I have watched 3 of your videos. Thanks for your candor. Yes, INFJ s are very private but it has helped me with a hobby I am enjoying very much. You are right, asking the question 'why' is important. Why are we so complicated???
I can relate to this very well. I have been asking "why" since I was a child. My family unfortunately did not share my enthusiasm for the relentless questions. I am always working out senarios in my head especially when I am faced with new prospective ideas. Most people do not understand how I can go in so many different directions about something. This works for talking yourself out of buying things at the store too!
Sorry, watching a bunch af your videos at once. I think this 'why' deal is absolutely wonderful! I usually always want to ask why but it was always to try and figure someone else out. I like this ask myself question, thank you again
I have always asked why since I was a small child. But in the last few years the questioning has faded away into whining. Thank you for the encouragement to dig deeper by asking why. I believe it is in the INFJ nature to question everything and an almost never ending hunger to learn more by asking questions.
That was really brave. The content of which you speak resonates strongly. Very brave on your part, much to be admired. I do understand. An analogy for me, “when I am alone, I love to dance. I love to take a microphone and sing. It is a small cheap microphone, but it does the trick.” For years, I have noticed, that even though I am alone, WHAT is preventing me from cutting loose? Singing my heart out? Dancing, moving shaking all over the place, to the point I trip and fall down?” (this has happened, LOL.) I mentioned this to someone, and they responded strangely.. Their response, “that’s interesting.” They looked confused. It could have been a professional, I don’t remember.(long time ago) The “WHY” is a very brave path to take, the less traveled path. I myself, started to write a book a couple of years ago. I have been told at different points in my life, am a talented writer. After starting this book, I stopped. My reason was, “I did not want anything bad to happen to the characters.” It is my understanding, to make it interesting, there has to be some kind of twist, upheaval, some form of action that the main characters have to go through. It can’t all be nice, with flowers, and sparkling glitter flowing through the sky. Thank you for sharing, this promotes thought provoking insight. I have thought about that book now for two years. You have a great day.
Hi Agnes! Thank you so much for this comment! It's true that if you're pouring so much into the characters that hurting them can hurt you to write, but at the same time, there is an ending and a journey and a lesson learned. If that lesson is worth it, it can resonate with people! I hope you find the strength to pick up that pen and start to write again! The world needs more storytellers! I appreciate you!
@@DavidBadurina I would love to see that to. I'm also a INFJ and i think i'm currently in the NiTiloop 😟. I'm overthinking, now for about 3,5 years (and driving myself and my husband crazy with all the doomscenarios) that i wanna start my own buisness homebased. The tought of receiving strangers in my home scares the @#$€ out of me. But i know i would love to do it, my mind can 't stop thinking about it. I'm quite obsessing! What if...it won't work or i'm no good...so i also have the imposter syndrome 🙄. Love to hear any advice from you 😊 love your video's! Such a shame we can 't meet and have a coffee together and talk! You seem like a really nice person 👍☺
@@selinaverbeek3289 Thank you Selina! I can definitely share some stories about this because I've been through much of the same internal arguments! People in your house can be really tricky because there's a definite border/boundary that gets crossed from business to personal. Is there a way to have a separate entrance? Some way to keep most of the house private but still have someone over? Ugh I hear you on all of this stuff these internal struggles sound exactly like what I went through. I'd be down for a coffee chat anytime! But I'm sure you aren't nearby haha! I'll try to hit on all of this in a video soon!
@@DavidBadurina Thanks David, for your quick response 😊! Nope, unfortunatly not nearby 😕 i'm from the Netherlands...so...no coffee chat in the near future i'm afraid 🙁😉. I get your advice about the separate entrance. I've actually replaiced the stairway so people woudn't cross my living area. Now they would only cross the hallway and upstairs i have a separate room. But still...it's in my house... sometimes the only solution seems moving to a house with a separate workspace 😁. But that seems a little drastic when i haven't even started my buisness yet 🤔 but thats the loop i'm in. Slowly losing my mind... Btw...i've just subscribed for notifications on your website 👍🙂
@@selinaverbeek3289 Thank you for that sub! And yeah I get that. I've been to places where they had a business operating out of a room, so they had a separate entrance but used curtains and just a small sign that said "Private" and that seems like a decent enough boundary (without buying a new home - drastic indeed!) Well the next time I end up wandering aimlessly around the Netherlands, I'll give you a shout! :-)
That identity is always tough especially if you wonder if you're being true to yourself. Just by asking the question though, Ashiah, tells me that you're someone who cares deeply about your own meaning and purpose, and that's amazing!
@@DavidBadurina Thank you for your kind words❤ Sometimes I believe I'm too reflective barely get any meaningful task done! I admire your genuiness and bravery to actually share your mind. It helps validate so many of us that get stuck and reluctant towards action..Thank you again!
So you found 'Start with Why' and the '5 Whys' to problem solving. That's great. Thanks for sharing. Simon has two other books that might be of interest - 'Leaders Eat Last' and ' The Infinite Game'. Keep doing what you do. It's an inspiration and education for me :)
Great video 👍 asking myself “why” about a few things now...thank you for keeping it real and for the reminder to occasionally check myself before I wreck myself. 😁
Wrecking is no good. It really is a good way to dig down but ... you have to be honest, even if the truth about WHY is kind of ugly. Be open and have a growth mindset about it, and you are going to do great things!
I want to write a book about my parents. What it finally boils down to is the characters would have to be fiction as my bio Dad died when I was two. And Mom was on pain pills most of my life and I have no idea what she was like before the constant pain and the mind altering drugs. I might want to use their peculiar facts but it wouldn't really be about them with out their personalities. How can I in good faith write about them? And creating a character from scratch wouldn't do them justice. Yet the story line is a good one. As you see I've not gotten from here to there yet. I could ponder this for years. Sorta PI WHY , huh?
Well that would definitely have to be fiction, but you can always take elements of people you know and throw them into character. I do it all the time with friends quirks or traits. For me, it's like a little inside joke that the reader won't catch but I'll at least smile about for a long time!
This is why I don't sing in front of other people because I feel if I put it all out there and no one likes it... that I will give it up. Ugh this is definitely something I need to work on.
@@DavidBadurina it sure is David. WE ARE the natural-born philosophers. Here's a good one-liner: Parent says, "Get a job!", I respond "....Why?" 🤣. Fortunately, in reality i'm not that bad lol
David. As an infj aspiring to be a writer, I want to personally thank you for this video. It touched me. What book did you write? I would very much like to read it.
Hi Kalina! I'm in the middle of my first full-length novel, still a lot of words to put down. I'll be doing more writing videos and updates very soon. Believe me, when I'm ready to accomplish that, if you're anywhere near this channel, you'll know! Thank you so much for commenting and happy writing! Are you doing NaNoWriMo?
i just started watching your videos and it seems like everything is making clear sense and i will be grateful if u make a video on why we forget when we exactly know why we must do the project... i mean most of the time when we wake up or come back to comfort zone we just simply forget our first priority....what is solution
Great question and that's just a learned skill, really! Keep a calendar, keep track, and forgive yourself if you don't get it exactly right all the time.
I found your chanel by accident ( somewhere in my mind i was already know you) i really like your videos and you really help me , i struggle when I fall deep into ni ti loop but the worst for me is when i overthinking and create situations that maybe are not true but in my mind are it's like drowning and losing any connection with "reality" ....hmm i don't know how to explain it xd..
It’s great David! It really is. Are you maybe a afraid you can’t nail a great ending to match the rest. Just write an ending and edit into its full potential. But it all happens at the table. Just get the words on the page and go from there.
You know, I have the ending in mind, and I honestly think it's the least of my worries. It's going to be a fantastic ending. It's the dreaded middle, and trying to decide on which path to go to make sure it's engaging, etc. I'm going to keep plugging away. I appreciate your support so so much! Thank you!
Oh well that’s perfect then! If you know your ending than you’ll be able to manipulate your middle even after you’re done. Can’t wait to read it! It’s been really engaging so far!
To tell the story, to learn,to laff, to exercise my mind and imagination, to see where the characters and story lead... Now I've got to focus the ADHD and get the dumb Impostor" syndrome out of the way...
Very interesting perspective my friend. I'm at adead end with a story I'm writing. I started it so long ago, that i have lost the direction i had at the beginning.It's as though as my thinking has changed and evolved, it has changed even what i thought the book was about. Probably sounds a little crazy I know. I want it to have substance, but i want it to have a somewhat gritty vibe to it. So I guess i need to do some restructuring, and I think I need more confidence in my characters. Thanks for the video man.
This doesn't sound crazy at all it happens to so many writers. I'm guessing you don't plan out, you just write? For me that's the tougher way to do it, I like to have a little structure throughout the entire story to make sure I stay on track. I'm a classic ... ummm ... plantser, I guess.
Thankyou fr advice. Its a good starting pt. Why-- brings out alot of thots &reasons fr what OTHERS think makes me different.l am totally happy being me but others hv th problm. Im guessing their discomfrt stems frm wht they do nt understand. They need attention &wd like to know why l do not need ppl or friends...comfy in my own skin. Sounds like i'v alredy strtd with th journal??
Do you mean , Why am I doing what I am doing, helping Divine Masculine ? the reaon is because he is my children"s father, why?? he has nobody else, we came to US just us, meaning no family . Why ?? I know I made him feel quixker ifI do it forhi, why??? again I love him. Is that really bad?? David. I apprciate you very much. L felt I have a friend or critic that really cares and honest with me.
I just realized that a srmple why will open up more and more questions of why until you get to the bottom of things and finally get the real reason pr answer yo your quesyion of why .
I believe it is an INFJ thing. Our type has a great tendency to think of futures/possibilities. Asking Why is a natural way to dig through meanings, find patterns in life and in ourselves. That dominant Ni in a healthy INFJ is always analyzing the abstract in an underlying layer. I believe asking why is a way to really let that Ni work and stretch out! Seperately from anything INFJ related, it's important as a human to have a growth mindset. Ask the questions, even if they are hard questions. Otherwise, you are close-minded, no?
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I have watched 3 of your videos. Thanks for your candor. Yes, INFJ s are very private but it has helped me with a hobby I am enjoying very much. You are right, asking the question 'why' is important. Why are we so complicated???
I think it's just who we are! So glad you stopped by and watched!
I can relate to this very well. I have been asking "why" since I was a child. My family unfortunately did not share my enthusiasm for the relentless questions. I am always working out senarios in my head especially when I am faced with new prospective ideas. Most people do not understand how I can go in so many different directions about something. This works for talking yourself out of buying things at the store too!
Haha yes it does! Why do you need it? Why should you spend X on it, etc. etc. Absolutely right!
Sorry, watching a bunch af your videos at once. I think this 'why' deal is absolutely wonderful! I usually always want to ask why but it was always to try and figure someone else out. I like this ask myself question, thank you again
So glad it resonated! Thank you!
I have always asked why since I was a small child. But in the last few years the questioning has faded away into whining. Thank you for the encouragement to dig deeper by asking why. I believe it is in the INFJ nature to question everything and an almost never ending hunger to learn more by asking questions.
Nothing wrong with asking questions and digging for answers, right?
That was really brave. The content of which you speak resonates strongly. Very brave on your part, much to be admired. I do understand. An analogy for me, “when I am alone, I love to dance. I love to take a microphone and sing. It is a small cheap microphone, but it does the trick.”
For years, I have noticed, that even though I am alone, WHAT is preventing me from cutting loose?
Singing my heart out?
Dancing, moving shaking all over the place, to the point I trip and fall down?” (this has happened, LOL.)
I mentioned this to someone, and they responded strangely.. Their response, “that’s interesting.” They looked confused. It could have been a professional, I don’t remember.(long time ago) The “WHY” is a very brave path to take, the less traveled path. I myself, started to write a book a couple of years ago.
I have been told at different points in my life, am a talented writer. After starting this book, I stopped. My reason was, “I did not want anything bad to happen to the characters.” It is my understanding, to make it interesting, there has to be some kind of twist, upheaval, some form of action that the main characters have to go through. It can’t all be nice, with flowers, and sparkling glitter flowing through the sky. Thank you for sharing, this promotes thought provoking insight. I have thought about that book now for two years. You have a great day.
Hi Agnes! Thank you so much for this comment! It's true that if you're pouring so much into the characters that hurting them can hurt you to write, but at the same time, there is an ending and a journey and a lesson learned. If that lesson is worth it, it can resonate with people!
I hope you find the strength to pick up that pen and start to write again! The world needs more storytellers! I appreciate you!
Can you do a video about INFJs and anxiety? I find your videos to always be very insightful, relevant, and real. Thank you
I'll put it on the list! Thank you for the suggestion!
@@DavidBadurina I would love to see that to. I'm also a INFJ and i think i'm currently in the NiTiloop 😟. I'm overthinking, now for about 3,5 years (and driving myself and my husband crazy with all the doomscenarios) that i wanna start my own buisness homebased. The tought of receiving strangers in my home scares the @#$€ out of me. But i know i would love to do it, my mind can 't stop thinking about it. I'm quite obsessing! What if...it won't work or i'm no good...so i also have the imposter syndrome 🙄. Love to hear any advice from you 😊 love your video's! Such a shame we can 't meet and have a coffee together and talk! You seem like a really nice person 👍☺
@@selinaverbeek3289 Thank you Selina! I can definitely share some stories about this because I've been through much of the same internal arguments!
People in your house can be really tricky because there's a definite border/boundary that gets crossed from business to personal. Is there a way to have a separate entrance? Some way to keep most of the house private but still have someone over?
Ugh I hear you on all of this stuff these internal struggles sound exactly like what I went through. I'd be down for a coffee chat anytime! But I'm sure you aren't nearby haha! I'll try to hit on all of this in a video soon!
@@DavidBadurina Thanks David, for your quick response 😊! Nope, unfortunatly not nearby 😕 i'm from the Netherlands...so...no coffee chat in the near future i'm afraid 🙁😉.
I get your advice about the separate entrance. I've actually replaiced the stairway so people woudn't cross my living area. Now they would only cross the hallway and upstairs i have a separate room. But still...it's in my house... sometimes the only solution seems moving to a house with a separate workspace 😁. But that seems a little drastic when i haven't even started my buisness yet 🤔 but thats the loop i'm in. Slowly losing my mind...
Btw...i've just subscribed for notifications on your website 👍🙂
@@selinaverbeek3289 Thank you for that sub! And yeah I get that. I've been to places where they had a business operating out of a room, so they had a separate entrance but used curtains and just a small sign that said "Private" and that seems like a decent enough boundary (without buying a new home - drastic indeed!)
Well the next time I end up wandering aimlessly around the Netherlands, I'll give you a shout! :-)
Simon Sinek and Start With Why. Also a TED talk
That's the one! Such a great, great book!
That would be the core of probably everything I try to accomplish since it's hard to actually pinpoint what is me anyway. The Am I vs. the I Am.
That identity is always tough especially if you wonder if you're being true to yourself. Just by asking the question though, Ashiah, tells me that you're someone who cares deeply about your own meaning and purpose, and that's amazing!
@@DavidBadurina Thank you for your kind words❤ Sometimes I believe I'm too reflective barely get any meaningful task done! I admire your genuiness and bravery to actually share your mind. It helps validate so many of us that get stuck and reluctant towards action..Thank you again!
Thank you for this.
I go through the same thing with my writing. 💜
So glad it resonated! Thank you so much!
Thank you, for sharing your experience because this resonates with me.
Thank YOU! I appreciate that very much!
So you found 'Start with Why' and the '5 Whys' to problem solving. That's great. Thanks for sharing. Simon has two other books that might be of interest - 'Leaders Eat Last' and ' The Infinite Game'. Keep doing what you do. It's an inspiration and education for me :)
Awesome recommendations, thank you!
Great video 👍 asking myself “why” about a few things now...thank you for keeping it real and for the reminder to occasionally check myself before I wreck myself. 😁
Wrecking is no good. It really is a good way to dig down but ... you have to be honest, even if the truth about WHY is kind of ugly. Be open and have a growth mindset about it, and you are going to do great things!
I want to write a book about my parents. What it finally boils down to is the characters would have to be fiction as my bio Dad died when I was two. And Mom was on pain pills most of my life and I have no idea what she was like before the constant pain and the mind altering drugs. I might want to use their peculiar facts but it wouldn't really be about them with out their personalities. How can I in good faith write about them? And creating a character from scratch wouldn't do them justice. Yet the story line is a good one. As you see I've not gotten from here to there yet. I could ponder this for years. Sorta PI WHY , huh?
Well that would definitely have to be fiction, but you can always take elements of people you know and throw them into character. I do it all the time with friends quirks or traits. For me, it's like a little inside joke that the reader won't catch but I'll at least smile about for a long time!
This is why I don't sing in front of other people because I feel if I put it all out there and no one likes it... that I will give it up. Ugh this is definitely something I need to work on.
I try not to sing in front of people because I don't want them howling like old dogs! But in the car with the radio on? YES! :-)
@@DavidBadurina hahaha!
I love the outro and the music in it :D
I have just seen some of your Videos. Some things sounds familiar to me. Thank you !
Glad to hear it! Thank you!
i recall always asking myself "whats the point?" (of anything) under the age of around 6... to much of what was asked of me, and wot other ppl do
"What's the point" is pretty much "Why"!
@@DavidBadurina it sure is David. WE ARE the natural-born philosophers. Here's a good one-liner: Parent says, "Get a job!", I respond "....Why?" 🤣. Fortunately, in reality i'm not that bad lol
David. As an infj aspiring to be a writer, I want to personally thank you for this video. It touched me. What book did you write? I would very much like to read it.
Hi Kalina! I'm in the middle of my first full-length novel, still a lot of words to put down. I'll be doing more writing videos and updates very soon. Believe me, when I'm ready to accomplish that, if you're anywhere near this channel, you'll know! Thank you so much for commenting and happy writing! Are you doing NaNoWriMo?
i just started watching your videos and it seems like everything is making clear sense and i will be grateful if u make a video on why we forget when we exactly know why we must do the project... i mean most of the time when we wake up or come back to comfort zone we just simply forget our first priority....what is solution
Great question and that's just a learned skill, really! Keep a calendar, keep track, and forgive yourself if you don't get it exactly right all the time.
INFJs are great story-tellers. And you are talented enough, David.
Thank you Tracy, I appreciate you!
Infj...here too
Thank you, I'm glad it resonates!
I found your chanel by accident ( somewhere in my mind i was already know you) i really like your videos and you really help me , i struggle when I fall deep into ni ti loop but the worst for me is when i overthinking and create situations that maybe are not true but in my mind are it's like drowning and losing any connection with "reality" ....hmm i don't know how to explain it xd..
It’s great David! It really is. Are you maybe a afraid you can’t nail a great ending to match the rest. Just write an ending and edit into its full potential. But it all happens at the table. Just get the words on the page and go from there.
You know, I have the ending in mind, and I honestly think it's the least of my worries. It's going to be a fantastic ending. It's the dreaded middle, and trying to decide on which path to go to make sure it's engaging, etc. I'm going to keep plugging away. I appreciate your support so so much! Thank you!
Oh well that’s perfect then! If you know your ending than you’ll be able to manipulate your middle even after you’re done. Can’t wait to read it! It’s been really engaging so far!
I think the INFJ doubt hinders completion of tasks and projects. I Think it also stems from the perfectionistic mentality.
Absolutely right!
It's the Muppet show 😁
I'm totally going to try that
WHY well WHY not
Classic!
i think you are missing the point there buddy
@@salvatorefanara482 nah 😬
To tell the story, to learn,to laff, to exercise my mind and imagination, to see where the characters and story lead...
Now I've got to focus the ADHD and get the dumb Impostor" syndrome out of the way...
Focus on the successes and use those to be okay!
Low Fi 😔 💔
Perhaps?
Very interesting perspective my friend. I'm at adead end with a story I'm writing. I started it so long ago, that i have lost the direction i had at the beginning.It's as though as my thinking has changed and evolved, it has changed even what i thought the book was about. Probably sounds a little crazy I know. I want it to have substance, but i want it to have a somewhat gritty vibe to it. So I guess i need to do some restructuring, and I think I need more confidence in my characters. Thanks for the video man.
This doesn't sound crazy at all it happens to so many writers. I'm guessing you don't plan out, you just write? For me that's the tougher way to do it, I like to have a little structure throughout the entire story to make sure I stay on track. I'm a classic ... ummm ... plantser, I guess.
Thankyou fr advice. Its a good starting pt. Why-- brings out alot of thots &reasons fr what OTHERS think makes me different.l am totally happy being me but others hv th problm. Im guessing their discomfrt stems frm wht they do nt understand. They need attention &wd like to know why l do not need ppl or friends...comfy in my own skin. Sounds like i'v alredy strtd with th journal??
Maybe you have! Nothing wrong with people asking questions, and it's always good to have people to connect to, otherwise you can be unbalanced.
I would like to buy Stocks! In Apple - thats how much I like Apple products myself.
They work well for me!
simon sinek book start with why
Yes! Great book!
Do you mean , Why am I doing what I am doing, helping Divine Masculine ? the reaon is because he is my children"s father, why?? he has nobody else, we came to US just us, meaning no family . Why ?? I know I made him feel quixker ifI do it forhi, why??? again I love him. Is that really bad?? David. I apprciate you very much. L felt I have a friend or critic that really cares and honest with me.
I appreciate you as well, Lita! Thank you for watching and I really do hope these thoughts can help you work through your own!
I just realized that a srmple why will open up more and more questions of why until you get to the bottom of things and finally get the real reason pr answer yo your quesyion of why .
It's a good habit to get into and when you do it often it becomes much easier!
Simon Sinek
That's the one!
PS- typos and poor punctuation 🤦🏼♀️
This emoji - 🤦🏼♀️ lol
Why ask why? Are you quite sure this is an INFJ thing? If I kept at myself like that it would be exhausting.
I believe it is an INFJ thing. Our type has a great tendency to think of futures/possibilities. Asking Why is a natural way to dig through meanings, find patterns in life and in ourselves. That dominant Ni in a healthy INFJ is always analyzing the abstract in an underlying layer. I believe asking why is a way to really let that Ni work and stretch out!
Seperately from anything INFJ related, it's important as a human to have a growth mindset. Ask the questions, even if they are hard questions. Otherwise, you are close-minded, no?
On my last comment.
Gotcha! :-)
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You are a monster.