I think you were born to do this. From your deep knowledge to your professional yet friendly voice to your authenticity.... You are a super star! You have obviously helped so many people, that's a gift 🎁. All my best wishes for you and your family Emma!!
Greetings from Cape Town South Africa Emma, a heartfelt thank you for sharing your extensive knowledge & all your efforts Mental health challenges are not fun, yet your presentation style is always so engaging , interesting & informative I can't afford long term private therapy so your pearls of wisdom are truly a blessing I've learnt so much life changing skills, coping mechanisms & a better understanding of mind body connection You're truly a miracle in so many of our lives❤ Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays to you & your loved ones XXX
In the book “Chatter” I also learned to yell my own name at myself when I’m ruminating and overthinking. I’m honestly surprised every time when it works!
When I was meditating recently and kept getting too distracted by thoughts and stimuli to focus on a body scan, I just suddenly imagined another me, physically in front of me, firmly yelling my name to get my attention and keep me focused and go, “JASMINE. TOP OF THE HEAD. TOP OF THE HEAD. WHAT DOES THAT FEEL LIKE. FEEL IT. THE TOP. OF YOUR HEAD. GOOD. NEXT.” 😂 and so forth.
I discovered that my chronic overthinking was a result of a trauma response to find and ensure continued safety and security. If I stopped thinking, then I was in trouble...at least I was conditioned to believe this. It's why there are so many addiction and distractions today, because so many of us are trying to turn off the overthinking reaction to preemptively manage our safety and security. Mindfulness was hard to do for me. Books like 30 Days to Reduce Depression by Harper Daniels and the Tao Te Ching and even Tolle's Power of Now helped me to slowly realize that I wasn't my thinking mind.
I find that isolation and loneliness leads to ruminating thoughts, I have to get out of the house and move towards people to shift my focus. Easier said than done when you're a bit agoraphobic but I know this is what works for me.
My anxiety/overthinking has affected my life more than I ever knew and caused me to make mistakes/lapses in judgment/2nd guess myself and and not be present. These simple techniques that can be so useful - I wish everyone would know about these. It’s so simple but when you’re in your own head you can’t see solutions on your own sometimes.
These videos always land right when I need them. You've been guiding me for years now. I share your videos with struggling friends, My gratitude for you is so immense. Thank you.
omfg a Brazilian here, even though I have never been to a camp and we have no concept of camp counselor here, you really do totally look like the type of woman that is the camp counselor in every American movie I have ever watched in my whole life
Cognitive defusion is a great tool. I would add to this that it's important to observe your thought WITHOUT judgement, otherwise we open another route to negativity and self disparaging thinking.
Thank you for this channel. My anxiety accentuated into hypochondria after a friend passed away from a heart attack at 27 y/o. I was spiralling through my web of thoughts every night and the symptoms of anxiety mimicking heart problems did not do any favours. After learning and seeking therapy, I am at a much better state mentally. My anxiety can be overwhelming at times because I feel dizzy when I stress out, but it has been a little manageable and I hope I can overcome it soon. The comment section helped a lot. I was not aware that so many people go through this in their lives. I was afraid in the beginning thinking I might be alone. I want to extend my gratitude to each and every person out there. It is a very human experience. Thoughts and feelings can be scarily overwhelming and I hope you find the strength and help without any judgement. There is no shame in working on yourself. Good luck out there.
All of the ballerina's ruminations sounded like a way to take her power back in a situation she had no power over. What roles she did/didn't get weren't ultimately in her hands, but her cycle of ruminating was like trying to find a way to figure out what might happen anyway. Wondering what they thought of her was also her wondering what they'd do to her, if she'd lose what she had and they'd take it away at any moment. Maybe I'm projecting, but it sounds so familiar to me.
I took your challenge to worry at a certain time for 30 days. And I continued to watch many of your videos. By day 12, with all the skills you taught, it felt silly to worry for an entire 15 minutes. It's getting where I just list that which I could possibly worry about and then focus what is actionable toward making a meaningful life. You are a lifesaver! I am grateful for you.
“Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4: 6
You have no idea how much this helped me, and so many of your other videos. When people can’t afford therapy they often go to the internet, and you are providing such amazingly helpful information. I appreciate everything that goes into these videos, all that you do and and all that you have done. Thank you so much. ❤
This video came at the right time!! I have been trying for years to stop overthinking. After seeing this video, I finally can have a little peace of mind! Thank you!❤❤❤
ACT has literally changed my life. I went from doing cbt for about 2 years with no progress to practicing ACT and seeing an ACT therapist and having my life 180 in the span of 6 months
The biggest benefit that emerges from learning to notice your thoughts is the creation of space. This is huge and creates some breathing room in the mind.
❤ thank you. I also realise that RUclips sometimes is not helping me! I have to have boundaries with it so much information about many topics, and sometimes I get more overwhelmed and overthink because they are always sending videos about why you have to heal and fix yourself.
as an anxious person- today i was able to notice i was having these thoughts. didn't judge them or resist in any way. i cannot believe it worked, thank you so much
Thank you Emma! It’s so funny, the humor part is what works/worked for me! I’m a caricature artist and exaggeration is of course a huge part of that. When I found myself afraid to walk through the cute little lane behind our farm once, I imagined myself crawling through it… that made me giggle and all went better!
I JUST ONE TO LET YOU KNOW YOU HAVE THE BEST TEACHINGS ABOUT PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER. THE MOMENT YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH YOUR SYSTEM DURING ATTACKS, YOU WILL ACTUALLY STOP PANICKING. YOU JUST DON'T KNOW HOW THANKFUL I AM MADAM. THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH❤
My favorite channel on RUclips. Everytime I'm going through something I look through your videos and somehow, you always have something to say about exactly what I'm going through.
Thank goodness for you and all that you share, Emma. You have, honestly, contributed so much to my life. I went through an awful PPD with my second child back in 2021 & 2022, and with you, your knowledge, and generous heart... I survived. Again, thank you for taking so much time and energy and giving it to so many "strangers on the internet". You're wonderful. Bless and happy vibes your way!
I was overthinking and trapped in my mind since 1 week always overthinking day and night, until this video pops up today and I am in relief.. Thank you so much.. You are a blessing.. ❤❤❤
Love your rope metaphor. I too speak to myself in stories internally. My mind expanded it to- Image everyone's thoughts were 1000' strings. And you have many a day. So if you pull them they drag softly behind you breaking away as your focus breaks. If you push and walk into them too much, you will get all wrapped up and tangled. Stop, sit, untangle your mess, and star heading in the right direction before you fall. -As you can see my big problem is shutting myself up. That is my next issue of focus.
Thank you so, so much for these teaching videos❤ I came across this You Tube channel recently and this is incredible. I am a nurse and struggling with anxiety, finding your teaching style and enthusiasm and positivity very helpful. Truly appreciated😇
I love this! Eckhart Tolle sometimes tells this story about the Beggar and the Gold which seems to relate to this concept of Cognitive Defusion. He refers to the thinking mind being a beggar, but the observer in his case was referred to as "I am" without any words after it, or said another way, the practice of mindfulness where you explore your thoughts as just thoughts instead of identifying with them. Great video! Thank you! I hope I can continue to practice this technique as sometimes I go down the rabbit hole of unnecessary processing, where I would be better served by adjusting my thinking and cancelling out these thoughts which aren't serving me.
IT IS SO HARD to do this consistently. I have been trying to use defusion for years and always seem to forget to use it until I come across a video or article about it.
Consistency is something I struggle with but this learning material teaches us that the more we strive to improve or remember or DO the harder we make it on ourselves because of the anxiety loop it creates
As an MFT student/trainee, I absolutely love your channel ❤ It has been super helpful and makes me look forward to getting into the field and helping people!
Your videos have given me tools to help me pull myself out of my negative spiral of thinking. Still not 100% yet, but I feel like I at least have a fighting chance now. Thank you.
This is so helpful and so simple. Being in the observer self is such a relief from being chased around by being inside thoughts. Especially while under pressure ……. Love your channel ❤
Love your videos, Emma, thanks so much. I've noticed huge improvements in my mind activity since I started meditating - observing thoughts, rather than feeling pressure to clear the mind. Love from Spain ❤
This is by far the only skill I've learned that alleviates all the overthinking. Getting a book about the act workbook. I bite my lip as a way to comfort my anxiety been doing that way too long.
It’s mental Judo. It’s Overcoming a larger stronger opponent without resisting by using the opponents own momentum against them. In this case the stronger opponent is our thoughts and anxiety. Since we mentally cannot match our own might against our own intrusive thoughts, the answer is to use our intrusive thoughts own might against it.
The thing love about your approach is it still asks my brain to be an active participant. Maybe even more so. Not try to force it away or silence it. It allows me to shift my energy from the consistent and fearful negative, to the inquisitive and excited positive and discover things. Like the fact that during the "chess discussion" I also found comfort in the thought of the added level of separation. The fact that chess in and of itself is another representative barrier to War/Conflict. Thanks to the suggestion of a Better Help therapy session, I am one week into discovering your content. Surprising just how much it can help to just here someone talk through shit you thought was only your own "uniquely" broken head. Thank you so much for this.
Thank you so much for all of your wonderful videos and sharing your knowledge. Watching your videos, along with one on one therapy has literally changed my life! The way that you break down these concepts, and explain it in a way that is so understandable is absolutely miraculous. You have literally changed my life for the better and I just want to thank you. What you’re doing is literally changing peoples lives. And I am living proof. Thank you so much.!🙏🏼
I'm so very grateful for you. I hope you know how many people you've helped. Thank-you for making truly effective strategies available and for free. Youre an amazing role model for this. Thank you✨️
I do this too. Especially when i buy something more costly, i obsess for it and research for days or weeks and even after i buy the thing i keep trying it and keep stressing and wondering if i made the right choice, if maybe I'll find a better one after i decide to keep this one etc. 😅 In the end I just get so exhausted from it, I don't even care anymore, I just want it to end.
The example you gave at the beginning of the ballerina patient sounds like she was suffering from OCD, which is, of course, an anxiety disorder. Having OCD myself, I just want to mention that much of the advice you give in the video is great, but OCD is a pretty complex disorder that requires the help of a therapist and different kinds of techniques. I just want to point out that the flavor of OCD anxiety is harder to manage by yourself and it sucks. A lot of the techniques my own therapist has given me mirror what you offer in the video. Sometimes they help, and oftentimes I feel like there's a part that's missing for me having OCD. I am looking into inference based CBT now. Thanks for all you do, I love your channel.
Thank you so much. Spectacular video! 😭💕 I came up with a similar technique when I was a child and was struggling with terrible intrusive thoughts but some of these put even MORE perspective and seem incredible so I’m very excited to work with them and add them to my group of new friends lol
I’ve been saying to myself my thoughts are not real but the effects I let them have on me are. realizing I’m the ones giving them so much power and I can take it back
I cured my insomnia/intrusive thoughts at sleepytime by telling myself to stfu it's sleepytime, repeatedly; I also read some research, I think it was from Canadian Special Forces, on the best way to fall asleep fast in stressful environments (say in enemy territory/front lines) they got it down to an average of 30 seconds, by focusing eyes on the same spot (with eyes closed) they key is not moving your eyes, it took a bit of practice but it does work eventually. if you observe your eyes when you can't get to sleep you'll noitice your eyes never sit still, clear your thoguhts, focus on the same spot behind your eyelids, Zzzzzz
Another powerful message … I’m the overthinking Queen . I’m going to work on looking at my thoughts as stories or movies … Very imaginative, but just that …
I wish I could like this video more than once my take home... if I ever find myself in a tag of war with my thoughts.."your aren't that smart, no am smart" pulling the rope back and forth the best choice is to let go of the rope, no one wins no one loses
PS - It is funny you mention being a counselor. Because your videos do have more of a campfire conversation vibe than a stuffy therapy room vibe. +So much of it has hit spot on. I like it. Thank you.
People have a choice of focusing on their energy on the negative or on the positive. I had a girlfriend 40 years ago that was drop dead gorgeous, like a little gymnast cheerleader. Every guy passing by told her how drop dead gorgeous she was. One day at a party, instead of focusing on how pretty everyone thinks she was, she focused only on the zit she got on her forehead. The tiny thing consumed her and all she could talk about at the party was how it embarrassed her. She spent the whole day walking around with her hand over her forehead and explaining why. That continued long after the party was over. 30 years later on Facebook I found her negative thinking had destroyed her health. It is not mental illness, it is a choice.
It's more complicated than that Micheal. When you've long heard negative sentiments channeled your way, you automatically metabolise it and it becomes your reality. You speak to yourself in the same meanness. Mind shift is possible, it takes a lot of time, knowledge and skills to undo the damage. Unfortunately, many drown in the initial negative messaging.
Congrats Emma, your videos are very insightful and have a impact on anyone who wants to make a change in their mental make-up. Keep up the good work 😊❤
Mantra meditation helped me calm my thoughts and have more positive thoughts. To do this choose a mantra such as "my life is a gift" and while breathing in repeat "my life" and while breathing out repeat "is a gift". Focus on the mantra and breath and anytime the mind wanders bring your focus back to the mantra and the breath. Start out by doing this 5 minutes a day and increase to at least 15 minutes a day. Need to do regularly to reduce stress. The book Meditation for Dummies lists all the benefits of doing these mental exercises.
I think you were born to do this. From your deep knowledge to your professional yet friendly voice to your authenticity.... You are a super star! You have obviously helped so many people, that's a gift 🎁. All my best wishes for you and your family Emma!!
She is giving from the place of abundance.
Agreed she's amazing!
I completely agree!
@therapy in a nutshell, Thank you so much
Beautifully created by God ❤
Greetings from Cape Town South Africa
Emma, a heartfelt thank you for sharing your extensive knowledge & all your efforts Mental health challenges are not fun, yet your presentation style is always so engaging , interesting & informative I can't afford long term private therapy so your pearls of wisdom are truly a blessing I've learnt so much life changing skills, coping mechanisms & a better understanding of mind body connection You're truly a miracle in so many of our lives❤ Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays to you & your loved ones XXX
In the book “Chatter” I also learned to yell my own name at myself when I’m ruminating and overthinking. I’m honestly surprised every time when it works!
When I was meditating recently and kept getting too distracted by thoughts and stimuli to focus on a body scan, I just suddenly imagined another me, physically in front of me, firmly yelling my name to get my attention and keep me focused and go, “JASMINE. TOP OF THE HEAD. TOP OF THE HEAD. WHAT DOES THAT FEEL LIKE. FEEL IT. THE TOP. OF YOUR HEAD. GOOD. NEXT.” 😂 and so forth.
Hmmm...thanks for mentioning the book. I'll have to check it out.
i feel like this could genuinely work for me cause i'm someone who needs a bit of though love when i get stuck ruminating lol
I named my overthinking critic Karen and when I notice her taking over I say out loud "shut up Karen" 🤷🏼♀️😂
Cognitive defusion - separating from thoughts, is a core practice in Buddhism. It works.
what is the practice called?
@@serene1486 Detachment
@@serene1486 observing thoughts in a detached way sounds like part of Vipassana meditation to me
I discovered that my chronic overthinking was a result of a trauma response to find and ensure continued safety and security. If I stopped thinking, then I was in trouble...at least I was conditioned to believe this. It's why there are so many addiction and distractions today, because so many of us are trying to turn off the overthinking reaction to preemptively manage our safety and security. Mindfulness was hard to do for me. Books like 30 Days to Reduce Depression by Harper Daniels and the Tao Te Ching and even Tolle's Power of Now helped me to slowly realize that I wasn't my thinking mind.
This is exactly what I’m struggling with. How’s it going for you? And could you elaborate more on what helped? 🙏
Yassss
As my great-great- grandaddy used to say, "You see what you look for."
I find that isolation and loneliness leads to ruminating thoughts, I have to get out of the house and move towards people to shift my focus. Easier said than done when you're a bit agoraphobic but I know this is what works for me.
Hi Janet. I can relate
You are not alone in your struggle. I know it takes “work”
Determination,
dedication, self love.
You can do this! 👍 💪
Keep up the good work isolation is a hard nut to crack but it can be done.
100% my story
We loners need to stick together
Yes, I can relate. I try to get out of the house and do things with my son to take my mind off things.
My anxiety/overthinking has affected my life more than I ever knew and caused me to make mistakes/lapses in judgment/2nd guess myself and and not be present. These simple techniques that can be so useful - I wish everyone would know about these. It’s so simple but when you’re in your own head you can’t see solutions on your own sometimes.
Soooo easy and common to overthink. Guilty as charged! :) Ready to put in the work to be more mindful to do less of this!! Thank you!🙏
I have spiralled and lashed out the whole day today. The timing ❤
Same here
These videos always land right when I need them. You've been guiding me for years now. I share your videos with struggling friends, My gratitude for you is so immense. Thank you.
omfg
a Brazilian here, even though I have never been to a camp and we have no concept of camp counselor here, you really do totally look like the type of woman that is the camp counselor in every American movie I have ever watched in my whole life
Cognitive defusion is a great tool. I would add to this that it's important to observe your thought WITHOUT judgement, otherwise we open another route to negativity and self disparaging thinking.
Yes, practicing non judgment or noticing your judgments and questioning them is a huge part of cognitive diffusion in my experience
That's called acceptance in ACT
Yes. I'm just recently learning that thoughts are not good or bad, however some are more useful than others.
Thank you for this channel. My anxiety accentuated into hypochondria after a friend passed away from a heart attack at 27 y/o. I was spiralling through my web of thoughts every night and the symptoms of anxiety mimicking heart problems did not do any favours. After learning and seeking therapy, I am at a much better state mentally. My anxiety can be overwhelming at times because I feel dizzy when I stress out, but it has been a little manageable and I hope I can overcome it soon. The comment section helped a lot. I was not aware that so many people go through this in their lives. I was afraid in the beginning thinking I might be alone. I want to extend my gratitude to each and every person out there. It is a very human experience. Thoughts and feelings can be scarily overwhelming and I hope you find the strength and help without any judgement. There is no shame in working on yourself. Good luck out there.
Best mental health person on RUclips. Thank you !
All of the ballerina's ruminations sounded like a way to take her power back in a situation she had no power over. What roles she did/didn't get weren't ultimately in her hands, but her cycle of ruminating was like trying to find a way to figure out what might happen anyway. Wondering what they thought of her was also her wondering what they'd do to her, if she'd lose what she had and they'd take it away at any moment. Maybe I'm projecting, but it sounds so familiar to me.
What a perfect lesson. This is EXACTLY how anxiety goes for me!
The root of cause of our suffering is our own thinking! The moment we stop thinking is when our happiness begins!
I took your challenge to worry at a certain time for 30 days. And I continued to watch many of your videos. By day 12, with all the skills you taught, it felt silly to worry for an entire 15 minutes. It's getting where I just list that which I could possibly worry about and then focus what is actionable toward making a meaningful life. You are a lifesaver! I am grateful for you.
“Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4: 6
I'm having the thought that this was a pretty useful video.
This is exactly what I dealt with on many different things for years. I never could understand what it was.
You’re such a nice and kind person, positively impacting the lives of so many. Thank you
I can't express enough how much your videos help me. I can easily understand what you're saying, and it's a tremendous help to me. THANK YOU! 💜
You have no idea how much this helped me, and so many of your other videos. When people can’t afford therapy they often go to the internet, and you are providing such amazingly helpful information. I appreciate everything that goes into these videos, all that you do and and all that you have done. Thank you so much. ❤
This video came at the right time!! I have been trying for years to stop overthinking. After seeing this video, I finally can have a little peace of mind! Thank you!❤❤❤
ACT has literally changed my life. I went from doing cbt for about 2 years with no progress to practicing ACT and seeing an ACT therapist and having my life 180 in the span of 6 months
I dove Act for 3 and a half years and it really works
The biggest benefit that emerges from learning to notice your thoughts is the creation of space. This is huge and creates some breathing room in the mind.
I can so see you as a camp counselor !! ✝️
❤ thank you. I also realise that RUclips sometimes is not helping me! I have to have boundaries with it so much information about many topics, and sometimes I get more overwhelmed and overthink because they are always sending videos about why you have to heal and fix yourself.
Thanks!
It's funny, when I have an automatic thought popup once in a while, I'll chuckle and say "Oh you think we're doing this again?" LOL
I’m going to do this 🥹
as an anxious person- today i was able to notice i was having these thoughts. didn't judge them or resist in any way. i cannot believe it worked, thank you so much
Emma, these short videos are great! You are able to explain and give solutions in a very understandable and to the point way. Thank you!
OMG this is me. It interferes with my ability to think logically and rationally especially in critical situations.
Thoughts and emotions pass like clouds in the sky. Or leaves on a stream.
Thank you Emma! It’s so funny, the humor part is what works/worked for me! I’m a caricature artist and exaggeration is of course a huge part of that. When I found myself afraid to walk through the cute little lane behind our farm once, I imagined myself crawling through it… that made me giggle and all went better!
😅
I JUST ONE TO LET YOU KNOW YOU HAVE THE BEST TEACHINGS ABOUT PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER. THE MOMENT YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH YOUR SYSTEM DURING ATTACKS, YOU WILL ACTUALLY STOP PANICKING. YOU JUST DON'T KNOW HOW THANKFUL I AM MADAM. THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH❤
My favorite channel on RUclips. Everytime I'm going through something I look through your videos and somehow, you always have something to say about exactly what I'm going through.
Thank goodness for you and all that you share, Emma. You have, honestly, contributed so much to my life. I went through an awful PPD with my second child back in 2021 & 2022, and with you, your knowledge, and generous heart... I survived. Again, thank you for taking so much time and energy and giving it to so many "strangers on the internet". You're wonderful. Bless and happy vibes your way!
I was overthinking and trapped in my mind since 1 week always overthinking day and night, until this video pops up today and I am in relief..
Thank you so much.. You are a blessing.. ❤❤❤
Love your rope metaphor. I too speak to myself in stories internally. My mind expanded it to-
Image everyone's thoughts were 1000' strings. And you have many a day. So if you pull them they drag softly behind you breaking away as your focus breaks. If you push and walk into them too much, you will get all wrapped up and tangled. Stop, sit, untangle your mess, and star heading in the right direction before you fall.
-As you can see my big problem is shutting myself up. That is my next issue of focus.
Thank you so, so much for these teaching videos❤ I came across this You Tube channel recently and this is incredible. I am a nurse and struggling with anxiety, finding your teaching style and enthusiasm and positivity very helpful. Truly appreciated😇
I love this! Eckhart Tolle sometimes tells this story about the Beggar and the Gold which seems to relate to this concept of Cognitive Defusion. He refers to the thinking mind being a beggar, but the observer in his case was referred to as "I am" without any words after it, or said another way, the practice of mindfulness where you explore your thoughts as just thoughts instead of identifying with them. Great video! Thank you! I hope I can continue to practice this technique as sometimes I go down the rabbit hole of unnecessary processing, where I would be better served by adjusting my thinking and cancelling out these thoughts which aren't serving me.
IT IS SO HARD to do this consistently. I have been trying to use defusion for years and always seem to forget to use it until I come across a video or article about it.
Same.
Consistency is something I struggle with but this learning material teaches us that the more we strive to improve or remember or DO the harder we make it on ourselves because of the anxiety loop it creates
I'm glad I came across this video...I can Totally relate....been suffering from overthinking for quite some time now
This helped me calm down...man I overthink!
As an MFT student/trainee, I absolutely love your channel ❤ It has been super helpful and makes me look forward to getting into the field and helping people!
Been watching on and off for over 2 years. You have helped a lot.
Your videos have given me tools to help me pull myself out of my negative spiral of thinking. Still not 100% yet, but I feel like I at least have a fighting chance now. Thank you.
This is so helpful and so simple. Being in the observer self is such a relief from being chased around by being inside thoughts. Especially while under pressure ……. Love your channel ❤
Love your videos, Emma, thanks so much. I've noticed huge improvements in my mind activity since I started meditating - observing thoughts, rather than feeling pressure to clear the mind. Love from Spain ❤
You have been an immense help with my anxiety issues. This one was one of my favorites!! Thank you so much, Emma!!
Just wanna say here how amazing it is what you're doing, this is SO helpful!
Emma, your sharing of the talents has helped me in huge quantities. Thanks for the continued professionalism and production. So appreciated!
This is by far the only skill I've learned that alleviates all the overthinking. Getting a book about the act workbook. I bite my lip as a way to comfort my anxiety been doing that way too long.
It’s mental Judo. It’s Overcoming a larger stronger opponent without resisting by using the opponents own momentum against them. In this case the stronger opponent is our thoughts and anxiety. Since we mentally cannot match our own might against our own intrusive thoughts, the answer is to use our intrusive thoughts own might against it.
Thank you so much, this has been so helpful ❤
The thing love about your approach is it still asks my brain to be an active participant. Maybe even more so. Not try to force it away or silence it. It allows me to shift my energy from the consistent and fearful negative, to the inquisitive and excited positive and discover things. Like the fact that during the "chess discussion" I also found comfort in the thought of the added level of separation. The fact that chess in and of itself is another representative barrier to War/Conflict. Thanks to the suggestion of a Better Help therapy session, I am one week into discovering your content. Surprising just how much it can help to just here someone talk through shit you thought was only your own "uniquely" broken head.
Thank you so much for this.
I get so calm as you speak. Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼
Thank you so much for all of your wonderful videos and sharing your knowledge.
Watching your videos, along with one on one therapy has literally changed my life! The way that you break down these concepts, and explain it in a way that is so understandable is absolutely miraculous. You have literally changed my life for the better and I just want to thank you. What you’re doing is literally changing peoples lives. And I am living proof. Thank you so much.!🙏🏼
I'm so very grateful for you. I hope you know how many people you've helped. Thank-you for making truly effective strategies available and for free. Youre an amazing role model for this. Thank you✨️
down-to-earth, convincing, no BS. Thank you.
You are a breath of fresh air totally love you xxx
I do this too. Especially when i buy something more costly, i obsess for it and research for days or weeks and even after i buy the thing i keep trying it and keep stressing and wondering if i made the right choice, if maybe I'll find a better one after i decide to keep this one etc. 😅 In the end I just get so exhausted from it, I don't even care anymore, I just want it to end.
When I heard her say "..the upcoming ___ we need to do" I instinctively, in my head, went "AH!!" out of fear. Upcoming things are terrifying.
Pathological demand avoidance
It's something to Google. It helped me understand some of my own fearful reactions.
😊thank you! Been struggling with this for YEARS! Heavenly Father pointed me to this. ❤
Im 70 years old. I live alone. It's extremely hard not to reflect on all my mistakes in life. Not to mention health issues. One day at a time.
I relate
I always look forward to your videos.Thank you for putting this out for free. You are a true healer.
The example you gave at the beginning of the ballerina patient sounds like she was suffering from OCD, which is, of course, an anxiety disorder. Having OCD myself, I just want to mention that much of the advice you give in the video is great, but OCD is a pretty complex disorder that requires the help of a therapist and different kinds of techniques. I just want to point out that the flavor of OCD anxiety is harder to manage by yourself and it sucks. A lot of the techniques my own therapist has given me mirror what you offer in the video. Sometimes they help, and oftentimes I feel like there's a part that's missing for me having OCD. I am looking into inference based CBT now. Thanks for all you do, I love your channel.
I love how all of these medical mysteries have something to do with food! Thank you so much for sharing these with us
Thank you so much. Spectacular video! 😭💕
I came up with a similar technique when I was a child and was struggling with terrible intrusive thoughts but some of these put even MORE perspective and seem incredible so I’m very excited to work with them and add them to my group of new friends lol
I’ll always love listening to you. Thank you for all you do.
oh that's one of the mindfulness practice called "mental noting and labeling" so cool!
I’ve been saying to myself my thoughts are not real but the effects I let them have on me are. realizing I’m the ones giving them so much power and I can take it back
Love the sports commentary analogy. Perfectly accurate.
Thank You Emma for this information.. Thoughts are just thoughts and they are not who we are..
Just watching you make my anxiety go away, im very grateful for u❤
Many thanks ,I am going through a hard time at the moment but having you just a few clicks away helps a lot.😊
Thank you so very much!! You have great ideas!!
I am a kid born to deaf parents. Overthinking is a part of my lifetime job.
I cured my insomnia/intrusive thoughts at sleepytime by telling myself to stfu it's sleepytime, repeatedly; I also read some research, I think it was from Canadian Special Forces, on the best way to fall asleep fast in stressful environments (say in enemy territory/front lines) they got it down to an average of 30 seconds, by focusing eyes on the same spot (with eyes closed) they key is not moving your eyes, it took a bit of practice but it does work eventually. if you observe your eyes when you can't get to sleep you'll noitice your eyes never sit still, clear your thoguhts, focus on the same spot behind your eyelids, Zzzzzz
You Tube + great therapist = happy human. Thank you.
I hope it's helpful, when I originally made the channel, it was intended to supplement therapy, so I hope that's what its doing
Cognitive diffusion... WOW thank you so much ... I needed to hear that today...
Another powerful message … I’m the overthinking Queen . I’m going to work on looking at my thoughts as stories or movies … Very imaginative, but just that …
Thanks for your Amazing Inspiring Lesson 🙏❤😊
wow, this woman gets me !!
Thanks. Your relaxed and confident presentations, regardless of the content, are very reassuring.
Thanks!
I wish I could like this video more than once
my take home... if I ever find myself in a tag of war with my thoughts.."your aren't that smart, no am smart" pulling the rope back and forth
the best choice is to let go of the rope, no one wins no one loses
PS - It is funny you mention being a counselor. Because your videos do have more of a campfire conversation vibe than a stuffy therapy room vibe. +So much of it has hit spot on. I like it. Thank you.
This was helpful, like immediately applicable helpful! Thank you - looking forward to watching more of your videos.
your metaphors help me a lot, thank you
You are great!
I wish you was around when i was younger..it would of saved me alot of years x
People have a choice of focusing on their energy on the negative or on the positive. I had a girlfriend 40 years ago that was drop dead gorgeous, like a little gymnast cheerleader. Every guy passing by told her how drop dead gorgeous she was. One day at a party, instead of focusing on how pretty everyone thinks she was, she focused only on the zit she got on her forehead. The tiny thing consumed her and all she could talk about at the party was how it embarrassed her. She spent the whole day walking around with her hand over her forehead and explaining why. That continued long after the party was over. 30 years later on Facebook I found her negative thinking had destroyed her health. It is not mental illness, it is a choice.
It's more complicated than that Micheal. When you've long heard negative sentiments channeled your way, you automatically metabolise it and it becomes your reality. You speak to yourself in the same meanness. Mind shift is possible, it takes a lot of time, knowledge and skills to undo the damage. Unfortunately, many drown in the initial negative messaging.
This is one of the hardest skills for me to master, thanks for the lesson emma
I love your videos, thank you, Emma❤
I like the camp counselor schtick. I forgot what it was like to have a good one, and be in her merry band. Thank you.
Congrats Emma, your videos are very insightful and have a impact on anyone who wants to make a change in their mental make-up. Keep up the good work 😊❤
Thanks for your Amazing Inspiring Lesson 🙏❤😊
Mantra meditation helped me calm my thoughts and have more positive thoughts. To do this choose a mantra such as "my life is a gift" and while breathing in repeat "my life" and while breathing out repeat "is a gift". Focus on the mantra and breath and anytime the mind wanders bring your focus back to the mantra and the breath. Start out by doing this 5 minutes a day and increase to at least 15 minutes a day. Need to do regularly to reduce stress. The book Meditation for Dummies lists all the benefits of doing these mental exercises.
Sometime i struggle with situation you mention at the beginning of video!! Thanks for sharing.