The realities of marriage with Japanese spouse: Do passport weddings lead to surprises?
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- While on my 10,000 step daily walk, I discuss the challenges and surprises of being married to a Japanese spouse. From passport weddings to navigating cultural differences, marriage is full of ups and downs, especially in a cross-cultural relationship. If you're looking for international marriage advice or curious about what it's like to marry someone from another culture, this video is for you! #JapaneseSpouse #CrossCulturalMarriage #InternationalMarriage
Bro. I'm married to a Japanese woman. Marriage is about communication and understanding. Patience brother and its always about the kids. Stay strong.
@@CreepyShinigami yessir. 100%. Thanks so much for watching.
THERE YA GO!!!! COMMUNICATION is the key factor right there! if you keep a healthy communication with you wife then things should be fine onece you know what and who you are dealing with.
@@kaiserxblue thank you!!!
Sounds like nagging, not communication.
@@zairman still nagging is a for of communication. XD but I getyour point.
Counseling helps, prevention is easier than fixing later. The easiest way to diffuse the situation is to actually respond with love. Tell her you love her and want her to come over and spend some time with you at least for a little while. Take a while to try to figure out why she is making those requests, is it that she feels overwhelmed, ignored, unloved? Maybe she's frustrated that she can't relax b/c of her to-do list and gets upset when she sees you relaxing. Or maybe the solution is date nights or letting her have some time to herself without the kids. Communicate your needs to each other and compromise. Don't let resentment fester.
@@doningo9051 we have been there and it helps a lot. Thanks for watching.
Marriage is such a private matter …I don’t understand why you’d be talking about such a personal matter on RUclips.
@@iwcrn thanks for watching. Yes. I agree.
Some people might be going through the same thing and might need perspective. Every couple goes through these things.
@@TheOfficial_CommanderShepherd @ yes, I understand. But how humiliating for his wife , children, family in-law to have their dirty laundry shown all over the internet. I guess we are living in a different world.
@@iwcrn I don’t consider it “dirty” as he’s more or less venting. Should it be on the internet, it depends on what it is. I see your point and the creators as well. I was married once and having another person tell you their experience helped me understand that my ex truly didn’t care about me and as men we need to have these types of conversations because who you marry greatly impacts you as an individual. I was fortunate enough to have friends and family that I could talk too, this gentleman may not have a strong support group and RUclips is his outlet.
Help out your wife. Take care of your kids.
Yes. I agree 100%. Thanks for watching.❤
He is helping his wife and kids, he is out busting his ass making money to support them. She should help her husband and get a job so not al the financial pressures are on him. Some women think their husband spendthrift day doing nothing..... women live in a çonstant delusional state
@@Patrick-s1c4p the nations that are the most feminist oriented are the ones where this happens. it doesnt happen in the philipines. divorce rate is 5 percent there. japan is the number 1 place in the world for feminism. dont be fooled that because they are the kinkiest people on the planet that they are somehow male advocates. when it comes crunch time(marriage) is when they show their cards. philipines is the only nation that has passed the male shit test. every other nation falied. THATS how much influence feminism has. hheres the trick. look at the ratio of married males who turn to prostitution. japan is particularly known for this. australia is known for this. america is known for this. you get the point. men who turn to prostitution is because the woman at home isnt meeting their needs. quite often the sexual needs arent even the true issue. its the unwomanly women making them feel unloved despite sex or lack thereof. this is why the philipines wins in every metric despite it being a poorer economy. japan is the worst for men. its great for casual stuff as an expat. but its not where the ring goes. YOUR RING GOES TO WOMEN WHO LIVE UP TO THE STANDARDS BECAUSE BEAUTY ALWAYS FADES. dont be fooled by the agelessness of the beauty of japanese. their looks dont matter if they are unloving come marriage time in which they really push for.
@@Patrick-s1c4p Help out your wife. Take care of your kids.
@@happypeach1389 get a life
As the head of household, it's your duty to provide for your family. Being a husband and father is a sacrifice. Your time, attention, and your energy are needed.
@@timeoff8553 I agree 100%
This is why, I suspect, so many marriages were put under a stress test during covid. Because many wives suddenly saw their husbands as a stay at home dad and treated them as such .
@@internalizequotes Good point. Thanks for watching.
does your wife get the time off the same way you do? The amount of time those 10000 steps walks take also adds up.
Does your wife also get the same amount of time for herself? It seems like she tries a lot in your relationship (food, clean clothes, laundry, take care of kids) while you just complain about washing some dishes or doing some basic things after work.
I would try to sit down with your wife and have a very deep and really honest conversation about how you both feel and try to come up with a plan for both of you to be happy. And that would entail also giving her some time off/helping her because taking care of kids is a very hard job in and of itself.
@@starky69 I agree thank you for your response. Allowing her to get her time too is very important. Thank you for taking the time to watch. :-) 😊
@@TLS-in-Japan bro dont listen to her. its just a feminist.
@@TLS-in-Japan Don't listen to women giving you advice for women.... 99.999% you will end up in a bad spot. You both have your roles, they are different. You should cover each others back
@@NatsuXVIII Yea don't listen to advice from people who can provide insight into a problem, real bright idea.
@@TLS-in-Japan I think it really helps if you learn to find enjoyment in simple chores like sweeping/etc. The housework will literally never end but if you take care of things as you go it really does add up substantially. Cleaning and organizing can be relaxing, my family was dysfunctional so I learned early-on how valuable an organized living space is. Good luck.
I know how it feels working from home and people not understanding you, it dilute the boundary between the life and work. Try going out and working from some cafe only if that works for you. Keep going .. this is life
@@vizx8574 great advice! We are looking into that now. Thanks for watching.
I'd rather be in a marriage like that then out here in these 2024 streets
@@schrodingerscat3912 haha...100% facts.
That’s real
"... you are what you marry..."- Al bundy
Lol...looking back, I don't think he was lying. Thanks for watching!
Dude, give up the 10K steps and start doing calisthenics in the park - pull ups, inverse rows, Bulgarian split squats.
@@bailey309 that's my night time workout :-) thanks for watching.
Whats wrong with walking?
@@jlindsey1991 a man needs resistance exercises. Walking isn’t a real exercise despite what modern BS you’ve swallowed to keep you placid in your office grind.
Marriage sucks, having kids sucks, working sucks, life sucks. Thanks
A rely from someone who knows 😅
everything sucks until your wife suck you.
Hope it gets better when the kids get older... Me and my wife don't have any kids so maybe thats what makes marriage so relaxing to me. By the way what park are you walking in? It looks nice.
@@atlantisreunion7411 thanks for the comment. Yeah, things will get better. The park is in Osaka. Do you come to Osaka often?
@@TLS-in-Japan Ah damn so thats why it wasn't familiar. I live in Tokyo and have only been to Osaka once. But lucky you in case you live close to that park.
@@atlantisreunion7411 Yeah. this park is in Osaka.
Try listening to your wife.
I think that's the best way to go about it :-) Thanks for watching.
How about if his wife tries listening to her husband. This guy busts his ass making money to support his family
@@Patrick-s1c4p yeah i hate this narrative people are going with these days. men are genuinely opressed. its so funny how women spin the narrative. im moving to the philipines. its the only country that met the conditions under which a man can thrive. the worlds failed us. if you dont become international your at the whims of your countries agenda. i live in australia at the moment and its so fucked here. im leaving.
@@Patrick-s1c4p Your suggestion is a non-starter. He can only control his own behavior. He can't control his wife's behavior. His wife's behavior may improve if she feels listened to.
I heard in japan the woman of the house usually bosses the husband around, just a different version of traditional marriage.
Sometimes...I believe so!!! Thanks for watching!
Does being with your wife provides you internal comfort? I guess it is why you marry someone, right?
Yes, the positives far outweigh any negatives. Thank you for watching!
Your wife is overwhelmed dude. She probably has depression or hidden resentment. Have you talked to her about why this is happening? I feel this man. Sometimes its like this... Hang in there brother.
@@tonykirks57 thanks for watching. Yeah we talk and are highly appreciative of each other.
This guy is overwhelmed, he is busting his ass working to financially support his family and is not being appreciated
@@TLS-in-Japan just be careful that your not fooling the fact that your appreciative for her appreciation. ive noticed too many women if not almost all of them are unappreciative in society. society rewards them for lack of appreciation of men. they played daddy before you ever walked into their life. they have these strange behaviors that wouldnt exist 50 years ago. the men havent changed. the women have. its because they need guidance and leadership but because its been outsourced because no religion or traditions(north star) they just get another northern star from the government that wants to push feminism.
Did you consider of renting some place / office near home where you'll be able to work from? Because I've heard so many stories from guys that were trying to work from home while having families and practically everyone gave up on that idea and rented some space where they were able to do the work in peace. Just a thought.
@@ortros1 absolutely. I just posted a video of one of the homes that I saw with a real estate agent this past weekend. Thanks for watching!
Does your wife know you made this video or would it be a surprise to her to discover it online? If the latter, this video is ill-advised. You may or may not have valid concerns, but there is more than one perspective in the relationship, and I personally would be hurt if my significant other put up a video basically saying I nagged them too much. A better video would be one where it starts with the difficulties, goes into the issues from the other person's perspective (to demonstrate you understand their perspective, even if you don't agree with it), and then how both sides communicated and ultimately resolved the issue. If there's no way to get that kind of resolution at home right now, there's definitely a need to look for and find a good marriage counselor to help find it.
She knows. Thanks for posting and watching. :-) 😀
I might be' crazy, or maybe not idk, but i envie you, you have awife, and kids, you have succeeded IMO. Still better than being late thirty and lonely af.
Idk man both seem pretty ass. Having a wife and kids doesn’t automatically make your life good. I’ve seen plenty of people talk about being in a sexless marriage or toxic relationship and that shit seems worse than being alone. It’s also really disappointing to hear that people have kids solely because they think it will make them happy.
@@kurhooni5924 thanks for watching. I think it really depends on the person. Everyone's situation is different.
@@drago9606 bro go to the philipines. its the only solution. those that lack the understanding that everything is conditional in life are doomed to the cards in front of them. when you understand things are conditional you start seeking conditions(choose the table to place your cards). you know what ive noticed? upon observing through the lense of conditions ive found philipines to be the only one that provides solutions for men due to its conditions. they are poorer so value male providers nomatter what. divorce is 5 percent which is its own condition. they STILL have traditional values unlike japan and everywhere else. literally the only place in the world that has met the conditions under which men can thrive. go there find a wife and life a good life. YOU GO WHERE YOUR APPRECIATED. stop being like every other male trying to push forward where the world pushes back harder. modern day problems require modern day solutions. i live by that motto quite literally. you dont adapt you die a statistic. everybody has seen those statistics so dont be suprised when its you. adapt and observe change. you change as the conditions change or the conditions will change you. have foresight or your at the whim of the coming conditions. look at the current state of EVERY country www.numbeo.com/quality-of-life/rankings.jsp(here) and start adapting to the international world of today.
Does your wife control your what you spend, and is she a stay at home mom?
@@jlindsey1991 not at all. We treat each other fairly when it comes to money. Thanks for watching.
how often do you do your 10k step walk to lose 2lbs a week?
I try to do 10,000 steps 5 times a week. Thanks for watching.
@@TLS-in-Japan i just started and trying to get over shin splint to keep going haha. also i plan to live and work in japan one day in the near future. thanks for sharing your insights
@@j00bs I wish you the best luck. If you are having shin splints I would recommend scheduling one appointment with a physical therapist-one session should be enough- it costs you a little time and money, but it is far worth it in the long run. He/she will give you a better idea of how you are distributing your weight when you walk and identify any imbalances you have, and suggest exercises for you to do to help strengthen any muscle imbalances. I hope that is helpful. Good luck to you. Thanks for sharing!
marriage sucks in general
Yes. But it would be hard for me personally to live without my wife's support. Thanks for watching. I really appreciate it.
Loved Al Bundy NO MAAM!
@@EGH181 haha...thats what I feel like sometimes.