I had to block him. I really valued him as a person and still treasure him 2 weeks post break up, but I tried NC for almost 2 months and he came back when he wasnt sure about me the first go, we talked for 5-6 months and met up in person again(slight ldr), I thought because of the way we were talking/texting he finally wanted to date me exclusively, but he said he was unsure(this is about a year after we met) and I had to make the decision to cut ties completely so that he wouldnt come back and I wouldnt be tempted to talk/reach out. I am very very sad about it, but I know deep down it needed to be done for the sake of both of us. So we could forget about each other. Its very difficult for me to detach from someone I genuinely felt a bond for, even if he didnt and I needed to do whats best for me even though it was painful.
I blocked his number so I don’t see that he isn’t messaging me. I didn’t want to but I’m afraid to see that he isn’t reaching out. As for social media, I just don’t even look. I’ve removed myself completely.
So very sorry to hear about your mom Craig. My Dad was the healthiest person I’ve ever known and died of cancer. Worse thing I’ve ever seen, my poor dad. I’m sorry to hear about your Dad too, just devastating. It changes us for life.
My ex blocked me on everything, that was due to my behavior. I had no self control and made an ass of myself. I harassed her, said hurtful things. I was hurt and took my frustrations out on her and I was completely in the wrong and she had to block me. I would’ve done the same thing. I felt horrible after I did what I did but the damage was done. I was so anxious and insecure and let my emotions consume me. I definitely wish I would’ve handled things differently,I acted like a damn kid and that’s so sad.
I initiated the breakup with my 5 year, long distance relationship girlfriend. The long distance and financial burden was stressing me out. A month and a half later, I found myself missing her. I reached out and found out she had a new boyfriend. I freaked out and acted like a jerk. So I understand your behavior. It happens to the best of us. Generally, I am a fairly easy going guy. But I lost control. She hasn’t blocked me but I’m thinking about blocking her for my own sanity, because I can’t handle seeing her pursuing this other guy.
I can totally understand that, that’s probably for the best. I’ve never acted out in the manner I did. I saw a side of myself that disgusted me. Relationships can bring out the best or the worst in us. It taught me a lot about myself and my relationships in general. Good luck with everything,I hope things work out for you.
As a girlfriend I'd be proud to have a boyfriend who supports his mum in her most difficult times. And i disagree that being selfish has to do with age. There is selfish and caring people in all ages.
Kenneth I’ve been away from your channel for I guess longer than I thought. I didn’t know about your parents I’m so sorry, I know I’m late, but I’m sorry for your loss. Sending you positive vibes even if it’s a little late since grieving lasts different timelines
most of the time when I watch videos like this I think they're just trying to sell a book or advertise for their dating support services but this video he definitely gave some honest good advice. this girl was not there for you when you really needed her support this guy can do better
In my opinion blocking is deserved on select occasions: they cheat on you (100% they deserve you to leave them for good) they lie to you (small white lies might be able to pass but big lies are a no no) and last but not least any sort of emotional/mental/physical abuse.
I just want to add , did this guy truly explain what was actually going on for him (he sounds like he did to be fair). I was in a relationship where the guy was dealing with Ill health for his family members. But he would never actually tell me any real detail. I know he wasn't lying but he was poor at telling me what was going on and what he was dealing with...I became frustrated and felt shut out so I ended it...because in the space of a few months he would never message me at all. I was always reaching out to him And getting very delayed responses from him...When I trying to ask him about his mental health and figure out where we still stood I was basically called selfish for wanting him to "prioritise me over himself"...which is not what I was requesting from him at all. All I would have needed is for him to tell me he needed some time and space , but for some reason he would never do it and I felt very strung along and never knew where I stood with him...it was an emotionally painful and exhausting experience overall.
@Justinian she always view my facebook stories and liked my insta photos...instead of being happy, that kinda annoys me like 'hey girl, you've already turned me down like what is this? Are you bread crumbing me?' Seeing her that is out of reach hurts me more. I'd rather completely forget about her that being trapped in limbo.
@Justinian I have no glimmer of hope if that would have been the case as she made it clear to me that she couldn't get romantically involved as it might cause drama at work. By the way we work in the same company. She is right about that i guess but me ain't got no choice but to cut her off completely. No more Hi's or Hello's everytime we cross paths at the workplace. So odd and awkward but well I have to go through and get used to the situation. It is what it is.
@@ADayInTheLifeOfJames I spoke to her face to face explain why I had to do it. She insisted to remain friends but i held my ground and felt sorry at the same time. She remained friendly to me to which i just reciprocated but never engage in casual conversations. Hold your ground. I know this sounds wicked but if it's for the sake of your mental health then do it. Wicked or not, let it be.
Please let go this party girl , i will be the one to ask you if i can be with you to takecare your mom , simple because if she really mature enough and love you then she will be there for you and that is the girl you have to find someone who is not selfish. You did the right things !!!
I saw a post with my ex of 3 months with a new guy who I was friends with on facebook. I blocked him and everyone she is associated with. It’s hard but it helps. Everyone needs to have peace in their lives.
This women doesn’t care I don’t think sadly her problem may be serious insecurities do you really want this type of woman in your life your right to be there for your mom and put her problems before this woman
I had to block him because after I found out that he was cheating he wasn’t remorseful so I gave him time to apologise and explain what had happened which he didn’t do. A month passed and he texted me pretending like nothing had happened that’s when I decided to block him because he was taking me for a fool.
What about if he moves on in a week after a 6 year relationship? and they do things together that he never wanted to do with me? He posts her etc after just a week?
Craig, that had to be awful for your Father to go through your Mother's death including the rest of the family. So sorry. I've lost both parents. My father passed in Feb 2004 @ 75, my mother in June 2005 @ 71. It's always a hard to thing to accept.
Been with my partner for 7 years and after all the begging and pleading I did I pushed her further away from my actions.. been split up now about 6-8 weeks and she decided to block me on everything. Feels like we are just strangers now I'm heartbroken. Any suggestions from when the dumper blocks you? Do I just move on or is there still hope? Feel lost without her but can't ever see her coming back. We are in complete zero contact.. crazy how the person that told me how much she loves me is now just a stranger with memories. Devastated.
Hey bro stay strong. Gotta just stay no contact and give it time time time. I’m sure one day she will get curious again and unblock. If not, it’s ok. If she really never even tries to reach out again, months or years later, she’s not for you in the end. Who knows tho, people can come back decades later after both parties have married and even divorced. Keep fighting the good fight one day at a time bro, each day you work on being happier is a blessing. Hope it all works out.
@@Fellatious thanks for your kind words. Personally I don't think she will ever reach out she was adamant it was over I tried everything but everything I tried just pushed her away and she sent me a message 'I'm never coming back' I still tried and sent long messages but at the time it was just shear panic. She made it clear it was completely over but I couldn't accept it.. she then blocked me on everything.. just hurts because all these years I've spent with her and all the memories and now it's like completely nothing and probably won't see her again. Just baffles me as she used to say 'I'm always here for you' but now she isn't. Just got to accept it and move on but really do miss her. Thanks for replying to me dude.
@Dominic Francis I know pal it's strange isn't it. I shouldn't of done the begging and pleading but suppose it's natural when you are in shock and don't want to lose them. Personally I think she with someone else and had her head turned because throughout all this she hasn't showed any emotions. The way she carried out the breakup was like putting milk in the fridge, like it was just a normal thing to do even though we have been together for 7 years. Not 1 message to ask how I or anything just completely put me in the past. Will never understand it pal
I feel like the girl has BPD. Im going through a break-up with someone with BPD and they usually take things personally when someone else is going through something.
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I had to block him. I really valued him as a person and still treasure him 2 weeks post break up, but I tried NC for almost 2 months and he came back when he wasnt sure about me the first go, we talked for 5-6 months and met up in person again(slight ldr), I thought because of the way we were talking/texting he finally wanted to date me exclusively, but he said he was unsure(this is about a year after we met) and I had to make the decision to cut ties completely so that he wouldnt come back and I wouldnt be tempted to talk/reach out.
I am very very sad about it, but I know deep down it needed to be done for the sake of both of us. So we could forget about each other. Its very difficult for me to detach from someone I genuinely felt a bond for, even if he didnt and I needed to do whats best for me even though it was painful.
I blocked his number so I don’t see that he isn’t messaging me. I didn’t want to but I’m afraid to see that he isn’t reaching out. As for social media, I just don’t even look. I’ve removed myself completely.
So very sorry to hear about your mom Craig. My Dad was the healthiest person I’ve ever known and died of cancer. Worse thing I’ve ever seen, my poor dad. I’m sorry to hear about your Dad too, just devastating. It changes us for life.
My ex broke my heart recently. I had to block her…I can’t have the temptation of seeing her page everyday and scrolling through it. 😭
How ya doing now man?
My ex blocked me on everything, that was due to my behavior. I had no self control and made an ass of myself. I harassed her, said hurtful things. I was hurt and took my frustrations out on her and I was completely in the wrong and she had to block me. I would’ve done the same thing. I felt horrible after I did what I did but the damage was done. I was so anxious and insecure and let my emotions consume me. I definitely wish I would’ve handled things differently,I acted like a damn kid and that’s so sad.
Update?
It’s satisfying to read someone taking personal accountability, kudos to you.
I initiated the breakup with my 5 year, long distance relationship girlfriend. The long distance and financial burden was stressing me out. A month and a half later, I found myself missing her. I reached out and found out she had a new boyfriend. I freaked out and acted like a jerk. So I understand your behavior. It happens to the best of us. Generally, I am a fairly easy going guy. But I lost control. She hasn’t blocked me but I’m thinking about blocking her for my own sanity, because I can’t handle seeing her pursuing this other guy.
I can totally understand that, that’s probably for the best. I’ve never acted out in the manner I did. I saw a side of myself that disgusted me. Relationships can bring out the best or the worst in us. It taught me a lot about myself and my relationships in general. Good luck with everything,I hope things work out for you.
I miss Margaret too. I hope she knew how much she was adored, appreciated, and respected.
As a girlfriend I'd be proud to have a boyfriend who supports his mum in her most difficult times.
And i disagree that being selfish has to do with age. There is selfish and caring people in all ages.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen coach so flustered. I agree with coach 100%. This is a frustrating situation but the priorities are not straight.
Love you Craig but miss Margaret xx
The point is your mental health that they are coming for with all their manipulation that keeps you from healing.
Kenneth I’ve been away from your channel for I guess longer than I thought. I didn’t know about your parents I’m so sorry, I know I’m late, but I’m sorry for your loss. Sending you positive vibes even if it’s a little late since grieving lasts different timelines
most of the time when I watch videos like this I think they're just trying to sell a book or advertise for their dating support services but this video he definitely gave some honest good advice. this girl was not there for you when you really needed her support this guy can do better
In my opinion blocking is deserved on select occasions: they cheat on you (100% they deserve you to leave them for good) they lie to you (small white lies might be able to pass but big lies are a no no) and last but not least any sort of emotional/mental/physical abuse.
I think blocking is deserved if you simply don't want to communicate with them again, regardless of the reason why.
@@rushrush1209 that's a great take too! I can get on board with that.
Extremely selfish, immature, and she lacks empathy and compassion. I have experienced this exact type of behavior
lead, follow, or get out of the way, she didn't do any of those...
I just want to add , did this guy truly explain what was actually going on for him (he sounds like he did to be fair). I was in a relationship where the guy was dealing with Ill health for his family members. But he would never actually tell me any real detail. I know he wasn't lying but he was poor at telling me what was going on and what he was dealing with...I became frustrated and felt shut out so I ended it...because in the space of a few months he would never message me at all. I was always reaching out to him
And getting very delayed responses from him...When I trying to ask him about his mental health and figure out where we still stood I was basically called selfish for wanting him to "prioritise me over himself"...which is not what I was requesting from him at all. All I would have needed is for him to tell me he needed some time and space , but for some reason he would never do it and I felt very strung along and never knew where I stood with him...it was an emotionally painful and exhausting experience overall.
I just blocked my 22 year old crush a week ago as seeing her profile repeatedly hurts me as the feeling is not mutual.
@Justinian
she always view my facebook stories and liked my insta photos...instead of being happy, that kinda annoys me like 'hey girl, you've already turned me down like what is this? Are you bread crumbing me?' Seeing her that is out of reach hurts me more. I'd rather completely forget about her that being trapped in limbo.
@Justinian
I have no glimmer of hope if that would have been the case as she made it clear to me that she couldn't get romantically involved as it might cause drama at work. By the way we work in the same company. She is right about that i guess but me ain't got no choice but to cut her off completely. No more Hi's or Hello's everytime we cross paths at the workplace. So odd and awkward but well I have to go through and get used to the situation. It is what it is.
Update?
@@ADayInTheLifeOfJames
I spoke to her face to face explain why I had to do it. She insisted to remain friends but i held my ground and felt sorry at the same time. She remained friendly to me to which i just reciprocated but never engage in casual conversations. Hold your ground. I know this sounds wicked but if it's for the sake of your mental health then do it. Wicked or not, let it be.
Please let go this party girl , i will be the one to ask you if i can be with you to takecare your mom , simple because if she really mature enough and love you then she will be there for you and that is the girl you have to find someone who is not selfish. You did the right things !!!
I saw a post with my ex of 3 months with a new guy who I was friends with on facebook. I blocked him and everyone she is associated with. It’s hard but it helps. Everyone needs to have peace in their lives.
This women doesn’t care I don’t think sadly her problem may be serious insecurities do you really want this type of woman in your life your right to be there for your mom and put her problems before this woman
To you in the video Craig talks about, hope your mother is better now💜
I had to block him because after I found out that he was cheating he wasn’t remorseful so I gave him time to apologise and explain what had happened which he didn’t do. A month passed and he texted me pretending like nothing had happened that’s when I decided to block him because he was taking me for a fool.
What if they unfriended me on Snapchat out of anger and then I unfollowed on Instagram? Wrong move?
What about if he moves on in a week after a 6 year relationship? and they do things together that he never wanted to do with me? He posts her etc after just a week?
Any update?
I think you should block him. You don't owe him anything.
Craig, that had to be awful for your Father to go through your Mother's death including the rest of the family. So sorry.
I've lost both parents. My father passed in Feb 2004 @ 75, my mother in June 2005 @ 71. It's always a hard to thing to accept.
Can you make a video on narscissist breakups
Been with my partner for 7 years and after all the begging and pleading I did I pushed her further away from my actions.. been split up now about 6-8 weeks and she decided to block me on everything. Feels like we are just strangers now I'm heartbroken. Any suggestions from when the dumper blocks you? Do I just move on or is there still hope? Feel lost without her but can't ever see her coming back. We are in complete zero contact.. crazy how the person that told me how much she loves me is now just a stranger with memories. Devastated.
Hey bro stay strong. Gotta just stay no contact and give it time time time. I’m sure one day she will get curious again and unblock. If not, it’s ok. If she really never even tries to reach out again, months or years later, she’s not for you in the end. Who knows tho, people can come back decades later after both parties have married and even divorced.
Keep fighting the good fight one day at a time bro, each day you work on being happier is a blessing.
Hope it all works out.
@@Fellatious thanks for your kind words. Personally I don't think she will ever reach out she was adamant it was over I tried everything but everything I tried just pushed her away and she sent me a message 'I'm never coming back' I still tried and sent long messages but at the time it was just shear panic. She made it clear it was completely over but I couldn't accept it.. she then blocked me on everything.. just hurts because all these years I've spent with her and all the memories and now it's like completely nothing and probably won't see her again. Just baffles me as she used to say 'I'm always here for you' but now she isn't. Just got to accept it and move on but really do miss her. Thanks for replying to me dude.
@Dominic Francis I know pal it's strange isn't it. I shouldn't of done the begging and pleading but suppose it's natural when you are in shock and don't want to lose them. Personally I think she with someone else and had her head turned because throughout all this she hasn't showed any emotions. The way she carried out the breakup was like putting milk in the fridge, like it was just a normal thing to do even though we have been together for 7 years. Not 1 message to ask how I or anything just completely put me in the past. Will never understand it pal
Talk to her, personally, again.
@@lewistaylor3267 update?
I feel like the girl has BPD. Im going through a break-up with someone with BPD and they usually take things personally when someone else is going through something.
Oncologists helped you. And you’re helping an oncologist here🌷 thanks for the videos
Craig my mother passed under the same circumstances as your dad. Ughh it was horrific.😢
Is unblocking considered breaking no contact?
I just realized my ex was a narcisist and she want me arround during the healing phase. Dodge a trainwreck there.
I think he should move on and focus on him and his mom
His mom is fighting for her LIFE. that girl needs to be GONE. What a stinker, trying to be nice here.
Where is Margaret?😮
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She passed away.
She died recently, Vesna.