Rslash forgets the most important subtle thing in the beehive story she said it was because it's an eye sore and doesn't want to get judged by her friend for being messy because of it, but proceeds to destroy the hive and leave it in the same spot as a mess pile
Also, has this woman never heard of a trellis? (and yeah, I know that it's not really about the beehive being 'an eyesore', but even if we pretend that that is her 'real reason' for going after the beehive, it is easy enough to put up a trellis, and even to grow some nice flowers around it).
The bee story: It was NOT a minor thing. If beekeeping was a dream of his then his wife DESTROYED HIS DREAM! That is not minor; THAT is divorce worthy.
Plus, it's clear the reason why she wants the beehive gone is just to keep up appearances in front of her coworkers. Yeah, she cares more about looking good in front of her coworkers than her husband's dream.
I'm quite a reactionary person so if she hit hard enough I would respond in a similar way but I do agree, this guy was already being abusive and most likely wanted to cause a miscarriage as that would get her vulnerable and have something he can use to abuse and manipulate her the rest of her life. That's how abusers work. But also I've had a gf half my weight and nearly a foot shorter than me but she could pick me up and carry me, she could beat the shit out of (and did twice police did nothing because of the size difference a 100kg 5'8" guy vs a barely 5' girl who weighed 40kg..)
Yeah he definitely thought he could get away with manipulating and blaming her. I’ve accidentally hit my 6’0” bf while playing around with him and he never hit me back as a reaction or reflex
@@asjmpickle Why on Earth are you using feet and inches on height, and kilograms on weight? Like either use metric or use imperial, or maybe even both, both times to be thorough and ensure that both Americans _and_ the rest of the world know what you mean... but using a different one each time... is just unsettling or something?
@@TheHarvestGoddessChloe Agreed. Yeah, I’m not a bee person, but if you have a beehive and bees, that’s cool! You do you 😉 The wife, however… Yeah, OP deserves better than this woman!
Better start learning how to un-love someone and break any lasting effects _fast._ Her attitude is not fit for a high-school romance, let alone marriage.
Yeah, the beekeeper's wife is being hella abusive. Beekeeping is an expensive hobby to get into, so it won't be easy to just replace the hive. Plus, a destroyed hive with a buzzing swarm around it is less of an eyesore than a plain white box? She should have been more upset about the outcome if appearances were her priority.
I question the reality of this story. This is because I did take a bee keeping course. The wife would have to be in a bee suit and a smoker in order to do anything to the hive. If she just moved the hive she would be in the hospital either over a hundred bites. It just doesn’t make sense. A wooden fence like used to hide garbage bins would be a good screen for a hive.
@@michaeltelson9798 100% this. I do not know much about beekeeping but it strikes me as highly unlikely as she was able to get near a beehive and attempt to move it and just walked away with a couple bites. The moment she claimed she was going to move it herself I expected worry from the beekeeper or for the next part to be about how she was now in the hospital because of her stupidity. The fact NEITHER happened makes this story a little suspicious.
@@Deathisdark05I don't know, my grampa had 8 hives and they were so docile that he didn't wear a suit ever and only smoked when taking out frames from the hives. Depending on the bees OP kept they could have been docile enough that his wife could get near it and tip it over with just a few stings.
*First OP:* I don't know if OP has friends or family nearby, but she needs to grab her kids and leave. Her boyfriend needs to be thrown under the jail. Or have the inmates take care of him. *Second OP:* OP should separate from his wife at the very least. Sure, she didn't want OP to have a hive initially, but for her not to show remorse when she broke it is telling. *Third OP:* I thought this would be a rare case where OP and her (?) twin have different bio dads, but OP being adopted seemed more likely. I wonder why OP's parent didn't OP she was adopted? *Fourth OP:* That escalated quickly. I'm glad OP is somewhere safe from her ex.
Story 2: It makes me wonder, did she actually agree to the beehive, or lied and only did it just to not argue with OP. Like, she claims to be on the same page as OP, but once the work friends are coming over, it's suddenly an issue. It's not doing a favor to OP, he clearly wanted that beehive. Like, how is it an eyesore, at least explain that!
Given the "It was too hard to move cause the bees kept stinging me" my money is on she's just stupid and vindictive. She destroyed it and "did op a favor" Bees sting, they are bees.
Maybe she wasn't listening to OP or didn't do any research and thought she would get something like a cute little bird house? A bee hive isn't small, I get it, but why wait until there are guests coming to say anything about it?
@@Diamondr11Blue The post is about OP asking what she should do, when her (let's hope) ex make a post I will tell him to call the police and press charges, but to be awere that there is such a thing in the law know as "excessive force", that's when the defense reaction to an attack goes beyond what is necessary and considered reasonable, and that he screwed himself on that deppartment and that he is most likely going to recive some sentencing. Also, I would tell him to look for a psychologist/psychiatrist to find ways to deal with his jealousy and anger issues, and for him to stay away from any other human being before doing so.
Op said technically they're not his family....but the are. Maybe not biologically, but officially and legally the are your family. Doesn't get more technical than that.
So im decently sure they were saying they were a fraud bc everyone was told that op was bio twins with their sibling when they werent. Also, it could've been related to the shock of learning that they weren't biologically related to their family that made them phrase it that way.
Do we know that OP is 18? If so it's crazy they didn't tell her at any point of going growing up. Idk when it's appropriate to have that conversation but like at least before 12 right?
@@RisingRevengeance It's hard to put a number on it, but it should generally be fairly easy for a parent to judge when their child is emotionally mature enough to handle information like this. Some would be able to handle it at 6, or maybe even earlier, while some could never be able to handle it. OP was definitely _able,_ and it sounds like they should have been told much earlier so they wouldn't freak out over being lied to for so long.
Story 1: Not only did he hit OP'S pregnant stomach, he BLAMES OP and says he didn't mean to hit her there. Dude assaulted OP and his unborn child, and literally attempted to kill the baby and keep OP as prisoner. Divorce this guy and get his butt arrested. If he can assault you with no remorse, who knows what he'll do to his future children! I would be apologizing to her profusely, not BLAMING her.
@@seekeroftruth6728 well, he didn't hit her in self defense. So yes it will be over looked. But as op said, it was mainly a slap just to get him out of the way witch results in him almost killing an unborn child. He was preventing her from leaving witch op has every right to do what she needs to get out of that situation.
@@seekeroftruth6728 1) I don't think you realize how scary it is to have someone an entire foot taller than you holding you in a room/corner and it's also made worse by the fact that she's pregnant with pregnant hormones. 2) Trying to use force to get out of that situation doesn't make you in the wrong or a bad person. 3) Even if that wasn't the situation, he pretty much kidnapped then hit his pregnant wife IN THE STOMACH. He almost/possibly killed or injured his son aswell as his wife. Which situation here do you think is worse?
Story 2: While I, myself, am not much of a bee person, and pretty skittish around bees. If you have a beehive and bees, that's cool! And I agree with R/Slash, it wouldn't be an eyesore, that's a talking point! OP, clearly your wife doesn't respect you, your beehive, or your bees. The fact that she says " I was doing you a favor " with no clear remorse, and doesn't see any wrong in her actions of destroying your property, and doesn't even apologize, I believe says a lot about her!
Now that I have 1/2 an acre, the only reason I'm not seriously considering a bee hive is because I'm allergic to bee venom and I like living. I'd love to make mead and have local honey! Definitely an interesting talking point!
I am adopted, and it is absolutely horrible to not tell your daughter that she is adopted! It was always just common knowledge in my house. They never had to sit me down and tell me. And it's SO horrible that they let her believe that she was a twin! That is seriously going to mess with her head and cause major trust issues!
Additionally what a frustrating identity shift for the brother as well. Keeping something like that hurts the whole family. And her sister is avoiding her now? That's so heartbreaking when this isn't even the adopted sister's fault.
The story about the twins. So they were still actually born on the same day? Just to different parents? OP said their birthday is still the same as what they thought it was.
@luv2read247 Exactly! I can't even begin to imagine how horrible that would be to find out you were lied to about your "twin." Now the family is going to start treating them differently, and they are going to start questioning everything throughout their whole life! It is going to cause serious damage and give them even more abandonment issues! This one just really upsets me! My parents NEVER once made me feel less than because I was adopted! I always knew how much they loved me and wanted me. I still have abandonment issues from just being adopted, but I know how much I was loved by my parents!
@@queenofputrescence5167 I'm wondering if it might be a case of embryonic adoption. Basically, people adopt an embryo and the woman implant it. Maybe it is something like that
I’m adopted too! I couldn’t understand how OP’s family would LIE to them about their entire existence. It’s one thing to not tell them they are adopted, but it’s another thing completely to make up a story about sharing the same womb and having them believe they came from the same mother. And then to be so nonchalant about the truth coming out as if hiding it for 18 years was no big deal. Like is there shame in being adopted??? I’m hoping for more of an update on this. Something fishy is going on.
S1: Just for anyone who needs to hear this: if someone is intimidating you and prevents you from leaving a room, shoving them aside/hitting them (depending on their size and level of threat) is NOT ab-se. You did nothing wrong; you were being falsely imprisoned and threatened. If that person hits you back, that is NOT warranted and NOT your fault. They committed the first crime, and you were defending yourself.
It is a threat and you are ALLOWED TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM THAT THREAT! Intimidation to do harm is the definition of ASSAULT. You trying to not allow them to add battery to the list is self defense. Go and shove has hard as you can.
I agree her story doesn’t make sense and I think you’re right. She probably doused the hive down with insecticides before destroying it. Poor bee’s are nicer than OP’s wife.
@@Slayer21king She claims they attacked her, but there was no mention of any stings, and she still had the lunch instead of going to a hospital or something like that
Last Story: This story basically sums up 90% of reddit posts. The issue the Op posts about is relatively minor…then they casually throw in MAJOR issues (abuse, cheating etc) and Op isn’t sure if they should leave or not. I’m glad Op got out
Counterpoint: Last story basically sums up 90% of reddit posts: most likely just there to farm responses without being true. Why do I say that? Listen to the list of the woman's other posts. Think about how complicated the scenario that it is painting. Woman has a boyfriend who doesn't work, vanishes for a while, and when she's prepared to dump him he tries to kill her and tortures her for hours. But she's also the major breadwinner, and not just the one supporting him financially but so is his ex girlfriend. She'd been tortured, choked and STABBED for hours, and shrugs it off like it's nothing. The more the list goes on, the less it seems like a real story and the more it sounds like something written to farm responses.
@@AdamaGeistExcept these are pretty common things for women in abusive situations go through. If they had the confidence to not put up with that shit, they’d also have the confidence to not stay in an abusive relationship.
That’s kinda how it is with a lot of abused women. They’re used to the abuse, and used to being gaslit that the abuser did nothing wrong and it’s her fault.
@@ErzsabetJones Yes, that is very common for abuse, that's valid and very true. But kinda that's my point. We are talking about a scenario that builds up to kidnapping, attempted murder, and human trafficking. Legitimately scary stuff and something that women face every day, because humanity is kinda extremely fucked up. But you then place it in the framework of the other questions asked over the course of the month. Relationship advice between 24 year old and 31 year old, but among the other questions she's 25 years old (days before the most recent post where she states she's 24 years old) The framework goes between the boyfriend disappears with friends all the time, but him vanishing at the beginning of the story is a surprise. She HAS been covering his bills for 16 months of their relationship, but has to ask if a history of him mooching off of gf's will make her have to do the same thing. She wonders if it's okay for her to send him his things and treat him as dumped, but states in the later post that he has a history of holding her hostage and stealing her identification and electronics. And this is before we go into 'being choked and almost stabbed over the course of four hours of physical and emotional torture' which... I know, it's hard for the victims of abuse to see themselves as victims, it very much is a thing, and sometimes it becomes very hard to recognize that it's not normal. But even for that, the 'there is a long history of him choking me when I disagree with him or ask about leaving the relationship' maybe would have come up to mind when she was asking if she should just send him his things, because being in the position to say 'here's your shit, get out' does not match up to 'he threatens to hold me hostage or kill me on a regular basis' let alone the framing of a woman who's been keeping him kept since she was 23 but isn't native to the country she's living in AND has to consistently hide bruises from the job she holds down. So. We are left with one of two situations. Either A) you're entirely correct, this is someone finally realizing after a year and a half of constant assaults and abuse that this isn't a healthy relationship, that she can in fact leave the country and not come back and we all need to thank god and reddit that she reached out and actually listened to people going 'the fuck?' and got out, or B) the excess of content is a bit too much, and so very on point, with so many questions asked over a short time that it's TOO on point to be true. And unfortunately B is also legitimately a thing. Now I do understand, it's never good to doubt a victim. But I'm not doubting a victim, as in I'm not questioning the reality of a person in front of me recounting their story of trauma. I'm doubting an entirely anonymous reddit post being re-read by a youtuber for entertainment purposes. Of course, this would be a lot different if this was someone reading ALL of this person's stories, because let's really be honest here. If this was one consistent story being told through multiple posts, that would be an entirely different thing. Maybe those posts hold the details this one post is missing. But the tonal whiplash between the first part being 'ugh, my unemployed bf ghosted me and is a flake, I'm not the asshole for just telling him to fuck off' and the update being 'well, he came home and choked me for hours, this happens all the time' just does not mesh together. And if it's legit, that man needs to be in a pine box.
2. Story: "why should I apologize to you for doing you a favor?" ... thats it she considers maliciously destroying the bee-hive a favor I bet there are MANY other parts in their relationship OP overlooked till now with her being an abusive pos and I really hope he sees them now and as rSlash pointed out, it is in no way a eyesore
As a woman you should never forget that you could get killed by abusive men for any reason no matter how ridiculous it is ... Think of yourself and babies safety first
@@Diamondr11Bluethey’re not saying otherwise. They specifically mentioned being killed by abusive men because that pertains to the story. It might be a good idea to consider why you seem to care more about who hurts who rather than what happened in the actual story.
The op's wife in the 2nd story is a horribly nasty person. Destroying something your spouse is passionate about and then blame them for it, is just evil. She seems very manipulative, bullies and gaslights her own husband. If she treats her husband like that, I can imagine she treats her students just as bad or worse. Knowing someone like that is a teacher is terrifying.
I honestly don't understand why people stay in a relationship with such people... No... actually how they even end up in such relationships... Had they been so occupied with lying themselves that they didn't realise what kind of person they're dating?
imagine marrying a man and then hating his passion and interests so much you destroy it and then refuse to apologize 💀 genuinely how do these kinds of people exist?? let alone get married? like i love seeing my boyfriend get excited about his interests, i think i’d swoon if he went off about wanting to start a bee colony, like that’d be so cute 😭
For all the people talking about how OP1 hit her boyfriend first: what Op1 just did is known as reactive abuse/defense, where the boyfriend purposefully provoked her into a physical altercation (physically blocking the door, pushing her hands away, and yelling at her, essentially trapping and cornering her). You’ll hear about it in a lot of cases where people will claim a relationship is ‘mutually abusive’, like in the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard case, where Amber abused Johnny and claimed he was also abusive because he’d lash out. But this is often a manipulation tactic used by abusers to spin the narrative and make themselves a victim as well, either to others or to the actual victim. The boyfriend physically cornered Op to scream at her and provoked her into a reactive response, and he used that response as a reason to not just harm her but also their unborn child and blamed her for his reaction.
If it's an eyesore when it's built and maintained, how is it not an eyesore when it's toppled with bees swarming around it? She and her work buddies are on the patio, and I guess she just says to ignore the swarming bees? "I broke my husband's beehive because he wouldn't move it." If her friends aren't appalled then I guess they all belong together.
What also crossed my mind is, wouldn’t😊 a well build beehive make your house looks fancier than and destroyed beehive laying on the lawn in a cloud of bees?
Scummy BF: Yeah, the BF needs to go to therapy at the least and behind bars at the most with all of that abuse. Like, threatening to run off with OP's passport? I'm pretty sure that can land you in jail for quite a while.
While I’m not a fan of bees, you agreed to marry that person, weird hobbies and interests and all. 🤣 Seems like the OP told has talked to his wife about possibly wanting to have a hive a while before he got one. If she doesn’t like it, then she doesn’t have to deal with it. Bees are already becoming endangered, and if you aren’t experienced to handle them, DON’T. She should’ve waited until her husband got home. She’s definitely gonna drain his happiest . I hope he divorced her.
yo, that last story about the scummy BF is nuts! We went from the initial post where it sounds like we are dealing with a lazy and super inconsiderate BF who is probably cheating to he's choking me for 4 hours and trying to stab me. WTF! Then it gets worse that this isn't the first time this happened! It always astounds me how many truly MESSED UP people are out there. I hope OP found her freedom & some peace.
WHY would you have a kid with someone like that?! My ass he didn't mean to hit you that hard on that specific place. Not only that, but you already have a kid with him, and he was ok with doing that to you in front of him (unless the kid is with your ex)! What a load of shit.
"Didn't mean to hit her stomach" my a**. I'm 100% certain that he intentionally targetted her belly, noone would "accidentally" hit someone in their pregnant stomach. Dude did it ON PURPOSE.
Some ppl just don't show their true selves till after marriage or having kids with the person they wanna trap. It could be likely op's partner wasn't like that until that moment. Either way she needs to leave his sorry self and file for full custody cus he could do it to her who knows what he could do to their kids.
Story 2: She did it BECAUSE the beehive is interesting. If her friends saw it and asked, it would take the attention away from her. Suddenly its "oh, your husband has bees? That's so cool!" She couldn't stand the thought, so she destroyed it.
My best friends dad is a bee keeper. He has like 4 hives in his backyard. Him and his wife started it a few years ago. Wife passed due to cancer about 2 years ago and he still does it and teaches classes on bees and how to move them safely. It’s a huge talking point since not of people know about it. Poor bees.
I did some work experience with a guy who had like 10 beehives, they are not an eyesore and are actually so cool! It was so fun working with the bees and they are also so fun to learn about, OPs wife just doesn’t care about his interests, or his feelings.
16 views and 41 likes. Looks like RUclips's been hitting the bottle again. Story 1: OP. Run. This guy's an abuser and his abuse of you will only get worse until.... I'm sure y'all can end the sentence here
RUclips is working exactly as intended. When you click a video from someone you like & who you are a fan of a lot of people immediately "like" the video without having watched any of it. A "view" will only register after you've watched a certain portion of the video. That's how you get more likes than views & it's exactly as intended.
@@Diamondr11Blue- It baffles me that you think a smack on the shoulder after lots of begging for him to move is somehow equivalent to a punch to the womb followed by several minutes of manhandling. Seek help.
Story 2: This really has the feel of abuse to it. My abusive ex used to grudgingly agree to things I wanted only to hold it over me. And then like in the story just suddenly change or revoke the agreement. It's a way to keep you off balance, anxious and powerless. There's a good, better than good chance OP's wife does this kind of thing a lot but he's dismissed, justified or excused it. Hopefully harming living things he cares about is enough of a red flag to wake OP up to whatever else might be happening. Sad about the bees though, they deserved better.
Somebody put their hands on you. Man or woman your next move is you leave them. It's inexcusable. The fact that somebody put their hands in a violent way around a pregnant woman's stomach you run, you don't walk. And you come to Reddit for help and guidance on how to leave a violent situation. But you already have your bags packed. Edit I can't speak to the legality of everywhere in the world, but in the United States and in Canada forcing someone to have a miscarriage when they don't want to have one isn't murder. Not legally. It's the reason why people like Chris Watts were only charged with unlawful termination of a pregnancy. When he killed his 7-month pregnant wife. Or that woman who lured someone in with a Facebook sale of baby clothes and cut the baby out of the mother's belly. She was only charged with the assault on the mother, not the death of the The fetus. She was charged with unlawful termination of a pregnancy. Now I don't know if the laws are different in other countries. I'm sure they could be but in the United States and in Canada that is not murder. I work with domestic abuse survivors and many of them have been abused to the point where they would lose a baby even at 9 months. And that man is not charged with the murder of that fetus. He is charged with unlawful termination of a pregnancy. And I work with my counterparts in the United States a lot and they tell me the same stuff pretty much from every state. But it is a common misunderstanding.
For the United States it solely depends on the state. Like the States that have abortion banned, it's murder. The mother wanting abortion will be charged woth murder, the person who tried to force a misscarge on a pregnant women will be charged with murder. I know in texas that's how it is when they banned abortion.
Dabney: "Hello everyone, my name's 'Dabney' with a 'b'-" Guest: "Woah woah woah wait, where?" Dabney: "What?" Guest: "Where's the bee?" Dabney: "ThErE's a BeE?"
Hi I do not condone the girl hitting the guy, but the guy knew what he was doing. He knew what he was aiming. I'm not buying his reflex excuse. Story 2 : Her too. She knew what she was doing as well. This is NOT incompetency, this time, it is MALICE. She did that on purpose. No feeling of regret or flat out refusal to apologize. I don't think I have anything to say about story 3, but the 4th is an absolute mess, that dude needs to be taken by the cops or out of humanity's book, that's so eerie. Additional note : Dabney, you'd be surprised how many guys are snakes and live a fruitful life anyway.
Tbh though, someone keeping you from leaving is legally known as wrongful imprisonment and you can be charged with it. When people in domestic violence hit people who commit wrongful imprisonment, that usually falls under self defense because they are exerting bodily force in order to stop a crime being committed against them. Bacsically, man or woman, if someone prevents another person from leaving a place of their own free will, they should expect that person to be legally considered in the right to exert as much physical force as is necessary to leave.
Excuse me, what?! OP’s boyfriend literally tried to block her from leaving, and HIT HER IN THE STOMACH WHERE HER BABY IS GROWING! And your saying she was wrong to hit him?! No. A thousand times no. You do some shit like that, and you are basically forfeiting all rights to leave without getting a few hits yourself.
@@goldenfangryushenron Sure thing, internet tough guy, create a whole new sentence and go placing a dangerous guy 30cm taller than you in a situation where he'd be "legit" in hitting you when you are pregnant. Tuck your justice boner back down, because she put herself and the kids at risk, put on your thinking cap. You think he can't say he used force to defend himself too? That was way too reckless for a 5.0 woman and actual toddlers / infants.
S1 If someone hits you, doesn't apologize, claim it's _your_ fault and "it wasn't that hard anyway" then they *absolutely* meant to hit you when and where they did and feel no remorse about it. The fact that the BF continued to try to isolate OP from her terrified toddler so he could presumably continue, is icing on the death cake of this relationship.
Rslash it's called trauma bonded. It the psychological deep attachment that formed by the cycle of abuse and love bombing. It makes it very hard to leave. Especially because trying to leeds to more violence
Rslash getting excited by bees reminds me of when we had a bee swarm in our garden. They weren't threatening, they were just moving and happened to settle in our garden. We called these special beekeepers to come and collect them and they told us that they have lists of people looking for swarms to start hives. Was really interesting to talk to them
The woman in story 1 should disappear and never see the guy again. There's no such thing as just hitting once. I grew up with someone who was always at least twice my size. He only ever hit me a couple times, but it was enough for me to know the option was on the table. I don't think he ever understood how terrifying it is to regularly be threatened by someone that much bigger and how much it hurts to be hit "not that hard" by someone that size. My brother was a 6"4" 260 lbs water polo player the last time I saw him. I've been no contact with him for over 35 years now.
The first story causes anxiety as I burp my child currently. I literally had a dream about my ex doing this and it was something that ever happened my first response was to knock him out or try to knock him out and to leave the situation with my child. I would 100% be calling the police probably before I even go to the hospital I'd be on the phone with the police as I make my way to the hospital
Husband and I are beekeepers. You cant see our hive from the patio but we still bring it up and ask people if they would like to see them. BEES ARE ALWAYS A TALKING POINT.
9:28 Her friend's POSSIBLE opinions mattered more than his actual feelings. She didn't know how her friends felt about the beehive before they even got there and seen it
@@alexanderhenby1362 not with the intent of malice and cruelty behind it. Animals don't attack without reason. And a bear wouldn't purposely aim for your pregnant stomach, they would do whatever part of you they reach first and only do it out of hunger or because they perceived you as a threat
2nd story. We have 2 hives. They help with our fruit trees our vegetable garden and the grapes and berries. And the honey is delicious. Much better tasting than what you get in the store.
Story 1: OP needs to drop her boyfriend. If she miscarried, at least under the Torah, that's murder. I don't know about current laws in various places. But it wouldn't surprise me if it is also modern law.
I am absolutely terrified of bees…but if my husband wanted an apiary I would not have a problem with it…I know bees are an important part of the environment and I love honey so it’s a win win there…I would just never go into the backyard without a hazmat suit on…destroying the (relatively) harmless bee hive is just mean to the bees and to the husband especially after wife’s cavalier attitude about it.
Plus, bees are not as vicious as wasps. Bees will only sting you if you bother them, as long as you leave them alone, you'll be fine and the bees will be fine as well.
Last Story: The answer is fear. Fear is likely how he keeps his last ex supporting him. She likely doesnt want to be hurt, stalked, or killed by this man and he knows her location so she helps him out of fear. Considering this dude isnt above threatening his life or his partners, the ex might feel responsible for his well-being if he hurts himself.
If Reddit and Rslash have taught me anything, it's simply this; If someone says something along the lines of: "Why should I apologize?" And your gut says their wrong, and people collectively agree that they're wrong. Make distance. If the distance is immediately broken with a full-on tackle, run to the nearest divorce lawyer and police station.
Final Story: I think you misunderstood. I think the OP was saying that when her then boyfriend was with his ex (still dating) he forced her to finance him. After that break up and loss of money he moved on to OP he started leeching off of her next.
S1) Leave him now OP. Call the cops the next time he blocks the door. Document every time you are threatened or abused. Get full custody and run. S2) Op unilaterally chose to bring these bees to their home. This was doomed from that point. S3) One is adopted it doesn't change that they're family. S4) Pack his things and count your blessings. If he comes back don't take him back or let him in. Thank goodness OPs safely away from that monster.
3:11 AYO WTF she got assaulted that bad and is on reddit asking everyone what to do instead 1. making sure she get away from him to a safe place 2. making sure her 1y old gets to safe place 3. fucking call the cops on POS bf bruhhh
Beekeeping is a whole thing. Seriously. There is so much that goes into it. You really wouldn’t think there is, but there’s a lot going on. So basically OP’s wife destroyed his dream and cost him hundred if not thousands of dollars. Start up costs are at least a few hundred just for the bees.
I'm a massive bee fan, can't have any of my own due to rental property, but usually bees are bought online. You can either buy a nucleus colony (the entire lower box of a beehive) or a fertile queen in a queen cage.
His dreams of having his own beehive aren't over. He can still salvage them. I've never dreamed of having a beehive of my own, but the wife's behavior still infuriates me. Having the beehive made him happy. On top of that, bees are endangered. What the hell???
As rSlash said, her friend's opinions are more important than OP's dreams. Yeah, she's only married to OP for the same reason as to why she destroyed the beehive, for appearance and to look good in front of her friends.
Depending on the state, forcing miscarriage could threaten the woman's life because the threat to doctors might have them do nothing except watch her suffer.
@amalieshelby so Idk why you're spreading misinformation, but 3 different sources say you're wrong. They absolutely allow abortions under those circumstances where the mother's life is at risk.
Story 1: WHAT?! HE HIT OP IN HER PREGNANT STOMACH (so basically nearly killed his own kid) AND THEN BLAMED OP FOR HIM HITTING HER?! OP needs out of that relationship now. She needs to get the baby to see if the baby is safe, then immediately file a police report and divorce papers. If he's like this over OP's ex...imagine how much worse he'll get! Story 2: Wait so because the hive "doesn't match the house" she wants him to move it?? More like "I don't want my work friends, whose opinions I value far more than yours, to see your weird hobby". Like what the hell??? And then she's gonna mess with a stable ecosystem and got stung for it. AND IT BROKE TOO?! Like the casual way she just talked about it like it was just a casual day in the office...I'm not even sorry for this woman. This was grounds for a divorce. Story 3: Wow.....genetic tests are like a pandoras box of secrets coming out. The fact that the grandparents and mother reacted so.... nonchalantly is concerning. And the fact the mom was annoyed by it?? Something in the pool is a little muddied. Either that or someone's got some secrets. And now after the truth came out, everyone is a little weird around OP. This was something that should have been talked about long ago. Story 4: Way he did the job version of "I'm just going to get milk" then got baked with his friends and continued pulling the disappearing act? Nope...something is going on. And then when he came back and OP expressed wanting to leave..HE ATTACKED HER AND FORCED HER TO NOT BREAK UP?! And also threatened to withhold important documents just to keep her with him??? IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY?! I'm happy OP got out because my god that man was walking red flags.
for the second story i don't think it was a case of she didn't care. i think it was more like she wanted to hurt him or something because think about it they DID talk about it and she DID give the ok but why did she have the 180 turn around. she got him happy then torn it down. This is so manipulative and cruel because tbh when i heard the title i was like really? but now i totally understand.
Iirc my sister’s ex husband (she was living out of state and had been isolated from us, and doesn’t like to talk about it much now) kicked her HARD in the stomach during her third pregnancy once she found out she was having another girl. She miscarried alone in her bathtub at 6 or 7 months. It wasn’t pretty and she almost died. He beat the kids and dog, too. OP needs to run.
This is sadly all too common for pregnant women violence and abuse ramps up or starts to happen after a woman is pregnant. All I have to say is run. You do not want this guy around your child. What happens if the child cries and wakes him up? What will he do then?
Most states in the US, from what I here, if anyone pulls your papers and word gets you that you were in there for beating a pregnant woman - you ain’t getting out alive
Hit in pregnant stomach story: OP, WHY THE HELL ARE YOU STILL THERE??? WHY HAVENT YOU PACKED AND BAG AND GONE ANYWHERE ELSE??? If he's hit you once he will do so again and again until you're dead or he's been arrested and jailed. This is dangerous for you, your unborn child and even your other children. Get gone NOW! Bee story: OP, your wife seems incredibly controlling and uncaring of you and your hobbies, except for how they "might" reflect on her. A solution she didn't even give you a chance to explore would have been planting some bushes between the house and you. If she won't agree to couple's counseling, I think you'd have your answer on what's necessary. Twins/adoption story: OP, your grandparents knew the truth, at least a part of it, but didn't want to be the ones to directly rock the boat. As far as your bio-parents you can research your ORIGINAL birth certificate to get the names of your birth parents and go from there. There are organizations that help with that if you're interested and want to dig deeper. Choking story: He's done this before and you stayed with him?!?!? WHY??? I hope you're safely out of his clutches, but GOOD GRIEF, anyone who does that to you for any reason is someone you need out of your life ASAP!!!!! Do you have a DEATHWISH???
That last OP has to be a troll, they can _not_ be serious. “My boyfriend kinda sorta sucks and tries to kill me on occasion should I break up with him?”
@@kaykay8855 What? Could you please repeat that in a grammatically correct sentence. I have no idea what that's supposed to say. Are you trying to say "It takes one, to know one"?
Story 2: Neither of them seem to actually *love* the other. They're like machines, sticking to a routine and saying the words their *supposed* to say, like "Of course I still love her", but you don't. She doesn't. Why even continue, if neither of you like each other?
I love that you’re doing more amithedevil, relationships, bestof, etc content Idk if I’m the only one but I stopped watching the revenge videos… they got too repetitive ie. coworker takes lunch and gets poisoned, shitty boss gets owned and company collapses, bad landlord gets comeuppance you know? Relationships etc subreddits are much more varied and just unhinged, and often nuanced too!
I don't understand OP's wife in story 2... bees are endangered, so OP is doing a good thing. Plus, you can make a nice chunk of change from selling the honey.
First post. Don't tolerate violence in a relationship. Ever. It doesn't matter who instigates it, it doesn't matter who does the hitting. There's a single scenario where I don't know if I'd get violent as I haven't tried it. If I found out my GF was cheating on me, I don't know how I'd react, but I hope I'll be able to control myself. If she confessed it I'd just leave her, but if I found out on my own I honestly don't know... I might be prepared to go to prison at that point... The pregnancy takes it from unhinged to psychotic though.
1st story: OP needs to get her year old out of that house and go to the hospital. Asks doctors to file a police report. I get pregnancy is no excuse to put your hands on people BUT this guy assaulted OP (in front of a toddler) and tried to keep her hostage. 2nd story: Having a bee hive is super cool! You get to make your own organic honey, people can buy it off you, and you're helping the environment. I've seen really cute custom-made designs of beehives from bee enthusiast websites.
What’s more embarrassing to do in front of friends and colleagues? The beehive sitting there just being a beehive or throwing a physical tantrum and making a mess and killing hundreds of bees?
I want to say upfront that I am against hitting women and children, or another man first but, punching a woman in her pregnant stomach is awful I'm not going to lie, IDK if it as on accident but that doesn't seem likely. also don't hit people at all
I think OP was wrong to hit her bf but not because it’s wrong to hit someone, but because she put herself and her 2 children(pregnant) in danger by getting physical with a HUGE dude…also f that loser
I think rSlash needs to start adding content warnings in his videos. He covers so many triggering topics these days, particularly abuse, and it just slaps you from right out of nowhere.
Really? I'm surprised someone would go on the internet and especially reddit stories if they have to be "warned" prior to hearing about something like that
@@MysticMindAnalysisHow the fuck did you expect a video that starts with "Boyfriend hit me..." to be about anything but abuse? Did you think it's a prank Video and that partners hitting each other is a joke? It isn't, it's serious enough to not require some extra warning label! These words itself are the Warning!
"Didn't hit you that hard" is absolute confirmation of the fact you were just hit by your significant other and they know it it wasnt an accident and aren't even denying the it so it was not a big deal to him! At this point you call 911 and Walk or run to safe distance or location. Nothing he ever says or does again matters as far as your relationship. It's over. Save your life.
Rslash forgets the most important subtle thing in the beehive story she said it was because it's an eye sore and doesn't want to get judged by her friend for being messy because of it, but proceeds to destroy the hive and leave it in the same spot as a mess pile
I doubt she even had friends over. I think that she just didn't want him getting any attention from having them.
Also, has this woman never heard of a trellis?
(and yeah, I know that it's not really about the beehive being 'an eyesore', but even if we pretend that that is her 'real reason' for going after the beehive, it is easy enough to put up a trellis, and even to grow some nice flowers around it).
@survivedandthriving that's actually a good idea and would be very nice. I hope he gets the chance to do that after he gets far away from her.
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@@yazajag I agree with you - I hope he gets away from her.
The bee story: It was NOT a minor thing. If beekeeping was a dream of his then his wife DESTROYED HIS DREAM! That is not minor; THAT is divorce worthy.
She also looks like the kind of person that will get rid of your dog and casually tell you when you ask where the dog is
Plus, it's clear the reason why she wants the beehive gone is just to keep up appearances in front of her coworkers. Yeah, she cares more about looking good in front of her coworkers than her husband's dream.
@@spydersoup8447I’d argue that was just a guise, considering how she left the hive destroyed/worse off in the same area. Either way, real nasty.
Story 2: I feel bad for the bees who lost their home for no reason. Poor bees 😢
Also if they live in the US, the honeybee population is, well not endangered, is facing trouble.
What a wasted emotion.
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Compassion isn't a wasted emotion. Your comment is however a waste. Just like you
you deserved better, bees 😔
@@Clyde-S-Wilcox - Having compassion for a nearly endangered species that’s vital to many ecosystems is a waste...?
Speaking as a 6'1" 265 lb man, he didn't hit a 5' woman out of reaction. He wanted to hit her and thought he could blame her.
I'm quite a reactionary person so if she hit hard enough I would respond in a similar way but I do agree, this guy was already being abusive and most likely wanted to cause a miscarriage as that would get her vulnerable and have something he can use to abuse and manipulate her the rest of her life.
That's how abusers work.
But also I've had a gf half my weight and nearly a foot shorter than me but she could pick me up and carry me, she could beat the shit out of (and did twice police did nothing because of the size difference a 100kg 5'8" guy vs a barely 5' girl who weighed 40kg..)
Yeah he definitely thought he could get away with manipulating and blaming her. I’ve accidentally hit my 6’0” bf while playing around with him and he never hit me back as a reaction or reflex
fetus deletus
@@asjmpickle Why on Earth are you using feet and inches on height, and kilograms on weight? Like either use metric or use imperial, or maybe even both, both times to be thorough and ensure that both Americans _and_ the rest of the world know what you mean... but using a different one each time... is just unsettling or something?
@@Wendy_O._Koopa standard in Australia and NZ to do weight in kg and height in cm or feet but I don't know their height or mine in cm
There's no reason why his dream of having a hive is over: there is, however, a reason why his marriage is over.
As someone who was a hobbyist beekeeper, this INFURIATED me. She killed those bees, and I fully bet it was on purpose.
@@TheHarvestGoddessChloe Agreed. Yeah, I’m not a bee person, but if you have a beehive and bees, that’s cool! You do you 😉 The wife, however… Yeah, OP deserves better than this woman!
Better start learning how to un-love someone and break any lasting effects _fast._ Her attitude is not fit for a high-school romance, let alone marriage.
also I bet OP was just blind to other abuse from her because he normalized that shitty treatment from her over time
All because his wife is a snob.
Yeah, the beekeeper's wife is being hella abusive. Beekeeping is an expensive hobby to get into, so it won't be easy to just replace the hive. Plus, a destroyed hive with a buzzing swarm around it is less of an eyesore than a plain white box? She should have been more upset about the outcome if appearances were her priority.
I question the reality of this story. This is because I did take a bee keeping course. The wife would have to be in a bee suit and a smoker in order to do anything to the hive. If she just moved the hive she would be in the hospital either over a hundred bites. It just doesn’t make sense. A wooden fence like used to hide garbage bins would be a good screen for a hive.
@@michaeltelson9798 100% this. I do not know much about beekeeping but it strikes me as highly unlikely as she was able to get near a beehive and attempt to move it and just walked away with a couple bites. The moment she claimed she was going to move it herself I expected worry from the beekeeper or for the next part to be about how she was now in the hospital because of her stupidity. The fact NEITHER happened makes this story a little suspicious.
The Beekeepers wife is a stellar book title
@@Deathisdark05I don't know, my grampa had 8 hives and they were so docile that he didn't wear a suit ever and only smoked when taking out frames from the hives. Depending on the bees OP kept they could have been docile enough that his wife could get near it and tip it over with just a few stings.
@@michaeltelson9798 every heard of a stick? She just smashed it to kill it.
*First OP:* I don't know if OP has friends or family nearby, but she needs to grab her kids and leave. Her boyfriend needs to be thrown under the jail. Or have the inmates take care of him.
*Second OP:* OP should separate from his wife at the very least. Sure, she didn't want OP to have a hive initially, but for her not to show remorse when she broke it is telling.
*Third OP:* I thought this would be a rare case where OP and her (?) twin have different bio dads, but OP being adopted seemed more likely. I wonder why OP's parent didn't OP she was adopted?
*Fourth OP:* That escalated quickly. I'm glad OP is somewhere safe from her ex.
Didn't she do it too
Story 2: It makes me wonder, did she actually agree to the beehive, or lied and only did it just to not argue with OP. Like, she claims to be on the same page as OP, but once the work friends are coming over, it's suddenly an issue.
It's not doing a favor to OP, he clearly wanted that beehive. Like, how is it an eyesore, at least explain that!
Given the "It was too hard to move cause the bees kept stinging me" my money is on she's just stupid and vindictive. She destroyed it and "did op a favor"
Bees sting, they are bees.
I mean I can understand if one of the them is allergic to beestings, but because it's an eyesore? really?
If she agreed to something she didn't actually want it's entirely on her. Destroying your spouse's belongings is abuse. Period.
Maybe she wasn't listening to OP or didn't do any research and thought she would get something like a cute little bird house? A bee hive isn't small, I get it, but why wait until there are guests coming to say anything about it?
Oh, I bet she agreed with the FULL intention of getting rid of it at the first opportunity. She's gaslighting OP.
Story 1: police, you call the police and you press charges, you get him behind bars, you tell EVRYONE about what he did.
Yeah asap
What about her
@@Diamondr11Blue what about op?
@@amalieshelby- Just ignore the apologist for abusers.
@@Diamondr11Blue The post is about OP asking what she should do, when her (let's hope) ex make a post I will tell him to call the police and press charges, but to be awere that there is such a thing in the law know as "excessive force", that's when the defense reaction to an attack goes beyond what is necessary and considered reasonable, and that he screwed himself on that deppartment and that he is most likely going to recive some sentencing. Also, I would tell him to look for a psychologist/psychiatrist to find ways to deal with his jealousy and anger issues, and for him to stay away from any other human being before doing so.
Story 3: Being adopted doesn't make you a fraud. Lying about it does.
IKR? It's the 21st century, how do people not understand adoption yet?
Op said technically they're not his family....but the are. Maybe not biologically, but officially and legally the are your family. Doesn't get more technical than that.
So im decently sure they were saying they were a fraud bc everyone was told that op was bio twins with their sibling when they werent. Also, it could've been related to the shock of learning that they weren't biologically related to their family that made them phrase it that way.
Do we know that OP is 18? If so it's crazy they didn't tell her at any point of going growing up. Idk when it's appropriate to have that conversation but like at least before 12 right?
@@RisingRevengeance It's hard to put a number on it, but it should generally be fairly easy for a parent to judge when their child is emotionally mature enough to handle information like this. Some would be able to handle it at 6, or maybe even earlier, while some could never be able to handle it. OP was definitely _able,_ and it sounds like they should have been told much earlier so they wouldn't freak out over being lied to for so long.
Story 1: Not only did he hit OP'S pregnant stomach, he BLAMES OP and says he didn't mean to hit her there. Dude assaulted OP and his unborn child, and literally attempted to kill the baby and keep OP as prisoner. Divorce this guy and get his butt arrested. If he can assault you with no remorse, who knows what he'll do to his future children! I would be apologizing to her profusely, not BLAMING her.
Well, if she was really worried about it, she'd be getting help to get out of the relationship . Not sending stories.
@@seekeroftruth6728Did you forget that he was holding her hostage in the room? What she did was basically self-defense.
@@seekeroftruth6728 well, he didn't hit her in self defense. So yes it will be over looked. But as op said, it was mainly a slap just to get him out of the way witch results in him almost killing an unborn child. He was preventing her from leaving witch op has every right to do what she needs to get out of that situation.
@@seekeroftruth6728 good ol reddit
@@seekeroftruth6728 1) I don't think you realize how scary it is to have someone an entire foot taller than you holding you in a room/corner and it's also made worse by the fact that she's pregnant with pregnant hormones. 2) Trying to use force to get out of that situation doesn't make you in the wrong or a bad person. 3) Even if that wasn't the situation, he pretty much kidnapped then hit his pregnant wife IN THE STOMACH. He almost/possibly killed or injured his son aswell as his wife. Which situation here do you think is worse?
Story 2: While I, myself, am not much of a bee person, and pretty skittish around bees. If you have a beehive and bees, that's cool! And I agree with R/Slash, it wouldn't be an eyesore, that's a talking point! OP, clearly your wife doesn't respect you, your beehive, or your bees. The fact that she says " I was doing you a favor " with no clear remorse, and doesn't see any wrong in her actions of destroying your property, and doesn't even apologize, I believe says a lot about her!
Now that I have 1/2 an acre, the only reason I'm not seriously considering a bee hive is because I'm allergic to bee venom and I like living. I'd love to make mead and have local honey! Definitely an interesting talking point!
I bet she wrecked it on purpose 😡
Bees are super adorable and nice
I am adopted, and it is absolutely horrible to not tell your daughter that she is adopted! It was always just common knowledge in my house. They never had to sit me down and tell me. And it's SO horrible that they let her believe that she was a twin! That is seriously going to mess with her head and cause major trust issues!
Additionally what a frustrating identity shift for the brother as well. Keeping something like that hurts the whole family. And her sister is avoiding her now? That's so heartbreaking when this isn't even the adopted sister's fault.
The story about the twins. So they were still actually born on the same day? Just to different parents? OP said their birthday is still the same as what they thought it was.
@luv2read247 Exactly! I can't even begin to imagine how horrible that would be to find out you were lied to about your "twin." Now the family is going to start treating them differently, and they are going to start questioning everything throughout their whole life! It is going to cause serious damage and give them even more abandonment issues! This one just really upsets me! My parents NEVER once made me feel less than because I was adopted! I always knew how much they loved me and wanted me. I still have abandonment issues from just being adopted, but I know how much I was loved by my parents!
@@queenofputrescence5167 I'm wondering if it might be a case of embryonic adoption. Basically, people adopt an embryo and the woman implant it.
Maybe it is something like that
I’m adopted too! I couldn’t understand how OP’s family would LIE to them about their entire existence. It’s one thing to not tell them they are adopted, but it’s another thing completely to make up a story about sharing the same womb and having them believe they came from the same mother. And then to be so nonchalant about the truth coming out as if hiding it for 18 years was no big deal. Like is there shame in being adopted??? I’m hoping for more of an update on this. Something fishy is going on.
Story 1: Girl, RUN! Don't walk, RUN away from him. Hospital checkup, police report, restraining order, the whole nine yards.
S1: Just for anyone who needs to hear this: if someone is intimidating you and prevents you from leaving a room, shoving them aside/hitting them (depending on their size and level of threat) is NOT ab-se. You did nothing wrong; you were being falsely imprisoned and threatened. If that person hits you back, that is NOT warranted and NOT your fault. They committed the first crime, and you were defending yourself.
It is a threat and you are ALLOWED TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM THAT THREAT! Intimidation to do harm is the definition of ASSAULT. You trying to not allow them to add battery to the list is self defense. Go and shove has hard as you can.
Moved and destroyed a bee hive and didn't get an anger bee attack swarm? Bet she poisoned that hive first.
I agree her story doesn’t make sense and I think you’re right. She probably doused the hive down with insecticides before destroying it. Poor bee’s are nicer than OP’s wife.
No, they attacked her. It's what led up to the hive breaking
@@Slayer21king She claims they attacked her, but there was no mention of any stings, and she still had the lunch instead of going to a hospital or something like that
Here’s your casual reminder to just ignore the bots, report and move on, don’t engage. Engaging makes them worse
Thanks my guy, I already do that, but it’s a good thing to let others know.
Thanks for the reminder
Agreed, don't feed the trolls
I reported you to reddit
Engagement is what bots crave, it has electrolytes.
Last Story: This story basically sums up 90% of reddit posts.
The issue the Op posts about is relatively minor…then they casually throw in MAJOR issues (abuse, cheating etc) and Op isn’t sure if they should leave or not.
I’m glad Op got out
Counterpoint: Last story basically sums up 90% of reddit posts: most likely just there to farm responses without being true.
Why do I say that? Listen to the list of the woman's other posts. Think about how complicated the scenario that it is painting. Woman has a boyfriend who doesn't work, vanishes for a while, and when she's prepared to dump him he tries to kill her and tortures her for hours. But she's also the major breadwinner, and not just the one supporting him financially but so is his ex girlfriend. She'd been tortured, choked and STABBED for hours, and shrugs it off like it's nothing.
The more the list goes on, the less it seems like a real story and the more it sounds like something written to farm responses.
@@AdamaGeistExcept these are pretty common things for women in abusive situations go through. If they had the confidence to not put up with that shit, they’d also have the confidence to not stay in an abusive relationship.
That’s kinda how it is with a lot of abused women. They’re used to the abuse, and used to being gaslit that the abuser did nothing wrong and it’s her fault.
@@ErzsabetJones Yes, that is very common for abuse, that's valid and very true. But kinda that's my point. We are talking about a scenario that builds up to kidnapping, attempted murder, and human trafficking. Legitimately scary stuff and something that women face every day, because humanity is kinda extremely fucked up.
But you then place it in the framework of the other questions asked over the course of the month. Relationship advice between 24 year old and 31 year old, but among the other questions she's 25 years old (days before the most recent post where she states she's 24 years old) The framework goes between the boyfriend disappears with friends all the time, but him vanishing at the beginning of the story is a surprise. She HAS been covering his bills for 16 months of their relationship, but has to ask if a history of him mooching off of gf's will make her have to do the same thing. She wonders if it's okay for her to send him his things and treat him as dumped, but states in the later post that he has a history of holding her hostage and stealing her identification and electronics.
And this is before we go into 'being choked and almost stabbed over the course of four hours of physical and emotional torture' which... I know, it's hard for the victims of abuse to see themselves as victims, it very much is a thing, and sometimes it becomes very hard to recognize that it's not normal. But even for that, the 'there is a long history of him choking me when I disagree with him or ask about leaving the relationship' maybe would have come up to mind when she was asking if she should just send him his things, because being in the position to say 'here's your shit, get out' does not match up to 'he threatens to hold me hostage or kill me on a regular basis' let alone the framing of a woman who's been keeping him kept since she was 23 but isn't native to the country she's living in AND has to consistently hide bruises from the job she holds down.
So. We are left with one of two situations. Either A) you're entirely correct, this is someone finally realizing after a year and a half of constant assaults and abuse that this isn't a healthy relationship, that she can in fact leave the country and not come back and we all need to thank god and reddit that she reached out and actually listened to people going 'the fuck?' and got out, or B) the excess of content is a bit too much, and so very on point, with so many questions asked over a short time that it's TOO on point to be true.
And unfortunately B is also legitimately a thing.
Now I do understand, it's never good to doubt a victim. But I'm not doubting a victim, as in I'm not questioning the reality of a person in front of me recounting their story of trauma. I'm doubting an entirely anonymous reddit post being re-read by a youtuber for entertainment purposes.
Of course, this would be a lot different if this was someone reading ALL of this person's stories, because let's really be honest here. If this was one consistent story being told through multiple posts, that would be an entirely different thing. Maybe those posts hold the details this one post is missing. But the tonal whiplash between the first part being 'ugh, my unemployed bf ghosted me and is a flake, I'm not the asshole for just telling him to fuck off' and the update being 'well, he came home and choked me for hours, this happens all the time' just does not mesh together. And if it's legit, that man needs to be in a pine box.
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2. Story:
"why should I apologize to you for doing you a favor?" ... thats it she considers maliciously destroying the bee-hive a favor
I bet there are MANY other parts in their relationship OP overlooked till now with her being an abusive pos and I really hope he sees them now
and as rSlash pointed out, it is in no way a eyesore
As a woman you should never forget that you could get killed by abusive men for any reason no matter how ridiculous it is ...
Think of yourself and babies safety first
Anybody can be harmed by anyone
@@Diamondr11Bluesure Jan.
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Yes. However, men harm women at a statically higher rate. Which is why women choose the Bear
@@Diamondr11Bluethey’re not saying otherwise. They specifically mentioned being killed by abusive men because that pertains to the story. It might be a good idea to consider why you seem to care more about who hurts who rather than what happened in the actual story.
Actually studies have shown that women are more likely than men to be abusive in cases when only one of the partners is abusive in domestic cases...
The op's wife in the 2nd story is a horribly nasty person. Destroying something your spouse is passionate about and then blame them for it, is just evil. She seems very manipulative, bullies and gaslights her own husband. If she treats her husband like that, I can imagine she treats her students just as bad or worse. Knowing someone like that is a teacher is terrifying.
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I honestly don't understand why people stay in a relationship with such people... No... actually how they even end up in such relationships...
Had they been so occupied with lying themselves that they didn't realise what kind of person they're dating?
imagine marrying a man and then hating his passion and interests so much you destroy it and then refuse to apologize 💀 genuinely how do these kinds of people exist?? let alone get married? like i love seeing my boyfriend get excited about his interests, i think i’d swoon if he went off about wanting to start a bee colony, like that’d be so cute 😭
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For all the people talking about how OP1 hit her boyfriend first: what Op1 just did is known as reactive abuse/defense, where the boyfriend purposefully provoked her into a physical altercation (physically blocking the door, pushing her hands away, and yelling at her, essentially trapping and cornering her). You’ll hear about it in a lot of cases where people will claim a relationship is ‘mutually abusive’, like in the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard case, where Amber abused Johnny and claimed he was also abusive because he’d lash out. But this is often a manipulation tactic used by abusers to spin the narrative and make themselves a victim as well, either to others or to the actual victim.
The boyfriend physically cornered Op to scream at her and provoked her into a reactive response, and he used that response as a reason to not just harm her but also their unborn child and blamed her for his reaction.
Story 2: I've always loved bees. Every time I see bees near I wonder where there hive is. That wife is awful. Guarantee it didn't accidentally fall.
If it's an eyesore when it's built and maintained, how is it not an eyesore when it's toppled with bees swarming around it? She and her work buddies are on the patio, and I guess she just says to ignore the swarming bees? "I broke my husband's beehive because he wouldn't move it." If her friends aren't appalled then I guess they all belong together.
"My bf hit my pregnant stomach what should I do next" um how about LEAVE HIM and make sure he can't touch you again
Story 2: what's this ladies problem with bees ?! They probably just make her look good to other people. She doesn't respect you or your hobbies.
He's over a foot taller and didn't mean to hit you in the stomach? Nah. He had to aim low.
The fact that this story made rslash talk himself into raising bees 😂
Bees are like any other livestock. They're reliant on their keepers. That kind of callous disregard for living things should not be overlooked
What also crossed my mind is, wouldn’t😊 a well build beehive make your house looks fancier than and destroyed beehive laying on the lawn in a cloud of bees?
She broke the beehive on purpose. Those things aren't so fragile that just dropping it would break it to pieces.
Last story: This went from "wow this guys a jerk, you should dump him" to " Run, dont walk away from this psychopath!!!" real quick😨
Scummy BF: Yeah, the BF needs to go to therapy at the least and behind bars at the most with all of that abuse. Like, threatening to run off with OP's passport? I'm pretty sure that can land you in jail for quite a while.
Yeah, stealing a passport is a federal-level offense, as a passport is federal-issue, and property of the government, iirc
same with stealing another person's ID, since it's government issued. that's why using a fake can land you in seriously hot water.
Yes, and not letting her leave is false imprisonment.
The bee wife: Is this even about how the hive looks? If it’s an eyesore before, it’s worse now that it’s broken.
im 100% sure she just destroyed it intentionally
It's about him having a hobby.
While I’m not a fan of bees, you agreed to marry that person, weird hobbies and interests and all. 🤣 Seems like the OP told has talked to his wife about possibly wanting to have a hive a while before he got one. If she doesn’t like it, then she doesn’t have to deal with it. Bees are already becoming endangered, and if you aren’t experienced to handle them, DON’T. She should’ve waited until her husband got home. She’s definitely gonna drain his happiest . I hope he divorced her.
Agreed!
yo, that last story about the scummy BF is nuts! We went from the initial post where it sounds like we are dealing with a lazy and super inconsiderate BF who is probably cheating to he's choking me for 4 hours and trying to stab me. WTF! Then it gets worse that this isn't the first time this happened! It always astounds me how many truly MESSED UP people are out there. I hope OP found her freedom & some peace.
She needs to find a therapist because she’s just as screwed up in the head as her ex.
WHY would you have a kid with someone like that?! My ass he didn't mean to hit you that hard on that specific place. Not only that, but you already have a kid with him, and he was ok with doing that to you in front of him (unless the kid is with your ex)! What a load of shit.
EXACTLY, EXACTLY. He id s pos, she should run and stay a single mom.
Well once you’re already pregnant is kinda hard to not have a kid with said person 😂
"Didn't mean to hit her stomach" my a**. I'm 100% certain that he intentionally targetted her belly, noone would "accidentally" hit someone in their pregnant stomach. Dude did it ON PURPOSE.
Some ppl just don't show their true selves till after marriage or having kids with the person they wanna trap. It could be likely op's partner wasn't like that until that moment. Either way she needs to leave his sorry self and file for full custody cus he could do it to her who knows what he could do to their kids.
Her frist kid is from her ex.
Story 2: She did it BECAUSE the beehive is interesting. If her friends saw it and asked, it would take the attention away from her. Suddenly its "oh, your husband has bees? That's so cool!" She couldn't stand the thought, so she destroyed it.
Also, keeping bees is hot! They might want to fuck him.
Yeah, and she's covering this truth by saying that 'it's an eyesore', even though we would all consider it to be a cool thing.
My best friends dad is a bee keeper. He has like 4 hives in his backyard. Him and his wife started it a few years ago. Wife passed due to cancer about 2 years ago and he still does it and teaches classes on bees and how to move them safely. It’s a huge talking point since not of people know about it. Poor bees.
I did some work experience with a guy who had like 10 beehives, they are not an eyesore and are actually so cool! It was so fun working with the bees and they are also so fun to learn about, OPs wife just doesn’t care about his interests, or his feelings.
Story 2: divorce. This level of disrespect is unacceptable.
It’s unbeeliveable
16 views and 41 likes. Looks like
RUclips's been hitting the bottle again.
Story 1: OP. Run. This guy's an abuser and his abuse of you will only get worse until.... I'm sure y'all can end the sentence here
RUclips is working exactly as intended. When you click a video from someone you like & who you are a fan of a lot of people immediately "like" the video without having watched any of it. A "view" will only register after you've watched a certain portion of the video. That's how you get more likes than views & it's exactly as intended.
Didn't op do it too
@@Diamondr11Blue- It baffles me that you think a smack on the shoulder after lots of begging for him to move is somehow equivalent to a punch to the womb followed by several minutes of manhandling. Seek help.
@@Tustin2121 I think he's the BlueFalcon, I mean 'BoyFriend'
@@Diamondr11BlueOut of panic because her abusive boyfriend had her cornered. And if you think that's BS then you're clearly on the same level as him.
Story 2: This really has the feel of abuse to it. My abusive ex used to grudgingly agree to things I wanted only to hold it over me. And then like in the story just suddenly change or revoke the agreement. It's a way to keep you off balance, anxious and powerless. There's a good, better than good chance OP's wife does this kind of thing a lot but he's dismissed, justified or excused it. Hopefully harming living things he cares about is enough of a red flag to wake OP up to whatever else might be happening. Sad about the bees though, they deserved better.
Somebody put their hands on you. Man or woman your next move is you leave them. It's inexcusable. The fact that somebody put their hands in a violent way around a pregnant woman's stomach you run, you don't walk. And you come to Reddit for help and guidance on how to leave a violent situation. But you already have your bags packed.
Edit I can't speak to the legality of everywhere in the world, but in the United States and in Canada forcing someone to have a miscarriage when they don't want to have one isn't murder. Not legally. It's the reason why people like Chris Watts were only charged with unlawful termination of a pregnancy. When he killed his 7-month pregnant wife. Or that woman who lured someone in with a Facebook sale of baby clothes and cut the baby out of the mother's belly. She was only charged with the assault on the mother, not the death of the The fetus. She was charged with unlawful termination of a pregnancy. Now I don't know if the laws are different in other countries. I'm sure they could be but in the United States and in Canada that is not murder. I work with domestic abuse survivors and many of them have been abused to the point where they would lose a baby even at 9 months. And that man is not charged with the murder of that fetus. He is charged with unlawful termination of a pregnancy. And I work with my counterparts in the United States a lot and they tell me the same stuff pretty much from every state. But it is a common misunderstanding.
For the United States it solely depends on the state. Like the States that have abortion banned, it's murder. The mother wanting abortion will be charged woth murder, the person who tried to force a misscarge on a pregnant women will be charged with murder. I know in texas that's how it is when they banned abortion.
Yeah, divorce the hive breaker wife.
Dabney: "Hello everyone, my name's 'Dabney' with a 'b'-"
Guest: "Woah woah woah wait, where?"
Dabney: "What?"
Guest: "Where's the bee?"
Dabney: "ThErE's a BeE?"
This joke doesn’t make sense since his name actually has a B in it.
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I do not condone the girl hitting the guy, but the guy knew what he was doing. He knew what he was aiming. I'm not buying his reflex excuse.
Story 2 : Her too. She knew what she was doing as well. This is NOT incompetency, this time, it is MALICE. She did that on purpose. No feeling of regret or flat out refusal to apologize.
I don't think I have anything to say about story 3, but the 4th is an absolute mess, that dude needs to be taken by the cops or out of humanity's book, that's so eerie.
Additional note : Dabney, you'd be surprised how many guys are snakes and live a fruitful life anyway.
Tbh though, someone keeping you from leaving is legally known as wrongful imprisonment and you can be charged with it. When people in domestic violence hit people who commit wrongful imprisonment, that usually falls under self defense because they are exerting bodily force in order to stop a crime being committed against them.
Bacsically, man or woman, if someone prevents another person from leaving a place of their own free will, they should expect that person to be legally considered in the right to exert as much physical force as is necessary to leave.
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Excuse me, what?!
OP’s boyfriend literally tried to block her from leaving, and HIT HER IN THE STOMACH WHERE HER BABY IS GROWING! And your saying she was wrong to hit him?!
No. A thousand times no.
You do some shit like that, and you are basically forfeiting all rights to leave without getting a few hits yourself.
😂😂😂@@goldenfangryushenron
@@goldenfangryushenron Sure thing, internet tough guy, create a whole new sentence and go placing a dangerous guy 30cm taller than you in a situation where he'd be "legit" in hitting you when you are pregnant.
Tuck your justice boner back down, because she put herself and the kids at risk, put on your thinking cap. You think he can't say he used force to defend himself too? That was way too reckless for a 5.0 woman and actual toddlers / infants.
S1
If someone hits you, doesn't apologize, claim it's _your_ fault and "it wasn't that hard anyway" then they *absolutely* meant to hit you when and where they did and feel no remorse about it. The fact that the BF continued to try to isolate OP from her terrified toddler so he could presumably continue, is icing on the death cake of this relationship.
Rslash it's called trauma bonded. It the psychological deep attachment that formed by the cycle of abuse and love bombing. It makes it very hard to leave. Especially because trying to leeds to more violence
Rslash getting excited by bees reminds me of when we had a bee swarm in our garden. They weren't threatening, they were just moving and happened to settle in our garden. We called these special beekeepers to come and collect them and they told us that they have lists of people looking for swarms to start hives. Was really interesting to talk to them
First story OP needs to get out. The boyfriend has no right to be like that!!!!!!
He’s a controlling narcissist!!!!!
But it's ok for her ?
@@Diamondr11Blue Okay, BlueFalcon
The woman in story 1 should disappear and never see the guy again. There's no such thing as just hitting once. I grew up with someone who was always at least twice my size. He only ever hit me a couple times, but it was enough for me to know the option was on the table. I don't think he ever understood how terrifying it is to regularly be threatened by someone that much bigger and how much it hurts to be hit "not that hard" by someone that size. My brother was a 6"4" 260 lbs water polo player the last time I saw him. I've been no contact with him for over 35 years now.
The first story causes anxiety as I burp my child currently. I literally had a dream about my ex doing this and it was something that ever happened my first response was to knock him out or try to knock him out and to leave the situation with my child. I would 100% be calling the police probably before I even go to the hospital I'd be on the phone with the police as I make my way to the hospital
Husband and I are beekeepers. You cant see our hive from the patio but we still bring it up and ask people if they would like to see them. BEES ARE ALWAYS A TALKING POINT.
That second lady didn't want the bee hives and she destroyed it, it wasn't an accident she is a jerk
9:28
Her friend's POSSIBLE opinions mattered more than his actual feelings. She didn't know how her friends felt about the beehive before they even got there and seen it
First story: a bear would never do that.
Sorry two, a bear WOULD do that!
@@alexanderhenby1362 not with the intent of malice and cruelty behind it. Animals don't attack without reason. And a bear wouldn't purposely aim for your pregnant stomach, they would do whatever part of you they reach first and only do it out of hunger or because they perceived you as a threat
It would. Just minus the malice and thought process behind it.
Guys, he is comparing parental instincts of bears to abusive humans.
@@Whooachannelexactly. The worst the bear can do is kill me
2nd story. We have 2 hives. They help with our fruit trees our vegetable garden and the grapes and berries. And the honey is delicious. Much better tasting than what you get in the store.
Story 1: OP needs to drop her boyfriend. If she miscarried, at least under the Torah, that's murder. I don't know about current laws in various places. But it wouldn't surprise me if it is also modern law.
It would be, but with the way they’ve cracked down on abortions that woman could have potentially faced jail time as well.
My cousin just got bees and I was SO excited to see them and ask her about it, can’t imagine being annoyed by someone having a hive
Op of the first story needs to get out. I highly doubt that's the only case of abuse going on, maybe just the biggest physical abuse
8:50 "Do you keep them to help with pollination?" Bees are excellent at making sure nature around them is healthy.
I am absolutely terrified of bees…but if my husband wanted an apiary I would not have a problem with it…I know bees are an important part of the environment and I love honey so it’s a win win there…I would just never go into the backyard without a hazmat suit on…destroying the (relatively) harmless bee hive is just mean to the bees and to the husband especially after wife’s cavalier attitude about it.
Plus, bees are not as vicious as wasps. Bees will only sting you if you bother them, as long as you leave them alone, you'll be fine and the bees will be fine as well.
Last Story: The answer is fear. Fear is likely how he keeps his last ex supporting him. She likely doesnt want to be hurt, stalked, or killed by this man and he knows her location so she helps him out of fear. Considering this dude isnt above threatening his life or his partners, the ex might feel responsible for his well-being if he hurts himself.
R/slashes toxic trait is reading a story about bees and thinking he can do it. That mine too 😂
If Reddit and Rslash have taught me anything, it's simply this;
If someone says something along the lines of:
"Why should I apologize?"
And your gut says their wrong, and people collectively agree that they're wrong.
Make distance.
If the distance is immediately broken with a full-on tackle, run to the nearest divorce lawyer and police station.
Final Story: I think you misunderstood. I think the OP was saying that when her then boyfriend was with his ex (still dating) he forced her to finance him. After that break up and loss of money he moved on to OP he started leeching off of her next.
S1) Leave him now OP. Call the cops the next time he blocks the door. Document every time you are threatened or abused. Get full custody and run.
S2) Op unilaterally chose to bring these bees to their home. This was doomed from that point.
S3) One is adopted it doesn't change that they're family.
S4) Pack his things and count your blessings. If he comes back don't take him back or let him in.
Thank goodness OPs safely away from that monster.
3:11 AYO WTF
she got assaulted that bad and is on reddit asking everyone what to do instead
1. making sure she get away from him to a safe place
2. making sure her 1y old gets to safe place
3. fucking call the cops on POS bf
bruhhh
3:21 that's what I'm saying
Beekeeping is a whole thing. Seriously. There is so much that goes into it. You really wouldn’t think there is, but there’s a lot going on. So basically OP’s wife destroyed his dream and cost him hundred if not thousands of dollars. Start up costs are at least a few hundred just for the bees.
story 1: once that punch happened, its break up and go on your merry way, no questions asked.
I'm a massive bee fan, can't have any of my own due to rental property, but usually bees are bought online. You can either buy a nucleus colony (the entire lower box of a beehive) or a fertile queen in a queen cage.
The bee story and your comments at the end. What a dad comment to make about the bees. 🤣
His dreams of having his own beehive aren't over. He can still salvage them. I've never dreamed of having a beehive of my own, but the wife's behavior still infuriates me. Having the beehive made him happy. On top of that, bees are endangered. What the hell???
As rSlash said, her friend's opinions are more important than OP's dreams. Yeah, she's only married to OP for the same reason as to why she destroyed the beehive, for appearance and to look good in front of her friends.
Depending on the state, forcing miscarriage could threaten the woman's life because the threat to doctors might have them do nothing except watch her suffer.
Yes. I just found out that texas says no to any kind of abortion EVEN if the pregnancy kills the mother. Witch that part is absolutely messed up.
@amalieshelby so Idk why you're spreading misinformation, but 3 different sources say you're wrong. They absolutely allow abortions under those circumstances where the mother's life is at risk.
@@matthewzablocki5310 You're the liar. Ask Kate Cox.
@@matthewzablocki5310 I live in texas. That's how I know. Don't tell me I'm wrong about a state I live in.
@@amalieshelby *witch, woman who uses magic
*which, proposition
Story 1: WHAT?! HE HIT OP IN HER PREGNANT STOMACH (so basically nearly killed his own kid) AND THEN BLAMED OP FOR HIM HITTING HER?! OP needs out of that relationship now. She needs to get the baby to see if the baby is safe, then immediately file a police report and divorce papers. If he's like this over OP's ex...imagine how much worse he'll get!
Story 2: Wait so because the hive "doesn't match the house" she wants him to move it?? More like "I don't want my work friends, whose opinions I value far more than yours, to see your weird hobby". Like what the hell??? And then she's gonna mess with a stable ecosystem and got stung for it. AND IT BROKE TOO?! Like the casual way she just talked about it like it was just a casual day in the office...I'm not even sorry for this woman. This was grounds for a divorce.
Story 3: Wow.....genetic tests are like a pandoras box of secrets coming out. The fact that the grandparents and mother reacted so.... nonchalantly is concerning. And the fact the mom was annoyed by it?? Something in the pool is a little muddied. Either that or someone's got some secrets. And now after the truth came out, everyone is a little weird around OP. This was something that should have been talked about long ago.
Story 4: Way he did the job version of "I'm just going to get milk" then got baked with his friends and continued pulling the disappearing act? Nope...something is going on. And then when he came back and OP expressed wanting to leave..HE ATTACKED HER AND FORCED HER TO NOT BREAK UP?! And also threatened to withhold important documents just to keep her with him??? IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY?! I'm happy OP got out because my god that man was walking red flags.
for the second story i don't think it was a case of she didn't care. i think it was more like she wanted to hurt him or something because think about it they DID talk about it and she DID give the ok but why did she have the 180 turn around. she got him happy then torn it down. This is so manipulative and cruel because tbh when i heard the title i was like really? but now i totally understand.
Iirc my sister’s ex husband (she was living out of state and had been isolated from us, and doesn’t like to talk about it much now) kicked her HARD in the stomach during her third pregnancy once she found out she was having another girl. She miscarried alone in her bathtub at 6 or 7 months. It wasn’t pretty and she almost died. He beat the kids and dog, too. OP needs to run.
This is sadly all too common for pregnant women violence and abuse ramps up or starts to happen after a woman is pregnant. All I have to say is run. You do not want this guy around your child. What happens if the child cries and wakes him up? What will he do then?
Story2: why do we keep leaping to divorce? Marriage counselling, and then divorce if they don't improve.
Some people honestly sicken me how can people be so cruel ???
For the majority, because it's their nature...
For the rest, they've been nurtured to be like that...
You had five million questions about bees and a beehive and you forget the most important one... "Do you make mead?"
Story one. If this takes place in red state. The state would delete him in prison.
Most states in the US, from what I here, if anyone pulls your papers and word gets you that you were in there for beating a pregnant woman - you ain’t getting out alive
Hit in pregnant stomach story: OP, WHY THE HELL ARE YOU STILL THERE??? WHY HAVENT YOU PACKED AND BAG AND GONE ANYWHERE ELSE??? If he's hit you once he will do so again and again until you're dead or he's been arrested and jailed. This is dangerous for you, your unborn child and even your other children. Get gone NOW!
Bee story: OP, your wife seems incredibly controlling and uncaring of you and your hobbies, except for how they "might" reflect on her. A solution she didn't even give you a chance to explore would have been planting some bushes between the house and you. If she won't agree to couple's counseling, I think you'd have your answer on what's necessary.
Twins/adoption story: OP, your grandparents knew the truth, at least a part of it, but didn't want to be the ones to directly rock the boat. As far as your bio-parents you can research your ORIGINAL birth certificate to get the names of your birth parents and go from there. There are organizations that help with that if you're interested and want to dig deeper.
Choking story: He's done this before and you stayed with him?!?!? WHY??? I hope you're safely out of his clutches, but GOOD GRIEF, anyone who does that to you for any reason is someone you need out of your life ASAP!!!!! Do you have a DEATHWISH???
That last OP has to be a troll, they can _not_ be serious. “My boyfriend kinda sorta sucks and tries to kill me on occasion should I break up with him?”
That's pretty common for abuse victims. The abuser isolates them in such a way that makes them reluctant to leave the only person they have
It’s common for victims to be in a cycle of honeymoon periods and abuse
You could say the same about the first 2 stories...
Why are these idiots staying in these relationships....
@@Robin93k if you know about the cycle of abuse as in honeymoon periods, the gaslighting and the fights. That’s why.
@@kaykay8855 What?
Could you please repeat that in a grammatically correct sentence.
I have no idea what that's supposed to say.
Are you trying to say "It takes one, to know one"?
Story 2: Neither of them seem to actually *love* the other. They're like machines, sticking to a routine and saying the words their *supposed* to say, like "Of course I still love her", but you don't. She doesn't. Why even continue, if neither of you like each other?
I love that you’re doing more amithedevil, relationships, bestof, etc content
Idk if I’m the only one but I stopped watching the revenge videos… they got too repetitive ie. coworker takes lunch and gets poisoned, shitty boss gets owned and company collapses, bad landlord gets comeuppance you know?
Relationships etc subreddits are much more varied and just unhinged, and often nuanced too!
I don't understand OP's wife in story 2... bees are endangered, so OP is doing a good thing. Plus, you can make a nice chunk of change from selling the honey.
I threw up at story one, run op run you are not safe
Rslash enthusiasm over bees is so cute, i'd be the same bees are super cool!
Morning rSlashers!
First post. Don't tolerate violence in a relationship. Ever. It doesn't matter who instigates it, it doesn't matter who does the hitting.
There's a single scenario where I don't know if I'd get violent as I haven't tried it. If I found out my GF was cheating on me, I don't know how I'd react, but I hope I'll be able to control myself.
If she confessed it I'd just leave her, but if I found out on my own I honestly don't know... I might be prepared to go to prison at that point...
The pregnancy takes it from unhinged to psychotic though.
Story 1 op needs to get out of there now.
1st story: OP needs to get her year old out of that house and go to the hospital. Asks doctors to file a police report. I get pregnancy is no excuse to put your hands on people BUT this guy assaulted OP (in front of a toddler) and tried to keep her hostage.
2nd story: Having a bee hive is super cool! You get to make your own organic honey, people can buy it off you, and you're helping the environment. I've seen really cute custom-made designs of beehives from bee enthusiast websites.
UwU
Salmon run got me so annoyed imma make salmon patties for supper tonight.
WHAT 😭😭
@@krissirg Splatoon 3 thing!
Patty Salmon is my self-insert Splatoon OC
Have a good day
Don't let a snatcher sneak up on the patty they gonna run into the sea with that thing
What’s more embarrassing to do in front of friends and colleagues? The beehive sitting there just being a beehive or throwing a physical tantrum and making a mess and killing hundreds of bees?
I want to say upfront that I am against hitting women and children, or another man first but, punching a woman in her pregnant stomach is awful I'm not going to lie, IDK if it as on accident but that doesn't seem likely. also don't hit people at all
I think OP was wrong to hit her bf but not because it’s wrong to hit someone, but because she put herself and her 2 children(pregnant) in danger by getting physical with a HUGE dude…also f that loser
17:12 his secret is likely that of any other abuser: gaslighting, lovebombing, and isolation. im glad op is safe now
I think rSlash needs to start adding content warnings in his videos. He covers so many triggering topics these days, particularly abuse, and it just slaps you from right out of nowhere.
Really? I'm surprised someone would go on the internet and especially reddit stories if they have to be "warned" prior to hearing about something like that
@@mariposa9506 Not every story is about abuse specifically, and so we can't just expect there to be something without advanced knowledge.
@@MysticMindAnalysisHow the fuck did you expect a video that starts with "Boyfriend hit me..." to be about anything but abuse?
Did you think it's a prank Video and that partners hitting each other is a joke?
It isn't, it's serious enough to not require some extra warning label!
These words itself are the Warning!
He has often added watching for particularly bad stories, don’t go looking for something and whine when you find it
"Didn't hit you that hard" is absolute confirmation of the fact you were just hit by your significant other and they know it it wasnt an accident and aren't even denying the it so it was not a big deal to him! At this point you call 911 and Walk or run to safe distance or location. Nothing he ever says or does again matters as far as your relationship. It's over. Save your life.