatibility with NJ's especially ENTJ !!! Instead of trying hard to perform ( and eventually fail),all you need to do as an INTP is enjoying the moment, focus on your own pleasure and show that you like it, and your NJ partner will just have the best time with you.
This video really helped clarify why I though my sexual experience was odd for me. I can recall my experiences from my first to current and it does appear that I'm slowly learning how to perform well enough but still feel that I'm lacking. Now I need to find a primary Se user to really build my confidence up.
I am an INTJ female and the best sexual experience of my life was when the male walked into the room and, "used" me, and the throwaway, dark, controlling act totally aroused my masochistic nature. I fell in love with the way he used me as a tool in sex (and with complete disregard for my feelings) .... Yes, I craved self-destruction and I craved to be used by the other person to satisfy him. But I still don't know his MBTI type, is he supposed to be an ENXP? So I found it very exciting to see this video of yours, and the way you describe holding her from behind and telling the other person that only you can make me feel safe hit me in the heart once again.
i don't believe that's because of your type. I think many women are submissive because of gender roles and masochists because of thousands of years of experiences, where women were sexually abused by men. Somehow it's collective memory and you feel comfortable with it. I'm an infp and i can't relate at all, although they think that my type is passive.
Protip: don't try to eat while listening to Counter Strike Joseph talk about anything sex-related 🤢. Chinese industrial accident videos on Liveleak are more appetizing.
well this video gave me a relief tbh (i'm INTP), i feel like my nature doesn't include sexual actions i have to learn them first, but after learning maybe i can be good at it who knows 😏 thank you for this amazing video i learned new things!
I can’t handle the idea of sex as performance… But I think this INTP does fine cos I studied all kinds of stuff like Tantra and Taoist techniques and philosophy when I was young. Plus there’s the dopamine seeking hedonism of INTPs that makes some of us lots of fun.
First of all, partner who is "just lying down" would quickly make me stop and look for reasons behind it. If they want sex, are doing it because of sexual desire they feel for you at the moment, are not asexual and so on, they will express that somehow during sex. Lack of expressions and any activity during intercourse is a clear sign that something is wrong. It might be shyness, lack of trust, fear, stress, anxiety, pain, shame, or many other possible reasons that stop them from enjoying the moment, making them feel discomfort. I do not believe that it is possible to be introverted to the point of not expressing anything at all in such intimate moments. Personally, I could not continue without talking to, comforting and relaxing my partner until they feel comfortable with themselves, their body and their reactions and acting up on those. If they still are not comfortable enough to relax and enjoy the act, simply give up on it. Continuing despite that will probably either reassure this person in their unhealthy perception of sex or worse. Why would they continue if they do not feel good with it? There is simply no valid reason to do so, despite some people believing in "satisfying the needs" of their partner, or something along these lines, more often women thinking of it as their "duty" in relationship. If they actually did that because they wanted it and felt good with it, they would not force themselves to that, would they? And if they don't force themselves, would they just lie there motionless, like a corpse? Do you know anybody, that while participating in any activity they want to participate in, just do nothing until it ends, not enjoying it? That "duty" is BULLSHIT, nobody is ever obliged to have sex with anybody, remember that. Even in relationships where one person is asexual and decides to have sex with their partner to satisfy their needs, as long as decision has healthy, honest motives behind it, this person will participate in the act to some extent, surely not "playing dead". I am not sayin that's what happened or that is what you mentioned/meant, just wanted to point that out while discussing being passive in bed. I am living in pretty conservative and patriarchal country, and seeing that scar in young women's idea of relationship and sex, really makes me sick. So I point it out whenever have occasion to, like here :V Now, after dealing with that issue, let's go to the INTPs and their sexuality. (As INTP and being aware of my sexuality, basing only on myself as none of my partners was INTP) What I think is important to point out - INTPs will be passive and not really involved, or "dead fish" as you named it (the fuck is that name tho???), when they do not feel emotionally/mentally connected to their partner. Honestly, sex in those circumstances felt more like boring, exhausting chore, than enjoyable experience to me. I will tend to get passive, non expressive and indifferent (never roleplaying corpse though) However, when I have these feelings toward my partner... Quite the opposite actually. I am going to be relentless in learning and trying to satisfy my partner. Learn what they enjoy, what they do not, what positions, I will observe every single reaction to every single thing that happens, try to figure out their kinks and how to act on those during intercourse, analyze our experiences to get better idea what might I do better, research new positions, techniques, and so on. As long as something is pleasurable for the other person, I will most likely enjoy that only for that reason. Only exception is when something is a major turn off (few things are), then I will not find those as enjoyable, but still engage in those from time to time if my partner likes it (so far I found only one thing, that is automatic and complete boner killer, shutting down my arousal no matter what, and I have tried a lot of them). I simply adapt to my partner's needs and expectation's, no matter if they revolve around me being passive/active/dominant/humiliated/cuddly/delicate/primal/brutal/risky and so on. Heck, I've been pegged few times and enjoyed it simply because my loved one liked it. That is the biggest turn on for me - my partner's pleasure and satisfaction. Of course my needs are important too, however, while having many different kinks, none of them is essential for my satisfaction (except satisfying my partner). However, to actually feel this way about sex, it really needs to be within deep, intimate relationship. Casual sex simply does not work for me and doesn't really turn me on. So there you have it, that is my perspective. I disagree with your opinion, which I think is based on stereotypes and wrong assumptions. I might be wrong, but I don't think I am either special or different in that aspect from other INTPs, that is just how we are, maybe many of us are not that kinky or open about it, but I (and others too I think) will engage all of our functions in the act itself with partners that we deeply care about - You would be surprised with level of energy, intensity and passion we have when our cognitive stack for once decides to cooperate instead of fighting itself. Ti (analyzing what works for her/him in bed, what are the reasons behind their expressions and what do they say about our partner's current needs, allows us to stay focused on partner instead of getting lost in sensations), Ne (coming up with new ideas, keeping partner on their toes with usually pleasant surprises and using what we learned about them to work out what else might be enjoyable). Si and Fe have their own duties too (Si - remembering what to do, when to do it, under what circumstances, how and every other preference that our lover expressed to us and Fe - to see those subtle clues that my partner sends out when being aroused, as being blunt sometimes just ruins the mood or when we want to have more passionate, fervent intercourse - to keep in touch with our playmate's feelings, sensations and pleasure, when it gets hard to express those as comprehensible statements) To sum everything up: In my opinion INTPs will be boring and passive in bed for very simple reason - lack of motivation. When their sexual partner is not someone, who's satisfaction is important enough to become INTP's need on it's own, he might simply lose interest in sex overall, which could lead to what you called "just lying down". At least I did. When they become motivated, when someone's needs and fulfilment are important enough, to become our priority and we are comfortable enough with them seeing us vulnerable... I don't know how to describe it. For me, sex itself becomes a medium, a way for me to express our feelings toward beloved one. And if you know INTPs good enough, you know that we actually have feelings. Shocking, but true xD. Those feelings are deep, strong and fierce, just not shared by us, because of how we perceive outside world and how bad we are at expressing them. The second we realize we just found method to actually share our feelings, to show the other person how we feel about her, we can become really passionate about that, as we finally found means that do not feel fake, irrational and somewhat meaningless, as words, acts or gifts often do. Without that tho? Meh, it is not that much better than masturbation. I mean yes, it is great physical sensation, but after experiencing that what some people call "making love" (weird ass name imo) casual sex just feels like cheap, badly bootleg version of real thing. (That process happened every single time I actually did fall in love or developed this psychological/mental/intellectual bond with someone. Second happened only once though, and after few years I am still confused about that lmao) That's my perspective. Maybe only mine. Or maybe it is relatable to fellow INTP aliens. Cheers
Thank you so much for writing this. I couldn’t agree more with what was said. If I’m into the person I will want to explore every part of them and make them feel good… and I’m really open to experimenting! The dead fish comparison was bizzarre to me unless I was for whatever reason uncomfortable in the situation or disconnected. So thanks for writing this! - Reassured INTP
Could make a video for INTP women on have to behave like a woman? As an INTP woman I have a hard time figuring out how to act, talk and move like a real woman and if I try I feel like a stupid fake. If everybody who called me "not a real woman" gave me a dollar I would be rich. But honestly it hurts very much all the time. I'm not fat or ugly, but also not as pretty as a model, I consider my self as average. I do sports, make up and take care of what I eat and the clothes I wear. I am not arrogant or disrespectful. But I still get called "not a real woman" because I lack the ease and flirtiness in everyday life or whatever else is missing to be a real woman. I am desperate because I always end up being a good friend instead of being loved. The men say they want a "real woman" . In bed I can quickly find out what others like, but I am very afraid to ask something from the other because I am afraid of rejection. I also don't know how to communicate something you want. I am not so passionate about my own experience as I don't feel that much, maybe because of the lack of Se. I'm only good at giving, but unfortunately that's never enough. I am very sad about that.
And to be honest, I hate being INTP for being so deep in my head, having to analyze and understand everything and dealing with my fears and insecurities instead of just being able to enjoy life.
After a while, giving and giving and giving while receiving little to nothing in return will wear you down. Trust me. But it sounds like you are already starting to realize this. I know it's difficult, but you have to learn how to speak up for yourself, and, not only create healthy boundaries, but communicate and enforce them. No covert contracts. It's not fair to resent people for expectations you didn't communicate. When I was younger, I didn't like hearing the expression "only the open mouth gets fed." I think that deep down I knew it was true. When people see that you stand up for yourself they will respect you more and walk all over you less. If you're afraid to ask for reciprocation in bed, wait til you've got him going enough to incentivize him, but not after he already gets what he wanted (men tend to get sleepy after orgasms and often don't have the energy to expend more anyway), then ask for what you want. Try to be playful about it rather than demanding or too meek. As for the "not a real woman" comments, I don't know what to say about that other than it's BS gatekeeping. Sounds like something an insecure person would say. Your chromosomes make you a female. If you just mean acting feminine though, maybe try some mildly submissive body language? I know imposter syndrome is real, but just consider the possibility that maybe everyone else is "faking" it too. I was a tomboy until I got to be about 21, after which I got in touch with my feminine side. I'm not entirely sure why. Perhaps you'll grow into it.
7:00 how DO you get an INTP to workout? I've mentioned health a few times in group texts (where INTPs were included) and only got attacked by the INTPs lol basically trying to Ti their way out of health...I've since just assumed Si child doesn't do that type of lifestyle but idk, if there is a solution I'd like to know even for academics. Si child is difficult. INFPs at least have ESTJ subconscious so can run marathons etc but INTPs are tricky.
As a 22-year-old INTP male, I don’t necessarily feel that good after working out. I just feel like I am wasting time and energy that could be better used procrastinating. If an INTP does find a song that they like however, they might be able to convince themself to do the robot a bit, which I suppose could burn a couple of calories. Maybe encouraging a dance class could be a good idea, I feel insecure even dancing in a room alone haha.
@@therealyeti1482 hahaha you're second sentence. Thanks for the input. I just figure it is not INTPs thing. Although I've oddly learned a lot of health stuff from an INTP youtuber: "WhatIveLearned". So, my guess is, as with all things INTP, the brain has to rule the body.
If you’re an INTP with good genes who doesn’t get fat, why the absolute fuck would you want to sculpt your body into something only absolute fucking idiots will appreciate? WAY better uses of out time.
It's fun to experiment with incompatible types tho :) as an INTJ I could def identify with that SM part, although rather on the S side. Love INTPs in the bedroom, but it took a while. I had to grow as a person, before I was ready for them. An INFP helped me open the doors to that. Hurt my feelings a little, but helped :)
I am an INFJ and beeing in a fwb with a INTP for more then an year..yes we are correctly typed but i must say he is the best lover i had...passionate and experimental and thats the only reason I'm still keep seeing him..he is like kryptonite
I'm more curious in INTP and INTJ,a while ago I've seen this anime called "oregairo" or "yahari" or "my teen romantic comedy is wrong as i expected"(a total masterpiece highly recommend it) witch showcasing a wonderful character development and relationship between an INTP male that have dispiced and hated the society and an INTJ female that had big family and trust issues(not surprisingly for an INTJ i assume)and their lovey dobby ESFJ female friend(that ended up making thier relationship a love triangle struggle)obviously there's more than that in the story but won't spoil anymore. Anyways my question is it natural for INTJs and INTPs to have a relationship or would it be worse???
@@wolf_dragon_aa8037 I can’t remember where the anime left off but I remember reading the manga and then it stopped mid way for a hiatus. What do you mean by light novel? Am I missing something?
@@agot7fan855 the final thing in anime was that hikigaya and yukinoshita confess to each other and i think a timeskip have happened and they're in their senior year of highschool now,where are you at??? And yahari is originally from a light novel not from a manga.
This can be a bit difficult sometimes as a woman Se parent, I’ve told a couple of my partners (in the moment) to “shut up and stay still” while I was on top because it’s so frustrating when they keep moving the wrong ways or keep saying the wrong things and it prevents me from “getting mine.” So, I usually don’t expect or even try to get off with guys because it’s just too frustrating for me. It’s a little funny though, the shocked look on their faces when I told them to shut up lol. I asked them afterward if I went too far, they said no, it turned them on.
I think that physiological experience is common to most women, even with Si. If a guy keeps moving when I'm in the middle of an orgasm, it'll mess it up. And I think saying the wrong things is a mood-killer to anyone. Difference is, though, I hate being on top and can't bring myself to tell anyone to shut up that bluntly. And I would likewise usually prefer that my partner go a little "too far" as opposed to not far enough, when it comes to pain & dominance. Partners who are too gentle are actually a dime a dozen, so I can relate, though being told to shut up isn't my particular kink.
Se demon is interesting because I find other people notice it more than other demon functions. Usually with entps more than enfps I think but I rarely see the other demon functions as overtly
This video has got me questioning whether I'm an INTP or not now!😳 I love to experiment, to be pleased at times but I always ensure I leave my sexual partners satisfied! Is that odd for an INTP then?
Nope. That’s my INTP experience as well. We can seem “dead fish” in life but that does not translate to sex at all. That’s where we shine. If I’m confident about anything at all it is my sex life. I too love to experiment. It’s a naughty playground for us. Don’t listen to this dumb ass. It’s all bs and motives for such an offensive video are highly questionable.
@M Rod Yes... I think when it comes to sexual experience, quality is more worth than quantity. Having multiple partners doesnt automatically make a person a better lover. Focusing on connection and depth when relating to one person will make the performance more valuable, at least from the female perspective :)
I spent my childhood with no parents in San Diego so I did whatever I wanted after the age of 11. I partied, and had a really active social life at night, and I would spend my days in Balboa Park reading Ayn Rand, Douglas Hofstadter, Nietzsche, Robert Ardrey, etc., and forming my philosophical view of reality. I was discovering all kinds of social patterns that I later found to be expressed phenomenologically in the Tao Te Ching which I think were experiences of Ni and Si really becoming conscious, too...god so much fun to wander...I would also travel around California or the US occasionally, and by travel I mean hitchhike, get rides, Greyhound, and just generally go wherever the wind and circumstance blew me. So while I felt most at home reading, thinking, and chilling somewhere alone, I also had to survive, not be raped or killed, get some toothpaste, get some money to go the show tonight, some candles for the squat, cigs, etc., and that pushed me to be far more social, sneaky, and aware of my surroundings than I may have otherwise had to be. (Yup, perfect childhood for an INTP from my point of view lol...) I started having sex at 13. I was definitely a dead fish at first, and I wasn't exactly sure I liked it. I was really in my head a lot of the time and it was hard to overcome that Se block while my other functions needed to figure out what the fuck was happening. (Oh wow, I just remembered...I called Love Line and I got on the show. I asked, "When I'm having sex with my boyfriend, I'm always wishing I was eating a sandwich or something else." Adam told me that I shouldn't have sex at 13 and I'd be an old used up hag by my current age lmao!!! That was with my first boyfriend, my first partner lol. I was basically asking, how do I engage Se during sex and turn down Ti/Ne loops, but I didn't know how to ask that lmao. Nothing is currently used up or broken and no one believes I'm 39 but I do remember worrying that at some point I'd just turn into this broken down hag by about 35 lmao...wow I forgot about that.) I remember it being like a type of incapacitation and I couldn't seem to breach the action potential. It's like I would get a thought in my head and it would go on loop and I just literally couldn't move lol. That did last quite awhile thinking back. And I couldn't speak at all, too, I remember that lol. I was always into porn and some of my early partners and I would watch together and emulate what we liked the most and in not very long we could have been making our own porn...wish I had lol. I definitely still prefer responding sexually, though when feeling playful I'm good at initiating, and can get scary on how dom I can get, but definitely prefer sub. I can squirt on command, and control orgasms expertly. I'm good at keeping things weirdly childish and fun, but also incredibly dirty in the little ways that seem to scare normal people lmao. Plus INTPs that make it over that Se blockade and can engage Si and Ni after some experience aren't going to be worried about questions of morality when it comes to roleplaying in bed, it's basically whatever anyone wants if it's all consensual. So while it's hard to really engage Se, at first, it's totally possible and an INTP can master their bodies just like any other type and be amazing sex partners. Being good at responding is important by the way.... Initiators can't take all the credit, responding is important for quality. I suppose the initiators get all the credit for the amount of sex being had, but if you can't respond in bed the magic is gone, and it's one of my favorite skills, just knowing that if I move an inch to the left, pulse this bit, and bend just this way he will cum and I can control that. I should start an INTP sex class... Where's my other sex goddess INTPs!? God, my childhood was so fucking epic, romantic and beautiful...I guess it helps that San Diego is a magical place and you can walk outside and talk to random people like you were old friends and go on an adventure... SoCal Natives
I think my INTP bro is asexual so maybe they're just more asexual than most. I don't know for sure but he doesn't seem interested in getting a girl, he just wants to play computer games and when I try to get him to go on dates he doesn't want to?
I think we're just more critical about relationships, especially if we've already been in a bad one before. I reckon when you bring this up, in his mind he is going "but what if she wants to meet again, what if she doesnt like that I play computer games, what if she's expecting all these things I can't really be bothered for"... and starts to create all these reasons why its a bad idea. Maybe if you helped him view it as just a game, trying to learn as much as you can about the other person, as rule 9 on the 12 rules for life goes; "Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t". Which I think is especially helpful for Intps
If you do not engage an INTP with an idea that is interesting, you will not get the interest of an INTP. If you want him to engage with a female, you have to make him interested with the ideas that a female has or can discuss. Some puff pretty will bore him before he even meets them. All he has seen are the TV and typical females, who talk about nail polish and curtains and what happened between Jeremy and Brenda. It has been said that smart people talk about ideas, normal people talk about events, and stupid people talk about people. While this saying is not really true, in the case of INTPs if you are not talking about ideas, then you better be talking about the ideas behind the events, and if you are talking about people you better be discussing their ideas. INTPs will have sex when sex is made available to them, but will only form relationships with people that can discuss ideas.
@@Hawkido 'all he has seen are the typical females/ - Um I'm female and his INTJ sister so def not typical, so I dunno if that's accurate at all. But everything else is accurate as he values discussing ideas, he views that as the basis of all relationships. Whereas I'm an INTJ and I don't, I view having fun with others as the basis of any relationship, I actually love being silly and having fun, so I can easily have close bonds with people that aren't your typical intellectuals.
Sounds like you're saying Si Inferiors are more tolerant of negative experiences. But wouldn't Si Inferiors be more sensitive to experiences, since it's their insecurity?
I would recommend a great movie Secretary 2002 about S&M golden pair Intp male and infj women relationship. What is fun is that the same actor James Spader plays Entj role in the black list series
Ah ok I didn't have any fears for being intimate with my ESFJ so I can't relate to the performance anxiety stuff that you say INTJs have. I def had some anxiety when presenting to my class, it was a nightmare once or twice. Nowadays I can tho. But with ESFJ I literally just had an impulse to have fun with him, he's very polite so it wasn't like he'd say no :p
I'm an INTP with an INFJ wife. When being intimate, I prefer to be on top. But yeah, I don't particularly say anything because my brain like shuts off or something idk. I also don't have a huge need for sex, and so I don't initiate it often. I'm very attracted to my wife, and our sex is great, but my need for intimacy is satisfied without sex. This is all very hard to describe.
If thats what INFJ and INTP is like I'm not sure I would want that, maybe its an age thing... I always thought INFJs would prefer taking charge in that area anyway
Infj here, when I was in bed with intp, it was great, we would exchange dominant position, he was caring and gentle, I was giving him the time of his life, anyway I agree to your statement and what csj said, but I believe when intps learn a few tricks they can be very satisfiying especially to people like me ;)
I must say ive always used sex as a reward for "good social behavior" naturally. I most attracted to my partner when they "perform well" when were out and about. I always thought that was selfish, but honestly sounds like its tailored for Fe my golden pair. - ENTJ
I highly doubt an Fe demon would care about "good social beheavior" in a pragmatic systematic ENTJ's mind. Sounds like something an affiliative ENFJ would say.
@@dairdb What exactly about your comment is anything related to Te? If anything you are doing the typical Fi shadow self-deprication by calling yourself selfish. Also why would ENTJ want their partner to be the "one to perform" when Te-Se is literally about their own status and image, about their own performance to their friends, family, lovers etc and their competitiveness.
As an INTP AND a huge pervert, I feel offended to be compared to a fish! ... But I know a couple of other INTP and yes, I'm pretty sure they are boring as fuck in the bedroom. I get it.
Between an INFJ female and an INTJ female, which one would an ENTP male prefer? I am asking this question because as an INTJ female, I am "competing" with an INFJ friend over an ENTP male. Because she is doing better socially than I am, she manages to create more chemistry with him, which only reinforces my performance anxiety. Still, he doesn't hesitate to give me a lot of praise behind my back, including in front of her. Face to face he is formal with me, behind my back he seems to adore me in secret. With her he is cool and teasing as with everyone else, in front of me he becomes quite shy, closed and nervous. How to reverse the trend?
He definitely likes you based on what you said. ENTP male here, personally I would prefer a INTJ female because I prefer someone whose more logical and uses their brain more than their emotions, and have a kind heart. But infj's just naturally draw me (including most ENTP's) in... Its just there's something about them... I would say as an ENTP he's definitely playing you if not both of you. I would suggest show a little warmth towards him be welcoming and open, that would get rid of his shyness, before that show your skills(anything) show that you got brains, be a challenge (show that he needs to win YOU OVER). And give him attention(enough to show that you're interested in him) but DO NOT CHASE HIM. We like a lot of attention, but dont CHASE HIM. If the infj is chasing him, he'll be chasing you. Good luck.
@@JstJaybeingJay Thank you very much for your sincere and honest advice ! ;). I will try to put them into application. Just a detail, but important one: this ENTP male was my university professor. He knows I was the best law student of my promotion (had the best grades in his course too). Because of this authority relationship, I didn't shown my interest for him (to protect my studies and his career). My INFJ female friend followed her emotions: she was his student too but she shown him her interest for him directly. He was flattered by her attention, but he teased her publicly on her interest and put her at a distance. Anyway, we have common research fields (we are not professor/student anymore), so I will try to know him better by this medium and show him my interest. Even if expressing my emotions is hard for me, sometimes I don't even know how (and I will not chase him, it's noted!). And yes INTJ females have a kind heart, they are hypersensitive, that's why actually we can be so guarded: we want to preserve our delicate and warm interior by a carapace. And that's why we struggle in expressing our emotions: they are so intense ! We are like a volcano: cold and aloof outside, warm/explosive and caring inside. Our best sides are kept for our precious few. Like ENTP's :)
@@otonashishiroushuuya4241 oh, he's definitely gaming both of them as an ENTP that's just how it is. Also I'm thinking he's a developed ENTP and he's in law, ENTP's thrive in this field. This types either are the best or the worst depending on how you chose to see them, he could be more like Jeff from the show community. I don't know... I need more information.
@@cilv9625 Keep us posted. And I would suggest not to flirt with other guys around him(cause you don't want to look like the one who chases but the one who's being chased). see to it that's its the other way around(other guys flirting with you, you're the prize remember).
@@otonashishiroushuuya4241 Thank you for your kind and strategic advice ! :) I will try to do my best to follow them. I think he is just naturally charming with everyone, he doesn't seduce them on purpose. I would not show him I'm competing for him, you're right about that.
I can definitely say as an INTP woman that I’ve had to learn. Similar to the INTJ woman you talked about, I am also sadomasochistic. I am actually very active in the bdsm lifestyle and do a lot of non-sexual play, where I am usually the top/sadist. However, when it comes to sex, I normally default to being a bottom, and I definitely am more likely to achieve orgasm when receiving. I am a switch though when it comes to being dominant/submissive. I like a power struggle. But even when I am being the more dominant one, I am mostly making my partner pleasure me, which still makes me the bottom. This was very enlightening
You *need* an extremely capable psychotherapist _with_ extensive knowledge of philosophy. You're sick and don't even know it. To begin now, you may start with Stefan Molyneux (Google him; not on RUclips). He's a philosopher.
Actually after she figurred Out how to do, i had one of the best Coitus with her. She worked on expressing her Feelings, and also read some books in it. But in the beginning it was Like Fake ist till you make it. Well guess it takes practice.
my friend took the personality test that’s in your bio about 4 times and keeps on getting different results such as infj, entp, intj, estp, and on the mbti quiz online they got esfj and then esfp, how can they figure out their actual type??
Think I am an INTP... and I am the total opposite. I initiate and do all the touching, licking, and hmm, hmmm...I actually study how to please, too, and like pleasing. Have never been told Im passive or bad. The opposite, actually?? Maybe Im a doormat INTP? Because I dont get anything like I give sexually?
@@CSJoseph Have twice come back INTP on the test. To me, it is illogical to be in a sexual relationship and not be as giving sexually as you can... if you want an overall good relationship. Just don't make sense to be that stupid... cause oneself the unnecessary issue, that is.
@@timottes334It's not about logic, it's about having "Se" trickster. INTPs simply don't know how to perform sexualy and you're an ISTP (Don't trust test)
(Got it you want to say you're good in sack [doge]) So is this part of the reason why Leslie Winkle in TBBT used to have sex with multiple males in the earlier episodes?...
I have a question.. I have an INFP ex and my current bf is ENTP, I am an ENFJ. At healthy states of both of these relationships, sexually (sorry if TMI) I was definitely satisfied with both. But I am enjoying sex even more with my ENTP boy, even though INFPs are my golden pair. He (my ENTP boy) is hot stuff, he really brings it to another level. What you are saying about ENXJs is very relatable for me and I love the "uncaring" sexually nature of the ENTP. Works. really. well. for me! Why does it feel like I am more sexually compatible with my ENTP bf than with my golden pair? Any idea, Chase?
When you say you prefer sex with the ENTP due to his "uncaring" sexual nature, is this because you prefer to focus on providing the sensations/pleasure to him instead of receiving pleasure? Do you prefer to be ignored (uncared for) sexually? How do you climax from being ignored? I ask, because I do not understand Se totally. Do you know which specific videos Chase is referring to in his reply to you?
@@Pheonix1111 I like how selfish they are in a way. They (again maybe TMI) use me. They are using me for pleasure. I give them that experience (Se) They want it (how more desperate they want it, the better) and in that way & I feel of use/desired. For me the idea is hot, I never was really good at climaxing just by things being done to me, the thing that makes me climax is the idea of it all. Dirty talk for example also works well. The verbal stuff. Because words communicate directly with my mind. For me it all in the mind/the idea. I think that's why Chase also said it could be hard for ENXJ's to be sexually satisfied. Because our sexual satisfaction is connected to someone else's experience/satisfaction. It's all connected to others and in that way outside our power. So on our own it might be a bit tough. The most TMI thing I can tell you, is that I think 'free use' is pretty sexy in a relationship. So whenever he wants, he gets. When I am doing something in the house, no problem, he can still get it. Stuff like that. Also Se-child likes to be beautiful. I am more vain than I'd like to admit.. (I am working on it) But that also has something to with giving people 'a good experience'. And it might also be connected to sex. Wanting to be beautiful for your partner. Hope this helped.
@@RuthParodies I greatly appreciate your reply. I read it 10 times to appreciate and understand Se from your perspective. I understand and appreciate Se much more. Your reply is like my winning the lottery to be able to understand Se. Ultimately, would you say you are seeking to be/feel needed/wanted/desired by your partner, so that you are irreplaceable to ensure you will have a perfectly loyal partner? I think Si users do not understand Se as much as an Se user does, so I suggest that if you should ever meet another INFP, it would be best that you explained Se to them. I thank you immensely for your reply!
@@Pheonix1111 Haha glad I could help! It is always nice to know that your page long youtube comment doesn't go unnoticed 😎 I think that might be at the core. Winning that Si-loyalty by hopefully giving them a memorable experience and seeing them enjoy themselves is just hot 💫 The INFP & ENTP were both great at being (TMI) expressive of how they enjoyed it. It was clear to see. But the ENTP was a bit more unapologetic whilst 'taking' and I think that was hot. INFP was a bit more tame. But they were/are both amazing people! I am only talking above about that one of the two brought out more an animalistic feeling, which can feel really good :) one last note: the unapologetic taking is hot because it sends a signal to my mind 'He want me so bad, he enjoys it so much, he just has to have it, wow, I am desired!' and if someone stays respectfully a bit in their lane (INFP), than I just feel like he's being 'dominant' for me, not for himself, because he's uncomfortable in taking. Even though I would love it if he would take it because I don't mind, we're in a relationship and I am his, I think female sexuality in general is a lot about: being desired. But that's outside of the realm of mbti. Wow. Okay, I ll hope you ll enjoy this essay haha.
I eat extremely well and do intermittent fasting as a lifestyle. I also lift 3 days a week religiously. I'm not bad at sex as I've been told by partners after the one.... I have had a lot of criticism from 1 really bad experience in my 20's I never want to relive again 🤣 and yes i have involved pot and alcohol before, mainly to get more "wild". This is mainly done to gather information (the other persons preferences to stimuli ) which I catalogue mentally and then I just implement those things in heavy rotation while in the act. I will also think and ask myself questions about what I'm doing or how I can do things for the other person, how it may be perceived by the other. This is all done using Ti though....so it's a sham. I have also studied the nerves of the male organ so as to more appropriately provide a better experience. I'm very accommodating lol 😂 but all of this is probably a really big turn off to most people who have a problem with someone creating a formula for pleasure. And yeah the sadomasochism thing is true for some intps...for me at least Also I was abused as a kid and I think that may have lent to sexual precociousness* and some weird obsession with sex. I probably think about sex for a good chunk of the day...but it's think this is mostly because I'm a pervert and I like contemplating what I might do so there is a "library" of reference positions and maneuvers I can try. I'm messed up. Also I have Ti'd a sure fire solution to make sure it doesn't even matter if I lay there doing nothing because there ain't nothing like vaginal kung fu and making that feel like a hand without moving, son! Boom. Any intp lady reading this...get yourself some weights and a yoni egg and Kim Anami your lady bits. I also use a kegel Ems unit and I do that at least 2 a day. It also improves orgasm a great deal. If you're diligent enough you can be doing Indonesian p**** tricks within a few months. Here's a question...is it possible to be fairly split on the J and P spectrum
INTP here with ESFP wife. I definitely take the Se role in our sexual encounters and she is the ultimate Si... though occasionally that switches for a minute... but it rarely switches because apparently I'm too good... *EDIT* If I was not 100% comfortable with her no doubt I would be a dead fish. I am as comfortable with her as with myself. Also, only thing she doesn't think I do well is use my words heh, if I think of what to say I am back in my head and back in ded fish territory...
Memorize things she likes and you can train yourself to be saying it even though you won't know you're saying it. Or at least, I don't even notice saying the stuff I say...but it still works. And also sexy sounds.
I wonder if I am a sexual masochist? I like giving but I also like receiving. I like the balance between both dichotomy’s. Does this mean I am balanced? I enjoy neither nor have a preference. I may be over thinking this 🤦♀️ desire is all I need. It either is or it isn’t. Can anyone relate?
Just cause we have no idea what we're doing doesnt mean we arent making a lively attempt of it! Dead fish.. or hallucinating blind squid squirrel?? Good day sir. 👾
Here is a drop of wisdom ( for a traditional couple) from a Si user in a relationship with a Si user for the last 12 years ( possibly 2 Si children). The burden lies on the male, logic being , most likely I'll get mine in the end , so I make your experience my main goal, and would you know it, over time we synchronized , plus ( if you are willing to put work in to your relationship) put some time in, to teach your other Si user what you like , and how you like it, that works miracles as well, but then again there is nothing new about what I said, porn messed up the healthy sexual process... And that got wierd... Sorry... 🤔
That is one good thing about Si users: they are highly trainable. 😅 And I say this as an Si user myself. If you are willing to invest the time, give consistent reinforcement, feedback, and proper incentive, you can pretty much get them to do whatever you want (as long as they're capable of it). I've had a similar experience to what you describe with a fellow Si user. Very frustrating initially, but over time was able to (verrry slowwwly) train him to be essentially a service top. And I get a massage as foreplay literally every time now. 😁
@@heatherbryant4197 what about the competition outside bed for comfort or desirability or who to make choices , do you deal with it easily using judging functions ? I am interested in a similar relationship, please answer .
Maybe an Intp man will need a Enfj woman for both people to have a satisfying relationship and sex life. Random thought: it would be hard or frustrating to be a thinker woman in a patriarchal gender roles society?... a lot become sjw/feminists/lgbtq... same for Feeler men?
@@CSJoseph ok, I did what you said and watched K. Makes sense. However, I’m still not 100% sure why Grey is an ENTP instead of an ENTJ. I’m super curious.
My bf is an ENTP and I’m an INFJ and we definitely do experiment and we teach each other in the bedroom. We have the best sex life I admit I never had anyone better. I related a lot to Anastasia in fifty shades of grey and I guess I now understand why lol
🤔I talked to an INTP guy on a dating app who I’m starting to believe that maybe he hid his dead fish with a “kink” he wanted to be tied up and pleased.
I mean, an easy fix I found is just getting into the Sub/Dom community even a little. just being a sub immediately sets the expectation and people in the community also like to tell exactly what they want so communication and innate pairing just does all the work for me XD
My INTP bf did Latino dancing for 13 years and learned to Interact with a partner and also move his body sensually so now his sexual Performance is almost as good as an EJ’s... I should thank his his mom who took him to dancing classes as a child
Maybe you shoudl install your Headset driver, and maybe you should adjust the boost and korrect the audio volumne in the cut programm/render programm later. leads to much higher and more enjoying audio. And good video man i love it.
I mean, there's a great argument for INJs to be SD, over UD if you can catch them early enough. Child and Inferior Se can have fun together if both are Fe Dom. If giving the best experience means receiving a great experience, or if either can uc transition without substances.
I am wondering what effect a mental health issue, such as narcissism (NPD), might have on personality types. With NPD the ego does not develop properly. Would that person present as another personality type from another side of the mind? Or would they transition chaotically as their boundaries are basically nonexistent?
Literally unsurprising to me that Chase favors the C A N E. Quick, sharp bites that give constant reminders for the next week 🙈 Totally on brand 💯 Se aspirational would be too terrified to disrespect if I had that to face 🙈🙌🤦♀️
🤣🤣🤣 Everyone looks like dead 🐟 to ESFP but this is really fascinating. That's why we got that dose of sapiosexuality to throw everyone off. BTW: Wishing you much abundance and blessings! Thanks to this channel, and the dawning of Aquarian frequencies, I really feel I have begun to have some insight and realizations. Your channel is teaching me to love and empathize and cherish people more....which is really what it's all about.
*If an INXP is acting like a dead fish in bed, it's because your'e the dead sea.* 🐟
Well, I mean, I guess...
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Ooohhh you know they're feeling salty about that one! 😄
Ouch 😂
Well said
I was excited for an INTP video, but then...
Same here
Lmao
Why do ENTPs have smaller pp and how are INTPs bigger pp
What are you even talking about? Also probably si child vs si inferior
@@freepass850 oh I'm sorry my small pp ENTP fren. Not all of us can be chad INTP big pp.
@@thepsychocybe7078 well then thank god that I'm not an Intj
You guys wish y’all had my intpness.
Which type's pp retracts to zero inches while flaccid? Is there data/dogma on this?
As an INTP I think giving (inferior Fe) is a stronger force in bed than receiving (child Si). We want to make the partner feel good, so we will use whatever Se we have.
This really is the crux of it. While an INTP enjoys receiving, they can very much want to satisfy their Fe by giving and can make the entire experience more fulfilling for everyone involved. Foreplay and afterplay are perhaps the most important skills for an INTP to practice in bed. The pitfall will always be Se trickster and care must be taken not to overdo things and annoy your partner. Communication will always be paramount.
"Use whatever Se we have" 😂😂
this would have to be more true then for intp-t then as they have a stronger Fe function than intp-a
This video is really just making me wonder just how good ENTPs must be, because my wife has zero complaints... and I've checked lol [INTP 5w6, in case it's relevant]
@@env0x This is unrelated, I'm an INTP A with a strong FE, even the moment someone doesn't enjoy it 100% I go bad immediately, but I'm an INTP A 5w4, so maybe it's the artist in me to please people?
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INTPs criticized or punished, for being abused as a small child is more common than has been documented.
abused kinda indirectly... by chronic neglect. not physical. emotional, social and in terms of moral instruction...
INTP : I don’t know. Is being a rope bunny looked upon as being vanilla? ( I mean, seriously, being unable to move is a great excuse for just lying there :) )
My first sexual experience with an INFP was amazing and we both really enjoyed ourselves. I'm an INTP. Comfort is important for me. I was not the one who was on bottom. As long as the sex is comfortable and playful. INXPs are bound to have a great time.
If you're stuck in your comfort zone you're missing out > :]
Mistyped
Why do INTPs have compulsive behaviors and repetitive movements that lead people to think that their autistic?
Because low Se and Ti hero
because we are in a Ti auto pilot 24/7
Autism is a poor diagnosis hastily thrown together by "experts" to explain a reason why their child is "defective". Reasoning is that no effort is being made to help these people after childhood no research is conducted outside of their personal interests. I think autism is just simply a narrowing of the mind laid over your personality. Whether that makes you extremely stupid or defective, I've found has more to do with co morbid conditions and/or too much sheltering. I'd love to dismantle DSM V, but I need allies which are hard to find with everyone seeking their own interests. Money and resources don't particularly matter as if you have a group of 3 or more, wealth is multiplied.
Makes sense, INxPs will take time to develop their sexual appetite, they don't get attracted to things as easily as for example, a Se hero would. And if others aren't developing skills with INxPs, then they aren't fulfiling Si child's comfort needs.
This is why I like dating ENTJs they do all the work
They're amazing
As an Intj I have amazing sex with my husband who is an Intp. I love seeing the look on his face and his reactions. We are so comfortable with each other that we can both take turns giving the sensations. Comfort level is a major factor.
one problem with INTPs is they are hard to find, im looking for an INTP female partner but so far all i find are those damaged ESFPs or shallow ESTPs, im really not interested in meaningless sexual acts anymore, WHERE ARE YOU INTP WOMEN ?!! I WANT ME SOME SMART/LOYAL/COOL partner ..... get the fuck out of the house so i can hunt you... you guys really are valuable to me and i do mean it, one of my friends is an INTP and i really connect with the guy, i told him if only you were a women i would have grabbed your hands and put a ring on it, but im not gay so...... even his response was epic and funny, he said "that's rape", i love INTPs so much.
And what is your mbti
we are at home 😔
You can found an intp more online that irl. 🤷♀️
Why do INTPs even allow disrespect? Even if it makes it easier for us to make friends, it's just tiring when the disrespect eventually hits us.
Because instinctively its about controlling people and their reaction. Letting things pass is not a behavior i have because i am scared of the person in question, but of the social repercussions arround it if there are witnesses, or the prospect of having to deal with an argument that i cant waste my time on. But you are right, on the long run its rarely worth it to allow it. Fighting back and not letting someone walk all over you is the way to go. Regardless of the other consequences.
Fe inferior and Fi demon, ultimate recipe for low self-esteem competing with the Fe parent-Fi critic of IXFJs
Because it takes years of experience and practice to even begin to recognize that we're being disrespected, and to recognize it quick enough that we can actually respond to it. Usually it's not realized until far after the fact.
Because we don't care, probably.
@@georgexm2032 well, other people should care if we get disrespected
ENTP's are better at conveying that they have better skills while INTP's actually have mad skills that they either perform or want to see performed by their partner. Our SI child actually knows how to find new ways of excitement.
ENTP’s are only better at bragging. They are crooks like ESTP’s. Fe child is delusional, auto persuade themselves theyre skilled. Truth is women leave them one by one because of their blindspots and they will never face reality because e g o t r i p
Ne finds new ways of excitement while Si looks for comfort in familiar experiences. Si is used to catalog ways that worked and differentiate them from ways that didn't work in the past. Ne is explorative and as a higher function takes precedence over Si for seeking out new experiences.
@@env0x Indeed. You are certainly right. I'mma go with your explanation from now on.
@@raydaveed i know that Se dominant types are better than Ne for being "in the moment" and typically more spontaneous. This also leads to exploration and seeking new experiences, but just in a different way than Ne (which is more an "out of the box" way of thinking, coming up with new ideas based on things we learned in the past)
As someone (INFP), who experienced both (two long term relationships), this is 1000% true
“ Having sex with an INTP is like having sex with a dead fish"
Why I'm I not offended
cause you're a dead fish
emotionally 😁
A word of advice, don't sneak up an INTJ while they are doing something if you don't want a reflex elbow to your head xD
That's just a bad idea, but, words of affirmation are always good though :D
1st time I'm gonna have to disagree.
Every INTP I've encountered has been very well read & knew exactly what do do.
If they're laying there, it's probably because they're experiencing sensory overload & trying to process it LOL.
That or they aren’t INTOs
@@CSJoseph lol, they diffinetly aren't INTOs... maybe that would be a good CSJ cereal...🤔
...or because they're bored to tears. Most people are way too vanilla. Other INTPs I've spoken to described the same phenomenon of being experienced in their mind long before they ever lost their virginity, and that really helps.
@Esrah
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Yeah. I'll just tell them to give me a minute. Then I can actually enjoy what's bringing me to overload to some degree and find my way back quicker.
I'm sorry but nerds make great lovers usually. My husband is an INTP and we've never had problems there. Not sure why other people do. Granted, we're old now and he's also disabled so it's been less fireworks for the past year or two but when we were younger hoo boy.
Are you an Se user maybe?
@@annethepaladin3235 as tertiary. I'm dominant Te. ENTJ.
Nerds are way better in bed
This one is completely hilarious and true at the same time. As an Intp, I have been with ENTJ. And there was no problem at all instead both of us had our best relationship ever. It’s been five years and both of us are probably not over each other. Can’t match the golden pair compatibility. And the break up really hurts. Fi-Fe inferior functions don’t really work in long term. Can’t get over Si-Se child compatibility though.
Try ENFJs
@@honor9lite1337 Not interested. I've always loved ENTPs
"Fi-Fe inferior functions don’t really work in long term"
Why is that? They are perfectly matched.
You're so right about compatibility with NJ's especially ENTJ !!! Instead of trying hard to perform ( and eventually fail),all you need to do as an INTP is enjoying the moment, focus on your own pleasure and show that you like it, and your NJ partner will just have the best time with you.
This video really helped clarify why I though my sexual experience was odd for me. I can recall my experiences from my first to current and it does appear that I'm slowly learning how to perform well enough but still feel that I'm lacking. Now I need to find a primary Se user to really build my confidence up.
I am an INTJ female and the best sexual experience of my life was when the male walked into the room and, "used" me, and the throwaway, dark, controlling act totally aroused my masochistic nature. I fell in love with the way he used me as a tool in sex (and with complete disregard for my feelings) .... Yes, I craved self-destruction and I craved to be used by the other person to satisfy him. But I still don't know his MBTI type, is he supposed to be an ENXP?
So I found it very exciting to see this video of yours, and the way you describe holding her from behind and telling the other person that only you can make me feel safe hit me in the heart once again.
Sounds a bit unhealthy. As intj it is not completly wrong but a bit too much
i don't believe that's because of your type. I think many women are submissive because of gender roles and masochists because of thousands of years of experiences, where women were sexually abused by men. Somehow it's collective memory and you feel comfortable with it. I'm an infp and i can't relate at all, although they think that my type is passive.
@@justme8841some people love to be used. Human sexuality is complex and confusing. It is not for us to judge.
you sound like infj
This is an infj’s worst haha
Protip: don't try to eat while listening to Counter Strike Joseph talk about anything sex-related 🤢. Chinese industrial accident videos on Liveleak are more appetizing.
well this video gave me a relief tbh (i'm INTP), i feel like my nature doesn't include sexual actions i have to learn them first, but after learning maybe i can be good at it who knows 😏 thank you for this amazing video i learned new things!
I can’t handle the idea of sex as performance… But I think this INTP does fine cos I studied all kinds of stuff like Tantra and Taoist techniques and philosophy when I was young. Plus there’s the dopamine seeking hedonism of INTPs that makes some of us lots of fun.
First of all, partner who is "just lying down" would quickly make me stop and look for reasons behind it. If they want sex, are doing it because of sexual desire they feel for you at the moment, are not asexual and so on, they will express that somehow during sex. Lack of expressions and any activity during intercourse is a clear sign that something is wrong. It might be shyness, lack of trust, fear, stress, anxiety, pain, shame, or many other possible reasons that stop them from enjoying the moment, making them feel discomfort. I do not believe that it is possible to be introverted to the point of not expressing anything at all in such intimate moments. Personally, I could not continue without talking to, comforting and relaxing my partner until they feel comfortable with themselves, their body and their reactions and acting up on those. If they still are not comfortable enough to relax and enjoy the act, simply give up on it. Continuing despite that will probably either reassure this person in their unhealthy perception of sex or worse. Why would they continue if they do not feel good with it? There is simply no valid reason to do so, despite some people believing in "satisfying the needs" of their partner, or something along these lines, more often women thinking of it as their "duty" in relationship. If they actually did that because they wanted it and felt good with it, they would not force themselves to that, would they? And if they don't force themselves, would they just lie there motionless, like a corpse? Do you know anybody, that while participating in any activity they want to participate in, just do nothing until it ends, not enjoying it? That "duty" is BULLSHIT, nobody is ever obliged to have sex with anybody, remember that. Even in relationships where one person is asexual and decides to have sex with their partner to satisfy their needs, as long as decision has healthy, honest motives behind it, this person will participate in the act to some extent, surely not "playing dead".
I am not sayin that's what happened or that is what you mentioned/meant, just wanted to point that out while discussing being passive in bed. I am living in pretty conservative and patriarchal country, and seeing that scar in young women's idea of relationship and sex, really makes me sick. So I point it out whenever have occasion to, like here :V
Now, after dealing with that issue, let's go to the INTPs and their sexuality.
(As INTP and being aware of my sexuality, basing only on myself as none of my partners was INTP) What I think is important to point out - INTPs will be passive and not really involved, or "dead fish" as you named it (the fuck is that name tho???), when they do not feel emotionally/mentally connected to their partner. Honestly, sex in those circumstances felt more like boring, exhausting chore, than enjoyable experience to me. I will tend to get passive, non expressive and indifferent (never roleplaying corpse though)
However, when I have these feelings toward my partner... Quite the opposite actually. I am going to be relentless in learning and trying to satisfy my partner. Learn what they enjoy, what they do not, what positions, I will observe every single reaction to every single thing that happens, try to figure out their kinks and how to act on those during intercourse, analyze our experiences to get better idea what might I do better, research new positions, techniques, and so on. As long as something is pleasurable for the other person, I will most likely enjoy that only for that reason. Only exception is when something is a major turn off (few things are), then I will not find those as enjoyable, but still engage in those from time to time if my partner likes it (so far I found only one thing, that is automatic and complete boner killer, shutting down my arousal no matter what, and I have tried a lot of them). I simply adapt to my partner's needs and expectation's, no matter if they revolve around me being passive/active/dominant/humiliated/cuddly/delicate/primal/brutal/risky and so on. Heck, I've been pegged few times and enjoyed it simply because my loved one liked it. That is the biggest turn on for me - my partner's pleasure and satisfaction.
Of course my needs are important too, however, while having many different kinks, none of them is essential for my satisfaction (except satisfying my partner). However, to actually feel this way about sex, it really needs to be within deep, intimate relationship. Casual sex simply does not work for me and doesn't really turn me on.
So there you have it, that is my perspective. I disagree with your opinion, which I think is based on stereotypes and wrong assumptions. I might be wrong, but I don't think I am either special or different in that aspect from other INTPs, that is just how we are, maybe many of us are not that kinky or open about it, but I (and others too I think) will engage all of our functions in the act itself with partners that we deeply care about - You would be surprised with level of energy, intensity and passion we have when our cognitive stack for once decides to cooperate instead of fighting itself. Ti (analyzing what works for her/him in bed, what are the reasons behind their expressions and what do they say about our partner's current needs, allows us to stay focused on partner instead of getting lost in sensations), Ne (coming up with new ideas, keeping partner on their toes with usually pleasant surprises and using what we learned about them to work out what else might be enjoyable). Si and Fe have their own duties too (Si - remembering what to do, when to do it, under what circumstances, how and every other preference that our lover expressed to us and Fe - to see those subtle clues that my partner sends out when being aroused, as being blunt sometimes just ruins the mood or when we want to have more passionate, fervent intercourse - to keep in touch with our playmate's feelings, sensations and pleasure, when it gets hard to express those as comprehensible statements)
To sum everything up:
In my opinion INTPs will be boring and passive in bed for very simple reason - lack of motivation. When their sexual partner is not someone, who's satisfaction is important enough to become INTP's need on it's own, he might simply lose interest in sex overall, which could lead to what you called "just lying down". At least I did.
When they become motivated, when someone's needs and fulfilment are important enough, to become our priority and we are comfortable enough with them seeing us vulnerable... I don't know how to describe it. For me, sex itself becomes a medium, a way for me to express our feelings toward beloved one. And if you know INTPs good enough, you know that we actually have feelings. Shocking, but true xD. Those feelings are deep, strong and fierce, just not shared by us, because of how we perceive outside world and how bad we are at expressing them. The second we realize we just found method to actually share our feelings, to show the other person how we feel about her, we can become really passionate about that, as we finally found means that do not feel fake, irrational and somewhat meaningless, as words, acts or gifts often do. Without that tho? Meh, it is not that much better than masturbation. I mean yes, it is great physical sensation, but after experiencing that what some people call "making love" (weird ass name imo) casual sex just feels like cheap, badly bootleg version of real thing. (That process happened every single time I actually did fall in love or developed this psychological/mental/intellectual bond with someone. Second happened only once though, and after few years I am still confused about that lmao)
That's my perspective. Maybe only mine. Or maybe it is relatable to fellow INTP aliens. Cheers
Thank you so much for writing this. I couldn’t agree more with what was said. If I’m into the person I will want to explore every part of them and make them feel good… and I’m really open to experimenting! The dead fish comparison was bizzarre to me unless I was for whatever reason uncomfortable in the situation or disconnected. So thanks for writing this! - Reassured INTP
Could make a video for INTP women on have to behave like a woman? As an INTP woman I have a hard time figuring out how to act, talk and move like a real woman and if I try I feel like a stupid fake. If everybody who called me "not a real woman" gave me a dollar I would be rich. But honestly it hurts very much all the time. I'm not fat or ugly, but also not as pretty as a model, I consider my self as average. I do sports, make up and take care of what I eat and the clothes I wear. I am not arrogant or disrespectful. But I still get called "not a real woman" because I lack the ease and flirtiness in everyday life or whatever else is missing to be a real woman. I am desperate because I always end up being a good friend instead of being loved. The men say they want a "real woman" . In bed I can quickly find out what others like, but I am very afraid to ask something from the other because I am afraid of rejection. I also don't know how to communicate something you want. I am not so passionate about my own experience as I don't feel that much, maybe because of the lack of Se. I'm only good at giving, but unfortunately that's never enough. I am very sad about that.
And to be honest, I hate being INTP for being so deep in my head, having to analyze and understand everything and dealing with my fears and insecurities instead of just being able to enjoy life.
After a while, giving and giving and giving while receiving little to nothing in return will wear you down. Trust me. But it sounds like you are already starting to realize this. I know it's difficult, but you have to learn how to speak up for yourself, and, not only create healthy boundaries, but communicate and enforce them. No covert contracts. It's not fair to resent people for expectations you didn't communicate. When I was younger, I didn't like hearing the expression "only the open mouth gets fed." I think that deep down I knew it was true. When people see that you stand up for yourself they will respect you more and walk all over you less. If you're afraid to ask for reciprocation in bed, wait til you've got him going enough to incentivize him, but not after he already gets what he wanted (men tend to get sleepy after orgasms and often don't have the energy to expend more anyway), then ask for what you want. Try to be playful about it rather than demanding or too meek. As for the "not a real woman" comments, I don't know what to say about that other than it's BS gatekeeping. Sounds like something an insecure person would say. Your chromosomes make you a female. If you just mean acting feminine though, maybe try some mildly submissive body language? I know imposter syndrome is real, but just consider the possibility that maybe everyone else is "faking" it too. I was a tomboy until I got to be about 21, after which I got in touch with my feminine side. I'm not entirely sure why. Perhaps you'll grow into it.
Watch feminine videos on RUclips they are helpful trust me.
I love your honesty!
7:00 how DO you get an INTP to workout? I've mentioned health a few times in group texts (where INTPs were included) and only got attacked by the INTPs lol basically trying to Ti their way out of health...I've since just assumed Si child doesn't do that type of lifestyle but idk, if there is a solution I'd like to know even for academics. Si child is difficult. INFPs at least have ESTJ subconscious so can run marathons etc but INTPs are tricky.
As a 22-year-old INTP male, I don’t necessarily feel that good after working out. I just feel like I am wasting time and energy that could be better used procrastinating. If an INTP does find a song that they like however, they might be able to convince themself to do the robot a bit, which I suppose could burn a couple of calories. Maybe encouraging a dance class could be a good idea, I feel insecure even dancing in a room alone haha.
@@therealyeti1482 hahaha you're second sentence. Thanks for the input. I just figure it is not INTPs thing. Although I've oddly learned a lot of health stuff from an INTP youtuber: "WhatIveLearned". So, my guess is, as with all things INTP, the brain has to rule the body.
You’re quite welcome.
If you’re an INTP with good genes who doesn’t get fat, why the absolute fuck would you want to sculpt your body into something only absolute fucking idiots will appreciate? WAY better uses of out time.
I prefer the "tired pain" after I workout. This is one of the strongest motivation for me to go to the gym.
Both interesting and entertaining. Especially happy to have learned about the Si-Se demon kinkiness, can strongly relate lol.
It's fun to experiment with incompatible types tho :) as an INTJ I could def identify with that SM part, although rather on the S side. Love INTPs in the bedroom, but it took a while. I had to grow as a person, before I was ready for them. An INFP helped me open the doors to that. Hurt my feelings a little, but helped :)
*The title nearly killed me!* 🤣
I am an INFJ and beeing in a fwb with a INTP for more then an year..yes we are correctly typed but i must say he is the best lover i had...passionate and experimental and thats the only reason I'm still keep seeing him..he is like kryptonite
I'm more curious in INTP and INTJ,a while ago I've seen this anime called "oregairo" or "yahari" or "my teen romantic comedy is wrong as i expected"(a total masterpiece highly recommend it) witch showcasing a wonderful character development and relationship between an INTP male that have dispiced and hated the society and an INTJ female that had big family and trust issues(not surprisingly for an INTJ i assume)and their lovey dobby ESFJ female friend(that ended up making thier relationship a love triangle struggle)obviously there's more than that in the story but won't spoil anymore.
Anyways my question is it natural for INTJs and INTPs to have a relationship or would it be worse???
I’m up to date on the manga but they haven’t released something in a long time 😬😬
@@agot7fan855 don't you mean the light novel???isn't the story finished yet???what have left after season 3???
@@wolf_dragon_aa8037 I can’t remember where the anime left off but I remember reading the manga and then it stopped mid way for a hiatus.
What do you mean by light novel? Am I missing something?
@@agot7fan855 the final thing in anime was that hikigaya and yukinoshita confess to each other and i think a timeskip have happened and they're in their senior year of highschool now,where are you at???
And yahari is originally from a light novel not from a manga.
Look up social compatibility of INTPs on this channel. It's probably the second best behind ENTJs.
This can be a bit difficult sometimes as a woman Se parent, I’ve told a couple of my partners (in the moment) to “shut up and stay still” while I was on top because it’s so frustrating when they keep moving the wrong ways or keep saying the wrong things and it prevents me from “getting mine.” So, I usually don’t expect or even try to get off with guys because it’s just too frustrating for me. It’s a little funny though, the shocked look on their faces when I told them to shut up lol. I asked them afterward if I went too far, they said no, it turned them on.
I think that physiological experience is common to most women, even with Si. If a guy keeps moving when I'm in the middle of an orgasm, it'll mess it up. And I think saying the wrong things is a mood-killer to anyone. Difference is, though, I hate being on top and can't bring myself to tell anyone to shut up that bluntly. And I would likewise usually prefer that my partner go a little "too far" as opposed to not far enough, when it comes to pain & dominance. Partners who are too gentle are actually a dime a dozen, so I can relate, though being told to shut up isn't my particular kink.
50 shades is a bad fanfiction
It isn't written well enough to represent much of anything
And it’s a copy of Twilight
Se demon is interesting because I find other people notice it more than other demon functions. Usually with entps more than enfps I think but I rarely see the other demon functions as overtly
for sure. Se is the most easy so spot function of the 8, especially in that demon spot!
Bc fi parent enfps are so embarrassed that their Se demon isn't affiliative enough
You can usually see it when they go on a crusade
This video has got me questioning whether I'm an INTP or not now!😳 I love to experiment, to be pleased at times but I always ensure I leave my sexual partners satisfied! Is that odd for an INTP then?
Yeah that sounds more ENTJ
This sounds like any human being. This is pure stereotyping.
Nope. That’s my INTP experience as well. We can seem “dead fish” in life but that does not translate to sex at all. That’s where we shine. If I’m confident about anything at all it is my sex life. I too love to experiment. It’s a naughty playground for us. Don’t listen to this dumb ass. It’s all bs and motives for such an offensive video are highly questionable.
No, this guy's just a robot
My intp is an amazing lover :)
@M Rod Yes... I think when it comes to sexual experience, quality is more worth than quantity. Having multiple partners doesnt automatically make a person a better lover. Focusing on connection and depth when relating to one person will make the performance more valuable, at least from the female perspective :)
I spent my childhood with no parents in San Diego so I did whatever I wanted after the age of 11. I partied, and had a really active social life at night, and I would spend my days in Balboa Park reading Ayn Rand, Douglas Hofstadter, Nietzsche, Robert Ardrey, etc., and forming my philosophical view of reality. I was discovering all kinds of social patterns that I later found to be expressed phenomenologically in the Tao Te Ching which I think were experiences of Ni and Si really becoming conscious, too...god so much fun to wander...I would also travel around California or the US occasionally, and by travel I mean hitchhike, get rides, Greyhound, and just generally go wherever the wind and circumstance blew me. So while I felt most at home reading, thinking, and chilling somewhere alone, I also had to survive, not be raped or killed, get some toothpaste, get some money to go the show tonight, some candles for the squat, cigs, etc., and that pushed me to be far more social, sneaky, and aware of my surroundings than I may have otherwise had to be. (Yup, perfect childhood for an INTP from my point of view lol...)
I started having sex at 13. I was definitely a dead fish at first, and I wasn't exactly sure I liked it. I was really in my head a lot of the time and it was hard to overcome that Se block while my other functions needed to figure out what the fuck was happening. (Oh wow, I just remembered...I called Love Line and I got on the show. I asked, "When I'm having sex with my boyfriend, I'm always wishing I was eating a sandwich or something else." Adam told me that I shouldn't have sex at 13 and I'd be an old used up hag by my current age lmao!!! That was with my first boyfriend, my first partner lol. I was basically asking, how do I engage Se during sex and turn down Ti/Ne loops, but I didn't know how to ask that lmao. Nothing is currently used up or broken and no one believes I'm 39 but I do remember worrying that at some point I'd just turn into this broken down hag by about 35 lmao...wow I forgot about that.)
I remember it being like a type of incapacitation and I couldn't seem to breach the action potential. It's like I would get a thought in my head and it would go on loop and I just literally couldn't move lol. That did last quite awhile thinking back. And I couldn't speak at all, too, I remember that lol. I was always into porn and some of my early partners and I would watch together and emulate what we liked the most and in not very long we could have been making our own porn...wish I had lol. I definitely still prefer responding sexually, though when feeling playful I'm good at initiating, and can get scary on how dom I can get, but definitely prefer sub. I can squirt on command, and control orgasms expertly. I'm good at keeping things weirdly childish and fun, but also incredibly dirty in the little ways that seem to scare normal people lmao. Plus INTPs that make it over that Se blockade and can engage Si and Ni after some experience aren't going to be worried about questions of morality when it comes to roleplaying in bed, it's basically whatever anyone wants if it's all consensual. So while it's hard to really engage Se, at first, it's totally possible and an INTP can master their bodies just like any other type and be amazing sex partners. Being good at responding is important by the way.... Initiators can't take all the credit, responding is important for quality. I suppose the initiators get all the credit for the amount of sex being had, but if you can't respond in bed the magic is gone, and it's one of my favorite skills, just knowing that if I move an inch to the left, pulse this bit, and bend just this way he will cum and I can control that. I should start an INTP sex class...
Where's my other sex goddess INTPs!?
God, my childhood was so fucking epic, romantic and beautiful...I guess it helps that San Diego is a magical place and you can walk outside and talk to random people like you were old friends and go on an adventure... SoCal Natives
When its good, its good. When its bad, its bad. You get this overwhelming feeling about jumping out of your mind.
Mr Joseph do you still answer Quora questions? I was hoping I could send some.
Re the entering statement:
My sexual skills are not limited to a bedroom...
INTP
I think my INTP bro is asexual so maybe they're just more asexual than most. I don't know for sure but he doesn't seem interested in getting a girl, he just wants to play computer games and when I try to get him to go on dates he doesn't want to?
Why are you trying to get him to go on dates? lol
I think we're just more critical about relationships, especially if we've already been in a bad one before. I reckon when you bring this up, in his mind he is going "but what if she wants to meet again, what if she doesnt like that I play computer games, what if she's expecting all these things I can't really be bothered for"... and starts to create all these reasons why its a bad idea. Maybe if you helped him view it as just a game, trying to learn as much as you can about the other person, as rule 9 on the 12 rules for life goes; "Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t". Which I think is especially helpful for Intps
If you do not engage an INTP with an idea that is interesting, you will not get the interest of an INTP. If you want him to engage with a female, you have to make him interested with the ideas that a female has or can discuss. Some puff pretty will bore him before he even meets them. All he has seen are the TV and typical females, who talk about nail polish and curtains and what happened between Jeremy and Brenda.
It has been said that smart people talk about ideas, normal people talk about events, and stupid people talk about people. While this saying is not really true, in the case of INTPs if you are not talking about ideas, then you better be talking about the ideas behind the events, and if you are talking about people you better be discussing their ideas.
INTPs will have sex when sex is made available to them, but will only form relationships with people that can discuss ideas.
@@watteffer Yeah you hit the nail on the head, he tells me those types of things so he's very critical of relationships in general.
@@Hawkido 'all he has seen are the typical females/ - Um I'm female and his INTJ sister so def not typical, so I dunno if that's accurate at all.
But everything else is accurate as he values discussing ideas, he views that as the basis of all relationships. Whereas I'm an INTJ and I don't, I view having fun with others as the basis of any relationship, I actually love being silly and having fun, so I can easily have close bonds with people that aren't your typical intellectuals.
Sounds like you're saying Si Inferiors are more tolerant of negative experiences. But wouldn't Si Inferiors be more sensitive to experiences, since it's their insecurity?
Only at first, but not so in the long term
same with Se inferior, more i get rejected… more i risk rejection.
I would recommend a great movie Secretary 2002 about S&M golden pair Intp male and infj women relationship.
What is fun is that the same actor James Spader plays Entj role in the black list series
So how would an Se hero perceive their sexual experience with an INTP
Boring
@@yeetyeetyeet1967 Isn't it bronze sexual compatibility though?
Here an INFJ who has had her best intimate times with an INTP. Nothing can top that to me.
Well, that guy thinks he's stating facts while he has no surveys or whatsoever to support his claims.
@@unholyman6214 hello sceptical Te user
Makes sense, Se inferior goes together really wel with Si child
@@annethepaladin3235 Ti actually
@@annethepaladin3235 absolutely!
Ah ok I didn't have any fears for being intimate with my ESFJ so I can't relate to the performance anxiety stuff that you say INTJs have. I def had some anxiety when presenting to my class, it was a nightmare once or twice. Nowadays I can tho.
But with ESFJ I literally just had an impulse to have fun with him, he's very polite so it wasn't like he'd say no :p
I'm an INTP with an INFJ wife. When being intimate, I prefer to be on top. But yeah, I don't particularly say anything because my brain like shuts off or something idk.
I also don't have a huge need for sex, and so I don't initiate it often. I'm very attracted to my wife, and our sex is great, but my need for intimacy is satisfied without sex. This is all very hard to describe.
Also and INTP with INFJ partner, and I feel the exact same way as you do
If thats what INFJ and INTP is like I'm not sure I would want that, maybe its an age thing... I always thought INFJs would prefer taking charge in that area anyway
Infj here, when I was in bed with intp, it was great, we would exchange dominant position, he was caring and gentle, I was giving him the time of his life, anyway I agree to your statement and what csj said, but I believe when intps learn a few tricks they can be very satisfiying especially to people like me ;)
I agree on the high compatibility with INFJs, but I think oftentimes the cultural expectation for men to be tops overrides natural inclinations.
Is it ok for infj to be thirsty to give an intp a sexual experiment 🤔 I'm i normal 😂
I must say ive always used sex as a reward for "good social behavior" naturally. I most attracted to my partner when they "perform well" when were out and about. I always thought that was selfish, but honestly sounds like its tailored for Fe my golden pair. - ENTJ
I highly doubt an Fe demon would care about "good social beheavior" in a pragmatic systematic ENTJ's mind. Sounds like something an affiliative ENFJ would say.
@@Nicohakuu1 more about Se and Te. You didnt embarrass me, here is your reward
@@dairdb What exactly about your comment is anything related to Te? If anything you are doing the typical Fi shadow self-deprication by calling yourself selfish. Also why would ENTJ want their partner to be the "one to perform" when Te-Se is literally about their own status and image, about their own performance to their friends, family, lovers etc and their competitiveness.
@@Nicohakuu1 .......... Fi nemisis or Fi inferior?
@@Nicohakuu1 nah, bc it was related to the fi inferior and it was making the entj "look good in front of others"
As an INTP AND a huge pervert, I feel offended to be compared to a fish!
... But I know a couple of other INTP and yes, I'm pretty sure they are boring as fuck in the bedroom. I get it.
You should have clarified you're not a pervert in your fantasy only, but with actual people ... IF that is the case. 😄
2:37... Well that's a meme, a pc game mouse and keyboard game being played with a controller.. lol
Ooof, I thought I was the only one. That was disgusting to watch :D
Between an INFJ female and an INTJ female, which one would an ENTP male prefer? I am asking this question because as an INTJ female, I am "competing" with an INFJ friend over an ENTP male. Because she is doing better socially than I am, she manages to create more chemistry with him, which only reinforces my performance anxiety. Still, he doesn't hesitate to give me a lot of praise behind my back, including in front of her. Face to face he is formal with me, behind my back he seems to adore me in secret. With her he is cool and teasing as with everyone else, in front of me he becomes quite shy, closed and nervous. How to reverse the trend?
He definitely likes you based on what you said. ENTP male here, personally I would prefer a INTJ female because I prefer someone whose more logical and uses their brain more than their emotions, and have a kind heart. But infj's just naturally draw me (including most ENTP's) in... Its just there's something about them...
I would say as an ENTP he's definitely playing you if not both of you. I would suggest show a little warmth towards him be welcoming and open, that would get rid of his shyness, before that show your skills(anything) show that you got brains, be a challenge (show that he needs to win YOU OVER). And give him attention(enough to show that you're interested in him) but DO NOT CHASE HIM. We like a lot of attention, but dont CHASE HIM. If the infj is chasing him, he'll be chasing you. Good luck.
@@JstJaybeingJay Thank you very much for your sincere and honest advice ! ;). I will try to put them into application. Just a detail, but important one: this ENTP male was my university professor. He knows I was the best law student of my promotion (had the best grades in his course too). Because of this authority relationship, I didn't shown my interest for him (to protect my studies and his career). My INFJ female friend followed her emotions: she was his student too but she shown him her interest for him directly. He was flattered by her attention, but he teased her publicly on her interest and put her at a distance. Anyway, we have common research fields (we are not professor/student anymore), so I will try to know him better by this medium and show him my interest. Even if expressing my emotions is hard for me, sometimes I don't even know how (and I will not chase him, it's noted!). And yes INTJ females have a kind heart, they are hypersensitive, that's why actually we can be so guarded: we want to preserve our delicate and warm interior by a carapace. And that's why we struggle in expressing our emotions: they are so intense ! We are like a volcano: cold and aloof outside, warm/explosive and caring inside. Our best sides are kept for our precious few. Like ENTP's :)
@@otonashishiroushuuya4241 oh, he's definitely gaming both of them as an ENTP that's just how it is. Also I'm thinking he's a developed ENTP and he's in law, ENTP's thrive in this field. This types either are the best or the worst depending on how you chose to see them, he could be more like Jeff from the show community. I don't know... I need more information.
@@cilv9625 Keep us posted. And I would suggest not to flirt with other guys around him(cause you don't want to look like the one who chases but the one who's being chased). see to it that's its the other way around(other guys flirting with you, you're the prize remember).
@@otonashishiroushuuya4241 Thank you for your kind and strategic advice ! :) I will try to do my best to follow them. I think he is just naturally charming with everyone, he doesn't seduce them on purpose. I would not show him I'm competing for him, you're right about that.
I can definitely say as an INTP woman that I’ve had to learn. Similar to the INTJ woman you talked about, I am also sadomasochistic. I am actually very active in the bdsm lifestyle and do a lot of non-sexual play, where I am usually the top/sadist. However, when it comes to sex, I normally default to being a bottom, and I definitely am more likely to achieve orgasm when receiving. I am a switch though when it comes to being dominant/submissive. I like a power struggle. But even when I am being the more dominant one, I am mostly making my partner pleasure me, which still makes me the bottom. This was very enlightening
You *need* an extremely capable psychotherapist _with_ extensive knowledge of philosophy. You're sick and don't even know it.
To begin now, you may start with Stefan Molyneux (Google him; not on RUclips). He's a philosopher.
Actually after she figurred Out how to do, i had one of the best Coitus with her. She worked on expressing her Feelings, and also read some books in it.
But in the beginning it was Like Fake ist till you make it. Well guess it takes practice.
my friend took the personality test that’s in your bio about 4 times and keeps on getting different results such as infj, entp, intj, estp, and on the mbti quiz online they got esfj and then esfp, how can they figure out their actual type??
Only pick the top 4 things they know for sure
you said, "the INTP is one of two types that is very content to just lay there..." What's the other type? Is it ENXP?
xNxPs
Infp
ESTJ or istj
Yay! I missed these csjoseph responds type of videos
Think I am an INTP... and I am the total opposite. I initiate and do all the touching, licking, and hmm, hmmm...I actually study how to please, too, and like pleasing. Have never been told Im passive or bad. The opposite, actually??
Maybe Im a doormat INTP? Because I dont get anything like I give sexually?
Or you're an ISTP, wouldn't be the first time I saw that.
@@CSJoseph Have twice come back INTP on the test.
To me, it is illogical to be in a sexual relationship and not be as giving sexually as you can... if you want an overall good relationship.
Just don't make sense to be that stupid... cause oneself the unnecessary issue, that is.
@@timottes334It's not about logic, it's about having "Se" trickster. INTPs simply don't know how to perform sexualy and you're an ISTP (Don't trust test)
(Got it you want to say you're good in sack [doge])
So is this part of the reason why Leslie Winkle in TBBT used to have sex with multiple males in the earlier episodes?...
I have a question.. I have an INFP ex and my current bf is ENTP, I am an ENFJ. At healthy states of both of these relationships, sexually (sorry if TMI) I was definitely satisfied with both. But I am enjoying sex even more with my ENTP boy, even though INFPs are my golden pair. He (my ENTP boy) is hot stuff, he really brings it to another level. What you are saying about ENXJs is very relatable for me and I love the "uncaring" sexually nature of the ENTP. Works. really. well. for me! Why does it feel like I am more sexually compatible with my ENTP bf than with my golden pair? Any idea, Chase?
Watch the most recent vids to come out as they cover this subject
When you say you prefer sex with the ENTP due to his "uncaring" sexual nature, is this because you prefer to focus on providing the sensations/pleasure to him instead of receiving pleasure? Do you prefer to be ignored (uncared for) sexually? How do you climax from being ignored? I ask, because I do not understand Se totally. Do you know which specific videos Chase is referring to in his reply to you?
@@Pheonix1111 I like how selfish they are in a way. They (again maybe TMI) use me. They are using me for pleasure. I give them that experience (Se) They want it (how more desperate they want it, the better) and in that way & I feel of use/desired. For me the idea is hot, I never was really good at climaxing just by things being done to me, the thing that makes me climax is the idea of it all. Dirty talk for example also works well. The verbal stuff. Because words communicate directly with my mind. For me it all in the mind/the idea. I think that's why Chase also said it could be hard for ENXJ's to be sexually satisfied. Because our sexual satisfaction is connected to someone else's experience/satisfaction. It's all connected to others and in that way outside our power. So on our own it might be a bit tough. The most TMI thing I can tell you, is that I think 'free use' is pretty sexy in a relationship. So whenever he wants, he gets. When I am doing something in the house, no problem, he can still get it. Stuff like that. Also Se-child likes to be beautiful. I am more vain than I'd like to admit.. (I am working on it) But that also has something to with giving people 'a good experience'. And it might also be connected to sex. Wanting to be beautiful for your partner. Hope this helped.
@@RuthParodies I greatly appreciate your reply. I read it 10 times to appreciate and understand Se from your perspective. I understand and appreciate Se much more. Your reply is like my winning the lottery to be able to understand Se. Ultimately, would you say you are seeking to be/feel needed/wanted/desired by your partner, so that you are irreplaceable to ensure you will have a perfectly loyal partner? I think Si users do not understand Se as much as an Se user does, so I suggest that if you should ever meet another INFP, it would be best that you explained Se to them. I thank you immensely for your reply!
@@Pheonix1111 Haha glad I could help! It is always nice to know that your page long youtube comment doesn't go unnoticed 😎 I think that might be at the core. Winning that Si-loyalty by hopefully giving them a memorable experience and seeing them enjoy themselves is just hot 💫 The INFP & ENTP were both great at being (TMI) expressive of how they enjoyed it. It was clear to see. But the ENTP was a bit more unapologetic whilst 'taking' and I think that was hot. INFP was a bit more tame. But they were/are both amazing people! I am only talking above about that one of the two brought out more an animalistic feeling, which can feel really good :) one last note: the unapologetic taking is hot because it sends a signal to my mind 'He want me so bad, he enjoys it so much, he just has to have it, wow, I am desired!' and if someone stays respectfully a bit in their lane (INFP), than I just feel like he's being 'dominant' for me, not for himself, because he's uncomfortable in taking. Even though I would love it if he would take it because I don't mind, we're in a relationship and I am his, I think female sexuality in general is a lot about: being desired. But that's outside of the realm of mbti. Wow. Okay, I ll hope you ll enjoy this essay haha.
Well I had a very different experience me (intp) did all the work and enfj was just there waiting for it 😒
Maybe esfj
How can INFP's have better sex with ISFP's, ESTP's and ESFP's?
Yeah, this is definitely NOT a self-serving video. 😂
I love the little theme song you've added to the channel ... that's STYLEZZZ!
PS ...Dirty things comes to my mind when CSJ recommends watching something and I thought its pornhub
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Would you say INTPs are lazier than INFPs?
That's a good question, actually?
I think we are the laziest of the laziest out there, for a reason.
Well at least INTPs are thinking about solutions...
anecdotally, infps are far lazier than intps
I eat extremely well and do intermittent fasting as a lifestyle. I also lift 3 days a week religiously. I'm not bad at sex as I've been told by partners after the one.... I have had a lot of criticism from 1 really bad experience in my 20's I never want to relive again 🤣 and yes i have involved pot and alcohol before, mainly to get more "wild". This is mainly done to gather information (the other persons preferences to stimuli ) which I catalogue mentally and then I just implement those things in heavy rotation while in the act. I will also think and ask myself questions about what I'm doing or how I can do things for the other person, how it may be perceived by the other. This is all done using Ti though....so it's a sham. I have also studied the nerves of the male organ so as to more appropriately provide a better experience. I'm very accommodating lol 😂 but all of this is probably a really big turn off to most people who have a problem with someone creating a formula for pleasure. And yeah the sadomasochism thing is true for some intps...for me at least
Also I was abused as a kid and I think that may have lent to sexual precociousness* and some weird obsession with sex. I probably think about sex for a good chunk of the day...but it's think this is mostly because I'm a pervert and I like contemplating what I might do so there is a "library" of reference positions and maneuvers I can try. I'm messed up. Also I have Ti'd a sure fire solution to make sure it doesn't even matter if I lay there doing nothing because there ain't nothing like vaginal kung fu and making that feel like a hand without moving, son! Boom.
Any intp lady reading this...get yourself some weights and a yoni egg and Kim Anami your lady bits. I also use a kegel Ems unit and I do that at least 2 a day. It also improves orgasm a great deal. If you're diligent enough you can be doing Indonesian p**** tricks within a few months.
Here's a question...is it possible to be fairly split on the J and P spectrum
J and P aren't real dichotomies. Check out csjoseph.life/discover
INTP here with ESFP wife. I definitely take the Se role in our sexual encounters and she is the ultimate Si... though occasionally that switches for a minute... but it rarely switches because apparently I'm too good...
*EDIT* If I was not 100% comfortable with her no doubt I would be a dead fish. I am as comfortable with her as with myself.
Also, only thing she doesn't think I do well is use my words heh, if I think of what to say I am back in my head and back in ded fish territory...
Memorize things she likes and you can train yourself to be saying it even though you won't know you're saying it. Or at least, I don't even notice saying the stuff I say...but it still works. And also sexy sounds.
What is the sexual compatibility between two Se inferior/aspirational functions users?
I wonder if I am a sexual masochist? I like giving but I also like receiving. I like the balance between both dichotomy’s. Does this mean I am balanced? I enjoy neither nor have a preference. I may be over thinking this 🤦♀️ desire is all I need. It either is or it isn’t. Can anyone relate?
Me !!
Just cause we have no idea what we're doing doesnt mean we arent making a lively attempt of it! Dead fish.. or hallucinating blind squid squirrel?? Good day sir. 👾
INTPs dealing with extroverted sensing lol
Here is a drop of wisdom ( for a traditional couple) from a Si user in a relationship with a Si user for the last 12 years ( possibly 2 Si children). The burden lies on the male, logic being , most likely I'll get mine in the end , so I make your experience my main goal, and would you know it, over time we synchronized , plus ( if you are willing to put work in to your relationship) put some time in, to teach your other Si user what you like , and how you like it, that works miracles as well, but then again there is nothing new about what I said, porn messed up the healthy sexual process... And that got wierd... Sorry... 🤔
That is one good thing about Si users: they are highly trainable. 😅 And I say this as an Si user myself. If you are willing to invest the time, give consistent reinforcement, feedback, and proper incentive, you can pretty much get them to do whatever you want (as long as they're capable of it). I've had a similar experience to what you describe with a fellow Si user. Very frustrating initially, but over time was able to (verrry slowwwly) train him to be essentially a service top. And I get a massage as foreplay literally every time now. 😁
@@heatherbryant4197 what about the competition outside bed for comfort or desirability or who to make choices , do you deal with it easily using judging functions ? I am interested in a similar relationship, please answer .
Maybe an Intp man will need a Enfj woman for both people to have a satisfying relationship and sex life.
Random thought: it would be hard or frustrating to be a thinker woman in a patriarchal gender roles society?... a lot become sjw/feminists/lgbtq... same for Feeler men?
The hand at 7:48.............................
My INTP is the most out of box person I’ve ever met. And can cook the most fancy foods. He shows vanilla only on FB.
Christian Grey is widely known to be an ENTJ not an ENTP. But I see where ur coming from, however, there is a slight distinction.
Widely known means it’s more than likely inaccurate. Listen to the wisdom of “K” in Men in Black before you wake up in chains.
@@CSJoseph ok, I did what you said and watched K. Makes sense. However, I’m still not 100% sure why Grey is an ENTP instead of an ENTJ.
I’m super curious.
My bf is an ENTP and I’m an INFJ and we definitely do experiment and we teach each other in the bedroom. We have the best sex life I admit I never had anyone better. I related a lot to Anastasia in fifty shades of grey and I guess I now understand why lol
🤔I talked to an INTP guy on a dating app who I’m starting to believe that maybe he hid his dead fish with a “kink” he wanted to be tied up and pleased.
I mean, an easy fix I found is just getting into the Sub/Dom community even a little. just being a sub immediately sets the expectation and people in the community also like to tell exactly what they want so communication and innate pairing just does all the work for me XD
*INTPs* should just read "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner. Good book.
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My INTP bf did Latino dancing for 13 years and learned to Interact with a partner and also move his body sensually so now his sexual Performance is almost as good as an EJ’s... I should thank his his mom who took him to dancing classes as a child
Maybe you shoudl install your Headset driver, and maybe you should adjust the boost and korrect the audio volumne in the cut programm/render programm later. leads to much higher and more enjoying audio. And good video man i love it.
3:21 I don't get how ENxJs are turned on by this..m
4:05 So Se users are noble?
I mean, there's a great argument for INJs to be SD, over UD if you can catch them early enough.
Child and Inferior Se can have fun together if both are Fe Dom. If giving the best experience means receiving a great experience, or if either can uc transition without substances.
I feel like whenever im thinking of something you make a video about it
Chase can you make a video on how entps should Express gratitude.
He did. Check out the September episode of Confesions of an ENTP
wow ive never reached 1st in a video before
Blue shell
And you never will....
I'm first to post first on your first, first comment
I think for INTPs sex is a gateway to our subconscious. I think I was able to activate my Fe through sex
League of legends with a controller 😅
I am wondering what effect a mental health issue, such as narcissism (NPD), might have on personality types. With NPD the ego does not develop properly. Would that person present as another personality type from another side of the mind? Or would they transition chaotically as their boundaries are basically nonexistent?
NPD is literally subjective and not a valid metric in determining mental health.
Intp male ideal sexual relationship is the rabbit in bambi getting dotted on and spoiled
U sure 50 shades of grey is not a representation of ENTJ- INFP relationship???
Yes
Literally unsurprising to me that Chase favors the C A N E.
Quick, sharp bites that give constant reminders for the next week 🙈
Totally on brand 💯
Se aspirational would be too terrified to disrespect if I had that to face 🙈🙌🤦♀️
🤣🤣🤣 Everyone looks like dead 🐟 to ESFP but this is really fascinating. That's why we got that dose of sapiosexuality to throw everyone off. BTW: Wishing you much abundance and blessings! Thanks to this channel, and the dawning of Aquarian frequencies, I really feel I have begun to have some insight and realizations. Your channel is teaching me to love and empathize and cherish people more....which is really what it's all about.
The question should be do you think INTP’s give a fuck if they’re made fun of?
ENTJ shadow, baby