Disrespecting her by kicking her shoe?? The fact that she won't listen to and heed your concerns is an absolute red flag. She expects to be listened to but not to listen. That's a one-sided relationship where only her convlcerms matter, and that's narcissism.
Okay so venting to somebody about something is one thing. Bad complaining and complaining and complaining and complaining. To the point where you don't want to be in the same room with somebody. Because they want to whine and complain all the time when all you would like is to just have peace and quiet and chill. No thanks. Nobody needs that.
Just let me guess. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊 just a guess.
@@TheGrandy123 you know no means no you can't just force someone to listen you complain she could just you know *act like an adult and communicate her feelings* just a thought
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
Bro i don't understand why people stay with people that makes them uncomfortable and uneasy. Your partner supposed to be your safe space, the person that you can express yourself freely without worrying about being judged. Just leave if you dread even coming home to them. It's both good for your body and mental health.
If you have to go so far just for a quiet meal tells you all you need to know about your future. It doesn't matter how long you've been together if you're not getting some peace just to even eat a meal end things. That woman is a walk red country as far as I can tell.
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
Why the hell is OP ignoring the obvious red flags. There is a bunch of red flags waving like crazy and are even flashing bright red lights at OP telling him to get the F**k out of there NOW! The dude needs to open his eyes as he clearly has them shut and ignoring all the signs. She isn't respecting his boundaries and won't let him eat in peace. The fact that he has to lock himself in the basement just to be able to eat without being harassed is shocking. She even threatened to remove the door just so she could have someone to complain to non-stop. It's crazy how people ignore the obvious red flags, if he refuses to open his eyes and see them, well he has no one else to blame but himself for putting up with such rude and horrible behavior. Dont complain about the situation you are in, if you aren't going to do anything about it. Staying with someone like that who is negative all the time will only pull you down mentally and emotionally. Dont let someone else's constant negativity into your life. Stop ignoring the red flags 🚩🚩🚩
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
Break up with that crazy. If the house is yours, inform her parents and invite them over with your girlfriend along with your own parents to explain about her constant nagging, complaints, threats, and tell them you don't feel safe in your own home because of their daughter. (Better if you have proof with home security with audio.) Tell them in all honesty that you would like to break up amicably. Tell them that their daughter is shredding you mentally, and emotionally after a hard day at work, tell them of your requests for quiet only for her to disregard it constantly thus making you to find solace in the basement. Tell them that you can't take it anymore, and to ask them to take their daughter and her things with them when they leave and to never contact you again. Immediately change the locks on every door and block her from your phone.
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
@@TheGrandy123 he told her he does not want to talk about negative stuff when he's trying to eat she did not respect that request so he is now eating in the basement she does not respect his time or opinions
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
No you did not take it too far. She was talked to and warned She did not even try to stop. You must understand though that whatever consequences this has you must live with it
Bro, don’t even she is totally wrong if she’s like clearly doing that like you should like put a tape on her mouth and say that feels much better, doesn’t it?😊
Turn toward her and chew with your mouth open. The same way children would do with that seafood/see food thing. Maybe she'll leave you alone then. Or you could just run while you still can.
Nope I did these to my ex after tired of working 60 hrs in a er or hospital he would find everything to complain about I put a wall between us and I live separately but I did not know what for another reason he was having sex whit a child his child from another woman I took my kids and left and he wanted to follow me I say hell no I move fir a reason she does not love op complaining about shit wen someone is trying to unwind from the stress of work to dial whit bs at home nope op us doing a good job by setting boundaries
That's a serious red flag warning. Perhaps ear plugs...like, the shooter over-the-ear type at dinner? Just think what 40 years of that would do to your mental well-being.
Nah, she did that shit on purpose. She waited until OP couldn't talk because they had food in their mouth and got mad when they couldn't respond because of said food.
Why don't you guys try to have it to be a positive conversation during meal time instead of a negative conversation during meal Time try to change the atmosphere it might help her and your souls
No, you haven’t gone too far. You work six days a week. Once a day of you want time to yourself, you should get it. I’m a very talkative person and so is my partner. However, I’m like that all day while he is not a morning person. I do not speak to him at all in the mornings unless after “good morning, and do you want me to make you a cup of coffee”. We usually do not speak at dinner because that’s when I decompress and read simultaneously. He gets mornings, I get dinner. Sounds like your wife wants you miserable.
YTA. Just let me guess. You forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, you should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
Red flag!!🚩 She’s not listening to you at all! Leave her, break up with her!
Well, it’s his decision. We can’t do anything about it.
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Disrespecting her by kicking her shoe?? The fact that she won't listen to and heed your concerns is an absolute red flag. She expects to be listened to but not to listen. That's a one-sided relationship where only her convlcerms matter, and that's narcissism.
Okay so venting to somebody about something is one thing. Bad complaining and complaining and complaining and complaining. To the point where you don't want to be in the same room with somebody. Because they want to whine and complain all the time when all you would like is to just have peace and quiet and chill. No thanks. Nobody needs that.
Just let me guess. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊 just a guess.
@@TheGrandy123 you know no means no you can't just force someone to listen you complain she could just you know *act like an adult and communicate her feelings* just a thought
Why are you with someone who does not respect your boundaries, let alone listen. Stop ignoring the red flags.
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
@@TheGrandy123 She needs a therapist not to unload unto someone else.
Bro i don't understand why people stay with people that makes them uncomfortable and uneasy. Your partner supposed to be your safe space, the person that you can express yourself freely without worrying about being judged. Just leave if you dread even coming home to them. It's both good for your body and mental health.
If you have to go so far just for a quiet meal tells you all you need to know about your future. It doesn't matter how long you've been together if you're not getting some peace just to even eat a meal end things. That woman is a walk red country as far as I can tell.
Walk away. She will only get worse. Do NOT put a ring on her finger!
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
@@TheGrandy123 5th copy
@@TheGrandy123 women love to just defend women without any evidence
Why the hell is OP ignoring the obvious red flags. There is a bunch of red flags waving like crazy and are even flashing bright red lights at OP telling him to get the F**k out of there NOW!
The dude needs to open his eyes as he clearly has them shut and ignoring all the signs. She isn't respecting his boundaries and won't let him eat in peace. The fact that he has to lock himself in the basement just to be able to eat without being harassed is shocking. She even threatened to remove the door just so she could have someone to complain to non-stop. It's crazy how people ignore the obvious red flags, if he refuses to open his eyes and see them, well he has no one else to blame but himself for putting up with such rude and horrible behavior. Dont complain about the situation you are in, if you aren't going to do anything about it.
Staying with someone like that who is negative all the time will only pull you down mentally and emotionally. Dont let someone else's constant negativity into your life. Stop ignoring the red flags 🚩🚩🚩
All of this!
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
When the drawbacks outnumber the bonuses its time to call it a day!
Make a dignified exit!
I read that title as 'I locked my girlfriend IN the basement" and i got so confused XD
Break up with that crazy. If the house is yours, inform her parents and invite them over with your girlfriend along with your own parents to explain about her constant nagging, complaints, threats, and tell them you don't feel safe in your own home because of their daughter. (Better if you have proof with home security with audio.) Tell them in all honesty that you would like to break up amicably. Tell them that their daughter is shredding you mentally, and emotionally after a hard day at work, tell them of your requests for quiet only for her to disregard it constantly thus making you to find solace in the basement. Tell them that you can't take it anymore, and to ask them to take their daughter and her things with them when they leave and to never contact you again. Immediately change the locks on every door and block her from your phone.
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
@@TheGrandy123 I found the 4th one.
@@TheGrandy123 he told her he does not want to talk about negative stuff when he's trying to eat she did not respect that request so he is now eating in the basement she does not respect his time or opinions
Why does she care so damn much about you eating up there???
Just let me guess what it is really happening. He forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, he should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
@@TheGrandy123 How many of these can I find ? I've already found 3.
Prince Harry is that you!?😂😂😂
bruh them red flags are a strawberry feild💀💀
No you did not take it too far. She was talked to and warned
She did not even try to stop. You must understand though that whatever consequences this has you must live with it
Consider yourself on timeout.A day or two u try going back to to the table...You want peace in your home
Leave! You need to leave and never look back!!
The red flags are abundant, and you're ignoring them!!
Break up with her, and leave!!
Bro, don’t even she is totally wrong if she’s like clearly doing that like you should like put a tape on her mouth and say that feels much better, doesn’t it?😊
My mother did that. Just leave.
Turn toward her and chew with your mouth open. The same way children would do with that seafood/see food thing. Maybe she'll leave you alone then. Or you could just run while you still can.
NTA … yep 🚩
Its funny that me and the OP got similar things but i eat somewhere different
Nope I did these to my ex after tired of working 60 hrs in a er or hospital he would find everything to complain about I put a wall between us and I live separately but I did not know what for another reason he was having sex whit a child his child from another woman I took my kids and left and he wanted to follow me I say hell no I move fir a reason she does not love op complaining about shit wen someone is trying to unwind from the stress of work to dial whit bs at home nope op us doing a good job by setting boundaries
RUN
That's a serious red flag warning. Perhaps ear plugs...like, the shooter over-the-ear type at dinner? Just think what 40 years of that would do to your mental well-being.
Red flag how did you stand it for that long. Take things a little farther MOVE
She sounds nuts. Save yourself the annoyance and move on.
Um, why is she still your girlfriend? Because she's very rude and disrespectful.
Nah, she did that shit on purpose. She waited until OP couldn't talk because they had food in their mouth and got mad when they couldn't respond because of said food.
Why don't you guys try to have it to be a positive conversation during meal time instead of a negative conversation during meal Time try to change the atmosphere it might help her and your souls
That’s effing annoying I’m glad I’m single.
No, you haven’t gone too far. You work six days a week. Once a day of you want time to yourself, you should get it. I’m a very talkative person and so is my partner. However, I’m like that all day while he is not a morning person. I do not speak to him at all in the mornings unless after “good morning, and do you want me to make you a cup of coffee”. We usually do not speak at dinner because that’s when I decompress and read simultaneously. He gets mornings, I get dinner.
Sounds like your wife wants you miserable.
She is walking red flag leave her immediately
I hate that like im tried just let me have some peace and eat in quite
Dude what are you still in the relationship, it’s just going to get worse if she’s like this
She's having problems and they're splashing onto you. She needs therapy. That, or leave
Dude. RUIUUUUUNNNN!!!!
She iz rude.
"Trust not a woman when she weeps, for it is her nature to weep when she wants her will." Socrates
YTA. Just let me guess. You forgot to precise that the diner is the only moment she can talk to you because either you are working, sleeping, playing video games, going out with your friends, watching tv, etc. maybe, instead of asking her to stop, you should ask her why she does that during the diner and not at another moment 😊
yeah well if she can't say anything positive to him and complains about him even after he works so hard maybe she should just shut up
Maybe you should have a conversation with him instead of constantly voicing her disappointment at him anytime he tries to eat