The mother had been conditioning her since birth. That's hard to break away from. Like OP, I had to observe the normal, healthy parenting of my friends' parents to understand how abnormal and effed up my own mother was.
@@ladyv5655// The trippy part was, like op I had to hear from others about how sweet and charming they found my mother to be. I always thought to myself, 'Huh... you want her?' 🤨🤭
@@ksmith96 , yes. My mother passed away last year and one of her friends, a woman in her 80's reached out to me. She was very kind, gave me some flowers and told me how wonderful my mother was. I thanked her. What I wanted to say was, "Easy for you to say. She didn't raise you, did she?"
I wonder if OP’s mom ran off OP’s father off with similar abuse? Does her daughter look like him? Her daughter, the cousin and the store clerk. No one lives up to her standards and she has to blame someone for something.
I don’t know… do we even know what happened with OP’s dad? It’s possible he left for other reasons entirely. Her mom is definitely toxic, but we might be filling in gaps here.
It sounds like she resents OP because of the father. Which is bs because children don’t get to pick which family circumstances they are born into. She should’ve been directing that rage at the dad.
My mother always blamed me for my father. She took out her hatred for him on me. She left him when I was 3 and spent the years I grew up with abuse, physical, mental, and emotional. She let me believe he was dead.
I always said my mother was my first bully. I finally told her enough was enough when I was 39. Told her when she could treat me like an adult and not her child we could talk again. I did keep her in touch with important things like my health issues. Everything was brushed off with "I can't be there for you" or "I didn't know you were on medication". When my Dad died, suddenly she wanted to be there for me (they split when I was 11). I knew why but thought I might be being sensitive. When I told my oldest friend about it she said "Oh yeah, if she's not at the funeral everyone will notice and wonder why she isn't there." That made me realize that I was right in my thought. She wasn't told when or where and I didn't have to see her.
Hey guys! I really enjoyed this one! Let’s chat, what do u think about the whole story?
If i had a mother like this i would have gone no contact as soon as i left for school
The mother had been conditioning her since birth. That's hard to break away from. Like OP, I had to observe the normal, healthy parenting of my friends' parents to understand how abnormal and effed up my own mother was.
@@ladyv5655// The trippy part was, like op I had to hear from others about how sweet and charming they found my mother to be. I always thought to myself, 'Huh... you want her?' 🤨🤭
@@ksmith96 , yes. My mother passed away last year and one of her friends, a woman in her 80's reached out to me. She was very kind, gave me some flowers and told me how wonderful my mother was. I thanked her. What I wanted to say was, "Easy for you to say. She didn't raise you, did she?"
Fair enough😂
@@ladyv5655Wow.. I feel like some many people identifies with your story. Sad to hear
Grew up with a mom like that and at 60 I still live with scars, my mother said so many of things.
Thats sad. Moms should be our safe place
I wonder if OP’s mom ran off OP’s father off with similar abuse? Does her daughter look like him? Her daughter, the cousin and the store clerk. No one lives up to her standards and she has to blame someone for something.
I thought the same. Op’s mom has some trauma and reflects it on OP
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I was an 8lb "premie" born 6 months after the wedding. I always thought that she disliked me because she "had" to marry my Dad.
I don’t know… do we even know what happened with OP’s dad? It’s possible he left for other reasons entirely. Her mom is definitely toxic, but we might be filling in gaps here.
28 graduated medical school, I’m so proud of you OP. 🎉❤ Congratulations Julia
Same here. OP's mother has some serious issues.
Damn. Given emotional abuse OP receives from her mother, she'll end up in another abusive relationship
Absolutely. Mental issues detected
@@danacarter9147op needs to break the curse
@@TheRedditCatYTOh, definitely.
It sounds like she resents OP because of the father. Which is bs because children don’t get to pick which family circumstances they are born into. She should’ve been directing that rage at the dad.
Its a good theory
I thought the same thing. Mom resented daughter & blamed her as the reason the father left.
My mother always blamed me for my father. She took out her hatred for him on me. She left him when I was 3 and spent the years I grew up with abuse, physical, mental, and emotional. She let me believe he was dead.
You did the right thing standing up for yourself 💪
Absolutely!
As soon as I saw the title, I knew OP’s mom’s verbal abuse would escalate to physical assault.
Tends to go like this with karens
How the heck did this ai go back in time and write my biography?! 🤯🤔🤭😐
Lol 😂😂
You still live in fear of your mother. And she knows that.
She can sense it
I always said my mother was my first bully. I finally told her enough was enough when I was 39. Told her when she could treat me like an adult and not her child we could talk again. I did keep her in touch with important things like my health issues. Everything was brushed off with "I can't be there for you" or "I didn't know you were on medication". When my Dad died, suddenly she wanted to be there for me (they split when I was 11). I knew why but thought I might be being sensitive. When I told my oldest friend about it she said "Oh yeah, if she's not at the funeral everyone will notice and wonder why she isn't there." That made me realize that I was right in my thought. She wasn't told when or where and I didn't have to see her.
Thats sad to hear, but thanks for sharing your story.
Hope u are doing better now
Thank you so much for uploading another vid, pls upload more
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What's hilarious. If the mother starts on anyone in jail just like she did with op abd cousin. She's ending up in hospital
Lol yes