Best Time to Start a Family in Med School
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- Опубликовано: 3 авг 2024
- There is never a good time to start a family. Start in medical school vs wait until after residency - things never get easier. Can you do it? YES! I've done it and there are many women before me who have done it.
Med School Break Down:
First year - summer break
Second year - Step 1/board exams
Third year - no summer break
Fourth year - Audition rotations, interviews
Residency - 4 weeks vacation, work work work
Question that you must answer for yourself, before you start med school : WHY DO I WANT TO BECOME A DOCTOR?
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As a woman, I feel like we race against this biological clock to reproduce. It's admirable of you to be able to balance your family and medicine so well.
Question, do you feel your relationship with your son is different than his relationship with your husband? I worry that having a baby and being at work or school, I wouldn't be able to have as much bonding time as my baby would with my partner. You know?
Stan stayed home with Wyatt the whole first year. If you ask Wyatt if he loves mommy he’ll say yes. When you ask him if he loves daddy, he says yes. Most of the time he’ll cling to me more than he does Stan. Don’t worry, you will bond with your baby.
Jenny Le awh, good to know. Thank you!
Stan was actually worried that Wyatt would bond more with me because I was able to breastfeed when he couldn’t. Lol everyone has their concerns.
Jenny Le ha! I didn’t think about the breastfeeding part. Huge moment that only a mother can do 😂 Sorry Stan! Lol
You just asked something I had in mind, love to see Jenny's answer. My 2.5 month daughter took us 4.5 years to conceive and 2 rounds of iVF. I should resume work by end March and at this stage it looks like the best option is to have my husband take care of her at home while he works from home and less hours. We depend on my salary mainly so it doesn't seem feasible for me to leave my job. I am lucky though, I work Monday to Friday 9am-6pm (5pm until my daughter is one), but I know i do lots of work from my mobile. Not a doctor so the schedule seems friendlier
Those people are lame.....you save lives and that's badass therefore Wyatt has a badass mom.
Thank you ❤️
My Family Doctor had here first daughter while in Medical School, her second during residency, and her son after she started her practice. Once she started her practice her husband left Microsoft and stayed at home with the kids. When the kids got a bit older he worked in her office keeping the computers going and doing some billing. As the kids got older they helped out in the office filing. It was so nice seeing this family dynamic. I watched her family grow. When I asked her about her struggles having kids while in med school and residency she said it was tough at times, but she was glad she didn’t wait to have kids.
Me and my bf just had a talk about this last night and I wake up to your video.... Thank you!
Hope the conversation went well!
Nikky what a coincidence
Thank you sooooooo much for this Jenny. It is so inspiring
Thank you for making this video! It’s so helpful and a great motivational tool for me. OMG! I’m so sorry about the people that have something negative to say. Please don’t listen to them. You’re doing great!
Thank you for this. Honestly I’m so grateful for your honesty. I also have to study harder than my peers to remember what I was taught, but I feel like that designs us into the hardworking, determined individuals we are.
Jenny Le, these videos are so informational for what it took and what it’s like for you. In my field, I hardly even know any other women, much less who are ready to have kids (in engineering school). I felt like I didn’t have anyone to turn to for pursuing something insanely difficult and draining, plus interning full-time, plus a family... you are definitely a rare diamond. Any tips you have and “do’s and don’t’s” you’ve learned to keep feeling like you we’re going to graduate, make it through the classes and to the finish line...all these pieces of wisdom really help so much!! I even wonder when to plan meals and how to carry the meals with me when being so busy and pregnant. I’m trying to learn what I can before we go for it.
I love listening to your voice, it is so soothing. You do everything with grace and you are so calm. It is hard being a mother on its own and you are doing that while putting yourself through med school and residency without help from family. You are one tough cookie, I am sure Stan and Wyatt are so proud of you.
I'm so proud of you, you are so brave and strong to do what are doing right now. Wish i can be half as incredible as you are.
This video is so Authentic.. thanks jen😀
You’re doing a great job!! Super mom and kudos to Dad too!!! ❤️
One doc I interviewed recently also said there’s never a good time with med training, but she was glad she got it done before she got too old. Seems like a lot of doctors seem to agree. Nice video!
Some people still look at you like you’re crazy but I’m glad it’s becoming more accepted.
Adnan A I’ve heard the same thing
I be heard that Down syndrome is common if a women delivers baby after her 30s. How common is it?
I admire you for having kids while you are in med school! That's great! Have as many as you want and keep on going! I enjoy your videos. Wyatt is so cute!
Thank you for this video! I have been looking around Google all day regarding-mom in med-school. Wyatt is so adorable :)
I don’t think there is a right time. I am personally wanting to have kids before I get into medical school since I will be 30 in 2 years, and my mom said the longer I wait, the more she wouldn’t be able to help with the baby since she is getting up there in age.
Also with the mom and baby bonding, my mom stayed at home for 4 years after having me, but she started working full time when I was 5 and I actually remember her absence, felt detached and became attention-seeking. I did spend time with my grandmother which was a good thing, but this made me realize it doesn’t matter when the mom works. 1st year with the baby is important for sure but it depends on how you can balance your work and time with baby afterwards
I have had fun watching this actually ❤❤❤🌸 you're so beautiful and your relationship with your child is just so sweet
I'm glad I found ur channel
I so want to become a mom and pursue medicine and thinking I wouldn't manage has actually been making me depressed and anxious(I'm actually still in high school) but am so worried about my future
You gave me hope❤
You're such a motivator for me to continue my path towards becoming a doctor while having a family. It seems like you enjoy it all and I cannot wait to start my journey!
It’s not all amazing. I’ve definitely had my breaking moments but I don’t think I can imagine myself doing anything else ❤️
@@drjennale Oh I bet! Being a doctor is something I have been wanting to do ever since I can remember and now actually being able to work towards that in school is incredible. But I definitely get scared when my husband and I start talking about having a child because that's something I really want to do but am not sure how to manage with school. But your advice really helps and I know it's possible (obviously!) it's just all about that time management! haha
Nicole Barnett me too! Come check out my channel about my journey in medicine!
Thank you for sharing! Totally agree that there's no right time.
I think you can have it all, but you may not always be number one at everything at the same time and that's okay. As long as you're content with what you have and what you're doing.
Couldn’t have said it better myself !
Love your vidoes! So supportive even as I practice as a Nurse Practitioner. Wyatt is so adorable. You're an awesome mommy💕
Thank you! Please share your journey. I know many people look into NP but don’t know where to start or the pros/cons of the profession
Aww...he has your angelic eyes....My 15 months old boy went back to daycare this past Monday and he didn't like it at all after staying at home for one month (I am a college professor). You are right in that there is really no right time to start a family. I did wait until I got tenured, though, but I know lots of other people who have family prior to that and are still successful in their careers. Here's to awesome working mamas!
Such a helpful video thank you!
you’re so incredible! I am still in undergrad and i already worry so much about this life-planning stuff while also becoming a physician. you’re so positive and really an inspiration for me. i am sure you’re a wonderful mother and doctor, as well as a great youtuber. keep it up jenny ❤️❤️
TYSM! Road to medicine is tough. Sometimes I feel like I’m always living in the future because I’m always planning my life a year in advance.
I love this video thank you for making it 🙏
Thankyou for this video. This is a topic I've been thinking about for years!
The first video of your's that I ever watched was 'Day in the life as a doctor with a Newborn'. I don't think I've looked at women doctors with children the same ever again. I clearly remember thinking you must be some sort of machine haha! You clearly do a WONDERFUL job at being a parent AND a doctor and I can only hope for the same success one day!!
Awwww Wyatt will be a gentleman when he grows up. He looks very quiet and soft. I really love such children💕💕💕
He has a gentle soul like his daddy ❤️
I love your vlogs. I am not even a Doctor. I stumbled upon your channel last year. I love your personality. Love from South Africa.
Thank you! ❤️
I definitely enjoy when you talk about this topic. I’m starting physical therapy school in a couple of months and I’m trying to figure out when the hell we can start a family. I know there isn’t a “right time” but I still like to plan.
Oh course. I feel like I’m always living in the future because I’m always planning a year in advance
Thank you so much for your advise!
You’re doing a great job
Aah I have been thinking about this for a while, just got an interview for a place at med school, if I start this September I'll be getting on a bit in age and have been somewhat worried about when the best time would be. Thank you for sharing. 💛
There are plenty of other medical moms out there who would be more than happy to give you more guidance ❤️ you got this! Congratulations on your interview
@@drjennale That's so good to hear! Thank you!
The sacrifices you're making now will allow you to have the lifestyle you and you're family desire in the future. Screw everyone that had anything negative to say bc half of these "adulting" experts probably haven't accomplished nearly as much as you and probably think you have to be a steptord wife in order to maintain a good home. You're doing a great job and thanks for always bringing new info and perspective sis! Love ya& God Bless!
you're doing great!
This was a great video, thank you!! Would you mind making a video on interviewing for med school/popular questions and your answers? (Also maybe a video on personal statements haha, if possible) Thank you so much!! I love Wyatt 💙
I am a mum of three (10, 8 and 4). When my youngest was born I was 30 and decided to finally get my teaching degree. I have completed three placements and just entered my fourth year. You can do anything you put your mind too. I also own a business and work part time. I think it's so inspiring when I see mums achieving their dreams and goals. We are teaching our children to work hard! You're amazing!
his smile made my day
Mine too 😊
im a 3rd year medical student and i commend you on starting you family early. THank you for showing that not all is impossible it just takes time and a village
Thank you! 3rd year! You’re more than half way done. It gets better in residency
Inspiring!
My boyfriend and I have been long distance for 6 years (together 8) and he thankfully will be following me to where ever I go to medical school this year. This has been such a big topic of conversation for us. When should we get married? When to have kids? I guess we will just have to figure it out but at least we have you and Stan to look to for the example! Haha. My mom is very traditional and is insistent on us waiting until I am completely done with my education and residency to get married. But I will be around 31-32 at that time and I don’t really want to wait that long to be a mom. Asian cultures... but hopefully we will find the right balance. Love your videos Jenny!!!
My parents always told me to wait until I finished my education to date! Lol I’ve always been a rebel.
I promise you, your mom will still love her grandchild regardless if you had them now or waited until after schooling.
@@drjennale My mom tells me the same. Sorry mom im not waiting till im 30 and 90% of my eggs are gone :)
It's actually fun with him ❤❤❤
Love you Jenny!
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Justine Taylor me too! Come check out my channel about medicine!
thank you for this! my husband is a third year and we want to start a family soon, but thinking of moving halfway across the country away from family for residency has me scared!!
Props to you for being a mom while in med-school! Nursing school was challenging enough and my kiddos are older. But building a family is forever and school isn’t! Totally off topic...where’d you get your t-shirt? 😬
Fashion Nova! I think it was just one of their basic T’s
Your so inspiring
Mothers wonderful
I want to do optometry and it takes a few more years to complete after college. Great video.
I also considered optometry in college!
Jenny Le really! I was thinking about careers that require medical school but I think optometry fit me perfectly.
Honeybee 17 optometry is awesome! Come check out my channel about medicine!
I’m a PA student (3rd semester) and I’ve been watching you for a while. I was wondering how old you were when you got pregnant? I just got engaged to my bf of about 6 years. We don’t plan on getting married until I’m done with school and paying off my loans. And of course kids after. I get nervous because I’ll be in my 30s and know there can be more complications but I don’t want to rush having kids.
No one in my class has kids and I don’t know how anyone can (there have been people with kids in the past) but all I do is go to class and study. I’ll go to the store for food and meal prep twice a week. I can maybe go to the gym for an hour 1-3 times a week. Sometimes none. Depends. Don’t have kids and I don’t go out and do anything fun during a semester.
I was 27 when I was pregnant. First year of PA school is didactic based similar to med school. But your second year should be clinicals which gives you a lot more time. And then you don’t have residency.
Waiting to pay off your loans before having a family is also a personal choice. I didn’t feel the need to wait.
Wyatt is so cute! Haha.
I think all doctor mamas are troopers. ☺️💪🏻 They grow a human inside and save people’s life at a hospital. 😲
The only thing I concern about pregnant doctor mama is that they are exposed all kinds of virus and disease.
My internal medicine resident husband got some virus from his work, and now we are worried about our 25 week old fetus. 😭
Hope he feels better! That’s why we recommend everyone, especially pregnant moms get the flu vaccine because they are more likely to become more sick.
Jenny Le so true!!!
Thank you so much for this Jenny! Just had a baby a couple months ago and I want to pursue medicine (in 3rd year of undergrad) but didn't know if I could. Thank you for showing IT IS POSSIBLE TO HAVE A FAMILY AND CAREER! Much love and happiness to you and yours 🥰
Hello Doctor Jenny,let me start by saying that you have such a beautiful family, you are such a hard working human being and mostly you empire a lot of people including me.
So I got accepted in one of the Caribbean medical school and I plan on starting this Fall. My only worrie is that I have a 5 months son,he will be 10 months by September when I start medical school. I am looking into moving to the Caribbean with him,put him into day care during the day while I go to school, then pick him up in the evening. We will be there just the 2 of us for at least 2 semesters and I am so nervous. Please what do you think? Do you think that I will have enough time to study?
Thank you ❤️ I don’t have family to help and my ex husband is not in the picture.. I’m pursuing dental but I want to try still. It’s just discouraging at times
Hey Jenny, I love your videos and I feel like you have a really good grasp on this. How big of a deal do you think it would be to be pregnant during medical school interviews? Thanks
I think other students will look at you differently more so amazed that you are going through the process while you are pregnant. But as for the interviewers - I think you just convey the fact that you are confident and you have a plan on how to raise the child while going through your medical training.
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Welcome! And thank you 😊
You hit it on the nose.... there is never a right time to have kids. I went the nursing route because medical school was just too long and too expensive, and I knew I didn’t want to be an older mother. I was done with the NP program when I got pregnant, a couple days shy of my 28th birthday. I thought I was totally ready. Totally wasn’t lol. But still worth it, of course
Lol babies are so unpredictable. Once I feel comfortable, Wyatt gives me something else to worry about.
Help and MONEY! depending on student loans is not enough as in my case both of us were on student loans throughout med school so no income whatsoever...
Hi Jenny, I love your videos and thank you so much. I am an IMG, and it has been 4 yrs since i graduated from med school. I came to US 9 months ago with my husband and our 2 yrs old daughter. I have already started studding for USMLE step 1. My husband works 10 hrs a day 4 days a week. I'm planning to take my baby girl back to my home country so that my mother can take care of her till I finish my exams. what do you advice me, Jenny?
I hope you didn't send her away
Wyatt is so adorable 😍😍😍
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I can't believe people were saying you're dumb or a bad mum that's ridiculous and messed up on so many levels
I am an RN, wants to become a doctor, I heard about Oceania university of medicine,samao,do you have any idea about it
Jenny, let me talk to you as I would if we were friends chatting over coffee, or mojito, never mind. You do you, what is best for you and your family is something only you and Stan can measure. You invested in your education because you are passionate about your profession, you decide to go back to work because you know what you want and you work for it, and you struggle to find the time you wish for for Wyatt because you are a good mom and want to give him as much as you can. Period. Whatever other people think about your life is not something to event think about
Thank you ❤️ social media makes things so different. Some people say some mean things when they’re protected behind a computer screen
do residencies take into account where your spouse lives/works?!
How was your first year as a resident with a baby? I have heard that year is the toughest one.
My bf and I have discussed having kids while I'm in med school. He works full-time as an engineer so we've talked about my mom watching kids while I'm at school and he's at work. Do you think having a grandparent watch/essentially raise their grandchild while the parents are working/in school causes issues with the parent/child relationship as they get older? I want to specialize in psychiatry, which is awesome for a more "set" schedule and have more time outside of work, etc. What are your thoughts?
I wish my mom was around more to help with Wyatt. He’d actually know some Vietnamese if that was the case! At the end of the day, you will still always be mom. Grandma or nanny is not going to replace you.
I just personally didn’t want to have kids in the first two years of med school because I had to study a lot. And I wasn’t willing to miss that much of my child growing up.
@@drjennale That's pretty funny, my grandparents pretty much raised me because my parents were always working and I know a lot more Vietnamese than my brother because of that. Personally, it put a lot of strain on our parent-child relationship because I felt like they were never there regularly (they're workaholics). We never went on vacations together either. You just gotta spend time with your kids and give them fun experiences in spite of your work and school life! They say kids don't remember that stuff but my uncles took me to the zoo and amusement parks when I was young but my parents never did, so I have fonder memories of them.
Hi! I’m a first year osteopathic medical student. I have no kids yet, but I would like to start a family soon. I was curious, how do moms in medical school afford having a baby during school? My boyfriend is also in medical training. Thank you! ❤️
Random question, but would it be possible to be in residency or rotations if you were a single parent? Watching a lot of your past videos I noticed that you have very long hours, have to work weekends and evenings/nights. So would the hospitals be able to work around your schedule if you we're a single parent to a young child that was in daycare or school? Do you know how that would work?
As a doctor, you still have to get proper residency training. I don’t think that would be possible without working some nights just because the patient population can be very different. Also, medicine is very unpredictable. Just because “you’re off work” you can’t just leave if you’re needed.
That being said, I find that your family life revolves more around your residency schedule. Single parents will need help - family, friends, nanny, au pair are all options. I have never known someone to do it alone.
Do you recommend I get pregnant before dental school? I’m taking pre reqs now. And I want to have them before dental school.
THis video is super helpful. I’m deciding bw neonatalologist and neonatal physician assistant! I know I want to travel in life and family is very important to me, the only thing that’s stopping me from becoming s doctor is the fact that I’ll be 31 when I’m done with residency, I want to be there for my kids and travel the world and Ik anything is possible but I just don’t know if it would be worth it for me.
I always tell people that in another life, I probably would have been just as happy being a labor and delivery nurse.
Jenny Le I’ve done a lot of research on the differences but how are the hours, do you work more hours as a physician or PA? I’m still confused on that aspect bc Ik it’s diff for every hospital and specialty but do you know the basics?
You can work as much or as little in either profession. Work hours also depend of specialty. If you work in a surgical speciality then you may have to do call. If you do outpatient medicine then you usually have a more fixed scheduled with weekends off.
Jenny Le ok thankyou you so much! Im still a junior in high school so hopefully I’ll have it all a little bit more figured out in a couple years I’ve just always liked thinking ab my future so that’s why I’m so curious!
THIS IS ME EXACTLY! exact specialty: neonatology and wanting to travel and have a family. and i’m a senior in hs!
My boyfriend and I have been talking about the future as well and I have a question. Is it possible/smart to take a year off between medical school and residency to raise a child or would that just be detrimental for your career (such as no program would want you after) ?
You can possibly do a research Year in between medical school and residency. But I don’t know how much actual time you’ll have off by still doing research. From what I remember from most Programs websites, they usually require you to apply no less than a year from graduation.
i feel the EXACT same way---i have to put WAY more work than my colleagues to learn. I am drowning right now :( do residencies give you more of a lenient schedule if you are pregnant?
There are hard rotations and more relaxed rotations. For example when I started residency, Wyatt was only 8 weeks so I had more outpatient rotations in the beginning (averaging 40 hour weeks). Then by the end of my first year I was loaded with all the harder inpatient rotations (averaging 80 hour weeks). There’s no way to get around it because you still need proper medical training.
@@drjennale makes sense! Im just trying to see if they would custom your sched a bit to work around your pregnancy. A lot of women are SO sick during their pregnancy :/ That's what im really worried about
I have a gap year between undergrad and medical school, from May 2020 to August 2021. In your opinion, do you think it would be doable to have a baby during that gap & start school with 4+ month old?
Ella Darst not in a position but I think the point is if you have someone reliable by you too help you can do it (: !
Caroline Shhd If I get into the school I want, I’ll have both of my parents & both my in-laws super close!
That would be super helpful to have family around to help! It will be hard but not impossible.
Is uni med school
After residency in my opinion, me and my girlfriend are both in residency and just have no time for a child.
My Co resident and her husband are both PGY 2 and they’re 8 months pregnant! It’s possible.
@@drjennale please don't tell my girlfriend 😂
@@drjennale Jenny, do you know how 2 doctors in residency raise kids? I know you mentioned Stan was able to stay at home with Wyatt but what if both spouses are constantly working?
Is daycare the only option then?
Niccolò Machiavelli yes. The daycare we take Wyatt opens at 530AM-7PM. And they start taking infants at 1 month.
My Co resident is pregnant and her husband is also in his second year of residency. They have family coming to help.
@@drjennale Thanks so much Jenny! :) I've been stressing about children and medicine but you have dispelled my worries with all your videos and replies.
im curious how your male counter parts feel because i am also concerned about starting a family in med school. My S/O is not going to be in med school but will be working .. and i feel bad because i worry about being able to be present early on.
I honestly don’t care what my male counter parts feel. Lol I am part of a large group of physician and medical student moms who are very supportive. As long as you have a good support system at home, I don’t see a reason why you can not do well in both medical training and being a mom.
@@drjennale lol i phrased the question poorly. I will be the dad in the situation. Thats why I am curious about how they feel being parents in medicine too! :)
There are plenty of medical student dads. Way more than medical student mom and hence more accepted/not as surprising. Same applies, you just need a good support system at home and you will do well.
I think that those people who have opinions are miserable people and are insecure also/jealous of your success.
ummm never
It's sort of alarming how flippant some people are about their future prospects. In my non-traditional premed forums, I see a lot of women not worried at all about starting a family very late in life and after they finish residency. What a stressful situation! It's as if women don't know that as they age (35+) their chances of getting pregnant start to diminish. That, topped with the fact that it's going to be just as challenging to have a baby when they are starting to practice medicine.
Trying to have kids much later in life has some pros, but mostly cons in my mind. You limit how many children you could have, and you don't take advantage of the opportunity to spend the time with your young child (which is now!)
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It's a complicated situation with 100s of variables. But in general, I don't see why anyone would want to wait for so late in the game to have children.
Would you consider doing a quick video/audio chat about this topic? I have a reallly small youtube channel, but I think this is such an important topic. I have twin girls that are 5 now and stayed home with them the majority of there pre-kinder life. It was a huge decision I made to forgo starting school and delay my education, and I think your perspective is fascinating.
You're super women 💓
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Wyatt wants mamma 🥛👀