I quit complaining about my marital issues with my girlfriends when I heard one of them speaking about my husband the way I was... it was so hurtful. I heard myself for the first time and hadn’t truly realized the damage I was doing to our relationship and his friendships with them too. Thankful for this video, y’all are great. God bless you.
I keep hearing from trusted teachers, that a story like yours is really common in female church groups. Do you think it really is? I’m just now starting to get involved in women groups, and I’m kind of terrified hearing this stuff. I’m so glad that you saw the truth of it, and chose to stop. But how do I prepare to speak truth, if I see women acting that way? What would you have wanted someone to say to you, to graciously point it out?
Sometimes we need 1 friend who knows how to keep information. Someone totally sold out to you who will never ever repeat stuff but who listens and prays for you. I have 1 or 2 such friends. They never talk about others and I have found that they can guide me when I am wrong and they love me to bits..
Women's ministry has turned into entertainment and social club. It absolutely is not about the word of God, or even our sanctification. It's basically a life coaching club, it is NOT about dying to ourselves. I can't stand the state of women's ministry in America. Bravo 👏 yes! We need a mission as women, what is the mission? Holy smokes I love this lady. I've got to find her book!
“A wife and a mother” of wisdom and substance. My God it’s refreshing to see this in 2021-saved or lost. Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb.
This is so good! Thank you both for your time and obedience and faith to the Lord. It has helped me more than you know. Praise be to the God of our salvation!
My previous female friend group would be red in the face from anger if they watched this. I could no longer be friends with them as they were following hard after American Evangelical Feminism. Even between my mom and I there's a stark theological difference between how we view women in leadership. It's so encouraging to hear a woman who holds the same beliefs that I do, while at the same time challenging me on accountability.
It’s super interesting to me, when I hear about this sort of gossiping women group dynamic. I was raised by a single dad, I was a tom boy, then I was in the military. So now as an adult wife and mother, I’m just now starting to experience the “female group” sort of atmosphere. And holy hanna is it different from guys!!!
Are you kidding ? Gossip is the worst it poisons whole communities 🕵🏻♂️ I usually silence him / her by the old school : Shut up , read a book and do research 😂🤠when I rant and gossip I ask God for forgiveness: I usually rant about weak, gender men with no spine 😂
My wife is super feminine but cant relate to the womens groups at church because it all about themselves and not about Christ or His Word. Its a worldly perspective with a "christain candy coating".
@@kenroc546 If that's the case, you might want to find a biblical church... The women should be reflective of the church as a whole. I'm a former police officer and soldier, and never got along with large groups of women. However, when we found our new, very biblical church, I found a connection to the women because they are actually Godly women, who have loved me and taught me so much.
@@threearrows2248 thanks for your advice and it does make sense. The womens group she is now is biblical and God glorifying. Still the same church. We gotta pray for our pastors and elders and leaders because false doctrine creeps in unaware.
The issue is that there are many women who due to feminism are super-sensitive to any perceived criticisms and can't stand hearing any teaching about male and female roles
I agree that feminism is a cancer to women, but I would also add that feminism is cancer to men. Both men and women have abandoned their God given and defined roles. They have also abandoned both emotional and spiritual maturity in favor of being eternal adolescents ruled by their emotions.
The church I grew up in had a very good women's ministry. They catered to funeral dinners, did various things to raise money for things needed for the church, etc. They rarely did things that wasn't doing some type of help. They would do dinners and invite the husbands! The only thing I think could have been better is that the older women should have been teaching the younger women how to love their husbands and to work at home, just like the Bible says.
@@aliciamcdonald7105 Dear sister, I understand your confusion. Where does the New Testament say that the Sabbath must be kept? This is what the New Testament actually says on such subjects: "Now accept the one who is weak in faith, but not for the purpose of passing judgment on his opinions. One person has faith that he may eat all things, but he who is weak eats vegetables only. The one who eats is not to regard with contempt the one who does not eat, and the one who does not eat is not to judge the one who eats, for God has accepted him. Who are you to judge the servant of another? To his own master he stands or falls; and he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand. One person regards one day above another, another regards every day alike. Each person must be fully convinced in his own mind. He who observes the day, observes it for the Lord, and he who eats, does so for the Lord, for he gives thanks to God; and he who eats not, for the Lord he does not eat, and gives thanks to God. For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s. For to this end Christ died and lived again, that He might be Lord both of the dead and of the living. But you, why do you judge your brother? Or you again, why do you regard your brother with contempt? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God." Romans 14:1-10 It also says this: "Therefore no one is to act as your judge in regard to food or drink or in respect to a festival or a new moon or a Sabbath day- things which are a mere shadow of what is to come; but the substance belongs to Christ." Colossians 2:16-17 Earlier in Colossians 2, Paul says that because we are in Christ, we are circumcised with a circumcision made without hands. If you believe we must submit to all of the Sabbath commandments, then you must also require circumcision. And if you require circumcision, you have a false gospel and a misunderstanding in what the New Covenant is all about. The Law is nothing to us today except for a tutor to lead us to Christ so we can be justified by faith. And when we have faith, we do not need a tutor any longer (Galatians 3:24-25). Press on and continue to learn the truth of Christ!
@@jaredtoney3417 I am not confused but you seem to be. You seem to think that if something is not said as a command in the New Testament then it should not be observed. If that is the case then are you suggesting to me that I should not follow the command 'Thou shall not take the name of the Lord Thy God in vain? I mean I don't see that ANYWHERE in the New Testament. A matter fact, outside of Exodus and Deuteronomy where the Ten Commandments can be found, this particular commandment as far as I know, is not recorder ANYWHERE ELSE. So, tell me if I can throw that one away. Btw, Jesus said the sabbath was made for MAN not for the Jew, not for church-goers, not just for one single sect or people but MANKIND.
@@graftme3168 My point is that I am SURE that there are many things that the 'bible says' that you do not adhere to. Which means that you have some sort of rationale (at least I think so) as to what you accept and what you don't.
I am a sahm and I struggle to keep up with the work load even though we have a dishwasher and washing machine!! It’s still very much a full time job even though we have modern appliances to make jobs easier. I don’t know how they did it back in the days before electricity.
I agree with Rachel so very much. The problem (not that the problem changes what God is saying in the Scriptures) is that the pastors are not necessarily worthy of being followed. After the Southern Baptist Convention mess (just for one example) and the direction that pastors are taking us, it is hard to accept many pastors' leadership. Seminaries are not teaching truth. So then what?
Confession must include repentance and turning away from our sin, burning that bridge and not just putting it into our secret sin closet to be brought out on another day. I say this from personal experience. I was not truly saved until God granted me full repentance, which resulted in real release from and victory over my debilitating sin.
This just popped up on my watch list and I appreciate this video and topic. I'm 43, no kids, divorced and newly out of WOF prosperity gospel. I have begun attending a Reformed leaning Baptist church in the DFW area. As I study more and learn more about the Bible, I am struggling to find my place in the church though I realize by God's providence, where I've come from in my past will be used for His glory. I would love to get remarried as my divorce was Biblical and I believe that desire has not been taken away by the Lord. I just wish there were more women or men who spoke to those of us in the reformed church who are not typical...not typically who have married an equally yoked person and found that Godly spouse who teaches them and raised children with each other. I need Biblical guidance on what am I supposed to do when I will never be a mother from my womb. I won't have babies with my next husband. I have a high paying mktg career I've been in for 20 yrs and I'd give it all up for my God honoring husband but as a single woman without one...it's how I take care of myself. So I struggle with only finding videos and podcasts how I should be as a mother and wife. I'm looking into seminary classes online bc I don't have a husband to teach me and my church and elders are great but my church is very much families with children and that's their focus as well.
Divorce is not biblical. I mean this with the highest regard to marriage. Refunding something we .....may have entered sinfully is disheartening to think God offers refundable marriages yet would come for his bride.aka the prostitute(US)that he washes white as snow. A second marriage would compound your problem unfortunately. God will do wonders in honoring the marriage you chose to enter. We know God hates divorce therefore by no meanns will GOD take lightly marriage. It is a beautiful sacred covenant to be upheld that God makes. Not trampled, disposed, disreagarded regardless of rape abuse abandonment fiscal financing irresponsibility. We've literally trampled Christ but yet while we were in sin Christ died for us. Let us bear each our own cross and follow him. I will be praying for you. Your testimony of overcoming will bring hope to others rather than a testimony of checking out on your husband. Bible even says love your enemy's. The most loving advice I can give you is go be reconciled when the furnace mellows 😉 Thank you God for disciplining your children and correcting us and redirecting us and restoring the brokenness in our hearts and lives. Amen Jesus 🙏
This is similar to a situation in which one is unequally yoked and the husband does not pursue the things of God. I can speak from personal experience on this. What was helpful to me was simply getting into the Word and praying for understanding, and just pursuing it with everything you have. All that we need in order to know what God has for us is in there, according to 2 Tim 3:16-17. So I guess what I'm saying is we learn to be a Christian first and foremost, and the Word and the Spirit will guide us to the places He wants us to go. Reading and absorbing all the preaching you can from men who will actually teach from the Word, whether they be your from your local church, or books, online videos, etc., is going to be very helpful. I would just advise that you not look for teaching directed at women. It's going to be directed in the main at mothers and how to be a good mother and/or wife, and you require teaching on how to be a good Christian. Seminary sounds great too, btw. Presently, as a single woman, you don't have all the constraints that family women have to deal with. Your service to the Lord can actually be greater and without all the distractions and impediments that family women have. Pray that the Lord guide you to make the most of this privilege.
Great stuff. Please do one on men’s ministries, as most men’s Bible studies and events I’ve experienced are feminized versions of football locker rooms.
I agree. The men's ministry at my former church would put on men's breakfasts where everyone got together to talk about politics, golf, and work. Sadly there were all these little ingroups that often overlooked newcomers or visitors. The pastor would give an easy message at the end but it didn't seem to be the main focus. I'm glad I got out of there.
Interesting discussion. I would add emphasis to Titus 2, not that Titus 2 is exhaustive list and of topics for women’s ministry, but essential. Mischief follows where Titus 2 is ignored or occluded by any other emphases. Women are to be taught how to LOVE (volitionally not just emotionally) their husband and children. They are to avoid blasphemy of Word which is the result of disobedience to their husband. Because the home is the locus of feminine ministry, the family structure and order as designed by God must be supported, neither neglected nor disparaged. So when a wife or daughter has a question about theology, she does not ask the pastor, but she asks her husband who is the pastor of the home. The most loving and righteous thing a pastor or women’s ministry should attempt, is to add support for the husband’s home ministry by encouraging a wife to get under her husband’s headship and encourage a husband to fulfill his role to become the resident theologian who washes and waters her in the Word. Joel, the church is craven; she is loath to teach women submission and obedience. In over 60 years of church attendance, I have not once heard an exhortation to stop defrauding sexually or that divorce is apostasy, both sins are for more prevalent in wives than husbands. (Women initiate divorce more than 2x than men.) I cannot recall ever hearing that restraining a contentious wife is as futile as holding the wind or grasping oil in a bare hand. I have, however heard countless messages deriding male sexuality, depicting men as brutes to be tamed, lazy good for nothing obstacles to a woman’s angelic vision of the home. I have never seen the advertisement for a woman’s retreat with the theme “How to better love your husband and children”. In a culture that murders children and breaking covenant is more common than till death do part, the church has utterly failed to function as the ground and pillar of truth. She has traded her birthright for a mess of pottage from a corrupt and dying culture, a culture and of death. IMO- Pastors are threatened by patriarchs who open the Bible at home and exposite faithfully, who know theology or are willing to study and who labor to pastor the family, that is their job or so they think. After all they went to seminary, so they have the MDiv, thus they are the expert. In this and countless other ways the church often violates the sphere of the home and then complains “where are all the men?” I could go on… and on, but I am preaching to the choir. This is not directed at you or others who hold to biblical patriarchy as the Lord’s blueprint for the home. It is a lamentation on the state of the church and the family. While we strain at gnats like how much water to use in baptism, we swallow camels whole like enabling blasphemy of the Word.
The shortcomings of ministry period is when individuals crossover, to metaphysics, philosophy, psychology, psychiatry, humanities, or social sciences. We need to have a Berean affection, approach, and appreciation for the Word of ADONAI. We need to have a knowledge of the Sacred Scriptures. Because many men are not equipped to dispense with theology, doctrine, dogma, tenets, or right dealing,and handling of the text, and passages of the Bible. 🤓🙃😏🙂😎
1 Timothy 2:12 KJV - But But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. You either believe or You don’t.
Not much for single women to do in the church, which is discouraging to me. I'm not a wife or homemaker so really have no place to serve, other than cooking meals when needed.
Hi Patricia. Your comment broke my heart as it is the case in many churches today, and often married/widowed women miss the opportunity to minister to single women, as well as point them toward ministry opportunities. I don't know if you're an older or younger single, but there are places you can serve, regardless of age and marital status. We just started up a Titus 2 ministry, where older women mentor younger women. Maybe you can encourage your church to start something like this. Our church also has a Bright Lights girl's ministry, which needs godly women of all ages to lead and teach, single, married, widowed, etc. Your church may not have this, but do some research and start something like it. Also, if you have a kitchen ministry, and you like cooking, see if you can serve there. Visit shut ins, and bring them a meal, pray with them, etc. Just some thoughts. I'll pray for opportunities and a dear sister who might mentor you. ❤️🙏🙌
I remember many years ago when I was a child, the women would go and visit shut ins. So many lonely, elderly people are starved for a bit of attention and conversation, ESPECIALLY now. The value of human connections is vitally important to the elderly. Just a short visit, even if it’s just a phone call can mean so much.
There should be room for single ladies of we make room for them. Serving meals, homeschool support, visiting the sick... Just a few ideas off the top of my head that could be really wonderful.
Yes, it belittles women to separate them out from the men in the church. There is as much diversity among women as there is among men and women together, and it does a real disservice, to single women especially, to separate them from their Christian brothers with whom they may have more in common than other women in the church who have a stereotyped idea about what women need.
Yes, I agree. Many modern churches feel so fragmented. I also disagree with having youth ministries. Young people already spend so much time isolated from their parents and other adults. We tend to treat children as idiots, who are unable to understand or learn the things that adults are taught
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.” James 5:16
It seems like under the surface that the ladies are being negatively affected by the curse of specialization just as the men are. The opportunities they once enjoyed to use their varied skills to directly minister to others we have replaced by just buying the things they once we're privileged to provide.
The Bible “bans” women from teaching doctrine from an expositional perspective, based on 1 Timothy 2:12-14. The reason is because women are more easily deceived. They can pass on the teaching of the pastor, but not create their own expositional teaching. If they step out of this role, Paul says it will lead to the word of God being reviled Titus 2:5b
He also said in the dame passage, women will be saved by childbirth. Did Christ died in vain? And those women without children... what's happens to them if they are to be saved by childbirth?
@@Bible33AD The question is, FROM what are women "saved" according to Paul in the context of this passage? Obviously, by applying basic hermeneutic principles, the word "saved" in this context does not refer to salvation from sin, but rather, they are "saved" from a life without purpose or dignity. As is many times the case with Paul, he anticipates the arguments he might receive by answering his critics before they can voice their objections (see Romans 9 for example). In this case, the logical retort to his statement regarding not allowing women to teach or exercise authority might be "well, what is our purpose then, and how can we as godly women serve God?". He responds by stating that women can find their highest purpose and dignity in the raising of godly offspring, which is God's plan for the family (see Deut. 6:6-9; Prov. 22:6; Mal. 2:14,15; 2 Tim. 3:15, etc.). This is an important lesson for our generation, when we as a society are denigrating motherhood and even encouraging the slaughter of the unborn.
John and Rosario S. The bible 'BANS' many things and COMMANDS many things but I am willing to bet YOU don't acknowledge more than half of them. For your information, the bible is NOT THE WORD OF GOD. Rather, WITHIN THE BIBLE can be found the words of GOD.
@@samanthagraveswalters8443 Mam ( I am assuming here) do you know the HISTORY of the bible, particularly the OLD testament.? I bet not. When you have become acquainted with the history of the bible, when it was canonized and how then you and I can have a discussion on this. Until then you have much to learn it is clear.
I disagree that it belittles women or is demeaning to them. I don't think it's belittling someone when you're simply following the rules that they themselves set. When modern women hear something they don't like, they immediately pull out their misogyny card. It has become not okay to criticize female people in today's society. If you didn't call out women for something because you were afraid they couldn't handle it, then that would be demeaning. But when you don't call out women for something because they'll pitch a fit and scream about sexism if you do call them out, then that's on the women. That's not you being demeaning, that's them refusing to hold themselves to a standard of being a responsible adult accountable for their actions. Society has let feminism run amok to where women are automatically stunning and brave simply for being female, and anything negative said about them is automatically sexism. We're in a society that is just as full of toxic femininity as it is of toxic masculinity but it is socially unacceptable to point this out. Of course it should go without saying but in case it doesn't I will point out that I am NOT talking about ALL women, most women are emotionally stable intelligent adults, it's just the noisy fringe that are getting all the attention and setting these absurd rules rules that are damaging to society.
c. 47:00 about the women confessing their husband's sins, that's the spirit of the age today, isn't it? With social justice nonsense. You're not asking for help, you're fishing for sympathy or building rapport by GOSSIPING about someone else. The sheer lack of self awareness in those women make me think it's a 99% chance they're divorced in 10 years.
Oh they encourage the husbands to be under the boot of these wives, and if not, they all push each other to divorce any husbands that aren't flat out simps.
Did she say a woman should talk to her pastor about questions she has? The Bible says that married women should ask their OWN husbands! And, I think that if the husband can't answer her, HE should ask the pastor! She is wrong about that! Unmarried women going to the pastor, or any married man, doesn't seem right either.
@@nykka3I Corinthians 14:35 says women should ask their husbands at home if they have questions about "anything." If they need marital counseling, women should counsel women, and men should counsel men. The Bible says the older women should teach (counsel) the younger women to love their husbands and to work at home. I could see the pastor and his wife counseling a married couple together though.
The pastors who need to be compelled and convicted to make their Father's Day sermons next week more affirming and next year's Mother's Day messages more convicting sadly aren't watching this channel...or reading their Bibles.
My biggest issue with womens ministry is feeling like I’m not materialistic enough to be one of them. From acrylic nails, to dyed hair , makeup and jewelry and high end fashion I was out asap. That is very very sad.
I am fed up with our pastors showing their fear of women from the pulpit and will be trying to address it with them. Women are always held up as the less sinful sex or the sex that doesn't have to repent.
@@vanessaloy1049 it's not hard to find well known pastors (like Chandler) and authors who do this regularly, and this being the occasion throughout many of the past several hundred years. Leon Podles' book The Church Impotent covers this in great detail. It's free online. But in this instance, I was talking about my own pastors and I'm not about to disclose their names on RUclips.
I'm curious about what you think of men's Bible studies. They are also focused on self-development. Some groups have intentions (accountability, ect.). From your perspectives, how do men's Bible studies compare to your critique of women's Bible studies? I enjoyed learning about the history of women's ministry. The only thing that stood out to me was a lack of clarity on some points. Maybe you think there are obvious inferences, but some listeners may assume that you are talking about all women. For example, not working is simply not an option for some women. Spouses are sometimes mentally unable to hear about issues and choose to work on them, so professional counseling (or intervention from church leaders) is necessary.
Men tend to not attend men’s Bible studies with the same frequency that women do. The phenomenon has less traction in the western church. Having said that ... yes. To the extent that men’s Bible studies are inward focused they are as much of a problem.
So do mens groups fall into the same class of being only for the needy and immature? Is that the same for coed groups? We should only attend church on Sunday?
I don't men allowed it. Government and economic conditions and propaganda kind of forced it on men. If it happend because men allowed it to happen, then we should be able to put a stop to it. But that isn't going to happen, because women have already infiltrated all our educational and government institutions and our media. And you forget that WW2 also created a situation where women had to step up and go to work. Maybe that was part of the plan. Who knows.
I’m not sure of what you’re saying here about ministering to other women, but there are times when we do need to mourn with those who mourn, as well as give hard truths.
I try to keep my eye on the bigger picture with that being God and what his will is for me and that is to serve pray and study His word. The church I go to only men can be elders or pastors which is scripturally sound but it still is a largely feminized Church. I don't ever see them calling upon to bring attention to some of the things mentioned in this video, part of your tithing money is going to support a women's recovery ministry with an abysmal success rate, what they perceive as empathy I perceive as enabling. Proverbs 7:11 would be a fair description of some of the women in our church.
Ouch. Rachel is like cold water to the face. I know some people complain about her views on men/women roles but I think they are Biblical. We just don't like to hear them as American feminised Christians.
@@samanthagraveswalters8443 Women have always worked outside the home. When humans lived in an agricultural society, women would be out in the fields, working to sow and harvest. Or they would be traveling to the town square to buy or sell.
Isn't that why the Bible tells the women to ask their OWN husbands at home? Even still, the Bible says the older women are suppose to teach the younger women about female issues, not the pastor!
@@graftme3168 I'm just joking. But honestly I'm not a fan of segregated bible studies. Whether it be men's groups or women's groups or youth groups. It sends the message that biblical truth has to be presented differently to a person depending on their gender or age.
If there was a god, why wouldn’t he be more clear about himself and his guidance? After 2 thousand years, hearing you ask whether women should teach is astonishing. Why would god want us to get hung up over trivial matters such as this? Let me hear you rail against the false prophets and televangelist thieves. They are the real people holding back the message of god.
There are no trivial matters in scriptures. One thing which you may call trivial, may lead to other misunderstandings, which eventually lead people to become false prophets, of which you complain. For example, a lot of those televangelists are scammers who use their position of authority and fame to pressure people into donating money to them. And they are able to get away with it, because some churches thought that talking about tithes and money was a trivial thing.
It's important to acknowledge that both men and women were given dominion in Genesis 1, and God joins them together in marriage for his glory and purposes. It is also important that we recognize what is required of us is dynamic and at times unexpected, but always needs to be jointly faced. Too many people judge men and women along preset boxes without inquiring about how God distributed talents and calling, or how callings were confirmed through prayer. On the note about elder women teaching the younger, understand that Paul was not obsessed with chronological age as if it is a proxy for wisdom (evidence - see his advice to Timothy). Rather, he was focused on spiritual maturity - evidenced by his milk/meat metaphor. Elder women is the term presbytidas - you'll recognize the same root as Presbyterian or a system of elders. So, yes, there are female elders in the early church with a ministry working with younger women. Some might call the younger baby Christians. The command to love one's husband is echoed in the two greatest commandments: love God with all your heart/soul/strength, and love your neighbor as yourself - everything hangs on these two. These are the basics of Christian duty, and what our female elders should be teaching the less spiritually mature. So...leaders of women's ministry should be selected by their spiritual maturity and ability to demonstrate these basic Christian commands, no matter their physical/chrono age. Also important to note men are held to the same standard of these top commands, as Paul exhorts husbands to love and nurture their wives.
Viewers should b aware, this is not just a wife who wrote a few books. She is the daughter of Doug Wilson. They have a family business that pushes the same agenda that promotes the ole school family structure where men rule & women serve.
Stephanie , why do you think feminists , the worst enemies of God have kept telling women to desert the home and pack up the workplace and make bloody money to turn into men's rivals ? Because feminists want women to sin over and over till total destruction .
Throughout history, women have also worked outside the home. It is not a modern thing. Women used to work in the fields, helping to sow or gather the harvest.
Can u imagine being so out of touch that u think that having one working parent while raising 5 or more children in 2022 (even 2020) is just a choice? Family money is not available to support every married couple. Opportunity as well, not every married couple has monetary opportunity from a family business.
@@samanthagraveswalters8443 ……& so? Ur individual personal experience does not change the factual world. Many families need both parents to work, not because they live extravagant lives, just for the basics. Thats a fact of the modern age.
I can’t get past 16 minutes, so maybe you guys eventually brought it up, but there wasn’t a single mention of single or childless women. As if a woman’s highest calling is to serve her husband and children. As if single women don’t exist, or it’s shameful to be. This podcast was disheartening and continues to ostracize a demographic that already feels quite ostracized within the church.
I would imagine the role in the church for single women would be similar to the role of single men. Since we have more time, we can devote that to prayer and studying the word. And finding ways to serve in the church. But I agree. Single people are often neglected in church and aren't really given an outlet to use their talents.
Why are so many married women are so attracted to the Pentecostal movement, they don’t speak to their husbands about the Bible’s teachings because the husband is never observed openly reading his bible, praying or leading , worshiping and taking his family to church. Oh, I just answered my own question.
So you are giving women an excuse for why they follow bad doctrine? As if women are incapable of studying the bible on their own. There are plenty of women who don't fall for false ministries, because those women read the bible and ask God for discernment
51:00 It could be sometimes even be the case that someone is struggling so hard with some sin that constantly confessing it to Christ makes one so abhorred of and disappointed with oneself that person needs some friend to encourage him or her to quit the self-condemnation and to point to grace and away from legalism. So there are 3 persons to consider.
What sin would exist that when confessed to Christ and then repeated over and over is actually showing that the person has repented of that sin? None exists. The reason the believer is disappointed is because they have not reached repentance for that sin. They are not ready to give it to God. It is not that you cannot have someone encourage you but if they are encouraging you to keep on in sin and claiming to give it to Christ, the friend is doing you a disservice. The proper response to that sinner would be to call out their lack of repentance. The way Rachel is addressing this is that we do not need to confess to a friend as they have zero ability to make that repentance occur!
Theologically, I think that self loathing is just a form of self idolatry. When you fully realize how insignificant you are, you don’t self pity and self loath. And to do so, is showing that you really think much to highly of yourself. We have to stop focusing on ourselves, and focus on fulfilling our role. God will bring us joy when we decide to walk in obedience. He will show us joy and satisfaction, while we serve our family. Not before, while we do nothing, and sit around feeling bad for ourself. In fact God punishes those who walk in rebellion. So nothing will improve until you just get up, and do the things you’re supposed to do. Obey, serve, think higher of others then yourself, and pray. And joy and satisfaction will be given unto you. ♥️🙏🏽
@@minnesotamomof4385 Every one of us commits mistakes every single day. We often have impure thoughts, or are dishonest in some way. The Christian walk is one of continual repentance and sanctification. As you read the bible, God speaks to you and reveals to you things that you need to change in your life. There are some vices that are stronger than others. And many times we go through periods in our lives when we have to struggle with things.
TITUS 2 : 3 - 5 are sound words of counsel to build upon. 🙏✝️💯🛐🤲 . Let the HOLY SPIRIT do HIS work, and we need to stop 😴🛏💤🛌 on the HOLY SPIRIT, we will mature in grace, and acuity in the things of ADONAI.
I didn't watch the video, but I'd say no. This is based upon Deborah and one or more scriptures by Paul. Also Priscilla and Aquila, whom Paul commends in scripture.
@@framboise595 In a general sense, maybe? You could probably make an argument for a wide variety of activities to be called a ministry. It’s not labeled as such tho, but neither are a lot of things. Youth/kids ministry, for example.
Its not belittling to women to say God created them to serve men. 🙄 Lets all b pastors & have a community pay for our middle class lifestyle while we live in a big house & raise 8 kids. Sure!! Who wouldn’t love that?? Oh well, back to reality, only some people r called on by God to ‘work’ in this way. 🙄 #2 Must b nice to b a chosen one……
@@framboise595 No, its ridiculous. Especially when we consider there is absolutely no evidence that any God said this or had human scribes record it’s word. What seems more obvious, is that the Bible is a set of books written by men for men at a time when they knew very little & most of the text clearly supports that historical fact. Just to avoid confusion, the historical fact that I mention is the ignorance of man at the time these scriptures were written.
This is so critical and inaccurate of many women's ministries. I'm sure it is true of some, but to sweep this brush across women's ministries is so unfair. I've been a part of many transforming women's ministries who are not "wallowing" or "whining together" but spurring each other on to greater things in the Lord! Greater obedience! What is wrong with going to church on Sunday and joining another encouraging group midweek? You make it sound like it's self-indulgent. I'm sorry, this was far too negative. Rachel I really like you but this critical spirit is ugly. And did I hear the host say we should call women cows in a sermon????!!!
Any type of women’s ministry supports the kingdom and brings women into fellowship with other Christians, and growth in Christ. Some of this conversation sounds a little harsh.
Did this guy just ask, ‘Why does it have to come from a woman??’ Lol lol Really?? Their entire belief system is based on a hierarchy of men-Ha!! If someone asked the question, ‘Why does it have to come from men??’ he would respond with, ‘Because this is what God demands.’ Lol The irony completely lost here. Lol
I am disappointed in this episode. While I know she wasn't in the pulpit and I don't have a hard disagreement with anything she said, but I don't believe that those are a requirement of the teaching "I permit no woman to teach or to have authority over men, she is to keep silent" 1 Timothy 2:12 Was no man available as a guest to discuss these issues?
Whenever I happen upon one of these videos (of which there are MANY) where 2 Timothy 2 :12 is quoted, I am reminded of what one pastor said about how the church has used Paul’s epistles. He said that what the church has done is the same as someone taking the letters that were addressed to SOMEONE ELSE, for themselves. Yep! That is indeed what has happened. So, imagine (my thoughts now), Jim writes to his sister Amy and her friend Jane while visiting her one day, sees the letter, read the contents and proceeds to LITERALLY apply it to herself. MADNESS isn’t it? Yes! Madness indeed. Yet this is what the ‘church’ has done and has been in an eternal battle arguing WITHIN ITSELF about what Paul said and what Paul meant when he said what he said and so on. MADNESS! Another kind of MADNESS is the belief that a woman can teach children (BOYS and girls) but as soon as the BOY becomes a MAN (18 years????), she is NO LONGER qualified to teach him. This is not only MADNESS but STUPIDITY, IDIOCY and ASSININITY. Well, I am not mad or stupid. I am not a Roman, Corinthian, etc. I am not a ‘silly woman laden with sins.’ I am a CHILD OF GOD, a truly LIBERATED WOMAN according to the LIBERTY that can be found in CHRIST JESUS. A woman in whom GOD’s spirit dwells and who has endowed me with a number of talents and gifts one of which is TEACHING. I don’t need ANY HUMAN BEING to validate my gifts by giving me a title or position because as Sinach sang “I KNOW WHO I AM."
@@graftme3168 I apply what is APPLICABLE that is instructions that speak to holiness, godliness and righteousness because these are encouraged THROUGHOUT scriptures. SURELY you are not suggesting that ALL that is written in the bible applies to YOU are you?
Womens ministry or mens ministry is both seperating the little time they get tpgether for something else. Family together is the only ministry anyone can do. In this era where out of family is like, me time for people that have induced that bad culture allover. As if children are for friends or education, family is a terrible place as if eternatinment is essential for life and the evils list against family goes on forever. In this church is not less with their agenda where it becomes tough to have life anywhere.
I quit complaining about my marital issues with my girlfriends when I heard one of them speaking about my husband the way I was... it was so hurtful. I heard myself for the first time and hadn’t truly realized the damage I was doing to our relationship and his friendships with them too. Thankful for this video, y’all are great. God bless you.
I keep hearing from trusted teachers, that a story like yours is really common in female church groups. Do you think it really is? I’m just now starting to get involved in women groups, and I’m kind of terrified hearing this stuff. I’m so glad that you saw the truth of it, and chose to stop. But how do I prepare to speak truth, if I see women acting that way? What would you have wanted someone to say to you, to graciously point it out?
Sometimes we need 1 friend who knows how to keep information. Someone totally sold out to you who will never ever repeat stuff but who listens and prays for you. I have 1 or 2 such friends. They never talk about others and I have found that they can guide me when I am wrong and they love me to bits..
Women's ministry has turned into entertainment and social club. It absolutely is not about the word of God, or even our sanctification. It's basically a life coaching club, it is NOT about dying to ourselves. I can't stand the state of women's ministry in America.
Bravo 👏 yes! We need a mission as women, what is the mission? Holy smokes I love this lady. I've got to find her book!
“A wife and a mother” of wisdom and substance. My God it’s refreshing to see this in 2021-saved or lost. Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb.
This is so good! Thank you both for your time and obedience and faith to the Lord. It has helped me more than you know. Praise be to the God of our salvation!
Glad to hear it. Thanks!
26:25 mourn with those who mourn righteously - excellent point, pastor. Just like we are to judge others righteously, not sinfully Jn.7:24
Love Rachel; thanks for having her on🤍
“What is the trajectory of this?” Is an EXCELLENT question. 💕
My previous female friend group would be red in the face from anger if they watched this. I could no longer be friends with them as they were following hard after American Evangelical Feminism. Even between my mom and I there's a stark theological difference between how we view women in leadership. It's so encouraging to hear a woman who holds the same beliefs that I do, while at the same time challenging me on accountability.
It’s super interesting to me, when I hear about this sort of gossiping women group dynamic. I was raised by a single dad, I was a tom boy, then I was in the military. So now as an adult wife and mother, I’m just now starting to experience the “female group” sort of atmosphere. And holy hanna is it different from guys!!!
Are you kidding ? Gossip is the worst it poisons whole communities 🕵🏻♂️ I usually silence him / her by the old school : Shut up , read a book and do research 😂🤠when I rant and gossip I ask God for forgiveness: I usually rant about weak, gender men with no spine 😂
@@studiobencivengamarcusbenc5272 Am I kidding about what?? 🤔
My wife is super feminine but cant relate to the womens groups at church because it all about themselves and not about Christ or His Word. Its a worldly perspective with a "christain candy coating".
@@kenroc546 If that's the case, you might want to find a biblical church... The women should be reflective of the church as a whole. I'm a former police officer and soldier, and never got along with large groups of women. However, when we found our new, very biblical church, I found a connection to the women because they are actually Godly women, who have loved me and taught me so much.
@@threearrows2248 thanks for your advice and it does make sense. The womens group she is now is biblical and God glorifying. Still the same church. We gotta pray for our pastors and elders and leaders because false doctrine creeps in unaware.
This has stretched me in a good way :)… The portion about accountability was especially ☺️🙌🏻.
Philippians 1:6
Scripture is great! Platitudes fall flat. Especially when someone is in pain.
Women's ministry should be about women meeting needs, not meeting women's felt needs.
True. The main problem in modern churches is that there isn't a clear mission or goal given to the members of the church.
The issue is that there are many women who due to feminism are super-sensitive to any perceived criticisms and can't stand hearing any teaching about male and female roles
I agree that feminism is a cancer to women, but I would also add that feminism is cancer to men. Both men and women have abandoned their God given and defined roles. They have also abandoned both emotional and spiritual maturity in favor of being eternal adolescents ruled by their emotions.
@@katiesmith5149 Well said! 🙏 🌷
Let them get offended.
Wonderful woman ❤🌷
The church I grew up in had a very good women's ministry. They catered to funeral dinners, did various things to raise money for things needed for the church, etc. They rarely did things that wasn't doing some type of help. They would do dinners and invite the husbands! The only thing I think could have been better is that the older women should have been teaching the younger women how to love their husbands and to work at home, just like the Bible says.
Graft Me. The BIBLE ALSO SAYS you should keep the Sabbath, do you?
What's your point?
@@aliciamcdonald7105 Dear sister, I understand your confusion. Where does the New Testament say that the Sabbath must be kept?
This is what the New Testament actually says on such subjects:
"Now accept the one who is weak in faith, but not for the purpose of passing judgment on his opinions. One person has faith that he may eat all things, but he who is weak eats vegetables only. The one who eats is not to regard with contempt the one who does not eat, and the one who does not eat is not to judge the one who eats, for God has accepted him. Who are you to judge the servant of another? To his own master he stands or falls; and he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand. One person regards one day above another, another regards every day alike. Each person must be fully convinced in his own mind. He who observes the day, observes it for the Lord, and he who eats, does so for the Lord, for he gives thanks to God; and he who eats not, for the Lord he does not eat, and gives thanks to God. For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s. For to this end Christ died and lived again, that He might be Lord both of the dead and of the living. But you, why do you judge your brother? Or you again, why do you regard your brother with contempt? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God."
Romans 14:1-10
It also says this:
"Therefore no one is to act as your judge in regard to food or drink or in respect to a festival or a new moon or a Sabbath day- things which are a mere shadow of what is to come; but the substance belongs to Christ."
Colossians 2:16-17
Earlier in Colossians 2, Paul says that because we are in Christ, we are circumcised with a circumcision made without hands. If you believe we must submit to all of the Sabbath commandments, then you must also require circumcision. And if you require circumcision, you have a false gospel and a misunderstanding in what the New Covenant is all about. The Law is nothing to us today except for a tutor to lead us to Christ so we can be justified by faith. And when we have faith, we do not need a tutor any longer (Galatians 3:24-25).
Press on and continue to learn the truth of Christ!
@@jaredtoney3417 I am not confused but you seem to be. You seem to think that if something is not said as a command in the New Testament then it should not be observed. If that is the case then are you suggesting to me that I should not follow the command 'Thou shall not take the name of the Lord Thy God in vain? I mean I don't see that ANYWHERE in the New Testament. A matter fact, outside of Exodus and Deuteronomy where the Ten Commandments can be found, this particular commandment as far as I know, is not recorder ANYWHERE ELSE. So, tell me if I can throw that one away. Btw, Jesus said the sabbath was made for MAN not for the Jew, not for church-goers, not just for one single sect or people but MANKIND.
@@graftme3168 My point is that I am SURE that there are many things that the 'bible says' that you do not adhere to. Which means that you have some sort of rationale (at least I think so) as to what you accept and what you don't.
I am a sahm and I struggle to keep up with the work load even though we have a dishwasher and washing machine!! It’s still very much a full time job even though we have modern appliances to make jobs easier. I don’t know how they did it back in the days before electricity.
They had a bunch of children who would help out
I agree with Rachel so very much. The problem (not that the problem changes what God is saying in the Scriptures) is that the pastors are not necessarily worthy of being followed. After the Southern Baptist Convention mess (just for one example) and the direction that pastors are taking us, it is hard to accept many pastors' leadership. Seminaries are not teaching truth. So then what?
Confession must include repentance and turning away from our sin, burning that bridge and not just putting it into our secret sin closet to be brought out on another day. I say this from personal experience. I was not truly saved until God granted me full repentance, which resulted in real release from and victory over my debilitating sin.
This just popped up on my watch list and I appreciate this video and topic. I'm 43, no kids, divorced and newly out of WOF prosperity gospel. I have begun attending a Reformed leaning Baptist church in the DFW area. As I study more and learn more about the Bible, I am struggling to find my place in the church though I realize by God's providence, where I've come from in my past will be used for His glory. I would love to get remarried as my divorce was Biblical and I believe that desire has not been taken away by the Lord. I just wish there were more women or men who spoke to those of us in the reformed church who are not typical...not typically who have married an equally yoked person and found that Godly spouse who teaches them and raised children with each other. I need Biblical guidance on what am I supposed to do when I will never be a mother from my womb. I won't have babies with my next husband. I have a high paying mktg career I've been in for 20 yrs and I'd give it all up for my God honoring husband but as a single woman without one...it's how I take care of myself. So I struggle with only finding videos and podcasts how I should be as a mother and wife. I'm looking into seminary classes online bc I don't have a husband to teach me and my church and elders are great but my church is very much families with children and that's their focus as well.
Divorce is not biblical. I mean this with the highest regard to marriage. Refunding something we .....may have entered sinfully is disheartening to think God offers refundable marriages yet would come for his bride.aka the prostitute(US)that he washes white as snow. A second marriage would compound your problem unfortunately. God will do wonders in honoring the marriage you chose to enter.
We know God hates divorce therefore by no meanns will GOD take lightly marriage. It is a beautiful sacred covenant to be upheld that God makes. Not trampled, disposed, disreagarded regardless of rape abuse abandonment fiscal financing irresponsibility. We've literally trampled Christ but yet while we were in sin Christ died for us. Let us bear each our own cross and follow him. I will be praying for you. Your testimony of overcoming will bring hope to others rather than a testimony of checking out on your husband. Bible even says love your enemy's. The most loving advice I can give you is go be reconciled when the furnace mellows 😉
Thank you God for disciplining your children and correcting us and redirecting us and restoring the brokenness in our hearts and lives.
Amen Jesus 🙏
This is similar to a situation in which one is unequally yoked and the husband does not pursue the things of God. I can speak from personal experience on this.
What was helpful to me was simply getting into the Word and praying for understanding, and just pursuing it with everything you have. All that we need in order to know what God has for us is in there, according to 2 Tim 3:16-17. So I guess what I'm saying is we learn to be a Christian first and foremost, and the Word and the Spirit will guide us to the places He wants us to go. Reading and absorbing all the preaching you can from men who will actually teach from the Word, whether they be your from your local church, or books, online videos, etc., is going to be very helpful. I would just advise that you not look for teaching directed at women. It's going to be directed in the main at mothers and how to be a good mother and/or wife, and you require teaching on how to be a good Christian.
Seminary sounds great too, btw. Presently, as a single woman, you don't have all the constraints that family women have to deal with. Your service to the Lord can actually be greater and without all the distractions and impediments that family women have. Pray that the Lord guide you to make the most of this privilege.
@Christopher Gallardo Jr."The Holy Spirit is our Teacher and for Women WORKS THROUGH MEN," REALLY??? My goodness!
Great stuff. Please do one on men’s ministries, as most men’s Bible studies and events I’ve experienced are feminized versions of football locker rooms.
YES! My husband could have written this!!
I agree, its pop psychology from the world pretending to be God's Word.
I agree. The men's ministry at my former church would put on men's breakfasts where everyone got together to talk about politics, golf, and work. Sadly there were all these little ingroups that often overlooked newcomers or visitors. The pastor would give an easy message at the end but it didn't seem to be the main focus. I'm glad I got out of there.
True. Men also need a clear vision, and a strong leader who will keep them on track.
Interesting discussion. I would add emphasis to Titus 2, not that Titus 2 is exhaustive list and of topics for women’s ministry, but essential. Mischief follows where Titus 2 is ignored or occluded by any other emphases. Women are to be taught how to LOVE (volitionally not just emotionally) their husband and children. They are to avoid blasphemy of Word which is the result of disobedience to their husband. Because the home is the locus of feminine ministry, the family structure and order as designed by God must be supported, neither neglected nor disparaged. So when a wife or daughter has a question about theology, she does not ask the pastor, but she asks her husband who is the pastor of the home. The most loving and righteous thing a pastor or women’s ministry should attempt, is to add support for the husband’s home ministry by encouraging a wife to get under her husband’s headship and encourage a husband to fulfill his role to become the resident theologian who washes and waters her in the Word.
Joel, the church is craven; she is loath to teach women submission and obedience. In over 60 years of church attendance, I have not once heard an exhortation to stop defrauding sexually or that divorce is apostasy, both sins are for more prevalent in wives than husbands. (Women initiate divorce more than 2x than men.) I cannot recall ever hearing that restraining a contentious wife is as futile as holding the wind or grasping oil in a bare hand. I have, however heard countless messages deriding male sexuality, depicting men as brutes to be tamed, lazy good for nothing obstacles to a woman’s angelic vision of the home. I have never seen the advertisement for a woman’s retreat with the theme “How to better love your husband and children”. In a culture that murders children and breaking covenant is more common than till death do part, the church has utterly failed to function as the ground and pillar of truth. She has traded her birthright for a mess of pottage from a corrupt and dying culture, a culture and of death. IMO- Pastors are threatened by patriarchs who open the Bible at home and exposite faithfully, who know theology or are willing to study and who labor to pastor the family, that is their job or so they think. After all they went to seminary, so they have the MDiv, thus they are the expert. In this and countless other ways the church often violates the sphere of the home and then complains “where are all the men?” I could go on… and on, but I am preaching to the choir.
This is not directed at you or others who hold to biblical patriarchy as the Lord’s blueprint for the home. It is a lamentation on the state of the church and the family. While we strain at gnats like how much water to use in baptism, we swallow camels whole like enabling blasphemy of the Word.
Thanks!! Thank you Lord jesus christ .
The shortcomings of ministry period is when individuals crossover, to metaphysics, philosophy, psychology, psychiatry, humanities, or social sciences. We need to have a Berean affection, approach, and appreciation for the Word of ADONAI. We need to have a knowledge of the Sacred Scriptures. Because many men are not equipped to dispense with theology, doctrine, dogma, tenets, or right dealing,and handling of the text, and passages of the Bible. 🤓🙃😏🙂😎
Rachel is great
Solid!!
1 Timothy 2:12 KJV - But
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
You either believe or
You don’t.
I DON'T BELIEVE.
Not much for single women to do in the church, which is discouraging to me. I'm not a wife or homemaker so really have no place to serve, other than cooking meals when needed.
Hi Patricia. Your comment broke my heart as it is the case in many churches today, and often married/widowed women miss the opportunity to minister to single women, as well as point them toward ministry opportunities. I don't know if you're an older or younger single, but there are places you can serve, regardless of age and marital status. We just started up a Titus 2 ministry, where older women mentor younger women. Maybe you can encourage your church to start something like this. Our church also has a Bright Lights girl's ministry, which needs godly women of all ages to lead and teach, single, married, widowed, etc. Your church may not have this, but do some research and start something like it. Also, if you have a kitchen ministry, and you like cooking, see if you can serve there. Visit shut ins, and bring them a meal, pray with them, etc. Just some thoughts. I'll pray for opportunities and a dear sister who might mentor you. ❤️🙏🙌
I remember many years ago when I was a child, the women would go and visit shut ins. So many lonely, elderly people are starved for a bit of attention and conversation, ESPECIALLY now. The value of human connections is vitally important to the elderly. Just a short visit, even if it’s just a phone call can mean so much.
@@robalink15 that's a wonderful idea!
Even less places to serve for us guys cause we can't watch anyone's kids, we're scary...
There should be room for single ladies of we make room for them. Serving meals, homeschool support, visiting the sick... Just a few ideas off the top of my head that could be really wonderful.
Yes, it belittles women to separate them out from the men in the church. There is as much diversity among women as there is among men and women together, and it does a real disservice, to single women especially, to separate them from their Christian brothers with whom they may have more in common than other women in the church who have a stereotyped idea about what women need.
Yes, I agree. Many modern churches feel so fragmented. I also disagree with having youth ministries. Young people already spend so much time isolated from their parents and other adults. We tend to treat children as idiots, who are unable to understand or learn the things that adults are taught
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.”
James 5:16
It seems like under the surface that the ladies are being negatively affected by the curse of specialization just as the men are. The opportunities they once enjoyed to use their varied skills to directly minister to others we have replaced by just buying the things they once we're privileged to provide.
Excellent interview! 15:20 sounds exactly like Paul Washer ranting and raving.
Excellent! Very thought-provoking.
The Bible “bans” women from teaching doctrine from an expositional perspective, based on 1 Timothy 2:12-14. The reason is because women are more easily deceived. They can pass on the teaching of the pastor, but not create their own expositional teaching. If they step out of this role, Paul says it will lead to the word of God being reviled Titus 2:5b
He also said in the dame passage, women will be saved by childbirth. Did Christ died in vain? And those women without children... what's happens to them if they are to be saved by childbirth?
@@Bible33AD The question is, FROM what are women "saved" according to Paul in the context of this passage? Obviously, by applying basic hermeneutic principles, the word "saved" in this context does not refer to salvation from sin, but rather, they are "saved" from a life without purpose or dignity. As is many times the case with Paul, he anticipates the arguments he might receive by answering his critics before they can voice their objections (see Romans 9 for example). In this case, the logical retort to his statement regarding not allowing women to teach or exercise authority might be "well, what is our purpose then, and how can we as godly women serve God?". He responds by stating that women can find their highest purpose and dignity in the raising of godly offspring, which is God's plan for the family (see Deut. 6:6-9; Prov. 22:6; Mal. 2:14,15; 2 Tim. 3:15, etc.). This is an important lesson for our generation, when we as a society are denigrating motherhood and even encouraging the slaughter of the unborn.
John and Rosario S. The bible 'BANS' many things and COMMANDS many things but I am willing to bet YOU don't acknowledge more than half of them. For your information, the bible is NOT THE WORD OF GOD. Rather, WITHIN THE BIBLE can be found the words of GOD.
@@aliciamcdonald7105 the Bible is the word of God. God told the men what to write
@@samanthagraveswalters8443 Mam ( I am assuming here) do you know the HISTORY of the bible, particularly the OLD testament.? I bet not. When you have become acquainted with the history of the bible, when it was canonized and how then you and I can have a discussion on this. Until then you have much to learn it is clear.
Thank you for this great post
I disagree that it belittles women or is demeaning to them. I don't think it's belittling someone when you're simply following the rules that they themselves set. When modern women hear something they don't like, they immediately pull out their misogyny card. It has become not okay to criticize female people in today's society. If you didn't call out women for something because you were afraid they couldn't handle it, then that would be demeaning. But when you don't call out women for something because they'll pitch a fit and scream about sexism if you do call them out, then that's on the women. That's not you being demeaning, that's them refusing to hold themselves to a standard of being a responsible adult accountable for their actions. Society has let feminism run amok to where women are automatically stunning and brave simply for being female, and anything negative said about them is automatically sexism. We're in a society that is just as full of toxic femininity as it is of toxic masculinity but it is socially unacceptable to point this out. Of course it should go without saying but in case it doesn't I will point out that I am NOT talking about ALL women, most women are emotionally stable intelligent adults, it's just the noisy fringe that are getting all the attention and setting these absurd rules rules that are damaging to society.
Hear hear! 👏🏽👏🏽
Elizabeth Elliot..building a woman's church within the church. Women aren't supposed to be subordinate pastors to other women.
c. 47:00 about the women confessing their husband's sins, that's the spirit of the age today, isn't it? With social justice nonsense. You're not asking for help, you're fishing for sympathy or building rapport by GOSSIPING about someone else. The sheer lack of self awareness in those women make me think it's a 99% chance they're divorced in 10 years.
Oh they encourage the husbands to be under the boot of these wives, and if not, they all push each other to divorce any husbands that aren't flat out simps.
Did she say a woman should talk to her pastor about questions she has? The Bible says that married women should ask their OWN husbands! And, I think that if the husband can't answer her, HE should ask the pastor! She is wrong about that! Unmarried women going to the pastor, or any married man, doesn't seem right either.
Maybe marital pastoral counseling. I do agree that the husband should be present if it is for marital discord.
@@nykka3I Corinthians 14:35 says women should ask their husbands at home if they have questions about "anything." If they need marital counseling, women should counsel women, and men should counsel men. The Bible says the older women should teach (counsel) the younger women to love their husbands and to work at home. I could see the pastor and his wife counseling a married couple together though.
Oh my goodness! I love this! Ahhh….. let’s work towards something ladies!
The pastors who need to be compelled and convicted to make their Father's Day sermons next week more affirming and next year's Mother's Day messages more convicting sadly aren't watching this channel...or reading their Bibles.
True
My biggest issue with womens ministry is feeling like I’m not materialistic enough to be one of them. From acrylic nails, to dyed hair , makeup and jewelry and high end fashion I was out asap. That is very very sad.
You seem to lack confidence in yourself and envy what other women had, wore and looked. That is sad.
O I’m low maintenance. I have chickens , garden.
@@ifeifesiYou missed the point of her comment. She is saying that women's groups are more about socializing and trying to impress each other
I am fed up with our pastors showing their fear of women from the pulpit and will be trying to address it with them. Women are always held up as the less sinful sex or the sex that doesn't have to repent.
Amen.
@@vanessaloy1049 it's not hard to find well known pastors (like Chandler) and authors who do this regularly, and this being the occasion throughout many of the past several hundred years. Leon Podles' book The Church Impotent covers this in great detail. It's free online. But in this instance, I was talking about my own pastors and I'm not about to disclose their names on RUclips.
POOR THING!
@@aliciamcdonald7105 i know, right? God forbid any men stand up to their pastors' misandry.
@@JR-rs5qs Sorry Bro/Sis I was being SARCASTIC. Read my comments below to get my real perspective.
I'm curious about what you think of men's Bible studies. They are also focused on self-development. Some groups have intentions (accountability, ect.). From your perspectives, how do men's Bible studies compare to your critique of women's Bible studies?
I enjoyed learning about the history of women's ministry. The only thing that stood out to me was a lack of clarity on some points. Maybe you think there are obvious inferences, but some listeners may assume that you are talking about all women.
For example, not working is simply not an option for some women.
Spouses are sometimes mentally unable to hear about issues and choose to work on them, so professional counseling (or intervention from church leaders) is necessary.
Men tend to not attend men’s Bible studies with the same frequency that women do. The phenomenon has less traction in the western church. Having said that ... yes. To the extent that men’s Bible studies are inward focused they are as much of a problem.
So do mens groups fall into the same class of being only for the needy and immature? Is that the same for coed groups? We should only attend church on Sunday?
Great questions and great answers!
What went wrong is men allowed it.
Very true.
Western men today are nothing but followers of women.
CURSE.
I don't men allowed it. Government and economic conditions and propaganda kind of forced it on men. If it happend because men allowed it to happen, then we should be able to put a stop to it. But that isn't going to happen, because women have already infiltrated all our educational and government institutions and our media. And you forget that WW2 also created a situation where women had to step up and go to work. Maybe that was part of the plan. Who knows.
I would love to hear Rachel’s response to the bonus questions. Where do I go to find those, is there a link?
Enjoyed this talk! Does Rachel have a Podcast?
She has one with her sister called ‘What have you.’ 🙂
I’m not sure of what you’re saying here about ministering to other women, but there are times when we do need to mourn with those who mourn, as well as give hard truths.
Anyone in the DFW area? My husband and I are new to the area and looking for like minded people :)
I try to keep my eye on the bigger picture with that being God and what his will is for me and that is to serve pray and study His word. The church I go to only men can be elders or pastors which is scripturally sound but it still is a largely feminized Church. I don't ever see them calling upon to bring attention to some of the things mentioned in this video, part of your tithing money is going to support a women's recovery ministry with an abysmal success rate, what they perceive as empathy I perceive as enabling. Proverbs 7:11 would be a fair description of some of the women in our church.
Ouch. Rachel is like cold water to the face. I know some people complain about her views on men/women roles but I think they are Biblical. We just don't like to hear them as American feminised Christians.
You’re so right-on!
Even if something is BIBLICAL does not mean it is RIGHT FOR YOU. I am sure I do not have to elaborate.
It doesn’t make sense how she can agree with women working outside the home but disagrees with women teaching doctrine to other women.
But she is speaker and uses scripture so to be that similar to teaching women
@@samanthagraveswalters8443 Women have always worked outside the home. When humans lived in an agricultural society, women would be out in the fields, working to sow and harvest. Or they would be traveling to the town square to buy or sell.
Isn't that why the Bible tells the women to ask their OWN husbands at home? Even still, the Bible says the older women are suppose to teach the younger women about female issues, not the pastor!
Yes, but you don't need a woman's group for women to teach each other how to be wives. They can do that on their own time
@@nerychristian Really? What the heck is the difference? C'mon man!
@@graftme3168 The difference is I said so
@@nerychristian Okay, boss!
@@graftme3168 I'm just joking. But honestly I'm not a fan of segregated bible studies. Whether it be men's groups or women's groups or youth groups. It sends the message that biblical truth has to be presented differently to a person depending on their gender or age.
If there was a god, why wouldn’t he be more clear about himself and his guidance? After 2 thousand years, hearing you ask whether women should teach is astonishing. Why would god want us to get hung up over trivial matters such as this? Let me hear you rail against the false prophets and televangelist thieves. They are the real people holding back the message of god.
AMEN, AMEN and AMEN!
There are no trivial matters in scriptures. One thing which you may call trivial, may lead to other misunderstandings, which eventually lead people to become false prophets, of which you complain. For example, a lot of those televangelists are scammers who use their position of authority and fame to pressure people into donating money to them. And they are able to get away with it, because some churches thought that talking about tithes and money was a trivial thing.
Never been a fan of Women’s Ministries
It's important to acknowledge that both men and women were given dominion in Genesis 1, and God joins them together in marriage for his glory and purposes. It is also important that we recognize what is required of us is dynamic and at times unexpected, but always needs to be jointly faced. Too many people judge men and women along preset boxes without inquiring about how God distributed talents and calling, or how callings were confirmed through prayer. On the note about elder women teaching the younger, understand that Paul was not obsessed with chronological age as if it is a proxy for wisdom (evidence - see his advice to Timothy). Rather, he was focused on spiritual maturity - evidenced by his milk/meat metaphor. Elder women is the term presbytidas - you'll recognize the same root as Presbyterian or a system of elders. So, yes, there are female elders in the early church with a ministry working with younger women. Some might call the younger baby Christians. The command to love one's husband is echoed in the two greatest commandments: love God with all your heart/soul/strength, and love your neighbor as yourself - everything hangs on these two. These are the basics of Christian duty, and what our female elders should be teaching the less spiritually mature. So...leaders of women's ministry should be selected by their spiritual maturity and ability to demonstrate these basic Christian commands, no matter their physical/chrono age. Also important to note men are held to the same standard of these top commands, as Paul exhorts husbands to love and nurture their wives.
ED Benjamin. Your comment is the ONLY SENSIBLE- biblical and otherwise -comment I have read here so far.
Viewers should b aware, this is not just a wife who wrote a few books. She is the daughter of Doug Wilson. They have a family business that pushes the same agenda that promotes the ole school family structure where men rule & women serve.
NOTED!
That’s not what they push !
You'd rather have women rule and men serve like the good rebellious feminist you are ?
Sounds good to me. I'll be sure to support the Wilson family
"Jesus wept." It seems like he could have taken that opportunity to drop lots of truth bombs, but he didn't. He wept. That seems like empathy.
Yes, but that empathy was turned to action.
I do not believe women are called just to work at home!!! Where in the Bible is that??
Titus 2:5
Stephanie , why do you think feminists , the worst enemies of God have kept telling women to desert the home and pack up the workplace and make bloody money to turn into men's rivals ?
Because feminists want women to sin over and over till total destruction .
Throughout history, women have also worked outside the home. It is not a modern thing. Women used to work in the fields, helping to sow or gather the harvest.
Can u imagine being so out of touch that u think that having one working parent while raising 5 or more children in 2022 (even 2020) is just a choice? Family money is not available to support every married couple. Opportunity as well, not every married couple has monetary opportunity from a family business.
Mom of 5 here. I stay home My husband my works. We are blue collar family. 1 income. We aren’t rich but rich in Christ
@@samanthagraveswalters8443 ……& so? Ur individual personal experience does not change the factual world. Many families need both parents to work, not because they live extravagant lives, just for the basics. Thats a fact of the modern age.
What happens when married women pack up the workplace as they're are SINFULLY doing today ?
They obey any men but their husbands.
I can’t get past 16 minutes, so maybe you guys eventually brought it up, but there wasn’t a single mention of single or childless women. As if a woman’s highest calling is to serve her husband and children. As if single women don’t exist, or it’s shameful to be. This podcast was disheartening and continues to ostracize a demographic that already feels quite ostracized within the church.
I would imagine the role in the church for single women would be similar to the role of single men. Since we have more time, we can devote that to prayer and studying the word. And finding ways to serve in the church. But I agree. Single people are often neglected in church and aren't really given an outlet to use their talents.
Why are so many married women are so attracted to the Pentecostal movement, they don’t speak to their husbands about the Bible’s teachings because the husband is never observed openly reading his bible, praying or leading , worshiping and taking his family to church. Oh, I just answered my own question.
So you are giving women an excuse for why they follow bad doctrine? As if women are incapable of studying the bible on their own. There are plenty of women who don't fall for false ministries, because those women read the bible and ask God for discernment
51:00 It could be sometimes even be the case that someone is struggling so hard with some sin that constantly confessing it to Christ makes one so abhorred of and disappointed with oneself that person needs some friend to encourage him or her to quit the self-condemnation and to point to grace and away from legalism.
So there are 3 persons to consider.
What sin would exist that when confessed to Christ and then repeated over and over is actually showing that the person has repented of that sin? None exists. The reason the believer is disappointed is because they have not reached repentance for that sin. They are not ready to give it to God. It is not that you cannot have someone encourage you but if they are encouraging you to keep on in sin and claiming to give it to Christ, the friend is doing you a disservice. The proper response to that sinner would be to call out their lack of repentance. The way Rachel is addressing this is that we do not need to confess to a friend as they have zero ability to make that repentance occur!
Theologically, I think that self loathing is just a form of self idolatry. When you fully realize how insignificant you are, you don’t self pity and self loath. And to do so, is showing that you really think much to highly of yourself. We have to stop focusing on ourselves, and focus on fulfilling our role. God will bring us joy when we decide to walk in obedience. He will show us joy and satisfaction, while we serve our family.
Not before, while we do nothing, and sit around feeling bad for ourself. In fact God punishes those who walk in rebellion. So nothing will improve until you just get up, and do the things you’re supposed to do. Obey, serve, think higher of others then yourself, and pray. And joy and satisfaction will be given unto you. ♥️🙏🏽
@@minnesotamomof4385 Every one of us commits mistakes every single day. We often have impure thoughts, or are dishonest in some way. The Christian walk is one of continual repentance and sanctification. As you read the bible, God speaks to you and reveals to you things that you need to change in your life. There are some vices that are stronger than others. And many times we go through periods in our lives when we have to struggle with things.
Also, Beth Moore is a powerful woman of God whom He has used many times for His glory! Go Beth!!!
TITUS 2 : 3 - 5 are sound words of counsel to build upon. 🙏✝️💯🛐🤲 . Let the HOLY SPIRIT do HIS work, and we need to stop 😴🛏💤🛌 on the HOLY SPIRIT, we will mature in grace, and acuity in the things of ADONAI.
I would disagree with being a helpmeet in building up a business because a man is running it.
Is women's ministry even a thing in the Bible ?
I didn't watch the video, but I'd say no. This is
based upon Deborah and one or more scriptures
by Paul. Also Priscilla and Aquila, whom Paul
commends in scripture.
In the second chapter of Titus, older women are instructed to teach the younger women.
@@jocelynnelson
Exactly . But is it called "ministry" ?
@@framboise595 In a general sense, maybe? You could probably make an argument for a wide variety of activities to be called a ministry. It’s not labeled as such tho, but neither are a lot of things. Youth/kids ministry, for example.
Men's ministry isn't a thing either
Its not belittling to women to say God created them to serve men. 🙄
Lets all b pastors & have a community pay for our middle class lifestyle while we live in a big house & raise 8 kids. Sure!! Who wouldn’t love that?? Oh well, back to reality, only some people r called on by God to ‘work’ in this way. 🙄 #2
Must b nice to b a chosen one……
Man created to serve God
Woman created to serve man
Isn't it beautiful ?
@@framboise595 No, its ridiculous. Especially when we consider there is absolutely no evidence that any God said this or had human scribes record it’s word. What seems more obvious, is that the Bible is a set of books written by men for men at a time when they knew very little & most of the text clearly supports that historical fact. Just to avoid confusion, the historical fact that I mention is the ignorance of man at the time these scriptures were written.
@@friedricengravy6646
The Bible was written by men for men first - as it ought to be and totally inspired by God.
God didn't create women to serve men. Women were to be a helpful companion.
Gossiping and slandering are another name for women's ministry.
Is there such a thing as women's ministry anyway ?
@@framboise595 yes there is.
@@vincentprashant8374
I mean , in the Bible.
This is so critical and inaccurate of many women's ministries. I'm sure it is true of some, but to sweep this brush across women's ministries is so unfair. I've been a part of many transforming women's ministries who are not "wallowing" or "whining together" but spurring each other on to greater things in the Lord! Greater obedience! What is wrong with going to church on Sunday and joining another encouraging group midweek? You make it sound like it's self-indulgent. I'm sorry, this was far too negative. Rachel I really like you but this critical spirit is ugly. And did I hear the host say we should call women cows in a sermon????!!!
She never said that ALL women's ministries are bad. She was just criticizing a trend in women's groups.
You just generalize what happen in our church . Not in America.
Any type of women’s ministry supports the kingdom and brings women into fellowship with other Christians, and growth in Christ. Some of this conversation sounds a little harsh.
I agree with you Mel
Did this guy just ask, ‘Why does it have to come from a woman??’ Lol lol Really??
Their entire belief system is based on a hierarchy of men-Ha!! If someone asked the question, ‘Why does it have to come from men??’ he would respond with, ‘Because this is what God demands.’ Lol The irony completely lost here. Lol
INDEED!
I am disappointed in this episode. While I know she wasn't in the pulpit and I don't have a hard disagreement with anything she said, but I don't believe that those are a requirement of the teaching "I permit no woman to teach or to have authority over men, she is to keep silent" 1 Timothy 2:12 Was no man available as a guest to discuss these issues?
Nah, she nailed it. This was for the ladies.
Common Sensei ROFLMAO!!!!
@@kated4359 LOL!
Too many cases of the pastor living the women too much. Wink wink.
Whenever I happen upon one of these videos (of which there are MANY) where 2 Timothy 2 :12 is quoted, I am reminded of what one pastor said about how the church has used Paul’s epistles. He said that what the church has done is the same as someone taking the letters that were addressed to SOMEONE ELSE, for themselves. Yep! That is indeed what has happened.
So, imagine (my thoughts now), Jim writes to his sister Amy and her friend Jane while visiting her one day, sees the letter, read the contents and proceeds to LITERALLY apply it to herself. MADNESS isn’t it?
Yes! Madness indeed. Yet this is what the ‘church’ has done and has been in an eternal battle arguing WITHIN ITSELF about what Paul said and what Paul meant when he said what he said and so on. MADNESS!
Another kind of MADNESS is the belief that a woman can teach children (BOYS and girls) but as soon as the BOY becomes a MAN (18 years????), she is NO LONGER qualified to teach him. This is not only MADNESS but STUPIDITY, IDIOCY and ASSININITY.
Well, I am not mad or stupid. I am not a Roman, Corinthian, etc. I am not a ‘silly woman laden with sins.’ I am a CHILD OF GOD, a truly LIBERATED WOMAN according to the LIBERTY that can be found in CHRIST JESUS. A woman in whom GOD’s spirit dwells and who has endowed me with a number of talents and gifts one of which is TEACHING. I don’t need ANY HUMAN BEING to validate my gifts by giving me a title or position because as Sinach sang “I KNOW WHO I AM."
So, what part, or parts, do you apply to your own life? With the reasoning you are using, none of the Word would apply to you. Imagine THAT.
Also, what do you mean by "a number" of gifts? Do you mean a specific number, or do you mean "many?"
@@graftme3168 I apply what is APPLICABLE that is instructions that speak to holiness, godliness and righteousness because these are encouraged THROUGHOUT scriptures. SURELY you are not suggesting that ALL that is written in the bible applies to YOU are you?
@@aliciamcdonald7105 Surely, I am not implying that. I was questioning your reasoning for how you determine what applies to you or not.
@@graftme3168 Okay well I have given it.
Womens ministry or mens ministry is both seperating the little time they get tpgether for something else. Family together is the only ministry anyone can do. In this era where out of family is like, me time for people that have induced that bad culture allover.
As if children are for friends or education, family is a terrible place as if eternatinment is essential for life and the evils list against family goes on forever. In this church is not less with their agenda where it becomes tough to have life anywhere.