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GASLIGHTING | Award-winning short film
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- Published on Feb 8, 2026
- The short film is about a dangerous form of manipulation. Gaslighting means one person overpowers another by manipulating their perception - through unsettling lies, flustering projection and constant guilt-shaming. Such mental and emotional abuse keeps the victim confused and conditioned on the gaslighter. At the end the protagonist emancipates in a surprising way.
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Wow. Gas lighting very serious. In
Other words, domestic violence.
It really hurts
Make a plan,get counseling,. Walk away quickly and quietly.Youll save your sanity. ❤
@aaronforbes8445 it's emotional abuse.
@joannbyrd6324 it takes counseling to realize to make a plan. Most ppl are broken from the emotional abuse. Some fell for someone just like their mom or dad at home because it feels normal. Their self worth is questionable. But once they wake up and realize that it's not normal, some get strong and walk away. MY mom and 5 year older sister were emotionally abusive to me. Both borderline personality disorder. It took me until age 38 when I had my first child to wake up and realize this I reflected on my childhood after my son was born. I swore I'd not carry on that vicious circle of abuse. By then I married an alcoholic. Not a mean man. But a child man. I thought I could fix him. I needed to fix me. Mom was adult child of alcoholic parent. I didn't know there was a name for this.😢. I had stomach aches all the time as a child. No doctor could find anything wrong. My son started getting stomach aches. It was stress from the drams of dad drunk every day and me,momma angry. I filed for divorce.
I went through it for 30yrs. As soon as he moved out I slept better than I’ve ever slept. It’s so nice living alone!
Ditto..only I moved out and took my dog with me. Thank God!
@melindahernandez8778 I am so proud of you for taking your dog w you when you moved out from that low man. Thank you for not leaving your precious dog behind. Your dog really has always loved you, unlike him. Blessings
I'm on my 12th year...😢
@DeliaFernandez-t1u, thank you for your kind words. Gizmo,and God, saved my life. A piece of my heart died when Gizmo died on 12/2/25. Fortunately, I still have a rescue dog that I brought home 15 years ago. We both miss Gizmo but we're adapting.
@hippiechicky3756, find a way out, save yourself. You deserve to be loved and happy ❤
He's not comfortable talking about anything that's important to you or your feelings, but he's perfectly comfortable letting you be uncomfortable.
Perfectly said!!! 💯💯💯💯
And he will be comfortable putting you in danger too.
So true ...i feel the pain again 😢
One of the best comments I've ever approved here. Thank you.
With a narcissist it’s ALWAYS someone else’s fault.
I congratulate myself for living happily alone.
Good for you
Love is not supposed to be like this
Same girl same 🖤
I do the same and I am sorry
Me as well....I only seem to be attracted to narcissists
The narcissist’s secret weapon. They provoke you to anger, then you’re the bad one.
Yep! And they r usually the soft spoken ones saying the worst things and when u react w a loud voice ur the crazy one!
@deeparao-tw2oe This hits hard.
Over and over again. And you know it's coming..
True.
Totally!
The thing that felt so real was him talking about her “anger problem” - like he didn’t work his hardest to provoke her every single day.
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reactive abuse
Yup I dealt with the same thing.. ive been R***ed in my sleep while pregnant, shoved off a deck, cheated on while pregnant, etc and anytime I got angry I was called crazy.
Really sorry to hear this happened to you! Happy you are out now!
They never apologize or only occasionally give fake apologies with no real change, and make themselves out to be the victim. It's sick
It's so sick. Hero or victim, never villian.
Yes, it literally is sick. Those people are not okay. They are creepy. :(
It's sick and it's narcissist behavior: Intermittent reinforce.
“I’m sorry” translates to “I want you to shut up now” My narc ex literally told me that apologies do not imply future changed behavior. An apology is kind of like a secular version of religious confession but where there’s no Hail Mary’s assigned are the end.
you're right. in the beginning they apologize but after accepting the behavior for a while they don't even bother apologizing anymore but then the apologies didn't mean anything anyway
The narcissist gives crumbs to make us confused enough to stay. Like the little cuddle he gave her. But the gaslighting and belittling just wears you down and you become nothing.
If someone makes you apologise for things you haven’t done - run!!
You can’t be happy. They hate it when you’re happy.
That’s so true. I noticed that when my sister was visiting us about 6 years ago she, the narc, was actually jealous and behaving very strange. It eventually escalated to another blowup and I was walking on eggshells for a few days. Time to move on.
Exactly!!!!
Very true.
I like that his tone is always so calm. Manipulation and toxic relationship are not always about screaming and violence and this video is showing it very well. She is doing great at standing up for herself even when he turns it against her. I wish I had had that kind of energy when I was in it. At least now I can spot it easily.
You are so right!!! Having someone gaslight you quietly and turn their back on you with no eye contact continuously while telling you you're crazy is a hell I wouldn't wish on anyone. The worst part is knowing they get away with it because they keep people at a distance and have a compelling facade. They then take your reactions after batting you as and say your reactions are crazy and abusive. It's crazy to watch.how they switch emotions on and off.
Lived this for 25 years. I wish information like this had been available when I was young. What a horrible waste of time. People who haven’t experienced it themselves seldom understand. It is a lonely journey back to yourself, and to true peace. I don’t trust anyone anymore, not even family. It is truly the destruction of your soul. Love to everyone out there struggling, I understand you, I believe you ❤
I'm sorry you suffered so much 😔💞 I pray you have the peace and love of Jesus in your heart he will comfort you and keep you safe 💞
It was on radio 4 back in the day.
This is exactly what I’m living with. Thank you for sharing. I gotta stop watching this it’s exactly what I go through every single day.
You’re not alone. I am living in with no options other than homelessness. People don’t understand how one thing leads to the other. Why didn’t you leave well if you’re homeless it’s your own fault. No one has any idea getting into a relationship and sharing finances how bad it can end up. No one imagines this level of abuse.
Jesus doesn't keep anyone safe. An abuser needs to be left safely - when they are not home and without their knowledge! And of course, don't leave a trace!
Inconsistency - one minute he is cold, next minute he is hot with his emotions
These people always act as if they know what's best for you “get some sleep, you're exhausted” while slowly stabbing you behind your back, no shit you're exhausted.
It's like an emotional roller coaster that makes you so sad , lonely and isolated.
“Your anger problem”... the more patient and docile you become, the worse their abuse becomes because they NEED you to freak out so that the world will label YOU the abuser, even yourself.
omg i was i this shit for too long
@xy4669 me too!!! and he make everyone around us believe I was a bad person! I end up completely alone
OmG
Me too. He even got as far as to say something and then, not one Minute later he said "what? I didn't say anything, you're paranoid". Level: Creep. I'm gone for good and he can mess with his own head now.
reminds me of the last night with my ex - he swore something on his dead mother's GRAVE and then literally just 5 minutes later denied it - I have a witness for that! sick bastard... that's when I knew: That's IT.
When you leave these people there's a weight that lifts.
Such dangerous people, you can be left with months to years of insecurities.
The short film is really educational, and I appreciate people sharing content like this. It honestly helped me put things into perspective.
I was blamed for anger problems, too. It was my reaction to his abuse.
It's called reactive abuse.
Same
You know when you have been in a bad relationship when you watch things like this and think "this isn't as bad as what I went through"
Sorry you had to go through this! The idea was to show how sneakily it starts and how seemingly "normal" fights are already manipulation and disrespect. People need to know how it starts, so they can stop it rather sooner than later. In this film they already live together and she is seriously doubting herself already, so it's definitely been going on for way too long already, actually.
@QbitFilmsit starts way way before you live with them that's right I noticed it 4 months into the relationship after I got engaged. Thank you so much for replying back. Merry Christmas ❤❤❤❤
Merry Christmas! 🎄🩷🎄💛
You are over reacting, you have a problem, you ruin the mood, you are neurotic, you are crazy always shifts the blame to the other person!! They are COLD, distant, detached, they will drive you to a point of INSANITY. TO Any one out there in a relationship like this RUUUUNNNN. I survived one, anyone can!
Not fully but now am not trusting him anymore.......
@shobhhh6544 sounds like your head has caught up with your gut feeling. If it feels wrong and you are confused... You know what's happening. Try this experiment: stop finding excuses for his behavior - and I mean really consequentially, like a deal you have with yourself - especially if the excuse starts with "But I (did/say) this and that." And then see where you land with your judgement.
I'm stuck in it. Coz I love him. I know he doesn't love me as I do him. He still has a lot of good qualities that keeps me bound to him.
You are co-dependent (btw he isn't). If someone loves you , they *always* treat you right (that is how you know they love you) and yes, people like that exist. Doesn't mean they're perfect but decency is either THERE or only sometimes and in that case the person isn't decent, period. Maybe I should have shown some nice moments in the relationship as well but 15 minutes are only so long. People tend to say "he's not all that bad" because he is nice sometimes. That's not true though. You are always as bad as your worst words and action, and everything else is just taking a break from being an abuser. That doesn't make you a better person. Every asshole is nice at times, otherwise they couldn't bind you. This confusing behaviour, nice one day, horrible the next, is part of gaslighting someone. If he was horrible all the time, you wouldn't stay, now would you. Trust me, they only ever give you JUST as much as necessary (to make you stay despite the mismatching moods, actions and words). They say "I love you" but only treat you like it half the time. Everything a narc does is calculated. They bring you down when you become too free/strong/happy and lovebomb you when you seem you've had enough. You need to google trauma bonding because this back and forth on dignified and abusive behaviour is what we confuse with love as we grew up like this. And if you think God send you to him you are suffering from an unhealthy saviour complex. Narcs need ppl with such complexes. Really sorry to say but you are living under the illusion that sticking to your abusive man is a virtue or something. It's not, it's toxic. Get out of there while you can. You're not doing anyone a favour but serving a sociopath who only mimics love. You confuse your trauma bond with romance as it feels so intense. That's not love though. Love is free and healthy, love respects and makes ppl friendly and polite - always, not just sometimes. If you think it makes you a good person to keep forgiving and forgiving and forgiving, you are neglecting yourself just like he neglects you whenever he feels like it. If loving yourself and standing up for yourself when he is being abusive means you end up in a fabricated fight and you find yourself caving in - in order to not lose him - (instead of him apologizing or even if he apologizes, if he just keeps doing it again and again) you are in a toxic, abusive relationship. Forgiveness is noble but not if it means letting someone else walk all over you. That's just co-dependency and yes, only you are, he isn't. You are his narcissistic supply and you tell yourself stories that make it sound romantic while it's just incredibly egomaniac on his side. Don't feel bad though, those stories have helped you survive, like a Stockholm Syndrome where you tell yourself your kidnapper wants your best. Time to see clearly though, time to break free and look the ugly truth in the face. What is between you is not love, it's a trauma bond and you are at the bad end of it, no matter how nice he is at times because that's not the point.
I'm stuck. Coz I love him. And I want to believe that he loves me too. Which I know he doesn't. The way I love him. He also brought up the twin flame doing my gaslighting. And I fell into it.. I'm up there in age. And just want someone to.take care of me. I take care of him.. I'm just happy I got somebody to whom I can love& take care of.. All the rest is just extra
People who gaslight others tend to be narcissists
they are narcissists or psychopaths
being alone is the happiest time of my life
At least this triggering short has a happy ending
Didn’t even say good morning. That was so familiar.
Don’t you just love when they say I don’t want to argue, but start the argument…🙄
THEY bring out the worst in you with all their games, then call you crazy! It’s disgusting. They sure make you feel like you’re going crazy!
Or you gave them the control over your feelings and allowed them to make you feel crazy. Which is the exact thing that drives them. Control
Why they do this, its demonic
@thatjtyp Anybody could fall for a narcissist. I think the gabby petito's case showed how brian wasn't only capable of convincing gabby she was crazy but he also convinced the cops, even after getting two 911 calls saying they saw the man hitting and slapping the girl.
Also there was a natural flying monkey within the cops, the one who shut down all the others and related with Brian because his wife had anxiety too.
A murderer to be was considered the victim and was left off the hook without even a ticket for the road transactions (speeding, crossing a double yellow).
So, even the cops let him take the control and narrative in minutes.
More vulnerable targets usually become shredded, in romantic relationships or family relationships, even work, you are exposed to this daily.
It's like the boiling the frog alive. If you throw a frog into a pot of scalding hot water it immediately jumps out, if you put the frog in cold water and start to slowly heat it the frog won't jump, when it realizes the water is boiling and it's going to kill it, the frog is already burnt and too weak to jump out, so it boils to death.
Agreed. I had some crazy moments when i just didn't even recognize myself. Sadly, I did learn, but I just moved on to attracting more sophisticated versions...
@TealTurtleStudios Wow
. Relatable. Just like there are sophisticated scammers, besides the obvious ones.
Emotional abuse is the worst because people don't really take it seriously as physical abuse
Agreed as it stay with you for life , word carry . Where being hit eventually heals & goes away .
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As a mental health professional, one of the biggest barriers to treatment for me has always been when I can see gaslighting from a partner of one of my clients and they do not see it.
i went through a similar relationship for 14 years. I had no idea it was happening other than slowly feeling i was going insane. My self confidence went down to 0.... Its very sad. I hope this video helps someone.
Gaslighters disrespect you so much that you begin to disrespect yourself by not extricating yourself from the situation.
Some people don't deserve the love of a spouse and ought to stay single.
This is so down played. Narcissistic abuse is TOXIC, volatile, ANGRY but it's true - always starts of with " you ruined my morning"
What it feels like is a sock in the stomach.
omg so true
It always begins calm and nonchalant.
Not all narcissists are physically abusive or they discard before you see that side.
Remember that there are consequences for physical abuse (like jail) and many are aware of that and won't do it in any way.
When they are in the devaluation phase they will use these techniques to tear you down.
There's a youtuber who is diagnosed with NPD and ASPD and she is a woman and non violent but she describes everytime she went into the devaluation phase with a partner, the "horrible treatment" would start. And even if our society loves to make women all crazy biatxes so for a man it's quite easy, she would also use same technique like boyfriend would talk to her "you've been acting different. What's going on? Don't you love me anymore" and she would reply with something like "ofc I do. Where did you get that idea from? Everythings normal. Why do you always bring that issue up. I'm just stressed with work (maybe i didn't sleep well)", but she says it's conscious but she wants to avoid direct confrontation and would dump the guys by simply disappearing and ghosting, and made them feel like it was actually caused by them.
Love yourself enough to walk away, women & men
There will always be people like this. Love yourself and you will never take 2 minutes of this
when someone says ''i don't have memory of that..'' or ''you misunderstand''...thats the start to gaslighting and don't get involved with that person.
Agreed.
The fact that he accused her of having an anger problem when it sounds like he’s the one with an anger problem.
Very classical narcissistic downspiraling, provoking and projecting.
I've noticed that most narcissists will ask you ARE YOU ACCUSING ME OF..., which actually means they're guilty. Attempting to effectively communicate with them is like speaking to a 3 year old.
Vuelcan todo lo que son en ti, todo lo que los hicieron sentir de niños son lo que quieren que sientamos, y aún que cómo dice un psicólogo ellos no pidieron nacer así, y es triste, tampoco se debe de permitir o normalizar el abuso es abuso se mire desde donde se mire...
how happy they are if they see you crying or getting out of control. don't give them the supply they want. run far away and go no contact to preserve yourself
Yes!! They have sadistic tendencies, so sick
She looked so happy when she was home alone.
yep, peace and tranquility are impossible around certain people, it's like trying to breath under water.
@QbitFilms I remember being at a restaurant with my ex and overheard this young woman gushing about a film she’d seen or something and her boyfriend was snarking out all these dismissive, unnecessary comments, and her smile just got smaller and smaller and smaller. Still haunts me. Who does that, just sucks the smile off of someone’s face?
Narcissists can't feel big if the ones around them aren't small - so they put others down - probably learnt behaviour from home. Self-reflection would help but then again empathy is missing as a driving force for introspection...
@QbitFilms And see, to me, the ability to make people feel calm and happy is the superpower. I just don’t get it. Y’all narcissists don’t know what real power is.
I understand the dynamic, don’t misunderstand me, it’s just... narcissism is a condition that is based on so many fat freaking societal lies. On top of the natural revulsion I see at a woman deflating like that, it’s dispiriting to see some graceless chump buying into a miserable, emotionally destitute life.
Amen, I was with a seaman. When he left for sea I could BREATHE. I felt guilty for being happy when he left. He also spottet it near the end "why does it feel like you are so happy last day when I am on land?" I have always been a crappy lier so I said I just needed a bit of breathing space and that "every couple is like that, its not healthy to be with each other all the time". Who was I kidding? The life was about HIM when he was on land, he even got jealous of my daughter. "What are you always giggling about?" And "you don't need to read for her EVERY night!" So pathetic. Good riddance! Happy and free now :D
the sentences are exactly the ones my ex boyfriend used to say to me. Im glad I got out. Worst pain of my life, but a great lesson.
I used to have patience for this type of behavior now I just cut everyone off as soon as they show red flags or as soon as I have a slightest hint that something is off. Life is short never waste your time.
How do you know what hints to look for?
Me too.
whenever someone is twisting truth and suddenly you find yourself attacked over nothing, whenever someone is putting blame on you for shit they have done, whenever someone tries to manipulate you into thinking you are the problem while THEY are the problem...
ME TOO...NEVER EVER EVER AGAIN WILL I TOLERATE THAT BEHAVIOUR FROM ANY ONE I DONT CARE WHO THEY ARE ....
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It's the most liberating feeling the moment you recognize the bullshit. When you start fighting back and it drives them insane and you see how childish it really is, it's the scariest thing for a narcissist to go through, loosing control
Manufactured chaos designed to intimidate and disrobe your goodness.
This! The beginning when she was blamed for waking him up. I experienced this form of behavior for just resting in bed with my eyes open. 😢
Anything to start a fight.Then fake apology, then guilt, then you take blame. Wow just wow.
He’s the one who overreacts all the time, even on minor inconveniences and yet labelling you as the one who does it.
I am so proud of myself that I managed to leave my narcissistic partner after more than 20 years.
20 anni?!, una vera guerriera😮😮❤
I'm glad you left. I was wondering if you'd be more proud to have left after one year, like I did. Or if it takes more guts to leave later. I do believe so, as you have more invested. I'm still glad we both got out. That's the important thing.
Me too. Was more like 25 for me. A hard thing to do but not as hard as living with him all that time. I hope you have a happy life ❤❤
I want to say something to you younger women watching this video. When I first married my husband in 1992 I had no idea what a personality disorder was or that my husband would turn out to be the nightmare of my life for 26 years. I now know I was gaslighted for years and felt something was off the entire relationship. I was severely affected from his mental games, cheating, and lies including gaslighting. when my husband finally left me for his girlfriend in 2016, I just completely broke down. I no longer felt like myself and could not understand why I felt so messed up and unlike myself and the world became surreal. I lost everything in the divorce because I was branded horrible person and he got to walk away the hero once again. I didn't know how to be alone. 3 months later on Zoosk, I met a real psychopath and my life really went down the rabbit hole.
So to young women out there. if you feel like something is wrong, never doubt yourself, because you're probably not wrong at all. if you don't care for yourself you will literally lose your ability to function normally. I went from a middle-class life to couch surfing at 48 years old. I cannot describe what long term gaslighting does to you, but I don't want that to happen to anyone else so please remember to love yourself never take abuse from anyone. If it feels wrong it probably is wrong.
Dear Kristi,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are completely right of course - if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't... gaslighters often actually reinforce the idea that something is wrong but by manipulating their victim into thinking the problem is THEM - which is nonsense and just vicious of course. Even though you were with this guy for quite a long time, well, actually especially as it went on for so long, I wanna say Congratulations! I know how hard it is to survive all that and I also know how hard it can be to - all of a sudden - live outside of this controlling circle as in a sick way it also provided reassurance at times, of course only reassurance needed as someone constantly questioned you over years but nevertheless, suddenly it's gone innit. I know I am just a stranger from the internet but I am super proud of you, couch surfing or not! In fact latter just proofs *how* resilient and what a survivor you are! I wish you all the best on your way of healing and Chapeau for finding the strength to go on, despite what has happened to you. Again: Thanks for sharing your story, I am sure some women here will read it and think twice before not trusting their guts. With lots of love from London (UK)
I have to stand by your words. Gaslighted at childhood, gaslighted at first marriage, because i didn't know any better. Gaslighted at second marriage because i didn't believe, it can repeat again. Yes, run, run ,run if you feel you should. Otherwise your mental and physical health will go down extra quickly. It's not worth it!!!!!!!!!
@Kristi Boyce , I'm very sorry for the experience you have had.
I hope you have taken up self care on priority.
You might want to look in your childhood for treatment of your primary caregivers towards you. If they let you believe that you don't deserve respect, it sets your bar low for your adult life.
God bless you 🙏🏼
@QbitFilms
Thanks everyone for the kind words. Life is a journey and not a destination. In the end, w learn lessons we must. I'm awake and God willing I can use my trauma for good. Blessings to all of you.
The same thing happened to me like you,, the same EXACT SITUATION!!! I’m 60 and living at my brothers with my mother son and two grandkids I lost EVERYTHING!! That’s what he thinks he is a hero!! I worked so hard for everything I had and it’s gone all gone. What a mind f&ck they should be in jail for this abuse.
I wish I could scream to the old me ... GO! RUN and GO AWAY!
When you are happy, narc hates you....
If I was too happy, he’d attack me to bring me down. If I was quiet or down, he’d blame me for bringing him down. Despicable hungry ghosts.
Never let someone turn you into a bitter angry parson.
No, wrong don't date a narcissist!
The first step would be not to date someone like that hello
Only this year am I starting to understand that what happened to me was gaslighting
Provoke you to anger. Now youre the problem. 😢
Because u beleive your anger is „bad“.
Recognise finally your anger as your guard
I feel like gaslighting happens also within families, "friends" and at the workplace. It is that subtle, manipulative, disrespectful behavior towards you.
And it happens Big Time in religions - coercive control. Governments use it all the time. It has to be looked at all levels of society.
There are more narcissists and flying monkeys in my family than there are normal people.
1 - even happily married, sleep in different bedroom
2 - Him coming back late is a red flag
3 - if you are financially independent you can leave whenever you want
I was more lonely married for over 20 years than being without a partner. I never make myself cry, my things are where I leave them. I can decorate how I want, watch what I want, and laugh as loud as I want. I was policed, ridiculed and gaslit for soooooooo long. All I feel now is freedom. It’s a beautiful thing.
I love the strength and self awareness of this woman
no one knows how destroying narcissistic abuse is until you experience it. people need to bevome aware and learn how to protect themselves starting a very young age. if i was a teacher i would teach the children about it.
It's a personal goal of mine & I utilize memes, videos & share stories on social media, daily to do so.
I went through this for 17 years. I run away with my son who was 15 after divorce, he never wanted to see his child. Now it 8 years and we are happy. We had to leave the country in order to never meet him .
Although he ruined everything purposely, you always end up apologising for his sickening behaviour
Don't need to watch a horror flick when you got one of these!😒
You kidding!? Real life things like this is true horror! Animal abuse, child abuse, spouse abuse. All types of abuse! Ahhhhhhh! Its bs!
We
I immidiatelly got flashbacks from my former relationship . Im so happy i left this asshole.😂😂😂😂
Sad part is most people who are being gaslighted dont know they are being gaslighted.
And most of times, those who do gaslighting also dont know that they are gaslighting.
It is impossible to twist truth (manipulate) if you don't know the actual truth.
@narraikhan285what, I strongly believe they know what they are doing
When I stopped begging my ExHusband for his forgiveness and focused on myself , which he didn’t like , within 2 years we divorced after 28 years.
I finally found peace when I stopped caring.
Absolutely relying on your comment. Been there doing it right now. Never again!
She didn't even touch him to wake him up and when she admitted to touching him during breakfast, not only was she gaslighted, Bruh I got second thoughts too and had to rewatch, lol. The guy's a typical narcissist, lying, blaming, taking no accountability, triangulating, domineering and walking fast up ahead leaving her behind and expecting her to catch up. These are all red flags to watch out for in real life people. The end was much satisfying, lol, glad she made the right choice.
That last push was,,,,,,, SATISFACTION !!!!!!
To everyone whos left a relationship like this congratulations. To everyone trying to leave may you find the strength and courage to do it . Life will be better afterwards 🎉 thank you for this video. !
Thank you! :)
Thank you for making this film to provide the encouragement to everyone who needs it
Only someone who's been gaslit will get this!
My mother gaslighted me my whole life. It stopped when she died. The heaviness just lifted from me and I was grateful to that. I am finally free. No regret. No hard feeling anymore. Only love that was supposed to flow between mother and daughter.
No one will understand this unless he went through it
, yeah he can drive you crazy
After starting over three times, I am now at peace with my 2 🐈⬛🥳🥳
I am so glad I'm not in that relationship 😂
…narcissists are like energy vampires…..
The worst part of being gaslighted is that you start to question your own sanity. It's really devious trap.
When I understood what gaslighting meant and my reality was questioned I thought of the gaslighter as probably start to develop dementia😮
Narcs get worse as they get older. Could you not have noticed before? Or he needs a brain scan ..good luck 🙏
Man, this movie hit close to home for me! I escaped from my ex husband 6 months ago! He would accuse me of waking him up throughout the night & say that he slept horribly. Yet, I literally witnessed him snoring away through most of the night & sleeping peacefully!
That was brilliant. Portraying the subtle gaslighting is not easy. It is so hard going through this. People just don't understand unless they know it.
If you can't touch them while they are sleeping next to you, you need your own room. Actually you need your own house.
Yep, it's called divorce lol
My ex would scream at me if I even moved in bed. Scream at me when I coughed or sneezed because he said I startled him😮
Ja
I hated who I became after dealing with the narc husband.
I love how when you cry, spam doors, get angry, lash out then they get what they want. They say you are the crazy one the drama maker. I was told last night crying my soul out that I was fake crying. They know all the buttons to push.
sounds like you should leave this person. staying in such a toxic relationship is no good. get out before you are damaged / hurt more
Done that cry none stop all night ...rest less nights...get out it ...you will be fine just takes time ...I pray for you ..💞
☝️ truth! Be careful!
I understand respond don’t react. And that nobody has the power to “make you” feel or behave in a certain way.
However!
Sometimes you can only take so much! Narcs will drive Saints to drink and curse. It gets EXHAUSTING to always have to be the one to take the blame or turn the other cheek. I mean, we’re human, but we’re also in an animal body. You can only beat a dog so much before it snaps back. But they WILL keep beating you until your spirit BREAKS. RUN don’t walk away.
If you’re a decent person, they WILL do everything break your essence, and you very well may get sick or start interacting/reacting in ways you’re ashamed of because they will push your buttons over and over till you’re triggered by a glance.
A person can only take so much abuse.
Here’s a joke:
What did he codependent say to the Narc when they asked them how they were feeling that day?
I don’t know, how do you feel?
😂😂
Holy eggshells tho!
Big 🤗💗
Earth angel--please find a way to leave this toxicity--you are a worthwhile beautiful person with much to give...peace and best wishes.
@CrazyCoon100 True words. Thank you. 💕
10 years to find out I slept with an educated actor.. sleeping next to a stranger you thought you knew but never did... ❤
I feel this everyday ❤
A ten yr Game
No one should have to tolerate psychological or any type of abuse.
That's exactly how I experienced it. The movie brought tears to my eyes.
I’ve come to realize people can only love you as much as they love themselves.These type of people truly hate themselves.
Interesting theory. I am inclined to agree. However, it is a *decision* to be abusive - every single day, every.single.time. I'm not saying they can help the way they are, but they *decide* to involve a victim. This is very important to mention. There are so many people, often women, out there, who think "If I just love him hard enough, he will turn into a nice person" but that will never happen. And because they switch between abusive and not abusive, this naive hope never dies. SPs/Narcs are actually brain damaged (see different brain scans). They will never heal and therapy just teaches them how to not get into trouble. In a way it's like in the vampire stories. You grow up with energy suckers (narcs) and you are never good enough for them. As a child you therefore learn that if a relationship isn't great, it's your fault, and only you can fix it/them. Trust me, this is not how narcs feel - quite the opposite. For them, it's always the other person's fault. So you either turn into a vampire yourself because you *decide* that is more comfortable for you. Or you *decide* to become a Renfield, someone who goes through life endlessly trying to fix others and letting future partners deplete them like their parents did. At times, two Draculas form a marriage and sometimes maybe even two Renfields. But often, it's one of each. Renfields can, over time, develop boundaries and, for once, apply their fixing energy onto themselves. Having all of your energy for yourself, of course, feels amazing then. Just like in the myth, a Renfield can be healed. But once a vampire... that's it, no going back until you "meet your maker" lol True Blood reference. Maybe the vampires can't help but find victims, but that is their problem. Perhaps they can only truly heal if they just can't live off other ppl's energy - if they are forced to find other ways. So if you love them, don't be their supply - it's a shortcut for them that is just enabling them. Normal ppl heal through the love of others, narcs just leech - and it's a bottomless pit.
Emotion-sucking vampires.@QbitFilms
True. My ex used to say he hates himself and was exactly like this. It's like they know it already but that's how they are. Nothing can change it. They can go silent but may still want the same things and can never treat you nicely.
Dealt with this for 9 years. So glad to be out. Now just living wirh the trauma..
This is the worst kind of people. First, they lie to you, then convince you, then manipulate your trust, and finally leave you emotionally drained and self-doubted.
and in debt
The time has come when people are starting to wake up to narcissism. Bravo for this film which explains it so well. I needed this film 30 years ago before I married one and had kids with them. I lived in the dark until 4 years ago when a discovered personality disorder called NPD. That explained it all and the malignant vulnerable narcissist I lived with. That knowledge has given me the power to create a new me.
Better to walk away from him and not look back.
I didn't even know this was being done to me
It is insidious, yes - but once you see it, you can't unsee it anymore...
You mean till now??
If your chasing someone and having to apologise all the time for nothing! Run and don't look back. Your sanity, mental health is more important.
Well said, I know what you mean.... my sister
This makes me soooo glad I am single!
You always ruin everything. If someone tells you that, pack your stuff and leave - safely.
Unless you tell your abuser that
You shouldn't talk to your abuser at all. You should leave quietly and safely. Most femicides are committed when she's trying to leave.
My mom said that to me all my childhood, blaming me for her problems with her psycho exhusband. I left home at 16 dropped out of highschool and struggled in my life beliving in myself and the choices I made
If mom is gaslighting rather than the boyfriend/husband is for sure harder .. she knows better out weak points. You made the right choice. Girl power!
!EC .. our weak points
I hope this helps someone. Thank you for your efforts.
My narcissistic ex-wife almost destroyed me. It took me years to leave her, and a few more to heal. Now I’m free and experience a healthy relationship. What a relief.
If you ever encounter a narcissist, RUN!
Yes
The reactive abuse is real too.
oh gaslighting ... i lived that for more than 10 years!!!! when he starts by turning on the other side, then comes in the kitchen without saying Good morning (silent treatment) makes her feel guilty, then plays the sweetest by forgiving her, then doing nothing for helping in the house and when confronted puts the blame on her...
not answering phone calls, not telling you where they are going, giving you their time only when it serves them, telling you what to do and always telling you you are wrong and make you look crazy in front of others, not respecting boundaries, double standards, telling you that "you have a problem" , making you act in ways you would never do, telling you you have "anger problems" yes they make you angry all the time!!! but it's your fault!! being nice to you to then shame you again !!
oh I have been there, NO ONE should go thru this!!
Omg all of these I have experienced in my previous relationship. As much as I love him I had to learned the hard way to let him go. When I asked where he was gg, he said I’m a control freak. The giving you time only when it serves them is so damm true!! He is selfish with his time together with me unless it’s about him like his birthday. Tragic.
You have my full compassion and understanding! Feel huged, because mostly friends and others even do not believe you!
100%
freakin exhausting. Never again!!!