Allison Spills Broken Engagement Tea~
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HE DIDN'T JUST PAY TO WIDEN THE BAND??! ALLISON DESERVES MORE AND SHE'S GONNA GET IT
I was thinking that! From everything I’ve heard about him, he sounds selfish. No blame on Allison for getting burned by him.
And now she's married to a nice guy!
It’s crazy the amount of things we justify in a relationship and it isn’t until it comes crumbling down that we’re like oh shit they did kinda treat me poorly
Exactly
I'm with Allison that sometimes you want to be progressive and so it feels weird to be so traditional/patriarchal by having your partner pay for things, especially when it's as expensive as an engagement ring. BUT I think the red flag is that Allison knew she wanted her partner to WANT to buy her a beautiful engagement ring that would work for her sensory issues and she didn't feel comfortable being honest with him about that. And if you can't be honest to your partner about something as fun an engagement ring, then you're probably not in the right place. But hearing Allison is now in another relationship with a wonderful person is making my WHOLE YEAR!!! We love to see good things happen to good people
Maybe she didn't feel like she could be honest because he had already allowed her to design the entire thing herself so that it did meet all of her needs, but she didn't know herself well enough to realise the band would be an issue for her and let him pay for a custom piece of jewelry without properly considering the needs he was already allowing her to have considered before even making the purchase. It's called guilt, and it's not his fault. You are correct however that her inability to effectively communicate is a red flag, and I'm really not surprised that he "abruptly" called off the engagement following several mind games in quick succession.
@@mydogeatspuke Where did she say she designed it and had a full custom ring? It sounds like he proposed with a ring he found on his own and hadn't thought about her sensory issues at all.
@@Devilangel250others commented on it and said there is (or was? could have since been deleted in an attempt to rewrite history) a video they made as a couple showing the design process and that she had total control over the specification, including the width of the band, and he just paid for it when she was finished making it exactly how she wanted it to be. He definitely did not just pick a random ring without considering her needs, in fact the exact opposite appears to be the case. Isn't it interesting though that she's managed to make so many people believe something that isn't at all true?
@@mydogeatspuke what weird anger you have all from a comment about a video that may or may not exist...get a life dude.
@@bashlee09 weird that you assume I'm angry based on nothing at all but your imagination, and then go on to decide that I must not have a life purely because you can imagine a stranger's feelings over text on a screen. Lots of people who think they're psychic in these comments aren't there?
"Marriages mean nothing, Mortgages are forever"
allison in love with long hair being super into gaby's (possible) engagement reminds me of young allison, like in a really lovely mature full circle way, i'm just happy for her
"Noone in my family called to yell at him"
Gaby this is your clue to call him and yell at him xdd
I thought the same!
at the very least i want to prank phone call this guy 😤
Yeah don't be shy leak his number 👀👀 (for legal reasons i am joking)
But does anyone remember his name… or his socials? You know… to ABSOLUTELY NOT spam him?
I LOVE THIS SPACE ALLISON IS IN , YESS GIRL SPILL THE TEA , im glad she can laugh about that situation now lol LMAOOO
Oh man Allison didn’t just dodge a bullet she missed a fucking nuke! Who the fuck acts like that?!
Glad you two are in such good places right now, well deserved. 💕
I actually just learned about this in law school! Legally whoever bought the ring is entitled to it in a broken engagement regardless of fault (aka who breaks it off). But since you did pay for part of it you would be entitled to that value. So you’re actually right in thinking that the elliptical could be a substitute for your cost of the ring (and you actually probably got more than the $250, so you basically won ❤️).
Unless it was given on a holiday (Christmas, birthday, etc.), then it's a gift!
In California, the law is different depending on fault. If the engagement ring recipient calls off the engagement, they have to return the ring to the giver. If the end of the engagement is a mutual decision, the recipient also has to return to the giver. But if the giver calls off the engagement, the recipient can keep the ring because they weren’t the one who breeched the contract.
I think where I live once you give the ring to the other person it’s considered a gift and therefore isn’t yours any more if the engagement ends
My fiancé actually put my ring in my name. It’s on paper legally mine. When he bought it and told the man to put it in my name the guy looked stunned. Said it’s very uncommon to see that. My fiancé said he trusts me and if I say no or break it off it’s not like he would want it anyway.
That actually shocks me. I feel its the opposite. If my mother buys me cookware for Christmas then gives it to me... is she entitled to take it back?
Allison ending this part of the conversation with “life’s wild, comes at you fast.” killed me lmao.
So many red flags! Heartbreaking, but you truly DODGED A BULLET
Allison nooooooooooo. I was so sorry that things ended so badly but honestly he did you such a favour
This has been the most shocking tea this year, no cap. Allison, if I ever become a millionaire or find a diamond cave or wherever those things fucking appear I'm getting you a ring
Allison: engagements ARE meaningful when both people are being honest. And I know you’ll have that next time! Lots of love
Right? She still sounds so bitter.
@@NolaChick82 no she doesn’t? She’s hurt.
ahhhhhh i wish u guys would post the full filmed podcast !! i love listening every week but it’s also so nice to watch these clips and see ur facial expressions and reactions it’s so funny
Good riddance. GOOD riddance, Allison dodged a massive bullet. It makes me so happy to hear she's moved far along after watching her broken engagement story back in quarantine. It's giving me LIFE.
I remember screaming when I first heard this on the podcast! Wtf?! So happy you’re in a better relationship, both with yourself and your new bf, Allison!
Also congrats on the house and possible future engagement, Gaby!!
🥰🥰🥰🥰
I knew Allison’s ex fiancé wasn’t shit when he wouldn’t let her keep Otis the dog, knowing how heartbroken she was over it smh
Otis the foster dog that was showing aggressive behaviour towards her other dog she'd had for years? Yeah, what a bastard for thinking of how that might not be the best energy to bring into the home permanently. There is no "let" though. She's a grown ass adult, he wasn't her father. If she really wanted to adopt him, she could have easily done it, she didn't need his permission. For a bunch of people who harp on about smashing the patriarchy, you relinquish a lot of your rights to maintain the status quo don't you 🙄
@@mydogeatspuke I will accept this criticism. I didn’t know about the Cookie issue either
@@Vanessa-lx8nk They were living together so ofc the ex being against it is something to consider. it has nothing to do with "relinquishing your rights to a man" wtf is the other commenter on?
@@NeonKodiak her right to choose how she wants to live her life...???? You can't seriously be this dim.
@@mydogeatspuke if she is commiting to marry this person yeah there's a good chance she will take what they have to say in consideration. You are living with someone, they will have to deal with it as well, you probably should talk about it and not force it on them by just completely ignoring their wishes. I understand for you this doesn't make sense, but for others being compassionate and taking your partner's thoughts and ideas over something like adding a pet to the household is completely normal and a sign of true partnership.
Ok for anyone who needs to know this..the thing about Allison paying part of her ring is 100% a BAD sign! I paid for my engagement ring, because I picked it up at the jewelers and he never offered to pay me back! We were married for one and half years! It was a major major major omen! Allison, you dodged a bullet with that guy for sure! Getting out before it ended up a divorce had to have been easier financially. I’m so happy you’ve found someone who treats you well ❤️
This is so classic Allison and Gaby. I feel something. Could it be joy
IM DEAD at this comment
The more I hear about this man the more happy I am he is gone. So very paltry and barren.
Wtf is he gonna do with her affordable custom ring from a broken engagement? Pawn it for a couple hundred dollars?? Embarrassing!
Based on how shitty he sounds as a person I wouldn’t be surprised if he eventually recycled it and gave it to another woman as if any woman wants a ring of broken commitment that he took back from his ex.
@@andreaxxxedge in reddit stories that is happening all the time.
@@carolsimpson4422 not surprising. I knew a guy whose fiancé left him and he still had the ring and when I asked him why he said because he would use it again the next time he got engaged. I told him to prepare to end up divorced if he gave a girl a ring he bought for another woman as if he’d chosen it for her. His justification was “If I sell it I will never get what I paid for it.”
He has since been accused of several sexual assaults. He’s married now. His wife is such a lucky gal for so many reasons.
what is she gonna do with it? surely, she wouldn’t want to wear it
I'm glad to see allison is in a place where she can laugh about it and looks happy 💜
This is sooooo relatable for me haha. it's wild how in my previous relationship there were so many things that I justified/didn't see as a red flag that now I'm like 'HOLY SHIT WHAT??' and what Allison says about having so much anger and rage about it but now viewing it as funny, that's really relatable too. it feels good to feel like that more than ever before I know what kind of love I deserve and ITS SO WONDERFUL to hear that Allison feels so loved in her new relationship
"He was like, 'Okay!'" 🤣🤣🤣 oh nooo, this is so funny but so awful. He's so awful, Allison you are wonderful and deserve so much more. I'm glad your family saw how awful that was.
My parents set up a document for when they die to leave their farm to me and it references their "natural love and affection" which I thought was very sweet.
To me, the true reveal is what was glossed over very quickly: Allison is in love with someone who is wonderful and kind to her, which is awesome!
(Which is not to say going splitsies on the widening wasn't ridiculous; it was. And besides, that was probably only a reveal to the disloyal RUclips-only "fans" like me...)
I think the best part here is she gets the elliptical
What do you mean a reveal just for us RUclips-only fans?
@@RS-jp3fi with how casually she mentions it, I'm assuming she has mentioned it before on the podcast...
@@jasper265 she hasn't!
@@jasper265 she even asked if she told Gaby and she hasn't lol
Allison, you deserve way way better. I hope you know this now. The fact that he took a gift back, especially the ring ... Breakups show you a person more than years of dating, truly.
"Lifes wild. Comes at you fast." Is my new moto.. very true!
I once read an article about how apparently some US states have legislated on this engagement ring issue. In some states the person with the ring has to give the ring back because it counts as a broken contract, but in others the protocol is that the ring was a gift, so no one has to give anything back even if the person with the ring is the one that breaks the engagement.
And if the ring was given on any kind of holiday it's considered a gift my fiance proposed on Valentine's Day so in my state it's considered a gift.
Allison, him leaving was a blessing in disguise, what an awful man.
It's wild when you look back and are like OH WOW RED FLAG but in the moment were like, "eh I guess this was fine" looool been there
Ive followed Gabby and Mal separately, saw random music videos where Gabby was featured. Was like “hmm that’s gotta be a thing”. But MAN has my heart just been fucking swooning this whole damn time. Didn’t realize they bought a house together. 🥺
allison is so sweet and kind and deserves so much better! its so nice to see her happy
Ugh the Ring was the BIGGEST pain in my failed engagement. First of all, my ex never wanted to be engaged until she found a ring with a diamond that was literally 2/3 my annual salary at the time, and she made it SUPER clear that that was HER one and only ring. And then when I was struggling to make ends meet financially she suddenly resented the ring and kept threatening to "take it back" so I could rebuild my savings. All the while flaunting it to anyone that would pay attention. Then when she abruptly left me 2 weeks before the wedding, and kicked me out she gave me back the ring and told me she could never look at it again even though I didn't want it either. She gave it to me along with our wedding rings and I eventually ended up selling them back to the jewelers who custom made all the bands and such, and used the money to get myself a place to live and furnishings, since I had been forced to get rid of all of my own independent things, because they looked "too chincy for a doctor's house"... Yeah lesson learned... never get engaged to someone who only wanted to get engaged for a status symbol ring
Why did you propose to someone with so many red flags?
@@chelseygarrett4221 love is wild thing man
@@chelseygarrett4221 I still ask myself that.
On the bright side you don’t have to be burdened and poisoned by her for the rest of your life. Phew bullet dodged my friend
You only get the love you think you deserve. And Alison, I hope you read this : YOU DESERVE MORE!
Id love it if the full podcast could be with facecam. I just miss facial clues when listening and also seeing the jumpcuts makes the listening experience easier
Note to self: NEVER OFFER TO RETURN YOUR RING!
Honestly that was glossed over. Obviously we don't know how the conversation went down exactly but she said she GAVE it back to him to "test" him and then seemingly never actually asked for it back? Sounds like stupid mind games and she expected him to play stupid mind games back. He might still think she doesn't actually want it. Him not paying for the band widening is bad though.
@@FrostedCreations I don't think it was a test or a mind game. The break up was so abrupt that she was wondering if it was real or not and if he really did mean it. When he took it back, that's when she knew. The only game played was her ex on poor Alison.
Also - some states have different laws about returning the rings. In my state of Minnesota, the ring legally needs to be returned if the giver asks for it. Something about the ring being part of an agreement to marry and if the engagement never materializes to a marriage, the agreement is off and the ring returns to the giver
@@FrostedCreations she offered to pay for half of the band though. Was he supposed to know that she meant that as a test too?
Just because someone offers something doesnt mean its okay to accept it. All actions shows someone's intent and character. Yeah sure he could take the ring back but it reveals a lack of care and guilt about the relationship he was ditching all of a sudden. She didnt want the ring, she wanted to see if he still cared, and i think its pretty reasonable to expect him to at least react with a bit of hesitation or feeling towards a symbol of engagement that he was suddenly breaking.
I love you both so much omg ❤️
this just showed up in my recommendations and although i already listened to it on the podcast 7 months ago, I'M STILL SO PISSED FOR ALLISON. i'm so glad she dodged that bullet and found someone better
Truly hilarious comments from people very angry at the idea of engagement rings and feminism in the studio today. I'm a feminist. I think engagement rings are more of a thing to discuss now than an absolute given. But i still think they're very valid, and I will tell you why.
Marriage still overwhelmingly benefits men. Women still do most of the domestic labor. Women still do most of the child rearing. Women do this while still participating in the work force, making less money and getting pigeon holed into gig work more often than men. Married men live longer than unmarried men and are more likely to remarry after being widowed. Married women live shorter lives and are less likely to remarry if they're widowed, because marriage is work for women. Being married benefits men's social status. I could go on. An engagement ring is basically a small down payment for all the ways a wife will still statistically make a man's life much, much easier. Women could just ... not get married and have kids, and if it takes a shiny ring to sweeten the deal, so be it. There's a reason women are having fewer/no children and waiting longer to get married--i think a lot of women are realizing marriage is a raw deal in many scenarios, engagement ring or no.
Personally, if i ever get married, I would like a reasonably priced engagement ring and would buy my future husband something in return, like a watch or ring. However, that equal exchange will come with the expectation of equal partnership: we both do chores, we both earn money, we both make each others lives easier, we won't be having kids because i refuse to be stuck with them.
Preach!!!!! Yes 🙌🏻
When I told my friends and family in high school that I wouldn't be getting married, I remember what a nightmare they made my life by constantly arguing with me and trying to convince me that marriage was something you couldn't knock till you tried it - which is rather irresponsible and like telling me that I should dump my partner and kids the day I feel like it isn't going to work out. I saw firsthand how my mom suffered to raise us (and that was even while my dad was a great guy and very loving and supportive) and I knew I didn't want that for my future. It's true, women still do most of the housework and I'm guessing that if we don't consciously acknowledge that and adamantly demand that equal split then statistics will continue to show that we do the brunt of the housework while also maintaining a job for the next several decades. It's been some years now and I don't talk to those friends anymore and I try to avoid most of my extended family. But in my head I know they'll get married and in a couple of years when they have kids, wonder why they got into this in the first place. I'm already seeing it happen with some of my cousins. I hope for them and for women everywhere, that isn't the case. I hope things change for the better.
I still would like an engagement ring but I don't care if it's on the cheaper side (I'd prefer that) and I don't care of its diamond. Few of the big reasons I want to get married is I want my partner to make the medical decisions (like if I'm in a coma/life support situation rather than my family). And if I died it's more clear that all my assets will be his. But I already know I want to be with him the rest of my life 😁 and we'll probably buy a house before we get married
Haha I'm married. I didn't marry until 38 years old. All my friends are married. Honestly, almost none of what you said is true, at least based on the marriages that I know. My husband does so much for me: emotionally, chores wise, physically, financially, life decisions, support... I could go on. Marriage is ALWAYS what you make it. If you marry a selfish little boy who doesn't care about anything but himself ... That's what your marriage will be. Equality never exists perfectly between two individuals. But balance and harmony with a good partner can exist, and will enrich your life in ways you can never imagine. I might do all the cooking in our house, but my husband takes care of all the trash and washing the bedding. He can't clean a toilet but he always hears out my work frustrations and gives great advice. He knows me in ways I don't know myself. My advice to young woman is to learn how to make a relationship work and identify a good partner who balances you. It is hard work, it's not always perfectly fair or idealized, but the work is so worth the relationship. It settles you, it smooths out your hard edges, it keeps I from making costly mistakes, it opens up your world. It's worlds above my single years of self involved loneliness.
@@julzgulz1992 your personal, anecdotal evidence doesn't measure up to statistics. i didn't throw out numbers in my comments, but they *are* based on studies that bear out those conclusions. glad your relationship works for you--mine generally does too--but i'm increasingly aware that many women are not as lucky, the pool of good partners is small, societal expectations still benefit men, and marriage as an institution is still nowhere close to working for most women.
“No one called to yell at him” I volunteer to yell at him! Allison can just keep listening to the sound of that bullet whizzing past her head.
Wtf a million bullets dodged. I’m so mad and I don’t even know Allison!
Allison screaming is me
That was a great tea!
Allison's dog whistle of excitement was wonderful
please make more tea videos on your ex boyfriends/ex partners or ex fiancés :D
Wtf?! Allison deserves so much better 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 (however I am so happy that both of these humans are happy and healthy ❤️)
Omggggggggggggg this was just recommended to meeee.... IHATE how yt changes your feed slowly. . .like SO many peeps you love you end up not watching because your recommended suddenly switched because for a week you're in a spiritual phase then the next you're in a partying phase them the next you're watching tlc show clips 🙃😅
Damn he’s terrible, and yes, you should absolutely Venmo him
Actually…a mal wedding would probably be chaos. Im stoked.
I love you both so much wishing you all the happiness
I'm glad she found someone new!
If I remember correctly, my fiancé and I split the cost of getting my ring resized and appraised, BUT it only needed to be resized because I accidentally told him the wrong ring size. 🤦♀️ And the appraisal was to add it to our joint renter's insurance policy.
I've just realized Gaby sounds like Mamrie Hart and this entire time I was imagining Mamrie telling Allison's ex off lol "THAT'S RUDE."
I got a beautiful moonstone ring with black diamonds and a rose gold band on etsy.
Allison im happy u are happy now that man didnt deserve u love this podcast ❤
I was listening to this in the car on my way to work and just started SCREAMING
Allison, it's been how many years? And I still love you. Maybe I'm forever.
Part of the point of marriage, is to make it harder to just break up over small things. All marriages that last have extremely difficult moments. I spoke to a woman who was married for 55 years, I asked her how she did it, she said “just keep breathing.” Like literally just keep being alive with that person. That requires a lot of self control and commitment even when you want to give up, get bored, have fights, or are tempted by someone new.
you two need to write a rom com abt that wedding scenario haha
Alison you look amazing!! Also FYI it’s way harder to get divorced than it seems 🌈
My sister had to pay for pretty much all of her engagement ring from her ex-fiance. She kept the ring, but she doesn't have any idea what she wants to do with it.
My engagement ring cost like 20-30 dollar ish, doesn't have to be expensive to mean something
it feels like he was not that into it which makes me furious, why would you ask someone to marry you and then take the f ring back if you were not sure.
Allison, THAT IS WHEN YOU SEND YOUR HORDE OF FURIOUS FANS!!! I'm ready to spam this guy's social media with: GIVE HER BACK HER RING!!!!
I know youre saying this in fun but in case anyone thinks of doing this: please don't!
🤣🤣💯💯 "life's wild, comes atcha fast" Make this shirt please!! I totally feel for Allison because empathetic people get taken advantage of by narcissists time and time again. Then you learn the big B word: Boundaries and they fluff off!! XOXO LOVES
I kept my engagement ring..and pawned it win win...
Allison, ya look great
I don’t necessarity think that he should have paid for the adjustments, but its how he was about the whole thing. Massive vibe of him just giving her a ring because its the next step but he definitely felt better when they broke up because he didn’t ~really~ want it. Should have left her the ring though, but she dodget a massive bullet on this one.
I hope someone in his family sees this and makes him Venmo Alison
I like the engagement ring that Julien got Jenna Marbles. It's simple and sweet. As a couple, they seem to be more focused on their commitment to each other, than all the showy things like an engagement ring and a big engagement announcement.
To each their own. In Allison's case, it is messed up that she paid for part of the ring, especially considering the reason.
I guess some people just value their actual relationships more than what complete strangers think about them based on how much money one spends on the other. As an aside, I am so stoked for J&J and I hope that her internet hiatus is giving her all the peace and joy she clearly deserves.
I was GOBSMACKED when I heard this part of the episode. Allison, you are absolutely allowed to be annoyed about that. I know at one point you said that maybe he shouldn't HAVE to pay for all of the ring, but the engagement ring is a gift that signifies someone's love and committment to you and the start of your married life together. It would be weird to get someone to pay for half of their own birthday present! You deserve so much better.
Holy shit Gabe's old voice I cannot EVEN
03:21 LMAO
Dear Alison,
Love yourself
Alisons teeth are so great and white!
Joint accounts are NEVER a good idea. If I were you I find a way to get each an account. Why? Who I am to know? I work at a bank and people never realize the huge problem that they will get if they get separated.
Gaby is a big proponent of each partner having a separate account and then a shared account for shared expenses. It sounds like they’re going to put in a set percentage into it so it should (theoretically) be easy to know how much is from whom
Can you tell me more about the problems that come up when people separate? I would do separate accounts and then also a joint accounts
I work at a bank too, and honestly when people are in the midst of a break up one person will often empty the account, add security holds etc just to annoy the joint user. If you’re both joint they can legally empty the account without telling you. Not a good idea IMO and I’ve been married for 3 years. We have one account for joint expenses but don’t keep a large balance in there.
The ring is a gift and totally should've been left with Allison what a putz
It seems like she has issues saying what she really means and expects people to read her mind, then gets mad at them for agreeing with her. She offered to split the cost of a new band, he agreed, she says he "made her" pay for half. She gave the ring back, she says he "took it." Relationships shouldn't be a series of tests and mind games.
Jake?
@@mydogeatspuke it wasn’t a mind game?? Just say you’re bitter and can’t keep a girl lmaoooo
@@jessicadiaz8500 ah, so in your mind I'm not her ex (makes a nice change), I'm just a bitter man who can't keep a girl. Interesting. Very active imagination indeed.
@@mydogeatspuke well from reading all your comments here (and there are a lot of them) you are either her ex or you did the same thing as her ex so you are defending yourself through defending her ex....
ALLISON!!! Omg what!?
I'm in the same position as you, Gaby. We just bought a house together, and we're not engaged yet.I am way more worried about breaking up now than if we had got engaged. I should have gone ring first.
My partner and I bought a house, waiting for the go ahead to move in, but we know we are getting engaged and married in the near future. We've discussed our future plans a lot before making moves. Have you and your partner discussed these things? I know another couple who have bought an apartment but no engagement either
@@LS-nw2ob yes, we've discussed. We decided to buy a house before getting married. We can only afford to do one at a time, so now need to wait until we can afford the next step.
@@Schmelon I feel like we all have to take whatever opportunity comes first and do what's best 😊 we'll most likely elope since my partner hates having attention on him lol and we can keep costs down. I'm sure if you've both taken this step together you'll be in it for the long run 😊
@@LS-nw2ob thanks! I just need to get my spiralling thoughts under control
so i just randomly search up gaby's partner Mal cause i have never seen them and weirdly never had the curiosity to and wow they are so good looking ,gaby and mal are one hot looking couple
Okay Gaby, if you made a secret account so you could anonymously comment on videos just say that . JK !
@@breannacarlisle5441 LMAO
Mal is an amazing singer. Check out their videos on RUclips.
venmo him! venmo him! venmo him! haha or whateves
OK I haven't watched the vdo but comments tell me about the ring n m like but WHY do they have to do the ring n then I don't know how many ppl return it if in case...
❤️
Next week we found he kept the dowry?
long after allison already is over this, here I am now fuming about him and the ring lol
but fr, f that guy
My parents split the cost of the ring, they’ve been together nearly 40 years now
Wow So Happy
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We're all ready to fight 😡
YOU LIVED MY LIFE. My ex left me suddenly. I also paid for my wedding ring. We lived together etc. and I always say engagements don’t secure ANYTHING.
Never clicked so fast
The will thing so important, my aunt had a v small house with her girlfriend and when they died it's like impossible to get everyone on the side of my aunt's girlfriend to sell their part yet they pay nothing to upkeep the house the property is basically stuck empty and almost abandoned for years 😔
You know he pawned that ring or tried returning it
allison lovelife is full of surprises. idk if she attracts awful men or what but im glad she found someone who treats her well😀. the ring thing is awful 😤
Omg 500 dollars is super reasonable for a ring. I mean given what I know of their financial status in life.
500 is just for widening the band!
@@evab521 okay that makes more sense but I would still shell out the money to widen the band for the person I'm marrying especially since it is a sensory issue, but hey that's just me though.
@@shanzoni1200 yeah i didnt say anything ab that only that 500 is just the widening
@@evab521 okay thanks. My reply wasn't an attack on what you said it was just a free thought/ continuation of my original statement in the above thread.
My husband and I have shared finances since we were dating and we both wanted engagement rings. They only cost $7 on Etsy. So, this is a situation I know nothing about. Ha ha.
VENMO HIM VENMO HIM VENMO HIM
HOOOOOO BUDDY i am so glad that man is gone . dude was not ready for ANY commitments .
Whoever pays for the ring gets to keep it if the wedding doesn't happen. Once the wedding happens though, the receiver gets to keep it. That's the general rule. This sounds a bit different though.
I mean, (as the girl in this traditional heteronormative exchange) if I break off the engagement, they can keep the ring. If THEY break it off with ME, I’d throw it in the ocean before giving it back to them. 🤷🏻♀️
@@oliviaoconnor2201 I believe in some jurisdictions there is actual common law precedent. The buyer gets to keep the ring if the engagement does not result in marriage (formal or common law). If the engagement results in marriage, the receiver gets to keep the ring even after the marriage ends. So just be careful if you (general you and not you specifically) if you as a receiver throw away the ring from an engagement that did not result in marriage. Allison's situation was a little different though.
@@jacocharo well thank god I live in Massachusetts so I can throw engagement rings wherever I want 😂 (as long as I’m not at fault)
I thought that it, regardless, if the engagement ring has been given it’s considered a “gift” and now belongs to the receiver! At least that’s in CA
@@christinecarcil5135 a gift made with a contingency that marriage is coming. If marriage doesn’t come, then in some jurisdictions, the receiver has to give the ring back.