I had a conversation on FB. A woman said she wanted her future husband to take her name. She said that a woman shouldn't have to take the man's name. I asked her. Is your madien name your mom's or dad's? She said her dad's. I then asked her why she didn't change her maiden name since it came from her dad a man. She got mad and blocked me lol
@@rogueshark23 who knows. I don't have a woman in my life to tell me what makes her happy or mad and how I have to change who I am to comply so I can accommodate and satisfy her. No thanks I value my peace and quiet and silence which is golden way too much.
The bigger issue than 'name' was that she was on 'my way or the highway route' She was changing the terms of their relationship, mid-way, with no scope for negotiation. Gary immediately sensed that this is going to be the rest of his life. And understandably decided to not go through with the marriage. There was no negotiating any further. Even if she agreed with him for now, she may later change the terms 5/10 years into the future. And it's better to walk away now, instead of paying a lifetime of alimony and child support.
She can do that by getting a donor and raise her children on her own. She believed her position transferred to the home..she believed she had more value, that she was better than him. She could be happy or be right..she chose to be right.
Kelly didn't want a marriage, she wanted a business partnership. Gary saw through her, left and found a woman who wanted a marriage and a family. Gary - 1, Kelly - 0.
no she didnt want a partership, parternship is equality, and she wanted total control look at the rules for marriage of antiquity: marriage has always been a business partnership it is in modern times that we stopped treating it as such, and why we see soo much failure these days
She can keep her name and feminist crap and stay single 😂😂😂😂 Dude gets to walk away with his dignity and self respect, with his head held high. Win Win for everyone. 😂😂😂
Naw the cats would knock over her designer antiques (knicknacks) and get fur all over her designer clothes so a bird is more likely until her behavior leads it to starve itself to death to avoid her
I known men who have taken the wifes last name, Because his family was toxic. But you should talk to your partner not telling them what to do. If they want eaual rights then they can do the hard jobs like men do,
I had a 2 professors in college who were married; and the wife had lots of publications before marriage and even at the university she had a higher ranking position. on paperwork, his last name was his and hers was hypenated of theirs, their kids had his, and when she introduced herself she used his
Funny thing is, even the mother's maiden name comes from HER father, & HER mother's maiden name is from HER father. The only way to really "break the mold," as she seems to want would be to change BOTH of their surnames to something COMPLETELY different. Either putting both together with a hyphen - her name first for her, his for him (Addison-x & x-Addison) - coming up with something COMPLETELY different that doesn't have ANYTHING to do with either surname, or make it a blend of both surnames. Say Gary's surname is Eddington. The married name could be something like Addington.
In Iceland they normally follow a patronymic naming system, where the child’s surname is based on the father’s first name and a suffix of “-son” is added to the name. For females the suffix "-dóttir" is added to the father’s first name; Paul Johnson, son of John or Mary Johndóttir, daughter of John. The parents can also follow the mother’s first name and have the son follow the father’s first name and the daughter follow the mother’s first name. Iceland has a book called Slendingabók listing all of Iceland’s family lineage before people can marry, so you don’t commit incest by marrying a relative.
Same in Russia, I'm Fedotov means son of Feodoth(popular name of orthodoxal priests) Fedotova means daughter of ...... , I think I got the point)😂 That why marvels black widow isn't accurate she should be Natalia Romanova
@@romanfedotov1152 Yes, other cultures followed these customs for generations. The Welsh surnames in the UK had Celtic origins and used their father’s first name. Jones means “son of John”; Davies “son of David”; Evans for “son of Evan”.
Interesting story (and subject), but what's the deal with certain phrases being used throughout these stories: "...the humming of the fridge..." "...barely above a whisper..." It's like they're all part of the same writer's group, agreeing on what phrases they will make sure to include in their stories. And sorry, but the narrator's voice is too monotonous. He doesn't emphasize correctly on the right words, takes away from the emotional moments. Female narrator does better job.
@@blacksunday4231 Still, they're going to have to dump some of the names sometime or the great-grandchildren will end up with eight last names. Imagine the business-cards they'd need to carry with them.
This is a complex and deeply personal issue that can vary greatly depending on cultural, familial, and individual beliefs. While it's important to respect your fiancée's preferences, it's equally crucial for both partners to have open and honest communication about their expectations and boundaries. Marriage is a partnership built on mutual understanding and compromise, and decisions like this should ideally strengthen the bond, not create division. I hope both of you find clarity and peace, whether together or apart. Respect and empathy are key in any relationship.
Right in the beginning he is already taking for granted that she takes his surname because it's "tradition" and because his identity would be lost while obviously not sparing a thought about her feelings on the matter or any thought about her identity. That is shown by his initial response which is quite condecending and dismissive. His suggestion that each keeps their name only comes after she openee the argument. Ironically the moral of the story clearly has nothing to do with names. It's simply: woman should not make careers and should submit to their husbands. You know, like in the nostalgic view nany have of the 1950s.
I had a conversation on FB. A woman said she wanted her future husband to take her name. She said that a woman shouldn't have to take the man's name. I asked her. Is your madien name your mom's or dad's? She said her dad's. I then asked her why she didn't change her maiden name since it came from her dad a man. She got mad and blocked me lol
It's all control that they can't have and that's what sets them off.
Hahaha isn't that the pot calling the kettle black.
They don't think
My brothers wife didn't changed her surname because she had to change every documents
@@rogueshark23 who knows. I don't have a woman in my life to tell me what makes her happy or mad and how I have to change who I am to comply so I can accommodate and satisfy her. No thanks I value my peace and quiet and silence which is golden way too much.
A happy ending.
Gary realized he was marrying 4 generations of Addison women and walked away.
And indirectly ended their family line 😂
The bigger issue than 'name' was that she was on 'my way or the highway route'
She was changing the terms of their relationship, mid-way, with no scope for negotiation.
Gary immediately sensed that this is going to be the rest of his life. And understandably decided to not go through with the marriage.
There was no negotiating any further. Even if she agreed with him for now, she may later change the terms 5/10 years into the future. And it's better to walk away now, instead of paying a lifetime of alimony and child support.
@@mahadevparmekar2565 He would have lost his children if he made the mistake of mating with her.
These feminists always use buzzwords like Is Male Privilege or Patriarchy, but never equally.
They are just mad that they can't have control
No man needs a boss chick in his life. Not at work, and not at home.
I love how they both sat in front of the laptop to write this post
Mom is wise
Daughter is a hypocrite of lies
Gary dodge a bullet because being married to Kelly would’ve been a nightmare
Four generations watching..the dead do not care, the dead know nothing.
Women these days dont understand the meaning of taking the husband's name and it shows with this story.
She can do that by getting a donor and raise her children on her own.
She believed her position transferred to the home..she believed she had more value, that she was better than him.
She could be happy or be right..she chose to be right.
In the end , she'll have a cat . 💔👍
Kelly didn't want a marriage, she wanted a business partnership. Gary saw through her, left and found a woman who wanted a marriage and a family. Gary - 1, Kelly - 0.
no she didnt want a partership, parternship is equality, and she wanted total control
look at the rules for marriage of antiquity: marriage has always been a business partnership
it is in modern times that we stopped treating it as such, and why we see soo much failure these days
Ugh, it would be horrible. Married to her. Cat lady at law.
She can keep her name and feminist crap and stay single 😂😂😂😂
Dude gets to walk away with his dignity and self respect, with his head held high. Win Win for everyone. 😂😂😂
The story forgot to mention the cats
Meow of 40 cats echoed close
Funny, funny, funny. Traded cats for babies!!
Naw the cats would knock over her designer antiques (knicknacks) and get fur all over her designer clothes
so a bird is more likely until her behavior leads it to starve itself to death to avoid her
I known men who have taken the wifes last name, Because his family was toxic. But you should talk to your partner not telling them what to do. If they want eaual rights then they can do the hard jobs like men do,
I had a 2 professors in college who were married; and the wife had lots of publications before marriage and even at the university she had a higher ranking position.
on paperwork, his last name was his and hers was hypenated of theirs, their kids had his, and when she introduced herself she used his
Funny thing is, even the mother's maiden name comes from HER father, & HER mother's maiden name is from HER father.
The only way to really "break the mold," as she seems to want would be to change BOTH of their surnames to something COMPLETELY different. Either putting both together with a hyphen - her name first for her, his for him (Addison-x & x-Addison) - coming up with something COMPLETELY different that doesn't have ANYTHING to do with either surname, or make it a blend of both surnames.
Say Gary's surname is Eddington. The married name could be something like Addington.
In Iceland they normally follow a patronymic naming system, where the child’s surname is based on the father’s first name and a suffix of “-son” is added to the name. For females the suffix "-dóttir" is added to the father’s first name; Paul Johnson, son of John or Mary Johndóttir, daughter of John. The parents can also follow the mother’s first name and have the son follow the father’s first name and the daughter follow the mother’s first name. Iceland has a book called Slendingabók listing all of Iceland’s family lineage before people can marry, so you don’t commit incest by marrying a relative.
Same in Russia, I'm Fedotov means son of Feodoth(popular name of orthodoxal priests)
Fedotova means daughter of ...... , I think I got the point)😂
That why marvels black widow isn't accurate she should be Natalia Romanova
@@romanfedotov1152 Yes, other cultures followed these customs for generations. The Welsh surnames in the UK had Celtic origins and used their father’s first name. Jones means “son of John”; Davies “son of David”; Evans for “son of Evan”.
The thing that sucks is she had this all planned and he wasted years on her. Good thing he left so she can keep her precious name who is by man.
She could have just hyphenated the name😅
Exactly. Now she can put her name to her cat😂.
Amazing how something so totally unimportant can escalate so far.
Sad this what it is coming to today
Interesting story (and subject), but what's the deal with certain phrases being used throughout these stories:
"...the humming of the fridge..."
"...barely above a whisper..."
It's like they're all part of the same writer's group, agreeing on what phrases they will make sure to include in their stories.
And sorry, but the narrator's voice is too monotonous. He doesn't emphasize correctly on the right words, takes away from the emotional moments. Female narrator does better job.
@lfbragarj1 AI, work in progress. 😏
On family trees the wife's name is listed with the branch of her family .
You dont hzve to take the other partners last name. No problems.
I always liked the compromise of the couple mutually coming up with a new last name and then both changing their names to that.
Hearing first time actually
Or just hyphenate the name. Latin American countries always include kids having the last names of both of their parents.
@@blacksunday4231 Still, they're going to have to dump some of the names sometime or the great-grandchildren will end up with eight last names.
Imagine the business-cards they'd need to carry with them.
That's quite absurd, actually.
I'm sorry, but it's 2024. Why is ANYBODY bothering with reading a NEWSPAPER anymore!?
She talks about the 10 years that passed since that day all through the story. So that was a 2014 sports page.
This is a complex and deeply personal issue that can vary greatly depending on cultural, familial, and individual beliefs. While it's important to respect your fiancée's preferences, it's equally crucial for both partners to have open and honest communication about their expectations and boundaries. Marriage is a partnership built on mutual understanding and compromise, and decisions like this should ideally strengthen the bond, not create division. I hope both of you find clarity and peace, whether together or apart. Respect and empathy are key in any relationship.
Right in the beginning he is already taking for granted that she takes his surname because it's "tradition" and because his identity would be lost while obviously not sparing a thought about her feelings on the matter or any thought about her identity. That is shown by his initial response which is quite condecending and dismissive. His suggestion that each keeps their name only comes after she openee the argument.
Ironically the moral of the story clearly has nothing to do with names. It's simply: woman should not make careers and should submit to their husbands. You know, like in the nostalgic view nany have of the 1950s.