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Being 'perfect' meant that some people couldn't touch me, people at work couldn't tell me off because I would know everything. It could be my safe zone. I couldn't find that 'perfection' since it didn't exist, and that made me feel very vulnerable. This is a work in progress. Many thanks for your three videos.
Hi @melaniewendel2931, Absolutely! Taking responsibility is a powerful practice that allows us to respond to life's challenges with wisdom and clarity. Embracing this birthright empowers us to live authentically and harmoniously. Kind Regards, David
What she said at 15 seconds is spot on. When things go good, we think we are doing good and stop doing the work that should be in progress regularly. Then when things go bad again, we panic and don't own what we did wrong.
Tysvm 4this lesson again I believe i'm perfect in my imperfection and still keep on learning about life as it is all the time Ty 4 keep on doing this good works as you do 🙏☮🍀🧡🌻
LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT!! The whole Inner child essential advice are amazing. I am so looking forward for our first session this week! My inner child is smiling and i see the light already
5:10 speak your truth by keeping your inner child on the right track by dealing what it wants with kindness, compassion, patients. 18:20 Relight feeling of perfection 20:25 summary
I had to learn and pay attention to my inner self talk I was really beating myself up and thinking I had to be perfect. One thing I learned of trying to be perfect there is no such thing, it's a forever ending cycle and it's very frustrating & stressful. That's what comes with thinking that way. Now I been healing my inner child I had to learn how to be good to myself. At first I had no clue of how to do it but the God in me showed me the way. Great video! 😉😊👍🏾
Hi RichGirlRo Thanks for watching and commenting - we're glad the video helped you! We have an INNER CHILD video playlist with lots more powerful Inner Child teaching you may find helpful: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
I feel like I always wanted to be perfect because I felt like only then I would be good enough. Growing up things were pretty easy for me. My parents treated me well and we were of a stable economic background. I had all external factors well handled. However, I had dehabilitating anxiety and would struggle. I felt like my parents deserved the best and that I should be the best because things were so easy for me. I would berate myself so much and everything I did would not be good enough to me even though my parents were proud of me. As I get older I realize theoretically that everyone struggles in life regardless of outside factors and that perfection is a state that cannot be reached. I just have to do my best gently and lovingly to myself. I haven't entirely put it into practice but I try to remind myself of this principle whenever I start to feel frustrated or overwhelmed with myself. I haven't fully accepted that I can't be perfect as silly as it is but I'm retraining myself slowly into the reality of things.I robbed myself of so much joy growing up because of this perfectionist mentality.My thoughts would run wild and I would get so exhausted thati wouldn't even attempt things because I thought everything I did would be a failure.you know there are those perfectionists who have a lot of achievements but never feel good enough. I used to wish at least i was one of those - to have something to show or my suffering.anyway, here's to better days and putting in the work. I've been checking in with myself and slowly chipping away at these maladaptive thought processes.Things are slowly getting better and I'm pretty proud of that.
Hi @chochee07, Thank you for sharing your story so openly-it takes strength and courage to express these experiences. The journey you describe resonates deeply with many who face the silent challenge of perfectionism. It’s enlightening to hear that you’re coming to realise the truth: perfection is an illusion, and true growth comes from embracing our imperfections with kindness. Growing up with a stable environment and loving parents, it’s natural to want to give back in the best way possible. Yet, the pressure to match that gratitude with perfection can become overwhelming. Your realisation that everyone has their own struggles, regardless of external stability, is a profound step toward self-acceptance. It’s heartening to hear that you’re beginning to practice patience and gentleness with yourself-these are essential to nurturing your Shen spirit and reclaiming the joy that perfectionism can steal. Remember, the progress you’re making, even if gradual, is significant. Each step forward is a testament to your resilience and willingness to shift old beliefs. It’s okay if full acceptance doesn’t happen overnight; what matters is that you’re committed to the process and treating yourself with compassion along the way. If you’d like to explore more wisdom or connect with others on a similar path, you’re invited to join our free Wu Wei Wisdom community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. P.S. Exciting News! I've launched David's Journal, my free newsletter where I'll share deeper insights into Wu Wei Wisdom, Taoism, and my personal journey. For exclusive access to upcoming projects and the chance to shape new content, a paid subscription is also available. Subscribe for free or join the inner circle: davidjameslees.com Looking forward to sharing this journey with you! Kind Regards, David
I agree! I often think who decides what's perfect? And who compares one against the other? Really it does NOT make any sense and only shows the state of their emotional maturity.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. You may also find this video helpful: ruclips.net/video/4XTNdA4hsxQ/видео.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. David
They're just trying to become influencers so that they can get paid for promoting products, and doing affiliate marketing. Photoshop can make anyone look great, anyone can hire a photographer to follow them around and take great shots. What shocks me is how superficial and juvenile this current obsession with physical appearance is......
Hi Daniel We're pleased that we can help you! We have lots more videos on healing old trauma and Inner Child work here that you may also find helpful: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Such a great video with invaluable information. My therapist mentioned focusing on this type of work for real, lasring change (vs focusing on current habbits/patterns). I feel like I already took a huge step forward just by watching this. Thank you!
Hi David Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! We have many videos on our INNER CHILD playlist which you many also find helpful! : ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Thanks for your support Jac! Have you watched our latest video which talks about procrastination and how the Inner Child affects our actions (or inaction)? ruclips.net/video/JB-aaFzsWR8/видео.html If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Aaaw thanks so much. David just explained what I've done. I got so into wuwei, for several weeks, then started to feel so much better, then I noticed I wasnt sure how often I still have to do this, maybe I'm ok now :)))). Then bam, something hits again and I think oh no I'm back to square one. Now I see I need to keep the relationship every day. Keep building the trust. Thank you. I feel v relieved now. ❤❤❤
David, so to get off the carousel, we need to work smarter not harder. By giving into the inner child is we are making it harder moving forward. I totally get what you're saying, both of you. I am dealing with the 7 year old child.
Yes! Thanks for watching Leanne :) We have an Inner Child video playlist you may enjoy: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq Alex + David x
Hi Lizeta Thank for your kind feedback! We have an Inner Child video playlist that may be of interest to you (we add new videos to this almost every week): ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
I have the impression that the internalized toxic parent ( a kind of inner critic ) is influencing the inner-child unfortunately. As you said sometimes, it is the model which the child has internalized, it is a fact & we need to change this. A warm thank you to you both🍀🍀
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Hi @scbuddoldschool5313, We'd be happy to guide you through working with your inner child step by step. Here's a brief outline to get you started: Awareness: Acknowledge that your inner child exists and plays a role in your adult life. Recognize the feelings and behaviors that may be connected to your inner child. Connection: Begin to establish a connection with your inner child through meditation or visualization. Picture your inner child and try to understand their emotions, the beliefs and experiences they use to create them. Communication: Start a dialogue with your inner child. Ask them what they need and listen to their responses. This can be done through journaling or meditative conversations. Validation: Validate the feelings and experiences of your inner child. Let them know that it's okay to feel scared, hurt, or angry. But they are creating those emotional experiences. Reassurance: Offer reassurance to your inner child. Let them know they are safe now and that you, as the adult self, are there to protect and care for them. Healing Activities: Engage in activities that nurture your inner child, like playing, drawing, or spending time in nature. Professional Guidance: If you find the process overwhelming, consider seeking support from a professional who specializes in inner child work. Remember, this is a gradual process, and it's essential to approach it with patience and compassion. If you're looking for more detailed guidance and community support, feel free to join our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/, where like-minded individuals share their journeys and insights. Kind Regards, David
Perfection to me, is being the best version of yourself. I try and do things to the best of my ability. I cant feel good about myself if I didn't put in 100% then I won't do it. Maybe its not the proper definition of perfect but to me that's what I think about perfection.
Perfection might be is this that for example if someone has crooked and stained teeth and he feels bad for having it so he must go and fix it up rather than having this concept of accept yourself as you are, because it doesn't look good and beautiful, if they can do it they should go for it, they shouldn't sit having this concept because they feel bad and fearful, have perfectionism pressure on them, what do you want to say in that case?
Thankyou David and Alex. I understand when you explain how to talk and reparenting your inner child. When I try to do it with my IC I am getting confused. She today showed me jealousy and resentment because a trainer took care of another student but not of me because I wasnt asserive enough. My IC reacted and then I dont know how to talk with her because I failed to do smt but she reacted. Do you understand what is confusing to me and can you please give advice how to deal constructively?
Hi @arjaloggers4509, Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you're deeply engaged in the process of understanding and reparenting your inner child, which is wonderful. When feelings like jealousy and resentment surface, it's a sign that your inner child is seeking attention and care. Start by acknowledging these emotions without judgment. Reassure your inner child that it's okay to feel this way, and remind her that you are there to protect and support her. This practice takes time, so be patient with yourself. If you find it helpful, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is a great place to discuss these experiences with like-minded people who might have similar advice: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind Regards, David
It is impossible to describe, because it is different for everyone.
I often hear words and phrases like: peace, love, oneness, focus, inner strength etc. from my clients.
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It will probably feel uncomfortable at first as you are coming into contact with a part of yourself that has been repressed for a long time. Expect to feel somewhat vulnerable as lot of emotions can be released - but remember being sad and upset is part of the healing process. I recommend the book 'Home Coming' by John Bradshaw. He explains the full process, what to expect, tools for doing the work etc.
thank you david.. this is much needed work. a question: is integrating the inner child into the self one possible outcome? if you can elaborate please thank you
hello I have question about healing inner child. so it is must to reciognize and remember hurtfull events from the past in childhood to heal it or is other option to nurture inner child with self discipline? thanks
I believe Our Creator God is perfect. why? because I think God makes no mistakes in life. I strive to be this way. I think we strive for Purity instead of Perfection.
I am 56 and male and married and have been struggling with uncontrollable anger for the past few months. It is like another person just comes out of me, someone I do not even know. I start shaking, my anger is in dis appropriate of the situation. I had abuse as a child, physical and psychological. I have been obsessed with diapers and babyish things all my life. I am a Adult Baby/ Diaper Lover, have been thru my entire life. My life is pretty good, I have been successful, married, nice house, great career. But now, here I am dealing with this problem and I am afraid of damaging my relationships or even divorce. My question is, how do you talk to your inner child when your inner child is more than likely less than two years old?
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
In my professional experience (which is now over 40 years) the part of your mind we are labelling the Inner Child is never as young as you are suggesting. You may need a little professional help to unpick and address these childhood abuse issues which are having an effect on your life now.
Why don't you find a local professional practitioner who you could work with, or book a couple of 1-2-1 video sessions with me if our work and Wu Wei Wisdom therapy model appeals to you. David
The answer is, with truth, honesty, love and compassion. Above all, you show her that you will act with integrity and answer all of her questions truthfully.
As you know I think she is AWESOME! She needs help guidance and support.
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ONE THING YOU DO MOT COVER. WHAT IF YOU LIVE ALONE, WITH NO FRIENDS, NOR FAMILY? I HAVE NEITHER, BECAUSE "NO CONTACT" WITH MY DISFUNCTIONAL FAMILY IS CRITICAL; AND THE FRIENDS I OBTAINED WERE NOT HEALTHY. THE SLATE IS JUST ME, MYSELF, AND I. THE LONELINESS SCREAMS, " I NEED SOMETHING MORE THAN JUST BEING ALONE WITH MY INNER CHILD. I BELIEVE IT'S BEST THAT I AM FINALLY ALONE WITH MYSELF, BECAUSE I MADE SACRIFICES, SO I CAN HEAL; BUT SLOWLY ADD RELATIONSHIPS TO THE FOUNDATION WORK OF SELF LOVE. COVID HAS INTENSIFIED THE LONELINESS.....
This was a great video but I need to talk about how this video helps me 🙅on 3/5 my rentman text me and told me I had 30 days to move out they're selling the place 😠I me 🤔have no money and no where stay so like always I jump on the carousel💈 criticizing and judging myself now one positive thing I did do is get up every morning is put on your video I heard David say why beat yourself up yes👊 I cried 😭some more I listen to the video then next I heard get back on the bike and start pedaling😭 I cried some more the magic words stop it👏 just stop it👏 listen to the video some more and that's where I found my answer it's just a lesson to learn🤔 I asked myself why did this happen to me the answer was it's life I'm not perfect I thought my thoughts were perfect stop it Cheryl there is no perfect stay into the now nowwwww🐌
Yes. It's so helpful. But David reminds unintentionally of the exasperated low patience parent who is yelling "why can't you get it!". I can understand as a therapist he's heard the same thing across years from his patients. But he's unable to detach his experience and fatigue and realise that he's taking to someone who is hearing it for the first time. It's literally like a child being told for the first time. It's totally off putting
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Being 'perfect' meant that some people couldn't touch me, people at work couldn't tell me off because I would know everything. It could be my safe zone. I couldn't find that 'perfection' since it didn't exist, and that made me feel very vulnerable. This is a work in progress. Many thanks for your three videos.
It sounds as though you've now got a good insight, well done! Kind regards, David.
Taking responsibility means responding to whatever life presents to us. It is our birthright.
Hi @melaniewendel2931,
Absolutely! Taking responsibility is a powerful practice that allows us to respond to life's challenges with wisdom and clarity. Embracing this birthright empowers us to live authentically and harmoniously.
Kind Regards,
David
@@WuWeiWisdom ♥Thank you.
What she said at 15 seconds is spot on. When things go good, we think we are doing good and stop doing the work that should be in progress regularly. Then when things go bad again, we panic and don't own what we did wrong.
Tysvm 4this lesson again
I believe i'm perfect in my imperfection and still keep on learning about life as it is all the time
Ty 4 keep on doing this good works as you do
🙏☮🍀🧡🌻
Great job! Keep up the good work. Kind regards, David.
So true - we have to take responsibility, because when we don't, we ourselves are the ones to suffer.
LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT!! The whole Inner child essential advice are amazing. I am so looking forward for our first session this week! My inner child is smiling and i see the light already
Great video!
Glad you enjoyed it Kind regards, David.
5:10 speak your truth by keeping your inner child on the right track by dealing what it wants with kindness, compassion, patients. 18:20 Relight feeling of perfection 20:25 summary
These guys are like the QVC hosts of healing the inner child, and being a functioning adult.
Ha! x
I had to learn and pay attention to my inner self talk I was really beating myself up and thinking I had to be perfect. One thing I learned of trying to be perfect there is no such thing, it's a forever ending cycle and it's very frustrating & stressful. That's what comes with thinking that way. Now I been healing my inner child I had to learn how to be good to myself. At first I had no clue of how to do it but the God in me showed me the way. Great video! 😉😊👍🏾
Hi RichGirlRo
Thanks for watching and commenting - we're glad the video helped you!
We have an INNER CHILD video playlist with lots more powerful Inner Child teaching you may find helpful: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq
If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos.
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Great stuff folks.Am 72. Now starting to awaken. Cheers n thanks.New student here,keep up the good work.God bless,Namaste.
Robert
Thanks for watching and commenting Robert - we're delighted to be part of your journey! 😀 Alex + David x
I feel like I always wanted to be perfect because I felt like only then I would be good enough. Growing up things were pretty easy for me. My parents treated me well and we were of a stable economic background. I had all external factors well handled. However, I had dehabilitating anxiety and would struggle. I felt like my parents deserved the best and that I should be the best because things were so easy for me. I would berate myself so much and everything I did would not be good enough to me even though my parents were proud of me. As I get older I realize theoretically that everyone struggles in life regardless of outside factors and that perfection is a state that cannot be reached. I just have to do my best gently and lovingly to myself. I haven't entirely put it into practice but I try to remind myself of this principle whenever I start to feel frustrated or overwhelmed with myself. I haven't fully accepted that I can't be perfect as silly as it is but I'm retraining myself slowly into the reality of things.I robbed myself of so much joy growing up because of this perfectionist mentality.My thoughts would run wild and I would get so exhausted thati wouldn't even attempt things because I thought everything I did would be a failure.you know there are those perfectionists who have a lot of achievements but never feel good enough. I used to wish at least i was one of those - to have something to show or my suffering.anyway, here's to better days and putting in the work. I've been checking in with myself and slowly chipping away at these maladaptive thought processes.Things are slowly getting better and I'm pretty proud of that.
Hi @chochee07,
Thank you for sharing your story so openly-it takes strength and courage to express these experiences. The journey you describe resonates deeply with many who face the silent challenge of perfectionism. It’s enlightening to hear that you’re coming to realise the truth: perfection is an illusion, and true growth comes from embracing our imperfections with kindness.
Growing up with a stable environment and loving parents, it’s natural to want to give back in the best way possible. Yet, the pressure to match that gratitude with perfection can become overwhelming. Your realisation that everyone has their own struggles, regardless of external stability, is a profound step toward self-acceptance. It’s heartening to hear that you’re beginning to practice patience and gentleness with yourself-these are essential to nurturing your Shen spirit and reclaiming the joy that perfectionism can steal.
Remember, the progress you’re making, even if gradual, is significant. Each step forward is a testament to your resilience and willingness to shift old beliefs. It’s okay if full acceptance doesn’t happen overnight; what matters is that you’re committed to the process and treating yourself with compassion along the way.
If you’d like to explore more wisdom or connect with others on a similar path, you’re invited to join our free Wu Wei Wisdom community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/.
P.S. Exciting News!
I've launched David's Journal, my free newsletter where I'll share deeper insights into Wu Wei Wisdom, Taoism, and my personal journey. For exclusive access to upcoming projects and the chance to shape new content, a paid subscription is also available.
Subscribe for free or join the inner circle: davidjameslees.com
Looking forward to sharing this journey with you!
Kind Regards,
David
When you look at the social media, it’s full of people displaying their so called perfect life 🙉🙈🙊 😊
Hi Koen,
I agree! I often think who decides what's perfect? And who compares one against the other? Really it does NOT make any sense and only shows the state of their emotional maturity.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support.
You may also find this video helpful: ruclips.net/video/4XTNdA4hsxQ/видео.html
If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos.
David
They are just trying to convince themselves. 😢
They're just trying to become influencers so that they can get paid for promoting products, and doing affiliate marketing. Photoshop can make anyone look great, anyone can hire a photographer to follow them around and take great shots. What shocks me is how superficial and juvenile this current obsession with physical appearance is......
THANK YOU!!!!! this has radically changed my life in so many ways!!!!💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Hi Daniel
We're pleased that we can help you!
We have lots more videos on healing old trauma and Inner Child work here that you may also find helpful: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq
If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video).
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Such a great video with invaluable information. My therapist mentioned focusing on this type of work for real, lasring change (vs focusing on current habbits/patterns).
I feel like I already took a huge step forward just by watching this.
Thank you!
Hi David
Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you!
We have many videos on our INNER CHILD playlist which you many also find helpful! : ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq
If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos.
If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video).
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I am so pleased, I have found your videos, you say it how it is.
Thank you to you both.
Brilliant.
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superb !
Aaaw thanks so much. David just explained what I've done. I got so into wuwei, for several weeks, then started to feel so much better, then I noticed I wasnt sure how often I still have to do this, maybe I'm ok now :)))). Then bam, something hits again and I think oh no I'm back to square one. Now I see I need to keep the relationship every day. Keep building the trust. Thank you. I feel v relieved now. ❤❤❤
David, so to get off the carousel, we need to work smarter not harder. By giving into the inner child is we are making it harder moving forward.
I totally get what you're saying, both of you. I am dealing with the 7 year old child.
Yes!
Thanks for watching Leanne :)
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these videos are excellent, thank you!
Hi Lizeta
Thank for your kind feedback!
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I have the impression that the internalized toxic parent ( a kind of inner critic ) is influencing the inner-child unfortunately. As you said sometimes, it is the model which the child has internalized, it is a fact & we need to change this. A warm thank you to you both🍀🍀
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thank you
You're welcome Sonam - we're glad you enjoyed the video! Please ask us if you have any questions :) Alex + David x
Powerful
Would you please send me how to work with your inner child from the very beginning? Step by step please.
Hi @scbuddoldschool5313,
We'd be happy to guide you through working with your inner child step by step. Here's a brief outline to get you started:
Awareness: Acknowledge that your inner child exists and plays a role in your adult life. Recognize the feelings and behaviors that may be connected to your inner child.
Connection: Begin to establish a connection with your inner child through meditation or visualization. Picture your inner child and try to understand their emotions, the beliefs and experiences they use to create them.
Communication: Start a dialogue with your inner child. Ask them what they need and listen to their responses. This can be done through journaling or meditative conversations.
Validation: Validate the feelings and experiences of your inner child. Let them know that it's okay to feel scared, hurt, or angry. But they are creating those emotional experiences.
Reassurance: Offer reassurance to your inner child. Let them know they are safe now and that you, as the adult self, are there to protect and care for them.
Healing Activities: Engage in activities that nurture your inner child, like playing, drawing, or spending time in nature.
Professional Guidance: If you find the process overwhelming, consider seeking support from a professional who specializes in inner child work.
Remember, this is a gradual process, and it's essential to approach it with patience and compassion. If you're looking for more detailed guidance and community support, feel free to join our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/, where like-minded individuals share their journeys and insights.
Kind Regards,
David
Perfection to me, is being the best version of yourself. I try and do things to the best of my ability. I cant feel good about myself if I didn't put in 100% then I won't do it. Maybe its not the proper definition of perfect but to me that's what I think about perfection.
Perfection might be is this that for example if someone has crooked and stained teeth and he feels bad for having it so he must go and fix it up rather than having this concept of accept yourself as you are, because it doesn't look good and beautiful, if they can do it they should go for it, they shouldn't sit having this concept because they feel bad and fearful, have perfectionism pressure on them, what do you want to say in that case?
Does every emotional disturbance has to do with the inner child? Should we connect to the inner child in all such circumstances?
Thankyou David and Alex. I understand when you explain how to talk and reparenting your inner child. When I try to do it with my IC I am getting confused. She today showed me jealousy and resentment because a trainer took care of another student but not of me because I wasnt asserive enough. My IC reacted and then I dont know how to talk with her because I failed to do smt but she reacted. Do you understand what is confusing to me and can you please give advice how to deal constructively?
Hi @arjaloggers4509,
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you're deeply engaged in the process of understanding and reparenting your inner child, which is wonderful. When feelings like jealousy and resentment surface, it's a sign that your inner child is seeking attention and care. Start by acknowledging these emotions without judgment. Reassure your inner child that it's okay to feel this way, and remind her that you are there to protect and support her. This practice takes time, so be patient with yourself. If you find it helpful, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is a great place to discuss these experiences with like-minded people who might have similar advice: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/.
Kind Regards,
David
Thankyou David, this is helpful❤
thank you. what does the process of integration with the inner child FEELS like? more so how does it feel like physiologically? thank you
Hi Nameer thanks for your question.
It is impossible to describe, because it is different for everyone.
I often hear words and phrases like: peace, love, oneness, focus, inner strength etc. from my clients.
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David
It will probably feel uncomfortable at first as you are coming into contact with a part of yourself that has been repressed for a long time. Expect to feel somewhat vulnerable as lot of emotions can be released - but remember being sad and upset is part of the healing process.
I recommend the book 'Home Coming' by John Bradshaw. He explains the full process, what to expect, tools for doing the work etc.
thank you david.. this is much needed work. a question: is integrating the inner child into the self one possible outcome? if you can elaborate please thank you
thank you
@@nameeralaraji1223 Hi Nameer,
The integration of the Inner child *is* the purpose of the teaching.
Resolving the internal conflict and separation and dissolving into 'Oneness' is where you will find inner balance, peace and Wu Wei.
David
hello
I have question about healing inner child.
so it is must to reciognize and remember hurtfull events from the past in childhood to heal it or is other option to nurture inner child with self discipline?
thanks
I'm so excited it's here🐥😄😄😄
Hope you enjoyed it Raven! :) A+D x
@@WuWeiWisdom yes I can't wait till I'm off to comment🐥
I believe Our Creator God is perfect. why? because I think God makes no mistakes in life.
I strive to be this way.
I think we strive for Purity instead of Perfection.
I am 56 and male and married and have been struggling with uncontrollable anger for the past few months. It is like another person just comes out of me, someone I do not even know. I start shaking, my anger is in dis appropriate of the situation. I had abuse as a child, physical and psychological. I have been obsessed with diapers and babyish things all my life. I am a Adult Baby/ Diaper Lover, have been thru my entire life. My life is pretty good, I have been successful, married, nice house, great career. But now, here I am dealing with this problem and I am afraid of damaging my relationships or even divorce. My question is, how do you talk to your inner child when your inner child is more than likely less than two years old?
Hi David,
Thank you for sharing your story with us.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
In my professional experience (which is now over 40 years) the part of your mind we are labelling the Inner Child is never as young as you are suggesting. You may need a little professional help to unpick and address these childhood abuse issues which are having an effect on your life now.
Why don't you find a local professional practitioner who you could work with, or book a couple of 1-2-1 video sessions with me if our work and Wu Wei Wisdom therapy model appeals to you.
David
How do you deal with the inner child that has been humiliated and bullied for 60 years.
Hi Sharon,
The answer is, with truth, honesty, love and compassion. Above all, you show her that you will act with integrity and answer all of her questions truthfully.
As you know I think she is AWESOME! She needs help guidance and support.
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Hi David and Alex.Your videos really give me encouragement . Especially the inner child ones.. A big Thank you.Denise x
@@redladyrose7208 thanks Denise! x
ONE THING YOU DO MOT COVER. WHAT IF YOU LIVE ALONE, WITH NO FRIENDS, NOR FAMILY? I HAVE NEITHER, BECAUSE "NO CONTACT" WITH MY DISFUNCTIONAL FAMILY IS CRITICAL; AND THE FRIENDS I OBTAINED WERE NOT HEALTHY. THE SLATE IS JUST ME, MYSELF, AND I. THE LONELINESS SCREAMS, " I NEED SOMETHING MORE THAN JUST BEING ALONE WITH MY INNER CHILD. I BELIEVE IT'S BEST THAT I AM FINALLY ALONE WITH MYSELF, BECAUSE I MADE SACRIFICES, SO I CAN HEAL; BUT SLOWLY ADD RELATIONSHIPS TO THE FOUNDATION WORK OF SELF LOVE. COVID HAS INTENSIFIED THE LONELINESS.....
This was a great video but I need to talk about how this video helps me 🙅on 3/5 my rentman text me and told me I had 30 days to move out they're selling the place 😠I me 🤔have no money and no where stay so like always I jump on the carousel💈 criticizing and judging myself now one positive thing I did do is get up every morning is put on your video I heard David say why beat yourself up yes👊 I cried 😭some more I listen to the video then next I heard get back on the bike and start pedaling😭 I cried some more the magic words stop it👏 just stop it👏 listen to the video some more and that's where I found my answer it's just a lesson to learn🤔 I asked myself why did this happen to me the answer was it's life I'm not perfect I thought my thoughts were perfect stop it Cheryl there is no perfect stay into the now nowwwww🐌
Great share Raven (sorry we missed this comment when you originally posted it!)
So pleased the video helped you 💜
Alex + David x
Only god is perfect
Great content but the delivery is so off putting. David's exasberated whiny nagging seems to defeat the purpose of his intent.
Yes. It's so helpful. But David reminds unintentionally of the exasperated low patience parent who is yelling "why can't you get it!". I can understand as a therapist he's heard the same thing across years from his patients. But he's unable to detach his experience and fatigue and realise that he's taking to someone who is hearing it for the first time. It's literally like a child being told for the first time. It's totally off putting
oh, this is stressful to listen to. Let that woman speak...