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I’m 31 and as much as I want to be married with children, I’m no where near stable or ready to have that. I feel like something that most of the older generations refused to understand is that by the time most of us became adults, the recession hit. No place was looking to hire someone straight out of high school so we were then expected to go straight to college, and we followed what they told us to do - and then once we got spat out again, we were still thrown into a world where instead of being heard and struggling, we were called lazy, entitled, and selfish and thus it made a lot of us now in our late 20s to mid/late 30s become resentful and angry, with many of us going through a quarter-life crisis or feeling like we aren’t our age but 10-15 years younger with how behind we feel. And sadly, it’s only NOW did the older generations figure out how much we’ve been screwed.
@@esikazemese you're acting like the world isn't going to hell now. There are wars right now. There's genocide happening, neocolonialism, rampant gentrification and displacement in different parts of the world, and the freaking climate crisis. There's also a recession happening. Comparing generations should not be a thing and we have to acknowledge that there are completely different circumstances and contexts influencing the things currently happening today. It is valid to blame current economic problems and political conflicts on older generations because they are the ones currently in power or that voted for those in power who make it their mission to keep making things worse and keep setting us back even more. We also went through shit and it is completely unjustifiable and unacceptable that in this day and age simply wanting to live without any worry of crushing debt or what will happen tomorrow is a luxury. Also important to recognize this is also very much a class struggle, it's not simply older generations but the lack of empathy and understanding from older generations speaks volumes. Especially when they don't understand that what was possible for them back then is becoming more and more out of reach
@@VictorianDemonica "I feel like something that most of the older generations refused to understand is that by the time most of us became adults, the recession hit." Which war did you fight in Dear? Dying to know! It seems like you refuse to understand that this recession is not even close to how bad it was - which is such a common crybaby millennial cliché....
I am an adult taking college classes. I find me and the few other adults in my classes are ones who take the work seriously as suppose to the 18-22 year olds who seem to just drop by
It’s NEVER too late! Inspiring hearing this kind of thing. A few years ago I took a couple community college courses just for fun. I have to say, those are an amazing resource.
I’m almost 39. I’m a cis white man. I have a Bachelors degree. No one ever gave me a job because of my degree. My parents pay my student loans and I have $20000 credit card debt. I served food at Disneyland for 7 years. I drove Uber for years. I was a chimney sweep assistant for a year. Now I water houseplants in private residence part time. It was only when I resorted to prostitution could I afford to live alone, and that is unstable. I rather AIDS killed me than to continue living with the lie I will EVER be a husband/father who can provide for his family.
We are the generation that realized getting debts to study is a bad finantial idea, however studying is always something good for ourselves as people. Dont stop educating yourself online. And dont go back to prostitution, your mental health is more important. I hope you can pay your debts, and when you feel alone you can share your concerns with Christ.
I bought a huge house a month before I turned 30 for my parents. I already knew we would be a multigenerational family. I had a stroke while pregnant when I was 32 and my dad had throat cancer right before the pandemic. Living with my parents, brothers, and daughter is so comforting. Altogether we are making a good living but separately we’d struggle.
This is why I wonder why we tell teens that life gets better after high school. Why bother living to your 19th birthday and beyond just to force yourself to spend your entire life trying and failing to survive this?
@@generalhorse493 IDK, my life did get better after high school. I guess people's perspective might partly depend on what their life was like before age 19. Things aren't easy or fair for a lot of people 19+, but I wouldn't want to discourage young people from thinking that quality of life can improve over time. Whatever things are like for you right now, I really hope they will get better.
I'm 38. I no longer struggle for money like I used to, but it definitely doesn't mean that I'm free to do whatever I want or that I've got everything figured out. Now I struggle with meaning.
I can relate to this experience ❤. I'm 28 but will reach 30 in few years. My 20s was spent in graduate education. I'm concerned with entering the job market as entry level jobs have become non existent. I feel like it's a stage where we need to figure the purpose of existence.
I’m so glad I’m in a stable job for life with no stress to do better. I also didn’t go to university so no debt. Still feel like a teenager and like I don’t have my shit together even though I am married, own a home, good job and a car. I’m never having children though, that’s the kicker 😂
I have adult cystic acne. I've always been spending money on serums and topcial treatments to keep my skin from going haywire. It has nothing to do with trying to stay young And some people have actual skin issues.
They just tossed off this hilarious comment, "It's difficult to find any job that pays a living wage and doesn't expect you to live in the office or join a cult." I had to laugh, thinking about when I interviewed for Ugg's Flagstaff AZ office. The full-of-it HR dude sent me a stupid video of Ugg employees cavorting gleefully on the beach near their LA office and asked me to tell him what I saw. I had no clue. A work party? He's all like, "Well, if you don't already know then I can't tell you," which bugged me to no end and I never forgot it nor ceased to give the building the finger whenever I happened to walk by. NOW I'm sure I know exactly what he meant--they're a freakin' work cult (or, in workplace speak, "family," which is a huge red flag). That's why all the pretension and secrecy, and I'm so glad they didn't hire me.
I am 40 and had kids in my 20s. Managed to raise them and get a degree but its still a struggle. I am proud of my degree but find avenues tonuse it have disappeared and i am forced to stay at my boring job just to live. Are system that favors the rich and capitalism has really failed us as a society and if we dont elect politicians that arent corporate owned or get corporations out of out government it is going to be worse for are kids who will be replaced with AI.
Everyone always say I look young for my age, hard to get drinks, lottery, lots of 16 year olds look older then I think they are like 18 they thought I was younger then they were which was embarrassing especially in retail. I don’t wear makeup, tan or do all creams to appear youthful. We think in our 30s it’ll work out because that’s what our parents have said a certain plan they’ve put on us since we’ve been born. school, college, job, house marriage then kids, when we don’t have that by 30 we get looked like our life hasn’t gone they way it’s expected or that it’s our fault somehow. We don’t have to live like our life is planned but the pressure is always there.
To oblivian with capitalism, I'd rather live a quieter peaceful life where I have to only spend a very small amount of currency throughout my whole life provide everything else for myself independently like building my own house.
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It's been a century since we have tv and americans still need it explained that shows don't always (more like never) reflect real life? That's on you, not the show.
So everyone is stupid and believes what they see on TV? Sorry not buying it. Even in 1998 we laughed how ridiculous it was that Friends was set in a huge rent controlled apartment and that what they never super played up but left as a passing reference was how rich Monica/Ross, Rachel parents were. They had giant houses in long Island and I believe one parent was a doctor? They were rich kid struggling (like debt free and in emergency call mommy daddy for help) not actually struggling line Phoebe or Joey. That idiotic show Gilmore girls makes it clear the grandmother is rich AF. Girls parents had money. All these idealized shows always cop out a rich relative or friend in the group to make sure we can enjoy the fantasy of the plot and to make the product placements relatable. The ugly truth is rich people tend to be friends with other rich people. It's pretty rare to actually see a Phoebe cohabiting or being super good friends with a Rachel. Did everyone not actually understand things like leave it to Beaver and Married with Kids back in thier day were ridiculed for having aspirational household wealth and assets. Like nobody thought a shoe salesman actually could provide that house in real life. Not even in the faux Midwest where the show was set. No one actually believed that a housewife was going to serve a giant stack or pancakes. That show showed in one breakfast what a 1950s family would get in pancakes and bacon in like two weeks in real life.
Everyone has to figure it out. You sink or swim. I know a 17 year old with his own very successful landscape business and I know a 75 year old with no wife, house, job, no savings, and only 1 out of his 4 kids talk to him. You have to find a way to function in the system you’re in. Life is sucky and life is spectacular. No one is going to save you.
You are very fortunate! The only difference between people who move in with their parents and the homeless are people who move in with their parents actually had a support system to fall back on. Never take that for granted.
You're lucky tbh Same, but my mother (who convinced me she was no longer abusive when she said I can come home) began to harrass me than put me out on the street. People don't understand how a good family can literally be the safety-net that keeps you from actually being homeless. Noone can shame you for having a resource many of us need
Same here. I moved in with my mom when we both wanted to move to a larger city. I do pay 50% of shared expenses, so it benefits both of us financially.
I always felt like I had no friends because I didn’t have a massive friendship group like sex and the city or friends. When actually I have a good number of friends for being in my mid 30s, it’s just that they don’t all hang out together as a core group.
I’m 45. And I’ve chosen to not have a family so far. Probably a little late in the day to be hedging. Can’t afford to own. Hard to save. And it’s just me. Living with other people as a grown ass adult. It’s humiliating. So in the end, I can’t say working at a job I don’t like is such a terrible thing. If you can possibly save enough to advance passive income you can retire. Which seems basically impossible for me.
As a man just getting in my 30s in México I can relate sooo much to this. Thank you for this video. It's nice to hear it loud. And I find it so true, no matter if you're an engineer, a doctor, or some sort of business man, etc. There's always that constant struggle and feeling of being simply "expendable"
Spot on. I’m 32, and it’s nothing like I thought it would be when I was in my 20s. I thought I would have a good job, own a house and be financially stable. Instead, I’m still renting because we can’t afford to buy, unemployed to be a SAHM due to childcare costs and struggling financially.
It's not the economy. The rich people are a lot richer than they used to be 20-30 years ago. It's just that more of the money that the economy makes goes to the rich people and less to everyone else. And to make sure this stays that way, they tell you socialism (which is a political system, in which the wealth is more evenly distributed) is bad. So everone votes for the capitalist politicians who make sure the money goes to the rich, and anyone with even a slight socialist appreance has no chance.
@@Tinkerbe11reaganomics fucked everyone over. They pulled the old "razzle dazzle" and had the Movie Star tell us "it's gonna work!! Trust us! We're not Russia - we would never lie to you!!" I was a CHILD (12/13) and I asked my teacher "which millionaire or billionaire is gonna give his money to the workers?" My teacher said "yep. Even children understand this" And I wasn't some child prodigy. I just knew that when I had more candy (or money), I knew I probably wasn't going to just give that away.
I generally had my stuff figured out in my 20s. Now, I'm two months shy of turning 34 and have zero answers. I got laid off last year and have struggled to find stable work since then. Now I just have zero clue what to do next and just keep hoping I will keep finding ways to have enough money coming in. Life doesn't happen on a timeline. You are only setting yourself up for disappointment by setting and investing your hope into set goals (like getting married by X age, etc).
I just turned 30 last month. I *thought* it was the decade to have it all together. Then lost one of my jobs this week. Thanks for this video. It's really reassuring ❤
I had a midlife crisis from about 35 to 36. For real, frustrating was graduating from medical school aged 23, marrying the love of my life aged 24 and having my life goals ruined by 10 years of absolutely terrible health. And what sparked off my health issues? Was working hard physically financially and emotionally to care for my close relatives through their respective diagnoses of cancer and dementia. I had a rough childhood so I always wanted to get it together by age 30. I was not out partying in my 20s. I was not out drinking and travelling etc. was literally at home learning to cook and clean and all the other life stuff I didn’t learn in my teens and early 20s cos I was studying all the time. And guess what…after 10 years working on my ruined health, I’m now emerging broke with no prospect of having kids and having to start over with a career. I had a terrible childhood trauma and that needs fixing too. That was part of the reason for the illness. I do know people who got it together by the time they were 30 but they had stable upbringing and ALOT of help from their parents.
just turned 31, also just took a new job with less pay because it's a career "stepping stone" to something better, thought I'd be past stepping stones by now. everyone around me is getting married and it's slowly freaking me out.
In my 20s, I couldn't make enough money, because I was helping out the family I come from, I didn't have uni, and I didn't have work experience, so making enough to build a life or afford a social life was impossible. And I couldn't find a boyfriend, because I was constantly working, or broke, or exhausted, and I'm also quirky, and not for everyone. In my 30s, I can't make enough money, because inflation, and I've got two jobs, and am barely cutting it. I still don't have uni, because I worked the entire time, often more than one full time, and so I'm constantly working, broke, trying to keep physically fit, or exhausted. And can't find a boyfriend, because I just don't have the bandwidth to even meet people. Dating is like doing a HR job, but for free.
"just don't have the bandwidth to even meet people. Dating is like doing a HR job, but for free." . All of it, but especially ^ that. People like to talk about how no one goes outside anymore, everyone's just online and don't care about connecting, blah blah blah. It's so aggravating, because yes people do want to connect, but they're all at home mindlessly scrolling because they're exhausted and braindead from living less than paycheck to paycheck. . We barely have time and energy to socialize with people we already know, let alone invest in new ones, but that's not the same as not wanting to meet or be around quality people. . And dating if *definitely* like free HR work. Overtime, off the clock (and cutting into our shrinking free time to do minor things like, oh, eat and sleep and enjoy a quick hobby here and there), not getting paid for it and not even guaranteed to find anyone worth hiring for all the hours spent interviewing. : /
I’ll be 41 later this year. I could never afford to go to college after high school. I was forced out on my own right after graduation. So I’ve been working full time my whole life. I stayed with the same company since I was 16 till the end of 2020. 21 years. I finally had enough and quit this company. And went somewhere else. I started last year in a different part of the company I work now. I feel like I’m starting over again at 40. I’m working hard this year to get into management with my company. All so I can be more financially stable with my husband and our child. It’s so hard to be starting over! 😭
Another excellent piece featuring my favorite The Take voice talent. All the narrators are very good, but I always recognize this voice; her phrasing; the way she delivers a story...
OMG i was literally thinking about that this week, i will be 31 this year, am jobless and pretty much live out of my 67y father, i was feeling that i disappointed my parents, or if there was something wrong with me, since EVERY SINGLE person in my family, even my younger cousins are married with kids and jobs. thank you for this video, im feeling less pressure now
I’m of 2 minds on all this: 1) Never know what’s coming so being prepared is the most important thing. Save money, invest in diverse places to keep up w/ inflation, and strive to own instead of rent by slowly building to it. Or 2) We only have one life to live here. Should I burn the only few remaining healthy energetic years of my life hoping I’ve prepared enough to weather cost until I die? Or should I get a new car & take the trips I’ve always wanted to…? Which of course means starting over at square 0 every time I burn through whatever $$ I’ve worked for. Hard to say.
u should be on no. 1 if you don't have generational wealth. because u don't have a glass floor to fall on. if you got rich family who will help you, hell ya, go with no.2. live ur life to the fullest
@@evadelle9153 should be the opposite. There’s a guarantee of never ever having any dreams or desires realized if you’re not rich and spend the very few years we have our full health squirreling away for the years when you won’t. There has to be some balance of course. I think a good stable diversified stock portfolio helps everyone. But there’s no point in traveling and seeing the world and partying and sky diving and scuba diving and al that…. After strokes, and menopause, and heart attacks, and IBS and brain injuries and long COVID’s and rheumatic fever and arthritis. Lmfao. And all these things start much sooner than everyone pretends they do. Life is for living. Doesn’t have to be INSANE, literally spending every last cent on nonsense. But we truly get MAXIMUM 20 years of truly healthy, full capacity, fully able bodied adulthood. I myself got zero. And as I get sicker and sicker now in my 30s, thank for I spent my 20s living more than almost anyone I know. Not with dumbass drugs and wasteful expenditures. With beautiful archives of clothes and art and wonderful travel stories and eating everything in the world. : ) We don’t even have our sight guaranteed tomorrow. One bad medicine induced seizure can take that. A bad wasp sting can leave us paralyzed. A bad UTI can cause heart failure. Live when you can. Especially if you’re not rich enough to have round the clock top notch medical care if anything goes wrong.
Funny. 2 comments both saying the opposite thing. That’s why it’s so tough to make that choice. After saving for a decent amount of time, it is super hard to cash that out. But it’s also lot growing with cost. No matter what, it’s always the same Sophie’s choice.
@@evadelle9153 I certainly don’t have that. Sucks thinking like a class warrior; and another way to see that is “cheap”. But I have chosen to hopefully not have cat food and Medicare for my old age needs. Question is, will I regret that choice when it turns out a lifetime of saving bought me like a couple years total at the end… still hard to say!!
It seems like a problem that affects the whole world. I m from Argentina, i m 31 and I dont know a single person at my age or younger o a bit older who is capable of matain our selves 100%. And I know people with all kind of jobs. All of us are being helped in one way or another by our families, or have roomates or stay in relationships that shares the cost of living. I have a brother who is 10 years older than me and had a very different life experience in his 30s and he just cannot understand why I am not travelling the world or something, he thinks its my fault that I have no money
You all have done a version of this video in the past. It would be great if when you re-addressed this topic, you overlap what was happening in political, electoral, and economic histories to provide more material context for why these changes were occurring over several generations.
Yeah I just turned 30 and I truly don't think my youth is gone. I still look and feel young. 30 may not be as young as 20 but it doesn't mean you're old and haggard. That being said, the 30s world can be just as a struggle as the 20s
Feel very lucky to live in a country (norway) where university fees are very low and student loans have low interest. And help from the government to buy property. So now I'm in a better place financially than my mum was at my age. (31)
I actually like my 30s, I have more freedom, wisdom ✨, know myself better.. I may be a little less energetic but I get to organize my time better and have nice naps 😁
Must ppl i know have told me that their 1st 1/2 of their 30s sucked bcs they didn’t have anything figured out, but they felt happier and ever after 35 ❤
This video hits home 😩 I just entered my 30s and I'm doing okay... I have a job, which is nice. However, I'm single with no kids. I really thought I would've had a house and married with kids. However, life didn't turn out this way 😞
35, unemployed lawyer, had depression and burnout from toxic jobs. But actually very happy now. Looking for a new job, have an amazing partner and parents, trying for a baby now. Healthier than ever, looking good and feeling great. I try not to worry so much about jobs. I feel like most problems and mental illnesses are triggered by jobs and money. Learn to have many other passions and to have fun aside from your job!
I’m 34 and just starting to be “stable” got my first apartment still don’t have a vehicle and I don’t have credit yet. I just started making decent money and have 2 businesses
I'm 31 and when i tell you last year was HELLA hard! But what i do everyday is aim for 1-3% better. Finding what truly is you will be the best feeling ever
Yall ever notice that they want us to regularly change jobs to "keep ahead of wage stagnation," but employers look down on you changing jobs frequently? 😑
In my 30s, I was living at home and then spending all my time battling inflammatory breast cancer til about 36 when Mom died and everything went upside down.
This is terrible, complete disillusion in the 30s, I wonder if 40s are next 30s to be like this or things will finally improve. The point is, we need significant more money to be able to do everything what was normally possible. Thats the problem. its not that things are inaccessible, its that they have become expensive. so how do we get more money? two jobs? three? only fans? its so soul crushing
Financial advice: Get a spouce that is not toxic/narcissistic= low odds for divorce. This is how to grow wealth over time. If your partner is toxic, it don’t matter how good looking, smart, sucessful they seem on the surface. The odds of your life and finances colappsing over time= almost 100% sure It’s not the Amarican dream or business that is failing. It’s the divorce industry+ most people low skills in seeing red flags. In fact the s&p500 and business is doing great. It’s the poor, working, middle class thats f@cked.
I'll be 31 in a few months. I have a mortgage, just remarried into my second marriage, and looking into moving overseas. If i learned anything so far, there's nothing linear about life. Just figure it out as i go.
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My daycare for ONE baby is more than my mortgage.....
@@a.m4863 😂😂😂
I heard a saying that, “being in your 30s is just like being in your 20s but w more money” and I felt that.
Sometimes without money too🤷🏽♀️😂
@@Kb84903 absolutely 💯
With more money? :D I thought it would be even worse
I got disabled at 25 so I dont think that will be true lol. I had more money at 21
True If you don't have children 😊
I’m gonna be 31 this year, and I have absolutely nothing figured out.
Same, next Wednesday 😩
So I'm in good company 😅
37. Same.
I'm 54.
I still don't know what I want. And I'm back to entry level because I chose wrong at 23
34 and feel the same way
I’m 31 and as much as I want to be married with children, I’m no where near stable or ready to have that.
I feel like something that most of the older generations refused to understand is that by the time most of us became adults, the recession hit. No place was looking to hire someone straight out of high school so we were then expected to go straight to college, and we followed what they told us to do - and then once we got spat out again, we were still thrown into a world where instead of being heard and struggling, we were called lazy, entitled, and selfish and thus it made a lot of us now in our late 20s to mid/late 30s become resentful and angry, with many of us going through a quarter-life crisis or feeling like we aren’t our age but 10-15 years younger with how behind we feel.
And sadly, it’s only NOW did the older generations figure out how much we’ve been screwed.
Screwed? Older generations went through WARS. Stop crying.
@@esikazemese you're acting like the world isn't going to hell now. There are wars right now. There's genocide happening, neocolonialism, rampant gentrification and displacement in different parts of the world, and the freaking climate crisis. There's also a recession happening. Comparing generations should not be a thing and we have to acknowledge that there are completely different circumstances and contexts influencing the things currently happening today. It is valid to blame current economic problems and political conflicts on older generations because they are the ones currently in power or that voted for those in power who make it their mission to keep making things worse and keep setting us back even more. We also went through shit and it is completely unjustifiable and unacceptable that in this day and age simply wanting to live without any worry of crushing debt or what will happen tomorrow is a luxury. Also important to recognize this is also very much a class struggle, it's not simply older generations but the lack of empathy and understanding from older generations speaks volumes. Especially when they don't understand that what was possible for them back then is becoming more and more out of reach
@@esikazemese so you’re saying that millennials haven’t gone through wars or anything sort of traumatic in history, yet older generations have?
@@VictorianDemonica "I feel like something that most of the older generations refused to understand is that by the time most of us became adults, the recession hit."
Which war did you fight in Dear? Dying to know! It seems like you refuse to understand that this recession is not even close to how bad it was - which is such a common crybaby millennial cliché....
@@esikazemese you still didn’t answer my question.
Now a 40's video
Friends from college is perfect to use for a 40s video!
I'm a 38 year old college freshman.
Better late than never
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
I am an adult taking college classes. I find me and the few other adults in my classes are ones who take the work seriously as suppose to the 18-22 year olds who seem to just drop by
It’s NEVER too late! Inspiring hearing this kind of thing. A few years ago I took a couple community college courses just for fun. I have to say, those are an amazing resource.
I started college at 30!
I'm 39.
When people compliment me saying I look 22 and say it's the acne and financial instability, thanks.
We appreciate how well you've articulated your insights. Keep doing your best.
I relate to Seinfeld so much just a 30 something floundering around in a major city
I’m almost 39. I’m a cis white man. I have a Bachelors degree. No one ever gave me a job because of my degree. My parents pay my student loans and I have $20000 credit card debt. I served food at Disneyland for 7 years. I drove Uber for years. I was a chimney sweep assistant for a year. Now I water houseplants in private residence part time. It was only when I resorted to prostitution could I afford to live alone, and that is unstable. I rather AIDS killed me than to continue living with the lie I will EVER be a husband/father who can provide for his family.
We are the generation that realized getting debts to study is a bad finantial idea, however studying is always something good for ourselves as people. Dont stop educating yourself online. And dont go back to prostitution, your mental health is more important. I hope you can pay your debts, and when you feel alone you can share your concerns with Christ.
I bought a huge house a month before I turned 30 for my parents. I already knew we would be a multigenerational family. I had a stroke while pregnant when I was 32 and my dad had throat cancer right before the pandemic. Living with my parents, brothers, and daughter is so comforting. Altogether we are making a good living but separately we’d struggle.
Just turned 34. Live with my mother and currently working at a thrift store. Its been interesting past few years
If you think your 30's are crazy, wait til ya hit your 50's....😂
This is why I wonder why we tell teens that life gets better after high school.
Why bother living to your 19th birthday and beyond just to force yourself to spend your entire life trying and failing to survive this?
@@generalhorse493 IDK, my life did get better after high school. I guess people's perspective might partly depend on what their life was like before age 19. Things aren't easy or fair for a lot of people 19+, but I wouldn't want to discourage young people from thinking that quality of life can improve over time.
Whatever things are like for you right now, I really hope they will get better.
I'm 38. I no longer struggle for money like I used to, but it definitely doesn't mean that I'm free to do whatever I want or that I've got everything figured out. Now I struggle with meaning.
I can relate to this experience ❤. I'm 28 but will reach 30 in few years. My 20s was spent in graduate education. I'm concerned with entering the job market as entry level jobs have become non existent. I feel like it's a stage where we need to figure the purpose of existence.
We are going on 40. And have issues with work.
I’m so glad I’m in a stable job for life with no stress to do better. I also didn’t go to university so no debt.
Still feel like a teenager and like I don’t have my shit together even though I am married, own a home, good job and a car.
I’m never having children though, that’s the kicker 😂
I have adult cystic acne. I've always been spending money on serums and topcial treatments to keep my skin from going haywire. It has nothing to do with trying to stay young
And some people have actual skin issues.
As someone who just turned thirty, this is very affirming.
They just tossed off this hilarious comment, "It's difficult to find any job that pays a living wage and doesn't expect you to live in the office or join a cult." I had to laugh, thinking about when I interviewed for Ugg's Flagstaff AZ office. The full-of-it HR dude sent me a stupid video of Ugg employees cavorting gleefully on the beach near their LA office and asked me to tell him what I saw. I had no clue. A work party? He's all like, "Well, if you don't already know then I can't tell you," which bugged me to no end and I never forgot it nor ceased to give the building the finger whenever I happened to walk by. NOW I'm sure I know exactly what he meant--they're a freakin' work cult (or, in workplace speak, "family," which is a huge red flag). That's why all the pretension and secrecy, and I'm so glad they didn't hire me.
I am 40 and had kids in my 20s. Managed to raise them and get a degree but its still a struggle. I am proud of my degree but find avenues tonuse it have disappeared and i am forced to stay at my boring job just to live.
Are system that favors the rich and capitalism has really failed us as a society and if we dont elect politicians that arent corporate owned or get corporations out of out government it is going to be worse for are kids who will be replaced with AI.
Everyone always say I look young for my age, hard to get drinks, lottery, lots of 16 year olds look older then I think they are like 18 they thought I was younger then they were which was embarrassing especially in retail. I don’t wear makeup, tan or do all creams to appear youthful. We think in our 30s it’ll work out because that’s what our parents have said a certain plan they’ve put on us since we’ve been born. school, college, job, house marriage then kids, when we don’t have that by 30 we get looked like our life hasn’t gone they way it’s expected or that it’s our fault somehow. We don’t have to live like our life is planned but the pressure is always there.
To oblivian with capitalism, I'd rather live a quieter peaceful life where I have to only spend a very small amount of currency throughout my whole life provide everything else for myself independently like building my own house.
I'm 34 and married with a great job and a lovely house, but I still don't know if I want kids and I still don't know if I married the right person.
11:25 "maybe you can be the real you without money?"
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I am not Chantel, give me back my bank cards and driver's license or I steal my white car back.
Boomers got it easier, then stil living whith My mom.😰. Not so easy 😢
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The take, you've done this video 100 times before.
It's been a century since we have tv and americans still need it explained that shows don't always (more like never) reflect real life? That's on you, not the show.
So everyone is stupid and believes what they see on TV? Sorry not buying it. Even in 1998 we laughed how ridiculous it was that Friends was set in a huge rent controlled apartment and that what they never super played up but left as a passing reference was how rich Monica/Ross, Rachel parents were. They had giant houses in long Island and I believe one parent was a doctor?
They were rich kid struggling (like debt free and in emergency call mommy daddy for help) not actually struggling line Phoebe or Joey.
That idiotic show Gilmore girls makes it clear the grandmother is rich AF. Girls parents had money. All these idealized shows always cop out a rich relative or friend in the group to make sure we can enjoy the fantasy of the plot and to make the product placements relatable. The ugly truth is rich people tend to be friends with other rich people. It's pretty rare to actually see a Phoebe cohabiting or being super good friends with a Rachel.
Did everyone not actually understand things like leave it to Beaver and Married with Kids back in thier day were ridiculed for having aspirational household wealth and assets. Like nobody thought a shoe salesman actually could provide that house in real life. Not even in the faux Midwest where the show was set. No one actually believed that a housewife was going to serve a giant stack or pancakes. That show showed in one breakfast what a 1950s family would get in pancakes and bacon in like two weeks in real life.
I’m 32 and still fear teenage pregnancy 😂
Everyone has to figure it out. You sink or swim. I know a 17 year old with his own very successful landscape business and I know a 75 year old with no wife, house, job, no savings, and only 1 out of his 4 kids talk to him. You have to find a way to function in the system you’re in. Life is sucky and life is spectacular. No one is going to save you.
Very true. We can complain all we want but in the end no one will save you. You really have to just do all you can to get your shit together or else.
Wait until your forty-one, single, and no friends.
I’m already that in my 30s…
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Ok like these videos are getting super pessimistic
Ain't capitalism a bitch
I’m 36 and I moved back in with my parents and I feel very fortunate to be in this situation. Sure people judge me - but I’m happy.
Multi generational living is the norm around the world. It’s very healthy.
You are very fortunate! The only difference between people who move in with their parents and the homeless are people who move in with their parents actually had a support system to fall back on. Never take that for granted.
I’m 36 and living at home too, and same I’m happy too. I’m grateful that my parents let me move back.
You're lucky tbh Same, but my mother (who convinced me she was no longer abusive when she said I can come home) began to harrass me than put me out on the street. People don't understand how a good family can literally be the safety-net that keeps you from actually being homeless. Noone can shame you for having a resource many of us need
Same here. I moved in with my mom when we both wanted to move to a larger city. I do pay 50% of shared expenses, so it benefits both of us financially.
Can you do a video on how friendships are portrayed differently on screen than the reality of them? Especially in a post social media, pandemic world?
I always felt like I had no friends because I didn’t have a massive friendship group like sex and the city or friends. When actually I have a good number of friends for being in my mid 30s, it’s just that they don’t all hang out together as a core group.
I am 37 ...hate my job. But for financial reasons I stay there in exchange for my mental and physical health
I am 33. Same fam sameeeee
I’m 45. And I’ve chosen to not have a family so far. Probably a little late in the day to be hedging. Can’t afford to own. Hard to save. And it’s just me. Living with other people as a grown ass adult. It’s humiliating. So in the end, I can’t say working at a job I don’t like is such a terrible thing. If you can possibly save enough to advance passive income you can retire. Which seems basically impossible for me.
Same here😢
38 exact same!
I never found my first job and gave up looking
As a man just getting in my 30s in México I can relate sooo much to this. Thank you for this video. It's nice to hear it loud. And I find it so true, no matter if you're an engineer, a doctor, or some sort of business man, etc. There's always that constant struggle and feeling of being simply "expendable"
Spot on. I’m 32, and it’s nothing like I thought it would be when I was in my 20s. I thought I would have a good job, own a house and be financially stable. Instead, I’m still renting because we can’t afford to buy, unemployed to be a SAHM due to childcare costs and struggling financially.
The economy has tanked way too much for people to have the same standards of living that people had 20-30 years a go.
It's not the economy. The rich people are a lot richer than they used to be 20-30 years ago. It's just that more of the money that the economy makes goes to the rich people and less to everyone else. And to make sure this stays that way, they tell you socialism (which is a political system, in which the wealth is more evenly distributed) is bad. So everone votes for the capitalist politicians who make sure the money goes to the rich, and anyone with even a slight socialist appreance has no chance.
@@Tinkerbe11reaganomics fucked everyone over. They pulled the old "razzle dazzle" and had the Movie Star tell us "it's gonna work!! Trust us! We're not Russia - we would never lie to you!!"
I was a CHILD (12/13) and I asked my teacher "which millionaire or billionaire is gonna give his money to the workers?"
My teacher said "yep. Even children understand this"
And I wasn't some child prodigy. I just knew that when I had more candy (or money), I knew I probably wasn't going to just give that away.
The economy hasn't tanked. By every metric it is doing well. The problem is our tax code and stagnant wages.
I recently rewatched Two Can Play at That Game and it was full of property owning 28 yo corporate executives. I'm 31 and I'm barely mid-level 😂
I want a Time Machine to the 1990s lol
Me too
I'm 35, and I'm STILL dependent on my parents to a great degree!
I have dreams of suicide and it's bliss
Not Danielle Wolfe, she is 38 years old, Chantel.
Be better. Want better for yourself.
😮 what happened???
@@miss_nohemiTo me? Nothing!
I generally had my stuff figured out in my 20s. Now, I'm two months shy of turning 34 and have zero answers. I got laid off last year and have struggled to find stable work since then. Now I just have zero clue what to do next and just keep hoping I will keep finding ways to have enough money coming in.
Life doesn't happen on a timeline. You are only setting yourself up for disappointment by setting and investing your hope into set goals (like getting married by X age, etc).
I just turned 30 last month. I *thought* it was the decade to have it all together. Then lost one of my jobs this week. Thanks for this video. It's really reassuring ❤
Hope it all works out for you! ♡
I'm 31 started doing a job most girls start at 18 at 30... I think I need this video
At least you gained employment
Right? It bites when your boss is younger than you
And being in your 40s, it's time to say "F it"
I had a midlife crisis from about 35 to 36. For real, frustrating was graduating from medical school aged 23, marrying the love of my life aged 24 and having my life goals ruined by 10 years of absolutely terrible health. And what sparked off my health issues? Was working hard physically financially and emotionally to care for my close relatives through their respective diagnoses of cancer and dementia. I had a rough childhood so I always wanted to get it together by age 30. I was not out partying in my 20s. I was not out drinking and travelling etc. was literally at home learning to cook and clean and all the other life stuff I didn’t learn in my teens and early 20s cos I was studying all the time. And guess what…after 10 years working on my ruined health, I’m now emerging broke with no prospect of having kids and having to start over with a career. I had a terrible childhood trauma and that needs fixing too. That was part of the reason for the illness. I do know people who got it together by the time they were 30 but they had stable upbringing and ALOT of help from their parents.
just turned 31, also just took a new job with less pay because it's a career "stepping stone" to something better, thought I'd be past stepping stones by now. everyone around me is getting married and it's slowly freaking me out.
Wait til your married friends have kids and you never hear from them ever again 😢....
@@minimalcat1987 Is that your situation now? I'm sorry to hear that :(
In my 20s, I couldn't make enough money, because I was helping out the family I come from, I didn't have uni, and I didn't have work experience, so making enough to build a life or afford a social life was impossible. And I couldn't find a boyfriend, because I was constantly working, or broke, or exhausted, and I'm also quirky, and not for everyone.
In my 30s, I can't make enough money, because inflation, and I've got two jobs, and am barely cutting it. I still don't have uni, because I worked the entire time, often more than one full time, and so I'm constantly working, broke, trying to keep physically fit, or exhausted. And can't find a boyfriend, because I just don't have the bandwidth to even meet people. Dating is like doing a HR job, but for free.
"just don't have the bandwidth to even meet people. Dating is like doing a HR job, but for free."
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All of it, but especially ^ that. People like to talk about how no one goes outside anymore, everyone's just online and don't care about connecting, blah blah blah. It's so aggravating, because yes people do want to connect, but they're all at home mindlessly scrolling because they're exhausted and braindead from living less than paycheck to paycheck.
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We barely have time and energy to socialize with people we already know, let alone invest in new ones, but that's not the same as not wanting to meet or be around quality people.
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And dating if *definitely* like free HR work. Overtime, off the clock (and cutting into our shrinking free time to do minor things like, oh, eat and sleep and enjoy a quick hobby here and there), not getting paid for it and not even guaranteed to find anyone worth hiring for all the hours spent interviewing. : /
@@iprobablyforgotsomething Exactly. You just find out most people lie on their CV and are hopelessly unqualified.
I’ll be 41 later this year. I could never afford to go to college after high school. I was forced out on my own right after graduation. So I’ve been working full time my whole life. I stayed with the same company since I was 16 till the end of 2020. 21 years. I finally had enough and quit this company. And went somewhere else. I started last year in a different part of the company I work now. I feel like I’m starting over again at 40. I’m working hard this year to get into management with my company. All so I can be more financially stable with my husband and our child. It’s so hard to be starting over! 😭
looking at the comment section was strangely reassuring. finally, I found my demographic!
I just about managed to get the job/ career situation sorted. Everything else in my life is a mess 😂
I relate to this video.
Another excellent piece featuring my favorite The Take voice talent. All the narrators are very good, but I always recognize this voice; her phrasing; the way she delivers a story...
OMG i was literally thinking about that this week, i will be 31 this year, am jobless and pretty much live out of my 67y father, i was feeling that i disappointed my parents, or if there was something wrong with me, since EVERY SINGLE person in my family, even my younger cousins are married with kids and jobs. thank you for this video, im feeling less pressure now
I’m 34. I have more debts now than when I was in my 20s. I am really happy though because I am about to be married to the love of my life.
My life is total chaos I’m 35
I remember in middle school, our teacher making us do a career quiz… like what?!
I’m of 2 minds on all this:
1) Never know what’s coming so being prepared is the most important thing. Save money, invest in diverse places to keep up w/ inflation, and strive to own instead of rent by slowly building to it.
Or 2) We only have one life to live here. Should I burn the only few remaining healthy energetic years of my life hoping I’ve prepared enough to weather cost until I die? Or should I get a new car & take the trips I’ve always wanted to…? Which of course means starting over at square 0 every time I burn through whatever $$ I’ve worked for.
Hard to say.
The latter.
u should be on no. 1 if you don't have generational wealth. because u don't have a glass floor to fall on. if you got rich family who will help you, hell ya, go with no.2. live ur life to the fullest
@@evadelle9153 should be the opposite. There’s a guarantee of never ever having any dreams or desires realized if you’re not rich and spend the very few years we have our full health squirreling away for the years when you won’t.
There has to be some balance of course. I think a good stable diversified stock portfolio helps everyone.
But there’s no point in traveling and seeing the world and partying and sky diving and scuba diving and al that….
After strokes, and menopause, and heart attacks, and IBS and brain injuries and long COVID’s and rheumatic fever and arthritis. Lmfao.
And all these things start much sooner than everyone pretends they do.
Life is for living. Doesn’t have to be INSANE, literally spending every last cent on nonsense.
But we truly get MAXIMUM 20 years of truly healthy, full capacity, fully able bodied adulthood.
I myself got zero. And as I get sicker and sicker now in my 30s, thank for I spent my 20s living more than almost anyone I know.
Not with dumbass drugs and wasteful expenditures. With beautiful archives of clothes and art and wonderful travel stories and eating everything in the world. : )
We don’t even have our sight guaranteed tomorrow. One bad medicine induced seizure can take that. A bad wasp sting can leave us paralyzed. A bad UTI can cause heart failure.
Live when you can. Especially if you’re not rich enough to have round the clock top notch medical care if anything goes wrong.
Funny. 2 comments both saying the opposite thing. That’s why it’s so tough to make that choice. After saving for a decent amount of time, it is super hard to cash that out. But it’s also lot growing with cost. No matter what, it’s always the same Sophie’s choice.
@@evadelle9153 I certainly don’t have that. Sucks thinking like a class warrior; and another way to see that is “cheap”. But I have chosen to hopefully not have cat food and Medicare for my old age needs. Question is, will I regret that choice when it turns out a lifetime of saving bought me like a couple years total at the end… still hard to say!!
It seems like a problem that affects the whole world. I m from Argentina, i m 31 and I dont know a single person at my age or younger o a bit older who is capable of matain our selves 100%. And I know people with all kind of jobs. All of us are being helped in one way or another by our families, or have roomates or stay in relationships that shares the cost of living. I have a brother who is 10 years older than me and had a very different life experience in his 30s and he just cannot understand why I am not travelling the world or something, he thinks its my fault that I have no money
im happy that i live in a 1st world country instead of the US
On How I Met Your Mother, Marshall had to take a job he hated to pay off Lily‘s debt, so there were consequences.
This!
Turning 30 in a couple weeks - thank you 😭
37 & look 25. I’ve been in my 20s for almost two decades & I am soooo grateful. No kids. No husband. Poor & brown.
You all have done a version of this video in the past. It would be great if when you re-addressed this topic, you overlap what was happening in political, electoral, and economic histories to provide more material context for why these changes were occurring over several generations.
Impact of reaganomics on millennials 💫 yay us smh
being young isn't an issue its not getting a job because you look old
Europeans be like; student loans? what is that xD
And how is that helpful to us rn?
Yeah I just turned 30 and I truly don't think my youth is gone. I still look and feel young. 30 may not be as young as 20 but it doesn't mean you're old and haggard. That being said, the 30s world can be just as a struggle as the 20s
30s is young. It’s just the media and dumb Tik Tokers who have pushed the idea into the popular culture that 30 onwards is old.
Feel very lucky to live in a country (norway) where university fees are very low and student loans have low interest. And help from the government to buy property. So now I'm in a better place financially than my mum was at my age. (31)
im 28 and my thirties is coming. i really dont feel like i can expect anything at this point because the world is so screwed up
I actually like my 30s, I have more freedom, wisdom ✨, know myself better.. I may be a little less energetic but I get to organize my time better and have nice naps 😁
I was just gonna say don’t worry, the 30s have many bright sides
You covered the symptoms but ignored the cause. Useless.
Imagine thinking ur 23 than waking up and being 32 😢😢😢😢😮
Wait for the 40s.....
Yeah, thought my 30's would be like Sex and the City, turns out real life is a bit more like Kimmy Schmidt.
Omg this video gets more depressing as it continues…😅
Must ppl i know have told me that their 1st 1/2 of their 30s sucked bcs they didn’t have anything figured out, but they felt happier and ever after 35 ❤
Stop conflating anti-again and self-care.
I am 33 i do not have a jpb! I do not knos anything....
This video hits home 😩 I just entered my 30s and I'm doing okay... I have a job, which is nice. However, I'm single with no kids. I really thought I would've had a house and married with kids. However, life didn't turn out this way 😞
35, unemployed lawyer, had depression and burnout from toxic jobs. But actually very happy now. Looking for a new job, have an amazing partner and parents, trying for a baby now. Healthier than ever, looking good and feeling great. I try not to worry so much about jobs. I feel like most problems and mental illnesses are triggered by jobs and money. Learn to have many other passions and to have fun aside from your job!
I’m 34 and just starting to be “stable” got my first apartment still don’t have a vehicle and I don’t have credit yet. I just started making decent money and have 2 businesses
I'm 31 and when i tell you last year was HELLA hard! But what i do everyday is aim for 1-3% better. Finding what truly is you will be the best feeling ever
Thank you for this!
Yall ever notice that they want us to regularly change jobs to "keep ahead of wage stagnation," but employers look down on you changing jobs frequently? 😑
I guess I got lucky, I joined the military then went to community college and got a blue colar union job so I didn't have any of those problems.
In my 30s, I was living at home and then spending all my time battling inflammatory breast cancer til about 36 when Mom died and everything went upside down.
This is terrible, complete disillusion in the 30s, I wonder if 40s are next 30s to be like this or things will finally improve. The point is, we need significant more money to be able to do everything what was normally possible. Thats the problem. its not that things are inaccessible, its that they have become expensive. so how do we get more money? two jobs? three? only fans? its so soul crushing
I have 2 kids. How did Business Insider come up with 25k a year per child. That's over 2k per month per child. Kids are nowhere near that expensive.
Eh, my 30s was pretty good. All of the struggling and hard work of my 20s paid off.
Now there are multigenerational households where the grandparents are raising their grandkids.
Financial advice: Get a spouce that is not toxic/narcissistic= low odds for divorce.
This is how to grow wealth over time.
If your partner is toxic, it don’t matter how good looking, smart, sucessful they seem on the surface. The odds of your life and finances colappsing over time= almost 100% sure
It’s not the Amarican dream or business that is failing. It’s the divorce industry+ most people low skills in seeing red flags.
In fact the s&p500 and business is doing great. It’s the poor, working, middle class thats f@cked.
I'll be 31 in a few months. I have a mortgage, just remarried into my second marriage, and looking into moving overseas. If i learned anything so far, there's nothing linear about life. Just figure it out as i go.
Im 32, married and have 1 child. But I somewhat have a stable job but still live in a townhome with bad maintenance.
Thank you. Atleast someone acknowledged us.
32 and not really done with hunt for entry level job. This video didn’t help with my self image
Wait, it sounds like Zooey Deschanel read the whole script.