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How to Be the Husband Your Wife DESPERATELY Wants You To Be | Ephesians
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How can you be the husband that your wife and God desire you to be? In this video we begin to explore Ephesians 5:25-33 to discuss how men can be the men God has called us to be and how we can love our wives as Christ loved the church.
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Pray for my David. We get married in 8 days and we both have so much to learn and grow
M anne Sutton, Congatulations to both of you! The best is yet to come. I remember the day I'm married to my husband, the judge said, "now sign for your life sentence." Honestly, I was a little scared by that word because I haven't thought that onced I'm married I'll be forever his other half and helpmate. But it's been 20 years, many had come and gone and taken and we are still learning to be a perfect helpmate for one another. It's not always easy but if God is in the center of a couple, it's challenging but enjoyable because you will surely overcome any trials again and again.
is that a man or a woman on the right in that picture?
@@PolishBehemoth man I think
@@PolishBehemoth hahahaha
Communication and determination are two great keys to start with to have a successful, long-term marriage. It'll have its ups and downs, but remember to stand on GOD'S WORDS, fast and pray often individually or together but don't forget to mention your fasting plans to your spouse. Always give to the poor!! Especially during the time of fasting and praying. The information above has been inspired by THE WORDS OF GOD and can be researched via Google to locate actual scriptures for deepening your understanding, knowledge, and skills. 💗
why cant some men understand that providing food, clothing, and housing for his wife and family is the BARE MINIMUM. Bc God said that a man who does not provide is worse than an unbeliever
WOW!!!!! MEGAN!!! VERY WELL SAID!!!! THANK-YOU AND THANK-YOU!!!!!!
Because some women think that taking care of themselves and cooking and cleaning is not the bare minimum 🤷🏽♂️
@@theylovehisgrace5944 well said!!
What if your husband works hard but cant afford to pay ALL the bills and groceries? I have to work too...
@theylovehisgrace5944 each of the sides got corrupted, we need to pray for these siblings for a change in their hearts when we see it 🙏
Please pray for me. I wasn't a good husband in the past and left my Elizabeth with many scars. I am changing changed and have so much remorse. My wife is such a blessing and I love her very much. Please pray Elizabeth most of all.
Me to brother me to.. love you.. keep the faith
I love your videos I'm only 17 but your videos are amazing, keep on speaking the truth and keep up the good work . God bless.
While there are a lot of people your age who wants nothing but spiritual truth, a lot of people my age ( 41 ) do not want the truth, they want their ears tickled.
they are very informing
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Im also 17 and im enjoying his videos
Same
Hurts my soul to know that I did everything this video talked about as my pastor shared the same advice, and at the end it’s never enough and is always left unappreciated. I Pray For All Relationships 🙏🏽
I know how you feel. It's hard. It's like if I'm not walking on water and my foot dips, even if only briefly, everything crumbles. Everything might be crumbling. 😭 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
That woman was not from God, as you are an Ephesians 5 MAN, be still in patience for your Proverbs 31 woman, maybe the person he anointed for you is on their journey to reach that point, just as you once were, Stay blessed brother!
God bless you ❤
Awesome all that you said, Brother Allen. I would also add a couple things to the list: Do not look at other women, even if you are not happy with your wife's, or even girlfriend's appearance. Also, physical modesty does not only apply to women, but men as well. No going shirtless, or Speedos or things that keeps your manhood from being private, or pants down with underwear showing, etc. Other women do not need to see you, and this includes if you plan on being single for the rest of your life. If that woman does not belong to you in God's eyes, she does not need to look at your immodesty and you looking at hers. Also, for men who hate swimming with a shirt or have a wet shirt on, either pray and ask for accepting and tolerating wearing a wet shirt or do not swim and get in situations where shirt gets wet. If not out, well, us ladies have to muscle through being hot with our shirts on. The point is for us to on the inside first, have Jesus in us, and people see Jesus in us, not people seeing us in ourselves, but see Jesus instead. If Jesus was here today, would He go about shirtless or such? If He was married while here on earth, would He look at another women whether she is modestly or immodestly dressed, even while watching movies? Or drool over Madonna and Maureen McCormack or watch porn? No, His eyes would only be for His wife alone and He would not allow Himself the wondering eyes.
One last thing, I thank you Holy Spirit if this came from you for me to write this, but please, married or not, please do not talk to other women about sexual things. That is between spouses alone, and do not talk about yours or her intimate parts of your bodies. Satan will use whatever single millimeter you give him. We ( including me ), need to not see how close we can go without sinning, we need to stay as far away from it as possible.
Well said!
YES!! YES!! YESSSSS!!!!! Finally, a TRUE leader who challenges the egotistical god-complex that so many of our lost men have!!
Jesus says, whoever is first among you let him serve.
The kicker is this: men, when you've been set free by the truth, and you've come to know how a true leader is to conduct himself, find a woman who has invested in her own character enough to accept, respect, and reciprocate the love you show her.
At last, this video came out! Sad to think but many husbands are good provider but not a better- half. Rather they became bitter-half as time goes by. Even Christians are far from this ideal kind of husband but anyway this kind of transformation for husbands takes a long long way to go as long as they have the desire to be changed by God.
Honestly, yes, this is very true. So many godly women but nowhere near enough godly men 🙄
Thank you. There is nothing better for a man than the radical love towards his wife!
To Serve ! Having a servants heart is the core of Christianity ! Stay close to God and live a clean life ! Hard to trust a person who dumps on God ! Then what are you going to do to me ? Control anger ! It doesn't control me !
My husband is a narcissist. He provides very little of anything for the family. I am a Christian. Please pray for me and my children. Thanks.
How are things? Any improvement? I just prayed for you.
@@MrsK976 Thank you for praying for me. My husband left us. I am now in the process of divorce. I believe this is God's way of removing the demonic spirit from our lives. He has greater plans for me and my family. I trust God.
Saying I’m grateful for my husband now( after being married twice to ones who neglected me and weren’t faithful to me) is a huge understatement. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me, after my salvation. He is the perfect example of Christ loving me like he loves the church, and God has used him to heal my heart of all I went through in my past.
Ok. But what does the Bible say about remarriage after a divorce? It is adultery. .
man of God here great stuff bro!!!
Thank you for doing this series. I see so many videos on women giving advice on how to find a husband but significantly less for men, yet there is such need for it🙌🏾 God bless x
AMEN! That was such a good word. And you were spot on with those common problems. Stay blessed!
God will send me a godly husband for me and my life and dreams and faith hands his wisdom and grace of his glory by God's gifted I trust God and believe in him
Thank you for taking the time to make these videos Allen. I have been doing the minimum when it comes to my relationship with my wife and I need to do way more than I have been and also remembering her love language is words of affirmation. I have to remind myself that I need to show love that way as well and not my love language which is acts of service, even though I love talking to her I choose the worst times. I end up doing it right before I or we have to go somewhere and that doesn’t leave time for us to really connect.
I was honestly hopeing there was something I was missing at being a husband. So far I was on course. Disappointing. Great video I 100%agree on all points.
I feel so positive watching this video
Hello Allen.
Could you please do a teaching about "Touch, not my anointed" and "Thou shall not judge" This is a big issue here in Nigeria as pastors do lots of immoralities and scare their followers with this scripture.
I don't know what this means too. Kindly help out.
Thanks
I think he did the judging one in a video about misinterpreted scripture.
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There are two kinds of immorality done by church leaders and even members; 1. blatant immorality and 2. hidden immorality. Apostle Paul advised in the book of Corinthians that if a leader is doing blatant sin and never repenting then get out from their covering, don't ever associate with them. (1 Corinthians 5:9-12). Even if the leader who commited blatant sin and repented genuinely should be demoted and become an ordinary member only waiting for a period of time to be reinstated. Letting those leaders undergo disciplinary actions are not because we hate them but rather for them to understand the seriousness of their offense and for them not to repeat the same offense again. Anyway, those who genuinely repented are willing to undergo disciplinary actions by their higher ups without any complain.
Thanks. you are awesome!
ok. i check that out!
Thanks. you've been helpful
He must love God and want to truly love her. To sacrifice is one thing but she won’t see that as love if she always knows he does it because he has to and doesn’t really love her but just checking his good boy boxes.
If the live of Christ is in both they will want to be together whether they are shopping or watching a football game. He will love her and she will respect him if Christ is their number one love.
I loosen myself of every unequal yoke and common share with any man that can not love me like I deserve to be loved and does not gives himself up for me, in accordance with ephesians 5:25, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 and this word in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
I really like your videos, I 'm new into the channel, regards from Dominican Republic 🇩🇴
Very excellent teaching Allen!! Nice haircut btw! I’m a stylist that’s how I can tell you got a fresh cut lol! Thanks again for the teaching😃
Heather Burke ha! Yes it was. Nothing like a fresh cut. Sad I can’t make the reunion this year.
I’m actually going!! I’m very excited 😊God Bless You & yours!
You will be missed!
What if your husband demeans, provokes, and criticizes anything you say or do? Says you dont deserve him, your not enough, or threatens divorce every time he gets upset. Blames you for everything. What do you do?Can you do a video on this subject?
Yes love sharing this.
I'm a golfer, this video is amazing. Brother Allen, thank you so much for creating this video. I'm 22 years old, I'm single, I would love for you to pray for me that God sends me the right person for me to have a great marriage and to be able to spend the rest of my life with them. U sir are a great human being, person, and teacher. May God bless all of your subscribers who watches ur content. Have a great day, God bless you sir.
Bless you for this video. Funny how both genders are so quick to blame feminism and "Jezebel Spirit" for failed relationships while acting as if men are infallible, and say, well if only the woman would submit, etc. etc., but how easy it is for even the best of women to submit to a man who isn't serving her, but only thinking what's best for himself instead of what is best for both of them or her, and instead of seeking the Lord's will for her and if or not He will grant her desires, he bases things on his personal preferences, it is ok for him to hang with friends passed the midnight hour when if a couple has kids together, the man does not want to be alone with the kids. When the man retires, the woman still does all the cooking and cleaning after both herself and him, while he gets to enjoy doing whatever he wants to do. If he gets sick, it is ok for him to rest when off work, but lady still has to cook and watch kids while he rests after work or on day off, even if she is sick or her cycle is like labor pains. If a woman wants something, like a soda or whatever in house, she has to get it herself. Man wants beer or whatever in house and does not want feel like doing it himself? Get the wife to get it. Earth forbid got to share money with the one who cooks and cleans and other things for him, especially if he does not want her to work or she cannot work, or she is staying home with kids. Please forgive my ranting, but I feel instead of so much focus on women being evil and feminism and all that when in a lot of those one-sided relationships, it is not always the woman at fault. A lot of those are men's fault, or both. Hard to get and keep a submissive and godly woman, and if she stays, she does so begrudgingly, when you are not being the kind of man Brother Parr talks about, and also my comments below. Also, I forgot to mention, wives should not be treated like prostitutes. They have desires as well. They are as human as you are. And also, when convicted by the Lord, and your wife was right, follow through on conviction and have humility to know when she is right. True masculinity is not about being right 100% of the time, and not needing a map or GPS when you are truly lost.
You sound like a feminist that blames men for everything that goes wrong in a relationship. Just saying...
@@PolishBehemoth
No , it is not always the man's fault, but people need to realize it is not always the woman's fault either! I love you, too!
@@holyexperience1976 Yes i know. Im well aware of the evil men do in relationships in american culture. THe key difference is the womens side of wrong is never covered in the media. And men are painted as inept, unable fathers and incapable of anyting useful except for paying for stuff. I see it eveyrday on the media. Maybe you are a little more balanced than what you first came across as. Thanks for the love and i love you too! lol. Didnt mean to seem like a troll.
@@PolishBehemoth You're welcome, and bless you for your love. I apologize if I did not articulate the right way, and I did not see y pu as a troll. I was seeing how females are painted from the "religious" point of view, right down to if a man beats a woman, it is her fault ( not all believe that about abuse, but there are ministers who believe that. Plus, I once been in an abusive relationship and they took the guy's side and indirectly acted as if I deserved it. When he was diagnosed as terminal with cancer, the hospice found his long-lost sister, and he made it sound as he got kicked out of the family, but his sister not only said he left the family, but he abused his ex-wife. I believe his sister better because she seemed really sweet, even apologized for moving him to a different nursing home without talking to me about it ( I was living with Him un-wed ). I not only accepted her apology, but without her realizing it, she did me a blessing because it would have meant taking a bus out there since I was not driving at the time. So, my rant isn't meant to come across as all males are horrible, because not all are the same, like not all females are innocent. I had really sweet boyfriends before, I was always happy, but it just wasn't to be. But my heart goes out to all the men falsely accused, and I can see why people would want justice against women who fib about rape and sexual harassment, but only if they can prove she lied, because sometimes they tell the truth, but due to lack of evidence, the guys who are actually guilty get let off. The ones who do tell the truth get crucified by the law and whoever else because the ones who lied about victims ruin it for those who really did get raped or harassed. Satan all the more trying to divide both genders....
I'm glad we had this chat and had a chance to clear the air or any misunderstandings. Bless your spirit!
Some men will see this and get offended but truth hurts. Thank you for speaking the truth.
How to be a Godly husband when separated?
Please pray for me and my husband. I realize how He is not on fire for the Lord😔😔😔😭😭
I feel so alone in my walk when I love to do the Lord's work, I love to serve and evangelize and he wants nothing to do with it😔😬 Please pray the Lord changes and softens his heart toward him. Thank you🙏🙏🙏
Lord Yahweh, please help my husband find You wholly and completely, to have that hunger that he so very much needs in Jesus holy name amen
I've done most or all these things in my 13 years of marriage, only to have her lose respect and attraction to me. Only to have her tell me that I don't do enough. please pray for me, I am at a loss.
Keep praying
Keep loving her if you’re still together
Go to marriage counseling together and individual counseling
Nice video brother ✊ I believe it's hard for a husband to love his wife like how Christ loved the church if that husband isn't a DISCIPLE OF CHRIST, because in order to be able to express that type of DEEP LOVING (Christ-Type-Love)... we need to be striving to LOVE LIKE JESUS 😇💓
A husband needs the SPIRIT OF CHRIST...A husband needs to become like Christ or that husband won't have the ability to LOVE so deeply. #LoveLikeJesusMovement
I needed to hear this series, You go Allen Parr, that Holly Spirirt is on a rock n roll, doing good in these streets. In the name of Jesus🙏🏽.
Thank you for your biblical content brother. Very helpful.
Asking for prayers. My wife and I are separated. I was NOT the man discussed in this video. I did the bare minimum and made her feel terrible about herself for years 😢. I know God is working in me. I know I don't deserve a chance. But I also know that I love my daughters, I love my wife and God can redeem all things! Especially things that HE has established like marriage 🙏
Great Biblical teaching!❤
I dont even know why I am watching this but I really wanted to click in it for some reason
Good video.. Your are right on the mark..
God bless you
My husband is all about the 50/50 and gets annoyed when I want him to pay for a date even though I pay half the bills and all the groceries... I've expressed that I desire him to be a provider but he refuses to make any career moves...just floating along with no ambition. I'm having to accept I will have to work my whole life
#3 is the big one
Thank you, This will help me in the future 🙏💛 God bless you
I'm not married but man this is real and hard talk
God bless! Great video Allen!
spot on brother as always
My wife encourages me to watch 1 of your marriage videos regularly. I also have 4 marriage videos on my channel too.
THIS IS AN AMAZING VIDEO!!!!!
Challenging but you are right
The funny part about not being independent is that when we do the same thing and ask where they are and all that Jazz, they think we are controlling. I stopped arguing, it's not worth my peace and time. But although what you are saying is valid, the mindset is on both individuals not just the husbands. That's the only way it will work. One cannot be interdependent and the other independent, which is why I asked on my previous comment, where is the video that talks about the Anatomy of a wife? Sadly I think there is so much pressure on the men to deliver on this Christian principles that most people are not even aware of, even as a society and until men get married. I see so much videos on RUclips about Godly manhood but not many about Godly womanhood not talking about feminism which is a work of the devil and has permeated into the church, this idea of women wanting to take control of the men. That's a Jezebel spirit.
As a good guy, you are supposed to acknowledge your mistake, not victimblame and feminism is NOT a work of the devil, it has helped women find a voice and hasn't really done anything to disrupt the heariachy of marriage. No wonder no one answered you apart from me.
@@graciouslexxie2003 Victim blaming? Who is the victim? Mistake? Where? You are taking too much liberty making assumption about someone you do NOT know. Regardless, I now definitely know you don't know what you are talking about. 2nd wave Feminism has literally destroyed families in the US and around the world. This is why divorces are up and also certain groups of women are actually not getting married at record low numbers, not out of choice but out of not understanding that their own delusions and misplaced expectations has cost them. This is a crisis for women and men are not drinking the Kool aid anymore. This is a deep subject and there so much data out there supporting what I am saying but you obviously need to educate yourself on the subject before coming at people, especially if you use your feelings and not data.
@@ek07305 Lol. Again, blaming feminism for the troubles in the world and not looking at the men's side of things. Ever heard of incel. Ever heard of male on female domestic violence? Ever heard of control freak husbands who treat their wives like slaves rather the church? You are those type of men that feel threatened by women getting equal pay, recognition in sports, career and political office. Just get over your misogyny and accept that men TOO are also at fault as to why marriages today break, not just women gaining independence and rejecting the marriage other. And again, everyone knows 2nd 3rd even 78th wave feminism is not EVEN in the top 13 causes of divorce in the US and elsewhere. Again, no one else except me replied you cos' you got so much bitterness towards ladies in your heart. Read the Bible more, have more female friends, talk to God everyday. He ain't a misogynistic and so shouldn't you. Shalom!
@@graciouslexxie2003 feminism is a work of the devil men n women are different n have their place
Thank you!
Thanks for watching, Devan Haag!
Yep one of the things I wrote about is that I would have to run every thing by her. As it says In genesis we leave our mother and father And become one flesh
I've been going about this all wrong
Great channel
Brother Alan Where is the rest of this series?
How much of this should I apply to a Girlfriend that I’m dating with the intention to marry her
my boyfriend doesn't understand the second point. or the first. but I suppose that's why we aren't married and only dating.. how do I share this with him ? to help him see this .. i will pray for him.
Hello Allen I have a question. Can Christians play computer games like Dota2? Thank you :)
Dota 2 is addictive and toxic. I just got out of playing dota 2 for 3 years. I have 4 thousand hours in three years. The makers (valve) specifically make the game addictive. I started exercising more, i work more on side projects and businesses, and i prayed to get away from it. I got depressed in my early months playing dota 2 because i got caught up in the community. The game is not good for the mind and spirit man. A large portion of the heros are built off of demonic images. Several of the characters gave me bad feelings in my spirit (doom, death prophet, lifestealer, etc.). Overall its just a bad game that you should get out of at all costs.
Pray about it. Let the Holy Spirit direct you. He will convict you and help you.
Fellas these things work but you have to first pray for a Godly wife. Not a perfect one but a Godly. We have done this to worldly women that's why we don't believe in this but take it from me of all people. Doing this to a woman of God is a powerful experience because she does even more in return and it elevates your Life
My husband left me after only four months of marriage and is filing for divorce. He "ghosted" me and is acting like I don't exist. He decided he was not ready to give up his independence and autonomy and did not want to be accountable to anyone but God, including his wife. He is a Christian and says he only wants to give God the glory in all things, and that because he is not able to give God the glory in our marriage, he wants out and has "less than zero interest" in being married to me.
I am so sorry my love. I will keep you in my prayer this evening ❤️
Yes like my husband will even listen to this video haha 😂
I didn't hear one Bible verse in that.
We know what to do.. We just don't want to do it!😄
Bless you
Can you give me advice on how to find a girlfriend. I’m 27 years old. Thank you !
Pray about it. Seek Gods will for you.
Should my husband always tell me if he looks at another woman
This the type of advice that will leave divorced and in debt wondering wtf happened
Do you have the video, "anatomy of a wife"?
Wow! Amen
Can a husband do all those things and still not love his wife?
Great video!! I really would like to share this with my husband, but I don't want to come across as if I'm trying to point a finger as to what he's not doing. He's a good man, but I think this could shed some light on a few things. Any tips on how I can present this to him?
get2knowfaith smh
Pray for him and maybe actually accepting him for who he is and focusing on the things he does right rather than th ings you want him to get right.
Remember that there are things you aren't doing right
Ever man must love his wife just as a woman should love her husband😀
I like it
God will send me a godly husband for me and my life and dreams and faith hands his wisdom and grace of his glory by God's gifted and strength n arms I trust God and believe in him. I need to lead God for me pick him out to be my new future guy.
Good Stuff !!!
Sooo.... what if you do these things and it's not enough??? Asking for a friend, LOL.
Seems legit.. just wanna know, are these tips directly based on doctrine or is this what you consider to be best practice based on experience
Ephesians 5
Timothy 5:8
Disagree.