In this video, you can see that Chimamanda wore her emotions out for us to see. She was so vulnerable and I appreciate it. Thanks, Chimamanda, for sharing your emotions with us.
Chimamanda just exposed what happens in most churches, not the Catholic church alone. I had similar experience when I was about to be wedded in 2014. I was born into a Methodist family, fulfilled all the requirements of the church ( baptism, confirmation and all). You know what happens when you move to a place where your denomination (in this context "church") is not nearby, and you have to join another church. That was my case, so at the time I was about getting married (to a Catholic faithful) there were requirements that my local church had to meet for me to be wedded in the Catholic church. Unfortunately the minister in charge of my local church (one Rev. Onuoha) refused providing those requirements just because I don't come to make donations in the church. It took the intervention of the elders in my church who knew how committed I was in the church back then, to get him to do the needful. Most Clerics go above and beyond their "calling" to humiliate people just because they opportune to wear cassocks.
Impressive from the interviewer. I don't think I've watched a more competent, insightful Nigerian interview. As for the Nigerian church - not just the Catholic - they all need help. Unfit for purpose doesn't even come close to doing them justice.
Fourteen years after my mum's death, and I still cry in my sleep after dreaming about her. The other day, I heard a song she sang to us when we were little, and I woke up bawling my eyes out. I don't think we ever forget our loved ones after their passing; we shove our emotions to one corner until the need comes for us to face it, then we become piles of sawdust. Do we ever really come to terms with grief? How does one deal with grief?
So sorry for your pain. I think you answered the question you asked. We never forget our loved ones after their passing... when the event plays back in our minds, it's good to face the grieve and not shove it off. Let your heart cry. It's God's way of bringing healing to our soul and keep our body healthy. Bless you.
@F O thanks for the observation, And i will summarize it in a word: TIME. Don't suppress it, ventilate it, and allow time to continue to act on the process.
I just lost my younger sister less than a week today,my father less than a year ago and my immediate elder sister husband died second week of January this year,most night I cried myself to sleep
@@fodogbo excellent thoughts you shared there. I shoved off my grief not intentionally though is because I was too young to understand. When we're broken then we begin to be healed.
That's how this clergy came and be swearing for us in the name of preaching at the funeral of my beloved. He was like "if the people left behind do not hold God close they'll still leave like this as well" I was enraged. I spoke out. Those around heard me "Don't swear for us!" I demanded "All we say is preach at this funeral not come and swear for us" It could be so mean, seeing how much devastated we were, he was lucky he changed the topic I wouldn't have mind ruining that preaching session. Don't fucking swear for us, preach and get out let's bury our dead!
I know exactly how you feel, I was 13yrs old when my father died, two months after I lost my mother same year, as a 13yrs old child I was so devastated and felt lost, now age 63yrs old I still feel lost. Those days, they were no form of counselling as an African British to help me through the lost of my parents. I noticed as I grew older the death of my parents affected me so much everything were brushed under the carpet and not spoken about as if it didn't happen... This is so interesting to hear how you are dealing with your Grief..Thanks for sharing this interview...
I'm ashamed to say the least as regards the church's attitude on this solemn occasion. Chimamanda I admire your courage for speaking up...I encourage you not to give up on attending church services,its always a house of God. I don't want to judge the priest,let him search his conscience. Take heart over the demise of your dear parents. Grief is so real,we can't pretend about it. I am battling with mine,since the demise of my loving mother three years ago. I like the way you are handling all of these issues. Better discussed than bottled up, while things keep happening without improvement.
Beautiful princess, so sorry for your loss and that cheap publicity of that priest. It’s painful can’t even imagine. Actually I can identify with you on grief and how dear loved ones death changes us and gives us different perspective in life. I’m sure you’re aware that going to church is just a formality and that the presence of God had left the church long ago. After 25 years I still grief my mother and recently 21/2 years my dear brother’s death broke the core of my being. Never the same and don’t think I would. We never stop grieving rather we manage to live with it. We’ve our roller coaster moments and it’s also okay. May you and your siblings be comforted.
I love love Chimamanda not just as a public figure but also as a human being. I tried watching this when it was uploaded but I could, was sobbing so hard, I just finished today. A year later. Now imagine how this family has been dealing with all this😢. Sace the extreme grief of losing 2 parents a second apart! My biggest question however,I am Catholic, is this the corruption witnessed in churches. Any Kenyans here? Ever had incidences like these? Because this is abhorrent, this is unforgivable! I remember my church in Kenya actually performs funerals for people who have no families, those left in morgues. Kenyan Catholics are you here? My God.
From her interviews & talks it's obvious Chimamanda isn't someone unreasonable & would say anything out of malice. To see her family go through this at such a sad time is heartbreaking
May God comfort you and your siblings dear Chimamanda. We all love you in my family; especially my wonderful psychologist daughter! I am so sorry that you have to go through all these; but I am glad you have the platform to talk about it to relieve yourself and also to help others who cannot afford the same platform as you do. My siblings and I went through the same treatment when my father sadly passed away in my home town of Fugar in February 2021. The Catholic priests refused to conduct a mass for my father who had been a staunch catholic all the 98 years he lived simply because we refused to provide their unreasonable demand of a cow, cooking separately for the whole congregation, paying a huge sum of money to the priests and their assistants ... the list goes on. We are so proud of you and what you have achieved! Your achievement has robbed off on me, my children, Nigeria and Africa as a whole. Whenever we travel outside of Nigeria and we tell people we are from Nigeria, the first thing most of them say to us is "do you know Chimamanda?" Once again, may the Lord comfort you and be with you and your family as you mourn your wonderful parents
I am proud of people like chimamanda who can resonate with others in matters like this. most times the less privileged suffer this pain in silence and feel detached from society just because some ''so-called leaders feel or think they are not deserving. May the good lord comfort anyone in grief and raise more like Chimamanda to speak up for change.Bulling has become a norm in our society for far too long.
Thank you so much for always speaking up in the face of opposition. Your parentsxwill always be proud of you. I have lost both parents and I know the hurt that it never goes away be cause events constantly remind you of their absence. May the Lord comfort you and your siblings. Continue to look up to christ alone as our Rolemodel. Some of these might isters have taken on the job not because they have a calling from God but just because they want to please their parents and they are more worldly than the world in their attitudes. Always remember that people cannot give what they do not have no matter how hard they tried. If one is lacking in mercy and compassion, that one cannot give it. God bless you sweetheart for representing the oppressed.
The Catholic churches in eastern Nigeria🇳🇬 have been doing this for a very long time without consequences. Many families haven't been able to do the final burial of their loved ones because their family members who died owned or missed membership levy of #50.00 (fifty naira, only. What a shame. Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche, please accept my condolences and apologies for the despicable act of disrespecting Mama by the reverend father.
Am of the opinion that Chimamanda do not grant very personal interviews like this one. I prefer a kind of 3rd party sense to the notes on grief and any other. This is because they remove the mystery and vagueness of those we reverence. Some of her antagonist would presume she feels larger than life. Afterall it was such very personal interview with Ebuka that informed the aberration in her mums funeral Mass. Personal opinion tho'♡ One cannot totally avoid the discomfort and invasion that follows fame most times but we certainly can chose what to accept.
I love Chimamanda’s way to express what she thinks even if it is in an environment such as church and, what is more shocking, in the middle of the funeral of her mother. I admire her determination to respond to cruel accusations. I am sorry this happened to you and your family in a moment so painful like burying your mother. It is very sad to know things like this happen in the world. My condolences to you.
It is quite sad, painful and heartbreaking to see all these "priests" adding to the pains of people that are mourning their loved ones. My uncle died last April and was buried in June. He was a Catechist (An assistant "priest") and served for over 3 decades. While planning his funeral, we were given a list of what the church needs and was asked to pick one. We were made to pay all sorts of levies. We had to pay some money to the choir for them to sing during the funeral. This was a man who dedicated his life to the growth of the Catholic church in the town and he was also instrumental to the creation of other outstations under the parish. Instead of actually supporting the burial, extortion was the case. If they can do that to a Catechist, what then is the fate of ordinary church members. The Catholic church and other orthodox churches really have to do something about it. Funeral is a time of grief and the people mourning should be comforted, not adding to their grief.
@@annabelenu1964 I know that hence the use of quotation marks. Literarily, It is the easiest way of explaining how important the role of a Catechist is to a non-catholic. Someone, who stands in for a priest and conducts masses is literarily an "Assistant" priest
The then priest of my village in Imo State refused to bury my mother because my parents were not based in the East and had not paid all their levies. Note this, I was training to be a priest myself. I could not believe it; not because the priest had no justification to refuse our request, but because I was wondering what happened to compassion and the norm of the Code that says "we must bury" whoever demands it - whether he is Catholic or not. We spent three hours on our knees. In the end, he sent his catechist to conduct a service. We agreed because it was not our jurisdiction hence we could not do it ourselves. However, before the commencement of the service, one of my Professors Fr Reginald Nnamdi walked in from Ibadan and he decided to conduct the service. So my mother was buried by a priest and not a catechist. Some priests in the East do not perceive hence understand the Spirit behind the Code.
@@IGBOYORUBAHausaNaijaIGBO7 am not talking about the code but the reality on ground, people have been paying all kinds of money to keep that church going,people from both home and abroad but your family didn't contribute and you want to benefit from the labour of others
Church is Just a business, And that is part of why you find so much branches of so call church, all base on the same one bible that have us hustling over it, something that make no sense, and the most complicated book on this planet, Little did all of us Black people know that, that book was design to drive fare into us and to have us subdued as a lower being and have us believe that we're lesser than them, That is what them led to having so much more dominion over us on our own Land until this day, and left us with this piece of complicated puzzle and Garbage call[ BIBLE ] To keep us divided and distracted from our Goals on purpose until next never
@@ejionyemchikwado9262 nothing like Labour of others. The church is not there to rip off people. It is there to serve the people. Due or no due, go and bury the dead
I so much love you AMANDA, I cannot decribe. I have followed a lot of your programmes over the years to know how you speak of your parents IN MYSTICAL TERMS, WITH THE MOST DISARMING SMILE and soft laughter ANYONE CAN MUSTER, and now for this PRIEST FROM ABBA, to speak from the PITS OF HAIL, I grieve. In this interview I saw the moist and redness of the white of your eyes, and that tells us how deep this Roman Catholic Priest DUG HIS AXE in your PURE SOUL. I say don't worry, we bear this pain with you, but his pain is greater as your dear mum is in the bossom of her maker, shinning like a star.
OMG! Chichi my deepest condolences for the lost of your most valuable person in life. I am so so very sorry for such an ugly behaviour of the priest. When I was growing up in the 80s in Africa my family were very faithful Catholics too. I lost my mum 1982 on a Sunday morning, she did her normal duties too- travelled to the capital city on Wed to get goods, came back home on Friday, sold her goods on Saturday and died on Sunday. The community was in shocked, most of the people did not even believed it. Losing a mum in your teens is very heart breaking😭, but our kind hearted father and older siblings took good care of us. I pray that God Almighty( 3in1) grant you all inner peace, emotional healing and comfort. Keeping you in my prayers. RIPP OUR SWEET MOTHER 😭😭😭
We can feel emotion on her voice. It was really a disheartening experience. I think it's high time to remember priests that they are meant to serve not to become tyrans.
I couldn't help but feel anger and pain build up regarding what happened to chimamanda's family. I've lost my mom and the pain is immeasurable already. Having that sort experience added on top would take such an unbearable toll on my emotions. I can't stand for this.
Her parents were such a force 😭 and I can relate. Grieving is not easy especially in Africa where we are told to move on and be strong. There really is no moving on but rather just dealing with the absence a day at a time. I remember how well known my parents were in our community but when the died, very few reached out so I felt I grieved alone. I cope with their absence by doing things in their honor and remembering them with my siblings by the nice things they would do or say. Almost two decades passed and their void is still felt in our family. As for the church, I was raised Anglican but no longer because the did nothing for my dad when my mum died 💔 and my parents were very active in supporting fundraising ventures. I did not marry in their church nor do I look forward to going back. I feel for Chimamanda it sounds awful what that man did. Sounds like he was jealous of her and her family. I think i would not blame her and her family for breaking ties with her church denomination.
Chimamanda courage is vulnerability which most of us fear due to criticism. Grief is displayed in different ways by each individual: some display silence, anger, excessing crying but they are all natural reactions which one has to go through to heal. I lost my brother in 2020 and I think about him daily and I cry, I look at his picture and I say I miss you brother. Sometimes the thought of him pops in my head and I'm saying to myself "I need to call him, and then I catch myself." We never forget our loved ones that has gone on before us. I look at my grandmother's picture and say I remember all the parable you taught me. May the Almighty grant you healing mercies. You are a wise and brave woman, long live Africa.
So sorry about your experience. I lost my parents as a toddler, so I did not really feel the pain until later. But, I have heard my cousins have the same experience with a parish priest in my village, regarding the disregard and respect for for the dead. I most say that not all Catholic priest are so inconsiderate as the one your home parish and that of my cousins, and thanks so mentioning a few of such. I do think such priests have personal issues and the church needs to address such individual priest. May you and your family find consultation in Christ, may the Almighty grant all the fortitude to bear the loss and may souls of your beloved parents rest in peace 🙏
Great interview. Nwa James I agree totally with you. Your experience with your parish priest unrepentant highhandedness at your dear mum's post funeral thanksgiving at your village church brings to mind an evergreen line in Geoffrey Chaucer's "The Pardoner's Tale" in that play regrettably chronicling malfeasance by a "man of God" the pungent question was posed : "if Gold rusts what will Iron do? In the present day I have posed the same question to men of God who appear to have missed their calling; they have not been able to give me any satisfactory response! In a similar vein our Lord Jesus in Biblical times whilst upending tables of money changers, and merchants in the Temple admonished them viz:"my father's house shall be known as a house of prayer amongst nations, but you have turned it into a den of thieves and robbers"! Blistering indictment! Question: from Biblical times through times of Geoffrey Chaucer to modern days what if anything has changed? I concede, as you did, in your interview that there are some glittering Diamonds in the Priesthood. Sadly more than our fair share of the priesthood are are in no way gems, they are no way near glittering! Chaucer's Iron rusting metaphor is very apposite to them. My sister, Nwa James (my Professor) na great please be consoled in your grief. The rest of us have not lost our humanity We stand shoulder to shoulder with you, and your family.
Nigerians need to embrace emotion more. As a society, emotions are discouraged and its affecting lives in numerous ways (ie lack of compassion, ineptitude, unaddressed rage). Mental health is equally as important as physical health. I can only imagine how traumatised retelling of the story was for her. The interviewer didn't have to be so intrusive. Religious fanaticism is widespread across the country.
Huyu mrembo Chimamanda ni mwanamajumui kamili wa Afrika. Nampenda sana katika shughuli zake za uharakati kwa niaba ya nchi za Afrika. Mungu ambariki na ibariki Afrika. Pamoja milele daima. "Use Kiswahili translator in case you don't understand Swahili."
This account by Chimamanda clearly resonates with me and a whole lot others. Things really has got to change in the mannerism of Catholic priests who preside over the burial of people particularly in the village. That opportunity is used to torment grieving families perceived to be well off and have not given so much materially to the church. It's seen always as pay back time. Clearly defeating the whole essence of Christianity and compassion.
Taxing the dead is a very common practice in the Catholic Church in southeast as if that is what will lead the dead person to heaven. Thank you for highlighting it. It’s been going on for a long time and it needs to stop. Am not sure how they have managed to separate compassion from Christianity. Even in Rome, this does not happen so how come it’s allowed to happen in Nigeria- southeast to be specific. Greed, envy and jealousy is the order of the day. The priest obviously messed with the wrong person. Hopefully things can start to change.
I don't know why people wait for burials to deal with people who are grieving...that's the highest level of meanness. It seems like people pray for others to fall into grief so that they can mock them but they forget that everyone will die one day and face judgment. God pls purge Nigeria of such wickedness
Oh dear, i am sorry for this horrifying experience, Sis. Our Parish priest also staged a whole fundraising launching on my mother's funeral mass on top of her casket, which is extremely distasteful and disrespectful. The Parish priest staged that launching in front of two bishops who were present in the church to conduct the funeral mass 🙄🙄 The mass was so long that some guests left from the church. So, on my dad's funeral.we decided to conduct the mass in our compound. No way, we were going to let them use our dad's influence and good name to ramp up millions for themselves. The priest was mad (furious) at my family the moment he realized we ain't bringing daddy to his money bidding table. He did everything to frustrate our plan by using some influential wealthy folks to armtwist us. At some point, we couldn't take the pressure anymore, and we took the matter to the Catholic Diocese of Awka, where both Chimamanda family and ours belong to. We're from neighboring towns. The Bishop ruled that we were within our rights to decide the location of our dad's funeral mass. Going to the church house isn't mandatory,.it's optional. And it's not like this Parish priest was conducting the mass himself. We've three bishops booked, Bishop Eze-Okafor, Bishop S Amatu and Bishop Peter Okpaleke. We were thankful the three were present to give my dad a befitting funeral mass. It's no Brainer. This is their modus operandi. I am surprised they extend it to Ngozi Adichie, who have the platform and capability to write them up to the pope.
I love you so much ma'am. We feel you so much. You are so positive strong woman. So sorry for the incident. Religion is sick sometimes.Getting peace, comfort from the church is an old beliefs now.Peace we can give only our self.The way you put your perception is so clear and Modern..You spoke the truth about the corruption of the church. You are an inspiration ma'am. LOVE FROM INDIA
A really interesting talk, Chimamanda is wise and authentic, thanks for sharing some of your grief with us, my mother died in 2020 and I can really relate to your words
So sorry hearing this from you ..you handled the situation very well ..yes your spoken words that the priest failed terribly is indeed very true ...there is an element of jealousy involved...hope you and your family have healed from this situation ..and may the soul of your beautiful and graceful mother continue to rest in perfect peace....Amen🙏🙏🙏
About years ago this was exactly what I discussed with my senior cousin who is a professor, that in our society today, mainly in IGBO land that it is disturbing how burial ceremony has become so expensive to the point that the living has to sell their landed property in order to bury their dead. That's not acceptable.
Sorry for your loss Chimamanda and sorry for what you went through with that awful man hiding behind a cloak! May your mom's soul rest in eternal peace.
Thank God for your honest frankness. You are an inspiration to many of us, dear Chimamanda. Good enough, The Holy Spirit is there to comfort you and family. Take heart!!!
Heartfelt Condolences our greatest hero Chimamanda You are far greatest than that priest whose jelousy took him to the highest level of self-humiliation. Forgive him and even pray for him cz he is weak
I believe in your truthfulness and sense of Justice! Many would not agree with you but remember, things will not remain the same after your experience at the parish! The "Christopher Eze?" priest is trending for a reason best known to him. Courage Our Queen!
This must be really heartbreaking for the family after their mother had devoted her whole life to the church only to be treated this way on her last day in the church.
Oooh this is Sooo painful! It was same nonsense a Catholic priest wanted to do to us when we were about to bury my dad, we boycotted all of them and went to another church....so sorry you and your family had to experience such meanness! That priest should be ashamed of himself!
Your name is Blessing. Forgive that priest. Simple!He has deeply engraved problems which your justified anger can't relieve him of. As for the church, chip what you can off they old block and let time take its toll on it (church). You are not just blessed, but a blessing and an inspiration 360°
So sorry about this Chimaamanda. May your mum’s soul continue to rest in peace and I pray the God of comfort will comfort you and your siblings in Jesus name. Amen 🙏
Very disheartening experience, reminiscent of Sade Adu's father's burial in Ekiti that turned her off never to claim Nigeria. Sometimes our clergymen don't act matured or disciplined on the pulpit!!!
Thank you for bringing this up. The singer, Sade Adu's experience during the burial of her Nigerian father in Ikere Ekiti was harrowing. We really need to do better.
Your parents must be proud of you and look forward to meeting you again. May you find comfort knowing your loved ones are there for you during this difficult time of grief.
Chimamanda my advise to you is that take your time to mourn your mum cos i still do after 5years i also had a similar experience 5years ago when my mother passed away with the Anglican church during her funeral,though my mum has always paid all her dues what they were suppose to do as a church for a member who has perpetually paid all her dues they didn't do it ,instead they started demanding for more and more money when we were mourning and have spent so much for our mummy burial,I can recall that my mum told us about the fact that if a church member don't pay his or her dues the Anglican church will not come to their funeral so after her death I saw that the church is just all about the money and lack compassion infact I still think about all that happened that day till date because they did worst than I have explained so far in my message here stay bless and be comforted for your both lost.
You are so right. The priest failed in his duty. He failed to comfort you and your family in that moment of grief. He is and was only after money. That priest have allowed his soul to be taken away by money
About the consequences. That’s another issue that the church never works on. They make the priests feel like they are gods. The only shield to hide under is to assume that they are all humans.
In recent times I had to reconsider the portion of the beatitudes you shared. I used to memorise that portion of scripture like a rhyme but dealing with grief in recent times I have to appreciate that scripture all over again. What is blessed about mourning 😪. Thanks Chiamanda for sharing and talking about what we do not talk about.
That priest must be a very crass, ill-mannered man moonlighting as a priest. Adding that he'd also written books and gone to America wreaks of jealousy. How small. I'm so sorry to read a lot of sad experiences on here. I hope this is the beginning of some checks and balances for our Nigerian RCC clergy in that regard. I am RCC too, so I want that change. Many priests have clearly lost the plot - compassion, love, not money and rudeness. Otito dili Jesu.
What an awful experience! Sorry that you had to go through it. This is a priest in competition with Chimamanda. He's lost, he needs Jesus: what would Jesus do?
My sis. Saying sorry is fast becoming a taboo for both the young and the old in the African community. In the middle of grief , the person who should support you is the one that increased your pain.God please help the Africans.
Hi, I love your content. Please Narrate the Don Waney story. Don Waney was a militant that made alot of money. But when the vigilante group of his community raided his mansion and took his mom. He decided to commit the infamous New Years eve massacre that killed plenty civilians returning from church.
So sorry this happened to you and others. I am not a catholic but if the Bishop fails what about the Archbishop? That Priest is envious, full of hate, and probably misogynistic.
I’m so sorry for your experience with the priest, this is a direct message to people that go to these churches, is all about money. I was born and raised in the Catholic Church, But I left years ago, never entered any church till date. Thank you for speaking about it , it’s about time to wake people up.
forgiveness. That's what is needed here, all ways, God bless you Ngozi! God bless you and keep your family comforted by the loving memories of your parents
That is so wrong!. I am sorry for your loss Chimamanda, but also I am sorry for the events that took place at your mum's funeral. May God continue to heal and comfort you.
Nne, Mummy left us 2019, my older brother 2020 and my Dad 2021. Just like you, I am not strong in the face of grief. These foreign religions brought to us by the d3vils of colonialism and slavery, have really messed us up as a people. I miss my people everyday, I think of Mum, Dad and big bro every single day.
Sad to hear, this is not on and unbelievable and unspeakable. May God help some of this sold out pastors. I am glad you spoke out Chimammda. May God give you the comfort you very much needed to over come. May your parents souls rest in peace.
She's so organically beautiful and intelligent
She fought to keep the tears back as she talked about the priest's harsh words.
Thank you so much for being the voice of the silenced! I also like the host very much!
In this video, you can see that Chimamanda wore her emotions out for us to see. She was so vulnerable and I appreciate it. Thanks, Chimamanda, for sharing your emotions with us.
She isn't always so vulnerable
I’m in tears watching this. Tight hugs Chimamanda
Chimamanda just exposed what happens in most churches, not the Catholic church alone. I had similar experience when I was about to be wedded in 2014. I was born into a Methodist family, fulfilled all the requirements of the church ( baptism, confirmation and all). You know what happens when you move to a place where your denomination (in this context "church") is not nearby, and you have to join another church. That was my case, so at the time I was about getting married (to a Catholic faithful) there were requirements that my local church had to meet for me to be wedded in the Catholic church. Unfortunately the minister in charge of my local church (one Rev. Onuoha) refused providing those requirements just because I don't come to make donations in the church. It took the intervention of the elders in my church who knew how committed I was in the church back then, to get him to do the needful.
Most Clerics go above and beyond their "calling" to humiliate people just because they opportune to wear cassocks.
Impressive from the interviewer. I don't think I've watched a more competent, insightful Nigerian interview. As for the Nigerian church - not just the Catholic - they all need help. Unfit for purpose doesn't even come close to doing them justice.
What an amazing and beautiful African soul. When I get a daughter, I will make sure she has read all your books when she is 20. Inshallah
Fourteen years after my mum's death, and I still cry in my sleep after dreaming about her. The other day, I heard a song she sang to us when we were little, and I woke up bawling my eyes out. I don't think we ever forget our loved ones after their passing; we shove our emotions to one corner until the need comes for us to face it, then we become piles of sawdust.
Do we ever really come to terms with grief? How does one deal with grief?
So sorry for your pain. I think you answered the question you asked. We never forget our loved ones after their passing... when the event plays back in our minds, it's good to face the grieve and not shove it off. Let your heart cry. It's God's way of bringing healing to our soul and keep our body healthy. Bless you.
@F O thanks for the observation,
And i will summarize it in a word: TIME.
Don't suppress it, ventilate it, and allow time to continue to act on the process.
I just lost my younger sister less than a week today,my father less than a year ago and my immediate elder sister husband died second week of January this year,most night I cried myself to sleep
My condolences. Truth is you never actually move on but you move with the lost ones in life.
@@fodogbo excellent thoughts you shared there. I shoved off my grief not intentionally though is because I was too young to understand. When we're broken then we begin to be healed.
A good interviewer. Good to hear Chimamanda delve into the soul of Nigeria. Pastors in Nigeria are blinkered by their assumed divine appointments.
It is difficult not to have them here physically. But spiritually they are still present.
Some priests are becoming Lord of manors especially those in the villages.
This is so emotional and sincere. I pray for strength for her.
That's how this clergy came and be swearing for us in the name of preaching at the funeral of my beloved. He was like "if the people left behind do not hold God close they'll still leave like this as well" I was enraged. I spoke out. Those around heard me "Don't swear for us!" I demanded "All we say is preach at this funeral not come and swear for us"
It could be so mean, seeing how much devastated we were, he was lucky he changed the topic I wouldn't have mind ruining that preaching session. Don't fucking swear for us, preach and get out let's bury our dead!
I know exactly how you feel, I was 13yrs old when my father died, two months after I lost my mother same year, as a 13yrs old child I was so devastated and felt lost, now age 63yrs old I still feel lost. Those days, they were no form of counselling as an African British to help me through the lost of my parents. I noticed as I grew older the death of my parents affected me so much everything were brushed under the carpet and not spoken about as if it didn't happen... This is so interesting to hear how you are dealing with your Grief..Thanks for sharing this interview...
Sending lots of good thoughts your way.
Bless your soul... wish you real healing.
I wish you strength and healing.
Sending you love and hugs...you are not alone!
Thanks
I'm I the only one that feels, this video is too good to be this short ?
I Swearrrrrrrrrr.. It shouldn't be this short!!!
I'm ashamed to say the least as regards the church's attitude on this solemn occasion. Chimamanda I admire your courage for speaking up...I encourage you not to give up on attending church services,its always a house of God. I don't want to judge the priest,let him search his conscience. Take heart over the demise of your dear parents. Grief is so real,we can't pretend about it. I am battling with mine,since the demise of my loving mother three years ago. I like the way you are handling all of these issues. Better discussed than bottled up, while things keep happening without improvement.
Beautiful princess, so sorry for your loss and that cheap publicity of that priest. It’s painful can’t even imagine. Actually I can identify with you on grief and how dear loved ones death changes us and gives us different perspective in life. I’m sure you’re aware that going to church is just a formality and that the presence of God had left the church long ago. After 25 years I still grief my mother and recently 21/2 years my dear brother’s death broke the core of my being. Never the same and don’t think I would. We never stop grieving rather we manage to live with it. We’ve our roller coaster moments and it’s also okay. May you and your siblings be comforted.
I love love Chimamanda not just as a public figure but also as a human being. I tried watching this when it was uploaded but I could, was sobbing so hard, I just finished today. A year later.
Now imagine how this family has been dealing with all this😢. Sace the extreme grief of losing 2 parents a second apart!
My biggest question however,I am Catholic, is this the corruption witnessed in churches. Any Kenyans here? Ever had incidences like these?
Because this is abhorrent, this is unforgivable! I remember my church in Kenya actually performs funerals for people who have no families, those left in morgues.
Kenyan Catholics are you here?
My God.
From her interviews & talks it's obvious Chimamanda isn't someone unreasonable & would say anything out of malice. To see her family go through this at such a sad time is heartbreaking
May God comfort you and your siblings dear Chimamanda. We all love you in my family; especially my wonderful psychologist daughter! I am so sorry that you have to go through all these; but I am glad you have the platform to talk about it to relieve yourself and also to help others who cannot afford the same platform as you do. My siblings and I went through the same treatment when my father sadly passed away in my home town of Fugar in February 2021. The Catholic priests refused to conduct a mass for my father who had been a staunch catholic all the 98 years he lived simply because we refused to provide their unreasonable demand of a cow, cooking separately for the whole congregation, paying a huge sum of money to the priests and their assistants ... the list goes on.
We are so proud of you and what you have achieved! Your achievement has robbed off on me, my children, Nigeria and Africa as a whole. Whenever we travel outside of Nigeria and we tell people we are from Nigeria, the first thing most of them say to us is "do you know Chimamanda?"
Once again, may the Lord comfort you and be with you and your family as you mourn your wonderful parents
I am proud of people like chimamanda who can resonate with others in matters like this. most times the less privileged suffer this pain in silence and feel detached from society just because some ''so-called leaders feel or think they are not deserving. May the good lord comfort anyone in grief and raise more like Chimamanda to speak up for change.Bulling has become a norm in our society for far too long.
Thank you so much for always speaking up in the face of opposition. Your parentsxwill always be proud of you. I have lost both parents and I know the hurt that it never goes away be cause events constantly remind you of their absence. May the Lord comfort you and your siblings. Continue to look up to christ alone as our Rolemodel. Some of these might isters have taken on the job not because they have a calling from God but just because they want to please their parents and they are more worldly than the world in their attitudes. Always remember that people cannot give what they do not have no matter how hard they tried. If one is lacking in mercy and compassion, that one cannot give it. God bless you sweetheart for representing the oppressed.
The Catholic churches in eastern Nigeria🇳🇬 have been doing this for a very long time without consequences. Many families haven't been able to do the final burial of their loved ones because their family members who died owned or missed membership levy of #50.00 (fifty naira, only. What a shame. Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche, please accept my condolences and apologies for the despicable act of disrespecting Mama by the reverend father.
Am of the opinion that Chimamanda do not grant very personal interviews like this one. I prefer a kind of 3rd party sense to the notes on grief and any other. This is because they remove the mystery and vagueness of those we reverence. Some of her antagonist would presume she feels larger than life.
Afterall it was such very personal interview with Ebuka that informed the aberration in her mums funeral Mass.
Personal opinion tho'♡
One cannot totally avoid the discomfort and invasion that follows fame most times but we certainly can chose what to accept.
And you still believe in the church?
I love Chimamanda’s way to express what she thinks even if it is in an environment such as church and, what is more shocking, in the middle of the funeral of her mother. I admire her determination to respond to cruel accusations. I am sorry this happened to you and your family in a moment so painful like burying your mother. It is very sad to know things like this happen in the world. My condolences to you.
It is quite sad, painful and heartbreaking to see all these "priests" adding to the pains of people that are mourning their loved ones. My uncle died last April and was buried in June. He was a Catechist (An assistant "priest") and served for over 3 decades. While planning his funeral, we were given a list of what the church needs and was asked to pick one. We were made to pay all sorts of levies. We had to pay some money to the choir for them to sing during the funeral. This was a man who dedicated his life to the growth of the Catholic church in the town and he was also instrumental to the creation of other outstations under the parish. Instead of actually supporting the burial, extortion was the case. If they can do that to a Catechist, what then is the fate of ordinary church members. The Catholic church and other orthodox churches really have to do something about it. Funeral is a time of grief and the people mourning should be comforted, not adding to their grief.
A catechist is not an assistant priest.
@@annabelenu1964 I know that hence the use of quotation marks. Literarily, It is the easiest way of explaining how important the role of a Catechist is to a non-catholic. Someone, who stands in for a priest and conducts masses is literarily an "Assistant" priest
@@anselmnsolo312 Alright sir. I get it 🤝
Cruel and weak priest
The then priest of my village in Imo State refused to bury my mother because my parents were not based in the East and had not paid all their levies. Note this, I was training to be a priest myself. I could not believe it; not because the priest had no justification to refuse our request, but because I was wondering what happened to compassion and the norm of the Code that says "we must bury" whoever demands it - whether he is Catholic or not. We spent three hours on our knees. In the end, he sent his catechist to conduct a service. We agreed because it was not our jurisdiction hence we could not do it ourselves. However, before the commencement of the service, one of my Professors Fr Reginald Nnamdi walked in from Ibadan and he decided to conduct the service. So my mother was buried by a priest and not a catechist. Some priests in the East do not perceive hence understand the Spirit behind the Code.
You need to pay what others have been paying to keep the church going
@@ejionyemchikwado9262 it is written nowhere in the Code. Even if, then ask for a donation instead.
@@IGBOYORUBAHausaNaijaIGBO7 am not talking about the code but the reality on ground, people have been paying all kinds of money to keep that church going,people from both home and abroad but your family didn't contribute and you want to benefit from the labour of others
Church is Just a business, And that is part of why you find so much branches of so call church, all base on the same one bible that have us hustling over it, something that make no sense, and the most complicated book on this planet, Little did all of us Black people know that, that book was design to drive fare into us and to have us subdued as a lower being and have us believe that we're lesser than them, That is what them led to having so much more dominion over us on our own Land until this day, and left us with this piece of complicated puzzle and Garbage call[ BIBLE ] To keep us divided and distracted from our Goals on purpose until next never
@@ejionyemchikwado9262 nothing like Labour of others. The church is not there to rip off people. It is there to serve the people. Due or no due, go and bury the dead
I so much love you AMANDA, I cannot decribe. I have followed a lot of your programmes over the years to know how you speak of your parents IN MYSTICAL TERMS, WITH THE MOST DISARMING SMILE and soft laughter ANYONE CAN MUSTER, and now for this PRIEST FROM ABBA, to speak from the PITS OF HAIL, I grieve. In this interview I saw the moist and redness of the white of your eyes, and that tells us how deep this Roman Catholic Priest DUG HIS AXE in your PURE SOUL. I say don't worry, we bear this pain with you, but his pain is greater as your dear mum is in the bossom of her maker, shinning like a star.
I lost my mom last year January 30, the pain is so deep some days. So I understand
OMG! Chichi my deepest condolences for the lost of your most valuable person in life. I am so so very sorry for such an ugly behaviour of the priest. When I was growing up in the 80s in Africa my family were very faithful Catholics too. I lost my mum 1982 on a Sunday morning, she did her normal duties too- travelled to the capital city on Wed to get goods, came back home on Friday, sold her goods on Saturday and died on Sunday. The community was in shocked, most of the people did not even believed it. Losing a mum in your teens is very heart breaking😭, but our kind hearted father and older siblings took good care of us. I pray that God Almighty( 3in1) grant you all inner peace, emotional healing and comfort. Keeping you in my prayers. RIPP OUR SWEET MOTHER 😭😭😭
My heart breaks for her💔
We can feel emotion on her voice. It was really a disheartening experience.
I think it's high time to remember priests that they are meant to serve not to become tyrans.
I couldn't help but feel anger and pain build up regarding what happened to chimamanda's family. I've lost my mom and the pain is immeasurable already. Having that sort experience added on top would take such an unbearable toll on my emotions. I can't stand for this.
Really sad how someone that you expect to get compassion from is anything but. Amazed at how she handled it.
She just lost her parents? Our hearts go out to you
Very heartbreaking account of events. May God comfort you and your family.
Her parents were such a force 😭 and I can relate. Grieving is not easy especially in Africa where we are told to move on and be strong. There really is no moving on but rather just dealing with the absence a day at a time.
I remember how well known my parents were in our community but when the died, very few reached out so I felt I grieved alone. I cope with their absence by doing things in their honor and remembering them with my siblings by the nice things they would do or say. Almost two decades passed and their void is still felt in our family. As for the church, I was raised Anglican but no longer because the did nothing for my dad when my mum died 💔 and my parents were very active in supporting fundraising ventures. I did not marry in their church nor do I look forward to going back. I feel for Chimamanda it sounds awful what that man did. Sounds like he was jealous of her and her family. I think i would not blame her and her family for breaking ties with her church denomination.
Chimamanda courage is vulnerability which most of us fear due to criticism. Grief is displayed in different ways by each individual: some display silence, anger, excessing crying but they are all natural reactions which one has to go through to heal. I lost my brother in 2020 and I think about him daily and I cry, I look at his picture and I say I miss you brother. Sometimes the thought of him pops in my head and I'm saying to myself "I need to call him, and then I catch myself." We never forget our loved ones that has gone on before us. I look at my grandmother's picture and say I remember all the parable you taught me. May the Almighty grant you healing mercies. You are a wise and brave woman, long live Africa.
Deepest condolences, for your loss, dear Chimamanda. You speak on grief wisely, so deeply. Thank you and may God comfort you.
So sorry about your experience. I lost my parents as a toddler, so I did not really feel the pain until later. But, I have heard my cousins have the same experience with a parish priest in my village, regarding the disregard and respect for for the dead.
I most say that not all Catholic priest are so inconsiderate as the one your home parish and that of my cousins, and thanks so mentioning a few of such.
I do think such priests have personal issues and the church needs to address such individual priest. May you and your family find consultation in Christ, may the Almighty grant all the fortitude to bear the loss and may souls of your beloved parents rest in peace 🙏
A Renaissance woman ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I appreciate her beauty,her level of intellect and grace!
Great interview. Nwa James I agree totally with you. Your experience with your parish priest unrepentant highhandedness at your dear mum's post funeral thanksgiving at your village church brings to mind an evergreen line in Geoffrey Chaucer's "The Pardoner's Tale" in that play regrettably chronicling malfeasance by a "man of God" the pungent question was posed : "if Gold rusts what will Iron do? In the present day I have posed the same question to men of God who appear to have missed their calling; they have not been able to give me any satisfactory response! In a similar vein our Lord Jesus in Biblical times whilst upending tables of money changers, and merchants in the Temple admonished them viz:"my father's house shall be known as a house of prayer amongst nations, but you have turned it into a den of thieves and robbers"! Blistering indictment! Question: from Biblical times through times of Geoffrey Chaucer to modern days what if anything has changed? I concede, as you did, in your interview that there are some glittering Diamonds in the Priesthood. Sadly more than our fair share of the priesthood are are in no way gems, they are no way near glittering! Chaucer's Iron rusting metaphor is very apposite to them. My sister, Nwa James (my Professor) na great please be consoled in your grief. The rest of us have not lost our humanity
We stand shoulder to shoulder with you, and your family.
So bad. This happens in almost ALL the Catholic Churches in south Eastern Nigeria
Nigerians need to embrace emotion more. As a society, emotions are discouraged and its affecting lives in numerous ways (ie lack of compassion, ineptitude, unaddressed rage). Mental health is equally as important as physical health. I can only imagine how traumatised retelling of the story was for her. The interviewer didn't have to be so intrusive. Religious fanaticism is widespread across the country.
Women are already emotional. That's good enough.
Huyu mrembo Chimamanda ni mwanamajumui kamili wa Afrika. Nampenda sana katika shughuli zake za uharakati kwa niaba ya nchi za Afrika. Mungu ambariki na ibariki Afrika. Pamoja milele daima. "Use Kiswahili translator in case you don't understand Swahili."
This account by Chimamanda clearly resonates with me and a whole lot others. Things really has got to change in the mannerism of Catholic priests who preside over the burial of people particularly in the village. That opportunity is used to torment grieving families perceived to be well off and have not given so much materially to the church. It's seen always as pay back time. Clearly defeating the whole essence of Christianity and compassion.
It’s past time to let that oppressive church and religion to die and return to Igbo tradition. What a disgrace!
Taxing the dead is a very common practice in the Catholic Church in southeast as if that is what will lead the dead person to heaven. Thank you for highlighting it. It’s been going on for a long time and it needs to stop. Am not sure how they have managed to separate compassion from Christianity. Even in Rome, this does not happen so how come it’s allowed to happen in Nigeria- southeast to be specific. Greed, envy and jealousy is the order of the day. The priest obviously messed with the wrong person. Hopefully things can start to change.
I don't know why people wait for burials to deal with people who are grieving...that's the highest level of meanness. It seems like people pray for others to fall into grief so that they can mock them but they forget that everyone will die one day and face judgment. God pls purge Nigeria of such wickedness
Oh dear, i am sorry for this horrifying experience, Sis. Our Parish priest also staged a whole fundraising launching on my mother's funeral mass on top of her casket, which is extremely distasteful and disrespectful.
The Parish priest staged that launching in front of two bishops who were present in the church to conduct the funeral mass 🙄🙄 The mass was so long that some guests left from the church.
So, on my dad's funeral.we decided to conduct the mass in our compound. No way, we were going to let them use our dad's influence and good name to ramp up millions for themselves. The priest was mad (furious) at my family the moment he realized we ain't bringing daddy to his money bidding table.
He did everything to frustrate our plan by using some influential wealthy folks to armtwist us. At some point, we couldn't take the pressure anymore, and we took the matter to the Catholic Diocese of Awka, where both Chimamanda family and ours belong to. We're from neighboring towns.
The Bishop ruled that we were within our rights to decide the location of our dad's funeral mass. Going to the church house isn't mandatory,.it's optional.
And it's not like this Parish priest was conducting the mass himself. We've three bishops booked, Bishop Eze-Okafor, Bishop S Amatu and Bishop Peter Okpaleke. We were thankful the three were present to give my dad a befitting funeral mass.
It's no Brainer. This is their modus operandi. I am surprised they extend it to Ngozi Adichie, who have the platform and capability to write them up to the pope.
Love and respect to Chimamanda from Pakistan
This was alot to handle and she’s handling it well
I love you so much ma'am.
We feel you so much.
You are so positive strong woman.
So sorry for the incident.
Religion is sick sometimes.Getting peace, comfort from the church is an old beliefs now.Peace we can give only our self.The way you put your perception is so clear and Modern..You spoke the truth about the corruption of the church.
You are an inspiration ma'am. LOVE FROM INDIA
This is unspeakable, so sad. May God comfort you. And may your parent souls rest in peace.🙏
Oh my God something like this happened to us when my father passed away so so sad I. So sorry my lovely sister.
In instagram she mentioned I today's post encouraging people with such experiences to post. I request you to see the post and raise the awareness.
A really interesting talk, Chimamanda is wise and authentic, thanks for sharing some of your grief with us, my mother died in 2020 and I can really relate to your words
It's been 19 yrs since my mom passing, it feels the same like yesterday.
So sorry hearing this from you ..you handled the situation very well ..yes your spoken words that the priest failed terribly is indeed very true ...there is an element of jealousy involved...hope you and your family have healed from this situation ..and may the soul of your beautiful and graceful mother continue to rest in perfect peace....Amen🙏🙏🙏
I love this lady so much... So wise and intelligent
May the good Lord Bless you for speaking the truth.
Thanks for being the voice of those who are voiceless. My condolences to you and your family. May your parents rest in peace.
About years ago this was exactly what I discussed with my senior cousin who is a professor, that in our society today, mainly in IGBO land that it is disturbing how burial ceremony has become so expensive to the point that the living has to sell their landed property in order to bury their dead. That's not acceptable.
This haa just brought tears and a heavy heart to my soul... rest well mama and papa
This is so true i have personally recently gone through such insensitivity from a Pastor.
Sorry for your loss Chimamanda and sorry for what you went through with that awful man hiding behind a cloak! May your mom's soul rest in eternal peace.
Unimaginable Yet True! Compassion & Morality have become "scarce commodities", especially in Nigeria.
Thank God for your honest frankness. You are an inspiration to many of us, dear Chimamanda. Good enough, The Holy Spirit is there to comfort you and family. Take heart!!!
Excellent interview. Excellent interviewer. I have been getting worried sick about most of these half-baked English speaking Nigerian TV presenters
Offence must come, but blessed is he that cannot be offended because of me.
Heartfelt Condolences our greatest hero Chimamanda
You are far greatest than that priest whose jelousy took him to the highest level of self-humiliation.
Forgive him and even pray for him cz he is weak
I believe in your truthfulness and sense of Justice! Many would not agree with you but remember, things will not remain the same after your experience at the parish! The "Christopher Eze?" priest is trending for a reason best known to him. Courage Our Queen!
Awful experience at her mum’s burial, but I’m happy CNA is finding grace to address this and embrace forgiveness. Awful! We need to do better.
I am happy you are talking about this, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. A lot have been going on in the Catholic Church.
We can do better. 💪🏼
This must be really heartbreaking for the family after their mother had devoted her whole life to the church only to be treated this way on her last day in the church.
Oooh this is Sooo painful! It was same nonsense a Catholic priest wanted to do to us when we were about to bury my dad, we boycotted all of them and went to another church....so sorry you and your family had to experience such meanness! That priest should be ashamed of himself!
Your name is Blessing. Forgive that priest. Simple!He has deeply engraved problems which your justified anger can't relieve him of. As for the church, chip what you can off they old block and let time take its toll on it (church). You are not just blessed, but a blessing and an inspiration 360°
So sorry about this Chimaamanda. May your mum’s soul continue to rest in peace and I pray the God of comfort will comfort you and your siblings in Jesus name. Amen 🙏
Very disheartening experience, reminiscent of Sade Adu's father's burial in Ekiti that turned her off never to claim Nigeria. Sometimes our clergymen don't act matured or disciplined on the pulpit!!!
Thank you for bringing this up. The singer, Sade Adu's experience during the burial of her Nigerian father in Ikere Ekiti was harrowing. We really need to do better.
Really? First time am hearing about this. Horrible people.
Your parents must be proud of you and look forward to meeting you again. May you find comfort knowing your loved ones are there for you during this difficult time of grief.
Chimamanda my advise to you is that take your time to mourn your mum cos i still do after 5years i also had a similar experience 5years ago when my mother passed away with the Anglican church during her funeral,though my mum has always paid all her dues what they were suppose to do as a church for a member who has perpetually paid all her dues they didn't do it ,instead they started demanding for more and more money when we were mourning and have spent so much for our mummy burial,I can recall that my mum told us about the fact that if a church member don't pay his or her dues the Anglican church will not come to their funeral so after her death I saw that the church is just all about the money and lack compassion infact I still think about all that happened that day till date because they did worst than I have explained so far in my message here stay bless and be comforted for your both lost.
Ada di ora nma, I hail you. You’re an inspiration to many.
You are so right. The priest failed in his duty. He failed to comfort you and your family in that moment of grief. He is and was only after money. That priest have allowed his soul to be taken away by money
Such a wonderful interview. Thank you Chimamanda for sharing of who you are to the world. May this be a start to righting such wrongs.
I feel so sorry about the way the priest behaved. May God save the church. Most of our priests really need revamping.
About the consequences. That’s another issue that the church never works on. They make the priests feel like they are gods. The only shield to hide under is to assume that they are all humans.
I’m very glad you are soaking out about this. So many people keep suffering in silence.
In recent times I had to reconsider the portion of the beatitudes you shared. I used to memorise that portion of scripture like a rhyme but dealing with grief in recent times I have to appreciate that scripture all over again. What is blessed about mourning 😪. Thanks Chiamanda for sharing and talking about what we do not talk about.
That priest must be a very crass, ill-mannered man moonlighting as a priest. Adding that he'd also written books and gone to America wreaks of jealousy. How small.
I'm so sorry to read a lot of sad experiences on here. I hope this is the beginning of some checks and balances for our Nigerian RCC clergy in that regard. I am RCC too, so I want that change. Many priests have clearly lost the plot - compassion, love, not money and rudeness. Otito dili Jesu.
So heartbreaking.
What an awful experience! Sorry that you had to go through it. This is a priest in competition with Chimamanda. He's lost, he needs Jesus: what would Jesus do?
My sis. Saying sorry is fast becoming a taboo for both the young and the old in the African community. In the middle of grief , the person who should support you is the one that increased your pain.God please help the Africans.
Hi, I love your content. Please Narrate the Don Waney story. Don Waney was a militant that made alot of money. But when the vigilante group of his community raided his mansion and took his mom. He decided to commit the infamous New Years eve massacre that killed plenty civilians returning from church.
So sorry this happened to you and others. I am not a catholic but if the Bishop fails what about the Archbishop? That Priest is envious, full of hate, and probably misogynistic.
I am so so sorry.
I’m so sorry for your experience with the priest, this is a direct message to people that go to these churches, is all about money. I was born and raised in the Catholic Church, But I left years ago, never entered any church till date. Thank you for speaking about it , it’s about time to wake people up.
forgiveness. That's what is needed here, all ways, God bless you Ngozi! God bless you and keep your family comforted by the loving memories of your parents
Hurt me to see you hurt. May God console you. Very soon you will talk about this and it wont hurt no more Love u always
That is so wrong!. I am sorry for your loss Chimamanda, but also I am sorry for the events that took place at your mum's funeral. May God continue to heal and comfort you.
She's so gorgeous 😍
I just love her everyday
This is why I have gone back to my Yoruba Culture and my spiritual practice where it's me and my Orishas.
Nne, Mummy left us 2019, my older brother 2020 and my Dad 2021.
Just like you, I am not strong in the face of grief.
These foreign religions brought to us by the d3vils of colonialism and slavery, have really messed us up as a people.
I miss my people everyday, I think of Mum, Dad and big bro every single day.
So sad. But I salute your strength.
Sad to hear, this is not on and unbelievable and unspeakable. May God help some of this sold out pastors. I am glad you spoke out Chimammda. May God give you the comfort you very much needed to over come. May your parents souls rest in peace.