I can definitely see that. I've connected with Jade on Twitter a bit and I had a similar experience as her in that regard. I am a detransitioner as well but I never did any of the hormones or surgery, which is complicated.
This young woman is an old school MODEST person. It is very sad that girls these days don't even know that being modest in thought and behavior is. It is normal to play with dolls at 11 and 12. I enjoyed my barbies until 14 (8th grade). You sound like such a healthy girl!
Being modest isn't oldschool, its just tremendously difficult within a culture which seeks to sexualize you at ever earlier ages. Barbie itself, was modelled after a pin up adult, and sold as a "sex doll". Edit: not referring to a doll one has "sex" with. Just meant a doll sold as a sexual collectible .
@@Gingerblaze Hmm, what you said about Barbie's origin is both slightly true and mostly false. The doll was... not a "sex doll", as it was only 30cm tall. It was based on a character from a popular cartoon strip in a tabloid newspaper named Bild that began running in 1952 and the doll originally was produced as mostly a gag gift for adults, including a miniature copy of Bild, but quickly became popular with children and was retooled and supplied with an assortment of accessories (clothes, doll houses, etc). By the late 1950s the doll had been copied all over the world and by 1959 Mattel had launched their own copy, Barbie. Now, the slightly true part of your claim is that the character Lili that the doll was originally based on, was a bit of a floozy. She also typified what you would consider a precursor for the 1960s "sexually liberated young woman", complete with challenging traditional gender norms and authority. It is, however, worth noting that the dolls that eventually made their way into the hands of children had very little to do with this messaging and were instead more just traditional dolls, being sold with a standard variety of contemporary clothing and more traditional costumes (not just from Germany, their country of origin, but from other countries as well). Anyway, point being that this is pretty far from what I think most people would consider a "pin-up sex doll".
Boys are also exposed to sexual imagery that scares them, and can convince them they will be expected to perform a certain way sexually that they have no interest in. It can convince them women like being drgraded as much as it convinces women that men want to degrade them.
I am so glad I am not a teenager today. I was a quiet guy, shy, had a hard time with girls. I grew up, and everything sorted itself out. Who knows what they would have tried to entice me into today, taking advantage of me during a period when i tried so hard to fit in.....
I'm impressed that one therapist even raised the question of her "gender dysphoria" being simple insecurity. They don't even do that anymore under the "Gender Affirmative Model".
I had the same experience: my friend, and I put our Barbie dolls in plain brown bags because it was no longer cool to play with dolls and we sadly quit the Girl Scouts because it was considered childish for 12 year olds . Why has childhood, in particular, girl hood, been robbed from the last few generations? Why can’t adults do their job and create boundaries for children?
Parents get on average 45min of awake time per day of focused attention with their young children. There are fewer families who can afford to have a parent stay home to do the important work of raising children and all the old neighborhood networks of other SAH parents, no longer can be counted on to support each other as there are so few to begin with. Grandparents, who once played an important parenting role, are no longer as involved or geographically are far away. The outsourcing of child rearing (and elder care, tho that is another issue) to childcare institutions and schools alongside the push of access to the wild west of the interwebs upon everyone, including children and vulnerable people has had some pretty disasterous but arguably, predictable results
The Internet. Before the web access to porn and adult themes was highly prized by adolescent boys because it was so hard to get hold of. Today it's there in front of you.
Question, is it a wide spread perception among women and girls that being in the Girl Scouts is "childish"? I'm curious because even though I was never in the Boy Scouts, as far as I know no such perception exists within Boy Scouts.
Poor girl guides. Suddenly it wasn't cool, it was childish and boys wouldn't like you. I loved girl guides, had I not been boy-crazy and pressured to fit in I would have continued for years.
_"Why has childhood, in particular, girl hood, been robbed from the last few generations? Why can’t adults do their job and create boundaries for children?"_ I have to remind that it's good to remember that it's actually luxury to be able to have a long safe carefree childhood in general. Most of human history that has not been the case and e.g. girls have been considered as eligible to relationship/marriage after periods start (some even before) so we are talking very young. In the past most kids who were not from the wealthy families (= majority of people) had no such luxury as long carefree childhoods, but kids started getting various responsibilities as soon as they were able to carry them out so long before they even turned 10. From cleaning, cooking, animal husbandry/shepherd etc. E.g. in some parts of the world late childhood/adolescence kids already started to learn their trade e.g. as journeyman for respective masters and moved away from home to be trained as various craftsmen and such. Only in these modern and relatively safe and wealthy times have created opportunity for kids to play carefree long after they already have physique and mental capabilities to do various task and jobs in the past they would have already been doing for years when they reach 12 years of age. Very simple reason being that because food/resources were not as plentiful which meant all hands were usually needed to support families, even kids hands. Poorer the family, more the kids had to work and take responsibilities. I am not saying this as criticism how 'modern kids are lazy' and they should be put working after they turn 4, I think it's a nice to be able have a long childhood if there is opportunity for such thing, but it's obviously not especially major exception compared to our history if the childhood is not lasting first 16-20 years. Even in early 1900's there were e.g. still plenty of children under 10 working in coal mines e.g. in UK and in US. As a personal opinion I would say that it would actually not be as bad idea to start to familiarize even quite young kids to various responsibilities bit by bit, not because it would be good for economy or "make better future workers" or that kind of crap, but that it's good if kids would start to learn various responsibilities and useful "adult" skills and things more early on which they can personally benefit later on, most kids are not stupid after all. Be it having a lemonade stand or helping their parents in various tasks instead of just playing with toys and games all day until they reach adulthood. It could also be some useful hobby, writing, drawing etc. that teaches them skills.
Chloe Cole seems to have inspired these detransitioners to come out in force. Thank you to all of them, and I hope you all find the happiness you so deserve! It’s a crime what has been forced upon you all!
Jade may feel like the people around her weren't being malicious in supporting or guiding her into transition, but that competitiveness she hated in women is alive and well in the community, no matter the purported gender. Many of them might have seen her as someone whose beauty and femininity they could ruin, or they hated their own circumstances so much that they wanted everyone to be as miserable as they were inside. Those aspects are definitely present in the internet community.
Apart from her intelligence, bravery and sensitivity, boy oh boy what a beauty. Like a young Natalie Wood. Kids can be so cruel, imagine being called bug eyes for your big beautiful eyes.
What a lovely young lady inside and out. She looks like a young Anne Hathaway. Hope she finds that romantic guy she once dreamt about. They are out there.
Its rather sad that she concludes that her idea of romantic relationships was "childish".of course, as a pubescent child, she had only a vague idea about the sexual aspect then. That is healthy. That is the time in life where we develop our values around romantic relationships which help guide our choices later on, about haow we value ourselves and others sexually. That used to be quite a normal thing and to be expected at that age. (if somewhat rare now a days after two decades of so many children having free access to the internet or having friends who do and being influenced by transactional and exploititive versions of sex) Many of us as adults, still hold the same desire for the type of romantic relashionship as she first described it.
I was also bullied by other girls growing up. It gets better as you get older. When making friends with other women, try to focus on their personalities rather than the fact they're female. That might help with letting go of preconceived notions.
@@jamesb4729 What??? Straight men have no personalities??? 😆 Are you being serious? EDIT: Assuming you were serious, I think maybe you are confusing aloofness with no personality. By no means prevalent in all straight guys, there are many guys who are aloof, so it might take more time to get to know them. My advice for you would be the same. If you're a man who wants to make friends with other men, focus on personality rather than the fact they're male or straight, and know that you're not going to be friends with everyone-no one is.
Her story is infuriating, She was/is a totally normal girl but because society has been degenerated and perverted so far away from what's natural she felt she was the odd one and an outcast. She's a very beautiful, observant, and thoughtful young woman. I truly hope for the best and happiness for her in the future.
I usually dip into this quality channel for like James Lindsay, Philosophy etc. I didn't quite realize Benjamin is a defacto Child Therapist, I say that with admiration, and no irony for once lol.
Thank you Benjamin and Jade for this interview. What you said at the end - about self acceptance - was so powerful and touching. That message is what the world needs today.
Jade is so beautiful and has no idea. I hate how kids called her "slow" when she's so pensive. She looks like she's pondering the mysteries of the universe.
Born in the late 50’s I was a Daddy’s girl and he raised me to be tough so I didn’t have to rely on anyone to be me and also taught me to open doors with a smile .. to be helpful to be respectful to others and to myself .. dressing appropriate but pretty when need to and feel comfortable in jeans and T-shirt’s .. not afraid to get my hands dirty .. so well rounded person growing up and into adulthood.. parents need to step it up and teach children to be comfortable in THIER own skin and not mold them into a parents identity of what a child shows internet in .. play with toys trucks , dolls , color books , let kids be kids !
And directly to Jade.... your biggest confusion was thinking that wanting to go a traditional path was a weakness, helped along by evil and mentally confused demons. You will make a great mother, both intelligent, empathetic and beautiful....these monsters picked on you because you are the womanly ideal....strong and brave, the very thing that is envied by these twisted, sick people! God loves you, never forget that 💗 Listen to Nellie Furtado...I am like a bird, describes what you have endured exactly 😘
Such a sweet empathetic soul is this young lady and she absolutely reminds me of my own daughter before her own transition. Her advice to other young girls at the end is pure gold. Thank you for yet another wonderful and compassionate interview Benjamin.
98% of children diagnosed with "gender dysphoria" at the GID in the Tavistock had other psychological and or developmental disorders. This did not stop them being ok'd for medical "gender affirming care"
Gender Dysphoria & GID are a very real diagnoses....no need for quotation marks for GD don't be so ideological .... The issues are with misdiagnosis , incomplete assessments, no long term history's & tracking. We could very easily go back to approx 1% detransitioning & improve on that and lower it if we adhered to what has been learned in the last 100 years. Tavistock's model WAS affirm which why the future patients will be better off in the new dispersed centers with careful watch & wait then gate kept in the future.
@@non_ideological_transexual7414GIDS is the acronym for Gender Identity Development Service, a unit within the Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust, based in the Tavistock Hospital. GID stands for gender identity disorder. The original post intended to refer to GIDS, the clinic, as opposed to GID the term for gender identity disorder. There is nothing implied by the use of quotation marks in the comment for the term gender dysphoria, it is punctuation. The term "gender identity disorder" or "GID", was replaced by "gender dysphoria" so as to be more inclusive. Quotation marks can be used to indicate irony, or as the are used more generally to show quoted speech, titles, to indicate that specific words together are a 'term' with a particular meaning. Single or double quotation marks are used together to denote a quote of speech, or terms embedded within a sentence that is also a quote. There is variation in custom between which way around single or double quotation marks are used, which has become quite muddied as we become more casual in our written style, and our communications are more international. I have, in this paragraph, omitted altogether and used both the UK and USA conventions of " and ' and mixed them up. My own punctuation is generally unreliable and lazy these days.
I understand what she went through. I was percieved as 'pretty' by other girls and I also matured a bit more slowly, I was not interested in dating until I was 16. I was horribly bullied and excluded by girls. They made me believe that I was ugly. I still struggle with my appearance years later because of how I was treated. Sometimes being 'pretty' (I'm sorry if this comes across as me being full of myself its the opposite!) comes with downsides. I recieved so much unwanted attention, bullying and harassment. People keep you at arms length because of jealousy. Its horrible.
Being attractive is a blessing and a curse, especially for women. Maybe being average looking is the optimal state. I also sympathize with your desire to not date until older. I was an unattractive nerdy boy growing up and all I wanted to do was play video games, so that’s what I did. I used to think that I should get a girlfriend, but thought it would just impede hanging with my friends and playing video games. Also, it was easy to just do what I wanted because I got zero sexual attention from girls.
My heart is bleeding, I am not sure that I am able hear the truth of the escape of being a girl till the end. Too much pain. I feel so much for your generation!
Omg, such beautiful eyes! Blessings on your healing journey. I'm praying for my 16 year old granddaughter who says she's a he/him. Her mother says she just wants to fit in. I told her please please do not let her take any hormones! 😢
@@jaderants I just noticed my typo and edited. For clarity it's my granddaughter. Sorry! But thank you for reply. I've been afraid of over reacting, but I might send my granddaughter this discussion. She needs to be aware of transition regret.
Jade, you are such a beautiful person inside and outside. There is nothing wrong with being a modest woman who wants love and wants to be wanted. I'm female and struggle to make friendships, especially with other women. It is tough. Kids can be extremely mean, but pay them no mind. Looking at you, it was just jealously. I know it's hard, but try not to focus on yourself too much, I've struggled with knowing who I am and my sense of self, and after therapy i now try to ignore these feelings and just live moment to moment. From another Jade, you are beautiful, and I hope all your dreams come true ❤ motherhood rocks!
Loved this interview, thank you both 🤗 ...I love the saying, "No matter where you go, there you are." Because it's so true...I keep wanting to lovingly say that to my niece, but I know she won't hear it...she will have to experience it🥺
@@Gingerblaze yes, will try to get my courage up to do that...17 and right now she is beyond sure and the tail is wagging the dog, I feel so very worried...about eight months on T😔
This one right here is probably why half of the young women end up doing it. They want a significant relationship with a male and it seems like trans is a pathway to getting that. Not the pathway they actually want but a pathway nonetheless.
I played with dolls as well til into my early teens. None of my friends except one other did and I enjoyed playing with her. Our dolls were like stars, they had stories like soap operas. We mostly just dressed them up, did hair and then moved onto something else. No biggie.
What this girl went through when she reached puberty is not new. It may be more noticeable or extreme now, but it was the same 40 years ago. This pressure to go out with boys, dress up, etc.
Yes it doesn't change... The difference is that there is no safe place away from it all 😔and it's true that we often don't see bullying having its roots in envy and jealousy
She got made fun of? Wtf, she's pretty damn hot. It's a shame even good looking girls are transitioning, we're in real trouble as a society. Soon we'll only have a choice between Dylan Mulvaney and Lia Thomas for us straight dudes to date. It's rare for a trans person to end up looking like Blaire White, extremely rare.
Without diminishing the harm that was done to her, without some notion of responsibility how can any of these detransitioners reclaim their agency? Also, it undermines women in particular to frame them as helpless victims of the world. See Karen Straughan's work: ruclips.net/video/KBgcjtE0xrE/видео.html
Johnathan Haidt wrote The Coddling of the American Mind. It is a good read. 30 years of zero tolerance has contributed to a generation unable to resolve conflict. Bullying is a thing and it is real, and painful, but as it is defined today....everyone is bullied and everyone is a bully. Nether is good for developing true self esteem.
I wish that this young lady had been given an opportunity to mature at her own pace. Instead she was forced to think about sexuality and make choices about it before she was emotionally ready. She should have been able to maintain her innocence.
Thank you Benjamin for bringing all the stories to light. You have a gift of the listening ear, a tender heart with compassion with kindness & love to share towards everyone. Don’t ever stop what you’re doing - you’re helping to save the children of our world. The children are the future of our world. Great info on- couchtripper- gender wars. Also: Ex Aisle. & more. Many blessings & much LOVE to everyone.❤️👥👨👩👧👦🇺🇸🌎🫶🏼
Is it just possible that Jade was simply being bullied for being gorgeous by envious little bitches? Only very trusting and / or insecure people can be convinced to overcome the evidence they see in the mirror and believe such absurd taunts by bullies.
I can relate to her. I felt like I could never fit in w these “popular” girls. I didn’t feel pretty enough and I too just wanted a boy that could adore me. I felt no one else did. I too was very shy, painfully shy. It still haunts me to this day. I made poor choices in marriage due to my own feelings about myself. Somewhere along the way I became more confident as I got myself through college. Sadly I’m still with the wrong person, just trying to make it work having denied myself that true love. 😢 I’m fortunate enough to been born in a time where no one really ever questioned gender and wasn’t influenced in that way. I don’t feel sorry for myself I had my own bed and lay in it.
I’m sorry you feel this way and that you feel you’re with the wrong person. I hope they are at least kind to you. Abuse of any kind is unacceptable and there are always ways to get away from it.
Blair White said something the other day that rang a bell instantly and made me realize why transitioning was _not_ going to work for Jade. You probably already know the answer. Your impetus to transition is to fit in on the inside not the outside. Jade is extremely intelligent and her testimonies are powerful in showing the ease at which the trans conveyer can pull people in.
Thats interesting how she thinks guys have it easy. As a guy I think women have it easy, I mean they literally just have to exist and look pretty and guys have to make the first move and provide for them and work dangerous jobs and society doesnt really care how guys feel or if they need help themselves.
I relate so much... As a little girl I was super feminine in the trad sense, but I hated modern femininity and all the expectations to look/act/be sexual before marriage, put on makeup and revealing clothes, etc. I just wanted to dress modestly and be loved by one man who'd provide for me to be a sahm. The romantic fanfiction was my escape too. If I'd been born a few years later, I think I'd have gone down the trans path.
This should have more views. A must watch for parents of introverted, intelligent kids. Many amazing points. And this young lady is gorgeous. Introspection is an amazing quality as an adult and can lead to success and amazing lifelong happiness, Yet so dangerous to pre-teens in 2023.
These stories are always heartbreaking. I was a shy teen and a late bloomer, picked on at times, but it didn't bother me much. I was ok with who I was and I didn't care if I was a social outcast
I also wondered what it would be like to be a boy. All the boys in grade 3 would call me a boy cause I had a deeper voice. Then I contemplated what it would really be like to be a boy. I felt they had more freedom, just from my courtyard observations during lunch. They also got away with more clowning around in class. But I did not actually become one! Had this occurred nowadays, my teachers would have transitioned me if I had been prompted and brainwashed to speak out about it. I may have chosen he/him pronouns so that I could feel on par with the boys. Transitioning nowadays is a fashion trend. There is no particular pattern within the individual that one can discover. It is social media, political ideology and indoctrination in the classrooms through the teachers. That's about all you need to convince someone they are the opposite sex and to actually start mutilating their perfectly healthy bodies. It's incredibly sad.
Just the observable fact that "T" has such wildly different effects depending upon the individual women, you would think the medical establishment would go full stop on indiscriminately prescribing it to children for fear of litigation at the very least, not to mention the damage to society as a whole. I only hope heads roll in the end for this absolute negligence.
ZERO long term studies and they just start throwing it out to everyone without even solid clinical trials done first?!? It's mind boggling. We are watching the modern day version of lobotomies happening right in front of us...
This is the first detrans story I really relate to. I'm 46, male and had I been born gen zed, I would have at least tried to nullify myself. I saw everything she saw from a male perspective: women don't have to do anything, just exist, the dating market is so unfair as to be eugenic against males and so on. The difference is that I was also correct and that's terrifying. To be a child who sees reality as it is, is a burden no one should bear. She was way ahead physically and I was way ahead mentally. Both are really bad. About 2 years ago I was diagnosed as autistic. I'm only 8 mins in but she qualifies in spades for the spectrum. Trad Values are actually a symptom. As are aversion to sexuality, being bullied, her otherworldy speech pattern, facial expression (lack of affect),.... and so on. I'm not calling this a war on autism but who is being mutilated out of the gene pool? Think about it.
Hey. Are you sure you saw/see reality as it is? You see YOUR reality and your lived experience. Many men don’t feel the dating scene is ‘eugenic against men’. Perhaps believing that is true influences how others see you as a dating prospect. Black and white thinking and such certainty you are right is also an autistic trait. Your behaviour could well be influencing your outcomes here. There are many factors that affect how attractive a woman finds a man. The absolute biggest turn off for me as a ‘pretty’ girl is the sense that is pushed into you that you are the owner of a commodity- your body- and you are somehow cruelly starving other people by being particular who you share it with. ‘Withholding’ a right to access, rather than safeguarding my own body. Most men have no idea how frightening that is for girls to be so objectified. However, even as a pretty girl and all the generic sexual pressure from men in general, the boys I fell for in my youth were usually not interested in me because my authentic self is deeply shy and I simply couldn’t communicate normally with them. My lived experience showed me that even being a woman who fits the societal norms physically still doesn’t get to date who they want. I could have had a million men I didn’t want, but maybe that is a difference between boys and girls. I simply wasn’t sexually interested in anyone that I couldn’t see as a long term partner. Puberty as an autistic female was experienced for me as a total loss of innocence. Suddenly it went from fairly happy go lucky with my special interests etc to half the world seemingly being jealous of me, and the other half started acting like they were starving and I was a delicious meal. A small percentage of men distanced themselves - probably for fear of being inappropriate and not taking advantage of an obviously vulnerable girl- those were, of course, the men I was attracted to. Mostly though, the constant subtone, even unintentional, of being seen as a thing to exploit was very disturbing. My first experience of this was when I was about 10 and a man exposed himself to me. It happened again- worse- when I was 13 (followed by a man in a car when I was riding my horse and cornered walking home after.) I was raped twice in my late teens/early 20s. Girls have reason to be skeptical. Even more so today. She seems to have autistic tendencies, I agree. The ‘character’ she created is how I have lived my entire life as undiagnosed autistic until later in life. It’s called masking and it stems from this deep belief that we different from normal people. I iron my human suit every morning, go out and extrovert all day, and need to recover in isolation afterwards. It costs. Personal friendships are still an issue for me, while a lot of people think we connect and call me friend, it is mostly the mask they think they know. My husband of 30 years though is also neurodiverse and luckily completely understands this. The fact that he was mostly nonverbal and didn’t have the confidence to show his interest made him safe for me to approach. He has said many times that he felt I was a ‘10’ in looks and smarts, and that he was about the ‘3’. Neither is actually true. I hope you heard Jade’s advice at the end. She is wise beyond her years there. It applies to all of us. Good luck.
Proper respect to Jade ... She's grounded and knows which way the wind blows. Thanks for another stellar interview, BB. I'm curious what future hominins could illume for us re: the effects endocrine disruptors, pesticides, and growth hormones had on our development in this current epoch. Cheers.
Jade has such incredibly beautiful eyes! Thank you for doing this interview, they're so important with this issue ramping up around the world right now.
This material, maybe even moreso than the Evergreen material, strikes me as something that absolutely cannot be lost and is essential to pass on to further generations and far into the future. I know this isn’t therapy, it is really just documentary material but the subject matter is so sensitive that it is therapy-esque. There does exist video of some therapy sessions from decades ago, e.g. with Carl Rogers, you can find them on youtube. In the long-long-long run, what could be of greater historical value than documentation of peoples’ psychology?
It's interesting that in her story I hear a similarity with Chloe Cole's (from what I remember), it is basically that they didn't feel beautiful or accepted enough as girls so they decided to "become a boy" in order to flee from that pain. It's so sad, I remember as a tween facing all the insecurities this young woman talks about, the thinking myself to be ugly, the constant comparison between myself and other girls. I am naturally tall and skinny in a country where having curves and being voluptuous is the gold standard, so I was made fun of even walking down the street, by strangers. I remember I kept drawing myself as a stick figure and then drawing the "hot girls" in my class, kind of torturing myself to feel shame and pain. Sigh. I'm sorry that these young people aren't told that these feelings, while difficult, are part of growing up, and instead they are being presented a panacea, a supposed cure for all their ailments, which ends up hurting them even worse. I send so much love to Jade, I can see the wounded girl I used to be in her. But I am here to say that it does get better, I eventually learned how to make female friends ( I struggled with that too, mostly because I felt inferior and intimidated), and I found a great man who loves me and had amazing twin girls. It is possible to learn to love yourself, imperfect as we are.
Hate to say it but her story sounds like a teen drama: bullyjng, regret, acceptance, belonging. When I was growing up the drama centered around teen sex and promiscuity. During my time, having a kid and stds were the consequences. But today, transitioning is more life altering and permanent. I feel so sorry for this generation.
It's so weird how each generation is faced with a new social contagion. For my generation it was anorexia. Of my early girlfriends, all of them had an eating disorder of some kind.
SECOND TIME I'VE HEARD THIS TODAY from a female detransitioner. Okay, the first instance was a video uploaded two weeks ago. But still. "Women were like objects. They were sexualized." I am so angry right now.
Her initial statements are extremely troubling because it speaks to this overemphasizing womens struggles in pop culture, completely ignoring mens struggles "men just have to exist".....and she couldnt be more wrong (note im not blaming her for it, she only knows whats presented to her)
I think most people who think they feel more deeply than others underestimate others capacity to feel. It is not our emotions that make us human but rather our reason.
@@chaucerianfraud6767 You fail to appreciate the unique power of the human thumb which dictates the techno _Pollice Verso_ in which we live, as this very website attests to.
@@chaucerianfraud6767 The faith you put in your own aptitude for theory of mind is certainly impressive, but you shouldn't discount the possibility that I'm just being unreasonable. A good rule of thumb for social media generally...
As a 58 year old woman who has never fit the mold it is ok. There will always be women that are attractive and what you perceive as better but. For whatever anyone is , there are people out there that can’t get enough of it. I am different too and in time you find your tribe. I have always gotten along better with men but I have several good girlfriends that we totally get it. We all need time to step into ourselves.
The experience that Jade had in her school is now being implemented by public school boards across entire countries currently. Laws are being proposed or implemented in Canada which make keeping a childs "trans identity" from their parents, while socially affirming them and referring them to gender affirming counsellors.
Every woman I've met has been bullied at some point, but the pretty/skinny/attractive ones seem to get it the worst in adolescence. Average girls hate them with a seething passion and will pick at them and call them horrible names. Thankfully they normally get through it without too many scars, but these days with the double-whammy of trans cultists and online gurus, it's going to be tougher than days past.
Why would one want to be skinny ? She is a pretty girl but a lot of makeup ? I am an old man now but I have always thought that sex needs and should be about love , I mean not sex with just anyone but connected with a lot of affection , a special person . Children should be encouraged and allowed to grow up , slowly not quickly ...
This was a great interview and something I could relate to in many ways (albeit I have never been, nor felt the desire to be trans, but I’ve had feelings akin to thinking it would be easier to be a boy because it feels like as a girl you have to meet certain requisites to be considered desirable). Totally OT, but if Jade reads this, can I ask what headphones they are? They’re cute!😂❤
Two takeaways: (a) The medical and emotional damage is heartbreaking, and (b) it is difficult now to imagine that this girl, almost supernaturally lovely, could ever have fretted about being attractive.
It wasn't that she was worried about being attractive, she wanted be be invisible **because** she was attractive.. The kids bullied her for her beauty.
I just watched one of her videos the other day and thought she was awesome. She’s a beautiful young woman with an important story, which isn’t a bad thing. I hope the best for her. Thanks for calmversating, both of you. I also think males want to escape the competition. I was never super masculine and though I’m relatively attractive (you be the judge - I’m 42 in my profile pic) and even the head cheerleader in my high school was interested in me sexually at some point (we held hands and kissed), I always seemed to lose out in romantic competitions to muscular jock alpha male types, and felt that something was wrong with me. But I am still a male.
The big problem with internet and social media is that it’s geared toward people who “stand out.” Attention is currency but not everyone likes attention. It’s harder than ever to just be normal.
It's crazy that she got the message that women had to put in so much effort while men just had to 'exist'. Makes me wonder if she has a very impressive father who makes it look easy. There's a reason men commit suicide at a much higher rate than women. There is SO much pressure on men to be winners, to be confident and tough, etc. I'm concerned that none of that was in the messaging she received.
That pressure unfortunately exists for boys/men, and of course there are equivalent pressures on girls/young women. I see similar comments from young men on other channels, that it's so easy for girls and so hard for boys/men, often with a lot of anger and resentment. It's like they exist in separate bubbles, with no idea how much they actually have in common when it comes to struggling with their roles. Maybe someone needs to start a channel which somehow opens communication between the sexes more.
Women have pressures too. To be beautiful, be cool enough to hang out with guys yet still be feminine enough to attract them, to nurture and coddle literally anyone who wants support whenever they demand it (people call women b1tches and get angry when they don't.) To read everyone else's mind because women are "smarter socially and more empathetic". I'm autistic so this one is impossible for me. To cook and clean while the men drink beer in the living room, so on and so forth. Younger women have the added pressure of having to work full time, maintain a spotless home, and parent young children- or be called a lazy leech by most people under 50. They also have added pressures from vast libraries of easily accessed and increasingly k2nky internet pr0n. Many young men expect sex acts that didn't even have names 30 years ago. Many young women are naturally modest like the one in this video and don't want to be a pr0n star. I could really write a book on this.
@@Poecilia1963 Yes, there are definitely challenges for both sexes. I remember I used to believe that being a woman would be a much easier life, but I was looking at that from the viewpoint of a young man who was trying so hard to succeed, and seeing examples of women who enjoyed a high standard of living because they were attractive and men lined up to give them everything. I know now that that's nothing more than a rockstar fantasy and it's not the experience of real women.
@@Jsteiner1974 Well, gorgeous women are real too 😁 . But there aren't a lot of them. Tall handsome men also have it easier, not just with women but with other men - if I recall correctly, those are the ones who wind up being CEOs and leaders. Most of us, male or female, are just normal, and may have to rely a bit more on personality, character, a sense of humour, and a decent work ethic ☺ . Fortunately, unlike beauty, those things last.
@@Poecilia1963 Not only compared to men, but compared to most kids in the world from poor countries. These kids have been raised in the era of feminism and woke left. They are told women are oppressed, and being a wife or mother is like slavery to the patriarchy. They are literally brainwashed with it. Its in our media everyday and politics.
@@miroirs-jumeaux ... The kitty played with matches, when I was impersonating a 5 yo and started a fire in family shed (was empty, just had carpet) 🙀I think my dad was right there, because he put it out right away 😿
Good talk. I feel a big component of the aspect with young girls falling into a trans identity is bullying from other girls. Men get a lot of the blame as AGPs but it's not usually men judging girl's body features at that age. It's young girls abusing eachother online and in school.
Girls can be utterly cruel to each other. My high school sweetheart was bullied in middle school for being overweight and developed anorexia as a result. Nearly killed her.
This person has all the raw materials to have a perfect intimate life, where sex and intimacy is a private thing between herself and her partner, not a commodity for attention or gain. It's the society around her that is unwell.
@@helenablavatsky9136indeed, I thought it was today (the second) but a quick goog' shows it was actually yesterday! It's like the Canadian version of the Fourth of July, but correspondingly less interesting.
@@helenablavatsky9136I myself have always seen those numbers by your name in the comments of videos, but not in chat. There is a setting for your channel name somewhere, which you can change periodically, subject to availability. I just recently found that and gave myself a hyphen.
You think women want to be adored and, as a woman, she keeps saying wanted to be accepted and loved for herself and I think that is genuinely what women want.
@Jade, Hi, my understanding based on the biochemistry and genetics underlying male pattern hair loss, is that the hair on top of your head should grow back in slowly provided the hair follicles didn't completely die. It may take a few years. Be careful with facial hair removal. I had some electrolysis done, and it left minor hyper-pigmented scars (possibly related to darker skin tone). I am using an at-home laser hair removal device now, and it is working much better. I'm sorry about your experience :( I wish you the best
I can empathize wholly with her. I really hated being a girl and resented other girls growing up. That led to reading male on male fanfiction for my romance fix as a teen because women made me so uncomfortable and then theres such a clear line between that and projecting being a man onto yourself. Makes me think about the fact that so many boys grow up watching lesbian material as well. You really do have to be so careful to guard your sexuality
This young woman is as pretty as any movie star. I wonder what her relationship was with the males in her household? Did she idealize them and did they give her that experience/education/security about relating to boys and validate her identity as a girl?
@@jaderants glad you had that masculine connection. I think it can be complicated though. Not having a male role model can be confusing and idealized male role models can cause problems too. For girls making sense of our bodies and how to relate to boys…can be tricky in the best circumstances. Good luck to you. You are objectively a beautiful young woman. I hope you can appreciate yourself for who you are and find a great guy to have that family with 🍀
17:33 Few people, if any, can have anyone they want. A lot of your pain stems from unrealistic manifestation of ideals. You put others around you up far above you, whilst putting yourself into a pit. Do neither of these things anymore. What is in others, is in you. What is in you, is in others. It will take time but I believe you possess enough fortitude to see yourself, in the same light as you see others.
I had checkups and they had no concerns about my fertility. Everything was normal. I was also trying to conceive as I got off testosterone. You don’t even get pregnant the first year of coming off birth control so, yeah, sounds pretty normal.
Its possible she may need to take, even more exogenous hormones in order to successfully become pregnant. People who have the DSD condition known as Kallmans syndrome, are infertile but not sterile if given exogenous hormone therapy. Puberty blockers given to boys result in giving a child the symptoms of Kallmans syndrome
@@jaderants very well could be, from experience I know what it's like for a woman in her 30s to conceive and can't imagine what it's like with the other complications Please speak to other young girls, so they don't fall in the same trap.
I’m on the pill that stops your period for 3 months at a time because I have yet to experience anything that comes close to the pain of the natural period and I definitely prefer not fainting and throwing up all over the place once a month I don’t think my brain misses it at all, I think it’s happy to not be drowning in cortisol xD
Amazing. Typical coming of age confusion groomed by new dem content which would have settled on its own with time. Thank you Jade and Benjamin. Much to learn from this: as a man, i never thought a perfectly normal, sweet female child who lacked confidence would reject being female BECAUSE of modern beauty competitiveness. It lead her away from her dream: to have a family. And "the competition" created by friends early sex lives, makeup commercials, plastic surgery online, and social media? Social Media is harsh. Parents jobs are more difficult than ever to instill confidence...
@@BenjaminABoyce There was a 60 second countdown with beautiful music and an epic cinematic landscape journey..... ? Great episode. So grateful for all of the work youre doing thank you!
As my 4 daughters grew up, I had to make them change from the bellybutton showing styles more than once. We spoke often of men’s visual arousal vs. girls need to be looked at. They all found the balance. Where are those conversations now?
I feel this person was bullied because she is beautiful and real and wholesome, and the bullies were jealous.
It’s possible. Parents need to raise their children better.
I can definitely see that. I've connected with Jade on Twitter a bit and I had a similar experience as her in that regard. I am a detransitioner as well but I never did any of the hormones or surgery, which is complicated.
This young woman is an old school MODEST person. It is very sad that girls these days don't even know that being modest in thought and behavior is.
It is normal to play with dolls at 11 and 12. I enjoyed my barbies until 14 (8th grade). You sound like such a healthy girl!
Being modest isn't oldschool, its just tremendously difficult within a culture which seeks to sexualize you at ever earlier ages. Barbie itself, was modelled after a pin up adult, and sold as a "sex doll".
Edit: not referring to a doll one has "sex" with. Just meant a doll sold as a sexual collectible .
@@Gingerblaze it’s not difficult to be modest
@@Gingerblaze Hmm, what you said about Barbie's origin is both slightly true and mostly false. The doll was... not a "sex doll", as it was only 30cm tall. It was based on a character from a popular cartoon strip in a tabloid newspaper named Bild that began running in 1952 and the doll originally was produced as mostly a gag gift for adults, including a miniature copy of Bild, but quickly became popular with children and was retooled and supplied with an assortment of accessories (clothes, doll houses, etc). By the late 1950s the doll had been copied all over the world and by 1959 Mattel had launched their own copy, Barbie. Now, the slightly true part of your claim is that the character Lili that the doll was originally based on, was a bit of a floozy. She also typified what you would consider a precursor for the 1960s "sexually liberated young woman", complete with challenging traditional gender norms and authority. It is, however, worth noting that the dolls that eventually made their way into the hands of children had very little to do with this messaging and were instead more just traditional dolls, being sold with a standard variety of contemporary clothing and more traditional costumes (not just from Germany, their country of origin, but from other countries as well). Anyway, point being that this is pretty far from what I think most people would consider a "pin-up sex doll".
Great insight! That modesty and innocents wasn't protected for her
That's true, if a girl has healthy instincts about modesty they will say she's "gender dysphoric". 🤡
The sexualisation of our society is a huge problem. This young woman has a very disturbing story of her peers and the expectations placed on girls.
Boys are also exposed to sexual imagery that scares them, and can convince them they will be expected to perform a certain way sexually that they have no interest in. It can convince them women like being drgraded as much as it convinces women that men want to degrade them.
I totaly agree with you and as a Man in my End 40's, I would say, that this hole thing is a sort of War against Women.
True
I am so glad I am not a teenager today. I was a quiet guy, shy, had a hard time with girls. I grew up, and everything sorted itself out. Who knows what they would have tried to entice me into today, taking advantage of me during a period when i tried so hard to fit in.....
I was a tomboy, and fear for my young tomboy sisters!
Oh god yes, me too
@@melissaradaker1128my little Sister is a tomboy and Its certainly concerning
Temptation is different for each generation. It was teen sex for one generation, today its trans.
Same here!
This kid was bullied by the people claiming to be shielding her from bullies. Teachers, therapist doctors etc etc.
& Social workers
Re-inforcing a childs self hatred and assisting in their self harm is kind of the worst form of bullying.
@@Gingerblaze this makes Jade one of the lucky ones because she detransitioned
@@Gingerblaze indeed diabolical 🧐😠
I'm impressed that one therapist even raised the question of her "gender dysphoria" being simple insecurity. They don't even do that anymore under the "Gender Affirmative Model".
I had the same experience: my friend, and I put our Barbie dolls in plain brown bags because it was no longer cool to play with dolls and we sadly quit the Girl Scouts because it was considered childish for 12 year olds . Why has childhood, in particular, girl hood, been robbed from the last few generations? Why can’t adults do their job and create boundaries for children?
Parents get on average 45min of awake time per day of focused attention with their young children. There are fewer families who can afford to have a parent stay home to do the important work of raising children and all the old neighborhood networks of other SAH parents, no longer can be counted on to support each other as there are so few to begin with. Grandparents, who once played an important parenting role, are no longer as involved or geographically are far away.
The outsourcing of child rearing (and elder care, tho that is another issue) to childcare institutions and schools alongside the push of access to the wild west of the interwebs upon everyone, including children and vulnerable people has had some pretty disasterous but arguably, predictable results
The Internet. Before the web access to porn and adult themes was highly prized by adolescent boys because it was so hard to get hold of. Today it's there in front of you.
Question, is it a wide spread perception among women and girls that being in the Girl Scouts is "childish"? I'm curious because even though I was never in the Boy Scouts, as far as I know no such perception exists within Boy Scouts.
Poor girl guides. Suddenly it wasn't cool, it was childish and boys wouldn't like you. I loved girl guides, had I not been boy-crazy and pressured to fit in I would have continued for years.
_"Why has childhood, in particular, girl hood, been robbed from the last few generations? Why can’t adults do their job and create boundaries for children?"_
I have to remind that it's good to remember that it's actually luxury to be able to have a long safe carefree childhood in general. Most of human history that has not been the case and e.g. girls have been considered as eligible to relationship/marriage after periods start (some even before) so we are talking very young.
In the past most kids who were not from the wealthy families (= majority of people) had no such luxury as long carefree childhoods, but kids started getting various responsibilities as soon as they were able to carry them out so long before they even turned 10. From cleaning, cooking, animal husbandry/shepherd etc. E.g. in some parts of the world late childhood/adolescence kids already started to learn their trade e.g. as journeyman for respective masters and moved away from home to be trained as various craftsmen and such.
Only in these modern and relatively safe and wealthy times have created opportunity for kids to play carefree long after they already have physique and mental capabilities to do various task and jobs in the past they would have already been doing for years when they reach 12 years of age. Very simple reason being that because food/resources were not as plentiful which meant all hands were usually needed to support families, even kids hands. Poorer the family, more the kids had to work and take responsibilities.
I am not saying this as criticism how 'modern kids are lazy' and they should be put working after they turn 4, I think it's a nice to be able have a long childhood if there is opportunity for such thing, but it's obviously not especially major exception compared to our history if the childhood is not lasting first 16-20 years. Even in early 1900's there were e.g. still plenty of children under 10 working in coal mines e.g. in UK and in US.
As a personal opinion I would say that it would actually not be as bad idea to start to familiarize even quite young kids to various responsibilities bit by bit, not because it would be good for economy or "make better future workers" or that kind of crap, but that it's good if kids would start to learn various responsibilities and useful "adult" skills and things more early on which they can personally benefit later on, most kids are not stupid after all. Be it having a lemonade stand or helping their parents in various tasks instead of just playing with toys and games all day until they reach adulthood. It could also be some useful hobby, writing, drawing etc. that teaches them skills.
Benjamin, you’re doing god’s work giving people who are suffering the opportunity to have a voice
I think they have a voice all over TikTok, don't they? Also, Benjamin needs the content, doesn't he?
@@shortscenes9338 you’re a ray of sunshine dear one.
@@SuperSarahbop And, yet, Sarah, you're the one that is entertained by the detailed misery of village-idiot young women.
God
As Oscar Wilde said; "Be yourself. Everyone else is taken"
Chloe Cole seems to have inspired these detransitioners to come out in force. Thank you to all of them, and I hope you all find the happiness you so deserve! It’s a crime what has been forced upon you all!
She definitely has and she's wonderful! But I really think the catalyst for people telling their stories (at least in the US), was Elle Palmer.
@@simfimpim
I will have to look into her story. I am just happy they are telling them. People need to wake up to what’s been happening for years.
@@crocodilegrundee4514 Me too.
@@simfimpimYep she was the first video I watched and knew about
Jade may feel like the people around her weren't being malicious in supporting or guiding her into transition, but that competitiveness she hated in women is alive and well in the community, no matter the purported gender. Many of them might have seen her as someone whose beauty and femininity they could ruin, or they hated their own circumstances so much that they wanted everyone to be as miserable as they were inside. Those aspects are definitely present in the internet community.
Apart from her intelligence, bravery and sensitivity, boy oh boy what a beauty. Like a young Natalie Wood. Kids can be so cruel, imagine being called bug eyes for your big beautiful eyes.
Thank God she didn't grow a ZZTop beard.
Those girls were jealous. It's so sad.
Thank you☺️
I know you guys have good intentions but maybe let's not focus this on beauty and a 'not like the other girls' rhetoric.
@@williambarry8015 I’m a few laser sessions in lol
What a lovely young lady inside and out. She looks like a young Anne Hathaway.
Hope she finds that romantic guy she once dreamt about. They are out there.
Its rather sad that she concludes that her idea of romantic relationships was "childish".of course, as a pubescent child, she had only a vague idea about the sexual aspect then. That is healthy. That is the time in life where we develop our values around romantic relationships which help guide our choices later on, about haow we value ourselves and others sexually. That used to be quite a normal thing and to be expected at that age. (if somewhat rare now a days after two decades of so many children having free access to the internet or having friends who do and being influenced by transactional and exploititive versions of sex)
Many of us as adults, still hold the same desire for the type of romantic relashionship as she first described it.
@Nova226 is there something inherently wrong with the romantic vision of relationship?
I was also bullied by other girls growing up. It gets better as you get older. When making friends with other women, try to focus on their personalities rather than the fact they're female. That might help with letting go of preconceived notions.
This is really important advice for both boys and girls to heed.
But how do you do this with men? Straight men often have no personalities.
@@jamesb4729 That is not true in the slightest. They just do not express themselves in the same cliché way gays all do.
@@jamesb4729 What??? Straight men have no personalities??? 😆 Are you being serious? EDIT: Assuming you were serious, I think maybe you are confusing aloofness with no personality. By no means prevalent in all straight guys, there are many guys who are aloof, so it might take more time to get to know them. My advice for you would be the same. If you're a man who wants to make friends with other men, focus on personality rather than the fact they're male or straight, and know that you're not going to be friends with everyone-no one is.
That's wisdom!
Her story is infuriating, She was/is a totally normal girl but because society has been degenerated and perverted so far away from what's natural she felt she was the odd one and an outcast. She's a very beautiful, observant, and thoughtful young woman. I truly hope for the best and happiness for her in the future.
Jade, thank you for talking about your transition/de-transition. You seem like a beautiful, introspective person. I wish you the best with your life.
Thank you!
I usually dip into this quality channel for like James Lindsay, Philosophy etc. I didn't quite realize Benjamin is a defacto Child Therapist, I say that with admiration, and no irony for once lol.
LOL he's in the wrong profession!
Thank you Benjamin and Jade for this interview. What you said at the end - about self acceptance - was so powerful and touching. That message is what the world needs today.
Jade is so beautiful and has no idea. I hate how kids called her "slow" when she's so pensive. She looks like she's pondering the mysteries of the universe.
Born in the late 50’s I was a Daddy’s girl and he raised me to be tough so I didn’t have to rely on anyone to be me and also taught me to open doors with a smile .. to be helpful to be respectful to others and to myself .. dressing appropriate but pretty when need to and feel comfortable in jeans and T-shirt’s .. not afraid to get my hands dirty .. so well rounded person growing up and into adulthood.. parents need to step it up and teach children to be comfortable in THIER own skin and not mold them into a parents identity of what a child shows internet in .. play with toys trucks , dolls , color books , let kids be kids !
And directly to Jade.... your biggest confusion was thinking that wanting to go a traditional path was a weakness, helped along by evil and mentally confused demons. You will make a great mother, both intelligent, empathetic and beautiful....these monsters picked on you because you are the womanly ideal....strong and brave, the very thing that is envied by these twisted, sick people! God loves you, never forget that 💗 Listen to Nellie Furtado...I am like a bird, describes what you have endured exactly 😘
This is so sweet
Such a sweet empathetic soul is this young lady and she absolutely reminds me of my own daughter before her own transition. Her advice to other young girls at the end is pure gold.
Thank you for yet another wonderful and compassionate interview Benjamin.
Thank you so much🩷 I wish the best for your daughter
@@jaderants 😘
98% of children diagnosed with "gender dysphoria" at the GID in the Tavistock had other psychological and or developmental disorders. This did not stop them being ok'd for medical "gender affirming care"
Gender Dysphoria & GID are a very real diagnoses....no need for quotation marks for GD don't be so ideological .... The issues are with misdiagnosis , incomplete assessments, no long term history's & tracking. We could very easily go back to approx 1% detransitioning & improve on that and lower it if we adhered to what has been learned in the last 100 years. Tavistock's model WAS affirm which why the future patients will be better off in the new dispersed centers with careful watch & wait then gate kept in the future.
@@non_ideological_transexual7414GIDS is the acronym for Gender Identity Development Service, a unit within the Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust, based in the Tavistock Hospital. GID stands for gender identity disorder. The original post intended to refer to GIDS, the clinic, as opposed to GID the term for gender identity disorder. There is nothing implied by the use of quotation marks in the comment for the term gender dysphoria, it is punctuation. The term "gender identity disorder" or "GID", was replaced by "gender dysphoria" so as to be more inclusive. Quotation marks can be used to indicate irony, or as the are used more generally to show quoted speech, titles, to indicate that specific words together are a 'term' with a particular meaning. Single or double quotation marks are used together to denote a quote of speech, or terms embedded within a sentence that is also a quote. There is variation in custom between which way around single or double quotation marks are used, which has become quite muddied as we become more casual in our written style, and our communications are more international. I have, in this paragraph, omitted altogether and used both the UK and USA conventions of " and ' and mixed them up.
My own punctuation is generally unreliable and lazy these days.
I understand what she went through. I was percieved as 'pretty' by other girls and I also matured a bit more slowly, I was not interested in dating until I was 16. I was horribly bullied and excluded by girls. They made me believe that I was ugly. I still struggle with my appearance years later because of how I was treated.
Sometimes being 'pretty' (I'm sorry if this comes across as me being full of myself its the opposite!) comes with downsides. I recieved so much unwanted attention, bullying and harassment. People keep you at arms length because of jealousy. Its horrible.
Me also. The way the whole world suddenly saw me as either a sexual threat or sexual interest was confusing, frightening and lonely.
Being attractive is a blessing and a curse, especially for women. Maybe being average looking is the optimal state.
I also sympathize with your desire to not date until older. I was an unattractive nerdy boy growing up and all I wanted to do was play video games, so that’s what I did. I used to think that I should get a girlfriend, but thought it would just impede hanging with my friends and playing video games. Also, it was easy to just do what I wanted because I got zero sexual attention from girls.
My heart is bleeding, I am not sure that I am able hear the truth of the escape of being a girl till the end. Too much pain. I feel so much for your generation!
Omg, such beautiful eyes!
Blessings on your healing journey. I'm praying for my 16 year old granddaughter who says she's a he/him. Her mother says she just wants to fit in. I told her please please do not let her take any hormones! 😢
Thank you so much😞 I pray your daughter isn’t lead down the path that I went on. It’s not worth it.
@@jaderants I just noticed my typo and edited. For clarity it's my granddaughter. Sorry! But thank you for reply. I've been afraid of over reacting, but I might send my granddaughter this discussion. She needs to be aware of transition regret.
@@windsongshfMaking them aware of transition regret would’ve probably helped me sooner so that’s a great step
Crazy-wise spiritual teacher E.J. Gold had a quote that went something like the following: "Security isn't the antidote for insecurity."
Ohh I love that
Jade, you are such a beautiful person inside and outside.
There is nothing wrong with being a modest woman who wants love and wants to be wanted.
I'm female and struggle to make friendships, especially with other women. It is tough.
Kids can be extremely mean, but pay them no mind. Looking at you, it was just jealously.
I know it's hard, but try not to focus on yourself too much, I've struggled with knowing who I am and my sense of self, and after therapy i now try to ignore these feelings and just live moment to moment.
From another Jade, you are beautiful, and I hope all your dreams come true ❤ motherhood rocks!
Loved this interview, thank you both 🤗 ...I love the saying, "No matter where you go, there you are." Because it's so true...I keep wanting to lovingly say that to my niece, but I know she won't hear it...she will have to experience it🥺
You can still say it tho
@@Gingerblaze yes, will try to get my courage up to do that...17 and right now she is beyond sure and the tail is wagging the dog, I feel so very worried...about eight months on T😔
@@thejanetflights7396 your wisdom, if brief and shared with compassion may be more well received than you know.
@@thejanetflights7396do it
This one right here is probably why half of the young women end up doing it. They want a significant relationship with a male and it seems like trans is a pathway to getting that. Not the pathway they actually want but a pathway nonetheless.
I played with dolls as well til into my early teens. None of my friends except one other did and I enjoyed playing with her. Our dolls were like stars, they had stories like soap operas. We mostly just dressed them up, did hair and then moved onto something else. No biggie.
What this girl went through when she reached puberty is not new. It may be more noticeable or extreme now, but it was the same 40 years ago. This pressure to go out with boys, dress up, etc.
2nd wave feminism has a pretty solid analysis of this toxic crap
Yes it doesn't change... The difference is that there is no safe place away from it all 😔and it's true that we often don't see bullying having its roots in envy and jealousy
@@pixie3458 Probably. We didn't have social media then. I think SM is quite dangerous for the under 16s.
She got made fun of? Wtf, she's pretty damn hot. It's a shame even good looking girls are transitioning, we're in real trouble as a society. Soon we'll only have a choice between Dylan Mulvaney and Lia Thomas for us straight dudes to date. It's rare for a trans person to end up looking like Blaire White, extremely rare.
Maybe ppl will see one another as people and judge them more by their character than their highly temporary appearances?
Dang he gets her to open at the very end, nice to see her relax. That click from stress to just chatting.
Unbelievable, that such a beautiful woman, feminine and wholesome on top, did that to herself is beyond me.
she was deceived by vicious ideologues, she's a victim, she didn't "do it to herself"
Without diminishing the harm that was done to her, without some notion of responsibility how can any of these detransitioners reclaim their agency? Also, it undermines women in particular to frame them as helpless victims of the world. See Karen Straughan's work: ruclips.net/video/KBgcjtE0xrE/видео.html
Absolutely heartbreaking. 30 years of "anti-bullying awareness" and here we are. Let kids be their unique selves!
Zero Tolerance just makes it so that no bullied child can defend him or herself
Johnathan Haidt wrote The Coddling of the American Mind. It is a good read. 30 years of zero tolerance has contributed to a generation unable to resolve conflict. Bullying is a thing and it is real, and painful, but as it is defined today....everyone is bullied and everyone is a bully. Nether is good for developing true self esteem.
so many of these kids have ocd. obsessional thinking plays a huge role in this
I do have OCD like Ritchie but I don’t think this is the case for every detransitioner
I wish that this young lady had been given an opportunity to mature at her own pace. Instead she was forced to think about sexuality and make choices about it before she was emotionally ready. She should have been able to maintain her innocence.
Thank you Benjamin for bringing all the stories to light. You have a gift of the listening ear, a tender heart with compassion with kindness & love to share towards everyone. Don’t ever stop what you’re doing - you’re helping to save the children of our world. The children are the future of our world.
Great info on- couchtripper- gender wars. Also: Ex Aisle. & more. Many blessings & much LOVE to everyone.❤️👥👨👩👧👦🇺🇸🌎🫶🏼
These stories are so heart wrenching
Is it just possible that Jade was simply being bullied for being gorgeous by envious little bitches? Only very trusting and / or insecure people can be convinced to overcome the evidence they see in the mirror and believe such absurd taunts by bullies.
That’s EXACTLY what I was thinking!
I can relate to her. I felt like I could never fit in w these “popular” girls. I didn’t feel pretty enough and I too just wanted a boy that could adore me. I felt no one else did. I too was very shy, painfully shy. It still haunts me to this day. I made poor choices in marriage due to my own feelings about myself. Somewhere along the way I became more confident as I got myself through college. Sadly I’m still with the wrong person, just trying to make it work having denied myself that true love. 😢 I’m fortunate enough to been born in a time where no one really ever questioned gender and wasn’t influenced in that way. I don’t feel sorry for myself I had my own bed and lay in it.
I’m sorry you feel this way and that you feel you’re with the wrong person. I hope they are at least kind to you. Abuse of any kind is unacceptable and there are always ways to get away from it.
Thanks and grateful to have Benjamin’s tireless efforts in revealing the truth 👍Admiring this brave young lady 👍
Blair White said something the other day that rang a bell instantly and made me realize why transitioning was _not_ going to work for Jade. You probably already know the answer. Your impetus to transition is to fit in on the inside not the outside. Jade is extremely intelligent and her testimonies are powerful in showing the ease at which the trans conveyer can pull people in.
“It sped up that cysty thing that goes on in there.” 😂 Very good, Benjamin.
Yeah that was a very scientific description of the issue. Lol
Thats interesting how she thinks guys have it easy. As a guy I think women have it easy, I mean they literally just have to exist and look pretty and guys have to make the first move and provide for them and work dangerous jobs and society doesnt really care how guys feel or if they need help themselves.
I relate so much... As a little girl I was super feminine in the trad sense, but I hated modern femininity and all the expectations to look/act/be sexual before marriage, put on makeup and revealing clothes, etc. I just wanted to dress modestly and be loved by one man who'd provide for me to be a sahm. The romantic fanfiction was my escape too. If I'd been born a few years later, I think I'd have gone down the trans path.
This should have more views.
A must watch for parents of introverted, intelligent kids. Many amazing points. And this young lady is gorgeous. Introspection is an amazing quality as an adult and can lead to success and amazing lifelong happiness, Yet so dangerous to pre-teens in 2023.
These stories are always heartbreaking. I was a shy teen and a late bloomer, picked on at times, but it didn't bother me much. I was ok with who I was and I didn't care if I was a social outcast
I also wondered what it would be like to be a boy. All the boys in grade 3 would call me a boy cause I had a deeper voice. Then I contemplated what it would really be like to be a boy. I felt they had more freedom, just from my courtyard observations during lunch. They also got away with more clowning around in class. But I did not actually become one! Had this occurred nowadays, my teachers would have transitioned me if I had been prompted and brainwashed to speak out about it. I may have chosen he/him pronouns so that I could feel on par with the boys. Transitioning nowadays is a fashion trend. There is no particular pattern within the individual that one can discover. It is social media, political ideology and indoctrination in the classrooms through the teachers. That's about all you need to convince someone they are the opposite sex and to actually start mutilating their perfectly healthy bodies. It's incredibly sad.
Such a gentle soul. Such a lovely, sweet young woman.
Just the observable fact that "T" has such wildly different effects depending upon the individual women, you would think the medical establishment would go full stop on indiscriminately prescribing it to children for fear of litigation at the very least, not to mention the damage to society as a whole. I only hope heads roll in the end for this absolute negligence.
ZERO long term studies and they just start throwing it out to everyone without even solid clinical trials done first?!? It's mind boggling. We are watching the modern day version of lobotomies happening right in front of us...
This is the first detrans story I really relate to.
I'm 46, male and had I been born gen zed, I would have at least tried to nullify myself.
I saw everything she saw from a male perspective: women don't have to do anything, just exist, the dating market is so unfair as to be eugenic against males and so on.
The difference is that I was also correct and that's terrifying. To be a child who sees reality as it is, is a burden no one should bear.
She was way ahead physically and I was way ahead mentally.
Both are really bad.
About 2 years ago I was diagnosed as autistic.
I'm only 8 mins in but she qualifies in spades for the spectrum.
Trad Values are actually a symptom.
As are aversion to sexuality, being bullied, her otherworldy speech pattern, facial expression (lack of affect),.... and so on.
I'm not calling this a war on autism but who is being mutilated out of the gene pool?
Think about it.
Hey. Are you sure you saw/see reality as it is? You see YOUR reality and your lived experience. Many men don’t feel the dating scene is ‘eugenic against men’. Perhaps believing that is true influences how others see you as a dating prospect. Black and white thinking and such certainty you are right is also an autistic trait. Your behaviour could well be influencing your outcomes here.
There are many factors that affect how attractive a woman finds a man. The absolute biggest turn off for me as a ‘pretty’ girl is the sense that is pushed into you that you are the owner of a commodity- your body- and you are somehow cruelly starving other people by being particular who you share it with. ‘Withholding’ a right to access, rather than safeguarding my own body. Most men have no idea how frightening that is for girls to be so objectified.
However, even as a pretty girl and all the generic sexual pressure from men in general, the boys I fell for in my youth were usually not interested in me because my authentic self is deeply shy and I simply couldn’t communicate normally with them. My lived experience showed me that even being a woman who fits the societal norms physically still doesn’t get to date who they want. I could have had a million men I didn’t want, but maybe that is a difference between boys and girls. I simply wasn’t sexually interested in anyone that I couldn’t see as a long term partner.
Puberty as an autistic female was experienced for me as a total loss of innocence. Suddenly it went from fairly happy go lucky with my special interests etc to half the world seemingly being jealous of me, and the other half started acting like they were starving and I was a delicious meal. A small percentage of men distanced themselves - probably for fear of being inappropriate and not taking advantage of an obviously vulnerable girl- those were, of course, the men I was attracted to. Mostly though, the constant subtone, even unintentional, of being seen as a thing to exploit was very disturbing.
My first experience of this was when I was about 10 and a man exposed himself to me. It happened again- worse- when I was 13 (followed by a man in a car when I was riding my horse and cornered walking home after.) I was raped twice in my late teens/early 20s. Girls have reason to be skeptical. Even more so today.
She seems to have autistic tendencies, I agree. The ‘character’ she created is how I have lived my entire life as undiagnosed autistic until later in life. It’s called masking and it stems from this deep belief that we different from normal people. I iron my human suit every morning, go out and extrovert all day, and need to recover in isolation afterwards. It costs. Personal friendships are still an issue for me, while a lot of people think we connect and call me friend, it is mostly the mask they think they know.
My husband of 30 years though is also neurodiverse and luckily completely understands this. The fact that he was mostly nonverbal and didn’t have the confidence to show his interest made him safe for me to approach. He has said many times that he felt I was a ‘10’ in looks and smarts, and that he was about the ‘3’. Neither is actually true.
I hope you heard Jade’s advice at the end. She is wise beyond her years there. It applies to all of us. Good luck.
Autism isn't real. At least, not the ones you're talking about.
Proper respect to Jade ... She's grounded and knows which way the wind blows. Thanks for another stellar interview, BB. I'm curious what future hominins could illume for us re: the effects endocrine disruptors, pesticides, and growth hormones had on our development in this current epoch. Cheers.
Jade has such incredibly beautiful eyes! Thank you for doing this interview, they're so important with this issue ramping up around the world right now.
This material, maybe even moreso than the Evergreen material, strikes me as something that absolutely cannot be lost and is essential to pass on to further generations and far into the future.
I know this isn’t therapy, it is really just documentary material but the subject matter is so sensitive that it is therapy-esque. There does exist video of some therapy sessions from decades ago, e.g. with Carl Rogers, you can find them on youtube.
In the long-long-long run, what could be of greater historical value than documentation of peoples’ psychology?
It's interesting that in her story I hear a similarity with Chloe Cole's (from what I remember), it is basically that they didn't feel beautiful or accepted enough as girls so they decided to "become a boy" in order to flee from that pain. It's so sad, I remember as a tween facing all the insecurities this young woman talks about, the thinking myself to be ugly, the constant comparison between myself and other girls. I am naturally tall and skinny in a country where having curves and being voluptuous is the gold standard, so I was made fun of even walking down the street, by strangers. I remember I kept drawing myself as a stick figure and then drawing the "hot girls" in my class, kind of torturing myself to feel shame and pain. Sigh.
I'm sorry that these young people aren't told that these feelings, while difficult, are part of growing up, and instead they are being presented a panacea, a supposed cure for all their ailments, which ends up hurting them even worse.
I send so much love to Jade, I can see the wounded girl I used to be in her. But I am here to say that it does get better, I eventually learned how to make female friends ( I struggled with that too, mostly because I felt inferior and intimidated), and I found a great man who loves me and had amazing twin girls. It is possible to learn to love yourself, imperfect as we are.
Hate to say it but her story sounds like a teen drama: bullyjng, regret, acceptance, belonging. When I was growing up the drama centered around teen sex and promiscuity. During my time, having a kid and stds were the consequences. But today, transitioning is more life altering and permanent. I feel so sorry for this generation.
It's so weird how each generation is faced with a new social contagion. For my generation it was anorexia. Of my early girlfriends, all of them had an eating disorder of some kind.
SECOND TIME I'VE HEARD THIS TODAY from a female detransitioner. Okay, the first instance was a video uploaded two weeks ago. But still.
"Women were like objects. They were sexualized."
I am so angry right now.
Hope you’re doing well otherwise, K!
@@BenjaminABoyce I'm doing okay. Kind of on hiatus right now, but you said something about having me on, and I'd happily do that sometime soon.
I’d love that 🤗 do lmk benartboy@gmail.com
Her initial statements are extremely troubling because it speaks to this overemphasizing womens struggles in pop culture, completely ignoring mens struggles "men just have to exist".....and she couldnt be more wrong (note im not blaming her for it, she only knows whats presented to her)
I think most people who think they feel more deeply than others underestimate others capacity to feel. It is not our emotions that make us human but rather our reason.
Not thumbs?
@@miroirs-jumeaux All apes have thumbs.
@@chaucerianfraud6767 You fail to appreciate the unique power of the human thumb which dictates the techno _Pollice Verso_ in which we live, as this very website attests to.
@@ravencole8727 I know you think you are making a point. But not really.
@@chaucerianfraud6767 The faith you put in your own aptitude for theory of mind is certainly impressive, but you shouldn't discount the possibility that I'm just being unreasonable. A good rule of thumb for social media generally...
Of all things in this world, young people developing their characters should not be bullied. This f****** bullying is THE issue.
Jade is really beautiful. The bullying from girls was certainly jealousy in part. Females can be so vicious. 😕
Some of it could be a perception of bullying where none was intended. Highly sensitive people can often have trouble distinguishing between the two.
@@GingerblazeIt was definitely bullying. I’d have my parents and siblings step in to school officials often
Classic rival suppression.
@@Gingerblazebullies zero in on highly sensitive people.
As a 58 year old woman who has never fit the mold it is ok. There will always be women that are attractive and what you perceive as better but. For whatever anyone is , there are people out there that can’t get enough of it. I am different too and in time you find your tribe. I have always gotten along better with men but I have several good girlfriends that we totally get it. We all need time to step into ourselves.
The experience that Jade had in her school is now being implemented by public school boards across entire countries currently. Laws are being proposed or implemented in Canada which make keeping a childs "trans identity" from their parents, while socially affirming them and referring them to gender affirming counsellors.
This was between 2017-19 too. I can’t imagine what high school is like now.
@@jaderants its now being implemented in k-6 in some countries.
Problems of sexual competition
Every woman I've met has been bullied at some point, but the pretty/skinny/attractive ones seem to get it the worst in adolescence. Average girls hate them with a seething passion and will pick at them and call them horrible names. Thankfully they normally get through it without too many scars, but these days with the double-whammy of trans cultists and online gurus, it's going to be tougher than days past.
Why would one want to be skinny ? She is a pretty girl but a lot of makeup ? I am an old man now but I have always thought that sex needs and should be about love , I mean not sex with just anyone but connected with a lot of affection , a special person . Children should be encouraged and allowed to grow up , slowly not quickly ...
This was a great interview and something I could relate to in many ways (albeit I have never been, nor felt the desire to be trans, but I’ve had feelings akin to thinking it would be easier to be a boy because it feels like as a girl you have to meet certain requisites to be considered desirable).
Totally OT, but if Jade reads this, can I ask what headphones they are? They’re cute!😂❤
Wow. We have really robbed this generation of its innocence.
Thank you Jade for sharing your story, may it stop many kids from going down this path of butchery and mind fuckery
Thanks for sharing your story.
Thanks for sharing your story.❤
Two takeaways: (a) The medical and emotional damage is heartbreaking, and (b) it is difficult now to imagine that this girl, almost supernaturally lovely, could ever have fretted about being attractive.
It wasn't that she was worried about being attractive, she wanted be be invisible **because** she was attractive.. The kids bullied her for her beauty.
Cysts are the worst. Recovering from one myself
I just watched one of her videos the other day and thought she was awesome. She’s a beautiful young woman with an important story, which isn’t a bad thing. I hope the best for her. Thanks for calmversating, both of you. I also think males want to escape the competition. I was never super masculine and though I’m relatively attractive (you be the judge - I’m 42 in my profile pic) and even the head cheerleader in my high school was interested in me sexually at some point (we held hands and kissed), I always seemed to lose out in romantic competitions to muscular jock alpha male types, and felt that something was wrong with me. But I am still a male.
Did those jock types take the attention of all the girls or just the ones you were attracted to?
The big problem with internet and social media is that it’s geared toward people who “stand out.” Attention is currency but not everyone likes attention. It’s harder than ever to just be normal.
@@PuddilyOops anominity is the new fame
Great interview. Thanks for sharing 👍
It's crazy that she got the message that women had to put in so much effort while men just had to 'exist'. Makes me wonder if she has a very impressive father who makes it look easy.
There's a reason men commit suicide at a much higher rate than women. There is SO much pressure on men to be winners, to be confident and tough, etc. I'm concerned that none of that was in the messaging she received.
That pressure unfortunately exists for boys/men, and of course there are equivalent pressures on girls/young women. I see similar comments from young men on other channels, that it's so easy for girls and so hard for boys/men, often with a lot of anger and resentment. It's like they exist in separate bubbles, with no idea how much they actually have in common when it comes to struggling with their roles. Maybe someone needs to start a channel which somehow opens communication between the sexes more.
Women have pressures too. To be beautiful, be cool enough to hang out with guys yet still be feminine enough to attract them, to nurture and coddle literally anyone who wants support whenever they demand it (people call women b1tches and get angry when they don't.) To read everyone else's mind because women are "smarter socially and more empathetic". I'm autistic so this one is impossible for me. To cook and clean while the men drink beer in the living room, so on and so forth.
Younger women have the added pressure of having to work full time, maintain a spotless home, and parent young children- or be called a lazy leech by most people under 50. They also have added pressures from vast libraries of easily accessed and increasingly k2nky internet pr0n. Many young men expect sex acts that didn't even have names 30 years ago. Many young women are naturally modest like the one in this video and don't want to be a pr0n star. I could really write a book on this.
@@Poecilia1963 Yes, there are definitely challenges for both sexes. I remember I used to believe that being a woman would be a much easier life, but I was looking at that from the viewpoint of a young man who was trying so hard to succeed, and seeing examples of women who enjoyed a high standard of living because they were attractive and men lined up to give them everything. I know now that that's nothing more than a rockstar fantasy and it's not the experience of real women.
@@Jsteiner1974 Well, gorgeous women are real too 😁 . But there aren't a lot of them. Tall handsome men also have it easier, not just with women but with other men - if I recall correctly, those are the ones who wind up being CEOs and leaders. Most of us, male or female, are just normal, and may have to rely a bit more on personality, character, a sense of humour, and a decent work ethic ☺ . Fortunately, unlike beauty, those things last.
@@Poecilia1963 Not only compared to men, but compared to most kids in the world from poor countries. These kids have been raised in the era of feminism and woke left. They are told women are oppressed, and being a wife or mother is like slavery to the patriarchy. They are literally brainwashed with it. Its in our media everyday and politics.
What a gem of a woman. I also agree, Resident Evil 7 IS a masterpiece of gaming 😀
Amazing title as usual
Mr. Benjamin has a fondness for the play of words 😸
@@NinjaKittyBonks Good thing he likes playing with words, rather than matches. 🔥
@@miroirs-jumeaux ... The kitty played with matches, when I was impersonating a 5 yo and started a fire in family shed (was empty, just had carpet) 🙀I think my dad was right there, because he put it out right away 😿
@@NinjaKittyBonksboys will be boys, and without supervision a lot of them will be arsonists
Her view of boys is the exact opposite of my 22 years of trying to attract the opposite sex.
Good talk. I feel a big component of the aspect with young girls falling into a trans identity is bullying from other girls. Men get a lot of the blame as AGPs but it's not usually men judging girl's body features at that age. It's young girls abusing eachother online and in school.
Girls can be utterly cruel to each other. My high school sweetheart was bullied in middle school for being overweight and developed anorexia as a result. Nearly killed her.
Girl bullies want you to kill yourself
Male bullies want you to submit to them
This person has all the raw materials to have a perfect intimate life, where sex and intimacy is a private thing between herself and her partner, not a commodity for attention or gain. It's the society around her that is unwell.
And here I was thinking I'd have no plans for Canada Day!
Canada Day?
@@helenablavatsky9136indeed, I thought it was today (the second) but a quick goog' shows it was actually yesterday!
It's like the Canadian version of the Fourth of July, but correspondingly less interesting.
@@miroirs-jumeaux Got it.
Hey, do you know why these stupid numbers suddenly appeared by our handles? I did not choose that number.
@@helenablavatsky9136I myself have always seen those numbers by your name in the comments of videos, but not in chat.
There is a setting for your channel name somewhere, which you can change periodically, subject to availability. I just recently found that and gave myself a hyphen.
@@helenablavatsky9136 RUclips did it about a week ago. I was really annoyed. You can change the number. I made mine be the year of my birth.
You think women want to be adored and, as a woman, she keeps saying wanted to be accepted and loved for herself and I think that is genuinely what women want.
Yes but I think there needs to be both. You should be your partners equal while adoring them.
Women want all of that and more not just the last 2...as all my female friends & myself do.
I wanna be left alone tbh
@Jade, Hi, my understanding based on the biochemistry and genetics underlying male pattern hair loss, is that the hair on top of your head should grow back in slowly provided the hair follicles didn't completely die. It may take a few years. Be careful with facial hair removal. I had some electrolysis done, and it left minor hyper-pigmented scars (possibly related to darker skin tone). I am using an at-home laser hair removal device now, and it is working much better. I'm sorry about your experience :( I wish you the best
I can empathize wholly with her. I really hated being a girl and resented other girls growing up. That led to reading male on male fanfiction for my romance fix as a teen because women made me so uncomfortable and then theres such a clear line between that and projecting being a man onto yourself. Makes me think about the fact that so many boys grow up watching lesbian material as well. You really do have to be so careful to guard your sexuality
This young woman is as pretty as any movie star.
I wonder what her relationship was with the males in her household? Did she idealize them and did they give her that experience/education/security about relating to boys and validate her identity as a girl?
Growing up and currently i’ve been a “daddy’s girl.” I did look up to my brother.
@@jaderants glad you had that masculine connection. I think it can be complicated though. Not having a male role model can be confusing and idealized male role models can cause problems too. For girls making sense of our bodies and how to relate to boys…can be tricky in the best circumstances. Good luck to you. You are objectively a beautiful young woman. I hope you can appreciate yourself for who you are and find a great guy to have that family with 🍀
God, bless and have mercy on this young woman.
Really great interview.
Bullying seems to be so common in our culture. Why?
the robots can't make up their mind about when this première premières - first it says 2 hours, then my screen flips and it says 109 minutes.
17:33 Few people, if any, can have anyone they want. A lot of your pain stems from unrealistic manifestation of ideals.
You put others around you up far above you, whilst putting yourself into a pit. Do neither of these things anymore. What is in others, is in you. What is in you, is in others.
It will take time but I believe you possess enough fortitude to see yourself, in the same light as you see others.
She didn't say she wanted to get anyone she wanted, she said she said someone she **actually** wanted.
"im not infertile, i just cant get pregnant....." Uhhh...
I had checkups and they had no concerns about my fertility. Everything was normal. I was also trying to conceive as I got off testosterone. You don’t even get pregnant the first year of coming off birth control so, yeah, sounds pretty normal.
Its possible she may need to take, even more exogenous hormones in order to successfully become pregnant. People who have the DSD condition known as Kallmans syndrome, are infertile but not sterile if given exogenous hormone therapy.
Puberty blockers given to boys result in giving a child the symptoms of Kallmans syndrome
@@Gingerblaze I’ve been in and out of the hospital for almost 3 years I don’t need any help with conception
@@jaderants very well could be, from experience I know what it's like for a woman in her 30s to conceive and can't imagine what it's like with the other complications
Please speak to other young girls, so they don't fall in the same trap.
I love this channel.
I’m on the pill that stops your period for 3 months at a time because I have yet to experience anything that comes close to the pain of the natural period and I definitely prefer not fainting and throwing up all over the place once a month
I don’t think my brain misses it at all, I think it’s happy to not be drowning in cortisol xD
Amazing.
Typical coming of age confusion groomed by new dem content which would have settled on its own with time. Thank you Jade and Benjamin.
Much to learn from this: as a man, i never thought a perfectly normal, sweet female child who lacked confidence would reject being female BECAUSE of modern beauty competitiveness. It lead her away from her dream: to have a family. And "the competition" created by friends early sex lives, makeup commercials, plastic surgery online, and social media? Social Media is harsh. Parents jobs are more difficult than ever to instill confidence...
Wow she’s adorable stay strong ok sending blessings. Thank you Benjamin ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I didn't think there would possibly be a better intro than your cats but this was rlly great
…but there was no intro…?
@@BenjaminABoyce There was a 60 second countdown with beautiful music and an epic cinematic landscape journey..... ? Great episode. So grateful for all of the work youre doing thank you!
@@MayaLuna-b6t that’s not an intro that’s the video premiere countdown
As my 4 daughters grew up, I had to make them change from the bellybutton showing styles more than once. We spoke often of men’s visual arousal vs. girls need to be looked at. They all found the balance. Where are those conversations now?
They are still being had, only now with the opposite sexes and in kindergarten.
This is absolutely heartbreaking to watch, especially the part about the health consequences.
Hope it'll all work out for her... somehow.