You mentioned cleaning under different folds for him so I have to add: You DON'T need to pull back his foreskin to clean it!!! The skin is fused to the head and will not/should not detach until puberty or he does it himself. If it gets dirty, push it forward to get it clean, don't pull back, and just use water.
My pediatrician told me to stretch it a little at a time. And I know several men who got adult circumcisions because the skin was too tight and was therefore painful
@@xavthomas American doctors aren't taught how to care for intact babies or adults and will often say this. My first partner was from a country where almost everyone was uncut and it was universally known not to mess with a baby's foreskin. I also had a partner who had phimosis (tight foreskin) which he stretched on his own when the American doctors only offered circumcision as a solution. Hopefully as circumcision falls out of fashion here the doctors will begin to learn proper ways to care for it
Both of my boys are circumcised (my husband was very adamant on that decision) and I’m glad that they are. Diaper changes are not hard and I am confident nothing gets left behind. It’s up each parent to decide but I’ve never heard of a grown man being upset about being circumcised but the same cannot be said about uncircumcised men. I’d hate for them to have to deal with that as adults or as old men when they are potentially in diapers again 😬 something to consider as you make this decision for your baby. It’s a lifelong thing.
I have boy girl twins. Literally same age and have been raised very very similarly. They are SO different. My girl will sit on my lap and observe, look at books, look at people, talk on the phone to grandma, etc for probably 5x longer than her brother on any given day. He's very fascinated with balls, wheels, dropping stuff, bonking his head just to see what happens (lol), he is much clingier to mom, and a lot whinier too when hurt. That is probably just personality. But she literally mothers him. They're twins!! It's hilarious. They just got baby dolls for their birthday and I hand the dolls to them the same amount, but she is much more interested. She has never seen us hold a baby or anything so it's crazy that she already knows. They are 13 months so if differences were from socialization it would not be this obvious yet.
I have a boy and he has been all chaos since day one but it is FUN. He's not like, aggressive angry energy chaos. He's like, "LET'S DO SCIENCE AND PLAY OUTSIDE!" chaos which honestly, top tier.
I found this true with my nephew and niece. I don’t have a son yet only 2 girls but was pleasantly surprised that my nephew was a chill (cautious, sensitive, sweet) boy and then it was surprising to have his sister the opposite!
As a former middle school teacher and now boy-mom, I recommend Boys Will Be Human by Justin Baldoni! Meant to be read by a pre-teen boy but so helpful as a mom to read as a way to be aware of what life is like for boys and how to approach convos that are to come!
Take it from a former daycare teacher (and mom to a boy) - don't waste money on a specialty product, just put a wipe or a burp cloth over him so he doesn't pee in you! Also Idk if it's his sex or just his personality, bc he's my only kid so far, but my son is definitely a trash truck/chaos gremlin type 😅
I recommend the book "Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue" for info on the science of the differences between boys and girls. So interesting to learn about how much of gender differences are likely biological vs. upbringing. :)
My son is rough but I wouldn’t describe him as “aggressive” he is 1. He loves to pay rough, he loves to be thrown around like a rag doll, and oh how he loves him mama❤
My son is 8 months and his energy is so fun!! He’s silly and wants to play all day! He’s rough and sooo lovable! I’m pregnant with my first girl and I’m anxious to see how our interactions are different or the same! Thanks for sharing Shayla!! God bless!
My nephew is 4 months older than my daughter, so hes about 16 months. He is the most calm, loving, silly child ever. My daughter is the most aggressive, loving, silly girl! So cool to see the differences as they get older
I have a boy and he has high energy, just like I had growing up. I’m very chill & reserved now and I can tell he’s pretty cautious about new things (bc of nurture) but still high energy(nature). He gravitated on his own to rocks and trucks/cars. We would go on walks and he was obsessed with collecting rocks on the ground, or walking around the cars to look at the wheels. He likes dogs and cats a lot, and I would show him flowers and pretty things too. I know it’s impossible to avoid all nurture stereotypes but for the most part, his interests are his own doing 😂 he loves babies and stuffed animals too.
I only have a boy and he's such a momma's boy. He loves loves loves nursing and wanted to be held non stop until he could crawl. Now at 16 months, constantly on the move climbing all over anything and loves throwing everything. If you don't have one yet for your girls consider a pikler triangle for his first birthday. A safe place to redirect him when he wants to climb and builds a lot of gross motor skills, judgement, and graceful falling. Also had to pack away the wooden love every balls when the throwing started in earnest but have plenty of softer balls that he can throw in the house.
Yep! Going on 38 weeks with my first and I was wondering if breastfeeding would be weird. Thanks for sharing that! I feel better about the thought of it.
My girl has always been a contact sleeper and still at almost 4 needs to be touching me at night. I just had a boy and he sleeps way better in his own space (sidecar bassinet). Plus he was a heavy beather/grunts so he kept me awake. My daughter was happy to be nursing all the time and nursed for comfort. My son gulps when he nurses and then is done and only wants to nurse when he is hungry.
I am reading ‘raising boys’ by Steve bidolph and I like it so far. My son is 2, he loves being outside, throwing and catching balls, finding sticks and stones, running and jumping, throwing himself on the bed, also playing with his mega blocks, he’s really good at constructing towers! Also trains and a wooden train track. I am expecting my 2nd (a girl) and got my son a baby doll for his birthday, he likes playing with it and giving it a bottle too. He is the most loving and gentle being i know. He wants to cuddle all the little kids and babies he meets. He is so loving toward mummy and daddy too. Having a boy is the best ❤
My son is chill and sweet but also more impulsive than my daughter. He has “boy” interests. My daughter never played by driving cars but my son does all. The. Time. He is obsessed. My daughter plays with dolls like they’re the real children. My son will tend to the baby dolls, and then drops them like they’re hot when he loses interest. He just turned two and he’s starting to do what i remember my brother doing… throwing himself on the floor for fun, like he’s in some action film. We don’t encourage or discourage interests, but gender-specific interests have held true in our house.
I read "Mothering our boys" by Maggie Dent when we found out our second was another boy. She's a fellow Australian, and I found her perspective encouraging and eye opening ☺️ Our first is definitely a Rooster, and I'm thinking our second might be a Lamb... But we are 6 weeks postpartum as well, so still waiting to see his personality develop! PS. boy energy is DEFINITELY a thing, our first is a pocket rocket but also the most affectionate being I know. Enjoy your beautiful son ❤
I have two boys (2&4) and they’re very similar to each other. So sweet and fun but also busy, wild, and loud! They do wrestle and hurt each other sometimes but I wouldn’t call them aggressive. They really only do that with each other. but I think that’s a good thing to learn! Consequences for hurting your brother, what it feels like to be hurt by someone, how to apologize, etc.
I have a long haired sensitive boy who since being a baby has sat astutely with a pile of books and listened to all of them... would go on forever. Never says he's done with stories now at 3.5. He loves princesses AND all vehicles, especially trains. I have a 14mo daughter who only recently decided books are not food. She does sure love a baby doll, though, and gravitates to her brother's vehicles too. She's a firey Leo, he's an emotional pisces. I know there's so much that's innate but there's also so much we'll find and create if we're looking for it.
I have a girl (almost 3) and a boy (13 months). They both LOVE trash day. My daughter had a car and truck phase from about 18 months to 2 years. She still get excited to see big trucks. My son can watch out the window for 10-15 minutes straight watching cars go by and waving.
The typical "boy" interests are so funny. My almost 2 year old asks to go to Home Depot or out to the road to watch cars 😂 and of course we now know our trash collector by name!
YES! I also had this thought "will breast feeding a baby be weird? Because those nipples have been a pleasure only zone for many years now" but when I had my first (daughter) the thought never even crossed my mind. It was just "of course you need to feed....ow... That's uncomfortable"
I didn’t find out for either pregnancy and was so surprised to have a both times! In the end, it’s the greatest gift!! My oldest is 3 and is so funny, energetic and enthusiastic but also wants to be snuggled during movies and bedtime so it makes it even sweeter! “Crafts” look like dumping paint into a bowl and throwing rocks into it to splat so it’s definitely not the colouring with a daughter that I pictured but it’s the best I could ask for!
Yeah...My son has two dolls. He named them his grandparents names, liked to undress them to see what's inside, especially the hidden mechanism with battery. He only plays with them as props for some imaginary play scenarios (like he is santa and they are children he gives toys to, but the play focuses mostly on his job packing presents and riding the sledge, lots of tumble play). He got them around 2,5 years old. Now he is 3,5 and even has a baby sister, yet he never turned to tending to the dolls, caring for them. Hes got a tory stable with horses. Do you think he feeds them with toy carots or brushes with toy brush? No way. He lets them do high jumps over the stable, falling and crashing the whole thing from time to time ;) Even though i play with him the ,,girly ways" :) Best of luck and thanks for the vid :)
Aside from a few things, as a Mom to a boy I definitely think most stereotypical gender differences are socialised and not innate. We start assigning differences by gender from when kids are babies because we associate certain things with gender, but having watched my son grow up there has definitely been a development of more boyish characteristics over time as social pressure kicks in. I think the most important thing is to give your kids as many opportunities as you can and not limit them based on gender, and help them understand that everyone is different and that they should be shown respect regardless.
There are differences in baby boys and girls. It has been studied quite extensively. Baby girls, for instance, looks at faces for longer, as an example.
Neither of my boys peed on us to much 🤔 but we were told of the “wipe belly before you change diaper” trick! That way they get cold before the air hits their private area, and it worked every time we did it!
Yeah my son is 13 months old and he peed during a diaper change once when he was a newborn. I did the wipe trick in the early days but it literally was never and issue for us.
My boy peed on me… it’s a right of passage as a boy mom 😂. The worst timing is when it is the middle of the night and it hits you and the floor😅. Also completely agree about the fullness of the diaper mostly being in the front. That made night changes past the newborn stage absolutely essential or his pjs would get wet.
My 1.5yr old boy gets lit excited about trash day lol - we go outside to watch them get the trash each time. Having a girl in 3months & so excited! Thanks for sharing!
I am a boy mom of 3. Our oldest is my step son, middle is mine & third is our shared baby. My older two boys are very gentle, sweet & overall chill. This THIRD boy tho! He fits a lot of the boy stereotypes but funny thing is I was a lot like him as a child so it really is about temperament than gender.
I had a daughter and then just had a son. when I was pregnant with my daughter I only wanted salad/ veggies and my son ALL sweets, all day long and takeout. lol with my daughter no pain at all until the last two weeks with my hands and fingers / wrists coming out of joint, and with my son back pain, hip pain, and alll the pain the whole pregnancy. with my daughter I had no pp depression and with my son I was in a dark hole mentally and emotionally for the first 2 months. I hear it’s different with every baby. After my son I might be done, those dark stages are scary.
my son is soooo happy and loving but is very active and fearless. I would say for toddler hood focus more and helping him trust his own abilities. Ie. the stairs, climbing etc. Very different than my nieces. I am learning my son is much happier when he is feeling autonomous where as my nieces felt happy with help. so do more sitting back and observing. But every child can be different.
It’s so funny listening to you talk - we didn’t find out what we were having but we were CONVINCED (as was everyone else in our lives) that it was a boy. On delivery when we were told she was a girl, it took a moment to sink in but I was thrilled to pieces. I’m one of four girls, my sisters kids are girls, we are so girl heavy in my family I wouldn’t even know what to do. I make sure I call her buddy and champ etc because I dislike the way girls are told they’re so pretty etc so we nipped that in the bud pretty quick. She’s now two and obsessed with trucks and diggers, couldn’t care less about princesses or mermaids and she is just the freaking best. Sounds like you have it all under control, Shayla 🥰
Never thought I'd be a boy mom and I now have 2. I adore being a boy mom! My boys are high energy but are also so sweet and loving. They just require being more physical to burn off excess energy. I read "Raising Boys" which gave me a lot of insight into what they need at each stage. Would recommend! Also congrats on your sweet boy!
Let me just say, three sisters probably wouldn't be what you had imagined. I have three little sisters (they're all much younger than me, but closer in age to each other). They had this whole triangle thing where they were constantly fighting and using each other to emotionally manipulate each order. Also, my husband was in the middle of three boys, and although they played a lot together, it sounds like the same thing of "three's a crowd".
I have 3 younger sisters and we all loved our childhood, playing together, being silly…we felt like we don’t need anybody else on the world. And right now we have such amazing relationships…we are THE BEST friends (and none of us found a friend who would be “better” than we are for each other)
I have 3 boys and am expecting a girl in Nov so I found this interesting! There’s lots of great & easy little boy haircut tutorials. I cut my boys’ hair about every other month at home. Get a good pair of clippers & scissors!
My son is laid back and super easy going. Has been this way since day 1. He’s my only one right now so I can’t compare him but I love hearing about the differences so I can be prepared when I have more.
I had a tongue tie fix with no anesthesia cause they told me sugar water was for babies and I fell for it. DOnT fall for it. I have an anesthesiologist friend and she told me there's topical anesthesia for infants. So DoNT let them burn your babies tongue without anesthesia cause they would NoT do that to themselves. Angry so angry about trusting stupid dentists. We did see a huge difference in her nursing so I do recommend it if baby is having issues but the latest Canadian guidelines are don't get it UnLESS baby is having severe issues. So there's that. Hugs to all moms specially those who are having issues breastfeeding. It can be brutal. And the most basic thing you wanna do is feed your child... heartbreaking if you can't. Big hugs you'll come off the other end. You will. Hugs
My boy was so calm and go with the flow. Loved the car. Great sleeper. Great eater. My daughter is much more in tune with what’s going on around her and already has lots of opinions! Prob just personality but they are very different humans!
My boy once he got older really loved Truck Tunes music and music videos on Amazon Prime or RUclips. My girls really enjoyed it too for a while. It is fun because then when you are out driving or just watching outside it is something to look for and talk about.
Thank you for this!!! I'm 24 weeks pregnant with babyb#2 and almost over the gender disappointment of expectation vs. reality of having a girl instead of another boy. I appreciate all the info you share on here. I also couldn't breastfeed my preemie boy- i exclusively pumped for 17 minths, so I'm hoping my experience is different this time
I can relate to the personality differences between girls so much. When you said your first girl has boy energy without the aggression, I feel that! My first is the same way. My second girl is more chill in a lot of ways except her emotions are more extreme and they change fast! We’re expecting a 3rd girl so I’m interested to see how her personality is different from my first 2. Also for the changing pad thing, we like the munchkin changing mats, you could even use them as inserts in your Moses basket changing area!
My daughter likes to be in control and lead, she’s high energy and loves physical outlets. She can be aggressive at times if not properly channeled. She HATED her car seat until she was 2. She’s a terrible sleeper. My son (2nd born) is chill go with the flow. He has been a fantastic sleeper since day one. He likes animals and “boy” toys or neutral toys where my daughter loves Barbie’s, arts and crafts, and social playing. We didn’t encourage it that’s just what they have interests in. Our daughter likes girly colors and clothes, and our son likes dressing up as princesses and dancing. Our daughter was also more advanced and he’s more average.
When it comes to haircuts i encourage building familiarity with the different equipment and sounds. For boys it all closer to the head and you also need to be able to pull their ears back and use clippers which have sound and vibration. Practice familiarity with all of those things before his first haircut. Oh and run your fingers through his hair a lot so he is used to you touching his head. Thats ny 10 cents lol
When they are newborns I feel it’s essentially the same but I also only have a boy and another boy on the way😅 it is so fun to watch him step into his “boyness “ totally unprompted. We play with babies and all kinds of toys but dirt, running and any type of cars/trucks are definitely his favorite things 😂so fun to watch them grow into themselves :)
My 19 month old daughter is in daycare with only boys, about 7 of them between 1-4ish years old and oh man does she have boy energy now. She was super active in the womb and hasn't really ever stopped moving since, but the boy energy is real.
Gratz on your baby boy!! As a mom of two girls and two boys I have to say I love being a boy mom just as much as a girl mom. I have always been a Tomboy though so being a boy mom is easier for me. I play superhero, cars, G.I. Joe's, and legos with them. I take them fishing, hunting, camping, hiking, shoot, etc and we play video games together. It is so different with my daughter's tbh... they are so girly and I don't know how I raised such GIRLY GIRLS!!! they love hair, makeup, pink, Minnie Mouse, bright colors, flowers, etc etc etc! They have made me more feminine lolol! However all of my kids love music just like I do and that is magical. My oldest kids love rock music just like I do and I took them to their first concert two years ago and it is something I will never forget. Being a boy mom is just as fulfilling as being a girl mom, after all, they are little pieces of you and your husband and that is beautiful!
My oldest is a boy and im currently pregnant with a girl. He definitely has "boy energy" as you would say but i was very much the same way growing up. I had a lot of anger and aggression problems growing up and i hope i can help any of my kids manage those feelings better thanks to what ive learned over time. As far as relationship goes, my sister and brother are extremely close and always have been (theyre an 18m age gap). Much closer than my sister and i ever were (3.5year gap).
Man...its so true. I'm from a family with way more girls than boys. I never expected to have a boy. I knew he was a boy when pregnant as he moved constantly! I always thought a boy would be easier to clean as less crevices (haha) but it was harder with a boy. (Circumsision isn't a thing in the UK, unless for religious reasons) my son is now 11mths and he is so full on! He never stops. My daughter was so chill. He wants to kick everything. He's obsessed with balls. Feeding him is also really different. He's much rougher and far easier distracted. On off on off on off! He also had a tongue tie, but we never got it cut. We've had no problems. Anyway...I'm shocked at how different it's been.
I have a boy almost 2 years old, and I'm interested to see how my girl will be different. Compared with other babies I have seen grow up the last two years, for the first nine months or so other than diaper changes I don't feel like there's much difference--maybe the speed at which he showed interest in verbal skills (4-month-old girl that I nannied was cooing and face tracking way more than he did at that age despite having the same opportunities). But as he got mobile, I noticed that my friends' girls were a lot more content to sit with a few toys as the moms talked and sipped coffee; meanwhile the boys were making a b-line for the pet bowls, cabinets, etc. The girls would hold out their hands to be cleaned after a meal, but the boys would be trying to escape cleanup and rush to the next thing they can dig their hands into. My boy forced me to be on top of things like cleaning up dog poop in the yard and picking up spills before they became bigger messes. If it's harmless I let him get messy and full of dirt because that's how he likes to play. Thankfully he loves baths too! So these are my biggest tips for boy moms: let them get messy, take them outside often, and invest in a good stain remover. :)
I got a skip hop changing pad for my baby shower and it was AMAZING! So easy to clean, had a strap to hold baby in, a little mobile (I took it off) and literally we used it until like 3 months ago (Charlie is 3 now lol)
I'm a boy mom to two boys and I'm currently pregnant with number three and the fact that this could be a girl slightly excites me and makes me extremely nervous lol I just love my boys. They got a special place in my heart
Would love a video talking about postpartum, what your doing differently this type around, your postpartum body, do you struggle with body image or no?
My little guy just turned 1. If you wipe a wet wipe along the top of the diaper before opening the diaper, it can help him pee first before opening the diaper. 👍🏻 worked great for my little buddy. My boy is very sweet and goofy. He can be “aggressive” or chaotic in how he plays sometimes. Lots of running. Climbing.
As a boy mom (2 boys), this all tracks! My boys are total opposites in temperament and body composition, but this is all true. It's funny, we tried not to do gendered stuff with our oldest and by the time he was 2 I knew the name of every piece of construction equipment. I will say, we still hardly ever cut his hair. We're just whatever about it. We also have bald babies, so we don't need to cut their hair forever.
What surprised me was that I have a 7.5 year age gap and the other night my 8yo and my 8mo were wrestling with each other. Like, okay, this is my life now. Didn't think I'd run into this but the big kid is being gentle and the baby is holding his own. 😂
As a boy mom who cuts her son's hair. There are some good tutorials on RUclips that were helpful, but mistakes are much more obvious with short hair. I often just give the haircut two days and then it starts to look better. If it looks weird after that I try to fix it with an added trim. Hope that helps!
I have a 2.5 year old son and a 1 year old daughter. My daughter definitely had the second child crazy energy but she is also very calm a lot of the time. My son has always been super chill. When he was a baby he was clingy but chill and quiet. Who knows what’s gonna happen when he gets older but the only time he’s super crazy is when he’s feeding off of my daughter or when I’m crazy or my parents are crazy. But normally he’ll just play by himself and be chill
1st (2.5) is a girl waaayyy high energy, never stops! 2nd (6mo) is a boy and so far is soooo much more chill! Quieter cry, more observant, much easier sleeper. Always happy (1st was usually always happy too unless you tried to contain her lol) This to say, i dont think its exclusively tied to gender (I guess we will reevaluate when we hit the toddler phase tho, he just started crawling)
BOY ENERGY IS RIGHT!!! HAHAHA it's not mean/aggressive... It's "I GOTTA DO EVERYTHING, NOW, AND AS FAST AS POSSIBLE!! YYAAAAAAHHHHH!" it's fun. He's hilarious. It's exhausting. And I LOVE who he is. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Congrats! I have 2 boys a 6 week old and 2 year old and they are so different. First son had high needs and a very sensitive temperament still is now. Quiet an emotional one. Awful napper and sleeper in general untill he turned 2 years old. The 6 week old loves his sleep and is super chill all the time. Sleeps all night with 1 feed. And that was from day 1. Already got them napping together after lunch time. 2 hpura of me time! The 6 week old takes a dummy and is chill in the car when moving. First born hated the car even while moving and refused the dummy. We hated car journeys until he was 2years old them he calmed down. I never left the house with first son for the first 3 months as he was such a unhappy baby even for small walks. He cries so much. With my second he is so chill and we started going out after 2 weeks postpartum! I can go out for hours and he is happy as long as he is fed. He will nap anywhere. Super blessed to have a chill baby 2nd time around as I would struggle if I had another high needs baby. 2nd baby smiles all the time and coos and baby talk started around 4 weeks. Very social and I think will be outgoing. My 1st is very introverted and shy ( like I was) My first loves all types of machinery and vehicles, mad absolutely bananas for them. I never got specific toys. Around 9 months we had 1 car book along with animal, dinosaur books and he gravitated to the Car book and always requested that book. In the shops he gravitated to the cars. I never got him specific toys or clothing. He always picked his toys and clothes. And all his clothes has to have some time of vehicle on it. I have nieces who are high energy so stereotypes don't fit always.
Hey Shayla I really enjoy your videos and info. Question; I went to the website for Sakura and it looked like the onbuhimo carrier was only for 15-45 pound babies. Is yours for lighter weight or baby is already that big, if I may ask?
I have a 4 month old boy and an 8 year old boy. My 8 year old is the definition of boy energy!! With him it’s not aggression as much as it is bold fearlessness. He’s just got a bravery that I don’t see in my 6 year old niece. He never stops talking or moving, he talks more than anyone I’ve ever met! He was absolutely OBSESSED with dinosaurs, he could name every single dinosaur by the age of 3 even the most difficult ones. And that obsession started before he could even talk because he was roaring at dinosaurs in his books before he could speak :) he is decisive and outgoing and just intense emotionally. Happiness beams out of him like sunlight but man when he is upset it is literally the worst day of his life. Other boy moms have said the same thing that they didn’t expect boys to be so emotional. They feel things strongly. I also didn’t expect so much sweet affection. He is so loving and kind and affectionate especially toward me. When he was 3 he started calling me his “sweet love” and would come home every day saying “where’s my sweet love!” He’s constantly making me gifts and notes telling me how much he loves me. The other day we were trying to bike home quickly before my lunch break was over and he was shouting out all the things I loved, pretending they were at home waiting for me. He knew everything I like and it showed a lot of thoughtfulness. I really do believe boys and girls are different because of how hormones interact on the brain and body but I think it’s what makes us unique and beautiful! Testosterone gets a bad rap but it makes them fierce and brave and protective. And I find all of their little boy energy so charming. It’s up to us to raise good men!
My 2 year old son is pretty calm and chill. I honestly don't think I'd raise a girl any differently, I call him beautiful and act exactly as I would with a girl (at least I think so now, maybe this would change if I actually had a child). He is into cars and trucks though, I guess that's stereotypical boy-ish..
I just had baby #3 1 & 1/2 weeks ago and he’s my 1st boy after 2 girls (ages 5 & almost 3). I agree with many of the gender differences that you’ve noticed. I was opposite of you on my hopes for baby’s gender though because I’m ready for a hyper boy vs my dramatic girls 😅 We’ll see if my boy ends up being sensitive though!
My boy is like me! But we always say I'm my father's son so who knows! Excited, budy, never sitting still, running exploring. Lots of fun. I think baby #2 is a girl, so, we'll aee!
It's so wild how we are all different! When I learned your third child was a boy, I thought - oh wow, I bet they are over the moon that they are having a boy now, after two girls 😅 And I thought you'd have been slightly disappointed if you'd have another girl 😁 But honestly - any combination is cool! And I think sex of the kids does not determine the relationship they will potentially have. I've definitely seen the closest brothers-sisters, and distant or constantly fighting girls / boys. And you'll certainly enjoy being a boy mom as much as being girl mom ❤
I have 2 boys and they're a lot haha also they definitely have some of that aggressive energy but also like the sweetest loving energy. I think the discipline needs to be a little more stern with that energy to match the intensity haha. At least that's working for us (most of the time). They were both easy babies, especially the first one. And for both when they hit one the roller coaster started
Tongue ties can also cause breathing issues so maybe just consult a pediatric dentist and tell them you’d prefer to not do releases unless they’re totally necessary
The breastfeeding comment had be lol-ing because I thought the EXACT SAME way. Had a girl first. Was like no one has touched these except my husband for sexy time…it’s gonna be weird!! Then I had her and it was fine. Now I’m pregnant with a boy and again I’m thinking oh no it’s gonna be even weirder!! 😂😂
As far as my experiences go, boys with sisters develop a calmer less aggressive personality than boys with brothers. Somehow boys hype up each other so much. But with sisters, you most likely don't have sword fights in the living room. It is like this for my husband who has two sisters. He is more on the chill side. And it's the same with my son the way he plays with my daughter.
My fisrt is a boy, sweet, calm, observant, loving. He loves all things cars and trucks, animals, hotwheels and playing “rough”. I just had a daughter (1week ago) and one main difference I noticed is family and friends reactions. Everybody seems so much more excited about a girl 😅 I guess buying pink clothes is more fun 🤷♀️
Congrats on your boy! I just wanted to tell you that you that you really shouldn't underestimate the relationship your boy can have with his sisters. I'm from a similar sibling make-up, and I was definitely way closer with my younger brother as kids than I was with my older sister. Don't feel like you need to fill in a 'gap' or anything, if you foster his friendship with his sisters just as you do between your girls, it will ebb and flow independent of their gender. Or at least that's my experience.
My little guy is a couple months ahead of yours. He slept in the car and was sooo good for car rides. I loved it. You notice I'm speaking in the past, right? Just came from a 15 hour car ride with him upset the entire time. Or was it only 15 minutes? 😂 Good luck. For real though. Sending prayers your way. Lol ❤
About the breathing- my oldest (girl) was a loud breather. But it was simply because she had my husband’s nose! Flat and wide. Since getting bigger, her breathing is normal but she will most likely snore her entire life. My other 2 (girls) have my nose and never went through that. Pregnant with my 4th and strongly believe it’s a boy. Also curious about personalities because my 3 girls are SOOO different. Wondering how a fourth girl could end up or if boy energy is a thing and how different could that be??
I recently found out im having a boy. My first is a girl and i have 1 sister. I really wanted a sister for my daughter since i have such a good sisterhood relationship with mine. And I think im intimidated since i have no experience with baby boys or kids and it was just not what i was expecting. Obviously over the moon that we're having another baby and im coming to terms with the gender. My parents are ecstatic that he's a boy (my mom is asian and was disappointed she never had one and my dad literally choked over the phone he was so excited) and it kind of makes me sad how much more excited they are when i said we're having a boy compared when i told them about my daughter.
I think how we socialize our kids is such a big part of it. I see my cousin's boys behavior being chalked up to "being boys", but really they're allowed to act how we as girls never would have been allowed, nor how I'm allowing my own son to act
In my culture people pierce girls ears at the hospital, I've had my ears pierced since I was a baby and guess what? I don't like wearing earrings, I wish I had the choice to pierce them, hence the decision to not pierce my daughters' ears, they can't CONSENT! So, baby boy will not be getting procedures he can't consent to either. 'flightless bird' podcast has a great episode on circumcision in the US, highly recommend!
I had my first boy 17 months ago after having my own girl, two step daughters, and 3 girl surrogate babies. We were over the moon. Wanted to try to give him a brother close in age to play with…turns out he gets A sister lol. Had some disappointment because I feel bad he’s going to be surrounded by girls. But I hope it will make him into a kind man who treats women well.
My husband is the third with 2 older sisters and they all have the best relationship! It'll be great! Boy energy didn't hit us until we were like 8 ish months and now he is ALL gas and no breaks. That doesn't mean he isn't chill and sweet and snuggly. But he wants to be on the go. That means usually exploring his environment. He also LOVES TO CLIMB. Which everyone tells us they will either do or not so not sure about that but the kid literally will push things together and flat go up! So watch out for that but I wouldn't change it. Pregnant with #2 and letting this one be a surprise at birth and much like you a little like not sure what we would do with a girl now.. Eek!
My son has always been a great sleeper. I heard that boys have a harder time teething and again I don’t have a reference, but that’s definitely when I saw some shifts sleeping and discomfort so you might notice that when it gets to that point I feel like the relationship is different, and my boy is a boy boy. No one introduced any specific toys, but he loves monster trucks and garbage trucks and tractors, all boy things.
You mentioned cleaning under different folds for him so I have to add: You DON'T need to pull back his foreskin to clean it!!! The skin is fused to the head and will not/should not detach until puberty or he does it himself. If it gets dirty, push it forward to get it clean, don't pull back, and just use water.
My pediatrician told me to stretch it a little at a time. And I know several men who got adult circumcisions because the skin was too tight and was therefore painful
@@xavthomas American doctors aren't taught how to care for intact babies or adults and will often say this. My first partner was from a country where almost everyone was uncut and it was universally known not to mess with a baby's foreskin. I also had a partner who had phimosis (tight foreskin) which he stretched on his own when the American doctors only offered circumcision as a solution. Hopefully as circumcision falls out of fashion here the doctors will begin to learn proper ways to care for it
Yes I was going to say this!
Both of my boys are circumcised (my husband was very adamant on that decision) and I’m glad that they are. Diaper changes are not hard and I am confident nothing gets left behind. It’s up each parent to decide but I’ve never heard of a grown man being upset about being circumcised but the same cannot be said about uncircumcised men. I’d hate for them to have to deal with that as adults or as old men when they are potentially in diapers again 😬 something to consider as you make this decision for your baby. It’s a lifelong thing.
@@RakshaNina This was a Spanish paediatrician
I have boy girl twins. Literally same age and have been raised very very similarly. They are SO different. My girl will sit on my lap and observe, look at books, look at people, talk on the phone to grandma, etc for probably 5x longer than her brother on any given day. He's very fascinated with balls, wheels, dropping stuff, bonking his head just to see what happens (lol), he is much clingier to mom, and a lot whinier too when hurt. That is probably just personality. But she literally mothers him. They're twins!! It's hilarious. They just got baby dolls for their birthday and I hand the dolls to them the same amount, but she is much more interested. She has never seen us hold a baby or anything so it's crazy that she already knows. They are 13 months so if differences were from socialization it would not be this obvious yet.
I have a boy and he has been all chaos since day one but it is FUN. He's not like, aggressive angry energy chaos. He's like, "LET'S DO SCIENCE AND PLAY OUTSIDE!" chaos which honestly, top tier.
My boy is the same 😂
Same
How about ,,I can't be contained within walls or else I turn into Hades" fun? 😅
My son is really cautious and chill. My daughter is high energy and can’t sit still!
It’s definitely more dependent on the personality than the sex!
I found this true with my nephew and niece. I don’t have a son yet only 2 girls but was pleasantly surprised that my nephew was a chill (cautious, sensitive, sweet) boy and then it was surprising to have his sister the opposite!
same! two girls. my first is crazy always active. my second is chill and calm
Same here!
My son was quite active in the womb and is the most chill two year old. He loves running around but overall super chill
As a former middle school teacher and now boy-mom, I recommend Boys Will Be Human by Justin Baldoni! Meant to be read by a pre-teen boy but so helpful as a mom to read as a way to be aware of what life is like for boys and how to approach convos that are to come!
Take it from a former daycare teacher (and mom to a boy) - don't waste money on a specialty product, just put a wipe or a burp cloth over him so he doesn't pee in you! Also Idk if it's his sex or just his personality, bc he's my only kid so far, but my son is definitely a trash truck/chaos gremlin type 😅
I recommend the book "Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue" for info on the science of the differences between boys and girls. So interesting to learn about how much of gender differences are likely biological vs. upbringing. :)
This is my kind of book, thank you!!!
My son is rough but I wouldn’t describe him as “aggressive” he is 1. He loves to pay rough, he loves to be thrown around like a rag doll, and oh how he loves him mama❤
My son is 8 months and his energy is so fun!! He’s silly and wants to play all day! He’s rough and sooo lovable! I’m pregnant with my first girl and I’m anxious to see how our interactions are different or the same! Thanks for sharing Shayla!! God bless!
My nephew is 4 months older than my daughter, so hes about 16 months. He is the most calm, loving, silly child ever. My daughter is the most aggressive, loving, silly girl! So cool to see the differences as they get older
I have a boy and he has high energy, just like I had growing up. I’m very chill & reserved now and I can tell he’s pretty cautious about new things (bc of nurture) but still high energy(nature). He gravitated on his own to rocks and trucks/cars. We would go on walks and he was obsessed with collecting rocks on the ground, or walking around the cars to look at the wheels. He likes dogs and cats a lot, and I would show him flowers and pretty things too. I know it’s impossible to avoid all nurture stereotypes but for the most part, his interests are his own doing 😂 he loves babies and stuffed animals too.
I only have a boy and he's such a momma's boy. He loves loves loves nursing and wanted to be held non stop until he could crawl. Now at 16 months, constantly on the move climbing all over anything and loves throwing everything. If you don't have one yet for your girls consider a pikler triangle for his first birthday. A safe place to redirect him when he wants to climb and builds a lot of gross motor skills, judgement, and graceful falling. Also had to pack away the wooden love every balls when the throwing started in earnest but have plenty of softer balls that he can throw in the house.
Yep! Going on 38 weeks with my first and I was wondering if breastfeeding would be weird. Thanks for sharing that! I feel better about the thought of it.
My 2 year old son is OBSESSED with the trash man. Any big work trucks out fork lifts
My girl has always been a contact sleeper and still at almost 4 needs to be touching me at night. I just had a boy and he sleeps way better in his own space (sidecar bassinet). Plus he was a heavy beather/grunts so he kept me awake.
My daughter was happy to be nursing all the time and nursed for comfort. My son gulps when he nurses and then is done and only wants to nurse when he is hungry.
I am reading ‘raising boys’ by Steve bidolph and I like it so far. My son is 2, he loves being outside, throwing and catching balls, finding sticks and stones, running and jumping, throwing himself on the bed, also playing with his mega blocks, he’s really good at constructing towers! Also trains and a wooden train track. I am expecting my 2nd (a girl) and got my son a baby doll for his birthday, he likes playing with it and giving it a bottle too. He is the most loving and gentle being i know. He wants to cuddle all the little kids and babies he meets. He is so loving toward mummy and daddy too. Having a boy is the best ❤
My son is chill and sweet but also more impulsive than my daughter. He has “boy” interests. My daughter never played by driving cars but my son does all. The. Time. He is obsessed. My daughter plays with dolls like they’re the real children. My son will tend to the baby dolls, and then drops them like they’re hot when he loses interest. He just turned two and he’s starting to do what i remember my brother doing… throwing himself on the floor for fun, like he’s in some action film. We don’t encourage or discourage interests, but gender-specific interests have held true in our house.
Same here!
I read "Mothering our boys" by Maggie Dent when we found out our second was another boy. She's a fellow Australian, and I found her perspective encouraging and eye opening ☺️ Our first is definitely a Rooster, and I'm thinking our second might be a Lamb... But we are 6 weeks postpartum as well, so still waiting to see his personality develop! PS. boy energy is DEFINITELY a thing, our first is a pocket rocket but also the most affectionate being I know. Enjoy your beautiful son ❤
I have two boys (2&4) and they’re very similar to each other. So sweet and fun but also busy, wild, and loud! They do wrestle and hurt each other sometimes but I wouldn’t call them aggressive. They really only do that with each other. but I think that’s a good thing to learn! Consequences for hurting your brother, what it feels like to be hurt by someone, how to apologize, etc.
I have a long haired sensitive boy who since being a baby has sat astutely with a pile of books and listened to all of them... would go on forever. Never says he's done with stories now at 3.5. He loves princesses AND all vehicles, especially trains. I have a 14mo daughter who only recently decided books are not food. She does sure love a baby doll, though, and gravitates to her brother's vehicles too. She's a firey Leo, he's an emotional pisces. I know there's so much that's innate but there's also so much we'll find and create if we're looking for it.
I have a girl (almost 3) and a boy (13 months). They both LOVE trash day. My daughter had a car and truck phase from about 18 months to 2 years. She still get excited to see big trucks. My son can watch out the window for 10-15 minutes straight watching cars go by and waving.
The typical "boy" interests are so funny. My almost 2 year old asks to go to Home Depot or out to the road to watch cars 😂 and of course we now know our trash collector by name!
It's so universal!
YES! I also had this thought "will breast feeding a baby be weird? Because those nipples have been a pleasure only zone for many years now" but when I had my first (daughter) the thought never even crossed my mind. It was just "of course you need to feed....ow... That's uncomfortable"
I didn’t find out for either pregnancy and was so surprised to have a both times! In the end, it’s the greatest gift!! My oldest is 3 and is so funny, energetic and enthusiastic but also wants to be snuggled during movies and bedtime so it makes it even sweeter! “Crafts” look like dumping paint into a bowl and throwing rocks into it to splat so it’s definitely not the colouring with a daughter that I pictured but it’s the best I could ask for!
Yeah...My son has two dolls. He named them his grandparents names, liked to undress them to see what's inside, especially the hidden mechanism with battery. He only plays with them as props for some imaginary play scenarios (like he is santa and they are children he gives toys to, but the play focuses mostly on his job packing presents and riding the sledge, lots of tumble play). He got them around 2,5 years old. Now he is 3,5 and even has a baby sister, yet he never turned to tending to the dolls, caring for them. Hes got a tory stable with horses. Do you think he feeds them with toy carots or brushes with toy brush? No way. He lets them do high jumps over the stable, falling and crashing the whole thing from time to time ;) Even though i play with him the ,,girly ways" :) Best of luck and thanks for the vid :)
Aside from a few things, as a Mom to a boy I definitely think most stereotypical gender differences are socialised and not innate. We start assigning differences by gender from when kids are babies because we associate certain things with gender, but having watched my son grow up there has definitely been a development of more boyish characteristics over time as social pressure kicks in. I think the most important thing is to give your kids as many opportunities as you can and not limit them based on gender, and help them understand that everyone is different and that they should be shown respect regardless.
There are differences in baby boys and girls. It has been studied quite extensively. Baby girls, for instance, looks at faces for longer, as an example.
Neither of my boys peed on us to much 🤔 but we were told of the “wipe belly before you change diaper” trick!
That way they get cold before the air hits their private area, and it worked every time we did it!
Yeah my son is 13 months old and he peed during a diaper change once when he was a newborn. I did the wipe trick in the early days but it literally was never and issue for us.
My boy peed on me… it’s a right of passage as a boy mom 😂. The worst timing is when it is the middle of the night and it hits you and the floor😅. Also completely agree about the fullness of the diaper mostly being in the front. That made night changes past the newborn stage absolutely essential or his pjs would get wet.
My 1.5yr old boy gets lit excited about trash day lol - we go outside to watch them get the trash each time. Having a girl in 3months & so excited! Thanks for sharing!
I am a boy mom of 3. Our oldest is my step son, middle is mine & third is our shared baby. My older two boys are very gentle, sweet & overall chill. This THIRD boy tho! He fits a lot of the boy stereotypes but funny thing is I was a lot like him as a child so it really is about temperament than gender.
I love your videos. Thank you for sharing your experience so freely.
I had a daughter and then just had a son. when I was pregnant with my daughter I only wanted salad/ veggies and my son ALL sweets, all day long and takeout. lol with my daughter no pain at all until the last two weeks with my hands and fingers
/ wrists coming out of joint, and with my son back pain, hip pain, and alll the pain the whole pregnancy. with my daughter I had no pp depression and with my son I was in a dark hole mentally and emotionally for the first 2 months. I hear it’s different with every baby. After my son I might be done, those dark stages are scary.
my son is soooo happy and loving but is very active and fearless. I would say for toddler hood focus more and helping him trust his own abilities. Ie. the stairs, climbing etc. Very different than my nieces. I am learning my son is much happier when he is feeling autonomous where as my nieces felt happy with help. so do more sitting back and observing. But every child can be different.
It’s so funny listening to you talk - we didn’t find out what we were having but we were CONVINCED (as was everyone else in our lives) that it was a boy. On delivery when we were told she was a girl, it took a moment to sink in but I was thrilled to pieces. I’m one of four girls, my sisters kids are girls, we are so girl heavy in my family I wouldn’t even know what to do. I make sure I call her buddy and champ etc because I dislike the way girls are told they’re so pretty etc so we nipped that in the bud pretty quick. She’s now two and obsessed with trucks and diggers, couldn’t care less about princesses or mermaids and she is just the freaking best. Sounds like you have it all under control, Shayla 🥰
Never thought I'd be a boy mom and I now have 2. I adore being a boy mom! My boys are high energy but are also so sweet and loving. They just require being more physical to burn off excess energy. I read "Raising Boys" which gave me a lot of insight into what they need at each stage. Would recommend! Also congrats on your sweet boy!
Thank you!!!
Thank you for your honesty while also not just saying he’s different only bc he is a boy but then describing things boys and girls do 😂
Let me just say, three sisters probably wouldn't be what you had imagined. I have three little sisters (they're all much younger than me, but closer in age to each other). They had this whole triangle thing where they were constantly fighting and using each other to emotionally manipulate each order. Also, my husband was in the middle of three boys, and although they played a lot together, it sounds like the same thing of "three's a crowd".
I have 3 younger sisters and we all loved our childhood, playing together, being silly…we felt like we don’t need anybody else on the world. And right now we have such amazing relationships…we are THE BEST friends (and none of us found a friend who would be “better” than we are for each other)
@@katicaj11that is so sweet! Sounds very special!
I have 3 boys and am expecting a girl in Nov so I found this interesting! There’s lots of great & easy little boy haircut tutorials. I cut my boys’ hair about every other month at home. Get a good pair of clippers & scissors!
Both my boys were so chill as babies. My eldest became much less chill when he turned 3. Hoping his calm nature wil come back at some point.
My son is laid back and super easy going. Has been this way since day 1. He’s my only one right now so I can’t compare him but I love hearing about the differences so I can be prepared when I have more.
So happy you said sex and not gender ❤
I had a tongue tie fix with no anesthesia cause they told me sugar water was for babies and I fell for it. DOnT fall for it. I have an anesthesiologist friend and she told me there's topical anesthesia for infants. So DoNT let them burn your babies tongue without anesthesia cause they would NoT do that to themselves. Angry so angry about trusting stupid dentists. We did see a huge difference in her nursing so I do recommend it if baby is having issues but the latest Canadian guidelines are don't get it UnLESS baby is having severe issues. So there's that. Hugs to all moms specially those who are having issues breastfeeding. It can be brutal. And the most basic thing you wanna do is feed your child... heartbreaking if you can't. Big hugs you'll come off the other end. You will. Hugs
My boy was so calm and go with the flow. Loved the car. Great sleeper. Great eater. My daughter is much more in tune with what’s going on around her and already has lots of opinions! Prob just personality but they are very different humans!
I started reading the book "Boy Mom" by Ruth Whippman and its SO GOOD! I think you would like it!
Just added it thank you!!
So great to have your videos back ❤
My boy once he got older really loved Truck Tunes music and music videos on Amazon Prime or RUclips. My girls really enjoyed it too for a while. It is fun because then when you are out driving or just watching outside it is something to look for and talk about.
Thank you for this!!! I'm 24 weeks pregnant with babyb#2 and almost over the gender disappointment of expectation vs. reality of having a girl instead of another boy. I appreciate all the info you share on here. I also couldn't breastfeed my preemie boy- i exclusively pumped for 17 minths, so I'm hoping my experience is different this time
Highly recommend the book 'wild things: the art of raising boys' by Stephen James and David Thomas
I can relate to the personality differences between girls so much. When you said your first girl has boy energy without the aggression, I feel that! My first is the same way. My second girl is more chill in a lot of ways except her emotions are more extreme and they change fast! We’re expecting a 3rd girl so I’m interested to see how her personality is different from my first 2. Also for the changing pad thing, we like the munchkin changing mats, you could even use them as inserts in your Moses basket changing area!
My daughter likes to be in control and lead, she’s high energy and loves physical outlets. She can be aggressive at times if not properly channeled. She HATED her car seat until she was 2. She’s a terrible sleeper. My son (2nd born) is chill go with the flow. He has been a fantastic sleeper since day one. He likes animals and “boy” toys or neutral toys where my daughter loves Barbie’s, arts and crafts, and social playing. We didn’t encourage it that’s just what they have interests in. Our daughter likes girly colors and clothes, and our son likes dressing up as princesses and dancing. Our daughter was also more advanced and he’s more average.
As a former baby boy, I have to agree.
When it comes to haircuts i encourage building familiarity with the different equipment and sounds. For boys it all closer to the head and you also need to be able to pull their ears back and use clippers which have sound and vibration. Practice familiarity with all of those things before his first haircut. Oh and run your fingers through his hair a lot so he is used to you touching his head. Thats ny 10 cents lol
Where is the podcast on sexual abuse prevention please?! Thank you ❤
Heyshayla.com/podcast episode 71
When they are newborns I feel it’s essentially the same but I also only have a boy and another boy on the way😅 it is so fun to watch him step into his “boyness “ totally unprompted. We play with babies and all kinds of toys but dirt, running and any type of cars/trucks are definitely his favorite things 😂so fun to watch them grow into themselves :)
My 19 month old daughter is in daycare with only boys, about 7 of them between 1-4ish years old and oh man does she have boy energy now. She was super active in the womb and hasn't really ever stopped moving since, but the boy energy is real.
Gratz on your baby boy!! As a mom of two girls and two boys I have to say I love being a boy mom just as much as a girl mom. I have always been a Tomboy though so being a boy mom is easier for me. I play superhero, cars, G.I. Joe's, and legos with them. I take them fishing, hunting, camping, hiking, shoot, etc and we play video games together. It is so different with my daughter's tbh... they are so girly and I don't know how I raised such GIRLY GIRLS!!! they love hair, makeup, pink, Minnie Mouse, bright colors, flowers, etc etc etc! They have made me more feminine lolol! However all of my kids love music just like I do and that is magical. My oldest kids love rock music just like I do and I took them to their first concert two years ago and it is something I will never forget. Being a boy mom is just as fulfilling as being a girl mom, after all, they are little pieces of you and your husband and that is beautiful!
My oldest is a boy and im currently pregnant with a girl. He definitely has "boy energy" as you would say but i was very much the same way growing up. I had a lot of anger and aggression problems growing up and i hope i can help any of my kids manage those feelings better thanks to what ive learned over time. As far as relationship goes, my sister and brother are extremely close and always have been (theyre an 18m age gap). Much closer than my sister and i ever were (3.5year gap).
Man...its so true. I'm from a family with way more girls than boys. I never expected to have a boy. I knew he was a boy when pregnant as he moved constantly! I always thought a boy would be easier to clean as less crevices (haha) but it was harder with a boy. (Circumsision isn't a thing in the UK, unless for religious reasons) my son is now 11mths and he is so full on! He never stops. My daughter was so chill. He wants to kick everything. He's obsessed with balls. Feeding him is also really different. He's much rougher and far easier distracted. On off on off on off! He also had a tongue tie, but we never got it cut. We've had no problems. Anyway...I'm shocked at how different it's been.
My girls LOVE trash day and big trucks. My oldest will cry if the garbage truck went by and she didn’t see it 😂
I have a boy almost 2 years old, and I'm interested to see how my girl will be different. Compared with other babies I have seen grow up the last two years, for the first nine months or so other than diaper changes I don't feel like there's much difference--maybe the speed at which he showed interest in verbal skills (4-month-old girl that I nannied was cooing and face tracking way more than he did at that age despite having the same opportunities). But as he got mobile, I noticed that my friends' girls were a lot more content to sit with a few toys as the moms talked and sipped coffee; meanwhile the boys were making a b-line for the pet bowls, cabinets, etc. The girls would hold out their hands to be cleaned after a meal, but the boys would be trying to escape cleanup and rush to the next thing they can dig their hands into. My boy forced me to be on top of things like cleaning up dog poop in the yard and picking up spills before they became bigger messes. If it's harmless I let him get messy and full of dirt because that's how he likes to play. Thankfully he loves baths too! So these are my biggest tips for boy moms: let them get messy, take them outside often, and invest in a good stain remover. :)
I got a skip hop changing pad for my baby shower and it was AMAZING! So easy to clean, had a strap to hold baby in, a little mobile (I took it off) and literally we used it until like 3 months ago (Charlie is 3 now lol)
I'm a boy mom to two boys and I'm currently pregnant with number three and the fact that this could be a girl slightly excites me and makes me extremely nervous lol I just love my boys. They got a special place in my heart
Would love a video talking about postpartum, what your doing differently this type around, your postpartum body, do you struggle with body image or no?
I absolutely do!! This is a great topic
My little guy just turned 1.
If you wipe a wet wipe along the top of the diaper before opening the diaper, it can help him pee first before opening the diaper. 👍🏻 worked great for my little buddy. My boy is very sweet and goofy. He can be “aggressive” or chaotic in how he plays sometimes. Lots of running. Climbing.
As a boy mom (2 boys), this all tracks! My boys are total opposites in temperament and body composition, but this is all true. It's funny, we tried not to do gendered stuff with our oldest and by the time he was 2 I knew the name of every piece of construction equipment.
I will say, we still hardly ever cut his hair. We're just whatever about it. We also have bald babies, so we don't need to cut their hair forever.
What surprised me was that I have a 7.5 year age gap and the other night my 8yo and my 8mo were wrestling with each other. Like, okay, this is my life now. Didn't think I'd run into this but the big kid is being gentle and the baby is holding his own. 😂
As a boy mom who cuts her son's hair. There are some good tutorials on RUclips that were helpful, but mistakes are much more obvious with short hair. I often just give the haircut two days and then it starts to look better. If it looks weird after that I try to fix it with an added trim. Hope that helps!
I have a 2.5 year old son and a 1 year old daughter. My daughter definitely had the second child crazy energy but she is also very calm a lot of the time. My son has always been super chill. When he was a baby he was clingy but chill and quiet. Who knows what’s gonna happen when he gets older but the only time he’s super crazy is when he’s feeding off of my daughter or when I’m crazy or my parents are crazy. But normally he’ll just play by himself and be chill
1st (2.5) is a girl waaayyy high energy, never stops!
2nd (6mo) is a boy and so far is soooo much more chill! Quieter cry, more observant, much easier sleeper. Always happy (1st was usually always happy too unless you tried to contain her lol)
This to say, i dont think its exclusively tied to gender (I guess we will reevaluate when we hit the toddler phase tho, he just started crawling)
BOY ENERGY IS RIGHT!!! HAHAHA it's not mean/aggressive... It's "I GOTTA DO EVERYTHING, NOW, AND AS FAST AS POSSIBLE!! YYAAAAAAHHHHH!" it's fun. He's hilarious. It's exhausting. And I LOVE who he is. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
For the changing, we just ended up putting a puppy pad on the couch (once the explosive poop phase was over)
Congrats! I have 2 boys a 6 week old and 2 year old and they are so different. First son had high needs and a very sensitive temperament still is now. Quiet an emotional one. Awful napper and sleeper in general untill he turned 2 years old. The 6 week old loves his sleep and is super chill all the time. Sleeps all night with 1 feed. And that was from day 1. Already got them napping together after lunch time. 2 hpura of me time!
The 6 week old takes a dummy and is chill in the car when moving. First born hated the car even while moving and refused the dummy. We hated car journeys until he was 2years old them he calmed down. I never left the house with first son for the first 3 months as he was such a unhappy baby even for small walks. He cries so much. With my second he is so chill and we started going out after 2 weeks postpartum! I can go out for hours and he is happy as long as he is fed. He will nap anywhere.
Super blessed to have a chill baby 2nd time around as I would struggle if I had another high needs baby. 2nd baby smiles all the time and coos and baby talk started around 4 weeks. Very social and I think will be outgoing. My 1st is very introverted and shy ( like I was)
My first loves all types of machinery and vehicles, mad absolutely bananas for them. I never got specific toys. Around 9 months we had 1 car book along with animal, dinosaur books and he gravitated to the Car book and always requested that book. In the shops he gravitated to the cars. I never got him specific toys or clothing. He always picked his toys and clothes. And all his clothes has to have some time of vehicle on it.
I have nieces who are high energy so stereotypes don't fit always.
Hey Shayla I really enjoy your videos and info. Question; I went to the website for Sakura and it looked like the onbuhimo carrier was only for 15-45 pound babies. Is yours for lighter weight or baby is already that big, if I may ask?
He’s almost but I didn’t realize he was too small. I just made sure his nose was open and his head didn’t get too low and he was getting fresh air
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I have a 4 month old boy and an 8 year old boy. My 8 year old is the definition of boy energy!! With him it’s not aggression as much as it is bold fearlessness. He’s just got a bravery that I don’t see in my 6 year old niece. He never stops talking or moving, he talks more than anyone I’ve ever met! He was absolutely OBSESSED with dinosaurs, he could name every single dinosaur by the age of 3 even the most difficult ones. And that obsession started before he could even talk because he was roaring at dinosaurs in his books before he could speak :) he is decisive and outgoing and just intense emotionally. Happiness beams out of him like sunlight but man when he is upset it is literally the worst day of his life. Other boy moms have said the same thing that they didn’t expect boys to be so emotional. They feel things strongly. I also didn’t expect so much sweet affection. He is so loving and kind and affectionate especially toward me. When he was 3 he started calling me his “sweet love” and would come home every day saying “where’s my sweet love!” He’s constantly making me gifts and notes telling me how much he loves me. The other day we were trying to bike home quickly before my lunch break was over and he was shouting out all the things I loved, pretending they were at home waiting for me. He knew everything I like and it showed a lot of thoughtfulness. I really do believe boys and girls are different because of how hormones interact on the brain and body but I think it’s what makes us unique and beautiful! Testosterone gets a bad rap but it makes them fierce and brave and protective. And I find all of their little boy energy so charming. It’s up to us to raise good men!
My 2 year old son is pretty calm and chill. I honestly don't think I'd raise a girl any differently, I call him beautiful and act exactly as I would with a girl (at least I think so now, maybe this would change if I actually had a child). He is into cars and trucks though, I guess that's stereotypical boy-ish..
I just had baby #3 1 & 1/2 weeks ago and he’s my 1st boy after 2 girls (ages 5 & almost 3). I agree with many of the gender differences that you’ve noticed. I was opposite of you on my hopes for baby’s gender though because I’m ready for a hyper boy vs my dramatic girls 😅 We’ll see if my boy ends up being sensitive though!
It’s so funny you say that about the diaper, I have two boys and only the front of the diaper gets super full! Lol never thought about it before
I had a girl then a boy, I didn’t tell much difference till he was like 14 months.
It’s so interesting because my boys I tried very hard not to force boy things on them but they still just gravitated towards cars and trucks and bugs
I was in daycare for over a year in the 1 year old room . Boys had more energy and girls sat down on your lap more .
My boy is like me! But we always say I'm my father's son so who knows! Excited, budy, never sitting still, running exploring. Lots of fun. I think baby #2 is a girl, so, we'll aee!
It's so wild how we are all different! When I learned your third child was a boy, I thought - oh wow, I bet they are over the moon that they are having a boy now, after two girls 😅 And I thought you'd have been slightly disappointed if you'd have another girl 😁 But honestly - any combination is cool! And I think sex of the kids does not determine the relationship they will potentially have. I've definitely seen the closest brothers-sisters, and distant or constantly fighting girls / boys. And you'll certainly enjoy being a boy mom as much as being girl mom ❤
I have 2 boys and they're a lot haha also they definitely have some of that aggressive energy but also like the sweetest loving energy. I think the discipline needs to be a little more stern with that energy to match the intensity haha. At least that's working for us (most of the time). They were both easy babies, especially the first one. And for both when they hit one the roller coaster started
Tongue ties can also cause breathing issues so maybe just consult a pediatric dentist and tell them you’d prefer to not do releases unless they’re totally necessary
The breastfeeding comment had be lol-ing because I thought the EXACT SAME way. Had a girl first. Was like no one has touched these except my husband for sexy time…it’s gonna be weird!! Then I had her and it was fine. Now I’m pregnant with a boy and again I’m thinking oh no it’s gonna be even weirder!! 😂😂
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As far as my experiences go, boys with sisters develop a calmer less aggressive personality than boys with brothers. Somehow boys hype up each other so much. But with sisters, you most likely don't have sword fights in the living room. It is like this for my husband who has two sisters. He is more on the chill side. And it's the same with my son the way he plays with my daughter.
My fisrt is a boy, sweet, calm, observant, loving. He loves all things cars and trucks, animals, hotwheels and playing “rough”. I just had a daughter (1week ago) and one main difference I noticed is family and friends reactions. Everybody seems so much more excited about a girl 😅 I guess buying pink clothes is more fun 🤷♀️
My daughter loves trains and trash trucks so I’m prepped for that part if our boy does too.
Do you use elimination communication with your babies still? I would be curious to hear the differences there.
Haven’t started yet
Do lmnt have caffeine in them? We can’t have caffeine so I’m looking for drinks without
My girl peed on me soooooo much😅😅😅 I was NOT expecting that.
Congrats on your boy! I just wanted to tell you that you that you really shouldn't underestimate the relationship your boy can have with his sisters. I'm from a similar sibling make-up, and I was definitely way closer with my younger brother as kids than I was with my older sister. Don't feel like you need to fill in a 'gap' or anything, if you foster his friendship with his sisters just as you do between your girls, it will ebb and flow independent of their gender. Or at least that's my experience.
Love this thank you!!
My little guy is a couple months ahead of yours. He slept in the car and was sooo good for car rides. I loved it. You notice I'm speaking in the past, right? Just came from a 15 hour car ride with him upset the entire time. Or was it only 15 minutes? 😂 Good luck. For real though. Sending prayers your way. Lol ❤
About the breathing- my oldest (girl) was a loud breather. But it was simply because she had my husband’s nose! Flat and wide. Since getting bigger, her breathing is normal but she will most likely snore her entire life. My other 2 (girls) have my nose and never went through that.
Pregnant with my 4th and strongly believe it’s a boy. Also curious about personalities because my 3 girls are SOOO different. Wondering how a fourth girl could end up or if boy energy is a thing and how different could that be??
I recently found out im having a boy. My first is a girl and i have 1 sister. I really wanted a sister for my daughter since i have such a good sisterhood relationship with mine. And I think im intimidated since i have no experience with baby boys or kids and it was just not what i was expecting. Obviously over the moon that we're having another baby and im coming to terms with the gender. My parents are ecstatic that he's a boy (my mom is asian and was disappointed she never had one and my dad literally choked over the phone he was so excited) and it kind of makes me sad how much more excited they are when i said we're having a boy compared when i told them about my daughter.
I knew my 3rd was a girl bc she was such a princess in the womb lol way different.
I think how we socialize our kids is such a big part of it. I see my cousin's boys behavior being chalked up to "being boys", but really they're allowed to act how we as girls never would have been allowed, nor how I'm allowing my own son to act
In my culture people pierce girls ears at the hospital, I've had my ears pierced since I was a baby and guess what? I don't like wearing earrings, I wish I had the choice to pierce them, hence the decision to not pierce my daughters' ears, they can't CONSENT! So, baby boy will not be getting procedures he can't consent to either. 'flightless bird' podcast has a great episode on circumcision in the US, highly recommend!
Also recommended ', parenting beyond pink and blue' (it's a book)
I had my first boy 17 months ago after having my own girl, two step daughters, and 3 girl surrogate babies. We were over the moon. Wanted to try to give him a brother close in age to play with…turns out he gets A sister lol. Had some disappointment because I feel bad he’s going to be surrounded by girls. But I hope it will make him into a kind man who treats women well.
My husband is the third with 2 older sisters and they all have the best relationship! It'll be great! Boy energy didn't hit us until we were like 8 ish months and now he is ALL gas and no breaks. That doesn't mean he isn't chill and sweet and snuggly. But he wants to be on the go. That means usually exploring his environment. He also LOVES TO CLIMB. Which everyone tells us they will either do or not so not sure about that but the kid literally will push things together and flat go up! So watch out for that but I wouldn't change it. Pregnant with #2 and letting this one be a surprise at birth and much like you a little like not sure what we would do with a girl now.. Eek!
My son has always been a great sleeper. I heard that boys have a harder time teething and again I don’t have a reference, but that’s definitely when I saw some shifts sleeping and discomfort so you might notice that when it gets to that point I feel like the relationship is different, and my boy is a boy boy. No one introduced any specific toys, but he loves monster trucks and garbage trucks and tractors, all boy things.